"You had one autistic kid...why more?"
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- Опубліковано 2 жов 2024
- We've been getting this question more and more and I feel it's fairly problematic. Let's talk about it.
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It doesn’t matter if you are autistic. You are still an amazing person. I am autistic and it doesn’t matter what you have your still a person. My friends at school say why are you living and I get really upset with that because everyone had the right to live.
You are very special in your own way ❤ . Take that comments as energy to channelise yourself in a positive way ! God has a purpose for you and none can question that 😊!!!
If your friends at school say "why are you living?" then they really aren't your true friends sweetie.❤
Exactly
Thank you.. Yes just like you are amazing and unique in your own way !! (unfortunately, our societies/our times have many people who are cruel/bullies, who are devoid of love and compassion/humanity but it only tells about their character and lives and has nothing to do with the rest of us who are HUMAN and kind people). those encounters only should make us stronger because it doesn't matter how we are/may be different; everyone should be accepted and treated well!! but also remember we should be our BEST friend /MOST KIND friend to US first and always be kind to ourselves!!
He passed the tism onto his 3 kids
Your sons have done amazingly and their growth is just phenomenal. They've all got a bright future ahead of them.
thank you
It's so sad to me that people are programmed to think everyone needs to be stiving for perfection and living a picture-perfect life. When our mission here on earth is supposed to be learning compassion, kindness, forgiveness and love.
I strongly feel that this stigma stemmed from WW II with the killing of thousands of Jews, and the disabled. People think we are broken and should be euthanized. That is wrong. Myself, and all the autists out there have every right to live. We are all special, and unique in our own ways. We simply have a different way of communicating with one another. Thank you @Suzi Lindblad for sharing!
The care bears would never judge anyone for having autistic children, and would even send a care bear stare to anyone who asks, "why have more than one autistic kid".
I have two boys and I wouldn’t ever think like this. Christ gave them to us as a gift with autism I could never turn away or look down on them as if they shouldn’t live.
Amen brother. You hit the nail on the head. We (all of us on the autism spectrum) are all unique and special.
Ian is a good person he is a great brother to Connor and the other one
Connor, Ian, and Alister are all a huge inspiration to all of us. Including those of Gods children who are not on the autism spectrum.
Wow I’m so sorry you get asked that questions? You know it’s never something you get told that exists. And when it happens it’s your baby to love, guide, and to teach life skills. It’s awful that society thinks because they are different they shouldn’t exist that breaks my heart. Your boys are awesome and have the two greatest parents in the world❤. Wow Ian is 6.5 that’s amazing, God bless you all and keep your good works going .
You have a beautiful and amazing family. As a person with ASD who grew up in the mid-80s and early 90s we didn’t know about it until I was in high school and I still have many issues to deal with from bullying and ignorant teachers it makes me very happy to see your children being accepted as they are
I am autistic and I absolutely agree with what you are saying. Everyone deserves to be happy and live their life as they want. However there are certain aspects of autism that need to be addressed that I think would result in less people saying "Why have more kids?" Especially in your oldest son wishing he wasn't autistic, I often times feel the same. Things like lack of a sensory filter. Even the birds chirping outside makes my head hurt. Both outdoors and indoors are often way too bright. I wish there could be ways that could solve these unfixable problems when it comes to autism. Perhaps in a way that there is medication for ADHD, I often wish there could be medication for autism that would make these things go away. I'm curious to know what you think.
Meds have helped our oldest son a lot with his quality of life. So I'm in support of the right meds at the proper doses, yes.
I'm also autistic. I often use sunglasses and earplugs to control sensory input.
I've also been on a low-dose anti-anxiety med that has helped immensely.
I also experience really bad sensory overload in my everyday life, but I've discovered that I have way way way more ability to enjoy, just as the same way sometimes birds singing can be a pain they can be a blessing, I recommend you try to sleep better, find community who support and love you as you are, do some exercise (I struggle with this one because it can be a sensory nightmare because of sweat, clothes my own heartbeat...). It took me years, I'm 32 now and I feel like life is good, It has been difficult but it's possible.
