DEAR INSECURE GIRL
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- Опубліковано 17 лип 2017
- Watch this if you feel insecure about yourself.
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"Looks come and go, characters last forever" preach🔥
ayah lahrichi So true and after all character will ALWAYS matter the most, I have mad respect for you for saying that and I also have mad respect for you for having a picture of Selena Gomez for your profile picture
Rubber Ducky haha me too she’s queen 😍
Congrats on 6k likes!
ayah lahrichi
When a mean bitch calls me fat.....
Yeah but people change...
remember. there’s different types of beauty. i think city lights are beautiful, but also flowers. and they don’t look anything alike
damn
Sorry, but Im using this as a quote on my instagram bio if you dont mind?
but one is artificial, created for the requirements of people, and the other is natural .
Thats so sweet thank you 💖💖
I want to be beautiful in every way though
I wish people in my school were like you .
Me too
Jess Daffodil ikr
Listen to me jess .You shouldnt care what really people think or say about you.We shy people try to overthink everything so when we speak we sound weird.We need to let everything come natyrally.Because inside you are a beautiful person
Same alot of people call me it then say it's a joke
Same
I have heard a lot of people say that girls compare themselves with Instagram models so they’re insecure without a reason . No, we compare ourselves with our classmates , our friends in real life that’s why we’re insecure . ‘Cause we know in real life they can’t use filters or photoshop themselves and still look gorgeous .Thats the problem here...
yes!! my mom wanted to ban me from social media because i “compared myself to the girls i see there” but i don’t!! i see all my friends looking absolutely PERFECT and i’m like... 💩👽
@@Venus00.1 maybe first fix ur personality
Exactly, I always see beauty in everyone but myself:/
Yeaaaa this is part of it but there’s another part . the problem is that people aren’t seeing the value of their unique features 💕 . The problem is that people don’t see just how beautiful they really are . The problem is the looking in the mirror and saying “I’m so ugly” “Everyone is prettier than me” “I’m not good enough.” The problem is people not seeing that they are they’re own individual human being. No one looks the same as them so they should own the features we have that nobody else got . We are all beautifully and wonderfully made! Everyone’s DIFFERENT! Nobody I mean NOBODY ON THIS PLANET THAT’S FILLED WITH MILLIONS AND MILLIONS OF PEOPLE ARE THE SAME AS U !! So own who u are once u find out who u are 🙃 Much love 💕
Wen you in a country were make up in most schools isn't even allowed and ppl still look gorgeous :)
I compare myself to pretty girls irl not on social media :)
Yah everyone in my class is so pretty It hurts going to school is scary people looking at my face legit make me feel sick I don't want people to see me
Was just about to write this, but saw this and just thought I'd comment on it instead, this is SO true, my friends are all fit, pretty gymnasts and I'm just this inflexible INCREDIBLY achne prone girl who hates her weight and everything about herself. You can say things like this all you want and "WHO CARES?"
Society cares
And nowadays society is everywhere.
Abbie Skelhorn Honestly, I feel like this too all of my friends say their ugly but I feel like their all prettier than me/skinnier than me. But if you feel so insecure you should work on what you dislike about yourself and stop comparing ,because Ik that comparing myself to other people is what made me insecure. And society doesn’t like anyone wether your beautiful or ugly etc. Hope this helped x.
@@BBBunny11 thanks for this, I am actually trying to get fitter, I know it's going to take time as I'm only going for runs and snacking less, but I guess you've just helped me know I'm not alone ❤️ x
same i just started crying cuz i saw a tiktok of a girl i go to school with. she looks much better than i do.
you are the type of a person to sit with on a roof at summer night and talk
Monika Čížková but you wouldn't consider him boyfriend material, be honest.
why the hell not?
i would consider him HUSBAND MATERIAL
Why not? You don't even know him, you can't say that.
What lol im confused
Edit: ohhhh i get it 👌🏽 😂
When people call me beautiful, I cry.
You're beautiful
Your existence is enchanting
no has very called my beautiful but my mom
and she saidthat cuz she called my sister it
I'm hideous
Your brautifaul . dont cry plz 💜👑
Nobody calls me beautiful but if they was I would think they're lying😔😌
I'm literally insecure about every inch of me 😔
Same..
Dont worry work on smthng u can control if its ur body work on ur stamina and strength u will reach ur body goals if not uk that how physically & mentally strong you are & care for ppl who care for u even when u dont love urself. Looks will go ...always stay happy & live life☺️
Me too... I always cry myself to sleep + I have no friends I’m a weird ugly freak. Every boy I like ends up leaving or calling me ugly. So I guess this is my life
@@gisellegarcia6732 dont cry I used to cry too but whats the point? Workout increase ur stamina get stronger it will enhance ur confidence and looks never last for life.
girl your not alone. I just can’t wait to the day until i get plastic surgery
Boys like happy girls but I am not happy because I am so insecure about My looks thats why I am always sad
Same
Same, girl, same...
