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  • Опубліковано 27 тра 2024
  • Happy Friday! Today I’m reacting to the most insane TikToks I’ve come across this week, from a girl who’s apparently doing OnlyFans to honor her dead grandfather to a “mental health professional” who says intentionally losing weight is “fatphobic” in 99.9% of cases.
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    0:00 - Intro
    1:53 - OnlyFans to Honor Late Grandfather?
    8:05 - Losing Weight on Purpose Is Fatphobic 99.9% of the Time?
    18:13 - DENYING Children Puberty Blockers is "Mutilation"?
    28:05 - All White People Are Racist
    39:20 - Female Breadwinner = Red Flag?
    51:58 - Superchats!

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  • @wsgoodie
    @wsgoodie Рік тому +879

    I’m gonna start calling these people who are scared of healthy habits and weight loss as “fit-phobic“

    • @dragonmom8406
      @dragonmom8406 Рік тому +15

      Good one!

    • @graciecat7389
      @graciecat7389 10 місяців тому +7

      🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @jwaddell318
      @jwaddell318 10 місяців тому +33

      That's what we have to do to get them to realize how ignorant they sound.

    • @sun_child101
      @sun_child101 10 місяців тому +25

      When people tell me I'm fatphobic against myself for eating healthy and losing weight, I'm gonna use fit-phobic against them 😂

    • @wyzer9
      @wyzer9 10 місяців тому +9

      Nice. If you listen closely to that particular rant, she even says "they're (those trying to be healthy) are just "tryin' to FIT in". They put their own prejudices with Freudian slips.

  • @XxkeziexX
    @XxkeziexX Рік тому +724

    Ok, so losing weight because you’re not happy with your own body is fat phobic but if you change your body through transitioning, that’s liberating? So many rules 😂

    • @jacobkudrowich
      @jacobkudrowich 10 місяців тому

      By her own logic trans people are just sexist against the gender they were born as

    • @user-bp6wn4qt8b
      @user-bp6wn4qt8b 10 місяців тому +54

      So many contradictions. Also none of the fatphobic stuff applies to men, apparently it’s only women that should be proud of morbid obesity.

    • @Ichthyology-
      @Ichthyology- 10 місяців тому +5

      @@user-bp6wn4qt8b True

    • @intrigued16
      @intrigued16 9 місяців тому

      What's sad is these ppl are not only fat, which ninety-nine percent of the time catches up with you the older you get. You don't see old Pro fat fatty activist rolling around, do you? No, no you don't. But it's sad that thier not only fat, thier willfully ignorant and lying to themselves. Stack those unhealthy behavior on top of being obese and you get death and at the same time bringing other ppl down with um. But maybe it's a good way of thinning out the herd. Lol get it. You see what I did there, always love a good pun. Lol

    • @Bussywater69
      @Bussywater69 8 місяців тому

      I agree with what you’re trying to say but nobody says transitioning is liberating, it’s just a way to treat sex dysphoria lmao.

  • @chiyuki8709
    @chiyuki8709 11 місяців тому +89

    as a woman ive always known that ill never change my last name. my mom was an extremely intelligent woman in her home country, but could not afford college and had to work. she uprooted her life and came to america, where she met my father and was awfully abused by him. when she was pregnant with me, she escaped and gave me her last name when i was born. she struggled to raise me as a single mom, but thanks to her and the disciplined mindset that she instilled in me, ive been able to accomplish a great deal. i attend an ivy league university now, and conduct neuroscience research with one of the best scientists in the field. im on the path to becoming a physician by attaining an MD or MD PhD. i think of my accomplishments as OUR accomplishments, and when i receive my degrees, accolades, publications, or even being address as dr. X, id like to keep my moms last name as an homage to everything that we have accomplished and overcome.
    when i have children, i dont mind giving them my husbands last name or hyphenating. but if someone isnt able to understand my desire to retain my last name, i cant be with them

    • @madic2263
      @madic2263 8 місяців тому +18

      My dad had only my sister & I. When we were young he passed away, since 13yrs old I knew I wanted to go my whole life with my dads last name. I got soo lucky to find a husband who respects, understands & loves that I have my late dads last name & my husbands.
      I hope you find a man that will show the same respect about keeping your mothers last name!

    • @petraflanders4870
      @petraflanders4870 6 місяців тому +9

      that’s a beautiful story, thanks for sharing

    • @pbandjedi5006
      @pbandjedi5006 4 місяці тому +2

      100% agreed. That was one of the biggest red flags (but not the only) I ignored going into my marriage. I asked my fiancé what he would think if I kept my name and he was against it, then I asked what if he changed his name to mine. He said he would call off the marriage and would never do it, he never took even a second to consider it. Looking back that pretty much set the tone of the relationship. It was never a partnership, we were never equals. I will never lose my individuality/accomplishments again.

    • @DumpsterFairy97
      @DumpsterFairy97 3 місяці тому +2

      Your mom must be so proud of you and I can see you're so proud of her. I'm not married so my son that's about to be born in 6 weeks will have both my partners last name and my mothers maiden because my partner is one of 4 boys and I have about 6 men in my family to pass along my last name, but my mom is one of two daughters so it's about to end.

  • @anynimus1617
    @anynimus1617 Рік тому +96

    A woman who has built a strong professional career under her 'maiden' name, or even a career as a artist, author, what have you, will not want to change her name to her husband's. Sometimes it is also a strong attachment to the family name. My mother is often sad that there is no one left of her family name and wishes she'd have kept it. I feel that hyphenating is a sound alternative.

    • @rebeccahicks2392
      @rebeccahicks2392 7 місяців тому +17

      Yeah, and it should also be added that women taking their husband's last name is culture dependent. It's not done in Spain, for instance.

    • @bonusvampirus
      @bonusvampirus 7 місяців тому +7

      I think hyphenating is a sound alternative for the woman, but I generally recommend against hyphenating children’s last names, unless you are from a culture where that’s the common practice. Giving your children hyphenated names just pushes the decision off onto your daughter. If she grows up as Sarah Smith-Jones, is she supposed to become Sarah Smith-Jones-Thompson when she gets married? What if she marries someone who also has a hyphenated last name? They’ll be the Smith-Jones-Thompson-Davis family? Or, more likely, your daughter will have to make the choice you refused to make.
      This is not a problem for Mexicans and other cultures where hyphenating last names is common, because they already have a solution to for this problem: Women drop their mothers’ last names when they get married. But for people from other cultures who make the decision for feminist reasons, I think it just delays the inevitable.
      Still, there’s nothing wrong with Mom having the surname Smith-Jones and the rest of the family just having Jones.

    • @katbones82
      @katbones82 6 місяців тому +4

      my husband took my name and I his, we are one.

    • @RachelDuCote
      @RachelDuCote 2 місяці тому +2

      Very true. My daughter is going to keep her name and her future husband is going to change his last name to hers. She's the last of our family plus her boyfriend hates his abusive family and wants to change his name anyway.

    • @tribalbabymum
      @tribalbabymum 7 днів тому

      I didn't change my signature after 31 years. I use both my married and family names, in Australia, with a marriage certificate, you can use either.

  • @darthvader0107
    @darthvader0107 Рік тому +964

    I have PCOS who is losing weight currently. It will cause uterine cancer unless I lose 50 lbs and go into insulin resistance remission. That woman is 100% wrong.

    • @music0babe707
      @music0babe707 Рік тому +118

      Same! It's not fat phobic to want to be healthy

    • @KidaRosado
      @KidaRosado Рік тому +34

      Uh, you mind me asking how heavy you are? Im pretty heavy myself and probably also have PCOS but wasn’t aware my weight would influence it giving me cancer…

    • @Destinyirus278
      @Destinyirus278 Рік тому +37

      Wow I have endometriosis. Never knew much about PCOS. Thanks for explaining & sharing. I hope things get better for you ❤️🫶🏾

    • @darthvader0107
      @darthvader0107 Рік тому +26

      @@Destinyirus278 thank you! I hope the same for you. Endometriosis is no joke. Peace and blessings to everyone 💜

    • @skeedamacknn
      @skeedamacknn Рік тому +28

      I have PCOS and have been struggling for years . I lost a lot of weight and was able to get pregnant but then I gained it all back.

  • @towpottsfam7631
    @towpottsfam7631 Рік тому +334

    This girl sex working honouring her grandfather is a really good example of how people justify BS and want to virtue signal and have a sob story. Logic is less important.

    • @JustapErson
      @JustapErson Рік тому +17

      So ridiculous. She obviously just wanted to do it but felt bad about it so tries to justify it by... doing it for her grandfather? What an absolute nutter.

    • @naomigreen9749
      @naomigreen9749 11 місяців тому +14

      If she wants to do it then no one's stopping her. But why lie about her motivation to herself?

