I know a lot of us guys have been through the "Nice Guy" phase, and it's not an easy experience. I believe that if yall pay attention andhear me out, yu might find a different perspectiveto help get y'all out of that. Feel free to share your thoughts or stories below, I'll be reading all the comments. Much love - BERTO 🚨 Discord In Description🚨
@@WhereYouAtBerto Thanks for the video man thanks to the nice guy act I got rejected for the 13th time in my life today Thanks for the video it's atleast u understand Much Love man u making in impact on my life bro keep it up
I’ve been nice guy sometimes and yea it fails honestly got hit that one text and I realized I just gotta be chill fr and now I got people telling me this and this like me after seeing the interaction once
@IchigoMurasaki1738Most girls don’t like straight up rejecting guys. They think it’s nicer to let them down slowly but really it just ends up confusing the guy.
@IchigoMurasaki1738 Fr I don’t get why they do it. I’d rather them just be blunt and temporarily hurt my feelings than have me confused chasing something I’ll never have.
Don’t be a nice guy, be a good man. Don’t be it for her, but let her be a reason for you to desire to be even better. And remember, a girl doesn’t want a man that pedestalizes her. How can she respect a man that thinks he’s beneath her?
well if he thinks he beneath me attest ik he wont have a superiority complex over me. im kidding lol but thats actually really bad. some guys after marriage will starts treated you as a maid or push all child care on ya. finding someone who want to be your equal booth not below you or above you can be tough
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
I was raised to be a Gentleman. I'm a nice guy first and foremost. I always thought I was the problem so I self-reflected and decided to change. I've changed about 3 different times now in the past 5 years. I started dressing better, I became more social. I gained a good amount of wealth and started to show it off just a little bit. Lastly I gained more confidence in myself after losing a lot of weight and gaining some muscle. After all this time, I came under a realization that I was being an idiot. With women being so different now, it's not me that needs to change it's them. Lads do not break your basic principles for just some run of the mill chick. Good things come to those who wait. Being the nice guy isn't bad. Women are just insecure about it today as opposed to the women who always picked them back then.
Be nice and be right is a good thing but you have to get some boundaries with women. I learnt a lot from my experiences, don’t date only one woman but some women that can be interested. Don’t be overly nice. Don’t chase women.
What a good man you are, just one friendly tip, don’t be like that one simp who think they’re gonna pull all the girls, but really are going to get USED.
That’s honestly so true. Though change yourself to actually be better don’t change into the person the girl wants. That’s not a way to live life. That’s called being manipulative.
Cant lie his depiction of the fed up nice guy is so real i remember a time of my life when o was just the embodiment of red pill. I cut out so many people in my life but at the end i realised half of the people i cut out were actually best buddies who cared for me, so i just contacted them back and now we aight but it will never be the same
Me too, man, me too. I was on that extreme red pill side and also cut out people who actually cared about me. Now, I feel like I've lost them forever. 😢
It’s crazy because this is a very vulnerable place where bad decisions can be made, but I promise you guys if you could channel that negative energy and force it to be positive.. It can actually be a good thing.
Yeah, I always felt like that, I just focused on living life without any breakup or getting treated like shit on my future gf. Now it’s just me and the heavens :)
I have been stuck in the F* everyone phase for a while, but I've been pulling myself away from that mindset. I can't do life alone, no one can. I've been learning to accept myself even though I'm not in love with somebody romantically. I'm learning not to tie all my self-worth into one area. I'm sick of it so I don't torture myself as much. I'm learning to actually enjoy my solitude.
really good advice. i never really tried to get a girl it always just came by itself because it wasn't my intention, i was just treating them like homies. don't rush things
Im a nice guy, but I never do these mistakes, I never put a girl on pedestal, I never insist for long time (if there’s no connection or interest, I put the girl on friend zone before she do it), I never got passionate, passion is only when this girl is already in a relationship. I don’t make too much compliments, it’s hard to make me give a compliment. I only talk about neutral topics before getting into relationship topics. Anyway, I’m trying but keep being hard. I had a girlfriend at my school, around 2019 - 2022. But now looks very hard to get a girl, wtf just happened after pandemic, these girls became crazy, I’m doing all right and can’t get, suck!
My piece(s) of advice 1) Never open up to her unless you know her feelings are reciprocated 2) Be courteous, but not overly nice to someone, I treat them like a stranger on the street, I'm not rolling out the red carpet for anyone 3) try to meet people organically for the sake of meeting someone new, and let things flourish naturally, if there's chemistry between the two of you she'll let you know.
Yep, I met this girl in my class where we had a connection from the beginning. She was the prettiest girl in class and she shaded everyone who try to get to her. However with me she was kinder. She also was shy so she didn't really party like that. We naturally had things in common. She started to text me and even ask me to coffee a few times. However, I ruined it because I try to make a move on her when we went out. She stopped talking to me. So I learned it better to let the woman defined what it's building to.
@@mario125wwyep she prolly thought you were different until you showed her you are just as thirsty as the other guys. Especially if you already had proof that she rejected everyone that approached her you shouldn't have tried anything. You should move on maybe she'll come back maybe not. But chasing after will definitely not help you.
@@oreoakalaperoji8314 nah it wasn't like that lol. First of all, I have never chased a woman ever. She initiated the entire relationship. But I tried something because she kept flirting with me constantly and making sexual comments. I didn't make a move after 2 months of knowing her. It was like 1 year later after her advances became more frequent. So I assumed she liked me because of that. But no I'm not a desperate thirsty guy like the others. She's a kinda flirt who made alot of suggestive things to me so it was hard to tell
Nice video, Berto! Speaking for myself as a woman, I would rather be with a kind man than a "nice guy". A kind man is emotionally intelligent enough to keep it real and form/express his own opinions all without being rude or dismissive. A "nice guy" will do and say anything just to get with you, becoming a shell of himself and most likely will grow a resentment for you if rejected. "Niceness" is shallow, but "kindness" is authentic.
