20 Life Lessons From 40 Years of Living
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- Опубліковано 14 чер 2024
- Here are the best life lessons that I've learned over 40 years of living. Some of these life lessons I've learned the hard way, but all of them have made life easier, richer, or happier in some way for me. I hope you enjoy this very special 40th birthday chat about the tips, rules, and advice that changed my life!
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What are YOUR 3 pieces of best life advice? Please like this video and share them with me in the comments below! 🤗
Happy happy birthday! Wishing you a healthy day- today and everyday! 🎉❤
Happy 40th Birthday Marisa! ❤️🎂❤️
Fantastic video. I just turned 47. Hmmm 3 pieces of best life advice. A superficial one, at age 40 I decided if my body felt like dancing to the music, I would, REGARDLESS of where I was (in my car, in a restaurant, in church, in the mall.) Life is so damn short, people. DANCE with the joy your body is spewing from your veins. More serious advice: Act if you're feeling disconnected or resentful. I've quit so many jobs that made me miserable and while it's super stressful to do so, I have zero regrets. Likely, resentfulnes means you're out of alignment with your job, your spouse, or your values... analyze but then act so those negative feelings go away, even if you don't have a solution, naming the feeling is step one..opportunity is on the other side.. Third: Cultivating good interpersonal boundaries while appreciating others may try to invade yours because it's just human nature. :) We all have endless choices in how we react or respond so learn more if you're stuck on "passive or aggressive" as the only two you do.
I just have got one: Sorgen machen ist wie ein Schaukelstuhl. Man ist zwar beschäftigt, aber man kommt nicht weiter. Worrying is like a rocking chair. You are well occupied, but you can't move on. ❤
Happy birthday 🎂 🥳 🎉. My best advise- ,,You are not responsible for other people's feelings. It is their decision."
Every decade brings new things. I was 41 when I had a daughter. Those were wonderful years, In my 60's I had cancer, but survived.
But my husband died. Now I'm 72. I feel great and I'm going to make sure I enjoy every year I have left to live.
Love you ♡♡
Thank you for your post, somehow I needed it. I am 39, have been trying to have a child for 6 years now, had a miscarriage. Nothing special, but somehow I gave up. Reading your words gave me a bit of hope. Cheers!
@@jul4173you got this! Keep being positive. I’ve been trying for over 18 years now with no luck. I’m 41 years old now. Keep praying and be positive. Sending you lots of love and hugs. Happiness is the key.
That’s good to hear I am single now 37 I hope that at 41 I will be married and have a child this gives me hope
I'm 32, I just started working after being unemployed for close to two years, the day I moved for my new job 40 days ago, my mum passed away at 75. It was abrupt! When I think about the life we had with her, I keep telling myself that I have so many years ahead of me, so I cannot give up on life. Life is fleeting and mine is to work hard, live each day like it's my last and remain faithful to God. I mean I'm only 32, I could live for another 40 years!
Life advice
1) Never give up on yourself, you can achieve anything.
2) When you feel like you can't get up, DO IT ANYWAY!
3) Failing is a temporary experience, and so is winning.
The most important thing you can give your children is your time. The most important and hardest thing not to give them is baggage.
I'm 48!!
1- walk in grace and mercy
2- have boundaries (no is a complete sentence)
3- things are just that...
The future matters but the current moment is all we really have so be present.
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So true that ♡♡
Love this so much. Thank you!
Here I am in my early thirties thinking its too late for me! Too late to get a stable, fulfilling career, too late to get married and have kids! Letting my negative and toxic people get stuck in my head!
@@coreypack Corey it is not over until your dead keep going brother.
I like to add to your second one. If they get upset by you saying no that's okay, People are obligated to their feelings but you owe them nothing.
“Focus on living the life you want, not wanting the life you had.” Marissa your quote is my new year’s motto. Thank you and God bless you. PAX
*having the life you want
Life advice
1)You are never too old to change and learn
2) remain open and curious about everything
3) your children can teach you as much if not more than you teach them
Don't know I'm 20s now ..
