I've been out for many years and am more attracted to just a normal guy who's comfortable in his own skin. What really attracts me is someone who's really smart and know a lot of something I know nothing about. Sex slows down in a relationship therefore you have to be attracted to someone on something other than sex and being smart about something is what gets me.
haha i agree 100% Sex does slow down and therefore there should be something that keeps you attracted. But what if you are in a relationship and your partner doesnt seem to be as interested in having sex with you?
@@ScorpioKing25 Not unusual. I was in a relationship with a very good looking guy, loved him but wasn't overly wanting to have sex with him. We weren't that compatible sexually but it didn't stop me from loving him.
What you have said is how I have lived my life. I dont really fit in anywhere. I am who I am. Thanks for this video. Im sure there are many of us who think the same. Have a happy and blessed life.
I love your honesty and your kindness. I can relate to what you’re saying. I’m in the closet and I don’t know if I will ever come out. But hopefully some day I have the courage to.
Interesting. Sorry you can't come out I have been in that situation. I would like to know where you are located worldwide. It's hard to imagine someone still having challenges coming out in a Western country nowadays. It would be nice to know what other obstacles remain in this part of the world.
@@nkanyezitshabalala5256-- What "other obstacles"?? Even in a "Western society," let's try the following: -- Family -- Friends -- Job -- Religious community -- Social circle -- Ethnic group. Coming out very well could mean turning your back on one or all of these "obstacles." And that is a trade-off some people are not willing to make.
Come out. Life is way better, you must trust me. Actually, it probably won’t be the event to you. Imagine it to be in your mind. I know people have a holes for family. Put it this way, if someone doesn’t want to accept that part of you, they are not worth having in your life, no matter how much you think they are.
Love this video! I’m neither fem nor super masc, but tend to be a masculine forward guy. Just a normal everyday outdoor loving guy that fishes, hunts, custom woodworker, family man who just happens to prefer men! Sure wish u lived near me. I think we would click and you’re adorable btw.
whenever the masc and fem issue is brought up, i can't help but feel confused about myself i really enjoy the music made by the pop divas but that's the only 'feminine' trait about me. i don't paint my nails, dye my hair, wear women's clothes or watch rupaul's show. for that, i wouldn't say i'm that much fem however, i wouldn't say i'm 'straight-passing' either. my voice isn't really that deep, my manners aren't super masculine i'm somewhere in between and it frustrates me when i see 'masc4masc' people on dating apps cause i know i'm not the most macho man out there but also because i actually am quite attracted to more masculine men... in fact, they are my weakness 🤧❤️
This was your very best commentary! With age and experience, you begin to realize that substance is far more durable than style. Being attractive and contemporary has a very short shelf life but identifying with your core values will benefit you long term.
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I love your transparency. Everything you said was totally spot on. I'm single and pray for someone like you. Whomever you end up with as a partner will be so BLESSED/FORTUNATE! Thanks for sharing.😊
Your videos are always interesting. You consistently live who you are, which is awesome. I think you maybe have had those negative experiences at bars and pride is because you are quite attractive. Still, you deal with all that quite well. Keep being you.
I think what I find attractive is someone who isn't trying too hard or over primped , but also has confidence in themselves. I lack confidence so find it attractive in others. Having said that I've never been in a realtionship and at this stage in my life likely won't ever be.
Listen, I played the field as a younger man way back when, so apart from a few short lived affairs, the longest of which was six months, I remained single. Then 15 years ago I met a guy. We have been civil partners for ten years now and I turn 82 next month. Never give up, but meanwhile, make sure your life is full, make sure your attitude is positive, as that's what attracted my partner, and even if no partner shows up your life will still be the better.
@@Muhluri Good question. I don't think I was ever attractive but It would have helped to know that there was a market for tall slim guys. That wasn't what I was looking for so I didn't rate myself at all. Back in the 70s and 80s there wasn't the same amount of info floating about that there is now. On the other hand I avoided a very dangerous time for infections.
Its not that hard to find just the one for you. Sorry I'm at that point you can be wonderful. But sexually we together are either romantic sex pigs or boy bye lol
I loved this video. I like the fact that your voice is so calm and measured. You're not like the typical UA-camr who is talking 100 miles per hour to make a point. Anyway, i totally agree. I have been with hyper masculine men and they are almost always in this state of either self loathing or just coming to terms with being who they are. Myself, i vacillate between the two spectrums and (not super fem and definitely not super macho) I'm so okay with that. And I'm preferring guys like that myself.
some gays are very feminine and ubmissive in nature and just as some of the straight women would do they lean towards masculine guys and i think it is very easy to understand.
