The Top 10 Negotiating Lines and How To Use Them feat. Chris Voss

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  • Опубліковано 25 вер 2024
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    Join Chris Voss, American businessman, author, and former FBI hostage negotiator, as he shares his insights on negotiation tactics and responses.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 147

  • @peimanfazli1294
    @peimanfazli1294 3 місяці тому +38

    1. Is now a bad time to talk ? Instead of have you got a few minutes to talk.
    2. Is this a ridiculous idea if ……
    3. Are you against (paying for them now )
    4. Have you given up on ? The most effective restarted for ghosters
    5. How am I supposed to that ?
    6. You’re offer is very generous, I’m afraid it just doesn’t work for me
    7. How are you is a temperature check ? You respond it sounds, like you have a place to start
    8. When someone asks a question , what makes you ask ? Upward reflection.
    9. Seems like you have a good reason for not doing that (when people are failing to perform )
    10.

  • @L_MD_
    @L_MD_ Рік тому +106

    Can you imagine the never spilt the difference family conversations in the Voss family 😂

  • @Christian_Prepper
    @Christian_Prepper 5 місяців тому +45

    *"Is this a bad time to talk?"*
    *Only ask questions calibrated to solicit a "no" agreement, especially in the afternoon or when the person maybe tired.*
    *"Is it a ridiculous idea if...?"*
    *"Are you against...?"*
    *"How am I supposed to do that?"*
    *"Have you given up on....?"*

  • @hoodiegamer9256
    @hoodiegamer9256 Рік тому +21

    I'd love to see two people who have read the book and practice the concept of negotiating with each other.

    • @THECOACHMCSTUDIO
      @THECOACHMCSTUDIO Місяць тому

      Is what we do at our studio almost every day ❤

    • @user-kt1no7yx1u
      @user-kt1no7yx1u 19 днів тому

      Anyone read the book and wanna try with me?

  • @babyboy1971
    @babyboy1971 11 місяців тому +17

    Chris Voss is a genius. I’m in the process of getting my insurance and real estate licenses and his work has helped me learn so much about the human mind.
    Chris looks like he has a great collection of one of my favorite artists, Hugh Macleod.

  • @dimitrymanousevich8275
    @dimitrymanousevich8275 Рік тому +64

    -Have you given up on x? To restart.
    -Is this a bad time to talk? Tunes them in.
    -Does it sound ridiculous if we did x?
    -Are you opposed to/against x? Getting NO, but it’s a yes.
    -How am I supposed to do that? Response to first hearing the pricing, causes many to drop price by themselves.

  • @ALICESMITH-k7f
    @ALICESMITH-k7f 10 місяців тому +9

    undeniably vital information especially about asking the person think about what they would feel if they where you, remind them to me decent , human

  • @deejaydiabolic
    @deejaydiabolic 4 місяці тому +5

    I watched this guys Masterclass episode during lockdown. Phenomenal info for not only negotiations but for everyday interactions

    • @leferayala9321
      @leferayala9321 4 місяці тому +1

      I was watching his Masterclass yesterday and immediately had this weird sense of anxiety.... I brushed it off and reading your comment made me realize that it was because it brought me back into that lockdown period. Especially those short audio clips between videos.

    • @louio
      @louio 3 місяці тому

      Yes

  • @Boutros4g
    @Boutros4g 7 днів тому

    Key piece of the Jack W story is "at a course I teach at USC". The "is it a ridiculous idea" part could have been said in several ways. Quickly establishing credibility is everything. Good stuff

  • @fitnesssoup7553
    @fitnesssoup7553 9 місяців тому +8

    My "good times to talk" are so rare sometimes I've responded "It's never a good time to talk". Another is when asked if I am busy. The answer is "I'm always busy". 😅
    I'm not lying. Read the book. You'll be ready when these things are thrown at you.

  • @tommywolmart265
    @tommywolmart265 7 місяців тому +5

    Love the content, but what I love more is he sounds like an Al Pacino character. Great content.

  • @Ladyloubna
    @Ladyloubna 5 місяців тому +4

    This guy is brilliant 👍🏻 thank you

  • @thegamingclassroom
    @thegamingclassroom 8 місяців тому +4

    There's so much ads on the video- I just gave up. Thanks for putting it together- but it was so hard to extract value from the guest when the video keep getting interrupted every 5 minutes.

