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Did the author of the second book really fail to make you care about this crime family, or do you just need to read more of books in the series to gather enough context to care about everyone? 🤔🤔 (Genuinely wondering here, because I forgot if it was specified if this was the first book in that particular series or not, and I'm too lazy to skip that far back just to try and find out.) Lol
In a conceptual way, on it's own this could work as a kind of mantra. You know, in the way people tend to justify and romanticize horrific behavior. You know, people who "literally me" The Joker, or (and I really can't believe this is real. We live in the worst timeline) Homelander. Anyone with enough brain rot to be an Ayn Rand stan. "He's not a wizard, he's a rapist."
i'm so glad you mentioned the conflation between sexual and romantic attraction in erotica. just bc you think they're hot doesn't mean dating them is a good idea
Ok, which genre? Edit: We’re doing fantasy and here’s why: At the start of the story, he’s Dominic the smith apprentice, by the end when he marries into the aristocracy, he’ll be Dominic the noble. And who can resist that joke? Also, because sorcerer mafioso. Edit: I'm seriously considering doing it, but I have one question: Is naming the love interest after Dom's mother taking it too far? On one hand, that is "use the safe word" level mean, pure red flag. On the other, it's not like I'll try to mimic E.L. James' writing style, so there's lines I'm not crossing, and this is definitely a line. If one person tells me not to do it, I’ll not.
I figure fantasy? Must contain sword fights and Satari 🤔 oh and a 50 shades torture chamber. Like a room filled with projectors of the movie and blasting the word murmur ar full volume 😂
@@GrandArchPriestOfTheAlgorithm Since we love torturing our favorite chap for charity, my hat in the ring is Hardcore Military Sci-Fi in the Omega Verse. 😈
“Unless you’re demisexual, it’s completely possible to be attracted to someone you don’t like.” Me, on the Demi/ace spectrum: “oh yeeeah. That’s true. I forget about that. Thanks, Dom!”
Me, a non-sex-repulsed Asexual, totally stumped why anyone wants to go to the trouble of sex for someone they don't like as a person. And then I remember: Because hate-fucking is totally a thing that allosexuals get something out of.
"I don't run an Only Fans for charity because I'm prudish." "I'm rating these books out of Dominicks based off how much I like their Dominick." There isn't anyone else who combines literature reviews, humitarianism, vivid descriptions of sexual adventures and dad humor.
Had to pause to let you know - as a single parent, YES that absolutely happens. My kid has pushed me to get with adults they know and like several times. I think it's partly to do with the two-parent-family being the socially accepted "norm" and my kid wanting that appearance of normality, and part the fear of an "evil" step-parent coming in without their control driving my kid to want to pick someone they already know and like to prevent that possibility.
Couldn't part of it be that your kid is thinking of you being lonely and thinks a person they enjoy will bring you happiness? Their reasons might not be just selfish, but I get you.
@@Lincolnlogsoff oh absolutely! That very well could've been a part of it; it's just that my kid was very clear on why they wanted me to get with someone, once I got them to explain after a particularly awkward situation when they asked a friend of mine if he'd "be [their] dad" after I'd asked him out X.X kiddo was about 6 at the time, lol, and my friend was also a parent, so he knew how to help smooth out the let-down my kid felt since I got gently rejected XP (tbc I didn't ask him out in front of my kid - spawnling overheard my landlady teasing me about him and ambushed him with the question the next time we saw him). It never felt like their reasoning was selfish, just kinda sad... and primed to mortify me when pipsqueak designated themself my unwanted wingman. They haven't brought up the subject of me dating in years - I think a lot of the upset was coming from school, where other kids/teachers would go on about parents-plural, mixed with too many stories about step-parents having cruel intentions. Now that they're of an age to date, my singleness is of far less importance in their life :P
@@SedonaNight I see. I'm sure they were just curious as kids are. There's an endless amount of love kids have for their mother, now they know they can protect you.
I don't know if you're into taking advice from your internet pals, but what I think is that you should introduce that child to The KLF's Justified and Ancient. It might teach them a thing or two about how much cooler it is to let people do their thing instead of pressuring others about stuff. I'm not saying you have to do it, but that's what I think, so you do with that information what you will, old friend.
Be very careful. The Magnus Mafia is no joke. They are more dangerous than you could imagine. The rules you have to memorize, only to break later, are a full grimoire.
