First experience with PRENATAL CARE in Germany! | We're Having a Baby Abroad!
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- Опубліковано 7 вер 2024
- This story ends happily, but it definitely comes with some shocking news and let downs. Things get a bit emotional, but it’s all part of our journey adjusting to life here in Germany with a baby on the way! Thanks for being a part of this special journey with us!
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I am an Australian who moved to Germany 37 years ago as a 20 year old. I had both my children here and the health system is excellent. Most checks and treatments are covered by your health insurance, so make sure you get them all done. It's not like the States where you have to decide if you can afford the treatment. My one piece of advice to all the young people I know who have moved countries - take the trouble and learn the language. It makes life easier for you and, in your case, also for your kids. There will never be a better opportunity to learn a new language than when you are living in the country. It's an unbelievable enrichment! No excuses - just start lessons - you will never regret it!
You are so right. My oldest son was born in Germany. It was really good.
You are also right about the language. They should learn German. They are living in Germany.
@@chrissturkenboom6080 and they should not blame health workers for their "broken English".
@@DSuer-mf2vy Yes, you are right.
@@DSuer-mf2vy Yep, they are lucky any English was spoken. Do your research when you are having a baby in a foreign country and learn the language!
you are totally right. I learned arabic after moving to a middle Eastern country and spoke it fluently after like 3, 4 years. Wouldn't know how I could make it without that. You never belong if you don't speak the language, have no clue what's going on around you - and on top of that, I believe learning the language is a matter of respect for the country you live in, its people and their culture.
Giving birth in a German hospital is totally different than in the US. The Kreissaal is a very bright, cozy place. Often with a special bath tub, supporting equipment, music, relaxing smells, etc. Usually they offer familyrooms for after birth. I gave births at a university hospital, as we have might needed the chidrens clinic. The Kreissaal was mostly just as cosy as at they birth center. Within a Kreissaal the midwive is the boss, doctors are there only to support. Most of the time clinics offer a tour of the birth department, might be interessting for you. Don't forget to enrole in a "Geburtsvorbereitungskurs" - a good chance to connect with other young families and get to know the German way of giving birth, etc.
I'm afraid you just fell into one of the biggest pitfalls that the German health care system has set up for Americans: While American health care is hospital-centric, in Germany health care is family doctor-centric. The first step in Germany is usually to see your family doctor. He takes care of you, decides whether you need to see a specialist, and refers you there if necessary. In this special case, you can also take the second step first: Going to a local gynecologist (because the family doctor would also refer you there). It is the task of the gynecologist near your home to guide you through everything, to help you with tips and to make sure that everything is and remains in order.
that really is good advice and really important to understand in germany. we have „hausarzt“ and ob gyn and dentist and basically everything else we are referred from those as basic care to a specialist if needed. most ob gyn work with midwifes for prenatal and postnatal care. but usually besides that most parents find a midwife first before even telling their family, as midwifes are hard to come by. before you decide on a home birth maybe you actually want to visit a hospital for birthing. most of them have information days, where you often get to visit the kreissaal. in germany even in hospitals birthes are lead by a midwife, a doctor (ob gyn and depending sometimes a pediatrician specialiszed on babies) comes in (phone by the midwife) last minute, just to observe and make sure everything is fine. usually they only actually take part if the midwife ask for help or they discover a need for baby or mom. usually there is much time for baby bonding, for even first nursing and such, and if wanted one can go home if everything is healthy.
As an American (unfamiliar with German system) that sounds very similar to here and I'm confused why she wasn't already working with a doctor and OBGYN...In the US it's very common & recommended to work with them monthssss before even trying to get pregnant. Obviously sometimes things just happen, but everything sounded very last minute & irregular even compared to the US.
@@HomeWorkouts_LS Is it really that similar everywhere in the US? Given how big the country is and the huge differences between the metropolitan areas and the rural areas I'd expect a lot of differences within the US, especially considering the fact that like everything else healthcare and giving birth are unregulated for profit corporate operations in the US.
@@HH-hd7nd Are you American? Yes most women have doctors & OBGYNs and consult them when pregnant and trying to get pregnant (pre-natal care). Not that crazy in modern society. I guess there are people like her who apparently avoid health care & hospitals though for personal reasons.
@@HomeWorkouts_LS see, there is a difference:
usually ob gyn work with midwifes 2-3 days a week, when they take prenatal and postnatal appointments. but usually midwifes themselves also form a practice of themselves, as at ob gyn they just do bloodwork, check heartbeat, check weight and help with the general examinations our health system provides for pregnant. however in their own practice, they usually additionally provide classes and courses for preparing for birth, postnatal gymnastics, baby care, sometimes yoga, and accupuncture and such. also as their own they provide this comind home for the first weeks to provide postnatal care. this is somethings they cannot provide as assisting the ob gyn. so usually we have 2 midwifes. one we choose and one the ob gyn uses for his work. and on top might be the midwifes from the hospital for birthing. as those coming home for home births or even at „geburtshaus“ have such a high insurance fee that it‘s not really in any sense feasible to provide that service, which is why it is slowly fading into nothingsness.there was a bit of discussion before corona pandemic about this issue, but ever since it was drowned out by pandemic and the war in ukraine.
so basically there is a midwife for the ob gyns place and then there is one maybe more close to a doula? sometimes those in hospital also provide such service as well on the side, but those are the ones are really hard to come by. in germany you are not required to take test at your ob gyn, your own midwife also could provide part of that service, in a less technical way usually. however most enjoy having 2 different ones and therefor also 2 to give advice. unfortunately usually one is not able to „choose“ the one at ob gyn.
i can really recommend finding your own to do postnatal and prenatal care (it might be really hard to find one now), as them coming into your home after birth and checking on you and the baby. it‘s the first contact for any insecurities you might have, for me it was also the only one actually wanting to know how i felt in the first days, when everyone (beside your own mum) is just in awe with the baby.
I can totally understand that it's horrible for you not feeling secure. It's just confusing, but you both are perfectly secure here. Usually your doctor will take of you during the pregnancy. You should get dates every 4 weeks. She/he will check every aspect and most women give birth in a hospital together with midwives who are working there. The "Entbindungsstation" is usually very cozy with warm colors and they have large bathtubs and several other things that may help during labour. This is inside a hospital but looks totally different and some may offer a buffet instead of hospital dishes. Don't forget that you can go to your doctor whenever you like to. Whenever you may feel not well. Most times midwives guide you after birth and visit mother and baby at home (I think up to ten times). They will be paid by your health insurance. Good luck and all the best, enjoy your time. Don't worry. We say : Guter-Hoffnung-Sein for being pregnant. Be-of-good-hope 💚
You can visit the Entbildungsstation before. They usually invite couples on certain days to show them around.
And don't worry, having your baby in the clinic can also mean you can do the whole process unmedicated, if that is what you want and there are no medical reasons to decide otherwise.You can often bring your own music etc. And doctors are close by to assist the midwife.
All the very best for you and the baby.
Very nice comment👍.
(Aber sagt man Guter-Hoffnung-sein heutzutage tatsächlich noch?)
Don't be scared to go to hospital for birth. As others said: That's not like you know hospitals, that's a place to give birth in a warm and *secure* setting. My first doughter would not be alive if we had a home-birth. Everything looked like a perfect birth but then things got worse within less than 30 minutes, just minutes after doctors said it's possible we need to take action if babys condition gets worse my wife was in the special operating room at the end of the floor and mother and child were saved in last minute by a big, specialized medical team.
