85 | What is True Love? | Islamic Psychology

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  • Опубліковано 21 лис 2024

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  • @Rana-Abbas79
    @Rana-Abbas79 5 місяців тому +23

    Alsalaamu aleikom my dear sister Mona. I’ve been wanting to write a review for you for a long time. This podcast really had me in tears and healed the deepest wounds in me, wounds I didn’t know were even there 😭
    I hope you know how loved by Allah you are. I have tears as I write this because I KNOW and many people know that you are one of His special chosen people who have been sent to make big positive changes in the Ummah. Even the most trusted scholars haven’t been able to explain psychology and Islam in the way you have and I believe it’s because they don’t understand it. YOU ARE HEALING SO MANY PEOPLE WHO HAVE LOST HOPE. I sent your podcasts to my nephews (19 and 22) and they love you too. You have inspired them to be better because what you say makes complete sense to them. They were impressed by people like Tate and awful salafis online, and it showed in their attitude and we were getting worried about them becoming narcissists. The way you teach true Islam is on another level and you have a gift of being able to do this in the easiest way Allahumma Barik. My sister and I were surprised that they make the effort to listen to the long ones. You are a powerful woman and have the ability to raise good men and women and make great shifts in the mindset of people so they can get better. Your podcasts are a medicine and lifeline from Allah to say the least 💖💖💖
    You are also healing my parents who enjoy listening to your calm voice. We look forward to every podcast you drop (I’ve listened to them all!) even if they don’t relate to me, I learn so much and pray for you after each one. We have family discussions about your podcasts and it has brought us together. You are beyond special and you deserve nothing less than the best Paradise in return for what you’re doing for us for free. Only Allah can give you what you deserve Dr. Mona, we are forever indebted and grateful to you for your hard work, I am sure it’s saved many people and brought people back to Allah in the best of ways.
    I love you so so much for the sake of Allah and I pray you reach more people with this amazing knowledge. I pray I get to meet you one day.
    P.S I have emailed you for coaching. Lots of love and duas from Rana in the USA xxxxxxxxx

    • @themuslimnarcissistbook
      @themuslimnarcissistbook  5 місяців тому +4

      Wsalaam Rana thank you so much for your beautiful message, I don't have the words to respond to these kind words ❤🥲 jazaki Allah khair for the feedback, I'm so glad you loved this podcast and that your family is benefitting from my work too, it made my day, may Allah bless you ❤

  • @RedBerrySky7
    @RedBerrySky7 5 місяців тому +29

    I wish there would be more people like you Mona who has this much knowledge.

  • @Ina.Time2
    @Ina.Time2 15 днів тому +1

    Thank you Dr. Mona i feel like everytime i listen to your podcast i feel like a light switch like yess thats exactly it and you put into words from every aspect and the deen point of view and how its all connected every question i have you answer it in each podcast may Allah truly reward you sis you're a big part of my healing and i pray Allah rewards you both in this world and the hereafter and grant you Jannah sis. This is the first time in almost 16 years i am able to find clarity and move on from the past of being married and having kids with my ex. I am an empath and really beat myself up on how i was blind to his true nature im still trying to make sense of it all cause it took me 16 years to figure this man out im still shocked at who i was married to all these years

  • @SayyadaR
    @SayyadaR 5 місяців тому +3

    May Allah bless you… really.
    You make life feel so logical
    You make us realise how islam is simple and full of mercy. JazakAllahu khayr Dr Mona🌸

  • @sooshmitafaruk5318
    @sooshmitafaruk5318 5 місяців тому +11

    I love how that the self love is different to western concept of self love. Love for Allah and prophets comes first. I noted some questions I had

  • @timetoumckayne4431
    @timetoumckayne4431 5 місяців тому +8

    MashaAllah this is true dedication
    3 hours
    JAzzakallahou lkheir

  • @afndnst
    @afndnst 5 місяців тому +7

    Thank you so much ❤ I cannot thank you enough for bringing all of this knowledge

  • @doniaabdalla9687
    @doniaabdalla9687 5 місяців тому +3

    Listening to this from beginning to end was like a huge sigh of relief. Literally I feel lighter after listening to this. JAK Dr Mona ❤

