I was working as a secretary...miserable. Then I met my future husband...I quit my job, hopped onto his van travelled with him, sleeping in the van for several years teaching people about juicing. I was soooo incredibly happy! Ten years later, still pursuing our passion....we fell into an incredible opportunity to teach our message on TV. What followed was fame, money and an accelerated life path towards more fun and more opportunity to teach and inspire millions of people. All of this came to us because we were living, daily, minute by minute our dream and passion. It's vital to follow your dreams! Even if you love the settled life of being a secretary, that's great! Follow your heart and you'll never ever fail. I'm 60 now, and I am so happy to have lived a very special life...thank you Raya for helping others see this wisdom. 😍👍😀
I am 28 and still unsure of what I should be doing! Most of my friends are married and/or have children, have their own homes, and it is scary!! I still feel 16. I have been in an office job for the past 7 years - I don't hate it, but I can't see myself there forever. I'm also currently doing a professional qualification that I do hate and cannot get any motivation for. This video, along with your one about passion today has inspired me :) it's made me feel a bit more hopeful. It's OK to still be unsure :) trying new things is so scary to me but if you don't try it, you never know what you may miss out on I guess. Thanks Raya ❤ x
Very beautifully said, Raya. I am in the same unknown haze in my life, but I am trying to stay positive and remind myself that everything I need to know is revealed to me at the right time and space. Thank you for taking the time to record this inspiring message and encourage young people to take life as it goes and not to pressure themselves into a lifestyle that differs from their beliefs and dreams.
When I was younger, I thought I needed to pick something, and that was it...that was the path I was going to be on. Which meant I had to make sure I picked the "right" something. It wasn't until I realized that I could pick something, have that career for 2, 5, 10+ years and then pick a new career and do the same! My choice was simply the start of the path and I could weave that path as I saw fit (or even start a brand new path!). Remind me of the lyric from the sunscreen song: "Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't." Nice work on the video Raya! Thanks for sharing!
This is so true. We did this, went to university and got a job but a few months into full time work we were miserable too. So we saved up and quit our jobs. Now we are travelling the world and loving it :)
I felt the same when I was younger Raya, that pressure of having to figure your life out. But really, all you should do is figure out what you want to do right now. It's impossible to plan your whole life out and you shouldn't even want to. Be open to change and new opportunities. Life being unpredictable is what makes it exciting. I studied chemistry, but now 10 years later I work for a documentary festival and get to travel alot because of it. I couldn't have known that 10 years ago, but it only happened because I was open to change and willing to take risks while following my passions. Anyway, I think it's great you have come to this realisation too. I actually first saw you on youtube during that trip with those guys on Louis vlogs, could see that you were blown away by it all and very happy. Which is probably why I subscribed, so full circle!
I'm 25 and I'm about to move halfway around the world to work for Disney, a dream I never thought would be possible. As I get older, I realise how important it is to do the things your heart tells you are important. Listen to your heart, then let your brain make your dreams into reality!
Follow your happiness, it will lead you to where you want to be. Try new things, have new experiences and increase your chances of finding joy. Be free and know that when you are happy you have everything that you need. I am so great-full to be living the wonders of life. Thank you for sharing Raya! Stay happy!
Hey Raya, thank you so much for this video. I am currently experiencing a quarter life crisis and I have always felt lost. Thank you for letting me know that it isn't a bad thing not to belong or not to be aware of what path I am supposed to be on. You are truly inspiring.
This video has come at a perfect time. The equivalent to the road trip that you talked about for me is this last semester in which I studied abroad. Travelled to 9 countries and just felt this passion and love for what I was doing. Being back in the states now, back at an internship in an office all day has been making me think a lot. I've got a couple years left of college and I'm still in that mindset of 'wow I'm really unsure of what I want for my life, but I know i want something different.' Success and happiness come in all shapes and sizes for each individual person. I'll figure it out :) thanks so much raya!! You're amazing!!
Thanks for sharing this! Like you, the quarter-life crisis hit me early on. Throughout my whole life I knew exactly what the next step in my life was...school. After graduating with my B.A in 2013, I took a life-changing trip to South Korea that opened my eyes to a whole new world and new opportunities, however once I returned home I returned to my reality, a 9-2 part time job I've had for 3 years and no place to grow without getting stuck in something I didn't like. My friends were all moving on and I was stuck, I took it hard and began suffering from depression and anxiety. Finally when I was able to work through that, I could see what my next step was, go back to school but without a defined end point. Instead of a 5 year plan, I make a 2 year goal which hopefully will allow me some space to change my mind and grow.
I'm 20 and this year I went on my first backpacking trip, even though it was just a week long it opened my eyes a lot. Then I came back and had to make choices for universities, as if it's the make or break decision of my life, I felt truly lost because like Raya, I knew I didn't belong here. And I decided I can't go on like this anymore, so I worked hard and booked my flight for the second backpacking trip just two months later. I can say that it's life changing, it's something that can't be explained, this thing that traveling can do to you. When you do it with an open heart and just go out to explore the world, you'll realize there's so many new things to learn about out there. I'm blessed to say that I know now which direction I'm headed, and thanks to traveling, I now have the courage to go for my dreams and not to follow suit society.
You don't know how badly I need this today! I was freaking out about my financial aid! But you know what I'm just gonna let go of that weight and move on with my life. I'm going to start college in a few months and I will do things in between that actually make me happy! School isn't my thing, but I know that it will help me decide whether I want to be doing that or not. So I'm just gonna see where this crazy life takes me it's great so far. But one thing that's in the top of my list no matter where I am or what I'm doing! I'm going to travel as much as I can! And no ones going to stop me not even fear of the unknown! That's the one true thing in sure of that I'm gonna do in my future!
This video speaks to my soul. I was in a bit of a quarter life crisis for a while. I'm only 18 and yet for years people have been pressuring to "get my life together" and decide what I'm going to do for the rest of my life, which is bogus. And I've finally realized that I don't have to decide and I don't have to choose one thing. People have been trying to push me into doing something "normal" and what is expected of me. But I've been realized that I can do whatever I want and at any moment in my life I can change my mind, start over, or try something new and it's totally okay.
NerdsLikeUs97 Absolutely! This is your life so you should be the one choosing what to do with it! I have friends who are unhappy with their job but are doing it because it makes their parents happy and it looks good on their resume and they're miserable! I'd much rather travel the world and make videos and have people look at me and think that I don't have my life together because I'm not in an office ;)
I have these discussions with myself nearly ALL the time. I never know if what I'm doing is the right thing and I know there's external pressures - in fact, I talked about this in my last vlog! How you get to where you are is a weird path... Then you figure it out and you realize there's something you want to do and you love it... And even then, your passions will change and you'll again question what you're doing. Haha. Our parents had that lifestyle - job, career, family, house, retirement and it was an incredible life for them... but now, there's no clear defined path for anyone, so you just have to live with a goal in mind, and always edge your way towards it.
***** I guess it's the same for everybody. A month or two ago my parents asked me what my plans would be when I graduate from college next year. That question basically blew me off my socks as I honestly hadn't really thought about it yet, hotel mom and dad was serving me pretty well :P
Tomskii5 Hahaha, I moved out on my own at 19... so every decision I make has to consider rent, food, future... but at the same time, has to make me happy too!
I went to school in upstate Ny in Oneonta. Nice move by your Mom. Zero stress, plenty of parking, it's cheap and a lot of culture has migrated to Woodstock from NYC transplants, which I hope continues. About this time of year, me and my friends used to whitewater raft on the Hudson up North of Gore Mtn in the Adirondacks where the river starts. It's not too expensive and is an amazing experience, and would make a great vlog too, Raya.
