40 and UNMARRIED: Should Younger Women be WARNED?
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I was never told this. My Mom started to mention marriage in my late 30's, but while I was meeting and dating the HVM I was never told the goal was marriage. I was able to enjoy a lavish lifestyle, didn't think twice about longterm. Women should definitely share this message from a place of love, not lack. But however it's delivered, it should be shared.
Ooooh, that hit...however it's delivered, it should be shared! Agree! And love is always the best way!
Wow, this is so true this message needs to be spread
*Most definitely ... I 'glimpsed' this happening near the end of my college career, but was naive about what was happening ...* Share, share, share!!! 💖💖💖
My mom started asking me for grandchildren at 23. I was unmarried and in a doomed relationship. I couldn’t make the connection bc I was so afraid of becoming a babymomma. Plus I didn’t focus on getting with a good man. Now I’m 37, childless and about to divorce
Thank you. Red pill is not good. MEN NEED TO SEE THIS. With a few "what about" exceptions of course MEN hit the wall too. Our wall (with a fat wallet) is 45-50, a woman's 35-40. But the core point stands, if a woman wants kids, the options shut down far faster. Freezing eggs etc, not where you want to be.
My grandmother told to get a MRS degree along with getting a bachelor degree. She said put on a pencil skirt and walk over to the engineering or science department! 😂😂She was right! May she rest in peace!
My grandma sat me down one day and said she was concerned that I will never get married because I was “too independent “. I changed course, now I’m a married stay at home wife to a very sought out man in his industry and pregnant at 35 with my first child. Meanwhile my other grandma wanted me to work into my grave 😅
Work on yourself daily and I have so much faith you will get the life that you want 😊.
@@MsWillita8 that’s wonderful that you took heed to her advice!! I married right out of college, celebrating 15 years in January! So happy I listened to my Granny!
@@kcc09kcc Nice! You were wise for listening to her at an early age. I was over 25 when she gave me “the talk”😂😂. Our child will be born in January and our Anniversary is in February ❤️. My grandma also helped me to stop being a tomboy and be more feminine. My husband thanks my grandma all the time for being my “mentor” lol
@@MsWillita8 ❤️❤️❤️
Amen-o!! I like that!
I worked with a White surgeon, we were talking about his daughters going off to college he told me how they would be also finding their husbands there he also told me how he taught them that men are visual and being in shape was also important when finding a Husband. Regardless how u feel about it he wasn’t lying, he was trying to set his daughters up with the best possible mate. I’m sure his daughters want a man that looks a certain way, has a certain degree as well
Oh yeah! A high number of white females in my class ended up marrying right after they graduated or even during the semester. They aren’t practicing full time either. They went to school to find husbands. It was quite obvious.
Big facts! Staying in shape HELPS
Yea, Eboni’s advice isn’t wrong at all.
@@f3042Many Black women and this gay man on UA-cam got offended.
@@career5690 Becasue no one wants to marry them. Only procreate.
As a woman who got married at 24 and is divorced at 40, I think choosing the RIGHT man is more important, no matter how long it takes. Women will put blinders on and try to fit a square peg into a round hole just to be able to show off that ring.
I’ve been listening to eboni since her fox days and I’m not surprised she’s had no luck in love. As hot as she is it’s not enough. Men want wives not equal partners. It’s never equal but they should wake up everyday thinking what can I do for my spouse today to make him/her know I love them. Speak from experience. Married 2 years to the wrong person. Married 32 years to the right person.
Thanks for your words of wisdom.
women love pookies, ray rays and chads/tyrones when young.
As an older woman it’s imperative that we teach the younger women. They need to learn from our mistakes.
I feel like that was Eboni’s attempt to do I think she’s giving the advice to younger women from a place of hurt but also from a genuine place as a young woman I appreciate older women who put women up on game
You guys have basically destroyed the black community. You have take. Power you didn’t earn. You didn’t fight or win any wars. We aren’t free because of black women, black men fought and died in those wars. You destroyed the family structure, refused the role of a woman and a wife. Really our only choice is to separate at this point.
Amen! I’m 55 and that is what I do every single day! Talk to women in their twenties on what’s REALLY important.
I agree
But when we want something completely different your mistakes have nothing to do with us… trying to re-write your wrongs is in the forefront when ushering is into who we need to be should
I think Eboni telling young women to get their Mrs Degree is excellent. We aren’t told this . A lot of people gatekeeper this. We were told to just focus on our studies and earn are degrees so we can get a job to take care of ourselves and our families. We need to promote this so our younger girls know this is an options instead of telling us to become mules and workhorses which will make us stressed out , overweight, and unhappy. Thanks Chlöe soft life era 💎
Yes I agree with her statement.