I feel like I'm too old. Maybe i don't like my career. It's just like I'm not made for this... I've no any option to do other things😔
"Give your kids what they actually need" can I get an amen to that? I didn't grow up in a financially rich household, but I grew up in a stable one. My parents didn't give me many presents, but they gave me something no money can buy: quality time. I literally don't remember a single toy I had when I was a child, but I remember all the times we walked on the park, or the times when they took me to the playground on weekends, or the times when we went out for ice cream.
Dude, I had recently moved into my moms room, sense she passed away when I was only 11. When I was cleaning her room in order to fit my things in there, I found some things that belonged to her, and it immediately brought tears. Bro I know how it feels! I am 17 now, and I am able to cope with it, but it’s so Nostalgic.
The most important thing that should be on everyone's mind currently should be to invest in different sources of income that doesn't depend on the government. Especially with the current economic crisis around the word. This is still a good time to invest in various stocks, Gold, silver and digital currencies.
That's so true. but if i may ask, do you trade all by yourself?
My 40s were my best decade. Old enough to have things figured out more or less and life settled down, not so old that the aches and pains had started yet.
I am 24 year old and in a rut living with my parents with no job and allot of mental illness. I feel like I am too old for allot of things I want to do. This video gave me some hope and it gave me some light in my life right now. I have faith in myself that everything is going to be great in my life. Thank you for sharing your life experiences and support!
I am 28 and am in the same situation but I really want to get myself a life now
Things will always be alright and get better if you work hard at them. When the going gets tough, the tough get going! You got this!
I am 33 and I can honestly tell you that you are not too old and that 24 is a lot younger than you think it is. I didn't realize that until I left my 20's, but 24 really is so so young. Even early 30's are young and I'm sure when I'm 40 I will realize that more than I do now. I absolutely sympathize with you on mental illness, I have been battling my own for the better part of my life. Wishing us both healing and lots of hopeful adventures💛
You could start with just one thing. I recommend learning to ride a horse. It's tough and it's a long process, but it'll give you a lot of confidence. Seriously, whatever it is you wanna try, just do it and be happy if it's harder than you thought. Also, you are young. There are only so many summers in one's life so every single one matters!
I wish you all the best my friend. Sending you a big hug and lots of love
"Start where you are...Use what you have...Do what you can..."🌼🌼🌼
Happy birthday 🎉! My advice 1) stop comparing 2) let it go 3) be grateful for what you have
Thank you for the birthday wishes and for the advice 🙏☺️
1. Tomorrow will always come.
2. This too will pass.
3. Always…ALWAYS keep looking up!
Good ones 👏
For me, being rich is having enough money to be healthy and in good shape (sometimes it goes together, at least for me), have time for your family (you dont need to work constantly just to fulfil basic needs) , have peaceful place to live and have money for some extra, like trips on your days off. the rest is just a plus for me
Thank you for the advices. I am 43 and lost my baby girl 3 years ago, so the passage about the competition in sadness speaks to me a lot.
What i learned
1. Always do your best in everything you start, you make. So you'll be free, no regret, no culpability.
2. Accept people like they are, don't judge them, don't take what they do or say for yourself, be gentle and compassionate and be the same with yourself.
3. Enjoy life, enjoy present moment, have fun, make what you like, try new things, Travel, meet people.
4. Work on your believes, go to therapy, let go your family History, free yourself from toxic schémas
(Sorry for m'y english, i am french)
Just turned 39, and there is only one skill I need, and need to be better at:
*Learn how to embrace CHANGE.*
That includes learning how to embrace a breakup or a divorce, a death in the family, moving houses, switching jobs, being unemployed, losing my hair, losing my friends, losing my favourite noodle shop, an aging body that doesn't heal as fast or look as attractive, different political stances, climate change, mask wearing, pandemic restrictions, supply chain issues, and every other thing that I took for granted.
All of life is about living in the moment and learning to let go.
truly...its hard to embrace change...but accepting change as part of life is the first step towards it...
I'm 43 this year. My dad lost his battle to alcohol abuse, suicide and depression at the age of 53 and for some odd reason that age has also stuck in my head. I hope to make it past 53. Thanks for telling your story!
I’m sorry for your loss…my dad passed around that age as well. 😔 Wishing you good health and fortune. 💪
@@AtoZenLife Thank you
Sorry for your loss buddy.. May his soul Rip...
