WHAT NO ONE TELLS YOU ABOUT MARRYING AN OLDER MAN | MY REAL LIFE EXPERIENCE
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My husband is 15years older than me and I never regret marrying him cos when you talk of care, going all out for me, plans and achieving that goals he's there. God bless him for me
Thank god for good husbands!! 😍
You’re blessed my sister
Thanks my darling. Mine is 20 years older than me and I enjoy him left right and center
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As a clinical psychologist is sounds as though you are dealing with a man that has Narcissistic Personality Disorder or even borderline personality disorder. Please take the time to look up Narcissistic Disorder and the abuse that comes along with it. Lastly, you only have one you. Love yourself my friend and ask yourself this one question, “IS THIS THR BEST GOD HAS FOR ME?” Once you get to yourself and answer that one question that along will guide you towards your future. Best wishes…
It's not about the age that matters, it's about the personality of the man.
I've seen men of young age who beat their wives to the point of miscarriage and I've seen older men who treat their young wives with honour. It's all about the man himself and not the age.
I agree... and I stated that in the video too.
Thank you so much 🤗
I married a man 23 years older and I wish I could start over. You raised valid points I should have considered. The reasons I thought marrying a much older man would be a good idea for me have been painfully debunked in just 2yrs of marriage. Every mistake has been an open wound, a question of my loyalty. I've forgotten what's it's like to be myself. Don't know long I can go on feeling less than. My advice to marriage with a man with over 10years gap is DON'T DO IT. It's too hard and if my case anything to go by, I dare say you will never win. Win win situations on core issues are almost impossible. That being said a happy marriage is still possible only if you choose who's right for you. And I think the way you do that is to first know yourself by yourself, work with God even before marriage is on your horizon, and then counselling/therapy. Premarital counseling by professionals should be a must. It's easier to get a marriage license than to get a license for even as little as driving. So do your homework and it'll increase your chances for success
Hmmn... you spilled so much truth here. Thank you for being so vulnerable. I pray people listen. Thank you so much again and I pray that you both find a way to go about your differences. I think you both need to try therapy. Our mindset in Africa is that don't fix it unless it's completely broken, but therapy is not just for broken marriages. If it's a church or someone you both respect, please do.
Marriage is too long for you to not be happy.
WISDOM... thank you 🙏🏿
Thank alot sis.
You're damaged goods to begin with 🤣
If a man is making you feel less than that can happen with a man around your age too. I know from experience. Also, ppl can lose their identity in a relationship with a person around their age as well.
It doesnt matter the man's or woman's age its there personality and morals. My husband is 21 years my senior and he is the best very caring, nurturing, and the best sex ever as compared to younger men.
This is interesting! Please, how old were you when you got married? Thank you!
Some ‘ old men’ sabi knack well well such that they turn their virgin/ inexperienced young wives into sex freaks and they won’t be able to keep up with the ‘ libido monsters’ they have created. 😅😅
young women get energy and that energy can be overwhelming. They expect good sex all the time. Unfortunately, the spirit is willing but the ‘Kondo’ cannot keep up.
It’s not about the age gap. How old is the man? A 45 year old is not considered old even if he married a 20 year old woman. Yes there’s a big age gap but the man is not old so sexual function is still great.
The “he’s not going to do tiktoks or go canoeing” took me COMPLETELY OUT! 🤣 Sometimes l thought maybe we are too different and that’s because we are!! 13yrs is a HUGE gap but this video put EVERYTHING in perspective and he’s really a great man and means well now that it’s been broken down the way you did. I just have to keep remembering we come from 2 different times so we think differently and try to find a balance in the middle.
Hi Victoria, My wife is 18 years younger than me. Yes, there was a huge generational gap! We’ve been together for 13 years, married for 8. I came with a LOT of baggage! While dating, we would pray everyday at 1800, whether we were next to each other or not, and ask GOD to end the relationship if it was not his will. Well, we’re happily married. We both had to have a lot of patience with each other. But I love her as Christ loves the church. This kind of relationship can work if GOD is involved. Although a lot of the things you say are very true. I’m black American, she’s (Ghana, French, German). So there are some cultural difference too. Keep up the good work. ✊🏾
I like your sincerity, I am married to an older man who is older than me by 26 years, and I will tell you that it is easier if you have Christ in the inside of you, this helps the relationship going. Am glad God is in the center of your relationship so He mediates. Keep the faith going. God bless 🙏
It me 🙋🏽♀️ I am wife 💍😂♥️ Love your Statement hubbs 😎☠️
Seriously, you are right… prayer and patience 🙏🏾♥️ and TRYING to understand each other ♥️🥰
you have said it all. God in the equation and the only denominator is all any marriage needs. younger or older
@@MissFlorenceBeauty I love both of your sincerity. May God bless your marriage.
@Citrus Fruit you are Nigerian🤣. The mere mention of ancestor🤣❤❤
Marriage is not for boys and girls but for matured people.Wifes were not created to be sex mate but help mate.Hence it's important to marry for the right purpose.The right purpose in mind will guide you in choosing the right person to spend the rest of your life with.