I wear earplugs and headphones.
I also have tinted glasses.
My main issue is that EVERY store or establishment plays loud music over their intercoms! There is NO peace and quiet out in public.
@@dustistreet5108 exactly! It is awful, all stores with circus/parody levels of volume, even neurotipical people get tired of it.
I've always hated how society portrays autism as such a negative thing. I'm autistic and have rarely seen it as a negative impact on my quality of life, and I highly doubt it has negatively effected my parents which is something else people seem to assume.
Everyone is born and everyone has their individual life to live. No matter whether they have a disability or not and I personally say a disability is a super-ability is a superpower of having. Not everyone is going to experience the same experience even those who have a disability they don't have the same experience.
I love your videos! You've made me realise that I may be autistic! They've really helped me understand it more and life really does get hard being (probably) autistic. But autism is amazing in every way. Thanks for this video! ❤️❤️
Welcome to the tribe! There are self diagnostic quizzes on the web that you can take as a preliminary. If you want a formal diagnosis, reach out to your GP for a neuropsychiatric assessment. That is where I found out that I am more than likely somewhere on the autism spectrum. I still need to see a psychologist specializing in autism to get the formal diagnosis.
I also believe in self diagnosis too. And so does other people on the spectrum.
Alright! Thank you.
@@zayyyyy__y it's better to go to a professional and get diagnosed
@@khaledgorilaunless you only have 2 symptoms that you can confuse for someone just being hyper.
WOW! THANKS FOR CREATING THIS VIDEO! I am a single mother taking care of my 3 on the spectrum. I have been asked that same question quite often and I have always answered it in the same manner as you, but from now on, I'll just share this video when asked.
Glad to hear this will help you in the future ;)
I'm a adult who has autism I struggle since I'm in a group home I got approved to get my first apartment
Congrats! That's awesome!
35 ex British Army Soldier here.... Late diagnosed with ADHD with ASD assessment in a month....
Man this guy is nothing short of an absolute inspiration.... The world needs more people like this!!!!
It’s absolutely disgusting that anyone would say that. God doesn’t make mistakes. Everyone is made perfectly according to His plan.
Your boys are all amazing. They are happy and healthy and just as worthy of life as the next person.
Autism isn’t some kind of curse! It’s just another way of viewing and processing the world. And in many cases brings special gifts and higher thinking than typical brains.
Shame on anyone who would suggest we shouldn’t be here.
On another note, can we all take a moment to appreciate how adorable baby Ian was!!!! 😊
I'm sorry you had 2 make a vlog like this. Unfortunately there are some very small minded people in this world. You have handsome, brilliant, young men there..
My son is a straight A student, will be graduating high school soon and is excited to begin working. He’s not happy every day. Who is, though? He’s an amazing young man and I look forward to watching him succeed.
Thank you for your kind words! I am 63, I have ADHD, Tourette’s, and I am autistic. I had lots of struggles growing up but I had great parents like yourselves. I too used to hate all of my challenges but now I wouldn’t change a thing. I have a great career, wonderful partner and a great life. I still have struggles but I am happy. Your kids are amazing and I know they will do well! This is a perfect response to that comment.
This is heartbreaking! How people can be so cruel! Your sons are such an inspiration to us all. I think they're so amazing!!! I'm a mom of an autistic child. God made him the way He did. God doesn't waste a precious life. He's smart, funny and sweet. And we learn so much from him and others do too. I love these verses- Jeremiah 29 :11 and Psalm 139:13-14. I'm so sorry. God bless you all. Thankful for your channel. 🙏💕
Its no secret that things can be frustrating, but lots of things about life can be annoying. People have value, and especially kids with special needs. Autism is special but also just different, there is a lot you can do even if it take extra work. I hope your kids have a good future, and they can look out for each other more and more.
Oh my gosh, yes!
I am autistic and appreciate your channel.
