Quranic Reference: Surah An-Nisa (4:34) states: "Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them excel the other, and because they spend from their means. Therefore, the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in the husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard." Hadith Reference: The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The leader is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of his family and he is responsible for his flock." (Reported in Sahih Muslim) but being head doesn't mean that family will do what I would say it means that both .must have . mutual respect for each other opinion but they should decide mutually everything because though Muhammad was a prophet but he always used to take advices from companion in wars etc etc
@@FaizMuhammad-l7t.. q apki mama head of the family hai?wo bahr jati ha kmaati hai ghr chlaati hai?? Obviously father he hai. Ajeeb jahil sawal hai duffer
I am from India the same problem here also. Nobbody teaches how to run the family life. Your video very nicely explained. Going to share with all my friends. Thanks
Aap ki baten soon kar aisa laga ki mere father ek great person h , unho ne mujhe aur meri bahan ko job karne ke qabil banaya aur hum dono bahan government teacher h🇮🇳
@@homaansar5082 Mashaalah 🥰 lovely To hear..!!Your Dad made you to become G;both sisters to BE EDUCATED TO BECOME MASHAALAH,BY HIM..TO BOTH HANDLED & CARRY job S IN INDIA ..FEMALES👐🙏🏽💚 MASHALAH 👐;!/JOB Kabul..n govt teachers!
Alhumdulilah My Dear sir ... Me or meri soch bilkul esi hi jesi aapne byaan ki.... I'm from India.& 21 yrs old..... Or Khushi ki baat ye hai I'm not married 😅... I'm student and running my own business 😅..... Thank you so much My dear sir... I watched your all videos 📸.. that's are wonderful 💯💯 good 😊.. and very knowledgeable.. May Allah bless you with happiness and long life 🧬.. I wish I meet you and talk to you...😊
Wah, ma sha Allah sir! Kia hi mukhtasir magr jamih jawab dia, aap jaisay log hi hamaro society ka sarmaya hain! Allah aapko emaan or sehat mandi wali hayat dain.
Self dependence is inevitable for girls but she must have a talent of handling situations with a calm mind not emotionally because there's left no care for emotions in this society. For the most she must be skilled at stress management!!!
3:27 Sir Mental and emotional abuse are equally as important as physical abuse , physical absue k nishan to atleast nazar aa jatay hain par mental ya emotional abuse k koi nishan bhi nahi dikhtay!
jazakallah sir for this wonderful video and Women should be able to earn before marriage this line hits my heart. May allah pak bless you with a lot of happiness sir
Ham angreez nhe hai. Hum logo Pakistan Mai rehta hain.joint family mai senior citizen ki baat mani jati Hain. Aur life Ka matlab he yahi Hain k day to day develop hota hai.har chee spiritually,parenting , tolerance,jahdad ,joint family ,job yah sub perfect nhe hosakhta.
Exactly I am proud of you sir laki kbi b independent na ho mera girls ko ye advice Hy k Sab sy pehly apna name bty apna career set kry then shadi Kuch nhi pra shadi main ❤
Very informative,buchion ko to parents bht kuchh smjha k bhejtay but afsos k bigray huay beton ki shadian krty aur ye smjhty k jo bahoo aey gi,vo in k bety ko theek kr dy gee
Very very true sir . This topic mostly not discussed before merriage, this is the reason we see broken family children and they suffer all their life. This is a very important topic.I request you to make a series of videos on this topic individually for both.And parents and girls and boys must learn how to run family. I believe that there should be some institutions where every girl and boy must teach about martial life at least 3 months lectures. And should be mandatory to attend before going to a new journey. I have a question sir, To drive on roads driving licence is mandatory,then why we ignore our whole journey of life, how can we start without training....????
Sir Allah ap ko Jaza day i implemented your advices on my children AlhamduLiLLah getting good response Sir please do some work to improve education system of Government sector .i Am a teacher and really want to improve education system for the people who are below poverty line.
Life is very unpredictable a girl must learn and acquire all the skills to earn enough to support herself and her parents as well EDUCATION IS A LIFETIME INVESTMENT for a person to become the productive members of the society.