Great advice! I graduated high school in 2004 and went down the route of "I need to do this, this and this and be this or that." The pressure I felt when I was younger to 'have my life together' ultimately lead me down the wrong path and now I'm back in school at 28 trying to correct it and follow my true passion. It's hard to know who you are and what you want to do with your life right out of high school or even college. Take time to figure it out and dont succumb to pressure from anyone that thinks you need to be a certain person or have a certain life. Thanks Raya!
This is so important for young people to realize. Society makes us feel like if we aren't working a 9-5 and don't have everything figured out by the age of 25 we aren't living correctly and we won't be successful. it's so refreshing to see people who have ventured outside the box and are pursing their real dreams rather than doing what is "sensible" or expected. Love your videos, you demeanor gives off a wise aura.
Wow thats exactly how I felt! I just went to Europe for the first time and was there for a month and the trip just changed my perspective on life. Your video was so spot on, on how i'm feeling!
Yes, I have been in a quarter life crisis for the past 5 years or so. I am 23. I am a college student and I keep changing my major. I don't know what to do. I don't think college is for me. But then I think how am I going to figure out what I want to do if I don't explore? I don't know. I would love to travel the world but you need money to do that. So I am just stuck.
+ThatOneWeirdGal Wow, I just read your comment and seriously I could have written it myself. It's exactly how I've been feeling for about 2ish years now. Everyone in my life keeps telling me "you need money to travel, Jenna! Get a job! Figure out what you want to do!" but I know there are other ways to travel without a ton of money, I just don't know what's stopping me. But I changed my major twice, transferred college FOUR times, it's been insane. And I know college isn't for me either. I've been on a path that I feel I am "supposed" to be on. I'm also 23. Channel's here on UA-cam like Raya's give me hope and inspiration that people who are feeling like this, we will be fine, it's going to be okay. I hope it all works out for you! I know how hard it is.
+Jenna Solimando I'm in the same boat, first year of college. Just want to travel, but am following the path of college which is giving me debt. So do I quit now or keep staying in college?
Thanks. Crazy how our stories are so similar. I think we should just get a fulltime job to save up money, and go travelling for a year. See the world. Yeah, there are ways to do it on a budget.
+ThatOneWeirdGal Finish college. You'll regret it if you don't. You can never be too prepared for life, wherever life might take you. If you want to travel you still can and one day if you want to get a 9-5, at least you bothered to finish college :)
+ThatOneWeirdGal Plenty of countries offer working holiday visas, Very cheap and get granted straight away, and with a one way ticket, land somewhere and get amazing jobs while travelling. I landed in Melbourne with £300 to my name and stayed and worked in oz and nz for 4 years and did amazing jobs on ranches, barrier reef, cities, mountains. If you have £800 right now, you could be in these places next week - No need to be rich - It's a very small world now. and I found it easier to get work in these countries than in the my own country the UK... infact my CV would be nothing right now if I never left my own country. I got my I.T. job the day after landing in Melbourne and guess what - Didn't have prior I.T. experience. Then I was a nature guide on a great barrier reef island.. never did that either. I'm not bragging, I'm just trying to say how easy it is. I arrived with £300 and left with thousands while still travelling the whole time. Even Japan offers a working visa and there's plenty of English speaking jobs.
Definitely still going through my quarter-life crisis. Your crisis was very similar to mine. You plan this life you're expected to be on according to social norms but finally start to realize that maybe that life is not what you wanted or expected. But you're scared to leave the "comfortable and secure" life for the risky one due to what others might think. I wanna do something very similar to what your doing currently. Planning to get my scuba certification in the coming months so i can dive when i can start traveling more!
I was in the middle of that little life crisis but I guess, I can now manage better? I wouldn't say that I'm fully over it but I can cope. I graduated college not long ago and not sure of what I wanna do for the rest of my life but I do know that UA-cam and blogging makes me happy so there's where I am now. I guess being successful means being happy with the life you live and once you found what you love to do, you'll never have to work a day in your life!
Thank you so much for making this video! I'm 25 and definitely going through this at the moment! Your videos are so inspiring and heartwarming and I love how enthusiastic you are. Once I have my life back on track I hope make a video like this... thank you for opening my eyes to realising I'm not alone.
Im 35, for me I felt kinda stuck in the same things for a long time. I finally found an at home job that I love and have been doing it for the last 8 years. I dont think you ever really find that "It" thing, I think you do a lot of different things that you enjoy until you dont enjoy it anymore and find something new. Im currently looking to turn my hobbies into something I can live off of and i am enjoying the process immensely! A big inspiration for me is Ben Brown & his vlogs, him and his girlfriend Nicole are so active and positive and care about their foot print on the earth and are just genuine and happy. Also their love of travel and encouraging others to step outside the comfort zone has made me want to do more ( I have Lupus & an anxiety disorder) with my life. Also another big influence is you. I like how positive you are, that you teach people about history when you travel and that you have interesting perspectives and honesty. You also open up a lot of discussions about import things which I really like. So thank you!
Kenzie-Anne Grant Thats what most people don't realize - you don't have to choose your one 'thing' now that you're going to do the rest of your life. It's totally normal and even exciting to switch it up and follow new passions! Thank you so much! You're so sweet and it's amazing that you're following your dreams and working towards living a life doing things you love. Keep doing you, girl! :)
Came to your channel on Louis recommendation (From the final China Vlog) and I have to say since first seeing you in his Vlogs I saw a personality that I knew would capture an audience. I am currently going through a very tough time as well and I want to thank you for spreading your experience in hopes of helping others.
Society is putting so much pressure into one's life and sometimes it's hard to stand against it. Finding your way is a process and if you've chosen a way (like traveling) it does not mean you have to stay on that road forever. Have the courage, whatever age you have, to change a direction if you are not happy. Life is an adventure and it can be so fascinating. :D I'm about as old as Raya's mum. I'm 43 now, but I'm feeling like a 30 year old person, so sometimes it's strange to realize that I could be a mum to Raya, having an amicable feeling for her. I have no kids but let me just say this: If you would be my daughter, Raya, I would be so proud of you. Have fun traveling and do what you love. You are doing it right. :D
moyashisoba Wow, thank you so much! And age seriously does not matter. Keep your child-like wonder and love for the world, and no one can stop you ;) Thanks again for the kind words, I hope you're living a beautiful adventure yourself! x
Thank you so much for posting this Raya. This is just what I needed to see on one of those terrible overwhelming days. I can relate to this so much; I'm nearly 25, have just started a job that I don't like, still living with my parents and I don't currently have the money to do what I want to do in life. But I know this is only temporary. I will get to where I want to be in life but I'll do it my way. Love following your journey with you :)
+hippyplantlove Thank you so much! It's 100% only temporary! Make your goals a priority and don't let yourself settle for an underwhelming life - and everything will come together :) Good luck on your journey, and I love your user name! xx
I recently from last January till now.. I have been going through a very difficult time. I was always the type of person who knew exactly what I wanted to do in my life, but suddenly it all was just kind of pulled out underneath me this year.. and i was completely lost. luckily I have lots of other interests, but one thing that had always stayed consistent in my life was the love for travel. I want to become a Travel Blogger/Vlogger like you and Hey Nadine and other travel bloggers, and plan to start very soon. i am finishing up my two years of college this semester, and by then i hope to save up enough money to start my travels and make videos and things! I hope to get to where you guys are now with youtube and things :) But after a very difficult time with myself this year. Traveling has really got me excited for things again. For life and whats ahead! So thank you for your inspiration and opening up to let people like me know that were not alone and the dream of travel, can be a very real and possible thing if you really want it to be.
