@@KurtFrederiksen i see a shift in that direction. i my self, do all of the above. but i truly hate cooking, and baking. my husband though, loves the kitchen. that is his job. and then i will clean the gutter, mow the lawn, put up the shelfs. and what i can´t do, youtube help me figure out. most men, have learned how, to do those things, by their dad. and its a new thing girls are being invited into that universe. but it is on the way. because as we are getting more fluid in the gender roles more girls are introduced into the world of maintaining your home and vice virsa with the boys.
@@KurtFrederiksen well I cannot take your experiences away from you, but I agree if we are equal, we are equal. Then woman should "help" men just like the other way around.... But I think in my generation and younger. This is already happening. My girl friends fix the car just like my guy friends and my guy friends make dinner, just like my girl friends. But I agree it should not be the men who should do it all. We just have to find a middle ground. But I think we do that, with those who is around us. We negotiate and communicate, to make a life who works for one self. That should be the way forward in my opinion. And I just think its cool as fuck you started a cleaning business. And those women who said those things to you are no better than a man telling a woman what she should and should not do. 😊
I went to Denmark for the first time in 1987. My circle of Danish friends were wonderful. I felt accepted and cared for from the very beginning. I met my first Danish friend in the USA in 1972, always have loved the Danes and the culture. Even learned a few danish words in my time.
Very odd, I met my first Dane as a foreign exchange student here at the US - we were friendly, and she sparked an interest in the culture. I found it fascinating. About 12-15 years later, now I’m dating a Dane and incredibly comfortable with immersion and joyous to be learning danish. Fun confidence in timing! Beautiful Country and such friendly communal people.
I’ve come across two different Danish/Swedish couples, an older and a younger couple. In both cases they spoke the language of their respective spouses very well. But, when they talked to one another they all spoke their native language. In everyday life it probably didn’t matter but if something sensitive had to be talked about it’s so much easier to express yourself in your own language. Understanding the nuances of your second language is not that hard once you’ve reached a certain level but there will always be a certain treshold to cross to express yourself the way you want to.
Wow, that’s really interesting - and makes a lot of sense when you just need to vent or get your point across. The best way you know will always be your mother tongue.
I've noticed that as well. Not through dating but I lived and worked in Sweden for 12 years and even though I got fluent in Swedish there was still always that little barrier when we were sitting around a table chatting and joking around... it was the worst when it was a discussion on fx. political topics. That's when I really felt that I wasn't comfortable enough to get my views through and I often just ended up not joining a discussion even if I wanted to
@@RobeTrotting I have a British friend who've lived here for 20 years (since he was 15). When we need to discuss sensitive topics he speaks English and I speak Danish. I'm 44 and I've been fluent in English since I was 14 but I still can't get the truly subtle connotations across... and neither can my friend despite speaking Danish with practically no accent. Unless you grow up auto-bilingual you'll never be *as* proficient in your second language as you are in your native tongue.
I am Irish and met my Danish partner on Tinder and he now lives here in Ireland with me. I spent a lot of time in Denmark with him and love it. The only thing that took some getting used to was the kind of teasing sense of humour that they have. But I find it very funny now. :)
Hej Fiona, thanks for sharing this and writing a comment 😊So cool that you get to enjoy Denmark and Danish culture in your relationship. Glad you guys understand each other’s cultures - we come from a pretty “harsh humor” part of the States, but it was nothing compared to the Danish way haha. We embrace it, but sometimes we have to let people know what topics we are a bit sensitive about. It’s a fun way to show you care about your friends in most cases though. Glad you can relate to this video 😊🇩🇰
Personally, I'm surprised that 15% answered that "integrating with the Danish friends" is the hardest. I am a Dane myself, but through my university studies, and later through work/phd-time, my experience basically: If someone is comfortable enough to introduce a person to the friend group the rest of the group embraces that person into the group. I guess this goes back to the Danish trop where we know each other well enough to trust that a person in the group knows who will fit in
Hmmm that’s interesting, I think you’re right too. With such a high trust in society and friendships over so many years, what you say is really logical.
Ph.D. and post doc.groups are generally more international as many ph.D. positions are given to foreigners and since many are only temporary, they just open up more easily.
Introducing a non-Danish speaking person into a group implies a requisition for everyone to talk English which is quite a burden to impress on a group.
Cool conversation guys, thanks for sharing your insights! I'm half Danish half Filipino, living in Paris and married to a French woman - so I totally feel the cultural melting pot intricacies.
i really enjoyed watching this! my son-in-law is from argentina and my daughter is American, and i've seen them have similar interactions regarding cultural exchanges and as well as stopping during an argument to make sure everyone understands what's going on. thanks for doing your videos!!
I am half danish who moved to Denmark as a teen, I met my exes either from sport/activities or school. Dating app doesn’t work that well since it has become a place for hooking up or as a self confident booster for both men and woman. Chasing is definitely rare in Denmark, I agree with if I’m here then duh I’m interested, if not, then you’ll probably never seen me ever again
So true, the apps are not great for finding dates but more of a quick fix. Getting involved and making purposeful connections is the way to meet friends and friends are the way to meet dates.
Awesome talks guys! and super awesome couple ^^! Jen seems to embrace danish culture super well while also staying true to her background (: and Niels seems like a proper chill example of a modern danish guy.. Good pick guys :D! Keep it coming ^^! (Generel thought I have when I'm watching u guyses shows, u seem hella cool! have you ever considered making a discord channel or something equivellant to open up for the possibility of more topics to arise and maybe even have a talk with some of ur listeners^^ ? )
Hey Jesper, thanks for watching. We feel really lucky to have Niels and Jen in our circle of friends - so glad it comes through in this video 😊 Thank you for your kind words. We don’t have a discord right now but a few people have mentioned it. So we may take on the idea. It would be cool to have more of a dialogue and community discussions. We want to plan some meet ups too, so that could be a good way to initiate it.
If a man is too loud and "flexing" his stuff (like a rooster :-D ) My thought is, that he has a very low self confidence, and I lose interest. I like it when they dont feel they need to, because they know their worth. Just relax, have a conversation and treat a woman like a human being ;-)
@@RobeTrotting no worries it's totally okay, it was also a little funny to see your point of view on it, since some agreed with me, and other disagreed with me in the comment section. From now on when people ask me where if they have seen me before, I'll say "you have probably seen my comment in one of my fave UA-camrs videos" haha
23:35 I have to agree with Niels its so on point, we are here with you, do stuff with you, we like you. The part about 2nd Language, even though we speak English well, it is still a 2nd Language and sometimes things are lost in translation. Working a lot with UK people it took a while to find the balance between the cultures. I think you did talk about it in another Video, but Americans and English tend to ask how are you doing, hey I just meet you, I am not going to tell you how I am doing, or if in a mood, I will tell you how I am doing and you will listen for the full 10-20 minutes of it now that you asked.
It’s refreshing that Danes take that point of view with dating. Americans can do things out of obligation or with an agenda - and that makes situations complicated. The language thing can be tricky, like with “how are you” being a general greeting. It’s just an expression in most cases, however if someone wasn’t well, the person could answer honestly depending on their relationship to whoever greeted them with “how are you?”.
