A Vulnerable Chat-Infertility Struggles, Blossoming in your late 30s & holding on to hope.

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  • Опубліковано 12 чер 2024
  • This video is what I normally share but it’s still an important topic to talk about. While I share ways to create a homestead life without land or livestock and learn skills you can apply to your future homestead, the truth is, the REST of life (balancing a full time work schedule, caring for family, handling the ups and downs of life that impact us ALL) can throw curve balls that can make chasing a dream very difficult at times. I’m this video I get real about some of my challenges. Y’all, I’m just a regular person that happens to have a camera so don’t for one minute think that I don’t get bumped and bruised by life too. In this video I share ways to build resilience, why you should chase your dreams no matter what how I thrive even with disappointments and set backs. I share this because you can do it too! So, grab a cup of something, a snack and let’s laugh and cry together! Don’t quit your day dream and keep turning your waiting room into a classroom!
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  • @BecomingaFarmGirl
    @BecomingaFarmGirl  4 місяці тому +122

    Hi Friends! Each year, you and I sit on the couch and talk about some of the harder aspects of the year that I don't regularly share. I pray for you and as many of you pray for me. Thank you for making me feel supported enough to even share. xoxo Cassandra
    Last year's Candid Chat: ua-cam.com/video/aY2aiK_JFuo/v-deo.html.

    • @thehalfassedhomestead
      @thehalfassedhomestead 4 місяці тому +12

      Awe honey, it's a very hard to be where you are. I am in the exact same place you are. It isn't likely I'll ever have children of my own at this point. Your situation hit me in the feels as I know exactly how you feel. I am at the point where I am more seriously thinking about adoption. Don't let it get you down, it's OK to ask for help too. You are strong, but its good that you can have a good cry. Remember to take a few minutes for you every day, you need it. I will put you in my prayers.

    • @aced.7333
      @aced.7333 4 місяці тому +3

      Thank you for sharing!! I love your content and have learned sooo much!!

    • @carissalperry4635
      @carissalperry4635 4 місяці тому

      I love your down to earth spirit and energy. I wish I was your next for neighbor! Sending prayers that what is meant for your family will come to fruition and your dreams of becoming parents will manifest ❤

    • @erniceb5969
      @erniceb5969 4 місяці тому

      I'm not one to comment on anything but I want to congratulate you. I've enjoyed your videos for years!

    • @JusticeBaruch
      @JusticeBaruch 4 місяці тому

      You and your husband should fast and pray

  • @marshab9759
    @marshab9759 4 місяці тому +177

    I will pray for a baby in your future. Years ago, I was single forever. I got to where I couldn’t go to weddings or attend baby showers. In fact, the neighbor lady was teaching me to quilt and I was making a baby quilt in faith. I got so upset that I threw it in the trash about 1/3 of the way. I was so discouraged. I finally met a guy and married at 33. Had babies at 35, 37 & 41. One of my friends prayed for a baby for 27 years. She adopted a frozen embryo and had a wonderful amazing boy at age 44. He’s a little genius kid. So adorable. Whatever happens for you, I will pray for a miracle baby. Much love, Cassandra

    • @thasfun
      @thasfun 4 місяці тому +15

      Amen.❤

    • @Teena-yi9xw
      @Teena-yi9xw 4 місяці тому +18

      Touching and agreeing in Yeshua's Holy name, amen and amen.

    • @BecomingaFarmGirl
      @BecomingaFarmGirl  4 місяці тому +12

      Thank you T!

    • @thasfun
      @thasfun 4 місяці тому +21

      @@BecomingaFarmGirl As I told you before. My daughter's deepest desire was to have a child before she passed. When she finally opened up to me about how truly painful it was....her statement was 'I see these women having babies, multiples and can't take care of them or don't even want them, all I am asking God for is one little baby, just one.' We cried together and I shared with her a story about me and her dad. How we wanted one more child. We tried for 7 years. How it broke my heart that I couldn't get pregnant again. My mom said, you guys are trying to hard. Me and my husband had a convo and said 2 is enough and went about our business. A few months later, gaining weight and buying gurdles. My last thought was let me just take a test. Yep you guessed it baby #3. I called my mom and said but we don't want another baby now. She laughed and said welp he is coming! That story cheered my daughter up. After the laugher I told her, the trick of the enemy is for you to look and say they all have but Lord why not me. We will all be praying over your womb. If it is so it will be. Amen Amen Amen. You walk in your authority beautiful woman. Oh yeah check out I.A.G. Farms. Meagan has a testimony about her journey that I know you will relate too. I think she is also subscribed to your channel. 🥰

    • @EstherKwofie-kc5nd
      @EstherKwofie-kc5nd 4 місяці тому

      Amen

  • @mompofelski4191
    @mompofelski4191 4 місяці тому +106

    NO GUILT about the letters/emails - those are our efforts to hold your hand, sit by you and just listen, pray with you. We hurt for you, with you. Last thing everyone wishes for you is unnecessary guilt. You are loved by so many people - most are faceless that you will never meet. You can bet a large amount of them/us are going to the Lord in your behalf. Blessings.

    • @MelissaFloyd
      @MelissaFloyd 4 місяці тому +3

      Yup, better believe it. 🙏 Jesus gonna get bombarded 😂❤

    • @michelleg4053
      @michelleg4053 4 місяці тому

      Exactly

    • @daniellecox6534
      @daniellecox6534 14 днів тому

      One Hundred Percent! I thought, oh honey you don’t need to reply… it’s just our chance to reach out and give you a digital hug ❤

  • @AriTriesNewThings
    @AriTriesNewThings 4 місяці тому +30

    Cassi, girlfriend. I have LITERALLY been and felt where you are for 7 years with my husband.
    I went thru endometriosis surgery, multiple fertility treatments, and for so many years, nothing. I literally lost faith in God's promise. The monthly disappointment and negative tests 😢 gurl....so many tears.
    Everything truly does come on God's time and if he made a promise to you, he will keep it.
    I'm naturally 7 weeks pregnant 🤰🏽 now. Cass, keep the faith. He will never desert you! Prayers up. We're praying for you. 🙏🏽

  • @auntiepam5649
    @auntiepam5649 4 місяці тому +63

    I love listening to you Cassandra. My oldest daughter is a Cassandra a “helper of mankind”, you are that kind of lady thank you.

