I have said it several times when it comes to your content; I truly appreciate your authenticity, Lydia. I felt your reverence and emotion in the pauses and the respect you are showing to the people to whom the items once belonged to. This video was perfect just as is. ❤
the oldest thing i have is a silver egg cup and spoon which ive have had for 56 years it was a christening gift for me i dont follow any religion but i still keep it x
I so innerstand Lydia. It’s not always easy to let these sentimental items go. Both of my parents passed recently, less than two years apart. I had a small table that was my dad’s, and an antique bentwood chair that was my mom’s. Just today I was finally able to let them go with a few tears. The true memories are not in the furniture or trinkets though, are they? The true memories are in our hearts. These pieces of furniture no longer worked for me and I was only keeping them (thinking I would refurbish them), because they were my parents. Style wise though they weren’t me. My older sister wanted them.
That’s nice that your sister has them so you can visit them and get to see them. I can see how bigger items are sometimes harder to keep. Especially regarding taste & style etc. I think for me at the moment at least… I think to myself whilst ever my little mini pouch houses all my sentimental items in the world they’re not really causing a problem. I think the rosette’s particularly were because they didn’t have entirely fond memories. Which makes me wonder why I kept them at all. Maybe just for their significance. 🤷♀️ But they have been recycled now. I took them out a few days ago 😊 🏵️ I have this video to look at them if I ever feel the need. 😊
@ I’m glad my sister gets to enjoy them, but I don’t really need to see them again. Usually when I’m done, I’m done. When I was in my late 20’s I took all of my school yearbooks and my letters (I was a letter winner in sports), and threw them in the trash. I didn’t want to look at them anymore. This was actually huge for me at the time because I was on the Yearbook staff for all four years of high school, and helped design them. I’ve never missed any of these items. Your pouch is so little that it doesn’t take up much space. It’s so small it could be made into a necklace (like an Indian pouch with sacred items) worn close to your heart. ❤️
I just went through my sentimental items and it was very difficult for me. I appreciate you sharing with us your process, perspective and thoughts on the subject.
One thing I try to consider when dealing with sentimental items is whether the memory attached to it is a happy or sad one. Of course, if someone passes away then that item might cause some sadness, but I'm talking more about the initial feeling you had when you received the item. I have a few things that I will probably never get rid of that were given to me by loved ones and people who've shown me kindness over the years. Not because of any guilt, but because having them brings me joy and reminds me that there are still very, very good people in our messy old world. I know many minimalists wouldn't necessarily agree with this, but for me I think it's ok to cherish a few special items from your past.
Lydia, the attachment shit... I am going thru the SAME THING right now with my grandmother JUST passing. I thought I was not attached at all to anything and I thought that was my super power... but realising that might not be the case. OR, its the choice part (not having a choice to go thru and say nty to stuff) that might be what is making me 'feel sentimental'. It's complex isn't it? Especially when grief or guilt is involved.
Some items I stole and kept from fear of getting a choice from previous loved ones' possessions when or as they died. It turned out that I didn't 'need' the items at all. What I NEEDED was to be considered and listened too by other relatives who were more 'in charge' of those possessions and the choice to go to the home one more time and inhale the scent/view/something about that place, to maybe of taken pictures of the place as a whole, to have a 'moment to myself' or even just look through it 'one last time'. Which I didn't get to do, and I think that resentment/anger/fear/etc was what led to more miscommunication (worry I wouldn't be heard again) further on and then the stealing... and finally, the realisation of the unmet needs that only came with 'getting' (stealing) the stuff and 'letting' it go (or giving it back) later. Maybe... some items are being kept because of an unmet past or current need?
With the brownies stuff it’s not about the achievement of getting the badge… but the people who helped me achieve them. Several of the badges were gained from the brownie leader, who was like a second grandma and she is no longer alive. The horse riding badge is from my riding instructor who is no longer alive. All the things in my sentimental items box are marked by mortality & death.