Love it. (and love you took my comment :D) As others have pointed out, a lot of Danish consider the tasks at home to be a common responsibility. My dad was just as active at cooking, and when cleaning everybody pitched in, so we are (to some degree, statistics show that it's still an uneven split) more conditioned to both doing their part. I'm unhappy with the term helping. As both are adults and equal, it's a matter of sharing the responsibilities, not a matter of the man pitching in and helping.
Thanks again for contributing 🙌🏼🇩🇰 It’s interesting how even though Jen is a very independent woman and would expect a more equal relationship in DK or the states, she said “help”. We all have these unconscious biases from how we grew up that just slip out. I think she was quoting her friend, if I remember correctly, but we may carry around a little bit of that bias from media and culture in the states that is now outdated - it’s changed a lot in the last 20 years but we still grew up with some of those influences in TV and movies, even if not with our families.
@@RobeTrotting agreed :D I think she was quoting as well, and I believe we all carry what we heard and learned when growing up. Some of the lullabies we learned back in the 80s and 90s had some rather problematic lines, by todays standards, so when I sing for my kids, I'm hyper aware each time. Not that I'm ashamed I heard this line in 1990, but I don't want to let it carry over to another generation. Some things can stay in the mental backpack without being handed to our kids.
I'm neither Danish nor American but I will move to Denmark soon. I absolutely love watching your videos in preparation but also just for fun and inspiration! In this video you talked about how practical Danish people are (if he's here, he likes you). In previous videos you also talked about how Americans tend to be more superficial with new contacts, less self-secure and now you talked about how you seem to need more reassurance that "he really likes you". Do you think that these things are connected? Meaning that if in general people tend to be more superficial in the US, you maybe won't know how invested someone really is without saying it? And vice versa if you are more serious and possibly also more self-secure maybe you think your actions (I'm here) speak more than words (I like you)?
So excited for you to be moving here and glad we can help with the preparation and what to expect. Really hoping that you’ll love living in Denmark as much as we do 😊🇩🇰 I think you made a great observation and that it’s definitely connected. Because Americans are always so flowery with their language it can often mean they interpret the same statements differently or read into things and assume alternative intentions. Americans also tend to make promises they know that they may break out of trying to protect feelings in the short term. They also sometimes do things out of obligation, or even for ulterior motives (like for sex) so it can be tricky to navigate the early parts of a dating relationship. It’s why you’ll often hear Americans want to “define things” in a dating situation. We are a little weird haha 😂
One of my sisters has an Australian husband, and it's the same struggle. My family speaks English just fine, except the 80+ years olds. And the young people are pretty much fluent in English. But as a Dane I feel like an ass when people are switching to Danish, and it feels like the non-Danish speakers are being excluded. While at the same time knowing that speaking English all the time is also a disservice to people who want to learn the language. And I'm unsure how to be helpful without making it suck for the non-Danish speakers.
Yeah, it’s such a tough balance. If we were better at Danish (to a point where we didn’t dumb down a conversation) we would insist on speaking it more (even though an accent is tough to hear).
I tend to switch back and forth, depending - in the beginning its all English, but when we scatter into our small talk sometimes we turn to Danish as the American, Jared, is talking about something else with someone else rather then following this conversation, what i tend to do tho is, if i'm talking in danish - to also make sure to invite Jared into the talk like - hey Jared you should hear this, we just talked about... and that way he has a good entry to join us and we would ofc switch from danish to English but when you are gathered more ppl - its natural to go back to danish, especially if Jared is taking part somewhere else... On the other hand, it is also hard to keep speakning danish to Jared when its just a small group, cos i'm impatient, so depending on the day i can be stubborn enough to keep it danish (cos he likes that, to get better at Danish) but other days there is very little patience left so it can be a struggle to keep talking danish. It is not impolite to talk in Danish, to us, but I also try to make sure that the invite is there when he seems ready to be in this conversation, whether it be in Danish or English. *I met Jared 4 days before his wedding in Denmark, at a outdoor party in public (beers at the lake) where we bonded so much so that i left with an invitation to that wedding - he has been a friend of mine ever since (so has Line his Danish wife =) its almost been 20 years now, but they lived in the US for well over a decade, so these issues mentioned are fairly resent.
I have a non-dane on my team at work. Who wants to learn danish. So a few times a week we have a "Nu taler vi dansk" session. Just 10-15 minutes non work related.
I wanted to say that I dated a Dane in America. He was a little slow with English but we communicated in other ways which was fun. You ll be surprised how you get along when you like each other. Unfortunately I wanted to continue with another degree and was hired in another city to work for a better opportunity. I guess this move was not very Danish, for I made progress and I'm sorry to my boyfriend and I lost contact with each other.⁹⁸
Jen have a wayyyy better grasp on Denmark and our society than that wierd american women, who left wet and dark denmark for... london ???!! we like Jen ....❤🧡💛💚💙💜
Being a Dane marriaged to a foreigner I can only support his claim that some if not a lot of fights / unwanted discussions comes from a feeling of either cultural difference or plane and simply being misunderstood as some times Danish humor/ Danish expressions/ or Danish subtleties does not translate well to other languages. And if I'm not very conscious about the way I say things an argument could rise from what I perceived as a blind angle, leaving me behind with the kind of deer in the headlights expression on my face.
Ah, totally agree here. Even for us originally coming from different parts of the US we sometimes communicate differently or with different levels of… passion haha. It’s a hard thing to keep in mind all the time 😊
Oh, that is such a cool video! And I totally got the same experiences about the language difficulties. What I find fascinating in my friend circle is that in most multicultural couples, one usually knows and then improves the mother tongue of the other. It is rarely that both partners are communicating in their second language.
Danish men don't help...they just do They also cook, take paternity leave etc.. Denmark is not perfect (far from it)but we do have gender equality, on a large scale Personally, I do not expect a man to foot the bill, unless he invites me out somewhere, where he knows, I can't afford to pay! I agree with Niels, we don't do 'the chase' as much here in DK ..bc if I like you, then I'm here, with you.. Great conversation, guys! hello from Hundested 🌸❄
Thank you 😊 so glad you liked this one. It’s true that things that need to get done are just shared responsibility and not assigned responsibility. Jen and Niels both discussed paternity leave but we had to cut a bit for time 😬
I is marrige with a Latvian We met through friend of friend. We have two grown children, who speak four langures from small. We never mixed them. Before we met, I lived and work in many countries, before meeting my wife. Culture is not to different in many way. It is in small issue, that you have to be open for. But that work both way.
As an American that speaks no Danish other than a few words, my girlfriend of 15 years family has always made me feel comfortable. Even her mom who spoke no English. They talked in Danish around me. I felt comfortable and every so often would ask me a question. Most of them understood English very well but were shy to speak English.
Yay for intercultural couples! Foreigners make relationships more interesting. Married a Dane outside of DK and yes eventually agreed to finally live here.
