Bro you nailed it on the lack mentality reason…I still think and my life proves it that I won’t be that secure again..I’ve NEVER met a guy that isn’t abusive in any way…and in fact communication with him tends to go so smoothly…my boundaries are never crossed…he is truly a very kind human and someone I feel tons of safety around… but I just accept that he isn’t happy enough or satisfied with the entirety of our relationship he wants something different but he’s scared he won’t find that and end up losing me too…so he is staying until the better comes !! I broke up with him…I wish him that ideal relationship he’s seeking..my peace was worth it ❤❤
Boy, I’ve been thinking about this video since I watched it on my commute to work. What I love about your videos is that there is no anger or vindictiveness that goes along with making decisions to part ways with someone. Too many people on social media, today are spitting fire, encouraging people to ghost and to block and to cut off when in reality, it could be that two people just are on different pages and you part ways in a civil way even With the possibility of staying friends and reconnecting later after things can be thought through. Sometimes in the beginning of every relationship, we are so obsessed with the person we can’t be apart, and we could never see ourselves being away from them, and we compromise and adjust to keep them. But after a while, if you do the self work you realize that you should really stick to what you want because the other person With their inaction and indecision is sticking to what they want. If these are discussions, we’ve had in the past, it shouldn’t be a shock when you say it’s time to go your own way.
Thank you. Brilliant video. You made me cry. I just ended a 7 month thing with someone who I connect with very deeply but for some reason he feels scared. I had to walk away. We are both very upset.
Social Media Dating Sites make it to easy for men to not want to make the effort. And I feel it's to easy for people to present themselves falsely. How do you know when presenting 12:18 youself in all honestly to know the other person is as well? Why does finding love have to be so difficult? Love shouldn't be so hard. But everyone seems to be searching for it.
The women of 50 years ago would never put up with a man being all sweet and then suddenly pulling away and then coming back around when they think the coast is clear because the women didn't put up with that the men didn't do it the men have no standards now they're just having a free for all and they're laughing at us women behind our backs so ladies wise up please please please wise up
I think a guy who you’re “that sexually attracted to” initially in a relationship is a red flag….and boy have I chosen to ignore those 🚩🚩🚩 I’m now looking for someone that at first I really like as an individual…..…as well as not being actually unattracted of course…..and hopefully the desire to have sexually intimacy with them …..will grow as a relationship does ….
True he won’t call me his girlfriend lol over two years so I said he can take time out think over it as I’m not continue a sexual relationship anymore without the commitment and title. He may never come back and that’s ok because I finally see my worth and I’m a three course meal and he treated me like the dessert. 🍨 I’m way more than delicious. I’m not broken I’m stronger. I love him but I love myself more now.
I don't want him back. I don't want to care about him at all. He tried to get back into my life. We aren't even in a relationship. He probably read old things I wrote to him.
I make myself wife material by doing all the wifely things and the men included my husband that I've separated from have certainly enjoyed themselves by allowing me to financially support them and give sex anytime and be not nagging or dependent. I've wasted and (still is) nearly 30 years of my life. I want out but....,. Fear of being by myself Thinking this is the best I can get Thinking that I should be in a relationship Wanting to be loved and appreciated Want to feel needed Etc. My life story. But I really want a successful relationship and I am praying for one
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Your advice has helped me walk away from the thing that could not ever give me what I desired
Thank you, I needed to hear this. I’ve been no contact for 2 weeks now
Glad you found this helpful.
Bro you nailed it on the lack mentality reason…I still think and my life proves it that I won’t be that secure again..I’ve NEVER met a guy that isn’t abusive in any way…and in fact communication with him tends to go so smoothly…my boundaries are never crossed…he is truly a very kind human and someone I feel tons of safety around…
but I just accept that he isn’t happy enough or satisfied with the entirety of our relationship he wants something different but he’s scared he won’t find that and end up losing me too…so he is staying until the better comes !! I broke up with him…I wish him that ideal relationship he’s seeking..my peace was worth it ❤❤
Thankyou for articulating the reason I left my ex. Being dazzled by the pool but no kitchen is a perfect analogy.
You're welcome, glad you liked that analogy : )
Boy, I’ve been thinking about this video since I watched it on my commute to work. What I love about your videos is that there is no anger or vindictiveness that goes along with making decisions to part ways with someone. Too many people on social media, today are spitting fire, encouraging people to ghost and to block and to cut off when in reality, it could be that two people just are on different pages and you part ways in a civil way even With the possibility of staying friends and reconnecting later after things can be thought through. Sometimes in the beginning of every relationship, we are so obsessed with the person we can’t be apart, and we could never see ourselves being away from them, and we compromise and adjust to keep them. But after a while, if you do the self work you realize that you should really stick to what you want because the other person With their inaction and indecision is sticking to what they want. If these are discussions, we’ve had in the past, it shouldn’t be a shock when you say it’s time to go your own way.