It's like having Airbags in your car: You have them hoping to never need them.
And take a Taxi to hospital, driver will be less nervous than your husband. Health insurance pays for the Taxi ride.
Hey, I'm really sorry this experience started out a bit scary for you. I would suggest finding a "Frauenarzt" in your area, they are small, cozy clinics where you can become familiar with the doctor and nurses and have all your check-ups and after-care, as well as all the cancer screenings and other female body-related appointments in the future. They take their time with you and make you feel at home. German woman usually do not go to a hospital or birth center for screenings, they are too big and cold and unfamiliar. I love my Frauenarzt!
Hi, I'm a Brit living in Germany, also a nurse. It's a while since I went through a pregnancy here so things might have changed but most people go under the care of their Frauenarzt throughout the pregnancy. There I had regular scans and all the care I needed. I gave birth in our local hospital with a midwife and doctor in attendance and then had follow up care from my Frauenarzt and at home from a midwife who visited for the first few weeks to check on me and the baby.
I can only speak from myself and from my medical knowledge but I really am not a fan of home births. Every birth is different and just because the first birth was without complications it does not mean that subsequent births will be the same. Maybe it's because I'm a nurse but I preferred to be where help is immediately available. Also , especially with a young child at home, the chance to have a couple of days in hospital to fully recover and rest up to me is invaluable. Although I think most German hospitals are happy for you to go home directly after the birth if you really want to.
Someone has already suggested to look at the videos from others who have recently given birth here, or are pregnant I'm sure these will help you.
It's wonderful to be having a new baby to add to your lovely family and I wish you all the best xxx
Thanks for your comment! We definitely appreciate all the insight and you can be sure we are thoroughly taking them all into account! 💗💗
As a veterinarian, I agree and I am also very wary of home births honestly. And I take into consideration the fact that my patients normally fare well on their own, but complications are always possible.
The problem with the midwives in Germany is, that they have to pay a fortune of liability insurance around 3000-4000 € p.a. and most of them are self employed, that's why so many give up their jobs which leads to a shortage
That is only valid for those who do in house births. For the ones simply supplying pre and post natal care, the costs are still bearable.
@@thorstenbrandenburg4338 dann frage ich mich aber, warum so viele den Job aufgeben, ich hab nicht so gute Erfahrungen mit Hebammen im KH gemacht, weil der Wehenschreiber nix angezeigt hatte, war ich ständig auf Beobachtung, nachts auf WC, Blut mit dabei, WOLLTE UNBEDINGT EINE PDA, Wehenschreiber, wieder nix, Chefhebamme kommt, schon fast 10 cm offen, schnell in den Kreißsaal, und das in einer Uniklinik
@@M.S.M.111 ich hab’s doch erklärt? Die Versicherungskosten für Hebammen, die auch Hausgeburten machen, freiberuflich, sind extrem hoch.
Für die pre und postnatale Betreuung allein sind die Kosten nicht so hoch.
Tipp: für eine Geburt nicht in eine Uniklinik gehen, wenn es nicht ganz besondere Probleme gibt. Eine normale Geburt ist für Unikliniken uninteressant - das gilt nach eigener Aussage von Hebammen dort auch für das Personal. Blut im Stuhlgang ist nichts besonderes.
@@thorstenbrandenburg4338 und wollte damit nur hervorheben, dass man im KH auch nicht gerade sicherer aufgehoben ist, und ausserdem kennst Du die näheren Umstände nicht, warum ich dort war, vor allem wollte ich nicht in das andere KH, denn das ist bekannt für vermehrte MRSA- Ausbrüche
@@thorstenbrandenburg4338 But you need a midwife for the birth!
I’ve seen videos from other expats like “Life in German” “The Black Forest Family” or “Antoinette Emily” who gave birth in Germany and they talked about all the culture shocks and differences! Maybe those videos will be helpful to you 😊
In Germany women visit their gynaecologist once or twice a year - even when there's no medical issue - for contraception prescriptions and for cancer prevention. Cancer prevention contains a manual breast check and a gynaecologic examination. A mammografy is offered to women from the age of 50 plus.
Your gynaecologist does the ultrasounds, explains everything to you and I guess is more personal and has more time for you. Going to a hospital for the examinations is quite unusual.
Your fears and worries of giving birth in a foreign country with all the differencies to the u.s. is totally understandable. Believe in yourself and your strength, you can do it! My best wishes for you and your family!
Before you decide, you can visit a delivery room. Usually clinics offer special appointments for this. The necessary examinations during pregnancy are usually done by a local gynaecologist, not necessarily a hospital. There are also birth centres where you can give birth. There, the birth is most like a home birth, but they are often connected to clinics so that help can come quickly if needed.
Births in Germany are very different from births in hospitals in the USA. For most of the birth, the midwife takes care of you and the doctor only comes if necessary.
Yes we have looked into all options. Honestly Germany offers incredible options for birth whether at a center or hospital. We’ve been happy with all we have seen! A home birth was our initial hope, but we aren’t sure it will work out at this point. We are happy to say that we are at peace with wherever we choose to give birth here in Germany!
It's an individual decision but in any case I strongly advise against home births. In fact I would reject hospitals without a neonatology nearby. Germany has less than half the infant mortality than the US for more than one reason, but a lot of it is due to proper pre- and post-natal care.
I agree. A home birth might be preferred, but what if something did go wrong? Far better and safer to be in a hospital with doctors and medical equipment right nearby.
I think it really depends on the experience a mother has. My mother did home birth with her 4th and 5th child. So when my siblings and I woke up in the morning our new sibling was already there. (And also a little +: with my little sister it would have been a possible to drive to a hospital bc my mother gave birth to her in 20 minutes haha I guess with the 4th and 5th child it's just goes to fast)
@@kisoschu The Guardian newspaper reports that 40% of first-time mothers planning a home birth end up in hospital. It's just not worth the risk. I know that Rissa is having her second, but I still wouldn't risk a home birth.
I’m 24 week pregnant 😊 and the first thing I did when I had my positive pregnancy test, I called my gynecologist and made a appointment.
Now I have to go there every 4 weeks for a check up.
If I can help you with anything, just let me know. ❤
First, congratulations!! Second, you are so kind-thank you! :) We tried to call a gynecologist near us, but they weren't accepting new clients. So, that is when we called the prenatal clinic after (per the midwives recommendations). We just called down the list they provided us.
@@OurStorytoTell im so sorry you must experience the countryside issues of Germany 🇩🇪 I know it’s not easy but since the check up is only once per month or so try to find a gynecologist in a bigger city. Maybe it takes more time to get there but its better to have a good gynecologist than anyone just for being close by.
In the end I can calm you because in the hospital, where you have midwife’s, nowadays they make sure that the birth would be natural as much as possible. Only if there are complications, they would call the doctor in order to get your baby well delivered. No worries about that. ❤
Speaking the language of the host country is the most important thing. The next important step is always to observe first and only then to make a judgement. I am 75 years old, live in munich and can only recommend this experience to all young people looking at the world
Very true. If I moved to Spain or whatever country, it would never enter my mind not to learn the language. Even before going or at least once I'm there. And it's so much easier once you're there, I have experienced this with several languages.