Interesting video, I can’t say I know a lot about the topic since I’ve never dated anyone 💜 I studied abroad for about 6 months and a lot of the people I ended up talking to and became friends with were also from other countries (it’s funny how that seems to happen when people go abroad)
Hi guys. First of all love your videos! I was trying to make learning Danish fun, and I loved the way you could really see the country from a positive point of view. I'm not sure if I'll ever move to Denmark, but I fell in love with Copenhagen on a 4 day visit a few years back. I have also had a Danish boyfriend, but was disappointed because I was given the impression that they had a tendency to go from flower to flower...have children and then move on... so a little heart-broken but still really enjoying learning about everything Dansk. Take care and what a great Little Mermaid take the other day! So godt❤
I’m an American dating a Danish women and it’s definitely different. Personality type very loving but prideful. They get offended very easily. Best example: “I’m a Dane. A Great Dane at that. Open your mouth ima shove this niceness in you mouth and you gone like it”. Idk I’m still trynna figure it out 😅
It's quite fun when you talked about splitting the bill. My partner and I always have a small fight of who is going to pay. But it is because we both want to pay. He has a higher income than me as I'm a student, but (and this is a big BUT) I'm a strong independent woman and I don't need a man (I really wanted to write "I don't need no man"), I'm with him because I want to, not to have him pay my bills. ... This is a great argument to have especially infront of our grandparents, but also just to observe the people around to see what is the culture at the given place.
Awesome that you can relate and that you have the mindset you do - I love the "I don't need no man" (you're right, it's better that way) attitude. I'm sure it makes your grandparents proud too :)
Hello, I really like your videos, I've been following them for a while now, the other time I told you that a university rejected me because of the change in law, the good news is that I was able to apply to one of the universities that the government gave priority to international students, in June they tell me if I enter or not ❤️🇩🇰
Hey Nicola, that’s fantastic news. We hope that you’re accepted and can study here. It’s such a shortsighted move to limit international students, especially for highly-sought fields of study where there aren’t enough Danish graduates.
funny about "when i'm here i like you"coment - there are a danish joke about at woman who after 25 years of marriage askedher husband if he still loved her and he asvered : i told you that once - i will tell you if it change ;-)
Finding friends and meeting people depends a lot on your own personal background. If you have a lot of hobbies or experiences you can meet a lot of Danes.
This was so insightful; thank you so much for putting this together! I know that no place is perfect but I feel like in North America. We could learn so much from the dating culture in Denmark. In North America, everything is a game. Everything is about having to put on a facade and second-guess and read each other's mind and play by these stupid unwritten rules period if you don't do that and try to just be straightforward, people get creeped out or you come off as insecure or possessive or any other negative quality. People in North America are judgmental and shaming towards women who show interest in men. And then men who come off as the tiniest bit like a nice guy insecure or not conforming to certain types of rules of masculinity are immediately deemed unattractive and usually end up being alone for large periods of time r.if not their entire lives. I also have a question if you two or anyone who lives or has lived in Copenhagen regarding dating, and that is how it is for single people. Are there single people or is almost everyone coupled off? Growing up near New York City and spending a lot of time there, I had been accustomed to there being a mix of single people and those who are attached in some way. Then I lived in several smaller cities in Europe and wound up where I am now in Montreal. In all of the other places I have found that it is very difficult to actually meet someone to be interested in because just about everyone has a partner. I would love to know about how this applies in Copenhagen.
It's much easier to get to understand Danish than speaking it, which would allow you to keep speaking English in groups and let the rest speak their native language.
I used to date an American girl, but we ended up drifting apart, mostly because of my directness and my dark humor/sarkasm... I found that some Americans aren't really very comfortable with, especially, sarcasm
Sarcasm only works if it is funny. Danish humor is not that funny. That is why american film and shows dominate your television. Danes are not funny. Sorry
I’m pretty sarcastic by American standards, but it was an adjustment getting used to Danish sarcasm. The directness I think is a bit harder to grasp through because sometimes it borders on hurtful. Americans just look for the nicest possible way to say something sensitive or give feedback so that can be a major culture clash. Communication helps with all of this though 😊🇩🇰
@@jimmybaldbird3853 we actually are pretty funny, but if you don't grasp the fine nuances in what we are saying, and how we say it, we will look crude and rude in the eyes of others
@@johnphdk ehhhhhhhh. Klovn is the epitome of danish humor. I laugh sometimes, but it is usually cheap humor- nudity, crude jokes, sexually based, race based, extramarital affairs. Big drop after that. Besides, when i am sarcastic with danes they usually stare back at me in confusion. Danes are not that funny.
You guys are the best matchmakers. Well done on getting these two together. Really interesting video about cross cultural dating. Do you think the same points would be made if you asked a gay couple for their perspectives on cross-cultural dating? 🧐 I suspect a lot of similarities, as it's about cross-cultural communication in general. Cheers for the video and have a good week, D & M.
Thanks Michael 😊 I definitely think the same would apply to gay couples. We know a few Dane-American gay couples and have heard similarities. Similarly our gay friends seem to have the same kind of dating experiences and casual hook up norms as straight Danes (and Americans, just there’s more shaming in the states). Come to Denmark and we’ll hook you up too haha
@Robe Trotting. I'd imagine, that the most weird part and diffecult part of the Danish people is the humor, Danes' Humor is usually Dark, Dank, Ironic, Sarcastic and though it could be seen as offensive, (which could be possible, if you don't know the Danish humor), it's not meant as such, if Danes make fun of you, it's a kind of acceptance, primarily to test if you can understand the humor and to see how you accept it. Danes make friendships in an early age and most friendships last for a lifetime. That is the primarily reason to why it can be very very diffecult to make friends with Danes, they are reserved that way. But once you've passed that barrier, you have a friend for life.
The reason guys didn't buy you a drink is because they cost at least double what they cost in the US. And taking a girl to dinner is a major financial commitment in DK.
This is too funny. Maybe it's because half my family spoke Polish growing up and I later studied Russian and German. But..... I spent about a week in Denmark and have a problem visualizing it as difficult to learn. English and Danish like all the Germanic languages have a huge amount of common vocabulary and the grammar is fairly similar. The sticking point is pronunciation. Danish went through it's own version of the Great Vowel Shift so the originally similar pronunciation got twisted not once, but twice.
The comment on women paying for their own meal in restaurants could be turned arround to why men should take part in cooking, cleaning and looking after the kids at home. It all comes down to assuming they live there too. So stop thinking that you are helping and should be thanked accordingly act like you are the man of the house and care for your family.
