Modern Black Women Tell On Themselves…This Is How…

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  • @carpediem4512
    @carpediem4512 6 місяців тому +57

    Fellas, please avoid these chaos goblins at all costs! The juice is not worth the squeeze.

    • @gradymorrrowjr37
      @gradymorrrowjr37 6 місяців тому +8

      Absolutely 💯

    • @blacknerdtalks7921
      @blacknerdtalks7921 6 місяців тому +11

      LMAO @ chaos goblins🤣🤣

    • @StepIntoTheLight-fl9ns
      @StepIntoTheLight-fl9ns 6 місяців тому

      Yall should date men and keep quiet 😂.

    • @Tyrone950
      @Tyrone950 6 місяців тому +2

      The juice is worthy, however, unless one wants to play with Ms. Jergen's. But that's all it's worth.

    • @annarbor94
      @annarbor94 6 місяців тому +2

      Preach!!!!

  • @ms.huggins8519
    @ms.huggins8519 6 місяців тому +20

    My mother became a single mother after being widowed. She never became masculine. So you dont need to become a man to make it happen. They just love being difficult

    • @annarbor94
      @annarbor94 6 місяців тому +2

      Facts

    • @dred9174
      @dred9174 5 місяців тому

      If she's a widow then she isn't a single mother. Men don't consider widows single mothers.

    • @maenad1231
      @maenad1231 5 місяців тому

      @@dred9174
      By definition she was a single mother, not a baby mama or divorced mother but still a mother who is single
      Widowed mothers also usually aren’t pissed at the world & resentfully bitter towards men
      Necessary disclosure: Yes I know that doesn’t apply to every single mother but it’s not every/all of anything.

  • @maenad1231
    @maenad1231 6 місяців тому +23

    I think she doesn’t want to go without a man that will be a status symbol to her and make her look good for having him. I feel like a lot of women say they’re afraid of ‘settling’ but theyre more afraid of the social reputation hit in their peers eyes if they appear like they had to lower their standards to get a man because they overvalue social perception/impression management rather than being with someone who makes them happy

    • @ruthseri9346
      @ruthseri9346 6 місяців тому +3

      This statement is so true. I know do many gf who are choosing to stay single because thé guys jobs are not thé business man, engineer, Dr, Lawyer, etc. Im with an Amazinggggg mechanic and even for me at first it was hard to accept that because of societal standards but God’s way is thé best and not this world.

    • @maenad1231
      @maenad1231 5 місяців тому

      @@ruthseri9346
      This is one of the many things that make me happy I’m an autistic woman and not a normal/NT woman. Yeah I have a lot of struggles, but there’s a lot of struggles I don’t have because of how my autistic traits express. I can’t bring myself to care about deciphering social cues that much, don’t understand the appeal of high social status over personal defining of success, don’t care what’s socially expected because usually don’t care what’s socially expected etc. So since I never had to overcome that it was easy for me to prioritize the right things in a partner with no emotional hurdle early-on getting in the way
      Btw: Mechanic is a super respectable job!!! If every mechanic disappeared then America. society would basically stop functioning. If lawyers all disappeared temporarily, the country wouldn’t come to a standstill lol

  • @kiariemk
    @kiariemk 6 місяців тому +7

    For starters none of these women have their own hair, the men they're talking about value authenticity, their fake looks disqualify them on that alone.

  • @hiawathaw
    @hiawathaw 6 місяців тому +24

    It’s materialism. That’s exactly what they’re talking about. From the Christian/Godly perspective… it’s idolatry. These women have been turned over to idolatry. They “sacrifice” to their “idols” and “gods” daily. They have what they’ve sacrificed for… as you said, their Birken bags, Chanel, Gucci, Audis, speaking engagements, profile, ball gowns, $1M homes… but in the end, it’s all meaningless. My heart really hurts and breaks for them. Beautiful women that so many great men would kill for… but because they can’t supply the lifestyle they desire, they get pushed aside.

    • @coolbreeze2.0-mortemadfasc13
      @coolbreeze2.0-mortemadfasc13 6 місяців тому +1

      No great man ia killing for these women.

    • @hiawathaw
      @hiawathaw 6 місяців тому +1

      @@coolbreeze2.0-mortemadfasc13In their current state… you’re absolutely right.