My mom was told id never have a normal social life or a job or even talk because if my autism. Boy did i prove them wrong. I'm proud to have autism it what makes me unique. I believe it's not my autism that makes me broken I'm not broken it's the world we live in that refused to make accommodations is what's broken
Well said… more NT people need to understand ASD. With knowledge comes acceptance. Thanks for doing your part to educate and inform. Much love.
Hi family! Thank you for the nice video. It's good to talk about it. You are good parents and have three beautiful children. And there are always people that judge. Let it go. I follow the channel for so many years. Maybe I'm one of the longest followers. Also thanks for what you do for the autism community. I look forward to tge next video. A big hug from the Netherlands. 🇳🇱😃❤️🇺🇲
Louder for those in the back! I work as an ABA therapist and have seen children on the spectrum accomplish so much and have their own amazing and unique contributions. The clients I see have taught me just as much, if not more, than what I have taught them. I am so disturbed to hear that you are receiving questions like this. Your family is absolutely beautiful and I am so happy to have recently discovered your channel. Autism awareness is incredibly important, thank you for sharing your experiences and stories. I am so excited to follow along on future adventures!
Im on the Autism spectrum
This video arises such an important question. In my opinion, its primary a matter of ethical values and believes in general. ASD are such a colorful and complex field, its hard to predict how one is going to be developing. Autism does not automatically mean suffering, in my experience, it is the society for a big part that makes autistic people suffering. This is a very different thing than, for example, inherited blindness, muscoviscidosis and so on. You can definitely live a great life with autism without being a burden, but a source of joy, intelligence, diversity and inspiration for your family and fellows.
Every human being has an intrinsic dignity and right to life. Keep up the great, educational work.
I'm so thankful my son with ASD was born! My son is in a General Ed classroom and a girl told the principal that she wanted my son to be in her classroom next year because they help each other. The little girl is not on the spectrum and doesn't have any special needs. It really warmed my heart when her mom told me that because oftentimes you can feel like your kid is such a burden when they're in a general Ed classroom and they have special needs. I know it's wrong to feel that way, but society will try and make people feel like they're an inconvenience just because they're disabled.
Yup. Society is really cruel. Most of the time, they’re so mean to anyone whose different from them. It’s terrible. Neurodivergent people deserve to live as much as Neurotypical people are.
My son was just diagnosed with autism a few days ago, videos like these are a blessing. I need to appreciate my baby boy for who he is. I don't know what the future holds for him but no one knows the future for anyone. I will take it a step at a time and believe that he will be a great person and that he is a great person.
I totally agree with you! And I love Paul Alexander, he's an awesome dude. I have multiple chronic illnesses & just by going out for an hour or two a couple of times a week, I'm left housebound for the rest of the week, mostly bedbound. I'm currently on welfare, but hoping that will change (although I am grateful for the assistance). There are people here in the UK who see me as a drain on society just by relying on welfare. Pre-COVID, there were no opportunities for working at home. Now, when I've finished my second degree (my first was a BSc Hons in health & social care, this one is a BSc Hons in health science), thanks to COVID (although I don't wish it on anyone, I nearly died from it myself), I have the possibility of working & coming off welfare. I'm about to start my summer break & one of my (multiple) projects will be an investigation into the potential benefits of probiotics for people with long COVID. I get to potentially change things for people with long COVID thanks to probiotics taking me almost back to my level of health pre-COVID. If I can get the right people to listen to me, that could be huge. And I'm also writing a book about my COVID journey, which certainly didn't end when I was wheeled out of hospital.
And my English teacher pretty much wrote me off as rubbish at English. I later trained as a proofreader!
A proofreader! Awesome!
@@AutismFamilyChannel It was before I became unwell. I used to proofread work for international students (although I had to be very strict & literally only proofread for grammatical & spelling mistakes, not alter a word even). But it was very interesting. I lived in student land in Birmingham (UK) for ages. We met some awesome people. Now I can use it for my own studies & my book.