It´s much easier to get sex with a Dane (if you understand how we play the game) than to become his/hers friend hahaha. At least it used to be like that :)
I love Danish men. I am from Switzerland and here it is still so bad for women. We have 20 percent less salary, we are the ones having to stay at home or work part-time and make sacrifices for our career, men still stare at you like you are an object, especially the older generation of Swiss men, they do not take you seriously at all, I had a police officer giving me a wrong fine although I showed him I am allowed to park there, he treated me like shit because I am a woman. When I was in Denmark I noticed how polite men are. I also noticed they do not stare and that the children give up their seat for their mothers and not the mothers, like in Switzerland for their children. In general, Danish people seem to be much more living in the future, meaning, being way more innovative and far ahead than many other countries in Europe and the world.
i would like to find only one girl from usa as I thinned it more mean to have conversation with them. do you know of any good dating site? greetings Michael from Jutland
Hey Michael, thanks for watching. We’ll be in Jutland in a few weeks. I don’t know about many dating sites besides tinder but apparently there are more international girls on those 🤷🏻♂️ good luck 😊🇩🇰
Hehe 🙃 we only add them for UA-cam-sake, but if we were in person there wouldn’t be a lot more “F bombs” - and there were before we filmed while we had beers with Jen and Niels haha.
Hey guys! thank you very much for this video, Please, can you try a video abot Danish Man and Latino woman?? I know it could be exotic haha but I would like to know , what they think about it!! thanks!!!
Men paying for food is a reflection of our ability and willingness to do so when she is too heavily pregnant to provide for herself. Thus it is part of sizing us up as worthy to be chosen as fathers of her children, which dates back to basic natural instincts.
In Denmark you might say “en lækker sild” or “a delicious herring” 😂 🎣 I don’t think Danish women care what people call them or are easily rattled by those things, but I am not one, so I can’t speak for certainty.
nice video, good subject. I dont know if american women faces the same problem that I and some of my circle have faced. that men seem to view sex as a part of the date. sort of like ordering coffee after dinner. yes at my age I have few hangups about sex but I have kissed enough frogs that unless Iam sure he will turn into a prince, not interested.
Hey Nini, thanks for watching, glad you enjoyed the video and topic. It was interesting for us too. Thanks for adding to the conversation, it’s also nice to hear your perspective. We’ve heard that “hook up culture” is a bit more prevalent than in the US, but it seems like you have a good handle on dating here.
The bar/nightlife dating is mostly just hooking up. I've never really been into that, but I think sometimes the interest shown towards a woman is more subtle in Denmark. Although I have experienced women being quite "aggressive" if they are interested they often show it very bluntly like grapping the inner thighs of the guy they are interested in. I personally like that I mean who doesn't like being pursued 😉
It is cool how things are more laid back and equal in the pursuit here. It’s for sure different and more modern, but I think younger generations in the States are finding their way to it as well. Even depictions of dating in American movies and shows from the 2010’s seem pretty outdated.
@@RobeTrotting Exactly the whole thing is generally more laid back here. For me it's also more real in a way. Yep the pursuit is very equal here and I guess it's because of the whole individual independence thing here. Yeah it's actually quite interesting that the US moves in a direction closer to the danish
At the end of the day it seems such a bloody struggle to live in Denmark. In UK, Italy, Spain you just live and be yourself and you meet people anyway. Not so much thinking about "how do I approach", "how do I do".. bla bla, living in Denmark for a bunch some social benefits? not worth it..
I highly doubt that statement, but if you just come here for social benefits, then maybe this isn't the country for you, i mean i would not put up with the weather, the winter, the reserved people etc. etc. just for social benefits, that seems like first of all a really bad reason to leave your country. What i mean, i seriously doubt that British people have no cultural social cues or rules to follow, obviously they have that, it is a lot more likely that the cultural rules etc. are just close enough to your own culture that you don't notice them - we are talking about culture clashes here, a culture clash is when you actually notice the cultural differences in f.ex. social rules etc. exactly because it differs from your own. But i'm glad you realized that Denmark is in fact a different country from Spain or the UK, that much is very true.
The best Danish men don't 'help' with cleaning and cooking. They just clean and cook. 'Helping' assumes that it's the woman's job.
Good point about the cultural biases we all have that are conscious and unconscious 😊
@@KurtFrederiksen i see a shift in that direction. i my self, do all of the above. but i truly hate cooking, and baking. my husband though, loves the kitchen. that is his job. and then i will clean the gutter, mow the lawn, put up the shelfs. and what i can´t do, youtube help me figure out. most men, have learned how, to do those things, by their dad. and its a new thing girls are being invited into that universe. but it is on the way. because as we are getting more fluid in the gender roles more girls are introduced into the world of maintaining your home and vice virsa with the boys.
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@@KurtFrederiksen i see where you are coming from, but personally I don't see those as a man's job 😊
@@KurtFrederiksen well I cannot take your experiences away from you, but I agree if we are equal, we are equal. Then woman should "help" men just like the other way around.... But I think in my generation and younger. This is already happening. My girl friends fix the car just like my guy friends and my guy friends make dinner, just like my girl friends. But I agree it should not be the men who should do it all. We just have to find a middle ground. But I think we do that, with those who is around us. We negotiate and communicate, to make a life who works for one self. That should be the way forward in my opinion. And I just think its cool as fuck you started a cleaning business. And those women who said those things to you are no better than a man telling a woman what she should and should not do. 😊
I went to Denmark for the first time in 1987. My circle of Danish friends were wonderful. I felt accepted and cared for from the very beginning. I met my first Danish friend in the USA in 1972, always have loved the Danes and the culture. Even learned a few danish words in my time.
That’s so great! We feel the same way about feeling accepted and enjoying the aspects of Danish culture that we get to take on 😊🇩🇰
Very odd, I met my first Dane as a foreign exchange student here at the US - we were friendly, and she sparked an interest in the culture. I found it fascinating. About 12-15 years later, now I’m dating a Dane and incredibly comfortable with immersion and joyous to be learning danish. Fun confidence in timing! Beautiful Country and such friendly communal people.
I’ve come across two different Danish/Swedish couples, an older and a younger couple. In both cases they spoke the language of their respective spouses very well. But, when they talked to one another they all spoke their native language.
In everyday life it probably didn’t matter but if something sensitive had to be talked about it’s so much easier to express yourself in your own language. Understanding the nuances of your second language is not that hard once you’ve reached a certain level but there will always be a certain treshold to cross to express yourself the way you want to.
Wow, that’s really interesting - and makes a lot of sense when you just need to vent or get your point across. The best way you know will always be your mother tongue.
I've noticed that as well. Not through dating but I lived and worked in Sweden for 12 years and even though I got fluent in Swedish there was still always that little barrier when we were sitting around a table chatting and joking around... it was the worst when it was a discussion on fx. political topics. That's when I really felt that I wasn't comfortable enough to get my views through and I often just ended up not joining a discussion even if I wanted to
@@RobeTrotting I have a British friend who've lived here for 20 years (since he was 15). When we need to discuss sensitive topics he speaks English and I speak Danish. I'm 44 and I've been fluent in English since I was 14 but I still can't get the truly subtle connotations across... and neither can my friend despite speaking Danish with practically no accent. Unless you grow up auto-bilingual you'll never be *as* proficient in your second language as you are in your native tongue.
