Why I don't Swear... Much and Neither Should You
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- Опубліковано 11 жов 2024
- What's wrong with #swearing? If it's wrong, is it always wrong to #swear or is there a time and a place in which it's appropriate? I would say that there is a time and a place, but if you abuse that limitation and give into the urge every time it tempts you, you will become complacent in the way you use language and people will stop paying attention to you. If every conversation is made vulgar by the use of obscenity, then how do we distinguish the occasions in which it is appropriate? Master the use of language by disciplining yourself and then you'll have the ability to appeal to strong language only when it's necessary and people will better appreciate those moments for what they are.
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I never swear, and my husband did it only once in 10 years of marriage. We also don’t call names and I have to say that our conflicts are way milder from people who swear or insult. It’s one of the ways to keep marriage and friendships alive.
No the fuck you didn't.
You don't understand what swear words are and you sound really dull.
@tteros5998 she does that's why she explained it.
Sounds like you're harboring a lot of hatred
After my stroke when I lost the ability to speak for about 3 months and today I haven't recovered everything I have to think before I can actual speak before that process wasn't involved. Writing is still difficult and I have to here myself speak to ensure I'm writing correctly. My eloquent speaking style is forever gone and my writing is about 10 percent of what it was before. Language is a gift from god no doubt. Good video
Thanks for sharing that much needed perspective.
Manufanatic 99 Excellent reason for appreciating our language skills. Others need to know your feelings of inadequacy due to your stroke. Thank you.
Manufanatic 99 i hope you are healthy and well :)
I hope you're doing well these days. God bless.
Thank you for this. It most have been very difficult to write this and God bless you for your fear of the Lord.
My entire school watched this today Tuesday August 14 2018, there is a big cussing problem for our 8th grade
Haha. It's funny to think that one of my videos would be used like that. I hope it helped!
@Wilson Nguyen what's your problem leave them alone
@@theresaneely7395 we should pray for this person :)
First off who’s in school in august u sound dumb as shi
@1234 It does not mean he not allowed you to said anything you want, he was encouraging us to not swear and curse. Please respect people opinion
I’m 16, and I’m in high-school, and pretty much all my classmates swear, and it’s just unnecessary, annoying, cringe, and offensive. And I’m even more shocked and infuriated when little kids ages 5-12 swear.😡🔥🔤😨
I’m a 17 year old in high school and I absolutely agree with you. I’m glad someone else is in the same boat as me.
I thought I was alone too!
SAME!
Finally someone is with me 😬🤓😷
One of my nephews at the age of 5 knows how to use the curse word and plus the middle finger
I was so upset and shocked by what my nephew had become 😔🤓😷
Maybe let them be? It doesn't even hurt your prestige
I showed this video to a class of third-graders to make a point about acceptable language in school. They mostly paid attention. Time will tell if they absorbed it. But a great video.
I agree with this so much. Since I was a Kid I felt I don't like swearing. I never have.
LAAAAAMMMMMEEEEEEE
@YOUNES BENGHAFFOR “shit” is bad for your mental health but “crap” isn’t, even though they are just WORDS that mean the SAME THING? Yeah that sounds like a Mount Everest sized pile of bullshit to me.
@@JaceAVinson crap ain't even a bad word mate
@@Itsbully06 I know. But if “crap” and “shit” have the exact same meaning than why can kids say “crap” but not “shit”? And that’s just one reason why kids not being allowed to swear is stupid. AND MOST KIDS PROBABLY DON’T EVEN QUESTION IT AND THEN GROW UP AND THE SAME THING HAPPENS WITH THEIR KIDS.
@Samurai cheems OH OK. SAYING “CRAP” OR “POOP” IS NOT A SIN BUT SAYING “SHIT” IS EVEN THOUGH THEY ALL MEAN THE SAME THING? WHAT THE HELL KIND OF LOGIC IS THAT. I AM SO SICK OF ALL OF THESE DUMBASS EXCUSES ABOUT IT THAT WILL NEVER COME CLOSE MAKING ANY KIND OF SENSE. THE FACT THE THIS DUMBASS RULE EVEN EXIST FOR ANYONE FOR THIS CONVERSATION TO EVEN HAPPED IS MIND BLOWING TO ME. IF SOMEONE SAID “DANG IT” OR “DARN IT” AFTER FAILING ST SOMETHING, WOULD YOU GET MAD AT THEM? NO. BUT IF THEY SAID “DAMN IT” ALL OF A SUDDEN THEY WOULD GO TO HELL AFTER THERE DEATH OVER SAYING A WORD THAT MEANS THE SAME THING. ALSO CALLING SOMEONE A “BITCH” IS CALLING THEM A FEMALE DOG WHICH SOUNDS LIKE AN INSULT FROM A 5 YEAR OLD. ALSO CALLING SOMEONE A “SON OF A BITCH” IS CALLING THEM A PUPPY AND THAT SOUNDS LIKE ITS ALSO FROM A 5 YEAR OLD. I swear if people don’t start realizing how stupid this is I think on gonna go insane.
