A Sad, Downward Spiral: Shunica Ingram v James Ingram

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  • @nicolettemorr6588
    @nicolettemorr6588 10 місяців тому +254

    Living with an alcoholic can be rough and scary. The alcoholic doesn't realize how much you go through with them.

    • @viviancoleman8109
      @viviancoleman8109 10 місяців тому +5

      Facts.

    • @sheilae.9670
      @sheilae.9670 10 місяців тому +3

      So true

    • @inyourdreams444
      @inyourdreams444 10 місяців тому +7

      Yep, my favorite cousin is an alcoholic at just 30 y/o and it is VERY trying to be around someone with that addiction. They fight, argue, don’t keep their word and don’t think rationally when it comes to many things.

    • @dionnea4573
      @dionnea4573 10 місяців тому +1

      This is so true about living with an attic.😢

    • @dionnea4573
      @dionnea4573 10 місяців тому +5

      Attics have no clue of the burdens, heartaches, stress and pain they cause.

  • @sandrarice4197
    @sandrarice4197 10 місяців тому +178

    I'm so concerned that this man is so fragile that this separation and divorce will send him over the edge. He is clearly hurting. I'm sovery sorry for what she and their child have been through as well as the husband. Prayers for their sweet little family of three.😢❤

    • @mrslross78
      @mrslross78 10 місяців тому +7

      I thought the same.

    • @syndib7377
      @syndib7377 10 місяців тому +8

      He made his bed smh

    • @bossqueen4944
      @bossqueen4944 10 місяців тому +1

      I feel the same way

    • @kattiethomas4687
      @kattiethomas4687 10 місяців тому +7

      He has more than a drinking problem 😢

    • @lorrainewilliams2549
      @lorrainewilliams2549 8 місяців тому +3

      I'm concerned about his well being too although he brought tremendous hurt to his family. He is battling a disease so for that I hope he can recover if for no one else, himself. We don't know his story that goes back further than his marriage. My dad was an alcoholic which brought lots of childhood trauma in my life then I married one. It makes you very bitter. You can only take care of yourself. Thankfully I chose not to inherit the same for myself. Prayers for them all.

  • @nikkiknowship-hop1466
    @nikkiknowship-hop1466 10 місяців тому +143

    “Excuse me, why are you talking to Robert?” 😂😂😂

    • @marybethjordan8520
      @marybethjordan8520 10 місяців тому +13

      Because he's still drunk from last night.

    • @gogokris85
      @gogokris85 10 місяців тому +6

      Because he’s talking to a man for help. Sorry but Robert ain’t helping anyone that has excuses and can’t stay sober from alcohol. In reality he should have been talking to his wife and looking at her face to face.

    • @mariefloyd6174
      @mariefloyd6174 4 місяці тому +1

      Well he was talking to Robert out of fear and pain. He knew that it was over, that's why.

  • @kiagraham2987
    @kiagraham2987 10 місяців тому +156

    Addiction affects the WHOLE family not just the addict. I was married to one he stole from me, left me stranded, left the kids home alone in the middle of the night(while i worked), not come home for days & didnt always bring the money home. I had to leave him for my & my children's mental health & SO DOES SHE.
    P.S. He finally got the help he needed & is doing great #happilydivorced

  • @keyeviondavis9647
    @keyeviondavis9647 10 місяців тому +115

    Diabetics have zero business drinking excessively, it's a very dangerous/risky game, he needs to put his sobriety, before anything going forward, I wish him well GOD BLESS 💯 WOW Judge Star went real hard on the brother 💯

    • @bryanbeeman5256
      @bryanbeeman5256 10 місяців тому +5

      But also, the brain cells are gone. He cannot get them back… I’m not saying it’s too late to get his life together, but the marriage, and relational bonds with the family is completely broken….

    • @symplstuf
      @symplstuf 10 місяців тому +4

      Judge Star's perspective is the one he needed to hear. He's been playing with a dangerous drug.

  • @CassiniS-lm8bf
    @CassiniS-lm8bf 10 місяців тому +83

    I married an alcoholic -didn’t know until 2 months after marriage. Only difference is mines was FAR WORSE. Almost 2 years of me counseling and helping him right through, I lost the wonderful soul I was, I even attempting suicide before going to therapy. That man chose alcohol over his wonderful marriage. The best alcohol case I have watch, good job Judge Star. No mercy on them, because all they do is talk without action.

  • @ark5428
    @ark5428 10 місяців тому +43

    Sad for him. It’s good he acknowledged his mistakes and addiction. She is strong for moving forward.

  • @Mrsbook19
    @Mrsbook19 10 місяців тому +78

    Don't nobody cry harder, than a man that's been given 1000 chances‼️‼️

    • @StephSteph5
      @StephSteph5 9 місяців тому +1

      🤔

    • @BaileyMyLife-203
      @BaileyMyLife-203 7 місяців тому +3

      AMEN!!!!

    • @pumpkinpatches67
      @pumpkinpatches67 5 місяців тому +3

      You ain’t lying !!

    • @georgemason4921
      @georgemason4921 4 місяці тому

      Or a woman facing accountability..humans, right.😮

    • @rayevans5773
      @rayevans5773 3 місяці тому +1

      It’s time for this man to get his life together, take care of his son, stop drinking, get into the gym and back in shape. The woman says she is done. Brother needs to move on, be sober, stop crying, get some money and a better looking woman and do you. Give your son something to look up to.

  • @nicah3837
    @nicah3837 10 місяців тому +141

    He gives me if I can't have you, nobody can. I hope she stays far away and chooses herself. 🙏🏾

    • @cdubya752
      @cdubya752 10 місяців тому +13

      I said the same thing

    • @sheilae.9670
      @sheilae.9670 10 місяців тому +12

      Exactly! That's the vibes I got from him too

    • @TiktokIsTheNewWelfare
      @TiktokIsTheNewWelfare 10 місяців тому +3

      I third this. He is low key scary asf

    • @GreenGiant873
      @GreenGiant873 10 місяців тому +3

      Why because he's being emotional and made a plea for her to give him a second chance? If the wife had done the same would you be saying that, Every emotional male is not Violent or a psychopath, clearly you watch a lot of Crime shows.

