Why Men Don't Stress Over Marriage | Steve Harvey
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The wedding is just an EVENT. The marriage should always be the focus.
Yes is marriage even happen.
Like Steve said wedding is the day of women’s dream ( even if she is with Mr right ) but men once they get the right girl don’t understand that it’s time for them to propose cause they are selfish and don’t honour their part of the deal. They know we are looking for HUSBANDS no forever boyfriend
@@kimkiss9322the right woman doesn’t see a wedding day as a dream for herself. This is why most of you won’t get married or wont end up with the man you want. Everything you say sounds self absorbed. The man is just an extra in your highlight reel. Try considering what he wants too, since he’s the one providing the value.
yeah, it sounded odd until i realized at the end that they were talking about a wedding, not marriage.
Marriage is the coming together of two imperfect adult individuals who doesn't give up on each other - this will make Marriage perfect/ complete. As long as you commit yourselves to God, the One who binds the two together in a Covenant, to the One that gives life and purpose for this partnership, and to the One who will bring forth children through you to be used of God for His purpose in the next generation, then that's love. To love someone is hard to do considering what it takes to love as in 1 Corinthians 13. We need the Holy Spirit's power to sustain us in this journey.
To many women prioritize the event and completely miss the value and significance of what it is to marry….
Let me submit something.
Maggie was not worried about those things. Maggie was worried about if she’s wasting her time with you and if you’re in it as much as she is. She is probably using those excuses to bring up marriage, so that you will be marriage minded. And veiling it in those things so that you can’t say you felt pressured by her constantly asking for you to commit.
She was just looking for your commitment and reassurance.
I don't understand how that went completely over their heads. Just because the man dos not stress about the wedding does not mean he should trivialize her concerns.
I wish I could give more likes to this comment. Men can be unburden about getting married because they are not limited in time to reproduce, they can focus on building a career and find a woman to marry at 45 without a problem, that's not the case for women.
@@carlaalegria3658 Ur comment would be valid if the guy is "666". The average guy does not have that option in this modern world. Funny yall seem to pick the most exceptional guy for ur argument. I guess average guys are invisible. Not to mention why do u think guys can pick any women at any age ? Lol arent almost 70% of men single and sex less according to the recent studies ?
A serious man knows what he wants and he doesn't need to be reminded about marriage proposal.... Women should just learn to prioritize their lives and stop giving wifely duties to some men who haven't put a ring on them and walked them on the aisle..I just felt sorry for her..
They can't understand, it's not their cup of tea
Am 31, and I have never ever ask a man when are we getting marring...i always tell myself.. if a man really want me or he's serious with me,he will do it willingly without my pressure😊
My husband and I met, and casually dated for 5 months, got serious and within 9 months we were engaged, married a year after we met, had our first baby two 1/2 years after me met, had a Vegas wedding with 8 people, and we’re still obsessed with each other 13 years later. All of our friends who had lavish weddings are divorced now.. some of these men bought $20,000 engagement ring! Like wtf?? Mine was $1,400 and I picked it out, and still love it till this very day! That whole process is just symbolic, and women need to stop with their dreams of a DREAM wedding. Dream wedding is marrying your best friend, your soulmate. Period.
They want the wedding more than the relationship 😂
BEAUTIFULLY EXPLAINED 😍
What Maggie is feared about; I dated a guy for 4 years, and he kept ignoring, making fun of and etc whenever I asked for marriage. Since day one I told him that I am getting into relationship by thinking that it will lead to marriage. If we both think that we are not compatible, we can move on. He neither denied nor asked for marriage, and while dating me he got engaged with someone else. 4 prime years of my life I wasted on that guy. He even tried keeping a contact even after his marriage and asked me for “night out”. Blocked forever.
I’m a woman. I don’t stress over marriage. Men y’all forget this can go both ways.
Perfect answer!
Amen 🙏🏾. I say fuk a wedding ceremony, tell your folks to give you that $29k (cost of the average wedding) for a down payment on a house or a new family car. Too much time and effort for a dumb ceremony to say look folks we’re married. A lot of people get divorced and are still paying off their wedding ceremony 🤦🏾♂️
My man is stressing over the price of the weddings
As a woman, I want to be married but I’ve never sat and daydreamed about my wedding. It’s literally just 1 day in the entire story of my life.
