I lost my period.
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- Опубліковано 27 жов 2021
- I know this is a heavy subject and it might be a little scary to think about. The truth is... I WANT to scare you. I want you to know how serious it is to lose your period due to over exercising and under eating.
Obviously, this is a subject I am super passionate about. Losing my period made me realize how important my fertility was to my identity, and I think it's something that should be talked about more. Just know I am here for you ❤️ - Навчання та стиль
Female fertility is not only about kids. It's about hormones. Hormones affect literally everything: acne, skin tightness, mental health, bone density. Literally EVERYTHING!!!
Maybe she should have said this. Video makes it sound like womanhood equals have babies.
@@angelicajacobs584 well maybe that's what she felt since she was talking about her experience.
Eh I still hate kids
Yes, women that become infertile or closer to infertile can’t get as much done and can’t make as much money, even compared to healthier women that are naturally lower in testosterone than others.
@@asianscense9431 then she should have said that.
I see a lot of people considering being infertile a good thing in the comments, but the process of losing this bodily function is not at all a healthy way to get there. Periods are not just for having children but also to regulate multiple hormones in the female body that contribute to the tightness of skin, bone density and muscle loss. Not only that but hormones that regulate mood and mental health such as dopamine and serotonin decrease significantly because the body is malnurished. Periods are important even if they are annoying.
Edit: Why are so many of you trying to defend eating disorders I- 😭
Edit 2: I'm not telling anyone to get pregnant oml 😑 please just take care of yourselves and get birth control instead of an eating disorder
Edit 3: ....... Does my comment have anything to do with her saying "the joy of a being a woman" anywhere except for this edit? No? Wow, its almost like I don't care what she said and just trying to help people 😯. If you have a problem with the creator of the video's wording then please comment it somewhere else. I'm not promoting "misogyny" (quite the opposite really) so please, stop and think about what I'm saying instead of directing your anger towards a stranger ✋️
Thank you for saying this! I feel like most of the comments you are seeing are mostly just trying to convey that the joy of being a woman is NOT purely the ability to bear children. The message in this video is very important, but was unfortunately lost to many over her slightly unaware comment regarding fertility
Exactly.
that's why they say everything ur body does naturally is important:)))
Sorry this was comment from the other one i just want other to read that it is important to have period. The joy of being a woman is to be healthy and taking care of your body.
i think many people misunderstand what she meant. Having period doesn't mean having kids is what makes you a woman or the reason to be a woman. Having regular period is a sign of good health. Please do not twist what she meant. Yes to those who wants kids it is what makes them have joy. But unless you yourself have decided you do not want kids then fine don't have one. But but what she meant is those who over working out is happy of not having period, but that is not anyone should be happy about. It is a sign that despite being fit, when a woman suddenly stops having period that person is not healthy physically. You do know not having period or having irregular period means you have underlying health conditions.
Yeah i know i am saying things repeatedly. because people are twisting what she means. Suddenly lossing period is not normal, it is nothing to be ignored. do not ignore things happening in your body. I was 21 when i had hysterectomy, because i had a Cyst on my ovaries. It was spreading to my uterus. Since i had my period at 13 years old, no one said having regular period is important. by 16 years old i always had irregular period, my menstrual pain stopped. i was active on my daily life, little did i know by age of 18 i had this growing cyst on my ovaries. Having no uterus and ovaries to make me have my period, means i have to depend on hormone pills and treatments. And this i can tell you those meds do not give you the real hormones your body needs. Do not think so little of what she said, she is right and people should think properly what to say before judging her.
@@ChiYuki44 all very good points, and I’m very sorry to hear about your experience, that sounds tough and I hope you’re doing alright! Unfortunately the implications of this video send all the wrong messages, especially impacting the people who are deeply hurt or affected by their periods. Many people who menstruate, who also have depression, often experience an almost painful and extreme depressive episode during their period, which makes them despise it deeply. Not only that, but there are trans men and non-binary people who get dysphoric about their period. As well as a large number of people who insist they do not want children, however society keeps dismissing them by saying that childbirth is the greatest joy of the world, and they’ll change their mind later, or regret not having kids.
Now, I am not at all saying that her message was that the ‘joy of womanhood is having a period and being fertile and the stinky doctors keep hiding it from us >:(‘ however, it is completely valid to be upset with her wording. Not only is it invalidating to the many trans men and NBs who still have periods to call a period ‘the joys of being a woman’, it could cause them even more dysphoria, and make them try to potentially risk their health to get rid of their period in an unhealthy way. Not to mention saying something in a way that makes it seem like ALL doctors try to hide that your period going away is a bad thing, which is a gross over-generalization, especially offensive to doctors who also have periods and know their importance. This is why it is important to word things this vital in an informative manner, that way you don’t risk the potential of sending the wrong message or causing more harm to people who deeply despise their period. I know her heart was 100% in the right place, and I agree with her, however I don’t think it’s unreasonable that people interpreted it wrong, nor did they take what she said out of context, they were simply confused or hurt over their interpretation of what she implied because the optics were off
as much as I hate my period, and do not want to have kids, losing my period is one of my biggest fears
Why
@@Pickle-tickler145 bc it can actually affect everything in your body like your shutting down.
I hated my period aswell, but then I lost it. I still miss it to this day😭
i would rather lose all my limbs then getting periods until 50
As a woman with PCOS an who doesn't have a period, I understand her pain and fear. A lot of people want to comment about the "joys of being a woman" part but they're missing the point of what she's sharing. She's just saying it sucks that we lose our choice over something like this and that there's not tons of awareness about it. Whether you want kids is up to you but it's nice to have a choice rather than have it taken away. And also not having a period can be nice, but it comes with a lot of nasty side effects. Please stop bashing her for raising awareness. Sure her word choice could've been better, but I'm sure you all can see what she really meant by her words and actions over the years.
Thank you
I agree, I also very much needed to hear this. I was so proud that I wasn't bleeding as much (only spotting) and I had zero cramps after exercising. I thought I was healthy. I didn't know that I was pushing my body over the limits. It terrified me when she said that not having periods means you go infertile. I *want* kids, and as much of a pain periods can be, I finally know that they are absolutely necessary to get my own personal joy.
As someone who never wants kids and who takes great joy from being a woman, I am not offended by this in the slightest. I feel like people are getting mad on behalf of people such as myself
If you watched this and the only message you heard was "being a woman means you have to be able to conceive" I don't know what to tell you
My interpretation: child bearing and fertility is so fundamental to what women are (it's certainly not everything), losing it just to become fitter is deeply unnatural and very _very_ unhealthy. There's other reasons one might want to lose ones fertility but if it's just for aesthetics and to prove you can get your fat % that low... you're hurting yourself so badly that your body can't do one of the very first functions we evolved. That's scary
@@andynonymous6769 Thanks for sharing your side as well! :)
They’re aren’t missing it. They heard it, you can hear both things. They shouldn’t bash her but it’s good to call out harmful narratives
I get her point in this video but I’m not a fan of the “missing out on the joy of being a woman” line. Women have so much more purpose in life than having kids. If you want to be a body builder and are fine with taking the risks, then knock yourself out because it’s your body and you have the right to. Never let anybody make you feel like a reproduction machine and tell you you need to center your entire life around creating it. Of course many woman dream of having kids and that’s great, but let’s not talk like that’s a woman’s only purpose.