Im considered nice, but when a person really knows who I am, they realize that I have very own opinions and strong mind, but it can only be noted when people deeply knows me. Is that attractive? Because it used to be when I was at high school
In the past 2-3 years or so, I managed to ask out a couple of girls on a date and they all rejected me but if I’d be honest, that was one of the best things that ever happened to me. Later I realized who they truly were and now that I’m looking at them today, I don’t wish to be around those type of people. I am a nice guy, I treat people in a right way but don’t get treated right, Im being nice but am not being treated nice. Now that I look back at these events, I am now relieved that I was rejected because the people I was asking out were straight up mean people who knew nothing of respect. Please always be sure to discover your crushes true self before asking her out. God bless you and have a good day (or night).
If you really sat down and thought about it, I’m sure you’d have a lot of interesting and insightful stories to tell to we all have something special and unique about us
@@bahahytham7579 a couple years back I was and still am unfortunately a hopeless romantic all I want in life has been a girl who cares about me just as much as I’d care about her but a couple years ago a girl who was a year older (I was in 7th grade she was in 8th) I think overheard me being a cornball about how badly I wanted a gf I was talking to my best friend about it cause he was single to but she heard me and offered to date me for a week. In hindsight I should’ve said no but I didn’t do that probably because aside from wanting the care from a woman I was and still am a guy who wants to lose the v card and I thought I might at least get that. 3 days later she dumps my ass when I didn’t even get to really be around her in that same conversation she also started bullying my ass calling me fat and all the other shit obese mfs get called. She also revealed to me she had a 4 guy roster NOT EVEN including me then on Valentine’s Day she came around to start dissing me for being lonley and towards the end of the year she went over to tell me and my home boy she was bouta fuck on a guy that night hadn’t seen her since but she was friends with said homeboy and he cut ties with her by the end of the year just as I did. Lesson is always be careful and don’t be a downbad simp
I got rejected today so thank you for the video it's comforting to know that there are people who actually understand me love BERTO u a W man's bro 😢 pls pine me u get it man keep up the good work because we use rejection as a stepping stone to be our best selves
Ive always sufferd from low self esteem and confidence because of my father. He would always snap at me for minor mistakes. im 17 now and He has gotten a little bit better but he still isn't the best when it comes to mistakes and my confidence is still low to this day. The only thing im even a little bit confident about is my cooking. But other than that im always checking my answers 4-5 times to mak sure im right.
I’m 21 and I still struggle with that due to my father unfortunately. I wish I had some advice but really I’m in the same boat as you man. These days hope is pretty much all we have left.
I’ve had this perspective for a while and I’ve js been sittin around but I’ve been grinding lately because I’m starting on myself early at 16 and chasin the bag later wether it’s cheeks or the money
@@WhereYouAtBertoI know I left alot of comments but I am going to go in depth of my personality. My personality is similar to kizaru (from one piece) I just do what I need to do and follow orders also peolpe think I am not caring but deep down I just want a friends to do stupid stuff with
I try my hardest to live a life with integrity, kindness and genuine compassion for all from animals to humans, and i dont care at all how unpopular that is, i dont care people dont like me for it as i have no friends, i refuse to change for anyone and keep doing my best to help in life those who need it, the animals and mentally ill i work with.
This dude just summarized 6 years of character development that I had to learn the hard way 😂 His advice is the real deal guys, wish I heard this a long time ago
if you are stuck on being the nice guy don't change a thing because eventually, you'll find the right girl, he is right Tho most girls think like that but not all girls think the same, just be yourself and eventually you'll find the right girl
The things you say make so much sense. I’m glad you say being neutral is ideal, rather than going the red pill way. I think being a genuinely nice guy is good. The problem is when you try way too hard to impress one who isn’t in to you. But being someone people want to be around is good. Not everyone will be attracted to you, and some girls will go out with a prick instead. But some girls will want you. If all you care about is getting laid immediately, then perhaps being a prick is the way to go. But if you want to be with a good kind of girl, you ought to be nice in a strong kind of way. Not all girls will want you, but some will, and they’re more likely to be the kind of girl you’d want to be with.
I’ll be honest, I’m the type of person that would rather be the nice guy than actually try this sense of neutral ground sense of self. Mainly due to how I usually might feel like crap. Also, I prefer being friends with someone first rather that trying to actually try to go for a date. I’d want to see if we both have any interests that can spark to friendship at first, then it all depends on exactly what type of person she is. Like, is she considerably a nice person, does she have patience, does she have a good willed and self loved attitude? Basically things that mark her as a kind person with something to show she keeps her own morals and standards. If I believe that I’m feeling a different way, I’ll ask her if she ever wants to go on a date. Plain and straightforward. If she says no, I’m fine with that. Probably due to the rejection I’ve had in high school. I’d be glad to at least have a friend to mess around with like if we were siblings. But if she ever wants to change her mind after a while longer, I don’t think I’d want that, since how I think of her more like a sister. It’s a slippery slope, but I feel like making sure having a friend is just as important.
I've been fighting the urge to hurt someone who've bullied me. And I can't withstand being nice anymore. So I decided to change. I've decided to stop feeling sorry for myself and treat him like what he treated me.
