As a man I can’t sit on that! I’m not paying just the light bill that’s not normal. If I’m head of the house I’m bringing to the table more than just paying a light bill.
@@mariamarahim4242 Thanks! But real talk I just can’t sit around claiming grown man status but yet she’s paying all the bills I feel a certain way about that
I feel and respect what you said, but this is what theese so called "strong and independent" women get for always shooting ofr at the mouth about how strong and independent they are and dont need no man! Now they have to be the man.
@West_Lake_Mafia I agree. Unc was off on this one. I'm not about to take care of a broke dependent person. Work for yourself yes but never take care of a person that's dependent except your child and that's only for a certain time.
No no no no it is not fine! When did he become a. Expert on male and female relationships. He don’t know nothing about that! How dare he even comment Ms Perry please shut up!
You’ll rarely find a woman capable of having a stay at home father for a long period of time. After about a year or 2 she will begin to hate seeing him sitting in house while she’s working.
My Father Has NEVER Given My BROTHER'S And I This Advice. My Dad Told Us "MEN TAKE CARE OF WOMEN, WOMEN DON'T TAKE CARE OF MEN".. And He Meant That With Force.
@@YGPR1212 Right? N here lies the problem bw never call each other out. FACT is BW made this man what he is watching those lil plays and movies. Y'all loved the way he depicted bw it's made him billions. Omg y'all really can't be this dumb like come on smh
A man who honors his home contributes to that home. He doesn’t want to stress and burden his woman with being the breadwinner and rearing the children on her own. Period. Point. Blank.
I know right, I didn't realize they were still here, I thought black men were gone already, you mean they still here complaining 😂 just leave, stop worrying about American women, just go.
@@BlackWomenExposedByCrimsonCureYou all procreate and then abandon these Pookies. You have entire neighborhoods of fatherless Pookies. You have entire black school districts where barely 20% of children are reading, writing, and doing math at their grade levels. Where's the collective black male consciousness and leadership to uplift the black community. Too many of you all are lost and conquered.
@@NoFreedoms-f1d of course she will work. but a MAN should bring more to the table than paying a light bill. you should be triggered by the fact that he said black men are falling behind rather than telling woman what to do. men should address men. only black woman publicly talk about woman so much. so telling.
My light bill is normally around $58 dollars due to knowing how to conserve electricity. Someone who could only contribute that wouldn’t really add much. I’m not expecting someone to pay all the bills but at the same time I believe each person should contribute fairly.
Mines was $57 this month. For some reason my place is always cool so I never have to run the AC. I might cut it on of company comes over but even they ask can I cut it off cause it's cold.
I don’t know why anyone is surprised but what he said. Look at his movies and the agendas he pushes. (Strong black masculine women and weak black men). And for those saying that’s not what he meant, come on now. He literally said “If all he can pay is the light bill” meaning he can’t pay more! This is soooo out of order but on par with his agenda smh
I never thought of it like this. I’ve seen so much men support TP’s message because it’s like he’s pandering for men and not caring for the provision of women in this take
@@mathisleyenda8724 Not all men are supporting Tyler Perry. Just the beta man and the men who support the manosphere. They don't want the responsibilities of supporting a woman. They were raised by strong BK single mothers, themselves. Men who were raised with 'absentee' daddies or weak male role models. There are other content creators who agree with Phillip Scott. These types of men were raised with strong role male models. Trust me.
@user-ym1mk5mx9l Not about being a smart man my friend. It's just that The Most High gave us instructions that work. Man just don't want to listen to Him. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. 🙏🏽👍🏽
Taking dating advice from Tyler Perry is like asking Kevin Hart how to play center in the NBA. Celebrity worship will be the downfall of the African American community.
Thankyou so much Phillip Scott, tears ran down my cheeks when I heard you talk. Alot of men in other podcasts agree with Tyler Perry and they have trashed women. Thankyou so much Phillip Scott. I can`t say thankyou enough. I`m still crying. May God bless you and your family. 🙏🏽🥲🤎
@@theoriginal668 How?! Be abit more specific. He just educated black men on how to be a REAL man. All the other men in the other races do that, so why are you trying to put your own women down?! Phillip Scott is the GOAT! Respect the OG! 😏🙄
@@keturaequalizer he's basically saying that's all we can do is pay a light bill. That's how I took it. I'm talking about Tyler Perry not Phil just to make it known.
He was exaggerating Phil. Anybody (except for BW obviously) should know that. His statement almost completely mirrors the bus driver conversation Iyanla had with Eboni K. Williams.
You make it seem like that's a bad thing. I rather be alone than to take care of a grown man. Being alone is very peaceful and more women are choosing to be single. We are not desperate for men they really don't bring anything to the table@@NoFreedoms-f1d
People are slow these days. They really ran with the “light bill” example. The bottom line is lose unrealistic standards, be ready to compromise, and cooperation.
These days you need a spouse that can help keep the house afloat even if one becomes unemployed or sick Tyler Perry is slap dang crazy to encourage black women to put up with the bare minimum from a man If Tyrone, Pookie and Ray Ray can't pay no more than the lights. Leave him with his mama
No, he said what he said. It doesn't matter how you package it. Sh!@ is sh!@ and it all stinks. He trying to run game and if you can't see that, you will get pimped.
My question is what is the purpose of women working and getting high powered jobs in relationships? As a Nigerian American man I believe men should provide. But I now question what is the purpose of women working full time jobs then, if the men now have to pay everything? This is an honest question? I still don’t understand why we push women to achieve and then take a back seat.
It doesn't make any sense at all. If you are told to maximize your potential, you should do so and perform the results. Why have so much potential energy just to not release kinetic energy? Sorry the nerd came out of me.
I literally have been preaching this to a few of my female friends and family about the men in their lives but because of history with these men and how long they been together or having kids with them they won't move on to better or require more it's pitiful and disheartening as a man who gives his all to support my kids and family while on disability and can't even find a woman who will help me get to the next level but God bless them 🙏🏽🙌🏾
he wants black community to breed with the lowest. 🧠 Chances are that dude has low IQ skills. He cannot find a solution to survive. Tyler Perry want Black Community household to be heading with those men. ITS A DEGENERATE PLAN
I'm not surprised at this. All of Tyler Perry's movies crap on professional black men. With the black bumpkin always being the protagonist. Moreover, I'm not sure that a rainbow rider will give black women the best advice.
