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This was amazing, I love her so much - she is so genuine, the way she carries herself, so different from most women, one of a kind. Incredible interview
Loved this interview and podcast!!! Evy is a badass and I love it- she is such an inspiration and role model- I am 63 and strive to be more like her as I age!!!!
Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past, I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain(dune). - 1:32:40 I got my ass on a plane.
Honestly, after watching this video, i went to a job interview and when I was asked questions about resolving conflict this video popped into my head out of the blue and I used her idea of how to resolve conflict in the interview and the interviewee was really impressed and I got the job. Thanks Evy, you're a legend.
Agree wholeheartedly about the value of this podcast. So much of my experience would be different if I granted more grace, as she does, to sidestep biases and assumptions. To allocate energy to a more productive mindset.
Iam an Afghan girl I wanted to study engineering which is a taboo in Afghanistan but after listening to this podcast I can confirm this to society i will 100 become one
As a clinical psychologist, I am really impressed. She has an amazing self-care philosophy, and uses communication to keep her boundaries. This is extremely important not just in her career, but in life every day.
@@rhondabowlin1883 You want her to keep validating people's victimhood because that is what today's society wants. "Your emotions are valid" - so stay there and dwell on it?" This is not going to end well for a lot of people. That is why the West is getting more and more depressed, especially women, because you're cheering on each other to see who is the bigger victim. It's like a victim Olympics on social media! No people, you got hurt, you suffered and yes it hurts and you are entitled to feel bad but after that, start looking forward. Don't freaking stay there!!
how can you watch a video like this and not crave to bring yourself to these levels of mental capacity and discipline..? i mean...humans are incredible
@@sweets4days716Jon Jones seemed genuine on camera as well, until Cormier called him out "off camera" while it was still rolling and we all got to see how he really is 😂
Let me excerpt this from her speech: "your body is your temple; you have to take care of what houses your soul and your mind," this is so deep and something the majority of people underestimate including myself.
The Bible says this and many other things full of wisdom. Even people who aren't religious can still learn a lot from it. You should consider reading it eventually 😊
From the The New Testament in the Bible. 1 Corinthians 6:19 Know ye not, that your body is the temple of the holy Ghost, which is in you, whom ye have of God? and ye are not your own. 20 For ye are bought for a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit: for they are God’s.
I love how accountable she is. She isn't blaming other people, she isn't moping about events she can't change. Focusing on what "I can do" is a really beautiful lesson
Well yes, but she has a strong family structure and community. Her summers in Greece and feeling obligated to marry within her culture is a strong indication. Not everyone has those, especially several generations into the US. A certain narcissism sets in with success that can affect the mental health of your children, especially with this whole perfectionist mindset. Raising kids is an imperfect process. I'd love to see her interviewed in 20 years and see if she's changed at all.
There are two places to find the answers you have in your life. You can look inside or you can look outside. The people who look outside dream. Those who look inside are awakened.
And she still seems to have empathy. In other words, she doesn't have to trash talk people to bring herself up. She is just using examples of those with a victim mindset to show it isn't productive. Some people have maybe had to much trauma that is almost physically impossible for their brain and body to leave behind, like an addiction. This is why she says people have to want to leave their trauma and what keeps them trapped in their identity. It's the same for addiction, the only way someone can get over that is if they truly want to, and then find the resources to do it. The mindset of truly wanting to, vs not, is the key difference. It's true that some people are more equipped to do this and therefore more fortunate in that regard, though.
@@bluemonday70-bl5ne she's pretty critical of people who suffer from depression, as if it's a waste of time. It's a very old world point of view. It's practical though and she'd make an incredible life coach.
Loved this interview so much! The way she talks - so clear, no extra "uh, um,mm..." nothing. It's so interesting, smooth and super informative to listen. First time in my life I've been so concentrated when watching interview like this, not even wanting to pause the video. Thank you for this interview!!!
YES, his name is President TRUMP!!! 🎉😅 🇺🇸 We need him desperately ASAP!!! MAGA!!! 🏆 ✌🏻 🏅 He will turn this ship around quickly & SAVE AMERICA & then the World! 🌎 The evil ones are selling the Goldrn Goose to line their own pockets! We need to go back to feeding & nourishing her so she has many eggs ie gas, oil, goods, m medicines etc to export/sell! President Trump brought back over 200 mfg JOBS to make us self-sufficient. He created Opportunity Zones for underserved communities which were training schools for carpenters, mechanics, plumbers, electricians etc for those not inclined to learn computer skills! Inflation was near 0- 1.4% at it's highest, now it's 9-30% depending on how it's manipulated. But you know that groceries & goods cost way more now! It actually costs each of us $11,000 MORE per year! He had GAS @ $1.99, now it's $5.39! The difference this time is that we all need to have his back & SUPPORT HIM! Also, get involved in your local Election Process to ensure it is SECURE THIS TIME! Push for VOTER ID!
Well, appearances in general don't have to do anything with personality...until it comes to plastic surgery. Since that's a sign for me that the person doesn't want to see their bad sides or thinks of covering them up for some gains. (that's how I perceive it) But I'm not sure if she had it, since I'm more listening to it than looking this. But there is a thing that I don't get from daphnefaetv's comment. Why do you perceive her as selfless, if she said don't let other people's (shit) chaos invade your personal space and distance yourselves from them. (Even though it was said, it's only partial) Since that wouldn't be my interpretation of selfless.
" If you are not comfortable dropping your kid in the middle of Times Square to talk to whoever, then you get that thing(cell phone) out of her hands". So true!!👍
Probably the best conversation I’ve heard on this show. Very inspiring and very encouraging. Almost felt like I was being coached by a genuine friend. Great talk
She strikes me as a good example of the idea that you only really find true freedom through self discipline. Not by following your every whim and want. Fascinating lady.
@@pippa3150a little girl is exactly what we need?! What are you even saying?!you responded with emotion as a reaction to his action,that just make you look emotional,like a little boy!
you never really know what someone else has together. we can only know ourselves and how much we have our shit together ! and even that is also unknowable perhaps. and everything's changing all the time anyway so life is just an infinite freestyle.
@@deekey33 HAHA ! cheers mate ! yeah !! exactly. we can enjoy the perfection in life itself ! never mind assuming anything about other people ! even the people history regards as saints have had all sorts of curious habits ! in order to have our shit together, we all need to unite and get this planet sorted ! theres alotta work to do !!! we could say , were in the process of getting our shit together ! ..on the human level, on the ultimate level were all immortal and there is nothing to get together cos were allready one lol, but back to the human earth planet realm for a minute ! -_- lets get on with it ! ; )
@@jjque8900 pragmatic, yet evasive. She's objective focused and nothing will get in her way. I could see how she could seem that way because she brushes off any sort of distraction or feelings that could get in her way. It seems to be how agents are.
Evy has her mind on the right track. She knows herself and knows what she wants to do. An incredible person. Not caring about what others think of her and keeps it realistic. Inspirational!
She definitely cares what other people think of her. That is a big part of her training and how she is able to do her job and her life. This entire I service was about how to get respect without demanding it. Respect is earned by caring what people think of what you say, how you say it, what you do and how you do it.
she has so many amazing skills, obviously - but what stands out to me is the emotional maturity. The ability to not be tossed about on every wave that comes your way. The ego in check, the ability to feel your feelings and still make good decisions for yourself and the people around you, the rare ability to resist narcissistically seeking something personally offensive in every situation.
" the rare ability to resist narcissistically seeking something personally offensive in every situation." -- maybe you need to get out more, it's not that rare.
@@nicknico4121, she worked for Presidents, and mentioned elections briefly. I would say that she's incorruptible, but can keep a secret. Like James Comey or Mike Pence.
47 I think. But yeah, she keeps her shape by working out. She said that’s what part of the requirement of the secret service job so she had to go to gym because they would test her every 3 months and she’s surrounded by the gym goers 😂
@@Ratinevo Is questioning or evaluating the guest's level of security a reflection upon yourself? Perhaps it says something about me that I felt the need to comment, even though I am an armchair Spike-chologist
This is by far THE BEST guest you’ve hosted!!! I cannot even begin to describe the wealth of knowledge and inspiration I’ve gained from listening to this interview! I’m totally obsessed with this incredible badass woman’s way of thinking! Her attitude and outlook on life is absolutely INCREDIBLE! She is SO WISE and insightful! I have literally evolved IMMENSELY by merely consuming this invaluable piece of content! Thank you so much for bringing this exceptional human being and for having these incredibly important conversations! Your questioning was EXCELLENT! I’m so grateful for the work that you do! This was fantastic! I am SO HAPPY right now! I’ll be referencing and coming back to listen to this one again and again! I’m BEYOND inspired!
