Advise to the girls before marriage

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  • @mdsameer8684
    @mdsameer8684 4 місяці тому +205

    As a Boy : Physically, Emotionally, intelligently and spiritual you must be able to handle as a Head of the family after your marriage

    • @FaizMuhammad-l7t
      @FaizMuhammad-l7t 4 місяці тому +5

      who said that you are the head of family

    • @User46830
      @User46830 4 місяці тому +18

      Quranic Reference:
      Surah An-Nisa (4:34) states: "Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them excel the other, and because they spend from their means. Therefore, the righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in the husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard."
      Hadith Reference:
      The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The leader is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of his family and he is responsible for his flock." (Reported in Sahih Muslim)
      but being head doesn't mean that family will do what I would say it means that both .must have . mutual respect for each other opinion but they should decide mutually everything because though Muhammad was a prophet but he always used to take advices from companion in wars etc etc

    • @YaSnaYaZrin-wm9gj
      @YaSnaYaZrin-wm9gj 4 місяці тому

      Great job....​@@User46830

    • @Dil-ka-qalam
      @Dil-ka-qalam 4 місяці тому +5

      Financially bhul gaye?😊 isi ke basis pe solely Aaj rishte hote

    • @turkeyvlogs8875
      @turkeyvlogs8875 3 місяці тому

      ​@@FaizMuhammad-l7t.. q apki mama head of the family hai?wo bahr jati ha kmaati hai ghr chlaati hai?? Obviously father he hai.
      Ajeeb jahil sawal hai duffer

  • @umasharma7360
    @umasharma7360 4 місяці тому +118

    I am from India the same problem here also. Nobbody teaches how to run the family life. Your video very nicely explained. Going to share with all my friends. Thanks

  • @homaansar5082
    @homaansar5082 2 місяці тому +15

    Aap ki baten soon kar aisa laga ki mere father ek great person h , unho ne mujhe aur meri bahan ko job karne ke qabil banaya aur hum dono bahan government teacher h🇮🇳

    • @35gmail.c
      @35gmail.c 10 днів тому

      @@homaansar5082 Mashaalah 🥰 lovely To hear..!!Your Dad made you to become G;both sisters to BE EDUCATED TO BECOME MASHAALAH,BY HIM..TO BOTH HANDLED & CARRY job S IN INDIA ..FEMALES👐🙏🏽💚 MASHALAH 👐;!/JOB Kabul..n govt teachers!

  • @drsarahalvi
    @drsarahalvi 4 місяці тому +13

    Indeed, as an Islamic therapist I agree completely with you and pre marriage counseling is a need of hour.

  • @Ukkkhan9609
    @Ukkkhan9609 4 місяці тому +58

    Alhumdulilah My Dear sir ... Me or meri soch bilkul esi hi jesi aapne byaan ki.... I'm from India.& 21 yrs old..... Or Khushi ki baat ye hai I'm not married 😅... I'm student and running my own business 😅..... Thank you so much My dear sir...
    I watched your all videos 📸.. that's are wonderful 💯💯 good 😊.. and very knowledgeable..
    May Allah bless you with happiness and long life 🧬..
    I wish I meet you and talk to you...😊

  • @readandlearn897
    @readandlearn897 4 місяці тому +30

    That is one of the reasons of marriage failure in our society
    No talk to keep the marriage
    Only focus is on wedding events
    Thank you sir

  • @sobiarashid9880
    @sobiarashid9880 4 місяці тому +89

    Mental torture and disrespectful abusive behaviour is a Red Line too

    • @taahadar6115
      @taahadar6115 3 місяці тому +3

      Yes, respect is necessary

    • @Shk_mimmi1013
      @Shk_mimmi1013 6 днів тому

      Choti si video ma kitna example denge 😅😊

  • @ilaaf.516
    @ilaaf.516 4 місяці тому +4

    Wah, ma sha Allah sir! Kia hi mukhtasir magr jamih jawab dia, aap jaisay log hi hamaro society ka sarmaya hain! Allah aapko emaan or sehat mandi wali hayat dain.

  • @PursueTheExcellence
    @PursueTheExcellence 3 місяці тому +4

    Self dependence is inevitable for girls but she must have a talent of handling situations with a calm mind not emotionally because there's left no care for emotions in this society.
    For the most she must be skilled at stress management!!!