Yea I grew up with a extreme conservative jamacian mother that drilled in my head no boys meanwhile she was living w my dad. Hypocrite. Instilled fear in me so much that I didn't even have the skills in college to socially talk to them. I was conditioned to see them like cooties. Now I am in my 30s and have to play catch up in a new generation of men who are just trash. My mom has remarried and living her best life while her daughter is left astray. Depressed angry and alone with a college degree.
I totally agree with this. The work place is stressful and exhausting at times. It can also be very rewarding but I don't know every woman is prepared for life and seriously desire being in corporate america because it's competitive and stressful too. It's nice to have a man who can provide in order to take the burden off of woman.
@@angelabrunson8573 a woman can not propose to herself. If the man she dated was not marriage-minded, there's absolutely nothing she can do about that.
@@angelabrunson8573 You can’t force a man to marry you!
I’m 27. Will be 28 next month. In the next 6 months, My top priority is to lose weight, have flawless skin, be fit, grow my hair out, have nice teeth etc. I’ve already done therapy & my mind is focused and clear. Once the spring hits its GO time & finding a man that wants to be a husband. I’m wishing all of you the best ladies. I definitely passed up on good men that wanted to be married in my early 20s. Biggest mistake.
LOVE THIS FOR YOU!
You got this!!!
You don't need all that to find a husband. That's just going to attract the wrong person. You are so young and don't need to get pressured into marriage. Most men ain't sh!t. You're the main character of your life and are complete within yourself.
Don’t listen to the naysayers. The plan you have is PERFECT.
You don’t have to rush it, but definitely put in the effort on your inner and outer beauty before 30.
I’m 28 as well! Committing to my level up too. I’m dating multiple men, and I have been getting more of what I want as hypergamy is concerned. I’ve lost 20 pounds this year. I am trying to lose at least 30 more. As I have lost weight I have been getting approached A LOT more. I’m looking forward to seeing my odds with more weight loss. Good luck, everyone!
Eboni was married before at an “appropriate” age. That still ended up single later in life like many women. We can encourage women to seek marriage minded men but we also have to raise marriage minded men.
One thing a woman is gonna need to know, is that men will shame women for not be chosen, and women will fight other women because of their commentary.
However the honest truth is, men need women to live, and when women know the power in this, well stop shaming and going off on each other. The economics of sex is an option, however, we as women are too scares to know how to make that thrive.
I attended white institutions and am currently a professor at a semi-diverse institution. Other races and ethnicities of women are groomed and taught to seek marriage either FIRST or ALONGSIDE pursuing an education. It is very interesting to see the varied level of expectations of different women concerning this dynamic and to learn about these nuances from my colleagues and curreent students who are diverse in age, race, education, etc. It's a complex issue and its important for an individual to understand and holdfast to what they want. Very interesting conversation!
I was going to post something similar. I attended a PWI and there was a number of white females who were marriage minded.
@@kurokaizen1889
What words 🤡 I simply stated the facts . He was only Pro Black in his movies . I stated that he had no right to point fingers at Ophrah . He"s marriex to the system , what part did you not get 🤡 ?? 😀
@@kurokaizen1889
You are talking BS , What about the man VOWS??? How's that nonsense 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡?? Answer the D question 😀
When I was in school, I saw some of the ‘pretty’ white women get that ring either in school, or right after they graduate. At the time, I thought “wow that is early” but looking back, it was smart.
@@CoCo-yv3hl
Their fathers teach them to be MEN .
They come as READY MADE MEN , Period. 🤩💯
I will never forget when I transfered from a community college to a university, I spoke to my advisor. When she went over my university language requirements, I told her I wanted the Spanish requirement. She told me no, take French as your language requirement when you transfer.
When I took that French class, everyone was either a chemical engineering or business management major with affluent families and/or military. I was an English major, I truly believe that that advisor knew something I did'nt at the time.
Your major/ connections you make in college matter.
I think that the most important thing that younger women need to learn is to not waste your time on the wrong one. A woman can ruin her life wasting her youth catering to a dusty man who not only doesn't provide for her but saddles her with children. Single mothers who have the children by dusty men have the hardest life imaginable. It's very difficult to raise children in general let alone raise a child by a dusty deadbeat. So, if you're an attractive woman, unmarried with financial stability and have no kids, your chances of finding a husband are greater than a single mother who had children by dusty men. This is just my opinion.