I agree. I listened to Evy's audiobook - Becoming Bulletproof after this podcast, its amazing, learned so much! It was a very easy listen as Evy narrates it herself, and structures it to be both engaging and informative. Highly recommend.
The reason this lady sounds so logical and humble is because she has an attitude of gratitude and is thankful for even the very smallest things that she is given in life. We could all take a lesson out of that playbook
Why are first generations so competent? Maybe not all, but it seems like everyone I like listening to is from that group. Even if her English has some interesting little quirks that throw me a bit. Fascinating interview. I plan to read her book. TY Steven.
Reading people has always been a personal gift of mine with very little training, as soon as I saw her face on this thumbnail of this video, I knew instantly she was going to know what she's talking about, I knew she was extremely intelligent, self-aware, and a strong individual both emotionally/mentlly and physically. Thank you for this interview, this is the kind of person who needs to lead us. If we had more leaders like her, we would live in a completely different world.
Very true, on the other hand some people always say "I didn't learn that at school" as an excuse that they lack knowledge on a particular subject. In reality school is just scratching the surface in regards to education, you must always be curious and seek knowledge on EVERYTHING through your whole life until the day you die.
Life is school and you should be growing daily, my Father taught me leaning 1 or 2 new things every day will put you ahead of 99 % of people , so keep Gathering. Love and miss him dearly Thank you Father
@chirigringo777 I wish I had a father to guide and instill me with wise knowledge.He died while I was still young.Most of the things I had to teach myself
Evy's boundary setting is healthy and should be something everyone needs to practice. The problem we have in the U.S. is no one respects those boundaries.
One thing I've observed and truly appreciated is that she always mentions your name when beginning a story. I believe this is crucial as it fosters a sense of intimacy and connection between the conversation partners. Research supports this, suggesting that mentioning someone's name can encourage them to stay engaged and feel more involved in this conversation.
I absolutely hate it when people do that. Its annoying af to repeat someone's name as if they're not listening especially when they already ARE listening.
This is the best video I have ever watched on UA-cam. I am 73. I very rarely comment. Please send this to your families, loved ones , friends and your children and grandchildren ‘s teachers . I am Thank you UA-cam ❤❤❤
@@Jerry-jy7jmAnd of course, you have arguments as to why you'd make such a statement. I agree fully with the original comment, it is an eye opener. I consider myself a successful and confident person, yet I absorbed every word, took notes, plan on watching it again tomorrow and start applying some of these strategies asap. Thank you!
@@Jerry-jy7jmyour ignorance is showing, but worse if it's not ignorance, and actually foolishness, please do yourself and everyone else a favor, and get off this page and go waste your life elsewhere. Because life is about growing in some way/shape or form. You should "learn something new every day." To utter the word "BS" towards the ENTIRE interview... now THAT is in fact BS. Try again. Get specific if you're gonna be lazy, continue down the foolish path, let your life waste away. Do nothing gain nothing, waste time, money, resources. Get drunk, high on drugs, gamble, play games, watch porn, become a slave to any addiction, etc. Otherwise, why not relisten to it when, and see if you don't learn ANYTHING new. If still there are no gains, then rinse and repeat and continue to do so until you can put together a critically thought out intellectual critism, good or bad! Godspeed.
Focused & disciplined! I love how she (checks herself) isn’t blinded by the distractions & her emotions. Her wisdom is golden 💛 Thank you for this video.
Love how she says that....being "sovereign" in herself. She is a legit strong woman, an inspirational bad ass... no whiff at all of fake girl boss energy. She's the Real Deal. Fantastic guest, keep 'em coming, and I'll keep coming back to watch 👊
she does not have to fake what she believes even while being deceitful. she has honed that trait ever since she was little..You don't make it into the CIA being Honest ABE my friend they don't look for those types.,
I loved this, too. It's so important in a world where women are told to only do for others. I wish she had talked more about how people can find their sovereignty because it's so important that people truly understand that and work on practicing it.
Exactly. Makes you think that with all her knowledge of the world and the people in it. That shows us that when children are doing those things they are at risk, not learning as well and not safe.
Ah bullshit. Everyone already knows about phones. State education is full of Communists. TV is good with what you watch. You don't know this,? I don't work for the government and know this
I once read a book by a psychologist about childhood trauma. One of the things that I always remember is that while kids need to process and talk about the things they experience, a weekly therapy appointment where they are expected to conjure up all these negative feelings can actually be detrimental. What matters is that they have a strong family bond, know they are understood and can talk about it any time they want and have been able to go through that initial processing...but a weekly date to go over it all again and again where they are expected to dig it all up and be sad all over again actually works against their ability to move on.
Then people become dependent on the feeling. That's how we get those people who say "I'm never leaving my therapist, can't live without them". They want to go and spill the beans, cry a bit, feel "validated" and go. More than validation it becomes a cycle of victim mentality
What I learned through good therapy is how to process stuck emotions. The reason people struggle to overcome anxiety, depression, and victimizhood mentality is because they have poor emotional regulation and were not taught that by caregivers. If children are crying and then being yelled at for crying, they will be afraid to feel things for fear of upsetting someone else. EMDR, meditation, and many other practices can be used in therapy and also practiced outside of therapy to help overcome these stuck, trapped emotions and experiences. We can develop better emotional maturity if we work through it. This woman just says "let it go", but if you can't process it, you will be stuck in it. My guess is that her parents were better skilled in helping her as a child with emotional regulation than others and have a very stable base to build on. But she's unaware of why others struggle bc this came naturally to her. A good therapist will not allow a patient to get stuck in rumination. They will try to help you feel the feeling and get it to pass through you. I wish I had known this decades ago, though it's never too late.
It’s unfortunate that this form of bad therapy isn’t addressed when going to therapy becomes a legal requirement in a case. Then there’s more salt added to the child’s wound.
This lady is smart. Be warm to people but if you are too friendly not good. True…I often said in the school years ago when the school system said we are now calling all the kids our friends everything was we are all friends. I thought this was wrong because as adults shouldn’t we be on a different level than the kids? Does this make sense to anyone ? It is like as a parent you are the authority figure.
This is probably one of the best conversations I have been privileged to listen to in the past 10 years. It's bookmarked and saved and liked for review later.
So refreshing to hear someone who takes full responsibility for themselves. I so agreed with her when she said trauma has become a competition. Incredible woman.
After years of counseling for childhood issues that bled into adult issues and never getting the golden ticket of healing, I just gave up one day and accepted that I would just be living with my issues the rest of my life. I would still try to improve myself but I accepted that I was never going to be "fixed." To my surprise it was the most freeing and healing thing Ive ever done. As she said, to not carry that "trailer" behind me was such an incredible relief. There is still always some level of discordance but I don't give the beast my time and thoughts for it to feed on and I'm so much better for it.
i‘m happy for u💯 sometimes counseling doesn’t happen on a couch. but it was def ur own will! otherwise u wouldn’t have "received" that message that brought u some closure. keep on looking for more & may god bless u🙏
I also noticed her perfect speech. Edit. For some reason I'm not able to add another comment but can comment by editing my old comment. UA-cam is funny that way. For no reason it blocks me from adding comments. Either way, I am a Russian speaker and I found this professor that gave a lecture on types of people and their body types relation to their character. It was a very booooooring lecture but the guy had such a nice speech I could not stop listening to him.
The most important thing I saw in this interview was that when he talked, no matter for how long, she never said a word and kept her eyes on him. She was listening and present.
What i saw is the complete opposite. He is he one listenning and studying her and she is full of herself and doing all the things she said other people do.
@@simomaaroufihaving that reaction to this particular interview and women tells me that you're not experiencing the same reality as the rest of us, because you're a misogynist and probably also a bigot. I highly doubt that you've given even 1/10th of this woman's effort to our country in service. You can't see past your own nose, and people who eclipse you are perceived as a threat, especially women because you feel emasculated. To you, everything is a zero sum game. I'd feel pity for you, but I doubt you deserve it.
I’m a mother of a pre teen, and the more I was watching this , the more I was thinking of ways we need to sit down together to watch it. Priceless advise that can be applied to all aspects of your life. Thank you!
Problem is you have just given away how to catch the bad guy next time ! This goes world wide .Remember the show how to catch the thief. No X CIA AGENT SHOULD BE ABLE TO TALK so freely about how they keep us safe
C.I.A. and Secret Service although sound like the same thing are both very different. I think she did a good job of explaining her job but being vague enough to not give up how the organization operates.
You need to tap into your emotions to understand yourself and others, it is what brings about self awareness and a social conscious. Feeling, validating, processing and managing your emotions is the key to be able to govern yourself. Emotions and facts are NOT mutually exclusive, they go hand in hand. To stray from our emotions is to stray from the truth.