کیا بات ہے۔۔۔ "آپ نے مجھے تھپڑ مارا کوئی بات نہیں۔ مجھے بس وجہ بتا دیں کہ کیوں مارا وہ میں آئندہ نہیں کروں گی۔ اور اسکے بعد اس بات کے لئے آپ نے مجھے تھپڑ نہیں مارنا، کسی اور نئی بات کے لئے بے شک مار لجیئے گا، اور مارنے کے بعد اسکی بھی وجہ بتانی ہے تاکہ میں وہ بھی دوبارہ نہ کروں۔" شادی کے شروعاتی دس سالوں میں جب ہر نئی بات پر تھپڑ پڑے گا تو عورت تقریباً وہ سب کچھ کرنا بند کر چکی ہو گی جو شوہر کو ٹھیک نہیں لگتا، یوں اسکی باقی کی زندگی تھپڑ کھائے بغیر ہنسی خوشی گزرے گی۔ کیا مشورہ ہے۔
Sir u r v great 👍🏻 v well said . But somewhere our society has face this issue nd sufer from it that ye 3 point k hoty b girl stand ni le pati bcx there is no back nd moral support with girls .
Sohar agar dusri shadi kr liya ho pr jisse dusri shadi Kiya usko pta hi nhi ki uske sohar ki dusri shadi ho rhi h ...bad me pta chalene pr kya Krna chahiye plz btaye😢😢😢😢
Sir Im a doctor was persuing plab when a rishta came from USA, rishta hogya lrka b doctor tha lekin steps nhi diye hue thy so nikkah jaldi hoa ky immgration file honi h nikkah ky bd pata laga they didnt want me to persue my profession, pehle nikkah se ok tha phr kam krna h tooh ghr ko zarurat ha too apna shoq matter nhi krta phr mera visa file nhi kiya aur ruksati ka kehty thy aur phr jab yeh major issues py mere family bt krti rhi tooh khty thy bete ka ghar kharab kr rhy phr divorce deky oska b blame mere py aur mere family py dal diya apki waja se hoi h rahi sahi kasar overseas thy pakistan mein jahez b mangty thy 😂😂 mtlb mein koi behns baakri ho ?
ماشاءاللہ اللّہ سبحانہ وتعالیٰ آ پکو جزاء خیر عطا فرمائے اللّہ تعالیٰ اور نبی کریم صلی اللّٰہ علیہ وسلم کے حکموں پر چلنے میں خیر ہے خاوند بیوی باپ بیٹا بھائی بہن ہر ہر فرد کے حقوق و فرائض بتا دئیے گئے ہیں
as always Sir words taught me and gave me renewed perspective on life. I have a son and a daughter and I will teach them these life skills...sir kindly do a talk on Makafat e Amaal.
I completely agree with all of these ,afsos bus itna hay k nand ho ya sas ,bahu ho ya devrani jithani, koi b rishta ho zuban ki talkhi or najaiz Tano se jhagray karwadeti hain Ghar me😢
Hmari society me bs girls KO hi sikhaya Jata hai sasural me yei Karen vo Karna or kabi kisi ny boys KO nai samjyaya sasural waly apny bury bete k liye ak achi larki ki demand rakhty hen phly apny bete ki tarbiyat par to dehan Dy len
In India many Muslims don't have much Idea about halal and haram..they use religion according to their needs..they think if a woman works then she is doing something haram on the other hand they make women stay in joint family system after marriage where lots of haram mingling of non mehrams happen in the name of family bonding and relationships.. it's so hard to maintain hijab for women after marriage as non mehrams roam around the house half naked and women are forced to talk unnecessarily with those non mehrams in the name of creating a "happy family image"...I am suffering from this torture daily after marriage... When I protest I become the villain.. Only Allah can save us Indian Muslimahs...May Allah protect us from haram and guide everyone around us to the right path..🤲..Ameen
Mere ammi abbu mere cousin se meri shadi krana chahte or mujhe usse shadi nhi krni h .....mai ne har reason ghar walo ko bataya lekin wo sun nhi rahe wo khete h beta izzat hai shaadi karlo....mai shadi kr to rahi hu.....but I don't think so that I will be able to handle a relationship between husband and wife' please guide me
I am 22 and just got engaged couple of days ago, and i really do even think about my girl’s family, how would i help em, make em feel like am there son, i liked ur vid sir, but let me tell u ash kal larkiyaaan khud itni chalak b hoti hain kuch they mill make uuu fight with em, and will blame everything on u, well this is a different topic, i will not talk bout this.