Best of luck to all the ladies out here.
I just turned 41 and have always been a workaholic. For the first time in my life I’m longing for rest. I’ve never wanted to have the help of a partner the way I do now. Never thought I’d see this day.
I agree with her message. I wish I had of found a man who would have allowed me to follow my dreams of having a daycare, but still desired to provide for me. Being 41, single AND childless was never my plans. 😢
@@monet2251 who ever its on..the fact still remains. How long have you been married?
@@zoilalulu3798 I guess we all wish for what we don’t have. I believe that when you have the right partner it’s not overrated. Still, there are days where I have to admit that I’m glad I am only responsible for myself. 😅💯
Wow, same boat. ❤🙏🏽 I don't feel alone now, thanks for sharing
Just think of the number of men on earth.
One of them was made just 4 u. ❤
@@Tee-Star, that’s the sweetest and kindest thing to say. 😊
I realize that my dad never encouraged me to get married because the more I became a ‘boss,’ the more he could rely on me in retirement to provide for him. So, of course, he was cheering me on on the sidelines ☹️🥺
It's time to really double down on Chloe's content; join Chloe's Feminine School; rebalance priorities; change my circle and environment; gather a supportive circle of men and women that are where I want to be in terms of happy, healthy, and whole marriages (to help me vet and provide positive reinforcement); and do the work within to curve the men I don't want and attract more of what I do want. It's never too late. That said, I don't beat myself up about what I didn't know because I didn't know any better at the time. The past is just that and I can't go back in time. That said, now that I DO know better, it's time to do better and pursue my hearts desires. All the best on your journeys, ladies.❤
Wow same. Mom woukd take my phone away from talking to boys then wonder why I am socially stunted and playing catch up in my 30s on these terrible dating apps. She gets to live her life while I'm miserable and resent her for this poor brain washing. There are no good guys left.
Goteem!!
Now your eyes are opened. You understand now
#welp 😭😭😭🫠🫠
Or maybe you're delusional and misinterpreted he teachings or gave off an energy of not wanting marriage? You're an adult so what's stopping you now? Especially if that's you in your profile
Marrying young is best, but it doesn't guarantee you'll still be married at 40 years old. Lots of people get divorced around that time.
This is so true I have friends who married young but the marriages didn't last they are divorced now I also know people who married young then divorced but later in life met the person of their dreams and are happily married now in their forties so you just can't always predetermine how it will work out in life
what was the point of adding "but it doesn't guarantee you'll still". Who file for divorces the MAJORITY of the time? it's the woman. WOMEN get bored and want to break up families. stop this "lots of people". Instead write, "Lots of WOMEN file for divorce" the young women should know that it is not the man breaking up families. By not making that CLEAR, you are putting FEAR in them of the man leaving.
stop it. if you are trying to help young women, tell them to get advice from family MALES they respect. NEVER a woman.
I'm 29 and I have definitely sat down and looked at my life and know I want to be married. Now I am intentional about that as my next relationship is my divine marriage.
I’m 29 too girl and am happy I’m in this mindset NOW as opposed to younger. I had too much growing to do as an individual until now
28 turning 29 next year, same here🥺
Same, 28 now. 29 next year!
@@winning3329then a church man? In dating now which man wants to wait? They will dump and move on.
@@winning3329you can still be a divorced baby mama…. Live your life & stop hoping for a magical man because they don’t exist
Correction: Wealthy and financially stable men, seem more attractive as they age; not average nor dusty broke men.
This is an Eboni thing. I think she is struggling with being her age and being unmarried. And I hope she stops that. She is slightly spiralling. She may end up settling and pay a huge price...
Just turned 25 and I’m not rushing true Love it’s God timing for me 🙏
Amen. A lot of women who try to rush it are not happy better to know yourself first no matter how long it takes and be open to love finding you
I’m 31. My goal is to be married and have children before 40 but I’m also at peace with “what’s meant to be will be” I’m not forcing anything or operating out of desperation. I believe that I’m ready to be a wife and I can manifest the life and husband I want but it’s still going to be on divine/God’s timing.
That’s great! Just know that achieving any meaningful goal in life often takes more effort than you expect, which is why most people do not live lives they love. According to the census MOST men are married by 35 so if you’re still single after the men who see you as wife material turn 35, the dating pool shrinks. You will always have more options as a younger woman so the time to prioritize finding your soulmate is right now. You can find love at any age but the amount of effort required to do so increases with time. 31 seems like just yesterday for me and now I’m 39. I was too passive for years and that’s the issue. If I had my mindset now when I was your age I absolutely would be married now.
