True. I agree with you. I used love my ex boyfriend but he was a narcissistic guy and it didn't work out. But I'm not getting back together again with ex boyfriend ever. I suggest that women find someone better because ex boyfriend is not good.
Don't EVER go back. It will NEVER be the same. Once someone goes out into the wilderness you don't know who they've been with nor do you know what they've done. Shortly after me and my ex ended the second time I found out she hooked up with one of her "guy friends" after the first time we split. Save yourself time and just let broken relationships die.
I got back with my ex after a bitter divorce, but only as friends. We have become great friends and we have a wonderful time together. However, I think she’s a narcissist with some very difficult traits-she said to me one day, “Wow, you’ve really changed!” And I sat there quietly and I thought to myself, “Wow, you really haven’t…”
but youre a narc too in a way for thinking you can change her some people have their personal traits i think its weird for someone to keep their ex around creepy af ...law of attraction
You know what's weird? My ex said I was a cover narcissist and when I looked up the symptoms, actually *HE* was the one displaying all the signs lol. How ironic.
To anyone reading this. If you think your ex is "the one" and your ex treated you badly, believe me that you CAN get over her/him and find someone better. It can feel impossible now when you are deeply in love but it just takes some time and effort (cut contact, improve yourself, date new people, make your life great). Don't chase a toxic ex.
Never take ex gf back after she ended the relationship and discarded you like trash She rode the CC and did God knows what with God knows whom Taking her back would be the most shameful thing to do to yourself Leave it to the streets bc that’s where they chose to be You do not want this type of person back in your life Count your blessings that they are gone
Yup, it's generally never worth it. You either broke up because it was incompatible or unhealthy. Or, they didn't fully appreciate your value. Better to focus on someone who can build a stronger foundation with you from the start.
Going back to your ex is like throwing out garbage, then diving into the dumpster, picking it out and taking it back into a clean house-why would you do that to yourself?
Never go back with an ex because their toxic. 1. You lose yourself again 2. Narcissist never changed their ways. 3. You be miserable depression unhappy stress frustration ptsd syndromes mental illness syndromes again. 4. It's a living hell situation. He or she doesn't really love you at all. 5. Ex is toxic and they're negative energy. 6. There cheat again they just using you. 7. Revenge sex. 8. More drama. 9. Blaming crizizing labeling disrespecting behavior and gaslighting manipulation emotional abuse verbal emotional. 10. Better off without toxic people. Find someone else instead. Move forward without ex.
100% accurate. For me it was more painful the second time around. Especially when the reason for the initial breakup is cheating as it’s gonna be always on the back of your mind. I couldn’t commit to marrying my ex. As much as I loved her the thought of her dumping me again- which she did incidentally for someone else - always played on my mind. I felt inadequate and never good enough for her. A leopard never changes its spots. It hurts more the second time around.
I was feeling the blues after she broke up with me. But I couldn't deny how much better my life began to take shape once she was gone! I've been neighbors with a lovely woman that I never knew she even lived there, we're having our second date day after tomorrow. I can't imagine the ex coming back or why I would want her to? If a person blindsides you with a breakup there's obviously things about that person you never knew, probably things you're better off not knowing.
They never change they only become smarter and become worst. They are talkers but if you leave them up to making critical decisions they will find excuses. I always say the person who actually get a genuine confession and honest conversation are 1 in a million. The longer you stay the less they try to make u a priority everything is always about them its a fantasy in there head and ur just apart of a huge cast.
A leopard never changes it’s spots Issues are not fixed It’s gunna be worse on the 2nd break up They are toxic Under lying resentment Good relationships never end
I live in the same area less than half a mile away. I begged and pleaded after the real 4 months of separation after a year long break up. She's a narcissistic person amd she's pushed me away completely. She wasn't loyal and was toxic. Lied forever about cheating. Now I'm coming across as the weak unstable and one hurting. I'm going to fix myself and become larger and better than ever.
