I understand the sentiment, and a full life should take precedence over cleaning beyond what maintains health. Having said that, I find clutter in my life anxiety provoking and overwhelming. So for a healthy balance I have reduced my home inventory to a comfortable level where it’s just as easy to put it away as drop it/leave it. That way I can go and do life, come home and have a tidy, calm, home sanctuary.
I do agree that it's good to have some periods where you're not sure, but just exploring. A clear mind points you in the right direction. I liked your video, I always enjoy your thoughts.
Love what you are saying and I understand. Life is always changing and we go through different seasons. and we need to enjoy every moment even if they are mundane. There is nothing wrong with mundane. Being able to understand this is so important. Enjoy that sweet baby. She will grow up way too fast. 🎉
I had all the same collisions when I had kids. The beautiful thing about minimalism is that it helped me maintain a cleanish house while pregnant with two toddlers! I just realized that my clutter threshold really dropped and I had to keep purging again and again. Nearly all the baby stuff I had with my first I have since decluttered with my third! 😅
Yeah. . .I don't think a messy house is good for anyone at any time. Yeah! Low key with little plans is okay!! When your daughter is older and understands things a lot more, it definitely gets to be so fun watching how she will learn! I love what you said about focusing on what you have right now and enjoying that. It is true. Love your video, once again.
Thank you from one professional to another for addressing the pressures put on us by our respective careers to absolutely swallow up practitioners. It’s unhealthy. I know that’s tangential to the focus of the video and your channel but I appreciate the insight.
I think it's absolutely ok to be on autopilot sometimes, especially when we've recently gone through or are going through a major life change... New baby, diagnosis, loss of someone close to you, a move, new job, etc.
I get a little tired of people assuming if your house is clean and organized you don't have a life. How about we don't assume messy houses = wonderful full life any more than a clean house = sad lonely life. How about we don't bash anyone and realize we all have different priorities at different stages. So be you without judging others.
I love a day with no plans. When I get up in the morning and I know I have no where to be and nothing I have to do I am right down giddy. Also, allowing space for things to evolve is a wise thing to do. Some of the best decisions I have made is when I have given them some space and allowed “things” to evolve on their own. Some of the worst mistakes I have made is when I forced things into being. There is an ancient Chinese philosophy called Wu Wei- effortless action or inaction.
I understand you! Growth and perspective are essential. I still do the last 15 minutes and the first 30 minutes of the day. Dishes were washed and put away, laundry and trash were thrown out, and shoes/purses/ clothes were in order. I know my spiritual walk and self-care are also important. This helped me feel in order and not panic minutes before someone arrived unexpectedly. Today, enjoying the day, whatever comes, is not a bad thing. I pace myself, have decreased digital media, and have not used my phone as much. Time management is essential, and your child will need to see the example. More than anything, be original. Fake living life is not a way to live. Giving yourself breathing room is growth, but don't get to laxidaisy
I think that the social norms of always going somewhere in life is causing people to have miserable lives. I think having direction is great, if you have somewhere you want to go, but if you just feel lost, maybe that's the universe telling you you don't need to go anywhere. What's the harm in living a slow life, nourishing yourself and your family, spending time getting your mental health in order, and just being? I think there's value in both ❤️
Sounds like you’re saying you should listen to yourself. Sounds like wise advice to me. Take your time. Enjoy your daughter. You will not get this time back. At age 63 when I look back to the times I took to go slower and savor life I did not regret it. Give yourself the gift of time. You will decide what direction is best if you allow yourself some space.
I love listening to you I very much enjoy listening to you, I just started listening to your UA-cam videos yesterday or maybe it was the day before, whatever. Anyways, I think you are so hard on yourself in this episode. I think that there is time for being buried go-getter and there’s also a time where you need to. Just relax and not push so hard. I think of it kind of like an athlete because they’re training makes them fitter and stronger and ready for the competition. However, you can’t be always fit in top shape and ready for competition, it requires a lot of physical and mental work and there needs to be a time of rest and recuperation both physically and mentally. I say that having a kid is one of the most tumultuous life-changing things that I’ve ever had, and I have three kids. And the parenting continues on into their 20s. So I guess what I am trying to say is you are an amazing person, you care a lot about trying to do your best, sometimes Good is good enough. 12:47
I have a 7 yo and a 5 yo! And while I am grateful for my tiny humans, I can’t be my best self if I don’t have most of my house clean. I don’t mind minor messes, but every surface cluttered is hard for me! I have been decluttering for a while now but my older kid is very sentimental and has a very hard time getting rid of stuff! I have unconsciously given him decluttering trauma. So I want to stop that habit! But at the same time, as a stay at home mom, it all falls on me. My husband is an intervention cardiology fellow. And I do know life will not be the same, as it hasn’t been in the past. I think for me, it’s the expectation that’s causing more stress. That I should be able to handle this situation, and my kids should be better at helping! It doesn’t serve me, but I just can’t function when there’s more mess than I can clean in 2 hours.
