Flight Anxiety: what to expect on a flight + travel tips if you're a nervous flyer 🥴
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- Опубліковано 7 вер 2024
- dedicated to all my nervous and first time flyers - you're not alone!
Timestamps:
🧳 2:03 Getting on the Plane lol
🛫 2:44 Take Off
- 3:10 you're not the only plane taking off
- 4:05 prepare your take off playlist
- 5:20 getting off the ground (noises, bumps, etc)
- 6:33 what was that thump?
- 7:08 initial ascent, turns, and turbulence
- 7:21 relaxing your body
- 8:42 climbing and getting permission from air traffic control
- 9:09 the dreaded 'leveling out' lol
- 10:39 turbulence when taking off
- 11:26 guessing where turbulence will be
- 13:50 whats up with the seatbelt sign?
- 14:50 cruising altitude!
✈️ 15:38 During the Flight
- 15:50 knowing where there will be turbulence
- 18:03 planes communicate!
- 19:15 planes are super strong
- 21:05 what can a pilot do about turbulence?
- 22:39 keep dancing
- 23:31 breathe :')
- 24:30 my pilot just warned us about severe turbulence???
- 25:14 why is that plane so close to us?
- 27:29 hydrate and stretch!
- 29:09 why do i smell burning hair?
- 31:05 lets talk emergency landings
🛬 33:42 Landing
- 33:50 initial descent
- 34:54 pilots fly the same routes
- 35:48 lots of scary noises
- 37:10 go arounds (your plane doesnt land the first time)
- 38:44 final approach and scary runways lol
- 40:04 the landing
🎁 41:14 General Tips
- 41:21 my love of flightaware
- 43:42 where i like to sit
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Scared of Flying: What to Expect on a Flight + Travel Tips 🥴 dealing w/ flight anxiety, solo travel
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I'm a private flight attendant and have been working in aviation (privately and commercially) for years. I have done hundreds of flights, on all kinds of routes, all over the world.
I tend to liken turbulence to waves on the ocean, uncomfortable yes, dangerous no. Pilots sometimes even go into turbulent areas on purpose as it can make the plane more efficient and saves fuel. They wouldn't do this if it was dangerous. Planes are VERY expensive, they wouldn't risk damaging it. No offense to everyone's lives, of course, but companies care about money, lol.
Seat belt signs can legally go off at 10.000 ft, if they keep them on it's usually because they're expecting bumpy conditions, or it might be because the cabin crew have requested they wait with turning them off so they can prepare for the service without huge lines at the lavatories 😅.
Another thing that I think is very comforting is the fact that at any stage, there are over 10.000 flights in the air. When you look up, you don't expect a plane to fall out of the sky either, so don't project this on the aircraft you're on.
There are lanes in the air, like there are on the ground (they can fluctuate depending on flying conditions, but lanes are created nonetheless) and planes are always 1000 ft away from another (above, below, side etc). If they get to close there is a system called TCAS (traffic collision avoidance system) which let's the aircraft computers communicate with one another and automatically diverts them so there is no chance of collision. If there are aircraft anywhere near the plane these also show on the radar which the pilots are constantly observing. Don't worry, they got you.
Pilots are also in constant communication with airtrafic who ask for ride reports from pilots on different levels (not everyone flies at the same altitude due to weight/fuel/distance to cover) which everyone on that frequency can hear (or they report it directly to the pilots if necessary).
The crew don't tend to swap out, they take break shifts (though sometimes and extra pilot is carried). There won't be hairdryers etc used in flight but the ovens are usually pretty old and tend to have some funky smells, gross yes, dangerous no. If you're sat by the wings, the smell might also be some fuel fumes as the air conditioning packs that suck air into the aircraft are near the engines.
Flying can feel scary because it's made into a big ordeal but if you fly more often, it normalises. You get used to the sounds, the smells, the vibrations etc.
As a private flight attendant my seat is in the cockpit and so I can see and hear everything that goes on during a flight (airtraffic communication, pilot communication and action etc). All the steps, sounds, checks, whistles and bells. Everything is routine, everything is double and triple checked by both the pilots, and the aircraft computers (plural). Every part of the routeing is planned, automated and anticipated.
Finally, there are several layers of governing bodies in aviation and the flight industry is very heavily regulated.
If it makes you feel better, check you have a life vest under your seat if you're flying over water, and count the seat rows to the exits so you can find it in case of emergency, just by touch. Don't forget that planes have had many things wrong with them before, but it doesn't mean it's catastrophic by definition. You can fly with one engine, you can glide with no engines etc. There are systems and drills in place for every single scenario, technical difficulties don't equal catastrophic outcomes. Pilots are trained every six months and regulations are extremely rigged. Again, they got you. As long as you see the crew is calm and relaxed, there is no need to be worried.
Breathe, trust the crew know what they're doing, and you can always ask your doctor to give you a little something to help you relax.
Oh, and try and get a seat close to the wings, this will be the most stable part of the aircraft during turbulence 😊🙏🏼.
If anyone has any questions, ask your cabin crew or pilots on board, they'll be happy to help! I was once a nervous flyer and I can 100% understand what you're going through so happy to help if I can, but just know that knowledge is power.
