I would like to think that this song doesn't describe an unhealthy relationship but it describes how one has the capacity to love someone so deeply that the distance and time passed doesn't change that feeling!
Why do we torture ourselves by listening to the haunting lyrics of this song? I scan over the comments and see that some of you still flinch after 15 years, 27 years, maybe more. Well friends, if it lasted that long, you will never get over it. For me it has been a lifetime and no sign of stopping. I have even given her a different name (in my mind) so that I flinch less often. Good luck to all of us "flinchers" and keep loving the music!
I've made great progress in the past year. I could not say her name. I assigned her the name Stephanie as to prevent the flinch. How ridiculous. Through conversations with her daughter and others, I found that it is just fine to consider her a treasured friend that I help out from time to time. By the way, Sharon is such a pretty name and now I am fine with it but it was not easy.
Love Alanis' music, voice and song writing!!! It's not a song but more like a story. And everything about her music, songs and voice is raw, pure, profound and touching! Also one peculiarity about her songs is the ironic style of song writing. Like in this case, "soon I'll grow up and won't even flinch at your name". That's with a hint of irony. Of course in the heart of heart she knows that, that will never happen! And that's the essence of the relationship she is describing.
The creativity and insight of Alanis's songs never ceases to amaze me. She is a person of considerable emotional depth and sensitivity, and it shows through in her songs and lyrics. She has a deep concern with human feelings, needs and pain. She's a truly special and beautiful human being.
Shes so amazing. If I ever get recognized as a musician I look forward to thanking her f ou r being a major positive influence in my discipline and life ❤
Sometimes you have feelings that are so strong its beautiful and so fragile too. Each time you connect they get stronger and never die but still you just can't make things work.
It's really lovely. My favorite line is "but he knows the color of the car I just drove away in". It expresses the fear and the sense of vulnerability exquisitely.
This lyrics... it's like they were written to describe an unhealthy relationship of mine... I say unhealtjy bacause it has been a decade and it still smarts like it was four minutes ago...
For me this song speaks of a woman who encounters the man who assaulted her in her youth. The last line “he knows the colour of the car I just drove away in” says it all. Now he might be able to find me again, it’s really quite terrifying.
That's not the meaning of that line, nor the general idea of the song. This song speaks about an unresolved love. She still has strong feelings for that ex, even after a decade has passed. She still flinches when she thinks of him. "He knows the colour": this "he" is the "well-intentioned man" that told her that the ex had just walked in. She jumped in her car and drove away immediately to avoid meeting the ex, so that is how he (the well-intentioned man) knows the colour of her car.
even if it's not over a decade in my case, it still hurts like it was yesterday. I left her cos I am too young (read "idiot") and afraid to be engaged....but I know I am never gonna forget her....hopefully, soon I'll grow up and I won't even flinch at her name...
An amazing song and so familiar for anyone that's been in love to that extent. It's petrifying to have someone whose very proximity, physically affects you in that way. I'm talking from experience and it's scary stuff. I guess, we underestimate the emotion we call 'love'!
I used to flinch at the thought of a certain ex. But then I met and fell in love with my wife. Now not only do I not flinch, that ex is barely a memory.
Hay, I'm an old dude and I have been "flinching" for several decades but I have known her for 52 years, even longer than I know my loving wife. "Infatuated many times, in love only twice, both times for life." I guess I will be thinking of "Stephanie" for the rest of my life. Is it a blessing or a curse? I'll never figure it out. We are distant friends but nothing more than that. Peace to you, NvD!
Read a bunch of comments and no one mentioned what you dis with they lyrics switching girl with man. It makes zero difference in meaning except to the individual. That tells me many who commented dis not sit and watch your actual video. I just want to let you know that I did and it is perfect for me and I thank you. It is how I hear it and thank you. Not knocking those who didn’t stare at the video like I did. I often comment on videos without staring at every inch. You do like pointing out the universality of her pen. I adore this woman with all I am. Thank you for all of it. Except for air vs. heir. That was a definite oops.
I think this song is about being in love with your dentist but you constantly flinch every time they start to drill? That’s what I’m getting from the lyrics anyway...
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I would like to think that this song doesn't describe an unhealthy relationship but it describes how one has the capacity to love someone so deeply that the distance and time passed doesn't change that feeling!
This song is truly special. Haven't we all at times had feelings for or about somebody, feelings we'd rather not feel.
Why do we torture ourselves by listening to the haunting lyrics of this song? I scan over the comments and see that some of you still flinch after 15 years, 27 years, maybe more. Well friends, if it lasted that long, you will never get over it. For me it has been a lifetime and no sign of stopping. I have even given her a different name (in my mind) so that I flinch less often. Good luck to all of us "flinchers" and keep loving the music!
Good luck, fellow-flincher! :)
I've made great progress in the past year. I could not say her name. I assigned her the name Stephanie as to prevent the flinch. How ridiculous. Through conversations with her daughter and others, I found that it is just fine to consider her a treasured friend that I help out from time to time. By the way, Sharon is such a pretty name and now I am fine with it but it was not easy.