Well… there are many reasons I’m speaking slowly in this video. 1. I have just been sick so I probably am speaking a little slower than normal. 2. I’m also speaking slowly because of the subject and I’m thinking and contemplating what to declutter as I speak. I thought I would go through the items in a ‘live’ like manner. To show my true response to them in order to be authentic. Not polished or fake. 3. I’ve also been brought up to think before I speak. So I don’t say something I may later regret. As once words are said or written, they can’t be taken back. 4. Sentimental items for most people are treated in a sentimental emotional manner, which is often slow and respectful to allow them the time they are worth. 5. I later explain in the video that all the items are items from people who have passed away, hence my somber mood in discussing them. So I don’t really know how you could call ‘this’, whatever ‘this’ means, a ‘serious exaggeration’. As all the lives of all the people remembered through these objects are definitely not an ‘exaggeration’ to me. How could you claim to know someone else’s emotions? Or say they are exaggerating them? It appears whilst listening at 1.5 speed you didn’t actually hear anything? Maybe a slow speed would be more beneficial for you? 😊 Amen 🙏
This Video was filmed before I moved my sofa 🛋️ around last week 😊
I have said it several times when it comes to your content; I truly appreciate your authenticity, Lydia. I felt your reverence and emotion in the pauses and the respect you are showing to the people to whom the items once belonged to. This video was perfect just as is. ❤
Thank You Very Much ♥️ 😊
Nice video Lydia, couldn’t watch it without tears you know why.. thanks for sharing ✨🙏🏼❤
Thank you 🫂 ♥️
Time to revisit my sentimental box too!!
It’s good to have a revisit I think 😊
the oldest thing i have is a silver egg cup and spoon which ive have had for 56 years it was a christening gift for me i dont follow any religion but i still keep it x
Lovely 🥄 x
I so innerstand Lydia. It’s not always easy to let these sentimental items go. Both of my parents passed recently, less than two years apart. I had a small table that was my dad’s, and an antique bentwood chair that was my mom’s. Just today I was finally able to let them go with a few tears. The true memories are not in the furniture or trinkets though, are they? The true memories are in our hearts. These pieces of furniture no longer worked for me and I was only keeping them (thinking I would refurbish them), because they were my parents. Style wise though they weren’t me. My older sister wanted them.
That’s nice that your sister has them so you can visit them and get to see them. I can see how bigger items are sometimes harder to keep. Especially regarding taste & style etc. I think for me at the moment at least… I think to myself whilst ever my little mini pouch houses all my sentimental items in the world they’re not really causing a problem. I think the rosette’s particularly were because they didn’t have entirely fond memories. Which makes me wonder why I kept them at all. Maybe just for their significance. 🤷♀️ But they have been recycled now. I took them out a few days ago 😊 🏵️ I have this video to look at them if I ever feel the need. 😊
@ I’m glad my sister gets to enjoy them, but I don’t really need to see them again. Usually when I’m done, I’m done. When I was in my late 20’s I took all of my school yearbooks and my letters (I was a letter winner in sports), and threw them in the trash. I didn’t want to look at them anymore. This was actually huge for me at the time because I was on the Yearbook staff for all four years of high school, and helped design them. I’ve never missed any of these items.
Your pouch is so little that it doesn’t take up much space. It’s so small it could be made into a necklace (like an Indian pouch with sacred items) worn close to your heart. ❤️
Oh I like that idea. With the necklace 😊 ♥️
@@SagelifeMinimalism 💖
I just went through my sentimental items and it was very difficult for me. I appreciate you sharing with us your process, perspective and thoughts on the subject.