Some people have no disabilities at all and r very capable but end up choosing the party lifestyle and end up on the streets. Sum ppl with disabilities r very intelligent, just coz they may b different in sum areas than other ppl doesn’t mean they can’t do anything or have achievements
I would like to express my sincere gratitude for sharing your thoughts with me. Your guidance has been invaluable in teaching me how to find enjoyment in spending time with my son and how to maintain a positive mindset. I truly appreciate your willingness to impart your wisdom and knowledge, and I am confident that the lessons you have taught me will continue to benefit me greatly in the future. Thank you again for your generosity and kindness.
I can’t imagine not having my grandson who is autistic he makes me happy ❤
Great thoughts. We just had someone on our channel comment a mean comment about this same thing, (since we have 2 Autistic kids) I deleted it, cause I was upset, but I wish I had just let it be, and linked this video to him. -Holly
Yeah it seriously is messed up when people talk about a human being that way.
@@AutismFamilyChannel Next comment we get like that we are going to send them to this video. You did a great job explaining everything.
I totally agree with you. My niece is autistic and I myself have multiple Disabilities and sometimes people Make you feel as though you don't belong in society. But but God-created all of us to be equal in a sense that he knew that we had a purpose to be here. Thank you for doing your videos and I appreciate it cause it's not just only helping. Show how people with autism are awesome but also those that do have different disabilities as well. Thank you.
The doctors wanted to abort me but my parents said no this baby has the right to live and we don't care about her autism . We will never love her any less .💜 And it doesn't matter you can have another it's just cells at this stage . But I was 17 weeks inside my mom . They saw 10 different doctors before they meet a lady who has a daughter like me . She told them that she would be there for every step of the way . She even told my mom how to keep us two healthy . She even said she would deliver me . She said I am not cells I am a baby and a baby is a tiny human that GOD made .
Glad you are here 👍
I am glad you are here. You deserve to live. I appreciate your parents for standing up to you and Neurodivergent people in general. Society is mean to anyone who is different from them. That’s what needs to change.
❤This channel is a bright spot in my life. I'm so glad you're here. Wishing you all the best!
Ian I know you have had a hard time with autism. I want you to know that you have blessed others because many people wouldn't be as valnerable to others so someone else can understand their child better. Ian is such an interesting kid that shares some interesting stories in the videos.
Connor you are so smart and caring for Allister. I believe that you will make others happy and feel included along with having a job and career better than most people watching this channel. You are a talented young man that has autism.
Allister he brings so much joy you can see it in the videos. I saw the 7 ahead video where he was entertaining Ezra. He doesn't care who he will put a smile on your face. You never know his joy might be what someone needs so they stay on earth. His smile is contagious.
One of the most popular kids in my highschool had a breathing problem and sadly passed away young. He brought so much joy to everyone in the school. He found ways to communicate and laughed at our jokes when I am not sure if they were that funny. He was always with someone. He never worked but he definitely brought joy to everyone who knew him.
If there's something I could ask if you have a family member that seems to be between jobs or struggling tell them something that you enjoy about them. Build them up and they will go further.
Thank you so much!
I just found out that my 5 year old daughter has autism like her 8 year old brother. Is it worth it?! Of course! I love my kids and I'm really pround of the progress they are making!!
I have mild autism & I think some people on the autism spectrum are very intelligent. Thank you for sharing this video.
Others, myself included, have average to above average intelligences. I too am on the spectrum. Those who are on the spectrum are all intelligent in their own unique ways.
Einstein's hair and the way he interacted with women were the give away lol. I hope I get married one day
Agree! Being a parent of an austic child is hard enough and no one asked your child to be autistic. It just fate.
The question is shameful and moronic. I am the parent of an autistic child, and I also have received this dumb question. There is no level of education you can provide to someone who is completely ignorant.
Very well said. I too am on the spectrum and you have my complete respect for producing this video.
Im 37yo and have severe autism, and I stopped letting people think or say that my autistic life is not worth living. Its other people who create that problem, Not those of us with autism. They keep us from housing, employment, community etc. Its a severe form of discrimination that needs to stop. We fought this kind of thing in the World Wars for a reason and the resurgence and thinking is getting dangerous for all of society and borders on genocide, eugenics etc. Thanks for this video.