Somewhere I read a beautiful explanation of why someone might think having the hots for someone = love. It went like this: people, especially women, even more especially religiously raised women, are told that sex is only to be had with the one you love, preferably your husband, so when they find they want to have sex with someone they think they 'must' be in love with them, or they're a slut/sexual deviant. I'm far too ace to confirm or deny this but it made sense to me.
Please yes, we ABSOLUTELY need more of these, it's SO refreshing to have somebody talking about this sort of thing who actually knows about BDSM etiquette. Having content of this genre that isn't just "god can you imagine what kind of psycho would actually think this is hot???" is really *really* good for everyone's mental health, thank you so much!
It is so telling and desturbing, that a partially sex repulsed ace virgin knew more about genuine bdsm at age 18, than the people writing erotica "for it" tend to do.... And it is so not my kink And the healthyest I read was absurdly part of a fd, where both agreed to the sex to lure the other spy into a trap..... So yeah, the "healthy" consent ane communication do not keep long, but it does for 2 whole sex scenes which is a lot more then in everything else I read. They establish expectations, hard limits, a safe word and talk about what they enjoy before anything happens and the Dom in the situation does check in with the sub... He does drug him after the second time and I prisons him for betrayal, espionage etc and tries to torture information out of him, and it was never truly enthusiastic cause the dom is a sociopath and the sub a rebel who uses his attraction in hopes to get away before he is discovered, so there is a vibe of danger and deception to it all....... But until the flip point they both play by the rules beautifully . It is disturbing, that a genocidal villain is the best example of a dom I read against supposedly genuine romantic partners......
I have a THEORY on the "kids bullying their parent" trope, based on the single parents I know. They often feel guilty for wanting a partner, or fear that the kid won't like their new love interest, so the kids really pushing for it would be a bit of wish fulfillment for the parent.
As someone who has a single parent, it's not uncommon for children to wish for them to have a partner / push them to get a partner. Growing up in a heteronormative society with two parents for everyone else except yourself does that. As a child, I'd often ask my parent to marry a close friend of theirs who was nice. I thought we could all be happy together. It was before I realize they were already married to someone else and were just friends.
"A young Irish lass who is, apparently, the mortal woman most hated and cursed by ALL the gods." This divine sass made me want to check out that OF account.
"As someone who is child-free by choice and I suspect was just born without that part of the brain that causes even the smallest paternal feelings, I've always found that kind of ending to be genuinely horrifying". This is the first time I've felt truly understood on this matter.
This just makes me happy that fanfics come with "Dead Dove Do Not Eat" tags for something that is just very unpleasant. It's a nice warning to have before diving into something that has focus on very unpleasant topics. Either way, I'm in. I want more of this.
@@notllikethat Agreed. As much as I appreciate a good summary, trigger warnings and tags are what makes me click or makes me stay away. And it helps narrow down what you're in the mood for in a way a summary can't.
As a childfree by choice ex-evangelical, I also find the quick marriage with a kid on the way ending to be genuinely horrifying. Even worse are those that end with a quick marriage and a kid on the way...and then an epilogue where multiple children are born in quick succession. (One book had 8 kids in less than a decade.) Truly a nightmare. I didn't realise that I was reading a horror novel.
I'm the same and always considered that kind of ending quite horrifying, but then I realized that the latest story I wrote has a protagonist who gets together with a father of 5 over the span of two months, after which they soon make it to 7 children, and now I'm wondering if I just gave in to the trope or if my subconsciousness knows something I don't 😅
@@sleepysera I guess you as the author have to decide if are those kids are human beings with their own needs and lives or just props in their parents story the latter is fine in fiction but in the real world it causes massive amounts of harm.
I'm also a childfree by choice exvangelical! I'm always so happy when I find another one and I feel like we should all just start a club because yikes being raised in evangelicalism with that social pressure and the whole cultish environment reinforcing it is quite a specific experience and people who weren't raised in a high control environment and had to deconstruct it and move over to a completely opposite worldview really won't understand it! I have an evangelical friend who is married yet childfree more by circumstance and is unusually ambivalent about it - and I'll venture unusually open-minded given the environment she's immersed in - and our conversations are really interesting in that regard, delving into the reasons people have children and why that's seen as the be-all-and-end-all. From my side I am INCREDIBLY glad to not have children, which I view as a privilege, given that for many people, they may not have felt they had the choice given social pressure - or may not have *had* the choice and autonomy over their lives at all given the grooming and indoctrinating culture of evangelicalism 😢.
Body betrayal syndrome is the most infuriating trope. That along with infantilizing women, and the women being passive and always "giving in" seems to be the standard in waayyy too many books now.