Here's the thing she pushed you away because she was in a relationship with another man while she was in a relationship with you she's lied the whole entire time while she was in the relationship with you that tells you right there that she was not worth it she says you're unreliable unstable you were trying to save the relationship because you wanted the relationship to be beautiful healthy romantic and full of bliss just as any other relationship should be but if she pushes you away stay away if she comes back to you years later if she changes fine if not move on there's someone out there that's going to love you for who you are and this person is going to care about you for who you are and not for the money in your pockets. The majority of narcissist women out there like to think that the grass is green on the other side of the fence well here's a reality check it's never been green never has never was never ever will be but it all depends upon how well you water it and where you stand and if she's out there dating that guy over you leave her be because chances are that guy is dating The Other Woman so it's kind of like a catch-22 so if she thinks it's all about her she's in for a rude awakening and most of them are going to have the carpet taken out from underneath them and they're going to fall hard and they're going to fall fast so yes work on yourself you'll see the difference but I will say this you will find the love of your life that time will come but just make sure that you focus on you first and foremost before getting into a serious relationship make sure the two of you on the same page together as a team and and you respect each other from beginning to end all the best of luck to you
Man this video just hit home so hard. Thank you so much for this straight up and frank bitch slap to the back of my head. I’d rather hurt and move on eventually than hurt my self more by being dropped again by her. 7 years wasted :(
We can't even be friends after a cross like this! I ain't gone get myself down over a woman who don't give a dime about me. She lied on me and she said some hurtful stuff and so did I but only because I couldn't control my emotions. Don't let your heart get in the way on your thinking. Always talking bout my problems and what i ain't doing. Once she leave ain't no coming back no matter what. Ever thing before me is a blessing and anything behind me is a lesson. AZ))
Thank you for your valuable messages. I'm glad I accepted the fact that she left with honor and respect hence cutting off ties immediately with her. Good relationship doesn't end and it takes HARDWORK from both sides.
You got that right Mr. SCG, it goes "Down the pan." I like how you put that. I laughed when you said that and had to rewind it again to hear you say that, but you are so right. Thanks mate!👍🏾
I do have some family friends, a couple, who split up after the wife cheated on the husband. She moved in with the other guy in another house, but a year later she came back to her husband. They stayed together for over 30 years and she recently passed away from cancer. They both became relationship counsellors and specialized in helping couples dealing with infidelity. So, it is possible to get back together and be happy again, but I will say that that couple is really not very common. Everyone else in my life I know who has had issues in their relationship with cheating and breaking up or getting divorced, never got back together with them again later on. So the ratio is like 1 in 50 or something in my experience where that would work out.
That's disgusting. Imagine being intimate with your partner and knowing she rented her body out to Joe Schmo AFTER you were together. SO FOUL. Don't do it boys, have some dignity.
Experience is allways unique and cannot be transfered. There are no reasons to love or not love because reasons comes from you head but love comes from the heart.
I take issue with #6. Or not really disagree but had a thought when you started to speak about it.. "Good Relationships Don't End" but toxic and/or narcissistic-codependent relationships often don't end either because they are BOTH sick in the head and somehow, it works for them (yet disgusts those of us around them!) I have a family member who has been doing this toxic dance with his wife for DECADES. The kids are obviously disordered themselves....and the cycle will continue 🙄 Its just sick and tragic.
Had the same things with my own relationship! Kept going back and while things were good to begin with, every time she would go back to who she was! Now I’m watching a girl I adore do the same thing, she has said how she knows that things won’t work out and she’s not happy, and yet she still went back again 🤦🏽♂️
If we go back it tells the ex that their behavior wasn’t bad in the first place. It nullifies any complaints we had in their mind and they will not make the changes necessary to have a viable real relationship. I’m in the middle of this situation myself right now so I’m preaching to myself. It’s so difficult but it’s necessary to stand for your own life and protection
We were together 8 years then apart for 3! We kept in touch during the breakup and stayed civil, but never spoke about our personal lives. Then finally she messaged about seeing me and we started up again. Everything seemed different in a good way. She was more open and relaxed, it felt like we moved on from so many of our past problems. Then about a year in, the old "her" started creeping back in. About another 6 months go by, and she dumps me again thru a Facebook message. She could never do the hard stuff face to face. And now she is with someone new already. I doubt she will ever come back again, but if she does I have to be ready to say absolutely not. I love her but don't want to go thru losing her ever again. This is awful
One important point to bear in mind is that you can genuinely like someone but still not be suited to being in a relationship. I was very close to one of my exes before we got together, but as soon as we got into a relationship it all went horribly wrong; once we’d gotten over the bitter awkwardness of breaking-up we became very close friends again (we even had more sex as friends with benefits than we did as boyfriend & girlfriend). We eventually drifted apart when I moved out of the area, but the relevant point is still that we clearly did genuinely like each-other a lot, but were totally mismatched as a couple & getting back together would’ve been / would be a terrible idea.
You ever have the thought that yountwo have polar opposite personality styles or attachment styles and that that's the reason being friends is ok but being in a relationship starts to put too much pressure on one or both of you and that's what causes the problems and issues?
