20 Tips For A Healthy Relationship (What Healthy Love Looks Like) - Terri Cole
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- Опубліковано 16 чер 2024
- Are there couples in your life who make you think, what do they know that I don’t know? They seem so happy! How do they do it?
Or do you see couples in movies or TV and wonder, does the kind of love they have exist, and if it does, where can I find it?
If you think other people have love all figured out and you aren’t sure how to figure it out yourself, this episode is for you.
I am sharing my personal 20 tips for curating, creating, and attracting epic love in your life whether you are single OR partnered!
Grab the guide for this episode here: www.terricole.com/20-tips-for...
Reminder: My 12-week course, Real Love Revolution, begins January 24! You can check it out here: terricole.com/realloverevolution
Time Stamps
0:00 - Introduction
2:34 - Tip 1: Mutual respect
2:58 - Tip 2: Honest communication
3:48 - Tip 3: Liking your partner
5:48 - Tip 4: Couple's vision
8:08 - Tip 5: No unasked for advice
9:35 - Tip 6: Value the other person's goals
11:26 - Tip 7: Avoid punishing behavior
12:25 - Tip 8: Be an athletic listener
14:00 - Tip 9: Take responsibility for your health
14:43 - Tip 10: Have fun and have sex
16:03 - Tip 11: Try not to interrupt
16:40 - Tip 12: Be flexible and spontaneous
17:05 - Tip 13: Apologize and own mistakes
17:10 - Tip 14: Be polite
18:30 - Tip 15: Focus on what's right
18:50 - Tip 16: Empathize & accept shortcomings
19:18 - Tip 17: Celebrate
19:27 - Tip 18: Be generous
19:45 - Tip 19: Make your person happy
20:46 - Tip 20: Don't go to bed mad
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About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see www.terricole.com/
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Tell me: which are your favorite tips? Which are you already doing in your relationship? Which ones would you like to incorporate? Remember to download the guide here for how to create a shared couple's vision and ask expansive questions: www.terricole.com/20-tips-for-a-healthy-relationship-guide
All these tips are so important and my favourite ones are "be an athletic listener" and "avoid punishing behavior". It is so hard to find a good listener because people are always turning the subject around to talk about themselves.
I feel that! I'm hoping I can keep spreading the word so we have more athletic listeners in the world ❤️
Oh boy!! Tip #11 !!! I had never thought to not interrupt even if you KNOW you could tell the story funnier. As an all around funny (and deeply humble) person and the resident story teller in my relationship, I always have the urge to be like “no wait, say it like that” or “don’t forget this part”
Life changing advice!!! Thank you ❤️
I feel you! So glad it was helpful ❤️❤️
This whole episode was a treasure! Loved how you told personal stories too. Your perspectives are priceless! The big ones for me were #4 shared vision and #19 do things because..it really makes you treat the relationship as a partnership and reels back in any self centerdness. They both honor your relationship and humbles yourself. Thank you for this sooo much!!😘❤❤❤❤
I am so glad you enjoyed it, Laila ❤️❤️
I hope I find my Vic someday. I don’t like how my generation goes about dating.
I hope you do, too ❤️
Me too ❤
Still never married, not the goal.
This respectfully loving each other is a goal. Beautiful video. Thank you 🤍🎼🖤🐾🕊️🌬️
Right on!
This was a great episode. It confirmed that some of the things I was asking from my ex were not unreasonable, and it wasn't me being difficult such as compromising to do activities that make me happy even if he's not that interested.
I am so glad it validated you, Jan ❤️
Thank you Terri! This was fantastic and encouraging - I greatly appreciate the message.
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Great advice here Terri. So many very helpful guides to improve relationships, and they're all do-able! I would only add - don't give up. Relationships seem to go through seasons and they can be impacted hugely by how you change. Your partner can't help but respond differently if you change to epitomize what you want your relationship to be,
Right on, Linda!
Yes we are morning the loss of a loved one
Your channel and book have been such a precious resource of information. Thank you for doing this and for having such a big heart and teaching us that changing our brain and the way we relate to others is possible
I am so happy to hear my work has helped you ❤️❤️ I appreciate you!
I absolutely loved this video! What a beautiful reminder of what a healthy, loving, supportive and passionate relationship could look like. Unfortunately at 55 I’m still single as I’ve been unable to find a man who is willing to live those philosophies as of yet
I'm glad you loved it ❤️ You never know, maybe that man is out there looking for you right now!
@@terri_cole ❤️
Oh my word!!! This is perfect!! I’ve shared it with my brother and will listen with my husband. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing and letting me know it resonated ❤️
Just watched Under the Tuscan Sun movie this morning! If you wanted to be in NJ with Vic when you were in Tuscany you were definitely smitten! ❤️
You know it, lol ❤️
I loved them all! Excellent list!!!
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making flashcards, love them all! I am adding a note to also care for myself mentally and physically as it will make me a better partner.
I love the idea of making them flashcards ❤️ And YES to self-care!
You are so amazing my dear thank you thank you thank you. For all that you share!
Thank you for being here and watching! ❤️
Amen on the please and thank yous. It’s so important!
Right?! ❤️
I love you, Terri. Thanks so much for being honest, strong e real. Everytime I need to feel confident I come to your channel ❤
Thank you so much, Lorena ❤️ I'm glad you find my content confidence-boosting!
You are so relatable and fun! Thank you so much for this you have a gift❤️
Thank YOU for watching and being here ❤️
I found this episode and tips very valuable and interesting!
Thank you for sharing them Terri. 💕 Quite inspirational. 😊
My favourite is #6 value the other person's goal and #1 mutual respect.
In my opinion it so important to value&respect each other's aspirations for a healthy love relationship.
Understanding that value& respecting might not be that you& partner have same same goals and interests.
You're so welcome ❤️ Yes, valuing the other person's goals is so important (and can be challenging sometimes!)
@@terri_colethank you! 😊
I have problems with not going to bed mad. I try but I fail. But I really want to try to change that. I'm not sure how.
I see you ❤️ I recommend journaling about it. Maybe think about the last time it happened and ask yourself what stopped you from changing it that time. What holds you back? Sometimes it's discomfort because it requires vulnerability to change the dance.
I had something similar back in the day when I was a master stonewaller during arguments. I started "calling myself out" and sharing that with the person- “Hey, I’m upset right now. My first instinct is to ignore you and give you the silent treatment. I want to ignore the entire situation, but I want us to effectively problem solve more. So can you please give me a few minutes to cool off and think about how I feel?”
“Then let’s come back together and talk it out because I love you and I don’t wanna fight or ignore you to make a point.”
I hope that helps xo
I’m feeling really bad about not always being the best listener 😢
I am witnessing you with compassion ❤️ Remember, it's a journey and a skill you can learn over time.
Oof…. Amazing
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Need to work on number 7 🫢
Omg! I loved this. Thank you Terri for being so real. 🙏🏽🤍Lee B Oz
I'm so glad you loved it! ❤️