I’m 17 about to turn 18 & I lost my best friend 5 months ago, at the time I didn’t know how to handle or fix the situation. I was the one who hurt her & there’s not a lot of videos out there about “what if I was the one who caused the hurt” it’s always the other way around. So thank you for this video! I have tried multiple times to fix the friendship, but I was doing a lot of things wrong & I would react very quickly & I was super impatient during the whole breakup. I don’t want to give up on the friendship. I want to think that I lost her temporarily & not forever. I want to reach out again, but I’m just scared of the rejection. I must’ve really hurt her bad. One thing i don’t understand is how she can move on so quickly. It’s like she doesn’t care, but she does. Idk it’s hard to explain, but thank you so much for this video!
quick update! so i actually just turned 20 about a month ago but i did in fact tried reaching out before my 19th birthday & i got no response:/ which was unfortunate but it’s okay bc i turned out okay without her! from time to time i do think about her but it’s okay to care for people at a distance hopefully sometime in the near future we’ll come back to each other if our friendship was real you know? what’s important was that i tried. sometimes no response is an answer. i’ve learned how to be independent & not suffer so much when people are no longer apart of my life!
@@pamelaagripino7625 I am in a similar situation, I still even dreamt about that friend this morning, I am learning to live life without him but I still feel sad about it...
It's so helpful because there are whole lot of video about how the next person hurted you and how you should forgive him him. But these video actually helped and addressed the true cause of how we are the one who are in fault and how we can make up to themm.. Again Thank you so much...
This is soooo EXCELLENT!! Really!!! You have an amazing mission, and you are exquisitely PERFECT at helping people with establishing & keeping probably THE most important kind of a relationship we can have: intentional, in which we choose to always give the BEST version of ourselves & make one another ever-better. Thank You! Thank You soooo very much for teaching me ways to be a better friend to those I love & respect dearly!! 🧡
I hope it works, I used to be with these two friends(of three years) but they said to give us a break and I was the one that has hurt them many times and I don't know if it's gonna be repaired but I hope it does Update: they said we're still friends just not as close as before, I kinda moved on and now have other friends I can trust
How can you possibly apologize and not present the line of thinking that made you act the way you did? Behavior doesn’t happen in the vacuum, it is ruled by cause and effect. Apologizing without exposing what led you to behave the way you did makes it look like you acted on a whim.
Im always the one being hurt and cause Im empathic, I have in the past let that go on for so long with so many people. Would love to see a video talking about when you really should walk away. Because while we should try and repair a friendship, if we're the only one trying, it's futile 💔 I'm the most alone I've been my entire life, no family nor friends, not even a pet. On the other side of the planet from where I was born. Yet I've never felt so free
Ironically, you have to un-lonely yourself all by yourself, and learn to totally love your own company first!! It's hard! Journal your guts out! Listen to anything except sad music! And enjoy the beautiful sky, trees, grass--even if that means lying in the neighbor's lawn for 20mins at 2am because their front garden smells so great! And, do a million little Good things every day of your life (no bad things mostly ever)--then you'll always be part of the chain of Goodness. Check out stuff on the "Law of Attraction" to get an idea of how to approach the world with a co-creating mindset. And, yeah, take care of a plant or learn a musical instrument--those help people take care of things that are alive too. If you just do it, you'll be shocked how great it feels to do Good things for yourself! A lot of things will feel possible once you "own" yourself & become whole. It's like MAGIC!
At some u have to realize u are hurting urself by trying to be comforting to others. There us nothing wrong with caring for ppl of course but allowing ppl to dumb all their problems onto u is not healthy. U cant fix their life its not ur responsibility. If u offer advice and they dont take it its fine let them learn and live their life. 💙
But I really need to express my feelings. I don’t even know if I hurt her, she seems fine. I try my very best to stay in touch, show interest, show that I think about her. I really don’t know what I would be apologising for… Sure I could’ve done things better. I was just going through a difficult time and I felt like she didn’t wanna be around me
Hate to break it to you buddy, but going through a difficult time usually involves you working on yourself by yourself. I’m in the same boat & hurt a friend not too long ago. Hard as it is to do, you have to let it go for now. If your friend reaches out, let it be on their terms. Either way, move on with your life.
@@beegsex what do you mean on their terms? I didnt hurt a friend :). Nothing happened, except i was not feeling well, it cost her energy to be around me, so afyer years of friendship it ended. I texted her for clarification and im glad i did. There’s no resentment from my side. It’s just unfortunate and i wish she was the type of friend to stick around in tough times
They have me blocked & got other people to block me after starting smear campaign over a lie. Never tried to find out the truth. They unblocked me briefly then blocked again when I owned what I did but mentioned how they threatened me. There's nothing else I can do.