  • @ALTheFreeMan
    @ALTheFreeMan 6 місяців тому +30

    I’d bet a paycheck that EbonyK was very smart and “motivated” even as a kid. She’s not masculine because of necessity and survival, she’s simply the result of some fiery genes within her family tree. And I’m not saying it’s wrong to be fiery, because I see those traits with women in my own family. But, women who lean more masculine need to be honest with themselves about the kind of man they want. The strong women of my family who are married are with men who don’t mind being the “co-pilot”, and the women who are still single sound just like EbonyK.

    • @obsidiantalkradio4192
      @obsidiantalkradio4192 6 місяців тому +1

      Yes, but the "co-pilot" Black men are typically the kinds of Black men Black women like Eboni K. DO NOT WANT. They are the Black men who they SETTLE FOR in the twilight of their of fertile and marriageable years. Eboni K. is a truly tragic figure and emblematic of what Modern Black Feminism has produced...

    • @rdkirk3834
      @rdkirk3834 6 місяців тому +8

      @@obsidiantalkradio4192 Women in general who have driven to high levels of attainment will always find that problem. That was true even before this "I don't need a man" third wave of feminism. The problem, shared by both men and women, is that it takes a certain degree of sociopathy to reach those levels. Men 'way up there are just as lonely as women...except that there are more women willing to marry sociopaths. This is also why the proportion of men who thrive at those levels is greater, because there is a greater proportion of sociopaths among men. We do need those sociopaths among us to drive the species forward, but we should understand how it shapes the human landscape.

    • @obsidiantalkradio4192
      @obsidiantalkradio4192 6 місяців тому +1

      @@rdkirk3834 Wrong. All manner of study bears out the fact that the most educated and successful of Americans, men and women alike, marry more and stay that way, far and away more than the rest of the population. This is even true in Black America: Over 80% of successful and educated Black men are married to Black women, and Black women holding advanced or professional degrees are more married than Black women who are not. But I do agree with you on one thing as it pertains to the matter at hand: All of the Black women Nneka mentioned, clearly have personality issues that have thrown a serious monkey wrench into the works for them. And they clearly have not gotten help to correct it - assuming that certain personality disorders (like sociopathy) CAN be helped to begin with...

    • @seensay2132
      @seensay2132 6 місяців тому +2

      If it were genetic, then masculine women would’ve been a norm generations ago. This is a more recent phenomenon because society has increasingly normalized it being acceptable for women to operate from less feminine, more aggressive posturing.

    • @ALTheFreeMan
      @ALTheFreeMan 6 місяців тому +3

      @@seensay2132 My grandmother was a masculine woman, she was very tough and loud, but she wasn’t wearing business suits and high heels, she ran a dairy farm with my grandfather who was very quiet and passive. They had 14 kids and you can see with the kids who is more like “big mama”, and who is more like “big papa”. I think this “masculine woman” thing has been around for a long time, maybe even back to slavery perhaps??

  • @kyrabarr2846
    @kyrabarr2846 6 місяців тому +11

    I would like for us to stop comparing ourselves to "celebrities" and just live natural, common, normal lifestyles. These celebrities that everyone focuses on live in an entire different world and have a different worldview than most people.
    A hard-working man regardless of his income, when he cares for a woman is going to naturally do wonderful and kind things for her I have a husband who was like that before he passed in 2019. Instead of trying to capture a man's wallet,learn to capture and treasure his heart.
    A man who is loved and cared for has no problem with giving both monetary, physical and even tangible things to the woman/ wife he genuinely cares for. Both men and women have bought the LIE of "what do you bring to the table" and sadly everyone is starving 😔

    • @nnekaonyilofor
      @nnekaonyilofor  6 місяців тому +2

      I am so sorry for your loss. Very valuable words of wisdom you always have. 🙏🏾💎

    • @kyrabarr2846
      @kyrabarr2846 6 місяців тому

      @@nnekaonyilofor Thank you for being gracious and allowing me to share on your channel ,🙏🏾🗝️🕊️

    • @debervin9121
      @debervin9121 6 місяців тому +1

      Thank you for bringing a much needed perspective. I'm sorry for your loss. I would love to hear more words of wisdom from married couples versus these so called relationship coaches who are often single. Or single people who are speaking from a place of criticism and bitterness. If more folks did the inner work instead of putting the blame on others, we would be in a better position as a community.