  • @a_proud_hijabi_girl
    @a_proud_hijabi_girl 4 місяці тому +46

    3:27 Sir Mental and emotional abuse are equally as important as physical abuse , physical absue k nishan to atleast nazar aa jatay hain par mental ya emotional abuse k koi nishan bhi nahi dikhtay!

    • @laybatehreem6460
      @laybatehreem6460 4 місяці тому +1

      Literally it's very painful and life draining 😢

    • @farihanazir
      @farihanazir 4 місяці тому

      True yehi Mai b khty Hun ar Meray sth b yehi hva Hy lakin wohi bat Hy sb ki lgta Hy bhul jayo batein he tu hain

    • @sabeeen_01
      @sabeeen_01 3 місяці тому

      Wahi to baat ker rahe hain ke jab had se baat barh jaye. Eik had tak hi sun saktay hain baatein bhi.

    • @Shk_mimmi1013
      @Shk_mimmi1013 6 днів тому

      Bhai choti si video mein kya kya batayenge 😂

  • @AnoFati7865
    @AnoFati7865 3 дні тому

    Mashallah uncle g bht pyri btyn ki apny

  • @incentive_7262
    @incentive_7262 4 місяці тому +3

    jazakallah sir for this wonderful video and Women should be able to earn before marriage this line hits my heart.
    May allah pak bless you with a lot of happiness sir

  • @Khanzohan649
    @Khanzohan649 3 місяці тому +4

    Ham angreez nhe hai.
    Hum logo Pakistan Mai rehta hain.joint family mai senior citizen ki baat mani jati Hain.
    Aur life Ka matlab he yahi Hain k day to day develop hota hai.har chee spiritually,parenting , tolerance,jahdad ,joint family ,job yah sub perfect nhe hosakhta.

  • @hanikhan7718
    @hanikhan7718 3 місяці тому

    Nobody has ever explained this issue so well in just 5 minutes. Well said sir.

  • @Indian-ly4dd
    @Indian-ly4dd 4 місяці тому +1

    Well said sir...being a girl if these three thing are being taught to a girl she will not feel supressed..and feel empowered

  • @BinteTayyab-n6k
    @BinteTayyab-n6k 4 місяці тому +2

    A good mentor JazakAllah sir
    My father passed away n i listen you as my father gave me advice
    Thank you sir for giving such marvellous advice😊

  • @Beero.diaries
    @Beero.diaries 4 місяці тому +1

    Well said. About grooming of both male and female for starting a new family. Especially the part about the red line for girls is such valuable advice.

  • @Saniya-p5z
    @Saniya-p5z 3 місяці тому +1

    Bohat khubsurat baateyn.
    Betyun ko empower kareyn

  • @manoxykh
    @manoxykh Місяць тому

    Alhamdullilah my parent told me these things and also empowers me in doing so❤

  • @ranasahib93
    @ranasahib93 4 місяці тому +5

    M not married butt sb ase sochty k shyad ma ni krna chahti btt real baat ye ha k ma darti hun aj k zamany ki shadi se...

  • @SidraAfzal-v9q
    @SidraAfzal-v9q 2 місяці тому

    Exactly I am proud of you sir laki kbi b independent na ho mera girls ko ye advice Hy k Sab sy pehly apna name bty apna career set kry then shadi Kuch nhi pra shadi main ❤

  • @FatimaNaureen-ny8zg
    @FatimaNaureen-ny8zg 4 місяці тому +13

    Very informative,buchion ko to parents bht kuchh smjha k bhejtay but afsos k bigray huay beton ki shadian krty aur ye smjhty k jo bahoo aey gi,vo in k bety ko theek kr dy gee

    • @Dil-ka-qalam
      @Dil-ka-qalam 4 місяці тому +1

      Jab rishte kewal paison ke basis pe honge to ye hoga.

