Doctor Reacts: Irish Catholic Sex Ed is SHOCKING
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- Опубліковано 21 вер 2024
- Shocking....ly good, okay. Yeah, I baited you. But, come on - it's a fun video with some great learning points. This 1980s Irish Catholic Sex Ed is about more than my stupid post-call doctor mood could handle today (sorry for all the pauses and silly edits, it's overall a decent video!). Since (most of) you lvoed the Christian sex ed video, I thought we'd throw it back to some 80s Irish Catholicism for the sequel. And honestly? It’s shockingly good. Almost as good as the retro fashion & creepy dolls. Love you, Angela!
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We had a 'sex ed' class in my Catholic confirmation class where some woman took out a $100 bill, asked who wanted it and then spit/stomped on it and asked who wanted it then, comparing it to having many partners. I told her I still wanted the money because it was still $100 - she did not give it to me
Oof. At least it was an object that holds value. In our public school in IN, we as females got compared to gum and “once it’s chewed, no one wants chewed gum”
Hahah. You should have promised to give it as tithe.
When was this? Honestly, I think sex ed went backwards by leaps and bounds in the 1990s to about 2015.
Good for you! And that's honestly ridiculous that anyone would think stepping on money diminishes its value. What's the point of picking up a coin then?
You did right. I left Catholicism when I was 13 when I was expected to make the sacrament of Confirmation. I had too many unanswered questions and it felt inauthentic to me to confirm something I couldn't fully believe in or understand.
@@sharonfleshman6961 it would have been around 2012 I think
Despite being a non-religious person, I actually really appreciated her “it sounds a bit weird, but it really is quite lovely, because that’s how god made it” like, yeah, this is normal, it’s supposed to happen, and importantly, it’s supposed to feel good (or *quite lovely* to be specific). It’s such a sweet and unshameful way to talk about it.
I really appreciated that she took the approach that sex was designed by God, but didn't go into shaming sex outside of marriage.
And to have a sex ed video mention that sex feels good! I had decent comprehensive sex ed and I don't think that was ever mentioned. It's such a refreshing take to see sex being taught as a positive thing.
I am a Christian raised by Christians and I really appreciate that sex itself was never considered a shameful thing, it is considered an important part of building marriages, and "purity" is really about commitment and focus, not purely whether or not you're having sex. In fact, it's a tradition among our churches to have a special shower and counseling shortly before weddings to prepare the spouses, let them ask questions that might not be helpful when they're trying to practice abstinence, and set them up to transition.
Sigh. This sex ed video made me sad.
@@rheron3312 How so?
It's nice that such an effort was made to detach from the traditional Catholic view that sex is evil and even having it with your marriage partner can be sinful. The grandmotherly voice, so soft and gentle, was also really sweet and lovely :)
I love the sudden switch from “they hold each other really close” to “the man feels his penis becoming erect”. Like here’s this sweet grandma and then just this sudden switch of language. I know it’s a sex ed video, but tha so caught me off guard😂😂😂
Same. I was like "eeh, that escalated quickly"
I was a teacher for 40 years,and when my youngest son was 6 he had chicken pox. My aunt came to look after him , and put the TV on in my bedroom for him and went downstairs . When I came home he said, "" I know how babies are really made . I changed the tv channel to one which broadcast programmes for schools. I watched 10 twenty minute programmes on the facts of life for Secondary Schools to watch and record . I even videoed the programmes for you. It was all very interesting. "" This was jist before you could buy videos !
If I was the kid listening to this I'd get RELLY worried about people hugging me
@@user-yh8li2tm8g Right… And the picture in the background is just the couple innocently holding each other on their wedding day. Like, I would be freaked out that I couldn’t hug anyone because they would automatically get sexually excited 😬
Right?? it feels something like, oh, they are talking and eating cake together then she goes on all four.
The sentence "Don't skirt around and than just dive in, you're gonna freak them out", sounds like good sex advice on its own 😂😂
Ahhh soooo many times - an old Aussie joke goes:
What’s an Aussie bloke’s idea of foreplay? …
Punchline:
“You awake?”
I'm 5 months pregnant through artificial insemination. I've babysat 3 boys for about 5 years and when their mom told them I was pregnant, the middle one was like "but she doesn't have a boyfriend OR a husband." Their mom explained that I bought the sperm, which they understand as the boy half, and the doctor inserted it. They just stared at her and then asked where one buys sperm, and if I got it off Amazon 😂
That sounds less like a failure of understanding the mechanics [though depending on their age that too is possible] and more like not quite having been taught the variety of possibilities of family formation and what can be done to mitigate the challenges of doing things alone. They probably don't need to know that for a few years. Or maybe they just need more teaching on how the economy works and just how many things can be had for money. Whether it will ever be available online, maybe. IF it were a big enough market Amazon would already be trying to monopolize it.
That is such a cute story, can be a private joke with you and your baby. After your child is old enough to know everything they will know how much you wanted them. Best advice I can give all new moms is from my mothers actions. We had hard times with my parents breaking up when I was two but my mom taught me what love was and how it was unconditional. She could let you know she was disappointed in your actions without you ever worrying she didn't love you. I passed that on to my three kids all in their 30's now. Mom died of cancer in 2017 but spent 6 months living with my wife and I. She died in our arms knowing she was loved. Parenting is a balancing act, you are not your kids friends.
Only with express delivery
artificial insemination is a Mortal sin...
@@lunarlad8075 some people can’t get pregnant with their partner because they are infertile. Some people don’t want a partner but want a baby or to carry one. There should be many options to have or get a child. That may not be for you. But it can make a huge difference for someone else.
"If they're old enough to ask, they're old enough to get an answer." LOVE THAT! I have strived to have a sex positive household with my two little boys and have always answered any questions they have and, honestly, it hasn't been awkward at all. It's only uncomfy if you MAKE it uncomfy, folks! Love your content, MDJ!
I do the same. I did have to have a awkward conversation with my son about masturbating. I had a side effect from the same medication he was put on, that made me hyper sexual. So we made a time before he started taking it, to talk about the side effect and how he should take care of it. Then we all had a laugh about how I passed out after sex and drooled on Dad. It turned out fine.
When my daughter was young I truly wanted to be open and honest about sex with my child. One day she asked where she came from so I gave her age appropriate information about conception. After I was done I asked if she had any questions. She just looked at me with her sweet brown eyes and said "I just wondered if I was from Nevada like my brother" I still laugh at myself over that.l😂😂😂😂
@@rustynails8756 That's hilarious hahaha
I agree.
I live pretty much by that rule and I get upset with my parents when they try to turn everything into this fairytale thing about when two people love each other God will give them the baby because I don't want my kids to grow up and think that I lied to them so for the most part I tell them the truth
I am currently pregnant and my 5 year old asked how the doctors were going to get the baby out of my belly. She thought I would vomit the baby up, which actually makes a lot of sense. But I explained vaginal birth and c sections. I showed her a simple diagram of the baby inside and I said that little tube is where the baby will come out of and I kid you not she said “that’s too small for the baby to come out” 😂
as a kid, I assumed all births were c-sections because it was incomprehensible to me how the baby would come out otherwise lol, it never occurred to me that there were births before there were doctors
Lol. Cute! My three year old at the time didn’t question it. It’s been about seven months since her baby brother was born and she still talks about when I went to the hospital and the doctors took the baby out. We had told her that I was going to the hospital to have the baby and she was like, okay sure whatever bye hi grandma!
My mom just told me labor was like pushing out a baby sized turd, so until I learned the vagina existed (age 10) I assumed babies came out of your rectum
I've always told my son that I pushed him out when he was born and his first response, naturally, was to say "oh, like poo?" (He was 3 at the time) and I said "it's like poo but instead of coming out of my butt, you came out of my vagina". He already knew what that was (he called it a bagina) but he just thought a vagina was when you didn't have a penis. He's 4 now and a few days ago he saw a calf being born and was so concerned that the mama cow was getting "ouched". I was kind of worried he'd be scared to see that happen but he just kept telling the mama that she was a good mama and "you be okay, mama, you feel better" 🥺
Anyway, he keeps asking when I'll poop out another baby 😅
@@norawin Apparently many non-human animals actually have little to no pain while giving birth. It does depend on the species, but for animals that give birth to much smaller babies (in relation to mom's body size), they can slip them right out with little to no pain. One of the more obvious reasons childbirth is so painful for us is because of the size of human infant heads in relation to the vaginal canal (probably due to how large our brains are). But there's apparently another reason it's so painful for us...when we evolved to walk upright on two legs as opposed to four, our pelvises narrowed and so did our birth canal. And there's a joint between our pelvic bones that bipedalism constrained to make it less flexible...Add the fact that we have one of the longest labor times compared to a lot of animals...and yeah, it sucks.
Considering this is a religious sex ed video, I’m pretty impressed with how relatively straight forward the narrative was. Especially, about laughing with your partner and learning each other’s bodies. Her voice has a very nurturing tone too.
Right? I did not expect her to basically say "It's ok to be awkward your first few times. No pressure... for either of you."