"FULTON SHEEN" haha that's hilarious!
Melanie Griesemer
I wonder if he would mind having his name turned into a swear word? Hmmm..how much worse is it to do the same to God the Father or Jesus?!!
Yeah, I wasn't overly offended by it because, well, there's a difference between Archbishop Sheen and the Lord. But I probably did raise an eyebrow on hearing that.
I stop swearing because it doesn't look good and educated. And it's getting easier for me.
Marya Ryenoso 👍🏿
She’s trying to say that she has stopped swearing because it doesn’t seem like a smart thing to do, it’s not about what people think
God bless you!
I don’t get why swearing is frowned upon the public or why swearing is even a concept. Words like fuck, shit, ass, and bitch all have normal definitions like any other words and even shared the same meaning with other words too. If the people that made English did not like swear words then why was it invented? Think about it.
@@gam3r_playz770 it actually create rapport. Imagine just saying the words because it creates a stronger feel in a sense. I wouldn't be wishy washy like that because I'm afraid what somebody thinks. Many people use it. I think it just matters where, but if it slips just gotta have a good explanation of why and where u said it 😂
Yes, I agree with you! not swearing is a good way to tackle my anger issues!
"He was opting for F#s like it was the only key on the keyboard."
This made me laugh.
But still you should not cuss,dont do it at all. The bible says exactly that because cussing is a bad habit,that conveys perverted meanings which compromise human privacy and goes against God.
So,stop cussing,and avoid it.
I don't swear ever because my parents, and my friends, and my parent's friends, and my grandpa, and my entire family, swear up a storm around me and they never censor themselves. My parent's friends never censor themselves around me. I know I'm a few days away from being 13 but... Come on pal. They swore around me when I was a toddler. I think it's because I have problems with people around me swearing
27 now. I’m trying to fix this. Swearing doesn’t make you strong. Ironically it makes you look weak.
@@judgementwings Dude, it's a habit. Most people don't swear to look cool.
@@alexisdogbo7958 ??
@@alexisdogbo7958 agreed
@@alexisdogbo7958 Agreed, whenever I'm alone, if I'm stressed a LOT, I say curse words just to release it. I don't yell them, but I say it quietly that way the neighbors don't go yelling, "BOY, IF YOU DON'T STOP CURSING, YOU'LL BECOME A SAILOR MOUTH!"
When someone is cursing every other word, even positively it gives me a lot anxiety.
I want to quit cursing.
I want to quit putting up with it everywhere I go, on and/or off the internet, but because of COPPA, it's a lot harder than it looks.
Don't say I want to quit cursing
JUST don't say it at all 🤓😷
No excuses at all 🤓😷
Back when I was young, people - of course - used the F-word, but I’ve observed that today it has become the standard for being considered “cool.”
No it’s just a common thing people say.
lord chanka 😂😂😂
It's actually a emotional regulation thing. Even monkey have swear words I'm not even kidding. It's an evolution thing. Say fuck and the whole room stares. Say fuck and you feel bad, but after a while it makes sense. Say fuck and it becomes your whole lifestyle. Fuck that and fuck this. I don't give a fuck 😂😂😂😂 fucking love it 😂😂😂
@@meowmeow1786 yeah...that is definitely NOT something to be proud of...
@@meowmeow1786 believe me, people don't stare in shock anymore, they just find it annoying
Fun fact: Dutch is the only language (as far as my research has shown) where they use words for various diseases as swears in their current lexicon.
Levi Breederland Polish too
You have given me a new Thing I Must Research. XD
As In "AIDS!" , "CANCER" "TUBERCULOSIS"!!!
Are you telling me that in dutch I just cursed three times?
@@dosmastrify yes, have not heard turberculosis but the other two are widely used
@Rick Borghuis Gozer laat mensen met rust. Als ze willen schelden laat ze schelden.
I'm from the United Kingdom. I get the impression that the British and Irish tend to swear far more than Americans do. However, I rarely swear.
This is because when I was in school, there was someone who arrived at my school a bit later than I did, and eventually, I started to feel as though he sought to take the place of me, if you know what I mean. I figured that not swearing was a good way to set myself apart from him, because he swears like a sailor.
Love the "swearing" at the end! 😂 "FULTON SHEEN!... pr-pray for us." "What the help desk?" "shhhhhERMAN!"
1:53 F#s LOL!
That's the only music joke I've ever actually laughed out loud at!
I don't swear.
K
I use the word "FUDGE!" and it's fun because it's dorky.
It can also make you think about "fudge cake".
@@ХристоМартунковграфЛозенски Fascinating name you got there
Oh hamburgers
Ew. What the fuck..
@@meowmeow1786 You don't talk to a lot of people don't you?
This is an interesting secular friendly argument in favor of not using profanity.