Same
Not always sometimes broken is better as you can build ur selfs together idk
I can relate
I'm insecure about my personality though
me too :/
same tbh
Keanna 303 honestly same ASF I think I'm weird and too loud 😂😂😂
Same like that my main concern..
Same
My main insecurity is my personality. I’m okay looking, I guess, but I’m really shy and introverted and have a hard time with guys because of that. A lot of people assume I’m dissing them or being an ass and I’m not really sure that I can change that.
Jessica Ryan same except people are dissing me all the time. I hate being gloomy even when i smile i look worse and everyones pointing me out
Being introverted socially awkward gets social anxiety and is insecure....is great honestly
Me too. I'm introverted and really arkward. Hardly make a first move when meet new people, so that i just have a few friends. Not only my personality though, i'm also insecure about my appearance:(
Same-ish, I’m also super introverted and shy, I don’t think I have a great body, I mean I guess it’s ok. I don’t think I have a bad personality, but I’ve been judged and hated for just being me, for as long as I can remember, and I can’t help but think about how many of my friends talk shit about me behind my back
Jessica Ryan the fact that you're shy and introvert doesn't mean that you're not nice, intelligent, etc. People who are really interested and are WORTH IT aren't gonna give up on you so easily and will be there no matter what
“Your body is imperfectly perfect“
~Melanie Martinez❤✨
Melanie Martinez is perfect and pretty so she can say that,but I'm uglyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
Orange Juice~
Everyone wants what the other ones working...
@@jungwonscactus9425 ooOraNge jUicE
@Ari luvs Jesus yeah but please try your best not to be so hard on yourself
I'm sorry that you're insecure
Me: *literally starts crying*
Harry's Dimples
Lmao really?
Indigenous Guy Of America. I really dont remember writing this, but when he said that sentence i FELT SOMETHING🤣💓
Harry's Dimples
Lol :)
Harry's Dimples literally me
I know you posted this message 2 months ago, but hello fellow fandom member 😄
"Thank you for watching."
No.
Thank YOU for making a video worth watching.
You have really helped me today. Thank you so much.
Chloe Moriarty v
FR!!!!
Cutie ❤️
**sees title**
*Me: Hey, thats me!*
Literally same 😂
Same
Same I'm big
Haha yeah me too ;)
Same, but mostly about my body
women can be insecure about being too skinny too.
DJEX 2000 PREACH.
Yeah me too
that’s my biggest insecurity.
I hate how so many people think it’s stupid and it’s not a thing, it’s a thing & it fucking sucks.
Exactly. No matter how much I try to love myself people make fun of my skinny body and make me feel so insecured about myself.
I wish that I could be too skinny
The world is full of broken people. We need more people with good hearts.
Or.. since thats the common thought… maybe we could all just start to be nice with each other from now on, eh? ☺️
I honestly thought this was gonna be cheesy, but your way of speaking and your opinions really won me over!
Jeanette Ferreira Sorry for the bad english: we got the same name and i was saying "we got the same name but she's more beautiful than me" then i've watched to the video so... I'm not gonna say it Roman made me feel good
Papafico do you know what our name means? It means 'God is gracious' I think that's kinda cool. God bless you ((:
Jeanette Ferreira thanks 😘
yess me too
Sweet
I started crying as soon as he said "I'm sorry that you're insecure"
This really helped me, I struggle with anxiety every day and with that comes insecurities, thank you so much.❤️
people only like you if your “hot or “cute”.
Yeah, mostly but not only
Who the fuck cares about other people opinions, i'm a very ugly person and i'm a man who didn't experience romance in life, my age is 20. I have decided i'll never approach someone ever.
Green marble you are not ugly. And you might be like “but I am” or “you can’t even see me”, well yeah I can’t but no one is ugly. Some people might not find you attractive but that’s okay because so many people will. Even if you don’t have romance In your life, you’re 20 dude. You have so much life to live. I honestly don’t have a conclusion to this but you’re beautiful and you might doubt that and you might not believe it but you really are so please approach and meet new people because it’s an amazing experience
@@greenmarble8110
I mean if youre 20 & havent experienced it.. its not that strange.. its not like youre 50.
At 20 i didnt experience romance either. A lot of people dont.
ThankQ guys i appreciate your kindness. I'll try speaking to people more often, who need romance anyway.
Shout out to all the beautiful people out there! This was a difficult one. I hope it helps someone out there
Cordero Roman 💛
Your thoughts or advice about depression? How to overcome it? Besides the pills and psihotherapist? Because I been through all that and it doesen't help. I have one more, but I would like to hear this first. Peace.