Yep all of the successful men in his movies are the villains. And the lower earning guys are the ones with hearts of gold. In Tyler’s world the only good men are the ones who aren’t successful.
@@BlackWomenExposedByCrimsonCure The movies didn't have an anti-black male agenda. The movies had an anti-rich man agenda. The poor, struggling and working class black men in his movies were the heroes.
Yall missed the point. He wasnt talking about a man should just pay the light bill. That was an example. He saying women need to meet a man where they at and grow together
As a black woman, let’s just say that’s true that we make more than black men- so what? That don’t mean we have to pay most of the bills. Why he telling us to settling for the bare minimum? It’s so out of order. I’ve seen my sister in law go right back to work right after giving birth to my nieces/her daughters while my brother was being a bum. I can never. I need a man to be a man and pay for the bills. I’m not your mama 🙅🏾♀️
But Tyler Perry is part of the agenda. They want to advertise this foolishness in Hollyweird to the masses. Make us believe that’s the norm. Nothing at all normal about that. They want to switch black women be masculine and black men be feminine
TP wasn’t talking about bums like your brother! He said good men with a regular job. What he said does not apply to the situation of your sister-in-law. How on earth did she even let a bum impregnate her?
Maybe she's surprised because it's very clear that Black women aren't his favorite group of people (based on the negative videos that he's made about "hyenas" over the years). @@BlackWomenExposedByCrimsonCure
@BlackWomenExposedByCrimsonCure because on the flip side if a woman were to say hey, I'm not messing with nobody that can just pay the light bill...people would say in their sick mind that we're ungrateful, especially when it comes to black women in general.
and sometimes you don’t find a man before 30 or “primetime”. If you are pressured to do so before it is your time, you may get divorced in by 30’s and left with kids and be a baby mama.
Everyone’s life is different and things do change and what works for you might not work for others so, if that works or you then do you but don’t take what T.P said literally. It came from a good place but we all hearing something different.
I do not understand. If a woman is a doctor making 200k a year then she should not be with a teacher making 40k a year? And all of this is based on the fact the teach would not be able to keep up financially?
I was unfortunately thinking the same thing. If their man is paying 75% to all the bills, all she really needs is a part time job or just be a housewife. Nothing wrong with that, BUT there's a low chance of a man making that happen.
P.s. so if a man loose his job leave him right😂😂😂 Go get Mr. James the sugar daddy to pay the other half of the rent and put the man who lost his job out😂😂😂😂 I don't pretend to care and I don't appease or pander for anyone
NO. that is not the scenario Tyler Perry is offering. The guy he is giving Black women as an option: cannot cover HALF OF THE RENT. he can cover 12% of living expense 💅🏾. This is not a situation where a husband or a boyfriend lose a high paying job or contract. TYLER PERRY IS OFFERING permanent poverty. not Part Time.
As a man I’m single for life reason being that I don’t have to take care of any grown children because while I’m slaving my bit off to struggle and make ends meet she can save and buy purses and heels it must be nice
I really feel sorry for the women of today. I cane from the generation where men were men and women were women. There are men that will let the woman pay all the bills while he don’t work. Well it’s the lady fault for dealing with these bums. Once you see him for who he is, run 🏃♀️ and don’t look 👀 back.
@@pandapariah1075 not our fault u had kids with someone u knew wasnt fit just bcuz he had a hellcat taking u to mcdonalds dinners dont mean he a father those men cant raise them they too busy worried bout stuff that dont matter then blame it on society later when yall fked up
If a man can only contribute $100, then he should not consider being in a relationship with anyone...unless he is actively pursuing being a hobosexual. Sistahs do not need to entertain this, at all. No other community would even advocate struggle love for their daughters and we shouldn't either.
ECCLESIASTES 7:26 AND I FIND MORE BITTER THAN DEATH THE WOMAN, WHOSE HEART IS SNARES AND NETS,AND HER HANDS AS BANDS:WHOSO PLEASETH GOD SHALL ESCAPE FROM HER;BUT THE SINNER SHALL BE TAKEN BY HER.
@user-ym1mk5mx9l If you’re a dusty bum just say so. No one said a woman should only bring her body parts to table. But in the context of a man only paying the light bill means he’s useless. No woman ain’t got time for a man contributing less than the bare minimum financially with a potentially smelly peen.🙄
No he didn't he is saying its alright for women to date brothers that makes less than them. I make way more than my girlfriend and I never treated her any disrespectful way but women do it to brothers constantly I think people need to grow up
Gender roles and societies expectations around who is the bread winner and how respect is earned is just another way to keep families disenfranchised. This is simply stupid.
The "light bill" statement wasn't meant to be taken literal. It was an example of the unrealistic expectations many women have of feeling that every one of them deserves a top 1% man. The average man is more than capable of putting in work and standing strong for their family, but they get overlooked, disrespected and degraded by many modern women holding unrealistic requirements at times, that many of them don't even meet. The fact that people are so dense that they can't understand that this was just an analogy is extremely disappointing.
Thats all he was saying. People are so caught up in social media that they missed what he said. He did not say "Hey Take Of Your Man Forever" he was speaking on a period. Half the people on here commenting about how they were raised and what they do arent doing it......
IMHO, TP's statement makes the Black community and BM look as horribly dysfunctional as Tiffany Haddish's recommendation that BW grab a homeless BM off the street in order to have a partner. TP doesn't realize how helpful he is being in affirming some terrible stereotypes about the way BM see BW-- as unworthy of the basics that women of other communities take for granted. This kind of stuff is HORRIBLY embarrassing to responsible, rational minded Black people and eyeopening to those outside of the Black community who are getting a peek at what's 'under the hood'. DISGUSTING. I can see why my own father INSISTED on ALL of his children ( male and female) be able to take care of themselves in the lifestyle he and my mother created for us. As a couple , they respected each other, education and a hardcore work ethic. He KNEW what his kids would face (especially his daughters). He also highly recommended that we NOT partner with ANYONE who has less to lose than we do ( on every level). They respect each other as intelligent and capable human beings. My father was not in the mode of lording his male position over my mother out of the societal insecurity some men seem to feel and bring home to their wives. They uplifted each other and TOGETHER built their family legacy. NO role was beneath them in the family-- i.e. Dad changed diapers as much as Mom did. It wasn't a situation where Dad encouraged his daughters to look for a man to take care of us. Self sufficiency was the order of the day-- for everyone.
