Love it when you guys are out and about in Toronto. Looks like an awesome city. Love seeing your family also. Also enjoy when it's just you two guys. You both are sweethearts 💓
Regarding biphobia, I don't think it's so much about there being a phobia or a discrimination as much as it is when an individual happens to be interested in another person, and that other person happens to be bisexual, in the initial understanding or introduction to that person being Bi, we naturally come to the realization very quickly that we most likely will never be enough for them, so out ab self-preservation and emotional protection, we tend to distance ourselves which can seem cold or discriminant. It is an innate human desire to be fulfilled and to fulfill. The idea of being with someone who is bi causes us to believe that there's always that 50% mark. We are only 50% of what they're attracted to, and they will have certain cravings and desires that we ourselves will never be able to fulfill That's why humans for the most part are monogamous. We have a natural inclination to seek out partnership. It may not be lifelong, but it is something within us that seeks a term of fidelity. With that said, monogamy in the gay community is very very rare. I don't think that any one of my friends was ever in a relationship where they weren't cheated on or they themselves didn't cheat. I myself never cheated but was cheated on. I think that you are dealing with a mental stigma where you have a group of people who for a very long time have been told not to do what they're doing, and when they get into relationships it feels like that same sort of restriction, being told not to sleep with certain people. Gay people often fight their whole lives to be independent and not be pinned down by someone else's morality or ethics. So when we enter into monogamous relationships where higher levels of commitment are often times expected, the psychology that the person has been self-trained to live within guides them to cheat because they are internally rebelling against restrictions and control. And let's face it, men are just horndogs, they'll get it wherever they can. But as far as the gay community rebelling against control or restrictions, they've thrown the baby out with the bathwater. The overwhelming majority of gay men in the clubs talk constantly about being with someone on a consistent basis, and then two months after they've met the person of their dreams, it's over. It is a psychological trap, a self-destruct mode that is ingrained within the minds of most gay men. The idea that you'll miss out on the next best thing. Monogamy is about maturity and growing up. The biggest problem with the gay community is its very visually and materially based, taking on the mind of aesthetics of the body rather than the quality of the mind and heart. That's why I'm no longer an active member of the gay community I pretty much stay on the outside.
@@beachesboy3168 thank you for your kind reply, I greatly appreciate it. However I think a more brilliant reply from me would be to have a solution to these problems, and I never could come up with one. I don't want to say that the gay community is broken beyond repair, but sometimes it really felt that way for me and looking at this younger generation coming in, it's becoming more sexualized and less intimate with each passing year. I see a lot of people behaving very robotic and mechanical. They make love as if there's a deadline to meet. It's really sad for me to observe this. I know that we as humans have a deep desire to love someone and to know that someone loves us too. I've known some pretty callous people who could have cared less about loving or being loved, but when you dug into their past they were very damaged. The refusal of love is a fear factor, a wall thrown up to disguise a very damaged inner person. Being Italian-American, I grew up in a family that was all about love and the needed expression of it. We Italians thrive on it and seek it out constantly. I'm certainly not suggesting that everyone needs to go overboard the way we Italians tend to, but it's pretty difficult to explore the deepest sense of intimacy with someone when they're treating you like a piece of meat, with no regard to your mind or emotions which are the parts that grow and get better as you get older if they are nurtured properly and appreciated for the jewel that they are. The flesh just withers and dies. There is an expiration date on every person alive, it is the only guarantee in life, though it is often said that taxes are the other. I see too many wealthy people getting out of taxes, and they're also trying to get out of dying now, but that's a whole nother show. Have a great day friend!
Adam, tell us that you edited this video on YOUR NEW COMPUTER!!! Yes? No? And please, use a tripod for the Q & A with Luke. Or a SteadiCam. I was getting dizzy!
You guys are a credit to yourselves and your parents. Of monogamy and relationships, Oscar Wilde wrote, “When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving one's self, and one always ends by deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance.” Do you agree? What are your favorite books and authors? Thanks!
