@@kameronkapferer9019 I probably have borderline too (even if i'm not diagnosed yet I think I am), and since I talked to my parents about my destructive behaviors i'm FINALLY making progress, I want to hope that DBT will make it end FOREVER I really can't wait
I was in a DBT program about five years ago or so. I "graduated" and as I like to put it, my Borderline went into remission. Lately, I've been having a difficult time, so I enrolled in a DBT program again. It has helped me immensely. Seriously people, I would look into DBT. If you stick with it, I really think you'll find healing
its definitely a case of trying hard and working with it. we will have relapses, its not a cure. I'm glad you looked into again to help when you started to struggle. E
Any therapy ANY THERAPY can be reverse engineered and self-administered. My favorite self helps are: EMDR, CBT, and aversion therapy. Reinvent them when they’re not available.
I think you're so sweet and lovely. And I want to say it makes me so happy that you don't demonize cluster B individuals as innate abusers beyond help. Empathy and validation go such a long way in changing a BPD individual's negative thought and behavior behavior patterns.
When she says "Distract yourself! Don't do it! Don't give in to the urges!" It makes me laugh and makes me want to actually try, but it never gets through to me when others tell it to me in a serious tone.
I really struggle with...knowing if I'm the problem, or someone else is? Like, I can learn all these things, but when I go to practice them, it just ends up being my fault anyways? It feels like a vicious cycle of self-doubt, and I don't feel like I'll ever get better. Like if I explain something made me feel a certain way, I get accused of "manipulating" them and trying to make them feel bad.
"Like if I explain something made me feel a certain way, I get accused of "manipulating" them and trying to make them feel bad." -- take it from someone who is blessed with good friends and family, but still has depression: FUCK those people. Don't even bother with them. Nobody deserves that. Go to a support group and find new friends or something.
Definitely! I did a bit of it and it helped me a lot. It helped everyone I know that tried it regardless of diagnosis. I think everyone in general should do it to be honest.
I have a binder from treatment that explained what each section meant in DBT and different tools that we can use. In distress tolerance there's also IMPROVE Imagery, meaning, prayer, relaxation, one thing in the moment,mini Vacation and encouragement. For emotion Reg there's opposite action, ABCPlease. Interpersonal effectiveness there's DEARMAN . I got really excited but there's seriously a lot more. I can explain these because of my binder.
Thank you for this. My 16-year-old daughter is starting DBT next week. I plan to show this video to the rest of my family so that we can all understand what DBT is and so we can support her in her DBT journey!
Basically what happened in my last appointment ! My psychologist got burnt out , and she explained me a therapy how it worked ! Really good I found Kati's video about DBT ! Really helpful to understand where I stand and the intentions of my therapist !
I'm a nursing student and I'd love to say a big thanks for all these videos ! It's made studying for my mental health exam a lot easier and your videos have definitely broadened my knowledge. :)
My psychiatrist is gonna have me start DBT but I don't want to do group therapy. I don't want to be around people. I don't feel like meeting new people. I actually enjoy always being alone. I also do not want homework. I don't feel like I would have the energy to do it unless it was to binge watch Netflix after work.
I understand about not wanting to be in a group especially if you work, going to work 8 hours is enough of being around people, but you should not always want to be alone, its not healthy and homework makes you remember. I do church classes and we are reading a book and it helps me remember the principals of the book and my religion.
I get that sometimes the treatments sound like a drag or even impossible (I was the same with my OCD and ERP) but if you truly want to improve your life you have to try these and give it your best attempt, even if it makes you uncomfortable, because the objetive is for you to be able to feel uncomfortable but still live your life the best way possible
Basically, if you finish therapy successfully you will be able to get out of your comfort zone and live a richer life, and your fears will not be the ones driving you anymore
My therapist wants me to start DBT. I also have no desire to be around people. Marine vet, here. Curious if you did DBT or found something else that helped.
My brother just started this type of therapy and I was curious about what it was. Thank you for doing this video. I just wish more therapists were certified, it took 5 months to find out in the area who could see more patients.
I’m so sorry but that sounds so stupid and pointless. It’s what I need, I know that on some level, but I will have to abandon literally all morality to be able to do it, so I’ll probably become a sociopath like everyone else. I fucking hate that it’s cringe therapy culture nonsense that actually works.
Katy I do not have BPD but I do have Aspergers. My therapist wants me to join a group to learn and practice the modules. I would like more information on how an Aspergers will navigate a DBT group. I am not suicidal or self harming.
I go to DBT once a week for 45 minutes and then CBT once a week for 50 minutes but don’t go to group but my DBT therapist just had a baby so don’t know what I’m gonna do 😭😭😭😭
My psychiatrist recommended DBT but I can't afford the session cost alongside the cost of regular psychologist visits. These videos are very helpful in determining whether this could at least be something I could work on with friends & family for now. Also, your example at @5:15 was so on the nose, you have no idea. Thank you for this! 💙
Im having DBT therapy but all she does is ask me wots happening and i tell her same thing every week but it ends there. She never picks out anything relevant or give me any homework. Its not helping really.
DBT is my life jacket! Literally. Saved me from drowning in a sea of overwhelm, depression, embarrassment N everything else while going thru a messy, hurtful separation & child custody war. My therapist recommend to take the 4 modules twice to better grasp N understand it. 2nd time I fully absorb DBTs benefits. Teflon Mind was a huge help to begin. (mind was to clogged for mindfulness) Radical acceptances was a huge part of my healing, by right, Radical Acceptance could have its own module! Was hesitant about going to group -'w/people'.... But, the group part turned out to be great because you learn from others questions as well. DBT helped me cope then later to survive. It is a lot of work but worth it! I felt sad(2nd x around) when someone would just drop group.