We appreciate your comment, and agree that it is so important! It likely came across that it wasn't important to us in the video, but that is definitely not the case. We have been trying to learn and Tanner is conversational (which has been huge for our experience; especially traveling). Risa is trying to learn in small, simple ways. Our situation is a bit unique where we are surrounded by people who speak English, yet integrated into the German system all at the same time. Tanner works full time with everyone who speaks English. Almost every German friend Risa and I have, speak English fluently. We both speak enough German to get by in most of the places we go...supermarkets, kita, etc. so it hasn't really been an issue..until now where we are having new & in-depth conversations with health professionals.
Here in germany the Gynecologist is doing most of the pre natal care like monthy ultrasounds etc until later when you decided which clinic youre going to give birth then you get to know midwives or your Gynecologist can help you with contacts
Exactly, I hope you are reading through all the comments. Choosing a clinic normally comes much later. Usually, you visit the gynecologist right away. You go to the hospital during the last days or weeks of your pregnancy!!
Also, the midwife you book might be working at the clinic of your choice to give birth in but often the midwife who visits you at home is not there during birth but still does the prenatal and aftercare at home
Im a pediatric nurse and have also worked on the delivery unit in a state hospital and I was pleasantly surprised by how nice it was. The midwives really took their time to attend the patients and the Rooms were very pretty - it almost looked like a Spa.
And as many others here have already pointed out: sadly you can never be 100% sure that you or the baby won’t need urgent medical treatment at some point. So it’s just the safest option to give birth at the hospital
Thanks for your comment! The German hospitals sound great! We are sure we would be very happy going there. We don’t have anything against it, just had a different idea at the beginning.
@@OurStorytoTell ok that’s great to hear! Wishing you all the best for this exciting time in your lives ❤️
I’m so sorry it didn’t go as planned. I assume you don’t have a gynecologist in Germany? Cause if you find out you’re pregnant, you just phone them and they get you in around the 6ish week mark. From there is regular ultrasounds and all checks. Many woman even choose not to have their own midwife, but just get whichever is on call at the time of the birth at the hospital. Germany is very OBGYN focused. You should definitely try to get one, even if you’re already almost half way through. :)
In Germany it’s recommended to go to an annual cancer screening from the age of 20 I believe. Just like going to the dentist once or twice a year.
So you go to a Gynaecologist of choice and they do a little pap test as well as look at your urin. And it’s included in your healthcare obviously so you don’t have to pay anything on top.
I recommend just going to a Gynecologist in your town, make an appointment. The Gynecologist in your town in his practice rooms, does the most. Ultrasound, ect. Bloodtest, Ctg. Search for a Gynecologist at your town and go there. no need to go to a hospital or a center.
Yes, that is the normal way in Germany. Until birth you visit monthly your Gynäkologin.
I have 3 little boys, and I got them all in the hospital. It's not that I wouldn't have loved a home birth, but I just wanted to be somewhere where there were all possible means to help me or my baby if something went wrong. I had three completely complication-free pregnancies, so there was no indication to get into hospital, but finally, I was glad I did go. First, it's the place where my husband works, so he knows the doctors and nurses very well. And second, if I had had a home birth, my eldest son would probably be dead. Because in spite of no complications during the pregnancy, he had slung the umbilical cord three times around his neck and was strangled every single contraction. They had put me on a CTG for a couple of hours and decided to do a special examination - but before the could conduct it, things got so bad that they decided to have an urgent C-Section on the spot. If I had been at home, I would have to be rushed to a hospital with an ambulance, and I don't know what would have happend to my baby during that time.
Plus, in most hospitals, they have cosy birth rooms, and you can do whatever way of giving birth you want - water birth, sitting, standing, lying, or whatever ways there are. Additionally, we were lucky to have one of my husband's colleagues as a midwife for our post-natal home care, and she was present at two of my three births, due to sheer luck with the duty roster :D (By the way, if they didn't tell you already: get that post-natal home care midwife SOON. You already know how packed the midwives are. Better to have one sooner than later, because they are a great help, especially if Tanner has to work during your first weeks.)
I don't want to scare you. But I personally prefer to have experts around if something unexpected happens. That's why I chose a big hospital with a good paedriatic ward. And my other two sons came without any complication, naturally and everything was fine.
We appreciate your comment and definitely take it to heart. We are very happy to hear all of your three little boys were safe and well taken care of in the hospital!
Rest assured that we will choose to have birth where we feel is safest and most comfortable for everyone; especially baby and Mommy.
I would suggest finding an ObGyn close to you as soon as possible. He or she will most likely be able to take more time and do a lot of additional testing in the practice. Sometimes he or she will even have a cooperation with a local hospital or bith center.
Specialized clinics are usually mainly for high risk pregnancys and deliveries. They don ´t take much time for the ordinary.
I am german. I go every six months or once a year to my trusted gynecologist for a check-up. If I find out I'm pregnant I'll make an appointment there. The Gyn.Doc. then does everything from a single source, blood tests, ultrasound and later also CTG and also examines physically. Normally you get another appointment every 4 weeks. All results are entered in the maternity record. So that in an emergency every doctor can see everything at a glance.
You should have more or less monthly ultrasounds at your gynecologist and additional appointments with your midwife. Have you registered with a gynecologist for your annual cancer check up? They shoudl also provide a lot of the prenatal care.
I usually wear a long T-Shirt or dress for appointments ;)
Yea here in germany the Gynecologist is doing most of the pre natal care like monthy ultrasounds etc until later when you decided which clinic youre going to give birth then you get to know midwives or your Gynecologist can help you with contact
Congratulations! I'm an American living in Germany and I moved here 24 weeks pregnant. I was so behind with everything but it worked out perfectly. He's currently 9 months. It was my first baby but compared to my sister's birth in the states I would choose having a baby in Germany any day. Good luck! Let me know if you have any questions.
Absolutely love to hear that Kelsey! 💛 Thanks for sharing!
I am happy that everything goes well so far now for you :) And when you talk about the cancer test, I think the doc probably mean the test for cervical cancer not a mammography. At least I never heard of mammography so early. But I am 27 and do the check for the HP Virus every year :)
Everything's gonna be alright. Trust yourself. Best wishes from the bottom of my heart to all of your family. Inclusive those who are not yet born. 🙂
First of all congratulations on your pregnancy! I really recommend contacting Jenna from the Life in Germany channel. She’s a Canadian living in Germany and provides really helpful information about life in Germany for English speaking expats. She’s had her first child here in Germany and is currently pregnant with her second baby. She even made a video about expecting a baby in Germany. I’m sure she can help you a lot as pregnancy and giving birth is so different here.
Thank you so much Nora! We will!
Also, Ashton of the "Black Forest Family" on UA-cam is from the USA but had her son in Germany. She also has videos on the subject, so does Antoinette Emily, who is from NZ and had two or maybe all three of her kids in Germany.
I guess one thing that might have been a big advantage for me when I was pregnant is that I had already known my gynecologist for quite some time before that, as in Germany you go there for check ups at least once/twice a year. That is definitely a big difference compared to your prenatal clinic which sounds a lot more anonymous (and big). And it's true that I got my midwife as soon as I knew I was pregnant (about 7 weeks) because otherwise they are so hard to get. And I guess I was about 3-4 months pregnant when I registered my twins for Kita. I didn't even know both sexes at that point 😀
Moreover, I don't know anyone who had a home birth so it's definitely a lot less popular than you might have expected. I think it also has to do with liability etc. so not many midwives offer them.