Dr Sahab is qoam se 3 kamon ki umeed krna aesa hi Hai Jaise aap sochen k pani geela Na ho, aag jalaye nahi , Suraj Thandi roshni de waghera waghera, aur wo 3 kaam ye Hain Beton Ki terbiat krna betian ko jayedad mein hissa dena betian ko as a wife un k rights aur red lines batana
Aaj kl lrki ko disease ho jai na tou us ko bohat tana detai hai or kehtai mere betai ki zindagi kharab kr di hai. Or beta bhi kehta kai tum logo nai meri zindagi kharab kr di hai or phir us ko chor deta hai. Or tou us ko husband honai ka pata hi nhi hai tou iss barai mei batain
G ki to ap ne sb baten thik hn but koi parents apni baytiyun ko na kuch sikhaen na or jo kuch ap ne kaha wo na kren to phir bachiyan kia kren..is question ka answer mujay zroor chahiye
As a Boy : Physically, Emotionally, intelligently and spiritual you must be able to handle as a Head of the family after your marriage
who said that you are the head of family
Quranic Reference:
Surah An-Nisa (4:34) states: "Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them excel the other, and because they spend from their means. Therefore, the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in the husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard."
Hadith Reference:
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The leader is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of his family and he is responsible for his flock." (Reported in Sahih Muslim)
but being head doesn't mean that family will do what I would say it means that both .must have . mutual respect for each other opinion but they should decide mutually everything because though Muhammad was a prophet but he always used to take advices from companion in wars etc etc
Great job....@@User46830
Financially bhul gaye?😊 isi ke basis pe solely Aaj rishte hote
@@FaizMuhammad-l7t.. q apki mama head of the family hai?wo bahr jati ha kmaati hai ghr chlaati hai?? Obviously father he hai.
Ajeeb jahil sawal hai duffer
I am from India the same problem here also. Nobbody teaches how to run the family life. Your video very nicely explained. Going to share with all my friends. Thanks
Aap ki baten soon kar aisa laga ki mere father ek great person h , unho ne mujhe aur meri bahan ko job karne ke qabil banaya aur hum dono bahan government teacher h🇮🇳
@@homaansar5082 Mashaalah 🥰 lovely To hear..!!Your Dad made you to become G;both sisters to BE EDUCATED TO BECOME MASHAALAH,BY HIM..TO BOTH HANDLED & CARRY job S IN INDIA ..FEMALES👐🙏🏽💚 MASHALAH 👐;!/JOB Kabul..n govt teachers!
Indeed, as an Islamic therapist I agree completely with you and pre marriage counseling is a need of hour.
Alhumdulilah My Dear sir ... Me or meri soch bilkul esi hi jesi aapne byaan ki.... I'm from India.& 21 yrs old..... Or Khushi ki baat ye hai I'm not married 😅... I'm student and running my own business 😅..... Thank you so much My dear sir...
I watched your all videos 📸.. that's are wonderful 💯💯 good 😊.. and very knowledgeable..
May Allah bless you with happiness and long life 🧬..
I wish I meet you and talk to you...😊
Which business
MashaAllah
That is one of the reasons of marriage failure in our society
No talk to keep the marriage
Only focus is on wedding events
Thank you sir
Mental torture and disrespectful abusive behaviour is a Red Line too
Yes, respect is necessary
Choti si video ma kitna example denge 😅😊
Wah, ma sha Allah sir! Kia hi mukhtasir magr jamih jawab dia, aap jaisay log hi hamaro society ka sarmaya hain! Allah aapko emaan or sehat mandi wali hayat dain.
Self dependence is inevitable for girls but she must have a talent of handling situations with a calm mind not emotionally because there's left no care for emotions in this society.
For the most she must be skilled at stress management!!!