You don't give up... Good luck 👍
its still not too late
1. Boundaries are important....when I say "no" to something I am saying "yes" to something else and often that something else is MY OWN happiness and peace of mind.
2. Practice makes perfect....especially in reference to decluttering your home; I am happy to see that it did not happen overnight for you and that means that i can take my time, slowly decluttering no matter how long it takes.
I am 57
you are very young,strong and wise.
Happy Birthday and many blessings of health, joy, love and prosperity!!!
I'm turning 31 and I've been too afraid to live a life
experience most things that adults have
I'm praying for God to give the strength but its really hard
Thank you for your channel. I lost both parents early at 23 for mom and 11 for dad. I also lost 3 siblings - health and addiction before I was 43.
I have an abundant life at 53 years old with a husband of 30 years and 3 healthy adult children. Your channel helps me and I have purged my stuff a long time ago with the same realization that the stuff are not my parents- their memory and my love for them are. I will never move on, but I will move forward till I see them again.
Also in the Bible is also where it says someone falls 7 times and get up 8 as well. Proverbs 24:16
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I’m so sorry to hear about your losses, but equally impressed and happy that you have been able to grow and accomplish so much! thank you for watching and for sharing your story with me. 🙏❤️
Hello fellow Hoosier. I am 59 and I am finally ready to declutter. I need the peace of mind. I live in the house I grew up in. It is small but by beautiful White River. I have too many memories to count and have always been fanatical about keeping sentimental things that reminded me of my happy childhood or my deceased and beloved Mom and Dad. I am just starting this journey. Thank you so much for your encouragement. Love to you and your beautiful family. ❤❤❤❤
its easy to say stop caring what people think, I have often told myself that as well, but it hasn't worked , as someone with chronic social anxiety
I turned 36 a few months ago and it was a huge one for me as my mom passed at the age of 35 (I was 19).
It's definitely a hard thing to process knowing you outlived your deceased parent. It's been hard not growing up with role models and just learning life all on my own. I have my children that Iove me unconditionally and they are my favourite people 💖
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis
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"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
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--Diamond Dragons (series)
if you keep growing and evolving I dont think you ever really get older. Knowledge and information and has kept me mentally young, I always look forward to learning something new everyday. Also having a meaningful hobby will always keep you occupied
Happy birthday! I'm turning 40 soon too! My advice; 1. The only person's opinion about you that matters, is your own. 2. Money is a renewable resource, let it flow freely in and out of your life. 3. You are going to change as a person throughout your life, accept and embrace each change.
Thanks so much 🙏 and love your advice!
You are loved and cherished. You have nothing to fear. There is nothing you can do wrong. If I had to boil this entire message down to one sentence, it would run this way: You are loved. And if I had to boil it down further, to just one word, it would (of course) be, simply: Love.
I agree with your lessons! The only thing I would add relates to my faith: Don't worry about what I can't control--pray to God about it and let Him take care of it. This action helps me with my peace of mind.
I'm grateful that there are people like you who share their thought on the internet so I know that twenty is not the only season of our life and life is more than just being young and beautiful. I'm 27 years old and I'm constantly on the fear of missing out or being late for everything.
Happy Birthday!
My favorit life lessons are:
1. Don't let things or situations you can't change bother you.
2. Not everyone likes you as you don't need to like everyone.
3. Time is more important than money
My agemate...
Happy birthday, Marissa!
I turn 30 next week, and I am really glad you posted this video today. Thank you. ✨️
1. Learn to stop controlling things out of your control. 2. What's meant for you won't past you. 3. Practice gratitude every day.
I love all of these, but #1 especially! ❤️
I live everyday of my life with these mindset Jennifer ♡♡
Thank you for these awesome reminders
Ps I just turned 30 on the 1st of this month too
@Gladys Amah thank you for your kind comment. Happy Birthday to you! We've got this. 🤍💫
30 few months ago and it's a amazing how your priorities will shift xx
@@justnobody1376 this is good to know. I hope I feel the same way. Xx
I am turning 40 in August. I am a little sad because I have not achieved anything. Thank you for doing this as I really do feel like I really have fallen as I looked around and people achieved so many things and wondered why could I have not done them.