  • @Christian_Prepper
    @Christian_Prepper 5 місяців тому +6

    *Although I prefer "Is this a bad time to talk" more now, for almost two decades I had formed my own habit of saying, "Should I call back at a better time?"*
    *Dare I say I rarely heard, "yes, call back later", but when I did, an appointment was set. Thus, I believe I may have stumbled across the same psychology with similar success. Ultimately I prefer his line now.*

    • @AmberBroadway
      @AmberBroadway 28 днів тому +1

      Should I call back would have me questioning well why the hell you call anyways ..already sitting yourself up for fail It seems like.. glad you changed it 😊

  • @shives1866
    @shives1866 8 місяців тому +6

    Learned this today used it today got multiple responses. Thanks Mr. Voss

  • @christinemurphy-jh9mx
    @christinemurphy-jh9mx 7 місяців тому +7

    What the top 10 Lines? I have listened and number #2 and #3 are never mentioned. I would really appreciate a list at end of video. Or mention in commrnts

    • @AnitaSoler
      @AnitaSoler 5 місяців тому +1

      #2 is ask "Is this a ridiculous idea?" #3 "Are you against... XYZ?"

  • @scottwood5999
    @scottwood5999 2 місяці тому

    I love this stuff. A question approach I use effectively is "would you be open to..." and then make the next step an easy one towards the bigger win. I find most people don't want to consider themselves to be closed-minded and they respond favorably.

  • @Sbannmarie
    @Sbannmarie Місяць тому +2

    Love Chris Voss… 😊

  • @hipsterkennyrogers909
    @hipsterkennyrogers909 7 місяців тому +1

    I love all the Gapingvoid pictures in the back.

  • @LordLaytham
    @LordLaytham 11 місяців тому +6

    Voss
    The Boss

  • @BRose99
    @BRose99 5 місяців тому +3

    I love your bottled water, Chris Voss.

  • @filmawayvlad
    @filmawayvlad 7 місяців тому +2

    Tried that yesterday. I mean it. That thing works! The answer was: “of course we haven’t!”
    I swear.

  • @ribbitrocks
    @ribbitrocks 8 місяців тому +4

    i also would support the idea that it's important to ask 'how are you' from a place of meaning and context...and that asking this question is not lame and one should go into the subject at hand without barely saying hello..... perhaps the hostage negotiation skills are urgent and deciding at the moment, but in my world i really enjoy askin/hearing about what they are doing and starting a conversation ..........it's human social /

  • @davidb6477
    @davidb6477 8 місяців тому +9

    I'm not sure if i spent more time watching the video or watching ads.

    • @charleskoerkel4312
      @charleskoerkel4312 8 місяців тому

      agreed!,,,youtube is out of control with commercials , they are worse the actual TV,,,

    • @dbarb5691
      @dbarb5691 8 місяців тому +4

      Are you against a premium UA-cam subscription? Is it a ridiculous idea?

    • @davidb6477
      @davidb6477 8 місяців тому

      ​@dbarb5691 yes.

    • @stephenw.20
      @stephenw.20 6 місяців тому

      @@dbarb5691haha

  • @I_dont_know_what_Im_doing_
    @I_dont_know_what_Im_doing_ 8 місяців тому +1

    My question is, Did the author agree because he knows Chris Voss name and his status or truly because of the offer and how it was phrased? Love his teachings, don’t get me wrong. He is also well known now which will have more influence on decisions.

  • @inmate0054
    @inmate0054 10 місяців тому +6

    I had a guy ask do you want more business and I told him no and he stuttered and didn’t know what to do. I really didn’t want any business lol

  • @glorgau
    @glorgau 7 місяців тому +6

    I hate being around people that are always trying to work on me.

    • @HalConick
      @HalConick 6 місяців тому +6

      Always trying to work on you?

    • @glorgau
      @glorgau 6 місяців тому +1

      @@HalConick You know, "would you like to invest or buy" whatever.

    • @JudsonGraham
      @JudsonGraham 5 місяців тому +5

      @@HalConick nice dude. 😂

    • @AntoineLawrenceLLC
      @AntoineLawrenceLLC 5 місяців тому

      @@HalConick that was smooth bro, I caught that

  • @jeanlittle405
    @jeanlittle405 8 місяців тому +23

    I’ve got Asperger’s…even plain, direct language is difficult for me. Playing these games is mind boggling.