    • @andrenaprestige9982
      @andrenaprestige9982 6 місяців тому

      ❤❤❤

    • @kyrabarr2846
      @kyrabarr2846 6 місяців тому

      @@andrenaprestige9982 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @ritasmith972
    @ritasmith972 6 місяців тому +12

    She has talked herself right out of a relationship.😏

    • @CrystalCormier
      @CrystalCormier 5 місяців тому +1

      Rita you can say that again sis!!! But yet so many black women tryin to figure out why they been single for so long and gone forever be single. Smh

  • @jmanhope1745
    @jmanhope1745 6 місяців тому +6

    When will our community commence to raising up masculine males and feminine females? Is this one of the primary reasons for major parental involvement from both parents in child raising? Will these children, more than likely, then grow up as the men and women we so desperately need?

  • @Datb2
    @Datb2 6 місяців тому +15

    ….as a black women your response was highly tone deaf. Going without which she spoke of as in going without necessity; shelter, money, clothing. That was frighteningly obvious and the fact that you went to birkin bags? Claiming her as entitled???? Scary

    • @coolbreeze2.0-mortemadfasc13
      @coolbreeze2.0-mortemadfasc13 6 місяців тому +10

      Oh please. A bus driver can provide shelter, money, and clothing. They do it everyday.

    • @UsagiTaughtMe
      @UsagiTaughtMe 6 місяців тому

      This is absolutely true, but why would a woman like Eboni be with a bus driver? Completely different tax brackets.
      ​@coolbreeze2.0-mortemadfasc13

    • @UsagiTaughtMe
      @UsagiTaughtMe 6 місяців тому

      Yeah, I was a bit confused.
      This is what I took it as. The key phrase that she used was "to keep us safe and provided for." Safety doesn't equal a birkin bag.

  • @Pride0FTh3Lion
    @Pride0FTh3Lion 6 місяців тому +6

    To her point, if that man is unwilling, is she asking herself WHY that man is unwilling?

  • @BrandonCampbell76
    @BrandonCampbell76 6 місяців тому +22

    no women is masculine its all just a act and EbonyK was married to a high value me and she still was not happy .

  • @Ladyhotfire78
    @Ladyhotfire78 6 місяців тому +4

    No they don’t desire masculine women but that’s not what her focus is. She’s saying if men were more at the stead, then the women wouldn’t Need to adopt the attributes of men. I can’t entirely disagree with her.
    For sake of argument, if BM were clearly leading BW socially, financially, academically, and exhibited markedly more mature attributes when it comes to intentional dating, family creation, and upholding social/behavioral standards for the community, (like other cultures do) then HOW would BW have this all rhetoric? They wouldn’t. Men’s positioning would be clear.

    • @dred9174
      @dred9174 5 місяців тому

      Because you women are liars everything you stated is false you can go to the CDC and blackdemographics to show that it's the opposite. Especially on the family part when over half of the black men in the country are single and childless.

  • @bigwill9421
    @bigwill9421 6 місяців тому +3

    Men of Eboni K's status and above are not interested in her.

  • @coolbreeze2.0-mortemadfasc13
    @coolbreeze2.0-mortemadfasc13 6 місяців тому +6

    They want to be in control. That’s the root of their masculine energy.

  • @wensj8
    @wensj8 5 місяців тому

    These people never have accountability - always something or someone else’s fault for anything they do 😂

  • @bigwill9421
    @bigwill9421 6 місяців тому +2

    She couldn't even keep BRAD..!!!

  • @atibamaule
    @atibamaule 6 місяців тому +1

    I recommend the books "Understanding the Purpose and Power of Men" and "Understanding the Purpose and Power of Women".

    • @debervin9121
      @debervin9121 6 місяців тому

      Is this a Christian or religious book?

    • @atibamaule
      @atibamaule 6 місяців тому +1

      @debervin9121 the author isn't religious, so no.

    • @debervin9121
      @debervin9121 6 місяців тому

      @@atibamaule Thank you, I didn't want to read a religious book.

  • @kyrabarr2846
    @kyrabarr2846 6 місяців тому +6

    I truly don't believe that there is such a thing as "traditional" or "modern" woman. The times and laws and even sentiments have changed from then to now. There have always been "strong" women within the African-American community. This talk of masculine and traditional and feminine are nothing more than dividing points that keep us from coming together. I encourage men and women to just be who they are naturally and not allow these titles to cause division between men and women with any longer.