I really appreciate your videos . Again this video deserves to be appreciated . Thank you for making videos that inspire and educate a great many people .
I agree but if it’s a kid involved it’s fair game in my opinion just know what you dealing with and move accordingly keep the feelings n emotions out of it
I couldn't stay friends with my ex because I knew that I wouldn't be able to get over him properly, I just wished that he communicated properly with me rather than lying and giving me false hopes in regarding to take our relationship to the next level it hurts cause I have known him for 5 years and we have dated on and off since college till now did we break up. It hurts a lot that he wasn't emotionally capable to be there for me and we kept getting into arguments because of it and the miscommunication it led to. It hurts a lot that I gave him all my love for him to play me in the end with false promises.
I went back to an ex during the pandemic b/c it was easy. He was my first love from high school and all these years later it was easy: didn’t have to try very hard. When he refused to get a vaccine booster (and still hadn’t filed for divorce), he ran off before I could break up with him. Life lesson: don’t go back to an ex … unless it’s a pandemic and you just need a little something easy 🤣
So your the ex no one should take back cause you will look at them as easy rather then a person who just enjoyed your company and obviously if a vaccine is a topic then wow and he was going through a divorce? And he was getting laid? And he left you before you could leave him. He wins all day lol
@@Drew-qd9zj You didn’t split up with him over a person that didn’t take a vaccine booster and if that was true then you need to take a little closer look at yourself. Look, if you didn’t love the garden you didn’t loving move on but to use the pandemic as an excuse quite frankly I don’t get it.
Same thing with place or company It didn't work out for reson The first time.. Never good idea to spoil The good memories With half-hearted second Attempt.. Just gone lead to alot of Disrespect and other shit... Better both Cut your losses and move on To more suitable pastures....
The mother of all grudges. I loved that. Yep that's what's going to happen. I won't be around to see it. I know two people that went to a very very nasty divorce. The things they said about each other were horrendous. They are remarried now. They asked God for forgiveness and they think they're all washed clean and it's going to be a wonderful Life. Well all I can say is good luck to that. This lady put her husband out of his house and he was homeless for 2 years. I just can't help but think he married her to get half his house back again like you said I think the second time around is going to be even worse. He's a grudge holder after the glow wears off he's going to hate her again this time he might get her house though.
I recommend dont do it. They come bk don't accept they invitation. To much it always nice in the beginning. But once they win u bk over they gone do the same again an again. So wait till the right person comes to you... they an ex for a reason n don't get mad when your ex is leveling up. Block them or erase them out your mind completely. Live your life. I block my ex I'm happy with someone else seeing someone else win depending on the person too. They can get jealous or envious ant no one got time for that. I'm just saying
I feel so alone. I don’t think I will ever get really over him. We’ve been estranged for 2.5 years. He lives in another country. He doesn’t want to give me a divorce. I feel trapped and I want out. Somehow this summer we ended up spending more time together with our little daughter. It hurts to see this life I always dreamed of and to say “no I know how you really are and I don’t want to go back to you”. It takes to much will power. My heart is broken times and times again
Going back to your ex feels so wrong, you feel the shame. You're losing everything while they are gaining the very best of you. Remember that you are exes for something! Even when you were the one that broke it off they'll be the ones with salty feelings. Nothing stays the same. (Edit: misspelling corrections)
Ya take the garbage out and throw it away…ya never bring it back into your house it will just stink the place up worse than it did the first time..guaranteed
Your arguments are all valid but at one point there is a contradiction. Let's say that you have been broken up because of the gambling addiction you use to have. Having overcome that , what would stop you from reestablishing a good relationship with your ex?