This was a good video. This is the REAL advice instead of "just gym bro", I see way too many people be blinded by the notorious gym advice, all that does is change nothing. Typically the reason why nice guys get rejected is not because of their looks, but it's in their mentality and personality. Sure, you can go to the gym, get jacked af or whatever, you'll get the girl at first, but is she really going to stay as soon as she finds a better option? No. It's all in the mind fellas, it's all in the mind.
When he talked about the “why am i being so nice if everyone is treating me like shit” bro that hit so hard cause thats literally what i was thinking while watching this
This resonated with me. Definitely that long text part. Glad to know someone else went through that because every time i thought about it, i cringed because i poored my heart out. I got to say what i finally wanted to say and i took the silence as an answer and moved on. I don't think I'll ever be on the "i hate women" trend because that just ain't true and most those people that say that be gooners building parasocial relationship with fictional anime women like that's help. It's making you look even more pathetic. I think what bothers me is that I'm lost. I have bad anxiety and feel boring but my friends think I'm enjoyable to be around.
the only REAL advice i have seen on UA-cam thanks for keeping it realistic AND to summarize the video you have to learn how to be in the middle of being a NICE GUY and an AS*HOLE. Be nice enough but not a pushover and be a confident like as*holes but not act like them
Dude, I have been trying to figure out a lot of stuff in my life and looking at different videos and this is the one that has finally helped me out the most. Genuinely, thank you!
I have always had the I don't need a women in my life mentally and just like u said being the nice guy for to long makes u feel angry , I have always been the nice guy but this year I started to see myself suddenly feel a burst of rage every time somebody mess with me.
This is so accurate man I’ve been there so many times guys u can be nice but also forward with girls don’t waste your time if u see she only sees u as a mate. Also have a backbone because you will see your mates and others take advantage of u
Won't lie, I believed I was always pretty undesirable and just avoided people if I wasn't trying to be helpful. Always believed I'd take it as it happens no matter what but yearned to be liked, just like many other guys out there. But recently, something happened when travelling over abroad. A reasonably attractive girl who will remain nameless was pretty straightforward with that she liked me and even offered her number and Snapchat and wanted to hang out. Great. Miraculous confidence boost. But the issue is I'm like recently 20 and she's 16 despite looking a little older so I refused. A few people I met there said it's perfectly fine over there and shouldn't waste the opportunity, but it just didn't sit right with me. Like, it's nice being pursued for once after so many, many failures, and she was a nice girl, but I felt empty even thinking about it, and I couldn't even consider it any longer. So I let her down, as gently as I can, of course. I know this isn't exactly appropriate for this video, and I know I definitely sound like a weirdo, but I needed to get this off my chest after what had just transpired. My only advice for anyone reading this is this: Don't be a pedo, lol. Okay but seriously, I know life is difficult and your always desire to be desired every now and then, but don't sacrifice your morals and put yourself down that low because you need experience and she's easy. Because nobody deserves to be taken advantage of. Not you, not her, not him, no one. I'm sure one day while you're living your best life, you'll bump into your match, and something inside both of you will know there's something there, even if it ain't guaranteed. I just wish you both the best and hope you all have great lives.
Are women these days even worth a relationship? Like whats wrong with an emotional guy. I dont see the point in changing myself and molding myself to be someone that im not for someone who doesn't deserve it
08:43 Agree on that! But, I'm not even trying to be the nice guy. I'm just trying to be in general a good person. But some people are still trying to use and abuse my kindness or make me emotionally unstable! 😒
Great vid brother! You have putted everything what is needed. I've solve my problems a long time ago before this video. That examples with homies and self value were what I came up with experience. One of my older friends said to me that what I had isn't kindness, it's faint heartedness. Well yeah, I've caused many problems for myself in life, but there's was one thing I hated and hate the most and it wasn't from me. It's dishonest, or lie, call it as you like. You know, no one wanna seem rude or negative, but it's making the situation even worse. I needed some rude moment when the girl I like would say to me: "Get off from me, you're a freak, I don't like you" or something like that. By the way I was an ugly kid back then. I needed just one moment like this and my circus could have ended sooner, but unfortunately (or not idk) I ended it up only by me. I said to myself that I'm tired of my ugliness and cowardice, and started to fix myself by myself 🔧⚙️. I'm happy right now.
Not gonna lie, I believe that is the state I am in right now like, I guess I was being the "Nice Guy" for a long ass time and now I'm just in a dark place, so I'm in that state and I'm 19 trying to figure out what this adult thing is all about and its weird lmao.
The fact that you’re self-conscious and aware of where you are is the first step of being a better version of yourself keep grinding keep trying to be better keep learning and everything will work out, brother I believe in you!
Some of the best advice I've ever heard. I could honestly care less about finding love. However, I still notice how my personality begins to change when talking with my friends (mostly girls). I've always tried to go by treating men, women, and everything in between like regular people but I never noticed how my mind still goes against it by putting, not only women, but almost everyone else higher than me. I never realized that putting aside the pedestal mentality is a part of confidence. Confidence is something I struggle greatly with. The neutral personality is something I've never considered and now that I've learned about it, I can say that this has changed my outlook. This video is a godsend. Sub earned.
Ty for the video bro. I think I'll not be a nice guy bc of two things: 1) Your video and the awesome message 2) No Fap September PS: Wish you luck, soldiers.
It’s kinda ridiculous to say that, u could use her as ally to meet new girls. By refusing friendship, u are looking stupid and can make u lost reputation if she is inside same community as you
@@MichaelDouglas-vd7yc I mean if she has the nerves to say that she jus wanna be friends I can also just say no? And I don’t need help meeting other girls
@@kaktusbruder6837 if u don’t need help and not even need friends ok, but I think that is healthy to maintain friendship with girls too, and not only sexual relationships.