  • @SmileyUna123
    @SmileyUna123 4 місяці тому +3

    Wow subhanaAllah this opened my eyes to a lot of things. I have always had an intuitive feeling about the 'love' that is represented in songs and films and media etc. but could never put into words why there was something off about it to me but it makes total sense when you talk about this "Ishq" (forgive me if I spelt that wrong). Real love can only be given by Allah and that is a much purer form than that ishq form mentioned in even most of the 'clean' songs we hear nowadays. I now realise from this video that the love songs I listened to that I thought were 'clean' are still highly problematic and I need to be very careful what I listen to. I haven't fallen in ishq love exactly but I believe I came very close to it and I believe subhanAllah Allah saved and protected me from it because there was a blocker for me which stopped me from pursuing that person but without belief in Allah, perhaps I would have ended up in that trap very easily subhanAllah. Our religion really is for our own good and so much wisdom behind it. Thank you for sharing this; this is truly valuable knowledge indeed. This also made me feel more at ease as a single person because I'm now no longer tying my self worth to that "love" and the way I see it now is that I don't want or need that kind of "love" and only want love that comes from Allah only and if Allah happens to find me a good spouse that would be a bonus blessing from Him but the main priority for me personally in my own life should be worshipping Allah and aiming to get to Jannah. May Allah grant it to us all, Ameen. It's something that I knew sort of subconsciously before but it has been brought to my more conscious mind because of your video and I'm more aware of that more in this video and it has definitely put me at ease and has gave me more tawakkul than I had before. I truly feel a lot of anxiety has been lifted off me due to this knowledge shared. Thank you and may Allah bless you for this.

    • @themuslimnarcissistbook
      @themuslimnarcissistbook  4 місяці тому +1

      I’m so glad you found this helpful alhamdulilah, thank you for the time it took you to write your kind feedback, it has made my day 😃 You will like the follow up podcast to it too (86) ♥️ May Allah bless you ♥️

    • @SmileyUna123
      @SmileyUna123 4 місяці тому

      @@themuslimnarcissistbook Thank you, I will for sure listen to this too inshaAllah ❤

  • @Adephunkie
    @Adephunkie 4 місяці тому

    Mashaa Allah! Alhamdulilah!
    I have listened to over 15 of your Podcasts, they all brough so much clarity to the confusions in my head and the confusions my husband is always bringing but This one solidify it all.
    I should have come across your videos earlier because I am always on UA-cam listening to different people talk about Narcissists, NPD....etc i have learnt alot from different videos, I have been planning, preparing and praying to leave my marriage for the past 4yrs but I havent been able to do that yet, been feeling so stocked and stagnant while the situation gets even more toxic. I was in another emotional breakdown questioning everything all over again when i came across your Podcast. I believe God brought it to me now to give me the assurance that HE would deliver me. I shld not despair.
    This Podcast solidify my ever wondering thoughs about Love.
    Thanks fpr bringing so much more clarity on every podcast. May your empowering podcasts weigh big on ur scale of good deeds Ameen.
    Pray for me as I await my golden ticket.

  • @RiiriiStar
    @RiiriiStar 5 місяців тому +9

    Love that is is 3hrs. I love your podcasts!!