You ex if she loves she get the best of you and deal with your weaknesses not let you go and wait until you change and later come back to her!! The women that let you go she not for you she is not willing to put up with you for good and bad.. pretty much opportinste
That's BS. If you stay, what are you teaching your children??? You are teaching (by showing) them a dysfunctional adult romantic relationship. And then guess what?-- they grow up and at least one of the following will happen (or a combination) - 1.) They will subconsciously seek out romantic partners like you, or your wife, to play out the dysfunction again. This is on a subconscious level of course, but if that's all they know from their upbringing, then that is what will feel comfortable. Or 2.) If they are very aware, they will be in counseling trying to resolve their "mommy and daddy" issues, or 3.) They will end up resenting the "good" parent and spouse for staying with the "bad" parent and spouse. They'll see the good parent as a coward, weak doormat for staying, and they'll see the bad parent as evil. Like I wrote above, do people want their kids suffering later and repeating those cycles? Or is it worth a bit of an upset now to insure their better future mental health and relationships of their own?? Staying in a toxic situation "for the kids" is saying your kids are too stupid to know what is really going on, and you don't care that them seeing YEARS of toxic crap between you and your spouse isn't going to damage them. Im sorry but thinking like that is insane. Anyone in a bad marriage with children need to get real honest with themselves real quick and ask themselves who are they protecting by staying or what is the REAL motive for staying?? Usually, it's one of two things - usually it's either money (no one wants to pay child support or alimony), or it's that the abused spouse is still truly in love with their abusive spouse but won't tell people that because they know everyone will think they are an idiot for staying - so they use that old excuse that they are "staying for the kids". Essentially using the poor kids as pawns in dysfunction. Very sad and really should be considered criminal behavior because people know damn well its damaging for kids to see that. Unfortunately, emotional abuse (whether intended or not) or morality isn't legislated. Not in the U.S. anyway. If the abuse doesn't leave a visible mark, courts don't consider it and sadly, many people still do not either yet.
@@npkrn6764 What a load of crap you typed. Its simple; more effort doesnt mean going into a dyfunctional relationship...it means going in to a better relationship where both parties want to try again. Obv no one is going to re-enter the relationship if they dont want to in which case you will go seperate ways ...HOWEVER .. if there is a smidget of love...respect remaining and both parties want to try again then this is best especially with kids involved. Hence why putting in more effort than usual can help.
@@lilbaigs5003 I think we are just differing on the context. Meaning, you're right - IF - it's just a minimal amount of arguing or a stressful time because of a transient circumstance and it's not something deeply wounding or bad behavior isn't pervasive . MY comment was more about when it IS a relationship that is highly maladaptive - which is absolutely awful for the children involved. Again, it depends.
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True. I agree with you. I used love my ex boyfriend but he was a narcissistic guy and it didn't work out. But I'm not getting back together again with ex boyfriend ever.
I suggest that women find someone better because ex boyfriend is not good.
@@mariamistretta3860just ex … women ex is not a good deal as well
What if you have children?
Don't EVER go back. It will NEVER be the same. Once someone goes out into the wilderness you don't know who they've been with nor do you know what they've done. Shortly after me and my ex ended the second time I found out she hooked up with one of her "guy friends" after the first time we split. Save yourself time and just let broken relationships die.
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The sad part is why didn't he want it to work as badly as I did??! 😞 The frustrating part I mean.
I got back with my ex after a bitter divorce, but only as friends. We have become great friends and we have a wonderful time together. However, I think she’s a narcissist with some very difficult traits-she said to me one day, “Wow, you’ve really changed!” And I sat there quietly and I thought to myself, “Wow, you really haven’t…”
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I’d be too much of a narcissist to not lash out at her for saying that. One of my old friends called me “the most vindictive person he’s ever met”
but youre a narc too in a way for thinking you can change her some people have their personal traits i think its weird for someone to keep their ex around creepy af ...law of attraction
@@MonochromaticBlues …who the f is asking you? Keep your opinion to yourself-uninvited opinion is creepy as f too
Toxic people always take forgiveness as permission to be horrible again.
And it does escalate. 🙄😠
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You know what's weird? My ex said I was a cover narcissist and when I looked up the symptoms, actually *HE* was the one displaying all the signs lol. How ironic.
To anyone reading this. If you think your ex is "the one" and your ex treated you badly, believe me that you CAN get over her/him and find someone better. It can feel impossible now when you are deeply in love but it just takes some time and effort (cut contact, improve yourself, date new people, make your life great). Don't chase a toxic ex.
Amen
Never take ex gf back after she ended the relationship and discarded you like trash
She rode the CC and did God knows what with God knows whom
Taking her back would be the most shameful thing to do to yourself
Leave it to the streets bc that’s where they chose to be
You do not want this type of person back in your life
Count your blessings that they are gone
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Facts i see it as ok u hit nd they left u but still u hit tho so the next person getting sloppy seconds lol all in all u win
Well said Steve,I also have a Streetglide.
exactly
Coach Warren taught you well... I am hearing you.
Yup, it's generally never worth it. You either broke up because it was incompatible or unhealthy. Or, they didn't fully appreciate your value. Better to focus on someone who can build a stronger foundation with you from the start.
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When a woman says,"I don't love you anymore", that's it. Game over
Going back to your ex is like reaching into the refrigerator and heating up day old McDonald's fries 🍟.
