Transform Fear Into Creative Power
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- Опубліковано 4 чер 2024
- In this video, I discuss several fears that hold us back from doing this art career thing and how I've confronted them over the years.
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Art is not a contest. We are each unique. Our paintings are stories our hearts sing, but the world treats them like commodities.
15 years in and we still struggle with this. We started with six or seven weekends a year. Now we are busy through eight months and projected to be year round in 2025. We are to the point where we are graduating to a cargo van, our minivan is no longer big enough. I am still panicked over how we will afford it, but we will. Five years ago, I would have never thought we would be here. Our advice is to just start. No matter how small, even if you think you aren't ready. You never are truly ready. It will evolve as you go. ❤❤❤
Oh man! This is me! I struggle with people with good intentions, telling me to get a "day job". The financial struggle is real. However, you can ask anyone... I'm definitely not starving! ha ha ha... but this entire process takes so much courage! The truth is, however, that it takes so much energy and stamina to stand up and sing in front of people. It takes hours and hours of practice and preparation, advertising, marketing, creating posters and put them up, selling tickets etc. I simply COULD NOT do what I'm doing with a "day job". So then, when I go through all of that work and people don't show up, it's devastating. I have spent months withdrawn into, "Why do I think I can do this?!" And recovering from people putting me down for one reason or another. But, I have learned that self care is the most important thing. I spend a lot of time working on my spiritual life and remembering WHY I do this. I do it, because I love it! And I believe it is my gift to the world! And it just doesn't matter what the critic thinks. They're not doing this. They don't understand and that's ok. I find great solace and comfort in both you, Rafi ,and Klee. Your courage, these talks, our talks, and just knowing there is someone else out there living as creative who gets it, who understands me and my deep desire to do this. I simply cannot do anything else but this. This is what I love. This is what I do now. I sing.
100%. A lot of people don't understand it takes a lot to do what we do. Like the amount of work we have to put in. Is a lot. Like I've got a 2 Day event coming up. And I've got some jewelry ready. And some Paintings. Then there's still leftover stock. That I'm going to sell. But I still need more. Cause you need a lot of stock. That's a lot of time right there. And commitment. Like you said, I love what I do. Some.
Times it may be draining. Sometimes it may be a lot of money. A lot of time. And pressure. But I love it. I would.
Rather do this than anything else.
I had a art related day job for 30yrs. . But during 2020 the days of the KoVid . The business was determined non essential by governor of my state. She forbid us to be open. Now I have less than a part time job. I still want to work , but if you don't have any income it's hard not to be depressed & sad. So I've been dependent on family for support.
@@lisaowen6103 Wow. Sounds like my life. I had a state job. And that's exactly how I ended up singing full time! So, ironically it pushed me into doing what I love. I guess that part of it was good.
@@bigman7877 Yep! For sure! I'd rather do this than anything else!
Rafi gives such good advice😊😊😊🖌️
Awww! Thank you so much!
Another awesome video. My current fear is selling my artwork. I'm working on a website now I've been putting off for months. The fear is that nothing will sell. When I look at which pieces I should sell, I find all the imperfections. This video is comforting that I'm not the only one that has doubts. I just need to put them up and see what happens 😊
I don't like selling my originals anymore. I may need to have them printed. But I don't have the money to print them . Another problem is which ones to print.
The fact that your art is "the test" of what people you want to interact with is something I never realized, but it's true.
This one gave me a laugh. I have said this about dressing in gothic and metal fashion styles. Outward litmus test for the right people to interact with.
It’s time to go BIG 🎨
I SO needed this today! Thank you! Never too long a video from you :)
Out of the many fears I'm currently challenged with is the fear of inadequacy.
I'm finding that journaling is helping to identify and pick apart my fears so I can deal with them and move forward. It's amazing how many are things I have been taught to be afraid of but are actually someone else's. In the end I won't, can't, let fear stop me from making my art and putting it out in the world.
Writing notes and talking to fellow artist. Will help you craft a artist statement. What would we have known about Vincent Van Gogh if not for his letters to his brother .
Here's a quote I like. That I've heard about Being an artist. When it comes to submitting art into competitions. Shows. Getting it into stores. Galleries and stuff. You're going to get a 100 no's Before one, yes. That's Helped me a lot It's going to happen. It's a part of the job. Just keep going.
Thank you for sharing im expecting more like 1000 no's tho
' My art career is built on failure, criticism and fear'. Soo...right! 😂
I have been following for quite some time now. Your videos have motivated me to not only walk to the edge of an art career but step back run and jump into it. Yesterday, I officially stocked my online store. I keep reminding myself that this will take time and I have to find my folks. Thank you for your inspiration.
