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What to do when he ignores you: > let him go > believe that love is in store for you > match his level of investment > focus forward “It is hard to screw up the right thing”
His 4 children, demanding job, financial difficulties due to divorce, searching for what he thinks he wants while he doesn't have the resources for someone else and cares deeply about you. Give some guys credit for caring about their job which is a source of financial support for his children who he loves dearly and goes out of his way to spend time with them even tho it's not his weekend to be with them. Never jump to conclusions. Men divorced have a more difficult time handling everything that goes with it especially if he has children plus he lost his emotional home in the divorce. There are no simplistic answers. Every man is different. Think before you assume. A man with children his priority should be the children and the job and dealing with the financial difficulties with child care payments, etc. In cases like this you come second. The children from his previous marriage and his job come first. If you can't deal with those realities then move on. You don't deserve him.
when someone that i like ignores me, i look my self into the mirror, makeup my beautiful face and go out dancing or doing something that reminds me i'm awesome and self-dependent
I love being alone even though I have a bf I’m a morning person, he’s a night person. I am loud he is quiet. We are different but we have so much in common and it balances out. You don’t want to constantly be with someone it’s not healthy.
@Beautiful Stranger 125 Thank you 😔 I'm doing better... it's all about self love, once a person truly loves themselves... they won't allow mistreatment
@Beautiful Stranger 125 I'm so sorry to hear that 😔, you're in my prayers as well... Being abused is so hard to recover from, and someone making you feel ugly 😢 it really damages the self esteem 😔 he didn't deserve you you sweetheart ❤️
We have all done that at sone point. I dated a man I eas crazy about. Looking back, he negged me, was inconsistent, took me for granted and I was an idiot. Now he tlresurfaces on my life now and then when he is looking for an ego boost. I stopped supplying that and I am good and no linger in love. But to thos day, if he needs to talk I am tje person he seeks out. I dont know what is up with that.
okashi10 yeah,so from now on,I'm not going to keep staring at him in a secret way..every time we had training ..haha...coz I think,the more you keep looking at him ,the more you gonna like him ...is it's true?😂
Guys need to stop stringing people along and learn how to communicate. That is why women get confused. They are the ones playing the games with severe communication issues.
Very good point! Communication is everything whether friends or more! If there is no deeper talking and they aren't into that or they were once and stop it along the way then there is a problem. It may not mean they are no longer into you either. I think people just get scared..both men and women and I also think people need space now and then..but it is only right to give the other person a head's up or for you to try to be aware of what is going on.
Yup. I come across the same issue with every man I've dated. Either that or they act like they're into you only so they can get in your pants, I hate that one too. I've gotten to the point where I'm so tired of it that I've decided to completely opt-out of dating. I'm tired of the games and tired of guys not being direct or being able to communicate in general. It's extremely frustrating and exhausting dealing with those kinds of people.
You may even decide to smile more with others while ignoring him. It will show him that you're happy without him and that he's not the source of your happiness.
I'm in a relationship with my soulmate and he has pulled away for months but he did send a morning message but that was all I got from him until the next morning.
Being ignored is an awful feeling. The best you can do if he starts ignoring you is to stop having hopes for anything because it will just not work. And it's so true that women start to feel guilty for men behaving like this even if they didn't do anything wrong
But how do we know what a natural flow should be like? What if he's emotionally insecure (fearful-avoidant) and afraid of abandonment so he acts as if he's not invested in some ways while you're both invested in other areas? The rules also don't seem to apply if the person struggles with depression, low self-esteem, low or no self-love, or other.insecurities, as I mentioned before. I tried matching the level of my guy's interest awhile back. I went overboard a bit to see if he would notice and he thought I was about to leave him. He said he needed to know that I valued him and was interested in him so that he could overcome his fears and insecurities and open up to me more.
That's tough, but he obviously needs time to grow up. Be available when he has more emotional maturity but don't have him doing it on your time. Not your job to raise him, especially since if he isn't ready you can't even if you wanted to.
Don't feel sorry for yourself if a man starts ignoring you, it just happened that he isn't the right match for you maybe because his attraction is not that strong. If he's really into you, no matter how busy he was, he would always find a way to reach out to you.
When someone pulls away it actually shows me 1. Their true colors & 2. It gives me peace; peace to move forward with myself ALONE & I know what I bring to the table & I'm not afraid to eat alone... #JusSayin
Pls ladies...stop wasting your precious time with 'what ifs'. A man knows exactly what he wants. If that's not you...no panicking! There's more fishes in the sea. Do you! You're awesome and unique just the way you are! He will come along and YOU will be his WORLD! #preach
I hate when people say there are more fish in the sea. I use to have fish as pets. Damn fish even act different. The fish can look exactly the same but damn it those fish act different.
I hate saying fish in the sea. There's not that much fish, and how many are decent? How many good? How many are GREAT? The numbers go down considerably.
the first thing he said is sooooo true...when you are with the right guy it feels easy...that is exactly what I felt with my husband and we have been together for 20 years...
That's how it felt with my ex (we were together for eight years). Then he let a couple of negative and overly selfish and manipulative people into his life (they would talk about me behind my back to my ex and tell him he should break up with me and that I'm unattractive, etc.) and I'm absolutely positive they were at least a part of why our relationship failed in the end which is very sad...for my ex, not me. I did the breaking up when I realized we had run our course. It really sucks but I'm obviously better off.
Me too. Check things out a little bit, do the basic self inventory then move on. I come from being raised by the old school and a good woman with a high level of feminine knowledge and logic that taught me never chase a man. 💅🏽😬You can let him know you're interested but do not under any circumstances go out of your way to chase the man down and God forbid stalk him and become obsessed and start showing up on their turf looking stupid. That is not a good look on any day of the week! You waste so much time trying to be a super sleuth and an alpha female that is not going to let no one ghost them, and miss out on other opportunities 2 get to know someone else who might be more interested. All it does is boost the wrong mans ego and gas them up how to the cloud even more while you're down in the dumps watching them rise.
If he's ignoring you he doesn't want you. It's treating you like a toy he can put down and walk away until his interest comes back. NO, he's not thinking about you at all. It's why he's ignoring you.
Jan Badinski Not interested would mean he can turn you down after a week or so, narcissists drag people along for months or even years, because it strokes their ego thinking that there is a person who is invested in them so much.
When someone pulls away from me or ignores I just turn back to my own personal interests. I work on me or on enjoying myself; hobbies, read a new book, call a friend or family member.
When I see that a man is inconsistant or acts hot and cold. I return the attention. Plain and simple. It helps me get out of my feelings if I really like the guy. I snap back into reality, just realize that hey he's showing me exactly how he feels......Keep living my life
Yep… he is boring… a boring connection so easier to let him go. People who play lots of games at the start of a connection continue to play games with you or behind your back with others after a relationship starts. Throw them back.
I had a ex- boyfriend ghost me...I never heard from him at all. Now when a guy does that, I just keep it moving and forget he ever existed. When a person plays with my emotions, I keep moving on in my life.