I am Irish and met my Danish partner on Tinder and he now lives here in Ireland with me. I spent a lot of time in Denmark with him and love it. The only thing that took some getting used to was the kind of teasing sense of humour that they have. But I find it very funny now. :)
Hej Fiona, thanks for sharing this and writing a comment 😊So cool that you get to enjoy Denmark and Danish culture in your relationship. Glad you guys understand each other’s cultures - we come from a pretty “harsh humor” part of the States, but it was nothing compared to the Danish way haha. We embrace it, but sometimes we have to let people know what topics we are a bit sensitive about. It’s a fun way to show you care about your friends in most cases though. Glad you can relate to this video 😊🇩🇰
@@RobeTrotting Thanks and love your videos. :)
Personally, I'm surprised that 15% answered that "integrating with the Danish friends" is the hardest.
I am a Dane myself, but through my university studies, and later through work/phd-time, my experience basically: If someone is comfortable enough to introduce a person to the friend group the rest of the group embraces that person into the group.
I guess this goes back to the Danish trop where we know each other well enough to trust that a person in the group knows who will fit in
Hmmm that’s interesting, I think you’re right too. With such a high trust in society and friendships over so many years, what you say is really logical.
Exactly
Ph.D. and post doc.groups are generally more international as many ph.D. positions are given to foreigners and since many are only temporary, they just open up more easily.
Introducing a non-Danish speaking person into a group implies a requisition for everyone to talk English which is quite a burden to impress on a group.
Cool conversation guys, thanks for sharing your insights! I'm half Danish half Filipino, living in Paris and married to a French woman - so I totally feel the cultural melting pot intricacies.
Thanks for watching Thomas. I’m sure you and your wife can relate 😊
i really enjoyed watching this! my son-in-law is from argentina and my daughter is American, and i've seen them have similar interactions regarding cultural exchanges and as well as stopping during an argument to make sure everyone understands what's going on. thanks for doing your videos!!
Thanks for watching Diane. It must be really interesting having dual cultures in your family and being enriched by both 😊
I have always wanted to date a Danish guy…they seem interestingly simple and void of drama.
I am half danish who moved to Denmark as a teen, I met my exes either from sport/activities or school. Dating app doesn’t work that well since it has become a place for hooking up or as a self confident booster for both men and woman.
Chasing is definitely rare in Denmark, I agree with if I’m here then duh I’m interested, if not, then you’ll probably never seen me ever again
So true, the apps are not great for finding dates but more of a quick fix. Getting involved and making purposeful connections is the way to meet friends and friends are the way to meet dates.
Awesome talks guys! and super awesome couple ^^!
Jen seems to embrace danish culture super well while also staying true to her background (: and Niels seems like a proper chill example of a modern danish guy.. Good pick guys :D!
Keep it coming ^^!
(Generel thought I have when I'm watching u guyses shows, u seem hella cool! have you ever considered making a discord channel or something equivellant to open up for the possibility of more topics to arise and maybe even have a talk with some of ur listeners^^ ? )
Hey Jesper, thanks for watching. We feel really lucky to have Niels and Jen in our circle of friends - so glad it comes through in this video 😊
Thank you for your kind words. We don’t have a discord right now but a few people have mentioned it. So we may take on the idea. It would be cool to have more of a dialogue and community discussions. We want to plan some meet ups too, so that could be a good way to initiate it.
What a sweet couple. And the interview style works very well. 👍
They are fantastic 😊 so glad you enjoyed the style, a bit different than our typical videos, so we were curious how it would come across.
I met my wife in a bar, and when she offered to buy me a drink. I just knew she was the one :-)
She’s a keeper Bo! 😃🇩🇰
So you are easy man.
If a man is too loud and "flexing" his stuff (like a rooster :-D ) My thought is, that he has a very low self confidence, and I lose interest. I like it when they dont feel they need to, because they know their worth. Just relax, have a conversation and treat a woman like a human being ;-)
So true, that usually stems from insecurity 😬
It's weird to see your own comment in your video, but I'm damn glad I was able to give you guys a good laugh :))
Great video guys
Sorry we didn’t comment to check, it was so funny though Sanne, you definitely added a great piece of fun dialogue to the conversation 😊😊😊
@@RobeTrotting no worries it's totally okay, it was also a little funny to see your point of view on it, since some agreed with me, and other disagreed with me in the comment section.
From now on when people ask me where if they have seen me before, I'll say "you have probably seen my comment in one of my fave UA-camrs videos" haha
23:35 I have to agree with Niels its so on point, we are here with you, do stuff with you, we like you.
The part about 2nd Language, even though we speak English well, it is still a 2nd Language and sometimes things are lost in translation. Working a lot with UK people it took a while to find the balance between the cultures. I think you did talk about it in another Video, but Americans and English tend to ask how are you doing, hey I just meet you, I am not going to tell you how I am doing, or if in a mood, I will tell you how I am doing and you will listen for the full 10-20 minutes of it now that you asked.
It’s refreshing that Danes take that point of view with dating. Americans can do things out of obligation or with an agenda - and that makes situations complicated.
The language thing can be tricky, like with “how are you” being a general greeting. It’s just an expression in most cases, however if someone wasn’t well, the person could answer honestly depending on their relationship to whoever greeted them with “how are you?”.
Loved the does-he-like-you-graph
That was Derek’s brain child 😂
Love it. (and love you took my comment :D)
As others have pointed out, a lot of Danish consider the tasks at home to be a common responsibility. My dad was just as active at cooking, and when cleaning everybody pitched in, so we are (to some degree, statistics show that it's still an uneven split) more conditioned to both doing their part.
I'm unhappy with the term helping. As both are adults and equal, it's a matter of sharing the responsibilities, not a matter of the man pitching in and helping.
Thanks again for contributing 🙌🏼🇩🇰
It’s interesting how even though Jen is a very independent woman and would expect a more equal relationship in DK or the states, she said “help”. We all have these unconscious biases from how we grew up that just slip out. I think she was quoting her friend, if I remember correctly, but we may carry around a little bit of that bias from media and culture in the states that is now outdated - it’s changed a lot in the last 20 years but we still grew up with some of those influences in TV and movies, even if not with our families.
@@RobeTrotting agreed :D
I think she was quoting as well, and I believe we all carry what we heard and learned when growing up.
Some of the lullabies we learned back in the 80s and 90s had some rather problematic lines, by todays standards, so when I sing for my kids, I'm hyper aware each time. Not that I'm ashamed I heard this line in 1990, but I don't want to let it carry over to another generation. Some things can stay in the mental backpack without being handed to our kids.
@@Hjorth87 Then you shouldn't read H.C. Andersen's "Hvad fatter gør er altid det rigtige" for your children.
So true! It sounds like you’re raising some great kids who are going to be well-adjusted adults 🇩🇰😊
@@RobeTrotting I really hope to. We all just try to do our best
I'm neither Danish nor American but I will move to Denmark soon. I absolutely love watching your videos in preparation but also just for fun and inspiration!
In this video you talked about how practical Danish people are (if he's here, he likes you). In previous videos you also talked about how Americans tend to be more superficial with new contacts, less self-secure and now you talked about how you seem to need more reassurance that "he really likes you". Do you think that these things are connected? Meaning that if in general people tend to be more superficial in the US, you maybe won't know how invested someone really is without saying it? And vice versa if you are more serious and possibly also more self-secure maybe you think your actions (I'm here) speak more than words (I like you)?