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not bad when you're too hungry xD
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Going back to your ex is like throwing out garbage, then diving into the dumpster, picking it out and taking it back into a clean house-why would you do that to yourself?
Never go back with an ex because their toxic.
1. You lose yourself again
2. Narcissist never changed their ways.
3. You be miserable depression unhappy stress frustration ptsd syndromes mental illness syndromes again.
4. It's a living hell situation.
He or she doesn't really love you at all.
5. Ex is toxic and they're negative energy.
6. There cheat again they just using you.
7. Revenge sex.
8. More drama.
9. Blaming crizizing labeling disrespecting behavior and gaslighting manipulation emotional abuse verbal emotional.
10. Better off without toxic people. Find someone else instead. Move forward without ex.
Everyday i used to listen to this 4x or more to plant this speech on my subconscious mind. Now I'm focusing in my future
All the best 👍
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Yea men made same mistake 4 times with the same person
i walk away and never looked back
Trying to forget somebody you love is like trying to remember somebody you've never met. impossible
100% accurate. For me it was more painful the second time around. Especially when the reason for the initial breakup is cheating as it’s gonna be always on the back of your mind.
I couldn’t commit to marrying my ex. As much as I loved her the thought of her dumping me again- which she did incidentally for someone else - always played on my mind. I felt inadequate and never good enough for her. A leopard never changes its spots. It hurts more the second time around.
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A leopard can 100% change its spots. That's a fact .
I was feeling the blues after she broke up with me. But I couldn't deny how much better my life began to take shape once she was gone!
I've been neighbors with a lovely woman that I never knew she even lived there, we're having our second date day after tomorrow.
I can't imagine the ex coming back or why I would want her to?
If a person blindsides you with a breakup there's obviously things about that person you never knew, probably things you're better off not knowing.
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Taking an ex back is just like jumping in front of a moving truck. Once they are gone, let them stay gone. Very powerful video. Thanks mate.
Love it!
So so true: GOOD RELATIONSHIPS NEVER END.
Rule number 1 never go back to your ex
Rule number 2 never go back to your ex
Rule number 3 never go back to your ex
Rule number 4…….
Neva eva?
They never change they only become smarter and become worst. They are talkers but if you leave them up to making critical decisions they will find excuses. I always say the person who actually get a genuine confession and honest conversation are 1 in a million. The longer you stay the less they try to make u a priority everything is always about them its a fantasy in there head and ur just apart of a huge cast.
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Its crazy how similar is my experience with a narcissist… its like they all the same
They are the same. Trust me 💯
A leopard never changes it’s spots
Issues are not fixed
It’s gunna be worse on the 2nd break up
They are toxic
Under lying resentment
Good relationships never end
Going back is like the proverbs that dog going back to its vomit and eating it again
I live in the same area less than half a mile away. I begged and pleaded after the real 4 months of separation after a year long break up. She's a narcissistic person amd she's pushed me away completely. She wasn't loyal and was toxic. Lied forever about cheating. Now I'm coming across as the weak unstable and one hurting. I'm going to fix myself and become larger and better than ever.
Here's the thing she pushed you away because she was in a relationship with another man while she was in a relationship with you she's lied the whole entire time while she was in the relationship with you that tells you right there that she was not worth it she says you're unreliable unstable you were trying to save the relationship because you wanted the relationship to be beautiful healthy romantic and full of bliss just as any other relationship should be but if she pushes you away stay away if she comes back to you years later if she changes fine if not move on there's someone out there that's going to love you for who you are and this person is going to care about you for who you are and not for the money in your pockets. The majority of narcissist women out there like to think that the grass is green on the other side of the fence well here's a reality check it's never been green never has never was never ever will be but it all depends upon how well you water it and where you stand and if she's out there dating that guy over you leave her be because chances are that guy is dating The Other Woman so it's kind of like a catch-22 so if she thinks it's all about her she's in for a rude awakening and most of them are going to have the carpet taken out from underneath them and they're going to fall hard and they're going to fall fast so yes work on yourself you'll see the difference but I will say this you will find the love of your life that time will come but just make sure that you focus on you first and foremost before getting into a serious relationship make sure the two of you on the same page together as a team and and you respect each other from beginning to end all the best of luck to you
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Man this video just hit home so hard. Thank you so much for this straight up and frank bitch slap to the back of my head. I’d rather hurt and move on eventually than hurt my self more by being dropped again by her. 7 years wasted :(
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7 yrs for me too.