Blue October has a song called Fear. I hope this helps someone. Thank you for doing awesome things!🌅🌀🌅🙌
one of the issues I have run into is, having a minor success and then being paralyzed by it. I might get a compliment by someone that I really admired, and the thought I have is "whelp I am never gonna do any better than this, I am only gonna fail from here, how can I top this and do better" Which after typing this realizing it sounds crazy.
Had an interaction with a coworker at my job the other day that ended with her loosely stating that my art career is a waste of time. I was incensed, BUT came to the realization that it is easy to get a job and have someone tell you what to do, where to go, how to do it. It is a whole other thing to take on being a creative and have to fight tooth and nail for all the ground that you gain. You live with the circumstances of your actions and the outcomes that come with it. But You get to make the decisions and forge your own path and I would rather achieve what I can as artist and be proud of that than have a life of being told how to be. Being an artist is a special kind of freedom.
I have a art event last of month. Causing anxiety . I am procrastinating getting ready for it.
A fear I've recently had to deal with. I donated 3 paintings that went up for auction over a 2 year period at a local music festival fund raiser. They were bought from the stage for an outrageous amount. I was so proud. My next painting I donated last year was put in the raffle. I was devastated that it didn't have the chance to go on stage and be sold and make real money for the charity, I felt so used. I was a has been now. That was very hard.
Your wisdom about the big picture of art practice brings me back to your posts again and again. Hope your dad is doing well with the pacemaker. They’re pretty cool in what they do (hubby’s life changed with his), so I hope it means he gets to be a part of your life for many more years. Thanks for you and Klee’s insights!
I was working at a gallery and framing shop. It was close to Christmas and the owner wanted to have an event where a lot of people could mingle and eat food and watch a few artists do their craft. The month before, I worked very hard on a painting and it turned out to be my best one yet. I was encouraged to paint the night of the event so all could see that I was interested in becoming an artist! Many people admired the painting And it sold!!! I was very grateful! BUT, I was worried to paint at the event, knowing that my process for an 8x10 can take 50 hrs or more… I managed to mix SOME (( color mixing can take me an entire work day )) of the colors before the event and gathered my things to go get setup. I found it very difficult to paint with all the noise, the lack of proper lighting, and not having everything set properly in general, on top of the fact that I felt very uncomfortable painting instead of working at my place of work. I ended up rushing through the initial block in phase, screwed up the drawing, and found out that that I could not mix a very important bright yellow green color (( if I wasn’t so rushed, I would have noticed when I printed that a filter got applied to my source material, making it impossible to paint without buying another really expensive paint )). Now I realize that I was mortified, embarrassed, and ashamed for making such silly mistakes. But that mistake took its toll… I have not done a painting in almost 2 years because of that night. In hindsight, I should have worked much more to get the painting near completion before taking it in, and finishing it at the event… or not have done any painting at all that night. We are all built different… we all do things differently… the moral of the story is don’t be like me. I should have ‘listened’ to myself when I knew how many days of work I tried to condense into one, sometimes you have to pass on a great opportunity and settle for what can be reasonably accomplished. I wish the world could understand.
@anthonywade I'm so sorry that experience has hit you so hard. I'd respectfully suggest that 2 years penance is enough. You made some mistakes, publicly, AND... you learned from them! You just haven't given yourself the opportunity to publicly implement what you learned. Or it's possible that part of what you learned was that you don't really enjoy painting in that setting. Which means you have a decision to make, whether to say "Nope, that's not what I do" or say "Hmm, how could I tweak the situation to make it work for me better next time?" No right or wrong, just what is right for you at the moment. I really hope you get back into painting soon!
There's a cover band in our area that the person that sang painted as they did.
This may be your best advice video yet. I especially like the part about go with the flow and course correct later. I'm in this stage now as I get ready for my first exhibition.
Best of luck 🍀
Wish you all the best !!
Thank you, Rafi, that's true not only with art, also with life in general.
I had a recent revelation/breakthrough in terms of harmful/helpful perspective when looking at other people's art. I used to compare myself to other artists without thinking about it. As I've grown in confidence and discernment for what moves me when a brush is in my hand, I've learned there are artist's that impress a certain magic, magnetism, in there work that persuades my decisions from intuitive to logical based on there style. So I'm not comparing anymore, I'm always looking at art on Instagram or in person. I keep myself in check with any artist that-for whatever reason-pulls my brush away from ME.
i will say , this is life for most people not just artist, everything you are saying is true in most of our worlds
Great job Rafi! Fear is my biggest problem. Probably fear of success and failure at the same time lol We really do have to check in with our feelings and work with ourselves. No one else can do it for us ❤
Thank you Rafi~, Wise Words Indeed!!
(By the way, I Adore your Longer uploads!! )
You and Klee Rock so Amazing that You have Both Graduated as Mountains!!
