HOLY MAMA JAMA!!! KATIE BUG!!! You need to visit your Mom and Larry more often. This episode was so epically awesome, I have watched it twice!! You were on FI-YA girl! 🔥 Maybe you’re getting more solid rest and finally getting to be with family has both calmed and balanced your unsettling thoughts because your own resiliency was like 🤩! High five and a BOO-YAA! 🙌🏻💪🏻👍🏻👏🏻❤️💃🏻
Timestamps: Question 1 0:59 Hey! I wanted to ask for tips on building up emotional resilience and knowing when to self care and when to push yourself to be 'productive'. Last month i had something happen with my roommate which triggered me and caused me to have a panic attack in the park and nearly throw up (tmi i know) and ever since I've been feeling depressed/burnt out with anxiety (not sure which) and i really want to... Question 2 7:47 Hi Kati. I was wondering if you could explain why talking about past childhood trauma makes me feel so much worse? and I also wonder why I feel worse now than I did when the trauma happened? I stared talking about a sexual abuse 3 weeks ago and... Question 3 16:44 Hi Kati. How do I stop “what iffing” myself to death? How do those of us terrified of people get help? I’d say my anxiety is mostly Catastrophic Thinking, but everything I’m afraid of keeps actually happening (car breaking down, getting stuck in another state due to extreme weather, being run off the road by a cop, being terrorized by other people) and I can’t logic myself out of it. I have panic attacks even getting near my front door. I’m even getting to the point where posting questions here or being online at all is so stressful I probably need to stop. I want to get better, I want to be a functional member of society again, but... Question 4 25:37 Hey Kati, how many therapy sessions are needed to start feeling better? I've had 12; 1 about every 2 weeks. So far the only change is getting very nervous before each session and frustrated after (can up to a few days after). The frustration is from not feeling like I'm... Question 5 31:47 How can you manage feeling like life is a long series of traumas when your diagnosis is C-PTSD? It has been exhausting recently to feel like I’m really just floating along between traumas, trying to catch my... Question 6 39:52 Hi kati! I feel like my parents are influencing what my therapist thinks about me. What should I do, and what can I tell my therapist? For more background context, basically I called the suicide hotline. Earlier that day my parents had told me that I would need to start doing less therapy because of money. I had just recently opened up to my therapist about feeling suicidal because it was getting pretty bad, so it wasn't a great time to... Question 7 46:49 Is it bad for me to want to show my therapist things I’m proud of? When I make art or music that turns out well, I really want to show her. I don’t NEED to show her in order for me to be happy with it, but hearing her give me praise for my hard work is... Question 8 50:29 Hi Kati! Many times I think when I get fully better... I'll start my 'real life'...(maybe go back to school, start dating etc) But why can't I do it now?? How does one learn to manage one's life while their mental health is still a work in progress. In between therapy and... Question 9 56:12 Hi kati, I'm not actively suicidal right now, and I can recognize that there are reasons to hold on. However, when I am feeling suicidal, I can't see any of those things. I'm scared that I will hurt myself in the future, even though... Question 10 1:01:18 How does one deal with what feels like a "block" to making progress in certain areas? I've been working with a therapist on these issues, but I just can't seem to get past them. Things like getting an adequate amount of...
Thank you so much for answering my questions! (I’m the girl who asked #6 and #9). I’m uncomfortable with the thought of talking to my therapist (like you said, it seems kind of confrontational), but I’m going to try to bring up the email with her next session. I’m so glad you are online doing this. I’ve been having a pretty tough time lately, and online support like this can be very helpful. Also, thank you to everyone who liked my comments. I wasn’t anticipating that much support, and I’m really thankful to you guys for doing that.
Is there any people talking two or more language here ? I always find it way easier to talk about deeper stuff in English ( my second language) and I'm wondering if it is the fact that it is my second language ( I feel less attached to English than French language) or is it only beacause I feel like there's less stigma around mental health ( in my experiences) in english communities. Does anybody experiences the same thing ?
I find more information about mental health in english then in my native language, my psychologist noticed it was sometimes easier to express myselve in english because i get most info in english ...so now i mix languages during sessions 🤷♀️ So you are not alone!
I noticed the same! I think for me there are just many negative associations around words in my mother tongue due to experiences in my childhood, and so I feel more distanced when I think or talk about it in English.