    • @dookiemane
      @dookiemane 11 місяців тому +16

      more power to her, its her body. but now that she brought up her grandfather in the conversation, she is actively shitting on his legacy. especially if dude was a pastor...

    • @daniellegonzales4223
      @daniellegonzales4223 11 місяців тому +13

      Right? If her grandpa was a minister, he wouldn't approve of this, especially in his name. 😂

    • @naomigreen9749
      @naomigreen9749 11 місяців тому +7

      @@daniellegonzales4223 Right. I probably do things my grandparents don't approve of, I don't have to live under their shadow, I have my own life, but I wouldn't insult their memory by claiming I'm doing it *for* them. My uncle once tried to use something I said in a different context to justify leaving his wife to bunk up with a young woman half his age that he had been flirting with over the internet who he never even met in person, and I was sooo pissed. I was like, "Leave your wife or don't, it's got nothing to do with me, but if you're going to do it, at least own your own decision. Don't put it on me."
      FYI the thing he tried to use to justify it was a blog post I wrote about the importance of acknowledging what your emotions were trying to say. What I meant was about listening to your emotions to help identify needs in your life that you're lacking so you can address those needs. What I didn't mean was to blindly follow your emotions at any given moment. But I guess he was torn about it, read my post, and messages me to tell him about how his post helped him make a decision because he had fallen in love with a girl online. I chewed him out a new one and told him to leave my name out of it, and told him how inappropriate it was to put it on me when I was trying to get through my own parents going through a messy divorce while I was still living at home with both of them.
      In the end he apologised to me and didn't end up leaving his wife. But at least I was still alive to object to my name being used in that way.

  • @frillyunicornpoo2529
    @frillyunicornpoo2529 9 місяців тому +60

    In regards to the fat positivity, I found the community so accepting and caring, which made me accept myself, which then made me feel comfortable about losing weight because it stopped being a vicious style, but then as soon as I lost the weight I became fat phobic, how can people be so hypocritical? I think it's jealousy and control, "you need to stay as you are so that I don't feel bad about being overweight/obese" That's the only thing I can put it down too

    • @1tommyday
      @1tommyday 7 місяців тому +7

      That's exactly what's going on in that arena!
      Well said

    • @katierose4909
      @katierose4909 4 місяці тому +3

      I had lost over 80 pounds at one point. Same thing happened to me. When I was no longer "fat" I was suddenly fat phobic. As if I didn't remember or truly experience life as a fat person. Like what?

    • @ControversyCupcake
      @ControversyCupcake 4 місяці тому

      I lost weight for my mom.

  • @joju24
    @joju24 Рік тому +63

    during the pandemic my hubby and I walked and walked and walked to just get out since everything was closed down, I "accidentally" lost 30 lbs and it's made me feel so much better, there is no doubt this was one of the best things I ever did to keep my body and mind healthy during the craziness

  • @MrBuns-yi2hk
    @MrBuns-yi2hk Рік тому +769

    Saying you are a fat fitness instructor is like saying you are a blind tattoo artist.

    • @karensterton9780
      @karensterton9780 Рік тому +38

      I'd like to see a video of the fat fitness instructor's workout

    • @westofthewicky2960
      @westofthewicky2960 Рік тому +6

      😂😂😂

    • @jayzillawashere
      @jayzillawashere Рік тому +50

      Get off the couch and go to the fridge. Repeat this 5 or so times over the course of the day. Throw in a couple power squats over the toilet and you'll be feeling the burn in no time

    • @alexhb12333
      @alexhb12333 Рік тому +23

      More like a blind eye doctor 😂

    • @sda2093707
      @sda2093707 Рік тому +2

      😂😂😂

  • @XEzomoX
    @XEzomoX Рік тому +257

    Everyone should be fat phobic, being scared of being overweight, diabetic, and having a short lifespan. Should scare anyone

    • @irishcountrygirl78
      @irishcountrygirl78 Рік тому +13

      I'm definitely fat phobic, I'm afraid to be unhealthily for sure.

    • @firebreathingmoonbeam3961
      @firebreathingmoonbeam3961 Рік тому +19

      Nobody should be fatphobic. That's a ridiculous thing to say. People need to use our language correctly. A phobia is an irrational fear of something.

    • @chuglyc
      @chuglyc Рік тому +2

      The most logical and reasonable argument I’ve heard.

    • @sydneyt.-wo4zh
      @sydneyt.-wo4zh 11 місяців тому

      Let’s be honest these people who claim they love being fat is just because they have no desire to actually work out n lose weight!! It’s really just laziness, if u offered any of these people free weight loss surgery I guarantee you they would ALL accept it! Anyone who claims they like being fat is a liar, who would ever want to deal with back pain, knee pain n everything else that comes with being fat.

    • @MaidenHelll
      @MaidenHelll 5 місяців тому +1

      It’s one thing to be overweight, it’s another thing to be promoting being overweight as a personal trainer… promoting and glamorizing unhealthy habits is always wrong

  • @IKillUDarling
    @IKillUDarling Рік тому +29

    I remember dozens of cartoons and shows from the 90s and 2000s that had episodes that taught kids that yes puberty feels scary, but it's normal and everyone feels that way at some point in their teenage years, that these feelings are only momentary and will pass and everyone knows all this to be true.
    When has this shifted to, 'oh you feel weird in your teenage years? Let us get you on artificial hormones and schedule surgery!', like how the hell did we arrive here?

    • @intrigued16
      @intrigued16 11 місяців тому

      Who knows!! But it's got to stop. It's got to be evil weirdos that are doing this so that they can bring everyone around them down, instead of bettering themselves. Ya know, that whole chestnut. It gives them a sense of power. Which is something they have never had and it's clear they don't know how to deal with it.

    • @dirkz.duggitz1567
      @dirkz.duggitz1567 8 місяців тому

      Leftards.

  • @the.chronic.ironic
    @the.chronic.ironic Рік тому +22

    oh man… amala talking about feet pics and then mentioning a digital footprint and not leaning hard into that pun (around 7:45) was a real missed opportunity 😆🦶🏼

    • @j-lew
      @j-lew 5 місяців тому

      🤣🤣🤣 I had the same thought!

  • @CosplaysConsCuisineEtc
    @CosplaysConsCuisineEtc Рік тому +699

    Honestly, I guess you could say I am fatphobic. I watched how miserable my mom was over 300 lbs. I saw myself creeping over a ten year period to 207. I do have genetics against me: under 5 ft, thyroid removed, heart disease and poor cholesterol in my family. I keep working every day to lose weight. Currently I'm around 192. I'll be thrilled to get down to 180. Still overweight but better than before.

    • @deannawanzo7629
      @deannawanzo7629 Рік тому +64

      Congrats on your progress 🎉 🏆

    • @c12013
      @c12013 Рік тому +42

      Good for you for taking charge of your health!

    • @dinosaurwoman
      @dinosaurwoman Рік тому +32

      YOU ROCK! Way to go! I'm so glad you are making those changes. I am a diabetic and getting under 200 lbs was hard, so I understand your struggle. You will get there, though!

    • @Bonnie-or6nj
      @Bonnie-or6nj Рік тому +14

      You're doing great. It's never easy but you've got the right idea.

    • @newbella7
      @newbella7 Рік тому +11

      Woo bloody hoo ❤ that's fantastic, keep up the loss. As a fellow fatty I know how bloody hard it is, and with the added thyroid or lack there of, my hats off to you 🎉

  • @RachelJayne92
    @RachelJayne92 Рік тому +175

    Proud ‘fatphobe’! 🎉
    I’ve lost 30kg+. Everything is in remission, including my multiple sclerosis. My life is 365838273% better.

    • @GingersBrew
      @GingersBrew 11 місяців тому +5

      This is great news!

    • @daniellegonzales4223
      @daniellegonzales4223 11 місяців тому +5

      Working on mine, and I'm no longer pre-diabetic!

    • @RachelJayne92
      @RachelJayne92 11 місяців тому +3

      @@daniellegonzales4223 congratulations! 🎉

    • @veronicavatter6436
      @veronicavatter6436 11 місяців тому +3

      Damn! You go girl!!!

    • @RachelJayne92
      @RachelJayne92 11 місяців тому

      @@veronicavatter6436 thank you! ♥️

  • @deborahcanez430
    @deborahcanez430 Рік тому +18

    So crazy that losing weight is fatphobic- as a severe asthmatic my pulmonologist has advised that I lose 30 pounds as that will help my breathing along with other treatments. So yes I am fatphobic- getting fatter will mean I will breathe even worse. These people are deluded. Thanks for your pointing out this silliness!