Cordero Roman - hey handsome
How can i marry you? I think im in love with you 😍
Cordero Roman your Video helped me so much, my problem is or I mean the reason why I don't think that I am beautiful is that I've been bullied from 1st grade to the middle of 9th grade. (We have 12 years of school here in Germany) 9 years! And Just because a girl thought I stole her "best friend" but I didn't notice that she thought that she just began to bully me until nobody wanted to so sth with me anymore. I thought that I am worthless and ugly but through your video I feel better now. Because although you're not a part of my real life I have the feeling that you believe in me. In us. Your community. You're such a great UA-camr and I wish that there are more people like you in the world. I always thought "what ist wrong with me?" But now I figured out that there's Just something wrong with the way some people react. I mean there were so many people in my school, telling me "you're such a pretty and nice girl and I think that you'd be a really good friend but if I do sth with you I might get bullied too." And I was so shocked about that. I am in therapy since 1st Grade but I get better :) Now I have built so much more self confidence compared to the past and although I don't have much confidence I see the Change. And you were a part of it. Now I have some good friends ( unfortunately one of them isn't at my school) because I tried to ignore the haters (and it worked a little). Next year I'll go to a different school and I am so happy for that because it is a special school where I'll have the oportunity to also do my bachelor in psychology. You were one of the people that made me happy, believe, remember your projects in the past where you told people that they're beautiful for example? That was when it began and I want to thank you because YOU are such a great person and without knowing it you did so much for me I can not thank you enough! Thanks for everything!
Cordero Roman You're amazing I love you
its easy to say "everyone is beautiful", and i'm sure most people truly do believe that everyone has beauty to them. yet while we believe everyone is beautiful, we don't believe we ourselves are... confidence and personality is where true beauty lies
skittles5414 lol bitch no , I'm the most beautiful person you will ever see
couldnt agree more
Pretty much me
Everyone’s beautiful and then there’s me and I can’t even unsee myself the way I do which just makes me feel
idek honestly
skittles5414 i hate looking at my reflection in the mirror...I don’t see anything beautiful in me
I feel stupid but this made me cry because my whole life I've been insecure. Thank you for making this video ❤️
*update* i wrote this 2 years ago omfjfkgkd thank you for all the likes and nice comments
Listen to me .You shouldnt care what really people think or say about you.We shy people try to overthink everything so when we speak we sound weird.We need to let everything come natyrally.Because inside you are a beautiful person
Nevaeh Nevaeh thats good that can motivate you 😜🤓😝😛
ikr my mom told me that my body is beautiful but i still felt insecure about it
hi you're beautiful
I'm still insecure and nothing helps
I try so hard to be confident but I can't achieve it
I'm insecure to the point where I can't even talk to my father or my siblings properly, it's almost as if they're strangers. I can't help but think that if I leave this world no one would care because have no impact on their lives whatsoever
Being told you’re beautiful/pretty by someone who actually is just doesn’t help. Like they don’t get it but then again they might be insecure as well.
3:40
YOU DONT REALIZE HOW HARD THIS HIT ME IM TEARING UP THANK YOU CORDERO
You got 403 likes
Ugh same girl
666
857
Same I'm crying
To someone, anyone, who reads;
Don't let whatever other people think define you.
You are plenty beautiful.
You are just perfect.
You don't need to starve yourself.
You don't need to fit their mold.
*When it feels like no one loves you, make sure that you love yourself.*
EmmaScrips The World thank you for those words seriously
I...thanks. Really.
It's hard to love yourself, I don't see how this really helps anybody. Thanks for trying though
Hard to believe...
My main insecurity is my smile, weight and personality.
My parents are abusive they call me useless everyday
I guess they're right.
Sweetheart, if your parents want to put you down that is horrible and I’m at so sorry that this is the influence you have. But don’t let them get to you. I understand this is beyond hard. But they are not right and they will never be right when saying things like this.
Nobody can take away your value and I am going to be here and plenty of people will support you.
Queen, I don’t mean to sound hypocritical, but appreciate yourself. Love the life you live and who you are. I know people can ruin days , weeks, months, or years. But they can’t control you. Let your personality shine and smile every day.
Look at yourself in the mirror and say ‘I love myself for who I am’. It may seem crazy but it helped me fake it I until I make it.
Good luck and I wish you all the best things life can put your way. ❤️❤️❤️
noooo,u are nottt,find your self ,,,its hard but it will pass
The thing is, i am insecure abt myself but the thing more hurt me is when my parents says that i am useless. I don't even look at the mirror cause i think it's gonna make me more stressed. I wish i have someone to talk with... I am just 13 so i think it's too early is make a change on my appearance.
Well yupp!!
M insecure about my smile, weight,
And almost everything!
And today one of my friend she call me fat!
She said
Omg! Girl u are so fat
Just look at me I'm so thin
And I just like
Okayyy~ yess I m
Then after some talks I just hang up
After this I felt soo much
Low! Like I literally cried😔!
And when it comes to parents
My mom and dad
And my family members
They just teasing me cz of my weight, they call me bull
And that's really hurts, like I infront of them I just laugh but I cry alone in night!
And
M trying to love myself!
And I think u should also try❤️
GOOOUURRLL DONT FEEL SORRY FOR YOUR SELF IT NEVER WORKS
Here after crying while scrolling through some girl’s instagram feed :(
even attractive people are insecure cause they have the self image of themselves being attractive so the feel like they need to live up to that self image. When someone thinks that they are unattractive then that destroys their self image which in turn hurts their self esteem.