    • @AlSwearengen4
      @AlSwearengen4 4 місяці тому +3

      I've got Asperger's too. They're not games. They're concepts which account for the perspective/interest of people you're dealing with. They become second nature and have served me better, in many cases, than my default modes of thinking and communicating.

    • @sandwichgroper
      @sandwichgroper 3 місяці тому

      I don’t have Asperger’s diagnosis but I feel the same way about this as you. However, it helps to know what kind of mind games these sorts of people will try to play, so you can more easily recognise what they are trying to do.
      This may or may not be a coincidence, but I find that the ‘unlikely’ responses this guy identifies are exactly what I would say (and do say) in these situations anyway. Eg: ‘Is this a bad time to talk?’ ‘Yes’
      I don’t care if people think something is a ridiculous idea, or whatever. It doesn’t matter what time of day it is. I never check my email anyway because I don’t like getting emails. YES, it’s a bad time of day.

    • @julianaistrop6000
      @julianaistrop6000 Місяць тому

      @@sandwichgroperthis lesson is on a high level which sounds like you’re not so you’re not going to learn anything with a closed mindset

    • @sandwichgroper
      @sandwichgroper 10 днів тому

      @@julianaistrop6000one never learns anything with a closed mindset, I agree.
      You’ve assumed that I am watching this in order to learn this kind of technique. I’m not; I’m just interested in the psychological theory of sales techniques.
      I only commented because that’s how I honestly feel. Don’t take it personally.
      As an aside, if you are trying to convince someone that your point of view is valid, telling them that they just aren’t on a high enough level to understand you is unlikely to make you successful. It is also a terrible argument from a logical standpoint.
      Peace

  • @bmk4851
    @bmk4851 9 місяців тому +3

    "Generous offer, Im afraid it just doesn't work for me"
    "It just doesn't work for you?"
    "....blah blah blah"
    "It sounds like blah blah blah, the market price is X and i know you're asking for 2X, How am I Supposed To Do That?"

  • @fry7320
    @fry7320 2 місяці тому +2

    Don't ask me questions after 1PM is CRAZY! 1pm...

  • @dunbustin
    @dunbustin 5 місяців тому +1

    32:30 What is the "half elf framework?"

    • @ALSPEHEIR
      @ALSPEHEIR 4 місяці тому +3

      It's a bespoke strategy derived from the full elf framework.

  • @ReeInvesting
    @ReeInvesting День тому

    love it

  • @maribethcondrillon1079
    @maribethcondrillon1079 4 місяці тому

    Good morning here ❤

  • @senecaknowsbest8380
    @senecaknowsbest8380 6 місяців тому +1

    If they say yes to the bad time to talk question, Wait a few seconds to see if they offer a time to talk and if they don’t just say OK goodbye in a neutral tone of voice. Call back in six weeks and ask the same question again. Respect do you want me to do that because you will be so busy with those people who said no I can talk now.

  • @tdunn2
    @tdunn2 8 місяців тому

    I suspect there’s a difference of outcome between these being delivered verbally vs written.

  • @petehill3634
    @petehill3634 9 місяців тому +1

    Thank you

  • @gavinmcewen5896
    @gavinmcewen5896 7 місяців тому +7

    Doesn't like his own stuff being used on him and cuts off anyone who tries to do so, because he immediately recognizes he is being manipulated 😂😂😂
    Has some good stuff (if used sincerely), albeit fairly well known and generic. But I always have to laugh at communications experts that come across as arrogant A/holes who think the world of themselves. Particularly ones who are apparently so in demand and busy that they have time to peddle their kernels of wisdom endlessly online as an attempt to get sign ups into their courses.

  • @HeWhoHath
    @HeWhoHath 7 місяців тому

    Imagine how jilted you’d feel just trying to decide where to go to lunch with this guy. You would end up, picking him up in your own car, driving him there, paying for the lunch, sending him back home in a limo.

    • @meroe365
      @meroe365 5 місяців тому

      Only if his intent was to be a jerk. It's not the skills on question, only the intent of the person.

  • @jaimihno100
    @jaimihno100 4 місяці тому

    What are halves and elves?