Your videos are very informative and I really like watching them. I would point out at something that soothes me a lot while watching you speaking which is you always use the pronoun "we" which I find so compassionate and accepting as if you are so close to us in a way that you really understand what we go through. Thank you so much for those videos and keep up the good work.
Im already very mindful i wonder if thats why i am not getting anything new or she duznt say anything to me. I have ptsd not borderline but i hiped to get help with trauma iv been throo but not.
after a year of bouncing in and out of hospitals I ended up at a residential treatment center focused entirely on DBT and co-occuring disorders. it was the best thing ive ever done
If I could, I would also like to recommend a book! I am currently reading, "The buddah, and the Borderline". It is about a woman with BPD and her experience with DBT. I am about half way through it and I love it! I feel it is helping me a lot, as well as honestly making me feel like, "Holy crap! There really are people out there like me!" Even if you do not have Borderline Personality it is a good read, you can learn about DBT Therapy as well as you may have certain BPD qualities. Hugs to all xo
Hi, i just got diagnosed with psychotic depression and noticed that there's not as much info about it online compared to other mental illnesses. I'm wondering if you could do a video about it? I'd appreciate it :).
Do you think it will help if I am a quiet BPD and I do communicate to my loved ones how I feel and I am self aware and take a outlook and be rational? I do struggle so bad though with emotions and thoughts and feelings. I love your videos and I do see a psychiatrist, Counciler and take meds for the anxiety and depression.
The bit about interpersonal effectiveness is actively unhelpful. When I do that, people tend to say "don't try to shrink talk your way out of this" whereas yelling gets me some level of respecting for being honest and standing up for myself. Contrary to popular belief, people actually hate it when you use the "starting your sentences with I" strategy.
I'm about to start this journey and I'm nervous I hate groups I hate making me vulnerable in front of others and I'm scared I'll fail as this is my last chance
Hey, I'm in a DBT group here in Tampa, Florida and it's pretty helpful. We do have a workbook and the four modules..We started with mindfulness and to learn how to look at facts without judging...This is much harder than it looks.
I went to your website and couldn't find the DBT workbook you mentioned. I am highly interested in learning MUCH more about DBT and working on myself and my BPD. I feel happiest when I am doing homework because it feels like I'm actively getting better and doing good for myself.
I was an inpatient on a ward for a year that specialized with BPD and their main therapy was DBT. It was 2 rounds of the DBT which lasted 6 months each. That was back in 2017.... Since then I have not had any hospital admissions.... It Works if you work hard enough for it. E
Thank you for the vid. Also, excellent "linkage" to CBT in the emotional regulation pillar of DBT. You seem to be a good instructor. I love doing group therapy as well as individual. My steps are to do about 3 to 4 weeks didactic, teaching the group members about the topic, lets say 'shame and guilt' as well as the therapeutic modality(s) we are all going to use. Then switch to a process type group where we utilize what we learned about the topic using the modality we also learned. It is during the process that I would incorporate individual sessions as well. I am only 13 years in recovery and 10 years working in this field. Is there a better way to go about the group process than the one that I exampled? Again, thank you for the information and the video.
DBT has really challenged my thoughts as an individual with BPD. I'm grateful that my therapist introduced me to it and I think it's going to have a positive long-term effect on my life. I didn't realize that it has Buddhist principles until Kati mentioned it here. Very cool.
Your videos made my psych learning becoming so much easier, especially when you're going through all those jargons. Thanks for all your effort. Just subscribed to your channel :)
Perhaps mindfulness but as BPD is a condition where you feel everything intensely and have a lot of guilt and empathy, perhaps less so and researching DBT I’ve not heard it crop up but everyone is different and some parts may help her
This is so helpful. I was just recently diagnosed with BPD, and I want to find out more about DBT Therapy. Please do more videos on DBT therapy. It sounds quite intriguing. I want to get the workbook (and I probably will) but it all seems a little intimidating right now, so your videos are a great start for me to easily learn some of the concepts before diving in! By the way, I love your videos! You are a great communicator and are able to make heavy topics seem not-so-heavy. I love that you intersperse humour with solid teaching so that it is easier to receive and learn. Also, thank you for making mental health issues seem not so 'crazy'. You talk about them - and solutions to them - in a matter of fact way, so I end up feeling ok about my struggles with mental health issues. Thanks!
I got referred to a DBT program, and the biggest thing that really upsets me about it is the fact that I have to see the program's therapist instead of the therapist I just started seeing, and what really bugs me about that is that I've been in "by the book" therapy off and on since I was 6, and when I started seeing this therapist, she actually seemed open minded enough to take me seriously when I said, "Hey, the by the book shit doesn't work - let's experiment with something else!" Now I feel like I'm taking a step backward and am going to wind up with, "Okay, now you're just going to have to do what we tell you" again, even though that didn't help me in the past.
Thank you, thank you, thank you for putting out these videos for all of us out here in need of a bit of assistance and don't really feel we can afford therapy. I am thinking that this bit of information is going to help me so much when I am feeling so overwhelmed and then I respond with such emotions of tears and heavy crying. I don't want to get to that point again in front of my adult children and friends. I am hoping this is going to be something that I can do to help me in the future. I would love to have the therapy because I know that I have to have some issues coming out of a home with a mother that had bipolar disorder and maybe she also had BPD. I am so sorry that I never learned for certain what my mother suffered from, but I am now 59 years old and I really know that the family of siblings is suffering and has been for years. It appears that I am the only one that has really been able to admit this and I removed myself from the family off and on all my life. I just knew that it wasn't healthy for me and it was also very painful to neglect my family at the same time. I struggled quietly all my life and now worry that I too, have passed this down to my own children that are all grown now and successful wonderful people. I often had so much pushed down pain and allowed abuse from my sibling for years on and off because I didn't allow myself to become fully aware of my part in the abuse by accepting it. I just tried to stay away with a constant pull at my heart of wanting to have a family and maybe it would be possible and then I would try again and end up with the same results. Not able to have a family. No contact now for good if I am strong enough to do it. So very sad to me, but I must work on myself and try to do better now for myself and my own family. Healing needs to take place. Thank you so much for being a positive face on the internet reaching out to so many of us. It is so appreciated.