    • @kimberlyshantel13
      @kimberlyshantel13 9 місяців тому +1

      I agree

  • @teresamcbrayer2549
    @teresamcbrayer2549 10 місяців тому +77

    ❤I was married to an alcoholic and we had 2 children I loved him but couldn't take any more, after 15 years left, he got help stayed sober for the rest of our marriage. We were married 46years before I lost him to Brain cancer. We had a wonderful life after he got sober. Not perfect but wonderful

    • @josalyn8781
      @josalyn8781 10 місяців тому +3

      I feel like she could have forgave him, he's trying AC holism is a sickness god hates divorce, I mean he didn't cheat

    • @ziariakagler7292
      @ziariakagler7292 10 місяців тому

      @@josalyn8781but she gave him numerous chance after chance to change and etc and he didnt get sober untill after they split and etc if he really ready to fight for his marriage he would done all what judge star said before he came to court

  • @kizziahowell6786
    @kizziahowell6786 10 місяців тому +29

    "excuse me! 😂😂why are you talking to Robert?"

  • @bryanbeeman5256
    @bryanbeeman5256 10 місяців тому +59

    Let me say this: Whether you are a professional therapist or not, please stop thinking you can “help” a broken person that won’t help themselves. I’ve seen women become a shell of themselves trying to help a man that doesn’t help himself. FIND OUT ABOUT THE TRAUMA HE’S EXPERIENCED AND IF HE’S NOT COPING WITH LIFE WELL, LEAVE…. Stop having and putting children through unnecessary trauma. They don’t need that in their lives. Life is tough enough. Support is supposed to help a person get back on their feet, not recline them…..

  • @tammicirilo6310
    @tammicirilo6310 10 місяців тому +27

    My dad passed from drinking. Stories like this make me so emotional

    • @bryanbeeman5256
      @bryanbeeman5256 10 місяців тому +1

      Sorry to hear that.

    • @Purplegirl-pi1jo
      @Purplegirl-pi1jo 6 місяців тому

      My dad also died from alcoholism…
      It will kill you. Daddy died at 42 years old, he missed out on so much. My brother, mom, and I miss him so much.

  • @VashtiPerry
    @VashtiPerry 10 місяців тому +36

    He says don’t do that to me but dude these are memories that live in peoples body and mind

    • @s.rh.6927
      @s.rh.6927 10 місяців тому +2

      Wow! That statement hit hard🎯

    • @ariamarshall5161
      @ariamarshall5161 9 місяців тому +1

      Exactly. He don’t like to HEAR his failures.

  • @louiswilson3653
    @louiswilson3653 10 місяців тому +38

    This is really sad. It shows the power of addiction. As Judge Star said it destroys.

  • @lesley5380
    @lesley5380 10 місяців тому +79

    Mr Ingram has a long road ahead.
    Hopefully he can prove his family wrong.
    Stay in therapy etc.....

    • @minkki5656
      @minkki5656 10 місяців тому +3

      She stated she was done. How many chances did she give him to prove himself? According to her, to many times. Trying to prove himself, the time is up. This woman need to move on and find her deserving happiness.

    • @ziariakagler7292
      @ziariakagler7292 10 місяців тому

      @@minkki5656I agree 100 percent preach to the Choir

    • @lesley5380
      @lesley5380 10 місяців тому +5

      @@minkki5656 I was referring more to his immediate family not his wife. Because yes she's done.

    • @GETBIG4WARD
      @GETBIG4WARD 9 місяців тому +3

      He need to get better for himself once he do that everything will work itself out in his life he won’t have do anything but lead a good life the rest will come

  • @sheilap9854
    @sheilap9854 10 місяців тому +53

    I think she's Done, Done Whether He's Sober Or Not!! She Doesn't have to take him Back Now if she doesn't Want too!! I Wish him and her Well!!!!

    • @bryanbeeman5256
      @bryanbeeman5256 10 місяців тому

      Separation is best. He needs to be onboard with that idea and practice it. Get therapy and join a group. They both need to sit down with the family and iron out a plan that if he relapses, he can’t be around, but also develop a schedule where he sees his children regularly (only if he’s sober).

    • @sexytrinny52
      @sexytrinny52 10 місяців тому +1

      ​@@bryanbeeman5256
      No he's enough to get it together. It's OVER.

    • @TiktokIsTheNewWelfare
      @TiktokIsTheNewWelfare 10 місяців тому

      @@sexytrinny52I agree it’s a done deal.

  • @cognitivedissonancechristi516
    @cognitivedissonancechristi516 10 місяців тому +83

    The brokenness she feels surpasses his tears. Women can't coddle men anymore. That's the problem. It's not a good look for her nor her son. He's used to women bearing all the weight. Her life has worth and this is too much. The problem is coddling him too much. It's not fair to expect her to get weighed down further than what she already has. Just because she's not crying doesn't mean she's hurting less. Look in her eyes. She's gone. She has a child to take care of and keeping him hanging on is not helping. So often women suffer in silence. It's time for her to pick up the pieces and move on. She has suffered enough!

    • @sexytrinny52
      @sexytrinny52 10 місяців тому +4

      No LIES DETECTED.

    • @danahughes2239
      @danahughes2239 10 місяців тому +4

      All cried out.

    • @TiktokIsTheNewWelfare
      @TiktokIsTheNewWelfare 10 місяців тому +4

      Those tears don’t mean anything to her she is so used to him using those corny tears

    • @ginab.4605
      @ginab.4605 10 місяців тому +3

      She called herself his “provider” straight out the gate. I knew it was down hill from there.