I wish you all the best for your future appointments and that you find your perfect midwife and even though there might seem to be many differences between here and the US, rest assured that you will definitely be taken care of well, and as others have mentioned there are some hospitals and birth clinics that offer amazing delivery rooms (unless you have a C-section as I did 😀)
I was born in Nürnberg in the hospital, it saved my life.
All the best wishes to you all
We've heard great things about that hospital! Thanks for the best wishes!
Here in Belgium everything is like in Germany. The doctor decides everything and midwives assist them. You get a mommy-baby book too. The doctor says when to come again.
In Germany it actually depends on the hospital (and a midwife has to be present for a birth unless it’s an emergency). The hospital where I gave birth, is actually proud to say „our midwives are specialists for natural birth, but if anything goes wrong, a doctor can be there to help in a matter of minutes“.
I only saw the doctor, when she stitched me up while the midwife (and midwife trainee, who were with me the whole time) cleaned up my child, examined my placenta, showed my husband to put on a diaper and me „my“ placenta (the offered and I really wanted to). They are actually a teaching hospital for midwives, which was cool for me, because I always had the midwife and/or trainee with me.
Homebirth is a very romantic notion but it has risks which can end fatal...
I suggest to contact "Donnie & Aubrey" from the YT channel "Passport Two"..Aubrey gave birth to her first child as an "American living abroad in Germany" just very recently. She can tell you what it´s like giving birth in Germany from an American perspective in fully detail first hand...because their memories happens to be still fresh and even more important "up to date".
"The Always Home" went through the same experience of giving birth in Germany as an american couple in Germany. They live not far away from you, because they work for US military too.
For your next appointment with your ob/gyn wear a really long shirt which you can pull up when you sit down in the chair so you don't feel so uncomfortable running around without your underwear. And yes, births at home are very rate in Germany because it's so much safer in the hospital and it won't cost you anything.
An annual cancer screening for women is pretty standard in the US, too. My wife has had her annual ob/gyn appointment her entire adult life, and that pap smear is essentially that cancer screening. She does not have any particular risk factors, it's available for any healthy woman. Greetings from Utah!
Well many US americans don't do that because its expensive and many people simply cannot afford it.
Here in Germany (and in other countries with real non-profit health insurances or a state run healthcare system) these checks are covered by the insurance.
My sister had a very difficult pregnancy with one of her kids. The Frauenarzt and the Hebamme were great though and made sure she was well taken care of. Have a chat with the parents and staff in Willa's Kita to see if they have tips on who to see and how best to prepare. Geburtsvorbereitungskurse are a good way to meet and connect with people who are expecting - and they will make sure you know what to expect.
The Kreißsaal in your Krankenhaus usually is a comfy place that allows you to pick different options to situation yourself during birth. From what I have seen quite a lot of people seem to be giving birth lying on their back in the US. Not so in Germany. If you are up for it you can choose other options that are perfectly safe.
Moving around and choosing a birthing position is actually considered „favorable for the birth“.
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I started from the bottom... now I'm here!
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I'm so happy for you - everything is going to be alright. Probably it's also due to the lockdown that so many of you got pregnant or just gave birth here in Germany. Maybe you could create a WhatsApp group or whatever to exchange your personal experiences and help eachother. The channels of expats living in Germany I became aware of:
- Our Story to Tell: pregnant
- Passport Two: gave birth
- Life in Germany: pregnant
- With Olivia: gave birth
- Elyce Patricia: pregnant
- The Black Forest Family: pregnant
Best wishes to you and your new 👶🏻
Überall trifft man die gleichen Leute :-)
"Blackforest family" - Ist Ashton auch schwanger?
@@alondro666 I hope I haven't confused anything now. I'm usually careful not to spread rumors. But I think I remember her saying that in one of her shorter videos, either YT or Instagram. It was about a topic where they were in Hamburg and Ashton wasn't feeling well, so Jonathan and Jack visited the Miniatur Wunderland alone. Unfortunately I can't find the video anymore - it was a different one from the long video about the Wunderland itself. So I can only hope that I remembered correctly and didn't get it mixed up.
The only thing i dont get is there are many others around on youtube being abroad in germany having had babies they had similar experiences.... that could have helped. Normally women go to the gynaecologist regularly and from being pregnant on this is where you normally go to once a month to do all the necessary exams... Hospital births have a huge advantage: namely in case somethiing is needed fast there is someone around whereas at home you would have to call first and then wait. We needed that and in the end are so happy to have been to hospital otherwise . And so my experience is pretty positive here. These Entbindungsstationen are actually quite nice places compared to what hospitals usually are elsewhere...
Here in Germany you are in the very best of
Hands! No Worries! 🙂👍
If the investigation seemed a bit quick to you, that's because of the situation. The pandemic, staff shortage because of it and so on. but the quality of the birth will not suffer from this. 👌😉
Although the very first experience went different than we expected, we have always felt like we are in good hands here in Germany! :)
I can assure you that prenatal care in Germany is a lot better and longer than in the US. I think the language barrier is more of a problem. But I can assure you that every doctor who has studied medicine in Germany has learned the English language for at least 7 years
They are lucky/privileged enough that everyone speaks English. And yes, the doctor(s) will most certainly speak English. I just find it kinda funny that Americans just expect everyone to speak English, so they don't have to learn a language..
You're sooo cute when you get emotional... 😊
Don't worry everything will be good!
Wich you'll find a good midwife. I'm skeptical about home birth, not only because it's more hazardous when something turns wrong but also you have more options available in the maternity unit if you change you mind last minute about the way you feel comfortable during the process.
Good luck
I had a home birth while we lived in Germany. It took a long time to find a midwife that would come to a home birth. But I did in the end. And it was amazing. You just have to keep looking for an independent midwife.
And best look for one, who has a colleague attending with her, that way you have two people specialized on home births with you in case someone (you or the baby) needs help.
I don't have children but my sister has. She did birth in hospital and was lucky as her second one came after 1 hour (she only was in labour in the hospital for 30minutes).
All what you are experiencing is normal. Go and find a midwife! She may not be there during birth, but she will be there after birth which will be a great help. Also there are a few American UA-camrs living in Germany that are pregnant or recently giving birth. I would recommend reaching out to them to share your experiences. Good luck with all
Pre-natal care in Germany is mainly given by doctors. Monthly check-ups and at least two ultra-sound checks included. Birth centres are not that much of an option because the Germany healthcare system (and insurance) is mainly build around hospitals for giving birth. In the US that might be different because all is paid for privately or with special insurances. Midwives in Germany have to pay irreasonably high insurances themselves (just in case the might get sued for having made mistakes with pregnant women or women giving birth) unless they are employed by a clinic. That is why there are not so many privately run birth centres in the country. It is extremely expensive to run them and often the cost can't be covered by the Germany general health insurance. Just trust a good gynaecologist. His practice will also know about widwives for after-care, which also is included in the general health insurance. Many clinics perform a so called "ambulante Geburt", which means that you will be able to leave only a few hours after having given birth when all things have turned out well. German birth stations in clinics and hospitals offer most cozy and comfortable environments in the birthing chambers, but with the security that you can be rushed in an operating theatre within minutes should something out of the ordinary occur.