Daniel Lau That’s extremely true..
Daniel Lau Ikr
Daniel Lau that is so true!!
True, but then again..
I get insecure over the stupidest things. It's not just my personality or the way i look at this point, it's if I blink to much, or if I breath to hard, if I eat to much, if I cough to much, if my smile sounds funny, If I I drink too loudly, if I look at the ground to much. Every time I build this wall of confidence the second someone looks my way, that wall is torn apart. I can't go outside and not feel like I'm being judged. I can't eve be around my Family anymore. Everyone's always saying something about me and eventually it gets hard to hold in. So you kinda sit there, by yourself, and cry. You break down, you scream, but no one cares. No one says "your beautiful" unless they want something from you.
.
Okay I sound pathetic byyye😂
Sam Green same sis same
Sam Green same
Ye same
I feel you i do the same
Listen to me .You shouldnt care what really people think or say about you.We shy people try to overthink everything so when we speak we sound weird.We need to let everything come natyrally.Because inside you are a beautiful person
I love how many people will have their confidence boosted by him saying "Stay beautiful"
But not me
Because how can I stay something I'm not.
You are beautiful in your own way. Wanna know why?
"Beauty" is, in most cases, predefined, standardized and normalized. BUT THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS "NORMAL". We're all differen't, we behave differently, look different, we don't all have the SAME genes. How can you standardize things, or in this case, people, if they differ from each other? You are what you make out of yourself, of course, but you're beautiful no matter what. :D
I know I'm the opposite of beautiful :/
Imagine being pretty AND confident....
And..? Go on… then you should say; AND aim for it
Lol but I'm insecure about my personality and my appearance 🤷🏽♀️
Juliana Thomas ah same. Throughout the day I watch myself and sometime I act different and I hate it.
Same I think I'm ugly and I don't like having a big butt because I feel like men are staring there but I also feel like I'm annoying all the time with my friends
Me
Me too :(
Juliana Thomas relatable
I have loads of insecurities. I’m socially awkward, I don’t feel beautiful and I walk weird. I just don’t like facing anyone because of the fear of getting judged by people I know.
I started crying as soon as he said „beautiful person“ in the beginning
“ *No one is born ugly, we were all just born in a judgemental society* ‘’
-Kim Namjoon
AAAAAAA UHM- I DONT EVEN REMEMBER WRITING THIS COMMENT AND I DONT STAN BT’S AAAA IM SORRY I’VE NEVER EVEN HEARD OF BT’S BUT THANKS FOR THE LIKES AAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
bts armies here too.... periodt.
actually i was ~~dab~~
Huh❤️... Saranghae ❤️❤️❤️
Faith Zianna same lol
i dnt rlly stan bts but i really agree in
his word. judgemental society sucks man
your eyes !!!!!!!!
I'm actually soooo shy my personality just never comes across especially around people I don't know any advice❤
I have the same problem I'm really quiet and shy around people I don't know and more outgoing around people I do know
same i'm superr shy and quiet soo most of the time i come off as boring or just no one wants to hang out with me most of the time i act like i don't care but it actually does kinda hurt me💔
chelsea BSG same here
Same it makes me depressed how I see all these other people that can easilystart a conversation and have it end in a positive note I don’t to new people at all at this point cause the same thing continues to happen to me
Same!! I felt hurt a lot of times because of this, too...
I don’t care what anyone thinks of me anymore tbh. I’m my own person and I’d much rather be weird and have a good personality than be boring and just like everyone else with a shit personality. Be your own person and also, be yourself, be happy. “Looks come and go, character lasts forever” preach to this🙌🏻
Oh yess, awesomenessnessness ❤️🧡💛
*"No one is born ugly, the problem is we live in a judgemental society."*
-Kim Namjoon(BTS)
Mbti/16 personalities flashbacks
hot guy : "i feel insecure every day".
me : biiiiiiiiiiiiiii wath you talkin bout.
tell me about it
I'm 14 years old and i am a VERY insecure about everything I always see girls at malls and I always sigh because I just want to be skinny you know I hate having big thighs and being hairy but sometimes I do feel pretty and it's a great feeling😥😊
same girl
Hey now. I have big thighs! And big thighs are pretty. Look at Beyoncé! Rock your thighs 😄
Id kill for your big thighs i have a huge butt but skinny thighs i look weird and try to do excersises for my thigs and ect but yeah love your self and your body gurl 💜
Jaelene Marchena sweety, I was once you. For all of middle school I kept finding the smallest things I didn't like about myself. I'm 16 years old now and for the last year I've felt amazing. I gained a bit of weight (a little chubby) but I learned to love the way my legs jiggle and yes being hairy sucks, but it doesn't define you, you're beautiful and I want you to know it will get beter, the teenage insecurity will pass, I promise you. If you need any more advice or someone to vent to my kik is iris_bvb, please feel free to send a text. Us girls gotta look out for each other rather than constantly hating on each other ❤
Iris J. Ten Geusendam I want advice!!! I have been literally crying about the fact that I am not happy... I am trying to recover from my disordered eating but the voices keep getting in my head. The fact that people are going to remember me or named me as the "once skinny girl" stresses me out 😖 it's like people expect you to be the same and stay the same and I have honestly been having a lot of bad thoughts and I just feel lonely...