Absolutely!
Thank you so much 🤗
I always liked to marry a man older far older than I am. I don't want younger guys showing me disrespect and sex pressure.But I've realized most older older men have problem. With their age they battle insecurities with young woman around them and they disturb you with it. And some of these older men when you date or walk with them, you will understand why they are old and single. Which tells you that maturity does not necessarily come with age.
Absolutely! Thank you for your comment.
True
I find young guys so disrespectful, offensive and painfully immature
@@Africangyal have you experienced a baby adult man before? You will run for your life 🙄. That's what am dealing now. I've come to understand that maturity does not come with age but wisdom is divinely given.
Exactly 💯
I married an older man and for some years I taught he was a good men but as time went on he became abusive, controlling, and tried to dominate my entire life. Behind close doors he was acting so immature. And childish sometimes I wonder if I was with a grown man/ or a grown boy.When he couldn't get his way. He would threaten, intimidate and become violent and explosive. I couldn't express my opinion, feelings, or just simply disagree with him on certain things without him exploding. I really don't want another older man again. Or any men that has those characteristics. I wasn't treated as an equal. He always wanted all the say and control in the marriage. I was treated as a child and spoken down to like a child. He had good aspects and things about him but these behaviour will ruin a relationship.
Oh wow! I am so sorry you had to go through this. Not all of them are like that. And there are some younger men too who behave worse. You just need to find the right person regardless of the age.
Thanks so much for sharing, I truly hope you find the right man for you.
Same here my sister! I was 23yrs and he was 41. That was the worst mistake I made in my life. Older men behaves childish, intimidate, violent, insecure. and cheaters as well. God forbid!
@@VictoriaFash yes I know there are older men out there who feel honoured and blessed to have a younger woman. They treat you like gold. I have seen it. I really thought my husband was one of them but I was wrong. And to be honest I want someone my age or a few years older. I hope I find the right person one day.
@@ProphetessDubemEmeanaTV so sorry oh wow I married my husband at 23 he was 40 something. At first he was everything a man should be and was treating me so well and good but like you said all these bad behaviour comes out. They treat you like a child and try to control and dominate your life. I really taught at this age he would have been mature and learned from the past. Truly it was also the worst mistake I made in my life marrying him. Just a sorry excuse for a man. After 7 years of marriage I feel I waited my time and life . Wish you the best.
True 🙏🏽
Older men love genuinely and are very jealous, but super caring my husband is 17 year older than me and its been marvelous
I just stumbled on your channel and it’s really nice to find someone that talks about what it entails being with an older man.
Thank you for watching ❤
Hi Victoria, loving the topic! I was married for 30years to a gorgeous man 11years older than me. He was youthful in spirit sexy, very giving and funny. Am not saying our marriage was a bed of roses, because we did have our challenges, however had a deep friendship, fondness and respect for each other.
Awww... that's beautiful! Thanks so much for sharing!
What mean '' was'' is he not alive again ? Or you divorce ?
@@fabstouchcosmetics3191 my husband passed on eight years ago.
Oh, so sorry. Pray you meet another soon. But remember, no two people are the same.
Hello Pretty, I felt honoured you shouting out my name, may Almighty God ,Jehovah honour you in return.
Do you know what adhere me to your videos?1.Your spiritual and scriptural views on any topic you're treating, showing your family's spiritual background and nature.2.Citing your family as an example from real life experience I mean. 3.Always putting God first even before commencing your presentations.Topics that affect lifes of young and old alike positively, that of this video inclusive,very educative ,especially those about settling down for similar or not can start giving it consideration after watching this video.I admire you as a couple 💑 and the supportive role your hubby is always playing. God bond your union the more to his glory,and may He inspire you the more 💪🤛♥️🙏
Awww... this is so sweet to watch, thank you so so much, o deeply appreciate you ❤
@@VictoriaFash Always my delight ♥️
Happy when I found your name. Eunice
@@trulysensitive5620 Thanks,love you ⚘
Great talk Victoria. The greatest hit point is the generational gap which can only work if the man plans to be teachable and not father the lady but befriend her. I love the word compromise you used, the be teachable and ability in bending to whom you love is a great virtue that many men lack. For example: like playing with a child, you really wanna think like the child to get to play with the child. I also note that the age does not have to be large for all these negative sides to occur. You are right, you really have to be willing to let go and be patience because the strong truth is that they mostly do not change, the women adjust painfully after a lot of clashes. Its not necessarily maturity but more of a fixed mind set. Some of them are very adapting and changing though. A level of enlightenment and maturity actually makes compromise and adjusting to your younger partner easier for a better flow in relationship. Older men are mostly controlling without a second thought, this is because of the difference in number - age not that they have a lot of lessons learned experiences that bring forth such desired maturity.
Great and fluent flow dear.