Hi, A psychologist told me that thinking, writing or communicating in English it was researched as being the language to activate more another part of the brain than when you speak one of the Latin languages. And she told me that if I want to organise my mind if I speak English when I have a problem to think it in English. Might be because of that for you and the other people too. 🙂
All my casastrophic ”what if” ends up in the EXACT same thing - a combination of extreme panic, immense pain and being stuck/no way of escaping. Fun times!
Katie- I’ve been sexually abuse by my dads so called best friend, also by my dads girlfriends brother, my dad physically abused me to the point of it being torture. My mom kicked me out when I was 14. My husband now cuts me down calls me name. I was shot a 5 times. Everyone in my life that I was suppose to be able to trust I COULD NOT TRUST !! I trust NO ONE at this point. I ended up developing an eating disorder, cutting, complex PTSD, anxiety & panic disorders, disassociation disorder, depression just to mention a few. How do I learn to start trusting people again & how do I learn not to be so fearful of people ?? I’m terrified to be around anyone !! I have not even left my house in 2 years except for doctor appointments. Thank you
I have been in therepy of one type of another for years. I have gotten better in some ways but can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. It feels like i will be in therepy for life.
Thanks Katie for all you do! Ugh! Pain in the necks are just that! I always hear people say I must have slept wrong. Seems by now I'd know how to sleep. And which side of the bed is the right one to get up from. 🤤
Hey Kati I been trying to get this question answered for weeks now can you please answer it soon please Hi Kati can you discus complicated grief and how the pandemic may cause that in same cases right now .I was wondering because my family just had my stepsister funeral the other day and some we had to wait a whole month to have it to know if the grief is now considered complicated grief because of how long it took to have the funeral because my stepsister actually passed away last December do to car accident? Her five sons are taking it real hard especially her middle son is taking it the hardest, can I do anything can this be considered a trauma especially because 1) how long it took to have the funeral (1 month 2the funeral didn’t go well
I know how fustrating it is when u are hoping ur question will be picked but it seems to only depend on how many likes your comment gets. Mine never seem to get many likes but I think your best bet is to try and post it almost as soon as she posts on the community tab about it.
@@scenepunk09 I don’t always pay attention to when she puts up asking for new questions and it’s been 1 month since the funeral so I feel like I need it answered
go to the "opinions that dont matter" community tab. she posts smth every Monday-ish and asks for your questions there. leave a comment on the post and eventually you will get ur question answered.
Hey! I’m so sorry for your losses. I keep seeing your question. Have you watched her video on complicated grief? Keep asking! And maybe keep track of the likes you get? Also, don’t be afraid to reach out to the funeral home for support! Ask them for resources! Most people in that industry got into it because they are caring, compassionate people who want to help! And know that grief isn’t something that has a schedule! Like Kati mentioned in her answer about “how many sessions until we feel better,” every person is different. Our relationships with the people we have lost, as well as our relationship with death itself, can have a factor on it. Losing someone leaves a big hole in our lives, and that hole doesn’t go away. A week, a month, a decade...feeling the weight of that loss is normal. Grief is complicated enough on its own, and in times like these...
There's people who take a psychedelic drug and suddenly, without fanfare or effort, stop liking cigarettes as a result of a perspective change (though you can't expect that to happen every time a smoker tries a psychedelic). There's alcoholics who get prescribed naltrexone and use it for pharmacological extinction, and report slowly getting better without a period of white-knuckling or feeling worse. Has modern technology discovered any analogous shortcuts past the hardest part of therapy, even if they're not reliable?
TWO YEARS OF FEELING WORSE BEFORE TRAUMA YHERAPY ACTUALLY HELPS?! 😳🥺 Edit: I loved this video through and through though. Many interesting topics. Thanks. ❤️
#ASKKATIANYTHING Hi kati i don't know if you will see this but i loved your book. I have been going to therapy for almost 2 years and i'm be taking anti depressants. I'm excited and nervous about taking them. i have gad and depression. but now i have been going to therapy because my mom and my aunt and uncle think that sometimes im happy and fine and other times im mad and annoyed almost like moody
#ASKKATIANYTHING I just wanted to ask you how will someone feel after taking anti depressants like for the first time? and how will it help me like what am i going to see change or am i going to see any changes after taking them?
Hi! If you want to get your question answered, you can post it in the community tab. She asks for questions every Monday, and if yours gets enough likes she’ll answer it.
@@jennyvaldez5746 Yep, but make sure you comment it under the community tab. If you go to the tab right now, you can see that she asked for questions last week. On Monday she will ask again and you’ll be able to comment underneath it. If you get enough likes she will heart your question, and that’s how you will know that she is going to answer it on Thursday.