Ikr like she said a few things that I don't she even realised what she just said.
So dumb
Speaking as a mom of 3, I wished I'd focused more on my career before having kids. Like my name says, I'm full of regrets, and I'm a SAHM!!! I could have done better 😤
And being a non-binary person with a period I was happy until the "bones breaking" thing because I really wanna lose my period because of my dysphoria
@❌Funtime❌ thank you for insinuating that I mistreat my children! They are well behaved. I simply stated that in retrospect, I would have chosen my career rather than being a mother. I don't understand where you got the idea that I am not a good mother 🙄. There is MORE to life than having kids sir!!!
@❌Funtime❌ the regrets are not just about my kids. It's about the choices that were made that I can now see we're not necessarily the right choice. So please continue to make ASSumptions that are not entirely true!
Her: “The joy of being a woman”
Me: OHHHHHHHHHH lord have mercy people are gonna be mad
Why is that so relatable
Fr 😭 i dont want children tho 💀✋
Right?!? She said miss out on preceding that, which everyone will ignore, ofc
she's joking hehe
@bhk.08 no she’s not
This happened to me!! I got so underweight that my period stopped. I'm so glad you are talking about this.
Did you get it back?
if so, how??
i lost mine in around july this year and Am really worried and I want it back😭
@@twinkie2249 I was working out too much, so I had to gain a little bit of weight in order to get my period back. I would talk with your doctor first tho
im underweight but i still get my period (it's late tho 😢)
im 12 and i haven't gotten my period yet im 35 kgs which is underweight and im conserned because most people ik my age or even 1-2 years younger have gotten there period is there something wrong with my body??
@@Pahaliii no, i think only start getting concerned if ur 17+ and still haven’t gotten it
This made me cry honestly because I’m 16 and I’m struggling with my period ( I never had any problems with my period before I lost weight) because of my weight and that is so meaningful to me. Eating was was never fun for me when I was younger, not because of anything but I just didn’t like food so much but I’ve learned that it’s actually vital to nurture yourself with healthy food and I’m currently working on gaining some weight back. Thank you so much for your message. Love your vids and keep going. ❤️❤️❤️
Girl you are on the right path!
As much as a period can suck not having them is way worse
@@quin7117 i used to get periods but now i dont and not having them is a lot better i can assure
I realize that the comments are so focused on “joy of being a woman” thing, but I think the whole point of her making this video, was to raise awareness about the problems these things cause. She wasn’t trying to discriminate that if you aren’t infertile you can’t enjoy being a women, but maybe was talking about women who want children but no longer can due to over working themselves. It could have been a poor choice of words. Amazing video, thank you for raising awareness.
Omg whenever i workout or move alot my period just suddenly disaper for some reasons? Now i know that i have to exercise less and eat more healthier
@@luluowq9827 and thank you for noticing the real reason of the video 😊
I think she was also talking abt ur hormones no longer having enough strength to keep ur body together (I hope this makes sense lol english isn't my first language
@@marangelynrodriguez3094 yes it does thank you 😊
I understand your point but I also feel like we can have a discussion about both. Infertile women have always been made feel less of a woman by people who think that being a woman is just having children and I think it is valid to oppose a concept that has been used to hurt them. I think that we should stop normalizing the idea that being a woman is only having your period and having children, of course there is nothing wrong with wanting to have children but the whole idea of womanhood shouldn't be based on something that only some wome can experience. The point of her video was good, this topic is very important but I can't help but think that other women should have the right to comment on an idea that has created so much harm
The amount of supplements and medicine I wasted money on to get back my period after losing it for 4 years --- in the end the simple answer was: stop exercising so much, eat more, gain the healthy weight you need. Got my period and my health back --- end of story.
BAM!!!! Yes this is correct 🙌🏻
hi I'd just like to ask if there was any side effects or bad benefits,,, like anxiety or something? did some of your bones break??? (i need urgent help and am looking for help lol sorry ik its been one year already....)
@@zeval_myuet Your bones don't just break on its own. You do lose bone density when experiencing amenorrhea (lack of menstruation from young women). Side effects were brain fog, insomnia, lack of energy, feeling weak, night sweats etc.
I'm not a doctor; you can find more information on Google and talking to your doctor. How to get it back is exercise less and eat more (especially animal protein), it's as simple as that.
@@milkbread5036 a small price to pay to end suffering
This hits HARD I battled ED and completely effed up my reproductive system. Didn’t have a period until I was 19 from then until now I’m still trying to get a complete cycle sometimes I won’t have one for months I’m slowly coming to terms with the fact I might not ever be a mother because of this. I’m 27 now and my cycles are still sometimes absent 😭😭
@@CR-wk2reyou're telling me going vegetarian will get rid of my period?
I don't want the supposed "joy of being a woman". Everyone should understand that women aren't reproduction machines, and not all women want to have kids. I'm not hating or anything, but you have the valid point abt how periods r important. Thanks for bringing awareness towards this issue.
Edit: The pope needs to hear that having kids is a choice, not an obligation
REAL
i really have a problem with her choice of words .. the “joy of being a woman“ means more than being capable of breeding. i literally can’t have kids because endometriosis and it NEVER made me feel like i was less of a woman.
FR it's kind of ignorant to act like a woman could only be happy if she gets pregnant. It's 2021 you don't need to get pregnant even even if you want a child there are other ways.
I’m pretty sure she didn’t mean to be insensitive and talked about this topic in a way from her perspective, would have been nice if it was inclusive but it still makes sense.
@@joa3494 I agree. I think intention matters. clearly her intent wasn’t to hurt anyone feelings. And yeah I think that’s just how she felt personally and isn’t necessarily her viewpoint.
I have endometriosis and was told it’s extremely unlikely that I’ll be able to have children and personally it did make me feel less than. It’s shouldn’t have but it did. I think shes just talking about her own perspective. And that doesn’t necessarily mean that that’s her viewpoint on woman who are infertile like they are all less than or missing out. Maybe that’s just how she personally felt. Also intention matters and clearly it wasn’t her intention to hurt anyone. She was infertile and speaking from her own experience and perspective. Clearly not all but a lot of woman do take it hard being told they can’t have kids. I didn’t even know if I wanted kids but being told I couldn’t I do kind of feel like I’m missing out on the joy of being a woman in a way. Because I don’t get to make that choice of whether or not I want to have kids. A lot of woman have that choice and I don’t.
Completely agree, like there are other joys of womanhood cmon
Even if you don’t ever want kids, your fertility is still important!!
why?
Why tho?
I agree with the others. Why?
Your hormones can be regulated if you still have your ovaries but had your uterus removed and therefore don't have a period and are sterile.
Edit spelling fixed
Bro what?!? Explain💀
@@islandboy4445 I suppose I meant that your hormones being regulated is still important which can technically happen if you are infertile (removed uterus). But for most people this is not the case, and the health of your reproductive organs is highly important and a good indicator of overall health.