I am doing my master in counseling due to lack of Spanish speaker counselors for the LGBT community, and due to HIV diagnosis and trauma. So your videos help me a lot to help them.
I need if I can examples of what 2 looks like. I keep quitting therapy all the time; I suspect I completely misunderstand the therapist all time, but irregardless I feel hurt by therapist ‘s actions so often (BECAUSE IT FEELS LIKE I’M JUST SUPPOSED TO KNOW WHAT THEY WANT fm ME; THERE’s NEVER ANY EXPLANATION w IT) that I just give up. I know I need therapy terribly badly, but I feel therapist’s tell you I’m going to do DBT techniques. Then next thing you know, in actuality, they’re doing things that you say hurt your feelings, and, (it feels like) the therapist is dismissing whatever your complaint about what your awareness is. I don’t get it. I cannot learn this way. I had a really, really, traumatic childhood, and all I want is to be slowly healed. If I have someone mess w my head, I cannot survive. :(
For any of those who have joined the channel membership!!! : Is it worth it for the journal prompts? Im not in the best financial state but I cOULD afford it if I really wanted. I just know hat I sometimes forget ab things and I get busy even if I plan things myself. So I worry that if I spend 5 bucks a month that it’ll be 5 bucks wasted if I don’t do it. But. I can cancel anytime so I guess I might as well give it a try, right?
#KATIFAQ Hi Kati :) I struggle now almost one year with self-harm and i haven't got any therapy now. Also my mode is up and down the whole time. In the morning I'm so so happy and then often in school I fell really depressed and this switches the whole day. At night it's almost the worst time of the day. is this like "normal" or should I get help from an therapist? I have never been by a therapist so I'm a kind of nervous and also afraid and sorry for my english and thanks for your response :)
This sounds amazing! I've been in CBT therapy for years and I am always discouraged because they wasn't me to talk about my current issues instead of working on my treatment plan, which NEVER gets done! So, therefore, in my option, it's just a money racket!!!! I will definitely look into DBT I'm my area! Thank you so much!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Kc Cassidy i currently cannot afford therapy and I need to be treated with DBT. So I am reading dbt handbooks instead used to teach psychologists on how to treat people. But instead I educate myself and treat myself! It’s been hard but I’m super motivated and determined x
What is dbt? dbt is a SQL-first transformation workflow that lets teams quickly and collaboratively deploy analytics code following software engineering best practices like modularity, portability, CI/CD, and documentation.
I would appreciate your opinion on which therapy(ies) you would suggest is/are best at tackling OCD to give the best chance of recovery? I have contamination-based OCD and in UK we would generally be recommended CBT, possibly combined with Exposure therapy. Also wondering if DBT would be beneficial (although not keen on joining any groups)? Also would be interested in your thoughts on REBT (Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy) please Kati and it's usefulness with OCD. Are there any other therapies & tips I may find helpful? Thank you for these videos, it is so great that you are taking the time to record them and help people like myself. I wish therapy was as advanced and easily accessible in the UK as it apparently is in the US. A very willing and grateful subscriber here who would be interested to learn more on all therapies available for OCD. Very best wishes. xx
Thanks. I think I have BPD, and I’m excited that this modality of therapy can change my life. I’m committed and hopeful for change. I want a better life for myself - love, stability, and peace.
Good video, Kati! I'm subscribing👍 Notes of mine: 📝 ·"DBT therapy is made up of two parts....[one of those parts] has four modules" ·2:50 "Mindfulness: the 'foundation of DBT therapy" ·4:50-5:41 Interpersonal Effectiveness ° "How to assert yourself while at the same time not being aggressive" ° "This [module] teaches us how to better communicate"
I'm using The Expanded Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Training Manual: Practical DBT for Self-Help, and Individual and Group Treatment Settings by Lane Pederson. I really like it.
Do you have a video where you explain what CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) is? Is only DBT beneficial for people with Borderline or is CBT also helpful? I'm not sure if aspects of CBT is a part of DBT or not. I have had DBT over the years and it's not essy finding someone with BPD, especially due to the stigma of mental illness, and more specifically, geared towards BPD. Thanks for reading this and hope you or anyone else can help!
Hey Kati, you cheered for the Huskies? Are you from washington?? I saw your practice is California based. I only ask because if you had other therapist friends in WA i'd love a referral. ^_^
I've been thinking that it seems to me that one of the main culprits we face nowadays is a direct result of a lack of emotional education. Unless we are somehow impaired or have an illness that specifically affects reaction, we can control our actions. Yes, we might feel enraged, but we need not react with anger. Yes, we might feel disappointed, hurt, betrayed, but we need not react with violence. I believe that if more people (and DEFINITELY men in particular) would be aware of their emotional needs and their regulation, we would see less abuse, violence and harrassment. Yeah, I'm not perfect and have not always reacted to the best of my abilities, but I am very aware now of the power to change your outcomes with a shift in thoughts. One of the most valuable things I've learned through DBT therapy is that thoughts aren't facts. When we react to thoughts and assume them as facts, we often engage in a mind-*#@ng cycle that is deeply hurtful. I wish everyone could receive emotional education, regardless of their age, gender or any other factor often used to diminish responsibility. I'll be happy to share what I've learned with anyone that is interested. If you have been someone to shout at wait staff, exert violence in any way towards others, blame and pass responsibility, justify your actions with emotional overwhelming, know that nothing justifies it. It is ON YOU. You can have a better life. It's worked for me because I worked it! Yes it sounds familiar right? Try it if you can.