I just found this and I was sent in tears. All my life I’ve felt ugly and I sure as hell know I am. Yes, I’m insecure. Yes, I have depression. Yes, I have anxiety. Yes, I have a lot of mental illnesses that make this so much worse, but at the end of the day there’s a reason why anyone would feel like this. People aren’t telling them how much they’re worth. Society has too many damn labels and it’s time to get rid of them. All of you have an ethereal beauty. If you don’t know what that is, search it up. I always will tell people that they’re gorgeous and beautiful and amazing just the way they are. But they don’t tell me the same. That is one of the reasons why I have this insecurity... Be the person to tell someone they look beautiful because they do. If you think that they’re ugly, you need to work on yourself because everyone was created with such an ethereal beauty... (except for me ofc lmao) Be the one to tell someone they look beautiful. It’s time for a change, what will you do?
I wish all boys at my school could be like u😭🙈❣
Omg same
Same😭😭
i wish everyone
bruuhhh,wats the fun if everythng was perfect? u would b bored for sure,everythng is complementary
Yeeah, don’t we all hehe xD
I love curly hair on guys. This is such a great video
My hair is not the focus of this video XD
Cordero Roman haha I know it!!! I felt bad considering the topic and almost deleted it but...such is life! It's about the personality and what's on the inside...I've got it, promise ;)
LOOOOOOOL
star579 lmao
@@corderostevenroman but we all like your awesome curly fries, i mean uh hair hehe x’D
me: I DO NOT NEED SOME CUTE WHITE BOY TO TELL ME I'M CUTE!!!!
me: I'm gonna click on the video
FUK AINT THAT THE TRUTH I FEEL BETTER ALEADY HAHAHAA
Lmao
I am extremely insecure about my looks, the way I talk, everything. Idk if there's really anyone who hasn't been at some point.
He was raised well❤
By himself or others maybe, but either way, he speaks some awesome truths 💛❤️
I was an insecure girl before but having that insecurities in my system ruined my life. I was feeling inferior to everyone else but I'm glad to have found someone who made me open my eyes that I'm beautiful in my own way. That was the time I start loving myself. And I learned that I can be what I want to be.
'Don't place your value in what you look like because that's not where it lies.'
genius
But you would never date or marry a ugly girl with beautiful heart♥
True lmao. People just want to pretend to be nice.. everyone gives preferences to appearance
@@cupcakee22 that’s why I’m ever insecure about my looks. I would never care about this crap if high expectations were not set on women to be loved.
@@etherealmango831 so true, I agree. I wish society we grew up in appreciated women more for her talent and hardwork than for the genetic lottery they were born with.
Most guys likes to lust over a cute girl, all she have to do is groom herself and stay cute, whereas if its ugly/ average looking person, they has to make it up in Academics, career or something else to get noticed. It's a unfair world we live in.
@@cupcakee22 Ikr. It’s very hard and women have to deal with it.
Yeah fr
My jaw dropped when he said he was insecure. He is so attractive. If you read this, you literally look like every girls dreams. Don’t ever feel down.
I know it's weird to post personal stuff about life on UA-cam comments but these words really meant something to me. I've been bullied my whole life because of my looks, by my dad or people at school. But now I'm actually starting to accept myself, I'm learning to not care about what others think because there's always going to be someone you think looks better. Just because someone's beautiful doesn't mean you're not, flowers are pretty but so are rainbows but they don't exactly look the same.
So true !
You okay? stay strong, youre beautiful
I really wish there was more self love in this world. Love yourself as much as you love the people you care about the most. You only get one life, don't spend it hating yourself 💕
“You only get one life, don’t spend it hating yourself” that’s beautiful 👏👏
Reprogramming my mind helped me so much to go from self doubt to finally trusting myself and realizing that I am enough.
I just started posting affirmation video’s on UA-cam to help women that are feeling insecure.
Nice
Man, how can you be insecure? Beautiful eyes, beautiful smiles, amazing advice, come on
X’D
My advice to all the insecure people out there is to be whoever you want and not care what people think. you don't need to wear a bunch of makeup and look like everyone else. as long as you are yourself that's all that matters.
You are absolutely right ;)
I think I just fell in love?
...at first sight😂
If you're scrolling through the comments stop and listen I've never looked at insecurities this was before. As a girl I wish this is how every girl would encourage one another and not always make each other feel like crap🙁 thanks for the sweet words you really got me thinking about my values and my character ☺☺💖
Yesss!! 🥰❤️
this made me cry. hands down the best video about insecurities. this was the only video that helped me after searching and searching, so thank you.
hands down the best video about this topic created by a guy. what a great person you are
Claire & Maddie
Watch the video, What every 8th grader needs to here.