Thank you so much for your thoughtful share. I'm grateful you found my channel and hope it's giving you a new perspective on what's possible. Big hug!
DELUSIONAL OPTIMISM OMG YES THAT IS MEEEEE
Hopefully not for long ;)
Me right now 😩
Thank you. Brilliant video. You made me cry. I just ended a 7 month thing with someone who I connect with very deeply but for some reason he feels scared. I had to walk away. We are both very upset.
stay away too, you'll feel tempted at times to go back. you got this
This message is a GEM ! ❤❤❤ THANK YOU !
Glad you found this useful : )
You're a treasure. I think in pictures and love the imagery you use.
Thank you so much Elizabeth. I'm glad the images help you get the message of the video 😀
What it is, he's nothing serious, ur just for his comfort, nothing more
I love the perspective of thinking about how our future self would approach this now 💗
Glad you liked this!
Social Media Dating Sites make it to easy for men to not want to make the effort. And I feel it's to easy for people to present themselves falsely. How do you know when presenting 12:18 youself in all honestly to know the other person is as well?
Why does finding love have to be so difficult? Love shouldn't be so hard. But everyone seems to be searching for it.
The only way to know the other person is real is through experience and getting to know them.
You always nail it 🎯
Thank you Antoinette.
The hard part is to look at things objectively.
This is the best video I’ve seen on this topic. Very helpful!!
Glad it was helpful!
This is a great eye-opener. Thank you for this topic and video and your words and guidance.
Glad it was helpful, Renee. ;)
For now am choosing the silence of the universe until am feeling healthy from the inside out.
Thanks for sharing.
Such a helpful analysis thankyou!
You’re welcome.
Bern, you dah man
Deanna, Thanks for your kind words. Hope you found the video useful : )
Thank you! 🙏🏼
You're so welcome.
Damn u are spot on …its scary
The women of 50 years ago would never put up with a man being all sweet and then suddenly pulling away and then coming back around when they think the coast is clear because the women didn't put up with that the men didn't do it the men have no standards now they're just having a free for all and they're laughing at us women behind our backs so ladies wise up please please please wise up
I think a guy who you’re “that sexually attracted to” initially in a relationship is a red flag….and boy have I chosen to ignore those 🚩🚩🚩 I’m now looking for someone that at first I really like as an individual…..…as well as not being actually unattracted of course…..and hopefully the desire to have sexually intimacy with them …..will grow as a relationship does ….
I don't think being sexually attracted to someone is a red flag. I do think that not being able to wait can cause devastating consequences though : )
1:55 NO MORE HALL PASSES wow wtf - this comes out ON THE DAY I ASK CHATGPT ABOUT HIS COMMITMENT LEVEL WTF 🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩
Glad this was helpful. Have a kind and compassionate conversation with him.
True he won’t call me his girlfriend lol over two years so I said he can take time out think over it as I’m not continue a sexual relationship anymore without the commitment and title. He may never come back and that’s ok because I finally see my worth and I’m a three course meal and he treated me like the dessert. 🍨 I’m way more than delicious. I’m not broken I’m stronger. I love him but I love myself more now.
He's Breadcumming her; that's Cruelty.
The good thing is she can say, “no more” :)
I don't want him back. I don't want to care about him at all. He tried to get back into my life. We aren't even in a relationship. He probably read old things I wrote to him.
Who says I want to get out of it?
Huh? Not sure I understand.
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i don't want to go to a gala with or without him
not my thing
Haha, it's a metaphor for allowing a man to get all the benefits without commitment...
Best advise ever. ❤thank you.
So glad it was helpful!
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Thanks for watching.
Why would u give a guy wife status when he keeps u as just the girlfriend for years and years Diamond ring Standard Only 🎁🔑❤️
I make myself wife material by doing all the wifely things and the men included my husband that I've separated from have certainly enjoyed themselves by allowing me to financially support them and give sex anytime and be not nagging or dependent.
I've wasted and (still is) nearly 30 years of my life.
I want out but....,.
Fear of being by myself
Thinking this is the best I can get
Thinking that I should be in a relationship
Wanting to be loved and appreciated
Want to feel needed
Etc.
My life story.
But I really want a successful relationship and I am praying for one
Get out huni you are worth more you are doing everything on your own so go have a good rest of your life ❣️ @@Antoinette-dl1by
Yeah, he's breadcrumbing me all over the place. I don't want the silence of the universe! In my age group there aren't many single men. Yikes!
Make a different choice, you can do this.
@@BernMendezAnd that choice was I chose ME.