This was uploaded on my 21st birthday, so yay! As to my experience, I've been told that I'm wasting my time with what I'm studying in uni. It's been a bit difficult to choose a major like Languages with concentration in Tourism when you´re expected to study engineering or something along those lines because it's what will help you be 'succesful'. But I've always had this love for traveling and I really don't see myself spending the rest of my life in that 9 to 5 office job you were talking about. Although meeting people like Louis, Ange and Nick would be amazing, I hope one day I can be the one that inspires others to follow their dreams and be happy. Raya, you're amazing and I love the way you put together this video. Keep up the good work :)
I'm currently going through this, I'm now 30 and i've been working in the same job for the last 13 year's and have become really unhappy, I recently got given the opportunity to leave what i've been doing and go travel Australia for a year, at first many people told me I was silly if I was to quit a comfortable job and risk it all, but I know I would totally regret not taking this opportunity to not only see new cultures but also experience new things and who know's maybe i'll find myself and find something that I really love.
I' m 43 and I have been a real estate broker, teacher, corporate worker, sales person, actor, ........... Wanderlust... not all that wander are lost..... lol.. so steriotypically lol.. but I found that it never is a like oh .. this is my life and I am happy.. You will always think and want something more fun or more your thing.. but just realize its all a journey and you will never reach that nirvana bliss of this is what I want to do for ever!!! Cause it changes (even at 43) I am like .. being a teacher is all politics and I want to do other things lol.. so when you realize the whole thing is a journey and not like you reach a perfect spot.. thats when you love life and except it all.. wanderlust.. its ok to be a plutheria of different things your whole life.. enjoy the seasons of your life
Thanks God I found this and the other video you have about "what to do with your life", I'm 24 and have great job (office job) but I feel tired of spending most of my days sitting in an office in front of a computer, I feel like I want to do something else that might not give me the money I have now but that would bring me more freedom in a way. I've been thinking of what to do and yes I want to start doing more things that I love like music, traveling, videos, meditation and see what happens from there, and to know that it's ok to don't know what to do and try different things whenever I feel like doing it. Thanks for the video Raya, come to Colombia someday :)
this is great advice, i graduated college a year ago and was feeling down because i couldnt get a job like it seems i should, but then i started realizing i really want to make videos and create art, and thats what im pursuing now, im also a vlogger from NYC and i recently decided that i wanna be successful in it, and i also dont believe in 9 to 5 jobs, i saw u on luies vlog a while back but never knew u vlogged, i wish u the best in ur journey, and it would be nice to meet u one day, it cool to meet other vloggers =)
Amazing subject to talk about. We all feel lost sometimes in life, don't we?! Thanks for sharing. Now I see I'm not the only one and it feels so much better being in my skin. Peace!
I just want to say thank you so much for sharing your story. I just cried watching this because I'm currently sitting in my dorm room trying to figure out what to do with the rest of my years in college and this really hit me hard. I needed to hear this and feel some support even if you don't know me personally!! Thanks Raya
wow watching this video was so good. You literally been speaking of what has been in my mind for so long... i want to travel and see the world and have no plans. Just being free. it's kind of hard to accomplish here though, cause in germany you need to have a job that gives you insurance. Your employer pays for that. i am about to apply for university and i am hoping that i can travel whilst the holidays, cause being a student you automatically have an insurance. Your optimism is so contagious ! So i'm also planning to travel to one of my favourite countries this year, which is ireland (You should check that out btw). Just generally thank you for being such a lovely person, Love Lea.
I recently discovered your youtube channel and I'm really enjoying watching your videos. Its inspiring and heart warming to know there are other people out there who hold similar values in life. I'm now in my final year of uni studying wildlife conservation (which I love) but I really want to travel for a while before going back to do a masters. I'd love to have a job that involves traveling as well as conservation. Watching your videos makes my dreams seem more tangible, so I just want to say thank you! :)
+Gwynne Thank you! Wow, sounds incredible - to be studying wildlife conservation! You can definitely find a job while traveling that involves wildlife conservation. I'm looking into helping out with some projects next year as well! Good luck on your adventures :)
+RayaWasHere thank you Raya (sorry I didn't see your reply earlier) yes my dream is to travel as part of my job in wildlife conservation, I can't wait! Hope all your travels go well! :)
+Sloth Bear Hi I'm studying at the university of Kent and course is linked to the Durrell Institute of Conservation and Ecology (as in Gerald Durrell). I'm in my final year and have really enjoyed the course :)
Thank you so much raya ! this really got me thinking and for the first time in 6 months I feel like its okay to not know what I want ! ready to step outside the norm ! ty !!!
After a year of hating Uni, I went to do a "school" in Australia, which also took me to Japan. I am planning on traveling more soon as well! Thinking outside of the box can be very valuable for finding contentment in life. I encourage others to live in a Big Picture-way, thinking of the world and its intricacies then finding what you can do to incorporate and better what is already here. Don't create strings/chains that don't need to be there, but also be aware of your giftings and have Reason behind why you're doing what you're doing. (And it's also okay if your role is to go to uni/have an office job!!)
ive had a quarter life crisis. i took a gap year, put a nice stereo system in my car, and got some tattoos among other stuff. at the time those things were really cool to me
I went through the same phase after I graduated college in December. I felt like I had to figure everything out immediately. But I have realized that I can literally do anything I want with my life. There are so many possibilities. I live by Merida's words from Brave: "Your destiny lives inside of you, you just have to be brave enough to see it".
Oh my God. Thank you for this, Raya. I felt you were hugging me while saying this. Thank you so much! One day, I'll come back and share my story too. :)
I don't know why I just came across this video now, I feel so late in the game. But thank you so much for this Raya. This made me cry bc it really inspires me. I am 20 years old who took a semester off from college to just try to figure out my life. I am really trying to get into nursing school so I can at least have a stable job needed anywhere. But I am really having a hard time getting into one while I see others get in. All I want to do is travel and help people but I feel like I'm in a bubble since I am working at an office job I don't really like at the time being. So I feel like I'm already at my quarter life crisis yet, I'm not officially done with school. Anyways, freakin love your videos. Came to your channel by Louis and I'm here to stay. :)
+Gabby Ducusin Aw thank you so much! I'm so sorry you're having a rough time - stick with it and if you really want it, you will get there, I promise! And until then, don't worry too much about the future and try to make sure you're present and happy with where you are right now :)
I'm 25, feel so much pressure to do certain things because I'm married. What's wrong with traveling, having fun and doing what you want to do. Instead of doing things because it's expected
Thank you for the video. What you are talking about describes so well the thoughts i have right now. I about to finish my master degree in architects, and I don't know if it's the frustrations about my project that's talking or what, but I too really think I need to find an alternate direction than the 9-5 job. I think I'll still will be in the creative field, more independent , and work more with philosophy
It's nice to know other people have gone through college and still experience this. In college I had a goal, I was going towards something that I thought would magically turn into something else once I was done. Now I just don't know anymore.
This video describes my exact situation! Before I thought it was just me experiencing this, but you making a video expressing your thoughts and feelings about this makes me feel a little better about things, it sounds like I need to go on a road trip or something similar to just free myself and open up my mind, because it's not doing me any good keeping all these feelings bottled up and not doing anything about it. You actually are the exact kind of person I'd love to spend time with because you're so open minded! Too many people have the mindset of work, buy a house, car etc because it's normal and what society considers normal, but they might not necessarily be happy! This is a great video! When can we meet and road trip haha 😉
This was a great video! This is actually what I want to do! I'm only 19 but so many of my friends are already caught up on getting on the conveyor belt system but I want to explore and chill.
Thank you Raya. I am new in your channel and this video has really made me feel better. I think i've been going through a quarter life crisis recently and knowing that i am not the only one is recomforting. I am in my fourth year of college already but this year I had the opportunity to do a photography course (which i am very passionate about) and I kinda felt the same way you commented about starting travelling. Hopefully I can do more of what makes me feel happy. Greets from Argentina x
Thank you for sharing your thoughts :) In situations like this, I always recall Alan Watts (What if Money Were No Object). And in my personal opinion, there is only one person stopping you from doing anything, and that's yourself; everyone else is just chatter.