Cheers to Toronto Hi guys it's a shame your friend got boxed in hahaha look like a cool movie I M into scifi movies. Hope you guys are all doing well your apartment looks awesome love you all from Philadelphia Pennsylvania USA Take care and thanks for posting this video much appreciated. Bob storm
Here’s a topic for you: how about have Luke read the newspaper upside down for 10 minutes ... hell I wouldn’t miss a second ... geez luke once again cuteness overload... and Adam of course ur beautiful ... that goes without saying !!! ❤️❤️
The situation with straight guy being put-off by gays: the straight guy doesn't want to be a sexual object to another guy. He's not attracted to, turned on by guys; only women. Just, as a gay man, I'm put off if I realize a woman is 'interested' in me. The idea of having sex with a woman really turns me off. Quite the opposite if a dude shows interest in me. Which doesn't mean I couldn't have sex with a woman - - the equipment is alright - - but the attraction isn't there.
Okay boys, in my experience normally the one yelling the loudest normally “IS!” Regarding the Open or Closed relationship: you really can’t answer this unless you’ve been in a long term relationship.
Ever thought of doing a travel blog for Toronto? Maybe contact city hall to start a partnership = you follow their lead and report on it. Maybe earn extra income or eventually lead tours,
Bi guy here in a monogamous same-sex relationship. I've only dated women my entire life until I met my boyfriend, but it's pretty much the same. I don't have a "craving" for a female's genitalia because I'm in a relationship. This is his first relationship, so there was an initial hesitation, but not because of my sexuality. I can definitely say you can't break down bisexual preferences by numbers and percentages; sexuality, like gender, is very fluid. I'm not speaking for bisexual people, but personally, I don't really care about what someone has between their legs. For me, I'm about the person's personality, their politics and morals, and their sense of humor. Sex is fun, but what are we going to talk about over dinner, ya feel? We live in Phoenix, where my gay friends who are in the scene tell me that pretty much every Phoenix Gay™️ has fucked every other Phoenix Gay™️. It's drama-filled. It's annoying. Both of us have never really been to any gay bars either, so when we went to see a drag show, we got a look at everyone saying hi to each other and giving side-eyes and people staring at us for not wearing skimpy clothes with cutouts or neon-banded underwear from Andrew Christian, Calvin Klein, or Marco Marco. At the end of the day, do what you want people, but be safe and nice and fuCKING VOTE NOVEMBER 6TH IF YOU'RE IN THE U.S.!
When I was going to gay bars in the 80's and 90's straight guys would bring there female dates to a gay bar so straight guys would not hit on there girlfriends
Lots of times in the past when I would see a guy bring their girlfriend to the gay club, it was the guy who was trying to come out. They would tell their girlfriend that they were very open minded and progressive and comfortable in doing something different in going to a gay club which girls appreciate. One night when I was at this one gay club, this hot guy was dancing with his girlfriend nearby. I started dancing next to him and then he pushed me off. So I realized he was dealing with the tough topic at coming out. But 10 minutes later, he was dancing right next to me and I could tell that he really enjoyed this feeling that he was having inside of him. I've had many gay friends over the years who said that one of their first steps of coming out was dragging their girlfriends to the gay club. The act of coming out for many can be a very long difficult drawn out process. I am no exception to this.
I'm Bi and constantly get the bitchy comments about picking a side. Also people tend to associate being Bi with being a cheater. That's messed up and not warranted at all. It's very unfair. You can't help who you're attracted to. It's just about the person and not their junk.
Biphobia is nothing more than people too uncomfortable with their own appearance and too insecure to be dating a bisexual. Plus if you love someone you shouldn't be worried that they leave you for someone that's gay or straight you should have a problem with that person leaving you at all.
Awesome videos! Been watching y'all for a while and I really appreciate your content. Keep up the good work all the way from Costa Rica
Love these chat sessions, it’s great with you both back under the same roof again👍
Honestly I love when you guys have simple convos like that!
Great conversation, can always notice your videography getting better Adam 👍🏻
I love these conversations!!!
Adam, you’re so gorgeous!!! 😍😍😍
Thank you for the great topics. Appreciate the conversations. You both are good role models for the community.
I knew it, haha! I recognized Evan when I watched that episode and thought of you guys!
Love it when you guys are out and about in Toronto. Looks like an awesome city. Love seeing your family also. Also enjoy when it's just you two guys. You both are sweethearts 💓
Miss you guys a lot. You were such good company ❤️
Adam: Comment down below. What do you guys wanna see?
