Enneagram Types 1 and 9 in a Relationship Explained

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  • Опубліковано 1 сер 2024
  • Here's a glimpse into what a relationship looks like between a Type 1 Reformer and a Type 9 Peacemaker.
    We'll talk about what these types have in common, what specifically attracts each type to each other, what conflict looks like between them, and then conclude with some potentially helpful advice based on the enneagram theories discussed throughout the episode. DISCLAIMER: This is a general overview that cannot cover the complexity of each subtype & variation (e.g. a self-press 1w2 with a social 9w8 could be very different than some of these general descriptions), nor can I cover how the varying degrees of each specific couple's mental/emotional health would impact so many of these patterns. So with that disclaimer out of the way, please feel free to share how these patterns do or don't play out in your personal life, all while keeping any combative disagreements to a minimum :) Thank you, and enjoy!
    0:00 Shared Traits
    2:40 One's Attraction to Nine
    4:47 Nine's Attraction to One
    7:06 Conflict
    9:40 Advice
    12:11 Relationship Rating
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    -Written by Colton Simmons, but with all due credit to the Don Riso & Russ Hudson of the Enneagram Institute for their many books that informed the majority of the content contained in this video, as well as Richard Rohr, Helen Palmer, Claudio Naranjo, Oscar Ichazo, and the many major enneagram pioneers!

КОМЕНТАРІ • 52

  • @danprevette
    @danprevette 7 місяців тому +40

    Dude just casually dropping some of the most well researched enneagram content available 🙌🙌🙌

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  7 місяців тому +4

      Much appreciated! Can't wait to do some more enneagram cocktail episodes with ya in the near future now that the year of sobriety is over 🥃

    • @staticthinking
      @staticthinking 6 місяців тому +1

      So easy to understand and endlessly relatable. Also, excited for more enneagram cocktail episodes. (Side note: Back Pew was my #2 podcast of last year as I burned thru everything I could. Loved listening to you both!)

    • @thegoldsinno
      @thegoldsinno 3 місяці тому

      100% - I’m newly obsessed with this channel. As good as it gets.

  • @nicolemarie866
    @nicolemarie866 6 місяців тому +13

    I’m a 9w1, no wonder I’ve been single for so long, I’m already in a perfect relationship with myself 😂

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  6 місяців тому +1

      Haha hey that aint a bad way to go!

  • @emilybaker6193
    @emilybaker6193 6 місяців тому +13

    Leave it to an ennegram 1 to create the perfect ennegram content! 👍👍👍

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  6 місяців тому +3

      Aw shux, thanks much!

    • @maureenm1239
      @maureenm1239 6 місяців тому

      Wait! You are a One!!! 😮

    • @sarahann84
      @sarahann84 21 день тому

      Haven't you seen how perfect he is?? Nothing to complain about, I could be watching him forever.

  • @annkipersson1122
    @annkipersson1122 6 місяців тому +8

    Wooohoo!! Have waited for this type of video!! Really long for 4 and 7, and 4 and 5. Thank you for the best enneagram videos on UA-cam ❤❤❤

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  6 місяців тому

      It's my pleasure! So glad you're enjoying the channel, and those combos will be coming up soon enough 🙌

  • @bouncyybear1860
    @bouncyybear1860 6 місяців тому +9

    you deserve so many more subscribers!!!! the work you do is so thorough and informative

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  6 місяців тому +2

      Thanks so much! And it's growing, slowly but surely :) The ole youtube algorithm is a tricky beast.

  • @nick005
    @nick005 6 місяців тому +4

    Enneagram be like how do you want your partner to be traumatised 😂

  • @judyinniss4814
    @judyinniss4814 6 місяців тому +4

    You can be right or you can be in a relationship…..so true 😊

  • @lauriesimmons5029
    @lauriesimmons5029 6 місяців тому +3

    So glad you’re back! This is great content and is definitely worth a second view.

  • @maureenm1239
    @maureenm1239 6 місяців тому +1

    This series is great! Can’t wait til you get to the 9 and 7 . You provided a great base of knowledge! Thank you!

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  6 місяців тому

      Thanks so much! And that combo is coming in just a few weeks ;)

  • @juliegolick
    @juliegolick 6 місяців тому +2

    I'm 9w1, and a cozy night in by the fire sounds so lovely! (I mean, I'm also happy to do more active / fun stuff, but I don't *need* to do it. Cozy nights in are great!)

