Intp woman here - I really recommend mark mansons book models. Your video is really good, I just don’t agree fully with the point of not going into the date with any intentions. You should go into the date with the intention of ‘do I like THEM?’ I think most intps are always worried whether other people like us and then we try to make them like us. I’ve noticed if I shift my focus from “do they like me” to “do I actually like them” I’m way more relaxed and confident. Manson explains that way better than I. Hope that helps someone. And thanks for your videos!!! They’re really good and helpful!!! Have a great day!
That is a good alternative. I still would focus more on having a great time and figuring out later if you like them (Ti can ponder a bit). But I like the idea. Thanks for watching!
My first date strategy is no intentions at a restaurant I like. I see how it plays out and play off what she discloses and see if that interests me. No pressure and if the person is a compete non-connection I'm not disappointed and any date that ends with a happy tummy is a win to me. After 18 months of "interesting" Zoosk and Match dates I found a wonderful ISFP that is exactly what I an looking for as an empty nester.
I second the "go without an agenda" tip. This is THE thing that separates us from all the generic grey masses who can't control their urges. As far as I've noticed, all the girls that i've been on dates with, have generally had the same complaint, about how guys are so obvious with their intentions of just getting sex or something involving physical stuff, and how annoying it is to constantly see this almost every time.
I totally agree with the "no intentions" if you mean "no expectations." It takes away all the pressure to perform. As someone looking for a long term thing what is most important is to find a friend so staying chill and playing off her cues plays to INTP's strengths anyways. Being relaxed and set to take what comes prevents your Fe inferior from over-reacting in shyness or try hard. Trust your Ne parent.
Thanks for more good tips! "...you don't care whether she comes, stays, lays, or prays. I mean whatever happens, your toes are still tappin.." -Damone Verse 12, proverb 3
As an INTP I would really suggest that other INTPs read Tao of badass. It is extremely helpful, very concise, and as an INTP you'll be able to absorb information and apply it very quickly. Plus this video is amazing.👍
lmao i remember downloading that like 10 years ago, i used it when i was in a relationship to girls at work and i had so many options and could never act on it because i didnt want to ruin my relationship, what a contradiction. that was probably one of the only piece of getting women books / self help that actually worked lmao
I wonder if it's worth considering type dynamics with some of these things, for instance as a percieving type, the intp can come up with ideas for a date, and then if ur partner is a judging type they might enjoy deciding which option to choose
Today was my first date like for five years. Before it I have watched this video. So, there's my conclusion: yeah, my level of being a "dating machine" was not that high as those non-INTP have haha.. But, I'm sure, it was one of the most successful date for me. I can't say that I had rejected my Ni-critic at all but the most of time it was silent and I just had chill. Thanks a lot
Hi Tyler&Snake Charmer... Happy new year 2021!! yeah I’ve been thinking around the same topic Snake mentioned like tips for INTPs to be more success at work.. INTPs are generally easily satisfied with ourselves and forget to realise our imaginary world into the real world aka procrastinating mode and also we don’t generally have a high ambition over material things (the child Si mode here where we can be super laid back). Also, another topic I’m super interested in is the demon Fi where INTP can understand the concepts/theory but can hardly understand themselves (Fi). And lastly, the one I’m working on, “How to be present” aka improving the Se function as an INTP. I think the Ne function is going full swing and often distracting us from one idea to another even when we haven’t finish refining any of the ideas. -.-
You are always just name drop Te. Te is very important to have even for intps it's not saying okay you will solve it but giving a solution. 😆 Te doms are efficient because they outsource the answers
Intp woman here - I really recommend mark mansons book models. Your video is really good, I just don’t agree fully with the point of not going into the date with any intentions. You should go into the date with the intention of ‘do I like THEM?’ I think most intps are always worried whether other people like us and then we try to make them like us. I’ve noticed if I shift my focus from “do they like me” to “do I actually like them” I’m way more relaxed and confident. Manson explains that way better than I.
Hope that helps someone.
And thanks for your videos!!! They’re really good and helpful!!! Have a great day!
That is a good alternative. I still would focus more on having a great time and figuring out later if you like them (Ti can ponder a bit). But I like the idea. Thanks for watching!