  • @leahslifeupdates
    @leahslifeupdates 11 місяців тому +10

    as a young woman who used to be extremely confused during puberty and thought i wanted to be a boy i'm so glad parents are sane human beings who didn't encourage any sort of transition! Also i'm very glad to know that there are still people like you who address the current insanity in our society! Sending much love❤

  • @rmb52031
    @rmb52031 Рік тому +485

    Not allowing your child to take hormone blockers and allowing their body to naturally develop is called parenting… Making the best choice on your child’s behalf because they are not considered mentally/physically developed enough to be called an adult and make adult decisions!

    • @bradyjones8707
      @bradyjones8707 Рік тому

      It's crazy what people do for money, to get rich like taking advantage of kids , mutilating their bodies and giving them drugs that will affect the rest of their life.

    • @JohnJames-kw5de
      @JohnJames-kw5de Рік тому +4

      Exactly

    • @Roll2DaTide
      @Roll2DaTide Рік тому +2

      Well put!

    • @thedemonyouknow
      @thedemonyouknow Рік тому +1

      Yes

    • @sampeacaml9307
      @sampeacaml9307 Рік тому +10

      At worst, just allowing them to wear opposite sex clothes for fun. Sometimes, kids may just wanna experience.

  • @crimsoncurse5975
    @crimsoncurse5975 Рік тому +316

    Dude…it’s not fat phobic to lose weight. There’s not a hidden meaning in loosing weight. Just get healthy. I’ve lost 52 pounds in the last 9 months I gained over Covid and from a job switch. My fibromyalgia is WAY better, my clothes actually fit and I’m m off all but one med. but yeah I must be the crazy one. Just when I think maybe we haven’t lost all our critical thinking skills, there’s…this.

    • @AddyW5432
      @AddyW5432 Рік тому +19

      Same thing for me. I was obese and lost nearly 70lbs. These people are just jealous they don’t have the willpower to do it. And will always come up with some excuse. Its easier for them to put the blame on others then themselves. Congrats on losing weight and becoming healthy!

    • @brookereed7663
      @brookereed7663 Рік тому +5

      How did you guys do it? I've been trying to lose 50 pounds for months!!! I lose 10 pounds and then gain it all back. I work 3rd so that has something to do with it.

    • @AddyW5432
      @AddyW5432 Рік тому +6

      @@brookereed7663 just start it. There’s no better time then now. Don’t worry about it to much. I know for me I would feel really guilty if I ate something bad. Which would cause me to want to eat more. But just know there’s always room for improvement. Personally for me I used MyFitnessPal, but I know thats not for everyone. So like counting calories or macros. Set a certain amount of steps you want to get. ( you said you work third shift, so maybe find a way to squeeze that in, but if its not going to work thats alright). Really figure out if your actually hungry or just thirsty. They don’t seem like it would be that hard to tell the difference, but sometimes for me my body would be dehydrated and I took that feeling as hunger. Also weigh yourself weekly, it really helps to see your progress. If not just see other things, like how you feel, how clothes fit you etc. DO NOT let a set back ruin your progress. If you gain a pound in a week (which most likely isn’t fat) Don’t overthink about It. I know it can make you feel like you have failed. But trust me you haven’t. I wish you the best in your journey. Theres so much more to it. But just the biggest thing is do not worry about it. ❤️

    • @caroleharrison8884
      @caroleharrison8884 Рік тому

      Facts!

    • @kristinasportal
      @kristinasportal Рік тому +6

      I’ve lost around 100 pounds I gained from extreme traumas, anxiety and stress. I’ve been in counseling for a few years and only thing I’ve done as a dietary or lifestyle change is gave up soda. I can’t work out alot due to current damage in feet, ankles, knees, hips and back. 40 years in retail wearing heels but at least I’m working on healing. Losing weight is part of my healing journey. Plus. Um. Cholesterol, diabetes, heart disease. I mean damn. The list is infinite! Wait. A fat personal trainer? Huh!?😂

  • @mallowcherub
    @mallowcherub 11 місяців тому +6

    I so enjoyed the conversation about who is the breadwinner. I grew up with my grandparents born in '29 and '38. My papa made good money and put my grandma into nursing school (after asking what she wanted to do). He was worried about what would happen if something happened to him. They had 5 kids. He worked, she cared for the kids, and went to school. St some point, someone asked him how he would feel if she made more money than him. He responded by saying that they had both worked for her to make money, whether it be more or less than him. He did end up having health issues and going on disability and her being the breadwinner. Neither were upset. He loved helping raise his grandkids and making dinner for his wife. It was teamwork and forethought, and it worked for them and helped make them happy, which is the important thing. My grandma loves her career so much that she still works (in her 80s) ebvem though she doesn't have to.

  • @xMiimie
    @xMiimie Рік тому +9

    My husband and I had a long conversation on what we should do about our last names once we got married. Since we are the only child that can hold onto / pass on our last names as family lines, it was very important for both of us. However, we both come from somewhat broken families where we did not share the same last names as our siblings so it was very important for us as a ‘family’ to have the same last name.
    How we came to the conclusion was his (step)father, after adopting him and adopting his name has been nothing but supportive and in his life. Where as my father had no input or contribution to my upbringing. His closeness to his father was something I wanted to honor since my own father did not make that kind of effort in my own life.

  • @benikels966
    @benikels966 Рік тому +132

    She’s not doing it for honor of her grand father she’s finding a way to justify her actions to make it look unselfish

    • @the2ndcoming135
      @the2ndcoming135 Рік тому +1

      Weird because the wifey literally told me she wanted to honor her German grandfather😆

    • @danshotguns4226
      @danshotguns4226 9 місяців тому +2

      And in the process, making herself look twice as selfish. Spitting on her grandfather's legacy ..solely to justify her decision to become a sex worker.

    • @Sweetbeariesart
      @Sweetbeariesart 9 місяців тому +2

      Those guys who run the podcast have an obsession with Onlyfans because they constantly talk to women on it, just to chastise them about it. There are many other more important topics in the world they could be covering

    • @ambergerber5162
      @ambergerber5162 9 місяців тому +1

      I'm feeling generous tonight so I will give her the benefit of the doubt. She sounds genuine about it and somewhat shy talking so maybe she just isn't explaining herself very well. She said that she wanted to help out. She didn't say help him out because he had passed so maybe it's a financial thing where the grandfather helped out the family and now that he is gone she has chosen to take that on and using Onlyfans to as a the means.

  • @samj1512
    @samj1512 Рік тому +73

    I've worked as a home care worker for old people and I've seen first hand how miserable it is to be old and obese. It's one of the biggest reasons I actually got around to taking my health seriously

  • @taycie1486
    @taycie1486 Рік тому +10

    As someone who used to weight 320+ lbs and lost over 100 lbs this is sooooo annoying. I can’t even tell you how good I feel after losing so much weight. Even with excess skin and not having the “ideal body type” that’s ok with me!! Bc I want to LIVE. Why is that fat phobic😂

  • @faithlessangel6836
    @faithlessangel6836 Рік тому +5

    As a man, if you don’t let me rename you when we get married, I don’t wanna be with you is kind of what it sounds like to me

  • @gradypickens7876
    @gradypickens7876 Рік тому +47

    I married because I loved her. I was the primary earner but supported her option to work if she wanted. Later, I supported her desire to further her education. later her earning capacity passed mine. I was fine with that too. We never had children but our marriage of 38 years was rich and rewarding. she took my last name voluntarily.

    • @seignee
      @seignee 6 місяців тому +2

      dream life 💖

    • @kaitlynbugden8032
      @kaitlynbugden8032 3 місяці тому +1

      Your life sounds like it has been beautiful and full of love and support.
      I can’t wait to have my man’s last name and be that united family that we are - to me it finalises our family as a whole. He also has a fabulous last name though haha.

  • @tinajust-tina7027
    @tinajust-tina7027 Рік тому +66

    Well, I guess I am fat phobic... I was pre-diabetic, with PCOS, HTN, Hyperlipidemia, CAD, and Morbid Obesity! I lost 140lbs on purpose! I am no longer on Metformin, my blood pressure medication has been cut in half, my Cholesterol us down to 165 and my triglycerides are down to 75, So they have cut my crestor in half! I feel so much better mentally and physically... So I will be fat phobic all day long!!

  • @billcarson818
    @billcarson818 Рік тому +2

    Saying that "only successful men reproduce" is setting the bar rather low, when it comes to success.

  • @br5289
    @br5289 Рік тому +6

    When I got married I took my husband’s last name, and now I’m pregnant and expecting a boy. We’re making his middle name my maiden name. It works for us and we’re happy 🤷‍♀️

  • @richardheudorf2245
    @richardheudorf2245 Рік тому +28

    My wife has always made more than me. Proud of her. She didnt do it so she could be the "breadwinner", it just happened. Its a team effort.