Me: Adam in a Speedo.
never happen ;o)
good conversation!!
Nice vlog guys !!! How about a vlog focusing on body image, depression and drug usage in the LBGTQI community ??!!
This was a great video you share a lot of info. Thanks. 👊🏼👬👍🏽
Regarding biphobia, I don't think it's so much about there being a phobia or a discrimination as much as it is when an individual happens to be interested in another person, and that other person happens to be bisexual, in the initial understanding or introduction to that person being Bi, we naturally come to the realization very quickly that we most likely will never be enough for them, so out ab self-preservation and emotional protection, we tend to distance ourselves which can seem cold or discriminant. It is an innate human desire to be fulfilled and to fulfill. The idea of being with someone who is bi causes us to believe that there's always that 50% mark. We are only 50% of what they're attracted to, and they will have certain cravings and desires that we ourselves will never be able to fulfill That's why humans for the most part are monogamous. We have a natural inclination to seek out partnership. It may not be lifelong, but it is something within us that seeks a term of fidelity. With that said, monogamy in the gay community is very very rare. I don't think that any one of my friends was ever in a relationship where they weren't cheated on or they themselves didn't cheat. I myself never cheated but was cheated on. I think that you are dealing with a mental stigma where you have a group of people who for a very long time have been told not to do what they're doing, and when they get into relationships it feels like that same sort of restriction, being told not to sleep with certain people. Gay people often fight their whole lives to be independent and not be pinned down by someone else's morality or ethics. So when we enter into monogamous relationships where higher levels of commitment are often times expected, the psychology that the person has been self-trained to live within guides them to cheat because they are internally rebelling against restrictions and control. And let's face it, men are just horndogs, they'll get it wherever they can. But as far as the gay community rebelling against control or restrictions, they've thrown the baby out with the bathwater. The overwhelming majority of gay men in the clubs talk constantly about being with someone on a consistent basis, and then two months after they've met the person of their dreams, it's over. It is a psychological trap, a self-destruct mode that is ingrained within the minds of most gay men. The idea that you'll miss out on the next best thing. Monogamy is about maturity and growing up. The biggest problem with the gay community is its very visually and materially based, taking on the mind of aesthetics of the body rather than the quality of the mind and heart. That's why I'm no longer an active member of the gay community I pretty much stay on the outside.
Brilliant!!
@@beachesboy3168 thank you for your kind reply, I greatly appreciate it. However I think a more brilliant reply from me would be to have a solution to these problems, and I never could come up with one. I don't want to say that the gay community is broken beyond repair, but sometimes it really felt that way for me and looking at this younger generation coming in, it's becoming more sexualized and less intimate with each passing year. I see a lot of people behaving very robotic and mechanical. They make love as if there's a deadline to meet. It's really sad for me to observe this. I know that we as humans have a deep desire to love someone and to know that someone loves us too. I've known some pretty callous people who could have cared less about loving or being loved, but when you dug into their past they were very damaged. The refusal of love is a fear factor, a wall thrown up to disguise a very damaged inner person. Being Italian-American, I grew up in a family that was all about love and the needed expression of it. We Italians thrive on it and seek it out constantly. I'm certainly not suggesting that everyone needs to go overboard the way we Italians tend to, but it's pretty difficult to explore the deepest sense of intimacy with someone when they're treating you like a piece of meat, with no regard to your mind or emotions which are the parts that grow and get better as you get older if they are nurtured properly and appreciated for the jewel that they are. The flesh just withers and dies. There is an expiration date on every person alive, it is the only guarantee in life, though it is often said that taxes are the other. I see too many wealthy people getting out of taxes, and they're also trying to get out of dying now, but that's a whole nother show. Have a great day friend!
Equally brilliant! You have a fine mind. In another universe we could be good friends, eh?
@@beachesboy3168 ABSOLUTELY! 😁 but you never know, we still may cross paths in this life, anything's possible. I would be the lucky one I'm sure.
Adam, tell us that you edited this video on YOUR NEW COMPUTER!!! Yes? No? And please, use a tripod for the Q & A with Luke. Or a SteadiCam. I was getting dizzy!