This video made me smile! I feel lost all the time. I am 24 but still not sure what I want to do.. Since a couple of months I feel I really want to travel. Loved this video
Wow Raya you just make the most amazing videos! every single one is so positive, honest and helpful! I am exactly in this position right now, I graduated from school and now I have to decide what I want to do next. Luckily I figured out what I want to do over the last few month.... and that is to become a tattooer, which isn't a nine-to-five job neither. Fortunately my family is very supportive and I hope I can make it! Thanks for all the awesome videos and if you ever move to Germany I would be happy to meet you :D
I still have 2 years left of uni but I feel reeeeeeally nervous about the future, but you are 100% right, the thing with being so young is that we have every single door open, kinda nerve-racking but exciting for sure. This video was great!! xx
Really loved this video. I am definitely going through the quarter life crisis. I'm going to be 25 this year and I hate my job. I really don't want to be miserable the rest of my life.... But now I know what I want to do at least. It's just getting there is the struggle.
I am completely on the same page as you, trouble is most of the time you still need the money to pay the bills. Luckily I've found a job I find rewarding (care work with adults with autism even though its rubbish pay and I have a psychology degree) but I keep telling myself it's amazing experience and will lead to better things with hopefully more money. But money is such a small part of life and the myth we are told is that success and happiness = money and good cars and good clothes. It's all a lie! Thank you for this video and sorry for the long comment but it's so true, it's ok to not know what is in the future xx
this is definitely where i'm at in life right now. I am 25, i have a degree and i hate my job, and about to travel in brazil for 3 months and i feel like this is the best decision i've ever made in my life.
Thank ou for sharing your thoughts with us. You are so right. I have worked for three years in an office and then realized that's not what I want to do my full-page lifetime . Now I am 26 years and I study for four years and do not regret my desicion . Where it leads me after my studies I do not know exactly . But I do not want to be stressed out and feel me, I have to have with 30 a steady job and earn lots of money . Sure, money solves many problems and saves lives but it does not mean that it makes happy. The nice thing about life is that you can decide it yourself.
So Inspiring...... Thanks a lot for making these type of videos. I am starting my Highschool senior year in August, and am so worried because with freedom start responsibilities. I will use your advise, wise beyond years :)
I know what I want to do but it's easy to still feel lost on the way there, especially when it's a long journey! It's easy to try too hard to fit into a box and beat yourself up when things dont go the way you planned. it's cool to hear it's always fluid for everybody and everyone feels scared sometimes.
Hey Raya :) Ive found ur channel while I was watching some of Louis' vlog videos and decided to check it out tonight, which I must say must've been one of the greatest things I've done over the winter break. I'm from Canada and this year, I've met someone pretty cool too, from Netherlands, and we've clicked pretty well. Along with him, you have inspired me to travel and to live in the moment, to always be curious about the world and to meet lifelong friends that u can enjoy every minute your life with.
Jimmy Van Twest That's the way to do it! It's so important to find a career that makes you happy and makes you want to wake up in the mornings and go to work :)
Great video! I've been indecisive for a while as well. Currently I'm getting my bachelor in Computer Science with a minor in (marine) biology. I'll also get certified as a scuba dive instructor this summer. My final decision on what path to take hasn't been made yet (it might be none of the previously mentioned), one thing I do know is that I want to have multiple paths to choose from. Don't be afraid to try something new, because the best adventures can be found outside your comfort zone ;P
Hi Raya, I can really relate to this video. I have just finished university and I have about 3 weeks until I have to leave university accommodation and I have been spending my time recently looking for jobs because I don't want to go home. For me it would feel like taking a step back but at the same time I don't want to just take any job. I've also been offered two uni places to do a masters degree but I'm not sure if I should do it. Anyway I just wanted to thank you for making this video because I feel like we all put pressure on ourselves to do certain things. I don't want to do what society says I should be doing but I'm not sure what I want to do with my life at the moment (exactly how you felt I'm sure). Good luck with the future. You are a lovely person and I love your videos :) Emma x
This is what I try to remember everything single day! I am so scared to take a leap into something new and taking risks, but I am in a job I do not like with dreams of great things and I can't make the move
I have always kept an open mind and followed my passion(s), but what you always need to remember is that the world revolves around money and you earning it ;) Travelling and crashing on Sofa's doesn't last forever, so see alot & learn alot and the rest will come along the way.
The simple answer is that no matter what you choose to do, you have to be happy and when you look back on your life, you're satisfied from your choices. The lucky ones figure out this early on in their life, while others (like me :)) take a bit more time. I was 24 when I decided that instead of boring office job from 9 til 6, I want to follow my dreams and become pastry chef. So that's what I did. Рая, радвам се, че следваш мечтите си! :)
Hi Raya, I have seen you on Luis' videos and I just love you. You are so amazing and inspirational. This is just what I needed, I have been worried about my life for the last one and a half year, I also had this "already-planned-road-to-my-life" and when I finished college It wasn't exactly how I imagined. I have done a lot of things since then some made sense and still do and some just didn't work. It good to know that it is oukay to take time to figure things out. Thank you... x
100% agree what you said... I'm saving money now to travel around the world!!! That's my biggest goal at the moment. I'm Kathy, 26 , from Beijing, China :)
I just discovered your channel through FunForLouis and oh, the minute you start talking I (and many other people, I reckon) can immediately feel your kindness and freedom of spirit!! You're such a lovely and amazing person and I really needed this video. I'm 19 and in 2 years from now I'll be finished with uni, and to be honest, I don't even really know what I'm doing right now so I can't even imagine what that will be like in 2 years.. I have always dreamed of big adventures and of being happy and feeling free, but I just struggle with how to get there.. I'm just afraid that I can't do it on my own, I hate travelling alone, and everything is just so much better with loving people around you. Would you have some tips to find like-minded people? xxx
"I found the freedom in being lost and the excitement in not knowing"
What a *great* quote! :)
I was working as a secretary...miserable. Then I met my future husband...I quit my job, hopped onto his van travelled with him, sleeping in the van for several years teaching people about juicing. I was soooo incredibly happy! Ten years later, still pursuing our passion....we fell into an incredible opportunity to teach our message on TV. What followed was fame, money and an accelerated life path towards more fun and more opportunity to teach and inspire millions of people. All of this came to us because we were living, daily, minute by minute our dream and passion. It's vital to follow your dreams! Even if you love the settled life of being a secretary, that's great! Follow your heart and you'll never ever fail. I'm 60 now, and I am so happy to have lived a very special life...thank you Raya for helping others see this wisdom. 😍👍😀
You inspire me!!
I am 28 and still unsure of what I should be doing! Most of my friends are married and/or have children, have their own homes, and it is scary!! I still feel 16. I have been in an office job for the past 7 years - I don't hate it, but I can't see myself there forever. I'm also currently doing a professional qualification that I do hate and cannot get any motivation for. This video, along with your one about passion today has inspired me :) it's made me feel a bit more hopeful. It's OK to still be unsure :) trying new things is so scary to me but if you don't try it, you never know what you may miss out on I guess. Thanks Raya ❤ x
Very beautifully said, Raya. I am in the same unknown haze in my life, but I am trying to stay positive and remind myself that everything I need to know is revealed to me at the right time and space. Thank you for taking the time to record this inspiring message and encourage young people to take life as it goes and not to pressure themselves into a lifestyle that differs from their beliefs and dreams.