I was the nice guy for a long time, and you're right, it does end up causing anger. Never present yourself as the nice guy. It kills you. Near literally for me with suicide attempts. I was nice to everyone, not specifically girls. I couldn't make any close friends. My goal was never "getting the girl", but this still applies to typical conversation regardless. What made my situation worse through grade school is that I had nobody that I could be genuine with. Parents, my sibling, quite literally anybody I know. I listened to everyone else's problems since people open up to me very often, but if I ever mentioned my depression I would get told off and get told "you are so negative" and just anger them, yelling and all that because they think I am stupid for feeling so poorly. That is...why I am going to you. For help. They don't get it though. Nobody understands that apparently. So what I learned is to never open up to anybody, even if they open up to you, because they might just be using you because you are the guy that makes them "feel good" about themselves. Learn to be yourself before you can do that.
Recognize that being a "nice guy" often stems from seeking approval, avoiding conflict, and fear of rejection. Understanding this can help you identify the root causes of your behavior.
I know a lot of us guys have been through the "Nice Guy" phase, and it's not an easy experience. I believe that if yall pay attention andhear me out, yu might find a different perspectiveto help get y'all out of that. Feel free to share your thoughts or stories below, I'll be reading all the comments. Much love - BERTO
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hey berto how to get girls like you when u never speak to any girls
@@WhereYouAtBerto Thanks for the video man thanks to the nice guy act I got rejected for the 13th time in my life today Thanks for the video it's atleast u understand Much Love man u making in impact on my life bro keep it up
Thank you man I got a girl’s phone number from it thank it actually work
I’ve been nice guy sometimes and yea it fails honestly got hit that one text and I realized I just gotta be chill fr and now I got people telling me this and this like me after seeing the interaction once
This was a masterpiece and i’m hoping this is gonna change me for the better
Friend zone ain't nothing compared to the brother zone.
Please explain. Like does the woman just not talk to you or something
Unless you're in Alabama
@@mario125ww instead of friend zoning we’ll say “he’s like a brother to me”
@@PrinceAjaxson 😂😂😂
@IchigoMurasaki1738 that is facts.
The moment any girl tries to friendzone me, I say it's cool, then never speak to them again ☠️
Damn lol
Exactly keep moving, life's too short for nonsense
@@itsDjjayyArtfr it took me way too long to realize that
@IchigoMurasaki1738Most girls don’t like straight up rejecting guys. They think it’s nicer to let them down slowly but really it just ends up confusing the guy.
@IchigoMurasaki1738 Fr I don’t get why they do it. I’d rather them just be blunt and temporarily hurt my feelings than have me confused chasing something I’ll never have.
No more mr nice guy
😂 exactly
*Drake* *duck* *face*
@@WhereYouAtBertoyo movies be fucking lying😂the nice guy never gets the girl😂😂😂
No more, mr clean Ean Ean EAN!🎶
your 14
Don’t be a nice guy, be a good man. Don’t be it for her, but let her be a reason for you to desire to be even better. And remember, a girl doesn’t want a man that pedestalizes her. How can she respect a man that thinks he’s beneath her?
i'm a girl and i agree
Exactly the perfect way of explaining it 😅
Perfect explanation my guy, don’t even gotta explain it
well if he thinks he beneath me attest ik he wont have a superiority complex over me. im kidding lol but thats actually really bad. some guys after marriage will starts treated you as a maid or push all child care on ya. finding someone who want to be your equal booth not below you or above you can be tough
Fantastic viewpoint
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
Ion want to manipulate ppl, I want it to come naturally; ppl are sentient beings
Written by?
Ion wanna manipulate ppl, they’re sentient beings and not test subjects
I’ve seen your comment before
I have seen your comment in Courtney Channel too
I was raised to be a Gentleman. I'm a nice guy first and foremost. I always thought I was the problem so I self-reflected and decided to change. I've changed about 3 different times now in the past 5 years. I started dressing better, I became more social. I gained a good amount of wealth and started to show it off just a little bit. Lastly I gained more confidence in myself after losing a lot of weight and gaining some muscle. After all this time, I came under a realization that I was being an idiot. With women being so different now, it's not me that needs to change it's them. Lads do not break your basic principles for just some run of the mill chick. Good things come to those who wait. Being the nice guy isn't bad. Women are just insecure about it today as opposed to the women who always picked them back then.
Be nice and be right is a good thing but you have to get some boundaries with women. I learnt a lot from my experiences, don’t date only one woman but some women that can be interested. Don’t be overly nice. Don’t chase women.
it’s just don’t be a pick me dude who’s a suckup trying to be nice to everyone, be nice, but not overly nice
@@sanixxsRight
What a good man you are, just one friendly tip, don’t be like that one simp who think they’re gonna pull all the girls, but really are going to get USED.
”Good things come to those who wait” I’ve waited 20 years, starting to reach the limit when to start the family.
Berto is saving our asses out there
@@Pumpdaddy1 Real though
@@dilobaryiguanobro why do i keep hearing his chair squeak in the background while he's talking? 😂
To attract a girl, you just gotta be yourself.
And if that don't work, then you must improve yourself.
Pretty much 💪
Well said
You mean the best *version* of *yourself* ?
Nah I've given up tryna attract any girl, at least it gives me more time for football fr 🙏⚽
That’s honestly so true. Though change yourself to actually be better don’t change into the person the girl wants. That’s not a way to live life. That’s called being manipulative.
Cant lie his depiction of the fed up nice guy is so real i remember a time of my life when o was just the embodiment of red pill.