Same. The idea it was something for you and your partner and that it was okay to communicate comfort was great. She also was very gentle, albeit abrupt, about the facts of what it was.
Her voice would make me fall asleep
That's because it's from Europe.
Apparently as a toddler / young child I asked my parents how babies were made. They told me "sex" and I asked more questions. When they explained the functionality of it, I insisted that such a medical procedure must require the couple to go to the hospital to perform, just like giving birth (which they had explained was usually done in a hospital). While I have no memory of this conversation, they have never let me live it down.
Thats so fucking funny oh my god 😭 honestly fair enough sksndkdk
I thought the same thing when I first learned about it, although I never said it out loud
Our counter to the hospital necessity, "So, when are you going to hospital to eat, pee, poop or breathe? All are equally technically invasive procedures. Most bodily functions don't require special interventions in the hospital - usually, when they do, something went a bit wrong and thankfully, that's rare".
There's the "but why" stage in most children's lives, where every answer gets "but why" when provided. I learned to ask which bit the "but why" was being asked about. Then, I'd go into detail.
Entertainingly, once both decided to go in tandem on why the sky was blue, a bit of pushing and testing going on, coupled with curiosity. Suffice it to say, I can speak quite intelligently on physics and chemistry (well, other than organic chemistry, which can get a bit intense (such as, oh, protein folding). So, during that protracted excursion into physics, they pushed and pushed "but why?", so they got a master class in atomic theory, electron shells, a brief dabble in quantum energy levels of said electron shells, adsorption, refraction, a brief touch of Balmer lines, our atmospheric composition with specifics regarding nitrogen, which overall is why the sky ends up blue. Lead to a delayed bedtime, which was entertaining, given the conversation began toward the end of dinner.
They learned a few important life lessons. First, precisely why the sky is blue and second, if you ask Dad, he'll tell you to excruciating detail upon request.
Leaving Mom to answer the simpler questions and Dad for the science homework and harder questions.
Something that held true a bit past our eldest's year and a half post RN degree and certification, with both patient care, practices and conditions she was unfamiliar with. And of course, with the first grandchildren. The first two being extremely colic suffering and I was the only family member that could keep them content.
Because, doctor fouled up with the first grandchild, but got the diagnosis correct on the second, their colic being reflux driven and eventually outgrown.
This reminds me that when I was young I was trying to understand how babies were made and I suggested "love glue" parents never let me live it down
“If your kid is old enough to ask the question, they’re old enough to have an answer.” THAT’S BRILLIANT, and applies to so many topics besides sex ed. It doesn’t mean they need the full medical textbook explanation, but they can get a dose of information to satiate their curiosity. I think kids are far smarter and more perceptive than a lot of adults are willing to give them credit for, and your method ensures they keep their curiosity and enthusiasm for learning new things.
plus it incourages the child to come to their parents for the answer.
Though for me, I grew up in a house where there was a new baby every 2 years or so, (extended fam two) and I never thought to ask about where they came from. Like I was like, yeah, there's a baby again, Mum and Dad both made it but idk and idc
It makes me laugh that she essentially implies that the man slips it in once, deposits the sperm, and then slips out and it's over 🤣
That made me chuckle too lol, if sex was that boring no one would ever do it.
Right? 😆 Sounds like a 3 second exchange of goods.
that was the visual i had based on how my mom explained sex too. i didn't find out otherwise until i came across the (semi-)scrambled porn channel and boy was i in for a shock lol
When my husband and I got married, we had to go to pre-Cana classes. This is exactly what we were told is making love. Thankfully we had more knowledge than that.
@@dietotaku oh yikes, to go from that visual to porn?? Oh no 🤣 that must have been so jarring
"Would ya like that?" is much less creepy when you realize it's a cultural thing. It's just a way of saying "we're moving on". Similar to the Irish saying "is that okay?". "That'll be €5, is that ok?" They're not actually asking if it's okay. It's just a holder statement like "um". 😂
😆 ah, interesting - it’s incredibly disconcerting without context.
Thanks for the much needed context 😭😭
@@MamaDoctorJones i disagree, it is still disconcerting even with the context. Angela just has an unsettling manner. she could read the phone book and still make it creepy
Came here to say the same thing - took some time to get used to when I was studying there. Also people asking "ya okay?" when I was next up in line (aka the queue) ordering a coffee. They're not asking if you're okay, they're asking if you're ready to order.
It might be a cultural things, but they should at least acknowledge that not everyone would know what it means - and therefore shouldn't be in there
When we had sex-ed we started with boys and girls seperate, but the twist was that the girls had to draw a diagram of the male genitalia and answer questions about them and the boy did the same for the female genitalia. Then we got back together and talked about it. This way we felt much saver to ask questions
That's actually an amazing way to do it. Could never, _ever_ be in a red state...
I'd have done badly on that because I can't draw. (Also, I'm gay.)
@@qwertyTRiG we were 13/14, everyone did poorly
@@lullustration5775 Thus, the point. It's a conversation starter that breaks the ice in a natural way.
our 8th grade sex ed icebreaker was having us split into groups and come up with "words for private parts". we all had long lists of dirty words and silly slang (and a few anatomical terms), all of which the teacher then wrote on the whiteboard. there was a lot of laughter, but it did make us a little more comfortable
I really loved the little instant correction from "everybody" to "*most* everybody will have it". I'm not even asexual or anything myself but still I do appreciate so much how inclusive you always are
Yes I loved that too, I am asexual :) Was looking for a comment about this.
Ace here. Much appreciated. Thank you for knowing we exist.
I am ace too :)
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I'm actually pretty impressed with how detailed the video was. You don't normally see sex ed from a Christian perspective go into so much detail, especially with how it describes sex as something that's completely normal and is supposed to be a pleasurable experience for both partners. Good on the people who made the video for being as open and honest and reassuring as they were. Sure, there were definitely areas that could have been improved, but it's a welcome change from normal Christian sex ed (or lack thereof).
It's the slight difference between traditional Catholic perspective and traditional protestant perspective. Catholicism has shifted through the past 2000 years without changing its teachings, where as most protestants, instead of focusing on teachings, focus on perspectives. So the modern protestants changed their perspectives and teachings, while the traditional protestants kept their outdated perspective which taints their true teachings. Basically a true Catholic remembers God is love, and so everything that concerns him should be approached and taught with love. I hope I haven't pushed you away from Christianity with these words. The main thing I want you to take away from this is that God loves you, and I hope the Christian community hasn't failed you, by sending a message of hate.
@@thomascummings8547Catholicism didn't exist 2000 years ago. It began existing only after they split from the original, Orthodox faith, which happened about 1000 years ago because the catholics strayed way too much from the original beliefs. (Like they began idolatrizing Jesus and put less importance in the father and the holy spirit, they began using statues to represent holy figures which was outright blasphemy in the eyes of orthodox people, and so on) What I wanted to say is that Catholicism is not the traditional Christian faith. It's the most popular form of Christianity today however. (From last I checked)
@@radudaniel7136 Actually, the Catholic church has been around since the beginning of Christianity. It just wasn't called "Catholic" in the beginning. Your faith has also been around since the beginning, it just wasn't called "Orthodox." In the earliest time of the church the followers of Jesus were called followers of "The Way." Then while Paul was evangelizing the Greeks the Greeks called them the "Christians" to help distinguish them from the non-practicing Jews of that time. The church was united under the same pope for many centuries under many different cultures and traditions. Many of the cultures of the faith are still recognized today. But then after the councils of Nicea and the Nicene creed, which were meant to unify the whole church body against the Arian Heresy, the Orthodox Church began to disagree with what was being said. They didn't believe in Arianism, that wasn't the problem. They disagreed with the change to the apostle's creed which was meant to clarify the belief of the Trinity. The change was to reaffirm the relationship between the Father and the Son to defend against the Arians, and to further affirm the role and relationship of the Holy Spirit. The Orthodox Fathers of the time believed the change was unnecessary and inaccurate. They believed the Holy Spirit comes only from the Father and has a different relationship to the Son. Then all the feuding came in over the next 7 centuries until the great Schism about 1000 years ago. There was a miscommunication from a messenger of the Pope stating that the Orthodox Fathers was being Excommunicated. And the Orthodox Fathers decided to leave and name a new man from their tradition to be the Pope, even though the current Pope was still alive. This is when the single church was split into two. I personally believe that the Catholic Pope is the true heir of Peter's leadership, considering the Orthodox church didn't start their own line of Antipopes until they decided not to comply to who the current pope was. Their denial of the Pope's authority is what makes me believe that the Catholic church is truly and historically the fullness of the faith. I do not reject that the Orthodox tradition has existed since the beginning! There were many Apostles who evangelized many cultures at the same time after all. But I disagree that they are in the full practice of the Christian faith until they rejoin the Roman Pope. God Bless You, and please pray for me that I may come to know and understand my Lord more and more!
I love the inclusion of changing saying 'everybody' to 'most every body will do it'. Thank you for welcoming all experience/choices into this space.