I learn guy like that. I like to play et his head then he always replie me bk . Then i ignore them. Their get mad lol . Nan are narsessist it all abiut them . No one today it complicate to mush competition.
Ghosting is an appalling thing to do to someone. It shows a lack of consideration and respect for your time and feelings but most telling of all, is that it shows how cowardly the 'ghoster' is - they haven't the guts or integrity to tell you it's not working for them so then you waste time and energy wondering what's going on or what happened.
He pulls away and I give him some space.. and then I start to think.. well.. any man that wants to ignore me doesn’t deserve all this amazing awesomeness!
Yes, I am learning alot from you Mr. Bogg s. And I am really needing, these ladies, comments, their comments are right on target, !!! I am finding, them to be exactly what I am going through, the same thing s.
Well, I started pulling away when I realized his level of interest was way below mine. I realized that I was the one starting the conversations all the time. When I stopped writing, so did he, and I confirmed that it just was not worth it. Now I see your video and I see that what I did was the right thing. You are so right when you say that by focusing less on the person, our minds start seeing them as less and less important... It's not easy but it's liberating and reduces anxiety enormously. Thank you for what you do Mathew.
Exactly it's so difficult to move on.. searching you tube videos on why they are hot and cold or what a guy will do when he is into you. I deleted all his contact numbers and messages so I never text him ever.. but frankly speaking I still stalk him in fb insta just to know who he is dating.. hopefully I stop that soon too
"Reject the Rejector" i.e. Pull back and gather forces... walk away if he's not pursuing you. He will soon come running back and when he does, you will either be fully over him and moved on and happy with your life or you will be in a good place to have a happy attitude about it (confident in yourself) but aware of the amount/level of investment you should put in. A man should pretty much earn his way to the key to your heart... he's the hunter, let him hunt.
Except when it is a narcissist/womanizer. Sometimes you just realize it after you have spent quality time with them unfortunately - but remember: we have chosen to come on this earth to learn lessons.
When a guy pulls away I just leave him where he is, because the message I receive from this behavior is that he don't want to talk or communicate, so I can't force him into that. Simply let it be as it is
“With the right guy, things is going to be easy” - thanks a lot for this encouragement!!! I just ended my relationship few days ago as silence seemed to happen so regularly in our relationship. He was always stay silent for days every time we had problems. I know he is an introvert guy, and he always think a lot. But silence kills every relationship.
Mine did the same. Silent treatment for days at a time about a dozen times over the last 18 months. Last time I said it's a deal breaker. He did it again now it's over
@@kristiemcinnes304 You are so strong, I commend you for cutting your losses and moving forward. You are amazing. I am at a place I don't want to go further if he is not invested 100%.
i know personally like i said im in the same boat and some guys really are true i know personally if i could take it all back i would of never done my immature actions of putting it on blast give all my time and affection and actually focus on our goals and what counted in life more kanisha really does mean the world to me just wish i could spend the rest of my life with her i really do love her
When ignored I don't care I just keep going on with my life till they text me first, they just wanna feel important🤨. Don't chase man girls we need to love and respect ourselves more.
I already gave up on men and then some dude unsolicited started pursuing me and flirting with me and now he's pulling away so I watched this video. Now I pretty much decided this is all bullshit and I'm just going to go back to minding my own business again.
I follow one good tip from John Gray-- he said that man are like elastic. When they come close- need pull away to max extent. BUT- what happens when you strech elastic - it comes back with greater force.....
Once I was dating a guy who would talk a day and a half to text me back, almost every time. I decided to do an experiment. I waited for him to text me and then decided I would not respond for a day and half, no matter what. A few hours later he texted me again, to see if I had gotten his text. A few hours later he texted again, asking if I was there. Finally that night he actually came over to my house because he was concerned I might have been in trouble or something. We didn't last as a couple but it was definitely an effective way to illustrate the double standard he had become accustomed to about texting etiquette.
Lauren Hoelle omg I’ve done this to guys who do it to me and they get sooo butt hurt about it and then push me away lol as if they didn’t do it already by ignoring me! Double standards. One guy won’t respond for days then if I wait even a few hours to respond he will text me several times. Hey why aren’t you texting. Hey are you ok? Hey what’s wrong hey are you mad? Hello?? Meanwhile I’m like really dude. Really!!!
Even when you say things I may not want to hear, you say it in a way that makes me feel empowered and reminds me that just because one person may not find value in me, as long as I know my worth, the right man will come along as long as I keep focusing on myself and my needs. Thank-you! ❤
Go now go! Walk out the door! Just turn around now cause YOU'RE NOT WELCOMED ANYMORE! I'll survive!!! Girl, a healthy person chooses herself. Not her emotions
I couldn't agree with you more Mat! I know there's a special man out there for me! If they're foolish enough not to see my value, I'm smart enough to ignore them as I'm very confident in who I am and what I bring to the table! Thank you for being fantastic! I love your talks and the special relationship you share with your wife and kids! Congratulations!
As soon as I feel and notice his level of interest declining, I pull back as well. I stop initiating any text or communication and refocus my attention on myself again. It sucks but it helps you get over investing anymore of your time into something that is clearly not going to work.
Same here sweetheart🥰.actually he is checking daily on my status wille I'm enjoy my life in healthy way.and I'm thinking about to block this person very soon. but before that, I want let him to know that I'm no longer available for his mind games😉.shares ✌😘🇨🇵
@@JP-ll8iy yes I still sweetheart.😉 I keep my self busy and developing myself with my 3 beautiful, and amazing kid's,includding selfdiscipline,self love,exploring new places,also new friends zone... my daily routine is full and amazing.🙌 to west time looking for same ones approval 😎😘🇨🇵
What I notice is that the guys who dissappear, if I am really honest, I wasn't all that in to them anyway. It's just my dysfunctional idea that longing is real love. Why do we focus so much on what they think of us, when we need to get really honest about what we feel about them, what are childhood wounds and fantasies? and what is genuine connection. Why would you ever like someone that isn't that in to you? Low self esteem. Fall in love with yourself (not narcissistically) and believe in yourself. I love this video...greatest take away is believe down to your bones you will find love and you deserve it. Work on that ladies. He is there....its a big big world...don't waste your time feeling bad. if you do feel bad and low on yourself work your own issues, get help and then get back in the game with your self esteem and love high. Its magnetic and brings them on like flys. Love is always the answer.!
It's a big world so why do we ever feel lonely in it. What's worst feeling lonely in a crowd or an empty room? Have you ever cried in public? What's worst, a stranger asking if you are alright when they see you crying or nobody noticing? That huge world shit is the same as the ocean is full of fish. Why don't people respond to a break-up with I guess you was in a cocoon and now you both are butterflies. Fly now! Fly!!!!
We subconsciously internalize other people’s behaviors as reflections of ourselves. That’s because we’re all connected at a soul level. Everyone watching this video has had self esteem issues. Our society has traded true connections for cell phones and WiFi.