I cannot believe anyone could ask such a question. I teach a boy with Down Syndrome and it breaks my heart how so many people can want to eradicate them. He's the best loved person I know and, despite all the difficulties he poses - "no" is his favourite word - I could not be more grateful for him. The autistic people I have known have been so imaginative and interesting. I was lucky enough to visit a specialist school one time and the children there were beautiful. Thank you for this video - you are so right. Everyone deserves to live and who are we to say otherwise?
Who doesn't love kids? With autism or without I think having kids learning experience
As a parent of 4, the 2 oldest have autism, we haven’t gotten that question in a while but when my wife was pregnant with both the younger children we got this question a lot. Our simple answer was, we would not terminate a pregnancy just because they might be different. The youngest two are neuro-typical but we had no idea or even expectation that they wouldn’t be autistic as well.
I liked your examples of famous smart people that are on the spectrum but I think it needs to be pointed out that many on the spectrum (including my two boys) will never lead a “normal” life and may not even be able to care for themselves in even the simplest ways. THEY MATER TOO. They deserve the happiest life they can be given.
Thank you
best video ever … i wish everyone could understand this
I enjoy your videos and im also on the spectrum as well to. hearing a person asking that question makes me really upset
Me too
Trains are good for autism because when I was a kid I watched the trains go by and I waited there waiting for more to come and the trains are loud You might want to get Alistair headphones because it might be too loud for him
This is a good way of having fun with your kids
Thank you for this video
You're such a lovely and gracious family ✨ God bless you ❤️
I appreciate you making me a video regarding my previous comment I had made on your account. Don't take my comments as an attack towards the autistic community. My question is about heredity and the importance of encouraging reproduction of desirable traits. We should never practice negative eugenics, eugenics focused on reducing degenerate offspring by forcibly preventing those that had undesirable traits from breeding, however it is still important to consider the idea that we as fathers have moral implications when reproducing life into this world be it, current economic situation, support, or heredity/health. I did not realize that you were not the only member of your family monitoring the comment section and for this I apologize, as my comment could have come off as harsh or unaware. To be straight I am not a nazi, I am just here ready to ask the hard questions. No one deserve to think that there time in this earth was not meant to be. Thank you, Rob Owen, you have a great family.
So I think we should do our best in life and try to give our kids the best head start we can with the knowledge we have. Of course the vast majority of people who have kids want healthy babies, but my point is if a child comes out different or in a way we don’t fully understand it’s not grounds for termination and that child should have the same opportunities in life afforded to them that anyone else gets. Does this mean that will always be the case or their life will be just as fulfilling and rewarding as any average person? That’s really hard to quantify and I think the only people that could answer that, SHOULD be the only ones to answer that, are the family and person that’s impacted by autism. Outsiders speak with little context and experience and that’s why I believe they don’t get to be judge and jury over an autistic life. Hope that clarifies 😉👍
I’m so sorry you are getting those kinds of questions. It is very rude and judgmental of people to assume that autistic individuals “can’t do much”. That is not the case.
I wanted to ask, have you heard of Jason Arday? Jason was diagnosed with autism at age 3, and had a global developmental delay. He couldn’t speak until he was 11 years old and couldn’t read or write until 18 years old. He is now a Cambridge University professor, the youngest black professor. Such an inspiration. I highly recommend you look his story up!
Thanks I’ll check him out
A year ago Robb elmentary school got a shooting and I bet you can do a family ceremony every year on may please do that for us we want to remember the lives that are lost that day
I hope we can remember anyone effected by tragedy no matter where and do better as a society to teach morals and good values and help those who are so mentally gone that they think that is a decision they should make.
The simple problem here points towards Artificial Intelligence. There has been an ongoing Contingency Plan against everyone being Equal.