@@IndigoCosmic I did an intensive DBT group therapy and thanks to that I started paying attention to my reactions and my responses, as well as taking responsibility. I basically live every day trying to practice these DBT skills until it becomes an everyday thing. I highly recommend looking into the group sessions if available in your area!
I've been going to therapy for awhile now, but she is a therapist not a psychiatrist so I am waiting to see one. She has theories about me that she isn't ready to share yet, but sometimes I think maybe, bi-polar, maybe border-line, avoidant personality, obsessive, etc.... My ex was calling me a liar and saying that borderlines are liars and I realised that he thought I was lying about potentionally becoming homeless. But I wasn't lying, I told him about how bad my family was but he never cared even when they got violent, so I ended up leaving him and then leaving my family. I was homeless, but only for 12 days. A shelter employee set me up with an old lady landlord and I moved into a nice clean house, basement room for 550$/mo where it takes 30 mins to get down town by foot/train. Fuck em all
@Kati Morton what is the DBT workbook called?? I've been on your website a lot but have no idea where the "wigit" is located. Anyone who knows the name of the book she's always referring to please let me know!
Hey Katie, you refer to a CBT, mindfullness and borderline disorder video and say you can click the link, but the link isn't working anymore. Just so you know
Your vids are the best Kati!!! xoxo I have BPD and DBT has been so helpful. It is A LOT of work but it really is worth it! Sometimes in the beginning it doesn't feel like it changes anything but keep practising the skills cause it really does change things.
Hi Kati, could you talk more about different types of therapy for different disorders? I've been wondering because im going into therapy for my depression, anxiety, SH and ED
I hope dbt can help because I’m destroying my own life. I’m trying my hardest but it’s so so hard. I’m hurting people I love and the guilt just kills me. I feel like a prisoner in my own mind. Bpd sucks
I can't gay VT class twice and I helped me a little bit but I didn't quite understand it and willing to learn again I'm struggling West family and friends right now I was wondering if you can do something on relationships I have struggles with my boyfriend cuz I have borderline personality disorder and other things but we won't go into that tell us if you have any questions please contact me
I love your videos, Kati! I sometimes feel like my psychologist doesn't really get me (I guess that's also because I'm not the best at communicating) and your videos are really helpful and you seem so sweet and caring.
What about when clients dismiss it? They tried and dismissed it. Don't even want to hear about mindfulness. I believe DBT to be currently the most realistic approach but the response is terrible.
Hello Kati, Thank you for doing these videos. This is the first video I have seen from you, and I feel it is a helpful step in the direction I'm going to understanding my girlfriend's DBT. She and I just had a long conversation about committing to each other, and I really want to get a clear understanding of the challenges that she will face as well as what challenges our relationship will also face. Do you have any good references I may be able to look into?
I took DBT for about 3 yrs. it was the best thing for me. I was in and out of hosp for many years. Since taking DBT I haven't been in the hospital.
SmartMarxMan that’s amazing!!😁😁
Cognitive behaviour therapy
Mental health
@SmartMarxman is it expensive? I have Borderline personality disorder.. I don't know how to make my life any better but I want to try any advice?
@@kameronkapferer9019 I probably have borderline too (even if i'm not diagnosed yet I think I am), and since I talked to my parents about my destructive behaviors i'm FINALLY making progress, I want to hope that DBT will make it end FOREVER I really can't wait
*4 modules - DBT*
1- mindfulness
2- distress tolerance (Accepts- activities, contributes)
3- Emotion regulation
4- Interpersonal effectiveness (teaches how to talk, converse nicely)
thanks for existing
no prob, bub
The same goes to you 😀😁
Your meditating frog in the background is AWESOME!!!
It looks like Kermit practicing mindfulness :D
Pier 1 Imports sold it years ago. Must be where she bought the frog.
I keep thinking her jewelry is an avocado.
It surely is
Golden Avocado was a great band
I cant unseen that now
I was in a DBT program about five years ago or so. I "graduated" and as I like to put it, my Borderline went into remission. Lately, I've been having a difficult time, so I enrolled in a DBT program again. It has helped me immensely. Seriously people, I would look into DBT. If you stick with it, I really think you'll find healing
its definitely a case of trying hard and working with it. we will have relapses, its not a cure. I'm glad you looked into again to help when you started to struggle. E
DBT saved my life. I made lifelong friends with my group and I’ll be forever thankful that Seattle Children’s opened their arms to me.
Hard living in an area that doesn't offer DBT. Makes people, like myself, feel ultimately discouraged.
Try doing it on your own until u can get the help u need, it sucks that it isn't more available : (
Any therapy ANY THERAPY can be reverse engineered and self-administered.
My favorite self helps are: EMDR, CBT, and aversion therapy. Reinvent them when they’re not available.
Online?
I think you're so sweet and lovely. And I want to say it makes me so happy that you don't demonize cluster B individuals as innate abusers beyond help. Empathy and validation go such a long way in changing a BPD individual's negative thought and behavior behavior patterns.
This
DBT saved my life hands down.
When she says "Distract yourself! Don't do it! Don't give in to the urges!" It makes me laugh and makes me want to actually try, but it never gets through to me when others tell it to me in a serious tone.
I like what Cbt said,"Stay focused. Don't defeat yourself."