She is a perfect blend of elegance, confidence, power, beauty and intelligence. Kudos to her for becoming the woman she is today, and to her husband for being able to be around a strong woman. Maximum respect. Such an inspiration. Steven we need more of strong women like her on your show. 😎💪🏼😍
Best interview ever. It’s the scenario that her training could never predict. Sixteen yr old kid who was presumably paralysed with fear and couldn’t show his hands after many minutes of being told he would be SHOT if he didn’t do so. He wasn’t deaf. He wasn’t holding a lethal weapon. He was petrified. This is truly remarkable.
The interviewer is just low-average; he has pre-arranged questions and does not follow up and ask "why". He gets an answer and moves to the next pre-arranged question. I get the impression that the guests know the questions in advance and have prepared answers. I'll never watch this guy again. Look at Larry King interviews. Everything a person says has within it another question to ask "why". This guy does not draw the guest out. He's a cardboard cutout, with narration/speaking skill only.
@@RxsieExdes21 It is not a conversation. It is a Q and A session with pre-planned questions and answers. after an answer, no further digging. He's NOT an interviewer here, he is merely a reader.
@@thankmelater1254 And I found it great: he was prepared, wasn't interrupting, was a great listener and was refering to what she said. His intellingence and empathy is definitely more than average
“When I become sovereign, I’m good enough” 👏🏾 This woman is such a gem to humanity and a breath of fresh air in this day and age. Accountable, not a victim, with the determination to move forward and push through in spite of what life throws at you. Excellent episode!
i didn’t even notice I watched this 2-hr long interview… she’s such a woman of life and words. Taken notes on this interview and for sure will come back to it each and everytime. 🙌🏻
WTF best interview ever ever? EVER EVER! As an internet junkie that has watched a few thousand videos of similar topics... This is by far in the top 10... Well done!
This interview prompted me to listen to her book. EXCELLENT BOOK!!! This interview doesn't reveal all of who she really is. I highly recommend the book!!!
Κα Πουμπουρα, δεν έχω ακούσει ξανά άνθρωπο με τόσο συγκροτημένο εαυτό. Θαμπωθηκα, κ αποθηκευω το video αυτό ως μαθημα για εμένα αλλά κ τα παιδιά μου. Θα ψάξω για το βιβλίο σας. Σας ευχαριστούμε για το μάθημα ζωής κ συμπεριφοράς απέναντι κατ αρχάς στον εαυτό μας κ απέναντι στους άλλους. Σας ευχομαι τα καλύτερα γιατί έχετε δουλέψει σκληρά για να τα κερδίσετε κ φαίνεται. Είστε ένα λαμπερό πνεύμα.
Look, just because a person realizes where her or his weak spots are doesn't mean he or she can alter his behavior. You can realize a hundred times that people wipe their feet on you, because you show your insecurity, but this realization itself won't make you more confident.
@@helenivanova5440 you’re so right. It takes a thoughtful person to recognize and acknowledge, but it takes a truly special person to actually change and correct
@helenivanova5440 You are so wrong. As a perky blonde scientist, I recognized why I wasn't being taken seriously. Once I started taking myself more seriously, others did too.
@@pippa3150 well, I don't state that it happens this way in a hundred percent cases. Sometimes that's true and realization itself is enough to change everything. But it's obviously not enough to hear "just stop being a victim" to start feeling different immediately.
I am a teacher, and my hat is off to Evy for keeping electronic media away from her daughter!! Well done!! Keep up the good work...it is a parent's job to protect their child's innocence, and controlling what they are exposed to is part of that.
That was truly one of the most captivating interviews I’ve ever encountered. What I thought would be a quick 10-minute listen turned into two hours of pure engagement-and even then, I didn’t want it to end!
This was awesome; that woman is awesome. I'm a Retired Marine Infantryman; and, quite a few of my stupid biases were firmly in-place as this interview began. She shut them all down.
You should work on muting your bias from past experiences so that you can live in the present. Otherwise, you miss opportunities by dismissing the talent of 50% of the population
I normally would not listen through a 2 hour interview but this woman’s insight commanded my attention and I literally gained my own insight listening to hers. Thank you for being you and giving us your story!
This isn't just a podcast but a very clear motivation with real life experiences... The most important thing is that she's too confident about what she's talking about which make me believe that everything is really possible
I love this woman. She’s an outstanding human being. Balanced, yet passionate with meaningful purpose and incredible discipline, clearly operating with integrity in every aspect of her life. She’s got it right on every front. God Bless. We need leaders like this woman now for our country. Fellow New Yorker here too. She rocks. 💪🏻
i ordered her book during the pandemic and studied it bit by bit. she changed me as a woman. i am a military reservist now and studying clinical psychology at the same time. thank you for being an inspiration , evy!
Thank you for inviting this wise, strong, and beautiful lady. I enjoyed every minuteof this conversation, discovering her incredible life story and brilliant mindset. 👏
This interview educates me way more than 100 therapy sessions. What she has to say is way more valuable than what my therapists have said so far. I’ve always realized that the classic psychotherapy doesn’t work for me because it stops me in the past and in my healthy energy to move on. This interview makes it clear. I thank you very much!
Yea honestly I believe her experience and what she has seen makes her words so much more powerful than the knowledge therapists gain in school. Sure, it's also knowledge, but it's only this sort of life or death situations and meeting all these different people in life that teach you the best and most valuable life lessons hands on.
Evy's attitude on raising Her daughter. Specifically the influence of Media. Outstanding. Such an envigorating person to hear speak. Thank you Evy-and you, Mr B.
Wow! This resonates with me deeply! After dedicating over 30 years to climbing the corporate ladder, I recently opted for voluntary redundancy. Reflecting on my journey, I realise I could have advocated for myself more assertively instead of being overly accommodating or self-deprecating. It's time to stop dwelling in self-pity and start embracing new opportunities! Thanks for the inspiration, Evy!
I’m in exactly the same position as you. I retired 4 years ago at 47 after exactly 30 years in the corporate game. My eyes were opened to an alternative stress free and more thoughtful way of living. My relationships have flourished with all the important people in my life and unexpectedly I’m better off financially too.
Ooooh myyyy godddd!!!! Just halfway through the video I couldn't resist the urge to comment just how much influential this video is. It's quite effective with no irrelevant use of words but also not so short concepts. Everything's just so adequate with an essence of maturity and experience. This video has caused Stephen to gain a follower and Evy a lifetime fan. Truly love the effort.
Phenomenal interview with an intensely insightful and inspiring woman. Evy has to be one of my favourite guests on this podcast. I aspire to attain her level of emotional mastery and intellectual maturity. I very much look forward to reading her book.
I was hooked through this interview. I even stopped, rewind the section, and listen again so I could take it all in and really listen. Thank you for this I will watch it again
What I love about her is her she is driven and guided by her core values and her integrity is sky high. She's got such a humbleness about her, along with the confidence to be who she is. What an inspiration. I can't wait to read her book.
Evy is absolutely correct. She is magnetic. I have never seen or heard of her before this popped up in my feed and I am instantly wanting to be her friend.
This is the best interview I have ever watched!!! I love that touched conflict, trauma, anxiety, respect, communication, health… This woman is amazing!!!
@@ChatGPT1111huh? Do you not have eyes and are you incapable of listening? I knew the moment I started watching that this woman is incredibly fit, she looks amazing and healthy, and then to hear her training with Don Saladino who is one of the most renowned and well-known trainers and fitness experts around and her talking about her work outs and running and how she eats and how her body is a temple, etc...and you seriously have to wonder how she is fit physically? Clearly you need some help yourself but in the cognitive department.
This podcast is an absolutely maturity.. I have travelled places, been spiritually motivated, read many people in and out, designed my own processes to be very efficient in this world but always found rare number of people of the some clan. This is probably the first ever comment I am making on any social media platform, and just want to say to the host and the guest that “ Thank you for bringing these experience and knowledge to us. looking forward to sharing my own experiences someday”🙏🏻
I’ve watched countless episodes of DOAC. Evy’s interview has officially become my favorite. And has had a huge impact on my behavior and perspective in the short time it has been released. Thank you so much Steven…a million times!
You don't have the skills. You can change that any day you want. Setting boundaries isn't just a natural skill your born with. My advice is don't look at the problem as this giant thing. Change can be a slow and often one of the most difficult process. Unfortunately there are so many things to distract us from confronting our our real issues . You recognize the issue. You did what you knew what to do at the time don't beat yourself up about the past. It's a skill based problem now. Learn how you got to where you are and learn how to not go back there. Personal change is one of the hardest thing I've personally ever done. But it has been my hardest struggles that have always turned the out to be most impactful of my life. Who cares how you are paying the price now. Every day is another day to change the things we do not like in our lives. It's also another day to buy a new pair of shoes and not deal with any of it.