Be patient with yourself, and extend compassion to others who may experience things differently to you. Fear is not something you can control and it ultimately there to protect you and keep you safe. ❤
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This does help. I’ve only flown twice in my life less than a 3 hr flights.
I’m about to go on a 40 hr flight. The first flight is 24 hours so I’m pretty nervous
As a former cabin crew I must say you did an excellent job going through the whole thing. I would add: whenever the cabin crew explains an unusual situation on the PA, listen and trust what they say. We don't lie, if we say that something is normal, it is normal. Also, in some occasions (like a go around), the pilot is to busy to say anything on the PA, so just trust your cabin crew.
I want to add that sometimes we might delay departure because we need a mechanic on board to check something. When the nechanic gives us the ok, then we go. Know that a plane would NEVER leave if it's not safe to do so. Most of the times it's just that a warning light has come up but it's perfectly safe to keep flying, we just need to triple check everything even if we know it's fine. (For example, imagine that your fuel light in your car pops up, you know you still can drive more than 100km, right? You would just continue driving and go fill the tank when you can. In the plane we get warnings like that for certain things, but we can't continue flying until we have a mechanic double checking for us and signing on a piece of paper that yes, we can still do X number of flights with the warning light on. Usually we do replace/refill/whatever the warning light warns us from only in our "home" airport.)
I had passengers be veeery anxious whenever there was a mechanic on board before leaving, so I want to stress that a plane will NOT leave an airport if it's not 100% safe to do so!
About energency landings and go arounds... I had one emergency landing (medical emergency) in 5 years of flying and many, many go arounds. Yes, it's rare in general, but taking into consideration how many planes are in the sky every day, things like this happen all the time. And, yes the pilots AND ALSO THE REST OF THE CREW know exactly what to do in every situation.
Cabin crew are actually not there for serving drinks as their primary function, but for safety. If you need anything, they will help you. I ALWAYS checked on my anxious flyers whenever turbulence or anything unusual happened, as long as they told me beforehand they were anxious flyers.
Landing is my favourite part. It means i can get out of the plane.
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exactly ! The torment is over
When the plane touches down I breath out every single Air in my lungs,the fight is over 😩
I don’t have particularly bad flight anxiety, I just wanted to listen to cari chat for 45 mins but i actually learned so much and im so glad i clicked
😂😂😂 glad you enjoyed!
Saaaaameeeee ❤❤
I have zero flight anxiety, but I love you for making this video. You have such a big heart. You are a good “big sister” for your subscribers.
Personally, I put in my noise canceling earbuds, start a podcast, strap on my high collared neck pillow, and I’m practically asleep by the time the plane has finished take off. What makes me anxious is being trapped in a seat for hours surrounded by strangers. Sleeping on flights is how I time travel through the worst (for me) part.
It kind of makes sense now. Your mom worked in a library, passing on the love for books, and your dad is a pilot passing on the love to travel. Also, thank you for explaining everything in major detail, knowing what your dealing with helps with the nerves. 💗
Here's a psychological tip I learned: you can make yourself interpret nervousness/anxiousness as excitement!! :)
They have similar physical symptoms, like faster heartbeat etc. So with both emotions, you get kinda the same physical symptoms, but then what happens is your brain interprets your bodily reactions as either these negative or postive nerves, and that's how they get a different meaning.
So you notice your heartbeat going faster, and then your brain interprets it as you being anxious, and then you start to feel anxious. But when you try to trick yourself to interpret it as excitement, that you're feeling excited for your travels and the view from up in the sky, it might help to feel les anxious! Especially combined with happy and uplifting music.
This might help a bit! I also use this trick for presentations and stuff, it really helps to trick myself into believing I am excited for what's to come :)
I get such bad flight anxiety that I’m almost always in tears when we’re taking off because I’m so scared so this video is so so so appreciated cari!
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so am I and the video didnt help at all
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I have bad flight anxiety too. My max tolerance was 7hrs. This June I had to take 18hrs non-stop flight, twice!! I don’t know how I survived, but thank God they are over. These are some things that worked for me during the flight. 1) use noise cancelling headphones or earpiece 2) have a playlist of calming music that works for you and play during take off and landing 3) hydrate often and go to the toilet often. This allows me to stretch my legs and say hi to the air stewards. Seeing someone friendly, confident and calm with flying helps. 4) pack moisturisers for face, hand etc. wipes to refresh yourself helps. I focus on moisturising myself a few times during the trip and it takes my mind off worrying about the flight 5) download familiar fave shows to watch 6) when I get anxious especially during turbulence, I look at the faces of the air stewards. They look so calm and unperturbed and this would calm me down.
just cackled out loud cause i was 100% tensing up when you said “relax right now you’re probably tense” 💀💀😂
My dad flew in the airforce and my husband worked in aviation maintenance and also flew for pleasure. He actually owned his own small plain with a friend when we dated and they sold the plain shortly after we married. I'm still a nervous flyer. They both always reminded me that flying is safer than driving. I'm not willing to give up the convenience of flying so I just force myself to relax and deal with it. You did a great job of describing what to expect from take-off to landing. I do think knowledge is power and these tips are good reminders of what is normal.
Thank you!!!