That's why I hate most real existing romance, while I simultaneously like reading romance. It's so hard to find books that don't reproduce the same old toxic cliches again. In my own attempts at writing romance, the ladies are usually the ones initiating.
@@Sasu123456789x1I thought I hated romance, for I always got annoyed and quisy at that part of story's u til I found a good romance and and noticed that I actually do love romance, I just hate toxic bs
Kissing Booths weren't made up by L.A. Casey, but they are basically fictional. They were once a thing at carnivals, and college students can do it willingly (usually for charity), but as portrayed in fiction, it's not a thing.
Please try to imagine a world in which you wrote a dark horror fantasy story, called "Demonic" just for a printer to misread it and printing 10.000 copies of the worlds weirdest named book, cause naturally nobody in this is actually called Dominic.
There's a HP fanfic on Archive of Our Own titled 'Hermione Granger, Demonologist'. When some fans confessed to having initially misread the title as 'Hermione Granger, Dermatologist', the author, BrilliantLady, obligingly started a story with that title. 🤣🤣🤣
Not a single parent, but I am a kinder teacher. A few years ago, less than a week after her parents broke the news that they were divorcing, one of my kinder kids straight up told me to date her dad. And told me that she had already told her dad that I was single.
Quick, someone write a book with a guy being inducted into the magical world by a woman named Dominic, who turns out to be a sexy fem dom in the bedroom! Have him think she's sick of him by getting someone else to be his mentor, but it's actually so they can have an actual relationship on more equal footing without her having authority over him that is not expressly given in the bedroom. Wizards, concent, and equality. I think he'd love it.
If you are turning this into a semi-regular series, you could perhaps call it 'Domi-Notes'. You could have a logo of various erotic books falling like dominos.
I'm giving this video an upvote for the disclaimer you gave of "hey, stories are stories, not instruction manuals for how to live in real life, it's okay to enjoy problematic stories as long as you don't use them to justify real-world horribleness!" Also for "it is entirely possible to be sexually attracted to someone you don't like!" These are messages that need to be shouted from the rooftops, thank you good sir!
Kid pressuring parent troper here. When I was young I hated everyone my mom dated and always told her as much. Eventually there was one I met and afterwards I told her "He seems fine. You can keep this one." They got married and stayed together until he died this year.
I have it on good authority that kissing booths aren't a real thing. They only show up in movies, tv, and now books. as a light germaphobe i'm comforted by that every time they come up. Edit: Well apparently kissing booths are a real thing. Sometimes it's cute with dogs, or people costumes with masks, or consenting adults. But some of them were also highschoolers "volunteerd" by others to kiss strangers on the mouth for money... I hate it so much
I was at an event recently which had a kissing booth as one available option for the booth, but I don't recall it being used. People got much more mileage out of the 'bad advice' booth option.
a school would never sponsor one... they might be a thing some people do, but that a school sponsors it and forces it on their students is what makes it illogical
My mom introduced my stepdad to me as her "friend" way, way back in the day when they genuinely were friends who had gone on maybe one or two dates after talking at work for months. I was just four years old at the time and I apparently moved spots on the couch and said "I'm gonna move so you can sit together". When she asked me why I said this I said, "mom, I think he likes youuu". So yeah, I think that counts towards the pressuring parents to date scenario. 😂
7:55 Not a parent but educator, and I can confirm this is a thing! Now whether the parent follows through on the pressure is another story, but if a kid really likes a possible future step-parent, they'll inadvertently put the pressure on their parent to stay with the step-parent. It's often viewed as a positive pressure by the parent, but not always, so take that as you will.
Not a parent, but it also feels like wish fulfillment to me. When someone is getting into a new relationship, it's the dream that your kids will also like them, for many many reasons. The absolute top tier of this would be the kid liking the new partner so much that they push a hesitant parent into commiting, because if it's obvious enough to the child that the new partner is perfect for their parent, then obviously the new partner is perfect for their parent. It's approval, confirmation of soulmates, and a happy family unit all in one
This reminded me for some reason of the French version of Cinderella, the one where she killed her first step mother because she wants her father to marry the other one (who then turns out to become the evil stepmother, karma and all that) It's an obviously exaggerated version of this behavior for Fairy Tales sake, but interesting nontheless, I think.