I feel like people see the extremes of both “masc” and “fem” and they are quick to shun the other. Nobody is better than anybody else and that’s the problem. Both skirt on the line of acting like they are better than the other. You can tell how a person truly is when you look at who is around them, masc or not. It’s very telling and Interesting when you see the type of personalities, philosophies, and mentalities that exist inside of them.
So glad to hear you say that. You’re describing me exactly. Too busy working, church, working out, Live in a small town, live on a ranch. Content. Love USA, Am proud to be American… and YES …am voting for TRUMP!
LMAO I was thinking the same. He's feminine to me. Just being honest. He's in the middle, but has feminine mannerisms. Would I consider him masc? Nope lol
@@anthonyblue100 He's a little too feminine for my taste. It's not bad. Everyone should be comfortable however they are. Considering himself masc because he's into sports and lives on a farm? Absolutely not lol. His mannerisms are a dead giveaway
It's so hard to find a masc man like myself I fix things build things I'm ex military I'm not into needy high maintenance people common sense is getting hard to find maybe I'll find a guy like you someday were alot alike
I'm curious. This is something that kind of has to do with this topic. So im attracted to masculin men, but one specific thing many have said is they don't like testicles. What I mean is they specifically like a partner who has tight up close testicles. It's been a very common thing for many I've spoken to. I know this is a lot more sexual than your usual content, but I'm curious as to if you have experienced this.
If you have to tell everyone you’re masc, you’re not actually masc. I’m sorry but this video got funnier and funnier. Please deal with your internalized homophobia because this was sad to watch.
I’m giving your comment a lot of thought. I do agree that a truly masc fella would never need to identify themselves as such. I’m also thinking about your comment on internalised homophobia and starting to re evaluate him. Interesting stuff. 🇦🇺
Omfg yes gays can most definitely be friends!! I have a few myself! Also, it helps that if someone isn't physically attractive to me, I'm not interested so imma be normal when we friends. If I like you, you will know - you'll probably get the vibe that I'm afraid of you 😅🫣
You aren't Masc though. I am starting to see a pattern in your victim mentality from the few videos ive seen. Calling it out. No responses needed. Just highlighting.
He is not especially masculine but not feminine either, just a regular young fella. He doesn’t display the stereotypical affectations which we associate with feminine men (squeaky voice, excitable flapping around etc). I think this is what he’s referring to, rather than the seriously masculine.
Are you guys serious, all RuPaul has to do is open his mouth and it turns me totally off. Nothing to do with homophobia at all, he just doesn’t have any qualities that even remotely interest me.
I've been out for many years and am more attracted to just a normal guy who's comfortable in his own skin. What really attracts me is someone who's really smart and know a lot of something I know nothing about. Sex slows down in a relationship therefore you have to be attracted to someone on something other than sex and being smart about something is what gets me.
Can we be friends love you guys
Yet we're still single...dating pool really pissy😂
haha i agree 100% Sex does slow down and therefore there should be something that keeps you attracted. But what if you are in a relationship and your partner doesnt seem to be as interested in having sex with you?
@@ScorpioKing25 does sex feel good
@@ScorpioKing25 Not unusual. I was in a relationship with a very good looking guy, loved him but wasn't overly wanting to have sex with him. We weren't that compatible sexually but it didn't stop me from loving him.
What you have said is how I have lived my life. I dont really fit in anywhere. I am who I am. Thanks for this video. Im sure there are many of us who think the same. Have a happy and blessed life.
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I love your honesty and your kindness. I can relate to what you’re saying. I’m in the closet and I don’t know if I will ever come out. But hopefully some day I have the courage to.
Interesting. Sorry you can't come out I have been in that situation.
I would like to know where you are located worldwide. It's hard to imagine someone still having challenges coming out in a Western country nowadays. It would be nice to know what other obstacles remain in this part of the world.
@@nkanyezitshabalala5256family bonds who still may hang ups about for religious reasons
@@nkanyezitshabalala5256-- What "other obstacles"??
Even in a "Western society," let's try the following:
-- Family
-- Friends
-- Job
-- Religious community
-- Social circle
-- Ethnic group.
Coming out very well could mean turning your back on one or all of these "obstacles." And that is a trade-off some people are not willing to make.
@@nkanyezitshabalala5256Great Question!
Come out. Life is way better, you must trust me. Actually, it probably won’t be the event to you. Imagine it to be in your mind. I know people have a holes for family. Put it this way, if someone doesn’t want to accept that part of you, they are not worth having in your life, no matter how much you think they are.
It's like Gays vs Homosexual Men.