@@caricakes My husband used to watch crash investigation reenactments. From a pilot and maintenance perspective I think he always wanted to know the details. That added a bit to my anxiety. I also remember being told the most dangerous parts of flying are takeoffs and landings. I'm better once I'm in the air as a rule. 🙂
this video is seriously a lifesaver. I LOOOOVE traveling, but I hate airplanes with a passion and I'm claustrophobic as well, so that makes things even worse....... however, all your tips were incredible and gave me so much confidence!! thank you so much for this video!❤
Hope your next trip is easier 🙏🙏🙏
@sotiria. I am claustrophobic as well. Trying to get around this somehow. :P
Thank you SO much for this video. I'm a TERRIFIED flyer, but learning about leveling off, knowing that the pilot is in constant communication with Tower Control, and that we're not the only airplane in the sky is really helpful and reassuring!
I absolutely second this. The idea of leveling off was foreign to me and every time I feel it I’m sure that we’re going down 🤦🏻♀️
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Cari this is amazing! You should be hired by the airlines to give this talk cause you are so calming and give all the right cues. You rock 😊
Hahah omg I would love an airline sponsorship 😂🙏
Couldn't agree more 👏
I was expecting to be nervous but my only flights I didn't experience any anxiety, at least during the flight. I think it's impressive that you're such a traveler while dealing with this. You've got courage, my dear! 🙂
hope that continues! and thank you hahah
I’m an anxious flyer too but I don’t want to let that stop me from seeing the world. I always tell myself that the holiday is worth the hours of anxiety on a plane. Plus I book the flight a few months in advance so the danger doesn’t feel as imminent and I can pretend that it’s future-me’s problem. 😅
I have had flight/travel anxiety my entire life and I just booked a trip from the US to Australia - this could not have come at a better time!! Thank you so much 💙
am i the only one who anticipates and loves the feeling of when the airplane starts moving and flying? I guess im excited to get to the destination. but the landing actually terries me specially if the runway is shorter than usual. thanks cari for this very detailed video!
i am always convinced the runway isnt long enough for take off or landing hahaha
Posting a second comment after having tried some of your suggestions in real life lately and wanted to say thank you, they really did help! I especially liked the music in headphones and gently moving with the music. I also tried practicing some deep focus by zoning out from everyone else around me and closing my eyes. At first I felt a little self-concious, but then after a while I just forgot about it.
I know you said in your latest video that you were anxious about this video performing well, but I just wanted to let you know that I have almost crippling flight anxiety and this video helped me immensely so I'm grateful you made it ❤
This video was SO helpful. I almost didn't want to watch it because when I'm not a plane, I do not like thinking about being on a plane. But this was genuinely helpful. Like, for some reason I'd never thought about all the other planes in the air at the same time as mine, or the fact that the pilot has done this route a zillion times. I doubt I'll ever enjoy flying, but I'm working to get less anxious about it, and I know I'll think about some of this stuff the next time I'm up there. Thanks for the calm explanation!
totally understand - thats why i had trouble figuring out a good time to post this haha i decided since im not flying for a few months i can calmly talk about it without psyching myself out for my next flight hahah
Just wanted to share in case others can relate - it's not always direct "flight anxiety" for some people (like me, who still loves airplanes - big jumbo jets, that is. I think being in a tiny propeller "tin can" would now trigger claustrophobia and anxiety in me), but it could be general anxiety or fear of panic that's causing flight anxiety. From birth to my mid-30s, I flew an average of 2-6 flights (mostly long hauls) a year and always loved it. Once, I even applied to be a flight attendant but I wasn't outgoing enough, haha. I love all the airplane sounds (and the international airport vibes) - take-offs and landings were and still are my favorite moments, and I'm always in awe of the craft. But in my late-30s, I randomly had a panic attack (had no idea what it was at the time) in a movie theater, and after that year, I stopped watching movies in theaters completely (used to be one of my favorite things to do, and I would often go alone too). And I eventually developed low-grade claustrophobia in random places and situations.
Then I started wondering if that 'condition' would affect my ability to fly comfortably. Turns out that I started to feel antsy before and during boarding - instead of being excited about the flight like I had been for 35 years prior, I now don't like being in the plane while it's stationary, on the ground. But once it starts to rev up for take-off, I relax more. I started waiting to board LAST, no matter where my seat was. I used to ALWAYS want a window seat but now I can only do aisle.
I also used music to help me while on the ground. One time, I had Taylor Swift's "Style" on a loop - something about the bass or the beat actually soothed my nerves. I'm glad you mentioned the music - but I did worry sometimes that we wouldn't be allowed to have any electronics on or playing just before/during take-off.
Since the pandemic, I haven't gone anywhere at all and it's only making it harder to get out of this rut. The panic thing got worse right at the start of 2022 and it's hard just to leave the house now. Going to the mall is a big feat. Hope to get past this. As always, you're very pleasant to listen to, and thanks for this video! It helps to see your courage, and how you do things even though you don't always feel "fine" at times. 😌
Thanks, I feel the same 100%. Not from flight itself, but the general anxiety that hit me hard post 2020. Weird how I used to fly alone across the world without batting an eye, now I got anxiety as I'm older in my 30s from flights (or airports and clausterphobia). I used to travel the world literally across the globe, now I sometimes have low-grade anxiety when driving through traffic 30mins away from home.. Life is interesting. Thanks for sharing knowing we aren't alone.