The most important thing I've learned is to do things that future me will appreciate. When I'm in a bad mental state or just super busy, I appreciate that past me has meal prepped or packed my lunch the night before or planned out what I'm wearing for the week or whatever. Even if I'm like "I really don't feel like cleaning the bathroom," I'll do it anyway so I don't end up overwhelmed trying to finish everything I procrastinated on earlier.
Oh my goodness YES 💯👏
It wasn't until I had my first and only child at 40 that I learnt to not care what others thought about me. 30+ years ago, a very drunk old Irishman wrote me a note with 'What others think of me is none of my business' on it, and it's taken me until now to really understand its significance. Learn to say no, question what is not right, celebrate what is and at the end of each day, try to think of 3 special moments or joys that made that day significant.
Sometimes I watch videos of Claire Wineland whenever I feel hands of middle age crisis on my neck. She were terminally ill and died at young age but she was cheerful and thankful for the time she had in this world. Someday I will be mature like her in this regard. Rest in peace, Claire Wineland.
minute 3 - im crying. my dad died at 41...drank a little too much that year...then landed in couciling to figure and unravel my emotions...hugs.
"Fitting in" - I learned in my 40's that fitting in is like putting a square peg into a round hole and instead we should all look for where we "belong". People are like puzzles and each piece belongs aside others that are suitable for our uniqueness. Trying to fit in is like trying to be a different puzzle piece. Thanks for your shares, I appreciate your videos and vulnerability.
This has to be the most useful video on UA-cam to this day. Wisdom only comes with age and life at 40 is when you realize what's truly important
Never put off for tomorrow what you can enjoy today.
I stumbled on this video by chance, but oh boy, I'm so glad I did!! I really needed to hear all of this! Thank you & count me in as one of your subs! 😇
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I'm from India,a homemaker and a mom of 5 yr old daughter. I feel very depressed due to stuff around me.then i come across ur videos, a blessing i must say.Thank you so much for uploading such great videos.
in fact, about my childhood, i do not remind stuff but time we share, baking, gardening, doing a walk, ...
Exactly 👏
I had 8 people die in 6 months including my niece who was 21, car accident, the following year I had a catastrophic accident that left me in a wheelchair, the next year I lost my house to the bank, the next year I got breast cancer, took an overdose survived both and then my dad died from cancer and then my godmother died, she was old, but it was a pandemic and I didn't get to go say goodbye. Two things, having a specific person in your/my life makes life more bearable, and life happens while we're planning. This year I'm 60 I will be celebrating with my children - hopefully.
I’m sorry for all your losses, Beverly. You’ve been through so much and I’ll keep my fingers crossed 🤞 that your 60th is a good one!
Why do your videos make me feel like I'm sitting with a wise big sister?
Thank you for being so transparent and sharing your life with us. I always look forward to your videos. Many blessings to you and your family.
Thank you, needed this. I am 46 next week
Both my parents died at 70 , so I know how you felt , I’am now 71 and in good health , I need to lose a bit of weight but I live a happy and productive life .
28 years old 1. Slow down, life is to be savored. 2. Forgive yourself, forgive others. 3. Love now, not later.
por supuesto!!, tus mejores años están por venir.
the financial literacy is great! i remember as a kid so many financial things being held over my head and felt guilty to ever ask of anything as well. all it did was keep me from ask for clothes or food and now am an adult that struggles to spend on even necessities out of fear.
I had a baby when I was forty. Had one when I was 30 also. 👶🏻 Happy New Year!
For Christmas my very young nieces and nephews played more with the packaging than their actual presents! I love it when they use their imaginations. Your children are growing up with life lessons and best of all a whole lot of love ❤️
The points you’ve made resonate with me. To start, I am not 40, I’m 76, but I recall and still experience so many of the things you mentioned. Currently the biggest thing I am overcoming is the feeling of failure. My husband left after I had my second child, I was homeless, I managed to pull myself together and get a job and make a home for my children. Seven years later I remarried only to realize my husband suffered from PTSD and was an abusive alcoholic. I had to leave to protect my children. I felt like I was a failure. I felt guilt because I worked instead of being able to stay home and raise my children. My children carry some of the emotional scars, we talk about them sometimes.