  • @ridabatool8691
    @ridabatool8691 5 днів тому

    Beautifully answered Sir

  • @hashirsadiq4638
    @hashirsadiq4638 4 місяці тому +1

    Very very true sir . This topic mostly not discussed before merriage, this is the reason we see broken family children and they suffer all their life. This is a very important topic.I request you to make a series of videos on this topic individually for both.And parents and girls and boys must learn how to run family.
    I believe that there should be some institutions where every girl and boy must teach about martial life at least 3 months lectures. And should be mandatory to attend before going to a new journey.
    I have a question sir, To drive on roads driving licence is mandatory,then why we ignore our whole journey of life, how can we start without training....????

  • @nainakhan-dm4vc
    @nainakhan-dm4vc 5 днів тому

    Thank you sir as a girls Allahhumdlilah i have all skils ❤

  • @sabeenarshad-r9f
    @sabeenarshad-r9f 4 місяці тому +4

    Shukr h Kisi n asy baton ko b issue smjaaa

  • @NAILAYOUSUF-mu4yo
    @NAILAYOUSUF-mu4yo 4 місяці тому +3

    Sir Allah ap ko Jaza day i implemented your advices on my children AlhamduLiLLah getting good response
    Sir please do some work to improve education system of Government sector .i Am a teacher and really want to improve education system for the people who are below poverty line.

  • @glassfixpk
    @glassfixpk 4 місяці тому +3

    Sb se kaam ki BAAT women employment aur unky potential to actualize karny ki apny last mein rakhdi. I think this is the most important one

  • @noor5325
    @noor5325 4 місяці тому +2

    JazakAllah
    Your wisdom will benefit many.
    In'sha'Allah

  • @juveriarehman5896
    @juveriarehman5896 3 місяці тому +2

    Life is very unpredictable a girl must learn and acquire all the skills to earn enough to support herself and her parents as well EDUCATION IS A LIFETIME INVESTMENT for a person to become the productive members of the society.

  • @HoneySamuel16
    @HoneySamuel16 4 місяці тому +3

    کیا بات ہے۔۔۔ "آپ نے مجھے تھپڑ مارا کوئی بات نہیں۔ مجھے بس وجہ بتا دیں کہ کیوں مارا وہ میں آئندہ نہیں کروں گی۔ اور اسکے بعد اس بات کے لئے آپ نے مجھے تھپڑ نہیں مارنا، کسی اور نئی بات کے لئے بے شک مار لجیئے گا، اور مارنے کے بعد اسکی بھی وجہ بتانی ہے تاکہ میں وہ بھی دوبارہ نہ کروں۔" شادی کے شروعاتی دس سالوں میں جب ہر نئی بات پر تھپڑ پڑے گا تو عورت تقریباً وہ سب کچھ کرنا بند کر چکی ہو گی جو شوہر کو ٹھیک نہیں لگتا، یوں اسکی باقی کی زندگی تھپڑ کھائے بغیر ہنسی خوشی گزرے گی۔ کیا مشورہ ہے۔

  • @AnamRehman-lv3tj
    @AnamRehman-lv3tj 2 місяці тому +1

    JAZAKALLAH sir ...please aik video boys ki tarbiayt pe b bnayen i want to teach my son all these things which are necessary

  • @skhan12er
    @skhan12er 4 місяці тому +12

    اسلام علیکم ،
    سرجی ، اللّٰہ سب کو نیک ہدایت دے آمین ۔
    🌙🌹⭐

  • @safiyashaikh-el2qy
    @safiyashaikh-el2qy 4 місяці тому +1

    Bahut pyari bat batai sir aapne Allah aapko salamat rakhe aameen ❤

  • @naukrinews4039
    @naukrinews4039 4 місяці тому +10

    Agar itna sochana padega to Aadhi duniya kunwari rah jayegi. .😂

    • @hummingbird6420
      @hummingbird6420 4 місяці тому

      Shadian kro pr bachy na peda kro phr.

    • @asadalisayyyed3520
      @asadalisayyyed3520 4 місяці тому

      Aaj ke mashre mea aadhi ladkiya ladke kuwari hi hai is se acha hai hum soche samhje aur zimmedari ke sath new responsibility le.

  • @mrskhadija8108
    @mrskhadija8108 2 місяці тому

    Sir u r v great 👍🏻 v well said . But somewhere our society has face this issue nd sufer from it that ye 3 point k hoty b girl stand ni le pati bcx there is no back nd moral support with girls .