This was so nice to hear.... Media and stuff have destroyed my self image and wrecked my personality.... I always keep comparing me to everyone else out there. It's a struggle ... I hate taking the bus or the train because it's a "place" where many people have nothing to do but wait .... and they keep looking around and looking at other people and it makes me feel so insecure: I know they see me and they are all better than me. Sometimes I'm even thinking about what is going on in their minds when they look at me. Are they disgusted? Are my clothes good enough? Do they think I'm ugly?
I also have been going through 2 eating disorders and I think a few aspects of an eating disorder are still showing . All because the media keeps telling us what is bad about ourselves. I'm sure I'm not the only one! Why can't we all just admire what is good about ourselves? And what we are proud of?
The worst thing is that I am only 16 years old. I'm a teenager! Why do teenagers have to cope with stuff like this?
I'm so done with everything. It's so depressing
maple syrup I’m near the same age as you and usually when I see myself in the mirror I see all the imperfect body image of myself when all the others see me as a perfect weight. I have been thro one eating disorder and it felt awful. I want to enjoy my life and thinking about food 24/7 is not the way to go. Social media rlly got me.
Im 29, and have had these exact feelings since I could remember.. I finally decided to TRY to stop worrying about what others wanted from me and jusy worrying about what I want.
Focus on your education, your career endeavors, your life goals and passions. Thats what brings real beauty to your life.
I'm always so insecure about my body, i care too much about what other people think about me, i must always make sure i don't eat or drink too loudly, that i don't cough too many times, i got a feeling everyone is judging me even though they probably don't, but i just can't help myself
Recently, due to the coronavirus, there are a few Instagram threads going around. Specifically, there's one where you post a picture where you feel beautiful and tag "10 beautiful women" that you're friends with to "spread positivity" but I got tagged once by one of my close friends and I literally cried until I fell asleep. I don't think I'm beautiful. I couldn't even post a single picture of me because I don't feel beautiful in any of them. The fact that I have no pictures of myself that I feel beautiful in made my heart break so hard and I really hurt. Furthermore, none of my other friends tagged me. I have many friends and I thought we were good friends and that we were close. If I were to post a picture, I would have tagged them. But they didn't tag me. They had ten slots and only one person chose me as one of their ten. (I love her so much she means so much to me)
I know the chain says "don't feel bad if I didn't tag you" but I feel so bad about myself now. I am doubting all of my friendships and I keep crying because I can't stop thinking about how no one actually likes me and that I'm ugly and I'll never be pretty enough. My self esteem hasn't been this low since the 7th grade when two boys "secretly" said that no one would ever like me (my friends overheard and then I overheard my friends)
I don't think I have ever thought this much about my appearance either. It's not society telling me standards, it's society showing me I'm not enough. I'm a grown ass adult and I still get so hurt by things like social media trends
Jimin's Left Eyebrow please dont take this stuff to the heart. I felt the same. Some friends didnt tag me as well but i didnt take it to the heart because at the end of the day its never really the people that tell you and convince you that you are “beautiful”. At the end of the day its the people that tell you, you make them feel happier and comfortable around you and you change the way they see life and they enjoy being by your side. Thats all that matters.
I love the way how said everything so genuinely without being cheesy. Thank you for this amazing video. ♡
I'm not perfect. I'm not imperfect. People give me labels, but I am not who they think I am. I will make my own path and follow my own path. Follow the path less followed. Never doubt your beauty. Let you be you. If you want to fly, let go of all of the things that weigh you down. BE YOUR SELF!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗
Wow❤ I rlly needed this in my midnight anxiety-filled emotional breakdown.
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We need more humans like you 😊
Oh hi people nobody is ugly everybody just has there own taste there will always be one person that thinks your beautiful
Every one is not perfect, they're lying
I battled an eating disorder for years and I beat it once I found the key to increasing confidence. I started to ask myself if I talk about my friends and my loved ones the way I talk about myself, and then I identified the things I would never say about a best friend and evicted that internal bully out of my head. If your words you tell yourself is considering bullying if it's to somebody else then it's bullying to yourself too and you will never be happy or love yourself as long as you are bullied every day by yourself. Don't let that monster live rent free in your mind space! It doesn't belong there!
So how do you cure it? You correct yourself. You catch yourself in the thought (I suck) and correct with what you would tell a friend (no that's not true, you are valuable and a great friend) and repeat the corrected version over and over each time the bully voice says it and after a few back and forth it will silence faster and faster and in the end not show up at all. I recently gained weight around my hips and can't fit in my favorite pants and my old eating disorder self would have turned super destructive but now I don't care, in fact I love myself even more! I love myself just as much as I love my loved ones and what others think of me is none of my buisness. :)
good for you
Thanks 💕💕
latvijazija Definitely not quick and easy, took several years to truly get rid of that head bully. But catch yourself in the moment and replace and it will gradually get easier
Thank you for the good advice, you are right :) And I’m happy for you!
I wish I could gain wight. Iam very skinny even though I eat a lot. People ask me of I have a eating disorder. I really can not help it I tried everything. So please be happy you can gain wight, it means you can control your weight. I can't.