    • @nnekaonyilofor
      @nnekaonyilofor  6 місяців тому

      Fair point. I don't remember my grandmother having these conversations. Interesting that we got here.

    • @Tyrone950
      @Tyrone950 6 місяців тому

      Naturally means masculine bw, inherently so, unfortunately.

    • @rgtunderworldrgt7773
      @rgtunderworldrgt7773 6 місяців тому

      No. I think your point, respectfully, is
      Utter Bullllshit. There is No " let's divide them agenda". Please, Stop. Or prove it?
      Traditional is used to describe the older way of doing, seeing, thinking about many things. Including femininity and family.
      Traditional style sauces, buildings, customs, and mindsets, social norms and morality. Totally disingenuous of you to pretend to not understand that.
      2) Women Are different and Have changed, and Not in good ways
      And I mean that in the context of the
      " So called nuclear family unit". Aka
      Wife, husband and children, together under one roof.
      A) Widespread access to birth control and abortions, enables- encourages
      Feminine promiscuity, and in addition to Welfare, section for Life, also greatly reduces Consequences for sexual irresponsible behavior.
      Men sleep with " who they can"
      Women sleep with who She wants.
      Women, Control access to Sex and babies. She controls who gets some,
      She controls if she is using 1 of Over 30 + forms of available birth control?
      And or if he uses a condom?
      Her body? Her choice? Right?
      Y'all always leave out Her Responsibility tho. Imagine that.
      Because NO child child is born that no women don't want born.
      No men can Make you have a child you don't want, and he Can't make you abort if you don't want to. He has NO say , NO reproductive Rights. It belongs Only to women.
      So no matter what type of loser? Bum?, player he is? He gets Nothing she doesn't CHOOSE to give him.
      And then she has a for life welfare system to fall back on and Never had to go look for any job..gets food and a place to live ..as long as she keeps baby Daddy Out of the house and Don't Marry him. Or,? She can abort
      Rinse and repeat.
      So Yes... women Are much more less
      " TRADITIONAL", than they ever have been before. They Leave relationships and Marriages at a close to 80% rate.
      So this bullshit that mean leave women Is exactly that. Bullshit.
      And y'all call good women, traditional women that Want to be wives?
      Y'all call them pick me's? So... Let's just Stop lying about the truth

    • @waterlilly611
      @waterlilly611 22 дні тому

      Funny these black folk are only ones that equate being a female boss with masculinity. Madame CJ Walker was a boss. Queen Nzinga was a boss. Being a boss is just in some BW’s blood. It doesn’t take away from their femininity.
      Meanwhile, Queen Elizabeth II regained over the United Kingdom for 70 years and NO one dares to call her femininity into question.

  • @stevenjones3424
    @stevenjones3424 6 місяців тому

    For a very educated woman, she seems afraid, or scared of men, particularly black men all of this I need to make things safe for kids she don’t have

  • @MsLotusBlooms
    @MsLotusBlooms 6 місяців тому +3

    Masculinity in women drains me. I feel exhausted around them.

  • @manb4war
    @manb4war 6 місяців тому +1

    EbonyK's problem isn't that she's masculine, she's hyper-feminine and competitive. Hyper-feminine women are an exaggeration of femininity. That exaggeration comes from them focusing most of their time developing skills to compete instead of cooperate. A cooperative woman has less time to focus on herself. A cooperative man will have less time to focus on themselves. That shows up as slightly imperfect and that is the woman that men are naturally attracted to. Thousands of years of social development have programmed us to look for the "not so perfect" woman and to be repulsed by the glam girl.

  • @ProblemSolver10-4
    @ProblemSolver10-4 6 місяців тому

    This idea that they are forced to be this way just boggles my mind. This idea that we are doing it for our community, to make it safe because our men can’t. Look the first thing you do when you have a little money is move to a safer, prettier location, we all do that. I just hate it when people talk just to be heard. At this point, we just keep complaining about the same things in different ways. The fact is, her personality repels good men. The men of value that are probably around her won’t reveal themselves. There are many of us somewhat regular guys who hide our wealth. We are not flashy, we are not secret multi-millionaires, but we’ve done well over the years. We’ve been consistent, but we are considered boring..lol and I guess there’s so truth to that. I just don’t feel the need to prove to everyone, everywhere I go that I’m better than you.