I really struggle with...knowing if I'm the problem, or someone else is? Like, I can learn all these things, but when I go to practice them, it just ends up being my fault anyways? It feels like a vicious cycle of self-doubt, and I don't feel like I'll ever get better.
Like if I explain something made me feel a certain way, I get accused of "manipulating" them and trying to make them feel bad.
Jonel B i hope she answers this. I'm struggling with the same feelings
"Like if I explain something made me feel a certain way, I get accused of "manipulating" them and trying to make them feel bad."
-- take it from someone who is blessed with good friends and family, but still has depression: FUCK those people. Don't even bother with them. Nobody deserves that. Go to a support group and find new friends or something.
That's what happens with BPD. I too face the same problem.
DBT was invented precisely for people like us who think we are the problem. Your concerns are explicitly taken into account in DBT sessions.
I'm like that too. I find it very hard to trust myself on anything.
Kati, please keep uploading videos on the 4 modules of DBT (I know this one's a lil old). Especially, distress tolerance. Thanks!
I would like a video on Distress tollerence and Emotional regulation .
Thanks.
I did DBT with my therapist a few years ago, it helped A LOT with my PTSD.
Haha heads up guys DBT is really fucking hard but if you can get onto a good DBT course it is the most worthwhile thing ever.
Definitely! I did a bit of it and it helped me a lot. It helped everyone I know that tried it regardless of diagnosis. I think everyone in general should do it to be honest.
I have a binder from treatment that explained what each section meant in DBT and different tools that we can use. In distress tolerance there's also IMPROVE Imagery, meaning, prayer, relaxation, one thing in the moment,mini Vacation and encouragement. For emotion Reg there's opposite action, ABCPlease. Interpersonal effectiveness there's DEARMAN . I got really excited but there's seriously a lot more. I can explain these because of my binder.
*You're worth it*
thanks, you are too
It's so hard to get this therapy in the UK. And I'm struggling so much. I sleep all day everyday
You can buy a dbt workbook from Amazon xxx it’s about £15 x
Thank you for this. My 16-year-old daughter is starting DBT next week. I plan to show this video to the rest of my family so that we can all understand what DBT is and so we can support her in her DBT journey!
Wow you're great mother hope she's doing well
It doesn’t work but good luck. Hopefully you’re not forcing her to do it
Basically what happened in my last appointment ! My psychologist got burnt out , and she explained me a therapy how it worked ! Really good I found Kati's video about DBT ! Really helpful to understand where I stand and the intentions of my therapist !
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Joe Rogan: "But have you ever tried DMT?"
I'm a nursing student and I'd love to say a big thanks for all these videos ! It's made studying for my mental health exam a lot easier and your videos have definitely broadened my knowledge. :)
Is there any way to do DBT but NOT in a group setting? I get really uncomfortable in group therapy and it's just not been helpful for me at all.
My psychiatrist is gonna have me start DBT but I don't want to do group therapy. I don't want to be around people. I don't feel like meeting new people. I actually enjoy always being alone. I also do not want homework. I don't feel like I would have the energy to do it unless it was to binge watch Netflix after work.
I understand about not wanting to be in a group especially if you work, going to work 8 hours is enough of being around people, but you should not always want to be alone, its not healthy and homework makes you remember. I do church classes and we are reading a book and it helps me remember the principals of the book and my religion.
I get that sometimes the treatments sound like a drag or even impossible (I was the same with my OCD and ERP) but if you truly want to improve your life you have to try these and give it your best attempt, even if it makes you uncomfortable, because the objetive is for you to be able to feel uncomfortable but still live your life the best way possible
Basically, if you finish therapy successfully you will be able to get out of your comfort zone and live a richer life, and your fears will not be the ones driving you anymore
My therapist wants me to start DBT. I also have no desire to be around people. Marine vet, here. Curious if you did DBT or found something else that helped.
Christopher Biery it is worth it, really hard and a lot of work. Did you try it?
My brother just started this type of therapy and I was curious about what it was. Thank you for doing this video. I just wish more therapists were certified, it took 5 months to find out in the area who could see more patients.
I’m so sorry but that sounds so stupid and pointless. It’s what I need, I know that on some level, but I will have to abandon literally all morality to be able to do it, so I’ll probably become a sociopath like everyone else. I fucking hate that it’s cringe therapy culture nonsense that actually works.
Huh?
Katy I do not have BPD but I do have Aspergers. My therapist wants me to join a group to learn and practice the modules. I would like more information on how an Aspergers will navigate a DBT group. I am not suicidal or self harming.
I go to DBT once a week for 45 minutes and then CBT once a week for 50 minutes but don’t go to group but my DBT therapist just had a baby so don’t know what I’m gonna do 😭😭😭😭
My psychiatrist recommended DBT but I can't afford the session cost alongside the cost of regular psychologist visits. These videos are very helpful in determining whether this could at least be something I could work on with friends & family for now. Also, your example at @5:15 was so on the nose, you have no idea. Thank you for this! 💙
Im having DBT therapy but all she does is ask me wots happening and i tell her same thing every week but it ends there. She never picks out anything relevant or give me any homework. Its not helping really.
DBT is my life jacket! Literally. Saved me from drowning in a sea of overwhelm, depression, embarrassment N everything else while going thru a messy, hurtful separation & child custody war. My therapist recommend to take the 4 modules twice to better grasp N understand it. 2nd time I fully absorb DBTs benefits. Teflon Mind was a huge help to begin. (mind was to clogged for mindfulness) Radical acceptances was a huge part of my healing, by right, Radical Acceptance could have its own module! Was hesitant about going to group -'w/people'.... But, the group part turned out to be great because you learn from others questions as well. DBT helped me cope then later to survive. It is a lot of work but worth it! I felt sad(2nd x around) when someone would just drop group.