You decide who you are relevant to your environment. You decide who you are in this world, don’t let anything or any stereotype etc etc determine who you are … Let’s go!! What an awesome mindset, she’s great!
This lady!!! This is the kind of stuff one needs to hear to change every aspect of their life. About to do so many transformative things in the next year. I thought I might not have the mental fortitude until I heard her. The levels we didn't know we needed!!! Shout out to the land of my people, Bots!
@@ellengarcia4041 Not necessarily the writer's fault. Blame it on our current public educational system's standard of "leave no child behind" so they all get a diploma even if they don't have spelling or proper English skills.
When I am having a difficult time sleeping, I will at times listen to one of the podcasts and fall asleep. This conversation kept me up because I was so engaged in what was being said. What a remarkable person. What an amazing conversation. Thank you!
The technicality of the grounds she covered in this one session of interview is outstanding. Most talk about it and there’s some who backs it up and she’s definitely one of rare few who supports it. Well done.
This episode is the only episode that I watched it full. Some others were very interesting too, but I get bored after a while. This woman has so much powerful aura around her and so well spoken that it kept me glued to my phone. How valuable would be to have someone like her in your friend list
I absolutely adore Evy. She is very inspiring. So many of the skills she discussed I have used with my clients in counseling and my patients in the Emergency Room. A word of caution regarding her opinions about therapy and trauma. Trauma therapy is much more than and should never be just regurgitating the trauma experience weekly. Also, people have differing strengths, different wiring. Some people are verbal processors and benefit from psychoanalysis. And some people are incapable of participating in physical exercise to manage their stress. I'm truly happy that Evy has found the formula that works for her. There is no shame in needing prescription drugs or therapy to manage mental health symptoms if that is part of your effective formula. Find what works for you, be it therapy, art, music, baking, quality time with loved ones, watching a comedy, etc. It is normal and necessary to feel anxious and depressed. It is part of the human condition. It is vital to growth and resilience as it helps us process challenges and is a sign that something is out of balance and needs addressing. Find your formula and adjust as needed. Best to all of you.
Ya, depends on age and depth of the trauma, not everyone has been blessed with a decent life. BUT the vast number of people on here that WANT to be seen as victims is sickening. That is an even worse slap in the face to someone dealing with extreme trauma.
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This was amazing, I love her so much - she is so genuine, the way she carries herself, so different from most women, one of a kind. Incredible interview
Okay, I think I can officially say you guys have the best Podcast on the internet!
I ❤ Evy! Her book, "Bulletproof" is a must read!!
you asked for a sub, so I disliked the video.
‘Kill the fear whilst it’s still small’ - such an amazing statement for living a full life
When you move towards your fear it gets smaller.
It looks bigger from afar, like a trick of the light.
Loved this interview and podcast!!! Evy is a badass and I love it- she is such an inspiration and role model- I am 63 and strive to be more like her as I age!!!!
Did she learn to protect her heart from fear, or theirs?+
Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past, I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain(dune). - 1:32:40 I got my ass on a plane.
Jamie Winship… Identity Exchange. This is his mission.
Honestly, after watching this video, i went to a job interview and when I was asked questions about resolving conflict this video popped into my head out of the blue and I used her idea of how to resolve conflict in the interview and the interviewee was really impressed and I got the job. Thanks Evy, you're a legend.
Hope it went well🎉blessings!
@@imana788218:50
You don't need to watch a video like this to be simply honest at your job interview
@@cardanandjudeit starts here! 20:41
@@cardanandjude”listen and see the world trough “their” lens to understand what they want “
I don't know if people really realize the value of this podcast , this is priceless .
Some of this criticism is valid and true.
Agree wholeheartedly about the value of this podcast. So much of my experience would be different if I granted more grace, as she does, to sidestep biases and assumptions. To allocate energy to a more productive mindset.
Oh shut up 🙄
@@happyskeg1 Never happen right.
Dr I'll in up in@skippy6086
Iam an Afghan girl I wanted to study engineering which is a taboo in Afghanistan but after listening to this podcast I can confirm this to society i will 100 become one
Wishing you all the power. Never ever give up.
You WILL become one!
You will succeed inshallah. We are rooting for you! Love from the Netherlands ☺️
Rooting for you from Tunisia
Keep praying and you will be protected. 🕊
What a breath of fresh air! An adult who is not triggered, not a victim, but a real adult! Role model this generation needs.
Well stated.
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Yes!! Too bad she’s not running for president
She is a liar !!
@@rykson161 possible, but shes good then. In some of those
@@rykson161 who isn't...everyone has lied in their lifetime
As a clinical psychologist, I am really impressed. She has an amazing self-care philosophy, and uses communication to keep her boundaries. This is extremely important not just in her career, but in life every day.
Do you see patients virtually?
Really, because my impression is that she doesn't understand trauma at all. 😢
As a psychologist you're a shrink. But merely to swindle medicaid adults out of coverage because, you maxed their accounts for the year..
@@rhondabowlin1883 You want her to keep validating people's victimhood because that is what today's society wants. "Your emotions are valid" - so stay there and dwell on it?" This is not going to end well for a lot of people. That is why the West is getting more and more depressed, especially women, because you're cheering on each other to see who is the bigger victim. It's like a victim Olympics on social media! No people, you got hurt, you suffered and yes it hurts and you are entitled to feel bad but after that, start looking forward. Don't freaking stay there!!
@@rhondabowlin1883 She's amazing. I don't know what you are on about!
how can you watch a video like this and not crave to bring yourself to these levels of mental capacity and discipline..? i mean...humans are incredible
Yes. To crave is a very big accomplishment. How CAN we NOT?? Now what after crave? What are we bringing ourselves to?
@@kristinaD5214 evolution. that is ofc if u act on your curiosity
Watch the recent presidents debate right after watching this 😳😭😭
@@AtlantaVice770 XD that was incredible on a different level
Oh definitely. This really inspires me.
"Kill fear while its still small." Did you hear that?!! This lady is incredible. Her mental approach towards life is invigorating.
Exactly. I pondered over that statement as well.
This woman's mindset is beyond exceptional.
On of my favorite females
Why did she change her rings tho? Yes, I noticed.. this interview was amazing tho!! Very genuine❤
@@sweets4days716they looked loose and her engagement ring was flopping around all the time. Does it matter though?
She's a damn psychopath!
@@sweets4days716Jon Jones seemed genuine on camera as well, until Cormier called him out "off camera" while it was still rolling and we all got to see how he really is 😂
Let me excerpt this from her speech: "your body is your temple; you have to take care of what houses your soul and your mind," this is so deep and something the majority of people underestimate including myself.
It's biblical
The Bible says this and many other things full of wisdom.
Even people who aren't religious can still learn a lot from it. You should consider reading it eventually 😊
From the The New Testament in the Bible.
1 Corinthians 6:19 Know ye not, that your body is the temple of the holy Ghost, which is in you, whom ye have of God? and ye are not your own.
20 For ye are bought for a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit: for they are God’s.
What I find strange is that she would say this and then inject her face with so many weird chemicals that her face is semi frozen!
@@arielcarol3113 her face, her body 🤷♂️
I love how accountable she is. She isn't blaming other people, she isn't moping about events she can't change. Focusing on what "I can do" is a really beautiful lesson
Well yes, but she has a strong family structure and community. Her summers in Greece and feeling obligated to marry within her culture is a strong indication. Not everyone has those, especially several generations into the US. A certain narcissism sets in with
success that can affect the mental health of your children, especially with this whole perfectionist mindset. Raising kids is an imperfect process. I'd love to see her interviewed in 20 years and see if she's changed at all.
@@chaoswitch1974mam takie samo wrażenie jak ty.
There are two places to find the answers you have in your life. You can look inside or you can look outside. The people who look outside dream. Those who look inside are awakened.
And she still seems to have empathy. In other words, she doesn't have to trash talk people to bring herself up. She is just using examples of those with a victim mindset to show it isn't productive. Some people have maybe had to much trauma that is almost physically impossible for their brain and body to leave behind, like an addiction. This is why she says people have to want to leave their trauma and what keeps them trapped in their identity. It's the same for addiction, the only way someone can get over that is if they truly want to, and then find the resources to do it. The mindset of truly wanting to, vs not, is the key difference. It's true that some people are more equipped to do this and therefore more fortunate in that regard, though.
@@bluemonday70-bl5ne she's pretty critical of people who suffer from depression, as if it's a waste of time. It's a very old world point of view. It's practical though and she'd make an incredible life coach.