  • @LukaszBrodziak
    @LukaszBrodziak Рік тому +74

    But she is right. I started to diet and excercise because of fatphobia - I looked in the mirror one day and what I saw scared the crap out of me 😂

    • @the2ndcoming135
      @the2ndcoming135 Рік тому +1

      I’m actually quite lazy for how much of a gym rat I once was. Still a beast tho🤣

    • @Yup712
      @Yup712 11 місяців тому

      😂😂😂

  • @RK-fz7qc
    @RK-fz7qc Рік тому +2

    I am married now 4 years and haven’t legally changed my name. I’m legally married, I proudly use my husband’s last name in my day to day life, but I just haven’t sent in the many documents and done the steps required to legally take on my husband’s last name. I think they don’t take how annoying it is to legally change your name into account

  • @MommaOsoIrish67
    @MommaOsoIrish67 Рік тому +9

    Amala. You just brought to mind a hilarious, maybe awkward, memory. I am a very white woman. I cannot tan. I might get off-white towards the end of summer. So, when I moved into a complex in southern California, I was one of two white women in the complex. I loved my neighbors! And my neighbors, realizing I might be a little unaware in certain situations, really did look out for my safety. But, the memory I'm thinking of involves a big game of Dominoes at a BBQ after id lived there about a year or so. The men were watching a boxing event in the other room, while the women were at the kitchen table playing dominoes. I won, not just by a little, and, very meekly, slid my last domino out with a quiet, "domino." Tajia said, as she slid my Domino back to me, "Oh no, Girl! You whooped our a$$es. You know how we do it!" I was mortified. Of course I knew. But, I'm a white woman! When I hesitated, she yelled to my boyfriend, "Your woman is a little b&$ch!" She was, of course, laughing. He looked at me, and shrugged. So I did it. I slammed my Domino down and declared, "N&$ga, pay me!" All five of the women busted up laughing. She said, "There you go! You own that sh$t!" I still cringed at the thought that I'd said something so wrong, but it became a joke in the quad.. my neighbors continued get a good laugh from it for months! So, I really love the fact that you say, as long as it's not a hard derogatory statement, you couldn't care less if a white person uses that word.

    • @ambereyedbabygirl
      @ambereyedbabygirl 9 місяців тому +1

      Lmao. Reminds me of that interview where the black host was screaming at a snotty white kid "say it then. I dare you. SAY IT!!!!!" But in a more positive way 😂

  • @BowieRulez
    @BowieRulez Рік тому +30

    As regards the last name thing…the number of hoops that need to be jumped through to legally change your name is insane. All ID’s need to be changed. Government agencies need to be notified. Everyone that has the original info needs to be notified. It’s just a huge pain in the bu*t! Give the kids that fathers name, fine, but the wife is an individual, not an extension or, as was the original intent, property, of the man.

    • @justicierodelaliga
      @justicierodelaliga Рік тому +9

      Not to mention that if the narriage end up not working and they get divorced then the woman has to deal with the same issues regarding paper work.
      As someone from Puerto Rico (and given the fact that this happens in Latin America and Spain as well) I´ve nver understood why the woman has to take her husband´s last name.
      In fact, if you think about it for a second, seems like the woman married within her own family in rder to have the same last name.
      ...obviously it isn´t what happens but looks like it.

    • @KoNekoInverse
      @KoNekoInverse 8 місяців тому +2

      @@justicierodelaliga hahaha for me it feels the same... like... am I the sister of my husband?... shivers...

    • @Iceicebaby0117
      @Iceicebaby0117 7 місяців тому +1

      In europe we dont change last names

  • @opus2024
    @opus2024 Рік тому +150

    Hi Amala. My wife brought your podcast to my attention. I am a Caucasian 62 year old man that wants to thank you for your important perspectives. Thank you and best wishes for the wider spread of your message and the positive impact it will have on the future of our society.

    • @titaniumwolf1123
      @titaniumwolf1123 Рік тому +1

      Oh boomers. Y'all are so innocent and silly

    • @tabithawhitaker9273
      @tabithawhitaker9273 11 місяців тому +20

      ​@@titaniumwolf1123Age comes for us all love. Giving someone a nice compliment is silly n Innocent because he is in his 60s?😂Or are you being passive aggressive. Strange😳

    • @purecuteness7729
      @purecuteness7729 8 місяців тому

      @@tabithawhitaker9273Fr.

    • @TwoMuchBula
      @TwoMuchBula 8 місяців тому +1

      I don't wanna sound rude but Im surprised to see a 62 year old on the internet my dad is 40 and doesn't know how to make a Facebook account

    • @opus2024
      @opus2024 8 місяців тому +3

      @@TwoMuchBula no worries. I try to keep up with the latest trends. But I am not that far ahead of your dad. Have a great day

  • @BergenDev
    @BergenDev 10 місяців тому +2

    "Personal trainer with a fat body"? That is a oxymoron in itself.

  • @patmccrutch3927
    @patmccrutch3927 Рік тому +5

    I’m usually right there with you but until you get to the onset of menopause you will never know how distressing it is... I would love that treatment!

  • @orla8006
    @orla8006 Рік тому +90

    Me on my weightloss journey: I'm fat phobic? Huh. Good thing I don't care, I wanna live 🤣

    • @DONTASKME13
      @DONTASKME13 Рік тому +3

      same ✌

    • @itsme-pm9fj
      @itsme-pm9fj Рік тому +3

      A huge W 🐐

    • @imaspecialgirllalala
      @imaspecialgirllalala Рік тому +2

      Right? 10 lbs down so far, plenty more to go

    • @orla8006
      @orla8006 Рік тому +2

      @@imaspecialgirllalala We got this, proud of you, friend! I'm at about the same!

    • @imaspecialgirllalala
      @imaspecialgirllalala Рік тому

      @@orla8006 yay!! Remember, the number on the scale isn’t a direct correlation to your actual weight because I weigh 3 pounds heavier when I’m dehydrated & haven’t ate vs when I’m hydrated properly & have eaten a full meal 😁

  • @elena-hl9pc
    @elena-hl9pc Рік тому +199

    As a Spaniard, watching this discussion on taking surnames is truly fascinating. Specially the biological justification. To me, the fact that absolutely no men expect women to take on their surnames here (because we never have) goes to show its purely a cultural issue.
    This is the case for Catholics too, btw.

    • @nicholashowe1298
      @nicholashowe1298 Рік тому +30

      Same in Vietnam. Watching these people talk about it like it’s objective is so interesting if not a little odd

    • @elena-hl9pc
      @elena-hl9pc Рік тому +23

      Just more proof that we can justify all our beliefs and should allow ourselves the mental space to question where things are coming from

    • @piabasso3954
      @piabasso3954 Рік тому +14

      Just the same in Uruguay.
      In fact, from a legal point of view, I think it'd be pretty difficult to change your last name.
      Some elderly women use "de" before their husbands last names, but legally they use their own last names.

    • @Bankzoltan
      @Bankzoltan Рік тому +21

      I'm colombian, here women used to add their husbands surname instead of taking it.
      For example, if a woman's name was "María Lopez" and her husband's surname was "Gonzales" she would be "Maria Lopez de Gonzales"

    • @the2ndcoming135
      @the2ndcoming135 Рік тому +4

      As a German I have to let people know my skin is Black🤦🏽‍♂️

  • @successnsobriety9851
    @successnsobriety9851 10 місяців тому +3

    I'm light skin and my daughters mom is white so she came out white as snow. That doesn't matter. She isn't more black or more white. She's just a beautiful little human girl.

  • @azulley2445
    @azulley2445 11 місяців тому +4

    Taylor’s voice always relaxes me so much! And he politely expressing his mind gives me hope in healthy masculinity

  • @hoseki9860
    @hoseki9860 Рік тому +43

    I think the last name thing is very dependent on where youre from. Where I'm from, the woman always keeps her last name and it would be considered kinda weird to go out of your way to change your last name, so cultural norms and traditions really influence your perspective on that.

    • @the2ndcoming135
      @the2ndcoming135 Рік тому +2

      That’s it right there. The ol’ lady could’ve told me her Jewish Grandpa or her Russian grandpa. Nope. She said the German one😁

  • @michaelmclean150
    @michaelmclean150 Рік тому +48

    People who say they "would never" in historical terms should look at how they behaved during Covid....that is a true indicator of whether you'd have taken the moral stance or followed the crowd. And it was ugly to see.

    • @sirbradfordofhousejones
      @sirbradfordofhousejones Рік тому +16

      100%. People were so ready to ruin other people’s lives over a possibility of something being true or not - on both sides - and it certainly brought to light the nature of tribalism. COVID was a big reason I left the left, tbh. I saw some NASTY opinions from friends and family alike.