Thank you so much for your insightful comment
Totally agree
The pros and cons of marrying an older man is well explained. Make a video of the pros and cons of a young woman marrying a young man who is the same age with her.
I'll look into it. Thanks so much for watching ❤
My hubby is 27 years older than me, and he is the best. My ex who was 35 at the time was horrible. I'm so happy being with him. My birth mom is not but she will have to accept it.
It is well. Wishing you guys the very best 👌
How many years have you lived together?
How long before you were engaged?
Thank you mama Vicky… I’m glad I listened to you today because I’m soo angry with the one I’m dating now. He’s 8years older than me and this video has helped me a lot
Awww.... I hope you guys resolve things. Thank you so much for watching! ❤♥
My fiance is 27 years older than me, ofcos he was married previously I was too. He is so caring and this is my happiest relationship.
I'm glad you're happy I your relationship
27???? more than a 2 decades. that is gross.
God bless your home.
27yrs older??? and im refusing to date this girl who is 10yrs younger than me??? Omo!!! its like i have to try it ooh
@@Mary-dk7mc i wonder what they talk about .. i wonder how they vibe, i wonder what the entire thing feels like... 27yrs is almost 3 decades
Your gives (wo)men realities to think about, and discuss before marrying a person with a whole generational gap in age difference. Age is not just a number when it comes to intergenerational gap in marriage, or even dating. Great video, and very good job.
Thanks so much ❤
I literally felt the seed of ministry in you in this video. Wow! This is deep practical "pastoral" counseling you hit here.
This video is something I will refer back to a lot.
Thank you so much! 😍
I totally agree with you @jesutobiayobami. All of the right cords were struck in this output. I especially appreciate her position on sex outside of marriage.
Well done Victoria!!!
Age does not necessarily means maturity and some people are actually over mature that you can’t play anyhow while some actually like being naughty regardless of their age. It’s all depends on individual and personality. I’ll just say know who you marry and be prayerful 🙏🏾
I once had a man who's 17 years older than I am ask me out. He's actually a pastor and has a huge congregation. He talked about marriage straight on but what annoys me was that he always sounded like I'll be lucky to be called his wife and that's because he's already established. He's also domineering and my suggestions were totally irrelevant. I just had to quit because I could smell danger if I ever settled with him.
I'm glad I did though. I want a man I can build with.
Wow!!! This is the kind of comment I love to read! Love your courage to let go cause I could smell danger just reading your comment!
@@VictoriaFash Thanks a lot for your words. They always sooth my soul
For any guy that is domineering, what you say never makes sense. Your opinion never matters and I guess that's where respect and understanding comes in(I hope I'm right tho😂)
I'm glad you left tho and I hope you find someone that would want to build with you too❤
@@thatgirlderah You're right. Everyone deserves to be respected and its quite draining when its coming from just one party. I'm glad I walked away and I believe God will fix me right. Thanks dear
No no no, you need already made men, this is the beginning of the Feminism you called for... sexual liberation is good for all...
This video is so timely and so relatable!
I had been in a relationship with someone 19years older and I must say I didn't really enjoy the relationship cos I was younger and didn't really know what I wanted so I felt I was just living my life to satisfy him!!
So,growing up and getting older,I decided I wasn't going to do relationship with a significant age difference again but I still got men in that category coming after me!
I am in my early twenties now and always get men in their early thirties after me!
So the age difference is usually from 9,10,13 yrs and above!
Surprisingly,I am now in a relationship with someone who's 10yrs older!
Honestly,it's been awesome!
I still feel being myself around him though we haven't really spent time together cos it's a long distance thing but it's all positive vibes I must say!!
Sometimes,what we say we don't want and can't do is what God brings our way!
As humans,we conclude on how we want our lives to be and forget that God knows best!!
I am grateful to God for my new partner and look forward to spending a lifetime with my new partner!!
Wow! This is interesting... thank you so much for sharing
Honey if you were 20 yrs or less and that man was 19 years older, then he was a predator. You were too young and he preyed on you.
Love this. You speak so well which makes it easy to listen to you even when the video is half an hour long 😅❤🙌.
Awww... thanks so much ❤
Am still here. I glued to watching her. She's making sense🙂👊
Being older doesn't mean the person is matured🤝🤝🤝some of them carry their age for head and don't like expensive jokes ooo😆😆😆😆,you dare not slap their head oo or else they will call umunna meeting for you🤣🤣🤣
Yeah some men feel coz they are older than you, jokingly slapping them is a sign of disrespect.most of the them are too serious in the relationship, no jokes no play then it gets boring.
Wow!!! No be small umunna meeting 😄😄
Thanks for watching ❤
😂😂😂
I'm 37 but I am 22 inside.
I'm married to an older man and age is no problem. I kiss his bald head and sure I have playfully slapped his head .it's different for everyone. I'm blessed
Marriage is not by age but by maturity of the mind
Same difference!