Loved this interview so much! The way she talks - so clear, no extra "uh, um,mm..." nothing. It's so interesting, smooth and super informative to listen. First time in my life I've been so concentrated when watching interview like this, not even wanting to pause the video. Thank you for this interview!!!
Every time I come to this channel, I feel like I didn’t waste my time on UA-cam. Thank you
Totally Agree!!!!!❤
UA-cam isn’t a waste of time by any means! Though you have to b on the educational side of course!
AGREED
Same:)
Totally agree ❤
She's an inspiration. Very mentally strong and sharp. Very selfless and confident too. We need more of such people in this world.
Plastic surgery doesn’t make you strong
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We need him desperately ASAP!!! MAGA!!! 🏆 ✌🏻 🏅
He will turn this ship around quickly & SAVE AMERICA & then the World! 🌎
The evil ones are selling the Goldrn Goose to line their own pockets! We need to go back to feeding & nourishing her so she has many eggs ie gas, oil, goods, m medicines etc to export/sell!
President Trump brought back over 200 mfg JOBS to make us self-sufficient. He created Opportunity Zones for underserved communities which were training schools for carpenters, mechanics, plumbers, electricians etc for those not inclined to learn computer skills!
Inflation was near 0- 1.4% at it's highest, now it's 9-30% depending on how it's manipulated. But you know that groceries & goods cost way more now! It actually costs each of us $11,000 MORE per year!
He had GAS @ $1.99, now it's $5.39!
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@@chrischris9157Wow, not sure what her appearance has to do with it. Seems you are very judgemental...
Are you insecure? 🤔
Well, appearances in general don't have to do anything with personality...until it comes to plastic surgery. Since that's a sign for me that the person doesn't want to see their bad sides or thinks of covering them up for some gains. (that's how I perceive it) But I'm not sure if she had it, since I'm more listening to it than looking this. But there is a thing that I don't get from daphnefaetv's comment. Why do you perceive her as selfless, if she said don't let other people's (shit) chaos invade your personal space and distance yourselves from them. (Even though it was said, it's only partial) Since that wouldn't be my interpretation of selfless.
She's manipulating.
" If you are not comfortable dropping your kid in the middle of Times Square to talk to whoever, then you get that thing(cell phone) out of her hands". So true!!👍
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So true. Yet far too many moms and dads really believe they have no control over what their kids ingest. 50:50 battle is spot on.
Not just a good thought experiment for kids, but for some adults too that struggle with confidence and human interaction!
When she said, “Economy.”
Doing the right thing by our children is usually harder in the short term but the overwhelming wisest investment into their future in the long term.
Probably the best conversation I’ve heard on this show. Very inspiring and very encouraging. Almost felt like I was being coached by a genuine friend. Great talk
She strikes me as a good example of the idea that you only really find true freedom through self discipline. Not by following your every whim and want.
Fascinating lady.
That is not freedom, that is control.
@@_b166er_ Did you miss the **self** part of 'self discipline'?
@@kdog3908 exactly. That is just a pretty word for the same thing.
@@_b166er_so by implication, you think following every whim of yours is freedom. Noice👍🏻
@_b166er_ no, either you're in control of yourself or you let your whims, and desires control you
Our planet needs leaders like this lady.
That’s exactly what we don’t want or need keep telling yourself that
@WillyD1 little boy afraid of a little girl power, lol. She is EXACTLY what we need.
@@pippa3150little boy trying to shame another man for voicing his opinion
@@pippa3150a little girl is exactly what we need?! What are you even saying?!you responded with emotion as a reaction to his action,that just make you look emotional,like a little boy!
@@WillyD1What do you mean by that
This is what it looks like when someone truly has their shit together, Respect!
you never really know what someone else has together. we can only know ourselves and how much we have our shit together ! and even that is also unknowable perhaps. and everything's changing all the time anyway so life is just an infinite freestyle.
@@deekey33 HAHA ! cheers mate ! yeah !! exactly. we can enjoy the perfection in life itself ! never mind assuming anything about other people ! even the people history regards as saints have had all sorts of curious habits ! in order to have our shit together, we all need to unite and get this planet sorted ! theres alotta work to do !!! we could say , were in the process of getting our shit together ! ..on the human level, on the ultimate level were all immortal and there is nothing to get together cos were allready one lol, but back to the human earth planet realm for a minute ! -_- lets get on with it ! ; )
I think she is bat shot crazy. Everything she says sounds great but she doesn't seem right.😮
@@jjque8900 pragmatic, yet evasive. She's objective focused and nothing will get in her way. I could see how she could seem that way because she brushes off any sort of distraction or feelings that could get in her way. It seems to be how agents are.
🤣 so true 👍
Evy has her mind on the right track. She knows herself and knows what she wants to do. An incredible person. Not caring about what others think of her and keeps it realistic. Inspirational!
She definitely cares what other people think of her. That is a big part of her training and how she is able to do her job and her life. This entire I service was about how to get respect without demanding it. Respect is earned by caring what people think of what you say, how you say it, what you do and how you do it.
she has so many amazing skills, obviously - but what stands out to me is the emotional maturity. The ability to not be tossed about on every wave that comes your way. The ego in check, the ability to feel your feelings and still make good decisions for yourself and the people around you, the rare ability to resist narcissistically seeking something personally offensive in every situation.
" the rare ability to resist narcissistically seeking something personally offensive in every situation." -- maybe you need to get out more, it's not that rare.
@@american_cosmic lol yes I probably do ... Ha ha. Forgive my cynicism!
You just proved with that reply that you do have that rare ability. And , I agree, it is rare!
@@BetruetoGod Not rare at all. Society couldn't function if it was rare.
I like people who dont yell,who understand a debate is better than an argument.
Say that again hands 🙌🏾
Biden is good at not yelling. Insecure fearful people yell
What a lady. This is the IQ level and intellect you should be able to vote for.
what does she have anything to do with elections?
@@nicknico4121 dude
@@nicknico4121that electable officials are void of it. It's all about money.
too smart to want to run the country
@@nicknico4121, she worked for Presidents, and mentioned elections briefly.
I would say that she's incorruptible, but can keep a secret.
Like James Comey or Mike Pence.
Evy is 49??? Never!
What a wonderful lady, what a fantastic interview
47 I think. But yeah, she keeps her shape by working out. She said that’s what part of the requirement of the secret service job so she had to go to gym because they would test her every 3 months and she’s surrounded by the gym goers 😂
Looks it to me. Her voice sounds a bit younger but she looks her age
Where does she say she’s 49?
@@cynthiapereira8403 she said she had a daughter at 45 or 46 n her daughter is 18months she said at that time
@ she said 45. She’s 47.
From all guests, she seems to be the most genuine and secure.
Genuine, yes. Secure, no.
@@Ratinevo
Is questioning or evaluating the guest's level of security a reflection upon yourself?
Perhaps it says something about me that I felt the need to comment, even though I am an armchair Spike-chologist
@@VaughanMcCue If you say so.
@@Ratinevo
I appreciate you agreeing with me.
So which of them was secure or was there none 😊 @@Ratinevo
This is by far THE BEST guest you’ve hosted!!! I cannot even begin to describe the wealth of knowledge and inspiration I’ve gained from listening to this interview! I’m totally obsessed with this incredible badass woman’s way of thinking! Her attitude and outlook on life is absolutely INCREDIBLE! She is SO WISE and insightful! I have literally evolved IMMENSELY by merely consuming this invaluable piece of content! Thank you so much for bringing this exceptional human being and for having these incredibly important conversations! Your questioning was EXCELLENT! I’m so grateful for the work that you do! This was fantastic! I am SO HAPPY right now! I’ll be referencing and coming back to listen to this one again and again! I’m BEYOND inspired!
I also feel like you. I learned so much and evolved myself. She is an incredible example.
I agree. I listened to Evy's audiobook - Becoming Bulletproof after this podcast, its amazing, learned so much! It was a very easy listen as Evy narrates it herself, and structures it to be both engaging and informative. Highly recommend.
@mickiegreen1
You very well summarized what a fantastic person/woman she is!
I feel exactly like you do. She is exceptional.
😊😊
The reason this lady sounds so logical and humble is because she has an attitude of gratitude and is thankful for even the very smallest things that she is given in life. We could all take a lesson out of that playbook
I wish she was my mom. :/
Why are first generations so competent? Maybe not all, but it seems like everyone I like listening to is from that group. Even if her English has some interesting little quirks that throw me a bit.
Fascinating interview. I plan to read her book. TY Steven.
definitely not humble
@@FlemmingGiese I don't think you know the definition of humble.