I just wish some people just wouldn’t open their mouth when don’t know how to address the situation because very ignorant yeah for him he should know better
Personally, I don't know why anyone listens to other ppl about their personal life decisions..... They saying that Blk women are upset over what TP said....It doesn't matter what he says or any other person says, do what work for u in ur life..... I've always been the type of woman who rocks to my own beat in life... There's nothing wrong with hearing another person's opinion, but at the end of the day, look at ur own life circumstances and make the best decisions for urself.....I don't understand why ppl get their panties in a bunch over what someone else says...... If u disagree with with him that's fine, if u agree that's fine too. But to think what someone else says makes a difference on how u move about in ur life is ridiculous...
This is why we as a people can't have REAL conversations. Whether you agree with him or not, take a step back and analyze what he said. This not about what your father told you or what you wouldn't tell your daughters. It's simply about having a conversation. PERIOD.
Every relationship has different Financial Challenges. It is Delusional to have hard and fast Rules like a Man must Pay 75% of The Bills. The total household Income determines What is a Fair Amout for each person to Contribute based on How much each person brings home.
All Tyler Perry was saying was date a man based on his character and the love and protection he provides. He was saying if you make 2x or 3x more then a man, don’t look down upon and dismiss him as a quality man to date and be in a relationship with. This is no different then the massage that you spread everyday. Tyler just said it in a different way.
That's the problem. The older generation leading these younger women down a very bad pathway in life. When it comes to thinking , and what they deserve to have. Because you can guarantee , that other ethnic groups aren't teaching their young women anything like this , advice he is giving. No women should not be financially supporting a man , in this type of way. Sorry 😔.
Tyler Perry is right. If a woman and a man are in agreement and happy with the way bills get paid as long as everything is taken care of I there is no reason why it should matter who pays what. Us men are full of ourselves thats all…. There is no reason to be upset other than just “im the man ho hum ho”. We gotta get over ourselves.
Here the problem with that women don't want a man that makes less she wants a 40 or a 50 k man. In her mi d it's if he can't make that then he's not worth marrying an that hurts a very good man.
Well in these difficult times hard to deal with for a larger % of Blackfolks, Tyler's views somewhat nailed the discontent. Females in the dominant society accepts this " temporary arrangement " all the time. Plus with many "common sense" melanated woman. At least the male is contributing to his ability. Relationship should be seeded with "love" for each other and not 99.9% finance.
Smh he literally said if he is a good man n can only pay one bill u should keep him. These woman pick pookies all the time with no job no ambition n get pregnant by them. All hes saying is dont pass up a good man just because he cant pay ALL the bills smh.
@@filmadcamp1512 lol FACT is these woman give children to bums all the time. The greatest thing you can give a man. Lol I agree a man should provide at least half. But if he can't but he's paying one bill n he's NOT cheating NOT beating her up respects his woman to the fullest. Lol why leave a good man because he might not be able to provide now. I see it everyday woman with a pookie won't even open the door for her cheats, beats her lol n they stay with them. Only small minded ppl don't understand what he meant.
I think Tyler Perry meant for the man to pay his fair share, not just the light bill. If the man pays all the bills, what is the woman expected to bring to the table? ‘Cause if he’s paying for everything, he might end up with a gold digger🤑
It's hard to pay all the bills these days. I saw the income stats on the website Phil saw. With me seeing that, I don't know how he came to the conclusion men should still pay all the bills making between $26k-$37k a year....unless a shack is an option
@@sambeezy007Agreed. Even if the man is making $75k, paying all of the bills will pretty much eat up your check. You both have to work together smarter and not just one person gets to save for a rainy day.
@@sambeezy007 those men don’t need to be focus on a relationship. Also at what are are we talking about here. Cause when you hit 25+ you should be making more.
he is covering for celebrities adult children: who cant hold down household expense without asking dad to write them a check. SAD but the celeb parent keep writing the same child support check after 18 yrs old. not to mom but to the child this time.
I think he was speaking of situations where the income is unbalanced. He is merely saying work as a team and the person, even if it is the man, who makes the least may only contribute a little. But as long as he is a good respectful partner, work through the difficult time as a team.
He did not say work as a team. He said man pays the light bill and takes the woman out occasionally while she handles the mortgage and all the other bills. Any man that cosigns this message is a BAN.
Agree, the man should be taking care of the household. But nothing wrong with paying a bill or two but no man should be sitting at the house all day doing nothing
ppl he is saying if the man is doing the best he can and if that happens to be paying the light bill that is fine the women should understand that hes trying . This man is a good man whats wrong with u ppl
I agree with most of what you said. My thing is that the men need to be consistent. They want to be the leaders of the community but also want to co-sign messages like Tyler's message which place them in the woman's role. That being said a lot of women worked through the pandemic. Many people who worked in offices worked from home online. Essential workers include police, firefighters, nurses, doctors and teachers continued to work. And those are fields with women. Many work for the state so they had job security. Many women work for banks which were open. Walmart, CVS, Foodstores and the like were open. The only jobs that suffered were the non-essential places like Clubs/Events, Movie Theatres, Evening Restaurants, etc. I doubt there was any bridge building during COVID.
I say a man an woman should both have their own homes and pay their own bills. So if you both wantvto be with each other its because you want to be. But this ain't the 50s, 60s or 70s if you as a man and do all the work (which I have in before) best believe she
If a woman is making $75k and her man is making $55k I still think that’s ok. He’s probably a good dude and does more for her than anyone else will. He threw out there he can only pay a light bill comment. That’s basically a guy with no job. That’s not cool.