Thank You ☺️
One thing I try to consider when dealing with sentimental items is whether the memory attached to it is a happy or sad one. Of course, if someone passes away then that item might cause some sadness, but I'm talking more about the initial feeling you had when you received the item. I have a few things that I will probably never get rid of that were given to me by loved ones and people who've shown me kindness over the years. Not because of any guilt, but because having them brings me joy and reminds me that there are still very, very good people in our messy old world. I know many minimalists wouldn't necessarily agree with this, but for me I think it's ok to cherish a few special items from your past.
I think that may be the core of items too. The people that were truly kind to me but are now gone from this earth. But never my heart or mind ♥️ 🕊️
It takes me ages to get rid of sentimental items. ❤ It hard to know what to do with them too, seems cruel to throw away.
I agree. They are the hardest thing. ♥️
Lydia, the attachment shit... I am going thru the SAME THING right now with my grandmother JUST passing. I thought I was not attached at all to anything and I thought that was my super power... but realising that might not be the case. OR, its the choice part (not having a choice to go thru and say nty to stuff) that might be what is making me 'feel sentimental'.
It's complex isn't it? Especially when grief or guilt is involved.
It is and also wondering why we feel a need perhaps either way? A need to keep or declutter it. I find the the ‘feeling’ complex and interesting 😊
Some items I stole and kept from fear of getting a choice from previous loved ones' possessions when or as they died. It turned out that I didn't 'need' the items at all. What I NEEDED was to be considered and listened too by other relatives who were more 'in charge' of those possessions and the choice to go to the home one more time and inhale the scent/view/something about that place, to maybe of taken pictures of the place as a whole, to have a 'moment to myself' or even just look through it 'one last time'. Which I didn't get to do, and I think that resentment/anger/fear/etc was what led to more miscommunication (worry I wouldn't be heard again) further on and then the stealing... and finally, the realisation of the unmet needs that only came with 'getting' (stealing) the stuff and 'letting' it go (or giving it back) later.
Maybe... some items are being kept because of an unmet past or current need?
Like the brownies stuff... it is the unmet or desired need to be like 'look at what I did' that might make you hold onto them? Just a thought/story. X
With the brownies stuff it’s not about the achievement of getting the badge… but the people who helped me achieve them. Several of the badges were gained from the brownie leader, who was like a second grandma and she is no longer alive. The horse riding badge is from my riding instructor who is no longer alive. All the things in my sentimental items box are marked by mortality & death.
Maybe we have a fear of forgetting.
For me it’s that I know it’s the last mortal remain of the people.
can you photograph them?
I have this video 😉 😊
@@SagelifeMinimalism oh yes! 🙂
Why do you torture yourself week after week! I think you are great and doing so well!
This is a serious exaggeration.
And why do you have to speak so (too) slowly?? I could only listen at one and a half speed.
What a nasty comment. Go elsewhere if you are so unhappy with SOMEONE ELSES VIDEO!
You can't rush sentimental items.
Well… there are many reasons I’m speaking slowly in this video. 1. I have just been sick so I probably am speaking a little slower than normal. 2. I’m also speaking slowly because of the subject and I’m thinking and contemplating what to declutter as I speak. I thought I would go through the items in a ‘live’ like manner. To show my true response to them in order to be authentic. Not polished or fake. 3. I’ve also been brought up to think before I speak. So I don’t say something I may later regret. As once words are said or written, they can’t be taken back. 4. Sentimental items for most people are treated in a sentimental emotional manner, which is often slow and respectful to allow them the time they are worth. 5. I later explain in the video that all the items are items from people who have passed away, hence my somber mood in discussing them. So I don’t really know how you could call ‘this’, whatever ‘this’ means, a ‘serious exaggeration’. As all the lives of all the people remembered through these objects are definitely not an ‘exaggeration’ to me. How could you claim to know someone else’s emotions? Or say they are exaggerating them? It appears whilst listening at 1.5 speed you didn’t actually hear anything? Maybe a slow speed would be more beneficial for you? 😊 Amen 🙏
@@SagelifeMinimalism Right on Lydia. ❤
Nobody forced you to watch the whole video.