    • @BecomingaFarmGirl
      @BecomingaFarmGirl  4 місяці тому +13

      Hello sweet friend. I am in tears again, because yes-that is the meaning of Cassandra. Your kind words are so very, very touching!

  • @nakitabanana
    @nakitabanana 4 місяці тому +52

    That monthly disappointment is so heavy. I’m walking this struggle with you. Thank you for being a light here on UA-cam. You are so inspiring in your homesteading achievements and your realness.

  • @PS-qn4oz
    @PS-qn4oz 4 місяці тому +37

    I was infertile after my first child was born. I finished nursing him, and I still couldn't get pregnant for over a year. Then my husband and I both did a 10 day cleansing fast. I got pregnant immediately and have a large family now. The fast that we followed was in a book by Bernard Jensen about tissue cleansing. Since then I have seen other references to regular fasting helping with infertility. When fasting, the body is more likely to dissolve any obstructions in the very narrow and delicate pathways of the reproductive systems, through autophagy. Best of luck

    • @ellegates
      @ellegates 4 місяці тому +5

      You are right on, and I've so wanted to tell her about fasting and the success others have had.
      I super duper hope she reads this...we love your heart and pray your family is blessed
      (Thanks for sharing your fast story!)

    • @PS-qn4oz
      @PS-qn4oz 4 місяці тому

      @@ellegates Thank you kindly!

    • @sandzee1868
      @sandzee1868 3 місяці тому +2

      ❤❤YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT CAN HAPPEN…. So many women and their stories … there is always hope…I was 44 …😊

  • @lisazager9315
    @lisazager9315 4 місяці тому +8

    As a woman who struggled with fertility and ultimately became an adoptive Mama, this video resonated with me deeply. My son turns 11 today and I can't believe how fast time has gone by. My husband and I ultimately made peace with our infertility and left it up to God that if we were meant to be parents, however it was meant to be, then we would put ourselves out there. It took a few years but the child we were meant to have came to us thru adoption. As soon as we looked at him we knew he was our child. It is a beautiful process. So my prayer for you and your husband is to become parents in the exact way God means for you. Try to keep this faith. Sending you both much love. ❤️

  • @vickimontgomery5271
    @vickimontgomery5271 4 місяці тому +17

    I absolutely adore you! I am a city/farm girl. 60 years old and I canned chicken and chicken broth for the first time last week, learning my dehydrator, reading all the books, learning about foods, farming, bought a greenstalk and am ready to get that going on my townhouse patio. You are an inspiration! Also, a Navy brat from the south and shed many tears and years struggling with infertility. God hears you. He sees you. I am praying he blesses you with your heart's desire! ❤

  • @thesergiorevengeshow
    @thesergiorevengeshow 4 місяці тому +22

    All of your gardening and homesteading tips/advice will help people now and generations to come. You're doing an amazing thing, by sharing.
    GOD gives us trials and, your helpful advice is giving back soooo much!!! You are helping tens of thousands of people grow and learn, therefore you are already Motherly and Blessed.

  • @TheCherokee1017
    @TheCherokee1017 4 місяці тому +37

    You and your husband are in my prayers. You have such a beautiful heart and I’m sorry is a bit bruised right now. I have all the faith in the world that your dreams will come true. Sending you a huge virtual hug. God keep you safe.

    • @BecomingaFarmGirl
      @BecomingaFarmGirl  4 місяці тому +11

      Thank you, sweet friend. This is for sure a tough situation, but one I know that many woman/couples find themselves in (you just don't realize that its going to be you). God will give us strength for whatever comes to pass. I cherish your kind words!

  • @BuildingHerHouse
    @BuildingHerHouse 4 місяці тому +11

    Praying for you, Sis. My SIL couldn’t have kids for over 10 years. They have 2 sons now and it was all natural. Nothing is impossible for God. In His time … He makes all things beautiful ❤

    • @TLStitches
      @TLStitches 4 місяці тому +1

      Agreed. We're always told how stress affects our bodies, i.e. blood pressure, heart, cancers, etc, but yet when it comes to childbearing we're told it has little impact.

  • @debcheney
    @debcheney 4 місяці тому +22

    Oh my goodness Cassandra! I am sorry for the difficult journey. I cried at the beginning of your video. It was so good for me to tear up with you. I call them "therapy cries". I am one of the people who shared my infertility journey via email. I totally understand not responding. And the body does keep the score. I tell people that bodies can break. I broke mine in 2014 and it has been a long journey coming out of it.
    I needed to "therapy" cry with you because my daughter is very ill. And I am sadly going through a difficult divorce after being married 28 years. Each person has their hard. Thank you for sharing yours. It will help many of us not feel so alone. And I am thankful to say God has been so faithful through my hard.

  • @marylamphere2112
    @marylamphere2112 4 місяці тому +19

    Ma'am, we will be okay with anything you want to send out anytime! Please know how much we value your content and enrichment you bring to us. You have such an easy way about you that it IS like being your friend in your kitchen.
    I am 100% looking forward to the folk remedies because I ADORE that kind of thing!
    Take care of you, body/mind/spirit, and know we are honored to be brought along for parts of the journey.