In the military, when someone stops cursing, that's when you need to shut up and listen, because the dude is about to blow up.
Absolutely.
I thoroughly enjoy your V-Logs. The F word is my pet peeve. It IS overused by the thirty years and under, age. I often remark that it must be because of their lack of good vocabulary. Thank you for addressing this simple issue.
it only becomes a pet peeve because we were emotionally conditioned to think it's wrong when actually theres no logical reason for that. And no, there's no reason why using it necessarily means someone has a weak vocabulary. It's just another made up excuse argument to back up the culturally conditioned taboo.
Stephen Fry articulates it rather well here. ua-cam.com/video/s_osQvkeNRM/v-deo.html
@@Unclenate1000 i know,when i meet people I'm always sceptical about there dirty minds and arrogant capabilities to say words that makes our ears bleed everyday
Fuck that
@@jacobyf8133 you're soooo edgyyyyy
I absolutely hate cussing I can’t stand it a lot of people around me cuss a lot and now my younger cousins are starting to do it and my sister looking annoyed and offended I’m offended by my 8 year old cousin cussing like a sailer and she’s like “well everyone’s different” My point exactly I’m different and don’t like to hear stuff like that and he’s not suppose to be using that anyway.And my other cousin after calling some the B word and saying the f word said “it’s just words” when in reality it is really not if it was “just words” why is it so cool to say it then?? If it’s “just words” Why can’t we cuss at work and at school? Doesn’t make sense right? It’s because certain people will be offended by your language it’s not “just words”
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Thank you for this video! I grew up with a lot of swearing from most of my family. For my close family, my mom swore a ton for as long as I can remember, just one of those people that swear casually. My sister didn't start swearing until she was 16. She's almost 22 now. I'm 25 and I just never grew into swearing. I don't even know why, I guess I just find it an awful habit. Sometimes though, since countless people do it, I feel like the only person in the world that doesn't swear. Sometimes I wonder if it's wrong that I'm against. Glad I came to this video to see others that feel the same way about swearing and avoiding those words make us the stronger ones. I feel a lot better after watching this. Thanks again! :)
People that are offended by swearing will usually seek out new friends that feel the same way. There are millions of us, but we don't wear a sign around our necks!
@@saturn722 truth.
“O you, who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them, nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one’s] faith. And whoever does not repent - then it is those who are the wrongdoers.” (Quran, 49:11)
@@YonIon996 Using profanity in public is still against the law in many US states but sadly the law is not enforced anymore.
Swearing is flat out bad for you most of the time (especially if it's a habit), and I have 2 solid reasons for it.
Reason #1: It reflects poorly of you:
Swearing, especially at the workplace or any other places where you need to be well-mannered will reflect very poorly of you. It just makes you look less; less intelligent, less educated, less eloquent, less respectful and so on. Like this man mentioned in the video, swear words are designed to be provocative, so using them will make you sound ill mannered and disrespectful. Some people swear habitually, so it's hard for them to get a hold of their tongue even at the work place.
Reason #2: Swearing during an argument will escalate it. So many people get into arguments; most of the time with their significant other. Using profanity will not help the argument whatsoever, and if one has a habit of using obscene language, then they will most definitely use it in an argument, which will just escalate the situation.
People who don't swear at all resolve their arguments much more respectfully and logically.
agreed, great points! also people who hold their tongue really show the concept of discipline, especially in something that may seem insignificant, like profanity, bc its so easy to say those words. When we hold ourselves back even in the smallest things, we definitely do so in the bigger, more important aspects of life. It's not easy, but the results are well worth it in the long run.
I don't cuss regularly but some words do slip out occasionally, but I've realized discipline really goes a long way in life, so beginning in that aspect helps you develop that.
To your point 1: Sure, buddy, so what? I'll speak respectfully to grandma, and people that are respectful to me. I see no reason to advertise my intelligence, usually to be honest, I don't really speak to people at work. But that's irrelevant anyway, just google, swearing study, most articles tell you it's a sign of intelligence.
Your point 2, No, yelling escalates, If I just mutter "God Fucking Damnit" no one is going to feel offended.
I've always sworn since I could talk, I'm not changing that shit now. But then again, I live in Denmark, I don't know anyone that doesn't swear.
Ps. F**k you. :)
or just don’t be a pussy about it lol, the word only has the meaning you put on it. i swear so often and so does everyone i know (i’m Australian btw) we aren’t “less” lol
I guess I need to clean up my language so when I swear it will really have the punch it is intended to have.
Just don't swear at All!
@@georgedowns4034 We do not care 😎
@Chase Studios I don't give a crap if you hate swearing or not. FREEDOM OF SPEECH EXISTS FOR A REASON.
@Ok I'm Done No, I didn't mean it like that, I meant in the appropriate time, you should be allowed to swear. Examples like swearing at a job interview are not a good idea, but swearing as a way to release anger from pain (stubbing your toe) is a good idea.