For example, I stopped getting my period for a few months due to stress and low weight, and my skin became brittle and my hair was falling out. It was a wakeup call that I needed to gain more weight and try to get my fertility back because I was aging like 10x faster that I normally would. It's still important even though kids aren't for me
I'm seeing so many people saying "but that's a good thing," and then others saying "how is that a good thing??"
like, can y'all just understand that people have different povs? yeah, it might seem scary for you, but there's probably someone out there who doesn't want to have kids and/or are scared of becoming pregnant. so while you may wanna be able to carry kids, others might not. think about that.
there's not a "wrong" or "right." it's all in your perspective
I don't want kids, I've never wanted them. My period gets in the way. And I don't mind being infertile
That also affects your whole.body if you dont have a period🤦♀️
So you need dirty blood. inside you which.is gonna form clots and it is gonna be like cancer in some.days🤦♀️
There's some other way to become infertile, more healthy way. If you are old enough and sure enough that you don't want kids, there're some operations you can get. Getting sick like she get is not a healthy way to become infertile. If you want to exercise a lot, you still have to eat. In fact, the more you exercise, the more you need nutrients to have a healthy body
@@rubyYT9511 .....what? Can you please use proper English, or use your native tongue?
@@ElfeaW my choice to not have changed stems from the fact I suffer from autism, ADHD, OCD, polycystic ovary syndrome meaning I grow incredibly painful cysts on my ovaries making conception incredibly difficult, and have a family history of ovarian cancer, diabetes, and I.E.D (intermittent explosive disorder) and brittle bone disease. Thus affecting my choice
Simple fact: everything should be done in moderation. And over exercising causes more than losing period. It causes stress overload on ligaments, muscle loss (if cardio), cardiovascular problems.
Your ignoring her being a misogynist and shaming non moms?
@@honey-suckle3228 why do u keep commenting that-?
And in the worst of cases it causes overtraining syndrome and you'll be out of the gym for years trying to recover. Been there, not proud!
@@honey-suckle3228 the correct words would have been...
"You miss out on the joy of being a bio-Mom"
Bc anyone can be a Mom, but not everyone should reproduce!
Yup but something you should keep in mind is too not work out more than 6 days a week and don’t train the same body part more than 2 separate occasions per week. Also try and fit your training within 2 hours and take around 1-3 minutes rest between sets. If you follow these guidelines it’s pretty much impossible to overwork yourself.
This is completely true and it's so important that people learn about this. My doctor's response to learning that i lost my period was NOT good, she said that "many women athletes lose their period" and at the time, that felt like a badge of honor. In reality, your body is shutting down organs because there isn't enough energy to make them all function. That's kinda scary. I'm better now, and i no longer have an eating disorder. But this is real and people need to know 💙
So glad you are doing better ❤
I hope you changed your doctor, that was not an appropriate response. hope your better now 💕
I feel like people always over exaggerate. There is no doctor that would be cool with you not having a period if you are the proper age. You must have been seeing a nurse practitioner or physician assistant.
@@user-ke4uy9vi1e hah
❤️❤️so inspiring
thank you! I really appreciate you and that you told your story. it is really important to me because I've lost my period:( because of under eating and I feel so bad sometimes. And I know what I need to do for letting my period come again, but I am afraid. Really afraid from food sometimes.:(
Please get help.. you’ll be okay
Thank you for putting this message out here it’s important to stay healthy but don’t overdo it❤️
i understand the "period being a woman's joy" part being controversial, but I am very glad you brought this topic up. I haven't had my period for 3 months but I didn't understand what was wrong. But because you warned me about this, I'm trying to eat more and workout less. Society always pushes girls to be skinny, but they don't tell you about the dangers of it. I kinda lost my period, but it's not like I have a six pack. I just lost 2 kg in one month and now my period is gone. If you are ever thinking of going on a diet, be sure to check if you really need it.
!!!UPDATE!!!
I GOT MY PERIOD BACK!!! After 6 months I finally got my period back. I also gained 4kg, but thats ok because i'm much more healthy than before I started working out. Thank you for all the positive comments! love you guys!!!
Yeah I don’t think having a period and being able to have kids is at all a joy? Of course it’s my opinion but I don’t ever want to have kids, and if I did I would first adopt or if i’m with a women who would want to bear children ask her. Anyways I resent my period a bit but oh well 🤷♀️
Also, I hope you’re doing well! Don’t be too hard on yourself and don’t forget to get good sleep and drink water. I’m proud that you are trying to be more healthy!!! ❤️
I'm way overweight and I had my period like 4 months late
Good luck. I hope you get better!
@@witheringrose1929 same but it was like 11 months, and after that it was like 2-3 months. Currently I've had 2 consecutive periods so I'm kinda happy. I mean I didn't really change anything so🤷♀️
@@Not_Lilly42 I've had 2 or 3 consecutive since that happened for me too
I have no idea why
“It means you can’t have kids”
Me: I AM THE FITNESS GRAM PACER TEST-
Fr I was DOWN until she mentioned the osteoporosis thing
@@haze969 say sike...
@@haze969 Sameeee
@@haze969 Sameeee
LMAOO MOOD
Let me tell you about my personal and scary incident...
I was a kid who hates period literally every month... Because i got my periods in 11 years old.. so you know it's really exhausting for me... Then years have been passed one day i didn't got ma periods I'm 22 years old i got scared like am i pregnant?? But it wasn't that... I was depressed i got some anger issue I'm bursting into tears without any reason...i started to hate me.. and i blamed that on the relationship cause I'm finding reason why I'm sad.. then i after a month i got my periods everything got back in to normal..... That day i realised how much periods are important.. it is a blessing we don't know it's worth untill it's gone.. ❤️
I agree that this is a completely terrible thing to happen and I'm so so sorry that this happened to you, but to call having children "the joy of being a woman"... That was a bit much for me. Again, this is not at all ok, please take care of yourselves out there, but don't belittle women who don't want kids by telling them they're missing out on the joy of being a woman if they don't, even if you didn't mean it that way
no she never said the joy of being a woman was having children. she said you could lose the joy of being a woman when you are born fertile and with a period and lose it through exercise
I'm glad I'm not the only one who lost it when she says ''the joy of being a woman''. Not everyone wants to be parents, we don't have the same objectives.
Thank you. This would sound like a dream to some girls I know, being strong af, no period, no kids??? Hell I’m jealous and I’m a guy
@@sish9912 but to some girls it's like their worst nightmare no period: no kids no joy of being a woman if you don't have your period(not everyone wants to have kids so..)then what's the joy of being a woman like why are you a woman if you don't get your periods there's no joy it hurts but we love it cause it is what makes us a woman
@@yougonstealmyjamsimgonstea463 okay so then just don’t over exercise lmao wtf?? Like the eggs cells don’t disappear after doing 30 sit-ups or something
I’m ngl, if I was a woman I would definately go for this. Natural birth control ❤️ 🥰
@@sish9912 You’re basically advising people to push their bodies so hard they put themselves into hormonal imbalance via starving themselves and over stressing their bodies. It can also be a sign of other serious issues if it happens out of the blue.
Haha. Funny joke.
@@SwampRobin 🌚
I uh, I think there’s a major misunderstanding here? I don’t think she means to be like, “this is what women are for” but more like “this is a big issue and it’s about us, our health, our lives, our well being and joy, which may or may not, depends on what makes you happy, including the joy of having a child”.