One day in the entire story of your life, but it's also a once in a lifetime opportunity
Same
Well that "one day" does determine the story of your life from that day onwards
@@unathinkomo5858 your wedding day doesn’t set the tone of the marriage. Is everything before and after that sets the tone. The wedding day is literally just one day
@@Grinchthanksgiving no I meant your wedding day as in a wedding is the reason why you're in a marriage to begin with
To be honest, I have a feeling that because some folks have physical intimacy, exchanging of hearts, and everything else before marriage, there is just no motivation to take moving forward with marriage seriously. If two people are truly right for one another and they know deep down they should wait to get married due to valid reasons, there is nothing wrong with that. Maybe they need time to mature and this and that. However, too many people stay in the wrong relationship because there is physical intimacy and exchanging of the hearts and everything else so there is no motivation to exit the relationship. Or they are in the right relationship but they already have almost ALL if not ALL the privileges of marriage such as physical intimacy, intimate hugs, giving your heart to one another, etc. So there is no motivation to move things forward. And then ladies wonder why they are not being proposed to even in situations where they did meet the right person. I am not judging as I love all people. I am simply being honest. There is a reason why God tells us in the Bible to keep pure before marriage (no physical intimacy or intimacy that should be between husband and wife). Not only that, God says guard your heart ABOVE all else (Proverbs 4:23). When you have physical intimacy and give your heart to someone and you're not married to them yet and they are not truly the right person for you anyway, you take a huge risk. Also, both people need their character and maturity to be developed enough so that they can actually stay married successfully. Some people are very mature in that way in their 20s and some people might get there much later on in life. But it is our responsibility as individuals to do what's right because everything we do affect us, others, our future, and others' future. ❤️✝️
As a little girl I didnt think once of my wedding day. I knew it wasn't going to happen for me. Got married on a Monday morning at a courthouse I asked that nobody take a single photo, didn't change my name and have been married 7 years. He didn't propose to me or get me a ring. Oh he also left 3 years ago.
I let my sweet lil girl daydream about her wedding and I let her put importance on something that's important. The wedding is not but the day and the marriage sure are.. my dad was a divorce atty and as a child marriage was a joke to my family and I wish it hadn't been bc i never believed in it.. and my marriage as a result of my lack of dreaming of anything great was not great.. my parents literally laughed at me if i spoke about love or marriage to the point it was always a joke and then i chose that.. now i tell my sweet daughter about how beautiful she will be and how kind her husband will be and i let her build that up.. parents have no idea i ow their jaded stories affect their children. We should believe in love and love should be the goal for everyone
There will be "no hurry" if he gets what he wants without being married. Usually men KNOW if "she's THE ONE". And they won't wait that long, so that other guys won't take her away from him.
Think about it. If you truly want something, you'll get it right away without waiting years and years and years.
I am a bit of an oddball, I dated 1 man and married him. I have always been very frugal and wanted to just go to city hall and get get everything official and over with, but my mother would not have it. We ended up with a very classy home wedding and I guess I appreciate the party and memories/pictures, but besides wearing the dress, the day has never been more important than the man I married and still madly in love with. 15 years this November and the time has flown!
Our dream is the woman of our dreams. ❤
As a woman who paid for the honeymoon the wedding wasn't that important. But Italy was fun!
My husband had plenty of say in our wedding. Also, this guy sounds like someone who isn't actually in love with his woman....
Steve and his words
Women start being wives before they get married, so they stress but men are receiving the benefits of a wife without the proposal, so they are not anxious. This is the real reason.
When you argue you will say " you wanted to get married"
Well said Steve
Just recently got married, my wife was stressing over the wedding, I was stressing about getting a house working long hours at a new company, going to trucking school to get more skills and a higher pay. She understood that I was gonna be stressed dealing with other things meanwhile she was stress about the wedding
Perhaps the emphasis on the wedding day may be in part because after the wedding-BOTH- not just you going to trucking school will be working your tails off. She knows the wedding day may be the only day she gets to be your Cinderella. After that ? It up for grabs-working , housekeeping, bookkeeping, pregnancy (s), child rearing, while you’re trucking on the road, yes bring home some of the dough
If it’s important to her, than it *ought* to be important to him.
As a woman, the man of my dreams is more important than a single.day.
❤
True.
I personally don’t care for marriage. If I’m with the person I love and vise versa, then we’ll be together for as long as our relationship permits us. Marriages and weddings don’t need to be stressed on, what needs to be stressed on is the quality of your relationship, the love shared, and just having fun with your loved one. Don’t need to spend thousands of dollars to prove that.
Steve sure knows how to put words together
A man who knows the woman he is with is the one, you should WORRY ABOUT IT. Because you can take too long and loose a good one to another man who won't waste time taking "The One" off the market.