I cut out so many people in my life but at the end i realised half of the people i cut out were actually best buddies who cared for me, so i just contacted them back and now we aight but it will never be the same
Me too, man, me too. I was on that extreme red pill side and also cut out people who actually cared about me. Now, I feel like I've lost them forever. 😢
It’s crazy because this is a very vulnerable place where bad decisions can be made, but I promise you guys if you could channel that negative energy and force it to be positive.. It can actually be a good thing.
@@Spextre007 it's still not too late DAWG trust me I contacted them after *drumroll* 5 years!!!
There's hope
I think I will need to change my username now...
No more mister nice guy
😱😭🤣
Aiish.
No bro stay nice! Stay awesome!!
No
I’m so tired dawg. I’m probably just gonna give up on the whole relationship stuff.
You'll find the one every girl is different you'll find the one for you
I gave up, and I'm living the best life, focusing on me and Jesus ✝️❤️
U want to be less one competitor on my way? Or u want to fulfill ur dreams? Your choice!
Yeah, I always felt like that, I just focused on living life without any breakup or getting treated like shit on my future gf. Now it’s just me and the heavens :)
I have been stuck in the F* everyone phase for a while, but I've been pulling myself away from that mindset. I can't do life alone, no one can. I've been learning to accept myself even though I'm not in love with somebody romantically. I'm learning not to tie all my self-worth into one area. I'm sick of it so I don't torture myself as much. I'm learning to actually enjoy my solitude.
really good advice. i never really tried to get a girl it always just came by itself because it wasn't my intention, i was just treating them like homies. don't rush things
Im a nice guy, but I never do these mistakes, I never put a girl on pedestal, I never insist for long time (if there’s no connection or interest, I put the girl on friend zone before she do it), I never got passionate, passion is only when this girl is already in a relationship. I don’t make too much compliments, it’s hard to make me give a compliment. I only talk about neutral topics before getting into relationship topics. Anyway, I’m trying but keep being hard. I had a girlfriend at my school, around 2019 - 2022. But now looks very hard to get a girl, wtf just happened after pandemic, these girls became crazy, I’m doing all right and can’t get, suck!
My piece(s) of advice
1) Never open up to her unless you know her feelings are reciprocated
2) Be courteous, but not overly nice to someone, I treat them like a stranger on the street, I'm not rolling out the red carpet for anyone
3) try to meet people organically for the sake of meeting someone new, and let things flourish naturally, if there's chemistry between the two of you she'll let you know.
Yep, I met this girl in my class where we had a connection from the beginning. She was the prettiest girl in class and she shaded everyone who try to get to her. However with me she was kinder. She also was shy so she didn't really party like that. We naturally had things in common. She started to text me and even ask me to coffee a few times. However, I ruined it because I try to make a move on her when we went out. She stopped talking to me. So I learned it better to let the woman defined what it's building to.
@@mario125wwyep she prolly thought you were different until you showed her you are just as thirsty as the other guys. Especially if you already had proof that she rejected everyone that approached her you shouldn't have tried anything. You should move on maybe she'll come back maybe not. But chasing after will definitely not help you.
@@oreoakalaperoji8314 nah it wasn't like that lol. First of all, I have never chased a woman ever. She initiated the entire relationship. But I tried something because she kept flirting with me constantly and making sexual comments. I didn't make a move after 2 months of knowing her. It was like 1 year later after her advances became more frequent. So I assumed she liked me because of that.
But no I'm not a desperate thirsty guy like the others. She's a kinda flirt who made alot of suggestive things to me so it was hard to tell
3 do that in western and watch you get called creep
Nothing organic About 3 brother😅 you are deluded
Nice video, Berto! Speaking for myself as a woman, I would rather be with a kind man than a "nice guy". A kind man is emotionally intelligent enough to keep it real and form/express his own opinions all without being rude or dismissive. A "nice guy" will do and say anything just to get with you, becoming a shell of himself and most likely will grow a resentment for you if rejected. "Niceness" is shallow, but "kindness" is authentic.
It's a nice way to put it to be honest, I always appreciate reading the other sex opinions in such matters.
Im considered nice, but when a person really knows who I am, they realize that I have very own opinions and strong mind, but it can only be noted when people deeply knows me. Is that attractive? Because it used to be when I was at high school
In the past 2-3 years or so, I managed to ask out a couple of girls on a date and they all rejected me but if I’d be honest, that was one of the best things that ever happened to me. Later I realized who they truly were and now that I’m looking at them today, I don’t wish to be around those type of people. I am a nice guy, I treat people in a right way but don’t get treated right, Im being nice but am not being treated nice. Now that I look back at these events, I am now relieved that I was rejected because the people I was asking out were straight up mean people who knew nothing of respect. Please always be sure to discover your crushes true self before asking her out. God bless you and have a good day (or night).
I’m convinced this dude has unlimited stories
If you really sat down and thought about it, I’m sure you’d have a lot of interesting and insightful stories to tell to we all have something special and unique about us
@@WhereYouAtBerto yk what you have a good point how that I really think about it. I’m just 15 and I’ve been through some crazy ass stuff too.