Well yes, but people should learn that just because they dont mean it doesnt mean they should still say it and get off scott free, i think its good the comments are pointing it out to avoid future “misunderstandings”. I too get what she means, but she should avoid saying that phrase because its also tied to a very undesirable message. Even if it wasn’t intentional
She literally could’ve made that point without that phrase
@@sakurarairikutsu7029 people should also learn to grow up and regulate their own emotions... YOU CHOOSE to be upset/offended/hurt by what is said. "Get off scott free" Geez im sure your part of that cancel culture cult arent you
Thank you
Yeah but the way she phrased it just sounds like if you dont have a kid youre not a real woman so you know, that's a little upsetting
This made me cry can you be an inspirational talker?❤
The joy of being a woman doesn't lie in her ability to have kids. But i agree.
I used to go months without having a period but it's finally coming back around! The relief (and pain lol) of feeling abdominal cramps has never felt better.
just curious , what did you do to bring it back monthly ?
It's just same here mine came after 3 months and I was soo happy though the cramps hurted lol but I was really satisfied that my body was working again on a right track
please update us on how your period comes back more regularly! Mine comes once every 3 months (it’s been happening for a couple of years) and I thought either it is normal or my stress just blocks the cycle.
For anyone curious~ in your first couple years it's normal to not have a frequent cycle, you could miss months, after like 2-3 years however if it's still inconsistent you should probably go to a doctor,
Thats awesome! Great job buddy :D (love your sunny pfp btw) KEEP GOING BRO YOUR DOING GREAT
Okay I get it, but also “the joy of being a woman” means different things to everyone
Nah It's not women mean woman don't complecte it
Losing your period is a risk factor for many diseases. especially the one involved around bones and fractures
@@mimoogreat9510 it is. But saying is the ‘joy of being a woman’ isn’t true. What about the girls born infertile or without a period. They can still enjoy being a woman. But if you’re just saying that losing is dangerous you’re right
@@googe7240 I think you should try that again lol
@@googe7240 uh-
I'm happy that someone who has been in this situation, shows us the abnormalities that can occur in our own bodies.
Therefore, thank you so much. I learned something new today.
Seeing your content recently- I’ve really appreciated the change in message. Please keep advocating for women to chose what’s best for their health 🎉❤
I just strongly... Strongly disagree that getting pregnant is the "joy of being a woman" there's do much more in us than breeding...
Edit: ffs I am not invalidating her or women who agree, I'm disagreeing with one thing she said, we don't have to all agree always to get along, chill
Thanks!!! Your opinion is so true!
@@maddy-books I know and I know she's heated about it, but this could easily be said "one of the joys of being a woman" instead of " *THE* joy of being a woman"
Again, she looks agitated, so she probably didn't have time to think this through.
If you follow her on Instagram you’d know she’s actually unsure if she ever wants to get pregnant and terrified of giving birth. She’s definitely not saying all a woman is good for is breeding- I’ve been following her for like ten years and I know she definitely doesn’t think that haha. She just means that being able to be pregnant and have a baby is a beautiful privilege that only women can do & it’s something to be proud of! Its hard to say all that in a video that is less then a minute long & not even meant to be about that, but if she did a longer video about it then it would be clearer
She didn't tell about pregnancy being the joy of woman, but period. Yes, having periods is healthier for the woman. And gynos in my country always recommend ways to keep it longer. not for pregnancy issues, but for health of a woman in general.
thats one of the joys of being a woman but please don't judge
She lost me at “the joy of being a woman.” Coming from an eating disorder, It took me a long time to realize that not having my period was unhealthy. I enjoyed not getting it. Or getting it a couple times a year for 2 or 3 days. It’s still really hard for me every month now when I get it and it last me a full week. I still have a very unhealthy mindset on periods and as someone who doesn’t want kids, I still don’t see it as a joy. It feels like a burden and it’s a painful time of month for reasons beyond cramping and wearing what essentially feels like a diaper for seven days. I know my mindset is unhealthy and I know I have lots of recovering to do, but I definitely think her word choice could’ve been better especially when talking specifically about eating disorders. Not the mention the women who get their periods but still experience infertility. Her message was genuine but lacks awareness.
Same
I agree with this, and I hope your recovery is going well/you’re doing alright /gen
Truth
@@Novemberskies91 thanks! I tried birth control but it actually made my period regular and it heavily conflicted with my BP (bipolar disorder). I’m in ongoing therapy, so I don’t want to get a hysterectomy until I’m 100% sure after going through all my traumas and getting to the root of why I don’t want kids. I’m still working on that. So for now I just have to deal with it every month 😕
I can relate, I’m asexual, I don’t want to have kids, and I genuinely just despise my period because it only brings pain. On top of that mine are even more excessively painful and heavy than average- I can understand why others appreciate them, but periods are something I will never be thankful for
This sounds like it hit personal in some way. And I hope all is well and It's good to hear the passion about it in your voice 💜💜 I hope this reached the people that needed to hera this and that they take the first baby step to fight their battle 💜💜
Omg I feel so bad! Children have been my dream for the longest time 😤I’m so thankful it’s healable. Please update if your process works
“over exercise, under eat” well thank god i under-exercise and over eat!
edit: i wonder how many people i can “r/wooosh” in this comment
I don't know if I over eat a lot, but my menstrual cycle is no long a monthly cycle, it's more like a bicycle - you park it somewhere, hoping to use it again, but then you can't find it, and when you find it, you can't seem to stop pedalling
(This is a weird metaphor and idk why I did that - but yeah, it either stops for way too long or is ongoing for way too long for me - I hate it)
Lol
@@606aichan7O7 this made me giggle but you might want to consult a doctor to see if something like birth control could help
That’s not good either
@@jasmine-ps5mm that’s why it’s a joke
“You miss out on the joy of being a woman” that’s a tough message to hear for women who are infertile naturally.
Otherwise, yes…very important message
exactly. and for trans women and any woman that doesn't want kids.
@@thegr8k183 yes!!! For me I tried for years to have a baby with my ex husband and failed. I have now made the decision that I don’t want children…doesn’t mean I don’t know what the joy of being a woman is. Same with any woman without children (including trans women 🌈) x
and for non-binary and trans male folks who *do* menstruate but don’t identify as women
Same thoughts... I suffer with endometriosis and I have an option having chemical menopause, just so I can have at least some quality of life...
She is missing an important part of being healthy, that’s more correct to say. I felt the same way when she said so. Cause women aren’t only “kids generators” 😆, even for those who wants to have kids
Exercising gives me a lot of joy and energy, I truly enjoy it, but I think I started over exercising and that did affected me… as soon as I gave myself a break everything went back to normal, stay healthy!
i fell that every girl/woman should see this no matter what age, and i'm so greatful you are spreading awareness about this, i hope you got your period back, and if you haven't yet, you got this girl. love your content, your doing great things
Totally agree with everything you said! but would also like to piggyback off what the comments are saying in that there's more to the joys of being a woman than having babies
Exactly what I wanted to say.
As someone who's struggling with getting her periods back, I don't want to have kids, and the only reason why I'm working on it is because this weakens your bones, and keeps you at a higher risk of having osteoporosis.
I have a feeling she more meant that your period in general is part of being a woman. But that threw me off too, especially since she said she didn’t want kids not too long ago. Either way there are many other joys of being a woman too!