    • @chadramsey9259
      @chadramsey9259 3 місяці тому +1

      - **ELF:** Easy, Lucrative, and Fun. This refers to identifying negotiation opportunities that are straightforward, profitable, and enjoyable. It encourages negotiators to seek out deals that will bring substantial benefits without excessive effort or stress.
      - **HALf:** Hard, Annoying, and Lame. This denotes deals or negotiations that are difficult, frustrating, and not worth the trouble. It suggests that negotiators should avoid these types of engagements as they are less likely to result in satisfactory outcomes.
      By using these frameworks, negotiators can prioritize their efforts on opportunities that are more likely to yield positive results while minimizing the time and energy spent on less promising negotiations.

  • @user-nh4tm6hh4j
    @user-nh4tm6hh4j 7 місяців тому +13

    I am a contractor in a very busy market. When someone even suggest I cut my quote using any words they can string together. I calmly say good luck and end the conversation. Here is the way I look at it. You are lucky to get me to do the work at any price. You try to negotiate with me and I see it as wasting my time.

    • @MarcBablot
      @MarcBablot 7 місяців тому +6

      Lucky? Your clients are lucky?

    • @versusstatusquo
      @versusstatusquo 6 місяців тому +3

      His time his rate

    • @dietbajablast5790
      @dietbajablast5790 5 місяців тому +6

      You sound DELIGHTFUL

    • @supasuprodchinda1350
      @supasuprodchinda1350 2 місяці тому +2

      If you’re so awesome and successful, how do find time to talk to us bums?

    • @JoshuaKhosa
      @JoshuaKhosa 18 днів тому

      How am I supposed to do that?
      Am I doing this right??

  • @GentlemanJamesWin
    @GentlemanJamesWin 7 місяців тому +1

    if someone emails me "Is it a ridiculous idea...are you against..." It's going state to spam.

  • @thunderbirdizations
    @thunderbirdizations 3 місяці тому

    Chris,
    Many of your psychological “tricks” can come off as manipulative & sleazy to most people.
    But you teach it within ethical & genuine guardrails; and you show that it can be used “with” your partners rather than “against.”
    You also emphasize the use of these techniques are to *reveal* where our shortcomings are; they’re not standalone solutions

    • @thunderbirdizations
      @thunderbirdizations 3 місяці тому

      The fact that what you teach can be used without becoming disingenuous, is probably the biggest highlight in all of your techniques.

    • @thunderbirdizations
      @thunderbirdizations 3 місяці тому

      I would love to see a video of what you would do differently today in previous hostage-negotiation work

  • @zaferozveren1244
    @zaferozveren1244 Рік тому +2

    Easter egg: E. L. F in the background

  • @dunbustin
    @dunbustin 5 місяців тому

    31:20 Interesting elucidation on how to react to someone who has no motivation to help you.

  • @SusanH4626
    @SusanH4626 7 місяців тому

    Chris, come help me negotiate purchasing of a new vehicle! I hate car sales people

  • @micheledaae
    @micheledaae Рік тому +1

    What's a half?? I think that's what Voss called them.

    • @sirlouie
      @sirlouie 11 місяців тому +2

      HALF - Hard, Annoying, Lame, Frustrating.

    • @deaconyates2671
      @deaconyates2671 8 місяців тому

      People that see through this tripe

  • @goldsilverandiamonds
    @goldsilverandiamonds Рік тому +5

    Manipulating or scripted sounding people are always a huge red flag.

    • @Youknowwhoin2024
      @Youknowwhoin2024 Рік тому +6

      Less than accounts with skull avatars

    • @Youknowwhoin2024
      @Youknowwhoin2024 Рік тому +11

      Less than accounts with skull avatars

    • @tomjeff1743
      @tomjeff1743 Рік тому +2

      ​@@Youknowwhoin2024It seems like goldsilver has something up his sleeve or hidden under his hat.

    • @tomjeff1743
      @tomjeff1743 Рік тому +3

      So, if you are getting surgery, do you want your surgeon to just wing it or follow the proven script?

    • @unknowninfinium4353
      @unknowninfinium4353 Рік тому

      You play the game.