  • @Emma-ud9oh
    @Emma-ud9oh 23 години тому +1

    Sohar agar dusri shadi kr liya ho pr jisse dusri shadi Kiya usko pta hi nhi ki uske sohar ki dusri shadi ho rhi h ...bad me pta chalene pr kya Krna chahiye plz btaye😢😢😢😢

  • @elegant.ideazzskills
    @elegant.ideazzskills 4 місяці тому +2

    Problem is tis ; daughters n sons r excessively pampered, also independent decision making is zero in husbands as well,

  • @fakharulain8198
    @fakharulain8198 4 місяці тому +3

    Sir Im a doctor was persuing plab when a rishta came from USA, rishta hogya lrka b doctor tha lekin steps nhi diye hue thy so nikkah jaldi hoa ky immgration file honi h nikkah ky bd pata laga they didnt want me to persue my profession, pehle nikkah se ok tha phr kam krna h tooh ghr ko zarurat ha too apna shoq matter nhi krta phr mera visa file nhi kiya aur ruksati ka kehty thy aur phr jab yeh major issues py mere family bt krti rhi tooh khty thy bete ka ghar kharab kr rhy phr divorce deky oska b blame mere py aur mere family py dal diya apki waja se hoi h rahi sahi kasar overseas thy pakistan mein jahez b mangty thy 😂😂 mtlb mein koi behns baakri ho ?

  • @rishiraaj.580
    @rishiraaj.580 3 місяці тому +2

    Sir Pls make video on__
    👉 Martial Education &
    👉 Parenting Education.

  • @ibrahimharoon1827
    @ibrahimharoon1827 4 місяці тому +1

    Respected sir, m your biggest fan, you are angel for us

  • @saniyamalik9544
    @saniyamalik9544 4 місяці тому +1

    😊😊bhut sukoon mili sunkr

  • @UfaqueNaaz
    @UfaqueNaaz 3 місяці тому +1

    Bahut achha laga

  • @ShaziaIshaq-kv2ch
    @ShaziaIshaq-kv2ch 18 днів тому

    Very nice 👍

  • @mobeenasagheermobeenasaghe6241
    @mobeenasagheermobeenasaghe6241 25 днів тому

    Great

  • @zainabkhan6067
    @zainabkhan6067 4 місяці тому

    Jazakillah sir.Allah apko Iska ajer ata farmae ameen.summa ameen .Allah dunya akhirat Mai ajer ata farmae ameen

  • @shaukatali306
    @shaukatali306 4 місяці тому +2

    ماشاءاللہ اللّہ سبحانہ وتعالیٰ آ پکو جزاء خیر عطا فرمائے اللّہ تعالیٰ اور نبی کریم صلی اللّٰہ علیہ وسلم کے حکموں پر چلنے میں خیر ہے خاوند بیوی باپ بیٹا بھائی بہن ہر ہر فرد کے حقوق و فرائض بتا دئیے گئے ہیں

  • @tyradeck4746
    @tyradeck4746 4 місяці тому +1

    as always Sir words taught me and gave me renewed perspective on life. I have a son and a daughter and I will teach them these life skills...sir kindly do a talk on Makafat e Amaal.

  • @sameekshakhan358
    @sameekshakhan358 2 місяці тому

    Sir sai bat but 3rd bat shoher k yaluqat py hangama HOTA ha per dono family side Sy female ko hi sunanty ha k her ha koi bat ni larka ha

  • @hafsamita1581
    @hafsamita1581 4 місяці тому +2

    MashaAllah nice lecture

  • @JameelaMir-m9o
    @JameelaMir-m9o Місяць тому

    Good topic

  • @fatimaumar6762
    @fatimaumar6762 4 місяці тому

    You are absolutely right Sir….God bless you!

  • @Play-with-your-thoughts
    @Play-with-your-thoughts 4 місяці тому +1

    Sir you are doing great job love from heart. Today I learned to be prepared as a good husband.