Thanks Vicky. I learnt a lot from this video. I just started a relationship and the age difference is 8 years. Sometimes they don't have time for the things we younger gen are interested in. I asked him one time which love song artist he knows and he mentioned styl plus😳😲🤣. I was like whatttt!!! He couldn't think of recent one. And truthfully, it's like one isn't feeling loved cos we expect them to behave in a certain way or do certain things and they aren't. It just gets one thinking. Do i really wanna go through this?
It is well o
Thanks for the enlightenment.
Styleplus since when?? 😄😄😄
It is well Sis, wishing you the best in your relationship 💗
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Sounds awesome 👌
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Jst get to listen to you for the first time and I'm so trilled at your wisdom. You're making a whole lot of sense with a balance view of life. Love you sis.
Thanks so much ❤
I am married to an older man, and I will not change him for the world.
I thank God Almighty for the day he saw me when I read the Bible at my uncles, wedding.
Perfect! Perfect ! Perfect viewpoints 🥰
The ex's are alive and they are baggages' and 'shareholders' , especially if there is a child or children in between them. Be ready for frequent drama.🙄
Both of you seen it all
So true sis ❤ I had to subscribe because these are things I wish I knew before now 😅
Aww... thanks
This is a great video. It was on my feed and seldom get Nigerian youtuber sugesstions. I diceded to watch. 1 of the points that made me laugh was "maturity". I once dated an older man. He was the most immature man iv ever been with. 🤣🤣🤣
Awww... Thank you so much for watching! ❤♥
Some of them are like that, honestly, supper immature.
I also married an older man and I am loving it a lot sis. Married for 6 years now with two kids and it's sweet 🧁🧁🧁
All the benefits on point 🤙
I made that decision after I had a bad experience from a younger ex- who kept regretting after I got married 👌
Aaaaah🤣🤣🤣🤣 yes ooo your $ex life will be interesting 🤔💕 (in marriage yes)
New here and I am loving your content already.
Yes there will be clashes and differences between mindsets.
But with the love and understanding you keep sorting it out with patience.
Aww... I love this so much! thanks for sharing your experience.
@Emilia Ifeoma: Hahaha, I love regretting ex especially those ones that don't deserve it.
I am happy for you and I hope and pray you continue to enjoy your marriage. For the record I am a man.
Glad it work out for you it can be wonderful with the right person. And the most important thing is them being teachable and willing to try new things. Putting in the effort on both sides makes any relationship work.
I relocated in another country hoping that this older guy who invited me will help me out with my stuff. He showed me a face that’s totally different from what I saw of him. The one who’s helping me now is the young dude he was living with. That old guy turned out to be jealous, manipulative, stingy and the dirtiest man I ever knew. He was afraid I’m going to fall for the young guy so he manipulated me into thinking the guy was a loser. When I started talking to the guy I realized everything the old man told me was fake and he actually owes a lot to the young guy. Id say never go more than 10 years. They become nasty at a certain age and resent everyone especially if nature wasn’t kind to them.
Girl. Check out a lady UA-cam called Salkis Re
1000% TRUE!!!!!!!
Don't be a bigot, don't generalise base on your experience.
I know some people here in the UK and they are more clean and neat than their far-too younger wives. Most younger ladies don't even know how to take care of their private areas properly and some smell horribly.
@@ay1ism it's an opinion from an experience not generalised.
Sorry about your experience, but nit all of them are like that
I have a strong desire for my husband to be older than me.I don't even know why.Thanks for this
I had the same 😄
Thanks for watching ❤
Me too and I also don't know why I have that desire
Mary Ngugi God will answer us according to his perfect will sis
me too but the serious one 😅
Did/do you have a good relationship with your father? That could be it. It may also be a legitimate preference.
Thank you so much Mme Vicky. You've been a blessing to me since I started following you last year. May God continue to give you wisdom and bless your husband for letting you be a blessing to us all.
Amen, thanks so much
I have been married to my husband for over 26years with 2 wonderful boys.I was 25years while he was 43years old when we met.The age gap was not an issue at the beginning but as we get older now,the age difference is so obvious and it's affecting every aspect of our lives.He is going to be 72yrs while I am going to be 54yrs this year.I still feel like in my 30s while he is not interested in catching up with me which is affecting how I see or relate to him(I see him as a father figure now rather than my husband of over 26yrs).I still love him but the age difference is affecting the other room too as he is not interested anymore/issue with men getting old in the other room function. I'll advise any lady who wants to marry an older man to consider that at a later stage of their lives/relationship.Very frustrating o
Hmmmn... so true. This is the aspect that many ladies don't consider. We are focused on today and forget that age comes for us all. It is well Sis. Wishing you the best in your marriage.
@ladtmore ladymore:
I was about to comment on the same thing until I saw your comment. You are dead right. You (both male and female) tend to demand for more sex in your forties and this is the reason why our forefathers younger wives cheated on them with their age group when they hit that age coz their husbands is now in their 70s or late 60s when your sex drive becomes to weak. But you are in your 50s now aren't you tired yet? Lol, am just asking.