Lol! I must agree. She is refreshingly humble. 🙏🏼
Reading people has always been a personal gift of mine with very little training, as soon as I saw her face on this thumbnail of this video, I knew instantly she was going to know what she's talking about, I knew she was extremely intelligent, self-aware, and a strong individual both emotionally/mentlly and physically. Thank you for this interview, this is the kind of person who needs to lead us. If we had more leaders like her, we would live in a completely different world.
This woman is absolutely incredible. I've never paused a podcast before to grab a pad and pen to takes notes. Thx for this content.
I’ll be #101 to agree with you, sir. Did exact the same thing!
This woman is a rockstar! Role model ....yes, a role model....
Thank you for having her. We learn soo much from her.
Rockstar, great way to explain her🎉❤
Let me have her
She is not a Rockstar. She states what she is and was.
'The day you think you know everything is the day you become obsolete' well said
The same rules apply in my kitchens.
Let's get #cooking
Very true, on the other hand some people always say "I didn't learn that at school" as an excuse that they lack knowledge on a particular subject. In reality school is just scratching the surface in regards to education, you must always be curious and seek knowledge on EVERYTHING through your whole life until the day you die.
my dad always used to say “If you know everything then you know that you don’t know Jack sh.t”
Life is school and you should be growing daily, my Father taught me leaning 1 or 2 new things every day will put you ahead of 99 % of people , so keep Gathering. Love and miss him dearly Thank you Father
@chirigringo777 I wish I had a father to guide and instill me with wise knowledge.He died while I was still young.Most of the things I had to teach myself
Evy's boundary setting is healthy and should be something everyone needs to practice. The problem we have in the U.S. is no one respects those boundaries.
One thing I've observed and truly appreciated is that she always mentions your name when beginning a story. I believe this is crucial as it fosters a sense of intimacy and connection between the conversation partners. Research supports this, suggesting that mentioning someone's name can encourage them to stay engaged and feel more involved in this conversation.
I absolutely hate it when people do that. Its annoying af to repeat someone's name as if they're not listening especially when they already ARE listening.
I’ve also heard that manipulators use your name a lot to trick you into thinking you can trust them.
First tool of manipulation.
Well observed.
That name repeating thing always sounds like a pushy salesman technique. Definitely phoney and annoying.
@@jerrysdancer3769Agreed. It she's right on about "technology n children/teens.
This is the best video I have ever watched on UA-cam. I am 73. I very rarely comment. Please send this to your families, loved ones , friends and your children and grandchildren ‘s teachers . I am
Thank you UA-cam
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It's bullcrap sorry
@@Jerry-jy7jmAnd of course, you have arguments as to why you'd make such a statement.
I agree fully with the original comment, it is an eye opener. I consider myself a successful and confident person, yet I absorbed every word, took notes, plan on watching it again tomorrow and start applying some of these strategies asap. Thank you!
Why is that ...please explain 😅@Jerry-jy7jm
and thank to the producers maybe? haha
@@Jerry-jy7jmyour ignorance is showing, but worse if it's not ignorance, and actually foolishness, please do yourself and everyone else a favor, and get off this page and go waste your life elsewhere. Because life is about growing in some way/shape or form. You should "learn something new every day." To utter the word "BS" towards the ENTIRE interview... now THAT is in fact BS. Try again. Get specific if you're gonna be lazy, continue down the foolish path, let your life waste away. Do nothing gain nothing, waste time, money, resources. Get drunk, high on drugs, gamble, play games, watch porn, become a slave to any addiction, etc. Otherwise, why not relisten to it when, and see if you don't learn ANYTHING new. If still there are no gains, then rinse and repeat and continue to do so until you can put together a critically thought out intellectual critism, good or bad! Godspeed.
I love this lady. She’s strong, smart, confident and not taking no bs, but also humble and kind. She’s awesome!
Hey how are you
Shush@@johnhudson9558
Focused & disciplined! I love how she (checks herself) isn’t blinded by the distractions & her emotions. Her wisdom is golden 💛
Thank you for this video.
Hey how are you doing
Love how she says that....being "sovereign" in herself. She is a legit strong woman, an inspirational bad ass... no whiff at all of fake girl boss energy. She's the Real Deal. Fantastic guest, keep 'em coming, and I'll keep coming back to watch 👊
she does not have to fake what she believes even while being deceitful. she has honed that trait ever since she was little..You don't make it into the CIA being Honest ABE my friend they don't look for those types.,
I loved this, too. It's so important in a world where women are told to only do for others. I wish she had talked more about how people can find their sovereignty because it's so important that people truly understand that and work on practicing it.
if this women is not letting her child go to state school, have a phone or watch TV, who works for the government, then that should make you think...
😮
Exactly. Makes you think that with all her knowledge of the world and the people in it. That shows us that when children are doing those things they are at risk, not learning as well and not safe.
Thinkers come here in the first place. Your comment is very true however.
Ah bullshit. Everyone already knows about phones. State education is full of Communists. TV is good with what you watch. You don't know this,? I don't work for the government and know this
The even scarier part is how most of the other parents who do the same thing are most likely on an FBI watch list🇺🇲
I once read a book by a psychologist about childhood trauma. One of the things that I always remember is that while kids need to process and talk about the things they experience, a weekly therapy appointment where they are expected to conjure up all these negative feelings can actually be detrimental. What matters is that they have a strong family bond, know they are understood and can talk about it any time they want and have been able to go through that initial processing...but a weekly date to go over it all again and again where they are expected to dig it all up and be sad all over again actually works against their ability to move on.
Then people become dependent on the feeling. That's how we get those people who say "I'm never leaving my therapist, can't live without them". They want to go and spill the beans, cry a bit, feel "validated" and go. More than validation it becomes a cycle of victim mentality
Yeah… this is bad therapy guys. Good therapy supports you in personal growth and independence.
What I learned through good therapy is how to process stuck emotions. The reason people struggle to overcome anxiety, depression, and victimizhood mentality is because they have poor emotional regulation and were not taught that by caregivers. If children are crying and then being yelled at for crying, they will be afraid to feel things for fear of upsetting someone else. EMDR, meditation, and many other practices can be used in therapy and also practiced outside of therapy to help overcome these stuck, trapped emotions and experiences. We can develop better emotional maturity if we work through it. This woman just says "let it go", but if you can't process it, you will be stuck in it. My guess is that her parents were better skilled in helping her as a child with emotional regulation than others and have a very stable base to build on. But she's unaware of why others struggle bc this came naturally to her. A good therapist will not allow a patient to get stuck in rumination. They will try to help you feel the feeling and get it to pass through you. I wish I had known this decades ago, though it's never too late.
It’s unfortunate that this form of bad therapy isn’t addressed when going to therapy becomes a legal requirement in a case. Then there’s more salt added to the child’s wound.
This lady is smart. Be warm to people but if you are too friendly not good. True…I often said in the school years ago when the school system said we are now calling all the kids our friends everything was we are all friends. I thought this was wrong because as adults shouldn’t we be on a different level than the kids? Does this make sense to anyone ? It is like as a parent you are the authority figure.
trust me guy on this, read the best psychology ebook called 'the manipulation enigma'
never thought a book could help me this much. highly recommend
Get this book it helped me a lot
This is probably one of the best conversations I have been privileged to listen to in the past 10 years. It's bookmarked and saved and liked for review later.
Me too. Evy only talked when she had something worth saying, and this made me listen intently.
So refreshing to hear someone who takes full responsibility for themselves. I so agreed with her when she said trauma has become a competition. Incredible woman.
After years of counseling for childhood issues that bled into adult issues and never getting the golden ticket of healing, I just gave up one day and accepted that I would just be living with my issues the rest of my life. I would still try to improve myself but I accepted that I was never going to be "fixed." To my surprise it was the most freeing and healing thing Ive ever done. As she said, to not carry that "trailer" behind me was such an incredible relief. There is still always some level of discordance but I don't give the beast my time and thoughts for it to feed on and I'm so much better for it.
This is such a wonderful way of seeing it. Thank you for sharing!
i‘m happy for u💯
sometimes counseling doesn’t happen on a couch. but it was def ur own will! otherwise u wouldn’t have "received" that message that brought u some closure. keep on looking for more & may god bless u🙏
I don't think that was Evy's message, to accept you'll never be fixed. But the part of letting go is.
@@JohnJohnCrusherduh… it’s the same thing
she has a clear enunciation and uses bombastic words. as an ESL user, i can hear her speech well and learn from it too.
I also noticed her perfect speech.
Edit. For some reason I'm not able to add another comment but can comment by editing my old comment. UA-cam is funny that way. For no reason it blocks me from adding comments. Either way, I am a Russian speaker and I found this professor that gave a lecture on types of people and their body types relation to their character. It was a very booooooring lecture but the guy had such a nice speech I could not stop listening to him.