3:27 Sir Mental and emotional abuse are equally as important as physical abuse , physical absue k nishan to atleast nazar aa jatay hain par mental ya emotional abuse k koi nishan bhi nahi dikhtay!
Literally it's very painful and life draining 😢
True yehi Mai b khty Hun ar Meray sth b yehi hva Hy lakin wohi bat Hy sb ki lgta Hy bhul jayo batein he tu hain
Wahi to baat ker rahe hain ke jab had se baat barh jaye. Eik had tak hi sun saktay hain baatein bhi.
Bhai choti si video mein kya kya batayenge 😂
Mashallah uncle g bht pyri btyn ki apny
jazakallah sir for this wonderful video and Women should be able to earn before marriage this line hits my heart.
May allah pak bless you with a lot of happiness sir
Ham angreez nhe hai.
Hum logo Pakistan Mai rehta hain.joint family mai senior citizen ki baat mani jati Hain.
Aur life Ka matlab he yahi Hain k day to day develop hota hai.har chee spiritually,parenting , tolerance,jahdad ,joint family ,job yah sub perfect nhe hosakhta.
Nobody has ever explained this issue so well in just 5 minutes. Well said sir.
Well said sir...being a girl if these three thing are being taught to a girl she will not feel supressed..and feel empowered
A good mentor JazakAllah sir
My father passed away n i listen you as my father gave me advice
Thank you sir for giving such marvellous advice😊
Well said. About grooming of both male and female for starting a new family. Especially the part about the red line for girls is such valuable advice.
Bohat khubsurat baateyn.
Betyun ko empower kareyn
Alhamdullilah my parent told me these things and also empowers me in doing so❤
M not married butt sb ase sochty k shyad ma ni krna chahti btt real baat ye ha k ma darti hun aj k zamany ki shadi se...
Exactly I am proud of you sir laki kbi b independent na ho mera girls ko ye advice Hy k Sab sy pehly apna name bty apna career set kry then shadi Kuch nhi pra shadi main ❤
Very informative,buchion ko to parents bht kuchh smjha k bhejtay but afsos k bigray huay beton ki shadian krty aur ye smjhty k jo bahoo aey gi,vo in k bety ko theek kr dy gee
Jab rishte kewal paison ke basis pe honge to ye hoga.
Beautifully answered Sir
Very very true sir . This topic mostly not discussed before merriage, this is the reason we see broken family children and they suffer all their life. This is a very important topic.I request you to make a series of videos on this topic individually for both.And parents and girls and boys must learn how to run family.
I believe that there should be some institutions where every girl and boy must teach about martial life at least 3 months lectures. And should be mandatory to attend before going to a new journey.
I have a question sir, To drive on roads driving licence is mandatory,then why we ignore our whole journey of life, how can we start without training....????
Thank you sir as a girls Allahhumdlilah i have all skils ❤
Shukr h Kisi n asy baton ko b issue smjaaa
Sir Allah ap ko Jaza day i implemented your advices on my children AlhamduLiLLah getting good response
Sir please do some work to improve education system of Government sector .i Am a teacher and really want to improve education system for the people who are below poverty line.
Sb se kaam ki BAAT women employment aur unky potential to actualize karny ki apny last mein rakhdi. I think this is the most important one
JazakAllah
Your wisdom will benefit many.
In'sha'Allah
Life is very unpredictable a girl must learn and acquire all the skills to earn enough to support herself and her parents as well EDUCATION IS A LIFETIME INVESTMENT for a person to become the productive members of the society.