It's great to see that your videos have inspired and informed so many people. And your compassionate attitude helps reduce the stigma.
Do you know where can i find the workbook she talked about?
Your videos are very informative and I really like watching them. I would point out at something that soothes me a lot while watching you speaking which is you always use the pronoun "we" which I find so compassionate and accepting as if you are so close to us in a way that you really understand what we go through. Thank you so much for those videos and keep up the good work.
Im already very mindful i wonder if thats why i am not getting anything new or she duznt say anything to me. I have ptsd not borderline but i hiped to get help with trauma iv been throo but not.
I love you Kati Morton all of your videos are helping me study for the LCSW.
after a year of bouncing in and out of hospitals I ended up at a residential treatment center focused entirely on DBT and co-occuring disorders. it was the best thing ive ever done
Just started DBT and already finding it so helpful
If I could, I would also like to recommend a book! I am currently reading, "The buddah, and the Borderline". It is about a woman with BPD and her experience with DBT. I am about half way through it and I love it! I feel it is helping me a lot, as well as honestly making me feel like, "Holy crap! There really are people out there like me!" Even if you do not have Borderline Personality it is a good read, you can learn about DBT Therapy as well as you may have certain BPD qualities. Hugs to all xo
Does anyone know which book she is talking about? Her website updated and I just now found all this out.
Hi, i just got diagnosed with psychotic depression and noticed that there's not as much info about it online compared to other mental illnesses. I'm wondering if you could do a video about it? I'd appreciate it :).
Do you think it will help if I am a quiet BPD and I do communicate to my loved ones how I feel and I am self aware and take a outlook and be rational? I do struggle so bad though with emotions and thoughts and feelings. I love your videos and I do see a psychiatrist, Counciler and take meds for the anxiety and depression.
You give me hope. Thank you
The bit about interpersonal effectiveness is actively unhelpful. When I do that, people tend to say "don't try to shrink talk your way out of this" whereas yelling gets me some level of respecting for being honest and standing up for myself. Contrary to popular belief, people actually hate it when you use the "starting your sentences with I" strategy.
I'm about to start this journey and I'm nervous I hate groups I hate making me vulnerable in front of others and I'm scared I'll fail as this is my last chance
No wonder y'all burn out.
People are now untrustworthy and that alone is root to depression and that is borderline pd.
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Hey, I'm in a DBT group here in Tampa, Florida and it's pretty helpful. We do have a workbook and the four modules..We started with mindfulness and to learn how to look at facts without judging...This is much harder than it looks.
where is this group ?
hi I am tampa too. is this a meet up group? how do you join it. I'd really appreciate it if you could tell me. thanks.
I know this comment is old but how do i find a group like this? I'm in the tampa area too.
I went to your website and couldn't find the DBT workbook you mentioned. I am highly interested in learning MUCH more about DBT and working on myself and my BPD. I feel happiest when I am doing homework because it feels like I'm actively getting better and doing good for myself.
I was an inpatient on a ward for a year that specialized with BPD and their main therapy was DBT. It was 2 rounds of the DBT which lasted 6 months each. That was back in 2017.... Since then I have not had any hospital admissions.... It Works if you work hard enough for it. E
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Thank you for the vid. Also, excellent "linkage" to CBT in the emotional regulation pillar of DBT. You seem to be a good instructor. I love doing group therapy as well as individual. My steps are to do about 3 to 4 weeks didactic, teaching the group members about the topic, lets say 'shame and guilt' as well as the therapeutic modality(s) we are all going to use. Then switch to a process type group where we utilize what we learned about the topic using the modality we also learned. It is during the process that I would incorporate individual sessions as well. I am only 13 years in recovery and 10 years working in this field. Is there a better way to go about the group process than the one that I exampled? Again, thank you for the information and the video.
Id love u to talk more about distress tolerance cause I personally have lots of trouble with it. Thanks Kati for keeping this up! 3
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DBT has really challenged my thoughts as an individual with BPD. I'm grateful that my therapist introduced me to it and I think it's going to have a positive long-term effect on my life. I didn't realize that it has Buddhist principles until Kati mentioned it here. Very cool.
Your videos made my psych learning becoming so much easier, especially when you're going through all those jargons. Thanks for all your effort. Just subscribed to your channel :)
My wife has antisocial personality disorder. Would this help with her empathy and mindfulness? That is kinda the opposite of borderline so maybe not
Perhaps mindfulness but as BPD is a condition where you feel everything intensely and have a lot of guilt and empathy, perhaps less so and researching DBT I’ve not heard it crop up but everyone is different and some parts may help her
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Is a dbt workbook something that can be worked through alone? For those where there is no access to therapy or a group?
Hi I take DBT via Microsoft through Peace Health in Eugene, Oregon with 2 therapists and a group. Try your local hospital 🙏🏾.
Distress tolerence in a small town is so different from distress tolerance in a city. or is that just a "cop out"?
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This is so helpful. I was just recently diagnosed with BPD, and I want to find out more about DBT Therapy. Please do more videos on DBT therapy. It sounds quite intriguing. I want to get the workbook (and I probably will) but it all seems a little intimidating right now, so your videos are a great start for me to easily learn some of the concepts before diving in!
By the way, I love your videos! You are a great communicator and are able to make heavy topics seem not-so-heavy. I love that you intersperse humour with solid teaching so that it is easier to receive and learn. Also, thank you for making mental health issues seem not so 'crazy'. You talk about them - and solutions to them - in a matter of fact way, so I end up feeling ok about my struggles with mental health issues. Thanks!