@@glowupwithwonderwomanvery strategic advice
She needs a time of reflection. Kevin Johnson
I got real serious about being married by 30 at age 28. I found my husband at 29 and married at 31. I think you just need to move with lots of intention and don't waste time on people not giving you what you want or aren't the right fit for your lifestyle. I also believe being okay with the idea of being alone and happy also is needed to give you peace and helps not to move in desperation.
@@glowupwithwonderwoman thank you so much for your advice and yes I am putting in effort and moving with intention to be married before 35 and have children before 40. In my 20’s I had so much trauma to work through and was in survival mode. I wasn’t ready to be a wife but now I’m ready and I’m making sure I get what I know I want but also being mindful of who I choose.
In regards to men market value just know the sperm degrades as a man ages. So their baby making ability decreased as they age and the defects increase
Al Pacino...
Oh and erectile dysfunction
The younger men today need to be prepared for marriage too. Otherwise, there will be a ton of young women prepared to be wives and younger men ready to play games .
Right..and that's been going on for decades. This is why so many women don't have husbands
Love your content as always Chloe. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with sharing our experiences with younger women. I’m 41, single, with no children. I desire marriage very much, but I’m also very centered on doing what God has called me to do in this life, with or without a man. I also take pristine care of myself, so that if I meet someone, I’m ready. And if I don’t, I’m ready for myself and my meaningful work. I think staying ready is the most powerful thing we can do over 40, for ourselves, a potential mate, but also the people we are called to touch with who we are. I disagree women should seek marriage solely based on their age or the viability of their eggs. So I do think she was speaking from the feminine wounded place, not the healed feminine place. Women were created by God to have immense value at any age.
Amen
I agree that it’s a good idea for young BW who want a family to seek a partner in their college class. The only problem I had with what Eboni said was how BM’s value increase as they get older while BWs value decreases. This is obviously not true looking at the state of many older BM. I think she has a lot of regrets, & is projecting.
What I don’t get is that Eboni has been married before. She is a divorcee. She had a man but it wasn’t the right man for her, does she think if she picked the man in college it would have made a difference in the outcome? Point blank, if you don’t meet the right person at the right time it’s not going to work so I don’t see the sense in advising women to rush into marriage just to say they aren’t single at a certain age. Chloe’s advice is much smarter always be dating with intention but don’t force things just to say you have a man. I wonder if she wishes she would have had kids with the man she divorced that way she would at least be a mom albeit a single mom since that seems important to her…..
I grew so rapidly in my post college years. I think young women shouldn’t be shamed for wanting to explore themselves, their purpose, and even the world. Lots of men will stifle a woman’s growth for fear she will outgrow or outpace him. So many women end up regretful of their marriage choice or starter wives when they choose before truly knowing themselves. There is nothing wrong with getting married early but for the love of your future self make sure he is the right one.
She was never married but engaged to a WM and left him. I think she regrets it deep down. I think she was expecting a BM to marry her but that didn’t happen.
She was married and in her late 20s. Google is your friend. The engagement you mentioned was to a different man.
@@faith1614I bet her ex chuckles every time she goes viral with these topics.
@@faith1614She said she was married but wasn’t a good wife.
Thank you for the encouragement and real view point. I'm 37 no kids no significant other and the way society views women as they get older in a negative way I've been really negatively internalizing. Ready to do my best with the life I've been given, change the narrative. Thank you be blessed❤
If u don't look your age then don't tell it.. 😊
I turn 40 next year and could not agree more with her words! My parents didn’t say anything to me about choosing a husband, dating, or marriage, and now I wonder if they just expected me to figure it out, or if they just didn’t think too much about whether it would happen for me on way or another. I do think there need to be more conversations for black women on this topic. At my age it’s hard to find quality men who don’t want to go young even if you date 10-20 years older, and of those older men it’s even harder to find one who is open to having more children - which is the real struggle in my opinion. I have decided that I’ll definitely adopt or foster regardless of whether I have biological children, but I want my children to have a loving father which is not something men in their late 50s or 60s tend to want to be.
It's hard in your 30s to find quality men.
@@BitterPeachh that's not true.
Agreed!
I told my daughter this before she left for college. She has a better chance in college as far as I’m concerned. I remember family members telling a niece to wait and don’t think about having a relationship in college. She struggled after she graduated from college with that. She just got married at the age of 31 and had a baby shortly thereafter. Thank God because she wanted to be married and have a family.