    • @kingrambo519
      @kingrambo519 10 місяців тому +2

      Women suffer in silence but men just pour their hearts out everyday right? Lmao

  • @jeanp1323
    @jeanp1323 10 місяців тому +13

    "Why are you talking to Robert ??" 🤣

  • @virginiasweets5530
    @virginiasweets5530 10 місяців тому +30

    I dont think she is being harsh. It is what it is.

    • @ariamarshall5161
      @ariamarshall5161 9 місяців тому +3

      Exactly. Why do women have to except struggle love? He can get his life together for his son & coparent!

  • @VashtiPerry
    @VashtiPerry 10 місяців тому +44

    Sad for him but I hope he continues in therapy.

  • @anonymousreview1049
    @anonymousreview1049 10 місяців тому +43

    This is so terribly sad…… she simply can’t take anymore. It’s more than a notion dealing with alcoholism in your family, let alone in your spouse. You’re not dealing with a spouse that can behave as a spouse should, but their addiction and the behavior that comes with it, and that makes for pure hell on earth!!!!!!!

  • @mmmfun77
    @mmmfun77 10 місяців тому +23

    It is still all about him and his needs. I feel she made the right decision

  • @lillianwilliams5510
    @lillianwilliams5510 10 місяців тому +33

    He did acknowledge his addiction and all of his faults, but he needs more control. Maybe after a year.
    He needs to work on his relationship with his son.
    I pray he will stay sober.
    She never said he was abusive. Just drank all the time.
    Hopefully he will get his life together.

    • @Aquaria2291
      @Aquaria2291 10 місяців тому +6

      Abuse is not just putting hands on her though.
      It sounds like he was emotionally abusive and he also came across as a big time manipulator here.
      Add in the fact that he was trying to make his case to Robert the bailiff and not Star the judge, I think he has issues with respecting women.
      She needs to leave him, he needs mental help.

    • @bryanbeeman5256
      @bryanbeeman5256 10 місяців тому +4

      @@Aquaria2291- His behaviors stem from childhood trauma. We often forget every child doesn’t have the same coping skills and resilience as other children. And a wounded child becomes a wounded adult with childlike coping skills. This is why it’s imperative to get children help and out of traumatic environments.

    • @r.mblu3231
      @r.mblu3231 10 місяців тому

      ​​​@@bryanbeeman5256Very true. While it's easy to be on the outside looking in, we need to be conscious of the fact that he is hurting also. Yes, I strongly believe that he needs a lot more therapy before he can be the best father he can be to his son and be the best he can be for HIMSELF and continue to move on with his life with better direction and guidance from God also. But it doesn't mean that he can't be forgiven AND forgive himself for his past choices, mistakes and actions as well.
      I would also commend him for stepping up and admitting on national TV his bad choices he made which is, in my opinion, a good step in the right direction. However, I cannot help but feel that the JUDGE was a bit too harsh on him while he is trying to be sincere, while in a state of vulnerability, he's doing all he could to try to make amends while trying to keep his family together. If it were me, I would rather go to a family therapist instead of going to a TV court just to boost their ratings.. Just Sayin

    • @matthewhartman7176
      @matthewhartman7176 10 місяців тому +2

      Acknowledging faults is the first step in self-accountibility. However, look at what it took for this man to finally get there. He had to lose his family on national TV. He was driven into admitting his weaknesses. Real healing happens when people feel the self-urgency to change all on their own. You don't force or ultimatum people into healing. That's not how that works.
      This man bypassed 1001 opportunities and open windows of healing and change. If he didn't feel the need to change, then when he literally watched his actions create destruction for himself and his family, what makes it any different now in the aftermath?
      His (ex?) wife 1001% made the correct move for herself and for their child.
      This man has plenty of wounded inner-child trauma on display. Until, and only until he has the internal drive and want to address that, nothing will change. Instead, he'll likely trade one addiction for another. Psychology matters.

  • @melissabrown-rose9183
    @melissabrown-rose9183 10 місяців тому +10

    She needs to protect herself and her child; divorce him and stay very far away from him.

  • @yvonneyvonne8317
    @yvonneyvonne8317 10 місяців тому +35

    Judge Star is right about him coming in with proof off the rift and something to show and prove. I know what’s it’s like to go back and forth with an abuser and they had “tears” in their eyes and still repeated the behavior. But Judge Starr can see what’s up real well

    • @bryanbeeman5256
      @bryanbeeman5256 10 місяців тому +6

      Some can quit cold turkey, but most can’t. There usually are underlying traumas that are the catalyst for them to self medicate. Then, they don’t have appropriate coping skills to either.

    • @yvonneyvonne8317
      @yvonneyvonne8317 10 місяців тому +1

      @@bryanbeeman5256 I agree!!! You’re right. Coping skills is a key part of

    • @kingrambo519
      @kingrambo519 10 місяців тому +1

      ⁠@@yvonneyvonne8317If it was a woman who was a recovering addict yall would give her every excuse in the world 😂

  • @zebrenakazanibarrett328
    @zebrenakazanibarrett328 10 місяців тому +11

    That man went away for 70 days and was sober for that time. Judge Star should've offered marriage counseling at least. And telling this man that his tears don't matter is just rude and inconsiderate.

    • @matthewhartman7176
      @matthewhartman7176 10 місяців тому +2

      She's not a professionally licensed therapist. She has a show to host. I'm not justifying her words nor sentiment, just acknowledging she's not trained to hold neutrality, and she has an economic and contractual responsibility to entertain the show's viewers. She's running a business, not a session.

    • @r.mblu3231
      @r.mblu3231 10 місяців тому +1

      AGREED. I, also made a comment concerning this issue and I was thinking the same thing. I strongly believe that he needs to seek God first to set him straighten his life (and his family) THEN seek a Christian counselor who can help you spiritually and morally as well. I would strongly recommend it to anyone who's going through those issues. LEAN ON GOD AND HE'LL DIRECT YOUR PATHS.