Amen to that. I’ve pulled away in the past when they have and for some reason they come back later on. But by then I’ve had a chance to think things through and not feed into it. So tired of these stupid childish games.
If he pulls away I say goodbye! If he ever comes back I always say I'm sorry but you missed your opportunity. I've noticed that people who pull away won't change, they just wanna play games and I don't have time for that.
Do you think they ‘pull away’ because they have chosen another opportunity with another women, that didn’t work out so the idiot comes back. Best to say goodbye even if there was a chance he was playing hard to get.
I like to surround myself with good people who want to be in my life. I also test myself and try new things.....seems to build confidence. I do remind myself that not everyone in life is going to connect with me and that may not necessarily be my issue. Some people have baggage that we are not aware of. Being ignored does hurt....but I think what hurts more is being with someone who may not be right for me....
Some people will actually purposely disappear or pulls away to get you to chase them. Games. I agree with matching the energy someone is giving you. That way, you won't waste your time. Focusing forward is great advice and empowering.
I have too much going on and too many options to be concerned with some loser who doesn't appreciate how badass I am. Everything you mentioned I agree with. Sometimes we're insecure and just not ready. Life gets in the way. Regardless - LADIES - look forth! Our future is brighter than the dimness behind us
Pple need stop psychologizing someone ghosting u. Once txt or calls become less frequent, that's also a form of ghosting until communication ends. It hurts but move on pple.
All bruises take time to heal. Some cuts require stitches. If you been with someone for almost a year and this happens I consider that a deep cut. Time is a huge factor in this stupidity with dating. You don't hurt the same for a person you hardly know or been around compared to a guy you hung out with three times or more during the week and than poof after seven months. I just call it bullshit.
I think it’s pretty simple. When someone ignores you, they don’t want to talk to you. Don’t try to chase. I give people so many chances that they don’t deserve. I make up excuses for them, even though they don’t bother to explain their actions. If someone is interested, it’s easy to see.
any woman who wastes her time on a guy that ignores the shit out of her, doesn't know what she wants. Seriously...a guy who ignores you cannot be your dream come true. Drop him like a sack of shit and move on...he's not serious.
VogueHaven for real. My boyfriend of 4 years ignored me for a weeks then tells me he needs space to figure his life out. Then he tells me that I am too clingy because I wanted to be a part of his life when he was going through his issues.. he told me is a loner .. then I find out he has been talking some girl on the phone ..a few weeks later he starts dating some other girl. I wanted to kick his ass over then smoke a joint and wait for the cops but instead I prayed and cried my eyes to sleep every night.
Was feeling down about this subject today and printed out a list of encouraging affirmations to read over and over. Of course focused on my work too. Taking care of those who cant care for themselves always helps me.
And we are many here in the same situation. Yesterday I did a Spa time at home, I took a photoshoot well dressed for Christmas, today I'm going to a new mall..I'll re-start to paint and do more hobbies and be in zoom club, groups..let's do it!! And I went in No contact..since the 26th and it feels like months yet😅😫 that guy made me a magic something damn
I actually think the number one thing that works for me is to go out with friends and take my mind off him. It REALLY helps on a major level. Keep this in mind. The less time you have to think about him, the less you see him as a priority. When you sit at home and are bored, you can only think about him. At least keep your mind occupied. That's the best peice of advice I could give. That is what helped me get over my ex. Talking about him only made things worse because it forced me to think about him.
MsLoni I know right. I started seeing a guy who said he had been waiting for 30years to get with me. We went on a few dates and then he just stopped calling and coming around. I say his loss and I hope he has a good life! I know I a queen and the prize!!!!
If a guy ignores me, I start reading a new book, or start an art project. It's a great way to focus my energy into something entirely different and plus I learn something in the process.
If a guy ignores me, I ignore him harder. If I'm really into someone who ignores me, it sucks and is hard for a couple of days but my self respect won't let me cross a line of chasing someone not worthy knowing I've done what I can, yknow. I move on. If they come back later months/years. My brain has them marked as "meh, proceed with caution" if I proceed at all.
Not the right guy, but it could also not be the right time for him. He might need to work on himself. He might not be ready to give you 100% of himself to you and the relationship.
Absolutely! On all these various videos my man has ranked 100% on being deeply in love with me. Now.. this video is saying that he's not even interested in me? Nope!!! It took me awhile, but I absolutely know that he loves me and I also know that I can be very irritating to not only men but some of my closest friends! Sometimes? It is us. It is you! If you were with a man and you think that he is worth the effort.. then give him some time, especially if he has been deeply hurt in the past!"
I am focusing on positive things in my life, and already have someone else interested in me and now I'm reluctant because I'm not over the Gentleman I really cared about that pulled away... I'm going to be open to go on a date though! I'm 57 and lost a man to cancer 5 yrs ago that I was with for 20yrs... Not easy stuff for me!
1000% true, when you're with the right man, everything feels so easy, including the ability to fully be you!!!!! I will also add, do not limit yourself to a type because the right man for you could be someone you never thought in a million years you could be attracted to.
When I was younger and someone ignored me I would become obsessed about how I'm not good enough in every way. Now... I ignore them right back, and when they try to come around... I'm out. peace✌️ I'm not wasting my time. Thanks to Jesus and video's like this I found my worth and I'm enjoying my life in every moment❣️
When someone starts to ignore me, I let go of the rope all at once. The key is "let it go". It frees the self from internal interrogation and the seemingly never ending cycle of self-blaming for not having done enough. We are born more than enough.
It depends on the context. Obviously if you’re in the very beginning stages of dating and someone goes AWOL, then they clearly aren’t interested. But if it’s farther down the road, it helps to attempt to reach out to the person and gently ask if everything is ok. Occasionally, things may happen that temporarily disconnect a person from the relationship that have absolutely nothing to do with the state of a relationship. I had a boyfriend that didn’t text me for a couple of days, and when I gently asked him if everything was ok, I found out his grandmother he was living with died a couple days ago and he had to almost single handedly make funeral arrangements. I asked him how I could support him and he said “I’ll reach out when I am ready to talk about it” and he did. We parted ways because we weren’t compatible, but that’s an example of why we shouldn’t just assume a person doesn’t care when they don’t respond immediately.
it is really very hard to screw up the right thing. IT IS REALLY VERY HARD TO SCREW UP THE RIGHT THING. thank you so much, i hope it's in my mind forever now.
I think what you've mentioned in this video is true. I have tried not to be so invested in someone who doesn't appreciate my time given to him & it works!
Currently going through this exact thing. I deleted his number to stop myself from calling or texting him because I don't want to lower my standards and come across desperate. So it's up to him to contact me if he ever wants to and if he does he has to come correct. Not going to entertain a little boy who only contacts me when they're bored. And if he doesn't contact me well there's more fish in the sea lol
Here is America we give men too much credit. I think we all need to work on our leadership skills, because ignoring someone and being disrespectful just makes an enemy for no good reason. Some people are just stupid. It's low class behavior, and many men do ignore and be rude on purpose, thinking that makes them the one in control of a situation. Really they are pissing people off in a way that is easy to avoid.