So excited for you to be moving here and glad we can help with the preparation and what to expect. Really hoping that you’ll love living in Denmark as much as we do 😊🇩🇰
I think you made a great observation and that it’s definitely connected. Because Americans are always so flowery with their language it can often mean they interpret the same statements differently or read into things and assume alternative intentions. Americans also tend to make promises they know that they may break out of trying to protect feelings in the short term. They also sometimes do things out of obligation, or even for ulterior motives (like for sex) so it can be tricky to navigate the early parts of a dating relationship. It’s why you’ll often hear Americans want to “define things” in a dating situation. We are a little weird haha 😂
Props to Niels for rocking the People Like Us hoodie. D:
Right! One of many reasons he’s awesome 😎 🍻
Hi
One of my sisters has an Australian husband, and it's the same struggle.
My family speaks English just fine, except the 80+ years olds.
And the young people are pretty much fluent in English.
But as a Dane I feel like an ass when people are switching to Danish, and it feels like the non-Danish speakers are being excluded.
While at the same time knowing that speaking English all the time is also a disservice to people who want to learn the language.
And I'm unsure how to be helpful without making it suck for the non-Danish speakers.
Yeah, it’s such a tough balance. If we were better at Danish (to a point where we didn’t dumb down a conversation) we would insist on speaking it more (even though an accent is tough to hear).
I tend to switch back and forth, depending - in the beginning its all English, but when we scatter into our small talk sometimes we turn to Danish as the American, Jared, is talking about something else with someone else rather then following this conversation, what i tend to do tho is, if i'm talking in danish - to also make sure to invite Jared into the talk like - hey Jared you should hear this, we just talked about... and that way he has a good entry to join us and we would ofc switch from danish to English but when you are gathered more ppl - its natural to go back to danish, especially if Jared is taking part somewhere else... On the other hand, it is also hard to keep speakning danish to Jared when its just a small group, cos i'm impatient, so depending on the day i can be stubborn enough to keep it danish (cos he likes that, to get better at Danish) but other days there is very little patience left so it can be a struggle to keep talking danish.
It is not impolite to talk in Danish, to us, but I also try to make sure that the invite is there when he seems ready to be in this conversation, whether it be in Danish or English.
*I met Jared 4 days before his wedding in Denmark, at a outdoor party in public (beers at the lake) where we bonded so much so that i left with an invitation to that wedding - he has been a friend of mine ever since (so has Line his Danish wife =) its almost been 20 years now, but they lived in the US for well over a decade, so these issues mentioned are fairly resent.
I have a non-dane on my team at work. Who wants to learn danish. So a few times a week we have a "Nu taler vi dansk" session. Just 10-15 minutes non work related.
I wanted to say that I dated a Dane in America. He was a little slow with English but we communicated in other ways which was fun. You ll be surprised how you get along when you like each other. Unfortunately I wanted to continue with another degree and was hired in another city to work for a better opportunity. I guess this move was not very Danish, for I made progress and I'm sorry to my boyfriend and I lost contact with each other.⁹⁸
Jen have a wayyyy better grasp on Denmark and our society than that wierd american women, who left wet and dark denmark for... london ???!!
we like Jen ....❤🧡💛💚💙💜
Haha 😂 good comparison. We would definitely take Jen in that comparison too.
Because London is less rainy and dark... Obviously! 😂
Being a Dane marriaged to a foreigner I can only support his claim that some if not a lot of fights / unwanted discussions comes from a feeling of either cultural difference or plane and simply being misunderstood as some times Danish humor/ Danish expressions/ or Danish subtleties does not translate well to other languages. And if I'm not very conscious about the way I say things an argument could rise from what I perceived as a blind angle, leaving me behind with the kind of deer in the headlights expression on my face.
Ah, totally agree here. Even for us originally coming from different parts of the US we sometimes communicate differently or with different levels of… passion haha. It’s a hard thing to keep in mind all the time 😊
Oh, that is such a cool video! And I totally got the same experiences about the language difficulties. What I find fascinating in my friend circle is that in most multicultural couples, one usually knows and then improves the mother tongue of the other. It is rarely that both partners are communicating in their second language.
Danish men don't help...they just do
They also cook, take paternity leave etc.. Denmark is not perfect (far from it)but we do have gender equality, on a large scale
Personally, I do not expect a man to foot the bill, unless he invites me out somewhere, where he knows, I can't afford to pay!
I agree with Niels, we don't do 'the chase' as much here in DK
..bc if I like you, then I'm here, with you..
Great conversation, guys!
hello from Hundested 🌸❄
Thank you 😊 so glad you liked this one. It’s true that things that need to get done are just shared responsibility and not assigned responsibility. Jen and Niels both discussed paternity leave but we had to cut a bit for time 😬
I is marrige with a Latvian
We met through friend of friend.
We have two grown children, who speak four langures from small.
We never mixed them.
Before we met, I lived and work in many countries, before meeting my wife.
Culture is not to different in many way. It is in small issue, that you have to be open for.
But that work both way.
What a great outlook, I’m sure it’s created a wonderful family because you’ve been so open to other cultures and it’s enriched your life 😊
Good way to explain differences and similarities, more of that. Tak!
As an American that speaks no Danish other than a few words, my girlfriend of 15 years family has always made me feel comfortable. Even her mom who spoke no English. They talked in Danish around me. I felt comfortable and every so often would ask me a question. Most of them understood English very well but were shy to speak English.
D, the beard is a good look on you^^
Thanks Lasse 🧔♂️ it’s here to stay for a while 😊
Yay for intercultural couples! Foreigners make relationships more interesting. Married a Dane outside of DK and yes eventually agreed to finally live here.
Interesting video, I can’t say I know a lot about the topic since I’ve never dated anyone 💜 I studied abroad for about 6 months and a lot of the people I ended up talking to and became friends with were also from other countries (it’s funny how that seems to happen when people go abroad)
Yeah, the international crowd is always open for friends and looking to make new connections and networks.
Hi guys. First of all love your videos! I was trying to make learning Danish fun, and I loved the way you could really see the country from a positive point of view. I'm not sure if I'll ever move to Denmark, but I fell in love with Copenhagen on a 4 day visit a few years back. I have also had a Danish boyfriend, but was disappointed because I was given the impression that they had a tendency to go from flower to flower...have children and then move on... so a little heart-broken but still really enjoying learning about everything Dansk. Take care and what a great Little Mermaid take the other day! So godt❤
lets be honest... danish dating is a drunken one night romance, that might evolve into brunch, if the other person aren't too annoying. :P
This is true haha - but a proper American brunch would make even more happy couples 😂
Sounds reasonable to me!