My first date strategy is no intentions at a restaurant I like. I see how it plays out and play off what she discloses and see if that interests me. No pressure and if the person is a compete non-connection I'm not disappointed and any date that ends with a happy tummy is a win to me. After 18 months of "interesting" Zoosk and Match dates I found a wonderful ISFP that is exactly what I an looking for as an empty nester.
That's actually a really good idea, never thought about that :D
This also works for job interviews ☺
And that's exactly the difference between man and woman with a date, a woman needs to already like the guy
That's a good advice, but graveyard still feels like an overkill tbh :)
I second the "go without an agenda" tip. This is THE thing that separates us from all the generic grey masses who can't control their urges. As far as I've noticed, all the girls that i've been on dates with, have generally had the same complaint, about how guys are so obvious with their intentions of just getting sex or something involving physical stuff, and how annoying it is to constantly see this almost every time.
It is counterintuitive but this stuff works. Thanks for watching!
I totally agree with the "no intentions" if you mean "no expectations." It takes away all the pressure to perform. As someone looking for a long term thing what is most important is to find a friend so staying chill and playing off her cues plays to INTP's strengths anyways. Being relaxed and set to take what comes prevents your Fe inferior from over-reacting in shyness or try hard. Trust your Ne parent.
Thanks for more good tips!
"...you don't care whether she comes, stays, lays, or prays. I mean whatever happens, your toes are still tappin.."
-Damone
Verse 12, proverb 3
So true my man. Thanks for watching!
Can't wait to never use any of this info.
Oh, I think I've found the INTP catchphrase!
As an INTP I would really suggest that other INTPs read Tao of badass. It is extremely helpful, very concise, and as an INTP you'll be able to absorb information and apply it very quickly. Plus this video is amazing.👍
lmao i remember downloading that like 10 years ago, i used it when i was in a relationship to girls at work and i had so many options and could never act on it because i didnt want to ruin my relationship, what a contradiction. that was probably one of the only piece of getting women books / self help that actually worked lmao
@@Ryan-jq8ov read it around the same time as you. That book was really good.
i have no clue why it worked but it did lol@@nirbhaygor
No intentions. That is easy enough for me as an INTP.
I wonder if it's worth considering type dynamics with some of these things, for instance as a percieving type, the intp can come up with ideas for a date, and then if ur partner is a judging type they might enjoy deciding which option to choose
Today was my first date like for five years. Before it I have watched this video. So, there's my conclusion: yeah, my level of being a "dating machine" was not that high as those non-INTP have haha.. But, I'm sure, it was one of the most successful date for me. I can't say that I had rejected my Ni-critic at all but the most of time it was silent and I just had chill. Thanks a lot
Thanks for the insight! 👍🏻
Glad it was helpful. Thanks for watching!
I mean... should i thrust an INTP about dating? i dont know.......
Thanks man, appreciate this. Can you recommend any environment where we can improve our Fe function? Like just taking up a sales internship etc.,
Hi Tyler&Snake Charmer... Happy new year 2021!! yeah I’ve been thinking around the same topic Snake mentioned like tips for INTPs to be more success at work.. INTPs are generally easily satisfied with ourselves and forget to realise our imaginary world into the real world aka procrastinating mode and also we don’t generally have a high ambition over material things (the child Si mode here where we can be super laid back). Also, another topic I’m super interested in is the demon Fi where INTP can understand the concepts/theory but can hardly understand themselves (Fi). And lastly, the one I’m working on, “How to be present” aka improving the Se function as an INTP. I think the Ne function is going full swing and often distracting us from one idea to another even when we haven’t finish refining any of the ideas. -.-
I actually have a video concerning the Fe inferior if you want to check it out. Just getting out and about more is really the key
You are always just name drop Te. Te is very important to have even for intps it's not saying okay you will solve it but giving a solution. 😆 Te doms are efficient because they outsource the answers
Genius
Thanks for watching!
Honestly, just take propranolol or few shots beforehand to help ease the anxiety. It helps for me but first few dates suck.
That's funny, I know a few people who have gone out to a graveyard with a date and do the do 🥴
😂😂
Make timestamps in future videos pls
I can do that
Be careful with something scary on a first date...it could be the last date or worse...lols, maybe the second or third would be better.
Se trickster makes you not know how to give out experience to others