As an ace with zero interest, I greatly appreciated this, too
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@@MamaDoctorJones I noticed and appreciated the self-correction in the video, but it feels even better that you not only acknowledged, but also responded with the ace color hearts to this thread! As another ace, I know it makes me so happy. Thank you for being inclusive!
same 🖤🩶💜
I worked with a woman who was Irish and no one had ever told her or her twin about periods, so one day her twin when on holiday was wearing white trousers and started her period and they both panicked and cried, they thought she was dying :( it made me so sad
We had a case of this in my middle school class (1980 Oklahoma). The poor girl was terrified!
Yeah, I've heard a lot of similar stories too (not about Ireland, just in general from that time), for example how some girls thought they must've hurt themselves when playing/climbing cycling and "broke" something "down there" and so many people laugh but I think that this must be horrifying
My mother told me the same thing about herself in 50s England. She ran home and her mother showed her what to do about it and told her in future not to sit on mens laps 😆. Also she was engaged before work colleagues told her how babies are made. I told this story to an elderly neighbour around '89 who replied "that's nothing. I was in hospital waiting for my first child to come out my belly button". She was serious.
Same for my mom, she was only 9 years old. She thought she was dying, and her mom wasnt the warm and cuddly kind on top of it.
I could not imagine how terrifying that would be. I feel lucky I have a mom who educated me about it before I got my first one. I remember where we were when she told me about periods, and it was such a nonchalant thing the way she talked about it. I was somewhere around 8-10 at the time? and all she really told me was that the bleeding happens and you can use pads to catch the blood. Got my first period at 11, so worked out. I'm pretty sure my elementary school didn't give the mandatory puberty lesson until I was closer to 12, so yeah.
My daughter was around age 4 when my sister had her first baby. My daughter was amazed that there was a baby inside her aunt. She asked me how it got in there. I told her the daddy put it in there. That satisfied her and off she went. So a few weeks later my daughter was spending the afternoon with a friend of mine. There was a pregnant woman on the tv. My daughter told my friend That lady has a baby in her belly. My friend said Yes, she does. To which my daughter replied "My Daddy put it in there." So her daddy was responsible for all the pregnancies in the world. My friend told me this and we had an almost pee laugh about it. I did clear up that bit of confusion about the daddies.
My eldest son used to call all men Daddy when he was about 1 1/2 - 2 years old. I had to explain so many times that it made sense to me! Every man he had ever spent time with was called Dad or Daddy. By me (to my dad) by his friends & cousins (to their dad's) and by him to his own dad.
So by the power of a 18 month old's deduction it made sense that all men were called Dad!
Hahaha this is so funny 😂 Reminded me that before starting school, my little sister used to think that every family had a mum who was a teacher and a dad who worked in a bank because our parents, her best friend's parents (family friends) and my maternal grandparents had these exact same jobs 😂😂
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Awwww! Lol!
That's pretty stinking cute!
Nooo hahahah😭
I once asked my mom about how children were made when I was 12, she said "You already know, you learned it at school" my school told me my parents would explain it. When I said I didn't know how children were made, and no one told me, my friend just ended up telling me weird, untrue things like "You cut your stomach open and put it there!" and looking back it was... interesting.
It always felt hilarious, as a big kid of, say, 11, giving little kids of like 6 or 7 totally false sex info.
You look young in your photo but I remember in 70s England hearing adults saying things like "you can't teach kids anything about sex today. They learn everything about sex at school". The only sex education we got was a science lesson ( which parents could remove their children from) explaining conception. I happened to be sick that day but was told it was "the man's penis becomes erect and deposits his sperm which fertilises the ova". No mention of marriage, relationships, potential emotions triggered by sex, contraception or homosexuality. The only other thing we had was a video on venereal diseases (S.T.I.s) as they were then known. So if I had relied on school for information sex was something to make babies that you could catch terrible diseases from. Very enlightened. Not.
Kinda same goes for me
Noone ever mentioned me how it's done
I've learned it by watching porn
And how I discovered it exists?
In school of course
I didn't have friends, but you pick up stuff anyway
@@theender664same
I was brushing my teeth when Angela said “do you like that?” annnnnd toothpaste everywhere. Best laugh I’ve had all week!
My nephew came to me asking about miscarriages. I gave him the vague basics and he was content with that. Children need the info. They don't need to be hurt by misinformation.
My 4yo niece asked me how the baby gets out. My own kids I tell the truth but I knew my SIL. She said magic.
Come on dude, at least just say, through birth.
Perfect answer. 👏
@@megwyn1611 my nephew is a rainbow baby. His mother had a miscarriage before him, it was early weeks, she was not aware, etc. He recently lost his great grandmother, so he wanted to know what happened to the body of the baby. I let him know in the kindest, most medically precise way, that the body felt no pain, and dissolved.
How did you like that voiceover? Should I start a new side gig? 😂Sorry for all the interruptions, I just absolutely could not hold in my idiot humor this time. Overall this video is approved. 😂
All these years and you are still apologizing for being goofy 🤣
It'd be great if you did a basic video to start the talk for sex Ed. Many parents would love that. Also a video about puberty for girls, & what they can expect would be great.
@@carag2567 hahaha I know. Someone once screenshot a Reddit comment of someone complaining about my annoying “I’m a quirky mom” persona.
Unfortunately no, seeming extroverted on camera is a persona, but the being weird part is real. 😂
I loved the silly interruptions lol. Great video!
9/10, just needed more Irish 😂
Teaching kids the real names of their body parts is so important in case something awful happens. I read somewhere a teacher saying her student told her that a relative licked her "cookie," and the teacher didn't know that "cookie" was what the child was taught to call their vulva. Terrifying.
As I childcare worker that would be horrifying to learn that I had not been able to understand a child properly in that kind of situation. Lucky most of the kids I care for(2y/o) seem to have been taught the proper names for things(which is of course reinforced when it comes up while they’re at daycare), it seems to be becoming a lot more common to teach the proper names early.
Absolutely! I've learned the same throughout my education in child development and mandated reporter training as a teacher, so it's been a priority for me to teach my kids correct anatomical names.
This happened in the depositions the Duggar daughters gave when their brother molested them. They all referred to the general area as "private parts" and the backside "the bottom". No distinction between, say, bum cheeks and anus, nor any differentiation between any of the outer or inner parts of the vulva, vagina or urethra. Poor kids. How could they even articulate what happened to them when there were no words to describe it?? Broke my heart.
Until my mom's friend's daughter who mind you is younger than me told me it was called a vagina I had no idea. I was around 10 probably when i was told this. My mom always just referred to it as my private parts. But for some reason penis was okay to say. Beyond me. I will inform my future child of the proper names for body parts.
...why do people feel the need to give body parts food euphemisms?
I asked my mother what the hardest part of raising me was after watching this because I remember being very curious about pregnancy and how babies were made (I had a younger sibling be born when was five). She said that the hardest question she ever answered for me was "How does gas make the car go?" Which I feel just really accentuates how easy it is to explain sex to kids when you don't approach it shamefully
While I was in the 6th grade in a public school (USA), one of the instructors for the Sex ED course asked us why we thought women's hips widened as they aged. Nobody raised their hand except me because I knew the answer. As a shy kid, I said my answer very quietly. I said, "Da baby?" and got it right. Funniest thing ever and I can't let it go.
Didyeh ever get anything else right?
I was called by the elementary social worker drilling me about why my daughter knew about a penis and vagina...my husband and I have always been open and honest, answered questions and asked questions of our daughter and have never made sex dirty. I told the social worker not to discourage her when she uses proper names for body parts, ever. Thank you for your videos from a nurse mom.
I wish a responsible adult had taught me about my own anatomy instead of leaving me to seek that information out online. While I wouldn't say I was scarred by anything I saw, I was definitely exposed to fetish content when I was much too young because I just didn't know what I was looking at. And then an uncle wound up taking the fall for it because no one thought I would have been looking at that stuff on grandma's computer
K, first, I'm concerned about the prude who called social services. Second, I'm concerned about the social worker who thought this was a serious enough concern to make a report. A _kindergartner_ should know about penises and vaginas. 🙄
Proper names are important that way if god forbid they have to tell about someone touching them they aren't talking about their "flower" or their "ore" or whatever you call it lol
@@Stephanie-ju6jw seriously. Studies show kids who are taught proper names for anatomy from a young age are less likely to be targeted
My husband is a retired police officer now and he too reported cases involving children and adults that apply didn't know the names of their own body parts caused problems in court. The same daughter in elementary school I was called about was raped by her boyfriend and she used proper names during her interview and when she spoke with the prosecutor....in the end he went to prison, released and reoffended and went back to prison. Still haunts us all.
Our family has always believed in answering questions as they are asked, but my mom loves telling the story about how when my son was a preschooler, he said, "Grandma, tell me about sex." Thankfully, she answered something like, "Um, what would you like to know?" because he responded, "I know about four and five, but what about six?"
Well, 6 is afraid of 7 because 7 8 9.
Had a kid at work tell his grandpa he wanted to play "sex" and it took a few clarifying questions to get that he meant "chess."
That's right in there with the child who asked, "Where did I come from?"
Mom gives him the explanation about daddy and mommy, etc., then asks, "Did that answer your question?"
