019 | Fathers Matter with Noelle Mering

Noelle Mering is a fellow at the Washington D.C. based think tank, the Ethics and Public Policy Center. She is the author of the book, Awake, Not Woke: A Christian Response to the Cult of Progressive Ideology (TAN Books, Spring 2021) order through TAN, TheologyofHome.com, or Amazon. She is an editor for the website Theology of Home and a coauthor of the books Theology of Home and Theology of Home II - order here or here. Read her recent piece on fatherhood here.

[@jonahtwhale1779]

How do we boost fathers without disadvantaging mothers?
Notice the assumption in that question - We are not allowed to do anything that disadvantages mothers- we have no such concern if we disadvantage father's e.g. 90% of custody is given to the mother. See the difference?

[@jonahtwhale1779]

There is an empathy gap between women and men in our society and most societies.
A trivial example of this is the difference in provision of services for victims of domestic violence.
The US has VAWA - the Violence Against Women Act and the bureaucracy it created to administers the response to this problem. There are thousands of shelters across tge US for female victims, less than a handful for male victims. Why? Because society cares about female victims and does not care about male victims. There is no VAMA act!
In practical terms the shelters provide safety, support and therapy for fem a le victims. They provide isolation and demonisation for male victims.

[@jades3654]

I love this. Also any advise on helping women to overcome prejudice against men? Because while I do believe all prejudice is wrong, I also believe the some of it is earned. So, how do we overcome prejudice that we feel is earned?

[@helenofroy]

My advice would be to pray a novena to St. Joseph to help you discern the intentions of the men in your life.

[@jades3654]

@@helenofroy cool, except I don't know what novenas are or how they work, because I'm not Catholic, although I am looking into it. However, I guess the crux of what you're saying is to pray for discernment of people's intentions- which is a good idea for all prejudices as well. Is there a patron saint of overcoming prejudices?