List the names,, Starting with Roberta !
AntsPantshere . Kevin
I was looking for this song today because, as you have said, after all this time I flinched today. Wow, I didn't see that coming.
15 years and still feel the same, and every word feels like it was written for me..thank u Alanis
This incredible song blows my mind. Its so right on for my life and that one that got away.
Over two decades for me :O
Hard to let go of, at times :(
Great song :)
Love Alanis' music, voice and song writing!!! It's not a song but more like a story. And everything about her music, songs and voice is raw, pure, profound and touching! Also one peculiarity about her songs is the ironic style of song writing. Like in this case, "soon I'll grow up and won't even flinch at your name". That's with a hint of irony. Of course in the heart of heart she knows that, that will never happen! And that's the essence of the relationship she is describing.
The creativity and insight of Alanis's songs never ceases to amaze me. She is a person of considerable emotional depth and sensitivity, and it shows through in her songs and lyrics. She has a deep concern with human feelings, needs and pain. She's a truly special and beautiful human being.
Alanis Is Awesome!....So Beautiful!....A Princess Of Songs!....
Shes so amazing. If I ever get recognized as a musician I look forward to thanking her f ou r being a major positive influence in my discipline and life ❤
Sometimes you have feelings that are so strong its beautiful and so fragile too. Each time you connect they get stronger and never die but still you just can't make things work.
This tune is remarkably beautiful ...
It's really lovely. My favorite line is "but he knows the color of the car I just drove away in". It expresses the fear and the sense of vulnerability exquisitely.
Awesome lyrics, as always.
This lyrics... it's like they were written to describe an unhealthy relationship of mine... I say unhealtjy bacause it has been a decade and it still smarts like it was four minutes ago...
I'm back here over a decade later. After I went through the exact same thing and watched this. Yes, I still flinch at her name 😂
For me this song speaks of a woman who encounters the man who assaulted her in her youth. The last line “he knows the colour of the car I just drove away in” says it all. Now he might be able to find me again, it’s really quite terrifying.
That's not the meaning of that line, nor the general idea of the song. This song speaks about an unresolved love. She still has strong feelings for that ex, even after a decade has passed. She still flinches when she thinks of him. "He knows the colour": this "he" is the "well-intentioned man" that told her that the ex had just walked in. She jumped in her car and drove away immediately to avoid meeting the ex, so that is how he (the well-intentioned man) knows the colour of her car.
even if it's not over a decade in my case, it still hurts like it was yesterday. I left her cos I am too young (read "idiot") and afraid to be engaged....but I know I am never gonna forget her....hopefully, soon I'll grow up and I won't even flinch at her name...
An amazing song and so familiar for anyone that's been in love to that extent. It's petrifying to have someone whose very proximity, physically affects you in that way. I'm talking from experience and it's scary stuff. I guess, we underestimate the emotion we call 'love'!
it's been almost 16 years and I still Flinch at his name......
32 years.
I used to flinch at the thought of a certain ex. But then I met and fell in love with my wife. Now not only do I not flinch, that ex is barely a memory.
4:52 the correct lyric is not man, it's "Girl" "How long can a girl be tortured by you"
It's "girl"!! Grrrr
Like, men can't have an expirience like this? :O
Hay, I'm an old dude and I have been "flinching" for several decades but I have known her for 52 years, even longer than I know my loving wife. "Infatuated many times, in love only twice, both times for life." I guess I will be thinking of "Stephanie" for the rest of my life. Is it a blessing or a curse? I'll never figure it out. We are distant friends but nothing more than that. Peace to you, NvD!
No, they're stating the lyrics are incorrect. Not that men can't have reasons to Flinch.
I don't think that's it. I think it can be both. but the fact remains, the lyrics are wrong.
Ainslie Percival Exactly!!
My new anthem. + sigh+
i love it
Read a bunch of comments and no one mentioned what you dis with they lyrics switching girl with man. It makes zero difference in meaning except to the individual. That tells me many who commented dis not sit and watch your actual video. I just want to let you know that I did and it is perfect for me and I thank you. It is how I hear it and thank you. Not knocking those who didn’t stare at the video like I did. I often comment on videos without staring at every inch. You do like pointing out the universality of her pen. I adore this woman with all I am. Thank you for all of it. Except for air vs. heir. That was a definite oops.
(Funny though, how she clearly says "girl" but "man" is written instead XD) Love this song AND this singer
(AND thanks for the lyrics anyway ;))
My dad still makes me flinch sadly
This could be about a relationship or a death
Susan Adkins absolutely yes...
@strangelittlegirl27 I KNOW I KNOW :-)
I think this song is about being in love with your dentist but you constantly flinch every time they start to drill? That’s what I’m getting from the lyrics anyway...
how long can a Girl, not Man ;) peace
Reading some comments here can't believe by guys wow they actually feel?
No, soon YOU'LL grow up and I won't even flinch at your name.
@coliee100 hopefully, the same she does at mine...
Its GIRL
The 'Man' transition is actually quite irritating; got an agenda, have we??