That's not a man's nature
Steve Harvey used the word marriage, when i think he meant to say wedding.
That error completely changes his message!!!
Marriage is the day that a man becomes an indentured financial servant.
“Our dream is the woman of our dreams”. That hit me. True!
If a man isn't the one bringing up marriage and wanting to formalize things, you are not the one. You are the one he might be willing to settle for. My husband proposed after 8 months and was so excited about every step that got us closer to our wedding. He couldn't wait to wear his ring and be called a husband, the genuine excitement was palpable. Don't settle for someone like this guy.
Edit: It has been 20 years and we're still excited about our life together every day. Ladies don't settle for less than you deserve. Wonderful men who will move heaven and earth for you do exist. Don't let the losers who are only willing to do the bare minimum convince you that is all you deserve.
Wow how beautiful and thanks for sharing.
I concur .
We are all made different. Some persons just don't stress over things like that, just as some persons don't stress over a birthday.
It doesn't mean that they don't love their partners or aren't deeply committed. In fact, it's proven that they are the most committed kind of people.
My brother is such person. He wouldn't stress about any occasion. He called his wife "Wife" right from when they were just dating.
Many men are no too attracted to things like that. It's a journey for us, and that journey begins right from the dating stage.
You are so wrong 😂.
The fact that your husband gets excited about marrying shows that he is not even considering what it takes to maintain the marriage in the long term.
I can bet you are still in your honeymoon stage. You will realize shortly that he will change.
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*the wedding is the day of your dreams. The marriage is what comes after
The woman of our dreans.... Not a nightmare..
Good editing ❤😊
I never felt that way. I might be one of the few women who has never cared about being -or “getting” - married.I always thought of it as a huge waste of money better spent on a great honeymoon. But I was married twice, had two weddings (because it was “the thing to do.”) I loved and appreciated both my husbands for wanting to get married. The best part of romance for me is the “love” part. Now, that, luckily, was a sensational experience that lasts a lifetime, even as a widow. Some men just know how to make a woman feel loved every day. And night, even when they’re no longer here. 😊❤😢
That is so true in time when God say we need time till 🙏
the sad part about all this: a man will meet the "right one" over and over and over and he is NEVER satisfied. You can be married to a man, and he is still seeking the "right one"....
This is a complete projection. Men are never satisfied?! That's not what the US divorce statistics show, but ramble on in your delusional feelings.
Dont be with a man who doesnt brings up marriage within a couple of months of dating. Date with the intention to marry and if you are not compatible be quick to leave. And never perform wife duties before marriage .Don't let the wrong person exploit your heart, emotions and labour because the more you give to the wrong person the less you have for the right person.
@MansiJain.gs7lx You have brought up a mix bag of stuff. You also sound as someone hurt and bitter from experience. If what you say not to perform wifely duties before marriage, then how would he know that you are wifey material. When people are dating, they supposed to be showing their potential to their potential partner.
So you are saying that he should buy a cat in a bag and afterwards look inside to see what he got; then after it's too late to change his mind in a climate where men has more to lose if things go south.
If you want to be a wife show that you are one show that you are wifey material.
@@armstronglabordeI'm not hurt and bitter from experience but rather rational and aware from observation. I personally believe that it's not important to expect your partner to perform conjugal duites before marriage, just by talking and spending time together you can easily check compatibility provided you are mature and emotionally intelligent.Its alright if you disagree, but practice what you preach and perform husband duties before marriage like paying all your girlfriend's bills etc.
To armstrong 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
Women don't waist 3 to 7 years waiting ❤
My counter to that is I'm doing everything to be the woman of your dreams so why not also give me my dream of a proposal and marriage.
As a woman a wedding is nice but not necessary but I still want to be married mostly because its harder to divorce which translate to me do you want the headache of a divorce or you want to figure this out first
I say dn only focus on event saying its ur day..Its the day of both u n ur partner...its the first day of the event of lifetym ..pls think about 100 times before getting to that day
The worst assumption made every day is that a woman needs a man, and a man needs a woman. Never buy into someone telling you what you NEED. And, never attempt to fulfill NEEDS, when you should be fulfilling your wants and desires. Raise the bar for yourself.
My dream is the life after the marriage and the man I share my life with
Yes & Steve Means The Wedding Not The Marriage
I think he meant they do not stress over the wedding because thats the day of a woman’s dreams the right woman gives them the marriage of their dreams!
Women, dream of, the wedding... Men, dream of, the successful relationship.
You... Give Access to box.