@@chloeelizabeth013 I would not Call a periode 'Joy' I never want Kids, and honestly, the Lack of a period Was the one good Thing when I had an ED
Yeah that kinda hurt me bcs im born with the mrkh syndrome, which means that i dont have a uterus or vagina. And there are a whole lot of other women who are infertile, dont want babies or cant have periods
@@ROSA-04 I’m so sorry 🥺
My period wasn't "joy". It ruined my life along with endometriosis and pcos. I finally experienced joy and was pain free after a total hysterectomy.
Nature totally played with women in that matter😅 to go through this shit monthly with the pain and irritation it's not beautiful 😭😭😭 then all these problems WHY!
I also have PCOS and endometriosis, with terrible horrible chronic pain. But you're comparing two different things here.
I also had Amenorrhea at 16, I didnt have a period for a year and a half, and it is nothing to scoff at. Not ovulating without outside sources such as birth control causes problems with hormones, such as low estrogen which not only has terrible short term effects, but very dangerous long term heart and health consequences as well. It also can worsen PCOS and Endometriosis symptoms tenfold.
Endometriosis has for the most part taken my life and I have found some relief through multiple surgeries and hormone therapy. But I would never ever tell someone to continue this lifestyle if it's affecting their cycle this drastically.
@@user-ln7ol4cf8w That is very true. But at first for me I wished they never came 😅 but after a few months I was very grateful for being healthy 😊.
@@user-ln7ol4cf8w Not when you have endometriosis, PCOS, or adenomysois. Your monthly cycle can have drastic negative effects on your life and health. There are many situations where it's better to have a hysterectomy, oophorectomy, or to induce menopause in women as early as their 20s for the sake of their health. OP is comparing apples to oranges, but their decision to get their uterus removed most likely benefits them more than keeping it all together.
@@SS-mz7dl oh thanks for the info!
Even though I completely agree that you shouldn’t be proud of losing your period, I wouldn’t describe not having kids as losing the “joy of being a woman”. It sort of makes those of us who don’t want kids feel like if we’re not here to reproduce then what is the purpose of women. There are a lot of things that can bring us joy not just kids.
I'm going to evergrateful to her for telling this to us.
I have been doing the exact same thing.
Workingout like crazy for 2 hrs each day without a day's rest and eating only 3 meals a day. Starving the life out of me.
Thankyou for this information 💕💕
She clearly didn't mean that having children is the only joy of being a woman but rather just the joys of being healthy. I'm not entirely sure I want kids but for me having my period is an indication that all my hormones are working properly and if they aren't working I don't just lose my period, you can have skin problems, hair problems, digestion problems, issues with mental health. Losing your period is a more straightforward way of measuring whether those important female hormones are working or not.
Edit: Having children is A joy of being female. You can't take that away, it's literally biology. Females are born with the reproductive organs to have children in literally every species. That doesn't mean it is the ONLY joy of being a woman and if you're infertile you're not a woman, but if it wasn't a joy why would infertile women struggle so much with it? By saying it isn't a joy at all is almost invalidating their pain, acting like not being able to have children shouldn't be something to be crying about anyway.
Because for her and for some woman, have kids and be a good mother or housewive are their dream. And nothing wrong with that. She just gave her opinion from her point of view.
Actually that is what she meant
She meant what she said. So tired of people saying what people meant. Hear this 🗣don't make up how YOU feel about what she said. YOU don't need children don't procreate it would be best for all.
I said it I mean don't have children you don't deserve them. F yo feelings
Clearly I'm saying don't have sex and reproduce, don't get pregnant and have a child. No assumption this is what I mean.
@@missmom715 who the hell are you to talk on like this to others, how dare you say other people to not have kids, you clearly can see that the girl who made the video didn't assume, she clearly meant that having children is a joy of being a healthy women(yes, it's also a part of their happiness), and don't just tell others to not have kids, many women feel happy by having children and it's a part of their joy, ofc there are women who don't want kids and it's absolutely fine, and nobody cares about what you mean or your opinion, whether you like it or not, people will have kids when they want to. Idk what kind of human are you to just say *don't have kids, don't reproduce, f yo feelings*
Let me tell you dude, f your opinions.
Get the hell out of here
We don't need your negativity.👉🚪
@@missmom715 you do know sex isn't only for procreation right??
Bc that's sad.
"It means you become infertile, no kids!" So how much exercise do i need to do to not worry about kids forever ?
Sounded like a win to me.
😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
@@earthing3696 No! It comes with serious health complications!
Relatable
I have pcos and i get really happy when i get my period. Its not often and people make fun of me for being happy during my period. I feel normal for even having it
Ok. I just looked up why I haven't gotten my period in two months and this shows up. It clears it up a lot because I've been working out everyday and I think that that caused it thank you so much
"You miss out on the joy of being a woman" lost me. Not having children isn't missing out. And being pregnant isn't the only thing to be a woman's joy.
I agree with you
This. I totally agree.
I agree I don’t ever want to have kids but I still will be a women
Yes, but it’s a very key part of life. But I agree not everyone wants to have kids, or they want to adopt.
I totally agree, but nevertheless I think the amenorrhea topic should definitely be talked about more. Not because you can't have kids anymore but because it overall affects your health in a negative way when you lose your period..
"The joy of being woman" meaning for her is different than for some of us, and we should not blame women who choose to give their *own* womanhood this meaning, is their life and their body. Besides I'm sure she didn't mean it in an offensive or opressive way.
AND please don't ignore the *real* meaning of this video: don't push your body too far, take care of yourself, love and embrace your period and it's ok to stop when you had enough
Ps. Some of you still hooked on "tHe j0y oF b3iNg a WoMaN" that part doesn't matter, DON'T IGNORE THE REAL MEANING OF THIS VIDEO!!! Listen at what she *truly says* about periods, nobody should loose their period at such a young age: it's not healthy at all
based
She's speaking generally not for herself only
Well said💜
i think she meant you lose something that is unique to women and an ability that sets women apart from men biologically. Besides, periods not only give women the ability to have kids but also regulate female hormones which are essential regardless of whether or not you decide to have kids.
I mean. Stopping your period bc you're starving yourself isn't the best choice to make. There are healthier ways to stop your period.
that made me tear up.. i never really realized it until now.. thank you❤
Oh my god, thank you so much I haven't got my period for 9 months and thank u so much for the information
"Nothing matters more than your health". I love that.
Never in my life will Menstruation be the definition of “the joy of being a woman”. I’d rather not have to deal with it. And if I can’t get my own kid, I can just adopt and help a child. I don’t need to go through hours of pain to love a child. If you have the heart, you can learn to love them like your own. To me, it’s what they are. Biological or not ❤️
Yes, exactly... Not all women want kids and can have kids. There's no shame in that...
Not having a period isn't healthy, especially if it comes from outside environmental issues or health issues.
@@arielfowler6244 how is it not healthy? It’s perfectly healthy. I have not heard of kids getting sick because they don’t have their period or an adult getting sick after making themselves infertile through surgery. Never. So… how is it unhealthy??