Just imagine how many has been reached , how many that will take this misguided advice from his opinion. Too many so called influential leaders that has the pulse and ear of our communities make statements and comments that can be damaging. To often folks with absolutely No professional training and or experience be giving advice. Tyler Perry Please nicely be quiet. B1
I think we’re missing the message. He’s saying if the woman is making a lot more than the man then she has to understand that it’s ok if she dates a man making less.
No, he specifically said it's ok for a man to only pay the light bill and take his woman for dinner occasionally while she takes on the lion's share of the household bills. No man that truly loves and protects his woman would be ok with this arrangement.
@@josephinebournes8212 I agree. I didn’t hear the whole interview. I thought he was saying different. Why would he say that. Hollywood and American society wants to emasculate men in the worst way.
@@maliwoodtalksno he used that as an example. These people are lying. Tyler was giving a worst case scenario. His message was directed to high earning females having trouble dating. He recommended that they settle for avg men
Does his woman pay those same bills..if he got one? His statement should be for the Strong , independent crowd...some women understand why he said it..
This is what women fought and rallied for I thought they was strong and independent let the financial roles switch. Let people men and women find out the hard way on they own
I am a proud black woman 5 foot 2 122 pounds. I am feminine!!! I have a long time significant other of 10 years. I don’t mind getting my hands dirty, but I’m definitely not a masculine women by any stretch. 😂 he can go have several seats. Do we have a insult your women, sir? No, we do not.
All of this backlash from multiple sides is showing me that Black men and women shouldn't be together. It just wouldn't work out, not in our current state.
We should be together. The issue is both men and women (especially so called "blacks") listen to man instead of The Most High. Just that plain and simple.
I'm a security guard and I was still working while the pandemic was going on, the world that I live in I'm not going to be a simp and let a woman take care of me, cause when the rubber meets the road, "ain't nobody gonna take care of you but you.
As a man I can’t sit on that! I’m not paying just the light bill that’s not normal. If I’m head of the house I’m bringing to the table more than just paying a light bill.
God bless you❤❤❤❤
As a man you need to let that woman who thinks she is strong and independent or let those words run across her mouth live by those words
@@mariamarahim4242 Thanks! But real talk I just can’t sit around claiming grown man status but yet she’s paying all the bills I feel a certain way about that
I feel and respect what you said, but this is what theese so called "strong and independent" women get for always shooting ofr at the mouth about how strong and independent they are and dont need no man! Now they have to be the man.
Taking relationship advice from someone who owes his career to dressing in drag. "You can't make this stuff up" SMH..............
@West_Lake_Mafia I agree. Unc was off on this one. I'm not about to take care of a broke dependent person. Work for yourself yes but never take care of a person that's dependent except your child and that's only for a certain time.
No no no no it is not fine! When did he become a. Expert on male and female relationships. He don’t know nothing about that! How dare he even comment Ms Perry please shut up!
You cannot secure a husband in your prime because you may not meet him in your prime🙄
@@1n_motionNEVER...... Accept a broke woman!!
I mean ya remember what happened on boondocks 😂😂
You’ll rarely find a woman capable of having a stay at home father for a long period of time. After about a year or 2 she will begin to hate seeing him sitting in house while she’s working.
Even if its agreed upon. Thats how they switch up on you. Let her have a bad day at work.
Lolz yeps my brother was the stay at home dad and he was lazy 🤦🏾♂️ she was tired of that real quick
With most women it won’t be up to a year.
Not if he's good at it and they have a lot of kids. He should be fixing stuff while he's at home. He can even go to school online.
Jealousy.
No one who can only pay a light bill should be focusing on a relationship.
Priorities all screwed up.
This part my light bill is under 70 bucks
My Father Has NEVER Given My BROTHER'S And I This Advice. My Dad Told Us "MEN TAKE CARE OF WOMEN, WOMEN DON'T TAKE CARE OF MEN".. And He Meant That With Force.
That’s the way he depicts black women in his lil plays….
Lil plays 😂😂😂
Y'all black women made him a multi-millionaire.
Bw were his biggest supporters 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣God y'all can never accept accountability
Right!
@@YGPR1212 Right? N here lies the problem bw never call each other out. FACT is BW made this man what he is watching those lil plays and movies. Y'all loved the way he depicted bw it's made him billions. Omg y'all really can't be this dumb like come on smh
A man who honors his home contributes to that home. He doesn’t want to stress and burden his woman with being the breadwinner and rearing the children on her own. Period. Point. Blank.
Facts 💯
Thank you 😊....
I will NEVER take advice from a celebrity. I can't take Tyler seriously....
it think he did it on purpose. Hollyweird
If you got a woman taking care of you as a grown azz man, you my friend or a bum 😂
For sure. In my opinion it should be done as a team
It's deeper than a light bill and Tyler Perry is harboring a deeply sick reason on why he is telling Black Woman to accept Piss Poor Black Men.
I thought BM were getting their passports. Do that. Pay a foreign woman’s light bill. BW are good over here. ✌🏽
I know right, I didn't realize they were still here, I thought black men were gone already, you mean they still here complaining 😂 just leave, stop worrying about American women, just go.
@@BlackWomenExposedByCrimsonCureYou all procreate and then abandon these Pookies. You have entire neighborhoods of fatherless Pookies. You have entire black school districts where barely 20% of children are reading, writing, and doing math at their grade levels. Where's the collective black male consciousness and leadership to uplift the black community. Too many of you all are lost and conquered.
I'm sorry to Tyler perry but love don't pay the bills.
@@NoFreedoms-f1d of course she will work. but a MAN should bring more to the table than paying a light bill. you should be triggered by the fact that he said black men are falling behind rather than telling woman what to do. men should address men. only black woman publicly talk about woman so much. so telling.
My light bill is normally around $58 dollars due to knowing how to conserve electricity. Someone who could only contribute that wouldn’t really add much. I’m not expecting someone to pay all the bills but at the same time I believe each person should contribute fairly.