    • @AmyStruxMillz
      @AmyStruxMillz 10 місяців тому

      Great point

    • @KoNekoInverse
      @KoNekoInverse 8 місяців тому

      so true... I was treated practically like Hitler when I explained my reasons why I had decided to POSTPONE my first covid vaccine (not like I will never do it, but like, I'm going to wait a bit). Apparently, people died BECAUSE OF ME (I had full remote work, and went little out, always with face-mask on), and I should be in prison. When I told her I had people in my family that had died because of covid, and I wasn't by any means disregarding how dangerous this virus is, or the usefulness of the vaccine, she disregarded it as "everyone has stories like that". Being in this situation and seeing all our friends keeping quiet, I decided to leave the meeting, and while I was picking up my things, I overhead how she was tearing up, telling her story of sbdy she knows that ALMOST DIED of covid, and how scary that was for her (yeah, the same girl that disregarded my family deaths, such an hypocrite). I always felt somewhat scared of sharing my personal view and why I didn't want the vaccine yet, and this nightmarish day unluckily confirmed my fears

  • @corgimom5626
    @corgimom5626 Рік тому +3

    My best friend didn’t take her husbands last name, but in her case I understand why. His family was absolutely horrible to her. Called her nasty names, told her she was going to hell, and much more. Her husband honestly considered changing his last name to hers because her family is more of a family to him than his own.
    On the breadwinner question: I am the breadwinner in my marriage but that was never the focus. I have a much more difficult degree and a much more difficult job. But if he did make more money it wouldn’t have ever mattered to me. My husband provides in so many other ways.

  • @stepford702
    @stepford702 10 місяців тому +2

    A man giving you his last name is him saying "I trust you with my family's good name and that through you, our children will carry that good name on". At least that's how my husband sees it.

  • @maryssaann
    @maryssaann Рік тому +89

    I’m in a cut right now so the fat phobic comment is really intriguing. I’m consciously deciding to cut my calories so the muscle I built over time shows. It’s hard work, discipline and sacrifice. If that makes me fat phobic, call me that all day. This is getting ridiculous.

    • @maebandy
      @maebandy Рік тому

      Is there a single liberal cause that involves the harder, more disciplined choice? Whether it's being lazy, having excuses not to grow, work, prove yourself instead of finding social injury to reason your entitlement. It is just pandering to the student body during campaign time. "Do you wanna have a sluurpee machine in every class room? Vote for me! Want to play video games and. Play dress up instead of taking tests? Vote for me!

    • @radicalcartoons2766
      @radicalcartoons2766 Рік тому +12

      She is a personal trainer - what does she do if some of her clients lose weight during her training? Throw them out of the class?!

    • @roisingrant
      @roisingrant Рік тому

      @@radicalcartoons2766 she probably doesn't weigh them at all since THAT'S apparently fat phobic too

    • @Mimi-pt4fo
      @Mimi-pt4fo Рік тому

      Most likely the only person or old understands only fans are paying for nudity and extreme sexualized behaviors. Oy to be so ignorant 😮 5:42

    • @maebandy
      @maebandy Рік тому +1

      @@Mimi-pt4fo 🤔

  • @mewsyra775
    @mewsyra775 Рік тому +105

    In my late 20’s I gained ALOT of weight and it led to a tremendous amount of health problems (and this is all while I was dealing with a new diagnosis of Multiple Sclerosis and symptoms of said disease) that led to many hospitalizations. Thank God my dr was a much older woman who was not afraid to tell me I was morbidly obese and that some weight loss could help most of my issues. Within a year I had lost 100 lbs and was able to completely get off 80% of my medications. To this day I have kept it off and even with my MS issues, I still don’t have the cholesterol issues, high blood sugar, high blood pressure, and the heart issues.
    Long story short, I guess I’m fat phobic because I never want to experience those weight related things again!!

    • @nschlaak
      @nschlaak Рік тому +7

      We are glad that your health has had a turn for the better now that your weight isn't adding to your health problems.

    • @mewsyra775
      @mewsyra775 Рік тому +1

      @@nschlaak Thank you!!

    • @nschlaak
      @nschlaak Рік тому +2

      @@mewsyra775 Bless you and by all means you are most certainly welcome.

    • @1972jbird
      @1972jbird Рік тому +4

      I'm very glad you had an honest Doctor who wanted you to be informed about your health. So glad you learned while you are still young it will help greatly for the years to come.

    • @mewsyra775
      @mewsyra775 Рік тому +1

      @@1972jbird absolutely!!

  • @Cynnas
    @Cynnas Рік тому +2

    I've been happily married for 19 years (together for 21) with two kids and didn't change my name. Guess what? Every divorced person I know was in a marriage where the woman did. Sometimes twice. Haha! Seriously, it have absolutly nothing with how I love and respect him but how I love and respect my personal identity. It's not the name but just me as a person.

    • @rachelchrist5961
      @rachelchrist5961 10 місяців тому

      My kids have their dads last name. Because I dislike mine.

  • @texasshawn316
    @texasshawn316 11 місяців тому

    I appreciate the clarification on the hard r as well. Once you said it, I completely understood, but had never thought of it before.

  • @pinkdramadiva5956
    @pinkdramadiva5956 Рік тому +24

    I have never thought of taking my husband's last name, personally it cost a lot of time and money for the woman to change their name just for it to possibly not work out and have to change it back. It seems like an inconvenience as I've seen women struggle with constantly changing their names, it was something I've wanted to avoid.

    • @pinkdramadiva5956
      @pinkdramadiva5956 Рік тому +13

      Also with the woman making more being a red flag, I would love to have a man provide for me but also I think it is very dangerous for your only source of living be based off a guy. I think women should make their own money and not rely on someone else's money and see them as income. If they get divorced the women will be screwed.

  • @destinyhntr
    @destinyhntr Рік тому +18

    I've never understood this obsession young women have now to demonize becoming a housewife. I would love to escape the stress of the ratrace and constantly working for people who don't like me or outright hate me (especially customer service, nursing, teaching, etc.). I would rather care for a house without stressing about money constantly, than do all of that while also working a full time job.

    • @flowerboy5699
      @flowerboy5699 7 місяців тому +1

      That's your preferences. Most women hate to stay at home. I take extra shifts just bc I love my job a lot more than just being a log lol

    • @DumpsterFairy97
      @DumpsterFairy97 3 місяці тому

      Feminism is meant to be supporting women in either route but people have taken in to the point of just leaning as hard the other direction against traditional values as possible.

  • @wolfganghaiden5817
    @wolfganghaiden5817 6 місяців тому

    thank you amala, you are an amazing person. it is good to see that there are still people who see reality

  • @aquahexlive
    @aquahexlive 9 місяців тому +2

    I think fatphobia is judging someone based on their appearance. It's not getting to know someone based on the way they look versus who they are as a person. If you're actively trying to lose weight and be better for yourself, then that isn't fatphobic. It's body positivity because you want to better yourself for you.

  • @deckcadetmiles
    @deckcadetmiles Рік тому +43

    The taking of last name is very much cultural. In Korea for example, women don't take their husbands last names as a sign of respect towards her father's family.

    • @the2ndcoming135
      @the2ndcoming135 Рік тому

      But, that would mean they don’t do that there🤔

    • @scarletsletter4466
      @scarletsletter4466 Рік тому +2

      But then who’s name do the children have?

    • @AmserEvans
      @AmserEvans Рік тому +1

      ​@@scarletsletter4466 the last name of the father most of the time

    • @littledrummergirl_19
      @littledrummergirl_19 Рік тому +4

      @@scarletsletter4466 would assume their father’s name since she/he mentioned the foundation of respect towards dad’s family

    • @titaniumwolf1123
      @titaniumwolf1123 Рік тому

      That sounds like a retarded mess tbh. Korea is umm. Well special

  • @monicarmn
    @monicarmn Рік тому +61

    Can I just say I felt so seen and safe listening to this video especially since I have such a huge fear that because I share all these beliefs that you guys also share, most people in today’s society would judge me and get upset at me, thank you for creating a safe space :)

    • @SquirtlePower809
      @SquirtlePower809 Рік тому +8

      You are NOT ALONE! It just feels that way sometimes because the woke left is just so loud and so much media is also on that side. But trust me, there are millions and millions and millions of Americans that feel just like you do!

    • @erikablu429
      @erikablu429 Рік тому +5

      yesss ❤ literally everyone I know my age is brainwashed and a woke leftist, I’m 22. But I love on the Internet finding these communities, they give me hope that my views are not crazy, but there are people that think like me. Truly, we are the counterculture😂 respecting tradition, respecting your country, respecting traditional gender roles, that is an alternative lifestyle in this world today. Which is so crazy to say because let’s say in the 1950s or the 1980s, most people followed these traditions. But I believe in the way that I live my life, and I will not put up with the games of politics. Sending love, so glad we are all here on this page!