I’m 21 and currently talking to a 37 year old guy. Everything you’ve just said is my biggest fear about being with him. Of course we’re still young now but it gets to a point where I have to be his carer, I want someone closer to my age or at most 10 years older. He’s an amazing guy but I can’t help thinking about the future and how difficult our relationship might turn out.
@@emmadiri7189 i feel you they don't want something serious in their🤦🏾♀️ ( I'm in 25 yrs) and i see so much old men want something serious with me than guys of my age 😭
You’ve enjoyed a good 26 years together. What’s the problem if he doesn’t want to catch up? Let him rest.
Thanks for the insight, this video is very informative especially for people that have a thing for older men.
Absolutely! Thanks for watching ❤
I am older, you are correct in saying there can be advantages with the 'bedroom' life. That applies to guys who have been paying attention to knowing how the body of a woman works, the areas in our bodies that get us there. If he is absent emotionally, he doesn't learn much, all that works is for him to be pleased. You sound very happy, enjoy your partner and God bless.
You're right! thank you for your comment!
Nkoro how are you doing?
Marrying an older man is the best option because each one in the relationship has more of what the other wants .
It’s quite different for me , because he’s even more of the outgoing and date type, he always blends into my plans and pulls through.. We discuss new places to visit , new things to try and all, he always tries to fit into the present day .. And definitely the generational difference would always be there, but with him, it’s something that’s understandable between the both of us.. What works for A might not really work for B , plus this world’s full of lotta imperfections.. Happiness and understanding is really what matters
So happy for you!
You mention the experience of the old man when it comes to sex being a positive but you didn't mention the negative of the older man when it comes to sex when he becomes impotent. And the woman is still in her prime or approaching her peak
This video really helped understand a lot of things Victoria. Thanks for being very transparent. 😊👍🏾
You're welcome 😊
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A new subbie!! I’m 23 he’s 31 I’ve been freaking out …😂😂😂You’re absolutely beautiful sis 🥺💕
Aww... you'll be fine love. Thank you
8years difference is not old .
@@Cookie-kh7ys older older older not old
So insightful. Great input. The very first video of yours that I’ve seen. You’re an asset to humanity. Well done, beautiful.
Your husband must be very proud of you I can see how far you’ve metamorphosed in your own marriage by unlearning, learning and relearning. You’ll go far👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Thanks you for your advice, age difference does matter in marriage what matters most is love, sexually some old men are very good in bed and more experienced than younger men , they understood women way sexually, some can handle woman for four hours in bed. It does not mean the older men died earlier than younger woman. Thanks peter mkd.
It was lovely to watch and very educating. Thank you ma. See you in the next video❤
Thanks so much for watching ❤
I lov your content. I and my husband have a seven year gap etween us and we married young. We are on our 30th year together now. The journey has been eventful but good. Yes different libido levels now, but very manageable and still loving.
aww... thanks so much!
Thanks for this educative lesson. You don't do pranks but expensive jokes 😊
Expensive to you, fun for us. That's why you marry your Friend 🥰
Thanks for watching dear 😘
@@VictoriaFash I gerrit ❤️
@@VictoriaFash Why not just do jokes? Does it have to be expensive joke?
This marriage thing has no particular shape, type, its just about getting your right size and be comfortable with it.I have seen the Youngest matured couples, youngest imatured ,oldest matured and oldest immatured, etcMay God help us find the right person. Age is just a number sometimes..
Thank you very much for your point well stated.
This sums it up 💯. No definite sop for it
Hmm, this came in handy, I’m in a relationship with an older man with marriage in view, he doesn’t use any social media platform and he doesn’t take pictures, I am d direct opposite. It’s high time I sat him down and ask some questions, make he no go turn me to old woman 😂
I'm in a relationship with an older guy. Honestly speaking, they are the best you would ever wish to have. Mine too doesn't take pictures tho he's on social media. Some of those things he doesn't want to do, sometimes just try add him up to them at a point, they blend and sometimes they don't. Just don't force things when it comes to those things he doesn't like doing.
For my guyyy, he hates pictures. To him, he's not really photogenic that's why he doesn't force it but I started hyping him. You dress fine you no dress fine, I hype him. He is so confident in taking pictures now that sometimes he would begin to hype himself and all.
Best of luck. I love your vibes tho❤
Everything Derah said. ❤❤
Thanks so much for watching ❤
@@thatgirlderah wow!. Thanks for sharing
@@VictoriaFash Thank you so much for bringing incredible contents. God bless you always ❤
@@adedoyinodedina1539 Thank you so much for taking your time to review this❤
Sincerely speaking; this is one of the most amazing channels I've come across on UA-cam, God bless you real good ma'am, your teachings are top notched!
Aww.. thanks so much 🙏
This is a great message. Thanks for sharing 💛
You're welcome 😊
Amazing video very factual and realistic keep up the good work of helping people.