  • @worldofinformation5427
    @worldofinformation5427 4 місяці тому +1

    Beshak Allah bless

  • @hazirdimagh
    @hazirdimagh 3 місяці тому

    I completely agree with all of these ,afsos bus itna hay k nand ho ya sas ,bahu ho ya devrani jithani, koi b rishta ho zuban ki talkhi or najaiz Tano se jhagray karwadeti hain Ghar me😢

  • @abihanoorabiha6260
    @abihanoorabiha6260 3 місяці тому

    Sir you are very important advice for us❤ thanks

  • @pinkstylecookingwithvlog7245
    @pinkstylecookingwithvlog7245 4 місяці тому

    From India aap se bht kuch seekhne ko milta h

  • @PursueTheExcellence
    @PursueTheExcellence 3 місяці тому +1

    Tolerance and endurance?????

  • @AreebaMughal-j9p
    @AreebaMughal-j9p 6 днів тому +1

    Hmari society me bs girls KO hi sikhaya Jata hai sasural me yei Karen vo Karna or kabi kisi ny boys KO nai samjyaya sasural waly apny bury bete k liye ak achi larki ki demand rakhty hen phly apny bete ki tarbiyat par to dehan Dy len

  • @sana-bz1gs
    @sana-bz1gs 2 місяці тому

    In India many Muslims don't have much Idea about halal and haram..they use religion according to their needs..they think if a woman works then she is doing something haram on the other hand they make women stay in joint family system after marriage where lots of haram mingling of non mehrams happen in the name of family bonding and relationships.. it's so hard to maintain hijab for women after marriage as non mehrams roam around the house half naked and women are forced to talk unnecessarily with those non mehrams in the name of creating a "happy family image"...I am suffering from this torture daily after marriage... When I protest I become the villain.. Only Allah can save us Indian Muslimahs...May Allah protect us from haram and guide everyone around us to the right path..🤲..Ameen

  • @shaziaperween5742
    @shaziaperween5742 4 місяці тому +1

    Masha Allah

  • @Ayeshajaveriya-o5w
    @Ayeshajaveriya-o5w Місяць тому

    Mere ammi abbu mere cousin se meri shadi krana chahte or mujhe usse shadi nhi krni h .....mai ne har reason ghar walo ko bataya lekin wo sun nhi rahe wo khete h beta izzat hai shaadi karlo....mai shadi kr to rahi hu.....but I don't think so that I will be able to handle a relationship between husband and wife' please guide me

  • @rishiraaj.580
    @rishiraaj.580 3 місяці тому +1

    Nice Advice. 👍

  • @learnacademy8716
    @learnacademy8716 4 місяці тому

    Masha ALLAH bhut hi khub sir khub 👌👌

  • @manahilasghr9069
    @manahilasghr9069 3 місяці тому

    Superb concept 🎉

  • @huraintara7322
    @huraintara7322 4 місяці тому +1

    A great teacher ❤

  • @ibtehaljabeen01
    @ibtehaljabeen01 4 місяці тому

    Well explaination sir,
    JazakAllah ul khair for this motivational lecture

  • @ZeenatFatima-mm8oi
    @ZeenatFatima-mm8oi 3 місяці тому

    Mashallah nice informations

  • @ipafaryal
    @ipafaryal 3 місяці тому

    behtreen pointss

  • @aliciashaw975
    @aliciashaw975 8 днів тому

    Yra Aryan ka part itna km aik toh wait kra bht fir bi😢😢😢sad im

  • @nishaasghar1051
    @nishaasghar1051 3 місяці тому +1

    Mashallah

  • @MohsinKhan-jo4ni
    @MohsinKhan-jo4ni 4 місяці тому +1

    I am 22 and just got engaged couple of days ago, and i really do even think about my girl’s family, how would i help em, make em feel like am there son, i liked ur vid sir, but let me tell u ash kal larkiyaaan khud itni chalak b hoti hain kuch they mill make uuu fight with em, and will blame everything on u, well this is a different topic, i will not talk bout this.

  • @Unha-jn6me
    @Unha-jn6me 4 місяці тому +1

    Thank you sir 👍

  • @zodleo8817
    @zodleo8817 4 місяці тому

    Dr Sahab is qoam se 3 kamon ki umeed krna aesa hi Hai Jaise aap sochen k pani geela Na ho, aag jalaye nahi , Suraj Thandi roshni de waghera waghera, aur wo 3 kaam ye Hain
    Beton Ki terbiat krna
    betian ko jayedad mein hissa dena
    betian ko as a wife un k rights aur red lines batana

  • @giritabasum3775
    @giritabasum3775 4 місяці тому +1

    I am agree with you sir ji

  • @abusobaan1167
    @abusobaan1167 3 місяці тому

    Such a beautiful way to teach the limits & responsibilities of both. A councilor should be neutral

  • @zoobiamalik6802
    @zoobiamalik6802 4 місяці тому

    Doctor tesri bt btai nhe k agr husband ka ksi or se afair ho to uspe kya krna chaey ye b btao na?