@@jennyvaldez5746 First, click on the Opinions That Don’t Matter channel icon. It will take you to the main page of the channel. Once you are there, you should see the channel name and some videos under it. At the very top of that page, there will be words that you can click on. Some of the words options should be: Home, Videos, Playlists, Community, Store, Channels, and About. Click on the ‘Community’ option. It will take you to a new part of the channel. There should be posts from Kati from the last couple weeks. If you click on one of the posts, you can see the comments people have left. On Monday at some time she will she send out a new post asking for questions. You can click on the post, and type your question. Let me know if you need me to clarify anything!
HOLY MAMA JAMA!!! KATIE BUG!!! You need to visit your Mom and Larry more often. This episode was so epically awesome, I have watched it twice!! You were on FI-YA girl! 🔥 Maybe you’re getting more solid rest and finally getting to be with family has both calmed and balanced your unsettling thoughts because your own resiliency was like 🤩! High five and a BOO-YAA! 🙌🏻💪🏻👍🏻👏🏻❤️💃🏻
Timestamps:
Question 1 0:59 Hey! I wanted to ask for tips on building up emotional resilience and knowing when to self care and when to push yourself to be 'productive'. Last month i had something happen with my roommate which triggered me and caused me to have a panic attack in the park and nearly throw up (tmi i know) and ever since I've been feeling depressed/burnt out with anxiety (not sure which) and i really want to...
Question 2 7:47 Hi Kati. I was wondering if you could explain why talking about past childhood trauma makes me feel so much worse? and I also wonder why I feel worse now than I did when the trauma happened? I stared talking about a sexual abuse 3 weeks ago and...
Question 3 16:44 Hi Kati. How do I stop “what iffing” myself to death? How do those of us terrified of people get help? I’d say my anxiety is mostly Catastrophic Thinking, but everything I’m afraid of keeps actually happening (car breaking down, getting stuck in another state due to extreme weather, being run off the road by a cop, being terrorized by other people) and I can’t logic myself out of it. I have panic attacks even getting near my front door. I’m even getting to the point where posting questions here or being online at all is so stressful I probably need to stop. I want to get better, I want to be a functional member of society again, but...
Question 4 25:37 Hey Kati, how many therapy sessions are needed to start feeling better? I've had 12; 1 about every 2 weeks. So far the only change is getting very nervous before each session and frustrated after (can up to a few days after). The frustration is from not feeling like I'm...
Question 5 31:47 How can you manage feeling like life is a long series of traumas when your diagnosis is C-PTSD? It has been exhausting recently to feel like I’m really just floating along between traumas, trying to catch my...
Question 6 39:52 Hi kati! I feel like my parents are influencing what my therapist thinks about me. What should I do, and what can I tell my therapist? For more background context, basically I called the suicide hotline. Earlier that day my parents had told me that I would need to start doing less therapy because of money. I had just recently opened up to my therapist about feeling suicidal because it was getting pretty bad, so it wasn't a great time to...
Question 7 46:49 Is it bad for me to want to show my therapist things I’m proud of? When I make art or music that turns out well, I really want to show her. I don’t NEED to show her in order for me to be happy with it, but hearing her give me praise for my hard work is...
Question 8 50:29 Hi Kati! Many times I think when I get fully better... I'll start my 'real life'...(maybe go back to school, start dating etc) But why can't I do it now?? How does one learn to manage one's life while their mental health is still a work in progress. In between therapy and...
Question 9 56:12 Hi kati, I'm not actively suicidal right now, and I can recognize that there are reasons to hold on. However, when I am feeling suicidal, I can't see any of those things. I'm scared that I will hurt myself in the future, even though...
Question 10 1:01:18 How does one deal with what feels like a "block" to making progress in certain areas? I've been working with a therapist on these issues, but I just can't seem to get past them. Things like getting an adequate amount of...
god bless u dude :)
Thank you
I miss the time stamp helpers. So helpful to know when to start the question over and listen. 'Ask Kati Anything' has been a great support to me!
Thank you so much for answering my questions! (I’m the girl who asked #6 and #9). I’m uncomfortable with the thought of talking to my therapist (like you said, it seems kind of confrontational), but I’m going to try to bring up the email with her next session.
I’m so glad you are online doing this. I’ve been having a pretty tough time lately, and online support like this can be very helpful.