@@WhereYouAtBertoI got a solid story for one of these kinds of vids if anyone’s interested I’ll tell y’all about it in a comment
@@Outlawguy yeah man please go on
@@bahahytham7579 a couple years back I was and still am unfortunately a hopeless romantic all I want in life has been a girl who cares about me just as much as I’d care about her but a couple years ago a girl who was a year older (I was in 7th grade she was in 8th) I think overheard me being a cornball about how badly I wanted a gf I was talking to my best friend about it cause he was single to but she heard me and offered to date me for a week. In hindsight I should’ve said no but I didn’t do that probably because aside from wanting the care from a woman I was and still am a guy who wants to lose the v card and I thought I might at least get that. 3 days later she dumps my ass when I didn’t even get to really be around her in that same conversation she also started bullying my ass calling me fat and all the other shit obese mfs get called. She also revealed to me she had a 4 guy roster NOT EVEN including me then on Valentine’s Day she came around to start dissing me for being lonley and towards the end of the year she went over to tell me and my home boy she was bouta fuck on a guy that night hadn’t seen her since but she was friends with said homeboy and he cut ties with her by the end of the year just as I did. Lesson is always be careful and don’t be a downbad simp
Moral of the story is... dont be a simp.
Berto never fells to open me up and get his love inside me
No diddy
No drake, no homo, no homogeneous
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@@Ovosteveum ayo??
😳 aaaaaaayoooooo… lmao
How this dude so young and teaching me stuff when I'm in my late 30s? 🤦🏽♂🤦🏽♂. Thanks for this video man. Guess I've got some manning up to do.
Bro just wanted to say "be yourself"
Considering the fact that my gf left me for being the "nice guy" this vid helps alot helping me pull another one without making such a mistake again
You have my sub berto 🗣
Hello there aviator
G'day to you mate
@@junkersju87b-2stuka2 haha, just like on the comms, gday!
She wasn’t the one
I got rejected today so thank you for the video it's comforting to know that there are people who actually understand me love BERTO u a W man's bro 😢 pls pine me u get it man keep up the good work because we use rejection as a stepping stone to be our best selves
Hey man I hope your dong good bro
That's good you got rejected let's goo get to the next girl 💯
I feel it dude I wish I would have seen this video sooner but it is what it is
I feel you bro don’t let it get you down. they’re other girls out there that would like to be with you man stay strong, my brother.
Stay Strong Brother
Ive always sufferd from low self esteem and confidence because of my father. He would always snap at me for minor mistakes. im 17 now and He has gotten a little bit better but he still isn't the best when it comes to mistakes and my confidence is still low to this day. The only thing im even a little bit confident about is my cooking. But other than that im always checking my answers 4-5 times to mak sure im right.
I can relate to that it’s gonna get better
I’m 21 and I still struggle with that due to my father unfortunately. I wish I had some advice but really I’m in the same boat as you man. These days hope is pretty much all we have left.
I eliminated it from my life, but reminding me and saying in every single aspect how can I be natural is helpful. Thank you!
This stage doesn't end well even if you do everything right. But you just gotta live through shut ig ykwim. Another great vid berto💪
Another banger🔥🔥 I expected nothing less keep being on your grind much love🫶🏾
I appreciate it!
Ngl I never the type to girls so I ended up stop having crushes so just stoped liking peolpe in general
Get back on track and focus on better the best version of yourself and I'm sure your perspective will open up
I’ve had this perspective for a while and I’ve js been sittin around but I’ve been grinding lately because I’m starting on myself early at 16 and chasin the bag later wether it’s cheeks or the money
Thank you guys ❤
@@WhereYouAtBertoI know I left alot of comments but I am going to go in depth of my personality. My personality is similar to kizaru (from one piece) I just do what I need to do and follow orders also peolpe think I am not caring but deep down I just want a friends to do stupid stuff with
Same actually
Bro you made me realise everything, what I was doing wrong , you have literally opend my eyes and shown th harsh reality .......
I was literally having a conversation with my partner about this and your video popped up on my feed.
God bless you bro.
I try my hardest to live a life with integrity, kindness and genuine compassion for all from animals to humans, and i dont care at all how unpopular that is, i dont care people dont like me for it as i have no friends, i refuse to change for anyone and keep doing my best to help in life those who need it, the animals and mentally ill i work with.
This dude just summarized 6 years of character development that I had to learn the hard way 😂
His advice is the real deal guys, wish I heard this a long time ago
Thanks for the advice bruh, the friendzone sucks. Your a game changer
I swear berto and Devonte the one have contributed so much to my development as a teen....Thank you man
Only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition that he provide something- Chris Rock
Fr 😞😞😞. Society
Idiotic claim. No one is loved unconditionally, if you think about it logically
if you are stuck on being the nice guy don't change a thing because eventually, you'll find the right girl, he is right Tho most girls think like that but not all girls think the same, just be yourself and eventually you'll find the right girl
Im going through that after nice guy phase and kinda not giving a sit anymore man.
Stay neutral/calm
Respect yourself.
Say wrong if it is wrong or right if it is right.(don't care what she will think of u)
The things you say make so much sense. I’m glad you say being neutral is ideal, rather than going the red pill way. I think being a genuinely nice guy is good. The problem is when you try way too hard to impress one who isn’t in to you. But being someone people want to be around is good. Not everyone will be attracted to you, and some girls will go out with a prick instead. But some girls will want you. If all you care about is getting laid immediately, then perhaps being a prick is the way to go. But if you want to be with a good kind of girl, you ought to be nice in a strong kind of way. Not all girls will want you, but some will, and they’re more likely to be the kind of girl you’d want to be with.