@@astridmaack4516 it is, like she said, since you didn't listen to the video it causss osteoporosis and can also cause cancer. And since again you didn't listen to the video, she was talking about weight caused loss of period, which if you are small enough no to have period, that in itself is unhealthy. Those people who make themselves infertile will also tell you that it sends them into early menopause. And a female child will eventually get her period and if she doesn't there is something wrong and she needs to evaluated by a doctor. Before trying to put up an argument do some research first.
True
even not only this is the reason why some girls don't have their periods it's also the amount of stress and depression they are going through so plz eat healthy and don't stress
"The joy of being a woman"
Ma'am, I don't even want kids lol
Guys, this is MY OPINION. I find periods a burden, because I don't want kids. Everyone has their opinion, I'm not forcing mine onto anyone, I'm just saying that for me, periods are a burden. Please don't continue fighting in the replies, this is purely MY OPINION.
Cool...and youll miss out on that joy and be a miserable lonely old lady
@AbnormalIySwaggy I still wouldn’t choose it. I still don’t want it and I don’t see it as amazing
@AbnormalIySwaggy Yeah, and I'm quite happy that women are the ones who give life but for some who don't want kids, it could be a terrible burden
@AbnormalIySwaggy Sounds creepy, personally. I don't mind if others choose do that. But imagining that process with my body? I feel grossed out.
I don't want kids, I want a hysterectomy but I was told you have to be at least 25 and or have 3 kids...I was 21 when I decided i didn't want them but I knew they wouldn't tie my tubes.
Strongly disagree that the ability to get pregnant and being fertile is a part of “the joy of being a woman” but apart from that, you’re right that these health risks aren’t spoken enough abt :(
Was about to say the same^ I understand her intentions though and she was in the heat of speaking from personal experience
@@maddy-books this is true the way it was phrased seemed more in general than an opinion and I think maybe not very inclusive to trans people. But if it’s just part of her experience then obviously no one can disagree or agree since we all have different interpretations of the “ joys of being a woman”
it definitely IS a part of the joy of being a woman - it's just not necessarily the main part for lots of women.
@@dizzy388 Well, some women can choose to not want to have a baby so it ISN'T a part of the joy.. giving birth is over rated, if we really love kids, take one from tje orphanage. How can you bring an innocent soul into this f*cked up world while neglecting so many unfortunate souls who are already in this world? And to say something like "it's different" I believe came from selfishness.
That's my opinion.
@@dizzy388 for women with tocophobia like me, can be anything but joy.
I totally understand the message and it's so important to talk about that! But I need to say, that having the ability to become pregnant isn't what makes you a woman. There are so many women out there, unable to get pregnant or not wanting to ever get pregnant. Fertility isn't defining if you're a women or not. Having or wanting kids isn't defining if you're a women or not. ❤️
I appreciate your message but I want to clarify that I never said fertility is what makes you a woman - I said it is the joy of being a woman! To clarify further- it may be more accurate to say fertility is just ONE of the joys of being a woman.... and it goes without saying that this is my opinion!
@@blogilates then, trans woman or infertile woman or simply woman who for health issues don't have the period (not for not eating but other born illness) , aren't joyfull since they don't have period? They can't have joy in being a woman? I'm a cisgender woman, and my period or fertility it's the least of my "joys" and what defines me as a woman...
I get your point of "if you stop having your period suddenly it's a health matter and your health could be at risk so you should worry about it".
No need to bring other stuff
@@paulaguiu4254 let's put the trans issue aside because it is irrelevant. This issue is about women. Not men. All women can be joyful whether or not they can have children or they have periods. However, for many women, having children gives them so much joy. Infertility is a real pain for many women. That shows how much having children is built into a woman's nature. The pain of not being able to have children affirms how having children is a deep desire of many women. It doesn't mean a woman who can't have children is not joyful. And it is certainly not what Cassey is trying to say.
@@jiahui7861 what I basically heard is: a part of your worth/happiness as a woman is defined by having children. Women aren't baby vessels, this has misogyny written all over it
@@skyraven89 my worth/happiness is not defined by having children, but having children will give me unimaginable joy. I think a woman's body (womb, breasts) is created to have and nourish children and I think it is beautiful. It is not misogynistic
Thank you for this. It's so true. Everything should be in moderation
Yeah the mom of my best friend is a nurse and she explaned that this could happen 🤔 so im kinda happy to get my period even if its PAIN. :)
“You lose your period!”
Me having serious PMS and cramps right now: *Go on.*
Same😭🫂
same girl dying rn
LMAOOO SAME 😭😭
....eat less meat perhaps. WhAT you eat has more to do with those cramps than the actual period. You would need to change your diet and eat consistently more veggies.
Biggest reason is literally wgat foods you eat. You can skip periods altogether if you eat too much fiber.
Other reasons may be endometriosus or your uterus is folded over like paper so wgen it swells up during periods it has a lot of pressure. Mind you docs call this normal. In my opinion a folded over uterus being common should not be considered normal healthy.
@@LilyUnicorn That actually makes a lot of sense. I don’t eat that much meat, like at all, but when I’m on my period it feels like a balloon. Even with Tylenol
POV: you’re looking for a comment that isn’t about “the joy of being a woman” 😃
Here you go:
I'm obsessed with programming and I enjoy playing pokemon
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This gets my mom so worried when my sisters and I work out. But we work out like one a month 🤣 it’s good to educate people on it though!
guys Ik a lot of people are attacking her on the whole
“That’s the joy of being a woman” please just know that yeah maybe she could of said it better but it is one of them, raising children, teaching them valuable things and working hard everyday to provide what their children need to know and be taught about
and if u dont want kids that’s totally fine!
But instead of sending a bit of hate to her (no hate to u ofc❤️) you have to realise that a lot of our body features helps the baby to stay alive and that’s a part of life to go through those situations and be the strong woman u r today💪💞
daily rem:
be YOU, their is only one of u in the world so don’t change urself to act like a new person
“The joy of being a women” probably wasn’t the best thing to say in my opinion
Yeah she coould have said it better
y is everyone upset bcs she said tat? i didnt find it to be a problem, is there smth wrong w/ her saying tat?
@@pennygadget5243 it’s because she saying that the joy of being a woman is having children
@@pennygadget5243 other people sometimes think of it in a different context, and i think she can say it more clearly
@@StupidCarts well it is one of the joys whats the problem?
Skinny and I don’t have periods and can’t have kids? Sounds like a pretty solid deal to me😍🥰🤪✨✨✨
And the bone breaking part?
I'm not too old but I haven't gotten mine yet, I don't eat too much and I'm pretty active. My mom was even mentioning how I should've by now, and this kind of worries me. I don't know much at all about this though
Body goes into survival mode. I struggled with ED for about a decade. I only hope that with the hope I've found in efforts to recover that I can reverse the damage
"The joy of being a woman" having kids isn't the only enjoyable thing of being a woman, it honestly kinda pisses me off that that's the thing people think is the most important thing to a woman. Like yes, some woman do care a ton about having kids, but a lot of us don't care about that, we care about following our dreams and doing the best for ourselves. Now I will admit, there are some health issues that come with losing your period and that's why I find this a problem, but don't say woman can't be joyful cause they can't give birth. There are also some women who naturally develop infertility over time and those who are just born without the ability to reproduce so it just kinda sounds like she's saying people who aren't fertile because of just how they are, are less of a woman because they can't give birth.