@@iBalushi Thank you for that. Yes, good to know we're not alone. Makes you wonder just how many people look perfectly fine at the airport/on planes/anywhere in public, but are secretly just trying to cope with it all. I also wonder why life had to take this turn. Always thought it was natural to gain assurance as we got older, but now I'm dying to feel that freedom again, that general sense of reassurance I used to have, and the ability to go anywhere at anytime without a second thought. Hope everyone experiencing this finds a way through it sooner rather than later.
I flew a lot growing up and only became a nervous flyer as I got older, this video is super helpful to me now as a nervous flyer! Also, one thing my brother always reminded me (he’s a science guy) was that planes “want” to be in the air. And so, as you said, although take-off can be the most nerve wracking, it’s one of the easier parts of the flight, and that reminder for me always helped bc take-off is where my anxiety peaks (aside from a lot of turbulence mid flight 😂)
Something you said back in 2018 or so, how all your problems are just a dot in the window, is something I've kept in mind for years. I'm not anxious at all about flying, if anything it's just boring, but I cherish the experience to put things in perspective.
Thank you so much for this. My dad was an aircraft engineer and i also learnt to fly light aircraft many years ago. I also get still have some anxiety on commercial flights but i do exactly what u prescribe- the happy boppy music and mentally tick off every bump and clunk for what is is. We definitely need more chitty chatty pilots. They have become few and far between.
Truly miss the pilots that made jokes and told us to look out the windows to see certain things 😭😂
As someone with zero flight anxiety and a degree in planes flying I never really thought about all the things that could cause stress to someone. Some of the things you mentioned I never even keyed into. One thing I wanted to add is when landing, you might get worried that your plane is slowing down too much. When the wings extend, they are actually making a new shape that makes more lift (the thing that keeps you in the air) which means as you slow down, your plane can still fly. They do still help you slow down, but they also keep you in the air!
This video is like a hug. I aspire to go to different places but my anxiety just hinders me. I will definitely save this video and watch this during a flight. It’s like having Cari with me in a flight. HAHAHA thanks for making this video!
This is perfect timing!!! I'm going on my first plane ride in 13 years tomorrow! Haven't watched yet but thank you already!!!
safe travels :)
Cari, thank you so much for making this video. I have huge anxiety when I fly and I felt so seen and comforted by everything you said.
I’ve flown a lot and for the most part haven’t had too much anxiety except for during turbulence. But for some reason 2 years ago I decided to binge watch this airplane disasters show and now I feel more anxious for my upcoming flight to Korea in a couple months. I forever kick myself for watching so much of that show, like why? 🥲
I experienced bad turbulence on a flight from Ireland to Scotland and everyone was getting freaked out when suddenly this little baby started laughing, like he was just on a fun theme park ride, and then the tension just melted away.
yeah i was pretty okay as a kid but then i had one flight with really bad turbulence and after that i was a wreck hahah and bless that baby :'''''')
Thanks so much for this video! Having my first flight this week alone as an autistic, anxiety having person and this video touched on so much more than others. Very helpful!!
have a wonderful flight! also its very normal to tell your flight attendant like 'just a heads up, this is my first flight and im a little nervous' and chances are they will be extra nice and come by to check on you :)
one time we had a little bumpy air as we were landing and a girl got really scared and the whole row held her hand and talked to her to distract her and make her feel safe. just remember that most people are uncomfy on planes and will totally understand any fear and will want to help you!!
I’m a bit of an anxious flyer, especially when I haven’t been on a flight for a few months, so the days before a flight I start to track takeoffs and landings at my local airport on flightradar24.
It helps me understand that flying is nothing special and that thousands of planes are in the air at any time. I’ll add rewatching this video to my pre-flight routine!
I’m a lot less anxious now than I was in my teens but I still like to be prepared.
During take off I like to hold the hand of the person I’m flying with (a tradition I started with my mum) or my own hand when I’m flying alone.
On long haul flights I usually stretch whilst waiting at the gate and choose an aisle seat to get more space to stretch my legs. I also try to sleep or book a flight over night so that I’m too tired to worry. This came in handy when my flight from Canada to Germany hit turbulences but at that point it was my second flight after a 12 hour layover and I had been awake with little to no sleep for over 36 hours so I just didn’t care anymore.
(Bad flight experience below)
My worst flight was probably a school trip to Barcelona a few weeks after a pilot had crashed the plane into the alps on purpose on the same route so I was nervous the entire time. When we hit turbulence I was really scared and my classmate sitting next to me wasn’t helpful at all because she kept joking that we were going to crash. We obviously didn’t but I was really close to having a full on panic attack and I still hold a grudge against that guy (even though I haven’t seen him since graduation years ago lol).
omg screw that guy!!!
This is so nice to have for my flight at the end of the month. I haven’t been on a plane since January of 2019, and I used to have the worst flight anxiety ever. This has made me aware of things I never considered before, like that every flight is essentially in constant conversation with each other, and that flights fly on different altitudes based on the direction of the flight. Thank you for making this! I already feel way less anxious about my flight!!
something that helped out me so much was investing in noise cancelling headphones! during take off and landing, it’s so helpful that I can barely hear any of the noises that the plane is making. while it doesn’t change all the forces on your body, it helps reduce some levels of anxiety that comes with the noise :)
ohhh a good tip! for me, i need to be at my * most aware * so noise cancelling or people talking or something distracts from my focus hahah probably should work on that
yup! my first flight with my headphones were life changing because I never realised how much the sounds contributed to my anxiety until I couldn’t hear them!