  • @tristaperkins7112
    @tristaperkins7112 4 місяці тому +17

    Oh Cass, sweet darlin, brother from another mother! Your tender heart humbles me, and tonight, I shed tears with you and for you. You WILL make an amazing mother, and I pray that God answers your prayers for a bundle, regardless of how He plans for you to receive it. Much love to you, sweet sister! Give Trey and your precious mom and dad a huge hug from Tennessee.

  • @coastalfarmhouse1820
    @coastalfarmhouse1820 4 місяці тому +4

    You will greatly bless any children, blood or adopted, that you have in your future. You have so so so much to offer.

  • @shannonhudson8625
    @shannonhudson8625 4 місяці тому +11

    Dear Cassandra, please know that you are loved more than you know. ❤ You continue to inspire us and prove that things are possible. Thank you for sharing your heart and passions with all of us, no matter how messy.

  • @generationjonesy
    @generationjonesy 4 місяці тому +6

    You’re under no obligation to write us back. Just being you on your channel is enough❤❤

  • @AGLPS
    @AGLPS 4 місяці тому +2

    I dealt with fertility issues for 10 years. I understand the 'month after month' grief. I finally got pregnant at 41 & had a healthy baby! Stay optimistic!!!!!!! God bless you on your journey!

  • @arecreatedlife5500
    @arecreatedlife5500 4 місяці тому +18

    Wow Cass. Changing your work and going to a less stressful job was REALLY brave of you! I so wish I had the guts to do that.

  • @babsgilbert518
    @babsgilbert518 4 місяці тому +18

    I am so glad that you are here. I have been looking for a new video from you for the past few days...but wasn't prepared for your being so open and candid on a personal level. We are very grateful for all of the work you do, the knowledge you share and the bubbly excited personality you bring us. Thank you Cassandra. You are in our prayers. 😊

    • @BecomingaFarmGirl
      @BecomingaFarmGirl  4 місяці тому +4

      Hello sweet friend. Yes, I know this video was VERY different than what I usually share, but I do enjoy sharing an annual video like this (usually near the start of the year) where I share more candid situations and goals I hope to accomplish. Thank you for your prayers! We are so encouraged by them!

  • @elizabeths182
    @elizabeths182 4 місяці тому +24

    Sending hugs your way. You are such a beautiful light in this world.

  • @lilolmecj
    @lilolmecj 4 місяці тому +16

    As long as you are mentally and spiritually healthy, just keep following your heart. My friends spent their entire thirties trying to have babies. Of course they lived life while trying to. They now have a three year old little girl they adopted, and twins, a boy and a girl, born very early, but doing well at this point. P,ease just live your life and accept the blessings when they come.😊

  • @laurakuehlke1320
    @laurakuehlke1320 4 місяці тому +3

    Praying for you and your husband with the difficulties you've faced. I don't always comment, but I do always look forward to your videos; they truly are inspiring and often feel like a conversation between "the girls". You have such a sweet spirit and bring light to so many; may this year brings you goodness and answered prayers. At age 51, and after 27 years in the classroom teaching writing (I left in 2021 due to the toll the ever-increasing demands were taking on my health and family), I feel like I am finally blossoming into the complete person I was meant to be; we're never too old or beyond the time to pursue our passions and dreams.

  • @kathycullum2089
    @kathycullum2089 4 місяці тому +13

    You are an awesome soul. You have taught me so much and I am 64 years young. You are inspiring. I hope the best for you and your husband. I will keep you in my prayers. 🌻🐚🦋

    • @BecomingaFarmGirl
      @BecomingaFarmGirl  4 місяці тому +5

      Hello Kathy! God gets the glory! He gives me strength on my worst days. And now, he has blessed me with a community of genuine friends, like you, to encourage me on this hard road.

  • @kewpiefan72
    @kewpiefan72 4 місяці тому +7

    You truly are such an impressive woman! I have been so awed by the way you think and the amount of work you do. I am excited to see what is in your future, I’m sure good things are going to happen! Expand your friend group, you can’t have too many woman friends!!! Rely on us for shoulders to cry on, excitements to share, uppers for down days. You deserve every good thing and happiness we can throw at you! You go, girlfriend, we got your back!

  • @dsvernitsky
    @dsvernitsky 4 місяці тому +7

    What I have learned in this chat is that God has blessed you and poured out His grace and favor over you❤. To see your platform grow, how many opportunities you’ve been given, it’s a testimony to His love. Cassandra, you have blessed me tremendously and I pray the Lord continues to multiply those blessings over you. Your baby is coming soon and you will continue to be the amazing proverbs 31 woman you are as well as a great mother❤

  • @lizf506
    @lizf506 4 місяці тому +4

    We just went to a baby shower for a mom who had been married 11 years and this was her first! It was lovely. We are Catholic so all around her are very large families. It's been hard. I know of many such stories so you mustn't give up hope! My three youngest kids (9, 11, and 12) and I all prayed for you and your husband to have a baby last year. We are going to start praying again. God bless you!

    • @lizf506
      @lizf506 4 місяці тому

      p.s. We have 11 kids and seven are adopted...the three youngest who prayed for you are adopted.

  • @AsheTheRealtor
    @AsheTheRealtor 4 місяці тому +7

    I was teaching my friend how to garden a couple of weeks ago. We were starting seeds for the Greenstalk that I bought her for Christmas. I showed her your videos and how you utilize them in your townhome setting. Then I said, "I can't wait until she is blessed with a baby." She was like, "what!?" and I told her that you are (unknowingly) one of my friends "though the screen", a friend that I learned a lot from, and I can't wait until you become a Mommy. She thought I was weird because I don't know you. (I have quilting and crocheting friends on the channel as well 🙂) I had a lot of fertility struggles, a few loses, and the moment I gave up and left it to faith I got pregnant with my daughter... of course AFTER I "planned an epic year". I am sending you hugs and prayers from NC.... Re-read my comment and wanted to add: when I "gave up" it still hurt to "give up".... the ache to be a Mother is only felt by a true Mother. If you can't have a child through your womb you can have a child through your heart. I have friends who were adopted by amazing parents and have always been amazing reflections of them. Love on the Hubby as you go on your journey together.