    • @GETBIG4WARD
      @GETBIG4WARD 9 місяців тому

      Judge Starr always drops the hammer on men she a quasi feminist

    • @lindamiller5626
      @lindamiller5626 8 місяців тому

      Tough love

  • @ShesFromVenus
    @ShesFromVenus 10 місяців тому +12

    He needs therapy, not a marriage. Nobody is responsible to struggle through somebody else’s mess. Dry those tears & do better. 🤧 Good for her for choosing herself & their child. She deserves more.

  • @ellesouthernbelle5655
    @ellesouthernbelle5655 10 місяців тому +15

    No empathy or compassion for the man,,I know it hard but wow

    • @GETBIG4WARD
      @GETBIG4WARD 9 місяців тому +1

      I expected that from the Judge she has no compassion for men it’s always the man when she host a show it’s his fault but if a woman would have cried like him they would have given her tissue stop the show hug her all that

    • @ratedr6174
      @ratedr6174 Місяць тому

      @@GETBIG4WARDcry about it or watch something else

  • @sunshinebutterfly4654
    @sunshinebutterfly4654 10 місяців тому +17

    This is where he needs to prove now that he can recover as a coparent. Work on yourselves..let the healing begin.

  • @crystalkimble7018
    @crystalkimble7018 10 місяців тому +3

    How do you GET INVITED to your child's football game. There's no invitation ---it's an AUTOMATIC BE THERE...

    • @GETBIG4WARD
      @GETBIG4WARD 9 місяців тому

      Trust me some women will call the police on you I don’t have kids but ya know lol

  • @bryanbeeman5256
    @bryanbeeman5256 10 місяців тому +14

    I lived through DV and other things because my stepdad was an angry drunk and couldn’t hold his alcohol. He never got help and now, he’s been on dialysis for years along with a plethora of other issues. You would be surprised at the number of young people taking dialysis due to destroying their kidneys with alcohol.

  • @BreeLvee
    @BreeLvee 10 місяців тому +28

    Mann Yall Just Help The Man! Clearly Hes Crying Out For Help! Just Help Him! Belittling And Badgering Aint Gonna Help The Situation.. God Be With Him 😪

    • @cookiedrake3566
      @cookiedrake3566 10 місяців тому +7

      I absolutely agree with you, Judge Star could have assisted him with some counseling. I think that he missed the mark with this one because you have to think about both parties and what he is dealing with is real and can be a very fragile situation.

    • @Mentagasm
      @Mentagasm 10 місяців тому +1

      I disagree...Like the Judge said, he should have had those receipts with him to show his wife that he is ready to return home. Had he at LEAST came in with a new lease where they would not have to be living with family members then that would have been a start. But he is still combative and is not taking full responsibility. He gotta put on his big boy pants, He is a husband not a boyfriend and he should have came in with a "baby i got a place for us to live." Its sad but He has to learn that the choices you make not only affect you but affects your family. He has a son. What kind of example is he showing him, that he and his mom ain't good enough to at least have a roof over their head? Na, he gotta get it together. Them tears are a little too late. Love is an action word. There has not been enough time to heal especially for him and he is still dealing with 20 year old stuff that he probably has not even confided in her about. My best friends just went through this. But the difference is He put in the work and is still putting in the work and makes a comfortable place and is a stand up man for his wife and daughters. And this couple here on the show didn't have half the prollems that a lot of people have with cheating, taking money out of the home...he just decided that his wife and child didn't need a place to stay...bad decisions come at the bottom of pints and 5ths but you gotta stand on that and make moves that prove that you want real change. I feel y'all and understand his tears but Naw. He chose poorly. He gotta deal with that. Peace and love to all the DC fans. This was a hard one to watch.

    • @bryanbeeman5256
      @bryanbeeman5256 10 місяців тому +4

      That’s why I made the comment no tissues for men. We don’t know how people’s lives started and we also
      Don’t know if there was traumatic events happen to them in childhood that they never developed coping skills for. Offer the help, but ultimately, he has to want to take the help.

  • @laurasaw6933
    @laurasaw6933 10 місяців тому +4

    People think you're supposed to wait around, until they get their act together.

  • @AwesomeKpopFan
    @AwesomeKpopFan 10 місяців тому +6

    I think he is now able to really SEE HOW DEEP the scars are that he made and realize that he is unfortunately throwing salt into those same wounds. this was a really good episode.

  • @tiffanytyuse5947
    @tiffanytyuse5947 10 місяців тому +14

    Boy bye!!!!! I'll be like......sign these papers sir!

  • @linealjr07
    @linealjr07 10 місяців тому +2

    I was with an addicted for 2yrs and he was on drugs. Stayed with him thinking he would change, but of course I had to learn that I couldn’t change him. I left him and I’m glad I did.

  • @WilliamDavis-j5m
    @WilliamDavis-j5m 10 місяців тому +55

    They are belittling him, badgering him, dismissing him. He feels attacked. 72 days sober and was waved off. He has no direction, no idea of how to fix it and no one providing a starting point or support. He was told what he should've done BEFORE he came in. Hard to fix something you don't know is broken, *especially if you're an addict.* He's crying out for help and he's told his tears don't matter 18:06. Way to offer him assistance. The wife has been through a lot and I feel for her. She has been neglected and is done. He has a long, long road ahead. I wish him the best of luck, especially for him to be there for his son.

    • @OriqinallyFlyness
      @OriqinallyFlyness 10 місяців тому +17

      Totally agree! I think the judge dropped the ball with this one.

    • @janethoward1161
      @janethoward1161 10 місяців тому +33

      Tough love! He not a child! She didn’t dismiss his sobriety! The first thing she said was “congrats on 72 days sober”. Not time for a pity party or excuses! He has caused damage and he has to fix it.