You got sense on how to conserve I look at my bill and energy use compared to my neighbors , which the energy company shows and they be in $150+
Couldn't that spouse be a stay at home spouse ñ
Mines was $57 this month. For some reason my place is always cool so I never have to run the AC. I might cut it on of company comes over but even they ask can I cut it off cause it's cold.
A good take. Both parties need to contribute fairly. If he can only pay a light bill, he shouldn't be in a relationship.
@@cliftonconnor9389 why couldn't he be a stay at home Dad?
I don’t know why anyone is surprised but what he said. Look at his movies and the agendas he pushes. (Strong black masculine women and weak black men). And for those saying that’s not what he meant, come on now. He literally said “If all he can pay is the light bill” meaning he can’t pay more! This is soooo out of order but on par with his agenda smh
I never thought of it like this. I’ve seen so much men support TP’s message because it’s like he’s pandering for men and not caring for the provision of women in this take
@@mathisleyenda8724
Not all men are supporting Tyler Perry.
Just the beta man and the men who support the manosphere.
They don't want the responsibilities of supporting a woman.
They were raised by strong BK single mothers, themselves.
Men who were raised with 'absentee' daddies or weak male role models.
There are other content creators who agree with Phillip Scott.
These types of men were raised with strong role male models.
Trust me.
PROVERBS 21:19 IT IS BETTER TO DWELL IN THE WILDERNESS THAN WITH A CONTENTIOUS AND ANGRY WOMAN.
@user-ym1mk5mx9l Not about being a smart man my friend. It's just that The Most High gave us instructions that work. Man just don't want to listen to Him. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. 🙏🏽👍🏽
Taking dating advice from Tyler Perry is like asking Kevin Hart how to play center in the NBA. Celebrity worship will be the downfall of the African American community.
All BP don't worship celebrities.
Thankyou so much Phillip Scott, tears ran down my cheeks when I heard you talk. Alot of men in other podcasts agree with Tyler Perry and they have trashed women. Thankyou so much Phillip Scott. I can`t say thankyou enough. I`m still crying. May God bless you and your family. 🙏🏽🥲🤎
That lightbill statement was a disrespect to black men.
@@theoriginal668not necessarily if he got with a single mother with a litter of kids the math make sense
@@theoriginal668 How?! Be abit more specific. He just educated black men on how to be a REAL man. All the other men in the other races do that, so why are you trying to put your own women down?! Phillip Scott is the GOAT! Respect the OG! 😏🙄
@@keturaequalizer he's basically saying that's all we can do is pay a light bill. That's how I took it. I'm talking about Tyler Perry not Phil just to make it known.
@@evos469 I feel you. Depends on circumstances
He was exaggerating Phil. Anybody (except for BW obviously) should know that. His statement almost completely mirrors the bus driver conversation Iyanla had with Eboni K. Williams.
You make it seem like that's a bad thing. I rather be alone than to take care of a grown man. Being alone is very peaceful and more women are choosing to be single. We are not desperate for men they really don't bring anything to the table@@NoFreedoms-f1d
Why are you in Black people's business? Are u even black?
People are slow these days. They really ran with the “light bill” example. The bottom line is lose unrealistic standards, be ready to compromise, and cooperation.
@@NoFreedoms-f1d Women have been "dying alone" because men (most husbands) die earlier.
Exactly!!!!!!
During my prime, I wanted a Black man (mistake). They looked elsewhere. It’s fine, woke me up. Love of a man has nothing to do with his race!! 😃💯
Tyler NEVER said that black women SHOULD do this
As a man myself, I have plenty of bills and rent to pay . That's a very absurd advice coming from this man.
These days you need a spouse that can help keep the house afloat even if one becomes unemployed or sick
Tyler Perry is slap dang crazy to encourage black women to put up with the bare minimum from a man
If Tyrone, Pookie and Ray Ray can't pay no more than the lights. Leave him with his mama
@BlackWomenExposedByCrimsonCureYou sound like Tyler Perry. Slap Dang Crazy
Winston Jerome needs to watch The Boondocks again where he was put on blast & give himself advice on how not to get called out again!
I don't think he meant literally just pay the light bill. He just means as long as the man is contributing in some kind of way.
I agree
No, he said what he said. It doesn't matter how you package it. Sh!@ is sh!@ and it all stinks. He trying to run game and if you can't see that, you will get pimped.
@@vonettawilson687exactly, all this role reversal and emasculation propaganda BS getting real annoying.
Exactly. Phil read what Tyler Perry said wrong.
I'm hoping he means it's OK and temporary to just pay the electric bill but it's best to keep growing and elevating.
My question is what is the purpose of women working and getting high powered jobs in relationships? As a Nigerian American man I believe men should provide. But I now question what is the purpose of women working full time jobs then, if the men now have to pay everything?
This is an honest question? I still don’t understand why we push women to achieve and then take a back seat.
It doesn't make any sense at all. If you are told to maximize your potential, you should do so and perform the results. Why have so much potential energy just to not release kinetic energy? Sorry the nerd came out of me.
@@sambeezy007 the nerd is welcome
You are right
Good point as I was mulling over something similar
Great question
There is an education gap between the black woman and black man. This should be part of the discussion also.
Tyler is out of touch with reality being real about it
MEN AND WOMAN WORK TOGETHER
exactly Tyler is crazy i would never tell my daughter that .
I literally have been preaching this to a few of my female friends and family about the men in their lives but because of history with these men and how long they been together or having kids with them they won't move on to better or require more it's pitiful and disheartening as a man who gives his all to support my kids and family while on disability and can't even find a woman who will help me get to the next level but God bless them 🙏🏽🙌🏾
Madea is who he really is! That’s y he switched to that voice! As a man(so-called) thinketh in his heart so is he!👍
Hey Family, four minutes into it when uncle Phil said that no no no 😅
It made my day OK.
Uncle Phil , looked like somebody hit him with a mattress.
he wants black community to breed with the lowest.
🧠 Chances are that dude has low IQ skills. He cannot find a solution to survive. Tyler Perry want Black Community household to be heading with those men. ITS A DEGENERATE PLAN
I'm not surprised at this. All of Tyler Perry's movies crap on professional black men. With the black bumpkin always being the protagonist. Moreover, I'm not sure that a rainbow rider will give black women the best advice.