  • @yvettemarie
    @yvettemarie 4 місяці тому +8

    I hope you get your dream. I had the same dream. I had surrogates (who later changed their minds). Now I need 2 transplants (kidney & pancreas) completely taking away any chance of ever becoming a mother. God bless.

    • @debcheney
      @debcheney 4 місяці тому +5

      I simply want to say thank you for sharing. I am sorry there has been so much hard in your journey. I understand in a smaller way. I simply offer compassion and prayers.

  • @ThisBraveHeart
    @ThisBraveHeart 4 місяці тому +3

    Watching you cry broke my heart. I will pray for you and your husband.
    I also want to thank you for helping me throughout the years and I’m beyond grateful for you. God speed!

  • @jlew1591
    @jlew1591 4 місяці тому +3

    Hi Cassandra, former admin here and I can relate all too well. Unfortunately, the amount of stress that I underwent as an admin caused me to have a miscarriage. I'm so blessed to say that I have had two healthy children since leaving that role. Praying for you!!!!

  • @cheddarcheese3296
    @cheddarcheese3296 4 місяці тому +13

    Thank you, Cassandra, for being open and vulnerable with us. I know it may be hard, but I genuinely hope this experience enriches you as much as it does for us. Since joining this channel, I feel like I've learned and grown in some small way alongside you. Just know that you are an amazing person. Do what you can, when you can. Moving forward, no matter how big or small that movement may seem, is a win. All the same, cheers to another great year ahead!

  • @valerry22
    @valerry22 4 місяці тому +2

    I remember finding your channel when you had less than 10k subscribers and I couldn't understand why you weren't a bigger channel because you had so much to offer and very easy to connect with. Congrats on your subscribers.. You really deserve this! ❤

  • @KathyW5
    @KathyW5 Місяць тому

    We are those friends who will walk along by your side, appreciating what you offer, which is plenty, but making no demands about personal journeys or what you share. What you want to keep close to you is none of our business. We will share your joy, sorrows, and everything in between that you want to share and no more. You have been so vulnerable today I want you to feel us with you as you travel along your paths.

  • @schnder1
    @schnder1 4 місяці тому +5

    I have been through this journey. I feel for you. I also know you will get past this. Please feel hope. I had miscarriages, eptopic pregnancies, invitro. I had a positive pregnancy only to loose two embryos (weeks apart) after a fall while mopping the floor. I lost a foster child that we raised for 10 months suddenly due to a birth mother getting arrested and having more rights if she sought visitation.. This is a hard journey. We eventually decided to become foster parents again while trying to adopt. We ended up with two kids in six months. I know this our answer is not everyones. Once a baby was in my arms I would run out in front of a car to save this little being. That's when I knew that I what a real mother is. I share these kids with their birthparents as I never wanted them to have to search for answers. I hope for you to find your own path that works for your family. I wish for you to celebrate your family, however that comes, in the near future. Wishing you the very best. Your attitude is your gift.

  • @paulasmith7803
    @paulasmith7803 19 днів тому

    When we were trying to have a baby, I would be so jealous if someone else got pregnant. A horrible feeling. Oh, I could get pregnant, just couldn't keep one. Fertility treatment and finally just one bed rest and we got our daughter. She is a miracle to us. The pain of trying and failing month after month, really can put you in a very bad place.

  • @Rachelmarie5272
    @Rachelmarie5272 4 місяці тому +2

    I just love watching your videos. You are so real and down to earth. Because of you I ordered my own green stalk this Christmas and am so excited to see what I can grow. I always thought you could have a homestead living in the country worth acres of land but you have shown us it doesn’t matter where you live you can start anywhere. Thank you!!!! You are also in my prayers that God will bless you with a baby❤

  • @tamiraymond7032
    @tamiraymond7032 4 місяці тому +2

    I was glad to hear that you chose a less stressful career. I'm not sure anyone really understood just how damaging stress is for.our bodies...not when my stress began. Making changes to de-streas my life had been the best thing I could have done for my health. That is just one of many journeys that will continue for me through this year and beyond. I have no idea if minimizing stress will allow your body to heal so that you can become pregnant. ..only God knows the plan He has for you...but I do know it will make you a better mom when your turn comes. Praying for you daily.🙏

    • @TLStitches
      @TLStitches 4 місяці тому +1

      So, so true! Both times my mother was diagnosed with cancer she had just gone through some extremely stressful changes in her life.

  • @Facts4Fun1
    @Facts4Fun1 4 місяці тому +3

    Hey Cassandra. I know it’s a little late but I just watched the video about your replacement freezer and everybody telling you not to over fill it. DO NOT LISTEN to those folks, as long as there is air flow, fridges and freezers work more efficiently when they are fuller as it is easier for the machine to cool food than it is to cool empty space. So fill to your heart’s content. Keep doing what you’re doing coz it’s great!!

  • @christywilliams5636
    @christywilliams5636 2 місяці тому

    My mom was waiting for seven long years praying for a baby. She later had three healthy children. She always treasured us so much because of that past pain. You don’t need to respond. Just know that I am praying for God to bless you both with precious children of your own.