This is such a valuable resource! Thanks for doing this video. I learned a lot (and I’m most likely older than your Mom. 😅). It may be a slower burner than your usual vlogs, but it deserves to be viewed in huge numbers over many years.
You are on the nose regarding clouds and turbulence. Well done explanation, Cari! Thank you for this video! Aloha!
thanks for watching!
Happy to know im not the only one who stares at the map during the entire flight..
😂 definitely not alone!
Watched this while on a plane going through turbulence haha made feel wayyy less scared and so happy that we get to fly and see the world. Such a good video! Thank you
I want this to play in my ears every time I get on a plane now.
you couldn’t have uploaded this video with better timing! im flying to korea in a month and as an extremely nervous flyer in general im already getting myself stressed up about it. i’ve probably been on close to a hundred flights in my life but never longer than 3-4 hours maximum, so 11 hours in the air is going to be especially nervwrecking. knowing people fly these kinds of flights everyday is sometimes not enough to calm my anxiety so you explaining every part of the flight in such detail is extremely comforting! thank you! i cant wait to turn on my dance playlist during take off haha~
i love this as someone who doesn't start prepping for anxiety untill im on the plane (idk why i think im not a scaredy cat) this helps sooooo much
Great topic for a video! My anxieties are less about the actual flying part and more about rude people who hog the armrests and recline their seat back into your lap.
i have awful, terrifying flight anxiety, just the worst (always in tears) and i’m taking a flight in two days, i’ll be alone for the first time, so i couldn’t have seen this at a better time!! thank you, i really appreciate this 💙
I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for making this video. I finally have the money to be able to fly to visit friends and family in the U.S., and this video is going to help me tremendously for my future flights!
cari, what if you did a whole series about how to deal with adulting things that causes anxiety???? (like giving big sister tips and advice) just putting it out here!!!!! also, love your channel and your vids
Thank you Cari for this video 💗 I don't have particularly flight anxiety (just I don't really like the take off), but your speech and tips are precious 😀 thanks!!
This video came at such a great time!! I am taking my longest flight out of the country next weekend and I am definitely a nervous flyer-- so I really appreciate this!
Have a great trip!!!
i know my comment is a little late, but this video is just wonderful. i’ve never flown before let alone stepped more than 10 feet into an airport, but i know that i definitely want to travel in the future and avoiding planes isn’t going to work forever😵💫 i thank you SO much for putting so much effort into this video! you covered so much more than i hoped for and honestly i learned quite a bit about why certain things happen on a plane that i definitely wouldn’t have known otherwise. i’m not sure when i’ll be traveling next but i have this video saved to watch again when that time comes. thank you for thinking about us anxious travelers❤️🩹 you’re a gem🥰
We will always support you. Just know you'll always have our support.
This is the absolute best talk I’ve heard on helping flight anxiety. I like that you went through every stage and sound/activity. I’ve had a fear of flying since I was small and it’s only gotten worse as I age. I’m saving this video to watch during my next flight. Thank you
I have a solo trip next month and literally just as I was getting anxious of flying I get the notification for this video lmao it’s fate
yes!! a sign that your trip is going to be fine^^
Hello Cari! I wanted to say thank you for this video! I magically found it a week before my first flight and because of your explanation I was able to enjoy the whole flight. Even on out way back, when weather wasn't so good and landing was a bit "bouncy" I was enjoying it like at the attractions 😅 Thank you once again 😊
I actually get most anxious during check in and security. No idea why, but it stresses me out every time.😆
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me too!!!
I have absolutely no fear of flying and i'm till gonna watch this whole thing. Maybe i can help a friend or someone with this type of anxiety!
Funny timing for me to see this video, I just had a nightmare about flying last night. This happens pretty often, unfortunately. I used to fly quite a bit when I was younger, but haven't been on a plane in over 15 years. I'd like to get over my fear sooner rather than later, bc I really feel that I'm missing out on so much! Thanks for the video, Cari!!! 💜
Hope whenever your next flight is, its wonderful!
I truly appreciate this video as someone that is nervous for every single flight.
😎 Great staff ,looking forward to review !!! Have a nice weekend ❤
I don’t have flight anxiety but wanted to come and watch the video and share some love after seeing your newest vlog. Thank you so much for all the hard work you put into all your videos. I know it isn’t easy 💕☺️🌸
I find the flying business or first helps my fears of flying. There are good istractions around in how they pamper you and feed you and the bar to go and chat to other passangers. Yes, more room too, although I am not claustrophobic.
I’m incredibly grateful for this video cari❤️ I’m doing my first international flight this year and as I’m already an extremely anxious flyer this was so appreciated! I’ll definitely be referring back to it for peace of mind, you rock for taking the time to help people in this way✨❤️❤️❤️
I'm the literal definition of flight anxiety. I'm making myself anxious just thinking about it. Thank you for making this! I'm going on my first flight in a week and I'm probably going to watch this a few more times 😅
wildest thing that happened to me on a flight - the pilot came on and said "there's a small fire inside Chicago's air traffic control tower, so all of their airspace is now temporarily a no-fly zone, so we have to make a 2 hour detour to stay outside that no fly zone, soooooooo enjoy 2 extra hours of this flight". at first I was like ???? wtf?????? and then I realized...oh my god we've been in this plane 3 hours already I am going to die of boredom.