Yep all of the successful men in his movies are the villains. And the lower earning guys are the ones with hearts of gold. In Tyler’s world the only good men are the ones who aren’t successful.
@@BlackWomenExposedByCrimsonCure The movies didn't have an anti-black male agenda. The movies had an anti-rich man agenda. The poor, struggling and working class black men in his movies were the heroes.
Yall missed the point. He wasnt talking about a man should just pay the light bill. That was an example. He saying women need to meet a man where they at and grow together
Exactly. The point was couples can make it if the woman makes more. But the channel gotta post something ($$)
As a black woman, let’s just say that’s true that we make more than black men- so what? That don’t mean we have to pay most of the bills. Why he telling us to settling for the bare minimum? It’s so out of order. I’ve seen my sister in law go right back to work right after giving birth to my nieces/her daughters while my brother was being a bum. I can never. I need a man to be a man and pay for the bills. I’m not your mama 🙅🏾♀️
But Tyler Perry is part of the agenda. They want to advertise this foolishness in Hollyweird to the masses. Make us believe that’s the norm. Nothing at all normal about that. They want to switch black women be masculine and black men be feminine
Period
Hardly…. It’ll take 3-4 of you to come close to me.
How was he “being a Bum” specifically??
TP wasn’t talking about bums like your brother! He said good men with a regular job. What he said does not apply to the situation of your sister-in-law. How on earth did she even let a bum impregnate her?
Wow I'm actually surprised by your response. Im glad you said what you said. My father himself wouldnt want me to accept a man like that.
Maybe she's surprised because it's very clear that Black women aren't his favorite group of people (based on the negative videos that he's made about "hyenas" over the years). @@BlackWomenExposedByCrimsonCure
@BlackWomenExposedByCrimsonCure because on the flip side if a woman were to say hey, I'm not messing with nobody that can just pay the light bill...people would say in their sick mind that we're ungrateful, especially when it comes to black women in general.
We as strong brothers can not listen to someone that wears dresses
Thank you 😊...
I agree with you Phillip because ain’t no man living off of me.
and sometimes you don’t find a man before 30 or “primetime”. If you are pressured to do so before it is your time, you may get divorced in by 30’s and left with kids and be a
baby mama.
Everyone’s life is different and things do change and what works for you might not work for others so, if that works or you then do you but don’t take what T.P said literally. It came from a good place but we all hearing something different.
I do not understand. If a woman is a doctor making 200k a year then she should not be with a teacher making 40k a year? And all of this is based on the fact the teach would not be able to keep up financially?
Good luck with that brother. You daughter gone pay half the bills or she'll be single.
I was unfortunately thinking the same thing. If their man is paying 75% to all the bills, all she really needs is a part time job or just be a housewife. Nothing wrong with that, BUT there's a low chance of a man making that happen.
P.s. so if a man loose his job leave him right😂😂😂 Go get Mr. James the sugar daddy to pay the other half of the rent and put the man who lost his job out😂😂😂😂 I don't pretend to care and I don't appease or pander for anyone
NO. that is not the scenario Tyler Perry is offering. The guy he is giving Black women as an option: cannot cover HALF OF THE RENT. he can cover 12% of living expense 💅🏾. This is not a situation where a husband or a boyfriend lose a high paying job or contract.
TYLER PERRY IS OFFERING permanent poverty. not Part Time.
@@cinnamonstar808that was an example of a worst case scenario. Nobody can live that way completely
PROVERBS 7:11( SHE IS LOUD STUBBORN;HER FEET ABIDE NOT IN HER HOUSE:(12) NOW IS SHE WITHOUT, NOW IN THE STREETS, AND LIETH IN WAIT AT EVERY CORNER.)
I'm so happy a man said this..
As a man I’m single for life reason being that I don’t have to take care of any grown children because while I’m slaving my bit off to struggle and make ends meet she can save and buy purses and heels it must be nice
I really feel sorry for the women of today. I cane from the generation where men were men and women were women. There are men that will let the woman pay all the bills while he don’t work. Well it’s the lady fault for dealing with these bums. Once you see him for who he is, run 🏃♀️ and don’t look 👀 back.
Feel sorry for men today we have the worst pick of women. Social media shows just how trash the majority are
@@BlackWomenExposedByCrimsonCure Somebody has to, black men won't.
@@pandapariah1075 not our fault u had kids with someone u knew wasnt fit just bcuz he had a hellcat taking u to mcdonalds dinners dont mean he a father those men cant raise them they too busy worried bout stuff that dont matter then blame it on society later when yall fked up
Thank you 😊...
@@BlackWomenExposedByCrimsonCureI don't see the bm taking those kids and raising them
If a man can only contribute $100, then he should not consider being in a relationship with anyone...unless he is actively pursuing being a hobosexual. Sistahs do not need to entertain this, at all. No other community would even advocate struggle love for their daughters and we shouldn't either.
ECCLESIASTES 7:26 AND I FIND MORE BITTER THAN DEATH THE WOMAN, WHOSE HEART IS SNARES AND NETS,AND HER HANDS AS BANDS:WHOSO PLEASETH GOD SHALL ESCAPE FROM HER;BUT THE SINNER SHALL BE TAKEN BY HER.
But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. 1 Timothy 5:8
I think what tyler sd may have been taken out of content.
My thoughts exactly
Yes, everyone is taking his statements waaaaaayyyyyy out of context
Let's get this right
Rent
Food
Phone bill
And his paying just the the light bill?
Clothes, transportation, internet, insurance,
@user-ym1mk5mx9l If you’re a dusty bum just say so. No one said a woman should only bring her body parts to table. But in the context of a man only paying the light bill means he’s useless. No woman ain’t got time for a man contributing less than the bare minimum financially with a potentially smelly peen.🙄
No he didn't he is saying its alright for women to date brothers that makes less than them. I make way more than my girlfriend and I never treated her any disrespectful way but women do it to brothers constantly I think people need to grow up
When A Man, Let A Woman Pay The Rent & Bills, She Won’t Respect Him And Eventually, She Would Leave Him Or Cheat On Him…
And I Stand On That…
Gender roles and societies expectations around who is the bread winner and how respect is earned is just another way to keep families disenfranchised. This is simply stupid.