کیا بات ہے۔۔۔ "آپ نے مجھے تھپڑ مارا کوئی بات نہیں۔ مجھے بس وجہ بتا دیں کہ کیوں مارا وہ میں آئندہ نہیں کروں گی۔ اور اسکے بعد اس بات کے لئے آپ نے مجھے تھپڑ نہیں مارنا، کسی اور نئی بات کے لئے بے شک مار لجیئے گا، اور مارنے کے بعد اسکی بھی وجہ بتانی ہے تاکہ میں وہ بھی دوبارہ نہ کروں۔" شادی کے شروعاتی دس سالوں میں جب ہر نئی بات پر تھپڑ پڑے گا تو عورت تقریباً وہ سب کچھ کرنا بند کر چکی ہو گی جو شوہر کو ٹھیک نہیں لگتا، یوں اسکی باقی کی زندگی تھپڑ کھائے بغیر ہنسی خوشی گزرے گی۔ کیا مشورہ ہے۔
😂😂😂
JAZAKALLAH sir ...please aik video boys ki tarbiayt pe b bnayen i want to teach my son all these things which are necessary
اسلام علیکم ،
سرجی ، اللّٰہ سب کو نیک ہدایت دے آمین ۔
🌙🌹⭐
Bahut pyari bat batai sir aapne Allah aapko salamat rakhe aameen ❤
Agar itna sochana padega to Aadhi duniya kunwari rah jayegi. .😂
Shadian kro pr bachy na peda kro phr.
Aaj ke mashre mea aadhi ladkiya ladke kuwari hi hai is se acha hai hum soche samhje aur zimmedari ke sath new responsibility le.
Sir u r v great 👍🏻 v well said . But somewhere our society has face this issue nd sufer from it that ye 3 point k hoty b girl stand ni le pati bcx there is no back nd moral support with girls .
Sohar agar dusri shadi kr liya ho pr jisse dusri shadi Kiya usko pta hi nhi ki uske sohar ki dusri shadi ho rhi h ...bad me pta chalene pr kya Krna chahiye plz btaye😢😢😢😢
Problem is tis ; daughters n sons r excessively pampered, also independent decision making is zero in husbands as well,
Sir Im a doctor was persuing plab when a rishta came from USA, rishta hogya lrka b doctor tha lekin steps nhi diye hue thy so nikkah jaldi hoa ky immgration file honi h nikkah ky bd pata laga they didnt want me to persue my profession, pehle nikkah se ok tha phr kam krna h tooh ghr ko zarurat ha too apna shoq matter nhi krta phr mera visa file nhi kiya aur ruksati ka kehty thy aur phr jab yeh major issues py mere family bt krti rhi tooh khty thy bete ka ghar kharab kr rhy phr divorce deky oska b blame mere py aur mere family py dal diya apki waja se hoi h rahi sahi kasar overseas thy pakistan mein jahez b mangty thy 😂😂 mtlb mein koi behns baakri ho ?
Sir Pls make video on__
👉 Martial Education &
👉 Parenting Education.
Respected sir, m your biggest fan, you are angel for us
😊😊bhut sukoon mili sunkr
Bahut achha laga
Very nice 👍
Great
Jazakillah sir.Allah apko Iska ajer ata farmae ameen.summa ameen .Allah dunya akhirat Mai ajer ata farmae ameen
ماشاءاللہ اللّہ سبحانہ وتعالیٰ آ پکو جزاء خیر عطا فرمائے اللّہ تعالیٰ اور نبی کریم صلی اللّٰہ علیہ وسلم کے حکموں پر چلنے میں خیر ہے خاوند بیوی باپ بیٹا بھائی بہن ہر ہر فرد کے حقوق و فرائض بتا دئیے گئے ہیں
as always Sir words taught me and gave me renewed perspective on life. I have a son and a daughter and I will teach them these life skills...sir kindly do a talk on Makafat e Amaal.
Sir sai bat but 3rd bat shoher k yaluqat py hangama HOTA ha per dono family side Sy female ko hi sunanty ha k her ha koi bat ni larka ha
MashaAllah nice lecture
Good topic
You are absolutely right Sir….God bless you!
Sir you are doing great job love from heart. Today I learned to be prepared as a good husband.
Beshak Allah bless
I completely agree with all of these ,afsos bus itna hay k nand ho ya sas ,bahu ho ya devrani jithani, koi b rishta ho zuban ki talkhi or najaiz Tano se jhagray karwadeti hain Ghar me😢
Sir you are very important advice for us❤ thanks
From India aap se bht kuch seekhne ko milta h
Tolerance and endurance?????