You sir, are an amazing human. I have 2 younger brothers on the spectrum and I love them so much. I really fear having children myself due to not wanting my child to potentially struggle through the tribulations of having autism, but I know in my soul I truly want kids and no matter how it turns out years from now, it will be alright and I will unconditionally love them regardless 💗
Honestly
I am on the spectrum myself
Idk if i want kids but if someone who is an autistic person is capable of taking care of their kids then they should go for it!
If you happen to have an autistic kid and you are autistic yourself, there is a chance that the kid will turn out even better than what the kid would have with neurotypical parents (No offense to nt people raising autistic kids, most of them are doing an awesome job) but i think if you are autistic and have an autistic kid then you probably will be able to understand the kid better than a neurotypical unless the neurotypical has experience working with autistic kids or is very educated.
@@Unbreakable245 That's so true! Thank you so much 💗🫶🏽
I got diagnosed just recently back in October. I'm not happy currently and I'm still learning about what autism means for me. Thank you for your videos over the years and I've watched over the years without knowing I had this.
I don't believe in God and I despise religion as a whole, but I definitely respect you and your family.
Thanks for your respect. I will say that who I am is because of God and I don’t like a lot of religions of the past (ones that persecuted the unbelievers) or present who may do the same. My faith teaches to love all of God’s children (not necessarily agree with) because He loves all of us.
I'm typing this on behalf of my son, who was upset by the question posed in the video (he's autistic).
A lot of companies are hiring specifically autistic people because they see things and think about things differently.
You never know how someone's life is going to impact others until it is over, and even then, their life can still impact others.
I have autism myself. I was semi diagnosed in August of last year by my neuropsychologist. I can agree with the fact that companies are looking for individuals on the autism spectrum. Working has been a challenge for me, but, I don’t let that hinder me in any way. We have so much to offer. We have special interests. Mine so happens to be computers. I have been told by MANY people that I fit right into the Information Technology field. I have excelled at many aspects of the field. Tell your son that he is just as important as anyone else. All I can say is welcome to the tribe. There is so much in store for your son. Thank you for sharing.
I think you are missing the mark. When planning a family, it's fair to assess the risk of having a a child with a disability as part of that calculation. That is not the equivalent of saying a disabled or autistic child does not have a right to exist.
It’s also fair to let people know that it’s none of their business how they choose to have kids. Also how are you even supposed to know that your child comes out and may have a disability? With Autism specfically, while there are genetic components, there also a million different other factors unrelated to genetics specfically so just because one child you had haves autism, doesn’t mean the others will and the former is way more likely.
It actually is the equivalent of saying disabled or autistic people don’t have a right to exist. Take Down syndrome for instance. In Iceland they nearly eliminated downs because any time it was detected in the womb the mother would terminate the pregnancy, effectively saying, no…you don’t have a right to live. If autism were detected in the womb I bet a lot of parents would do the same thing. I’m saying I disagree that once you know someone has a difference or disability, it’s okay to get rid of them. That’s literally expressing to that unborn child that they have no right to exist.
It's really sad that you have to even make this video.
It's sad yes, but I'm willing to do it if it helps move society forward, beyond questions like "should we have had another autisitc kid?"
I found out last year at 27 that I am very likely on the autism spectrum. I always struggled with school and social situations. There still wasn’t a lot known about the autism spectrum even in late 90s through the early 2000s when I was diagnosed with ADHD and put into special education classes. In hindsight, I should have been diagnosed with ASD years ago, but, allowed myself to mask my autism. Since being hinted by a neuropsychologist that I’m somewhere on the spectrum I have allowed myself to be who I am. Autism isn’t a curse. It is a divine blessing bestowed upon humanity by God himself. It really is a shame that Autism Family had to bring this topic up, but it was needed. We have every right to live. Thank you @Autism Family for sharing!
Love your channel!
All your kids have every right to live❤
👏🏻 Well said Mr. Owens!
I'm 23 almost 24 who have NVLD (Nonverbal Learning Disorder). The struggles are real, having challenges that hold me back.
That is unfair for anybody to say that we don't deserve to live.