  • @charlesvincent8498
    @charlesvincent8498 6 місяців тому

    What a country ❤❤❤ so quietly keep you are not interested . Full circle . What say U 😊

  • @SAMack-xd2fn
    @SAMack-xd2fn 6 місяців тому +1

    I wish someone was honest with Ebony K awhile ago when she had a dating value that a high value man would notice 😊. She's cute, but at 40+ she needs a new game strategy 😊

  • @deegee3293
    @deegee3293 6 місяців тому +1

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  • @Warren_Laidler
    @Warren_Laidler 3 місяці тому

    Just an observation, you're the only woman in this video that has natural hair. 🤔 👍🏾

  • @kc-zf1jp
    @kc-zf1jp 6 місяців тому +2

    She still talking, still single. She will remain single and will never figure out why. She isn't worthy, her type isn't worthy.

    • @waterlilly611
      @waterlilly611 22 дні тому

      🤣🤣🤣 you’ve got some nerve deciding what a successful black women is or isn’t worthy of. Did the King of Dusties die and make you his successor?

    • @kc-zf1jp
      @kc-zf1jp 20 днів тому

      @@waterlilly611 Yes, I'm the leader now and I say that woman is 🚮 lonely and deserve to be

    • @kc-zf1jp
      @kc-zf1jp 19 днів тому

      @waterlilly611 Yes, I am the king of dusties now. And I say this woman is a moron who deserves no one

  • @MoeFro78
    @MoeFro78 6 місяців тому

    Avoid these angry wicked women. Less stress is the best way to live.

  • @alanbarnes3569
    @alanbarnes3569 5 місяців тому

    You would do yourselves a big favour by not talking so much! 😊

  • @ChizzadCcash37
    @ChizzadCcash37 6 місяців тому +1

    She is totally wrong about finding a man she is looking at the outer appearance is upper class but what about the middle class or the average man that will really treat her good but she really do not see it that way she said it another way to see a man that's very rich and have a businessman statues

    • @ChizzadCcash37
      @ChizzadCcash37 6 місяців тому +1

      This is very sad I thought women was supposed to be feminist not masculinity also when women call themselves masculine they are basically saying that they are a man by doing manly things but it's not like that at all men are supposed to do manly things a woman are supposed to do women things how it been for decades and also years women and men is supposed to actually come together to work by doing what is needed not doing it on your own like eboni k Williams this is just too sad they are a lot of good men that's able to find a good woman also most men does exist that is totally wrong of what she is actually saying

    • @ChizzadCcash37
      @ChizzadCcash37 6 місяців тому +1

      Also you can tell that eboni k Williams present herself as a trophy wife and Aslo real wife is always there for her husband even though when he is feeling down she always comfort him by loving on him and always as is something that I can do be a total help mate but a trophy wife is not wife material it don't add up with a real wife really a trophy wife is just for a show of to your friends when you enter into a man cave room of trophies and also certificates the accomplishments also everything is trying to be black and boujee by trying a perfect life with mansions the clothes and also Vuitton Gucci bags does not matter at all because at the end all this stuff that she has is literally going to pass away including the Porsches in the Mercedes Benz oh so you really do not have to be rich to just work a decent job play what about giving all that stuff to somebody that really needed this probably can be very poor or a middle-class that really needed for other different types of things like healthcare or food stamps to pay for somebody's groceries just to have a meal to eat but she really do not think of that at all she thinks is filet mignon and in a bottle of wine when different types of champagne this is why she is full of pride because all she care about is herself and she really do not take the time to care about other people including good men

    • @ChizzadCcash37
      @ChizzadCcash37 6 місяців тому +1

      I'm basically saying women cannot play a man's role like eboni k Williams wants to flex her muscles and body like she in WWE wrestling or Boxing Ring bodybuilding say that she can do all things for herself by being a super black woman also this is really bad for eboni k Williams she is literally giving bad devices for women and also she's also is doing it totally wrong by saying what is on my mind I believe that she really need to check herself

  • @gigi4874-w3w
    @gigi4874-w3w 6 місяців тому +2

    Hot mess review.