Hello. So a friend of mine was using me for some things in a game and all the day he would tell me about how excited he was about the things we were going to do in a game. Then I learned that he was saying bad things about me behind my back. Then i didn't want to play with him and he told me that I was a fake friend etc. So I haven't talked to him for like about 5-6 months and I feel hate growing inside me. Any help?
I recently hurt a friend by saying hurtful things & not respecting her boundaries. She’s blocked me off since & I miss our bond. I would like to rekindle but no idea if she’ll ever come around.
@@torresthemonster I’m sorry you went through it. In my case, there’s no resolve as it’s been 1.5 months & it seems to be a permanent block/cutting ties. In your case, not sure what happened, but I would say give your friend some space. Let them reach out to you. Pushing them never works, so don’t make my mistake resulting in the other person labeling you in a negative way.
@@Awtuch doesn’t do me any good acknowledging it tbh. I feel like my friend now sees me as the scum of the earth, or doesn’t even give me a second thought (out of sight, out of mind if you will). Hard as it is & negative as I sound, I dug my own grave & now need to lay in it forever.
We are going through the same things. My friend blocked me off about 1.5 months ago, and we have not talked since. I am still talking to their best friend, but we also are very distanced. I am not sure if I am able to be accepted into the friend circle again. Oh well, we just have to learn from our mistakes and go from here. No friend ship is forever, so we have to cherish the times we had together and build new memories.
Seems odd i never find myself in these types or situations. Not sure if it's because I'm a perfect friend or i don't have any friends. One of the voices in my head just told me to stop embarrassing us. He's obviously a bad friend. On a serious note, I'm shocked you don't have more views. I hope that changes for you soon.
I don't know, if I'll need it (I'm assuming it), but I want to be prepared and maybe this can help... We are kind of in a weird stage right now. Even though we didn't talk regularly, we actually are very close friends. But all of a sudden, she started unfollowing me (and not other friends) on several platforms. I reached out to her, before I saw the unfollows. She actually texted me back, telling me, she was happy about my message, that she'll message me, if she has the power to and she still likes me. I would've respected that message, but with her actions of unfollowing me, I feel like she is pulling herself out of my life slowly and now I have to wait until she reaches out for me and it's driving me crazy and making me sad :/ And I don't really know what to make of this situation now...
sooo one of my friends frieind told her a was talking crap about then we started cussing at each other me and my friend than she was like chill till her and her friends than she was all like defensive even tho we were being friendly with each other and it was like ur so called friends not a real friend if u have ti pretend not to like sm to be theyre friend
Is to okay to apologize a month later? I really did something bad on my part and it took a month tk detox and flex and meditate and se the thing so did spent and I am sorry for the harm my words and action toward them
OK i need Help. My best friend (a Girl) and i were Work Buddies and then best friends for years. But Last Winter she started acting differently around me . After five years all of a sudden she got flirty and at First i didnt get it. But eventually we both confessed Our feelings for one another . But she does have a Boyfriend and wasnt Brave enough to leave him. Then we fought and demanded space from one another. She however contacted me a few weeks after that for my Birthday and told me i could contact her whenever i feel Like. So now recently weve been chatting a Bit on WhatsApp. It doesnt feel as distant as before. Its actually upbeat and positive. I wanna See her when i Return from my Trip (which will end in two Weeks) but im afraid of the rejection. At this Point i Just Miss my best friend.
I’m 17 about to turn 18 & I lost my best friend 5 months ago, at the time I didn’t know how to handle or fix the situation. I was the one who hurt her & there’s not a lot of videos out there about “what if I was the one who caused the hurt” it’s always the other way around. So thank you for this video! I have tried multiple times to fix the friendship, but I was doing a lot of things wrong & I would react very quickly & I was super impatient during the whole breakup. I don’t want to give up on the friendship. I want to think that I lost her temporarily & not forever. I want to reach out again, but I’m just scared of the rejection. I must’ve really hurt her bad. One thing i don’t understand is how she can move on so quickly. It’s like she doesn’t care, but she does. Idk it’s hard to explain, but thank you so much for this video!
Any updates?😁
Omg yes. Update?