P.S: 🖖🏻 Live long and prosper
*#Fortunately; WE are not The LORD above and HE has blessed You Rob and Brittney with Not One But Three Extraordinary Sons. *#BiggestLove To Each One.😊
My 5 year old son was recently diagnosed with ASD level 1. When I tell people, many give me response of pity, but in reality, I love my son with all my heart and would have 2 more just like him if I could.
I have ASD Level 1 Myself!!!
I have four sons. My oldest two have autism (recent diagnosis, still in the testing stages to see where they fall on the spectrum) and I've heard this before. "Why do you keep having children?" I never planned on having children and I didn't plan on having four... but I love all four of my sons. My second youngest son is almost 3 now and I'm so not used to having a child that isn't autistic that I actually do not know what to expect with him. My youngest son is only 4 months, so we won't fully know until he gets older but from what I have been told, I have a 66% chance for him to be autistic. It won't matter. I will love him regardless. We are currently working with my oldest two on sign language (I'm having a hard time picking up ASL) and a PEC communication along with trying to vocalize. My oldest started saying tickle and bubbles lately. Every little step is a win to me.
I Always. Support autistic kids always because i have autism there is no need to be mean. To autism kid's they are really sweet
Shocking that people would ask such a question. As an autistic, I'm quite pleased to have been born.
Why more kids? Why not? :)
Thanks for saying this. Everywhere is the same issue. Are you not like the mass you are some kind of outcast...
Has everyone to be the same?
I think the difference makes it interesting...
And really every Person has a Right to live!
I have Aspergers which is now high functioning Autism and severe ADHD.
The reason some say that is prob due to the different levels of autism. Sometimes medical chart says "history of autism" what kind? the...not to be rude but functioning kind? Or the "needs a safety bed and someone to be with them 24/7 because they're not even potty trained and just thrash around so violently that they hurt themselves. I have seen both extremes but perhaps some might be thinking all of them are the lower functioning ones
I’m an adult who struggled as a child in school and with many social things. I just discovered I’m AuDHD - my mind is in a complete spin having both. I’ve 3/7 kids now who might be in the spectrum and four who have ADHD, two with inattentive and two with combined type. Now I know so much while I struggled but I completely fooled people since Inalmost have my Doctorate. That shouldn’t matter but it does for some reason. My kids struggle with certain things and other things are super easy. The lack of executive functioning, or the hyper focus, or the stim behaviors are looked upon as annoying, defiant, aloof, being stuck up on purpose, apathetic, disobedience, or laziness. It’s none of those. It’s because I’ve a different brain. Ive learned to accept that and now I’m teaching my kids. I’m very HFA if you want to call it that and I guess my kids are too. That doesn’t mean their lives are not worth living or they’re worth less. They’ve a different brain. My kids are super smart, very gifted in certain aspects of academics, and are excellent in music 🎼 and sports. They’ve a right to everything else just like we all do. Don’t put everyone in a box. Many of those brilliant minds will contribute something wonderful one day. I work with special needs kids. And now to a certain degree, I know where they’re coming from and where their parents are coming from.
I think at a young age Ian has helped other autistic kids even myself understand myself because he's so open about himself. Your kids make a difference
Autistic children are different, not broken. They can live a long, happy and fulfilling life. There is absolutely no reason not to give them that life.
As a mother of 5, and two identical twins on the spectrum with mild CP and other health related things due to prematurity at 29 weeks, I can’t even begin to fathom how somebody questions someone’s right to live just because they are different. My twins are almost 7 and I am with them 24 7 as we homeschool and I can tell you that people who you think are “different” are more like you than not. It’s disturbing that because of selfishness people think someone else doesn’t have the right to live. It all comes down to selfishness and self absorption. If you think yourself too important to lay down your life for a person that needs more help, more patience, more energy than others than, you don’t understand life. My children with autism are some of the most loving, caring, innocent people I have the honor of knowing.
Why more? Because you were forced to due to the LDS restricting birth control.