I'm almost positive the reality of being a parent bonked into you and that's why your perspective changed. Marie Kondo changed her tune as well when she had kids. She can't keep her space perfect anymore and realized her method is impractical for most families. Hopefully she writes an update.
You few guilt about the weirdest stuff 😂 when people ask me what my plans are for the weekend I’m like “what? People still make weekend plans?… in advance??”
When you have a baby it is completely reasonable and normal to be on autopilot. It’s hard to function like you did before having a child because you definitely don’t get the amount or quality of sleep you used to get. Also you are caring for someone ( your child) who needs you to do all things for her. When did you do that for someone before you had your baby?Never. There is no one in your life that you had to do absolutely all the things for them before you had a baby. It’s perfect fine to be on autopilot in your life for a while.
When I donate blood they always ask what do you have planned for the rest of your day or weekend. And every time I'm like uh...nothing. I have 5 children I will feed and take care of. Other than that, nada! I NEVER make plans. Anything we do is last minute or the day before decision. Of course besides holidays or trips to see family. Those are planned in advance
I understand the sentiment, and a full life should take precedence over cleaning beyond what maintains health. Having said that, I find clutter in my life anxiety provoking and overwhelming. So for a healthy balance I have reduced my home inventory to a comfortable level where it’s just as easy to put it away as drop it/leave it. That way I can go and do life, come home and have a tidy, calm, home sanctuary.
Wonderful video and message!!!! It’s not contradiction, it’s growth and perspective ❤
you'll get out of that fog eventully.
I do agree that it's good to have some periods where you're not sure, but just exploring. A clear mind points you in the right direction. I liked your video, I always enjoy your thoughts.
I have to say, I really like the less figured-out place you’re in Elin. Here for it and bless you for your authenticity. 💞
Love what you are saying and I understand. Life is always changing and we go through different seasons. and we need to enjoy every moment even if they are mundane. There is nothing wrong with mundane. Being able to understand this is so important.
Enjoy that sweet baby. She will grow up way too fast. 🎉
I had all the same collisions when I had kids. The beautiful thing about minimalism is that it helped me maintain a cleanish house while pregnant with two toddlers! I just realized that my clutter threshold really dropped and I had to keep purging again and again. Nearly all the baby stuff I had with my first I have since decluttered with my third! 😅
Yeah. . .I don't think a messy house is good for anyone at any time.
Yeah! Low key with little plans is okay!! When your daughter is older and understands things a lot more, it definitely gets to be so fun watching how she will learn!
I love what you said about focusing on what you have right now and enjoying that. It is true. Love your video, once again.
Thank you from one professional to another for addressing the pressures put on us by our respective careers to absolutely swallow up practitioners. It’s unhealthy.
I know that’s tangential to the focus of the video and your channel but I appreciate the insight.
I agree. We need a healthy balance! We want to enjoy life...but don't want to get bogged down in clutter either. 😊 Thanks, Elin!!
I always enjoy your videos and hearing your perspective on things.
I think it's absolutely ok to be on autopilot sometimes, especially when we've recently gone through or are going through a major life change... New baby, diagnosis, loss of someone close to you, a move, new job, etc.
I get a little tired of people assuming if your house is clean and organized you don't have a life. How about we don't assume messy houses = wonderful full life any more than a clean house = sad lonely life. How about we don't bash anyone and realize we all have different priorities at different stages. So be you without judging others.
I love a day with no plans. When I get up in the morning and I know I have no where to be and nothing I have to do I am right down giddy. Also, allowing space for things to evolve is a wise thing to do. Some of the best decisions I have made is when I have given them some space and allowed “things” to evolve on their own. Some of the worst mistakes I have made is when I forced things into being. There is an ancient Chinese philosophy called Wu Wei- effortless action or inaction.