    • @iamnia336
      @iamnia336 10 місяців тому +12

      @@janethoward1161nobody said to throw him a pitty party, but at least pretend like you care and wanna help him. He’s admitted to every wrong he’s made in this episode

    • @delmaramos361
      @delmaramos361 10 місяців тому +5

      Everybody who has caused harm and hurt to someone gets to a point where they "stop doing those things".
      *Drunk drivers; *murd&rers; *r@pists, etc.
      No one gets to give their own time frame for forgiveness and forgetting their past mistakes. Whatever he does from this point on is for him! Congratulate yourself and start your new life.

    • @desireefraser1869
      @desireefraser1869 10 місяців тому +2

      I definitely agree with you!!!!

  • @rosalynasare5765
    @rosalynasare5765 10 місяців тому +4

    She's so over it...Mrs. Ingram is done done

  • @bigbearmedia2734
    @bigbearmedia2734 10 місяців тому +8

    He has issues and this didnt help it....
    Judge star could have done more to help him in his journey with all of the resources she has.

  • @bigbearmedia2734
    @bigbearmedia2734 10 місяців тому +10

    This was TOUGH to watch

  • @bethanyphillips3869
    @bethanyphillips3869 5 місяців тому +2

    We need updates on these cases!!!!

  • @monicasmith3167
    @monicasmith3167 10 місяців тому +5

    I just want to say that judge Starr was Very harsh!!!! That man is showing a Lot of remorse and apologized... I sure hope he isn't depressed and takes his life because that Will be on her!!!!

  • @R3DRUMMAK3R
    @R3DRUMMAK3R 10 місяців тому +3

    The comments on this case are some of the realist comments I've ever read....I'd literally like every comment if i had the time. Stay blessed DC Family! Love y'all ❤

  • @crystalmarroquin777
    @crystalmarroquin777 10 місяців тому +23

    I became an alcoholic during COVID. I used to be a social drinker. I was always the designated driver. Even though I came from a family of alcoholics I was always able to control it. And than came COVID and my whole life changed. Yes I still worked, I couldn’t afford not to. Now three years later and I become an alcoholic and all my meds increased. It’s so hard not to drink since everyone in my family is an alcoholic that I had to just not buy it PERIOD!!! “I will not be a Slave to my addiction. I refuse to be a Slave to alcohol. I Don’t need alcohol to live.
    So, I can exist without it. I keep reminding myself that Jesus died for me so that I wouldn’t have to be a slave to sin or anything or anyone except him. When I feel anxiety I exercise. It helps me relax. My goal is to go all of 2024 without a drink and decrease all my med again. And than for the rest of my life. Thank you for reading this. And please say a prayer for me.

    • @jeanp1323
      @jeanp1323 10 місяців тому +2

      i hope you succeed

    • @kimr5479
      @kimr5479 10 місяців тому +1

      You got this, seek some help & good luck!👍😊

    • @kimr5479
      @kimr5479 10 місяців тому +1

      You got this, seek some help & good luck!👍😊

    • @kimr5479
      @kimr5479 10 місяців тому

      You got this, seek some help & good luck!👍😊

    • @kimr5479
      @kimr5479 10 місяців тому

      You got this, seek some help & good luck!👍😊

  • @dwahndenson6385
    @dwahndenson6385 10 місяців тому +10

    "Drunk as a skunk" vs "Drunk as Cooter Brown" both = To hiding empty liquor, beer, and wine bottles around the house dude 😡😡

  • @donnajackson1953
    @donnajackson1953 10 місяців тому +12

    He was a drinker at first. That turned into alcoholism. He is a diabetic, most likely a diabetic before he was an alcoholic. He made those choices, choosing alcohol over his family. 72 days sober is a drop in the bucket compared to the years of alcoholism. Now he can feel real feelings, real emotions of what he's done because he is not drinking. Now that his wife filed for divorce, he most likely will end up on the wagon again. That's not her fault. If you have ever been around a person that drink excessively, it's no walk in the park. All an alcoholic care about is the bottle, that's it, nothing else. It will take him years of sobriety and rehab to turn himself around. 72 days is a start but the mind, body and spirit needs complete cleaning and healing, that takes years.

  • @kittycakitty
    @kittycakitty 5 місяців тому +2

    ".... and the TEARS DON'T MATTER!" Mic drop Judge Starr!

  • @highlander666
    @highlander666 10 місяців тому +9

    Aw he's so emotional over the problems he caused

  • @mellig6466
    @mellig6466 10 місяців тому +6

    You can tell by her face expressions every time that he talks that she is doneeee.

  • @michaeliyore6419
    @michaeliyore6419 10 місяців тому +10

    Saying his tears don’t matter and not offering any help to someone with an addiction is a bit disappointing.

    • @sterfry3182
      @sterfry3182 10 місяців тому +2

      He said he already has help. I think he's lying but...

  • @queenyanniesuniverse5021
    @queenyanniesuniverse5021 10 місяців тому +9

    it's new to me, I hadn't saw this one.

  • @yewandeodus8728
    @yewandeodus8728 10 місяців тому +24

    This is what judge Toler definitely would not have done. I know he must have put her through hell but the least this judge could have done would be to encourage him to be better even if it was on his own. That man could just go back to drinking hearing all he heard today.

    • @meeksluvspink9047
      @meeksluvspink9047 10 місяців тому +9

      Good thing she not Judge Toler! He a grown man, with a wife and children. He needs to be a Leader, not be cuddled like a baby! You don't know all He put his wife through.

    • @YvonneIWilson
      @YvonneIWilson 10 місяців тому +9

      I totally agree with you. He did his wrong yes but such lack of compassion and empathy from the judge and his wife. I felt the crushing blow he received. He needs help/therapy. I really pray he doesn't turn back to alcohol. I wish him well. May his life be completely turned around and that he finds someone who loves him unconditionally. Everyone deserves a second chance.