On the positive side, I am learning to set boundaries, NO is not a bad word. I think I was trying even into my retirement years to do everything and be everything. I use mindfulness and therapy and have come to a place in my life where I feel a sense of peace. My comfort ritual is drawing, I do it everyday. It reaches back to my earliest childhood desires to be an artist. My parents, loving as they were, highly discouraged and never acknowledged my art attempts. It made me feel not good enough, and perhaps in some way set the course of my life. It is video content like yours that is so helpful. Thank you for that, you are a fantastic person with such a story to tell. Thank you for sharing. I watch every episode, sometimes more than once! ❤
Hola Linda, cuando era pequeña tuve muchos conflictos familiares, mi madre, al igual que usted, también nos trató de mantener lejos de relaciones tóxicas, y siempre nos llevaba con ella a donde fuese, sola y sin ayuda, no se como se las arreglaba para cuidarnos a las tres hermanas, también trabajaba todo el día y aunque al principio no lo entendia del todo por que me hacía mucha falta, más adelante supe de todo el sacrificio que hizo por nosotras.
Ella ya no está en este mundo, pero todo mi amor y admiración por ella seguirán hasta mis últimos días. Así que creo que usted es una persona de admirar, por que no debió haber sido fácil lidiar con todo eso sola, espero que este libre de culpas y arrepentimientos y que pueda disfrutar de su presente plenamente. Muchas bendiciones para usted y su familia 🙏🏼🙂.
Yes make yourself feel loved and give your time to yourself. And make sure to validate the emotional trauma of the children. You're a such a great parent and human. I have barely been validated of the emotional trauma i have from my dad. People always expect me, the child to compromise but not the adult man who's past 50
Yes let's be unique and focus on our own futures!
It’s SO important to set your kids up for success. I wasn’t taught this either since my parents did everything for me. It really erodes your self-confidence and even in my early 30s, I still feel behind. I liked the trauma points and #2 as well. 😊
My parents were the same way. I remember being 13 and wanting to learn how to wash my clothes. My parents refused to show me how to work the washing machine. The same with cooking. I asked my mother to show me how to cook. Her response was that I really didn’t want to know…Looking back at all of this, I can’t understand why a parent wouldn’t want to teach their children anything. I had to learn a lot about life the hard way, getting into a lot of debt along the way…Now in my later years, I’m debt free and down sizing my life. If I had children, I would definitely have taught them how to do for themselves at an early age because it really does improve your self esteem when you know you can do for yourself!
Victim blaming is never helpful. Ever. When we claim it is our fault we cant say know, we are saying we deserve to be abused. And the more we keep telling ourselves, we deserve cruelty, the less power we have to defend ourselves.
I acted tough for years, but in reality I only learned to say NO and ended the cycle of abuse, when I stopped accepting ANY blame or responsibility for other peoples bad choices.
Instead I started being kind to myself and caring for myself. Then for the first time in almost 20 years I started healing from severe depression and anxiety, and started finding happiness and balance in my life. ♥️
Agree, you can't just lie down and accept whatever it is that bugs you just coz of your age. Like me, i'm now in my 40s but I started law school in my late 30s because I was not happy with my career and where it is headed, so I'm doing something about it.
Beautiful video. I’m sorry about your mom
Right after this I had my daughter open the Bible to a random page, and she landed on Sirach 6-18. The passage is called, "the Sin of Pride." And what is revealed is that with pride comes torment and pain. And not just for you, but for everyone around you-- when people hurt you, they weren't just hurting you; they hurt themselves, they hurt the victim's family, and they hurt the victim's friends/community as well.
Our actions seriously mean things. And as a cradle Catholic I've always struggled very hard with the weight of that thought. But if you embrace it, things get better.
I thought it was beautiful enough to share. And even if you don't believe in Jesus Christ, it's objectively, definitively true and we all know it deep down :)
Thank you so much for your vulnerability, and for your kind, well-thought-out words.
I really needed this, thanks again.
**Edit: here's a link if you want to read the passage for yourself❤🔥
bible.usccb.org/bible/sirach/10
I think you’re bang-on regarding trauma and competition. As someone who lost a parent in childhood, I have gone through much of life wondering whether there would be some sort of sympathy payoff coming my way. In fact, I’ve felt resentment towards some friends who have lost parents in middle age being able to grieve as adults - I know that sounds pathetic! Of course, there’s not going to be some public fanfare over your past trauma. Good friends will support you as you work on yourself but you must do the heavy lifting yourself and deal with grieving in your own way.