What I do to maintain my peace is write in a journal, pray, do things that are productive at home, spend time with anyone who wants to, go on a walk with my backpack so I can study at the park or run at the track, listen to music, meditate, watch relationship videos for inspiration and wisdom... And be sure to go bed early cause getting good sleep is so refreshing for the mind and emotions esp in cases like these
When he ignores me, then I'm grateful that he's not arguing with me and I'm able to get a lot of things done that need to be done that wouldn't get done otherwise. I've never chased a man and I'm certainly not going to start with him to boost his ego to make him feel important.
if you believe (affirm to yourself) that you are a high-value woman, and really actually like yourself, then you will attract a high-value man. other girls are not competition. low self-esteem and over sexualized society full of narcissistic selfie tinder lovers doesn't help tho. the depths are shallow in the social media stream and people miss out on REAL human interactions and connections that happen thru out the day. love n light indeed, Mat!
I have a method that works for me. When a guy starts to ignore or distances from me...I start to date myself more, going to the movies more, treating myself, spend time with friends and family more, listen to cheerful music etc really does help keeping my mind of him!! And then he starts to chase me again...but I pull back more. 😊
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Don't make somebody a priority when you are only an option to them!!
*not even an option
TRUTH!
u r right
Well said !
Awesome
What to do when he ignores you:
> let him go
> believe that love is in store for you
> match his level of investment
> focus forward
“It is hard to screw up the right thing”
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Yeah
Yes. It makes way for aright one
You give great advice
Invest in yourself.
His 4 children, demanding job, financial difficulties due to divorce, searching for what he thinks he wants while he doesn't have the resources for someone else and cares deeply about you. Give some guys credit for caring about their job which is a source of financial support for his children who he loves dearly and goes out of his way to spend time with them even tho it's not his weekend to be with them.
Never jump to conclusions. Men divorced have a more difficult time handling everything that goes with it especially if he has children plus he lost his emotional home in the divorce. There are no simplistic answers. Every man is different.
Think before you assume. A man with children his priority should be the children and the job and dealing with the financial difficulties with child care payments, etc.
In cases like this you come second. The children from his previous marriage and his job come first. If you can't deal with those realities then move on. You don't deserve him.
when someone that i like ignores me, i look my self into the mirror, makeup my beautiful face and go out dancing or doing something that reminds me i'm awesome and self-dependent
This is awesome
Having fun and in love with yourself doesnt stop when you meet someone interesting. 🥰
sounds like a plan
Im married, but if he pulls away, i do the same. U never chsse a man or fall all over him. If u do, he takes u for granted. Thts my experience w men.
I love being alone even though I have a bf I’m a morning person, he’s a night person. I am loud he is quiet. We are different but we have so much in common and it balances out. You don’t want to constantly be with someone it’s not healthy.
DO NOT CHASE! if he stops contacting you, then STOP contacting him.
Period!
agreed😁
I'm doing exactly that right now,bleep him 🙄 ....we broke up a week ago and, I'm not trying to fix or do anything... except move on ☺️
@Beautiful Stranger 125 Thank you 😔 I'm doing better... it's all about self love, once a person truly loves themselves... they won't allow mistreatment
@Beautiful Stranger 125 I'm so sorry to hear that 😔, you're in my prayers as well... Being abused is so hard to recover from, and someone making you feel ugly 😢 it really damages the self esteem 😔 he didn't deserve you you sweetheart ❤️
Rejection is Gods protection 💜
You could be right on that.
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Dori Berry say that again💞
Dori Berry That's actually quite profound! 👍🏼
Chirp Ster Thank You...it’s so True
"Infact he's not thinking about you when he ignores you...he's thinking about his life".
Well well well I wasted my whole time thinking about him🙄
I know right.
Me too..
EXACTLY, that selfish B+@#$%&
So true
We have all done that at sone point. I dated a man I eas crazy about. Looking back, he negged me, was inconsistent, took me for granted and I was an idiot. Now he tlresurfaces on my life now and then when he is looking for an ego boost. I stopped supplying that and I am good and no linger in love. But to thos day, if he needs to talk I am tje person he seeks out. I dont know what is up with that.
I’ve always believed this: love shouldn’t be so hard.
I say that all the time 😣😣
Learning that... What a lesson learned!!!!
Love is actually hard it's not easy
Yes it should feel like free-flow and natural
@@anushkama4986 Sorry, that is FANTASY. Life is NOT perfect. People are NOT perfect.
When it’s a guy who is into you, you’ll know it. He won’t ignore you.
Thank u for confirming
This is so helpful. It reminds me of one of the best lessons: "You don't need to be excited about someone who isn't equally excited about you."
okashi10 yeah,so from now on,I'm not going to keep staring at him in a secret way..every time we had training ..haha...coz I think,the more you keep looking at him ,the more you gonna like him ...is it's true?😂
True. This goes both ways. The man AND the woman need to be excited. Not one gets to be excited and the other one just takes whatever.
Yes, definitely.
OK as him mhb7li5oph08
okashi10 !!!!hits home fam😭😂
Guys need to stop stringing people along and learn how to communicate. That is why women get confused. They are the ones playing the games with severe communication issues.
Very good point! Communication is everything whether friends or more! If there is no deeper talking and they aren't into that or they were once and stop it along the way then there is a problem. It may not mean they are no longer into you either. I think people just get scared..both men and women and I also think people need space now and then..but it is only right to give the other person a head's up or for you to try to be aware of what is going on.
Yup. I come across the same issue with every man I've dated. Either that or they act like they're into you only so they can get in your pants, I hate that one too. I've gotten to the point where I'm so tired of it that I've decided to completely opt-out of dating. I'm tired of the games and tired of guys not being direct or being able to communicate in general. It's extremely frustrating and exhausting dealing with those kinds of people.
Yes
@moonlite88 agreed
Thank you. I freaken hate stringy men.
1. With the right guy is going to feel ease.
2. Match his level of investment.
3. Focus forward.
Shut up..troll..
1. There is no right guy. That ease is BS. Life is NOT perfect! Also guys are NOT PERFECT!!
Focus forward, what does that mean?
Thank u 4 this
It was natuarl, it was easy until he ignored me, I still don't get it.
I've already wired my brain that a man who's totally into me will pursue me no matter what. The connection is easy and I don't have worries.
You may even decide to smile more with others while ignoring him. It will show him that you're happy without him and that he's not the source of your happiness.
I'm in a relationship with my soulmate and he has pulled away for months but he did send a morning message but that was all I got from him until the next morning.
Why dont you pursue him
Please teach me this wizardry.
Being ignored is an awful feeling. The best you can do if he starts ignoring you is to stop having hopes for anything because it will just not work. And it's so true that women start to feel guilty for men behaving like this even if they didn't do anything wrong
X KP smh 😣
Wonder how guys would like to be ignored
X KP k
But how do we know what a natural flow should be like? What if he's emotionally insecure (fearful-avoidant) and afraid of abandonment so he acts as if he's not invested in some ways while you're both invested in other areas?