Parent here, and am a former single parent. From my point of view, the kids' opinion towards a possible step-parent is a huge deal. But has never been the quintessential test of whether or not I would choose to stay with said partner. From a parent's perspective, ideally, you would want your kids and new partner to like each other, to get along, and for that potential partner to be a good fit as a parental figure to your child. It absolutely is a prerequisite for most single parents but it is never the ultimate decider. No single parent would stay with a potential partner JUST because their kid likes them. Because, ultimately, a kid's opinion will not be consistent, nor stay the same as they grow older.
As both a creator and consumer of romance and erotica, I really appreciate you judging the books based on how successful they are at what they appear to be doing, and not solely on whether or not they're your cup of tea! And I really appreciate the distinction you draw between the dark erotica that appears to know what it's doing and the works that may or may not, making it more difficult to suspend disbelief and/or get through them. I also think reviewing books with your name in the title is a hilarious gimmick that could wind up with you reading in all sorts of genres that you don't usually! There are so many books published now that you have to have some kind of guide to get a nice randomish cross-section without losing your mind. Usually, I like to try and make sure my premises are plausible, but sometimes it's fun to go back to a silly genre classic and indulge. Trying to get a reluctant hero/ine to do something they're uncomfortable with sure is better suited to the dark side of the genre, though...maybe not so much the teenage students. Like, sure, I was pressured into lots of stuff I didn't want to do as a teen, but a: not exactly a fun escapist fantasy b: rarely actually as serious as "sit in this mild sexual harassment zone against your will". Yikes!
As someone also childfree by choice it's nice to hear that Dominic too finds the "babies ever after" endings horrifying. These stories could end with the leads in a long-term relationship, moving in together, even getting engaged. Why does it always end with 2.5 kids?
Okay I screamed from the magician bit, but I am so so so damn grateful that you understand that dark romance exists in a space where everyone is informed that books are not instructions for living one’s life. I am tired of people hating on the genre for no reason at all
That's the problem though, so much toxic bs happens, where it is not aknowlaged as unhealthy af, but gets framed as the point of well needed for any romance to happen..... I can read very very terrible stuff, if the framing aknowlages it as bad, but I do not make it through most Rom coms, cause they canstantly romanticise really desturbing stuff and frame it as normal and that makes me sick. Fifty shades and twilight get read with the idea, that that is, how romance has to look like and what one wants for themselfs..... In shadow and bones root people for her abuser cause he is hot and they miss all the red flags cause that bs got so normalised!!! Framing makes all the difference for often even if you technically know you read fiction and not how it should be, if it's everywhere it does color your perception and expectations of the real thing..... So yeah, I can read an ff about a probably sociopathic mercenary who shoots at kids and one of the kids he is shooting at, cause I find it psychologically interesting, but have a mental breakdown if faced with something like the notebook or 16 candles .... Framing is everything
@@SingingSealRiana Sounds like an you issue. Needing to be constantly told that murder, gratuitous violence and unbalanced relationships are bad else you feel tempted to reproduce it is quite a worrying state of mind to live in. There's not a single scientific study leading to the idea that violence and unhealthy relationship have been "normalized" by fiction. It's been 10 fucking years since Twilight, the moral panic over young girls trying to date old man for love because of a book never came into fruition... Book are not viruses and if your morality is that easy to bend you do well in keeping clear of dark themes in fiction...
@@SingingSealRiana that's why I think that people in general should use trigger warnings more often I don't get why we aren't doing it already. I dislike when people suggest to ban 'bad' books, but I very much approve of using warnings and maybe even tagging. Tagging is soooo underappreciated
As someone who was a child of a single mother; it took me until I was an adult myself to finally warm up to my step-father. A child WANTING a step-father sounds so foriegn to me.
It's explained above. The child fears that their parent will get together with someone completely loathsome (because grownups have terrible judgment and are entirely driven by libido) and so push for someone they actually like.
I edit romance novels and the company I work for has been publishing more dark romance lately, since it's been a popular recent trend. But our brand is also sex-positive and about consent, so any non-con between the leads has to be about the characters being into that kind of roleplay scenario, and our novels all include a reader advisory so the readers know what they're getting into. The dark romance novels I've worked on have been mostly ones where the characters are greyer morally (like organized crime), or where they're into some D/s elements but without being part of the BDSM community. They tend to have more violence and therefore conflict about falling in love with someone who does terrible things.
Interesting to learn that it is considered a recent popular trend by publishers. Looking through fanfiction my impression was it's a dying trend that used to be popular 5 years ago.