I... Give Access to commitment.
"The marriage, doesn't necessarily guaranttee, a successful relationship.
You get your day... My day, is, the day, I die... Still, your husband.
Women, dream of, the wedding... Men, dream of, the successful relationship.
You... Access to box.
Me... Access to commitment.
The marriage doesn't necessarily guaranttee a successful relationship. You get your day... My day is, the day I die, still, your husband.
Well said Steve.
We found each other and I want to share with everyone I just booked the chapel for April 10th today!
Very true❤ best explaining
Lol that host better shutup forever😂🤣
As a woman, we worry about it because women need the security, the assurance that we're not wasting our time and energy. Plus, our body clock is ticking.
EDIT: For all those comments saying about taking advantage of the man and divorcing him eventually, I am sorry that you think all women in the world are the same, lol. I am speaking as a conservative well-educated career woman from a society that doesn't have "divorce" as an option, not in my country, probably one of 2 remaining countries. I hate to break it to you but women in most societies like ours, still take care and devote ourselves to our man. You better get out of your crappy Western thoughts and realize what marriage is for. That's it for me on this.
This is good to hear a different perspective but men don’t want to acknowledge that their body clock is ticking too.
That is a sexist, exploitative attitude. Do you think the same men who you think should provide you with security are entitled to any less security than you are?
This is exactly the attitude that maintains the high divorce rate.
Marriage should provide equally benefits to both parties.
😂❤😊😮😮😮😮
@@Elle-ht3kmmen can have children at 50, hell some have had in their 60s. We are not the same ‼️
@@raditsr9037 sperm loses its quality drastically with age. Some men can become fathers in their 60s, but most can't even get it up like they used to. Body clock also has to do with the natural urges to start a family. 😮
Never ask a man “when” he’s going to do anything
The only thing that I cared about for my wedding was that it was a representation of both of us. I chose what my girls wore he chose what his guys wore. I made Suggestions to him for his guys, but the final decision was his. We both wanted different themes so we combined them. He went with pirates for his groom's men and him.I was a bit more traditional but put my sisters in completely separate dresses to everybody else so they stood out. Then we had nightmare before christmas and transformers for the reception. It was fun.
My husband and I decided on a Monday let's go get married that weekend and we did. We will be coming up on 10 years. We plan to have a renewal. You don't either one of us has actually sat down and tried to put anything together for it. But definitely did not need nor want a big wedding. We did what we wanted to do and we went to Chick-fil-A after and it was beautiful
Love to hear it! May you both be blessed with a lifetime of happiness together 😊
Wow. That's a great story @Renewed. I hope people try not to put too much stress on getting married after being with the guy that truly loves you for you. Love and happiness is what matters. Women have to stop the nonsense of asking their bf so many times like it's everything while they don't focus on how to grow and maintain their relationship with more love, care and put aside all the unnecessary pressure of life
Awwwh Blessings to your beautiful marriage ❤ such a lovely Story ❤️
We got married in my apartment after I fornhome.from work (friend was ordained). We dislike crowds. But, after we said "I do"...she had to take a SH...bad, so she to the bathroom. She came out after he said "I now pronouce you..."
So she enter the bathroom single, came back out married.😅😅😅
Been 13 years, two kids. Loving it.
This is almost my husband and I’s story!!! We agreed to go the following weekend, went and had lunch at a pizzeria then headed to work that afternoon. We say we’ll have a little reception or whatever at 10 years, (tomorrow makes 9 years ❤️❤️) and neither of us have actually done anything to plan for it. Idc if we don’t. We can have a dinner with our kids and redo vows but neither of us care to have a fancy reception with family, we rarely speak to them anyway.
Okay, so back then when virginal brides were the only kind of brides that were acceptable. Men probably proposed earlier in a relationship, because that's the only way they were going to get to live with the woman of their dreams and build a family. If you're able to already sleep with someone, live with someone and even have children with someone without a marriage, why would any man be motivated to get married in any rush? He's got her in every way that he can without a marriage, what difference would a marriage make for him?
He's so dismissive of her feelings there
How do you know if you have this type of guy or the type that’s stringing you along?
"Our dream is the woman of our dreams", how profound is this.
This!
Go I dinner, go get the license and get married. Then let her plan the party and have it. You can help with that too. The "stress" is caused by thinking that the more extravagant and grand and expensive the wedding is somehow reflects the value of the union.
❤️❤️❤️🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽👑👑👑
I recommend someone who is struggling with this to read a book by Myles Munroe called.