I appreciate you more and more each video. You are so calming!
"You do you" should be everyone's only mantra; therefore, thanks for being you, 'cause you're the only you we have!
Love this video! I’m neither fem nor super masc, but tend to be a masculine forward guy. Just a normal everyday outdoor loving guy that fishes, hunts, custom woodworker, family man who just happens to prefer men! Sure wish u lived near me. I think we would click and you’re adorable btw.
whenever the masc and fem issue is brought up, i can't help but feel confused about myself
i really enjoy the music made by the pop divas but that's the only 'feminine' trait about me. i don't paint my nails, dye my hair, wear women's clothes or watch rupaul's show. for that, i wouldn't say i'm that much fem
however, i wouldn't say i'm 'straight-passing' either. my voice isn't really that deep, my manners aren't super masculine
i'm somewhere in between and it frustrates me when i see 'masc4masc' people on dating apps cause i know i'm not the most macho man out there but also because i actually am quite attracted to more masculine men... in fact, they are my weakness 🤧❤️
YOU COULD NEVER FIT THE STEREO TYPE! But that makes you SO GENUINE and listened to.
This was your very best commentary! With age and experience, you begin to realize that substance is far more durable than style. Being attractive and contemporary has a very short shelf life but identifying with your core values will benefit you long term.
I love your transparency. Everything you said was totally spot on. I'm single and pray for someone like you. Whomever you end up with as a partner will be so BLESSED/FORTUNATE! Thanks for sharing.😊
Jaks. Blessings on you.
And the deep voice.. even hotter
You are the best balanced Man I have seen You know who & what your all about keep up the good work sir work 🙋♂️👍⭐️💙🌈
Your videos are always interesting. You consistently live who you are, which is awesome. I think you maybe have had those negative experiences at bars and pride is because you are quite attractive. Still, you deal with all that quite well. Keep being you.
I think what I find attractive is someone who isn't trying too hard or over primped , but also has confidence in themselves. I lack confidence so find it attractive in others. Having said that I've never been in a realtionship and at this stage in my life likely won't ever be.
what's stopping you from getting into a relationship?
Listen, I played the field as a younger man way back when, so apart from a few short lived affairs, the longest of which was six months, I remained single. Then 15 years ago I met a guy. We have been civil partners for ten years now and I turn 82 next month. Never give up, but meanwhile, make sure your life is full, make sure your attitude is positive, as that's what attracted my partner, and even if no partner shows up your life will still be the better.
@@Muhluri Good question. I don't think I was ever attractive but It would have helped to know that there was a market for tall slim guys. That wasn't what I was looking for so I didn't rate myself at all. Back in the 70s and 80s there wasn't the same amount of info floating about that there is now. On the other hand I avoided a very dangerous time for infections.
Its not that hard to find just the one for you. Sorry I'm at that point you can be wonderful. But sexually we together are either romantic sex pigs or boy bye lol
thanks for sharing your perspective. what you said resonates with me
You are spot on!!! Just being yourself makes you more attractive!
I loved this video.
I like the fact that your voice is so calm and measured. You're not like the typical UA-camr who is talking 100 miles per hour to make a point.
Anyway, i totally agree. I have been with hyper masculine men and they are almost always in this state of either self loathing or just coming to terms with being who they are.
Myself, i vacillate between the two spectrums and (not super fem and definitely not super macho) I'm so okay with that. And I'm preferring guys like that myself.
You look amazing this morning. Life is a buffet eat up, try a bit of everything. I like all kinds of guys. Relax, and go with the flow. Dave
Really well spoken, Jaks
You don't owe anyone a date, a hook up, or even your extended attention in the bar. If they dont like it they can pound sand.
I appreciate you =)
If I lived in your area I'd love to take you to dinner and get to know you better
You Rock! ❤
I had to look up what a crop top was. I thought it was like a woman's gown that exposes shoulders and top of chest, but no , the opposite.
Well said. And also you get more handsome in every video.
Amen, brother! :) Jack
Very helpful. Thanks. -Ken
some gays are very feminine and ubmissive in nature and just as some of the straight women would do they lean towards masculine guys and i think it is very easy to understand.
Yea hear ya! You have a nice voice, and butch they tell me lol Its a compliment, but always felt left out.
thanks so much-- really agree with so much of what you said. plus you are a very handsome guy
Super SUPER HOT guy
Such a cutie! Smooch 🥰🥰😘
Can I be honest? I don't think you are that masc. I don't think you are fem too but you know an in between. You are kinda masc but also fem.