I Know well my own Fears and my own Darkness, I feel that I Am now Going to Face them Anew,
An Ongoing Process,,,
But I guess its going to be much Easier This Time Around,,,
Each Time We Bravely Face Our Fears they Diminish in Size,,,
Of Course New Fears may Surface, As Artists, as Creatives, Lets take Those All in Our Stride!!
Courage means Being Afraid, but Taking that Fear On,
I Must Really Push Myself to Get Outta my Comfort Zones,
A Gilded Cage aint No Place for Any Living Being!!
Again, Thank you Rafi and Klee, Yet Again your Words hit Home and Inspired me!!
Namaste,,/\,,
Andrea and Critters. ...XxX....
I’m at the point I’m Trying to fig out how to get to the next level. I’m doing shows and have been really great. I’m so grateful. I sell a lot off my FB page and a couple other social media platforms so now I’m looking at cold calling offices that might want art or new art…I’m looking at paid advertising in a local arts area news paper…contacting furniture stores. And yes I’m scared to death. I need to just get over that first hump. And go for it. Who cares if 100 people blow me off. What if 2 people say yes. 🤷♀️👍🏻what If it only takes 100 calls of rejection to get 2 people right? So what.
I’ll let you know how it goes.
And Thank you again for your vids and I’m onto reading your second book 👍🏻😍good stuff!! 🙏😘
“It is impossible to fail, if you just keep going.”
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James 😁
You Rock @saintjamesmodernart!
Don't leave us. We need u and Klee
I know my "people" are animal/pet lovers. I get many compliments and such....fans, but they don't buy. I worry that I'm charging too much, yet other art friends say I'm not charging enough. I don't want to just cheapen my work either. It takes me a long time to do it and supplies aren't cheap. It's a slow period for me right now, but thankfully I have my retirement to carry me through. I really enjoy your videos! Thanks for the pep talk! I'm a fan.
Wise words and I wish your dad good health.
Thank you!!!!! Need it!!!
5:56 I don’t fear success but I fear having the energy and knowledge to expand to *that* level of success, the success I’m not scared of is the bare minimum, beyond that yes fear if I could cope .
Another amazing video, Rafi! So nice to see You smile again!❤❤❤
My fear is always criticism. What gets me through it is someone tells me how talented I am. If one person believes in me, I can't be all bad.
Thank you for making this video I struggle daily with the fear of failure and also of success. A lot of it surrounds trama when I was young and I’ve been working in therapy to deal with these feelings. I haven’t created anything in about 8 years due to those fears being so strong and debelatating. I’m making good progress and have been slowly creating more the past 2 years but I’m not creating as much as I like too cause I just lock up after awhile.
11:53 I don’t fear the good stopping but I fear the good will never return when in a quiet moment.
Awesomeness, Rafi! Thanks for a good speak on motivations.
Sorry to hear about your Dad, Rafi. I remember when my Dad had the same thing done. It was weird because my sisters made it a big deal and my Dad just played it off like it wasn't. I think it was because he didn't want me to worry. But, it was a hard place to be mentally. The best thing after going through that situation that I wish I knew then was Don't try to do it on your own. Thank fully you have Klee, sadly I went though all my Dad's medical stuff alone and it just destroyed my creativity and my confidence because I didn't know where to be and I had no one to talk to about it. I always felt like I was wrong no matter where I was. Your a fantastic human and we all love you.
Great insights, Rafi. I have nothing special to add, but I always enjoy your thoughts.
Thanks Rafi, this was definitely an eye opener!
Great video as always, mate!!
One of my fears is the fear of not fitting in. I've been fed the narrative of "if your art doesn't look extremely polished, 89 hours of non stop work, sold two or three souls to a questionable entity, you are not going to make it"... I don't like making polished work, or Clean work, I love looking at it but not making it. I love sketches, and dirty work with guidelines still showing, I love not being "stuck" in an art piece, I love taking my time to make art and not having to grind 80 drawings in 5 minutes because if I'm not able to do it "you're not gonna survive in the industry".
All the things I love to do and love to see, are the exact same things people despise in artworks. I feel really bad when I hear people saying bad things about these styles of art, or even the way they treat it as a lesser form of art.
I'm still figuring out how to work on this fear. Thanks for the video, Rafi! ☺️
I'm only saying this because you mentioned imposter syndrome. I did buy something during your sale, but not because you were having a sale. I have been wanting an original Rafi art for a long time and I just happened to buy it during the sale. And I didn't need the % off but thanks for the offer anyway. I hope that makes sense lol
Great video. I’m just here to have some fellow artist company. Love your encouragement. I’ve been an artist a long, long time. New subscriber here. All good things for you and your Dad.
You guys really inspire me to keep creating. Thank you 🙏
I do have imposter syndrome. .. I have several works in progress. Afraid to finish them cause if them not being 'RIGHT' IN the eyes of others.
Thank you Ravi!