Ooh, bless you. I can’t get into dark romance at all (part of it is race-based, and part is the gratuitous violence), but as a romance author, thank you for the work you do!! Writing romance is not nearly as easy as people want to believe, and editing it? I give thanks to my editors regularly.
@@TheRonnieajcan you explain what you mean by race based? Genuine question here, since I want to know about your experience looking into the dark romance genre from the outside. I know a lot of dark romance heavily features grooming, questionable relationships between family members, age gaps that are straight up illegal, misogyny, and lots of 🍇, as well as human trafficking, and white guys having too much audacity and too much power. However, other than the author who shall not be named who wrote that story of the triple K man and the Latina woman getting together, I haven't heard many critiques of the genre in regards to racism. Mostly just the standard "why are grown women getting off to teens being with adults" fair.
I'm pretty sure that kissing booths were at least real things like 20+ to 30 years ago.🙃🙃👀 Forcing somebody to operate one who did not voluntarily wish to, even if they weren't a minor, is horrifying though.
I'd be worried about his liver, but I am aware in the past he's substituted the alcohol with apple juice to avoid that problem. However, as someone who suffers from frequent heartburn, that's not that much better.
Did Bright Cellars know what subject matter their bottles were being paired with? Actually, "Bright Cellars" sounds like it could be a series about some kink dungeon action, where part of the kink is bright illumination. "It was a dark and stormy night, and I was contemplating my reflection in the bathroom mirror..."
What I like about Dom (er the youtuber not these various Dominics) is how respectful he is of other people's tastes. I love reading Dark Romance and I appreciate how he talks about it. Its not his thing but he's not shaming those who like it, just how its written. Thanks bud 👍
#1 Dominic story: I did have a single father's child try to guilt me into marrying her dad. It does happen. She was a doll but I was too young to be her mom or anyone's wife. Reoccurring theme please! Just because it's nice to see book reviews and the theme is a marvelous idea.
This video has just inspired me to look up books with my name in the title, I've found three so far, one's about a former Navy SEAL turned biker trying to protect the woman he's romantically involved with and her young daughter from shady people in their past, another's about a pirate lord who takes in a young woman disguised as a man with a treasure map tattooed on her back as his cabin boy, and another is about like a shapeshifter knight falling for the sister of his traitorous former best friend, and the rest is just various books about Tristan & Isolde. *EDIT* - I've found some more, one's about a guy who, after being tremendously heartbroken by his superfamous popstar ex-girlfriend whom he was a lyricist for, moves to Brazil to escape any mention and image of her until sometime later he is reunited with her as she needs his help to save her son, another one is more of a slow-burn unrequited love story about a guy who is in love with his friend's sister but she's married, or at least she was, and she gets his help to solve a work problem, There's also some gay romance ones, and then there's one about a werewolf falling for a female veterinarian who aides him in seeking revenge on the people that attacked his pack.
Guess you just have to become a former pirate turned Navy SEAL who falls for the sister of his traitorous best friend who, like the snake he is, tricks you into believing his sister married your old pirate rival and now upholds the black flag.
I found a book about a marine colonel attracted to a female member of the team, a billionaire actor seeking genuine love, a business owner getting involved somehow in femdom and a series of books about a pack of werewolves. But it seems to be pretty common for erotic authors to use my name as either their first or last name.
I had a hard time finding any at all, but I got a "Random invitation to a friend's place turns into a BDSM gangbang", a bog standard romance/erotica, one about a couple of teachers getting together where the author basically apologises for her writing and begs for concrit, and one about a dad who's spent years planning how to kidnap his 13 year old daughter and teach her a lesson she won't forget that I am very concerned about.
I was dating someone for about a year. She was looking to buy a house, so sometimes I'd go with her to check them out. I was a fairly recently divorced father of an elementary age boy. I had my own house and we had not even broached the subject of moving in together. I had my son on a day that she was looking and asked if he wanted to come. He'd known we were dating for months, but this was the first house he looked at with us. As we looked around, he said she should buy this house, then proceeded to tell us the master bedroom would be his, she'd get the second bedroom and I would get the spare (technically not a bedroom) room. Our eyes practically popped out of our heads as we looked at each other in silence. She bought that house, I moved in, my son lived there half time (shared custody). We've been married 10 years.
I kind of love that ALL these books are part of a series, because that means that that all these different authors randomly decided to name a side character Dominic and than also all individually decided he could carry a book of his own.😂 Also I totally get your point about the difference between dark and being evil in an uncomfortably realistic way.😢
Speaking as another elder millennial, I was not asked about my feelings on either of my step-parents. I was informed after the fact. Both on the marriages and a half-brother.