Your right every body deserves to live I have some time to developmental disability and my brother has autism to
Thank you for this amazing video, you made me cry. I actually have a 2 years old boy still under assessement, the psychologist will determine soon wether its ASD or ADHD, no matter what it is, it will never change the fact that my boy is my source of happiness and the light I can see with, I am so greatful to have such a wonderful kid and I will work hard everyday to help in his development, teach him new things and take care of him.
You are a very inspiring family and I wish my son will grow up and become like one of your amazing boys. I can see how hard you worked and believed in them, they're wonderful, smart, polite and educated kids ! God bless you and will compensate you for every good thing you've done for your children.
I hope the assessments goes alright, good luck
Hai i am austictik asperger from indonesia i am 50 years old my son cerebral palsy and autistic too i am happy find your channel
Thank you for this. As a mother to an incredible girl on the spectrum, the fact that you even had to make this video is infuriating. God bless.
God bless
I also love how your son flap his hands i think its really cool what your son does.
Truth and so hearfelt ❤ Rob!!! Ian, Connor and Alistair are important human beings/great brothers and have unique gifts and talents. Without them, who could we learn from?
(Everyone else 2)
*Ian, Alistair and Connor turn any gray and sad day into a happy-fun filled day of excitement and always make my day better. Additionally a blessing/treat to learn from Rob and Britany.
Furthermore: Everyone has the right to live. We shouldn’t be devils advocate and play god. Everyone has the right to learn and choose how to live.
(Autistic/28 yrs & not a parent)
Am I happy I have Autism?
Answer: I haven’t always been happy about having challenges. As I have gotten older, my challenges have turned into a blessing. Its actually quite useful at times wether remembering things or trying to get you to laugh.
For example: That was a very corny joke and I am laughing ear 👂 to ear 👂. (Ears of corn 🌽)
IMPORTANT ISSUE: People need to be more educated on how to help us people with challenges and understand us better. That is a HUGE issue: That people don’t understand us and mistreat us and even bully us and more…..
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ my son has autism and I love him so much
Paul Alexander passed away recently he was 78
Do people know Albert Einstein, Michelangelo, Mozart, and Isaac Newton were autistic? They are some of the most brilliant minds that have ever existed and humanity owes so much to them. You will never know how the life of a person will impact others.
Thank you for being so transparent on this subject. My 3yr old was diagnosed on the spectrum this past November with me being 41, everyone keeps asking if I'll have another child and besides my age, my biggest fear was "what if I have another child on the spectrum and it's worse...?" I'm letting that fear dictate my desire for more family and I just needed to have a different perspective on this subject and watching your video has helped. God Bless you and your family!!
All life matters with disability. I am happy way am made me 100% autistic all the way
I have one 13th years old autistic son with the low vision
People are heartless and ignorant
If I have a children with autistic, I will still love them
I love autistic children
Thank you for sharing this ❤
very well said.. there very very smart.. same my daugter learn to read by herslf before homeschool.. they have this kind of special gift that makes them very unique and special..
We are the sparkle in the eyes of God ..
This is important. It's so easy to look at another human being and assume their life is less worthwhile because of how they look or act. But just because someone experiences life differently than you doesn't mean their life isn't valuable.
So very well said ❤
We are simply “different, not less” as Temple Grandin has said time and time again. To me, that is such a profound statement. I “am” different. God made me how he wanted to make me. He blessed me with autism, and he has blessed thousands of others with it as well. We have just as much the right to live as anyone else not on the neurodivergent spectrum.
The thing I find infuriating about this conversation is that people argue the ableist position that you're contesting in this video, and especially forms of the argument that encourage abortion of disabled fetuses, under the assumption that if you don't have a disabled child that you're preventing them from having that disability, when in fact is if you don't have a disabled child, you're preventing their entire existence. People don't just get reassigned to new bodies if they are never born. The only accurate way to see it is that it prevents the able from being bothered by a disabled existence, which is an inherantly ableist thing to desire.
Yes, it is in effect saying that disabled or neurodivergent people don’t get a right to life.