You guys are a credit to yourselves and your parents. Of monogamy and relationships, Oscar Wilde wrote,
“When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving one's self, and one always ends by deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance.” Do you agree? What are your favorite books and authors? Thanks!
Cheers to Toronto Hi guys it's a shame your friend got boxed in hahaha look like a cool movie I M into scifi movies. Hope you guys are all doing well your apartment looks awesome love you all from Philadelphia Pennsylvania USA Take care and thanks for posting this video much appreciated. Bob storm
Here’s a topic for you: how about have Luke read the newspaper upside down for 10 minutes ... hell I wouldn’t miss a second ... geez luke once again cuteness overload... and Adam of course ur beautiful ... that goes without saying !!! ❤️❤️
The situation with straight guy being put-off by gays: the straight guy doesn't want to be a sexual object to another guy. He's not attracted to, turned on by guys; only women. Just, as a gay man, I'm put off if I realize a woman is 'interested' in me. The idea of having sex with a woman really turns me off. Quite the opposite if a dude shows interest in me. Which doesn't mean I couldn't have sex with a woman - - the equipment is alright - - but the attraction isn't there.
Okay boys, in my experience normally the one yelling the loudest normally “IS!” Regarding the Open or Closed relationship: you really can’t answer this unless you’ve been in a long term relationship.
Ever thought of doing a travel blog for Toronto? Maybe contact city hall to start a partnership = you follow their lead and report on it. Maybe earn extra income or eventually lead tours,
You guys should smoke some trees, then do a Q&A!!
I love Canadians, l really do.
Luke's Instagram link is misspelled. :(
Bi guy here in a monogamous same-sex relationship. I've only dated women my entire life until I met my boyfriend, but it's pretty much the same. I don't have a "craving" for a female's genitalia because I'm in a relationship. This is his first relationship, so there was an initial hesitation, but not because of my sexuality.
I can definitely say you can't break down bisexual preferences by numbers and percentages; sexuality, like gender, is very fluid. I'm not speaking for bisexual people, but personally, I don't really care about what someone has between their legs. For me, I'm about the person's personality, their politics and morals, and their sense of humor. Sex is fun, but what are we going to talk about over dinner, ya feel?
We live in Phoenix, where my gay friends who are in the scene tell me that pretty much every Phoenix Gay™️ has fucked every other Phoenix Gay™️. It's drama-filled. It's annoying. Both of us have never really been to any gay bars either, so when we went to see a drag show, we got a look at everyone saying hi to each other and giving side-eyes and people staring at us for not wearing skimpy clothes with cutouts or neon-banded underwear from Andrew Christian, Calvin Klein, or Marco Marco.
At the end of the day, do what you want people, but be safe and nice and fuCKING VOTE NOVEMBER 6TH IF YOU'RE IN THE U.S.!
The things that you hate most about other people are really the things you hate most about yourself.
Do you guys think you could ever be in a polyamorous relationship.
Tsk. Someone asks for your digits, you be nice, even if you say you'd rather not.
When I was going to gay bars in the 80's and 90's straight guys would bring there female dates to a gay bar so straight guys would not hit on there girlfriends
Lots of times in the past when I would see a guy bring their girlfriend to the gay club, it was the guy who was trying to come out. They would tell their girlfriend that they were very open minded and progressive and comfortable in doing something different in going to a gay club which girls appreciate. One night when I was at this one gay club, this hot guy was dancing with his girlfriend nearby. I started dancing next to him and then he pushed me off. So I realized he was dealing with the tough topic at coming out. But 10 minutes later, he was dancing right next to me and I could tell that he really enjoyed this feeling that he was having inside of him. I've had many gay friends over the years who said that one of their first steps of coming out was dragging their girlfriends to the gay club. The act of coming out for many can be a very long difficult drawn out process. I am no exception to this.
This one gay bar I went to would not allow them in. The guy at door would say this is private club.
I'm Bi and constantly get the bitchy comments about picking a side. Also people tend to associate being Bi with being a cheater. That's messed up and not warranted at all. It's very unfair. You can't help who you're attracted to. It's just about the person and not their junk.
Biphobia is nothing more than people too uncomfortable with their own appearance and too insecure to be dating a bisexual. Plus if you love someone you shouldn't be worried that they leave you for someone that's gay or straight you should have a problem with that person leaving you at all.