OK, was gonna offer to write a Dominic into my _Mass Effect_ fanfiction, but then i heard the first "novel" was a Marine that belonged to a motorcycle gamg called Cerberus, so someone beat me to it. Uh, no pun intended. EDIT: OK, "plot grinds to a halt" needed a nod.
I am pretty sure Kissing Booths are a thing of the past. Like the Tunnel of Love attractions. Both only live on as weird tropes without actual basis in reality anymore.
Yeah, I was about to say, "Dunno about Ireland, but I know it was a thing in the Southeast US when my parents were in high school. Not common, mind you. But it existed."
Given Dom pointing out that the book starts out with the cliched mirror scene, I'm surprised he didn't just figure that was another one of those things, as I feel like sitcoms and sometimes rom-coms aimed at a younger audience (like that one literally named after it a few years back) are the only things really keeping that trope alive. Though, I do get his point of being weirded out by the teacher pushing it on her and the time lingering on it; I guess it just isn't as common in popular media in the UK as the US.
"Presented as either a tramatic event from their backstory or full on kink," This man knows full and well the horrors of 50 shades where its BOTH, so i trust him to know the two apart as well
Loved the discussion of how if you write it well, you can write books where consent is off the table but everyone is into that being the case and the reader is made fully aware of that going in. It's not my kink (I much prefer enthusiastic consent in my smut) but the problem isn't that people like it, it's when writers do it badly, or worse, don't even realise they're doing it and try to pass it off as romantic.
I had genuinely been Dominiced so much that, upon reaching the "and now for a word from our sponsor" I was honestly expecting the sponsor to also be Dominic and was taken aback at the not-Dominic.
I am very tempted to come up with the “Erotic Dominic Drinking Game”, taking a drink each time the name ‘Dominic’ is said But I am worried I’d die of alcohol poisoning halfway through the video
On the topic of children of single parents pressuring them into dating someone, I have a funny story to tell: I have a good friend who's divorced and his young daughter likes to point out attractive men for him to date. He's not gay, she just thinks it would be cute if he were 😂
Finally! Someone else agrees with me with the practice of kissing booths. They sound so gross and cringy. Thank God I have never seen one in real life but I just know it’s only a matter of time.
In the name of all that's holy, please stop punishing yourself like this, Dominic! While it is undeniably highly entertaining, I fear for your emotional equilibrium in the long term!
He does have a line he won't subject himself to go past, at the very least. I was glad to hear that he put down a book that was causing him extreme distress.
I wish Chuck Tingle had would have graced us with what would be the greatest book ever written for the namesake, "Dominic gets pounded in the butt by a butt named Dominic." God bless you Chuck Tingle and bless the entirety of the Tingleverse. Love is real, especially for you Dominic, and your butt also named Dominic.
@@mirjanbouma Of course, how else would we actually know love is real if he didn't do things like that? I fully expect to be reading this in like a month's time. You never know where Mr. Tingle might turn up, but wherever that may be, it is always welcome.
As someone who was the child of a single parent (but I am not a single parent, unless cats count lol), I know I had a preference about who my mum dated. She had two major relationships during my childhood, and one man was very bad towards me, and the other one was actually nice. I remember telling her often to go back to the nice one or not date at all.
"Someone needs to write a standalone Dominic erotica, you cowards." Those are fighting words, worthy of a Dominic. Also the good premise for a Dominic erotica. 😂 Also "Dominic Erotica" is now going to become a genre of erotica, I foresee it.
I've DNF'd many books that have the troop of the FL being abused by everyone and the love interest just being another bully on top of that. Idk how that's a regular thing. I want him to be the "knight in shining armer" that defends her. IT'S SO WEIRD
I maintain that one of the best romance novel series ist the "Psy-Changeling" Series by Nalini Singh. The world bulding as so fascinating that I reread them after a while and _skipped_ the sexscenes for the plot! It's a world with three races: Humans, Changelings (Humanoids that can shapeshift into specific animalforms and tend to live in groups and are very "instinctbased") and Psys, a race of Telepathically and Telekinettically advanced humanoids. This last group is pretty much the focus point of the conflict: About 2 generations before the books the "Silence"Protocol was implemented, a often brutal conditioning of Psychildren to become emotionally detached in all things, due to the high number of Insanity among their Population. How true this argument is and what harm "Silence" may have cause is pretty much the (overarching) plot of the books. I reccomend them, they are good romances _and_ a decent story!