.but learned soo much and grew....they will always be the same
7 years for me as well! Is that like the year we all wake up? 😅
Number 4 Basically tells u all you need to know on why you shouldn't go back to a ex and I agree
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Thanks for your advice, I will never go back to ex I’ve learned my lesson
I never take exes back,it didn’t workout there was no future why should I want that back
that's why if it ends, its never good relationship.
We can't even be friends after a cross like this! I ain't gone get myself down over a woman who don't give a dime about me. She lied on me and she said some hurtful stuff and so did I but only because I couldn't control my emotions. Don't let your heart get in the way on your thinking. Always talking bout my problems and what i ain't doing. Once she leave ain't no coming back no matter what. Ever thing before me is a blessing and anything behind me is a lesson. AZ))
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I'm glad I accepted the fact that she left with honor and respect hence cutting off ties immediately with her.
Good relationship doesn't end and it takes HARDWORK from both sides.
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You got that right Mr. SCG, it goes "Down the pan."
I like how you put that. I laughed when you said that and had to rewind it again to hear you say that, but you are so right.
Thanks mate!👍🏾
I do have some family friends, a couple, who split up after the wife cheated on the husband. She moved in with the other guy in another house, but a year later she came back to her husband. They stayed together for over 30 years and she recently passed away from cancer. They both became relationship counsellors and specialized in helping couples dealing with infidelity. So, it is possible to get back together and be happy again, but I will say that that couple is really not very common. Everyone else in my life I know who has had issues in their relationship with cheating and breaking up or getting divorced, never got back together with them again later on. So the ratio is like 1 in 50 or something in my experience where that would work out.
That's disgusting. Imagine being intimate with your partner and knowing she rented her body out to Joe Schmo AFTER you were together. SO FOUL. Don't do it boys, have some dignity.
Needed to hear this, thank you! 2 months since I ended things with my narc ex & he’s trying to Hoover me back. Been sticking to my guns
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Did you go back?
Experience is allways unique and cannot be transfered. There are no reasons to love or not love because reasons comes from you head but love comes from the heart.
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Never, Ever, Ever!
Rule number one....never go back to a ex
I'm not.....ever
Specially when she dumped you.
Going back to my ex would be like trying to repair a smashed crystal goblet with elmers glue.
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I take issue with #6. Or not really disagree but had a thought when you started to speak about it.. "Good Relationships Don't End" but toxic and/or narcissistic-codependent relationships often don't end either because they are BOTH sick in the head and somehow, it works for them (yet disgusts those of us around them!) I have a family member who has been doing this toxic dance with his wife for DECADES. The kids are obviously disordered themselves....and the cycle will continue 🙄 Its just sick and tragic.
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Had the same things with my own relationship! Kept going back and while things were good to begin with, every time she would go back to who she was! Now I’m watching a girl I adore do the same thing, she has said how she knows that things won’t work out and she’s not happy, and yet she still went back again 🤦🏽♂️
I now realise that my narc husband isn't going to stop his deceptive behaviour .
I will be brave and walk away to a healthy, mind, body
And soul.
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All his fault sure. Good luck!
My cousin and her husband fought all the time for 25 years and towards the end they remarried and still they divorced twice.
I've learned the hard way
We all have 🥲
If we go back it tells the ex that their behavior wasn’t bad in the first place. It nullifies any complaints we had in their mind and they will not make the changes necessary to have a viable real relationship. I’m in the middle of this situation myself right now so I’m preaching to myself. It’s so difficult but it’s necessary to stand for your own life and protection
Sad, but true a lot of times. Man/woman goes into a new relationship with the type of woman/man they just broke up with.
We were together 8 years then apart for 3! We kept in touch during the breakup and stayed civil, but never spoke about our personal lives. Then finally she messaged about seeing me and we started up again. Everything seemed different in a good way. She was more open and relaxed, it felt like we moved on from so many of our past problems. Then about a year in, the old "her" started creeping back in. About another 6 months go by, and she dumps me again thru a Facebook message. She could never do the hard stuff face to face. And now she is with someone new already. I doubt she will ever come back again, but if she does I have to be ready to say absolutely not. I love her but don't want to go thru losing her ever again. This is awful
You gotta be strong mate
As for me..I've never been happier and at peace in my life being away from all of my past..there's so much more out there than to live miserable
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One important point to bear in mind is that you can genuinely like someone but still not be suited to being in a relationship. I was very close to one of my exes before we got together, but as soon as we got into a relationship it all went horribly wrong; once we’d gotten over the bitter awkwardness of breaking-up we became very close friends again (we even had more sex as friends with benefits than we did as boyfriend & girlfriend). We eventually drifted apart when I moved out of the area, but the relevant point is still that we clearly did genuinely like each-other a lot, but were totally mismatched as a couple & getting back together would’ve been / would be a terrible idea.