We appreciate you Berto. Thanks dawg, you just a real one, fr! ❤
I’ll be honest, I’m the type of person that would rather be the nice guy than actually try this sense of neutral ground sense of self. Mainly due to how I usually might feel like crap. Also, I prefer being friends with someone first rather that trying to actually try to go for a date. I’d want to see if we both have any interests that can spark to friendship at first, then it all depends on exactly what type of person she is. Like, is she considerably a nice person, does she have patience, does she have a good willed and self loved attitude? Basically things that mark her as a kind person with something to show she keeps her own morals and standards. If I believe that I’m feeling a different way, I’ll ask her if she ever wants to go on a date. Plain and straightforward. If she says no, I’m fine with that. Probably due to the rejection I’ve had in high school. I’d be glad to at least have a friend to mess around with like if we were siblings. But if she ever wants to change her mind after a while longer, I don’t think I’d want that, since how I think of her more like a sister. It’s a slippery slope, but I feel like making sure having a friend is just as important.
22 minutes ago let’s go baby Berto dropped again 🔥
Gang gsng
You treat her like a celebrity, she gon treat you like a fan. Had to learn it the hard way
I've been fighting the urge to hurt someone who've bullied me. And I can't withstand being nice anymore. So I decided to change. I've decided to stop feeling sorry for myself and treat him like what he treated me.
At 3:30 I lowkey didn’t even feel any cringe I just felt extremely sry for this guy. Berto are u doing ok?😭
Hahah we good over here fam 💪💪 win win win
@@WhereYouAtBerto Aii bro good to hear. God bless gng
this vid was so real bro, i never was a nice guy but i was shy somethimes. you helped me bro thx
This was a good video. This is the REAL advice instead of "just gym bro", I see way too many people be blinded by the notorious gym advice, all that does is change nothing. Typically the reason why nice guys get rejected is not because of their looks, but it's in their mentality and personality. Sure, you can go to the gym, get jacked af or whatever, you'll get the girl at first, but is she really going to stay as soon as she finds a better option? No. It's all in the mind fellas, it's all in the mind.
Lets gooo another Berto upload
We here!
When he talked about the “why am i being so nice if everyone is treating me like shit” bro that hit so hard cause thats literally what i was thinking while watching this
Remember if you put her on a pedestal, all she can do is look down on you.
This resonated with me. Definitely that long text part. Glad to know someone else went through that because every time i thought about it, i cringed because i poored my heart out. I got to say what i finally wanted to say and i took the silence as an answer and moved on.
I don't think I'll ever be on the "i hate women" trend because that just ain't true and most those people that say that be gooners building parasocial relationship with fictional anime women like that's help. It's making you look even more pathetic.
I think what bothers me is that I'm lost. I have bad anxiety and feel boring but my friends think I'm enjoyable to be around.
If your friends think you're enjoyable to be around, then you're enjoyable to be around! Chin up, king!
@@pwn1ngw4ffl3s I appreciate the kind words.
"Women are attracted to confident men"
Oh, I get it now! I understand now! Confidence is the key to victory!
The definition of being a neutral person has just changed for me. Thanks Berto❤💪🏿😌
All love fam 🙏
one of the best ytbers every man, thanks man
Mr Not Nice DC THE DON BERTO 🐐
Love the DC reference
@@devin2445 that's the first thing that popped into my mind 😂 DC THE DON is 🐐 BERTO is 🐐 2 of the world best
the only REAL advice i have seen on UA-cam thanks for keeping it realistic AND to summarize the video you have to learn how to be in the middle of being a NICE GUY and an AS*HOLE. Be nice enough but not a pushover and be a confident like as*holes but not act like them
3:49 he dead look traumatized
It’s was true pain but we learn from that
This guy should be the number one dating coach worldwide. Keep it up or I’ll be single for my life😑
Bro finished the thumbnail and it looks clean asf
damn he low key spiting fr fr hope man can bw famos so alot of ppl watch and hear this man his showing u facts and funny really good mix.
1:34 soo real bro,i need to change
Lock in king!
Berto I needed this video I’m trying to get with this girl named Maya she’s a good friend and a baddie
Lock in fam 💪
go for it man
Dude, I have been trying to figure out a lot of stuff in my life and looking at different videos and this is the one that has finally helped me out the most. Genuinely, thank you!
Don't be a nice guy just try to by a good man
I have always had the I don't need a women in my life mentally and just like u said being the nice guy for to long makes u feel angry , I have always been the nice guy but this year I started to see myself suddenly feel a burst of rage every time somebody mess with me.
Bro is spittin
5:37 using yoruichi as a sample is a great idea 😄
2:14 BERTO you thought you was cooking super hard
Oh my god that is so true . Thank you man.
But Remember to still be nice
For sure
This is so accurate man I’ve been there so many times guys u can be nice but also forward with girls don’t waste your time if u see she only sees u as a mate. Also have a backbone because you will see your mates and others take advantage of u
8:29 Trigger warning.
Yeaaaaaaah lmao
@@WhereYouAtBerto Just making sure people know what they're about to hear.
Tbh i just found this video randomly and this channel randomly but damn bro you answered my question. Bro kept it real,brutal and simple but thx g
breuhhhhh i just realized why i get girls to like me now even though im not the most handsome 💀 because im only neutral no matter wuht💀💀
no you get no bitches cuz you type like u still in 2018, delete this corny ass comment🙏
Won't lie, I believed I was always pretty undesirable and just avoided people if I wasn't trying to be helpful. Always believed I'd take it as it happens no matter what but yearned to be liked, just like many other guys out there. But recently, something happened when travelling over abroad. A reasonably attractive girl who will remain nameless was pretty straightforward with that she liked me and even offered her number and Snapchat and wanted to hang out. Great. Miraculous confidence boost. But the issue is I'm like recently 20 and she's 16 despite looking a little older so I refused. A few people I met there said it's perfectly fine over there and shouldn't waste the opportunity, but it just didn't sit right with me. Like, it's nice being pursued for once after so many, many failures, and she was a nice girl, but I felt empty even thinking about it, and I couldn't even consider it any longer. So I let her down, as gently as I can, of course. I know this isn't exactly appropriate for this video, and I know I definitely sound like a weirdo, but I needed to get this off my chest after what had just transpired. My only advice for anyone reading this is this: Don't be a pedo, lol. Okay but seriously, I know life is difficult and your always desire to be desired every now and then, but don't sacrifice your morals and put yourself down that low because you need experience and she's easy. Because nobody deserves to be taken advantage of. Not you, not her, not him, no one. I'm sure one day while you're living your best life, you'll bump into your match, and something inside both of you will know there's something there, even if it ain't guaranteed. I just wish you both the best and hope you all have great lives.