Hi you 3 nice to see that you are doing fine and I hope that everything going fine and planed with the baby pleace keep us updated
Thank you so much! Stay tuned for another pregnancy update coming out not this Sunday, but next! (Feb 12) 😊
Usually the ultrasound is done by your gynecologist. You can choose if this person also does the other checks or if you ask a midwife to do them. Hospitals are usually not the place to get the regular ultrasounds, but you typically only get their of your own one is not available or if you need to get one with a higher resolution.
At my gynecologist there was a lot of time to look at the screen, listen to the heartbeat… hospitals are super busy.
The annual cancer screening is not just for breast cancer prevention but essentially for any type of gender-specific cancer.
Well, living a bit rural has it downsides, the distance to medical care might be one of them. As having a house birth is an options, a clinic birth is some sort of the norm in Germany. Do not be afraid about costs, the german health insurance covers it all. There is even no co-pay like 10€ a day which you would have otherwise for a day in the hospital. One option which is not free is if the dad (or whoever) wants to stay with you over night - but as you already have a child this will very likely not be an option for you anyway. As already written, the birth centers in the hospital are usually very well made and not as a typical clinic place and they offer normally a lot of different options like a birth in the water, standing or just the standard way.
The midwifes is a bit of a problem in all Germany. We do have too few of them, and somehow the insurance for them became very expensive, so years ago many of them quit that job while the federal gouvernment ignored that problem, and this is still the result of that issue 10 years back.
And if it happens that you are too far and still at home - an ambulance will be there very quickly and they can also assit you in a professional manner. Also all included in your health insurance.
Pregnancy is a weird experience in itself at times, especially in a foreign country for the first time. Hospitals are usually interested in working with the family during the birth, my dad got to do the afterbirth care with me under the guidance of a nurse. It was a rural area and the clinic still works with the obgyn center to have a good experience before and after birth. A lot of prenatal care is about risk assessment to know what they have to keep an eye on during pregnancy and birth. So don’t worry too much about a sterile experience in the hospital, hospitals are a lot more friendly in the effort of to make the experience better, you can take a look at the birthing station before and it’s just an extra layer of security in case anything goes wrong with the birth. Homebirths just aren’t common anymore and connected with huge liability issues for midwives. I personally would only consider doing it it I lived 2 minutes away from the hospital and had a good midwife there and my brother who’s an EMT, I guess it’s a cultural thing and both of my mom’s births and pregnancies weren’t entirely free of issues.
Thanks for your comment!
Don t worry!!!!!!!! Everything will be perfect!!!!!!!!! I think we have some good medical support in Germany....but learning the language of the country I live in would be always a good idea.
Thank you! And yes, we know it didn't seem like it in the video (I, Risa) did a bad job of talking about the language, but we are in fact learning! Tanner is actually conversational and can talk to any German! I am learning, but don't have a huge vocabulary and don't feel very comfortable.
You should ask Emely Antoinette here on youtube. She is from New Zeland and got a Baby here in germany. Sie lives in Franken near Würzburg.
You've been almost halfway through pregnancy and didn't get an ultrasound from your gyneacologist or haven't contacted midwifes as soon as you knew you were pregnant? Huge mind blown; every single woman I know who has given birth did all those things the minute the pregnancy test came back positive (Austria here but I guess not too different from Germany).
We got an ultrasound at 9 weeks pregnant, but we were worried that we wouldn’t have been able to get it until almost halfway because the gynecologist near us wasn’t accepting new patients and all the midwife’s we had contacted were all full as well (except for the two mentioned in the video). You’re right though, that would have been mind blowing to not have that until halfway! We couldn’t imagine!
@@OurStorytoTell I'm glad that worked out well for you :)
But yeah, fully booked doctors and mifwifes, nothing new :D
7:04 - "Not in the car!" 🤣🤣🤣
Willa knows what's best! 😆 So funny!
Congratulations!!! 🥳🎊🎉🎈
It's hard to imagine as a man, but I remember when my niece was born and when we visited my sister-in-law in hospital. I carried her in my arms and that was about 22 years ago.
It was so cosy in the room, I could have laid down on the bed and slept myself.
The babies sleep with their mothers or, if they want, a nurse takes them to a sleeping room. But that also depends on the hospital, how it is equipped.
Why cry? My mother's nephews had all their children somewhere else. The children not only have German citizenship through their father and the citizenship of their mother, but also the citizenship of their country of birth.
I’m seeing a lot of comments advising against home births. I on the other hand am a HUGE advocate for them. I would encourage people to look at the statistics… in Canada, the risks in hospital are actually greater than a home birth because of the tendency to unnecessarily intervene earlier (rather than allowing mama’s body to progress the way it was designed). Additionally, the USA where hospital births comprise the majority of births, actually has one of the highest infant mortality rates. So long story short, there is risk involved in delivering a baby no matter where you are. But birth is also one of the most natural, primal events that can happen! Trust your body mama!
Home births often help labour progress quicker as well :) because you are in a familiar safe space, your body inherently will be more “relaxed” allowing labour to progress.
Congrats to you all!! So excited for your prenatal journey!!
We agree with you and have looked into the stats as well! We have nothing wrong with hospital births as we had Willa there, but we also love the idea of being in a different environment as well! 💗 Thanks for your comment!
I love your family since the first video … wish you the best … kisses from Munich ❤
Hi, I think when you have questions ask "Passport Two" or "Life in Germany" they got a baby in Germany!!
Yes they are our friends so we have been in touch with them! :)
this is generally a big problem with midwives. Because the costs of insurance for midwives are so extremely high that many have given up the job.
Only those who offer home birth. But of course, a problem.
The insurance rates are so high, because the potential damages are so severe. A home birth is a romantic idea, but if there are complications or possible malpractices with no certified doctors present, the romantically inclined parents tend to want to blame someone and sue. Insurers have to factor in the (possibly low) frequency times the (possibly high) damages.
Especially with your place of living being 30 minutes away from the next sensible childrens clinic in Weiden, I'd rethink that home birth idea. 30 minutes is a long time if e.g. something is wrong with your plazenta and you suffer from heavy bleeding. By the way, every clinic has to accept you for birth.
Insurance companies like the Techniker Krankenkasse have apps where you have the schedule and your options listed. They also offer nutritional advice, videos on how to prepare and what kind of birthing methods you can expect, etc.
There is a central registry for midwifes and their specialties. You can have different models with them. A very present midwife before birth and do just the ultrasounds with a gynecologist, a gynecologist checking your progress and no midwife, get a midwife to just prepare you for your birth at the hospital, or a midwife for your post-pregnancy recovery and checkups.
Besides that insurance companies pay for midwife courses like preparation for birth or parenthood.
Home births are an unnecessary risk. You can never make it as safe as a hospital does. In most EU countries it's seen as inferior and a modern fad. While a midwife is certainly well equipped to handle your overall well-being, she's not as trained in health concerns as a doctor, especially the unexpected ones. Why would you risk it when it worsens your and the baby's chances to come out of the birth alive and healthy?
Regarding a birth in a car, as long as you're an emergency any capable facility to deliver the baby will accept you, regardless of your booking. The reservation is for when you have time to spare. That’s what the mother's passport is for. So that any clinic has your data regarding your pregnancy and can correctly respond. It's not unnecessary bureucracy.