I got referred to a DBT program, and the biggest thing that really upsets me about it is the fact that I have to see the program's therapist instead of the therapist I just started seeing, and what really bugs me about that is that I've been in "by the book" therapy off and on since I was 6, and when I started seeing this therapist, she actually seemed open minded enough to take me seriously when I said, "Hey, the by the book shit doesn't work - let's experiment with something else!" Now I feel like I'm taking a step backward and am going to wind up with, "Okay, now you're just going to have to do what we tell you" again, even though that didn't help me in the past.
I can't wait to start. As long as I know I'm doing something to help myself I can keep my head above the water. Plus a challenge is always nice
Is anyone else struggling to find her "workbook." I would love to try DBT, but I can barely fit therapy in my schedule.
Thanks for the video :) Personally I'd like to hear more about distress tolerance and the accepts. That's my vote anyway.
Thank you, thank you, thank you for putting out these videos for all of us out here in need of a bit of assistance and don't really feel we can afford therapy. I am thinking that this bit of information is going to help me so much when I am feeling so overwhelmed and then I respond with such emotions of tears and heavy crying. I don't want to get to that point again in front of my adult children and friends. I am hoping this is going to be something that I can do to help me in the future. I would love to have the therapy because I know that I have to have some issues coming out of a home with a mother that had bipolar disorder and maybe she also had BPD. I am so sorry that I never learned for certain what my mother suffered from, but I am now 59 years old and I really know that the family of siblings is suffering and has been for years. It appears that I am the only one that has really been able to admit this and I removed myself from the family off and on all my life. I just knew that it wasn't healthy for me and it was also very painful to neglect my family at the same time. I struggled quietly all my life and now worry that I too, have passed this down to my own children that are all grown now and successful wonderful people. I often had so much pushed down pain and allowed abuse from my sibling for years on and off because I didn't allow myself to become fully aware of my part in the abuse by accepting it. I just tried to stay away with a constant pull at my heart of wanting to have a family and maybe it would be possible and then I would try again and end up with the same results. Not able to have a family. No contact now for good if I am strong enough to do it. So very sad to me, but I must work on myself and try to do better now for myself and my own family. Healing needs to take place. Thank you so much for being a positive face on the internet reaching out to so many of us. It is so appreciated.
I am doing my master in counseling due to lack of Spanish speaker counselors for the LGBT community, and due to HIV diagnosis and trauma. So your videos help me a lot to help them.
what about EMDR therapy? Would you say its successful in helping people with BPD and CPTSD?
I need if I can examples of what 2 looks like. I keep quitting therapy all the time; I suspect I completely misunderstand the therapist all time, but irregardless I feel hurt by therapist ‘s actions so often (BECAUSE IT FEELS LIKE I’M JUST SUPPOSED TO KNOW WHAT THEY WANT fm ME; THERE’s NEVER ANY EXPLANATION w IT) that I just give up. I know I need therapy terribly badly, but I feel therapist’s tell you I’m going to do DBT techniques. Then next thing you know, in actuality, they’re doing things that you say hurt your feelings, and, (it feels like) the therapist is dismissing whatever your complaint about what your awareness is.
I don’t get it. I cannot learn this way. I had a really, really, traumatic childhood, and all I want is to be slowly healed. If I have someone mess w my head, I cannot survive. :(
@Jerri Gallagher Clegg 💞💞💞
I burnt out my first therapist.
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Is it worth it for the journal prompts? Im not in the best financial state but I cOULD afford it if I really wanted.
I just know hat I sometimes forget ab things and I get busy even if I plan things myself. So I worry that if I spend 5 bucks a month that it’ll be 5 bucks wasted if I don’t do it.
But. I can cancel anytime so I guess I might as well give it a try, right?
Im currently in dbt best thing i ever did . I love it and my group
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Hi Kati :)
I struggle now almost one year with self-harm and i haven't got any therapy now. Also my mode is up and down the whole time. In the morning I'm so so happy and then often in school I fell really depressed and this switches the whole day. At night it's almost the worst time of the day. is this like "normal" or should I get help from an therapist?
I have never been by a therapist so I'm a kind of nervous and also afraid
and sorry for my english and thanks for your response :)
How are you doing. Hugs
This sounds amazing! I've been in CBT therapy for years and I am always discouraged because they wasn't me to talk about my current issues instead of working on my treatment plan, which NEVER gets done! So, therefore, in my option, it's just a money racket!!!!
I will definitely look into DBT I'm my area! Thank you so much!!! ❤️❤️❤️
What do you do if you can't afford therapy?
Kc Cassidy i currently cannot afford therapy and I need to be treated with DBT. So I am reading dbt handbooks instead used to teach psychologists on how to treat people. But instead I educate myself and treat myself! It’s been hard but I’m super motivated and determined x
What is dbt?
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Great video! Why am I learning about this only now?! Need! Couldn't find the DBT Workbook on your website. Help?
I would appreciate your opinion on which therapy(ies) you would suggest is/are best at tackling OCD to give the best chance of recovery? I have contamination-based OCD and in UK we would generally be recommended CBT, possibly combined with Exposure therapy. Also wondering if DBT would be beneficial (although not keen on joining any groups)? Also would be interested in your thoughts on REBT (Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy) please Kati and it's usefulness with OCD. Are there any other therapies & tips I may find helpful? Thank you for these videos, it is so great that you are taking the time to record them and help people like myself. I wish therapy was as advanced and easily accessible in the UK as it apparently is in the US. A very willing and grateful subscriber here who would be interested to learn more on all therapies available for OCD. Very best wishes. xx
DBT helps in improving Internal Personal Relationship (IPR) Skills
I always feel Like I’m in kindergarten with her and that she trying to teach me how to pronounce words.
Thanks. I think I have BPD, and I’m excited that this modality of therapy can change my life. I’m committed and hopeful for change. I want a better life for myself - love, stability, and peace.