"It's more of a she-can-fix-him thing than a isn't-toxic-masculinity-great affair" just summarised two incredibly prevalent and problematic genres in mainstream Hollywood romance depictions, not just obscure erotica.
1:13 for those who may have missed the book that was briefly on screen, here's the title: Santa Claus Conquers the Homophobes, The Santa Claus Chronicles Book 2 by Robert Deveraux. When I saw the book cover, I thought he was takin' the mickey. I thought, "this can't be a real book!" So, I HAD to look it up! I went on Good Reads, and it turns out that it is real. Wha---?
The covers of these books are also what I often see with short, gay romance books 😅. I remember actually downloading one from my public library's website but weirdly, the book I got was not the book in the description! And was rather awful, I believe. I would've accepted the weird mixup if the book I was given had been good, but sadly, it wasn't. And I can't just out myself to my libarary as a woman who sometimes likes to read gay erotica, so I never told them about the issue 😂. I am so sorry to the next person who might want the actual book in the description...
Funnily (?) enough, that third book’s over-the-top premise and execution reminded me of how grateful I was that a book I recently read didn’t devolve into a bully romance. It’s called Didn’t See That Coming by Jesse Q. Sutanto, and it’s about a girl who poses as a guy in a Warcraft-like game to avoid harassment, and is simultaneously dealing with bullying from this one guy who happens to play the game in real life. The way it pokes fun at the fake dating and extreme enemies-to-lovers trope was quite fun, in spite of the rather serious subject matter. And the actual love interest is actually one of the few non-toxic guys at the school and in the game. It was a review copy, but it comes out for the public this coming Tuesday, I believe!
The final book, by the sound of it, really gave me Detroit: Become Human vibes with its setup. I know that's not really new ground as androids in fiction have a lot of crossover, but it was literally the first thing that popped into my head as Dom described the book. Making me, low-key, interested in reading it.
Edit for clarity. A wider understanding and acceptance of the split-attraction model could possibly help avoid the "sexual vs romantic attraction confusion" in the 3rd one. But, unfortunately, not everyone believes it's a real thing, so...
RE the kissing booth thing: IDK about Ireland, but I'm from the US and my mom got forced into staffing a kissing booth when she was in high school. Unsurprisingly it lowkey traumatized her. She can't stand those Kissing Booth movies because they bring back bad memories
I’ve lived in Northern Ireland my whole life and while I don’t know if it’s any different down south, kissing booths are not even at thing, as far as I know, and forcing someone into one has to be, if not illegal, just not an option ESPECIALLY if minors are involved
I was a kid with a single mom for a time, and I did try to really beg her to stay with guys who I liked. I think my mindset was that I just really wanted a dad who I actually enjoyed, so I was determined to be part of that process of choosing. I imagine it's also just a fantasy to have the transition go super smoothly, because the kid is enthused to have this person as a new parent.
As for dating as a single parent, it’s best to be fairly sure about someone before introducing them to your child. Like, give it at least six months and determine whether you both want a long term commitment. Otherwise a kid might bond with a string of short term partners, leading to heartache and confusion when each relationship ends.
1. I got a great kick out of your Southern American accent 2. I just love having such a great UA-camr with high-quality content who’s childfree by choice. You’re great representation. I shall continue to edit and add to this list as I keep watching
As a sex-positive asexual, I appreciate you saying sex negative instead of just asexual so much. The idea that asexual people don't like having sex is one of the most harmful things for new sex-positive asexuals to hear and it is such a prevalent idea even within the asexual community. For those who don't know, sex-negative people don't like having sex, asexual people don't experience sexual attraction. you can be both but you can also be one or the other
there is so much variety under that umbrella. I am sex positive as long as it concerns others, I can talk with my girls about their bdsm preferences, read sex scenes as long as they are well written etc and am of the opinion, that sex is great as long as everyone is having a good time . . . but I am also sex repulsed, the moment someone tries anything with me I am a panicked mess and gone. Just to each their own, some just do not like sex with others, but have fun on their own, others dont see the point but if it brings their partner fun, why not , some hate the topic, some do like it, but its not a need . . . . its always great to come across people who get that
I absolutely adore everything about this. You drinking wine while talking about the books, the rating system, the fact you got actual people to voice acts of the lines, this has the exact right kind of chaotic energy. I would definitely appreciate this being a series
As an online RPer I can confirm people obsess over eye color. I dunno why but it seems to tap into people's need to feel a little different or special by having a certain eye color. Purple, silver, two colors, jet black, etc.