I actually just made a similar video about why I don't swear! Completely agree!
It very much depends on the context. I have a vast vocabulary in Czech and English and a basic understanding of German, Spanish, and Japanese. I can speak and write in very "posh" and clean language if I decide to. However, we often use swearing with very close friends to show trust and friendliness. You can think of it as the inverse of being very polite to someone you don't know. Japanese expresses similar qualities with its 4 basic formality levels:
hyper-polite - used by employees toward customers
polite - used when talking to those who are older than you or have a higher social status
casual - used with friends and family
hypercasual/vulgar - used with very close friends
Besides, swearing is very helpful in stressful situations, as it is proven to increase tolerance to both physical and mental pain.
To sum up, controlling your language is extensively more useful than entirely omitting cusses. Nevertheless, I greatly respect those who choose not to swear at all.
Good video, and good points. I do agree that there are times and places to use curse words, but I have recently realized that I curse more than I used to because I've gotten lazy.
I was told that we should not use the same tongue to swear as we do to pray. Therefore I conclude that at the cost of grace we would swear. Perhaps its something to keep in mind.
When someone insults me in the hardest way I don't swear
dude yes i was the kid who swears out of impulse because i never stood how powerful not cursing would be BUT PLEASE I WANT TO CHANGE WHERE DO I GO NEXT???
I'm educated yet I tend to swear while speaking with people of lower status.The idea for that is to build up better rapport but now I'm having seconds thoughts as may be wrong doing it...either way, thank you for this vid!It's definitely thought provoking
God, what you just said comes across so classist.
@user-jt1js5mr3f I would kindly suggest educating yourself on classism and its dynamics before making a false judgment on someone online.
@@Tutume1111just stay strong 🔥🤓😷
Coming from a family who don't like profanity, I have to agree with this. I just find bad language to be extremely lazy and unimaginative. I don't see why far too many people use profanity other than to express anger. Not to mention, given that there are people like my mother out there who straight-up don't like bad language, I also find it EXTREMELY inconsiderate to use such language. I also do NOT find it funny, and instead find it offensive. This is why I choose to use fake profanity instead. :|
Agreed huge time.
I nEvEr TaLk AnYmOrE sO tHaT wHeN I dO pEoPlE tAkE mE mOrE sErIoUsLy!
A few things to add to your list:
It's often extremely sexist. If you make a list of the swear/curse words, those that do not refer to excrement often talk about or make fun of sexual things. While there are a few that refer to males, the vast majority involve females or female parts. Even some that are supposed to refer to males involve the idea of how they are related to a female.
Most people don't even think about what they are saying when they curse, it's just a habit. I often hear people use phrases which combine curse words, and it makes you wonder if they realize what they essentially said.
Psychiatrist using utilitarian ethics to some extent focus on the positive effects of the person using the curse words and claim that it is a stress release, but not on the way others could be helped or hurt from hearing the curse words. At the end of the day, even if you don't curse, you will likely still be influenced to some degree mentally by the word choices of others.
This last one is what you sort of covered.
Lack of subject matter in curse words. Sure, there are a variety of synonyms for the same few topics, but ultimately not a lot of concepts involved in the words. To a large extent, people walk around saying the same 3 or 4 concepts over and over again without thought. People used to say that it showed a lack of vocabulary because of this limitation, but because there are so many synonyms and it becomes commonplace, the concept escapes society.
St. Father Pio once said to a woman at confession: "Tell your husband that he must stop swearing. If you swear, a deamon is close..." this is enough for me.
That doesn't make sense
@@sirreality5145 ... to you. God bless.
@@theragra Well if a demon was around everytime someone swore. That means that satanic rituals would never happen and I would get a house full of demons around my parents
Before I was a Christian, I swore in pretty much ever sentence I spoke. Now that I am a Christian, I swear significantly less, and I am much better off doing so. I still swear though, despite trying not to, but I'm glad I don't swear as much!
I remember a time when epilepsy and PMS upset me too much when I was annoyed by frequent foul mouth from other students in high school, and that all made me lose my temper big time! I got so furious at someone whom swore that I threatened to pull that person outside and whack that person with a brick for swearing (but did not actually do so to that person)! My temper just got violent because of my epilepsy and PMS at the same time, so I needed help from my epileptologist and maybe also an endocrinologist, but it was hard because it had only been months since I was diagnosed with epilepsy, and it took a while to confirm that my seizures could get under full control! (I want you to understand that people sometimes have emotional conflicts that disrupt life so that you’re not just thinking that someone who has a temper enjoys it!)
I remember a while back ago I would slip up and say a cuss word and someone told me that “Kayla what’s the point in cussing it doesn’t sound good when you do it” they said some people it works for your not one of those people so I thought about it and said yeah your right and haven’t swore since
So you changed your own style for another persons opinion on you. What a joke...