  • @Mamaofthree-u4m
    @Mamaofthree-u4m 4 місяці тому +1

    Thank you so much Dr Mona❤ you are God sent. God continue to bless you 😻💕💕

  • @halimasadia5325
    @halimasadia5325 5 місяців тому +1

    JazakAllah Khair, may Allah swt bless you abundantly Ameen🤲

  • @KandR101
    @KandR101 5 місяців тому +2

    SubhanAllah! I am loss for words as to how structured and organized the topic is being explained, in detail. I laughed out loud when you explained what 'Ishq' means. The world of poetry, Bollywood, and Hollywood flashed before my eyes as to how these 3 hours could end those industries if the correct definition came to known by the masses.
    So much more was answered and explained which I had questioned for the longest of the time. For example: What is the deeper reason for sending salwat and loving Allah above all,etc.
    As always the validation. It becomes super important to heal when everyone you turn to has the same reply/ mindset because that is all they have experienced -toxicity and narcissism. Yet here you are being the odd one out so Jazak'Allah Dr.Mona. You are simply amazing!
    What a treat to be listening to it on Eid - Ul - Adha, 2024!

  • @CustomCrew-fh5lr
    @CustomCrew-fh5lr 4 місяці тому +1

    Your question is the best, I always hated my narcissist , and I used to love me so much because I love who I was on the inside and after a few years of marriage he made me hate myself but I didn’t care if he loved me or not in ever even asked that question after the first year of marriage I realised what it was and then tried to break free and run away for good for years . My secret to making him stay away for good and not trick me into comming back for the kids and we are a family and all the other careless whispers in between was to make him and his family hate me so much that he wouldn’t be allowed to come back to me even if he wanted , I had always respected everyone in the family even is psycho narc mother and his enabling sisters , one day I just called them , made him put me on loud speaker at a family bbq and made sure the things I said and exposed there was no comming back from , and I didn’t want to be rude and say those things but I felt like I had to because some would encourage him to fix it with me usually because they liked me . I did a one hit wonder I’m pretty sure I heard like 29 gasps in the back ground and yelling 🥴 but it had to be done and he was never allowed to come back and try love bomb me ever again …. Because he lived with his parents aswell so it worked out great for me

  • @alimuhammad-gx2ud
    @alimuhammad-gx2ud 5 місяців тому +2

    Jazakalllah khaira for an amazing podcast ♡

  • @steedofsouthasia
    @steedofsouthasia 5 місяців тому +2

    Long live true Love.
    Thanks for the videos.

  • @imaanhanif8863
    @imaanhanif8863 5 місяців тому +1

    Best lecture to date. May Allah reward you.

  • @yara22273
    @yara22273 3 місяці тому

    Beautiful podcast such an important topic which was refreshing to hear. Society has misconstrued the meaning of love by feeding us false notions through the media. I’m so glad for this podcast which emphasises the true meaning of love according to the Quran and Sunnah.
    The ending made me emotional where you spoke on cultivating Muwadda with Allah (swt). Subhanallah it’s something I can relate to as I’ve had toxic family removed from my life which has taught me to rely solely on Allah as my Wali.
    Thank you Dr Mona for another fantastic podcast. ❤

  • @norhishambashir5495
    @norhishambashir5495 4 місяці тому

    You are so knowledgeable and special Mona. Truly a gem in the dakwah community. To have a wife like you is a miracle for me❤

    • @themuslimnarcissistbook
      @themuslimnarcissistbook  4 місяці тому

      Jazak Allah khair, I'm glad my work is helping you, may Allah bless you and all good men with a good wife inshallah

  • @reybay613
    @reybay613 5 місяців тому

    Mashallah thank you another great podcast to learn so much - may Allah bless you Sis in Faith :)
    with your podcast i fall more and more in Love with Islam. Alhamdulilah that Allah have found me lost and guide me. Alhamdulilah

    • @themuslimnarcissistbook
      @themuslimnarcissistbook  5 місяців тому

      Alhamdulilah ♥️😊 jazaki Allah khair and you too, glad they’re helping x

  • @iNikkah
    @iNikkah 5 місяців тому +1

    Very insightful podcast I hope more people listen

  • @Notmytoe
    @Notmytoe 5 місяців тому +1

    Thank you so much for this valuable information. I had half baked suspicions about many of the things you talk about, but not the islamic knowledge to know if I was correct or not. My instincts told me I was going in the correct direction. But when I tried to learn more about Islam, a lot of the salafi brand of islamic content I saw preached the opposite of what I was doing. Even under the videos of people like Mufti Menk, they are attacking him very viciously and it is hard to avoid😭
    It made me start to doubt the healing that I had already done (using western sources) for my narcissistic family abuse. I noticed that sometimes they directly contradict or misquote the Quran. But with my history of being gaslit and also my lack of knowledge, I still wasn't 100% sure of what I saw seeing.
    Your podcast really helps me put all these scattered ideas into one whole mental framework that makes full sense.