    • @monicarmn
      @monicarmn Рік тому +3

      @@erikablu429 This is so kind of you to say and it makes me feel so much better that I'm not the only one who also feels like you! Sending much love and God bless you 🤍 :)

  • @Odiewan-Kenobi768
    @Odiewan-Kenobi768 9 місяців тому +1

    Any doctor willing to mutilate a child because of this stuff should be locked up for assault and child endangerment

  • @LadyTidePod
    @LadyTidePod 11 місяців тому

    In Canada here. Agree mostly with this channel. Love you guys!

  • @daylewoolf8734
    @daylewoolf8734 Рік тому +63

    I'm so glad I grew up in the 70's and 80's because the only time I wished I was a male is when I had PMS or my period. My mom just told me it was normal and I'd get over it in a few days. She was right and never thought I needed therapy for that and transitioning was never thought of.

    • @erikablu429
      @erikablu429 Рік тому +7

      I one hundred percent believe The USA peaked in the 1970s and 80s. my parents were born in the 60s, went to high school and were in their 20s in the 70s, and in their late 20s and 30s in the 80s.
      The world that they talk about, and their values, are so cool. It seems people that were young in the 70s and 80s have a good balance of keeping tradition, gender roles, but they’re still cool and like to have a good time, smoke some weed lol, they have a love for their country. I love the generation from the 60s 70s and 80s. I fear for the world when your generation is gone, because I so much more respect your generation than mine.

    • @daylewoolf8734
      @daylewoolf8734 Рік тому +7

      @@erikablu429I was born in 1969. Not only were we more sensible, we were much more nonjudgmental. We got along to get along and resolved issues with common sense. We didn't whine of our feelings got hurt. Plus we had THE BEST music.(60's, 70's, 80's and some 90's).🤘

    • @kaygee2121
      @kaygee2121 Рік тому +3

      Right?! I have a little bit of P envy, but that's because it would just be so much easier 🤣
      I was a total "tomboy" growing up (and got told by a cashier the other day that that is no longer a thing...??), played sports, hate pink, loved being unique, and got along with the guys almost better than other girls. This caused me to briefly question if I were gay. Very briefly...because teens are still figuring out who they are afterall. It didn't take long to "grow out of it". I'm so proud to be a woman, and I hate that womanhood is being taken from us, and/or being degraded. I realize I'm just a woman, with some "masculine" traits....but I'm a WOMAN. I believe some people are legitimately trans, but it is a very small number. The trendiness of all this crap is the biggest problem. I shudder to think that if I had been growing up in today's world, I would have most likely been told I was trans, and pressured to come out or something even though I'm straight, and even encouraged to undergo life changing surgeries/treatments. This is sick! Absolutely trendy insanity. This must stop!

    • @erikablu429
      @erikablu429 Рік тому +1

      @@daylewoolf8734 yes ! love that about u guys. wish i was a part of your generation lol. it’s hard to find people like that in mine (i’m stupid gen Z) :( lol. but i try my best to carry the same energy into my life, and though i know it will never be the same as how you guys lived, i hope to find people to surround myself like you guys! ur the actual greatest generation in my book

    • @pitchforkpeasant6219
      @pitchforkpeasant6219 Рік тому +2

      @@daylewoolf8734we also lived our lives and left others alone. Now people have become a bunch of dictators deciding what people should or shouldn’t have, should do or shouldn’t do, should care or shouldn’t care about, or should or shouldn’t believe. All I want is to live my life and be left alone. The good ole days

  • @letstalkgod2182
    @letstalkgod2182 Рік тому +51

    I think the response to "Is it a red flag if a woman wants to be the bread winner in the family?" hangs on the word "want". I don't think it's a problem if a woman is the bread winner (my wife makes more than I do and it's not a problem for me at all), but if it's her goal it may be a cause for concern that she may need to take a long hard look at her priorities and what's shaping them; I don't think it would be healthy for a man to hold that as a priority either. It seems so odd to me to be like, "No, I don't want our household to have more money because pride."

    • @debanydoombringer1385
      @debanydoombringer1385 Рік тому +2

      That's ignoring evolutionary aspects that contribute to our psychology. We're animals at our base and in our type of animal group, the Male provides and protects. It's still instinct in humans. Understanding that helps you understand why a man would have a problem with a spouse that makes more since that's societies current way of providing. Good for you if it doesn't affect you, but you're not the majority of men and just because you can think that way doesn't mean most can. Just like women get angry when men look at their breasts and hips when that's how our brains determine if a potential partner will be able to give birth and raise a child.

    • @the2ndcoming135
      @the2ndcoming135 Рік тому +1

      It just means the kids are gonna be rich and I get to not break my back as much💪🏽

    • @N0N4ME06
      @N0N4ME06 10 місяців тому

      ​@@debanydoombringer1385but.. Evolution comes with changes. So, who gives a f*ck? 😒

  • @jaime6633
    @jaime6633 Рік тому +1

    The dad staying home wouldn’t be a dead beat by being a stay at home dad without side projects 🥺

  • @kerp0864
    @kerp0864 11 місяців тому +1

    As someone who weighed 250 lbs caused from an Eating Disorder, this is actually so harmful to hear. Because I also have PTSD and panic or anxiety attacks literally became fatal for me since my heart would beat too fast and my body couldn’t handle it. I’m literally losing weight so panic attacks aren’t fatal! Plus I work in childcare so I gotta keep up with the kids without sweating buckets! ❤

  • @mindtheprivacy
    @mindtheprivacy Рік тому +154

    Great commentary from Taylor, so eloquent, so educated, so respectful!!!! A lot of these people you guys showed are SO DELUSIONAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • @kylenyleen6143
      @kylenyleen6143 Рік тому

      Is there anything in particular you can point to?

    • @titaniumwolf1123
      @titaniumwolf1123 Рік тому

      Taylor just misuses big words horrifically and states things he read on a headline somewhere tho lmao... He's right but he's not any of that fam

  • @kriskrissss
    @kriskrissss Рік тому +173

    I just had an experience where because I am white, I am not allowed privacy, or I am a karen. I was in a gym locker room for females. Luckily, it wasn't a transwoman at least. But a Hispanic woman when I asked her to Please not record tiktok's in the locker room because I wanted to change, Started screaming at me snapping at me and telling me that I am a Karen. I was bewildered. There was even a sign inside of the room that said no cameras were allowed in this facility. She was laughing at me making fun of me... The manager of the club came in who happened to be black. And also a woman so she could enter the locker room... Basically said no you cannot record in here. But then this girl starts crying her eyes out because she got told no, And she started making up bs that I was somehow harassing her, And being mean. I just wanted privacy and I asked for it politely. The black manager then appeased the Hispanic woman by whispering to her "You know how they are just don't do it when she's around." The manager wouldn't even let me explain my side of what happened. Basically, I got karen'd by a karen. And I feel really bad for my aunt karen cause she's a super sweet lady. But God is amazing and guides me where i'm supposed to go... I instead joined a gym that costs a $180/mo and is LUXURY .Trash can't afford that. No matter the color of the trash's skin. Capitalism for the win.
    Hilarious side note: The girl recording and fake crying/lying, was very overweight, maybe 5foot 250lb, and spent more time in the lockerroom recording herself than working out. And the reason why she wouldn't move to an area where people weren't changing, is bc she wanted the lockers in the background so her followers know she's "working out." If you read this whole thing you are a saint thank you for listening to my rant. 😘😘

    • @synaesthesia4183
      @synaesthesia4183 Рік тому +16

      Clown world stories to start my day! 😂 Years ago, this scenario would have played out vastly different.

    • @thoughtfulcreature8479
      @thoughtfulcreature8479 Рік тому +5

      Why didn't you call the police ?

    • @ArdenBijou
      @ArdenBijou Рік тому +14

      Goddamn. That’s disgusting and I’m sorry that happened. It’s ridiculous.

    • @erikablu429
      @erikablu429 Рік тому +23

      this is super common, my mom is really white, blonde, beautiful woman. I am mixed with Native American so I don’t experience it as much, but she has experienced serious bullying from women of color especially in the last few years.
      I don’t know why they think it’s OK, but I noticed a serious attitude from certain Hispanic and black girls, and most of my friends are Mexican, and I love them so much, But there’s certain women that seem to be a little racist, and I mean racist towards white women.
      And the whole karin thing, it’s being used way too much where someone is just standing up for themselves and then they be come a “karen” . there are real Karens, but just because you’re a white woman asking a person of color to stop filming in the locker room? that is so ridiculous. It’s bullying and these certain women of color think it’s OK to do. And I assume a lot of it goes on when they are together without their white friends. Again most of my friends are Hispanic, and I’m Native American, but I have witnessed this definitely, and it needs to stop.

    • @kriskrissss
      @kriskrissss Рік тому +2

      @@thoughtfulcreature8479 I did, they could care less.