Also, thank you to everyone who liked my comments. I wasn’t anticipating that much support, and I’m really thankful to you guys for doing that.
Yay! I've been waiting for this to post! It's been a hard week!! Yes chronic pain sucks! Love n hugs kati and community 🥰
Yes for caregivers It sucks too
Having a rough time this week, so grateful for this podcast!
me too. these podcast's are very special
Thanks for another great podcast!! I definitely look forward to Thursday's for these!! 💗💗
Thank you for doing this Kati.
Once again a great episode!! A lot of information packed in there.
Great questions, great answers and encouragement.
I look forward to these every week! Thanks for all the information Kati.
Awe yay!! xoxo
Was literally just talking about this podcast (read: obsessively raving...] when I got this notification 🤣🤣
Yay!! xoxo
Is there any people talking two or more language here ? I always find it way easier to talk about deeper stuff in English ( my second language) and I'm wondering if it is the fact that it is my second language ( I feel less attached to English than French language) or is it only beacause I feel like there's less stigma around mental health ( in my experiences) in english communities. Does anybody experiences the same thing ?
I find more information about mental health in english then in my native language, my psychologist noticed it was sometimes easier to express myselve in english because i get most info in english ...so now i mix languages during sessions 🤷♀️ So you are not alone!
For me it's exactly the same
I noticed the same! I think for me there are just many negative associations around words in my mother tongue due to experiences in my childhood, and so I feel more distanced when I think or talk about it in English.
In a way, yes. Some things are 'smoother' for me in English than in Hebrew. Maybe it's really about being less emotionally attached to it.
Hi,
A psychologist told me that thinking, writing or communicating in English it was researched as being the language to activate more another part of the brain than when you speak one of the Latin languages.
And she told me that if I want to organise my mind if I speak English when I have a problem to think it in English.
Might be because of that for you and the other people too. 🙂
Next week will be ONE WHOLE YEAR!!! ❤️
Love Thursdays.... my counseling appointment and then Kati :)
Just discovered your podcast channel, and I’m so grateful to have found it!
Thank you Kati! Love these videos
Best time of the whole week
All my casastrophic ”what if” ends up in the EXACT same thing - a combination of extreme panic, immense pain and being stuck/no way of escaping. Fun times!
Doing well I hope to go back to threapy soon ❤️
Yay, new episode, the best part of Thursday!
Woot woot!! xoxo
Katie- I’ve been sexually abuse by my dads so called best friend, also by my dads girlfriends brother, my dad physically abused me to the point of it being torture. My mom kicked me out when I was 14. My husband now cuts me down calls me name. I was shot a 5 times. Everyone in my life that I was suppose to be able to trust I COULD NOT TRUST !! I trust NO ONE at this point. I ended up developing an eating disorder, cutting, complex PTSD, anxiety & panic disorders, disassociation disorder, depression just to mention a few. How do I learn to start trusting people again & how do I learn not to be so fearful of people ?? I’m terrified to be around anyone !! I have not even left my house in 2 years except for doctor appointments. Thank you
yayy new video!! hope you're well xo
I have been in therepy of one type of another for years. I have gotten better in some ways but can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. It feels like i will be in therepy for life.
I’m sure it’s okay to take breaks, and you’re allowed to go when you’re feeling better and more healthy. (:
Trauma timeline and writing down narratives. 👍🏽 awesome thank you kati!
Thanks Katie for all you do! Ugh! Pain in the necks are just that! I always hear people say I must have slept wrong. Seems by now I'd know how to sleep. And which side of the bed is the right one to get up from. 🤤
Here we go 💜
I really want to know when her second book is released? Super excited to buy it
I can’t believe I’ve watched every single episodes of Ask Kati Anything
Awe yay!! I hope they have been helpful :) xoxo
I’m almost there!! I’m on episode 46!
me too :) 51 hours well spent :) ive learned sooooo much
Hey Kati I been trying to get this question answered for weeks now can you please answer it soon please
Hi Kati can you discus complicated grief and how the pandemic may cause that in same cases right now .I was wondering because my family just had my stepsister funeral the other day and some we had to wait a whole month to have it to know if the grief is now considered complicated grief because of how long it took to have the funeral because my stepsister actually passed away last December do to car accident? Her five sons are taking it real hard especially her middle son is taking it the hardest, can I do anything can this be considered a trauma especially because 1) how long it took to have the funeral (1 month
2the funeral didn’t go well
I know how fustrating it is when u are hoping ur question will be picked but it seems to only depend on how many likes your comment gets. Mine never seem to get many likes but I think your best bet is to try and post it almost as soon as she posts on the community tab about it.