It's what happened with me now .if work out for you give me some advice.she really is saying we are not friends anymore.
quick update! so i actually just turned 20 about a month ago but i did in fact tried reaching out before my 19th birthday & i got no response:/ which was unfortunate but it’s okay bc i turned out okay without her! from time to time i do think about her but it’s okay to care for people at a distance hopefully sometime in the near future we’ll come back to each other if our friendship was real you know? what’s important was that i tried. sometimes no response is an answer. i’ve learned how to be independent & not suffer so much when people are no longer apart of my life!
@@pamelaagripino7625 I am in a similar situation, I still even dreamt about that friend this morning, I am learning to live life without him but I still feel sad about it...
It's so helpful because there are whole lot of video about how the next person hurted you and how you should forgive him him. But these video actually helped and addressed the true cause of how we are the one who are in fault and how we can make up to themm.. Again
Thank you so much...
This is soooo EXCELLENT!! Really!!! You have an amazing mission, and you are exquisitely PERFECT at helping people with establishing & keeping probably THE most important kind of a relationship we can have: intentional, in which we choose to always give the BEST version of ourselves & make one another ever-better.
Thank You! Thank You soooo very much for teaching me ways to be a better friend to those I love & respect dearly!! 🧡
I hope it works, I used to be with these two friends(of three years) but they said to give us a break and I was the one that has hurt them many times and I don't know if it's gonna be repaired but I hope it does
Update: they said we're still friends just not as close as before, I kinda moved on and now have other friends I can trust
“Apologie”
They kinda blocked me everywhere-
(This is an online friendship by the way)
bout to send the message guys wish me luck! 😀
How can you possibly apologize and not present the line of thinking that made you act the way you did? Behavior doesn’t happen in the vacuum, it is ruled by cause and effect. Apologizing without exposing what led you to behave the way you did makes it look like you acted on a whim.
Going to try this, I hope it works 🙏🏽
Did it work?
Im always the one being hurt and cause Im empathic, I have in the past let that go on for so long with so many people. Would love to see a video talking about when you really should walk away. Because while we should try and repair a friendship, if we're the only one trying, it's futile 💔
I'm the most alone I've been my entire life, no family nor friends, not even a pet. On the other side of the planet from where I was born. Yet I've never felt so free
Ironically, you have to un-lonely yourself all by yourself, and learn to totally love your own company first!! It's hard!
Journal your guts out! Listen to anything except sad music! And enjoy the beautiful sky, trees, grass--even if that means lying in the neighbor's lawn for 20mins at 2am because their front garden smells so great!
And, do a million little Good things every day of your life (no bad things mostly ever)--then you'll always be part of the chain of Goodness.
Check out stuff on the "Law of Attraction" to get an idea of how to approach the world with a co-creating mindset. And, yeah, take care of a plant or learn a musical instrument--those help people take care of things that are alive too.
If you just do it, you'll be shocked how great it feels to do Good things for yourself! A lot of things will feel possible once you "own" yourself & become whole. It's like MAGIC!
At some u have to realize u are hurting urself by trying to be comforting to others. There us nothing wrong with caring for ppl of course but allowing ppl to dumb all their problems onto u is not healthy. U cant fix their life its not ur responsibility. If u offer advice and they dont take it its fine let them learn and live their life. 💙
You helped me so much! You were so right I was able to fix my relationship with my brother😃
me and my freind are on bad terms rn i hope this helps
good news! this helped and now we are friends again
I hope it happens on us too
@@vadsvoltube8131hows it
What if the friend never told you the reasons why they want no contact anymore?
this video is incredible
I’m watching this vid because my friend isn’t acting the same and he never talks to me
Thank you. I’ll try not to f up and fix this! They reached out first so I think it’s a good sign.
How is it going
@@mimimeeee worked! We’re friends again.
@@Awtuch omg great
I love your content. Very mature and uplifting. However, if I can suggest, the intro is too loud in comparison to how the content is recorded.
But I really need to express my feelings. I don’t even know if I hurt her, she seems fine.
I try my very best to stay in touch, show interest, show that I think about her. I really don’t know what I would be apologising for… Sure I could’ve done things better. I was just going through a difficult time and I felt like she didn’t wanna be around me
Hate to break it to you buddy, but going through a difficult time usually involves you working on yourself by yourself. I’m in the same boat & hurt a friend not too long ago. Hard as it is to do, you have to let it go for now. If your friend reaches out, let it be on their terms. Either way, move on with your life.