The "light bill" statement wasn't meant to be taken literal. It was an example of the unrealistic expectations many women have of feeling that every one of them deserves a top 1% man. The average man is more than capable of putting in work and standing strong for their family, but they get overlooked, disrespected and degraded by many modern women holding unrealistic requirements at times, that many of them don't even meet. The fact that people are so dense that they can't understand that this was just an analogy is extremely disappointing.
Thats all he was saying. People are so caught up in social media that they missed what he said. He did not say "Hey Take Of Your Man Forever" he was speaking on a period. Half the people on here commenting about how they were raised and what they do arent doing it......
Excellent point. Its too bad the people who need to get the point probably won't!
FACTZ !!! 💯💯💯 definitely disrespected by woman if rightful position taken.
IMHO, TP's statement makes the Black community and BM look as horribly dysfunctional as Tiffany Haddish's recommendation that BW grab a homeless BM off the street in order to have a partner. TP doesn't realize how helpful he is being in affirming some terrible stereotypes about the way BM see BW-- as unworthy of the basics that women of other communities take for granted. This kind of stuff is HORRIBLY embarrassing to responsible, rational minded Black people and eyeopening to those outside of the Black community who are getting a peek at what's 'under the hood'. DISGUSTING.
I can see why my own father INSISTED on ALL of his children ( male and female) be able to take care of themselves in the lifestyle he and my mother created for us. As a couple , they respected each other, education and a hardcore work ethic. He KNEW what his kids would face (especially his daughters). He also highly recommended that we NOT partner with ANYONE who has less to lose than we do ( on every level). They respect each other as intelligent and capable human beings. My father was not in the mode of lording his male position over my mother out of the societal insecurity some men seem to feel and bring home to their wives. They uplifted each other and TOGETHER built their family legacy. NO role was beneath them in the family-- i.e. Dad changed diapers as much as Mom did. It wasn't a situation where Dad encouraged his daughters to look for a man to take care of us. Self sufficiency was the order of the day-- for everyone.
1. Mr. Perry is not saying that. 2. Another NO.....securing a "husband" is not "age limited"!!!!
I just wish some people just wouldn’t open their mouth when don’t know how to address the situation because very ignorant yeah for him he should know better
Personally, I don't know why anyone listens to other ppl about their personal life decisions..... They saying that Blk women are upset over what TP said....It doesn't matter what he says or any other person says, do what work for u in ur life..... I've always been the type of woman who rocks to my own beat in life... There's nothing wrong with hearing another person's opinion, but at the end of the day, look at ur own life circumstances and make the best decisions for urself.....I don't understand why ppl get their panties in a bunch over what someone else says...... If u disagree with with him that's fine, if u agree that's fine too. But to think what someone else says makes a difference on how u move about in ur life is ridiculous...
This is why we as a people can't have REAL conversations. Whether you agree with him or not, take a step back and analyze what he said. This not about what your father told you or what you wouldn't tell your daughters. It's simply about having a conversation. PERIOD.
Exactly lol
Every relationship has different Financial Challenges. It is Delusional to have hard and fast Rules like a Man must Pay 75% of The Bills. The total household Income determines What is a Fair Amout for each person to Contribute based on
How much each person brings home.
Nothing wrong with what Tyler said. It's just a matter of preference. City Boys up.
All Tyler Perry was saying was date a man based on his character and the love and protection he provides. He was saying if you make 2x or 3x more then a man, don’t look down upon and dismiss him as a quality man to date and be in a relationship with. This is no different then the massage that you spread everyday. Tyler just said it in a different way.
Still ain't gonna work w/ women who are very demanding.
Part of protecting your woman is to keep a roof over her head. I'd be a lesbian if I wanted to be with a stay-at-home b*tch.
He definitely talking to his homegirl Oprah. Because us middle class woman is not having that mess.
It’s interesting. Men are in a no win situation. Men need to be traditional yet new school ( non beneficial). It’s bad bad bad deal.
That's the problem.
The older generation leading these younger women down a very bad pathway in life.
When it comes to thinking , and what they deserve to have.
Because you can guarantee , that other ethnic groups aren't teaching their young women anything like this , advice he is giving.
No women should not be financially supporting a man , in this type of way.
Sorry 😔.
But yet most ethnic groups do lol. You have no knowledge on the setup thats why you spoke such foolishness
Tyler Perry is right.
If a woman and a man are in agreement and happy with the way bills get paid as long as everything is taken care of I there is no reason why it should matter who pays what. Us men are full of ourselves thats all….
There is no reason to be upset other than just “im the man ho hum ho”. We gotta get over ourselves.
Gino Jennings: You a bum
If a woman has to pay all of the bills you better believe she will lose complete respect for that man and be praying for God to free her from him.
Here the problem with that women don't want a man that makes less she wants a 40 or a 50 k man. In her mi d it's if he can't make that then he's not worth marrying an that hurts a very good man.
@@BlackWomenExposedByCrimsonCure
And you are? Highly doubt it.
Omg this revelàtion life 😢2023
Well in these difficult times hard to deal with for a larger % of Blackfolks, Tyler's views somewhat nailed the discontent. Females in the dominant society accepts this " temporary arrangement " all the time. Plus with many
"common sense" melanated woman. At least the male is contributing to his ability. Relationship should be seeded with "love" for each other and not 99.9% finance.
Black women made Tyler Perry a millionaire, by dressing as a woman.
Smh he literally said if he is a good man n can only pay one bill u should keep him. These woman pick pookies all the time with no job no ambition n get pregnant by them. All hes saying is dont pass up a good man just because he cant pay ALL the bills smh.
Yes and what he said was dumb and you men should be appalled. No good man can only pay one bill. That's a lazy man .