Eboni is spot on with this one!
I think she was correct I didn’t hear anything she said wrong. She told women to handle your business but still know that you want marriage and kids it’s important
She should go sit down and take care of herself.
She is sitting down. And trying to take care of the possibly unwise and misguided younger women. What’s wrong with that…?
If marriage was more palatable and offered a better outcome than it currently does then I think women would be more inclined to want to be married. Unfortunately though with the type of husbands that we would possibly have and the type of divorces we would probably have it's easier and more emotionally settling to stay single.
Thank you sm for mentioning this!! My parents gave me a discreet mrs. degree talk (they met in college and been married for 22yrs!) lol by letting me know what qualities to look for in a man and to pick the best man for me regardless of race. So far there’s this Hispanic guy that’s been flirting with me for a bit in my classes and we’ve been slowly feeling each other out. I’m trying to subtly drop hints that I’m into him too or maybe inviting him to study with just the two of us or grab boba after class since he’s shy☺️he’s also been taking the lead by putting himself in situations where we spend more time together and get to know each other like asking me to be his teammate in a group project. I want love and marriage so when I see a man with lots of good qualities, I take notice and try to slowly lean into that. There’s nothing wrong with desiring love too and exploring that while in college!
Good for you. Do both. Women are great multitaskers.
@@bumblebee4280 I feel more comfortable with letting him take the lead, but knowing he likes me and still hasn’t made a move yet is frustrating me. I’m getting really impatient and with him being shy, I don’t know if he’ll ever made the first move.
I so glad I realized this in my twenties. I got married at 30. First kids at 32. Twins. And daughter at 34. Still happily married. And I thought I was a late bloomer. I am teaching all my younger cousins and family members to start early. Earlier than me even. It’s hard to be a toddler mom in your 40s. For those who want kids, it’s hard much harder as we age. Don’t waste your pretty years.
😮😮😮
You date a little bit older
@MelaniaRose No, it's not most young men, it's most of the young men women TEND TO LIKE that aren't ready for relationship
Are we supposed to pretend younger women who married stay married ????
That's so true.. I'm single but I have friends who married early and are divorced now.. Some actually met later in life and NOW have the greatest relationship LATER in life after the early marriages in their twenties
Well, all is not lost ladies, as my sister who is 62 met a wonderful man who is 56 and definitely got his self together regards employment and finances. He spoils her to bits and she deserves all the happiness she is experiencing. And, he wants long term and marriage. Just wanted to add something good to the comments.
What angered me is that comments on other UA-cam videos are trying to say that Kevin Samuels came up with this before Eboni. Wth! It was said by many back in the day that you get 3 things from University: a degree, your husband and (later) a baby.🎉🎉🎉
So then what was the outrage when he was stating these things and also why do so many women (such as ebony) feel like this is a “new” revelation?
She's just pandering.
It's normal to be hurt,defeated, burned out, tired, name it. It's part of being human. However especially in Ebony's case after being dragged and age shamed on the internet for not wanting to date down, she shouldn't have come to this same internet with this broken energy talking about women's value decreasing as we get older. Imo it is not our value, but our virtility. And i'm also not convinced of men's value going up as they age, because most women still desire a fit man in their age range and some love toyboys. A good man is a good man and a woman who knows her worth never decreases in anyway. I'm not mad at Ebony. But it is sad that she gives her naysayers power to talk smack cause this is what they thrive on...broken and weekend energy. She should have said this thing differenf or better still not at all. Sometimes we all sound better when we're silent.
Yay Nina. I love what you said.
EXACTLY!
Yea 😢 I just turned 30 & I am starting to lose hope tbh. I had a long term relationship in my 20s & he sweet talked me about “our future” but when the time presented itself, his mindset was still the same. Mind you, I spent nearly 7 years helping him raise his first child who wasn’t mine. I’ve fought off the spirit of resentment but I still feel like a failure sometimes. If you’re a fellow christian woman, all I ask is that you extend some prayers for me for my Boaz as I venture through the world hoping my family will come very soon.
You have my prayers, TRULY.❤️
@@TheNewFeminine thank you so much ❤️
You have my prayers,but neveeeeer let a man string you on for that long .