Me: mom I hate my self I wish I was skinny and pretty like other girls 😭😭🥺
Mom: stop trying to get attention!!!! You are to little to be worrying about that 😒
My mind: none will ever understand how I feel 🥺
omg same.
I feel like we all feel alone, but that’s exactly what brings us together. We all go through a phase of doubtful ness and wanting change and it really sucks. It really does. If you are so insecure about yourself, maybe leave social media for a day or just take a break from life and do all the embarrassing things you want to do alone, where no one is watching. Build up from that till you can find that small gateway to feeling true freedom.
I'm sorry to hear that. your mom's pp is smol
@@nauka7565 not funny
@@day820 I was just teasing her mom
thank you sm for putting this out on the internet. whenever i try to tell my family about my issues with body image and other various issues, they suggest im thinking too much about myself and that i need to stop and just start being happy. this video and videos like it help me verify my thoughts and emotions. thank you.
Honestly this made me cry. I am insecure, people at my school will either say I am fat or ugly. Most of the time behind my back. People should realize looks don't matter and that everyone is beautiful in every way. But when I think about it people that bully other people have been bullied before and just want to make other people feel bad about themselves. So many girls and boys commit suicide everyday for these reason and I strongly believe people should do something about it. Some people
Don't realize what they make people feel like or do. All I want to say is thank you for making this video because I know people will feel better about themselves after watching this.☺️
Example of "beauty is in the eye of the beholder"- I dont think zac efron is attractive💁 most females do
Isabella Caterina really 😳😂 in my opinion he looks hot af - you are right it lies in the eye of the beholder
Isabella Caterina SAME
Just because most females like the way Zac Efron looks doesn't really mean anything tbh.
Isabella Caterina THANK YOU!
Someone agrees. I also think he can't act
I'm not attracted to big muscles at all, another example.
Awwe, you're really sweet. Honestly If everyone had such a good view on things the world would be 100 times better. I'm subscribing!
thank you. i need this. im currently dealing with Bulimia and depression. I have social anxiety because of how insecure I am. I hate going out in public. when I do, I constantly feel like people are staring at me and judging me. the fact that you took your time to make this video means a lot and shows how good of a person you are. thank you❤
I needed this thank you. Im healthy but stick thin. Ive been depressed and skinny shaming is real especially from guys. Yesterday I did 30squats in order to look "thick" and not be"skin and bones" so you mentioning the Instagram models and wanting to have a booty like them is real.
Owl Who we always want what we don't have
Funny. A guy called me thick one time and I lost 15 pounds from it
I'm a thick girl but I'm so insecure about my stomach sometimes I wish I was stick thin.
Wow I love this video, also ur eyes are beautiful
wow.
Cindy Morales his eyes are
Same
PREACH!!!!!!!
This is my first time watching your video. I instantly fell in love with you because you just made me love myself. I come from a society where people judge others by their looks which I absolutely hate because there's so much more to a person then just looks and their appearance. I am not beautiful. I am afraid to show myself to the world because i feel like they will judge me based on my looks, without even getting to know me. Your video kind of healed me. I can not thank you enough for what you have done for me even though we are complete strangers. Thank you so much and I appreciate all of this very much. May God bless you and every other person out there who feels insecure, judged, depressed and not enough. All the love, Marwah
I was seriously so incredibly defeated and then I watched this video. You’re such a beautiful person-inside and out. 💜thank you
You’re 1000% correct but there are a very few who approves your natural being. This society just constantly makes you feel like you need to lose weight. I really appreciate what you did in your video❤️ but not everyone thinks like that
I'm not that insecure about my looks. I'm insecure about my character, haha.
I'm insecure about both :/
I've hated myself since childhood, character and appearance wise, but now I find the biggest joy in working on making myself a better person and trusting that I can be the best me. Not compared to other people, but to myself. I fail but I also try and survive. I can be kind to myself and others, I can be patient, creative, hard working, courageous, strong... And with peace and health comes real beauty that is not dictated by shallow people and people trying to sell you products.
You have made my day 1000x better than anyone could've done. I am in tears right now because your message hit me so hard. Thank you❤️😭
I started crying I moment I clicked this video I’ve basically had problems with myself for awhile and I feel like he’s the only UA-camr to actually understand. Just remember you are all beautiful and I wish you all the best💕
Not all people think like this though. I wish all people thought that beauty is what’s on the inside not on the outside. It’s hard to surround yourself with positive people because honestly there’s berly anyone like that nowadays. I really wish I could have self confidence and I’ve tried so much to the point where I just want to give up. But then I remember all those few people who do love me. Not being able to have self confidence really sucks, it’s dragged me to depression and now I’m at the point where I don’t know what to do. I really wish I could go back to being happy, not having to worry about what people think of me. I’m honestly so scared about what harm I could do to myself and I’m hoping that this stupid depression doesn’t lead me to self harm.