"Dating and waiting"
Its helpful
Never know when you "decide" she may say no....
People get so caught up in the pomp of a wedding, it is insane. Even marriage itself is irrelevant nowadays. Imagine if people dedicated all that time and effort into building their relationships instead.
There is no one woman or 1 man of your dreams. There are many people for you all you have to do is find them whether 1 person or more. This notion that someone is “ the one” and there’s no one else is not real . But love who is deserving and do what works best for you
Amen!❤❤❤❤❤
Steve said that though
I was active duty when we were “planning” our wedding, due to be getting married a few months after I’m off active duty, and he went to visit venues and communicated with vendors on my behalf, bc I couldn’t….women have jobs and living stress to worry about too, it’s not just you, it’s about the effort you put in, FOR HER.
I don’t like how he articulated that.
Me neither. He sounded entitled, arrogant and a bit of a prick knowing he has her under his ctrl. He didn't sound like he cared about her. No love in this equation.
GIRL RUN
So I recently been worried that one day I may choose to tell my future fiancé/boyfriend that I don’t want a big reception and for that to be a dealbreaker, but maybe it won’t because of this video
As a middle-aged woman getting a divorce from a man who did an awesome proposal I can tell this guy has taken this woman for granted it's all about him and he's a jerk! If these people did get married it won't last because this man isn't focused on being a married man and he's all about himself and attention. Hopefully she realized it and didn't marry him and is happy with somebody else or is realizing it sooner and the marriage before everything goes really bad for too long.
I am sorry that you are 100% right here.
Your divorce has made you miserable and causing you to project. It’s not a good look, I wish you the best.
And that's why he's not asking the question. Women make other women single.
Yooooo how did you EVEN come to that conclusion with one tiny clip? You like, damned their entire relationship without knowing any facts. I’m sorry you’ve been through a divorce and those are so difficult so I really mean that, but I think you might be projecting here quite a bit.
@@raditsr9037No, her marriage made her miserable and she's trying to help someone not make the same mistake. You are the one projecting.
She's got you, you got her.😊
This man is a walking red flag
I think "it was very well said about a man"❤
Marriage is not the day of our dreams, marriage last for life. You can say that for wedding party as the day of our dreams cause literally it doesn't last any longer then a day either and it's just a party. You can marry without big party or even without it completely
What’s important is not the amount of money that’s spent- but the sacrifice that’s freely given. When you are given something of value- the cost to maintain it is of no concern. Where our hearts are- you will find our treasure.🥰🌹❤️
Let me die, gazing into the eyes of the woman, I love... My wife.
Yes rephrase that. The wedding is one day of your dreams. He should be concerned with the marriage
This guy is a red flag, gurl ruuunnnn 😂😂😂😂
He said, “well I already have her and I don’t care about her wedding.”
I didn’t dream of my wedding. I left it up to my parents as they were paying for it. Was it nice? Yes. Were me and my husband grateful? Fa sho. Will we scale up at our vow renewal? Mos def!! But my marriage, I always had dreams and aspirations about that!
Girls put 100% effort into ONE day, but don't realize that marriage is supposed to be a LIFETIME of work and effort
Women get lifetime security from that one day.
Men get a lifetime of responsibility.
Amen.🩶
So I agree what she was worrying about is mostly nonsense the problem comes down to the fact that he obviously knows that it is important to her but he doesn't care because his priorities are greater. Sorry, not the type of guy to have a long term relationship with.
Yea a wedding would be nice but in all seriousness, I do not want to be in a white dress saying I do if its not the man that God chooses for me.
Thank you Steve I hope and pray for miracles ❤️🙏💋
That’s the difference, Men dream about the one(woman). Woman dream about the wedding(event). So who do you think LOVES deeper?
They mean wedding, I hope. I didn't enjoy mine - it was a party for his 150 relatives. The marriage is important to both I hope.
He's wasting her time. He's cringe.
So...is she not working or something that she's not also stressed out about her job and where to live on top of trying to plan for a future in a relationship that she's afraid will never happen because he doesn't think marrying her is a priority? She's just the kind of girl that one would marry but not the girl that he prioritizes marrying.
TO ALL MEN: Forget marriage, the woman strongly wins in one if u slightly deviate off course
She’s not stressing about those things she was trying to hint at you to hurry up and do it 😂
I know she's gonna say yes , it's not a priority for me ?????????
Girl run.... U're taken for granted
I was a chef for many years before becoming disabled. I did all the food and such. So it was a shared experience
This is like helping the lady not full of love for the woman