Great video as always
Great them. Interesting as always to be seen from the outside
Thanks for sharing your great videos :-)
So glad you enjoyed it Asger. Definitely an interesting thing to hear the views from others like this 😊🇩🇰
I’m an American dating a Danish women and it’s definitely different. Personality type very loving but prideful. They get offended very easily. Best example: “I’m a Dane. A Great Dane at that. Open your mouth ima shove this niceness in you mouth and you gone like it”. Idk I’m still trynna figure it out 😅
reminds me of my gf too xD
hoping I can immigrate over there ASAP so I can be with her more
It's quite fun when you talked about splitting the bill. My partner and I always have a small fight of who is going to pay. But it is because we both want to pay. He has a higher income than me as I'm a student, but (and this is a big BUT) I'm a strong independent woman and I don't need a man (I really wanted to write "I don't need no man"), I'm with him because I want to, not to have him pay my bills.
... This is a great argument to have especially infront of our grandparents, but also just to observe the people around to see what is the culture at the given place.
Awesome that you can relate and that you have the mindset you do - I love the "I don't need no man" (you're right, it's better that way) attitude. I'm sure it makes your grandparents proud too :)
I hate this "who pays thing" who cares
10:49 that was actually perfect pronunciation, well done!
Hello, I really like your videos, I've been following them for a while now, the other time I told you that a university rejected me because of the change in law, the good news is that I was able to apply to one of the universities that the government gave priority to international students, in June they tell me if I enter or not ❤️🇩🇰
Hey Nicola, that’s fantastic news. We hope that you’re accepted and can study here. It’s such a shortsighted move to limit international students, especially for highly-sought fields of study where there aren’t enough Danish graduates.
funny about "when i'm here i like you"coment - there are a danish joke about at woman who after 25 years of marriage askedher husband if he still loved her and he asvered : i told you that once - i will tell you if it change ;-)
that’s hilarious - stealing that one 😂
@@RobeTrotting just do :-) i love what your doing - think it could be good fun meting you some day :-)
Finding friends and meeting people depends a lot on your own personal background. If you have a lot of hobbies or experiences you can meet a lot of Danes.
This was so insightful; thank you so much for putting this together! I know that no place is perfect but I feel like in North America. We could learn so much from the dating culture in Denmark. In North America, everything is a game. Everything is about having to put on a facade and second-guess and read each other's mind and play by these stupid unwritten rules period if you don't do that and try to just be straightforward, people get creeped out or you come off as insecure or possessive or any other negative quality. People in North America are judgmental and shaming towards women who show interest in men. And then men who come off as the tiniest bit like a nice guy insecure or not conforming to certain types of rules of masculinity are immediately deemed unattractive and usually end up being alone for large periods of time r.if not their entire lives.
I also have a question if you two or anyone who lives or has lived in Copenhagen regarding dating, and that is how it is for single people. Are there single people or is almost everyone coupled off? Growing up near New York City and spending a lot of time there, I had been accustomed to there being a mix of single people and those who are attached in some way. Then I lived in several smaller cities in Europe and wound up where I am now in Montreal. In all of the other places I have found that it is very difficult to actually meet someone to be interested in because just about everyone has a partner. I would love to know about how this applies in Copenhagen.
Amazing video and Nice guests
Thank you Mads, so glad you enjoyed it 😊🇩🇰
I’ve been, as a Danish, been abroad in three countries. Different cultures and language barriers are just a fact
It's much easier to get to understand Danish than speaking it, which would allow you to keep speaking English in groups and let the rest speak their native language.
That’s the level we want to reach.
I used to date an American girl, but we ended up drifting apart, mostly because of my directness and my dark humor/sarkasm... I found that some Americans aren't really very comfortable with, especially, sarcasm
I agree.. my american ex also had a real hard time with sarcasm. he just sat there in silence for a few minuts and then asked if I ment that or not.
Sarcasm only works if it is funny. Danish humor is not that funny. That is why american film and shows dominate your television. Danes are not funny. Sorry
I’m pretty sarcastic by American standards, but it was an adjustment getting used to Danish sarcasm. The directness I think is a bit harder to grasp through because sometimes it borders on hurtful. Americans just look for the nicest possible way to say something sensitive or give feedback so that can be a major culture clash. Communication helps with all of this though 😊🇩🇰
@@jimmybaldbird3853 we actually are pretty funny, but if you don't grasp the fine nuances in what we are saying, and how we say it, we will look crude and rude in the eyes of others
@@johnphdk ehhhhhhhh. Klovn is the epitome of danish humor. I laugh sometimes, but it is usually cheap humor- nudity, crude jokes, sexually based, race based, extramarital affairs. Big drop after that. Besides, when i am sarcastic with danes they usually stare back at me in confusion. Danes are not that funny.
So what do you have to do get an invite to one of your parties? ;-)
We want to plan a community party this spring in KBH 😊
Wish you could talk more about difficulties ❤
We got 1/3 of everyday words compared to English.. chech out the word: Led...how many meanings it can have in different contexts
Sure, not as much to flourish your words with I guess.
You guys are the best matchmakers. Well done on getting these two together. Really interesting video about cross cultural dating. Do you think the same points would be made if you asked a gay couple for their perspectives on cross-cultural dating? 🧐 I suspect a lot of similarities, as it's about cross-cultural communication in general. Cheers for the video and have a good week, D & M.
Thanks Michael 😊 I definitely think the same would apply to gay couples. We know a few Dane-American gay couples and have heard similarities. Similarly our gay friends seem to have the same kind of dating experiences and casual hook up norms as straight Danes (and Americans, just there’s more shaming in the states). Come to Denmark and we’ll hook you up too haha
@@RobeTrotting now there’s an offer! 😀 Haha. Have a great week, guys.
You too 😊😊😊
@@RobeTrotting Mange tak!
@Robe Trotting. I'd imagine, that the most weird part and diffecult part of the Danish people is the humor, Danes' Humor is usually Dark, Dank, Ironic, Sarcastic and though it could be seen as offensive, (which could be possible, if you don't know the Danish humor), it's not meant as such, if Danes make fun of you, it's a kind of acceptance, primarily to test if you can understand the humor and to see how you accept it.
Danes make friendships in an early age and most friendships last for a lifetime. That is the primarily reason to why it can be very very diffecult to make friends with Danes, they are reserved that way. But once you've passed that barrier, you have a friend for life.
The reason guys didn't buy you a drink is because they cost at least double what they cost in the US. And taking a girl to dinner is a major financial commitment in DK.
True 😂 but Jen lived in Philly where drinks are the same price.
Beard! Love it!
Ah, thanks Lilly 😊
This is too funny. Maybe it's because half my family spoke Polish growing up and I later studied Russian and German. But.....
I spent about a week in Denmark and have a problem visualizing it as difficult to learn. English and Danish like all the Germanic languages have a huge amount of common vocabulary and the grammar is fairly similar.
The sticking point is pronunciation. Danish went through it's own version of the Great Vowel Shift so the originally similar pronunciation got twisted not once, but twice.
Danish men aren't going to go up to a stranger and offer them a drink, (especially in Copenhagen), seriously, have you seen how expensive it is?