The rules also don't seem to apply if the person struggles with depression, low self-esteem, low or no self-love, or other.insecurities, as I mentioned before. I tried matching the level of my guy's interest awhile back. I went overboard a bit to see if he would notice and he thought I was about to leave him. He said he needed to know that I valued him and was interested in him so that he could overcome his fears and insecurities and open up to me more.
That's tough, but he obviously needs time to grow up. Be available when he has more emotional maturity but don't have him doing it on your time. Not your job to raise him, especially since if he isn't ready you can't even if you wanted to.
Don't feel sorry for yourself if a man starts ignoring you, it just happened that he isn't the right match for you maybe because his attraction is not that strong. If he's really into you, no matter how busy he was, he would always find a way to reach out to you.
I can related on that.. Thanks for that!
Thank u
He made me a priority then vanished
100%
I’m agree with you.thanks
What is meant to be will always find a way to you. Never chase after anything.
Let's put it this way.
If he ignoring you, IT'S NOT YOU, it's him
Exactly.
Pouty.
Moody.
Depressed.
Waffling.
Not my problem, sounds like a “you” problem.
Be a grownup and USE YOUR WORDS.
*yeah, it's always a man's fault..........*
@@guywithcoolusername.. she didn't say that.
@@recoveryrocks1 she totaly did
No because I’m sure she meant it goes both way. Doesn’t matter if the man or woman is the offender
When someone pulls away it actually shows me 1. Their true colors & 2. It gives me peace; peace to move forward with myself ALONE & I know what I bring to the table & I'm not afraid to eat alone... #JusSayin
Jan Climo I like that when you said you’re not afraid to eat alone awesome words
Good on you girl
Jan Climo agreed!
Well he left to better himself 2 so it was best for you both
Awesome
Pls ladies...stop wasting your precious time with 'what ifs'. A man knows exactly what he wants. If that's not you...no panicking! There's more fishes in the sea. Do you! You're awesome and unique just the way you are! He will come along and YOU will be his WORLD! #preach
Such kind words.
I hate when people say there are more fish in the sea. I use to have fish as pets. Damn fish even act different. The fish can look exactly the same but damn it those fish act different.
I hate saying fish in the sea. There's not that much fish, and how many are decent? How many good? How many are GREAT? The numbers go down considerably.
Ten Veils 😁😁
Wow love your words, you are absolutely correct. 😊
1. With the right guy, it's going to feel easy.
2. Match his level of investment
3. Focus forward
I like to remind myself that I deserve what I’m willing and ready to give.
If he isn’t, he has disqualified himself.
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tigress866,You are absolutely gorgeous 🌹🌷🌷,hope you are with a good man!!
Yesss!
❤️👌😘
the first thing he said is sooooo true...when you are with the right guy it feels easy...that is exactly what I felt with my husband and we have been together for 20 years...
That's how it felt with my ex (we were together for eight years). Then he let a couple of negative and overly selfish and manipulative people into his life (they would talk about me behind my back to my ex and tell him he should break up with me and that I'm unattractive, etc.) and I'm absolutely positive they were at least a part of why our relationship failed in the end which is very sad...for my ex, not me. I did the breaking up when I realized we had run our course. It really sucks but I'm obviously better off.
@@antoniahenry7203 Good for you girl. You respected yourself and that should always be the priority.
@@ninjabreadgirl 100% ❤
wow Hope to find that man of my life:)
I really long for this. I'm happy for you. Thank you for sharing. It gives me hope
When they start pulling away i do nothing and go on with my life. Thanks for this video 😊
Me too. Check things out a little bit, do the basic self inventory then move on. I come from being raised by the old school and a good woman with a high level of feminine knowledge and logic that taught me never chase a man. 💅🏽😬You can let him know you're interested but do not under any circumstances go out of your way to chase the man down and God forbid stalk him and become obsessed and start showing up on their turf looking stupid. That is not a good look on any day of the week! You waste so much time trying to be a super sleuth and an alpha female that is not going to let no one ghost them, and miss out on other opportunities 2 get to know someone else who might be more interested. All it does is boost the wrong mans ego and gas them up how to the cloud even more while you're down in the dumps watching them rise.
Miss Tonya c007 Agee
If he's ignoring you he doesn't want you. It's treating you like a toy he can put down and walk away until his interest comes back. NO, he's not thinking about you at all. It's why he's ignoring you.
selfishness
@@DeniseGriffinMenieresfree Or just not interested.
True.
Jan Badinski
Not interested would mean he can turn you down after a week or so, narcissists drag people along for months or even years, because it strokes their ego thinking that there is a person who is invested in them so much.
Ill sent my bf this screen shot o wait he isn't interested
When someone pulls away from me or ignores I just turn back to my own personal interests. I work on me or on enjoying myself; hobbies, read a new book, call a friend or family member.
When I see that a man is inconsistant or acts hot and cold. I return the attention. Plain and simple. It helps me get out of my feelings if I really like the guy. I snap back into reality, just realize that hey he's showing me exactly how he feels......Keep living my life
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Yep. And this applies to women that act the same way.
Yep… he is boring… a boring connection so easier to let him go. People who play lots of games at the start of a connection continue to play games with you or behind your back with others after a relationship starts. Throw them back.
❤️
I had a ex- boyfriend ghost me...I never heard from him at all. Now when a guy does that, I just keep it moving and forget he ever existed. When a person plays with my emotions, I keep moving on in my life.
Yesssss hunnie !!
I learn guy like that. I like to play et his head then he always replie me bk . Then i ignore them. Their get mad lol . Nan are narsessist it all abiut them . No one today it complicate to mush competition.
Ghosting is an appalling thing to do to someone. It shows a lack of consideration and respect for your time and feelings but most telling of all, is that it shows how cowardly the 'ghoster' is - they haven't the guts or integrity to tell you it's not working for them so then you waste time and energy wondering what's going on or what happened.
Same here
Yes, even I wonder why
Isn't it Interesting how most women tend to assume they did something wrong, their first reaction is self doubt.
Truly is
Always
True
Yes so true. For months at a time when your heart truly loves hard.
He pulls away and I give him some space.. and then I start to think.. well.. any man that wants to ignore me doesn’t deserve all this amazing awesomeness!
Go to bed thinking about all the things you're grateful for and all the things in your life that you're excited about 💗
MissDaniBani Good one, girl.
Yes, I am learning alot from you Mr. Bogg s. And I am really needing, these ladies, comments, their comments are right on target, !!! I am finding, them to be exactly what I am going through, the same thing s.
He ignored me, so I went on a date with another guy: you’re not interested. I’m moving the F on. ✌🏻
Did that. And he got angry. Lol why?
@@riehafsah4469 because he thought he could treat you like that and you'd continue to put up with it. If he's ignoring you he's not interested
Right. There's never gonna be a shortage of men
Hahaha did same
I know that's right
Well, I started pulling away when I realized his level of interest was way below mine. I realized that I was the one starting the conversations all the time. When I stopped writing, so did he, and I confirmed that it just was not worth it.