Oh wow I never thought of this. What other people do have clear speeches?
The most important thing I saw in this interview was that when he talked, no matter for how long, she never said a word and kept her eyes on him. She was listening and present.
She was studying his every single move hahaha
And he’s an excellent podcaster - she knows she’ll get her turn, and be asked interesting questions, and be heard! Excellent
lol I’ve seen her look away multiple times
What i saw is the complete opposite. He is he one listenning and studying her and she is full of herself and doing all the things she said other people do.
@@simomaaroufihaving that reaction to this particular interview and women tells me that you're not experiencing the same reality as the rest of us, because you're a misogynist and probably also a bigot. I highly doubt that you've given even 1/10th of this woman's effort to our country in service. You can't see past your own nose, and people who eclipse you are perceived as a threat, especially women because you feel emasculated. To you, everything is a zero sum game. I'd feel pity for you, but I doubt you deserve it.
Truly an inspiration! She mentions she teaches a class, at 51 yrs old, I'd take that class; hands down to learn more and better myself.
Yes!!!!!! To almost everything she said! I loved her, “how much energy are you going to waste feeling hurt by others? I have things to do!”
I’m a mother of a pre teen, and the more I was watching this , the more I was thinking of ways we need to sit down together to watch it. Priceless advise that can be applied to all aspects of your life. Thank you!
"Your the governor of you" this lady was amazing. No emotion just facts, so simple yet so hard for us to do. This talk had so much value
Problem is you have just given away how to catch the bad guy next time ! This goes world wide .Remember the show how to catch the thief. No X CIA AGENT SHOULD BE ABLE TO TALK so freely about how they keep us safe
@@CurtissRoberts lol
C.I.A. and Secret Service although sound like the same thing are both very different. I think she did a good job of explaining her job but being vague enough to not give up how the organization operates.
@@takenoprisoners837 Some people think everyone's a cia agent lol
You need to tap into your emotions to understand yourself and others, it is what brings about self awareness and a social conscious. Feeling, validating, processing and managing your emotions is the key to be able to govern yourself. Emotions and facts are NOT mutually exclusive, they go hand in hand. To stray from our emotions is to stray from the truth.
She is a perfect blend of elegance, confidence, power, beauty and intelligence. Kudos to her for becoming the woman she is today, and to her husband for being able to be around a strong woman. Maximum respect. Such an inspiration. Steven we need more of strong women like her on your show. 😎💪🏼😍
She looks like a b or c corn star. 😂😂😂 Strong women…I rather have a real woman.
It must be disgusting to sleep only 4-5 hours with her, I can imagine.
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Yes, it's refreshing to see such strong and capable women. Thank you for this show : )
Best interview ever. It’s the scenario that her training could never predict. Sixteen yr old kid who was presumably paralysed with fear and couldn’t show his hands after many minutes of being told he would be SHOT if he didn’t do so. He wasn’t deaf. He wasn’t holding a lethal weapon. He was petrified. This is truly remarkable.
The interviewer is just low-average; he has pre-arranged questions and does not follow up and ask "why". He gets an answer and moves to the next pre-arranged question. I get the impression that the guests know the questions in advance and have prepared answers.
I'll never watch this guy again.
Look at Larry King interviews. Everything a person says has within it another question to ask "why". This guy does not draw the guest out. He's a cardboard cutout, with narration/speaking skill only.
@thankmelater1254 these two are having a healthy grown up conversation...
@@RxsieExdes21 It is not a conversation. It is a Q and A session with pre-planned questions and answers.
after an answer, no further digging.
He's NOT an interviewer here, he is merely a reader.
@@thankmelater1254 A wholesome choice for you could be to change the channel.
@@thankmelater1254 And I found it great: he was prepared, wasn't interrupting, was a great listener and was refering to what she said. His intellingence and empathy is definitely more than average
Watching and listening to this very beautiful and intelligent lady, restores my faith in humanity 😊😊😊
“When I become sovereign, I’m good enough” 👏🏾 This woman is such a gem to humanity and a breath of fresh air in this day and age. Accountable, not a victim, with the determination to move forward and push through in spite of what life throws at you. Excellent episode!
i didn’t even notice I watched this 2-hr long interview… she’s such a woman of life and words. Taken notes on this interview and for sure will come back to it each and everytime. 🙌🏻
WTF best interview ever ever? EVER EVER! As an internet junkie that has watched a few thousand videos of similar topics... This is by far in the top 10... Well done!
Mind if u share the top 10 list for us newbies on podcasts to have material to listen to please?
@@278lnn Would love that as well, especially knowing this person has seen a few THOUSAND of these!!
This interview prompted me to listen to her book. EXCELLENT BOOK!!! This interview doesn't reveal all of who she really is.
I highly recommend the book!!!
Future, what made the video best for you?
List of top 10 interviews please
Κα Πουμπουρα, δεν έχω ακούσει ξανά άνθρωπο με τόσο συγκροτημένο εαυτό. Θαμπωθηκα, κ αποθηκευω το video αυτό ως μαθημα για εμένα αλλά κ τα παιδιά μου. Θα ψάξω για το βιβλίο σας. Σας ευχαριστούμε για το μάθημα ζωής κ συμπεριφοράς απέναντι κατ αρχάς στον εαυτό μας κ απέναντι στους άλλους. Σας ευχομαι τα καλύτερα γιατί έχετε δουλέψει σκληρά για να τα κερδίσετε κ φαίνεται. Είστε ένα λαμπερό πνεύμα.
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Every single person in the USA needs to listen to this woman... especially "all the victims." It surely inspires me to change a lot of my standards.
Same. Makes me see my own victim mentality where it exists so I can squash it.
Look, just because a person realizes where her or his weak spots are doesn't mean he or she can alter his behavior. You can realize a hundred times that people wipe their feet on you, because you show your insecurity, but this realization itself won't make you more confident.
@@helenivanova5440 you’re so right. It takes a thoughtful person to recognize and acknowledge, but it takes a truly special person to actually change and correct
@helenivanova5440 You are so wrong. As a perky blonde scientist, I recognized why I wasn't being taken seriously. Once I started taking myself more seriously, others did too.
@@pippa3150 well, I don't state that it happens this way in a hundred percent cases. Sometimes that's true and realization itself is enough to change everything.
But it's obviously not enough to hear "just stop being a victim" to start feeling different immediately.
I am a teacher, and my hat is off to Evy for keeping electronic media away from her daughter!! Well done!! Keep up the good work...it is a parent's job to protect their child's innocence, and controlling what they are exposed to is part of that.
She knows the media lies most of the time 😅
What time stamp was that in the podcast i think i missed it
Agree but I think she said she was 18 months old. Let’s see how they are getting on when the child is 8, 10,12 years old
The problem is the school system has now got everything loaded on an online platform so there is no escaping it to some extent.
@roserosalindflying499 "No" can still be said
Evy is beautiful, strong, experienced, well trained in her career, smart, no nonsense, with good values but also compassionate!! Just love her!!! 🎉
That was truly one of the most captivating interviews I’ve ever encountered. What I thought would be a quick 10-minute listen turned into two hours of pure engagement-and even then, I didn’t want it to end!
This was awesome; that woman is awesome. I'm a Retired Marine Infantryman; and, quite a few of my stupid biases were firmly in-place as this interview began. She shut them all down.
You should work on muting your bias from past experiences so that you can live in the present. Otherwise, you miss opportunities by dismissing the talent of 50% of the population
@@pinschrunnerGreat point ❤
amen! she is a treasure ❤
That is an awesome and inspiring admission. Thank you for sharing.
Love that she achieved this and that you now have advanced insight.
I normally would not listen through a 2 hour interview but this woman’s insight commanded my attention and I literally gained my own insight listening to hers. Thank you for being you and giving us your story!
Same!!!
Me too
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What an amazing lady. Her mindset, her outlook and her integrity is something to be applauded. What an inspiration.
This one was one of the most interesting episodes! Such a great woman that many young girls can look up to! Thank you @TheDiaryofACeo!
I just finished eating ice cream and watched your video. It hit me. I’m 54 years old. 5’8” and 235lbs my journey starts today.
Wth
Never too late!
Watching this empowers you!! Same ❤
Sending love your way!
You got this!
Man, this is NO. 1 episode for me here. It's a pure fire. Evy is simply magnificent
This is one of the best podcasts that I've heard on your channel, Steve. This is what truly powerful and intelligent woman looks like
Amen ...
Absolutely ❤
Absolutely...
Be careful how you listen.
@@Ratinevo don't enlighten the sheep, let them listen how they perceive so they can then be deceived.