  • @niluferwajeeh4352
    @niluferwajeeh4352 4 місяці тому +1

    Thanks for your good advice.

  • @shabnamofficial329
    @shabnamofficial329 3 місяці тому

    Good information sir 👍

  • @darklight1720
    @darklight1720 4 місяці тому

    what if husband kamata na ho, is bat ko kitna or kab tak bardasht karna chahiye??

  • @waytoparadise018
    @waytoparadise018 4 місяці тому +1

    Unfortunately humaray yaha ladki ho hissa hi nahi diya jata.
    From India (kashmir) 😢

  • @malekayasminsyhsa1437
    @malekayasminsyhsa1437 4 місяці тому

    great speech sir...🎉🎉

  • @IshikaOberoi-mz9jm
    @IshikaOberoi-mz9jm 4 місяці тому +3

    Girls ko empower ki baat bhi kar rahe aur girls ko tolerate karne ko bhi keh rahe 😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @aishaadiba2222
    @aishaadiba2222 13 днів тому

    Sir bhut khub kaha h ap ne

  • @fnaz9601
    @fnaz9601 3 місяці тому

    Nice Information

  • @mdajmatkhan-tf5ck
    @mdajmatkhan-tf5ck 4 місяці тому

    sir mai aap ki sari bato sa shamat ho ❣thank you so mach sir

  • @danishazmilearning3648
    @danishazmilearning3648 4 місяці тому +1

    Nice update sir
    Thanks from India ❤

  • @umeabeeha9567
    @umeabeeha9567 26 днів тому

    Aaj kl lrki ko disease ho jai na tou us ko bohat tana detai hai or kehtai mere betai ki zindagi kharab kr di hai. Or beta bhi kehta kai tum logo nai meri zindagi kharab kr di hai or phir us ko chor deta hai. Or tou us ko husband honai ka pata hi nhi hai tou iss barai mei batain

  • @AbdulManan-fo5iw
    @AbdulManan-fo5iw 4 місяці тому

    G ki to ap ne sb baten thik hn but koi parents apni baytiyun ko na kuch sikhaen na or jo kuch ap ne kaha wo na kren to phir bachiyan kia kren..is question ka answer mujay zroor chahiye

  • @MuhammadYaseen-v4j
    @MuhammadYaseen-v4j 3 місяці тому

    VERY GOOD INFORMATION VIDEO

  • @indianfood9672
    @indianfood9672 3 місяці тому

    Great top tips thanks you so much 4:53 ⌚🎁♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️🤗👍

  • @sanji546
    @sanji546 2 місяці тому

    Man should be leaders of the home they should know rights and obligation s of the each an every family member

  • @sabashehzadi380
    @sabashehzadi380 4 місяці тому

    A.o.a sir make a detailed video on bone tb plzzzz symptoms, treatment bleeding from nose, bloody gums all about bone tb plzzzzzz sir plzzzz

  • @adeel.qureshi417
    @adeel.qureshi417 4 місяці тому +1

    Right 💯❣️❣️🤲🤲

  • @noormalik7574
    @noormalik7574 4 місяці тому +2

    Plz sir Palestine k liy awaz uthain protest main shareek hon

  • @chandpashachandpasha8301
    @chandpashachandpasha8301 Місяць тому

    Thank you sir

  • @MubashraAmeen-ky6ip
    @MubashraAmeen-ky6ip 4 місяці тому

    Bht zabrdust sometime i think on this topic . jazakallahukhairan

  • @Sunnahlife7
    @Sunnahlife7 4 місяці тому

    Explained well... Thank you

  • @67ISLAMICOFFICIAL
    @67ISLAMICOFFICIAL 4 місяці тому +2

    Masha Allah JazakAllah

  • @benaziryousuf3540
    @benaziryousuf3540 4 місяці тому

    Best lecture I ever heard