  • @IKillUDarling
    @IKillUDarling Рік тому +1

    Even if my significant other was really attached to their last name and wanted me to adopt it, if my first name sounds like crap spoken out loud together with it, I will insist on keeping my own.

  • @jammiefriesland5575
    @jammiefriesland5575 10 місяців тому

    Thank you for being a breath of fresh air. I'm so glad there Re still rational people around

  • @rikasong
    @rikasong Рік тому +16

    I heard "minister" as "male stripper" and my brain thought it made sense lmao

    • @Ylda1007
      @Ylda1007 Рік тому

      True cause the world has gotten so crazy it made sense 😂

    • @desireelaurelli4579
      @desireelaurelli4579 9 місяців тому

      That's hilarious

  • @oromis16
    @oromis16 Рік тому +268

    Historically one of the reasons for taking your husband's last name was to signify that your husband now had the responsibility to care for, provide for, and protect you.

    • @radicalcartoons2766
      @radicalcartoons2766 Рік тому

      Historically too, it was because women weren't allowed to have mortgages, bank accounts, or run businesses in their own names.

    • @erikablu429
      @erikablu429 Рік тому +33

      I also think it’s a loyalty thing, if I married Mr. Smith, the day before I would say I am erica (maiden name) . but once you make that commitment, going by Mrs. Smith signifies that you’re taken, that you have made a commitment to a man and that you want to be loyal to him.
      I hate to say this, but I almost feel like women who don’t take their man’s last name, don’t want to appear married to the average person. Which makes me feel like they’re not going to be loyal, or they just want to seem single for attention or validation. If you can’t make a commitment to someone’s last name, how could you expect them to make a commitment to your marriage and being your partner for life?
      It just seems shifty and a bit disrespectful in my eyes to not take a man’s last name if you’re committing to marrying him for the rest of your life or till death do us part, seems pretty wishy-washy to not even be able to change your last name to his.

    • @Angelbach1995
      @Angelbach1995 Рік тому +39

      ​@erica blu I've been married for 28 years. I didn't take my husband's last name. I am so dedicated to him, and i LOVE him deeply. We adopted 5 kids. He had an undiagnosed condition that caused him a lot of emotional turbulence for years, which rolled down my way. I stayed, and I helped. His mother in law moved in because she was chronically ill. I take care of her, too. I make sure I am called Mrs. that way everyone knows I am married. I don't wear rings because mine were stolen and I wanted to put the money into better use. He. Doesn't wear his ring either, because it doesn't fit per his illness. Those things are so trivial. We respect each other so much that we take do care for each other. We also are deeply connected to God and our relationships with Jesus Christ. Taking a name is the current social fad. It certainly doesn't mean a much as passionate commitment through undying love. To think of our marriage as anything less is a lie, especially when 50% end in divorce and 20-30% don't even get married. A marriage must be judged on it's fruits. Not on waivering social norms.

    • @catinapeanut
      @catinapeanut Рік тому

      @@erikablu429 uh and it's not disrespectful for the man not to take the wifes last name???? This is so stupid just choose whatever last name u want jeez simpletons

    • @cryinginstyle
      @cryinginstyle Рік тому +35

      @@Angelbach1995 it’s also culturally insignificant in some parts of the world. many Latin American women do not take their husband’s last name, but use their father’s last name, and even their mother’s/grandfather’s/grandmother’s last name simultaneously.

  • @pksodeluscious
    @pksodeluscious 10 місяців тому +3

    Taylor gets more attractive to me with every video I watch. His values, his demeanor when speaking to some tough topics. Just... Yes. He comes across as being raised well.

  • @mvson08
    @mvson08 Рік тому +1

    Everyone goes through hell during puberty. Pretty much lol.

  • @kaylatimetravels
    @kaylatimetravels Рік тому +60

    About the last name business, it might be appropriate in certain cases for a woman to keep her last name. Such as her being professionally well known by her last name. It can be very difficult to rebrand. Not only in name fame situations like being a best selling author, news anchor, celebrity, elected official, etc... But medical professionals as well, like doctors/dentists who build clientele with their last name. It might be more difficult and worth a conversation. I know in my profession, changing my last name was quite an expense and not an easy process. Just a minor point, but I thought it was worth mentioning, as I seriously considered keeping my name. I also had a great attachment to my last name because I was adopted at 6 years old and remember my last name changing and “officially” becoming part of my family with that change. But in the end I decided that I want the same name as my children.

    • @bradyjones8707
      @bradyjones8707 Рік тому +5

      I guess for professional reasons that would be all right.
      Makes sense

    • @DreddPirateRoberts
      @DreddPirateRoberts Рік тому +2

      Wouldn't it still be possible for her to legally change her name, but keep her profess life separation?
      Or would that be too messy?

    • @PossibleBat
      @PossibleBat Рік тому +13

      I never understood that, I’m Spanish so I have both surnames, my dad’s and my mom’s. Why don’t you all have two as well?

    • @general_enslaver_of_cactii867
      @general_enslaver_of_cactii867 Рік тому +8

      I'm surprised more people aren't combining names to honor both sides, best of both worlds!

    • @tinajust-tina7027
      @tinajust-tina7027 Рік тому +7

      I worked with a Dr. who kept her last name because her husband's last name was Dye, and she didn't want to be an E.R. Dr. Known as Dr. Dye... True, but Funny story!!

  • @Destinyirus278
    @Destinyirus278 Рік тому +35

    I wasn’t that heavy but after an accident left me in a wheelchair I gave up on working out. Before my injury I was very fit, loved running but I can’t do that anymore. I kept making excuses for myself like well I’m in a wheelchair, one day I saw a bunch of fit guys online working out in their wheelchairs & it just flipped a switch for me. I had to start exercising again. Also when I saw red pill content. I needed those facts to wake up & realize this body positivity “health at all sizes” is complete BS. But seeing red pill facts about body weight/ health. Made me wake up & look at myself in the mirror. Now I’ve been working out & eating healthier, losing weight, feeling better & getting more confidence.

    • @erikablu429
      @erikablu429 Рік тому +2

      wow that is an amazing story. Good for you, and I think it’s totally justified that at first, for a while being in a wheelchair you didn’t have the motivation to perhaps exercise and work out as much, it would only make sense that you would have to adjust a bit. Great job being so resilient, thank you for sharing your story

  • @danielmace406
    @danielmace406 10 місяців тому +1

    The best part about reacting to insane tiktok videos is that you'll never run out of source material

    • @BergenDev
      @BergenDev 10 місяців тому

      The gift that keep giving.

  • @icey_redwolf6888
    @icey_redwolf6888 Рік тому

    That movie’s “nightmare “ sounded amazing from your description

  • @paradisegarden1316
    @paradisegarden1316 Рік тому +32

    In regards to Taylor's comment addressing the young mans reference to puberty blocking medications being developed for "cis" people:
    I think he as reffering to the fact that puberty blockers were originally used for a condition that affects some pre pubescent children to go through early puberty.
    So yes, as far as I know, Lupron has been used for chemical castration in prisons, but it also has been used in treating early puberty conditions.
    As always, thank you for a great show.

    • @VariantAEC
      @VariantAEC Рік тому +5

      Indeed hormone blockers are used to stop "precocious puberty" which can cause lifelong health problems.
      Not too clear on how this really causes problems, but supposedly it can cause problems with skeletal development (at least in some content I remember reading a while ago).

    • @kaygee2121
      @kaygee2121 Рік тому +2

      I know a woman that began puberty at THREE. She had a legit reason for puberty blockers.

    • @baconsarny-geddon8298
      @baconsarny-geddon8298 Рік тому +5

      The difference is that precocious puberty is DEMONSTRABLY REAL, AND 100% EVIDENCE-BASED... as opposed to transgenderism, which has literally ZERO empirical evidence, either for the diagnosis of any specific person, or for the "condition" being physiologically-based (rather than just a social trend, or psychological issue) in the first place...
      If we diagnosed precocious puberty, SOLELY on the basis of the kid's self-reported FEELINGS, they may have a point... but we don't live in THAT universe...
      The "gender"-moonbats REALLY struggle with the concept of EVIDENCE-BASED TRUTH, for some crazy reason...

    • @maxgucciardi4507
      @maxgucciardi4507 11 місяців тому +2

      ​@@VariantAECbones fuse about 5 or 6 years after puberty begins so that would definitely make life hard if your bones fuse at 12 or 13.

    • @VariantAEC
      @VariantAEC 11 місяців тому

      @@maxgucciardi4507
      Yep, that would be a good reason to stop an early puberty.