I understand you! Growth and perspective are essential. I still do the last 15 minutes and the first 30 minutes of the day.
Dishes were washed and put away, laundry and trash were thrown out, and shoes/purses/ clothes were in order.
I know my spiritual walk and self-care are also important.
This helped me feel in order and not panic minutes before someone arrived unexpectedly.
Today, enjoying the day, whatever comes, is not a bad thing.
I pace myself, have decreased digital media, and have not used my phone as much.
Time management is essential, and your child will need to see the example.
More than anything, be original.
Fake living life is not a way to live.
Giving yourself breathing room is growth, but don't get to laxidaisy
I think that the social norms of always going somewhere in life is causing people to have miserable lives. I think having direction is great, if you have somewhere you want to go, but if you just feel lost, maybe that's the universe telling you you don't need to go anywhere. What's the harm in living a slow life, nourishing yourself and your family, spending time getting your mental health in order, and just being? I think there's value in both ❤️
Sounds like you’re saying you should listen to yourself. Sounds like wise advice to me. Take your time. Enjoy your daughter. You will not get this time back. At age 63 when I look back to the times I took to go slower and savor life I did not regret it. Give yourself the gift of time. You will decide what direction is best if you allow yourself some space.
I love listening to you I very much enjoy listening to you, I just started listening to your UA-cam videos yesterday or maybe it was the day before, whatever. Anyways, I think you are so hard on yourself in this episode. I think that there is time for being buried go-getter and there’s also a time where you need to. Just relax and not push so hard. I think of it kind of like an athlete because they’re training makes them fitter and stronger and ready for the competition. However, you can’t be always fit in top shape and ready for competition, it requires a lot of physical and mental work and there needs to be a time of rest and recuperation both physically and mentally. I say that having a kid is one of the most tumultuous life-changing things that I’ve ever had, and I have three kids. And the parenting continues on into their 20s. So I guess what I am trying to say is you are an amazing person, you care a lot about trying to do your best, sometimes Good is good enough. 12:47
I have a 7 yo and a 5 yo! And while I am grateful for my tiny humans, I can’t be my best self if I don’t have most of my house clean. I don’t mind minor messes, but every surface cluttered is hard for me!
I have been decluttering for a while now but my older kid is very sentimental and has a very hard time getting rid of stuff! I have unconsciously given him decluttering trauma. So I want to stop that habit!
But at the same time, as a stay at home mom, it all falls on me. My husband is an intervention cardiology fellow. And I do know life will not be the same, as it hasn’t been in the past. I think for me, it’s the expectation that’s causing more stress. That I should be able to handle this situation, and my kids should be better at helping! It doesn’t serve me, but I just can’t function when there’s more mess than I can clean in 2 hours.
I'm almost positive the reality of being a parent bonked into you and that's why your perspective changed. Marie Kondo changed her tune as well when she had kids. She can't keep her space perfect anymore and realized her method is impractical for most families. Hopefully she writes an update.
You few guilt about the weirdest stuff 😂 when people ask me what my plans are for the weekend I’m like “what? People still make weekend plans?… in advance??”
When you have a baby it is completely reasonable and normal to be on autopilot. It’s hard to function like you did before having a child because you definitely don’t get the amount or quality of sleep you used to get. Also you are caring for someone ( your child) who needs you to do all things for her. When did you do that for someone before you had your baby?Never. There is no one in your life that you had to do absolutely all the things for them before you had a baby. It’s perfect fine to be on autopilot in your life for a while.
This is a wake up call for YOU. UA-cam makes creators lose connection as real life contributors.
I’m so on autopilot right now with a 13 month old. I am so exhausted I feel dead inside.
I hope you can get some help soon! With childcare so you can breathe, with mental health so you can come back to yourself and recover. Thinking of you
Ugh I know how that is. Ask for help ❤ people want to help but they don't know you need help unless you ask
And try to spend more time outside
When I donate blood they always ask what do you have planned for the rest of your day or weekend. And every time I'm like uh...nothing. I have 5 children I will feed and take care of. Other than that, nada! I NEVER make plans. Anything we do is last minute or the day before decision. Of course besides holidays or trips to see family. Those are planned in advance
Hope you will make more youtube🙏🏻 And where did you buy this beautiful striped shirt?
Always thinking about where you are going might make you miss the present. 🤔