Well said
When I was younger, I thought I needed to pick something, and that was it...that was the path I was going to be on. Which meant I had to make sure I picked the "right" something. It wasn't until I realized that I could pick something, have that career for 2, 5, 10+ years and then pick a new career and do the same! My choice was simply the start of the path and I could weave that path as I saw fit (or even start a brand new path!). Remind me of the lyric from the sunscreen song:
"Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life.
The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives.
Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't."
Nice work on the video Raya! Thanks for sharing!
This made me a bit emotional, I'm inly seventeen and I worry everyday what I'm supposed to be doing ! This helped, thank you Raya X
This is so true. We did this, went to university and got a job but a few months into full time work we were miserable too. So we saved up and quit our jobs. Now we are travelling the world and loving it :)
I felt the same when I was younger Raya, that pressure of having to figure your life out. But really, all you should do is figure out what you want to do right now. It's impossible to plan your whole life out and you shouldn't even want to. Be open to change and new opportunities. Life being unpredictable is what makes it exciting.
I studied chemistry, but now 10 years later I work for a documentary festival and get to travel alot because of it. I couldn't have known that 10 years ago, but it only happened because I was open to change and willing to take risks while following my passions.
Anyway, I think it's great you have come to this realisation too. I actually first saw you on youtube during that trip with those guys on Louis vlogs, could see that you were blown away by it all and very happy. Which is probably why I subscribed, so full circle!
I'm 25 and I'm about to move halfway around the world to work for Disney, a dream I never thought would be possible. As I get older, I realise how important it is to do the things your heart tells you are important. Listen to your heart, then let your brain make your dreams into reality!
Rebecca Rayne Life's is just too short not to go for your dreams :)
Follow your happiness, it will lead you to where you want to be. Try new things, have new experiences and increase your chances of finding joy. Be free and know that when you are happy you have everything that you need. I am so great-full to be living the wonders of life. Thank you for sharing Raya! Stay happy!
Hey Raya, thank you so much for this video. I am currently experiencing a quarter life crisis and I have always felt lost. Thank you for letting me know that it isn't a bad thing not to belong or not to be aware of what path I am supposed to be on. You are truly inspiring.
+SakiMaya Azure Thank you! So glad I could help! Life would be boring if we had it all figured out already, wouldn't it ;)
Yes it would be boring! It's quite exciting not knowing and then discovering it. That is exactly what I have to do, somehow :)
@@RayaWasHere true
@@RayaWasHere listen Sadhguru on UA-cam, he might help you.
This video has come at a perfect time. The equivalent to the road trip that you talked about for me is this last semester in which I studied abroad. Travelled to 9 countries and just felt this passion and love for what I was doing. Being back in the states now, back at an internship in an office all day has been making me think a lot. I've got a couple years left of college and I'm still in that mindset of 'wow I'm really unsure of what I want for my life, but I know i want something different.' Success and happiness come in all shapes and sizes for each individual person. I'll figure it out :) thanks so much raya!! You're amazing!!
Thanks for sharing this! Like you, the quarter-life crisis hit me early on. Throughout my whole life I knew exactly what the next step in my life was...school. After graduating with my B.A in 2013, I took a life-changing trip to South Korea that opened my eyes to a whole new world and new opportunities, however once I returned home I returned to my reality, a 9-2 part time job I've had for 3 years and no place to grow without getting stuck in something I didn't like. My friends were all moving on and I was stuck, I took it hard and began suffering from depression and anxiety. Finally when I was able to work through that, I could see what my next step was, go back to school but without a defined end point. Instead of a 5 year plan, I make a 2 year goal which hopefully will allow me some space to change my mind and grow.
I'm 20 and this year I went on my first backpacking trip, even though it was just a week long it opened my eyes a lot. Then I came back and had to make choices for universities, as if it's the make or break decision of my life, I felt truly lost because like Raya, I knew I didn't belong here. And I decided I can't go on like this anymore, so I worked hard and booked my flight for the second backpacking trip just two months later.
I can say that it's life changing, it's something that can't be explained, this thing that traveling can do to you. When you do it with an open heart and just go out to explore the world, you'll realize there's so many new things to learn about out there.
I'm blessed to say that I know now which direction I'm headed, and thanks to traveling, I now have the courage to go for my dreams and not to follow suit society.
You don't know how badly I need this today! I was freaking out about my financial aid! But you know what I'm just gonna let go of that weight and move on with my life. I'm going to start college in a few months and I will do things in between that actually make me happy! School isn't my thing, but I know that it will help me decide whether I want to be doing that or not. So I'm just gonna see where this crazy life takes me it's great so far. But one thing that's in the top of my list no matter where I am or what I'm doing! I'm going to travel as much as I can! And no ones going to stop me not even fear of the unknown! That's the one true thing in sure of that I'm gonna do in my future!
This video speaks to my soul. I was in a bit of a quarter life crisis for a while. I'm only 18 and yet for years people have been pressuring to "get my life together" and decide what I'm going to do for the rest of my life, which is bogus. And I've finally realized that I don't have to decide and I don't have to choose one thing.
People have been trying to push me into doing something "normal" and what is expected of me. But I've been realized that I can do whatever I want and at any moment in my life I can change my mind, start over, or try something new and it's totally okay.
NerdsLikeUs97 Absolutely! This is your life so you should be the one choosing what to do with it! I have friends who are unhappy with their job but are doing it because it makes their parents happy and it looks good on their resume and they're miserable! I'd much rather travel the world and make videos and have people look at me and think that I don't have my life together because I'm not in an office ;)
I have these discussions with myself nearly ALL the time. I never know if what I'm doing is the right thing and I know there's external pressures - in fact, I talked about this in my last vlog! How you get to where you are is a weird path... Then you figure it out and you realize there's something you want to do and you love it... And even then, your passions will change and you'll again question what you're doing. Haha.
Our parents had that lifestyle - job, career, family, house, retirement and it was an incredible life for them... but now, there's no clear defined path for anyone, so you just have to live with a goal in mind, and always edge your way towards it.
***** I guess it's the same for everybody. A month or two ago my parents asked me what my plans would be when I graduate from college next year. That question basically blew me off my socks as I honestly hadn't really thought about it yet, hotel mom and dad was serving me pretty well :P
Tomskii5 Hahaha, I moved out on my own at 19... so every decision I make has to consider rent, food, future... but at the same time, has to make me happy too!
Im so glad Raya is Bulgarian. :)
Криси и Иван RayaWasHere this looks like a great video idea. I think people want to hear you speak in Bulgarian! haha
I went to school in upstate Ny in Oneonta. Nice move by your Mom. Zero stress, plenty of parking, it's cheap and a lot of culture has migrated to Woodstock from NYC transplants, which I hope continues. About this time of year, me and my friends used to whitewater raft on the Hudson up North of Gore Mtn in the Adirondacks where the river starts. It's not too expensive and is an amazing experience, and would make a great vlog too, Raya.
Great advice! I graduated high school in 2004 and went down the route of "I need to do this, this and this and be this or that." The pressure I felt when I was younger to 'have my life together' ultimately lead me down the wrong path and now I'm back in school at 28 trying to correct it and follow my true passion. It's hard to know who you are and what you want to do with your life right out of high school or even college. Take time to figure it out and dont succumb to pressure from anyone that thinks you need to be a certain person or have a certain life. Thanks Raya!
This is so important for young people to realize. Society makes us feel like if we aren't working a 9-5 and don't have everything figured out by the age of 25 we aren't living correctly and we won't be successful. it's so refreshing to see people who have ventured outside the box and are pursing their real dreams rather than doing what is "sensible" or expected. Love your videos, you demeanor gives off a wise aura.
Wow thats exactly how I felt! I just went to Europe for the first time and was there for a month and the trip just changed my perspective on life. Your video was so spot on, on how i'm feeling!