@@beegsex what do you mean on their terms? I didnt hurt a friend :). Nothing happened, except i was not feeling well, it cost her energy to be around me, so afyer years of friendship it ended. I texted her for clarification and im glad i did. There’s no resentment from my side. It’s just unfortunate and i wish she was the type of friend to stick around in tough times
Thank you so much I hope this works 🙃
They have me blocked & got other people to block me after starting smear campaign over a lie. Never tried to find out the truth. They unblocked me briefly then blocked again when I owned what I did but mentioned how they threatened me. There's nothing else I can do.
Praying to get aanya again! ❤️
Hello. So a friend of mine was using me for some things in a game and all the day he would tell me about how excited he was about the things we were going to do in a game. Then I learned that he was saying bad things about me behind my back. Then i didn't want to play with him and he told me that I was a fake friend etc. So I haven't talked to him for like about 5-6 months and I feel hate growing inside me. Any help?
I had hurt my friendship with my friend Michelle recently and I don’t know how to fix it
I recently hurt a friend by saying hurtful things & not respecting her boundaries. She’s blocked me off since & I miss our bond. I would like to rekindle but no idea if she’ll ever come around.
I think it’s good that you acknowledge what you did. It’s a first step :)
This also happened to me. Any update on how to resolve this?
@@torresthemonster I’m sorry you went through it.
In my case, there’s no resolve as it’s been 1.5 months & it seems to be a permanent block/cutting ties.
In your case, not sure what happened, but I would say give your friend some space. Let them reach out to you. Pushing them never works, so don’t make my mistake resulting in the other person labeling you in a negative way.
@@Awtuch doesn’t do me any good acknowledging it tbh.
I feel like my friend now sees me as the scum of the earth, or doesn’t even give me a second thought (out of sight, out of mind if you will).
Hard as it is & negative as I sound, I dug my own grave & now need to lay in it forever.
We are going through the same things. My friend blocked me off about 1.5 months ago, and we have not talked since. I am still talking to their best friend, but we also are very distanced. I am not sure if I am able to be accepted into the friend circle again. Oh well, we just have to learn from our mistakes and go from here. No friend ship is forever, so we have to cherish the times we had together and build new memories.
Seems odd i never find myself in these types or situations. Not sure if it's because I'm a perfect friend or i don't have any friends. One of the voices in my head just told me to stop embarrassing us.
He's obviously a bad friend.
On a serious note, I'm shocked you don't have more views. I hope that changes for you soon.
How do you do this through text?
What if you apoloize and change but they would rather cut me out then let me change?
There's this girl that I miss how do I fix our friendship help please
I did all of this they never forgave me it was about 1 person then the others joined and now they r ignoring me
I don't know, if I'll need it (I'm assuming it), but I want to be prepared and maybe this can help...
We are kind of in a weird stage right now. Even though we didn't talk regularly, we actually are very close friends. But all of a sudden, she started unfollowing me (and not other friends) on several platforms. I reached out to her, before I saw the unfollows.
She actually texted me back, telling me, she was happy about my message, that she'll message me, if she has the power to and she still likes me. I would've respected that message, but with her actions of unfollowing me, I feel like she is pulling herself out of my life slowly and now I have to wait until she reaches out for me and it's driving me crazy and making me sad :/ And I don't really know what to make of this situation now...
I have an almost similar situation and it’s driving me crazy too
Hi there. How can I get ur appointment please
sooo one of my friends frieind told her a was talking crap about then we started cussing at each other me and my friend than she was like chill till her and her friends than she was all like defensive even tho we were being friendly with each other and it was like ur so called friends not a real friend if u have ti pretend not to like sm to be theyre friend
Does this work if I’m a guy or not?
why would it not work if youre a guy
Is to okay to apologize a month later? I really did something bad on my part and it took a month tk detox and flex and meditate and se the thing so did spent and I am sorry for the harm my words and action toward them
How r things now
There's hope
I pray that I get Aari back as my friend 😢❤️
❤️❤️
Juju
OK i need Help. My best friend (a Girl) and i were Work Buddies and then best friends for years. But Last Winter she started acting differently around me . After five years all of a sudden she got flirty and at First i didnt get it. But eventually we both confessed Our feelings for one another . But she does have a Boyfriend and wasnt Brave enough to leave him. Then we fought and demanded space from one another. She however contacted me a few weeks after that for my Birthday and told me i could contact her whenever i feel Like. So now recently weve been chatting a Bit on WhatsApp. It doesnt feel as distant as before. Its actually upbeat and positive. I wanna See her when i Return from my Trip (which will end in two Weeks) but im afraid of the rejection. At this Point i Just Miss my best friend.
Update?