Nice video! I’m 38 dating a 51. Relationship is really great 😊
I'm the glad! Wishing you the best
Hi Ayodele, this is a very lovely topic and I love the fact that you actually did your research about it. I really enjoyed it and I have subscribed to your channel. Keep it up!
It's Victoria. Thank you so much for watching ❤
@@VictoriaFash oh! I apologise, I don't know where I picked Ayodele.
@@olakunleoladipupo1621 no problem at all 🥰🥰🥰
Some of them will discourage you from Social media, my husband is 8 years older than me and he is living in dark ages!! It's so annoying 🙄 😒
8 years is not really an older man, that's just the way he is. Nothing to do with his age.
maybe he's saying focus on actual living and achieving goals vs being in 5he gossip of social media
He’s right about that. Social media is a trap for many.
I'm 66 male.
I'm laughing at this little girl.
My gf is black, age 44 and I'm white also what's more, she's a francophone and I speak English!
But you know, we're both practicing Catholics and she's very sincere. As for me, I just want a relationship and the more I'm with her the more i appreciate how wonderful she is.
True talk and like you always say it's not for everyone. I am married to an older guy with a generational gap so I can totally relate 😅. Amazing video dear I give it to you, you did well with this video👏👏👏
Thank you so much!
Are you coping fine ma'am, would you advise me to give it a shot
@@abogundebosedejennifer4356 Awww it all depends to be sincere, to be exact, myself and my hubby are 19years apart and I got married at 22 so I got into it early and we have been married for alittle bit over a decade. Sincerely I can't say a definite yes or no. Like Vitoria said you might want to look deeper if you are in your early twenties because for real you haven't really known yourself so for me I had to mature real fast and I have I good support system in terms of good advice giving. Another thing is the baggage they carry along with them babe you need to really have the fear of God to cope and don't put eye into everything because it's a recipe for hypertension. Another thing you should consider is what is really the reason you are getting married to surch an older person if the disadvantage is outweigh the advantage you need to think again. Always know if you partner to be has a child you will have to know that discussion with his ex about the child should be a normal thing so that you no go carry face when they call or you go dey want to sit down to hear everything conversation from beginning to end. Another important thing that can make the relationship stable is boundaries especially if the guy is the one with the children. So everybody's grace differ when comes to this case so until I know the exact age range and actual situation I can say a diffinite yes or no. I wish you the best and hope we can talk some day. Be very prayerful and hear from God because the journey is not a joke.
Praise the Lordddd, ppl who have no problem with older men, God bless you Victoria my name sake, this name na it dey help us
Thank you!
Hello Vic,
I just stumbled on your channel and its amazing!
I particularly love your super energy and contagious awesome vibe..... Weldone ☺️👍
Aww... thanks so much ❤
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You are soo Special, this WISDOMI TIMELY needed in our communities⁹because money or security MUST NOT BE The PRIORITY ... IT SETS UP FOR
FAILURE😢
GET TO KNOW "YOU" BEFORE 😮 THIS LIFESTYLE WAY OF LIVING....CHANGE The VALUE "OURSELVES"
Much 🙏 🫡 and LOVE ❤️ 😍
'just Jo Ann
p.s. My Grandma told me .... "Mama might have, brother MAY have but GOD 😅 BLESSES,
the child who has their "OWN".... HALLEJUAH HALLEJUAH'S ! Decisions are better made without fear and/or desperation...
We MUST check ourselves ...
Our Peace and happiness depends on us "Knowing Ourselves!"
You spoke well my darling, l think l will do a video on this topic soon because one really needs to know about all the points you mentioned and even more before going into an age gap relationship. If you do not have the capacity to carry the baggages that comes with it please think again before saying l do. Age gap relationship is more frustrating when you are in your 20s and truely it gets to a point when you will start growing and developing yourself and the person you are married to will say you have changed;this is exactly what happens because then you have not discovered who you are. Victoria can you please explain that acrobatic moves you talked about😄😄😄. We need talks like this so that people will know what they are going into and then reduce the rate of wahala inside Marriage.
Please do, we need more people talking about this. It's true the 'you have changed' thing. We are humans and are supposed to change and evolve.
🤣🤣🤣🤣... pray for revelation from the Holyspirit
Lots of sense. The wider the age the wider the sense of reasoning in most cases. That leads to control, pressure and frustration if not patiently handled. It's different ball game for people with same year gap too. You may consider a video on same age or little age difference.
I thought I made a right decision marrying an older man with significant age gap but it was the worst mistake of my life.
He nearly quenched my carrier but I had to quickly take to my heels after 13yrs of marriage.
Hi @ngozinjoku. Thank you so very much for having taken to your heels, as you put it.
In my opinion, an abusive, insecure and control freak of a man has far less to do with age differences than with the core of an individual's personality.
As people, we often are just who we are, with all of our idiosyncrasies and behavioral complexities. Be it 20, 30 40, 50, or 60 years old.
I think age has far less to do with our personalities than anything else.