Yes, I have been in a quarter life crisis for the past 5 years or so. I am 23. I am a college student and I keep changing my major. I don't know what to do. I don't think college is for me. But then I think how am I going to figure out what I want to do if I don't explore? I don't know. I would love to travel the world but you need money to do that. So I am just stuck.
+ThatOneWeirdGal Wow, I just read your comment and seriously I could have written it myself. It's exactly how I've been feeling for about 2ish years now. Everyone in my life keeps telling me "you need money to travel, Jenna! Get a job! Figure out what you want to do!" but I know there are other ways to travel without a ton of money, I just don't know what's stopping me. But I changed my major twice, transferred college FOUR times, it's been insane. And I know college isn't for me either. I've been on a path that I feel I am "supposed" to be on. I'm also 23. Channel's here on UA-cam like Raya's give me hope and inspiration that people who are feeling like this, we will be fine, it's going to be okay. I hope it all works out for you! I know how hard it is.
+Jenna Solimando I'm in the same boat, first year of college. Just want to travel, but am following the path of college which is giving me debt. So do I quit now or keep staying in college?
Thanks. Crazy how our stories are so similar. I think we should just get a fulltime job to save up money, and go travelling for a year. See the world. Yeah, there are ways to do it on a budget.
+ThatOneWeirdGal Finish college. You'll regret it if you don't. You can never be too prepared for life, wherever life might take you. If you want to travel you still can and one day if you want to get a 9-5, at least you bothered to finish college :)
+ThatOneWeirdGal Plenty of countries offer working holiday visas, Very cheap and get granted straight away, and with a one way ticket, land somewhere and get amazing jobs while travelling. I landed in Melbourne with £300 to my name and stayed and worked in oz and nz for 4 years and did amazing jobs on ranches, barrier reef, cities, mountains. If you have £800 right now, you could be in these places next week - No need to be rich - It's a very small world now. and I found it easier to get work in these countries than in the my own country the UK... infact my CV would be nothing right now if I never left my own country. I got my I.T. job the day after landing in Melbourne and guess what - Didn't have prior I.T. experience. Then I was a nature guide on a great barrier reef island.. never did that either. I'm not bragging, I'm just trying to say how easy it is. I arrived with £300 and left with thousands while still travelling the whole time. Even Japan offers a working visa and there's plenty of English speaking jobs.
RayaWasHere this video from you was necessary for all the 18000+ people following you , to follow there dreams . so thank u n great job .
i think I'm going through the same thing. Its weird to explain but it feels like an empty void just waiting to be filled. Thanks for this!
Definitely still going through my quarter-life crisis. Your crisis was very similar to mine. You plan this life you're expected to be on according to social norms but finally start to realize that maybe that life is not what you wanted or expected. But you're scared to leave the "comfortable and secure" life for the risky one due to what others might think. I wanna do something very similar to what your doing currently. Planning to get my scuba certification in the coming months so i can dive when i can start traveling more!
I was in the middle of that little life crisis but I guess, I can now manage better? I wouldn't say that I'm fully over it but I can cope. I graduated college not long ago and not sure of what I wanna do for the rest of my life but I do know that UA-cam and blogging makes me happy so there's where I am now. I guess being successful means being happy with the life you live and once you found what you love to do, you'll never have to work a day in your life!
Thank you so much for making this video! I'm 25 and definitely going through this at the moment! Your videos are so inspiring and heartwarming and I love how enthusiastic you are. Once I have my life back on track I hope make a video like this... thank you for opening my eyes to realising I'm not alone.
Im 35, for me I felt kinda stuck in the same things for a long time. I finally found an at home job that I love and have been doing it for the last 8 years. I dont think you ever really find that "It" thing, I think you do a lot of different things that you enjoy until you dont enjoy it anymore and find something new. Im currently looking to turn my hobbies into something I can live off of and i am enjoying the process immensely! A big inspiration for me is Ben Brown & his vlogs, him and his girlfriend Nicole are so active and positive and care about their foot print on the earth and are just genuine and happy. Also their love of travel and encouraging others to step outside the comfort zone has made me want to do more ( I have Lupus & an anxiety disorder) with my life. Also another big influence is you. I like how positive you are, that you teach people about history when you travel and that you have interesting perspectives and honesty. You also open up a lot of discussions about import things which I really like. So thank you!
Kenzie-Anne Grant Thats what most people don't realize - you don't have to choose your one 'thing' now that you're going to do the rest of your life. It's totally normal and even exciting to switch it up and follow new passions! Thank you so much! You're so sweet and it's amazing that you're following your dreams and working towards living a life doing things you love. Keep doing you, girl! :)
"I found the freedom in being lost"
what a beautiful quote :)
and so true
awwwwww hugs!!! I feel so much better now :)
+Grace Franita
Came to your channel on Louis recommendation (From the final China Vlog) and I have to say since first seeing you in his Vlogs I saw a personality that I knew would capture an audience. I am currently going through a very tough time as well and I want to thank you for spreading your experience in hopes of helping others.
Society is putting so much pressure into one's life and sometimes it's hard to stand against it. Finding your way is a process and if you've chosen a way (like traveling) it does not mean you have to stay on that road forever. Have the courage, whatever age you have, to change a direction if you are not happy. Life is an adventure and it can be so fascinating. :D
I'm about as old as Raya's mum. I'm 43 now, but I'm feeling like a 30 year old person, so sometimes it's strange to realize that I could be a mum to Raya, having an amicable feeling for her. I have no kids but let me just say this: If you would be my daughter, Raya, I would be so proud of you. Have fun traveling and do what you love. You are doing it right. :D
moyashisoba Wow, thank you so much! And age seriously does not matter. Keep your child-like wonder and love for the world, and no one can stop you ;) Thanks again for the kind words, I hope you're living a beautiful adventure yourself! x
I loved this video Raya! I've recently experienced what you have been through and I love the thought of having endless amount of options!
Thank you so much for posting this Raya. This is just what I needed to see on one of those terrible overwhelming days. I can relate to this so much; I'm nearly 25, have just started a job that I don't like, still living with my parents and I don't currently have the money to do what I want to do in life. But I know this is only temporary. I will get to where I want to be in life but I'll do it my way. Love following your journey with you :)
+hippyplantlove Thank you so much! It's 100% only temporary! Make your goals a priority and don't let yourself settle for an underwhelming life - and everything will come together :) Good luck on your journey, and I love your user name! xx
Thanks lovely. Hopefully some day soon I'll be able to start doing some videos :) xx
I recently from last January till now.. I have been going through a very difficult time. I was always the type of person who knew exactly what I wanted to do in my life, but suddenly it all was just kind of pulled out underneath me this year.. and i was completely lost. luckily I have lots of other interests, but one thing that had always stayed consistent in my life was the love for travel. I want to become a Travel Blogger/Vlogger like you and Hey Nadine and other travel bloggers, and plan to start very soon. i am finishing up my two years of college this semester, and by then i hope to save up enough money to start my travels and make videos and things! I hope to get to where you guys are now with youtube and things :) But after a very difficult time with myself this year. Traveling has really got me excited for things again. For life and whats ahead! So thank you for your inspiration and opening up to let people like me know that were not alone and the dream of travel, can be a very real and possible thing if you really want it to be.
This helped me so much
Same here Raya! I'm glad someone is in the same boat as me. Love your vlogs and all that your about! Good luck wherever life takes you!
This was uploaded on my 21st birthday, so yay! As to my experience, I've been told that I'm wasting my time with what I'm studying in uni. It's been a bit difficult to choose a major like Languages with concentration in Tourism when you´re expected to study engineering or something along those lines because it's what will help you be 'succesful'. But I've always had this love for traveling and I really don't see myself spending the rest of my life in that 9 to 5 office job you were talking about.