    • @cognitivedissonancechristi516
      @cognitivedissonancechristi516 10 місяців тому +9

      Why must she continue to suffer and carry the weight of his inadequacy? Hasn't she done enough suffering and gone through enough misery? Enough is enough. I'm sure she has seen all the tears and played all the games. Boy bye! The words he spoke to her was more than enough. It's time for her to heal.

    • @naturalbeauty0311
      @naturalbeauty0311 10 місяців тому +5

      I agree I felt so bad for him because it takes alot for men to seek help and he was crying out for help! I pray he continues to make good decisions and some one on his path that will celebrate him & encourage him to continue moving forward. Shame on Judge Star for being so harsh!!

    • @ItsUrGirlAR
      @ItsUrGirlAR 10 місяців тому +1

      The tell, tell sign for me was he help referring to the wife as “man” or when talking about his son “bro” he needs to face those demons and deal with it to maintain sobriety while rebuilding his relationship with his son….that’s what matters most💯

  • @mightyfineanderson
    @mightyfineanderson 10 місяців тому +20

    Judge Star is being too hard on him. I get that he's an alcoholic but he does have 72 days sober plus he's in therapy. I'm not feeling her with this one. She was wrong how she treated him. I didn't Ike that.

    • @lawrencemiller8198
      @lawrencemiller8198 10 місяців тому +3

      Yea im kinda with you there

    • @lesliejordan2392
      @lesliejordan2392 10 місяців тому +5

      I agree. She didn't offer any type of help and tore him down even further. As a judge, she should be able to be more objective and unbiased. This episode made me sad.

    • @savannahbutler496
      @savannahbutler496 8 місяців тому

      💯

    • @lcct635
      @lcct635 7 місяців тому

      He deserves this, and I bet That with The wife come back he Will stat to drink again.
      Why he dont get help before?

  • @mogetit5999
    @mogetit5999 10 місяців тому +5

    Wait do they not raise this said child? She said they were both invited to the game and then wanted to move closer to where the son is staying? They got deeper issues than what was expressed here 🤔

    • @donaldstanley4261
      @donaldstanley4261 10 місяців тому +2

      Well said

    • @kristineady6498
      @kristineady6498 2 місяці тому +1

      My take on this is when the father did not renew the lease, that separated the family. The boy may be staying with a friend from school or someone living close to the school so he can keep going to the same school. So it looks like the dad's actions has torn their child from them.

  • @omgmazin
    @omgmazin 10 місяців тому +18

    He took accountability and that's an encouraging sign,she showed no sympathy are empathy, even though he's the father to her child, and I honestly think she moved on probably months ago.

    • @charismahouse1039
      @charismahouse1039 10 місяців тому +20

      Unless you lived with a addict person, it's easy to judge. I would have left him a long time ago. You don't have the right to put tornadoes in children's head.

    • @MimiNwabuokuMD
      @MimiNwabuokuMD 10 місяців тому +12

      I beg to differ but I fail to see an iota of true accountability anywhere in this man. This is one of those “she left me for nothing” situations. This woman was probably done emotionally by the day of the birthday dinner, but absolutely done with him by the missed game. I can’t help but observe that each single time she cites an event, his first reaction is, “Don’t do that, man.” He took accountability for nothing. 😢

    • @CK-yo7ub
      @CK-yo7ub 10 місяців тому +9

      A bandit will excuse the behavior of another bandit. Words are far too cheap. He is reckless & irresponsible. He's unable to provide a stable home environment for his family. He'll be making excuses until the second coming...

  • @bryanbeeman5256
    @bryanbeeman5256 10 місяців тому +5

    They don’t give men no tissues….

  • @sinailemor467
    @sinailemor467 10 місяців тому +5

    Dag man! They were so cold to him. You would’ve thought he did something like burned their house down or has 10 mistresses or something. As understanding as society says men should be, we get very little grace and understanding to make mistakes in return.

    • @sterfry3182
      @sterfry3182 10 місяців тому +1

      I don't believe he's actually been sober like he says he has.

  • @worldhealthrn
    @worldhealthrn 10 місяців тому +4

    I think judge star was a little harsh on this one I believe we need a judge Toler to peel back some of those layers and get the background story

    • @GETBIG4WARD
      @GETBIG4WARD 9 місяців тому

      I expected it she always do this to me

  • @angiela3439
    @angiela3439 10 місяців тому +20

    She needs to run.

  • @marlanasumpter9457
    @marlanasumpter9457 10 місяців тому +4

    Buddy hadnt stop drinking. Alcohol is all over him. They always want to talk snd apologise. So annoying!!! Whew

  • @DJ-vj4vi
    @DJ-vj4vi 10 місяців тому +9

    Why is judge star being so nice ? 😂

  • @RacieRain
    @RacieRain 10 місяців тому +10

    Im pretty sure alcohol will raise your blood sugar level, but I could be wrong. I applaud the tears and theatrics. But, it's just words.

    • @charismahouse1039
      @charismahouse1039 10 місяців тому +1

      Yes it can especially if you have a family history of blood sugar issues

  • @tinajackson6875
    @tinajackson6875 10 місяців тому +3

    I loved and lived with a crack addict and it was pure hell, every day what I endured, It killed me to leave him but he destroyed me and my son and our daughter, I had to run for my life. He's been gone since 2016 and I still miss him so. I have drugs and alcohol for what they do to damaged souls. RIP Rodney, I'll always love you.

  • @kimberlyjohnson2015
    @kimberlyjohnson2015 10 місяців тому +3

    Drinking and being a diabetic does not mix. I hope he got help… my dad passed away from being a alcoholic and having diabetes 😢

  • @ashleypowell6478
    @ashleypowell6478 10 місяців тому +3

    Am I the only one who feels bad for him? I mean I hate that her & the child had to suffer due to his decisions.. but truly I feel bad for him.. we all stumbled 😢

  • @silkwrap7675
    @silkwrap7675 9 місяців тому +1

    Ya never miss your well until the water runs dry.