It's fast in Germany, because gynecologist visits are more frequent for any issues. Annual checkups, follow ups just to be sure, preventive screenings.
Thanks for your comment! We are learning so much and appreciate the time you took to help us!
The cancer screening they are talking about is probably the Pap Smear. I lived in Germany for almost 10 years and I loved it.. You have to fully embrace the German way/culture/rules and let go of America. The funniest thing about a German FrauenArtze visit is the going into a little room or behind a curtain to take your clothes off but then you have to walk out naked since they don't have the little gowns. It is sort of like making a big entrance naked! 😂 I got to a point of just stripping down next to the table because what is the point undressing behind a curtain and then having to walk across a room? 😂 There is another UA-camr, an American woman married to a German who has had 3 children in Germany. She might be a good resource for you. Their UA-cam channel is called "MeettheWengers". They live in Berlin now but she had her first two children in the Stuttgart area.
Thank you for the comment! We will look into that channel! And we LOLed because we feel the same way about taking off your clothes!
youre definately safe in germany. :) good luck with everythin!! ♥
The second child gets the "sibling preference" in the KiTa: secure placement in the same KiTa as the first sibling. Ask your KiTa. 😊
That’s what we are hoping for this go around ☺️
super special hearing the heartbeat! so exciting!
Hi Risa, the first minutes watching was hurting seeing you being so sad but I also thought, wait everything will turn into the right direction, be sure. My mother told me, that I was also home born and she had to wait 1 day more to give birth cos the doctor even a midwife couldnt come due to icy roads. I am sure, you will be able to give home birth and everybody will take care about you and your baby. Nice to see you smiling at the end with a happy father and the older sister. CU
the cancer screening once a year is not mammograms but uterus cancer. They will just get a swipe and test that for any sicknesses and cancer. Its a pretty easy appointment and covered by german health care
It is a PAP smear test to detect cervix cancer cells
I only can agree with the other moms here: Of course you might need a preparation course for birth, and you'll get such a course, even if you have to take a lookout. Health control for your pregnancy is usually done with doctors and totally paid by the insurance. Usually fix dates, but if you are worried about something, just go there in between. Most mothers prefer delivering at a hospital, in case there might be a complication. I.e. necessity of a c-section. With my first two kids the heartbeats went low under birth, so I needed a c-section inspite of wishing a normal birth. But the life of a baby is above of my wishes, and I was glad that it only took some minutes to change to the surgery-room. But nevertheless - in Germany there is no birth without a midwife. You might go and visit the delivery units of some hospitals, and you might ask some moms in your neighbourhood about their experiences, they will tell you a lot. Btw. you can also ask them about midwives.
But - never mind, after birth usually midwives are coming several times, also paid by insurance.
By this system, usually giving birth at a hospital, the rate of deaths of mother or child is much lower than in the USA. So even if you are struggling now - never mind, you'll be fine, and your baby as well.
The hospitals are offering different services, you can visit them before birth and talk about your wishes and so on. E.g. whether you want a pda (I'd recommend it!) or not, whether you want to give birth in a bath or a chair or don't know what else. pda: sort of infusion killing your pain only so far, that you feel every contraction, but it won't hurt at all. The woes will feel like breathing. At first I did not want it, but as my first birth took so long and would hurt a lot, I finally agreed and when it came to c-section (as I mentioned before), the anaesthesia was done in seconds, it might have saved my baby's life.
Ok, with you it won't be such a drama, it's your second child and the second child is easier to deliver.
But - there is a much higher rate of complications due to covid, so it is indeed much more safe to be in a hospital, with a midwife doing the delivery and a doctor being just one minute away. Did not mean to worry you, but nobody talks about it. My neighbour had these covid-complications, so I know. She was even told that this happened quite often (dangerous bleeding). But thanks to the hospital everything ended up well, and Mom and child are fine. She just had to stay some days longer.
O, and don't forget: You are going to stay more than some hours. The docs will do the first few health controls on your baby. And you have some time to recover. At least one to three days. And you'll get a course on feeding and baby care as well.
So: just enjoy your family and maybe you'll do like me and have three of them 😉
Don`t worry, Germany has one of the best health systems of the world. You'll be fine. And so will the baby.
My daughter-in-law gave birth to our granddaughter (she's now 2) and came home just a few hours later as the birth was without complications. She had already booked a midwife in early pregnancy for the home visits - Nachsorge-. So this is something you need to arrange early on to save disappointment. The midwife will check baby's weight and belly button and do post natal checks on you. She'll also help with any breastfeeding questions or problems. Perhaps there is a breastfeeding group near you -Stillgruppe-. It's a good way to meet other mums in the same situation and have some German contacts. I was a breastfeeding consultant for many years and in my group we talked about many subjects to do with babies, not just breastfeeding. All the best for the rest of your pregnancy!
My experience in this is just more than 21 years ago, but my wife and I walked together to all appointments (not to the Geburtsvorbereitungskurs, they didn't wanted the Dads around) with the ob-gyn and the midwifes. But yes, it's all about the efficiency, for 15.000 citizens there were only 3 gynecologists available.
We chose the local clinic out of laziness, but it was a really pleasant experience because it is the training-center for one of the most reknown medical universities of Germany. Brand new equipment, newly renovated with multiple opportunities for the laboring mother (bath-tub, upright position, gynecological bed, etc.) and well trained medical personal. As the water broke we were in the clinic in 5 mins., exactly to the calculated date (and full moon) they were expecting us. The midwife rushed in and was guiding my wife through the process.
Best wishes to you all. Enjoy the time.
Thanks for your comment! Fun reading about your experience! We appreciate your support. 😊
The calling a midwife as soon as you take the pregnancy test kind of really is a thing. But you visit your local obgyn first, as with everything they are the Person to talk to around pregnancy. The do ultrasound, check ups and so on
The Mutterpass is also important, but you get it at the obgyn
Please .. dont be worry about going to a hospital for giving birth. If you dont want any meds , they wont do it . Please get more informations about it , but its compleeeettteeee different to USA . We always try to stay in a natural way during birth if thats your wish. But in emergency they can help very fast at a hospital . So we prefer to give birth at the hospitals here . The athmosphere is very nice there like others said in the comments . But if YOU or your BABY needs help, they are able to help veeery fast . So its much more secure than it would be at home. You will stay maybe three days at the hospital after birth . Just to make sure you BOTH are ok before they send you home. If its your wish a midwife will come home to help you during the first weeks/ months with your baby / Breastfeeding etc . If not everything else your doctor will do ( Gyn and child doctor ) So everything is very calm and nothing to be scared about . Ultrasounds you can also get at your Gyn and they will also control if you and the baby are ok . No need to go to a hospital before birth. To see the rooms at the hospital you can do a " Walk through" they offer , so you can see everything . I wish you all the best .. but please dont cry anymore. No need to... I also got my baby without getting meds , but i was glad to get some oxygen when i needed it during birth ...lol ;)
If you can't find a midwife willing to do a home birth, find a hospital near you for the birth. Check out the delivery room beforehand. There are delivery room tours. If the birth is uncomplicated, you can go home after 2 hours. Good luck and a healthy baby.
Great suggestion, thanks!
I had my first and only child in Manhattan in 1970 at the age of 31. There was hardly any care before and after. I aso was one of the few mothers wanting to breast feed. No advice or any information on that either. Hope it has changed for the better by now.