Fear of Success... that is my albatross. I grew up with a greedy successful father for whom no amount of money/success was ever enough and he didn't share. In fact he stole or swindled more money from others who didn't have enough even though he had plenty. So in my head I associate success/lots of money with being a despicable human being. It is why I sabotage myself. Many years ago I had a dozen or so cat sculptures that I created and I sold on Etsy super fast. Like not even 2 days and I sold out. I never made any again since because of the fear of success. I had people asking if I did dogs also and I said yes but then never made any of those either. - Heidi
@BlackCat_2 That's really insightful that you see how you've linked success with being a jerk. I hope you can untangle those two and once again see them as two totally unrelated things that happened to go together in that one person. There are lots of major jerks who are broke; there are lots of wonderful people who have money. Maybe you can give yourself permission to become the latter. :)
What I needed to hear today. Thanks!
Thank You....
Is coding also art? Because I feel the same things about it and it's like fear really wants me to stop even trying, but the only way to get better is to not stop-
I haven't entered a art contest in years. In my area of this country. Photography of, lighthouses , sport ,wildlife & w.c or drawing of the same. Are more liked than the human condition or the artist journey .
The human condition may be more than most can handle . In my circle of artist friends understand who I am. And they like what I do.
If something isnt labeled the general art viewer . Usually they say. ¿ What's that supposed to be? I personally don't like to write artist statements . But it may be necessary as a artist to craft one from time to time.
Maybe in 100 years someone will fling soup, salad or unlimited bread sticks,at my art. 🤷♀️🍜🥗🥖 ¡Whoops! I must be hungry 👩🎨
13:38 art needs breaks and reflective moments especially with family news that you’re processing
How many videos have you recorded since the oh crap sell, amazing! I’m frozen with the videos, talk about UA-cam land at some point so 7:16 it’s fun still (it’s become a chore despite wanting a good documentation of the journey )
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4:35 actually yes I do, thanks for noticing, would you like to support that artist and help them lead a life they’re able to manage? It would really help me out if you like the art but if you don’t be happy you’re not challenged with your mental health, thanks for stopping by.
Fear of humiliating myself. That my art will look amateurish.
People who make mean comments are usually “Failed Magicians”. Magicians create something out of nothing from their imaginations (artists are magicians!). When a person fails at anything and becomes sour and try to poison everything around them, they become Failed Magicians. Or, they’re Magicians who were never brave enough to try. They poo-poo other Magicians creative work trying to make them also be a Failed Magician so they can say, “See, they quit too, it’s too hard to be a Magician. I’m justified in my meanness and sourness.” When I see people in person or read negative online comments, I always consider that no matter the subject (art, cooking, writing, Screenwriting…) they might just be a Failed Magician, too scared to be a Magician and are trying to pull others down. I ignore them. They’re always trying to project their inadequacy on to you. They don’t want to walk around with that heavy load. So they throw it on you and ask you to carry THEIR inadequacies for them. Hell no, carry your own load. I got my own problems and theirs ain’t one of them. lol.
9:37 9:01 I compare my own art between the detailed objective good vs the sketches subjective good
Ie your doves is super detailed vs the me and it series, both are awesome for different reasons. How do I stop comparing my different styles and levels of details ?
my fear is that people will know how pissed I am a them if they look at my art. But it will have to come one one day I guess.
I guess I'm a starving artist then I can't make a living on art :(
The walk sign is distracting. It makes it hard to concentrate on what you're saying. (At least for someone with ADHD, like me.)
I love that eagle painting. I paint a lot of animals and am working to be more confident in the process; I'm worried because if it doesn't look realistic enough I think it looks like it isn't skillful but I don't want them to be hyper realistic I'm trying to do more painty stylized pieces that I can be happy with after a few hours not weeks or months. In other words I spend a lot of time arguing with myself because it isn't something else. It can't be abstract AND accurately figurative at the same time! It can have aspects of both, which is what I think I'm trying to make myself do, but I need to paint more and panic less I also really feel the fear of success thing. What if I start doing well and can't keep up? What if I set up people to expect stuff from me and I let everyone down? What if I mismanage my financials and suddenly owe crippling amounts of taxes? I'm really good at the anxiety thing lol
Thanks for thinking about these things and then discussing them with us. It is always better to hear things out loud instead of echoing scarily in one's thoughts. A lot of the time I don't even have the words or the self awareness to understand the clouds of bother and dread. If you can't describe it you can't ask for help or set up actionable items to tackle problems or offset risk.
15 years in and we still struggle with this. We started with six or seven weekends a year. Now we are busy through eight months and projected to be year round in 2025. We are to the point where we are graduating to a cargo van, our minivan is no longer big enough. I am still panicked over how we will afford it, but we will. Five years ago, I would have never thought we would be here. Our advice is to just start. No matter how small, even if you think you aren't ready. You never are truly ready. It will evolve as you go. ❤❤❤