Hmari society me bs girls KO hi sikhaya Jata hai sasural me yei Karen vo Karna or kabi kisi ny boys KO nai samjyaya sasural waly apny bury bete k liye ak achi larki ki demand rakhty hen phly apny bete ki tarbiyat par to dehan Dy len
In India many Muslims don't have much Idea about halal and haram..they use religion according to their needs..they think if a woman works then she is doing something haram on the other hand they make women stay in joint family system after marriage where lots of haram mingling of non mehrams happen in the name of family bonding and relationships.. it's so hard to maintain hijab for women after marriage as non mehrams roam around the house half naked and women are forced to talk unnecessarily with those non mehrams in the name of creating a "happy family image"...I am suffering from this torture daily after marriage... When I protest I become the villain.. Only Allah can save us Indian Muslimahs...May Allah protect us from haram and guide everyone around us to the right path..🤲..Ameen
Masha Allah
Mere ammi abbu mere cousin se meri shadi krana chahte or mujhe usse shadi nhi krni h .....mai ne har reason ghar walo ko bataya lekin wo sun nhi rahe wo khete h beta izzat hai shaadi karlo....mai shadi kr to rahi hu.....but I don't think so that I will be able to handle a relationship between husband and wife' please guide me
Nice Advice. 👍
Masha ALLAH bhut hi khub sir khub 👌👌
Superb concept 🎉
A great teacher ❤
Well explaination sir,
JazakAllah ul khair for this motivational lecture
Mashallah nice informations
behtreen pointss
Yra Aryan ka part itna km aik toh wait kra bht fir bi😢😢😢sad im
Mashallah
I am 22 and just got engaged couple of days ago, and i really do even think about my girl’s family, how would i help em, make em feel like am there son, i liked ur vid sir, but let me tell u ash kal larkiyaaan khud itni chalak b hoti hain kuch they mill make uuu fight with em, and will blame everything on u, well this is a different topic, i will not talk bout this.
Thank you sir 👍
Dr Sahab is qoam se 3 kamon ki umeed krna aesa hi Hai Jaise aap sochen k pani geela Na ho, aag jalaye nahi , Suraj Thandi roshni de waghera waghera, aur wo 3 kaam ye Hain
Beton Ki terbiat krna
betian ko jayedad mein hissa dena
betian ko as a wife un k rights aur red lines batana
I am agree with you sir ji
Such a beautiful way to teach the limits & responsibilities of both. A councilor should be neutral
Doctor tesri bt btai nhe k agr husband ka ksi or se afair ho to uspe kya krna chaey ye b btao na?
Thanks for your good advice.
Good information sir 👍
what if husband kamata na ho, is bat ko kitna or kab tak bardasht karna chahiye??
Unfortunately humaray yaha ladki ho hissa hi nahi diya jata.
From India (kashmir) 😢
great speech sir...🎉🎉
Girls ko empower ki baat bhi kar rahe aur girls ko tolerate karne ko bhi keh rahe 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Balance krni h
Sir bhut khub kaha h ap ne
Nice Information
sir mai aap ki sari bato sa shamat ho ❣thank you so mach sir
Nice update sir
Thanks from India ❤
Aaj kl lrki ko disease ho jai na tou us ko bohat tana detai hai or kehtai mere betai ki zindagi kharab kr di hai. Or beta bhi kehta kai tum logo nai meri zindagi kharab kr di hai or phir us ko chor deta hai. Or tou us ko husband honai ka pata hi nhi hai tou iss barai mei batain
G ki to ap ne sb baten thik hn but koi parents apni baytiyun ko na kuch sikhaen na or jo kuch ap ne kaha wo na kren to phir bachiyan kia kren..is question ka answer mujay zroor chahiye
VERY GOOD INFORMATION VIDEO
Great top tips thanks you so much 4:53 ⌚🎁♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️🤗👍
Man should be leaders of the home they should know rights and obligation s of the each an every family member
A.o.a sir make a detailed video on bone tb plzzzz symptoms, treatment bleeding from nose, bloody gums all about bone tb plzzzzzz sir plzzzz
Right 💯❣️❣️🤲🤲
Plz sir Palestine k liy awaz uthain protest main shareek hon
Thank you sir
Bht zabrdust sometime i think on this topic . jazakallahukhairan
Explained well... Thank you
Masha Allah JazakAllah
Best lecture I ever heard