"Well, not really," he says. "Johnny told me he came from Chicago, and I was wondering where I came from."
😂 I just burst out laughing
@@LarryEArnold that joke is both a classic in terms of humor, but also great parenting advice! As in, answer the question the kid actually asked, not what you as the grownup *thought* the kid asked.
That’s it, calling doing a poo “doing the big job” forever 🤣
I have to say that Irish lady’s voice is incredibly soothing
Honestly I was waiting for someone to say that.
Honestly, I just hear Mrs Doubtfire 😂
Her voice is so lovely. I could listen to her all day!
I had my wisdom teeth out this week and it hurt like a menace to laugh…but when she said “ do the big job,” I lost it
Most of my sex ed came from books, or my parents. I once checked a book out from the library when I was around 11, and it turned out to be a teen pregnancy story. I immediately told my mom and asked her if I could keep reading it. (Former gifted kid. I was reading above grade level.) She said yes, and to come to her if I had any questions. My parents have had this attitude for pretty much everything. I’m 26 now, and I firmly believe that answering questions (and making space for your kids to ask them) is how we encourage communication and discourage misinformation.
And I really hope North Carolina stops teaching sex ed as “here’s every STD you can possibly get and all the bad things they can do to you” because that’s literally all I remember being taught. I’m pretty sure there were pictures.
Especially in the age of the internet, it's so important that kids are getting the right information. Because who knows what they'll find on the internet. There are plenty of good sources, but there's also a lot of bad ones. I personally learned a lot of things riding the bus to school when I was in middle school. And the younger kids are to going to be vulnerable to misinformation from the older kids.
And yes, it's so important for your kids to feel like they can ask you questions to encourage good communication.
Darn I live in a different southern state, and we still have those outdated abstinence only curriculums. WHY DO PEOPLE PUT A STIGMA AROUND SEX!? IT'S THE REASON HUMANS EVEN FRICKING EXIST RIGHT NOW!
@@haji2nd444 cause it’s easier for the very religious to write people off as sinners than it is to acknowledge that
A. It’s a natural thing that we literally have to do to reproduce and
B. That not teaching appropriate sex ed is actually more harmful to teenagers than teaching them real sex ed
@@elise85391 it's weird how people still shut down questions like that even today.
Just thinking "oH lEtS pUt ThIs uNnEcEsSaRy StIgMa ArOuNd RePrOdUcTiOn"
@@haji2nd444 And in some ways I can kind of see where PARTS of their worry about destigmatizing it comes from, in regards to STIs. But if you just teach them about risks and prevention methods I don't think it would be as bad as they think it will be.
Also, lets be real (even though it's not right) so much of that stigma falls on girls, and they don't have to care about that. Bc again it's easier to say "keep your legs shut" than it is to hold men accountable too. Bc it literally takes two people, yet only one of them is ever crucified for it.
Unfortunately, the sex ed taught in my Catholic middle school was far, far below this standard. It was separated by gender, and the boys learned not only nothing about what intercourse is, but also nothing whatsoever about female sexual anatomy. This was somehow followed up by even worse “sex ed” in high school, where it was almost literally “if you have sex you will get an std and die.”
We *need* better sex education in schools. Thank you for your amazing work in spreading awareness about this.
Yeah I never found out what the boys learned at my Catholic school but we learned all about STDs (symptoms and transfer mechanisms but not how to prevent them, just never have sex, you know), pregnancy stages and all that crap, and I think we spent a whole month talking about hormone levels with regards to menstruation cycles but nothing about actually dealing with menstruiation, PMS or cramps, because god forbid we talk about pads and tampons, heating pads and when to see the doctor if your cramps are debilitating. I wish I'd known about menstrual cups a decade before an older friend told me about them. I'm not sure if the guys learned anything of import, one of them said out loud in class in my last year of high school, "I'm safe from STDs, my gf is on the pill, so that means a doctor has looked up her." Granted, he WAS an idiot in general so I'm not sure how much of that cringeworthy exchange could be blamed on the school...
We did have one teacher who tried hard to actually educate us, she was bound by her contract/school curruculum not to allow us to learn certain things so she got in a Guest Instructor to answer all our questions when she left us alone. Unfortunately we were all so uninformed about anything that we had no idea what to even ask.
Yo same and I was in a non catholic public school. 3rd and 5th grade we were separated and the girls went to learn about how horrible it is to give birth and what your period is and all the details nobody wants to know at that age like the diameter of the vagina during birth. I have no idea what the boys learned but it definitely had nothing to do with female anatomy cause even in adulthood some of them are freaked out by periods and don't know that female organs exist.
UNLESS YOU HAD BIOLOGY CLASS, WE WERE 14 WHEN WE WERE TOLD ONLY SIT ON A BOYS LAP IF YOU HAVE A PHONE BOOK UNDER YOU AND THAT WAS IT! LMAO
@Reghan “鹤骄” still isn't best to fear monger kids into abstinence instead of teaching them about reproductive health, consent, etc. Plus most STDs aren't deadly, syphilis, HIV, and hepatitis can be deadly but we have found ways to treat them. Not cure, but treat. Plus some forms of hepatitis can be spread non sexually through blood contact. The more common STDs are by no means deadly and easily treatable with antibiotics.
It just sucks we weren't taught the difference, nor the signs of them. They were just used as a scare tactic.
You forgot the part, "if you have sex you will go th hell." All in all, this old film, was much better than I thought it would be.
"It can be many bad things, if taken out of the context of consent."
I appreciate this a lot as a victim of CSA and someone with a severe phobia of pregnancy. I especially like how you phrased it carefully to avoid using triggering language in a video where that's not the focus
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What is CSA?
@@ZK-ib2wp Child- Sexual Assault
Aww, sorry that happened to you! No child deserves that. ☹
She is always SO good with her language in her videos. I’ve not been offended by a single thing she’s said in all the videos I’ve watch. As a CSA survivor myself, thanks for that Doc. 💜
Actually, for a video of the time and considering how controlled by the Catholic Church we were for so long, this isn’t half bad. I did know many girls as well as boys growing up who had no idea of sex because it wasn’t taught at all in some schools, or depending on the teacher you got. I was pretty lucky, both my parents and teachers talked about it and neither made it awkward or about religion. We’ve come very far since the abortion referendum though and from what I hear from my brothers when it comes to their kids, it’s definitely taught better than it used to.
I agree- this is how I wish religions taught sex. Like, feel free to teach that sex is only to be shared in marriage if that's what you believe- but your kids are going to need to know how it works once they're married! Keeping them in the dark only makes it more tempting, and has them make worse choices because they don't really understand.
It’s literally better than the sex Ed I got like 4 years ago, and I live in a multicultural developed society…
It's been found that kids that get sex ed are less likely to end up as a teen pregnancy. As MamaDoctorJones said answer their questions truthfully.
I was homeschooled (don't judge me! I was very sick and couldn't go to a regular school), so my mom was the one who taught me about sex ed, and I personally think she did a very good job. We're Catholic, but she didn't skirt around anything. Sex is a good thing. A normal thing. I personally don't like it (some might call me asexual, but I don't like labels and feel better not calling myself that, so I just be myself), but for most people, it is a good, normal, beautiful thing, and I like how you said that parents should talk to their kids about sex ed as they grow. I think that's a very good approach to it.
Did homeschooling leave you socially maladjusted?
@@RaptorFromWeegee Uh, no. There are these things called co-ops where other homeschool kids will go to classes together for maybe one or two days a week and we're able to socialize through that. There are also events just for kids who are homeschooled. Group field trips, ice cream socials or picnics, heck, their are even homeschool proms! Homeschool kids still get socialization. The idea of us being socially isolated and maladjusted is incredibly misinformed.
@@mikaelacash3791 you seem normal and cool to me and I do call myself asexual or maybe you can say that you don't have the calling to marriage. :) Which is cool.
@@lemurlover7975 I appreciate you saying that! And yes, that is typically what I say. That I don't have a calling for marriage. Which, as you said, is cool! My aunt feels the same way as I do about relationships and decided that her calling was to be a religious sister instead. I looked at that route and determined it wasn't for me, but there are plenty of valid life paths for people who don't have that nature urge for sex.
Genuinely this was so much better than I feared. Promotion of communication, the idea that sex is done by two people, not one person doing it to another, the idea that it can be fun for both partners, biological terminology for sex organs, acknowledgement of sex being weird and that people might feel awkward about it, the idea of positions other than missionary, the idea that different position changes are made to increase the comfort of both partners, the concept of laughing during sex and enjoying learning about it together, really good stuff and not as much bad as I feared.
Also the way it was presented was excellent. A quiet tone to make kids listen and indicate hey this is a semi-serious conversation you should pay attention. Slow enough and enunciated enough to be understandable. And most of all, calm and comfortable. That, more than anything, is what’s going to put kids at ease. Children are very sensitive to the feelings of adults especially when it comes to serious conversations. If the adults are uncomfortable or ashamed of the topic, children will internalize the topic as something that causes discomfort and is shameful. Simply being comfortable and calm with the material opens up the chance for questions and is much more likely to leave the impression on kids that sex is, for most of them, just going to be a part of life, and they can feel about it however they want.