I don’t even want kids
But for some people being able to give birth is a huge part of the joy of being a woman. Just because it’s not your joy that doesn’t mean it’s not someone else’s.
@@baileysmith2646 They literally pointed out that some women do want kids though???
Birth is something only a woman can do, and periods are needed to achieve that. If you want to talk semantics because she said 'the' instead of 'a', just don't.
@@DeathShiniGama thats not the point dude, she even explained it.
I appreciate you warning young women about infertility, but plenty of women do not want children or cannot have children, and when you say that the joy of being a woman is entirely associated with one's ability to have kids, it's a kick in the throat for anyone who chooses not to or cannot have children.
Thank you for saying this. ❤️ I don't want kids and I felt ashamed for a second, but then saw your comment and many more saying similar. Thank you
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It’s also trans-exclusionary. Plenty of non-binary people and trans men menstruate, that does _not_ make us women.
Don’t you folks ever feel ashamed for not wanting to or not being able to have children.
@@amberchantale_x no.
Bro, I would be the happiest person alive if periods didn't exist.
The joy of being a woman is living a life, however we want, It's not just having kids
I think everyone is taking the 'joy of being a woman' in a different way. I don't think that she is indicating towards motherhood because if you follow Cassey you know how she feels about that matter. She was probably talking about the issues and problems that come up with losing your periods.
No honestly... As much as pain period is... I kinda like it. The spike of hormones... Being extra sensitive during "that time of the month" ahh I enjoy my period ngl. I may not be worried if my period stops but I definitely gonna be sad🙂🙃
that's the problem, equating having a period with being a woman
this one ☝🏻
Exactly! I you are not getting periods then ur Hormones aren't properly functioning. Like Estrogen levels goes down and if ur estrogen levels decreases then the probability of getting osteoporosis increases a lot!
Ngl I would be happy to not have periods...
This happened to me last year, I'm a pretty short girl(149cm) that's why I've always tried to keep my body on the skinnier side, otherwise I'd look like a muffin. But one day my aunt told me I looked like I was getting fat and because of that remark it triggered my insecurities and I hated how I looked. Mind you I was completely healthy weighing in at 43kg, but because I let that stupid remark get to me I started hating myself and worked my ass off to lose the pounds. I remembered getting to the point where I counted my calories, eating at a maximum of 1000 calories, doing 300 squats, 250 push ups and did cardio for 3hrs straight, every single day. I lost my period about 2 months in, weighing at 40kg by that time I couldn't stop, it was like I was consumed by this obsession in losing weight that I failed to notice my period loss, my sunken eyes, and my ribcage showing on my chest and back- at this point I weighed in at the lowest I'd ever been, 36kg. From the begnning of my obsession to the lowest of my weight, I had missed 7 periods and I only stopped when my mom, heartbroken, begged me to stop after I finally told her about the periods that I'd skipped. I had to get therapy after that and now I'm fortunate to say that I've completely recovered🙂. Idk if anyone will read this but I'm just sharing my experience to show other women what really happens to our bodies when we care for it too much. And I hope that you will take care of your body the right way and not like what I did to mine.
I'm the same height as you, this feels unreal😭 But I'm really glad you saw the effects and fixed them. I also lost weight for a similar reason but I was also taking medication that cut my appetite so I would use that as a crutch. Lowest was 37, I'm now back to 45 and trying to reach a homeostasis at around 43 bc that's when I'm at my fittest and healthiest.
Hey I think my case is THE SAME as you.. could u give a few tips on how to recover?
@@tvisha7572 well, for me atleast, the first step to recovery was to recognize that what I was doing to my body was not ok. I think mindset is the key towards any goal, cuz at first I started off just overeating, trying to gain back the pounds, but my mind was in the wrong place, I gained the weight but quickly exercised it all off because again I was too paranoid about getting fat, so really the first thing u need to do is to set your mind straight. Know that what you're planning on doing isn't to get fat, what you're planning to do is to heal your body, to recover from the stress you put it in. Once you've got your mind set, the road to recovery will come naturally.
It's hard to explain this to young women and teens
That's actually pretty scary, I did not know this was an actual thing, and like I'm kind of a sporty person, I dance everyday, and play tennis, and tbh my diet isn't the healthiest. So now everytime my period is late I'm probably gonna freak out that I have this illness, before I wouldn't think much of it cuz there is no way I'm pregnant cuz... I'm a Virgin. But now... new fear unlocked!
THIS IS DANGEROUS AF BC I DONT WANT MY PERIOD SO YOU JUST GAVE ME TIPS ON HOW TO MAKE MYSELF INFERTILE!! Thanks!!
Yeah, the message was a little lost in this video. I get that she wants to give all of the facts but she essentially just said that you can pause the ovulation cycle and restart at a later time...this sounds great for anyone getting closer the menopausal age, you can just delay your last ovulation!
At first I was like "wow sign me in!" then I used my brain
Same
As a former pro swimmer, when I stopped swimming I got my period back, after over a year of not having one. I wasn't underweight, I didn't look anorexic, but I wasn't healthy either with a 7-10% bodyfat content. It's been over a decade now since I stopped swimming, my periods are still irregular and unproductive, because although I ovulate, they won't embed. This part of my womanhood has been destroyed forever. And for what? Some shiny trophies and medals!
I'm so sorry sweetie. I'm really sorry. I can't believe how much it hurts.
The joy of being a women is very subjective. I like how you bring that overexercising and under eating is bad . But losing out on being a women is not equal to having kids
I appreciate the message, but the emphasis on having kids undermines it when plenty of women don't want kids and would love to not have a period. It is important that the emphasis is only about health unless the patient cares about having kids.
👍 💯
So manly
also good to note not all woman who dont desire/can have biological children dont want kids at all. the regular emthises on the idea of not having your own kids would be missing out on motherhood is another thing thats just :/. like yep, def agree it should health focosed unless reproduction is a mentioned concern of the individual.
Well there's a difference in not having kids because you don't want to and totally not being able to have kids even if you might want to
I myself found out recently I was infertile, I was getting irregular periods (3-6 month long periods) so I think that saying not being able to have kids is the worst thing in the world can be a harmful message and make women feel inferior
I actually lost my period too. At that time I was working out for being a professional cyclist but when my period stopped I decided to leave cycling bcs it had become just painful and stressful and bcs I knew that losing my period just bcs I had to be the number it wasn’t worth it (I was also to little to pursue something so unhealthy)
I was in the same situation and tbh only losing my period made me realize that I'm being unhealthy in any way and should start counting calories etc
I wouldn’t say you lose out on being a woman. Many women don’t want kids or can’t have kids for a multitude of reasons. I get your point but I’m getting so tired of equating womanhood to motherhood.
Facts
absolute facts
ya, i don't want to get pregnant, i've always wanted to adopt so i hate periods and it's pointless to me.
Thank you for making this video.
Opinion. It also has risk and a lot of people do stuff when they have low estrogen levels, so they don't cripple
Your point about the dangers of losing your period is completely valid. However please don't make it seem as though joy for women is entirely based on fertility alone. For some, fertility/pregnancy isn't a matter of joy in particular, but merely a means of reproduction. For others it's not a necessity in life at all. One can choose to not have kids and still be considered as much of a woman as others are.