Now I see your video and I see that what I did was the right thing. You are so right when you say that by focusing less on the person, our minds start seeing them as less and less important... It's not easy but it's liberating and reduces anxiety enormously.
Thank you for what you do Mathew.
Well good for you i did not read all your writing its too much and im too high but yay 4 u
This is exactly why am feeling now.
Exactly it's so difficult to move on.. searching you tube videos on why they are hot and cold or what a guy will do when he is into you. I deleted all his contact numbers and messages so I never text him ever.. but frankly speaking I still stalk him in fb insta just to know who he is dating.. hopefully I stop that soon too
I have been focusing on myself and my relationship with the Lord❤️❤️❤️
Same here! :)
"Reject the Rejector" i.e. Pull back and gather forces... walk away if he's not pursuing you. He will soon come running back and when he does, you will either be fully over him and moved on and happy with your life or you will be in a good place to have a happy attitude about it (confident in yourself) but aware of the amount/level of investment you should put in. A man should pretty much earn his way to the key to your heart... he's the hunter, let him hunt.
Absolutely the truth! The right guy will make you feel special (not ignore you or make you go crazy figuring out all his unclear signals)
With the right person it will feel easy and natural.
#amypeacemaker I like your comment ;) :)
Except when it is a narcissist/womanizer. Sometimes you just realize it after you have spent quality time with them unfortunately - but remember: we have chosen to come on this earth to learn lessons.
Amy Peacemaker it s sooo good to red this thank you 💔💓💓💓💓
That's so true
Amy Peacemaker but on the early stages or at the point of the relationship it must happen.
I tell myself, a hot girl like me don’t chase any men. So I move forward 😆😅
Me too, Men never shortage, 😆😆
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Me too im so hot i dont allow it
True
True sis😂
If he ignores you...let the fool go...
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zawadi L what if he's not a fool
@@rabianharris1170 doesn't matter, he's no longer into you.
What if you send a message of only a dot message like this .. And he doesn't respond?
@@sukanyacariappa9084 he wouldn't respond because it's passive aggressive I'm sure he wouldn't want to play games
Match his level of investment!
When a guy pulls away I just leave him where he is, because the message I receive from this behavior is that he don't want to talk or communicate, so I can't force him into that. Simply let it be as it is
I am tired of chasing, if he ignores me I learned to ignore him as well and live my life.
“With the right guy, things is going to be easy” - thanks a lot for this encouragement!!! I just ended my relationship few days ago as silence seemed to happen so regularly in our relationship. He was always stay silent for days every time we had problems. I know he is an introvert guy, and he always think a lot. But silence kills every relationship.
Mine did the same. Silent treatment for days at a time about a dozen times over the last 18 months. Last time I said it's a deal breaker. He did it again now it's over
Can you please help me understand this , what does he mean when he says " things is going easy with the right guy "
@@Bright0-i4w things come natural and flow with ease when its the right partner.
@@kristiemcinnes304 You are so strong, I commend you for cutting your losses and moving forward. You are amazing. I am at a place I don't want to go further if he is not invested 100%.
The hardest part is realizing that I have to let him go. There's no other way around it. If I was right for him, he wouldn't have vanished.
i know personally like i said im in the same boat and some guys really are true i know personally if i could take it all back i would of never done my immature actions of putting it on blast give all my time and affection and actually focus on our goals and what counted in life more kanisha really does mean the world to me just wish i could spend the rest of my life with her i really do love her
When ignored I don't care I just keep going on with my life till they text me first, they just wanna feel important🤨. Don't chase man girls we need to love and respect ourselves more.
I'm so tired of trying to understand anything regarding men. Sometimes I wish I was on a deserted island all alone.
Right
I already gave up on men and then some dude unsolicited started pursuing me and flirting with me and now he's pulling away so I watched this video. Now I pretty much decided this is all bullshit and I'm just going to go back to minding my own business again.
same
Yesss
You wish.........
if he starts to pull away I go to youtube and search what to do when men pull away 🙄😂
Shiela mae Meñoza 😂🤣
Exactly
Same!! 😂😂😭
Doing it right now. 😂
I’m here now looking for answers
when I'm being ignored by someone I pretend that they don't even exist it's like they weren't even born
Shannelle Collins 😂😂😂😂😂
Shannelle Collins Girl, good idea.
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Same here bahahah, they soon fix up 😂
Shannelle Collins you are a strong woman.
I refuse to waste my time on people who can't be bothered to invest their time in a relationship with me. This goes for males and female friends.
Victoria Randazzo Girl, this is what I just decided yesterday. Male or female. I cleaned my damn phone OUT!
#victoriarandozza here! Here!
No one is entitled to your time. Punishing someone for good behavior is the height of foolishness.
Right. Agreed
Charlene Eatmon this is why I’ve ended my relationship with callous bf-doesn’t care enough to text or make plans anymore
I follow one good tip from John Gray-- he said that man are like elastic. When they come close- need pull away to max extent. BUT- what happens when you strech elastic - it comes back with greater force.....
Who is scrolling through comments and liking ?😂
#fashionpilot I like your comment :) ;)
Fashion Pilot me
Me lol
me
@all Hahhahahahha 😂😂😂😙😙😙😙
Absolutely so correct, the minute you stop he comes back...
Beverly Grigg,your pretty smile can make the news!
Yeah, but this is tiring.
Sometimes confusing
Once I was dating a guy who would talk a day and a half to text me back, almost every time. I decided to do an experiment. I waited for him to text me and then decided I would not respond for a day and half, no matter what. A few hours later he texted me again, to see if I had gotten his text. A few hours later he texted again, asking if I was there. Finally that night he actually came over to my house because he was concerned I might have been in trouble or something. We didn't last as a couple but it was definitely an effective way to illustrate the double standard he had become accustomed to about texting etiquette.
Lauren Hoelle omg I’ve done this to guys who do it to me and they get sooo butt hurt about it and then push me away lol as if they didn’t do it already by ignoring me! Double standards. One guy won’t respond for days then if I wait even a few hours to respond he will text me several times. Hey why aren’t you texting. Hey are you ok? Hey what’s wrong hey are you mad? Hello?? Meanwhile I’m like really dude. Really!!!
Bravo 👏
Thank you for sharing!🙏🏻❤️
Well done! 👍
Lauren Hoelle sooo true! 👍🏽👍🏽
Even when you say things I may not want to hear, you say it in a way that makes me feel empowered and reminds me that just because one person may not find value in me, as long as I know my worth, the right man will come along as long as I keep focusing on myself and my needs. Thank-you! ❤
I do the same. If he ignores me , I ignore him. Concentrate in family, work, trips, etc
What's he thinking when he ignores you?
Nothing about you...
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Haha!
😂😂🤦🏽♀️
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😂its time to think about urself♥️
Go now go! Walk out the door! Just turn around now cause YOU'RE NOT WELCOMED ANYMORE! I'll survive!!!