My Catholic mother was a junior high sex ed teacher in the 70's and I made the mistake of asking her where babies came from around the time I was 5 years old. She told me. Where they came from, how they were made. I was horrified and decided no man would ever do that to me and vowed to become a nun :P That lasted until my freshman year in high school and I laid eyes on the Norwegian foreign exchange student, but still, it was very jarring at that age!
Idk, my mom wasn't a sex ed teacher but she explained it to me same age (I asked XD), and I was just like; "Oh, ok". And went out to play.
I guess it just depends on the personality of the kid.
@@uatcgfhdhu Or on exactly how it´s explained. My experience was similar to yours, except that my mom was explaining because she was pregnant with my sister and I was 3. No problems.
I was about that age. My mom use to read us kids every night before bed, stories, or nonfiction. She taught about sex the same way. It wasn't anything special, or of particular intrest at the time.
She believed in teaching kids young for a few reasons. First, it makes it less uncomfortable to talk about later. Second, it means they aren't learning half truths, and myths from other children. Third, it helps kids stay safe. More often than not, pedos groom victims. They get a level of uninformed 'consent' from them.
Knowledge isn't as likely to protect teens, but small children are much more likely to say no, if they know what sex is. Whether they can say no, or aren't given the chance, they are more likely to tell. After puberty it gets harder, but little kids don't want to be touched like that, unless they've already been abused. Knowing it's an adult activity, and that no one has the right to do it to them, it makes it easier to understand why it feels wrong than just 'no one should touch you here.'
The last part took me out 💀
Um... Wow. I did NOT expect Angela to be quite so... graphic. And thorough! I'm actually pretty impressed they went as far and clearly as they did.
I'm 25 and Irish and honestly some of those clips were better than the education I got for sex ed. It was actually good that she mentioned that it could be awkward and it's okay to laugh with your partner. It got scarier and more turn offs the older I was for a sex ed talk. It's crazy to think that I didn't get some of that information years later than that video would have been used.
I asked my mom what sex was for the first time when I was 6. She explained (age approximately) and I said ok and got out of the car. My brother who was 12 was more scandalized by the whole thing than I was.
I'm ace but always struggled with it due to so many people telling me i should just try it and I just have to meet the right person. Well, at 27, a friend of mine offered to be my first and I agreed. It was a nice experience and I'm glad it happened as it did and helped me come to terms, that I'm just not interested and that it's ok. My favorite part was the cuddling at the end and now I'm happy with that.
I changed schools in 7th grade. First week at the new school I was told to get a permission slip signed for CPR class. I unknowingly told my classmates how much I was looking forward to learning CPR and first aid….Nope, it was “Creating Positive Relationships” a religious, abstinence-only sex ed course.
My general health class taught cpr. I’m sorry you couldn’t learn it at your new school but it was a helpful thing to learn then even if I don’t remember much now.
That's tragically hilarious!
Hahahaha
Am I correct in thinking this meant no sex until marriage and then they don't even get into gratification. Sad. You know Jews do. Yes the abstinence is implied but we are also taught the woman must have "juices flowing". No Jewish people don't have all the money. We just have all the education. 😆
What a rip-off!
I’m Irish and lemme tell you religion definitely impeded the education a lot of us got 😬
Ay yo woah, JESUS impeded the education a lot of you got.
Wait that came out wrong…
@@dibsdibs3495 no, not Jesus himself, organized religion. The Catholic Church is a nothing but a holdover from colonization still shackling us today. Denying young people knowledge about their bodies and puberty and sex education to prevent them getting pregnant too early is criminal.
@@BeepBoopBopBap it was a joke, Sarah. I apologize, I’m not even Catholic. I agree on the sex Ed stuff.
@@dibsdibs3495 Whoops! Thought you were defending it. No need to apologize, my bad!
Yeah, here in Australia they wasted our grade 5 classes with religious mumbo jumbo.
I love seeing your reactions to old sex ed videos because being raised in Indiana, our sex ed was basically nonexistent and these just make me realize how uninformed I was and even misinformed
Also educated in indiana and the only thing I remember from 5th grade (segregated) sex ed is the school nurse putting a jumbo tampon in a cup of water to show how big it got. We were horrified 😅
Brooo Indiana gang right here. And yes, I was also a victim of our trash sex Ed
Also raised in Indiana but I feel my education was decent. But that may have been because if my family. Just saying it's not all bad there
@@meegeeweegeewell at least it’s nice to know that not everyone had to suffer lol
@@JustSomeRandomThoughts1002 seriously 😂 our small town suffered and it showed when kids were on there second babies in high school without understanding the “how”
okay it's currently like 10:30 at night and this is the funniest shit ever
I like how Mama Doctor Jones was respectful for religious people even though she finds them strange sometimes.
My mom always answer my questions. She was concerned about how I would react. She pulled out the Readers Digest Medical Guide. We went through the childbirth section together. She said I started asking around 4 or 5. So I feel like I always knew where babies came from. With all her worry about telling me too much too early, the issue I got hung up on (and remember refusing to believe this for years) I was horrified to realize I was born naked. I always pictured infant me coming out in a little Holly Hobby dress.
Haha, my mom got pregnant with my brother when I was three and I was asking questions so I got a book, How Babies are Made or something along those lines, that was probably a few years advanced for even my precocious little self, I knew the penis went into the vagina but I thought he peed in there and thought the whole notion was gross. Oh and fun thing about teaching three-year olds proper anatomy? Three year old me hollering from my stroller and pointing emphatically at some very large man in the shopping mall in the late 70s, "MOMMY, does that man have a PENIS?" My mom, being pretty unflappable, honestly, replied, "I certainly hope so."
A little funny story about answering kids' questions: when I was 5 or 6 and my sister was 7 or 8, we snooped in my mom's nightstand and asked her what some object in a little case was. She didn't want to answer and said, "I'll tell you when you're 14." We waited patiently and asked her again once my sister had turned 14. My mom didn't remember this conversation, so we described the object, and my mom laughed and said, "Oh! That was my diaphragm. I can't believe I said that." I think she was impressed we waited so many years and asked her again. 😂
AHAHAHAHAHA I have a similar story. Once me and my sister were snooping through my mom's drawers and found an odd object. I think we asked and she said it was a special object, whatever. Years go by and as I age I ask more questions and eventually learn about sex in a different hole, I remember clearly my mom saying "many find it enjoyable, I do not at all". As more years go by, i learn more and more fun things like for example, what the strange object was... Funny, I've seen that in my mom's drawers. Also funny, if she's not using it........ Who is..... Haha! Kids find a way to understand more than parents hope.
Kids are steel traps. They don't forget things like that. 😂
@@angelai4556 Wait, so who was using it then? Your dad?
One time when I was around 7 I asked my mom why her breaths, breathing were longer than mine. She gave me a while talk on puberty because she thought I said breasts. I waited patiently until she was done to be like mommy that is not at all what I said 😂
@@conlon4332 I also need to know
I was 1000% waiting for the "don't have sex/you will die" Mean Girls reference and MDJ did NOT disappoint. 🤣👌👏
6:45 it is not a football, Angela
The voiceover killed me at 12:30😂
I love how inclusive you are. Not a lot of people would take the time to amend and say that "most" people rather than "all" people will want to have sex during their lives. Representation for the ace community!
And those who choose to be celibate.
Aces represent! 💜
Honestly not too bad.
I didn't even know what natural lubrication was until about a month before I got married, when my mom FINALLY decided I needed to know about 'that stuff' and she gave me a sex ed book from the 50s meant for 10 year olds. I was 24 and I thought my bladder was leaking when we were kissing.
I was homeschooled and only knew about sex because we bred animals.
@Simply Sahara do you think I married at 14? No 24 is correct. I lived at home until then and didn't go to college (technically I was 'allowed ', but had been heavily discouraged from it from a young age) and was very isolated
Oh, that’s so selfish from your parents! How can you possibly decide to get married and never have heard of sex in your life? That’s being a terrible parent!
I was a very horse crazy girl. When I checked a book depicting horse breeding from the library and got more than I bargained for, my mother told me humans do the same thing. I was SOOO scandalized! When I had more questions, Grandma just handed me the same 1950's sex ed book she gave my mother at my age, because she didn't want to talk about it. Fortunately Mom answered the more in depth questions I had...eventually.
@@Aziara86 evangelist household?
@@Freaky0Nina yep
I remember watching one of the "chewed gum is having sex before marriage" demonstrations, and I felt gross and mad because my gum was chewed without my permission, but I was apparently deemed wrong and chewed nonetheless. I was 11.
That's another heartbreaking example of how purity culture can be harmful. I'm so sorry that happened to you.
I'm sorry that happened to you. My own mother had me convinced I was raped at a very young age only to get a letter from my grandfather at age 40 and nope. She was a narcissistic b+t*
@@christinecorney unbelievable bullsh*t!
I'm so sorry! Purity culture is so disgusting!
I’m so sorry that happened to you.