  • @lucyjones2184
    @lucyjones2184 4 місяці тому +4

    Your beautiful soul is such a blessing to so many! We are paying in faith with you for whatever plan God has to grow your family! I understand how difficult it can be some days. I had 6 miscarriages before we adopted our son and there is no doubt in my mind that he was made for us! He’s 14 now and is such a blessing for us. I pray your heart is held in peace until your blessing arrives. I’m already excited for the incredible testimony this will be. Hugs!!! ❤

  • @thistledewfarm
    @thistledewfarm 4 місяці тому +2

    I’ll pray for your family to come… Abraham and Sarah were blessed later in life with a child of their own too. They didn’t really think on their own it would happen but Abraham trusted God when God said he would bless him with a son. I will pray for you to be blessed with your own child too. Big hugs… you are an amazing young woman and remind me so much of my own daughter who is a teacher at an at risk high school.

  • @diannamcmurraywilson8303
    @diannamcmurraywilson8303 4 місяці тому +1

    A friend of mine gave up gluten for a short time in order to conceive. Not sure if you heard this yet 🙏 she had serious stress and even had a seizure from it once. The best fertility doctors.. even left stool samples at her door to be analyzed before the gluten free idea was suggested by a holistic doctor. Don’t mean to give false hope if you’ve tried this. Good luck to you sweetie, meditate and visualize your life with baby. We can’t wait to hear when your blessings come to fruition❤️❤️❤️

  • @Growingbookbybook
    @Growingbookbybook 4 місяці тому +3

    As a former school administrator, I completely understand the stress level and how it effects the body. I'm so happy you are making changes for yourself. And, I loved being a literacy coach! Thank you for always sharing so many resources in your homesteading journey. I've learned so much from you.

  • @jenniferwilliamson309
    @jenniferwilliamson309 4 місяці тому +3

    I have been following you for quite a while, but rarely comment. I love how down to earth you are, giving great shopping tips, talking candidly about your struggles that reflect my own. You inspire me so much and I pray for you often. I hope and pray it will not be much longer that you do move to your homestead farm with your babies. Keep being real. Love you!

    • @BecomingaFarmGirl
      @BecomingaFarmGirl  4 місяці тому +1

      Hi Jennifer! I appreciate your kind words of support, and never feel any kind of way about commenting (or not). Even with work and life as crazy as it is, I cannot tell you how much of a reprieve being able to stitch my stories together through video and connect with others that don't mind my quirks has been. Thank you for journeying alongside me friend, it means more than you know!

  • @helenbarney9795
    @helenbarney9795 3 місяці тому

    I just met you yesterday
    I’m a 68 year old mother of a daughter who blessedly had a successful IVF boy. I walked that frightened sad road with her. Please continue to reach out and share . I will pray for you like I prayed for her.
    We know and are grateful this can be her only child, but I know if the lord never does anything else he’s done enough.

  • @emekasearthgems3376
    @emekasearthgems3376 4 місяці тому +2

    Honoring yourself and your body is the best thing you can do! I'm proud of you and praying for a future baby 💜 Thanks for being so vulnerable and sharing with us.

  • @DeniseDW
    @DeniseDW 9 днів тому

    I really like your videos and I wanted to share my journey. I had 3 babies that did not make it and at 40yrs old I started a plant based lifestyle and I got pregnant a year later. I had a little boy 9 pounds and 11 ounces. He is now 8yrs old and he has brought back my youth. 😃My doctor believes my diet change healed my body. I wish you all the best!

  • @cathybreeding4603
    @cathybreeding4603 4 місяці тому +3

    I LOVE your channel Cassandra. And I feel like we are friends even though we have never met. Thank you for sharing your personal struggles and victories. I’m a retired school teacher and farm girl wanna be. You always inspire me. Please keep on sharing. God bless. ❤

  • @crosskeyshomestead
    @crosskeyshomestead 4 місяці тому +2

    Your work here brings so many people together. What binds us all is the culture of food, of family, of self reliance, of reaching a goal, of facing adversity but overcoming it. I wish we could bottle you up and give more people a dose of Cass!!! Thank you. In a world that is so troubling, you are so inspirational. Thank you for giving us your gifts of time and knowledge.

  • @thevillagecannery6083
    @thevillagecannery6083 4 місяці тому +1

    I just want you to know I am praying for you in the journey of starting a family. I waited for 7 years for a child. Just trust in the lord and he will provide know there is people are praying for you. By the way I love your channel. You are a great breath of air.

  • @kristidollar6777
    @kristidollar6777 4 місяці тому +1

    You are such an AMAZING & TALENTED woman!!! The first video I watched of yours was about your apothecary, and without knowing anything about you, thought right away you were a military wife, and how exciting to know that Yes, indeed you are!!! My Father was Air Force, my husband is a deputy sheriff, and all three of our sons are Air Force! My husband & I have just this year embarked on homesteading, with the purchase of 15 acres, nigerian dwarf goats, chickens, barn cats & a Great Pyrenees livestock dog! We harvested meat chickens for the first time with friends and WOW, what an incredible experience! I also LOVE all things herbs, medicinal & and culinary, and gained much inspiration from your apothecary video!
    Stay Strong dear friend, it's only the Father's timing that you wait for, and as you know...HIS timing is PERFECT!❤

  • @amandaribofpalmetto
    @amandaribofpalmetto 4 місяці тому +1

    Sweet, sweet friend!! I just want to wrap you in a hug. You WILL be a mama!!! 💖💖

  • @Lauravick62050
    @Lauravick62050 4 місяці тому +3

    Love and prayers for you and your family. I love you. I’m glad you like older people. Haha. I’m 73. And my son is probably close to your age. He’ll be 40 in March 😳. Hang in there and remember that God says “ Be still; and Know that I Am God”. He is in control and you are where you are supposed to be. I love you and you videos so much. Thank you for the joy you share with me! 💕🥰

  • @CatOso32
    @CatOso32 4 місяці тому +1

    Thanks for the hug, Cassandra! Praying for a blessed 2024 for you and your husband!