  • @jakes3849
    @jakes3849 7 місяців тому +1

    Never watched a video that had so many ads

  • @HamletBert-y1e
    @HamletBert-y1e 8 днів тому

    Smith Carol Hernandez Melissa Perez Nancy

  • @Lexington101
    @Lexington101 Місяць тому

    But my wife DOES make a great meatloaf...

  • @FitzGeraldBurgess-g6o
    @FitzGeraldBurgess-g6o 7 днів тому

    Garcia Sarah Clark Maria White Margaret

  • @FieldDebby-o5h
    @FieldDebby-o5h 4 дні тому

    Martin Jennifer Martin Susan Lewis Amy

  • @HeWhoHath
    @HeWhoHath 7 місяців тому

    This is not magic. This is a guy who is extremely petty about every transaction, and keeps score on all of it. Not a friend indeed. Only a friend in need. Yuck.

    • @mainman3941
      @mainman3941 7 місяців тому +1

      that's why your here too
      for your own good
      stop playing good cop here

    • @HeWhoHath
      @HeWhoHath 7 місяців тому

      @@mainman3941 naw, I’d sense the parasite the minute I started hanging out with him. True friends have a natural connection.

  • @deaconyates2671
    @deaconyates2671 8 місяців тому +2

    This stuff is car dealer 101, we’d wipe the floor with you, all of these one liners only work on a person that’s interested in your product or service.
    Your product is confidence in a bottle, like all bottles, they empty. No idea why UA-cam brought me here.

  • @wRAAh
    @wRAAh 7 місяців тому +1

    IS it just me, or is this obnoxious nonsense? Would hate to sit next to this guy on a plane.

  • @Sanaki_Ahir
    @Sanaki_Ahir 3 місяці тому +1

    Is it bad to like my comment

  • @prowland8471
    @prowland8471 5 місяців тому +1

    Not that I think he would care, but I have lost alot of respect for Voss. I thought he was better guy than he portrays himself in this video. In this video he sounds like a pompous ass.

  • @AnavonRebeur
    @AnavonRebeur 4 місяці тому

    Horribñe xiction and accent. I cn umderstand even Scottish. Sp hard tp.understand him.

  • @thierryleconte7807
    @thierryleconte7807 7 місяців тому

    How about is this a good time to talk? I am no expert negotiator by all means - but isn’t using the word « bad » gives a subconscious command that it’s…bad ?

    • @traeleon5666
      @traeleon5666 7 місяців тому

      I would imagine if you ask if it’s a “bad” time to talk and say “no” then really a good time.

    • @theteamgroundworksoriginal2332
      @theteamgroundworksoriginal2332 7 місяців тому

      I had the same thoughts. So i came up with, "Maybe this is not a good time to talk?"

  • @Alpacajack
    @Alpacajack 5 місяців тому

    Invest in a real mic and learn audio

  • @Iz0pen
    @Iz0pen 7 місяців тому

    Why would I believe someone who’s been a government employee on the topic of negotiating!? It’s the most laughable thing Iv ever heard of! They aren’t known to negotiate for anything! Thanks I’ll find someone who spent their career in the free market where you don’t get one red cent unless you reach a mutually beneficial agreement with your trading partner.

    • @notyourguru913
      @notyourguru913 6 місяців тому +2

      Your arrogance is astounding. This guy is incredible.

  • @andneomatmj23
    @andneomatmj23 8 місяців тому +1

    He is so slimy, look at his life, current wife. Very unmoral man.

    • @dbarb5691
      @dbarb5691 8 місяців тому +3

      What would make you think that? Have you had a bad experience with someone? Just curious.

    • @andneomatmj23
      @andneomatmj23 8 місяців тому

      @@dbarb5691 , looks like that ask personaly Criss Voss. Because I look at his life outside of interviews, Instagram of his wife, her personality, for who she works....

    • @toxichammertoe8696
      @toxichammertoe8696 21 день тому

      You must be the competition 😂

    • @andneomatmj23
      @andneomatmj23 20 днів тому

      @@toxichammertoe8696, no, just regular moral man.

  • @mikhailyaremkiv
    @mikhailyaremkiv 8 місяців тому +1

    Cash or check, Chris. That's how you're supposed to do that.

  • @WillMangwa
    @WillMangwa 7 днів тому

    came in late, I sent a have you given up on this project email as I heard it in the video and I got a reply in less than 30 minutes, you know your stuff Chris 🫡