You should do whatever the fuck you want even if the other person doesnt seem to like it. Its your style, as long as you dont premeditately hurt anyone. Swearing is ok. Censorship is not.
Good decision.
@@bruh9977 Swearing is not okay and censorship is needed sometimes
I feel like people who constantly swear when they're angry is just a sign of a lack of self-control. If you could control your language, in turn, you can gain more self-restraint.
I agree with you!👍
It’s pretty easy to not swear let’s be honest
1:40 this is 85% of ALL the students at 'Hamilton High School, Chandler AZ'... And I think it would take a analogy meaner than this one to describe how they use the F-word. Its insane how people think using poor, illiterate, and simply rude language is what makes you cool and enjoyable to be around these days.
Agreed huge time!
I have made mt living writing English and have a deep reverence for it. That reverance also includes a genuine appreciate for creative swearing. You are protecting the integrity of English, you're just being a self-righteous pedant.
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I love it. Now, tell my daughter, because she's not gonna wanna hear this from MOM, lol
I never swore in the first place for a lot of reasons but I absolutely hate it ...
I don't want to be around people whose communication skills are so limited that every other word they utter is a bad word. Horrible.
I like to be childish with my language in the sense of if something unfortunate and relatively small happens then I can be playful with it and not get angry at small things.
It’s a shame that since I don’t swear, most ppl (where i live) do and i just feel like i need to because literally everyone in my class including my teacher! does but I don’t and it’s annoying that they try get me swear and consider me as a child or something
Esha thank you man, i deffo will stick to things that i have the right to do!
Yea people are annoying with swearing like it’s ok to sometimes swear but to swear every sentence is so annoying. I don’t understand what they are talking about when they do.
For me, the reason I rarely swear is that it has SO MUCH MORE impact when I do. Generally speaking, I don't use language harsher than "sucks" or "freaking", maybe "crap", and then there's the occasional "damn" or "hell" when I'm riled up or I burn myself while cooking or something like that. That's usually as salty as it gets from me. If I drop an s-bomb, a-bomb, or either b-bomb, there's a reason behind it that goes beyond the normal "Victoria's worked up over something". Most people haven't heard a gd-bomb or f-bomb from me, and most never will.
The funniest part is occasionally there's people who think I'm offended by swear words and I just laugh, I'm like "if only you knew the UA-cam videos I watched as a teen, your ears would curl from the language they used". I just know if you overuse the f-bomb, it becomes the f-snap-pop (those little white things you throw on the ground that make a light snapping sound).
I remember when my mother told me to go do a task, I said "I am". One of my brothers said "Never heard him talk like that before. He said "D**n!" I didn't say the word. He thought I said the word "D**n!" Sometimes you have to defend yourself. My ears were my witness when I said "I am". Mark my words! "I am" was something I could've just shouted, or better yet "Yes, mama"! If my brother would get off my case and stop believing what he heard!
I agree 💯
I don't swear out loud because I'm a petite baby-faced woman with a high-pitched voice and it looks so silly that people have commented on it before. But I do swear sometimes in texts...
People don't purposely use swear words but the only thing people mostly use swear words is when they are mad and frustrated
And I would hate it if someone actually did that to me
Even if I'm depressed,mad and angry I don't swear at all so no excuses 🤓😷
I am showing this to my middle school students. Thank you!
Swearing will make you deeply immature. People who say people who don't swear are immature are clearly wrong, Like swearing does not give you emotions or it makes you mature or due to someone being a grown-up, so because someone is a grown up means they get to swear in public? Also it makes you unprofessional, I don't get on how others see swearing "good" for them. Even some of my classmates swear, I will disagree with all people who think swearing makes you mature, it doesn't make you look cool, edgy or funny at all, All it will do is it will make you immature, And WOULD you swear in a public place? I wouldn't swear in a public Place. I used to have a friend who thought swearing was cool and they were swearing as a joke. It's not funny either.
Only time i recommend swearing is to your friends. If its in a public area to a stranger that would be a no go
This is a difficult and complex subject for me. I grew up in an environment in which people swore all the time. I also have Tourette's Syndrome, which tends to increase swearing when excited. I also often--not always but OFTEN--run in circles culturally where, if you WON'T swear, you get marked out as there being something wrong with you, like you're an elitist who thinks you're better than them, sort of thing.
We also have a schizoid culture, where in large parts of the culture, words like "bulls***" are simply everyday words, or close to it. George Carlin used to have "THe 7 Words You Can't Say On Television" but other than f*** and maybe c*** almost all of them are pretty mundane in TV and movies and video games.
I got a lesson in 1980 from a Catholic Priest on swearing at my old High School--and he was a priest, a principal, and a monk, who would often use really rough language--any word you can imagine--to get attention from boys who weren't paying attention (it was an all boys school, and BTW the boys there also tended to swear a lot). Indeed in looking back I'm sure more than one of the teachers would swear with the sole intention of breaking a class barrier, we were almost all working class kids you see.