  • @lisalink6976
    @lisalink6976 4 місяці тому +1

    Farm Girl, let me tell you. I do both, deer and turkey hunting. I enjoy to quite time in the woods, watching the woods wake up and the overall peacefulness. But turkey hunting…it down right exhilarating hearing them gobble and getting them to come towards that call. Also, I watched last year’s video, and every time I see one of your videos I pray that you and Trey will have the desires of your hearts to raise a family. Be blessed sweet lady.

  • @Hannahnic14
    @Hannahnic14 4 місяці тому +1

    I'm fairly new to your channel and I feel your struggle❤ Me and my husband (both 32) have been trying for a baby for several years now with nothing to show for it. Married 9 years trying for the last 3 or so.😔 We decided early in this journey that if it wasnt meant to be then that was ok, but it doesnt make the disappointment every month any easier to bear. Nor the pain of baby showers, baby announcements and things like that. Prayers and love to you! May Gods will be done in your journey.

  • @rootsanddirt
    @rootsanddirt 4 місяці тому +3

    Praise God! The challenges of life are what make the beautiful in life that much more beautiful. Much love and prayer to you through whatever path the Lord has for you. He is faithful. You are such a incredible gift to this community. I wish we lived closer! It would be lovely to sit across the table to chat and pray together.

  • @RevLetaLee
    @RevLetaLee 4 місяці тому +1

    Knowing you are held in the arms of Divine love as you continue to walk this path. Let us love you and let go of needing to reply. You give enough of your life in your teaching videos. Hold fast to your vision. Your light shines and your blessings will come, one way or another, and all ways, perfect! Bless you.

  • @variyasalo2581
    @variyasalo2581 4 місяці тому

    You are one of the strongest women I "know", even though it is thru the internet. I don't share your infertility crisis, but the emotional crush is familiar. I am retired Air Force enlisted. After I retired I substitute taught, then returned to college to get a Masters, certified as special Ed, and became a charter school middle/high school teacher. I loved the kids but not the politics. I volunteer at our small town thrift store now. During my years in the military and after, I have grown tomatoes almost wherever I lived! I had small or windowsill gardens, I taught myself canning, read everything I could find on homesteading and organic living, and find so many similarities between your life and mine. I love your vlog, you are real and share so much of yourself it feels like home. Your private life is your business; what you care to share is your business. By the way, I shot my first feral hog last year and bought a rifle for hunting last week! I'm astonished at myself! I have to gonow but hope the best for you on your journey. Keep spreading joy, and may you find fair winds and following seas.

  • @yvonneforrest8735
    @yvonneforrest8735 4 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for your desire to share your journey. We don’t know what tomorrow holds but know today I and many others laughed, cried and hugged you back.

  • @beckyw2903
    @beckyw2903 4 місяці тому +1

    I’m praying that you do get that baby soon, either through a pregnancy or adoption. Waiting for something good that just doesn’t seem to be happening can be so hard. I also enjoyed hearing your recap of last year and your preview of what you want to cover this year. A freeze dryer would be so exciting for you! We’d love to get one, but it’s definitely an investment. And congratulations on your 100k subscriber award! It’s well deserved, and you are absolutely my favorite person on here to watch. Living in a townhouse myself, watching your journey has really expanded my view on what can be done in a small space, and I’m still a bit mind blown that you’ve found some workarounds on livestock!

  • @hexenmoon2737
    @hexenmoon2737 4 місяці тому +1

    I love how through your own realization you stay true to you. And now you're on a new chapter and it's going to be beautiful. ❤

  • @sharleneedwards201
    @sharleneedwards201 4 місяці тому +5

    Love you dear lady❤ We’re here for you much love❤❤

  • @mindyskidder
    @mindyskidder 4 місяці тому +1

    I started crying as you talked about your struggle with infertility. Every fertility journey is different. I had been told, in my late 20s, that I would likely never be able to become pregnant. A lot happened between then & when I turned 40 ... After lots of ups, downs, tears and endless prayer, I became pregnant at 40 and had my son at 41. He's a happy & health teenager now. I know this roller-coaster is rough and it can be really hard to find hope, but I pray that you continue to hold that hope close to your heart. ❤ ALSO, Congrats on your subscriber plaque! That represents a lot of hard work and dedication!

  • @Adamllover
    @Adamllover 4 місяці тому

    First, I just want to say how much that I love this video. And I'm only halfway through it right now.
    I immediately started crying for you, but also because of something that I and my family went through about 15 months ago now already that just hit me again while watching it.
    We lost my niece 2 weeks shy of her fifth birthday about a year and a half ago. In the same day that she went to the hospital for bloodwork, swelling, and shallow breathing, she was diagnosed with cancer. They sent her 15 mins away to our bigger hospital. They immediately gave her a ton of medications, which right after, put her into cardiac arrest and respiratory arrest. She died. Was brought back to life from a young doctor with my same nickname ironically. She never woke up. They still did chemo on her during this time, she blew up like a balloon. She passed away in less than a week from the day that she went to the hospital.
    My sister lived across the street before they moved to where we grew up in the vountry near by. I watched her once a week about since birth. She was literally the biggest light of a person I've ever met, and I have said that before all of this happened. She was my weekly highlight. (My son was/is a moody teenager lol, He's still my one and only)
    I miss her so very much. I can't even express. Thus just brought so much out again. Obviously needed.
    Anyway, more through the video now. I livw in a super small town in central/northeast Pa. (Since you spoke about that) I love it here! (Born in south Jersey, moved here when I was in 1st grade, I'm 42) We have such a small, nice community.
    Anyway, I keep going on. I need to finish the video. Its 3 am. I just got done canning my 3 canners of organic garden sauce (from our in town raised beds during the summer)
    Praying for you, your husband, and your family. I love your channel 💕

  • @catherinefrasier4051
    @catherinefrasier4051 4 місяці тому +1

    Cassandra I was so blessed to find your channel. When I came across your channel I was a recently retired teacher of over 25 years. I had commited to starting a garden and returing to canning. I live in a small home in a small town simular to where you are, as well. I've learned so much from your videos and watch closley for your emails and posts. You seem like family to me. I want you to know I'm looking forward to this coming year with you and your family. I will most importantly be intercesory praying for your health and life style goals. I really do understand the stress of this career. Be blessed because you are a blessing to so many!