Although meeting people like Louis, Ange and Nick would be amazing, I hope one day I can be the one that inspires others to follow their dreams and be happy. Raya, you're amazing and I love the way you put together this video. Keep up the good work :)
I'm currently going through this, I'm now 30 and i've been working in the same job for the last 13 year's and have become really unhappy, I recently got given the opportunity to leave what i've been doing and go travel Australia for a year, at first many people told me I was silly if I was to quit a comfortable job and risk it all, but I know I would totally regret not taking this opportunity to not only see new cultures but also experience new things and who know's maybe i'll find myself and find something that I really love.
I' m 43 and I have been a real estate broker, teacher, corporate worker, sales person, actor, ........... Wanderlust... not all that wander are lost..... lol.. so steriotypically lol.. but I found that it never is a like oh .. this is my life and I am happy.. You will always think and want something more fun or more your thing.. but just realize its all a journey and you will never reach that nirvana bliss of this is what I want to do for ever!!! Cause it changes (even at 43) I am like .. being a teacher is all politics and I want to do other things lol.. so when you realize the whole thing is a journey and not like you reach a perfect spot.. thats when you love life and except it all.. wanderlust.. its ok to be a plutheria of different things your whole life.. enjoy the seasons of your life
When you are happy you are successful! Everyone is worthy to live in joy and happinness of their own choice
Thanks God I found this and the other video you have about "what to do with your life", I'm 24 and have great job (office job) but I feel tired of spending most of my days sitting in an office in front of a computer, I feel like I want to do something else that might not give me the money I have now but that would bring me more freedom in a way. I've been thinking of what to do and yes I want to start doing more things that I love like music, traveling, videos, meditation and see what happens from there, and to know that it's ok to don't know what to do and try different things whenever I feel like doing it. Thanks for the video Raya, come to Colombia someday :)
this is great advice, i graduated college a year ago and was feeling down because i couldnt get a job like it seems i should, but then i started realizing i really want to make videos and create art, and thats what im pursuing now, im also a vlogger from NYC and i recently decided that i wanna be successful in it, and i also dont believe in 9 to 5 jobs, i saw u on luies vlog a while back but never knew u vlogged, i wish u the best in ur journey, and it would be nice to meet u one day, it cool to meet other vloggers =)
Amazing subject to talk about. We all feel lost sometimes in life, don't we?! Thanks for sharing. Now I see I'm not the only one and it feels so much better being in my skin. Peace!
I just want to say thank you so much for sharing your story. I just cried watching this because I'm currently sitting in my dorm room trying to figure out what to do with the rest of my years in college and this really hit me hard. I needed to hear this and feel some support even if you don't know me personally!! Thanks Raya
wow watching this video was so good. You literally been speaking of what has been in my mind for so long... i want to travel and see the world and have no plans. Just being free. it's kind of hard to accomplish here though, cause in germany you need to have a job that gives you insurance. Your employer pays for that. i am about to apply for university and i am hoping that i can travel whilst the holidays, cause being a student you automatically have an insurance. Your optimism is so contagious ! So i'm also planning to travel to one of my favourite countries this year, which is ireland (You should check that out btw). Just generally thank you for being such a lovely person, Love Lea.
I recently discovered your youtube channel and I'm really enjoying watching your videos. Its inspiring and heart warming to know there are other people out there who hold similar values in life. I'm now in my final year of uni studying wildlife conservation (which I love) but I really want to travel for a while before going back to do a masters. I'd love to have a job that involves traveling as well as conservation. Watching your videos makes my dreams seem more tangible, so I just want to say thank you! :)
+Gwynne Thank you! Wow, sounds incredible - to be studying wildlife conservation! You can definitely find a job while traveling that involves wildlife conservation. I'm looking into helping out with some projects next year as well! Good luck on your adventures :)
+Gwynne Where do you study if I may ask? I really want to study wildlife conservation but I am not sure what uni to go to. Thanks! :)
+RayaWasHere thank you Raya (sorry I didn't see your reply earlier) yes my dream is to travel as part of my job in wildlife conservation, I can't wait! Hope all your travels go well! :)
+Sloth Bear Hi I'm studying at the university of Kent and course is linked to the Durrell Institute of Conservation and Ecology (as in Gerald Durrell). I'm in my final year and have really enjoyed the course :)
Thank you so much raya ! this really got me thinking and for the first time in 6 months I feel like its okay to not know what I want ! ready to step outside the norm ! ty !!!
So truly inspiring! So nice to know there are other people feeling the same way. Lets just all explore life and see where we end up :)
After a year of hating Uni, I went to do a "school" in Australia, which also took me to Japan. I am planning on traveling more soon as well! Thinking outside of the box can be very valuable for finding contentment in life. I encourage others to live in a Big Picture-way, thinking of the world and its intricacies then finding what you can do to incorporate and better what is already here. Don't create strings/chains that don't need to be there, but also be aware of your giftings and have Reason behind why you're doing what you're doing. (And it's also okay if your role is to go to uni/have an office job!!)
ive had a quarter life crisis. i took a gap year, put a nice stereo system in my car, and got some tattoos among other stuff. at the time those things were really cool to me
I went through the same phase after I graduated college in December. I felt like I had to figure everything out immediately. But I have realized that I can literally do anything I want with my life. There are so many possibilities. I live by Merida's words from Brave: "Your destiny lives inside of you, you just have to be brave enough to see it".
You talked about me. Thank you. I feel less scared... You are a everyday inspiration 🙏
"The freedom of being lost." So Much Yes.
Oh my God. Thank you for this, Raya. I felt you were hugging me while saying this. Thank you so much! One day, I'll come back and share my story too. :)
I don't know why I just came across this video now, I feel so late in the game. But thank you so much for this Raya. This made me cry bc it really inspires me. I am 20 years old who took a semester off from college to just try to figure out my life. I am really trying to get into nursing school so I can at least have a stable job needed anywhere. But I am really having a hard time getting into one while I see others get in. All I want to do is travel and help people but I feel like I'm in a bubble since I am working at an office job I don't really like at the time being. So I feel like I'm already at my quarter life crisis yet, I'm not officially done with school. Anyways, freakin love your videos. Came to your channel by Louis and I'm here to stay. :)
+Gabby Ducusin Aw thank you so much! I'm so sorry you're having a rough time - stick with it and if you really want it, you will get there, I promise! And until then, don't worry too much about the future and try to make sure you're present and happy with where you are right now :)
I'm 25, feel so much pressure to do certain things because I'm married. What's wrong with traveling, having fun and doing what you want to do. Instead of doing things because it's expected
Thank you for the video. What you are talking about describes so well the thoughts i have right now. I about to finish my master degree in architects, and I don't know if it's the frustrations about my project that's talking or what, but I too really think I need to find an alternate direction than the 9-5 job. I think I'll still will be in the creative field, more independent , and work more with philosophy
the freedom in being lost
It's nice to know other people have gone through college and still experience this. In college I had a goal, I was going towards something that I thought would magically turn into something else once I was done. Now I just don't know anymore.
This video describes my exact situation! Before I thought it was just me experiencing this, but you making a video expressing your thoughts and feelings about this makes me feel a little better about things, it sounds like I need to go on a road trip or something similar to just free myself and open up my mind, because it's not doing me any good keeping all these feelings bottled up and not doing anything about it. You actually are the exact kind of person I'd love to spend time with because you're so open minded! Too many people have the mindset of work, buy a house, car etc because it's normal and what society considers normal, but they might not necessarily be happy! This is a great video! When can we meet and road trip haha 😉
This was a great video! This is actually what I want to do! I'm only 19 but so many of my friends are already caught up on getting on the conveyor belt system but I want to explore and chill.