In my current work, if I don't swear I get picked out as a wimp. That works out well, because I didn't become serious Christian til late in life and swearing was always normal for me, which also means, STOPPING DOING IT is a serious effort. I can do it but I have to be concnetrating. In reality, I have been working in recent years to do it LESS, but I still do, and in some stuff I do, I pretty much have to.
Would it surprise you to know I've won souls to Christ, or made people able to listen and consider anyway, by simply demonstrating to them that swearing does not bother me in the least,? And explaining that from a Catholic perspective it's not the words you use it's the intent and the context that matter? Well I have. I've even had young people tell me "I had no idea Catholics could be cool" and the entirety of my "cool" was being willing to say "f**k off dumba**" and "that's bullsh**" out loud.
The culture and politics of this is part of the spirituality. In reality I would agree with those who say you are best off not use coarse language because it coarsens your own soul. I see enormous truth there. Christians who avoid me or my work because of the pungeancy of the language don't upset me in the least. Although I hope those who've seen my work realize: no I really am getting people open to God JUST by showing that swearing is no big deal to me. Yet some people will likewise find it offputting.
WHat I would remember is what the priest who taught me how to swear in a civilized manner told me: the Latin Vulgate was for the Vulgar people. The Vulgar people used language the uppper caste of society did not. If you look through CHaucer, Shakespeare, and more, vulgarity is there for the common people. It is the common people we most want to reach.
Thus this discussion becomes interesting: when is it appropriate? I would say that first off, if it bothers you then just avoid it and don't do it, it's probably not the healthiest thing to be swearing anyway. But at the flip side: there are times, and contexts, and even CULTURAL AREAS, where it's more than appropriate, it's almost a requirement: among the "blue collar" set swearing is showing you're willing to join their tribe; in "white collar" it indicates you're kind of uncouth.
Context matters, it matters SOOOO much.
Another place where culturally swearing is often simply part of the culture: many athletic fields, much of enlisted military.
Absolutely agree. Well said!
Dean, true enough, regarding culture. But I would add we're supposed to keep this world and its varying cultures in proper context. When I was younger, fitting in was all that mattered. As I aged, it mattered less and less. The only culture I really care about now is that of the Kingdom of God. Of course I'm talking about swearing that isn't a result of Tourette's.
Its not that you think you are better than them - you are ! Simply tell them - why should I lower myself to your level? Careful - it makes them mad.
But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment.
Matthew 12:36
I needed this. I never used to swear but joined the Army and developed a huge swearing problem. It's classless and rude, especially for a woman. I need to stop.
you really dont. these people dont have any real arguments. just a subjective baseless taboo that they've hyped up to be something more for no good reason.
*_Bingo!_* Yes, I _too_ only ever use swear words as top-shelf utilities, and yes, I _also_ possess a corporeal respect and fascination for our languaging. Ironically, I'm not a reader, but I do at least one deep dictionary-dive per day. It's exhausting lol. I only ever allow 12 app-icons to pollute my phone's homescreen, and my Merriam-Webster app is number six!
(Might you know of an iOS dictionary app that incorporates robust vocab-learning features, like being able to have a little vocab pop-quiz from my saved words pop up on my screen everyday? _That_ would be _bitchin'!)_
I grew up as a Christian being told it is wrong, having it made out to be such a taboo that I judged others for it; they made it feel like a sin and you were a bad person for swearing.
As a Christian still, that's absolute bullshit. Clearly, my feelings have changed.
Ephesians 4:29 was a common verse thrown out to discourage it, "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." My home would consider "bullshit" as unwholesome talk, but it's simply a descriptive word that conveys the hollow, contradictory, and incorrect teachings I eventually found them to be.
With that verse in mind, it's important to realize this isn't so much about specific words, but INTENT. Growing up in the south, using this verse as a metric, I know so many "christians" that told me not to curse, who have filthier mouths than I do based on how they spoke about others.
Not taking the Lord's name in vain is another, and their obvious pointed finger is at G-damn, but I'd argue many christians take His name in vain in more despicable ways. They justify gross judgment, bigotry, and treatment of others by using God's name. In his name they take away healthcare, would rather orphans not be adopted by loving gay couples, drive gay youth to depression, suicide, and cast them out of families. Not to mention the amount in internal strife and pettiness I've seen within congregations.
(Any restaurant server I know dreads after-church crowds because they're often horribly rude, but in God's name, amen).
Substitute words were ok, like darn, poop, and fudge. The sentiment is the same, we all know what they're comparable to, so what is truly the difference? Truly, what is the difference between "darn it" and "damn it"? Absolutely nothing, and after that, the fragile, taboo facade of what I had been taught about bad words crumbled quickly.
What SHOULD have been far more important is the message on HOW you talk to people, the INTENT of how you're feeling. Instead, the loving "christian" teaching I received focused on shame, guilt, fear, and judgment of others.