  • @pariah_carey
    @pariah_carey Рік тому +27

    I’ve often heard Transpeople say that “I knew that I was a girl since I was 5!” But honestly, I don’t believe them.
    Anyone can SAY anything they want, in Retrospect, in order to justify their OWN Personal Ideology, to People who are skeptical of their Claims. Opportunistic Dishonesty is INCREDIBLY easy to do, especially when Ideology is involved. You quickly acclimate to the Discomfort of telling Lies, and eventually, you start to BELIEVE your own Lies, in order to appear more believable and convincing.

    • @rook3504
      @rook3504 10 місяців тому

      I know a Trans person who says that they knew as early as 5-7 that they were “different,” and as early as 10 that they were not a girl. They spent the rest of puberty confirming this (their parents did not cave and provide puberty blockers etc)…but they never stopped being convinced that they were the other gender. I know them very well, and I don’t think they are lying when they say they believe they are not a woman. What *CAUSES* that phenomena is up for debate…

    • @mai5151
      @mai5151 7 місяців тому +1

      Fr, and the fact that most of not all 5 year old still believe in Santa n shit 🤣

  • @twilightfanpire88
    @twilightfanpire88 11 місяців тому +1

    How is it that, that lady is a "personal trainer" a.k.a someone whose career you would typically assume to be based on fitness and health, would call putting in effort to intentionally lose weight is fatphobic? SIS THE MATH AINT MATHIN

  • @enchanted_wildflower_
    @enchanted_wildflower_ 10 місяців тому

    "Leaving a digital footprint with feet pics" 😂 hahaha
    I laughed out loud when you mentioned feet pics and then leaving a digital footprint. It seemed to not have been on purpose even 😂😂😂

  • @ale_1825
    @ale_1825 Рік тому +9

    45:19 How is that morally right? A woman can spend her life working hard getting a higher education than a man, but for the sake of validating a man's whims and insecurities, she must throw all that away? How is that right? Man today's podcast REALLY disappointed me with these sexist and primitive claims.

    • @jasmin4153
      @jasmin4153 Рік тому +1

      Exctaly

    • @justicierodelaliga
      @justicierodelaliga Рік тому +1

      As a man I understand that one has to provide for his family. In fact, if it was the opposite way would be frowned upon. And if a woman works or want to as to add to the income of the family that´s fine as well. That being said I´m totally with you.
      ...he better find a woman that agrees with that or he´ll end up alone.

  • @zombbae
    @zombbae Рік тому +8

    I gained 35 pounds over Covid and I am uncomfortable as hell about it. I don’t feel comfortable in my skin anymore and it’s not fat phobic to want to lose some weight. I literally feel bloated and uncomfortable and I’m going to try to do the best I can to get back to the weight I was before Covid. And I wasn’t even very skinny before Covid. I was a healthy weight now it’s unhealthy because it’s too much.

  • @teamiller4143
    @teamiller4143 6 місяців тому +1

    As a former obese person who lost 100 pounds I gladly consider myself “fat phobic” better than being health-phobic 💀

  • @tishaunageorge4840
    @tishaunageorge4840 9 місяців тому

    “So help him out from beyond the grave”😭😭😭 bye lmao

  • @lizbirb4851
    @lizbirb4851 Рік тому +11

    When my Nan passed away I put that trauma into hard work and became a software engineer. Choices people, choices

    • @michellebee1991
      @michellebee1991 Рік тому +1

      My nan also passed away while I was working on becoming a software engineer.
      I bet they would be proud of us 💖

    • @lizbirb4851
      @lizbirb4851 Рік тому +2

      @@michellebee1991 awh your comment made my day, thank you for those kind words x

  • @adreena456
    @adreena456 Рік тому +5

    I don’t want to take my partner’s last name solely because I love my surname. It’s an unusual surname and I just don’t see why I should have to lose it. We share all the same values, it’s nothing to do with that

  • @majamannhard443
    @majamannhard443 Рік тому +1

    Sometimes people are kind of attached to their last name for obvious reasons. My parents both weren’t so they chose another name completely when they got married. The name they picked was my grandmother’s maiden name.

  • @morrigankasa570
    @morrigankasa570 9 місяців тому +1

    I'm a 30 yr old White Man; I wouldn't have a problem with a Woman being the "Breadwinner" (in fact I would prefer being a Househusband), I would be fine with Merged Bank Account (though I would prefer not having a Bank Account at all), and I would be perfectly fine with "Hyphenated Last Name".

  • @witty-M
    @witty-M Рік тому +8

    This is why I left tiktok... I started to lose my own braincells watching those types of videos.

  • @halfb8bel
    @halfb8bel Рік тому +13

    Imagine being 30 and saying losing weight is fatphopic

  • @HaileKostin94
    @HaileKostin94 8 місяців тому

    The longer I live on this planet, the more I understand why roosters start their day screaming...

  • @sara073e
    @sara073e Місяць тому

    Omg! Omg! Like.. What?! It's fatfobic to intentionally avoid insuline resistance and cardiovascular diseases?! 😂

  • @ruthrudnik3214
    @ruthrudnik3214 Рік тому +4

    Been married almost 50 years and kept my name. I wouldn't want a man who was threatened by that. I'm a person too. By the way, I answered to Mrs. Hisname and he answered to Mr. My name, so no agenda. We actually worked for the same company twice and it was much easier that people didn't know we were married.

    • @donjohnson1498
      @donjohnson1498 Рік тому

      You are “his” wife. I can guarantee most men would give a woman the boot if she refused to take his name, and rightfully so. There are isolated cases where maintaining a maiden name makes “business” sense, but it essentially a feminist shot on men.

    • @ruthrudnik3214
      @ruthrudnik3214 Рік тому +3

      @Don Johnson I've never been a feminist, and I went to college when they were burning bras. 1. There were business reasons. 2. Do you know what a pain it is to change your name. 3. And most important, I didn't want to. You know in some other countries, women don't change their names. I can't believe this is an issue these days. You know something else. In all the 45 years I've been married, no one I've met has criticized my choice.

  • @synaesthesia4183
    @synaesthesia4183 Рік тому +17

    Taylor nailed today's theme: Mental gymnastics 😂
    That woman is an overweight personal trainer who decided being overweight has no direct affect on mobility lmao. Amala, you're so helpful to understand why they do this! Morality gone rogue

  • @JuGalaxSea
    @JuGalaxSea 10 місяців тому

    I’m dying at 1:16:17 “Dixon Butts” going right over everyone’s head🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • @lauriehand1021
    @lauriehand1021 Рік тому +1

    The menopause thing…with respect, I have a great aunt that committed suicide because her menopause was so awful. My mom would still be alive if that had been an option for her, cause the estrogen replacement caused cancer

  • @doctwho5301
    @doctwho5301 Рік тому +8

    it just baffles me especially as someone who works with children that people, especially those who don’t have them or work with them, think that kids know if they want to transition… half the time kids think they are dogs or cats or want to be an animal because they think animals are fun. they will pretend to be those animals for some time… kids should not be imposed by this stuff because all it will do is confuse them more

    • @Ylda1007
      @Ylda1007 Рік тому

      True also Furries is a different rabbit hole for men mostly is a fetish but for the women side of things they do more of the art and saney side of things cause men have testosterone and they need to waste it on something but this Animal thing is stupid (The fandom was not always this weird this the sex side and the Safe for Work side was always mostly separate but then the wokies ruined it with Animal identifing idiots and grommers)

    • @the2ndcoming135
      @the2ndcoming135 Рік тому

      LMAOOOOO

  • @DigitalEndeavors
    @DigitalEndeavors Рік тому +17

    4:53 is another moment where Taylor just pulls IQ 190 patience and understanding out of his awesome mind. Dude, you are friggin Buddah!

  • @michaelfallis2953
    @michaelfallis2953 Рік тому +1

    I appreciate the people who donate to keep you on the air. I'm against superchats because youtube takes 30 to 60 % of the donation.

  • @realms9
    @realms9 Рік тому

    I love you and your content so very much Amala. Thankyou very much. God bless you and Prager U.

  • @devilkitty6725
    @devilkitty6725 Рік тому +4

    Google "Coverture". It's about ownership, women as property.
    That said, I agree that a woman refusing a man's name is a red flag to conservative men. When I was dating that was a deal breaker for me, a man who thought I should take his name was going to be conservative about a lot of other things I wasn't going to agree with. Saves a lot of time to dump him and move on.

  • @littleredhead75
    @littleredhead75 Рік тому +11

    You can love your body and still want to lose weight and be healthy. Body positivity and not wanting to have health issues are not mutually exclusive.

  • @ShortmanProductionscouk
    @ShortmanProductionscouk 6 місяців тому

    The truth will always be the truth, no matter witnessed or not witnessed, heard or not heard, spoken or misspoken.

  • @catinmystomach
    @catinmystomach 11 місяців тому +1

    1st World Problems. The more convinience you get in a living the more lazy you are, the more problems you create. That's how struggling in life makes you focus on what's important in life.