  • @kathyv3909
    @kathyv3909 4 місяці тому +3

    You are an inspiration and I appreciate you fully. You are such a valuable resource and you feel like a really healthy friend. I'm so glad I know you.

  • @MaribethAlexander
    @MaribethAlexander 4 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for sharing your life with us! I appreciate you more than I can express in words. It’s refreshing to see a young woman so passionate about keeping the traditions of food preservation alive-I didn’t even start that journey until I was 60. God bless you and I will pray He blesses you and your husband with a baby🙏🏻❤️

  • @MsTAAlex
    @MsTAAlex 4 місяці тому +5

    God will give you the desires of your heart. Keep the faith. ❤ You are in my prayers. (Virtual Hug)

    • @BecomingaFarmGirl
      @BecomingaFarmGirl  4 місяці тому +1

      I know HE will bring it to pass! Thank you, sweet friend. I’ve been so encouraged by the beautiful women, like you. Thank you very deeply from my heart!

    • @Teena-yi9xw
      @Teena-yi9xw 4 місяці тому +1

      ​@@BecomingaFarmGirltouching and agreeing in Yeshua's Holy name, amen and amen.

  • @mercydestefani2159
    @mercydestefani2159 4 місяці тому +3

    Oh, Cassandra, you are such a lovely soul and so energetic and “up” most of the time that this breaks my heart for you! I will continue to put out positive thoughts and hopes for you. The struggles you’re experiencing are draining, physically, mentally, and emotionally, and I admire your spirit! I enjoy your content immensely, and find your down-to-earth advice very insightful. I’m afraid I have no advice for you that wouldn’t sound trite or condescending. Just know that so many of us are pulling for you and yours!

  • @maerand4976
    @maerand4976 4 місяці тому +1

    You had previously been a little coy about your professional life.I so appreciate you sharing!! I’m in the same field and have used learning about homesteading as a way to sort of get away from it all. You are my kindred spirit! Thank you for sharing your channel. You have inspired me to pursue more hands on learning and to be who I am. Thank you for that!

  • @BlueLuna5
    @BlueLuna5 25 днів тому

    I tried for 5 years to have a baby. I ended doing ivf and was blessed with my 1st son and then did it again got my 2nd son.
    Your feelings are valid and it's okay to feel sad, angry, jealous even, all the things... infertility is cruel and not right. Don't be hard on yourself when you feel a certain way. I don't personally believe stress or no stress has anything to do with being pregnant. But of course its so much healthier for yourself to have less stress. 😊

  • @Juli-ie6uy
    @Juli-ie6uy 4 місяці тому +1

    Sending you hugs and prayers. You always bring light into my life when I watch your videos. Stress can affect us in many ways, take time for yourself. Give yourself a hug and know that you are amazing.

  • @nonaurbuziness3709
    @nonaurbuziness3709 4 місяці тому +1

    That hug was everything Cassandra! You are amazing and I wish you the best of journeys. Your channel, your voice has been a lifeline for me and there are no words that can justly express how much this means to me. No words can do this justice. Please keep doing what you do. You are light and you are joy! Please and Thank you!!!!

  • @BabePennington20
    @BabePennington20 3 місяці тому

    This was so encouraging!❤ I’m 32 and my husband and I 3yrs married, 2yrs trying to conceive. As a child, I always wanted 10 children. I still would absolutely LOVE to have 10 children ( natural or adopted). I’m not sure if you’re a fellow Christ-follower, but being in God’s word regularly and learning more about who He is and His goodness, regardless of how I feel about His answer of “not yet” or possibly “no,” He is still a good Father!
    Stay encouraged, Cassie! Your joyful spirit really is a light to the world. Thank you!❤

  • @kcndc1
    @kcndc1 4 місяці тому +1

    Thank you so much for your servant's heart and transparency! Your work matters to so many!! I'm standing with you in prayers for motherhood. May God bless you in all things!! 🥰

  • @user-bg6dw4mf9i
    @user-bg6dw4mf9i 4 місяці тому

    I just wanted to tell you that I married later. I finally was able to have a beautiful baby girl at 44 completely naturally after we switched from white flour to freshly milled wheat. I know that sounds crazy, but it is the vitamin E. The ache and longing is so real. I am not a regular viewer but this came on my UA-cam and I had to tell you. I stayed in prayer and I was led to switch out white flour to freshly milled wheat. I highly recommend you researching vitamin E and fertility. I understand you so much. The Lord answered my prayers and now I am a happy homeschool mom ❤ Your pain is real. I lived it. Much love and hugs❤

  • @michelleg4053
    @michelleg4053 4 місяці тому +1

    You wonderful courageous woman, you!
    Your journey in life is truly an inspiration. The tears of pain and joy are embedded in my heart. Grow on beautiful soul!!!!

  • @fallenangelwi25
    @fallenangelwi25 4 місяці тому

    I know from experience the joy and sadness to hear and see other women become mommas while you're praying for your own. It was especially hard for me after my losses. God knew what I needed though. After all my losses I now have 5 beautiful babies. 3 biological and 2 I'm lucky enough to love

  • @valmcb6479
    @valmcb6479 4 місяці тому +1

    Precious, precious Cassandra, you are a blessing. Thank you for being an authentic and caring influence to so many others❤

  • @ajepson
    @ajepson 4 місяці тому +1

    I love your channel. I love that you're not always selling something or being sponsored by someone. I also can relate to your fertility struggles. It's SO hard! Few people can understand the emotional rollercoaster of infertility, but you're not alone and sometimes you need to hear that. I know God has a plan for you ❤ keep the faith. I have three grown children now and four grandchildren, there is hope for you too.

