Learning to get along with people has turned out to be for me the most difficult thing in life to accomplish. and it just may be that no skill is more important than that. my mother stressed all this all the time, but i dismissed her words, and now i am paying the steep price for it
actually, let me be more specific about this. a few months ago, i read a book by Rabbi Daniel Lapin called something like Business Secrets of the Bible. my motive for reading it was to get a Jewish perspective on how to have more money, but the thing i most remember about the book has little to do with that and frankly caught me by complete surprise. i am referring here to how Rabbi Lapin emphasized over and over again the primacy of relating to people, perhaps even as many people as possible. This shocked me, because until then, I thought that a completely legitimate alternative way to live would be as an introverted intellectual, in the tradition of the brilliant introvert Albert Einstein. and so i ignored my very extroverted pleas from my mother to interact more with people, and it had huge consequences, such as my being a professional failure, and never getting married. Now, one might ask why it took Rabbi Lapin to open my eyes on this. Well, for one thing, he is an Orthodox Rabbi, and there is no other profession I respect more than that, and for another, I know Rabbi Lapin on a personal level, having attended his classes in person many times. My impression of him is that being an outgoing social butterfly is not his cup of tea. i dont think it comes natural to him. i think if it were up to him, so to speak, that he would spend most of his waking life studying the Torah in complete isolation, or maybe have one study partner, but that would be it. instead, though, he goes completely against his nature, interacting with many, and as a result has quite a following, even until today. now, i am well into middle age, so it is probably too late for me to significantly alter my very introverted lifestyle, but at least it made me think, and increase my respect for socialites like my mother, and maybe i can make small inroads into becoming more of a people person
Excellent! Thank you so much!
Learning to get along with people has turned out to be for me the most difficult thing in life to accomplish. and it just may be that no skill is more important than that. my mother stressed all this all the time, but i dismissed her words, and now i am paying the steep price for it
actually, let me be more specific about this. a few months ago, i read a book by Rabbi Daniel Lapin called something like Business Secrets of the Bible. my motive for reading it was to get a Jewish perspective on how to have more money, but the thing i most remember about the book has little to do with that and frankly caught me by complete surprise. i am referring here to how Rabbi Lapin emphasized over and over again the primacy of relating to people, perhaps even as many people as possible. This shocked me, because until then, I thought that a completely legitimate alternative way to live would be as an introverted intellectual, in the tradition of the brilliant introvert Albert Einstein. and so i ignored my very extroverted pleas from my mother to interact more with people, and it had huge consequences, such as my being a professional failure, and never getting married. Now, one might ask why it took Rabbi Lapin to open my eyes on this. Well, for one thing, he is an Orthodox Rabbi, and there is no other profession I respect more than that, and for another, I know Rabbi Lapin on a personal level, having attended his classes in person many times. My impression of him is that being an outgoing social butterfly is not his cup of tea. i dont think it comes natural to him. i think if it were up to him, so to speak, that he would spend most of his waking life studying the Torah in complete isolation, or maybe have one study partner, but that would be it. instead, though, he goes completely against his nature, interacting with many, and as a result has quite a following, even until today. now, i am well into middle age, so it is probably too late for me to significantly alter my very introverted lifestyle, but at least it made me think, and increase my respect for socialites like my mother, and maybe i can make small inroads into becoming more of a people person
I agree with you Rabi
Rabi or Rabbi?
@@mosesCordovero-uw5vw Yes Rabbi
okay, good, now i can sleep better at night knowing that the correction was made. i am only kidding with you
Are you referring to the couple relationship or general relationship with everyone? I choose to stay single; it’s not good?
Both