@@scenepunk09 I don’t always pay attention to when she puts up asking for new questions and it’s been 1 month since the funeral so I feel like I need it answered
@@mimibelta259 i usually cant post my question around the time she asks for them either cuz im always at work around that time.
go to the "opinions that dont matter" community tab. she posts smth every Monday-ish and asks for your questions there. leave a comment on the post and eventually you will get ur question answered.
Hey! I’m so sorry for your losses. I keep seeing your question. Have you watched her video on complicated grief? Keep asking! And maybe keep track of the likes you get? Also, don’t be afraid to reach out to the funeral home for support! Ask them for resources! Most people in that industry got into it because they are caring, compassionate people who want to help!
And know that grief isn’t something that has a schedule! Like Kati mentioned in her answer about “how many sessions until we feel better,” every person is different. Our relationships with the people we have lost, as well as our relationship with death itself, can have a factor on it. Losing someone leaves a big hole in our lives, and that hole doesn’t go away. A week, a month, a decade...feeling the weight of that loss is normal. Grief is complicated enough on its own, and in times like these...
Such good questions this weekkkkk 👌🏽
What should I do to get my questions answered? Please Kati, I'm really struggling 😭
You can ask them in the community tab on the channel and hopefully it will get enough likes..
You should add time stamps to each question in the description.
That’s a nice recommendation! I think that would be helpful too.
How do I leave a review on Spotify?
Exactly 35.9
I love your channel
the what-if lady should send her car to a general check beforehand
There's people who take a psychedelic drug and suddenly, without fanfare or effort, stop liking cigarettes as a result of a perspective change (though you can't expect that to happen every time a smoker tries a psychedelic). There's alcoholics who get prescribed naltrexone and use it for pharmacological extinction, and report slowly getting better without a period of white-knuckling or feeling worse. Has modern technology discovered any analogous shortcuts past the hardest part of therapy, even if they're not reliable?
My neck got janked up Monday. It suuuuucks.
Ugh.. that is the worst. Rest up and I hope you're feeling better soon!! xox
TWO YEARS OF FEELING WORSE BEFORE TRAUMA YHERAPY ACTUALLY HELPS?! 😳🥺
Edit: I loved this video through and through though. Many interesting topics. Thanks. ❤️
🙂
I just like your account name. Huge harry potter fan. Lol
@@scenepunk09 me too! I finally read the books this year after watching the movies over and over lol
Wow never been so early!
My “what if” came true and I ended up secluded and drugged by a psych nurse 😅 halp
FYI: your mom does NOT use that "messager" on her neck. lol
#ASKKATIANYTHING Hi kati i don't know if you will see this but i loved your book. I have been going to therapy for almost 2 years and i'm be taking anti depressants. I'm excited and nervous about taking them. i have gad and depression. but now i have been going to therapy because my mom and my aunt and uncle think that sometimes im happy and fine and other times im mad and annoyed almost like moody
#ASKKATIANYTHING I just wanted to ask you how will someone feel after taking anti depressants like for the first time? and how will it help me like what am i going to see change or am i going to see any changes after taking them?
Hi! If you want to get your question answered, you can post it in the community tab. She asks for questions every Monday, and if yours gets enough likes she’ll answer it.
@@elliem7912 So I just have to comment it again on Monday and the mores likes I get she will respond to the question?
@@jennyvaldez5746 Yep, but make sure you comment it under the community tab. If you go to the tab right now, you can see that she asked for questions last week. On Monday she will ask again and you’ll be able to comment underneath it. If you get enough likes she will heart your question, and that’s how you will know that she is going to answer it on Thursday.
@@elliem7912 where do I find community tab?
@@jennyvaldez5746 First, click on the Opinions That Don’t Matter channel icon. It will take you to the main page of the channel. Once you are there, you should see the channel name and some videos under it. At the very top of that page, there will be words that you can click on. Some of the words options should be: Home, Videos, Playlists, Community, Store, Channels, and About. Click on the ‘Community’ option. It will take you to a new part of the channel. There should be posts from Kati from the last couple weeks. If you click on one of the posts, you can see the comments people have left. On Monday at some time she will she send out a new post asking for questions. You can click on the post, and type your question. Let me know if you need me to clarify anything!
Until you will be bankrupt 😂