  • @TheSweetpea73
    @TheSweetpea73 4 місяці тому

    Sometimes it happens when you don’t think about it. I got pregnant with my daughter at 39, just when I gave up. I turned 40 years old when she was 3 months old. Wishing you all the best! ❤

  • @maydanavabarnett5177
    @maydanavabarnett5177 4 місяці тому +1

    I love you sooo much, Cass, Farm Girl Sister Thank you for your genuine soul! You have become a good friend and comfort during hardship, trials, and dreaming of my future homestead I send you a huge virtual hug too So excited and grateful for all our future blessings

  • @freedomjam3670
    @freedomjam3670 4 місяці тому

    Cassandra, You are such a bright light to many. You pour so much love and exuberance into everything you do. You are exactly where you are suppose to be 🙏🏼 So grateful for you 😊

  • @aprilhampton6298
    @aprilhampton6298 4 місяці тому +1

    Prayers for you in your journey to have a child. I have a friend that tried for 9 years with no results. She and her husband gave up. Within a year she called me saying I've got the flu. It went on and on and finally I told her to take a test. She said you know I can't have a baby, that's mean. I encouraged her and am hour later she called me asking me to bring her another test. The one she had taken was positive and she didn't believe it. 16 months apart they had a healthy baby boy and a healthy baby girl. Please know you are fully within your rights to keep private what you want/need to keep private and we will be here to celebrate with you when you're ready for us to.

  • @kbjalen27
    @kbjalen27 4 місяці тому +2

    Omg, Cassandra, I understand how you feel. I work at a high school, and the stress and the demand are too hard, and you never know how much stress your body is going through. Love kids and they family's is great hard and very stressful with everything they are going through. You just want to be helpful, and you work 10 to 12 hours a day. I have a garden, and I'm looking for land as well. I work so much I can't do everything I want to do, so you let me know it's okay to move and stop stress. P.S. I had my 6 years old son at 40, so stop stress, and God will bless both of you. The baby is coming 😍 Thank you, Cassandra. You are a blessing to all of us ❤😊

  • @lindavanallen1307
    @lindavanallen1307 4 місяці тому

    I am so sorry you are going through this. I went thru 10 years of trying and every month I mourned for a baby I thought might be there. I did this for so long. I finally had a son. Who was born premature by 12 weeks. Weighing 2.5 lbs. kind of a nightmare. We went through so much and many medical problems and surgeries. He is now 33yrs old. Married to a wonderful girl, has two sons and one baby on the way,pure bliss,I never would have dreamt this would happen.

  • @cinnamongurl8102
    @cinnamongurl8102 4 місяці тому +1

    G'morning Cass. Thank You for sharing aspects of your life with us & explaining some of the challenges you've faced. You touch many heartstrings with your fertility journey, many can relate, and like you sending a Big hug. We support you. You bring a freshness to this community that is a joy to warch, learn and explore together. I ❤the pantry chats & PDFs you produced! Friends together in the big homestead community. Love from north Tx

  • @jandeshon8264
    @jandeshon8264 4 місяці тому +2

    Im so proud of you. You are doing the tough thing, and trusting its part of Gods plan. Such wisdom, beautiful lady. Prayers for your family.

  • @love0818able
    @love0818able 4 місяці тому

    I lost a child 20 years ago and have not conceived since. I feel you. May I say to trust in God, he knows what we need. Maybe there is a bigger plan for you so God is making you wait. I pray you have the strength to wait on God. We love you girl!

  • @teresasnyder1084
    @teresasnyder1084 4 місяці тому +1

    I went through months of infertility and did everything you are doing and when I quit thinking and trying I got pregnant. I now have 4 beautiful boys and 12 grandchildren. I’m so blessed. Trust me , you will conceive a child of your own. Let go and let God.

  • @judysmith9263
    @judysmith9263 4 місяці тому +6

    My doctor told me to go on the pill for a couple of months and then go off...I got pregnant the following month...just a thought.

  • @jacquicornog327
    @jacquicornog327 4 місяці тому

    Cassandra - my heart goes out to you. I know in my heart that you will become a mama. I can honestly say that I feel your pain. Our first child came easily - our second, not so much. Five years and a miscarriage finally brought us our baby girl who is now in her mid forties with two beautiful girls of her own. Your baby/babies will come to you. Hold that love in your heart - it will come to you

  • @betterlivingonabudget
    @betterlivingonabudget 4 місяці тому

    You are such an inspiration to thousands of people here on YT and in your personal life! You're living your best life every day, and giving everything your all at a level most people could not do on the regular. You deserve every dream you have in your heart, and may God bless you fully and completely with all of those dreams coming true even soon than you imagine. Blessings to you and Trey for a wonderful future ahead, filled with love, laughter and great abundance.

  • @mrskayhillman
    @mrskayhillman 4 місяці тому +6

    Sending you so much love to you for sharing this and also I don’t think any of us expect a response ❤ give yourself grace my friend ❤

  • @catherinegay1404
    @catherinegay1404 4 місяці тому

    The first vid I saw was the 10 simple steps to dehydrating. I'll pray for a baby for you guys!! Trust the process. Trust God. He's got this!❤❤❤❤❤ ❤❤❤

  • @cherylpresleigh6403
    @cherylpresleigh6403 4 місяці тому +1

    You are a wonderful human being. You bring a smile to my face and joy to my heart every time you post a video….and a lot of encouragement to try new things and to think outside the box. 🤗❤️

  • @laurasonnier
    @laurasonnier 4 місяці тому +1

    Keep the faith! It took us years and many lost ones but I had a beautiful boy at age 42. You got this.