I'm taking my first ever flight in one week and this video helps so much thank youuu
Oh my, thank you for making this content! Even though I'm a super-frequent flyer I have a pretty bad anxiety each time I'm flying... What helps me is keeping myself distracted with some books, games, movies, sketching and the good music definitely helps too. Thank you for all the tips and insights ❤❤❤
Great job Cari! Great information. Information is power. 🙂 My flying days are over, but I still found this interesting. 👍🤗💕💕
Thanks for watching 🤍🤍🤍
Thanks for this video - from a fellow anxious flyer, I resonated with all your points. Including (and I laughed so hard) landing after 14 hours and feeling so physically and emotionally drained that the bumps no longer matter because my brain no longer works.
Great video to watch as I am just about to fly Sydney to London - so thank you for sharing this amazing video
Great video! So many moments where you described exactly my thoughts. I cracked up when you said I love a chatty pilot… When the pilot is talking to us and telling us to look out the window at the Grand Canyon, etc. I am so happy. And it makes no sense, but somehow I feel better during meal service, like nothing will happen now, so I miss those kind of longer meals from before 9/11. For those who really are scared there are some things that have really helped me as well watching videos like this, but also watching videos where pilots talk to you about all of this have really helped me. I also love the bus on a bumpy road thing, I use that. I also move my body a little bit during turbulence and kind of now try to think about it like just riding that roller coaster, just ride that roller coaster, and it’s gonna be over soon. And so true about pilots. I don’t like it when at the beginning of a flight they tell me that there is going to be turbulence coming because it just makes that anxiety stick around until it does, but then often it doesn’t even come and I feel like why did you even tell me that but you’re right it just depends on the pilot. But then there’s the reverse it’s so nice when they reassure you that it’s going to be a smooth flight. 😊 My other tips are sound canceling headphones, so you don’t hear all the plane noises all the time, which pilot videos are great to explain why there’s all these noises. At takeoff I listen to a musician named Enya. Only time I do. It’s my flight takeoff playlist on Spotify. It’s like you’re lifting yourself up into the heavens…. Also, sort of weird, but if you put your feet up on your personal bag under the seat in front of you, it’s like it takes away that vibration on the floor and I usually can relax and sleep sometimes when I put my feet up onto something.
I don't have flight anxiety but really enjoyed your video. Soo many tips and everything is very nicely explained ☺️
Thanks for watching!
I was flying yesterday and I knew this video had come out but I didn't have the opportunity to watch it - and the entire bumpy flight I was thinking "man, I wish Cari were here, explaining all this turbulence to me" 🙃 thank you for this awesome video!
From a fellow nervous flyer, great job! 46 mins just flew by (pun intended 😅) and you covered all the thoughts going through my mind when I take a plane... I LOVE travelling, have been to over 50 countries (thankfully I live in Europe so I can switch to the train once in a while!), for years I was a nervous wreck, lately I feel more calm but still not 100% relaxed... I had many excellent flights (flying over the Alps, seeing the west coast of Africa as you'd see it on the map at school, landing into NY or London, seeing islands, volcanoes and sunsets from my tiny window), a few not-so-great ones (coming back from SE Asia, the pilot announced that we were flying over the Gulf of Bengal and the expected turbulence would last for about 2 HOURS! It wasn't so bad in the end, but veeeeeery long!) and have tried and tested all of the things you suggest (apart from the happy music at take off, I will have to try it - my go-to are Disney movies from the in-flight entertainment), they DO work.
A few other tips for any nervous flyers who might be reading this:
- Get to the airport early: not 5 hours, which could be counter-productive, but give yourself enough time to do everything (passing security, finding your gate, using the toilet, having a little snack etc.) at your own pace
- On the way out I am more nervous than on the way back: I guess the general anxiety and anticipation of going away adds up to flight anxiety... So if you had a bad outbound flight, the return flight is mentally better. I am usually so tired, satisfied and low on adrenaline that I sleep most of the time...
- Talking about anticipation: it does help me a lot to think how happy I will be when we finally land, that jolt of energy and excitement of being somewhere new 😁
- Finally, a more mundane tip: earplugs... Since Corona one of my ears pops BADLY during landing (I found out the hard way 😩), I managed to avoid it by using earplugs and found out that it also helps with nerves, as it reduces the feeling of 'dropping' when moving at a lower altitude
Safe travels y'all!!! ✈
I just want to say that I love the number of people talking about the perfect timing of this video because, when you first mentioned it, my first thought was "THIS IS THE WORST TIMING!!" I'm leaving Europe for the first time ever and taking the longest flight of my life in a few weeks, and I absolutely do not want to be reminded of that 😅 I'm a very nervous flyer, got my little pills and eveything, and I'm very grateful that you took the time to go through every possible topic, even the things I already knew, because it really gives me this mental check list to calm myself down even more 💪
I'm also the most relaxed when they announce we're readying for landing, at this point, I'm just happy we're almost out of here 😂
when we left tokyo this year we went through a thunderstorm and our plane was struck by lightning while the thunder roared 🙃 it was scary but all went fine!!!