My ex-boyfriend left me because he didn't want my "useless body" since I couldn't give him any children. Only for him to turn his next girlfriend into a single mom. 🤨😒
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Oh wow
Wow
Yes, i do agree with your commentary but life does not happen for everyone at the same time😊
This needed to be said. I learned it intuitively, was neither encouraged nor discouraged to marry young, but I did (at 26). It was definitely not all rainbows and butterflies, but 25 years on I can say I thank God for my marriage and family. I’m encouraging my 24 yo daughter to prioritize what her heart truly desires (I think if most women are honest, that’s still marriage and family).
Also, I have been married and I have had multiple proposals and I don't look like Rihanna or Justine Skye. One thing that I have always done is date the rainbow and move on swiftly if I come across a dude playing games.
@@DrUmarJohnson1 ??
@@DrUmarJohnson1 Not sure where you are going with this. I date the rainbow and maybe I have been lucky, but I married an Italian and dated a few Jewish men and they did not have the pick of the litter despite making high salaries. I go off of personality moreso than looks so I gave them chances since I am just cute myself. If anything pookie and ray ray that looks like ll cool j have more options.
So you calling yourself ugly? Up your self esteem UP 😒
Im sorry but she’s not wrong
Thank you for this Chloe, great perspective as usual! 💖
I'm 35 (people never believe me lol), and I try to tell younger women about dating, especially my 19 yr old niece with as much care as possible. I'm currently single, childless, and building. If marriage happens it happens, if it doesn't, it just won't.
She's speaking from regret.
It ok. We need more women to speak from their hearts on this issue.
In my belief system we can’t control life ….We can however learn, grow, be the best we can be and go with the flow while following our dreams. I’ve met older women who were happily married for years and their husbands died. You can do everything right and still life throws you curve balls.
I met my husband when I was 38 and he was 46. I am now 41 and pregnant with our naturally conceived baby. I spent my 20s and early 30s stressing about men but around 35 I just relaxed and said que sera sera. And then I met the best man I have ever dated. I believe everyone has a soul mate and a time for meeting that soul mate and nothing you can do will change your destiny. Just my 2 cents.
Love to hear this. Life isn’t over for you when you’re past 30. ❤
So beautifully divine. 🥰💕💕
I’m 29 and single but want marriage and children. I can honestly say I’m glad I didn’t settle down in my 20s. For me it took my 20s to learn myself. I had a few boyfriends and learned from those relationships. My 20s I was a girl and I’m happy to have lived my life single and free for most of my 20s got my career where I wanted and now I’m ready to date intentionally. If I settled down in my early 20s it would have likely ended in divorce. I’m mentally and emotionally strong now
I think that I'm more stable & well grounded in my 30's too. I think my location is a hinderince for me. I may need to travel on my off days.. New Orleans is 2.5 hours away & Htown is about 4.. That may be a good resolve to issues..
My accomplished cousin, 37, just had a 50k wedding easily just married a man, 38, who is "putting in job applications."
I'm not optimistic.
Wow 😮
😳 Omg
I think placing fear on women will NEVER help
Nor motivate.. them to find a husband. When they are READY they will know it. I’m 35 no kids never been married and sometimes I think what if I said yes to that man or that guy when I was younger ..all I could think about is how immature I was emotionally, spiritually, and how bad I was with money. All recipes that can lead to a divorce or a toxic marriage. I think if I were to meet the right person for me today .. our relationship would be healthier and happier. Life is so nuanced.. they are probably many younger women in their early 20’s who are emotionally mature I was not one of them.. and I’m okay with that I didn’t have to drag a kind man into my mess. 💞
I am not certain why people speak of marriage as if there’s a formula to it, as someone from grandparents and parents married over 50 years who got married young it seems like timing and circumstance is everything. Also I think women carries the weight of their decisions and men have gotten off freely. When will older men help the young ones be held more accountable? I don’t see it, and to me that is what has been missing.
42 single south asian female, and I felt this. I thought I did everything right, and here I am single, no kids, great career but the options out there are so broken. Def. teaching my niece differently. This video, especially the support at the end was much needed. Thank you @Chloe_
You're Welcome.
The options are broken for young ladies as well
Luck also plays in part in it just as in everything in life. Some will be married and some will be not. Its just life.
Watching her take on the whole issue I can't help.but think she feels defeated by the whole dating, relationship and marriage issue. She like many women in their 40s did everything right career wise, cultured, smart but just couldn't find a right match. I am at point where I think it's all about fate. She has given in into thay red pill rhetoric which is sad and I hope she snaps out of it because honestly speaking life isn't bad at all at this age. There is still so much we can achieve with or without a partner happiness is a choice.