  • @hussainsharmin661
    @hussainsharmin661 5 місяців тому +4

    This generation it is very difficult to find a good person

    • @expressionsSolutions
      @expressionsSolutions 5 місяців тому +8

      I wouldn’t worry about that. For Allah it’s easy to connect you. It’s important to work on yourself and Allah can bring the right person to you. He has no shortage of any resource.

    • @hussainsharmin661
      @hussainsharmin661 5 місяців тому

      @@expressionsSolutions that's true

  • @nazleapetersen8599
    @nazleapetersen8599 5 місяців тому

    Salaamun alykum Doc,
    I was on the verge of losing my faith in how the message was spread out....honestly by The Grace of Allah as I was losing it....I received an invite for Hajj...I believe Hajj gave me the opportunity to revisit Islam in this Era, and from a conscious generation Alhamdulillah 😢

  • @Anja_83
    @Anja_83 5 місяців тому +1

    Awesome and informative podcast like always ! Alhamdulillah for such wonderful blessing of being able to listen to your knowledge

  • @khairak2882
    @khairak2882 4 місяці тому

    May Allah put Barakah in your work, I wish I knew I saw this podcast before starting to get ready for marriage, but Allah has willed that I learn my lesson through experience. You deserve to have a College where the courses are all about this so that people are more and more aware. Again,May Allah put Baraka in your work,your life and in every aspect of your life

  • @annai3394
    @annai3394 5 місяців тому +6

    Dear Mona you have saved my faith ❤ May Allah bless you

  • @Ummuyunus72
    @Ummuyunus72 5 місяців тому +3

    My husband couldn’t wait to get rid of me fast enough as soon as I figured him out he can’t even stay in the same room as me for 5 minute😂 his literally scared of me exposing him to everyone. I didn’t tell him that I figured him out I got a mediator he was so surprised.

  • @Hajarlovesislam
    @Hajarlovesislam 5 місяців тому

    BarakAllahu Feek sister Mona❤

  • @fredo2517
    @fredo2517 5 місяців тому

    Definitely read the book along with the podcast

  • @Saba61389
    @Saba61389 5 місяців тому +6

    1:16:35 I’ll never look at doing laundry the same way again 😂

  • @Dawahspot
    @Dawahspot 5 місяців тому

    Very informative and a sense of realization. Thank you!

  • @ish839
    @ish839 5 місяців тому +1

    1:50:00 If you're aware of music consipracy theories, Beyonce's song 'Crazy In Love' was believed to be the song she supposedly used to sell her soul to the devil, become apart of the illuminati and launch her solo music career. The fact that the song is about 'Ishq love and the fact that type of love is related to 'ashiq jinn is kind of ironic.

  • @zoyakhan9901
    @zoyakhan9901 5 місяців тому

    May Allah bless you ✨️

  • @MuhammedYasin-e6e
    @MuhammedYasin-e6e 5 місяців тому

    A lot to learn about ❤

  • @Drfaiza-h1z
    @Drfaiza-h1z 4 місяці тому

    Just woww

  • @zebakhawaja
    @zebakhawaja 5 місяців тому

    A narcissist loved to hurt you....

  • @mohammeds46
    @mohammeds46 5 місяців тому +1

    Trying to be religious codependent get attracted with wrong partners ..

  • @zebakhawaja
    @zebakhawaja 5 місяців тому

    But how do you know who is Al Lah, as an The One????

  • @shafanatoufiq
    @shafanatoufiq 3 місяці тому

    خليل !! 🥲🥹💘