Thank you Cari for doing this flying anxiety video!! Very comprehensive and comforting to watch!! Always have been an anxious flyer and this video really helped.
thank you for this video!!! so helpful for someone who is terrified of flying.
This is so helpful!! Thank you! I was on the verge of giving up on international travel because of the anxiety... But you gave me hope!
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Love this!!!!! So so helpful! My longest flight ever is coming up (US to Japan) and I feel much more prepared :)
Hope you have an amazing trip!!
@@caricakes Thank you!! It is a dream trip!!!! My first time to Asia! I am beyond excited!
i also do a lot of plane travelling, and i cannot stress how useful the music during takeoff tip is!!! i personally either listen to chiller r&b (RM’s solo albums are a first choice!) or really, really loud rock and metal music. chill r&b is more like background noise, and i tend to use it on shorter flights (
Hi Cari, thanx 4 this. I know this'll help a lot of people. Great tips! I used to love flying and used to not worry at all - that is until I got into 1 flight which made me eperience severe turbulences. Ever since then I wouldn't say I'm terrified of flying, but I have definitely developed some discomfort, especially during start/landing phase or when turbulences occur. The rest of it is still not an issue 4 me. I have some friends who suffer from flight anxiety though, and I will definitely recommend them this video. I always thought that the less you know/think about it, the better, but through you I learned yet another perspective and I do realize that in some ppl's cases, knowing more is better.
I have a few tips I'd like to pass on myself, even though you've already covered most of the topics I would like to sorta confirm them.
1) If possible - don't travel alone. Having someone to talk to or just hold hands with or sing and jiggle along to music with is a huge advantage. But if you do travel on ur own, make sure to have enough to watch/listen to on your own devices. I've once had to sit through an 8 hour flight, when the whole entertainment system went out an hour after departure. And I didn't have anything(!) prepared. No music, movies, nothing. So feel free to make playlists or f.e. download a bingeworthy series onto your device. Knowing the length of your playlists/series play time may also help calculate an approximate time of arrival in a fun way. Tell yourself: Ok I'll arrive after 4 episodes and your mind might just be at ease!
2) Breathing techniques! You're so right Cari, this can help a great deal. I never looked it up but I've adapted to my own, simple technique which is: when turbulences occur - try to balance them out with your breathing. If the plane drops, breath in, if the plane goes up again, breathe out. I'm no scientist either 😅 but I feel like filling your lungs with air or relieving them from it in the right moments will minimize the feeling of being nauscious and helps reduce anxiety.
3) When facing long flights, do not hesitate to wear thrombosis stockings, ONLY if you have health issues that may leave you in doubt/fear of a possible onboard emergency. Better cancel out the doubt beforehand.
4) Move a lot. The longer the flight, the better. Of course only when the seatbelt sign is OFF.
5) The bigger the plane, the less you'll notice turbulences. But don't worry if u get on a smaller plane, just because it's smaller, it doesn't mean it's less safe. It's just as safe, just a little more jiggly.
6) Know that saying, when you are about to have a surgery: "Trust your doctor?" Well, trust your pilot and all other professionals on board. They are exceptionally trained 4 this.
Everyone, have a good flight! 😊
Haven’t watched this video yet but I already wanted to let you know that I’m so grateful for it! We need to talk about this topic more often. I’ve got an hour long flight coming up next week and I’m going to listen to you then, to keep myself busy! Thanks a lot 🫶🏼
I’m not an anxious flyer, but my partner is, and this is all stuff that is really helpful for her too, so thank you for sharing it! I’ve been on quite a few flights with medical emergencies, which is something that does make me anxious, and we’ve only had to make an emergency landing for one of them (a girl with diabetes blood sugar crashed and they couldn’t get it back up, I believe) and the most stressful part of it ended up being that we were stuck in Denver and late for things we had planned at our destination. So even if there is a medical emergency, usually it’s not something that requires an emergency landing! Also, airplanes are FREEZING but also sometimes SUPER HOT, so always wear layers, as not being physically uncomfortable will help with any anxiety so much ❤
Found with bad turbulence, take off and landing, I love putting on spongebob music (the one that goes bip a rip a ro(?)), or any goofy cartoon music, and as it bounces, I’m literally the only one laughing like a manic. But it has helped a whole loads and my flight anxiety has reduced! Now I only worry about passports and pre-flight shenanigans 🫣
lmao i love this hahaha i'd put on the sweet victory scene from spongebob's band episode and would probably be laughing and crying :''''_
I’m not a nervous flier BUT I fly a lot and am frequently around nervous fliers and this videos so helpful. I honestly might download it to give to folks in the future on flights
Happy Sunday! Thank you for the video on this. Sending you love as always!
sending love back ❤
This was super helpful! I have really bad flight anxiety especially when there’s turbulence. The frequent small plane flights I used take from San Francisco to LA ruined me, and gave me so much fear. But this advice is so helpful! I will definitely be putting this into practice for future flights. Thank you so much!