I am so glad she said it! I too felt that she seemed disappointed to admit it, but it is the truth. Just like a career or anything else we want in life, we must work towards it (marriage). No, we cannot make someone choose us or be the best spouse, but we can actively date, put ourselves around fruitful people, network, do self work etc. I hope she is able to heal , forgive herself and find love.
I like being single but that’s because I’m independently wealthy; if I wasn’t, maybe I would consider...🤔
I'm glad you spoke on this because I have read in may articles that men over 35 can carry the autism gene. Both men and women have to take care of themselves.
I just say and believe women live your life, heal yourself, travel, get your education or start a business or etc. Everything will fall into place because what is for you is for you and you will meet the right man at the right time.
Ps I don't believe in the time clock keep yourself healthy, work out I know plenty of women over the age of 40 having healthy children . And both men and women need to keep themselves healthy .
Girl you said that. Men only don’t hit the wall if they got money!
Yes younger women need to be warned. Time does pass and missing opportunity does exist. It’s easy to go through life not being intentional.
I'm sick of hearing how men automatically appreciate with age, because they don't. A lot of older men are financially and physically busted. Just because they can fly to the Philippines and rent the girlfriend experience for their two week vacation doesn't mean they're desirable to younger women.
It was never about all..... its all to do with majority......and men are better off in most cases if they never marry compare to women who never marry
It's better to be alone and build yourself than to be with the wrong one.
People have to learn how to wait on GOD and stop worrying about age . GOD don’t look at age we the only one that worry about age and I always said is better I wait on GOD then married wrong
❤❤👍👍Who is still listing to Eboni K. When you have Queen Chloe!?
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Suprised to see how many women agree 👀.. and that "understanding" in my opinion is a solid reason why you ladies can still find a healthy relationship/marriage even at your age ..assuming you're very clear and aware of the type of man your suited for
Thank you so much for saying that in the beginning of the video...if you don't want children or to get married, this video isn't for you!!! Sometimes, I read the comments and I'm like... why did you watch the video! 😂😂😂😂😂😂 The main takeaway for me is that young women need to be educated about life, love, and biology so they can make the BEST CHOICES for themselves rather than be programmed to do things that benefit others and not you. Thank you CHLOE for doing what you do. You are truly an end time prophet!
Wow. What a compliment. Thank you my dear.❤️
She's right black woman should meet their partner in college.too many single black woman let's change this enough of this..
😒😒Why don’t we all go ask some of our grandmothers if _they’d_ recommend being married young.🙄
Not women so eager to get married to men they know nothing about. Date and enjoy life while studying and understanding men. I think Eboni K is worn out from dating, she probably doesn’t understand men. I pray she gets her heart’s desires.
If more women get married younger it’s going to be a higher divorce rate. Get married when you are ready.
Its already happening. I am meeting young woman in their 20s who been married twice before 30. Sad 😢
I am 40 now, and teet-totter on how I feel unmarried now. I am mostly okay because I just don't have enough examples for me to feel that I am missing something although the desire for companionship is there. I attended an HBCU. There WERE no men lol and the men at Morehouse were more hips and switch than anything else, I came from a broken background and definitely wasn't taught anything about marriage, or the security of my future. Still, my married friends are no more financially secured or protected. Many of them are unhappy. So I don't compare. My mother was cheated on. One friend husband don't work. The other had a secret credit card. I'm ok...
We bw are not use to this type of talk from Ebony but for the longest, a lot of other women have been applying this method and still do. It works she said nothing wrong. If you want it get both, I told my niece not to start dating in her 1st and 2nd years of college but to observe and befriend those she is interested in... we bw that want this should at least listen with an ear of understanding.
As always, another great insight on this one.
I wish my parents would have given me a ‘heads up’ on this topic. But people live according to their knowledge and conscience.
The ending auto took me out!!😂😂😂😂
Ebonis projecting
I’m so glad I wised up in my mid 30s. I got married by 40. Had my first child at 44. I’m so glad I listened to my gut. Don’t listen to the church environment and “wait on God.” Please don’t listen to all the craziness. I’m married but I’m listening to this channel so I know what to tell my 10 month old daughter. I need to learn to be feminine. You’re right Chloe black women are not taught. I want to reprogram my brain. Thank you so much. I am married and living my dream but I am going to therapy. I need it to unlearn the defense mechanisms I learned with the bad dates. I keep listening to these channels to “correct myself”.