@@filmadcamp1512 lol FACT is these woman give children to bums all the time. The greatest thing you can give a man. Lol I agree a man should provide at least half. But if he can't but he's paying one bill n he's NOT cheating NOT beating her up respects his woman to the fullest. Lol why leave a good man because he might not be able to provide now. I see it everyday woman with a pookie won't even open the door for her cheats, beats her lol n they stay with them. Only small minded ppl don't understand what he meant.
I think Tyler Perry meant for the man to pay his fair share, not just the light bill. If the man pays all the bills, what is the woman expected to bring to the table? ‘Cause if he’s paying for everything, he might end up with a gold digger🤑
Brokies always talking abouy gold digging lmaoooo
@@RAJOHN-ke7mc 'Brokies' don't have to talk about gold digging 'cause they don't have gold.
It's hard to pay all the bills these days. I saw the income stats on the website Phil saw. With me seeing that, I don't know how he came to the conclusion men should still pay all the bills making between $26k-$37k a year....unless a shack is an option
@@sambeezy007Agreed. Even if the man is making $75k, paying all of the bills will pretty much eat up your check. You both have to work together smarter and not just one person gets to save for a rainy day.
@@sambeezy007 those men don’t need to be focus on a relationship. Also at what are are we talking about here. Cause when you hit 25+ you should be making more.
You are Absolutely Right Phillip💯
Uncle Phil is taking this to literally.
Tyler Perry mind is stuck in Hollywood, he doesn't know nothing about the working-class people. Tyler is too rich.
he is covering for celebrities adult children: who cant hold down household expense without asking dad to write them a check.
SAD but the celeb parent keep writing the same child support check after 18 yrs old. not to mom but to the child this time.
I am not sure where Tyler is getting this philosophy. Men want to provide for their family by paying the bills.
Keyword: grown celebrity offspring } that dont act, rap, write, sing , dance or do nothing in life except maintain their social media pages.
I think he was speaking of situations where the income is unbalanced. He is merely saying work as a team and the person, even if it is the man, who makes the least may only contribute a little. But as long as he is a good respectful partner, work through the difficult time as a team.
But that's what Black women have been doing for generations. It doesn't work.
He did not say work as a team. He said man pays the light bill and takes the woman out occasionally while she handles the mortgage and all the other bills. Any man that cosigns this message is a BAN.
You get the point. Phil took his comments out of context
you got to be on crack that's not a team.
Taking advice from a man in a dress! 😂 No sir .I'm not that progressive.
Agree, the man should be taking care of the household. But nothing wrong with paying a bill or two but no man should be sitting at the house all day doing nothing
Women cheat regardless. Stop the 🧢🧢
ppl he is saying if the man is doing the best he can and if that happens to be paying the light bill that is fine the women should understand that hes trying . This man is a good man whats wrong with u ppl
I agree with most of what you said. My thing is that the men need to be consistent. They want to be the leaders of the community but also want to co-sign messages like Tyler's message which place them in the woman's role. That being said a lot of women worked through the pandemic. Many people who worked in offices worked from home online. Essential workers include police, firefighters, nurses, doctors and teachers continued to work. And those are fields with women. Many work for the state so they had job security. Many women work for banks which were open. Walmart, CVS, Foodstores and the like were open. The only jobs that suffered were the non-essential places like Clubs/Events, Movie Theatres, Evening Restaurants, etc. I doubt there was any bridge building during COVID.
preach he threw me off with the bridge building also.
@@southernbellnc6241 They just be saying anything.
I love your content Phill but I think the electric bill thing was taken out of context.
We have got to work together. If there is no black love there is no black wealth.
I say a man an woman should both have their own homes and pay their own bills. So if you both wantvto be with each other its because you want to be. But this ain't the 50s, 60s or 70s if you as a man and do all the work (which I have in before) best believe she
I worked all through the pandemic
If a woman is making $75k and her man is making $55k I still think that’s ok. He’s probably a good dude and does more for her than anyone else will. He threw out there he can only pay a light bill comment. That’s basically a guy with no job. That’s not cool.
Just imagine how many has been reached , how many that will take this misguided advice from his opinion. Too many so called influential leaders that has the pulse and ear of our communities make statements and comments that can be damaging. To often folks with absolutely No professional training and or experience be giving advice. Tyler Perry Please nicely be quiet. B1
I don't want anything from them. Not nothing.
I think we’re missing the message. He’s saying if the woman is making a lot more than the man then she has to understand that it’s ok if she dates a man making less.
No, he specifically said it's ok for a man to only pay the light bill and take his woman for dinner occasionally while she takes on the lion's share of the household bills. No man that truly loves and protects his woman would be ok with this arrangement.
@@josephinebournes8212 I agree. I didn’t hear the whole interview. I thought he was saying different. Why would he say that. Hollywood and American society wants to emasculate men in the worst way.
You were right. Listen to the whole message
@@maliwoodtalksno he used that as an example. These people are lying. Tyler was giving a worst case scenario. His message was directed to high earning females having trouble dating. He recommended that they settle for avg men
Tyler Perry has been wearing that DRESS too long.
I’m not interested in taking advice from a man who dresses up as a caricature of a black woman.
Does his woman pay those same bills..if he got one? His statement should be for the Strong , independent crowd...some women understand why he said it..
Probably got a man...😅
Tyler Perry plays for the other team
This is what women fought and rallied for I thought they was strong and independent let the financial roles switch. Let people men and women find out the hard way on they own
And the simp of the year award goes to Tyler Perry
I am a proud black woman 5 foot 2 122 pounds. I am feminine!!! I have a long time significant other of 10 years. I don’t mind getting my hands dirty, but I’m definitely not a masculine women by any stretch. 😂 he can go have several seats. Do we have a insult your women, sir? No, we do not.
All of this backlash from multiple sides is showing me that Black men and women shouldn't be together. It just wouldn't work out, not in our current state.
We should be together. The issue is both men and women (especially so called "blacks") listen to man instead of The Most High. Just that plain and simple.
Project Pat told y’all. “Shoulda paid the light bill but bought a outfit”.
I'm a security guard and I was still working while the pandemic was going on, the world that I live in I'm not going to be a simp and let a woman take care of me, cause when the rubber meets the road, "ain't nobody gonna take care of you but you.