Thank you Raya. I am new in your channel and this video has really made me feel better. I think i've been going through a quarter life crisis recently and knowing that i am not the only one is recomforting. I am in my fourth year of college already but this year I had the opportunity to do a photography course (which i am very passionate about) and I kinda felt the same way you commented about starting travelling. Hopefully I can do more of what makes me feel happy.
Greets from Argentina x
Thank you for sharing your thoughts :) In situations like this, I always recall Alan Watts (What if Money Were No Object). And in my personal opinion, there is only one person stopping you from doing anything, and that's yourself; everyone else is just chatter.
very relatable. I watched your Backpacking: What to Pack & My Tips and came here after. I'm in the exact same situation. keep it up :)
I'm so sharing this with my best friend :) great piece of advice!
This video made me smile! I feel lost all the time. I am 24 but still not sure what I want to do.. Since a couple of months I feel I really want to travel. Loved this video
Wow Raya you just make the most amazing videos! every single one is so positive, honest and helpful!
I am exactly in this position right now, I graduated from school and now I have to decide what I want to do next.
Luckily I figured out what I want to do over the last few month.... and that is to become a tattooer, which isn't a nine-to-five job neither.
Fortunately my family is very supportive and I hope I can make it!
Thanks for all the awesome videos and if you ever move to Germany I would be happy to meet you :D
I still have 2 years left of uni but I feel reeeeeeally nervous about the future, but you are 100% right, the thing with being so young is that we have every single door open, kinda nerve-racking but exciting for sure. This video was great!! xx
EXACTLY!!!! BABEEEE I just feel soooo much better after watching this!!! xx
Thanks for sharing! I think a lot of us can relate.
Really loved this video. I am definitely going through the quarter life crisis. I'm going to be 25 this year and I hate my job. I really don't want to be miserable the rest of my life.... But now I know what I want to do at least. It's just getting there is the struggle.
thank you VERY MUCH for sharing this!!! i'm quite inspired!
I totally can relate to you! I can't see myself in a 9 to 5 job. I just want to be happy :)
I am completely on the same page as you, trouble is most of the time you still need the money to pay the bills. Luckily I've found a job I find rewarding (care work with adults with autism even though its rubbish pay and I have a psychology degree) but I keep telling myself it's amazing experience and will lead to better things with hopefully more money.
But money is such a small part of life and the myth we are told is that success and happiness = money and good cars and good clothes. It's all a lie!
Thank you for this video and sorry for the long comment but it's so true, it's ok to not know what is in the future xx
I feel like I'm in that stage now and this was such an inspirational video. Thank you :)
this is definitely where i'm at in life right now. I am 25, i have a degree and i hate my job, and about to travel in brazil for 3 months and i feel like this is the best decision i've ever made in my life.
Thank ou for sharing your thoughts with us. You are so right. I have worked for three years in an office and then realized that's not what I want to do my full-page lifetime . Now I am 26 years and I study for four years and do not regret my desicion . Where it leads me after my studies I do not know exactly . But I do not want to be stressed out and feel me, I have to have with 30 a steady job and earn lots of money . Sure, money solves many problems and saves lives but it does not mean that it makes happy. The nice thing about life is that you can decide it yourself.
I love this so much omg thank you for this :)
thank you much! My life totally fell apart and I moved to Australia and it was the best thing I've ever done!
Success is the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.
So Inspiring...... Thanks a lot for making these type of videos. I am starting my Highschool senior year in August, and am so worried because with freedom start responsibilities. I will use your advise, wise beyond years :)
I know what I want to do but it's easy to still feel lost on the way there, especially when it's a long journey! It's easy to try too hard to fit into a box and beat yourself up when things dont go the way you planned. it's cool to hear it's always fluid for everybody and everyone feels scared sometimes.
Hey Raya :) Ive found ur channel while I was watching some of Louis' vlog videos and decided to check it out tonight, which I must say must've been one of the greatest things I've done over the winter break. I'm from Canada and this year, I've met someone pretty cool too, from Netherlands, and we've clicked pretty well. Along with him, you have inspired me to travel and to live in the moment, to always be curious about the world and to meet lifelong friends that u can enjoy every minute your life with.
I love your Videos :) and the way you think about life... so positiv and inspiring
Ask yourself, If you didn't earn any money from any job. What job would you want to do?
Jimmy Van Twest That's the way to do it! It's so important to find a career that makes you happy and makes you want to wake up in the mornings and go to work :)
Jimmy Van Twest Thats a tough question because what is a job? I would make my job traveling the world and making music...
Great video! I've been indecisive for a while as well. Currently I'm getting my bachelor in Computer Science with a minor in (marine) biology. I'll also get certified as a scuba dive instructor this summer. My final decision on what path to take hasn't been made yet (it might be none of the previously mentioned), one thing I do know is that I want to have multiple paths to choose from. Don't be afraid to try something new, because the best adventures can be found outside your comfort zone ;P
Hi Raya, I can really relate to this video. I have just finished university and I have about 3 weeks until I have to leave university accommodation and I have been spending my time recently looking for jobs because I don't want to go home. For me it would feel like taking a step back but at the same time I don't want to just take any job. I've also been offered two uni places to do a masters degree but I'm not sure if I should do it. Anyway I just wanted to thank you for making this video because I feel like we all put pressure on ourselves to do certain things. I don't want to do what society says I should be doing but I'm not sure what I want to do with my life at the moment (exactly how you felt I'm sure). Good luck with the future. You are a lovely person and I love your videos :) Emma x
I love your way of thinking! And traveling definitely changes your life!
Cheers from my 1 year road trip through south america & keep up the good work
***** Thank you! Have fun in South America :)
RayaWasHere gracias! :)
This is what I try to remember everything single day! I am so scared to take a leap into something new and taking risks, but I am in a job I do not like with dreams of great things and I can't make the move
Some of us haven't got the choice. We haven't got the means or money or rich friends to drop our lives just like that.
I have always kept an open mind and followed my passion(s), but what you always need to remember is that the world revolves around money and you earning it ;) Travelling and crashing on Sofa's doesn't last forever, so see alot & learn alot and the rest will come along the way.
this is the greatest video i have ever seen on youtube
The simple answer is that no matter what you choose to do, you have to be happy and when you look back on your life, you're satisfied from your choices.
The lucky ones figure out this early on in their life, while others (like me :)) take a bit more time.
I was 24 when I decided that instead of boring office job from 9 til 6, I want to follow my dreams and become pastry chef. So that's what I did.
Рая, радвам се, че следваш мечтите си! :)
soo inspiring!! love your videos
Hi Raya, I have seen you on Luis' videos and I just love you. You are so amazing and inspirational. This is just what I needed, I have been worried about my life for the last one and a half year, I also had this "already-planned-road-to-my-life" and when I finished college It wasn't exactly how I imagined. I have done a lot of things since then some made sense and still do and some just didn't work. It good to know that it is oukay to take time to figure things out. Thank you... x
"In life, it's not where you go - It's who you travel with. ~ Charles Schulz"
100% agree what you said... I'm saving money now to travel around the world!!! That's my biggest goal at the moment. I'm Kathy, 26 , from Beijing, China :)
I just discovered your channel through FunForLouis and oh, the minute you start talking I (and many other people, I reckon) can immediately feel your kindness and freedom of spirit!! You're such a lovely and amazing person and I really needed this video. I'm 19 and in 2 years from now I'll be finished with uni, and to be honest, I don't even really know what I'm doing right now so I can't even imagine what that will be like in 2 years.. I have always dreamed of big adventures and of being happy and feeling free, but I just struggle with how to get there.. I'm just afraid that I can't do it on my own, I hate travelling alone, and everything is just so much better with loving people around you. Would you have some tips to find like-minded people? xxx