Love these videos! I’m a (future) special Ed teacher for children and young adults with learning disabilities. A group that is often overlooked when it comes to sex Ed. I want to break the taboo with my future students and talk (verbally or via AAC) about it openly. I’m a student teacher at the moment and teach 6-8 year olds and 15-17 year olds…the big girls come to me, when they have questions about contraception or period problems or things like that. And honestly? It’s a great feeling, a student feels comfortable enough to ask these questions. I’m always pretty straight forward and honest as well. Your videos have taught me a lot about how to address the topics, so thank you for that!
I’ve liked “not the talk” for helping with answering kids questions and knowing how to teach them. They break it down and also have you consider what your personal beliefs are and what you want to teach your children.
My rule of thumb with my kids is if they’re old enough to ask the question, they are old enough for an honest, age appropriate answer. It’s served us well so far & I stand by it.
People who underestimate kids' mental abilities usually haven't had much of a childhood themselves
My oldest was 8 when she asked what abortion is.
I would have preferred to let her keep that part of innocence a while longer. It was heartbreaking to see her react to learning some people end a pregnancy on purpose. And she asked why, leading to an even harder conversation about some of the reasons. (She did think it was dumb that some people got pregnant because no one taught them how not to get pregnant.)
Not telling her would still have been a bigger disservice. She would not have stopped wondering and likely would have found out by researching online. Yes, it was a hard conversation and yes, she was very young for it. But she was old enough to ask and the topic is too important to give her anything less than the truth she asked for.
I asked my mom as a little kid, and was one of those kids who just kept asking so she kept answering... I got a good grounding in the topic, but also when my Kindergarten teacher was getting married I told her in detail what would happen from her honeymoon all the way through the birth of her first baby.🤣
It was very kind of you to make sure she was well informed! 😂
I want to know your kindergarten teachers reaction, if I were her I'd be impressed but a little concerned too 😅
@@i10i60I like to think she very carefully controlled her facial expressions and listened intently, trying to memorize every syllable, bc she knew that this was going to be The Story of All Stories for her whole teaching career. Mrs. Maple? Do you still remember??
When I was expecting my first child, my 8 year old girl cousin asked me how the baby got into my tummy! I did tell her to ask her mom because my Aunt is very religious, raised strict Catholic! I wrongly assumed she would want to explain it almost like the lady in the video is explaining! My cousin asked me again a few weeks later and I put her off again, telling her to ask her Mom. The third time she asked, I didn’t want her to think anything bad so related it to animals, we were cattle ranchers, so she knew the bull went with the cows and we often witnessed bovine mating, it was just a part of life! I explained everything, when I told my Aunt she told her daughter not to talk about it with anyone at school! Ok Auntie, that was great! Anyway, months later, my little cousin came to me and said can I ask you something, I said of course. She said she didn’t know how to say it, so I said you say it however you know how! She in her innocent little voice and questioning unsure eyes, looked at me and said “when you got bred ( OMG, I wanted to laugh so badly) if Doug (my husband) was mentally challenged would you have a mentally challenged baby?” I told her I could have a baby with disabilities but it could happen to anyone at any time! I am glad she felt comfortable to ask, but I guess I left out the words sexual intercourse or even just sex! Hahahaha We had many talks through the years as she grew up, but that will always be the highlight for me!
Love your sense of humor and as a Grandma I thought I knew stuff but I have learned lots from you!
When you get bred!!! Hahaha 😂 kids are amazing. They use what they know. So adorable.
Why do I feel like this is the best work around for teaching sex ed in schools that don't allow it. 😂😂 It's agriculture, it's an important part of our economy 😂😂
Gotta tell you, I was a very curious child and while my poor mother tried to answer the baby sister question honestly, it just led to lots more questions. She got me a book with anatomically correct drawings and proper names when I was really young. I didn't understand it all in the beginning but that book was a great resource as I got older. Every day I appreciate that she never used euphemisms because some of my friends were so uninformed that it was almost criminal. Though I'm sure my dad would have preferred stories about storks since I kept going to the bathroom with him so I could see how boys and girls were different when I was around 5. Poor man kept trying to hide! 😂
My Catholic homeschooling parents “forgot” to give my sisters and me any sex ed beyond the basics of “Sperm comes from boys, eggs comes from girls, girls have periods, and babies grow in mommies’ tummies.” (For some reason my brother got more detailed sex ed, though.) 🙄 When I asked them about it as an adult, their excuse was that they didn’t think I needed to know about sex since I wasn’t doing it. 🤦♀️
yeah. ig they did the right thing. you are brainwashed totally.
They thought you "didn't need to know because you weren't doing it"?
Bro the kids need to know for later in life. Also, lots of children get abused and assaulted in this way (e.g. online pedophiles, creeps, etc.) How did she not consider that?
Funniest part for me was when Angela called pooping "doing the big job." 💩🤣
I almost vomited lol - do not like
That killed me 😂
I work in the ivf lab at a fertility clinic/reproductive medicine practice. I am constantly flabbergasted at the lack of knowledge and misinformation grown adults have about reproduction. It’s scary actually. I totally agree that it should be ongoing discussion with kids over a period of time, increasing in details and specifics as kids get older. My kids know more than most of their peers simply because of the work I do.
I was homeschooled. my sex Ed was basically "Here's a book on the reproductive anatomy. Here are a few books on sexual ethics. Read them. Write reports on each and ask questions when you are done." I had some questions regarding the sexual act, and they answered them plainly. I had questions about sexual ethics and we discussed them
I’m cackling 😂 the coralline references, the voiceover, lol. Love this!
I did exactly what you said with my kids, just answered questions as they took place. But when my grandkids started asking questions I had to say that your parents would really like to answer these questions. Never stopped them.
Angela also gave me whiplash with suddenly diving in and with the visual. As the eldest child I was the person my siblings came too when it came to asking about sex ed, I did my best to keep it with medical explanations and age appropriate.
Even after she dove in.
I was not ready for "this is a penis"
It actually felt more like a wedge 🤣 it reminded me of my sexually awkward granny who nevetheless had a doctorate in medicine.
My oldest is almost 15. Her baby sister is almost 7. She's excited to be a second resource for her sister.
I find it wholesome.
"This. Is. The. Light. That. Only responds to VIOLENCE!" I'M ROLLING!! I laughed so loud, it woke my daughter up!! Now she is watching with me because in her opinion, I can't watch your videos without her 🤣🤣
I expected him to cut that out like other editor notes 😂 he made it better
I mean.. He made it comedy gold! You are already so funny with your two jokes, but I was dying of laughter. Just the way you said it and it sounded like you were literally beating the crap out of it 🤣
I need that clip in a saveable TikTok format please and thank you!
I think we need a GIF of that...
@@bunhelsingslegacy3549 but GIFs don't have sound.. The sound makes it hilarious
9:35 referring to pooping as “do the big job” is so freaking hilarious. I’m taking that for future use 😅
I love Angela so much 😂
7:43 I agree but for me specifically, as a more sheltered child, I didn't necesarily know what questions to ask my parents so I used the internet like this channel to help explain it. If I had detailed anatomy questions I would ask my obgyn or look for a study released by a doctor. I rarely asked my mother/father anything.
Im irish. We had it in both primary and secondary, it was very thorough and we felt comfortable asking questions. My parents also gave me a very good standard of sex ed and contraception as well as safety, consent etc. I became the resident sexpert amongst my friend group, I loved biology so I was always reading and if I didn't know an answer I'd find out for them.
My mom was always very open about sex Ed; we’re from Germany and lived in the US for a while when I was younger. Once my friend and I had a play date at home and my friend’s mom was there too. She discovered an „honest“ sex-Ed book and was shocked that my mom read it to my sister and I at „such a young age“. My mom didn’t see the point of lying to their kids and felt it was more eye to eye to be factual. Really appreciated that. Sex-Ed here in Germany is generally taught on more of a biological base and at home. In addition to that in elementary school (ca 2006) we also had sex Ed in the form of bodily autonomy where we were taught what privacy and boundaries were and had the opportunity to decide which situations were okay for us and which body parts were ok to touch by which people. And also it was very clear that even those people could be „refrained“ from touching/looking at if we didn’t want them to. Really appreciate the sex-ed over here!
The 80s had come a long way than what a catholic friend of mine was taught in the 60's. Her class of girls were basically told it was up to them not to give men the wrong impression because men couldn't be responsible for not being able to control themselves! Shocking. In the early 80's my parents got me The Body Book by Claire Rayner OBE, a truly remarkable woman (midwife, campaigner for patient rights and better conditions for nurses, author and agony aunt) which was perfect for an inquisitive 5 year old who asked questions like "Why do we poop?" and "Where do babies come from?"
The video paused at 10:35 "do you like that?" And UA-cam told me to consider taking a break 😅😅😅
i laughed way too hard when she switched from edging around it to being very direct, it caught me so off guard lmao
Idk why I just came across this but I love your humour and edits 😂🤣 and well said otherwise!
