When Overthinking Leads to Erectile Dysfunction
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- Опубліковано 9 жов 2022
- This week's episode of the Erectile Dysfunction Radio Podcast is about when "overthinking" leads to erectile dysfunction and overall troubles in the bedroom.
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It feels really good to know im not alone. Iv been married to my amazing wife for 13 years. Never had an issue ever. All of a sudden it showed up. I feel as if i have over pressured myself to perform at the highest levels. Iv always wanted to please my wife as well as she pleased me. Im at the point where i understand why its happening to me. I just can not stop thinking about the what if it happens again. If it continues will my wife leave me.... Those eveil thoughts are hindering my process...
I'm 20 and I have anxiety and depression before I think I have Ed now, because overthinking about my penis size, and one thine when I mastrubate I trying to train to be longer in stamina and my P just suddenly go down I'm not even ejaculate yet and after that im getting hard time to erect and even if I have erection in the morning it's not as strong as before and it easily go away, can u help me sir, what do think im not smoking or drinking alcohol or anything but I do have lots of stress in college and life recently, is it psychological or what? 🙏🏼
@@zefanyaraysanevadalaput7371 i want to start by saying there is nothing wrong with you!! Anxiety is a bitch... The best thing I can say is to stop pressuring yourself. Don't beat yourself up. Don't overthink the situation at hand. It's been my downfall. I have had some amazing intercourse with my wife since this started happening to me and I believe it's because I didn't care about my performance. I just wanted to enjoy the moment. But as soon as I get in my head. Start telling myself I'm not going to please her or that I won't get hard. I turn into a shaky mess. Your not alone. Iv had to tell myself that. It's been extremely helpful to talk to my wife about this. Idk if you have a significant other or not.. but talking through this will help I do believe. Psychological factors play a major roll in achieving and maintaining an erection. The brain is your biggest sex organ. If you panic. Nothing you do will get you hard..
@@zefanyaraysanevadalaput7371 how did you deal with it (if you did)? I'm having the same issues. I am only 19 and I am considered a "pretty attractive man". I don't know what to do anymore
@@zefanyaraysanevadalaput7371solve the physical part first and then it would gradually help you psychologically
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Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going.
Overthinking or performance anxiety can definitely lead to ED. Such psychological factors need to be dealt with, in order to improve erectile function.
Coming And Going
Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going.
Coming And Going
Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going.
YES! you nailed it. i constantly think about sex while im watching a movie w my parter. i overthink the sexual experience
Coming And Going
Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going.
Hi,
I am dealing with ED for past two years . I believe my Ed is due to overthinking . All throughout this year I was not present in any moment, I was worried totally about what could go wrong post marriage . Thinking about many negative scenarios repeatedly.
it really bothers me a lot in day to day life.
Could you please help me on how to overcome this.
is this curable ? can this be reversed? has anyone ever overcame this before ? please leave a comment if possible ,this will help me a lot
Hi Vivian,
Many men in similar situations have overcome this. We see it in our offices everyday. We appreciate your courage to reach out and would direct you to our site erectioniq.com which has additional resources that men have utilized to resolve this issue.
The best thing to do is plan that you will kiss touch etc but not have sex. That way you won't need an erection. Take the pressure off. When you take the perceived pressure off, your erection comes back. So think, no sex, won't need it.
The best thing that has helped me with the overwhelming thoughts that just keep showing up relentlessly. Is to talk to your partner. Make sure she knows you love her. Tell her all your insecurities about what is happening. Being able to talk to the person I love so dearly has helped me out so much. I hope this helps even in the slightest. Remember to breath and tell yourself, I've got this!!💪🏼 Another thing that has really helped me is to go outside and be a man! Go do things that are going to get you distracted and get testosterone flowing again. Your one of a kind and no one can take your spot!!
Coming And Going
Making love or sex can be one of the most beautiful experiences or one of the worst nightmares. I was sexually traumatized in my childhood, when I was six years old. That can be a huge obstacle, but I want to use these words to solve a different problem. One reason why making love or having sex can be one of the worst nightmares is forcing yourself to come and not being able to come. Many men and women feel a lot of pressure. And if they can't come, they think they're failing, and inner self-torture ensues. Some even opt for abstinence or celibacy to not make love or avoid sex with others altogether, just because they can't come. What many don't realize is that the nature of opposites lives in every phenomenon, including making love and sex. When you come, you have to go. We have to come and go. And "have to go" in this context means not coming. We are not failures if we can't come. Making love and sex is not about winning or losing. Learn to appreciate not coming as a truth. Because to supress a truth is to give it force beyond endurance. And remember, as soon as this blockage is no longer a blockage, because you enjoy both coming and going, you can dare to make love or have sex with other people again. And be aware that if you go now, you will come even harder later. So cherish it when you go. You will come so strong because you are going.
Great listen 👏🏼
Can you overthink overthinking?