As someone in the comments said already, menstruation isn't a definition of the joy of being a woman at all, if anything it's merely pain that many of us would love to get rid of if health complications could be avoided.
Right, it may be for her, but that doesn't it applies for all
The thing for me is my period IS a health complication for me, I bleed so much I get dehydrated quickly and I get the worse pain and cramps imaginable, I truly feel like I'm dying for a whole week and have been to ers for it. I dry heave and my body tries to throw up when I have nothing in my stomach, and I've thrown up blood one week. If I don't have at least one day where all four of my holes are expelling whatever during my period, something's wrong. I'd give anything to drop them, anything. The pain is unimaginable and I wish this on no one
I didn't even mention my leg cramps and the burning I get, it gets to a point where I can barely walk and I've had to crawl before. It's awful. I want them gone so badly, I have panic attacks when I know it's coming up, which it is in a few days. Please end my misery
@@MartianCandies Hey, please go to the doctor. Also, check for anemia. It’s common on people who lose a lot of bl**d.
@@user-fy6ov3or7j I've told my primary about this multiple times, they had a man, the "head of health", come and tell me my periods are normal. They never have actually listened to me or cared about my conditions, not my primary at least :( And I'm pretty sure I have anemia or maybe low iron since I'm very very cold intolerant, the low 60s are torture for me, and I also get light headed and like black out for a second when I stand up too quickly, it's really really strange. I'm currently trying to find another doctor and get my life together, but hopefully I can find/get a reccomendation for a gyno as well, thank you for caring though
@@MartianCandies That’s why I always go for women when choosing gynecologists! Stay safe and be patient, you will find a good doctor to take care of you. Have a good day too!!
Doctors do warn about this. Most of us literally try to preach healthy lifestyles. But its difficult to deal with as a doctor once the problem sets in, as the solution would be, slow down with your working out. Its a very unfortunate and very common problem for female atheletes. Its even sad people do it just look better as they equate being skinny to being healthy due to very unrealistic beauty standards set by celebrities and society.
I’m so sorry this happened to you
Woah woah! You lost me big time with the “joy of being a woman” garbage. What a big, inaccurate, and insensitive statement. I can’t have children and my life and job has always revolves around female empowerment, the divine feminine, and the power & joy of being a woman…and only a small part of that has to do with having children.
Based on the comments here, I’m not the only one who feels this way. With the platform that you have, I would hope that you would do a little more research or be a little more educated before making such statements. Otherwise it’s a sure fire way to make sure you exclude a huge portion of your customer/fan base.
+1
Same here
That statement alone threw me 100% off
Agreed. I choose to not have my period because I have no desire whatsoever to birth children... I get what she was saying, I think she just chose her words poorly, but it was definitely jarring. Especially considering trans populations or women with medical conditions.
THANK YOU!!!!
Was hoping somebody would say this.
Same- I was thrown off when they said that too
"Lose out on the joy of being a woman" yikes. I have pcos and lost my period for 3 years before finally getting it back. And this mindset of woman=fertility made it so hard for me. I sometimes still panic at the thought of being infertile.
She did not say that woman=fertility, she said that fertility is one, among the many, of the joys of being a woman!
@@briannascroggins3988 exactly!
@@briannascroggins3988 She literally said "you lose the joy of being a woman".
@@briannascroggins3988 she literally did not say that. She said joy of being a woman = being able to have kids
@@totally_a_spy which is totally false :/
I'm 15 and in full time dance training. I have lost my period but I am not under eating. I loooooove food and I have been making sure I'm eating the right diet for all the exercise I'm doing every day. But I'm worried that it won't come back. I haven't had a period for about 5 months.
The joy of being a woman is not problematic. The fact is, we are women and in being women we are female and in being female, unless we have an issue with our bodies, we ovulate and have periods which is about so much more than just fertility although that’s really important
“You miss out on the joy of being a woman”
I don’t want kids, ever. Everyone always tells me “you’ll want kids in the future” but I know I won’t. The joy of being a woman isn’t about giving birth or finding a man for your needs. It’s about loving your job, loving the people around you, and loving your life. Not about making kids.
totally agree. obviously you don't want to lose your period but the concern should be health not ability to have kids
Make another comment, 10000 comments saying the same thing aren't enough lol
ikr??
exactly why do people in this society think that it is an obligation to have children
@@whiskeredshrimp I have no idea
I have pcos, so I don't have periods for literally years at a time. I'm not sure I'm missing out on "the joys of being a women" I'm just trying to survive without being pumped full of drugs daily
How is your bone density doing? Calcium levels are negatively impacted when women lose their period
Eat healthy, more fruits... specially avocado and guava... been pcos ever sins, 5years of infertility... now am 3months pregnant at 33. Give up junk food...
@@LifeinRomblon Yes because eating differently is going to solve this....there are other women too who have PCOS and have children and didn't change their diet.
@@LifeinRomblon it doesn’t change for others so easily . But I’m happy for you
PCOS is secondary condition to insulin resistance.
Me not just watching this cause I lost my period for 4 months!!! 🥲💀
This. Thank you Cassey for putting this out here. Happened to me years ago
"The joy of being a women" we aren't reproductive machines-
There are many different things to make you feel the "joy of being a women" yes having children can be one, but others (including me) would disagree.
So happy all the other comments are talking bout this line :D
browski that wasn’t the point of this. it’s one of the joys a woman or person CAN have is what she meant. u don’t need to have kids but even if u don’t if you lost ur period than your un healthy. that doesn’t change
Girl I think you kind of missed the point. There is nothing wrong with being happy that we can reproduce I personally can’t wait to be a mom😁There are so many joys of being a woman youre right try not to overanalyze her words so much
@@mojokombue4463 Ok but I'm saying that people, like yourself, may like to have children, but it's not for every women out there. It can be a joy for certain individuals but the person in the video should not have said it is the main joy of a women.
@@homura_akemi Ok I can totally understand and I agree with you. I think I may have misinterpreted what you said a little. Maybe she could have emphasized that is one of the joys instead of referring to it as the only joy of being a woman.
Yall so damn snowflakes really
Her: “if you don’t have your period you lose out on the joy of being a woman”
Me: oh no 💀 *heads straight to comments*
Edit: y’all are starting a war in the comments my point is that i know people are going to be mad about this so I wanted to see the comments and I wrote this comment because it’s relatable. And in my opinion having baby’s or a baby is not the joy of being a woman. some people don’t want babies or it’s not going to make them happier and some people do and that’s fine. so please calm down. someone also said that only woman can have babies and it’s not something to shame or make fun of and I’m literally not shaming or making fun of anything please calm down I was just trying to make a funny relatable comment.
Edit 2: hey!!!
lol same 💀
Same bro 💀
Same!! She can’t say that
Oh shit-
Same
Lost my period for 1 year. I’m 16 and I was dealing with body image. I’m not overweight. I deal with body dismorphia. Struggled for 2 years trying to lose weight and look as skinny as possible so when people see me they say I’m skinny. Lost my period at the age of 15. I was over exercising and under eating, 1000 cals. After losing my period I didn’t care I just wanted to be skinny. It’s so stupid and harmful what the communities has taught us. I learned growing up that if I was skinny I was beautiful and that’s stupid.
Amen. Periods are annoying but it is part of what makes a woman amazing. You got this!