  • @kattiethomas4687
    @kattiethomas4687 10 місяців тому +2

    I don't believe he's in therapy 😢

  • @TheAvianne
    @TheAvianne 10 місяців тому +2

    He is cocky and not humble and is really arrogant. The tears is just a show is a control and an alcoholic abusive and self centered. His response to leadership is horrible

  • @laurasaw6933
    @laurasaw6933 10 місяців тому +2

    I wouldn't wanna be with anyone who have an alcohol or drug problem.
    I just doesn't have the patience for it.

  • @matthewhartman7176
    @matthewhartman7176 10 місяців тому +3

    Some people use their tears as cover. I think most people's inherent reaction to Star's seemingly lack of emapthy towards this man are missing the key signals of someone with a personality disorder, using tears and "momentary valor" for the cameras, mistaking it as something hearfelt and genuine. I suspect it's largely a subconscious manipulation on this gentleman's part. I suspect the ex-wife has seen it many times before, and I suspect Star has picked up on this.
    I think Star's attitude in this case was more in the realm of actions over words. Words translated as to mean self-pity.
    Star isn't perfect. She's not a trained, licensed therapist, nor is she Mother Theresa. She is a lawyer and entertainer running a business under contract. She is allowed to become annoyed and impatient, especially towards annoying litigants who use their tears as cover to avoid genuine accountability. You take accountability when it matters the most. This guy blew through his 1001 open opportunities to do so when it mattered. That speaks volumes about his character.

  • @alexzander7143
    @alexzander7143 10 місяців тому +6

    I got a lot to say, starting off with this episode was so biased and I am beginning to see why people say Star is biased and I noticed it’s always towards men especially black men that come on the show, there has been numerous ppl on the show that have had drinking problems ruin the relationship and done way more outlandish things than this man did and don’t take accountability, but she has never treated them like she did this man, yes he has messed up and yes his wife has every choice to leave, even if that’s the case why kick him when he his down for only drinking literally the whole case was for drinking which he had stopped, she was going at him like the man personally did something to her or she has some sort of grudge/agenda against him, I am a super fan of divorce court and I have watched literally every episode and this one of the very few people that I believed was genuine and was just seeking help and wanting to change and also taking accountability for all his wrongs. This one of the things with women/human beings LIKE HER that make a lot of money or in a higher position they get a joy/kicker/power trip to kick down men just because they have been appointed a title that doesn’t really matter & worldly , Judge Lynn or even Judge Faith would have never ever went about it and handled this case like this, this was just unprofessional and felt personal this man felt so attacked that’s why he kept talking to Robert because it felt like a 2v1, If she is having a bad day that day leave it outside of work. There has been tons and tons of people who have done so much worst to each other or there partners and she has offered them counselling and advice , has well as additional help or giving them words of encouragement, the wife only described 3-4 events due to drinking which were not good but it’s not nothing that can’t be fixed and judge tore him apart. Especially the part “He has done nothing to show” meanwhile he his going to therapy , sober, spending more time with his kid, accountability, said the root of his problem, genuinely begged for forgiveness & actually doing the work to get better. Man long story short you don’t treat people like this especially those that need help and actually trying to get better.

    • @GETBIG4WARD
      @GETBIG4WARD 9 місяців тому

      I’m telling you Jusge Starr doesn’t like men it don’t matter what color they are but if you have melanin in your skin she about to drop the hammer on you

  • @dukeyoungsworkout513
    @dukeyoungsworkout513 10 місяців тому +2

    I think she would've forgave him if judge the judge wasn't so aggressive with him. I noticed they make a lot of their decisions based on the judges pre judging.

  • @mrsc526
    @mrsc526 10 місяців тому +1

    My daddy was an alcoholic but he was always there! He also always made sure we had what we needed!

  • @dukeyoungsworkout513
    @dukeyoungsworkout513 10 місяців тому +12

    The guy already admitted to being an alcoholic and he's in rehab for it. There's no need to bash the guy any further. It could send him right back into alcoholism.

    • @paralegalkc
      @paralegalkc 4 місяці тому

      He came to the show on national TV knowing that this was gonna happen so it was up to him to say no to the Chelle just because he’s in a Barnville place does not mean the truth did not happen. He did everything that they said he did no secrets.

  • @jaysmom48
    @jaysmom48 10 місяців тому +1

    Judge Star was absolutely correct on this one. I doubt Mr. Ingram has done ANYTHING to get sober. Everything his wife said, he tried to disagree with; then, realizing that he's supposed to be working a program, he suddenly "accepts responsibility". He argued with Star about whether he passed out drunk or passed out as a result of low blood sugar. All of that irrational arguing, then suddenly crying really makes me think he was half drunk right there in the courtroom. Judge Star's statement, that he should have come in with an AA chip and a lease for a new place, was on point. This man showed up with nothing but excuses and tears.

  • @umadox41
    @umadox41 9 місяців тому +1

    "It's too late to apologize. 🎵 It's too late 👩🏾‍🎤👨🏾‍🎤

  • @helgapataki4156
    @helgapataki4156 10 місяців тому +4

    Kept tryna defend your bs Sir & showed up empty handed, you're not ready & that Lady is TIIED! She's doing what's best for her & her child now, I wish her the best.

    • @TiktokIsTheNewWelfare
      @TiktokIsTheNewWelfare 10 місяців тому +1

      This like ppl talking abt the judge was hard on him and so was his wife. He still doesn’t want to admit he a addicted. He still don’t want to hear stories of his downfalls. “Don’t do that” sue we are going to do that with a bag of chips

    • @helgapataki4156
      @helgapataki4156 10 місяців тому

      @@TiktokIsTheNewWelfare He ain't ready

  • @paralegalkc
    @paralegalkc 4 місяці тому +1

    I am not so sure that he is sober. He cried way too much.