Having said that though, I must admit that a lot of insecure, abusive, and emotionally unstable men and women would prefer to date, or even marry far younger people with the preconceived notion of weilding unhealthy control over their spouses, knowing they have a far greater chance of getting away with it.
Either because of the spouse's general inexperience to life, or often as a result of the spouse's financial dependence on him/her.
Anyone who finds yourself in such a situation simply needs to call it quits and get out of there.
The title of married, in the absence of peace, joy, and happiness, is not worth it.
Well done @ngozinjoku
@@martindahn420 i agree
And this is not the page I searched for..it just appeared and I'm glad it did..
Older men is a NO NO. stick to ur age group. There is a reason they don’t go for their age group and they want a younger one to manipulate.
Not all of them.
@@VictoriaFash men can’t stand to be single. A man who is 10 years and above older .sorry!!! I even realized some older guy didn’t prepare their retirement so they marry a young hard working woman for the survival. Your man was in his 30’s that’s not too bad. 40’s and above sorry 🚩.
@@patriciamulamba7069 I see that all the time in California. These unprepared men go back home and marry, bring her to nurse mostly and he starts a "business" working her ass to death. They don't get it. So many I met came here found out the guy is old school 419 or taxi/ Uber driver or CNA.
@@kellesbestbeaches 🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂😅😅🤣😂. Just imagine!!!!!
@@patriciamulamba7069 you should investigate his wealth before marriage. It is a "sin" to marry a poor old man. What is the benefit for you? Better to struggle with your age group.
This is the first time am watching your video, Am thrilled and your messages in the video is educating, informative and very touching. I learnt alot from this. Pls ma, keep the good work. God bless ma👏🏼👏🏼
Awww.... thanks so much!
Well for me i think ladies should have fun in the best way they can before they get married, waiting to do those suppose to be fun stuff while you are married is not going to be achievable much because being married means building your life together in things that matters the most, i have dated older men while growing up,in my twenties, i desired to marry one but God had a very much different and better plan for me and whom i will marry, my husband is 7yrs older than me but i am way exposed and experienced than him in different ways based on my past relationships, but he is cool with it because he knows he isn't married to a girl who will pressure him to do this and that, i have had my fair share of fun growing up and he also has had his, we are both focus on building, we don't miss nothing because we have had all the fun needed, now we just enjoy being married and have fun in a different way...so Ladies find you and do you before marriage, don't wait for marriage before you start waiting for your man to figure you out and do those things you desired to do while you where single, it's a long process,there is a lot to achieve in marriage!!! Focus on singlehood and enjoy yourself in the best way you can,don't use singlehood to worry for marriage, married phase will come and you will enjoy it, just make sure you love and experience every phase of your growing life,so you don't wish to live one for the other, your experience is your message 😊 don't be waiting for anyone to figure you out,don't be naive, learn and love whom you are becoming,then no man can tell you otherwise, be it old or young...
Thank you for your insightful comment!
Thanks for an insightful video as always. Babe I always run from older men because of the points you explained in this video. May God help me.
For the playing around, older men still do that, some of them to my amazement are still players, even at 60, don’t know when those types will stop
True. I mentioned that
😂😂😂😂 Most men are players, it’s just a matter of self control
It’s more of companionship than a marriageable relationship you need two TVs in the house☝️😂and many friends, age mate’s to mingle with otherwise it’s a very lonely world
Where has this video been? I needed it,thank you sooooooo much.
It's my first time to be here and I'm happy to be here ❤️❤️ no more going back 😊😊
Awww... thanks so much! You are highly welcome!
Your video is awesome. You have said it all. A young woman who wants to marry an older man ( 30yrs or older ) , you should always ask your self if you always wanted to marry a huge generation gap man ? If you can't say YES please, don't do it.Look for younger man. Marrying an older man involves a lot of restrictions. And you must be ready accept them all. Life with older man is awesome if only you can follow whatever will come up with it and pass it with flying colors.
Thank you 🥰
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I've also wanted and attracted to much older men
Am 30 and his 56
Marriage is marriage
Ofcos i dint expect bed of roses but atleast am happy coz i had a previous toxic relationship and we wea mates
Good morning beautiful 😍. You video just pop up , I watched and am loving it. I subscribed straight away 😁😁. You are making sense babes😘😘👊
Awww... Thank you so much! ❤♥
Thank you Mrs Victoria Fash you are always on point
Thanks for watching ❤
A lot of good points indeed, but one very important is that you MUST be having a life purpose that is compatible and headed in the same direction otherwise it really won't work wen each one pulls on different directions in the persuit of vision. Thanks you're a wise lady.
Absolutely! Thank you so much! 💓
This video is so educative!!thank you for sharing!!
Thanks for watching ❤
Thanks so much,great advice hmmmm
my husband to be is 31 years older than me and you know what?