You ever have the thought that yountwo have polar opposite personality styles or attachment styles and that that's the reason being friends is ok but being in a relationship starts to put too much pressure on one or both of you and that's what causes the problems and issues?
@@gregmm001 Maybe. Quite possibly. Not sure, but it’s definitely plausible.
Never going back he treated me horrific The simple things I asked him for he couldn't even supply 💯 done with him
Stay away 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Love this!! Thank you so much for your advice in your videos. 💕
You are so welcome!
Don't go back ,because if it didn't work time around ,what makes it work.the next time ??
Number #4 thought me a valuable lesson 💯
I really appreciate your videos . Again this video deserves to be appreciated . Thank you for making videos that inspire and educate a great many people .
So nice of you
I’ve gone back 12 times!! I mean what the hell is wrong with me 🤦🏼♀️
Make sure you avoid the 13th
@@SCGSHOW Never going back again!! x
I went back 🤦🏼♀️
@@lucye5752 😂😂😂😂😂😂
You are not alone
I agree but if it’s a kid involved it’s fair game in my opinion just know what you dealing with and move accordingly keep the feelings n emotions out of it
I couldn't stay friends with my ex because I knew that I wouldn't be able to get over him properly, I just wished that he communicated properly with me rather than lying and giving me false hopes in regarding to take our relationship to the next level it hurts cause I have known him for 5 years and we have dated on and off since college till now did we break up. It hurts a lot that he wasn't emotionally capable to be there for me and we kept getting into arguments because of it and the miscommunication it led to. It hurts a lot that I gave him all my love for him to play me in the end with false promises.
You cant be friends!
I’m not saying you should back to your ex but people do change
I went back to an ex during the pandemic b/c it was easy. He was my first love from high school and all these years later it was easy: didn’t have to try very hard.
When he refused to get a vaccine booster (and still hadn’t filed for divorce), he ran off before I could break up with him.
Life lesson: don’t go back to an ex … unless it’s a pandemic and you just need a little something easy 🤣
So your the ex no one should take back cause you will look at them as easy rather then a person who just enjoyed your company and obviously if a vaccine is a topic then wow and he was going through a divorce? And he was getting laid? And he left you before you could leave him. He wins all day lol
@@Drew-qd9zj You didn’t split up with him over a person that didn’t take a vaccine booster and if that was true then you need to take a little closer look at yourself. Look, if you didn’t love the garden you didn’t loving move on but to use the pandemic as an excuse quite frankly I don’t get it.
Thanks dude, i saw her today. Found this video, and you talked semse into me. Wooo haha
I know it sounds horrible but you can totally ignore them and learn and see how they react, I am not saying be mean but ignore them and learn
Good idea
Excellent video....thank you.
One ex burn me twice now she back again I think this video will help
Same thing with place or company
It didn't work out for reson
The first time..
Never good idea to spoil
The good memories
With half-hearted second
Attempt..
Just gone lead to alot of
Disrespect and other shit...
Better both
Cut your losses and move on
To more suitable pastures....
Very good advice!
On point again sir !!!
Well said sir
This is not even an option 💯
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Men go back because they genuinely miss the thing they had with her. Women go back because they failed to replace the man.
Facts!!
The mother of all grudges. I loved that. Yep that's what's going to happen. I won't be around to see it. I know two people that went to a very very nasty divorce. The things they said about each other were horrendous. They are remarried now. They asked God for forgiveness and they think they're all washed clean and it's going to be a wonderful Life. Well all I can say is good luck to that. This lady put her husband out of his house and he was homeless for 2 years. I just can't help but think he married her to get half his house back again like you said I think the second time around is going to be even worse. He's a grudge holder after the glow wears off he's going to hate her again this time he might get her house though.
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I recommend dont do it. They come bk don't accept they invitation. To much it always nice in the beginning. But once they win u bk over they gone do the same again an again. So wait till the right person comes to you... they an ex for a reason n don't get mad when your ex is leveling up. Block them or erase them out your mind completely. Live your life. I block my ex I'm happy with someone else seeing someone else win depending on the person too. They can get jealous or envious ant no one got time for that. I'm just saying
I feel so alone. I don’t think I will ever get really over him. We’ve been estranged for 2.5 years. He lives in another country. He doesn’t want to give me a divorce. I feel trapped and I want out. Somehow this summer we ended up spending more time together with our little daughter. It hurts to see this life I always dreamed of and to say “no I know how you really are and I don’t want to go back to you”. It takes to much will power. My heart is broken times and times again
" I never wanna see such posts in my phone" (Ever) ati 'Ex' what's that now?!