I'm the kind of traveler that hates traveling, but I don't mind the actual flight bit at all. Like, I'm anxious as heck up to the point where I get on the plane. I worry about everything that could possibly go wrong before I get to that point. And then once I'm on the ground, I worry about everything that could possibly go wrong before I'm settled in my accommodation. On the actual flight I'm good because then there's nothing for me to do but just sit there and pass the time.
And also, Cari, about what you said about it not feeling great that this video doesn't have as many views as the others despite expecting it: consider the fact that 19,000 people have watched this. Nineteen thousand possibly flight anxious people that might have been helped by this video. That's not a small sum, that's kind of amazing. :)
Omg I get anxious even when you're describing a take off 😀 like i'm doing it RIGHT NOW, even though I'm at home in my pyjamas
Thats how i felt filming this hahah
Flying to Europe very soon so thanks for this one!!!!!!! It truly must be awesome to have a polit dad. 😊 ✈
Have a wonderful trip!!!
Thanks for this, Cari! and the comment section has loads to learn from too! i have been going on long haul flights and still an anxious flyer. I do the bopping to upbeat music with a tiny dancey dance, I watch the map closely too, as well as whatever the person in front watches! LOL I actually flew out today and saw this video last night! Just in time for new learnings to keep in mind and deal with my anxiety. It made me recall how I am more anxious taking smaller planes, the ones with single aisle.
Thank you Cari!! I have been a subscriber of yours for a number of years. I have seen you fly in past videos and I could tell you get nerves like me! This is very helpful!!! Blessings!!
For me I hate take off not because it makes me nervous but because it means I'm just starting the journey to hell lol I get the most anxiety during flight, landing is when I get excited, as soon as there is 30mins left I'm staring out the window counting every single second left. Thank you for making this video Cari! I'm 5mins in :)
24mins on I also stare at the map all the way through, even on 15 hour flights I just stare at it, looking at the numbers, at the line above the map to see where I'm at etc, I usually fly overnight and I can't never sleep :(
38mins that happened to me once too, I could see the runway so close then the airplane took off in the air again, back then I wasn't scared of flying so thought it was weird but I was like meh, now I would freak out lol
41mins Flightaware is great! Also use it for myself and every time my loved ones fly, I can follow the airplane in real time.
Thank you again Cari! This was very informational and helpful.
Hahaha I totally feel you about the end of the flight. I feel like the last hour im suddenly enjoying myself because it will be over soon 🥹
Thanks for this video cari! Also something that helps me, especially when in turbulence, is to imagine i'm sitting in a bus and just driving over a bumpy road. Usually that calms me down a little cause i trick my brain into thinking i'm on the ground
Yes such a good trick!
I fly tomorrow, second flight EVER since 2009. It’s only a 2 hour flight but i’m mortified. I don’t even want to go on such a much needed vacation ,but after this…the deep breath i kept letting out during this. I got this. I’m still worried, but now i’m more at ease.
Thank you for this video! And Thank you for letting me know it was up! From one nervous flyer to another - much love❤️
This is such a great resource for new/ anxious flyers. I do use some of your strategies, like telling myself that the flight I'm on has flown hundreds or thousands of times before, but it has taken decades to develop these coping mechanisms. Watching this before my first flight would have helped a lot. One great thing is that they seem to be able to avoid a lot of turbulence these days--all of my really scary flights were back in the eighties and nineties.
Yes! And we used to divert all the time because of fog and now planes dont need to 🥲
My safe space before travelling, thank you for this video always ❤ it means so much to me!
I am currently watching your new video and you mention how this video isn’t performing as well. I thought I’ll post here to reply to your other video…to give it a little bump in a way but I want to say that this video will be a slow burner, it’s not a trendy topic but something that people in the future will always will have and will find, unless they invent teleportation.
Anyway, don’t worry, I watched it and I don’t have anxiety about flying. Let it build slowly, I’m sure it will.
Thank you 🥹🙏
Great video! Thank you for the useful tips! I also have experienced (just once and hopefully no more) the go arounds, only the pilot actually touched down and took off straight away. My anxiety at that moment must have shown on my face because the people sitting next to me started to encourage me and tell me everything was going to be allright :) And yes, flightaware is the best thing for anxious flyers.
I flew all the time as a kid to see my parents across the country, and in November, I'm going to visit this dude in England I really dig along with our friends. This video came out at such a good time bc I keep thinking about crying children and being squished between the other passengers lol.
Have a great time 🥹🥹🥹
Great description from a passenger point of view.
Last year for the first time ever I had an autopilot landing. The visibility was zero and landing after 10pm in total darkness. We circled a lot around the airport (it was a small airport in Poland with 1 runaway only). They told us after 20 minutes of going round to switch off all electronics to prepare for autopilot landing. Not airplane mode, switch off. People were annoyed and I was praying I can finally leave that plane. The landing in the end wasn't more bumpy than usually but I was definitely more anxious.
Thanks for such a great video 😍 I'm not such a nervous flyer, but I still learned a lot. I also find it so funny how I never had a problem with the audio in the first half, and than as soon as your proper mic kicked in, I was like "WOW how did I put up with that audio before?!" expectations are weird...
I WISH I had this video when I was on my first flight!🥺 You did so well explaining! Ngl this may become my go to anti-anxiety video in general because of your calm and reassuring voice.😊 Thank you so much for taking the time to film this video.💖💖