You're beautiful 😉
I feel like people see the extremes of both “masc” and “fem” and they are quick to shun the other. Nobody is better than anybody else and that’s the problem. Both skirt on the line of acting like they are better than the other. You can tell how a person truly is when you look at who is around them, masc or not. It’s very telling and Interesting when you see the type of personalities, philosophies, and mentalities that exist inside of them.
I don’t consider myself as masc but I totally agree with you
So glad to hear you say that. You’re describing me exactly. Too busy working, church, working out, Live in a small town, live on a ranch. Content. Love USA, Am proud to be American… and YES …am voting for TRUMP!
I revoke your queer citizenship 👏🏾
Welcome to provincial America. Terrible!!!
How would the people in your church would react if you took your boyfriend there?
You're not that masculine.
LMAO I was thinking the same. He's feminine to me. Just being honest. He's in the middle, but has feminine mannerisms. Would I consider him masc? Nope lol
He has the perfect balance in my opinion. Handsome too.
@@anthonyblue100 He's a little too feminine for my taste. It's not bad. Everyone should be comfortable however they are. Considering himself masc because he's into sports and lives on a farm? Absolutely not lol. His mannerisms are a dead giveaway
I think it’s the necklace and the highlights in the hair. All the truly masculine guys I know are busy with other shit.
So gentle and thoughtful means fem? You're silly
Hunting and owning is where I exist left, nope❗️That’s a no no for me.
When does the masculine part start?😅
He says he's masc but then says he wore makeup 😅
Being very honest
It's so hard to find a masc man like myself I fix things build things I'm ex military I'm not into needy high maintenance people common sense is getting hard to find maybe I'll find a guy like you someday were alot alike
Jaks, where in Canada do you live, which Provience??????
You are Very Handsome, Finasteride / Minoxidil . I am sure you will find " The Right Guy !"
Nice video
Please how can I reach out to you
Masculine is highly subjective, right? 😅
This was brave…
Mascs generally are very fussy and exclusive
I'm curious. This is something that kind of has to do with this topic. So im attracted to masculin men, but one specific thing many have said is they don't like testicles. What I mean is they specifically like a partner who has tight up close testicles. It's been a very common thing for many I've spoken to. I know this is a lot more sexual than your usual content, but I'm curious as to if you have experienced this.
Though I do pride... Mostly solo
I’m in love with you
Masc4masc
Not UA-cam recommending me this
Sounds like you have some inner work to be done, Best Regards
If you have to tell everyone you’re masc, you’re not actually masc. I’m sorry but this video got funnier and funnier. Please deal with your internalized homophobia because this was sad to watch.
I’m giving your comment a lot of thought. I do agree that a truly masc fella would never need to identify themselves as such. I’m also thinking about your comment on internalised homophobia and starting to re evaluate him. Interesting stuff. 🇦🇺
What a stupidly ridiculous statement.
Please deal with your cognitive bias and poor analytical skills.
This is the most pretentious thing I've ever seen.
Same
girl who told you you're masc? 🤭
Omfg yes gays can most definitely be friends!! I have a few myself! Also, it helps that if someone isn't physically attractive to me, I'm not interested so imma be normal when we friends. If I like you, you will know - you'll probably get the vibe that I'm afraid of you 😅🫣
The squishy sociologist
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Stop being so desirable on every level. You are driving me crazy.
I'm a femy I wear Beverly Hills style clothes I have to have butch queens to match if just works that way!
You aren't Masc though. I am starting to see a pattern in your victim mentality from the few videos ive seen. Calling it out. No responses needed. Just highlighting.
Masculine and those blond highlights ok...🤣🤣🤣
You are not masculine to me at all. I think it's your arrogance.
He’s definitely not fem
Gurrrrl...
Yaaaaas queen
You're masc??🤔😄
how is this guy masculine?
He is not especially masculine but not feminine either, just a regular young fella. He doesn’t display the stereotypical affectations which we associate with feminine men (squeaky voice, excitable flapping around etc). I think this is what he’s referring to, rather than the seriously masculine.
its always the privilaged isnt it?
You are not masculine at all dude sorry
Can't relate
Masculine gays are in pop cultural since 50s and 60s thanks to TOM OF FINLAND. Look gor hilando his erotic art.
This guy spends too much time on the hook up apps! 😂 you have internalized homophobia for not liking RuPaul drag race! 😂
You are the problem
I agree, I felt that vibe.
Are you guys serious, all RuPaul has to do is open his mouth and it turns me totally off. Nothing to do with homophobia at all, he just doesn’t have any qualities that even remotely interest me.
im thinking the same. people are too much in their own heads to actually see other people and things for who and what they are.