Feel you
Spot on mate..❤...
Going back to your ex feels so wrong, you feel the shame. You're losing everything while they are gaining the very best of you.
Remember that you are exes for something!
Even when you were the one that broke it off they'll be the ones with salty feelings. Nothing stays the same.
(Edit: misspelling corrections)
It's supposed to be something healthy. Not the same.
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@@starttakinnotez indeed
Ya take the garbage out and throw it away…ya never bring it back into your house it will just stink the place up worse than it did the first time..guaranteed
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Thank you mate you have a woken my arse up
This is trueand accurate
I wanted to know if friendship is possible or is good with your exgirlfriend ?
Me and my ex bf got back together after he was in a 2 month rebound and he wants to marry me now!
Woah!
Your arguments are all valid but at one point there is a contradiction. Let's say that you have been broken up because of the gambling addiction you use to have. Having overcome that , what would stop you from reestablishing a good relationship with your ex?
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You ex if she loves she get the best of you and deal with your weaknesses not let you go and wait until you change and later come back to her!! The women that let you go she not for you she is not willing to put up with you for good and bad.. pretty much opportinste
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I really love my baby mother but I got let her go.
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Alot harder when their are children in the middle of it. More reason to put effort in when compared to no kids where you can cut ties and walk away
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That's BS. If you stay, what are you teaching your children??? You are teaching (by showing) them a dysfunctional adult romantic relationship. And then guess what?-- they grow up and at least one of the following will happen (or a combination) - 1.) They will subconsciously seek out romantic partners like you, or your wife, to play out the dysfunction again. This is on a subconscious level of course, but if that's all they know from their upbringing, then that is what will feel comfortable. Or 2.) If they are very aware, they will be in counseling trying to resolve their "mommy and daddy" issues, or 3.) They will end up resenting the "good" parent and spouse for staying with the "bad" parent and spouse. They'll see the good parent as a coward, weak doormat for staying, and they'll see the bad parent as evil. Like I wrote above, do people want their kids suffering later and repeating those cycles? Or is it worth a bit of an upset now to insure their better future mental health and relationships of their own?? Staying in a toxic situation "for the kids" is saying your kids are too stupid to know what is really going on, and you don't care that them seeing YEARS of toxic crap between you and your spouse isn't going to damage them. Im sorry but thinking like that is insane. Anyone in a bad marriage with children need to get real honest with themselves real quick and ask themselves who are they protecting by staying or what is the REAL motive for staying?? Usually, it's one of two things - usually it's either money (no one wants to pay child support or alimony), or it's that the abused spouse is still truly in love with their abusive spouse but won't tell people that because they know everyone will think they are an idiot for staying - so they use that old excuse that they are "staying for the kids". Essentially using the poor kids as pawns in dysfunction. Very sad and really should be considered criminal behavior because people know damn well its damaging for kids to see that. Unfortunately, emotional abuse (whether intended or not) or morality isn't legislated. Not in the U.S. anyway. If the abuse doesn't leave a visible mark, courts don't consider it and sadly, many people still do not either yet.
@@npkrn6764 What a load of crap you typed. Its simple; more effort doesnt mean going into a dyfunctional relationship...it means going in to a better relationship where both parties want to try again. Obv no one is going to re-enter the relationship if they dont want to in which case you will go seperate ways ...HOWEVER .. if there is a smidget of love...respect remaining and both parties want to try again then this is best especially with kids involved. Hence why putting in more effort than usual can help.
@@lilbaigs5003 I think we are just differing on the context. Meaning, you're right - IF - it's just a minimal amount of arguing or a stressful time because of a transient circumstance and it's not something deeply wounding or bad behavior isn't pervasive . MY comment was more about when it IS a relationship that is highly maladaptive - which is absolutely awful for the children involved. Again, it depends.
Should be easier...you must lead by example
How would go their rebound relationship?
@Dee How does the ex rebound relationship get succed?
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I'm on this same boat. Trying so hard not to go back.
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But can I still be friends with Him? even when we're fully moved on
Mourinho back at Chelsea , what about ole at the wheel 😂🤭
The Special Once
Me to
what if the breakup was i was kind of being a dickhead and was the toxic one. Id say I was 75% at fault her 25% still let it be?
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Very bad advice imho
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This just doesn’t universally apply.