I can’t find workbook that on the website:-(
Emotional regulation❣🔥 is what many people need to learn. My mother is Borderline. Having stable emotions are everything.
Im working on my BSW. Am I doing the wrong thing? Should I be majoring in Psych?
Good video, Kati! I'm subscribing👍
Notes of mine: 📝
·"DBT therapy is made up of two parts....[one of those parts] has four modules"
·2:50 "Mindfulness: the 'foundation of DBT therapy"
·4:50-5:41 Interpersonal Effectiveness
° "How to assert yourself while at the same time not being aggressive"
° "This [module] teaches us how to better communicate"
I can't find the bpd workbook :( someone please help?
I'm using The Expanded Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Training Manual: Practical DBT for Self-Help, and Individual and Group Treatment Settings by Lane Pederson. I really like it.
Do you have a video where you explain what CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) is?
Is only DBT beneficial for people with Borderline or is CBT also helpful?
I'm not sure if aspects of CBT is a part of DBT or not.
I have had DBT over the years and it's not essy finding someone with BPD, especially due to the stigma of mental illness, and more specifically, geared towards BPD.
Thanks for reading this and hope you or anyone else can help!
Hey Kati, you cheered for the Huskies? Are you from washington?? I saw your practice is California based. I only ask because if you had other therapist friends in WA i'd love a referral. ^_^
I've been thinking that it seems to me that one of the main culprits we face nowadays is a direct result of a lack of emotional education.
Unless we are somehow impaired or have an illness that specifically affects reaction, we can control our actions. Yes, we might feel enraged, but we need not react with anger. Yes, we might feel disappointed, hurt, betrayed, but we need not react with violence.
I believe that if more people (and DEFINITELY men in particular) would be aware of their emotional needs and their regulation, we would see less abuse, violence and harrassment.
Yeah, I'm not perfect and have not always reacted to the best of my abilities, but I am very aware now of the power to change your outcomes with a shift in thoughts.
One of the most valuable things I've learned through DBT therapy is that thoughts aren't facts. When we react to thoughts and assume them as facts, we often engage in a mind-*#@ng cycle that is deeply hurtful.
I wish everyone could receive emotional education, regardless of their age, gender or any other factor often used to diminish responsibility.
I'll be happy to share what I've learned with anyone that is interested. If you have been someone to shout at wait staff, exert violence in any way towards others, blame and pass responsibility, justify your actions with emotional overwhelming, know that nothing justifies it. It is ON YOU.
You can have a better life. It's worked for me because I worked it! Yes it sounds familiar right? Try it if you can.
What did you do to gain emotional intelligence?
@@IndigoCosmic I did an intensive DBT group therapy and thanks to that I started paying attention to my reactions and my responses, as well as taking responsibility. I basically live every day trying to practice these DBT skills until it becomes an everyday thing. I highly recommend looking into the group sessions if available in your area!
@@darktoast808 Thank you so much! Absolutely.
I've been going to therapy for awhile now, but she is a therapist not a psychiatrist so I am waiting to see one. She has theories about me that she isn't ready to share yet, but sometimes I think maybe, bi-polar, maybe border-line, avoidant personality, obsessive, etc.... My ex was calling me a liar and saying that borderlines are liars and I realised that he thought I was lying about potentionally becoming homeless. But I wasn't lying, I told him about how bad my family was but he never cared even when they got violent, so I ended up leaving him and then leaving my family. I was homeless, but only for 12 days. A shelter employee set me up with an old lady landlord and I moved into a nice clean house, basement room for 550$/mo where it takes 30 mins to get down town by foot/train. Fuck em all
@Kati Morton what is the DBT workbook called?? I've been on your website a lot but have no idea where the "wigit" is located. Anyone who knows the name of the book she's always referring to please let me know!
Hey Katie, you refer to a CBT, mindfullness and borderline disorder video and say you can click the link, but the link isn't working anymore. Just so you know
Your vids are the best Kati!!! xoxo I have BPD and DBT has been so helpful. It is A LOT of work but it really is worth it! Sometimes in the beginning it doesn't feel like it changes anything but keep practising the skills cause it really does change things.
I'm having trouble "clicking here" to visit the website. How do I search the website? I would love a copy of a DBT workbook.
Hi Kati, could you talk more about different types of therapy for different disorders? I've been wondering because im going into therapy for my depression, anxiety, SH and ED
I hope dbt can help because I’m destroying my own life. I’m trying my hardest but it’s so so hard. I’m hurting people I love and the guilt just kills me. I feel like a prisoner in my own mind. Bpd sucks
Lol I'm a psychology student at university of washington! Thanks for mentioning us!! (:
Hey Kati, I couldn’t find your DBT workbook on your website? Could you possibly send one to me?
I can't gay VT class twice and I helped me a little bit but I didn't quite understand it and willing to learn again I'm struggling West family and friends right now I was wondering if you can do something on relationships I have struggles with my boyfriend cuz I have borderline personality disorder and other things but we won't go into that tell us if you have any questions please contact me
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I love your videos, Kati!
I sometimes feel like my psychologist doesn't really get me (I guess that's also because I'm not the best at communicating) and your videos are really helpful and you seem so sweet and caring.
What about when clients dismiss it? They tried and dismissed it. Don't even want to hear about mindfulness. I believe DBT to be currently the most realistic approach but the response is terrible.
Hello Kati,
Thank you for doing these videos. This is the first video I have seen from you, and I feel it is a helpful step in the direction I'm going to understanding my girlfriend's DBT. She and I just had a long conversation about committing to each other, and I really want to get a clear understanding of the challenges that she will face as well as what challenges our relationship will also face. Do you have any good references I may be able to look into?