That’s such a bummer there wasn’t any advice or help! It’s an adjustment in general and the support needs to be there! We hope it has too!
Willa is sooo sweet, making My Heart melt
Normally your gynecologist does the ultrasound. You do not have to rely on a hospital. Of course they offer it too but your first address is your gynecologist.
Don't you have an ob/gyn ? They usually take care of ultrasound etc and as a patient you get an appointment quite easily.
Concerning the "feeling exposed " part: Wear a dress or a long top on those occasions 😉
Oh, pleeeeease, don’t be discouraged!! If, just if you give birth in the hospital it is such a great experience! They don’t medicate you, just if it’s necessary or you want it! Trust me! By giving birth twice in Germany (the second just with a midwife in the hospital and I went home straight after I gave birth…that would be an option for you, too) and to my third I gave birth in the US and that was the most horrible experience, much less natural, and not at all willing from the doctor’s side to not hook me up for a maybe medicated birth…..it was so bad! But, in the end, when the baby is there you won’t care where you just gave birth! But, I understand you!
In Germany though, there are way more options to give birth!
Look for an OBGyn and he works with midwives together!!!! And he does Ultrasounds and takes very good care of you and a midwife will take care of you IN ADDITION! She will suggest a Lamaze course (it’s wayyyyyy different than in Germany), a pregnancy yoga course! After the birth, you can go to a baby massage course (sooooo good! And you meet likeminded women) and the after giving birth course (Rueckbildungskurs) is necessary and as well fantastic! All that I didn’t have in the US and missed terribly! So, Marisa, take full advantage of those things!
Plus, OMG, be so happy that all of the people involved speak soooooo good English with you!
I had NOBODY who spoke German with me as I went through pregnancy and birth here in the US! And, although I spoke a decent English, medical words are way different! I had to trust everybody around me who took care of me and it worked out! Pleeeeeease, trust me you are in VERY GOOD hands!
Back in Texas I wished as well I would be at home in Germany! Therefore, I understand you completely! But, relax and trust and….yep….LEARN GERMAN, Marisa! Without the language you always will feel insecure and that is a pretty bad feeling!
Totally agree with everything you said! Love hearing about the baby massage class! What so cool! 😊 We know we are in good hands here in Germany but it’s nice to be reminded!
Can’t imagine what your experience was like having no one to speak your language-props to you for speaking well enough to get by at the time! Medical terms are hard. I am trying to learn, but man it is hard and takes a lot of time! No excuse though, I know!
Babies are born here, too. Don’t worry :D
and that for over 10thousends of years.
In Germany, only 1.3% of all births are home births; in France, it's even less than 1%. Still, in France, you can't have medically unsupervised pregnancies, there are at least 3 ultrasounds that are mandatory (and 3 doctor visit in between, all free of charge). In Germany, they're not mandatory, but the health insurances pay for all of them, and for other tests should they be needed. It's just safer, even with healthy pregnancies, things can go wrong during birth, and therefore, it's better to be right there in the hospital, where the needed care can be done immediately, rather than to wait to be brought there, time would be lost and it might be too late.
I'd recommend checking out maternity departments at the hospitals that are an option for you, as those can differ wildly. When my wife gave birth to our firstborn, the stay in the clinic was a bit like staying at a hotel, with me sharing the room a few days, including a small breakfast buffet for the occupants of the whole station, a pretty relaxed experience. For our second child we had to chose a different clinic for logistical reasons, and that was your typical hospital stay, including quite a bit of noise. Quite a bit less relaxing and restful for my wife.
Also, since you're in germany now you'll probably be told that a few times: Maybe consider giving a bit less prominence to your daughter on UA-cam? Even though at that age she probably has no concept of privacy and is really cute, those privacy rights - which are taken a LOT more seriously over here - DO apply to her.
Thanks for your comment Sascha! We appreciate and are thinking about all of those things you are bringing up!
The cancer care isn’t about mammograms but about sth called PAP. Which is an annual test you get for cervix cancer from teenager on. Also there is scientific indication that doing Doppler Ultrasound which ich making you hear the heartbeat isn’t good for the baby in the early development and since it’s really only for your pleasure and has no medical benefit to make the heartbeat sound hearable to you, we cut this very short here in the beginning. If you decide to have the big screening ultrasound around week 22-24 they will take way more time and detail.
We (online, group of people from different countries) had a discussion about pap smears the other day and found out that some countries do them every year (like Germany), some do them every two years, some every three and others every five. Kind of interesting how different things can be.
I'm sure it will all work out in the end, although home birth is not usual here. At least you also have the option to give birth in your home country for your own comfort if necessary.
Also, please learn German! You've been here long enough to get even more than just the basics already. Although I know that Tanner has put more effort and practice in this regard which is great. Be respectful and learn the language of your host country.
All the best with your pregnancy journey, Willa will be great big sister💗
About learning German: In three years when your kids will be coming back from Kindergarten they will talk in German in order to keep secrets from you. Be prepared!
I love your channel so much and so interesting to follow you.
I have no idea about these specific things, but what I know is that the system brought us a lack of midwives, but also of nurses and doctors and people that try to change that for the better, don't get help oe support and where blamed from a lot of people for their actions against this weird happening.
So mom's all over Germany have to support them with everything possible and the families on the side.
I wish you the best of luck and I think of you.🍀🕯️🍀🕯️🍀🕯️
I would recommend to find a gynecologist near your home. In Germany it is normal to have your prenatal check ups at the gynecologist office. The ultra sound, blood work and all possible tests are done there.
I had my baby at our local hospital and the midwife that was on duty that day was also my midwife for the check ups after birth.
The situation with the availability of a midwife has gotten really bad in the last few years.
I really hope you find a clinic or a „Geburtshaus“ that works for you and wish you a great and healthy pregnancy!
Thanks for the comment! We tried to call the OBGYN near us, but they weren't accepting new clients. We are in good hands now though with our prenatal clinic and midwifes :)
The situation in Germany has deteriorated dramatically in the last 10 years, there are almost no more free midwives because liability insurance has become so expensive that midwives can no longer afford it. My neighbor is a midwife and was 12 years ago self-employed and was able to accompany me during my pregnancy. She has now been working in the local hospital for 10 years because she can no longer pay the liability insurance. A very unpleasant development.
That is such a bummer to hear!!
First of all: Be emotional. If you would not have the right for it, who else? Don't cut you emotions. Do as you feel. The baby knows if mom is not in line with her emotions. It would feel the pressure.
From the my sight to the things, I am a father and my kids where both born in hospital AND from my experiences as someone who has a lot to do with emergency cases, I just can say just take the secure way. Home birth may be nice in imagination, buit if you ever saw one with complications it turns into a nightmare - you would never choose this. Time-pressure, not-coordinated rush, panic as well, not to mention the mix with the fact, that the baby maybe could be not supplied with air - nothing you need in a birth. And just look around for a comfy place. There are a lot of gynecological wards in the hospitals you nearly can compare with your home...
You will solve it but mainly first do whats best for the baby then you and i hope and wish it gonna go well and smooth baby n mom 💞
Thanks so much!! 💗💗
The second baby is not always coming faster! Just ask my mom! I was the first baby and needed only 5 hours. My little sister needed over 70 hours!
Usually the first trip after finding out you are pregnant is your gynaecologist. The gynaecologists in your area probably know a lot English as you live in an Army area.