And the way she described it is more of a relay race for cis straight people than sex, but if the one she’s having is that boring I wouldn’t be surprised if that’s the only kind she knows 😂
Also, smash hits was a popular mag, show, awards show (like smash hits poll winners (party)), things, even when I was a tween/teen in the late 90s early 00s :p and that little doll on her desk is a boy monchhichi, another thing I loved as a kid but never got one
Have a good week!
I seem to have had quite a bit of a different experience from a lot of people commenting, so I thought I'd share. =)
I'm a Swede, and we had sex ed twice in school: 5th and 8th grade (11 and 14 years old). That is half a dozen of lessons over like a week or so, and we were never separated by gender.
First time around we mostly focused on anatomy and puberty, but went over the basics of sex and child birth as well. (Had a Lovely no-nonsense-teacher that just, you know, told us everything like it was the most natural thing in the world!)
Second time I had a poor 50s-somthing gentleman (incredibly socially awkward around 14-year-olds at the best of times) who couldn't say the word "sex" without turning Beet Red. But hey, we got to learn about both STIs as well as how to protect ourselves, and practise putting on condoms on bananas! =)
We were told that sex was a really intimate act between two or more consenting individuals, how important it was never to be coerced into it, that some choose to wait until marriage, and as long as we were safe and happy it was all ok. Never was there any mention of someone's worth diminishing in any way because of silly details like the number of partners one had had, or whether or not your partner was of a different gender from you.
This was around the 00's, so quite a while ago I guess.
Sex ed in aus, at least for me was pretty similar, althought not enough talk about difference between sex and gender and queer sex or elaborating on consent and the neccesity of informed consent
In the US, sex ed can differ a lot in different locations - even within the same state! I had something similar to what you described as your first round of sex ed when I was in the sixth grade (age 11). That was in a relatively liberal district within a more conservative state. They separated boys and girls, but both groups learned the basics of what would happen to both body types, and at the end we were given a little package with deodorant (sort of a "hint, hint" thing for kids just starting puberty), a couple of pads for the girls, and I can't remember what for the boys.
I had sex ed again in the 9th grade (14/15ish), and this was also in a liberal district within that same conservative state. This time around the teacher did an excellent job of covering STIs, teaching about protection, explaining to us the statistical effectiveness of each method for preventing pregnancy, having us practice properly placing/removing condoms from a wooden stand-in for the real thing, etc. This teacher didn't guilt anyone about whether or not to have sex - he just emphasized how big of a decision it was, how we needed to be responsible with whatever choice we made, and how important consent was for those who did choose to have it. He also made condoms freely available in a bucket by the classroom door, making it clear that students could come and grab a handful at any time, no questions asked, and that if they had any questions or issues they could come to him or the school counselor - no judgment whatsoever.
The next year I moved to a much more conservative district within that same state, and had to take sex ed again. This time around it was much more focused on "abstinence only," with much less information given, and certainly no condoms made available afterwards. Guess which district had the most teen pregnancies, by far? The latter, "abstinence only" one. In the first high school, I only knew of one or two girls who became pregnant in a relatively large high school. The second district had far fewer students total, yet had so many teen pregnancies the school had to start an on-location daycare so teen moms could drop their babies off and stay in school. The first district treated us like young adults approaching full adulthood who were capable of learning about the pros and cons of early intercourse and weighing the risks appropriately, and due to being treated like young adults and given all the facts, students by and large acted responsibly. The second district treated us like hormonal children who should simply do as we were told for a few more years, and as such ended up with an epidemic of kids acting like kids and having kids of their own.
To see such a huge difference in how sex ed is taught, even within the same state in districts that were less than two hours apart, was mind blowing to me. We really need to find a way to standardize this across the whole country, offering something closer to what my first two schools did, since statistically that produces the best results. Of course, Republicans would throw a fit if the federal gov't tried to force *real* sex ed on their kids... It's a mess over here right now.
@@nicked_fenyx Oh dear, you must have gotten whiplash from those sharp turns!
As you said the first two schools sounds very similar to what I experienced! I'm sorry to say though that I'm not all that surprised that uneducated people acted like uneducated people at your third school: that kind of situation is what we use over here as a cautionary tale when kids say sex ed is too embarrassing.
I'm so sorry, but Goodness! That's an image and a half, isn't it? When Swedish kids are too old to be scared of trolls and too young to dread making an appointment at the dentists, we tell stories about American curriculum...
Of course I don't think any country is perfect, but you do seem to have quite a bit of a mess on your hands atm, in a couple of areas. A stranger on the other side of the world can't do much, but I do wish you all the strength to get thru it!
Knowledge, understanding, and kindness is never wrong, and never bad. You can do this. 💜
@@lottaleissner497 Thank you. It's really discouraging at times living here and seeing the direction so many want to take this country. The sheer spite towards education, expertise, and fact checking is astonishing, even if it's nothing new (Isaac Asimov wrote about the "cult of ignorance" in the United States way back in the 80s). We have politicians with no medical expertise criminalizing medical treatments against the strongly worded recommendations of literally every major medical organization in the country. We have a conservative voter base that immediately dismisses any source with ties to academia or higher education as inherently "woke" or biased. Heck, when it comes to the word "woke," nearly half the country uses a word that means "aware of and actively attentive to important societal facts and issues" as their most common insult. Knowledge is mocked, while cruelty and ignorance are put up on a pedestal.
It can be a lot to confront and deal with, to be sure. I tend to find myself returning often to a quote made popular by MLK Jr, who said, "We shall overcome because the arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice." I think what we're seeing here right now is backlash against the progress we've been trying to make. Backlash always seems to happen after progress. But progress overall occurs anyway. At least I hope that's how things will go. I'm genuinely sorry for the negative impact our mess here has had on other countries. Your country in particular is a shining example in so many areas, and while you're right that no country is perfect, we over here could learn a lot from the way you do things.
Right? Im from Denmark and its so similar - we had styrofoam penises, though! And I love how we were take care of the foreskin and be gentle, when applying condoms to ones partner (yes girls are taught the use of condoms too). There is still room for improvement, my husband is a Dane too and he didnt know how different sized tampons are for flow not for size. But it is very minimal. Mostly I think what's lacking is female anatomy in detail, pleasure preferences, and consent practices.
I really like what you said about sex not being so happy and enjoyable outside consensual context. My mom did a pretty good job at explaining sex growing up (much better than school) she is a doctor as well. BUT as this lady, she always talked about the nice and happy part. She did not prepared me for the bad stuff as a women I had to face. I was not prepared for men to denied me my basic autonomy. I knew about rape but I never imagine it would happen to me
I'm so sorry that happened to you.
Angela looks like she might have come from a generation that once used the term "making love" to mean courting. That being said...thank you for reviewing this and always giving good information!
I remember that there's a movie quote that aged wonderfully and poorly at the same time because of the terms first meaning, "I can't make love to a bush!" XD
Yes. An American of her generation would have used that expression "making love" . Lovemaking, though, I think, always meant sex. I had to be adamant since she is Irish.
I was shocked when she actually explained sexual intercourse. Sure, maybe it was a little jarring going from skirting around it to diving right in, but it's better than the vagueness of just stopping at "being very close"
Also when I first learned about sex as a child, I was horrified and disgusted, but I assumed something would change when I grew older and it would become at least mildly appealing, or I would get used to the idea and it would seem less weird, but that never happened.
It's cool to be asexual, so don't worry. :)
I’m surprised this video being strict Irish catholic was as good as it was, especially for the year that it was produced.
I totally agree with answering questions honestly. I have had that mantra with my kids since they could talk, and I know for a fact it has helped them dramatically. Both kids have high IQs and the questions they asked did not seek age appropriate compared to their peers but I still answered them honestly as with as much detail as they wanted.
I’ll never forget my son at about age 5 who already knew what sex was and how babies were made, he asked me what a condom was (heard the word on TV). I explained to him that it is used to stop a woman getting pregnant if two people have sex or to stop the spread of infections. He asked why that thing exists, because why would you have sex if you weren’t making a baby? He was flabbergasted as he discovered that people actually have sex for fun and that it feels good. His little 5yo boy brain could not imagine how it feels good! Lol! We ended up having to stay up and chat about consent and all sorts of other things like STDs! Hahaha!
Fast forward to year 8 sex Ed, he’s getting straight As lol!
My Catholic college’s freshman orientation had a morality play called “Sex, Alcohol and You,” but all I can remember from it is the girl with the alcohol problem does a dance to Total Eclipse of the Heart that’s basically her turning in circles every time the song goes “Turn around”
Videos like this one just make me love and appreciate my mum even more 😊💜 She has always had your mentality of, "answer questions honestly when they ask," and by the time I had to take sex-ed for the first time in 6th grade, I already knew everything, and was the only kid who knew all of the correct terminology 😂 I was embarrassed as hell at the time (because I couldn't resist being the know-it-all who raised their hand) but I very much appreciate it now. Mum's mentality was always, "I'd rather have you learn everything correctly, and feel comfortable coming to me with questions, than have you learning incorrect garbage from other kids."
I was talking to my mother about periods (I was giving advice to my young cousin-so happy she felt comfortable coming to me) and when I mentioned your channel she said she wished it existed when she was a teen. Good work!