😂 😂 😂 that’s hilarious! If you ever run into us irl we will buy you a drink for this comment 🍻 🥂
@@RobeTrotting you guys are legends. Love to bump into you both for a beer. 🍻
Hmm. It appears there's an ulterior motive here, bringing single Americans to Denmark? Starting a dating business?? lol
😂 yes 🙌🏼 promoting our matchmaking skills was the real topic here haha
תעשה סרטון על האם הממשלות, החברות הגדולות והתקשורת שייכים לאילומינטי
The comment on women paying for their own meal in restaurants could be turned arround to why men should take part in cooking, cleaning and looking after the kids at home. It all comes down to assuming they live there too. So stop thinking that you are helping and should be thanked accordingly act like you are the man of the house and care for your family.
Great point, paying and cleaning are all just things that need to be done, its not a duty or role for anyone.
Jen’s accent is interesting! Is she *originally* from the US?
It´s much easier to get sex with a Dane (if you understand how we play the game) than to become his/hers friend hahaha. At least it used to be like that :)
From what we hear it’s about the same - that Danish directness helps, as does being more open minded 😊
Jen is really beautiful ❤❤❤ Thank you for an interesting video!
Glad you enjoyed it!
I love Danish men. I am from Switzerland and here it is still so bad for women. We have 20 percent less salary, we are the ones having to stay at home or work part-time and make sacrifices for our career, men still stare at you like you are an object, especially the older generation of Swiss men, they do not take you seriously at all, I had a police officer giving me a wrong fine although I showed him I am allowed to park there, he treated me like shit because I am a woman. When I was in Denmark I noticed how polite men are. I also noticed they do not stare and that the children give up their seat for their mothers and not the mothers, like in Switzerland for their children. In general, Danish people seem to be much more living in the future, meaning, being way more innovative and far ahead than many other countries in Europe and the world.
5:56: That made me laugh :D
Derek has crazy eyes 😂 👀
I'm now 70 and it's been a while since I was dating girls; but thinking back I regret all the times I've talked myself out of sex :-(
i would like to find only one girl from usa as I thinned it more mean to have conversation with them. do you know of any good dating site? greetings Michael from Jutland
Hey Michael, thanks for watching. We’ll be in Jutland in a few weeks. I don’t know about many dating sites besides tinder but apparently there are more international girls on those 🤷🏻♂️ good luck 😊🇩🇰
Hey, Guys. You can leave out the beep-sounds :) Are we still going til Ærø?
Hehe 🙃 we only add them for UA-cam-sake, but if we were in person there wouldn’t be a lot more “F bombs” - and there were before we filmed while we had beers with Jen and Niels haha.
Oh and Ærø is still on our short list, maybe in early summer?
@@RobeTrotting So cool.
@@RobeTrotting My homeisland.
Hey guys! thank you very much for this video, Please, can you try a video abot Danish Man and Latino woman?? I know it could be exotic haha but I would like to know , what they think about it!! thanks!!!
A real eyeopener
We were fascinated how many small challenges there are for both Jen and Niels. So cool to learn about. Thanks for watching Juliane 😊
My wife from Brazil and I met at at dating app.
She learned danish i a very short time..... I can tell you how ;)
That’s great! The apps can be worth it! 😊🙌🏼
I’m sure having you to practice with was super helpful.
Invite me next :D I'll come for the food :D Pretty on point, y'guys
Way more chill for sure - and you’re invited! 🙌🏼
@@RobeTrotting ❤🍷🍹 Cheers!
Q: I am curious - do Danish men like to wear beard 🧔🏽 🧔♂️?
I guess so haha never thought about it much
Nah, to lazy to shave and it makes us feel a little viking 🙂
Men paying for food is a reflection of our ability and willingness to do so when she is too heavily pregnant to provide for herself. Thus it is part of sizing us up as worthy to be chosen as fathers of her children, which dates back to basic natural instincts.
Interesting. Never thought of it from an evolutionary biological perspective 🤔
Do Danish girls get offended or put off by the word babe, as in the complement “what a babe!” or “gorgeous babe” ???
In Denmark you might say “en lækker sild” or “a delicious herring” 😂 🎣
I don’t think Danish women care what people call them or are easily rattled by those things, but I am not one, so I can’t speak for certainty.
nice video, good subject. I dont know if american women faces the same problem that I and some of my circle have faced. that men seem to view sex as a part of the date. sort of like ordering coffee after dinner. yes at my age I have few hangups about sex but I have kissed enough frogs that unless Iam sure he will turn into a prince, not interested.
Hey Nini, thanks for watching, glad you enjoyed the video and topic. It was interesting for us too. Thanks for adding to the conversation, it’s also nice to hear your perspective. We’ve heard that “hook up culture” is a bit more prevalent than in the US, but it seems like you have a good handle on dating here.
The bar/nightlife dating is mostly just hooking up. I've never really been into that, but I think sometimes the interest shown towards a woman is more subtle in Denmark.
Although I have experienced women being quite "aggressive" if they are interested they often show it very bluntly like grapping the inner thighs of the guy they are interested in. I personally like that I mean who doesn't like being pursued 😉
It is cool how things are more laid back and equal in the pursuit here. It’s for sure different and more modern, but I think younger generations in the States are finding their way to it as well. Even depictions of dating in American movies and shows from the 2010’s seem pretty outdated.
@@RobeTrotting Exactly the whole thing is generally more laid back here. For me it's also more real in a way. Yep the pursuit is very equal here and I guess it's because of the whole individual independence thing here. Yeah it's actually quite interesting that the US moves in a direction closer to the danish
Division is alive and well
Surprisingly, I have never seen/heard that anyone sing at Easter here in Denmark - it must be about 2% who do that.
Leave it to Neil’s family to defy the majority 😂
Great content. Awful audio, almost unwatchable. Gets some mics!
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At the end of the day it seems such a bloody struggle to live in Denmark. In UK, Italy, Spain you just live and be yourself and you meet people anyway. Not so much thinking about "how do I approach", "how do I do".. bla bla, living in Denmark for a bunch some social benefits? not worth it..
People may be more private but I wouldn’t say it’s a struggle or that you can’t be yourself in Denmark.
I highly doubt that statement, but if you just come here for social benefits, then maybe this isn't the country for you, i mean i would not put up with the weather, the winter, the reserved people etc. etc. just for social benefits, that seems like first of all a really bad reason to leave your country.
What i mean, i seriously doubt that British people have no cultural social cues or rules to follow, obviously they have that, it is a lot more likely that the cultural rules etc. are just close enough to your own culture that you don't notice them - we are talking about culture clashes here, a culture clash is when you actually notice the cultural differences in f.ex. social rules etc. exactly because it differs from your own.
But i'm glad you realized that Denmark is in fact a different country from Spain or the UK, that much is very true.
Funny that Americans always have to adapt to other people's cultures, but they never have to adapt to ours.
Well if they live in that culture they probably should 😂 you seem angry.
@@RobeTrotting You seem irritated that I speak facts.
Yawn. This is not news or intriguing. Just shit you should already expect.
And yet, here you are spending more time commenting 🤷🏻♂️
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Thanks for watching Gunnar 😊🇩🇰