This isn't just a podcast but a very clear motivation with real life experiences... The most important thing is that she's too confident about what she's talking about which make me believe that everything is really possible
What an utter breath of fresh air with an old fashioned sense of healthful overcoming and sense of peace.
I love this woman. She’s an outstanding human being. Balanced, yet passionate with meaningful purpose and incredible discipline, clearly operating with integrity in every aspect of her life. She’s got it right on every front. God Bless. We need leaders like this woman now for our country.
Fellow New Yorker here too. She rocks. 💪🏻
DITTO...NEW YORKER..QUEENS :)
i ordered her book during the pandemic and studied it bit by bit. she changed me as a woman. i am a military reservist now and studying clinical psychology at the same time.
thank you for being an inspiration , evy!
What book called
@@victoriagill5842 becoming bulletproof
Hi, what book?
Need a name of the book, dot for later
@@victoriagill5842becoming bulletproof, she mentioned in the interview
Thank you for inviting this wise, strong, and beautiful lady. I enjoyed every minuteof this conversation, discovering her incredible life story and brilliant mindset. 👏
This interview educates me way more than 100 therapy sessions. What she has to say is way more valuable than what my therapists have said so far.
I’ve always realized that the classic psychotherapy doesn’t work for me because it stops me in the past and in my healthy energy to move on.
This interview makes it clear.
I thank you very much!
Yea honestly I believe her experience and what she has seen makes her words so much more powerful than the knowledge therapists gain in school. Sure, it's also knowledge, but it's only this sort of life or death situations and meeting all these different people in life that teach you the best and most valuable life lessons hands on.
Indeed!
Evy's attitude on raising Her daughter. Specifically the influence of Media. Outstanding. Such an envigorating person to hear speak. Thank you Evy-and you, Mr B.
10q yoy and l know very well cos we grow up eth cultures and ortdox chures support displine😊
Wow! This resonates with me deeply! After dedicating over 30 years to climbing the corporate ladder, I recently opted for voluntary redundancy. Reflecting on my journey, I realise I could have advocated for myself more assertively instead of being overly accommodating or self-deprecating. It's time to stop dwelling in self-pity and start embracing new opportunities! Thanks for the inspiration, Evy!
This message was like a sign from the universe to me. I'm feeling the same things you said in your comment, and it inspired me! Thank you!
I’m in exactly the same position as you. I retired 4 years ago at 47 after exactly 30 years in the corporate game. My eyes were opened to an alternative stress free and more thoughtful way of living. My relationships have flourished with all the important people in my life and unexpectedly I’m better off financially too.
Ooooh myyyy godddd!!!! Just halfway through the video I couldn't resist the urge to comment just how much influential this video is. It's quite effective with no irrelevant use of words but also not so short concepts. Everything's just so adequate with an essence of maturity and experience. This video has caused Stephen to gain a follower and Evy a lifetime fan.
Truly love the effort.
Phenomenal interview with an intensely insightful and inspiring woman.
Evy has to be one of my favourite guests on this podcast.
I aspire to attain her level of emotional mastery and intellectual maturity.
I very much look forward to reading her book.
I was hooked through this interview. I even stopped, rewind the section, and listen again so I could take it all in and really listen. Thank you for this I will watch it again
What I love about her is her she is driven and guided by her core values and her integrity is sky high. She's got such a humbleness about her, along with the confidence to be who she is. What an inspiration. I can't wait to read her book.
Evy is absolutely correct. She is magnetic. I have never seen or heard of her before this popped up in my feed and I am instantly wanting to be her friend.
This is the best interview I have ever watched!!! I love that touched conflict, trauma, anxiety, respect, communication, health… This woman is amazing!!!
I like this woman. She strong, mentally and physically, and has good moral values.
She is also naive.
How is she strong physically? Women in these fields only have to do pushups on their knees and reduced pullups and running.
She is doing a job....
@@ChatGPT1111huh? Do you not have eyes and are you incapable of listening? I knew the moment I started watching that this woman is incredibly fit, she looks amazing and healthy, and then to hear her training with Don Saladino who is one of the most renowned and well-known trainers and fitness experts around and her talking about her work outs and running and how she eats and how her body is a temple, etc...and you seriously have to wonder how she is fit physically? Clearly you need some help yourself but in the cognitive department.
@@mariaanjonker6195 why do you think that?
"Your body houses you soul" Beautiful, that is a brilliant way to make your own body's representation!!!
A soul belongs to G@D. She said earlier she said people who believe and read the Bible or use the rosary are liars, so therefore she is a liar
This podcast is an absolutely maturity.. I have travelled places, been spiritually motivated, read many people in and out, designed my own processes to be very efficient in this world but always found rare number of people of the some clan. This is probably the first ever comment I am making on any social media platform, and just want to say to the host and the guest that “ Thank you for bringing these experience and knowledge to us. looking forward to sharing my own experiences someday”🙏🏻
As a young woman, I'm in awe! She's exceptional! Such an inspiration.
Because,low life all around,so she stands out.
Higher standards.
She is a foot soldier.
Well trained.
Evy has an incredible mindset. She's straight-talking and makes so much sense! Great interview.
I’ve watched countless episodes of DOAC. Evy’s interview has officially become my favorite. And has had a huge impact on my behavior and perspective in the short time it has been released. Thank you so much Steven…a million times!
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I really appreciate what she says on parenting. She is doing it like a typical African woman. Love love love mum.
I grew up in Crete, go back there every summer, back to the old village, it’s emotionally grounding!
I recognize that I haven't had the boundaries needed with people and am paying in ways I can't even begin to express.
You don't have the skills. You can change that any day you want. Setting boundaries isn't just a natural skill your born with. My advice is don't look at the problem as this giant thing. Change can be a slow and often one of the most difficult process. Unfortunately there are so many things to distract us from confronting our our real issues . You recognize the issue. You did what you knew what to do at the time don't beat yourself up about the past. It's a skill based problem now. Learn how you got to where you are and learn how to not go back there. Personal change is one of the hardest thing I've personally ever done. But it has been my hardest struggles that have always turned the out to be most impactful of my life. Who cares how you are paying the price now. Every day is another day to change the things we do not like in our lives. It's also another day to buy a new pair of shoes and not deal with any of it.
You decide who you are relevant to your environment. You decide who you are in this world, don’t let anything or any stereotype etc etc determine who you are … Let’s go!! What an awesome mindset, she’s great!
This lady!!! This is the kind of stuff one needs to hear to change every aspect of their life. About to do so many transformative things in the next year. I thought I might not have the mental fortitude until I heard her. The levels we didn't know we needed!!! Shout out to the land of my people, Bots!
She’s dropping gems after gems after gems, definitely taken notes! 👏🏾
Singular not plural
@@ellengarcia4041 Not necessarily the writer's fault. Blame it on our current public educational system's standard of "leave no child behind" so they all get a diploma even if they don't have spelling or proper English skills.
When I am having a difficult time sleeping, I will at times listen to one of the podcasts and fall asleep. This conversation kept me up because I was so engaged in what was being said. What a remarkable person. What an amazing conversation. Thank you!
It was like a breath of fresh air. Straight to the point, no fuss, no water, simple and honest.
The technicality of the grounds she covered in this one session of interview is outstanding. Most talk about it and there’s some who backs it up and she’s definitely one of rare few who supports it. Well done.
This episode is the only episode that I watched it full. Some others were very interesting too, but I get bored after a while. This woman has so much powerful aura around her and so well spoken that it kept me glued to my phone. How valuable would be to have someone like her in your friend list
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FACTS.
She is my role model and she embodies great values that i align with and try to live by! Thank you for inviting Evy!
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I absolutely adore Evy. She is very inspiring. So many of the skills she discussed I have used with my clients in counseling and my patients in the Emergency Room.
A word of caution regarding her opinions about therapy and trauma. Trauma therapy is much more than and should never be just regurgitating the trauma experience weekly. Also, people have differing strengths, different wiring. Some people are verbal processors and benefit from psychoanalysis. And some people are incapable of participating in physical exercise to manage their stress. I'm truly happy that Evy has found the formula that works for her. There is no shame in needing prescription drugs or therapy to manage mental health symptoms if that is part of your effective formula. Find what works for you, be it therapy, art, music, baking, quality time with loved ones, watching a comedy, etc. It is normal and necessary to feel anxious and depressed. It is part of the human condition. It is vital to growth and resilience as it helps us process challenges and is a sign that something is out of balance and needs addressing. Find your formula and adjust as needed. Best to all of you.
Ya, depends on age and depth of the trauma, not everyone has been blessed with a decent life. BUT the vast number of people on here that WANT to be seen as victims is sickening. That is an even worse slap in the face to someone dealing with extreme trauma.