I don't swear much, as I remain aware of sensitive circumstances and will opt for respecting an environment, not to mention having other words to more accurately convey how I'm feeling, but the entire reasoning I was raised on was simply a double standard and avenue for shame.
Simply, it was incorrect.
So basically you want to continue swear but you just don't want to ? 🤓😷
@@Yuehanxun745 "You want to continue to swear but you don't want to."
I'm going to ask you to clarify such a contradictory statement before attempting to respond.
@@user-jt1js5mr3f and what your point is sir ? 🤓😷
I mostly never swear but mostly because ever since I was a child I felt guilty whenever I did it, in fact, I was so deep into the no swearing rabbit hole that my parents asked me to curse for once. Now, I just swear online, but whenever I am having a conversation irl, you will not hear me say a swear word, EVER.
Thats same with me too. I cuss in my video but I use it in a correct way and online conversation
Same thing happened to me. I was told by my dad to say the f word once since I passionately refused to say it before.
Good, be yourself and don’t let the world influence you to change. Majority of people swear but those who do not are better and more respectful people.
i don't swear.
I quit because I love God ✝️☦️🙏🏻🇻🇦📿
I don’t wanna seem like that person who’s a naysayer for no reason, but I think the “it makes you seem unintelligent” thing is ridiculous. All the other arguments are making everything so much of a big deal, it’s frikkin exhausting. Let’s be real, 95% of whatever “profound” thing you have to say isn’t going to be an earth-shattering statement worth overthinking.
I grew up where both my parents cussed regularly to add a little “kick” to what they were saying. Cuss words give a hint of stubbornness when someone “lays down the facts”. It is sometimes used to discourage the other person from taking the matter further as the speaker had the final say. The way I was taught, vulgar language is better used as a means to convince the other person your mind won’t be changed instead of a mere “vehicle for anger”.
When “rational discussion is encouraged” with others who have that same or greater level of stubbornness, then the argument is as good as lost.
Now, it is better to curb vulgar language with people who will have a calm and rational discussions, as the exchange is not about winning but understanding. But not everyone is a pretty-prissy-goody-two-shoes like that. Oftentimes, you have to make it undeniably clear that you put your foot down on your statement by using strong language. The lack of this display of willpower is embarrassingly emasculating and is telling of a waning resolve.
Think about it: outside of the stereotype of curse words being “uneducated”, what is another idea a person using that language entails?
Toughness.
You don’t hear a wimpy person using cuss words. They’re usually overly polite and effeminate. And when a wimp does cuss, they’re lost in a sea of four-lettered-words without any intrinsic meaning to any of their sentences. Meanwhile a mentally tough person would “lay down the facts” and punctuate with an f-bomb or an s. The point is: *cuss words add a flair to mental resilience.*
I swear when I rage at a video game.
Same with me I play games if I lose the game I get depressed, stressed, upset but I don't swear if I lose or not
So no excuses my oppo ☝️🤓😷
The older I get the more I understand my parent's distaste for profanity. Without meaning to sound puritanical (I'm not religious, I hasten to add), I honestly think an overreliance on profanity has made a significant contribution to the degradation of the fabric of society as a whole.
I wouldn't say profanity has contributed to it. I think a lot of variables play into it. Social Media+ Lots of Celebrities and influencers + PopCulture, I think we've become too acceptable if that makes sense to a lot of things. But society has definitely become a lot more degenerate. However I think a pendulum shift will soon come into play. Every decade there's something different and I think in the next few years this will be looked at as the degenerate decade maybe.
no, you're just unfortunately succumbing to the same baseless taboo they did absent any actual objective moral and logical backing.
I’ve never gotten into the habit of swearing, and now I’m dating someone who used it liberally, or did until she learnt it bothers me. I’m still trying to figure out why it does bother me, I guess I just feel dirty saying the F word, as if I’ve let myself down. And I can’t think of a single situation which would actually require it - if something terrible happened, shouting “OH NO!” still makes the entire room ask you what’s wrong. And then you get what feels like the majority of the English speaking world throwing F-bombs around like popcorn. I guess I just don’t like it
UA-camrs who swear constantly are not smart they are clowns
I think it's also a sign of respect
I am almost 18 and I don't use bad words 🗿🙏🏼
you're gonna be celebrating another year of virginity every year until you realise nobody cares
@@tteros5998 I don't get it what you're trying to say ? 🤓😷
@@Yuehanxun745 hes trying to say that this guy is going to continue being as a proud virgin without realizing that no one gives a shit
swearing creates bad vibes and draws bad things to you, because words have energy and negative words are energy--choose what energy you want to surround yourself with. Negative words will bring more negativity to you--whether they are swear words or judgmental words, or criticizing words....all similar, negative energy. Uplift your life and the world with words...BECAUSE WORDS ARE POWERFUL!! SIMPLE AS THAT
I try not to curse that much and people who curse so much are immature and don’t have self control. I have other coping skills I can do when I am angry or frustrated than to curse. I have curse when I am angry or frustrated like time to time but is not something I do on a daily basics.