  • @bryanbeeman5256
    @bryanbeeman5256 10 місяців тому +1

    Drunk as Cooter Brown… drunk as a skunk…. Where do these saying come from???😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @sonyahall5080
    @sonyahall5080 10 місяців тому +1

    I totally understand the stance the wife had to make. My daughter’s father is an alcoholic.
    His drinking ruined our relationship, his relationship w/ my daughter and her 3 children..
    He still doesnt understand the ramifications of his drinking..

  • @nubiameryhor369
    @nubiameryhor369 10 місяців тому +3

    That's really sad even she took the best decision for her life and the life of her child

  • @AwesomeKpopFan
    @AwesomeKpopFan 10 місяців тому +4

    i would love to see a spin off show of the individuals who come on this show. Kind of like a "where are they now?" theme. I would love to see this man in a better place in the future . . . in the near future.

  • @winniebassette6541
    @winniebassette6541 10 місяців тому +1

    He wants the pat on the back for being sober, but has an excuse for everything else. Why does she need to be “strong” and hold him down while he gets himself together? Ma’am, please take care of yourself and child.

  • @seleneanquenette
    @seleneanquenette 4 місяці тому +1

    Help me sing....When a woman's fed up there ain't NOTHING you can do about it 👌🏾

  • @peacefaith560
    @peacefaith560 4 місяці тому +1

    Cold 🥶!! These men gon learn as women, we gets TIRED!! He gon cry when he get in the 🚘 😮

  • @shanimorrison8730
    @shanimorrison8730 2 місяці тому

    My mum was an alcoholic it was super hard.. I lost my mum to her addiction to alcohol.. its like they really don't realise what they're doing and when we try to help we get pushed away

  • @HeauxlisticLux
    @HeauxlisticLux 10 місяців тому +1

    Judge Star is holding up a mirror and making him be accountable. There is no reason she needs to sugar coat or baby this grown man who is still showing signs that he lacks control and true remorse. A few tears and words without any follow through means nothing

  • @dianapatterson449
    @dianapatterson449 10 місяців тому +1

    My ex always cried but he always went back to alcohol/drugs. So, I don't believe it

  • @hustlerenergy7574
    @hustlerenergy7574 10 місяців тому +2

    What is it with men and ignoring the judge to speak to the bailiff. Some did it w J.Lynn too

    • @GETBIG4WARD
      @GETBIG4WARD 9 місяців тому

      Judge hates men they need a male host it’s time so yall can see what men are seeing they hate men on this show

  • @jusmejaussyb8237
    @jusmejaussyb8237 9 місяців тому

    I started this feeling so sorry for him.. he drained me! I can’t imagine how she feels

  • @keylabellamy586
    @keylabellamy586 10 місяців тому +1

    I try to be in a relationship for 11 years old. But the alcohol was too much. He was so abusive. I ended it. My uncle was an alcoholic he lost everything because of alcohol. He was a loving guy. He was a good uncle but he die because alcohol and froze to death. I hate alcohol. Glad this woman moved on. Hope this guy get help.

  • @feliciawright7479
    @feliciawright7479 10 місяців тому +1

    I married an alcoholic. I chose to ignore the red flags. After a while he was combining alcohol with (hard) drugs. I stood by him through rehab, relapses and him finally deciding that his family was not as important as his addiction. It took a while, but when I decided that I was done I was DONE. The truth is no matter how much you love someone and want them to do/be better it doesn’t matter until they are ready. It is okay to separate yourself from people like this.

  • @candacebutler7011
    @candacebutler7011 10 місяців тому +3

    Is he drunk right now?

  • @smittynumba9310
    @smittynumba9310 9 місяців тому +1

    He ain’t changed 💩. He just coming with a bunch of “sorry’s”. No action behind anything and crocodile tears! Dude wants a crutch and enabler go fix you bro and be a better man and father.. she’s taken enough and is leaving before he drains the last of her congrats girl 👏🏾 🤎

  • @JzanellJ
    @JzanellJ 4 місяці тому

    At some point when you continue to disrespect & disregard your partner, you’re supposed to lose everything. That’s how it goes! I hope this serves as a true catalyst for a real change in Mr Ingrams life, so he can show up as a whole human being in the future.

  • @jeanp1323
    @jeanp1323 10 місяців тому +1

    i almost cried when he said he missed his son's football game

    • @TiktokIsTheNewWelfare
      @TiktokIsTheNewWelfare 10 місяців тому +1

      Why

    • @jeanp1323
      @jeanp1323 10 місяців тому +1

      @@TiktokIsTheNewWelfare he seemed really broken and remorseful

    • @GETBIG4WARD
      @GETBIG4WARD 9 місяців тому

      @@jeanp1323I agree he seemed like he regretted it but it’s in the past now he can only do what he been ping lately which is spend time with his son this show hates men no matter what he did he was a devil when he agreed to come on the show

    • @peacefaith560
      @peacefaith560 4 місяці тому

      Cry me a river

  • @gracelikerain5039
    @gracelikerain5039 10 місяців тому +4

    I think he is genuinely sorry idk if I really loved him I would give him a chance everyone makes mistakes

    • @ThetaAlphaGamma
      @ThetaAlphaGamma 10 місяців тому +2

      I can just imagine how many times she has given him " another chance "! At some point....you have to say enough is enough and protect yourself & your child.

    • @peacefaith560
      @peacefaith560 4 місяці тому

      😅

  • @karenjones7794
    @karenjones7794 Місяць тому +1

    He's going to go get a drink tonight

  • @latashaepps1060
    @latashaepps1060 10 місяців тому +1

    Dang when a woman is fed up there is nothing you can do about it. He tried and I hope he keeps up with his sobriety. It was a hard harsh ruling.