I never would risk a home birth - hospitals in Germany are really equipped for having very natural births with midwifes - you even could leave short after birth again on your own risk and do not have to stay there for days if you do not want to - but if there is an emergency for mother or child and you need a doctor and additional help it is far less risky like this. Even if you had an easy first birth - the second does not have to be like that. I know women that for their second or third kids only went to the hospital for the birth and went home at the same day.
Thanks for your comment! We tried to get into a gynecologist but they weren’t accepting new clients sadly! Hence why we ended up at the prenatal clinic.
Unfortunately, Germany has a independent midwife shortage as regulations and insurance are very high. That’s why home births are hard to have in this country and it’s difficult to get a spot with a midwife or birthing centre.
In Germany just as you would have a family doctor you have your obgyn that you visit at least once a year and that doctor guides you through pregnancy and what comes with parenthood and potential paperwork.
The clinic you went to seemed cold to me too, which is out of the ordinary in Germany in my oppinion. I would recommend you finding an obgyn for the rest of your pregnancy if you’re not too happy with that clinic. It might feel more personal too if you have your personal doctor with everything regarding woman hood.
The yearly cancer screening is a Pap smear for cervical cancer and most of the time the doctor checks your breasts for lumps as well.
I wish you all the luck you can have. When my son was born (1993) we were living in Erlangen, and it was a homebirth. it was a wonderful experience.
We love to hear that! Thank you!
@@OurStorytoTell we had our son at home in Hamburg with the best midwife ever in 2009. She even had people come to the city solely to give birth with her support. From my experience, mums and dads who opt for a homebirth prepare for it well. Our midwife recommended the book "Luxux Privatgeburt". I saw a Gyn only once during my pregnancy when I needed his approval for a short flight. Congratulations to you and many blessings!
one problem of our midwifery is, that if a baby dies, there are parents saying it's the midwife's fault and they are sueing them for compensation. So the midwives need forced to have a very expensive insurance, because such things will happen to every midwife sooner or later.
Nevertheless, where ever you'll have your baby delivered, a midwife will be with you. But due to the lack of midwives, it might be that the midwife has to look after two women at the same time.
btw. for the next examination - just take a long shirt 😉
You are truly glowing. May God bless you all.
Thank you so much 💗
Hallo ich habe 4 Erwachsene Kinder, 2 davon ambulant entbunden. Das ist eine Möglichkeit 2 bis 3 Stunden nach der Geburt wieder nach Hause zu gehen, ähnlich wie in einem Geburtshaus. Jetzt bin ich Oma und meine Tochter hat meinen Enkel in einem Geburtshaus ( Hannover) zur Welt gebracht 👍
Ich selbst habe vor 25 Jahren während der Geburt in einer Badewanne gelegen, habe Globulies bekommen, mein Mann war die ganze Zeit dabei, konnte mich an Schlaufen festhalten... Ich glaube in Deutschland seit ihr, egal wie eure Geburt läuft, in sehr guten Händen seit. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
Germany and many other health systems have preventive care where as the US there isn’t a lot of preventative care built into the insurance system. One system tries to catch things early and prevent more serious issues from developing while the other treats medical issues after they have become more evident and usually more severe. As others have mentioned European deliveries tend to be less medicalized than in the US. One of the reason is the high cost of medical liability insurance in the US. OB/gyn have the highest rate of malpractice insurance of all specialist in the US (150k/yr is actually pretty standard which is crazy!) so some hospitals are very strict when it comes to filming, refuse to do things like VBACs which would be better for mothers, etc. Would suggest a tour of the hospital before getting concerned about having to deliver there.
well...homebirths are absolutly unusual in germany. my question: why it has to be a "homebirth" for you? the health care system here in germany is awesome and in no point comparable with the usa. there is absolutly no problem to stay in a hospital cause of a birth.
Echt jetzt....Meine Frage: warum mischen Sie sich in solche Angelegenheiten ein? Und dann auch noch mit einer so indiskreten Frage?
@@bibiblocksberg7051 lol. Wer sein Privatleben öffentl auf yt teilt, muß eben auch mit (wie sie meinen) indiskreten fragen rechnen u umgehen können. Wobei ich nicht finde, daß meine Frage indiskret ist.
@@majormogli3772 Mit dieser Antwort hatte ich gerechnet. Aber nur, weil jemand offen ist, heißt das ja nicht, dass er sich für alles mögliche rechtfertigen muss.
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Sie sind alt genug und lange genug bei UA-cam, um selbst zu entscheiden, ob sie die Frage beantworten wollen oder nicht.
Ich kann auch grundsätzlich nichts Indiskretes in der Frage entdecken. (Ist z.B. die Frage, die einige hier stellen, warum sie (noch) keinen Gynäkologen hat, obwohl sie schon mehr als einJahr hier lebt, nicht indiskreter?
Wir wollten gerne eine Wassergeburt machen und da haben sehr viele nach dem Grund gefragt.
Außerdem finde ich die Frage, warum er sich einmischt, ziemlich daneben. Genau für solche Fragen und Anmerkungen gibt es nämlich diesen Platz hier.
@@Andreas_CologneStimmt... hier gibt es jede Menge indiskrete Fragen und überflüssige Kommentare, meiner Meinung nach. Ist Ihnen schon mal aufgefallen, dass bis jetzt kein einziger von der Familie gelikt wurde, obwohl sie das durchaus tun, wenn es ihnen angebracht erscheint. Es kommt auch darauf an, ob die Motivation für eine solche Frage eher echtes Interesse oder verborgenes Unverständnis enthält.
Dass sie alt genug für eigene Entscheidungen sind, steht für mich übrigens außer Frage....das sollten Sie dem Major mitteilen.
In my area all mrt, ct, ultrasounds, x-rays etc. are booked well in advance, as my mum had a problem - as it was not life-threatening - they had given her a date in 3 months. I received a tip, there is a kind of examination "clinic" which all facilities regarding medical imagine equipment next to the motorway exit "Tennenlohe" in the industrial area - as they are situated between towns on the motorways the locals do not bother to go there and as they are really huge we did manage an appointment for the next day. Like you, she had to drive one hour, but the results were fine which gives you peace of mind directly and one does not have to wait 3 months and have a constant nag in your mind.
Love seeing your prenatal journey. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for watching!
How much you have to spend in US to give birth ??????
With our insurance we didn't have to pay anything as our birth was entirely covered, but one of our siblings had to pay 10k for each child!! And they had four kids! Crazy huh!
I think the fact that Tanner and Willa had to wait outside during the exam might still be due to Covid. Some clinics and practices are still restricting the amount of people who get to go inside with the patients
Yes they can't be in the waiting room with us and then can only come into certain appointments with me. Luckily, they have present to every appointment except for one so far.
Child birth, including prenatal care, is a very structured and efficient process in Germany. It's all virtually cost free, so just take advantage of it. This leads to the fact, that the infant mortality rate in Germany is half of that of the USA.
The leading figure through all this is your Gynecologist. As a woman, you should select a Gynecologist, where you will go to every time you have any issues with the female parts of your body or with your pregnancies as long as you live in your area. Also, look for a Pediatrician for you children, since same applies for them. And remember, dealing with health issues is virtually cost free in Germany. Germans only go to Hospitals if they expect to be treated stationary for a period of time.