I appreciate you acknowledging that the Mrs option is not presented to everyone. People assume that if you didn't find your husband in uni, then all you did was party and live wild. You can do your best, and it just did not happen. Sometimes, it happens later or even not at all. I agree with the points in the video, and I want to see Eboni win, whatever that will look like for her
Another key that’s missing is other races teach their men to look for wives as well. Younger black women can position themselves accordingly but if the men aren’t interested then marriage still won’t be an option. Dating in and out is highly recommended to increase chances.
Eboni’s tone was a bit sad, I felt sad and said aww after that message. I do believe she is giving good advice though. Networking with the men in college for a husband is not a bad idea. If they are going to college than they are trying to be someone successful. The hardest thing is finding someone seriously interested that is of good character and will be faithful to you and not interested in cheating or treating you bad. That is the hard part that may come with men and marriage in my opinion. ❤ your content.
globally women over 26 now have no options left.
@@kastelvetro1491 that is so far from truth
@@kastelvetro1491tell that to Amal Clooney Serena Williams and Meghan markle
@@kastelvetro1491why not over 18 since you want to lie 😅😅😅😅
@@kastelvetro1491stop spreading lies. We know the official statistics from actual stats, not stats from podcasts 🤣
Im am sure that Ebony done her homework with the stats being overwhelming and frightening. I agree that women should date with intenion and at the same time enjoy and learn from every man you date. And YES as Chloe said, 'Change YOUR narrative about Hitting the Wall. And that men sperm depreciate as they age.' I like to add that woman who has her ish together and glow with feminine virtue is always desired at any age. With said, for us over 40 should continue to adhere to the feminine nature and to avoid burn out by listening to more of Chloe's commentaries. God be with you all ladies and I wish you all the Best.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman warning other women. I appreciate her and all the other women sharing good msgs warning other women.
Whyte women are encouraged to find a husband while in college🤔🤔🤔 And So should Black women..🖤🖤
I like how you clarified the money increase with men. That father time video is my all time favorite video from this channel
Eboni is right but she’s also projecting. The bus drivers done bullied her into the red pill
The ending 😂😂😂 nation wiiidddeeeee 😭😭💀💀
I appreciate this video ❤ This lady doesn’t need to be stomped out because she gave her advice. Like you said, it’s a very nuanced topic that we can all participate in without ripping each other to shreds.
My daughter recently told me she wants to start having children in her late 20’s. I told her then she will need to find a husband in college.
I agree with Eboni that we have to pursue both. Only each individual woman can determine what is best for her but for God’s sake, please keep getting your education.
The older women are supposed to teach the younger! So she’s right if it’s applicable take the advice!
Freezing ya eggs with no man to help raise your child still makes you a baby mama 😂
That's right Chloe, a man's sperm quality DOES INDEED go down with age! I am so glad you
pointed that out. And dare I say...the eggplant is ALSO speeding towards "limpville", when
40 rolls around. Father time comes for ALL OF US, remember that and plan accordingly
ladies.
Flawless message - Chloe. Thanks 🙏🏾
Yes, tell yourself that you get younger, more beautiful and more desirable everyday
I think the warning she give is much needed. At the same time I also fee many of us are not properly taught how to VET the men that we partner with. Being young and getting married is nice and has many benefits when done with caution and proper vetting. I partnered and married young and have 1 child. However I wish I would have known what to look for in the mate beyond superficial attributes and things that matter at the time vs the long term/game attributes. Now I’m divorced and dating, things are different I’m still young 20-something but to go through divorce so young was embarrassing but Ik I couldn’t live my life like that
She’s very attractive. Goes to show, that doesn’t matter.
As a young woman who the video she made for, I agree with what she mostly have said. My friend met her husband the first months in college and now 4 years later they have two kids. A lot of other girls who are married and have kids met their husbands/bds in high school or college. If you don’t meet someone at school or work the only option is to meet them while you are out everyday or in a social setting the other alternative is online which is not wise. She made the video for young women who want to be educated and married. I think she’s getting older and she sees how it is out here because young or old men aren’t marriage minded and she’s just giving advice. I don’t think a older woman loses value but in the dating world most of these men want them younger and younger. I think these men have overdosed on the red pill content and they don’t have a mind of their own and they want the type of woman they want is what society tells them they should be want
Women by Nature want a man above 6 foot tall and not by being taught.
Men by Nature want a healthy child bearing age women, and not by what their taught.
LMAO the ending is HILARIOUS Chloe, I've been singing that all weekend!
It just seems like there aren't many quality men
I have always been intentional the men have not. I wish I would have just dated out earlier because once we get to the top it's less BM anyway. All the men who wasted their 20s want someone to build them up now but should've been looking in their 20s for wives.