I love him with every single beat of my heart
Awww... that's so sweet 😋
I was almost 45 year older than a girl that l love very much and l treated her very well great respect and in the bed room it great and she said l was great and very satisfied but she refused to marry me because l was about the same age of her father. I told age do not matter as long you are respected and happy. I am financial fit and will never go broke til l die, My business is lucrative and l get close two grand every month from retirement.Her problem is she thinks people will be talking about her. I think she is a people pleaser.
Wow I've really enjoyed this video ☺️so educative
Thanks for watching ❤
Amazing content. Weldone Vicky for sharing such a great insight. You are loved.
Why won’t the older men date and marry older women who had moved around like them? If the older men after jumping around go for much younger women and it gets to time they are not able to satisfy the woman sexually, what will they expect or what will the younger woman be like. I ve seen unsettlable disputes, accusations, lack of trust that is not reported ruling the marriage at some point
True... Thanks so much fir sharing ❤
If a young woman marries a older man she must be ready to leave the streets behind and settle down.
I am blessed........ Thanks for the timely information... God bless ur home🙏
You're absolutely welcome!
Mr Fash is not grandpa yet but later years.Envy you both.Thank God I marry my best friend too.
Yes oo!!!
Thanks for watching ❤
Just the way you laugh I give my subscription
Aww... thanks
Thank you so much, I have really learned so much from this video.
Thanks so much for watching! 😍
I am First time here and I like your points . You are making sense 👍👍👍
Thank you for this video 🎉 I really learnt alot 😊
I have an older boyfriend he just turned 58 yrs old and I'm happy with him and hope we could last forever aswell I can finally say that I have found someone who I am happy with and fits all of my needs and wants yes he has children of his own w/grandchildren too his credentials and mines match very much I thank God got sending him to me I thought I didn't need a older man now I see differently
Thank you for this video.....It came at the right time for me
You're welcome 😊
Sincerely Aunty Vicky mi....this video ehn.....the man I am with is 8years older and it feels like 20years....chai...if not for convictions...I won't do it o.... baggages....gidi ni ooo...it is not easy... sometimes I get tired.
Please pray for the will of God. And direction.
Ditch him ;)
I am dating an older guy, and I'd say it's been fun. Lol... He is always willing to learn what makes me happy cause he knows I am really younger and wouldn't want me to get bored in the relationship.
Like you explained, the feeling is different with an older guy... they are more exact about what they want at this point of their lives. By the side, it really gets cute when I see him portray some childish and playful part of himself (lol... no matter how old, they are still babies)
It's the last line for me!!! So true 😄😄
Thanks so for your comment ❤
You are welcome ☺️
I can reasonate😀
I can relate with the last line 😄
@@VictoriaFash I'm sorry why knowing Kim Kardashian relevant? Is for those who wants to be sleeping around with other men and quite ignorant to your mind. Not conducive in one's life about knowing who's Kim K is...eww. Maybe talk about someone else. I'm sorry but Whoever follows Kim K or Lori Harvey, is a huge red flag especially in relationship or marriage.
“You will need incredible amounts of patience if he isn’t on social media” 😂
I keep hearing this talks about boys or men have had all the "fun" when they were younger and now looking for a serious relationship probably above 30 but I never had any opportunity to have fun, not like it was my decision but I started living as an adult way too early and I never learned how to have fun, now I'm older and have zero experience in a relationship which is a red flag to each and every lady I meet. I'm scared of extra marital affairs in marriage
I understand you, that's why I kept saying not all. Maybe you need to check the kind of ladies you keep going for.
I'm sure there are a lot of ladies out there who would love to be in a relationship with you
@@VictoriaFash I wish there was a space I could send you a voice note
Yeah I agree with her. I guess you should just take it easy. See ehhhn, there are so many girls that would want to be in a relationship with you. Don't rush so that you wouldn't make the wrong decision. Everything will definitely fall in place.
With love from: Derah❤
@@thatgirlderah to date a man without experience? Is that not another sign of "keep him at home and have fun outside?"
@@iwelabibookson2894 experience in what sense please?
My first time. Wonderfully practical. I have subscribed and hope to hear more from you.
Awww... Thank you so much for watching ❤
This topic made me a subscriber...your views are all same with mine , you and I seems to have same age difference with our husband and am happy about it cos that's what I've always wanted thanks for sharing 🥰
Thanks for joining the family 💝
Thanks for subbing! 😍
Good subject 😉
Human relationships is a cradle of humankind.
Keep up with your work we need to laugh 🙂
LOL 🤣
You made a lot of valid points in this video. Thank you for talking about this 😊
Glad it was helpful!
My own is the nastiest cuz firstly he abandons me with pregnancy and comes back three years later and the coming is a very horrible one I swear cuz he beat the hell out of my life and his also a jealous type that doesn't want any family or friend around me but I thank God for my life now
Hello just stumbled on your chanel and the vibe is dope . I Absolutely relate and uve got a new subbie here
Awww... thanks so so much!
Yea, they are financially stable but uses that to control women...
Yes, some do.
Thank you so much Sis Vic. You are really helpinɡ we those about to say yes. God bless you and ɡive you more wisdom.