I completely agree on the open and honest approach. I don't shy away from answering my kids with the questions they ask. I feel the more comfortable they are talking about this stuff the less embarrassing it is to talk about later.
Would love some videos about what to expect during perimenopause and menopause!
I recently got a job teaching sexual health education! I'm super excited to start. Luckily I live in a place that not only allows but obligates inclusive, medically accurate sex ed. For parents, there's lots of awesome tools online about talking to your kids from any age now! (Amaze has a UA-cam channel with animated shorts. I'd love to see MDJ react to informative sex ed channels too lol)
So happy for you! Teach em well comrade! And yes Amaze is GREAT.
I love your job AND the requirements.
Congratulations!
Obligates inclusive, medically accurate information? Can I ask where you live? If US, which state?
@Kaiya Kershaw I want to know as well. Wish it were my state but Utah won't be making that switch for quite some time.
Can we just applaud MDJ for her voiceover capabilities????
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It was hilarious
I think it would be a great idea to do a playlist, like starting with the basics for an age group and moving up to different age groups. Give an outline of things to cover and HOW to cover them. It would be a great resource for parents and caregivers of children.
“We were all doing really good, and you just went and made it weird, Angela” - that’s what they all say. 😢😄
I tried the “wait for the kid to ask” route. Unfortunately I ended up with a very untalkative kid who just never asked. Which left me trying to figure out how to introduce the subject years after he should have started being curious. Kids will always find a way to upend the best-intentioned parenting plan.
I was very lucky than in my catholic school, the sex ed class was actually very good and straight forward. Always using the right names for the anatomy and everything was clearly explained. I think it was because there were more boys than girls, and the school wanted to avoid unwanted pregnancies. Also, for my parents talking about sex, was never a taboo. They were really open about it and always answered my questions.
It's crazy they don't do this more. There are so many fewer ppl having sex younger when they don't mystify it.
at 10:07 my brain just yelled "AND BABIES!" 😭😂 also the voiceover was EVERYTHING 😆
As a first time parent of a 2 year old where sex wasn’t massively talked about growing up… thank you! Thank you so much for this healthy advise. I know it’s to early for me yet but this advise is gold and will stick with me.
If you happen to make a video/playlist on the subject… I’ll be there with bells on xx
I found it a little easier to "practice" some of the hard conversations with my kids when they were too young to understand so that I could get more comfortable before they *did* understand. That's helped a lot.
It's not too early though! By the time my eldest was two she started asking questions about her body parts, so at three she knows what a "vulva" is- sending love as another mama to little ones!
Sorry for the SUPER long comment lol, but I hope it’s helpful in some way!
It’s not too early! Two is a great age to start helping them learn the correct terms for body parts. That’s always the first stepping stone to give them a foundation for understanding themselves and for being able to communicate their questions whenever they become curious about something. It’s also supper important to start teaching them about safe/appropriate touch, and them knowing the proper terms is also vital if God forbid the unthinkable happens and they need to communicate something that has happened to them.
Two is also a great way to start normalizing certain bodily functions, such as periods. I can’t remember a time where I didn’t know periods existed because of how my mother incorporated it in normal everyday life, and I HIGHLY suggest doing the same thing with your child(ren), regardless of gender.
What she did was when I became old enough to follow simple directions in the sense of retrieving a specific item that was asked for, when my mother was on her period, she would go in the bathroom and shut the door. She would then call for me, and ask me to go and bring her a tampon or a pad from the hall closet and hand it to her (just like you would if you needed a new role toilet paper and didn’t realize you were out before going to the bathroom). I knew what these things were because when she needed to buy them from the store, she made a point of calling them by name or asked me to grab a box off the aisle shelf to put in the cart.
She never actually needed me to get her one when she was in the bathroom, as she kept pads and tampons in the bathroom, but it was a way to purposely familiarize me with periods and it was something that helped me understand that older girls and women had a period each month, even if I didn’t fully understand yet exactly what a period was or how it worked. I just knew it was a normal event in a woman’s life.
I was raised by a mother who couldn’t have done a more perfect job when it came to educating me on my body and about sex. She herself had grown up in a home where it wasn’t talked about, to the point that she thought she was dying when she got her period for the first time. When she finally worked up the courage to bring it to someone’s attention completely distraught, she was handed a little booklet about periods and was sent off to read it on her own and was told not to ask questions. She vowed that she would never allow her own child to be brought up in an environment like that, and she absolutely succeeded! And there is not a single thing that I feel she should have done differently, nor is there anything that I would do different with my own children.
The biggest thing she did that I feel was the most vital, was that she believed that if I was old enough to ask the question, I was also old enough to know the answer. Any question I asked was met with an open and honest answer immediately, without judgement. Not once did I have to go looking for answers in unsafe or unreliable sources on my own, because I knew she would give me an honest answer and would help me understand whatever it was that I was curious about. Even in my teens, with some questions that were a bit more intense/“embarrassing,” things my friends would have NEVER felt comfortable talking to their parents about, I still chose to go to her for answers without hesitation, because she never made me feel awkward or judged regardless of the question.
And when you child asks an open ended question, especially one that is in relation to a complex topic, make sure you ask for clarification BEFORE answering to avoid giving them more information than they are ready for. Oftentimes, they are just seeking a simplistic surface level answer and not a full blown description of every detail about sex. Always start simple, and if they desire further information or more detail, they will ask. Just as MDJ explained in the video. Start simple and work your way up, never just assuming you know what they are asking for without getting clarification from them about what information they are truly seeking/ready for.
She also never made the topic of sex or the understanding of the human body a singular talk (“the talk”) that was put off until a certain age. It was an open conversation from day one, starting with knowing about the proper terminology and gradually building from there at my own pace. Because of this, I have no specific point of time when I learned things, because for most of it, I can’t remember a time where I didn’t know the information due to being so young when the conversations were put in motion. It was treated as the most natural thing to talk about.
On the flip side, because I had been educated to well on things, I was able to immediately recognize that my peers did not have the same type of parents. Their parents were the ones who thought their child was too young to learn about things, and so they put off having “the talk” or answering their child’s questions until they got older because of the parent’s discomfort. What those parents didn’t realize, was that those kids went seeking answers for themselves elsewhere. It was kindergarten when I first heard a kid discussing sex in a DANGEROUSLY inaccurate manner. Their parents were none the wiser. It was so alarming and sad for me to see, and I always felt so thankful that my mother was the opposite.
And because my mother was so open and honest about the topic, I had ALL of the information necessary to make responsible, healthy and informed decisions regarding sex. I actually ended up coming to the conclusion all on my own that I desired to wait until marriage. And despite what many would assume, that was actually never something my mother brought up, as it wasn’t even something she herself was convicted by.
All she ever stressed was being responsible about sex (and preferably waiting until I was 18+ given the responsibilities and risks that come along with it), and not once was waiting until marriage brought up. That was 100% my own conviction about what felt right to me. Funnily enough, she actually even initially tried to talk me out of making such a major decision because she didn’t want me to be disappointed in myself if I didn’t end up sticking to it as I got older, but I can say as someone who is nearly 30, it’s still something I feel strongly about and is a decision I remained confident in and committed to.
So for those that think that talking to your child too early about sex or talking in too much detail about it will make the child want to have sex too young, I’m living proof that isn’t the case, and statistics back that up. They can’t make good, healthy and responsible choices without knowing the right information. And if they aren’t receiving that information from you, they WILL go seeking elsewhere in the wrong places, no matter how “innocent” they may seem. And in today’s world with everything at your fingertips, that is a very scary thought.
Additionally, some people argue that children shouldn’t know about these things because they should just focus on “being kid,” but this is also an incorrect viewpoint. Knowing correct information about the human body and about sex was not something that hindered my childhood in any way. It wasn’t something I was hyper focused on, because it was just a normal topic of conversation like the weather forecast or talking about what was for dinner.
I think it’s so wonderful that you are wanting to give your child a healthy and solid foundation surrounding their body and sex. It is so extremely important and vital that every child has a parent whom they feel comfortable going to for honest answers and guidance. It is one of the best ways to set them up for success and to prevent them from ending up in bad situations. I wish you the best of luck, and God bless! 😊
My mother always said "If they're old enough to ask, they're old enough to get an answer, because if you don't give them the answer, someone else will." I asked when I was 5, she then gave me a book called "Where Did I Come From" which I then purchased when my own child started asking questions. It's not perfect, but it was an excellent reference for me.
3:38 fun fact! In the 19th century, "making love to someone" meant something COMPLETELY different than what it means now. It meant CONFESSING your love to someone.
Omg the urban dictionary definition killed me,!!! That was so funny and well done being included in the video like that loool. I love urban dictionary so much because through those definitions you understand how some people think, it's like decoding lol
“This is the light that only responds TO VIOLENCE!” 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I’m crying over here!!!
4:50 : That was quite the shift!
it makes me so sad to hear people comment negative things! I love everything you post, just eating ice cream and laughing through this video. I appreciate you!
Angela didn't do too bad of a job! She covered the basics! A lot of important information was said and proper names were used. Loads better than what I expected!