Girl, a healthy person chooses herself. Not her emotions
I couldn't agree with you more Mat! I know there's a special man out there for me! If they're foolish enough not to see my value, I'm smart enough to ignore them as I'm very confident in who I am and what I bring to the table! Thank you for being fantastic! I love your talks and the special relationship you share with your wife and kids! Congratulations!
When one door closes.... another one opens.
Lisa Guiry,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌷 dear
As soon as I feel and notice his level of interest declining, I pull back as well. I stop initiating any text or communication and refocus my attention on myself again. It sucks but it helps you get over investing anymore of your time into something that is clearly not going to work.
Very good!
Same here sweetheart🥰.actually he is checking daily on my status wille I'm enjoy my life in healthy way.and I'm thinking about to block this person very soon. but before that, I want let him to know that I'm no longer available for his mind games😉.shares ✌😘🇨🇵
@@BeautySecretsbyvictoria3 👏🏽👏🏽 wonderful!! Enjoy this time to yourself.
@@JP-ll8iy yes I still sweetheart.😉 I keep my self busy and developing myself with my 3 beautiful, and amazing kid's,includding selfdiscipline,self love,exploring new places,also new friends zone... my daily routine is full and amazing.🙌 to west time looking for same ones approval 😎😘🇨🇵
@@BeautySecretsbyvictoria3 -good working on that now!!!!!!✨🙌🙌🙌🙌
What I notice is that the guys who dissappear, if I am really honest, I wasn't all that in to them anyway. It's just my dysfunctional idea that longing is real love. Why do we focus so much on what they think of us, when we need to get really honest about what we feel about them, what are childhood wounds and fantasies? and what is genuine connection. Why would you ever like someone that isn't that in to you? Low self esteem. Fall in love with yourself (not narcissistically) and believe in yourself. I love this video...greatest take away is believe down to your bones you will find love and you deserve it. Work on that ladies. He is there....its a big big world...don't waste your time feeling bad. if you do feel bad and low on yourself work your own issues, get help and then get back in the game with your self esteem and love high. Its magnetic and brings them on like flys. Love is always the answer.!
True.
It's a big world so why do we ever feel lonely in it. What's worst feeling lonely in a crowd or an empty room? Have you ever cried in public? What's worst, a stranger asking if you are alright when they see you crying or nobody noticing? That huge world shit is the same as the ocean is full of fish. Why don't people respond to a break-up with I guess you was in a cocoon and now you both are butterflies. Fly now! Fly!!!!
Thank you
We subconsciously internalize other people’s behaviors as reflections of ourselves. That’s because we’re all connected at a soul level. Everyone watching this video has had self esteem issues. Our society has traded true connections for cell phones and WiFi.
That's true 😍
Focus Forward on yourself on the opportunities you have in life and on you ,
If he pulls away, just do the same thing.
ImEunHye Colz. I agree!!!!
Amen to that. I’ve pulled away in the past when they have and for some reason they come back later on. But by then I’ve had a chance to think things through and not feed into it. So tired of these stupid childish games.
ImEunHye Colz easily said. But I wanna do it.
ImEunHye Colz Then I'd just stay away
Yup agree
If he pulls away I say goodbye! If he ever comes back I always say I'm sorry but you missed your opportunity. I've noticed that people who pull away won't change, they just wanna play games and I don't have time for that.
Amen to that girl.
You are soo matured
Good bye!! Ha ha ha!
Do you think they ‘pull away’ because they have chosen another opportunity with another women, that didn’t work out so the idiot comes back. Best to say goodbye even if there was a chance he was playing hard to get.
Wow
I like to surround myself with good people who want to be in my life. I also test myself and try new things.....seems to build confidence. I do remind myself that not everyone in life is going to connect with me and that may not necessarily be my issue. Some people have baggage that we are not aware of. Being ignored does hurt....but I think what hurts more is being with someone who may not be right for me....
Great outlook! I think of the times I’ve vanished from a guy and a lot of times it was my own crud I was dealing with.
Some people will actually purposely disappear or pulls away to get you to chase them. Games. I agree with matching the energy someone is giving you. That way, you won't waste your time. Focusing forward is great advice and empowering.
Let him go and pursue your passions and interests!
That's bullshit
I have too much going on and too many options to be concerned with some loser who doesn't appreciate how badass I am. Everything you mentioned I agree with.
Sometimes we're insecure and just not ready. Life gets in the way.
Regardless - LADIES - look forth! Our future is brighter than the dimness behind us
True.
PREACH SISTER PRRREEEEAAACH!!!
You sound like a total narcissist
I fucking love this
Word!
Pple need stop psychologizing someone ghosting u. Once txt or calls become less frequent, that's also a form of ghosting until communication ends. It hurts but move on pple.
Trying to move on
All bruises take time to heal. Some cuts require stitches. If you been with someone for almost a year and this happens I consider that a deep cut. Time is a huge factor in this stupidity with dating. You don't hurt the same for a person you hardly know or been around compared to a guy you hung out with three times or more during the week and than poof after seven months. I just call it bullshit.
Ghosting is a sign of immaturity. Why waste your time on a man-child.
Truth..
Agree
I think it’s pretty simple. When someone ignores you, they don’t want to talk to you. Don’t try to chase. I give people so many chances that they don’t deserve. I make up excuses for them, even though they don’t bother to explain their actions. If someone is interested, it’s easy to see.
any woman who wastes her time on a guy that ignores the shit out of her, doesn't know what she wants. Seriously...a guy who ignores you cannot be your dream come true. Drop him like a sack of shit and move on...he's not serious.
VogueHaven for real. My boyfriend of 4 years ignored me for a weeks then tells me he needs space to figure his life out. Then he tells me that I am too clingy because I wanted to be a part of his life when he was going through his issues.. he told me is a loner .. then I find out he has been talking some girl on the phone ..a few weeks later he starts dating some other girl. I wanted to kick his ass over then smoke a joint and wait for the cops but instead I prayed and cried my eyes to sleep every night.
Thank you GF! :)
sometimes a man ignore a woman because she thinks she too much for the guy
#vogueheaven that helps a lot.!!! Thank, you :) ;)
VogueHaven ... I couldn't agree more
IT IS HARD TO SCREW UP THE RIGHT THING.
If he's right for you, he will engage you & do the best to make it work.
I focus on hanging with friends, things I enjoy like Working, cleaning house, doing my hair. After few days, I don't worry any more.
Was feeling down about this subject today and printed out a list of encouraging affirmations to read over and over. Of course focused on my work too. Taking care of those who cant care for themselves always helps me.
And we are many here in the same situation. Yesterday I did a Spa time at home, I took a photoshoot well dressed for Christmas, today I'm going to a new mall..I'll re-start to paint and do more hobbies and be in zoom club, groups..let's do it!! And I went in No contact..since the 26th and it feels like months yet😅😫 that guy made me a magic something damn
When a guy ignores me, it’s okay 👌 no biggie. Just do your own thing. Don’t force somebody to like you or be with you 😘😘
I actually think the number one thing that works for me is to go out with friends and take my mind off him. It REALLY helps on a major level. Keep this in mind. The less time you have to think about him, the less you see him as a priority. When you sit at home and are bored, you can only think about him. At least keep your mind occupied. That's the best peice of advice I could give. That is what helped me get over my ex. Talking about him only made things worse because it forced me to think about him.