I tried for 20 years to become confident but it didn't work because I was still defining worthiness by wrong standards and by what other people said confidence means. I didn't realize my worth is not defined by my looks or how much attention I get from men, or how loud and popular I am. Find out what really matters to you. For me, reading feminist books did a lot. Honestly I think that it also takes time because the brain is not fully developed until 25 (I don't know how old you are though). I have meds now because maybe the long years of negative thinking have brought me too far, but finding help for mental and mood issues is really important.
GIRL, love yourself no matter what. Because in the end.. Who's the fake one? You or Them?
holy shit you have no idea how much i relate to that wow its in words
I’m quite a positive person, I always encourage others and I’m really hyper and fun but... the thing I’m hiding is my insecurity. I need someone to make me actually positive, despite the fact I’m always the one to be positive in situations.
Thank you sooo much, I'm a very insecure person and i just feel self conscious, like I'm never going to be good enough for anyone. I just get bad anxiety and depression thinking about it and lately I feel like I'm in this dark place and im very unhappy but this video made me feel much better , I just needed to hear this advice and remind myself and everyone that we are all BEAUTIFUL in our own way and that we are always going to be more than good enough.
are u okay? YES UR BBEAUTIFUL! UR GOOD ENOGU, MORE THAN JUST ENOUGH STAY STRONG
Same and i hate that i feel like that but it's so hard to not think like that
T H A N K Y O U
I’m one of the only “big girls” in my grade. While every girl is complaining about how they’re 110 or 120 pounds, I step on the scale everyday and see the blinking number of 140 pounds. I feel terrible and whenever I look at these girls skinny legs and look at all the guys that swoon over them, I look at my fat thighs and big boobs and wonder if a guy while ever love me. It sucks feeling like this, especially as it’s added on with my anxiety, wave of depression, and family issues. Hopefully one day I’ll stop feeling like this.
How do you feel now?
Nicøle better:) covid and the world falling apart hasn’t helped. But I feel a lot better, thank you:,)
Thank you Roman your video has helped my friend and I and people like us with our insecurities. Thank you for being real. We need real people in the public. You helped us grow.
I'm working on self confidence and taking lessons to improve my voice, which I've always been self conscious about. thx bro
Same
You go girl!
We need more people like this
I wish more guys were like him. This video just helped me so much and I love that he took time out of his day to help others feel better about themself. I can tell already this guy is so kind hearted and I’m so glad he made this video
Yes me too 😊
I’m just coming across your video. I wish I would have seen it sooner. I truly needed this. I felt like you were talking right to me and it may not fix my insecurities completely but this has helped me a lot. Changed my outlook and perspective. Thank you so much for this ❤️
I’m not pear 🍐 shaped I’m not ⌛️shaped nor apple 🍎 shaped I’m AWESOME shaped
I’m human shaped
Im shaped like a 5 year old boy . lmao 😄
Rudi Fletcher I AM SHAPE
I have no shape
I am a blob
i almost forgot, thank you for always sharing positivity even if you're also struggling with some stuff, you still care about positivity for others, thank you🌷
I have never wanted to cry so much watching a youtube video... you know for the first time I have hope. This gave me so much hope that I didn't think I had. Thank you
Thank you for making this video. I have many insecurities sadly, but this video has helped me realize that everyone is beautiful, and that I am beautiful. I am still trying to love myself, but this video has helped a lot. Thank you.
Says the man WHO Looks Just too great😂😂 but really thanksss ,this really hellep me❤️
My insecurities are more stemmed from a lack of trust and not knowing who I can trust .
I just found this advice by Briana MacWilliam: When do you trust someone?
When people do what they say and say what they mean.
When they are consistent.
When they show up.
When they are responsive.
When things get tough they don't disappear
When instead of »when can I see you again« it's »so what are we doing tomorrow«.
There's no question about it.
And demand respect from people. Don't accept any less. I try to learn that too.
I'm rewatching this because I needed to hear this again. You have a beautiful soul
You definitely grasped the bigger picture here, you were very specific. You helped me feel so much better, Thank you.
Also, you don't have to be absolutely in love with the way you look to love yourself. You can love who you are as a person. Im fat and no I'm not going to say I love my body because I dont. But I Love myself. Idk if this was confusing, but plz read it. And remember, it always gets better, it just takes time and the right thoughts. All it can take is some good thoughts.
Waiting for guys like you to show up in my life
I’m surrounded with mean girls and horrible guys
And I’m so depressed that I can’t have an awesome relationship or at least a relationship
I was always the fat girl
Until a year ago I started to do sport and eat well
But when I didn’t eat well
I felt so bad
And I couldn’t stop
This video makes me happy
You made me have hope for the future.
Thank you
Ughh, you are one of the few people who actually state the truth and I think it is great that you understand what it's like. In my High school I'm practically a nobody because I try to be myself. The pressure to fit in these days are sky rocketing. I see these girls with short skirts, hair styles and a lot of make-up on all the time and boys these days seem to like them way more. Thankfully I don't want or need a boyfriend🙂
Thank you so much for this video! I’ve been struggling with my looks and it ruins my confidence for years now. I try to stay positive everyday and I know one day I will feel comfortable in my skin!