I’m 19 , I have been feeling lost and damaged. Only the introduction of your video made me feel something good about life.
I will keep watching.
Thank you💗💗💗💗.
I'm 18 and I also feel a little lost and I'm not very sure about what I want in my life but I know that is normal and I guess it's good to ask myself what I want in my life to progress. Greetings!!
You are so right about the best years! I'm 56 and living life better
I turned 40 last year and 41 this year, and I have to say, this is my favorite decade so far. I loved turning 40. I feel so much more confident than I did in my 30's (let alone 20's) and I wish I had known life would get this good. And that you can still look quite young at 40 (and feel young!)
I know exactly what you mean. My parents have been married for 41 years and I will be turning 40 years old this year.
I don't know if you gonna read this, but this is my first time see you online, and I kinda surprise I met someone, lost her mom at 9yo, to 39 yo mom. because I lost my mom when I was 8, to 38yo mom. Sometime I count my life only until 38, so I was always think: health is important & life is short!. oh, my dad was not an alcoholic thankfully, but he also passed away 8 years ago (2015, 15 years after my mom passed away). being spiritual (in catholicism) help a lot in my healing proccess, but I found it as an ongoing process.
LOL, I'm not sure when your exact birthday, but my birthday was about 2 weeks ago! what a coincidence!
Your son being so thankful for his Christmas gift was precious.
He was so happy ☺️
Happy birthday. Thanks for making this video. I turned 30 last year and I didn't deal with it very well. The internet is filled with 20 something year olds giving life advice. But, I want advice from older people.
1. Never put any person on a pedestal, it means you are beneath them.
2. Do you have a “business” idea? Awesome! Now go and get it done. Don't let others talk you into it.
3. Motivation is temporary, but turns into dedication with a pinch of discipline. So clench those teeth!
4. Only women and children are loved unconditionally.
5. You are male and < 175 cm. Good luck with the ladies. You are complete and amazing, even on your own.
Thank you dear! I have had the same feelings about getting 40! But my best life begann right then! Best wishes!
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Happy birthday, beautiful lady!!
I just turned 40 as well and lost my mom to cancer at pretty much same age!
It's amazing how we're never alone in suffering...
Thanks for such a valuable message in this video!! So, so precious!
I’m so thankful that UA-cam has allowed me to connect with you and all of the others like us, because there are a lot more than we realize and it helps us not feel so alone. ❤️ Cheers and happy belated birthday to you too, Alessandra.
Happy birthday❣🥳... I'm 59 and so thankful for your channel... super advice for us all!
@@karynnrady8970 💞
You're resilient ♡♡
Beautiful friends talk to each other also like this ❤
A to Zen life is our muscle/GURU
I’m loving your comments, Mary 😂❤️
I like the portion on ‘suffering isn’t a competition’. This was hard to understand for me until I reached my 30’s. I’m still working on changing my thoughts/feelings but I can understand this better today.
❤ you don’t look a day over 20. 40 is an amazing age. Your advisor, more confident, and certainly know what you want. Thank you for sharing! Always a pleasure watching your video.❤
you are a strong woman, thanks for sharing your story and inspiration
I lost my mom when she was 66. She was about to retire. Her death taught me so many things. My life completely changed directions because of her death. When you talked about getting older than your mom when she died, I think about that too. I have about 10 years but I still consider it. I related to so much of what you shared. Thank you for being authentic
Omg what a beautiful family!!! I'm in my 20s and it's really nice to see someone living their best life in their 40s
Forever Young!🙂
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“There’s just time and what you choose to do with it” also lessons and skills over things for your kids. Loved these two.
Thank you for this video! I'm just discovering your channel and really enjoying it. I'm 56, and I agree that as you get older, you stop caring about a lot of things that used to bother you. But sometimes you also lose interest in things you used to be passionate about, and that's okay. My advice is to never stop learning and exploring and being curious. New interests will rise. It's okay to let go of hobbies, careers, places, etc. and try new things. Just because you did something for years doesn't mean it's still right for you now.
Hi from Japan. I am also 40.
Yes. Age is just a number.