Why would a man chase so hard to get you only to ignore when he finally gets you? It's so much game!
MsLoni A man wouldn't. A player who's a potential narcissist would.
Sorin Oka interesting, thanks
MsLoni "BECAUSE HE IS A PATHETIC NARCISSIST"
MsLoni I know right. I started seeing a guy who said he had been waiting for 30years to get with me. We went on a few dates and then he just stopped calling and coming around. I say his loss and I hope he has a good life! I know I a queen and the prize!!!!
MsLoni ...wow this deep...I needed to hear this 😏🤔thanks
If he ignores me, i dont care what he thinks anymore. He can think whatever he wants far away from me
If a guy ignores me, I start reading a new book, or start an art project. It's a great way to focus my energy into something entirely different and plus I learn something in the process.
If a guy ignores me, I ignore him harder. If I'm really into someone who ignores me, it sucks and is hard for a couple of days but my self respect won't let me cross a line of chasing someone not worthy knowing I've done what I can, yknow. I move on. If they come back later months/years. My brain has them marked as "meh, proceed with caution" if I proceed at all.
If a guy ignores you he is either gaming you to make you insecure or he just doesn't care...
OR, he is one to want independence
Not the right guy, but it could also not be the right time for him. He might need to work on himself. He might not be ready to give you 100% of himself to you and the relationship.
hikoukla,hope you are with a good man!
But if he's not ready while you are, is it really the right guy? Wouldn't you be ahead of him the whole time, frustrating the both of you?
I agree...
Absolutely! On all these various videos my man has ranked 100% on being deeply in love with me.
Now.. this video is saying that he's not even interested in me? Nope!!!
It took me awhile, but I absolutely know that he loves me and I also know that I can be very irritating to not only men but some of my closest friends! Sometimes? It is us. It is you! If you were with a man and you think that he is worth the effort.. then give him some time, especially if he has been deeply hurt in the past!"
@Precious Diamond 💗
I am focusing on positive things in my life, and already have someone else interested in me and now I'm reluctant because I'm not over the Gentleman I really cared about that pulled away...
I'm going to be open to go on a date though! I'm 57 and lost a man to cancer 5 yrs ago that I was with for 20yrs...
Not easy stuff for me!
When I get ignored I pretend they’re dead
Tweety Bird 13 lol, that’s great 🤣🤣🤣🤣 ima do this!
Great 😂
Love it 🤣🤣
LMFAO
Yes!!
1000% true, when you're with the right man, everything feels so easy, including the ability to fully be you!!!!!
I will also add, do not limit yourself to a type because the right man for you could be someone you never thought in a million years you could be attracted to.
Thanks a lot..this helped me❤️
Thank you ….I’ve felt that as I’ve aged . It’s true of course ❤️
IT IS HARD TO SCREW UP THE RIGHT THING! Thanks🙂
Thats true you hit that one right on the nose.😘😘😘.
When I was younger and someone ignored me I would become obsessed about how I'm not good enough in every way. Now... I ignore them right back, and when they try to come around... I'm out. peace✌️ I'm not wasting my time. Thanks to Jesus and video's like this I found my worth and I'm enjoying my life in every moment❣️
Keep smiling. It makes them wonder or pisses them off 😁✌🏻
When someone starts to ignore me, I let go of the rope all at once. The key is "let it go". It frees the self from internal interrogation and the seemingly never ending cycle of self-blaming for not having done enough. We are born more than enough.
No more phone calls, no more texts... Nothing! Then next... looking forward.
It depends on the context. Obviously if you’re in the very beginning stages of dating and someone goes AWOL, then they clearly aren’t interested. But if it’s farther down the road, it helps to attempt to reach out to the person and gently ask if everything is ok. Occasionally, things may happen that temporarily disconnect a person from the relationship that have absolutely nothing to do with the state of a relationship.
I had a boyfriend that didn’t text me for a couple of days, and when I gently asked him if everything was ok, I found out his grandmother he was living with died a couple days ago and he had to almost single handedly make funeral arrangements. I asked him how I could support him and he said “I’ll reach out when I am ready to talk about it” and he did. We parted ways because we weren’t compatible, but that’s an example of why we shouldn’t just assume a person doesn’t care when they don’t respond immediately.
it is really very hard to screw up the right thing. IT IS REALLY VERY HARD TO SCREW UP THE RIGHT THING. thank you so much, i hope it's in my mind forever now.
Right how are we the ones screwing up
Harsh but true, if he's ignoring, don't beat yourself and move on. You've done nothing wrong
Not your guy!
I don't call him NO! He wants me he can text or call me! I don't chase him no more!!!
I think what you've mentioned in this video is true. I have tried not to be so invested in someone who doesn't appreciate my time given to him & it works!
Currently going through this exact thing. I deleted his number to stop myself from calling or texting him because I don't want to lower my standards and come across desperate. So it's up to him to contact me if he ever wants to and if he does he has to come correct. Not going to entertain a little boy who only contacts me when they're bored. And if he doesn't contact me well there's more fish in the sea lol
+Honey M so did he ever contact u? did u cave in?
Absolutely,same though
Same thing happened to me. I deleted his number and messages. But the asshole is still following me on snapchat and watches my stories!! WTF???
saammee
Did he call????
Here is America we give men too much credit. I think we all need to work on our leadership skills, because ignoring someone and being disrespectful just makes an enemy for no good reason. Some people are just stupid. It's low class behavior, and many men do ignore and be rude on purpose, thinking that makes them the one in control of a situation. Really they are pissing people off in a way that is easy to avoid.
What I do to maintain my peace is write in a journal, pray, do things that are productive at home, spend time with anyone who wants to, go on a walk with my backpack so I can study at the park or run at the track, listen to music, meditate, watch relationship videos for inspiration and wisdom... And be sure to go bed early cause getting good sleep is so refreshing for the mind and emotions esp in cases like these
So true💯💯
When he ignores me, then I'm grateful that he's not arguing with me and I'm able to get a lot of things done that need to be done that wouldn't get done otherwise. I've never chased a man and I'm certainly not going to start with him to boost his ego to make him feel important.
if you believe (affirm to yourself) that you are a high-value woman, and really actually like yourself, then you will attract a high-value man. other girls are not competition. low self-esteem and over sexualized society full of narcissistic selfie tinder lovers doesn't help tho. the depths are shallow in the social media stream and people miss out on REAL human interactions and connections that happen thru out the day. love n light indeed, Mat!
I like that!!!!
I have a method that works for me. When a guy starts to ignore or distances from me...I start to date myself more, going to the movies more, treating myself, spend time with friends and family more, listen to cheerful music etc really does help keeping my mind of him!! And then he starts to chase me again...but I pull back more. 😊
what you persist it resists... what you resist it persists.