Are women these days even worth a relationship? Like whats wrong with an emotional guy. I dont see the point in changing myself and molding myself to be someone that im not for someone who doesn't deserve it
08:43 Agree on that! But, I'm not even trying to be the nice guy. I'm just trying to be in general a good person. But some people are still trying to use and abuse my kindness or make me emotionally unstable! 😒
W video! What is the music playing in the beginning of the video? 0:35
Great vid brother! You have putted everything what is needed. I've solve my problems a long time ago before this video. That examples with homies and self value were what I came up with experience. One of my older friends said to me that what I had isn't kindness, it's faint heartedness. Well yeah, I've caused many problems for myself in life, but there's was one thing I hated and hate the most and it wasn't from me. It's dishonest, or lie, call it as you like. You know, no one wanna seem rude or negative, but it's making the situation even worse. I needed some rude moment when the girl I like would say to me: "Get off from me, you're a freak, I don't like you" or something like that. By the way I was an ugly kid back then. I needed just one moment like this and my circus could have ended sooner, but unfortunately (or not idk) I ended it up only by me. I said to myself that I'm tired of my ugliness and cowardice, and started to fix myself by myself 🔧⚙️. I'm happy right now.
Not gonna lie, I believe that is the state I am in right now like, I guess I was being the "Nice Guy" for a long ass time and now I'm just in a dark place, so I'm in that state and I'm 19 trying to figure out what this adult thing is all about and its weird lmao.
The fact that you’re self-conscious and aware of where you are is the first step of being a better version of yourself keep grinding keep trying to be better keep learning and everything will work out, brother I believe in you!
@@WhereYouAtBerto Thanks man, I really appreciate it
Fax bro I’m stuck rn
Some of the best advice I've ever heard. I could honestly care less about finding love. However, I still notice how my personality begins to change when talking with my friends (mostly girls). I've always tried to go by treating men, women, and everything in between like regular people but I never noticed how my mind still goes against it by putting, not only women, but almost everyone else higher than me. I never realized that putting aside the pedestal mentality is a part of confidence. Confidence is something I struggle greatly with. The neutral personality is something I've never considered and now that I've learned about it, I can say that this has changed my outlook. This video is a godsend. Sub earned.
The start is so real lmao
Just found this channel, why does bro talk so much facts
I don't care until I die. I'll stay a nice guy until my last moments.
That's great. Always be yourself and be a gentleman. I wish you find a worthy girl
Be nice, but don’t be stupid, don’t be a tool to be used. I’m very nicely, but I don’t give gifts or compliments without merit
You can be nice, but don't be a pushover.
Ty for the video bro. I think I'll not be a nice guy bc of two things:
1) Your video and the awesome message
2) No Fap September
PS: Wish you luck, soldiers.
She asked for my social security and I gave it to her chat am I cooked?
rip brother..
You’re not cooked bro, you’re deep-fried
Your beyond fried
Brock in the thumbnail is too perfect!
Am I the only who who says no to friend zone? I literally told her no I don't wanna be friends 💀
💀smh
It’s kinda ridiculous to say that, u could use her as ally to meet new girls. By refusing friendship, u are looking stupid and can make u lost reputation if she is inside same community as you
@@MichaelDouglas-vd7yc I mean if she has the nerves to say that she jus wanna be friends I can also just say no? And I don’t need help meeting other girls
@@kaktusbruder6837 if u don’t need help and not even need friends ok, but I think that is healthy to maintain friendship with girls too, and not only sexual relationships.
I was the nice guy for a long time, and you're right, it does end up causing anger. Never present yourself as the nice guy. It kills you. Near literally for me with suicide attempts. I was nice to everyone, not specifically girls. I couldn't make any close friends. My goal was never "getting the girl", but this still applies to typical conversation regardless. What made my situation worse through grade school is that I had nobody that I could be genuine with. Parents, my sibling, quite literally anybody I know. I listened to everyone else's problems since people open up to me very often, but if I ever mentioned my depression I would get told off and get told "you are so negative" and just anger them, yelling and all that because they think I am stupid for feeling so poorly. That is...why I am going to you. For help. They don't get it though. Nobody understands that apparently. So what I learned is to never open up to anybody, even if they open up to you, because they might just be using you because you are the guy that makes them "feel good" about themselves. Learn to be yourself before you can do that.
I deadazz felt this in my soul 😔
We friends tho 3:16
Poor Kai
😂😂
Hhhhhh
That's so fkn true tho. I've been thinking about this since last year and just wanted for someone to confirm my thoughts. Thank you for this bro
this video discribes me so well thanks for the help man
How do all the girls who don't want nice guys pull all of em I'd do anything to have a sweet boy 😭🙏
This society is crazy
Recognize that being a "nice guy" often stems from seeking approval, avoiding conflict, and fear of rejection. Understanding this can help you identify the root causes of your behavior.
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Appreciate your support family 🙏
No problem
Yo love the honesty, it helps us engage more w the content
Noti gang
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