I am so glad you knew 七転び八起き(Nana Korobi yaoki).
We can enjoy our mature life from now on!!
The best and most valuable "things" you can give your children are - your time, love, knowledge, and attention. Everything else comes secondary.
I’m older than you, and to be honest… I don’t actually feel old at all. I think being healthy and working out a lot back in the day helped set a good foundation. I’m still active, although not nearly as much as I should be.
I'm almost 35 with a kinda basic worker job, no degree, and wondering if it's late to get it finally after 11 years away from school.
So thank you, a little speck of hope is always something
thats how ur brain tricks u
It’s never too late to get additional training for yourself to improve your life…Maybe you could learn a trade. People in the trades always have work. Just try not to get yourself in debt by taking out school loans!
dont get fooled by some utuber selling false hope. the world is cruel and reality is harsh
@@user-xp1mn8lq3n Wow, that’s really sad that you feel that way; I’ve never felt that way!
@@cherylT321 u seem to be very upset and angry
Happy birthday! I enjoy your videos a lot. I am 63 so there’s many of your viewers that do not think 40 is old!
What a beautiful home you have.
You are a wonderful lady. Brilliant example to your children. Brave. Admirable. I thank God for you that despite all your losses and experiences you still advise not to underestimate or not to criticise others. I can see in your face and voice how hard this video may have been. Thank you for sharing ❤
Thank each of you for sharing. hugs!
So so glad your video was on my homepage! Such great advice, especially around seeing time as you’re most value currency. Subscribed! X
I've just turned 30 and I feel like my best years are yet to come. Growing up was so hard and confusing. I feel better every year I get older.
thats how ur brain tricks you
I'm 16
u got any advice worth sharing?
@@omgLaven of course! 1. Don't be afraid of growing up, it's scary but once you embrace it it turns out great, no need to run away from responsibilities, it builds your character! 2. always remember everything it's temporary: situations, emotions, even the most of relationships. If you feel miserable, don't stay miserable. Don't romanticize suffering and mental illness, seek for joy; 3. Study, study, study, whatever, just stay curious and use your teenage/youth years to study a lot cause it really makes a difference in your life, be aware of the world before and around you; once you work you gain money but oftentimes you don't have much time to study or do anything else; I'll stop here (:
@@padmeasmr ok! thanks so much ( ╹▽╹ )
I am with you on the parenting stuff and the money literacy. I am a broke single mother not receiving child support or any other help from a coparent. I think about all of the ways I could have avoided this had I been better educated and more money aware. The things I am not in my late 30s learning the hard way… and plan on teaching my little girl so she never feels trapped by a man, an employer, a bank etc. It is not too late to learn this stuff or change it, but I think about the progress and security I did miss out on without understanding finances at a young age.
So wise, so deep, so interesting, thank you! 🙏🦋🌞
Awwwww, you look soooo much like your mum, your mum is living through you.
She looks amazing for being 40.
Soon 39!I’m actually looking forward to some adventures.I don’t feel different from when I was 29 🥰🥰🥰
You have such a warm and kind energy to you. I’m only 25 so nearly half your age but I look up to you a great deal. Growing up, I never had a stable motherly figure and was predominately raised by my father. But your videos really help and I appreciate this advise
40 here - 1. Take care of your health, even if that just means eating fresher and cleaner. It matters. 2. The best thing about Money and Wealth is that you can buy is freedom, not things. 3. Friends will come and go, don’t take it personal, everyone is on a different path.
I tried to watch this video,
maybe it‘s because it was an emotional topic, but somehow your voice felt like you‘re about to cry any second all the time. made me want to cry too 😅
1. My mantra: I can do it 2. My song: Put one foot in front of the other 3. The sage advice my sister imparts to her dog when he's ready to eat something outside, Leave it. I say it when I want to ruminate over something someone did to me, how I got used, cheated, victimized, etc. Leave the thought and your bad luck behind you
I lost my mum to cancer at age 6 & my youngest brother at just a few weeks old. I was the eldest of 4 kids who lost them both.. I'm grateful for the memories and the perspective it brings to such a short life.. it really directs you into purposeful living even through the really tough times.
Thank you very much Madame for sharing your great advices with me. I loved how you explained them. ❤