Thank you brother. You look like Jesus 👍
Under no circumstances should you swear.
Oh really? Shit.
@@TheBuilderPro2024dude what is wrong with you, you just don’t know you’re committing a sin
@@LexxGee1234 So you get pissed off at me over one word? They're just words, you just gotta know how to use them in the correct context.
@@TheBuilderPro2024 swearing is a SIN, how do u not know that
@@TheBuilderPro2024 take your medicine
Because of the title, I thought you would make a point that swearing is bad on itself or something like that. I appreciate you haven't.
Curtailing other peoples speech is wrong
yeah fuck this shit right
I swear very less, never in front of my parents or anyone older or younger than me or someone i dlnt know about very much but when im with my friends i do swear sometimes but only when im with my friends or when im alone
My Irish mother used to say, "Jesus, Mary and Joseph!"
Great video man, you're absolutely correct.
Ya your rite
Sherman!! Excellent substitute! Fulton Sheen is also wonderful and funny! I’ll try them! Thank you Brian.
Honestly I HATE swearing with my guts. And my passion
*Gordon Ramsay has left the chat*
Love this Brother. Love the Fulton Sheen bit. lol. Pray for us! God Bless.
Hallelujah brother I confirm this very true.
You even pointed to a deeper truth regarding the gentleman at the beginning who used profanity as a literal buffer to give himself pause... to formulate his thoughts.
These things are so wrong...I mean to the very core, that the fruit that is born from them is disgusting. It is rotten and putrid. There is nothing attractive about it.
IT'S like, "ok. you really want to have a debate about profanity?"
Here the facts dude. What does it produce? what do people regard profanities use as? how does it color you? how does it allow people to lump you into categories? it's categorically UNBECOMING and not representative of Christ. In more ways than not profanity negatively shifts reality.
Is there actually help to stop swearing without putting down the people that do, genuinely. I don't want to be shamed into stopping, I want skills to navigate a bad habit that inerferes with my life.
Me who doesn't swear
I have a bad habbit lol
I try not to swear but it's goddamn hard to not swear.
For me as Slavic person it's really.... Really hard :DDD
Do you ask God for help, he can help you, be clean in speech, and curb your anger.
@@pauljohnson6019People have beef with people with not swearing, and the other way around. This world is messed up, fr.
I start swearing at 15 n I hate it sm now it’s like habit I can’t stop n it’s growing more n more n whenever I try to stop I hear my sis swearing so I return to the beginning I get so angry easily I used to cuss with two words now I swear with all kind of words it’s getting worse n I hate it 😢😢😢Ik I look uneducated person n savage but I tried
I have a cursing problem in my mind I try to stop but I cant so if you have the same problem you sould put one of those thick rubber band on your wrist and when you curse pull it thos helps me so i hope it helps you
I suspect this video may have just made me 10x more likely to invoke the intercession of Fulton Sheen.
Ah yes, Dictating and looking down on those who think/act differently.
I'm so glad I'm no longer Christian.
Same here. My family was torn apart because of it, and my siblings are in distant lands.
As if only Christians tell other people what to do
welcome to the real world where no one gives a shit about how you act or think :D
I fucking love swearing. It feels damn good, and I refuse to ever stop no matter where I am. There are ways to eloquently use those magnificent words, ya know?
So, You mean: Using Foul bad words is _good,_ Is that what you’re saying? In fact, did you even watch the video?
@cartooncatisthebestyeah, but now I think he's just _overusing_ it.
Curse words lose value the more and more they are used frequently.
@cartooncatisthebest how
There is actually nothing good about cussing, it's nothing but filth, and it makes you look stupid.
There is actually nothing good about swearing, it makes you look stupid
Are you sure 'bout all that? They're just like an other word! Think about it, if "crap" and "sh!t" mean the same thing, why are people allowed to say "crap"? That's the idiotic part about not letting kids curse. However, just don't turn yourself into the iconic "pottymouth".
Crap has a contextual (for example crap in some context mean scrap metal) meaning while shit doesnt
Does life really require us to be vulgar and provocative? Is it really necessary? I am curious, I am still a young guy with not much experience in life.
The response to hecklers which is always voted as the best is the very profane Bill Burr one in Philadelphia. So vulgarity gets respect if it is seen that you are putting idiots in their place.
0:25 Hey, what a concept: a politely short & sweet branding reel that doesn't cause me to harshly whisper, "What the *fuck!?"* followed by smashing the fast-forward button a couple times. The UX of most videos out there sucks! 😵 Thank you 😉
(haha "fast-forward"
Am I dating myself?)
There’s a book called “what the F,” by Benjamin k. Bergan on this topic. I haven’t read it yet but I want to.