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  6 місяців тому +1

      Glad the YGAT Rating System prevailed! ;)

  • @thegoldsinno
    @thegoldsinno 3 місяці тому

    Cannot wait for more combos with Ones! Especially Ones with Sevens!

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  3 місяці тому

      Coming slowly but surely!

    • @thegoldsinno
      @thegoldsinno 3 місяці тому

      No rush!! Take your time!! You’re doing so brilliantly!!

  • @cmpicha2934
    @cmpicha2934 6 місяців тому +1

    So excited for the rest of this series; this was great!
    Even though I'm perpetually single, this was still 1) fun for me to muse over what a future relationship could look like, and 2) somewhat helpful for deeper friendships too. I definitely had an "oh crap" moment with the point about interpersonal connection being more important than being right. 😬

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  6 місяців тому +2

      So glad to hear it! I'm hoping it's helpful for friendships as well, not just romantic relationships.

  • @Notrealgohan
    @Notrealgohan 12 днів тому

    As 9w1 i feel like im listening into both sides as related to both , i tend to be critical on myself a lot so i empathize with 1s . So i am a dreamer of idealistic relationships with others that don’t exist so i just make them exist in my own head anyways lol. Im learning a lot this year on how to let myself do mistakes and be okay with letting people in .

  • @jerrysstories711
    @jerrysstories711 6 місяців тому +1

    Hey! Great to see you posting again!

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  6 місяців тому +2

      Yessir! Sorry for the long hiatus, but I had a looooooooong season of research, writing, rewriting, and filming because I'm doing all 36 relationship combos roughly around the same time 😅 You'll have plenty new content this year tho.

    • @jerrysstories711
      @jerrysstories711 6 місяців тому +2

      @@YouveGotaType All 36! I admire your thoroughness!

    • @jerrysstories711
      @jerrysstories711 6 місяців тому +1

      @@YouveGotaType Hey, if you're looking for video ideas... When I started studying the Enneagram, I had trouble discerning if I was a 5w4 or a 4w5. That might be a cool 9-video series you could do, "Am I a 1w2 or a 2w1?" "Am I a 2w3 or a 3w2?" etc, all the way around.

  • @brandyange1753
    @brandyange1753 4 місяці тому

    I can't wait to see all the 3 videos. I've always wondered which number pairs best with the 3w4.

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  4 місяці тому +1

      It's gunna be a little while, but the 3s are coming!

  • @annaanderson7919
    @annaanderson7919 6 місяців тому +3

    8 and 9 in relationship please!

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  6 місяців тому +2

      It's coming in a few weeks, so stay tuned :)

  • @vision5541
    @vision5541 6 місяців тому +2

    Thank you. Can you do Enneagram 8 and 1 in relationships.

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  6 місяців тому +2

      Yup! I'm doing all combinations and dropping a new episode once a week so 8-1 wont be too far out

  • @mrunmayirasam6961
    @mrunmayirasam6961 6 місяців тому +3

    Second atleast!!❤

  • @Solangege
    @Solangege 6 місяців тому +3

    You’re amazing

  • @jimmyzjam
    @jimmyzjam 6 місяців тому +1

    Love the channel! Will you do an 8w9 and 5 any time soon?

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  6 місяців тому

      Glad to hear it! And I'm not focusing on the wings in particular, but the 8-5 relationship video is coming up soon :) Just starting with the type 9 combos, then going to 8s, and 7s, etc. etc.

  • @binablob
    @binablob 6 місяців тому +2

    i love your content so much!, can you do a relationship between 7 and 1? thanks!

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  6 місяців тому

      Thanks again! And sure can, it's coming out soon! Just going in order from the 9s, to 8s, then 7s, etc etc.

  • @destinystyles2575
    @destinystyles2575 6 місяців тому +1

    would you mind doing 7 and 4? I think this is an interesting combo, but it's one that I, as a 4, have the most success in!

    • @YouveGotaType
      @YouveGotaType  6 місяців тому +3

      Yup I'm doing all of the enneagram combos this year - so stay tuned!

    • @sarahann84
      @sarahann84 21 день тому

      There was a crime in my country where the woman, the murderer, was a clear 7, (who got help for the physical part of things from her 8 lover), and the victim, her partner, was a clear 4...
      Those are the only two types I've ever dated as a 1 and I would have trouble seen how that could work between them.
      Eager for the video!!

  • @user-kh7ef4ho4d
    @user-kh7ef4ho4d 6 місяців тому

    Complementary vs contradictory wing!