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You're awesome Dom! Much love and support 😊😊😊
Well, I'm sorry jokes about your name get the juices flowing. Soorrrrrry! Geez, can't take a joke.😏☺️🥴🤗
Did the author of the second book really fail to make you care about this crime family, or do you just need to read more of books in the series to gather enough context to care about everyone? 🤔🤔 (Genuinely wondering here, because I forgot if it was specified if this was the first book in that particular series or not, and I'm too lazy to skip that far back just to try and find out.) Lol
All that came to mind in the first 2 minutes: this brings new meaning to Dominic The Italian Christmas Donkey
@@nicholaspoling9691 stop!!! 🤣😂😂
"he's not a wizard, he's a rapist" was unexpectedly hilarious.
I need this
In a conceptual way, on it's own this could work as a kind of mantra. You know, in the way people tend to justify and romanticize horrific behavior. You know, people who "literally me" The Joker, or (and I really can't believe this is real. We live in the worst timeline) Homelander. Anyone with enough brain rot to be an Ayn Rand stan. "He's not a wizard, he's a rapist."
I took a sip of my coffee at that exact moment
I was chewing on popcorn kernels and almost inhaled one 😂
All the funnier with the reveal that there _was_ a wizard Dominic erotica novel, Dominic just forgot to read it.
i'm so glad you mentioned the conflation between sexual and romantic attraction in erotica. just bc you think they're hot doesn't mean dating them is a good idea
and in romances, and in media in generell, that bs is everywhere
So true
Exactly! Why do so many authors not get that?
"Someone needs to make a standalone Dominic romance novel."
You hear that fans?
Dominic has given us homework. ✏️🤓
Ok, which genre?
Edit: We’re doing fantasy and here’s why: At the start of the story, he’s Dominic the smith apprentice, by the end when he marries into the aristocracy, he’ll be Dominic the noble. And who can resist that joke? Also, because sorcerer mafioso.
Edit: I'm seriously considering doing it, but I have one question: Is naming the love interest after Dom's mother taking it too far? On one hand, that is "use the safe word" level mean, pure red flag. On the other, it's not like I'll try to mimic E.L. James' writing style, so there's lines I'm not crossing, and this is definitely a line. If one person tells me not to do it, I’ll not.
nanowrimo isn't QUITE over
And thus, the monkey's paw curls...
I figure fantasy? Must contain sword fights and Satari 🤔 oh and a 50 shades torture chamber. Like a room filled with projectors of the movie and blasting the word murmur ar full volume 😂
@@GrandArchPriestOfTheAlgorithm Since we love torturing our favorite chap for charity, my hat in the ring is Hardcore Military Sci-Fi in the Omega Verse. 😈
“Unless you’re demisexual, it’s completely possible to be attracted to someone you don’t like.”
Me, on the Demi/ace spectrum: “oh yeeeah. That’s true. I forget about that. Thanks, Dom!”
Definitely a thing I have to force myself to remember because I can't relate at all 😂
Me, a non-sex-repulsed Asexual, totally stumped why anyone wants to go to the trouble of sex for someone they don't like as a person. And then I remember: Because hate-fucking is totally a thing that allosexuals get something out of.
@d.o.m.i. lol that's weirdly comforting to know!
I literally had to pause the video for an "oh yeah...I still don't get it" moment 😅
The number of times I’ve had people try to explain why they’re attracted to an annoying person is insane. Then I found out I was demi 😂
Dom: Better rename myself because people keep mistaking The Dom for S&M lingo
also Dom: Better read all the smutty sex novels with my new name on it
I mean... the latter happened YEARS after the former, soo... character arc?
Could have been worse, he could have been a woman called Peggy (Peg for short).
@@Thraim. To be fair, his new name is also his first name. Erm, I mean the name he was given first.
@@paulgibbon5991ngl I’m gender-fluid and the feminine side of me would enjoy the double entendre inherent to Peggy
"I don't run an Only Fans for charity because I'm prudish."
"I'm rating these books out of Dominicks based off how much I like their Dominick."
There isn't anyone else who combines literature reviews, humitarianism, vivid descriptions of sexual adventures and dad humor.
Had to pause to let you know - as a single parent, YES that absolutely happens. My kid has pushed me to get with adults they know and like several times. I think it's partly to do with the two-parent-family being the socially accepted "norm" and my kid wanting that appearance of normality, and part the fear of an "evil" step-parent coming in without their control driving my kid to want to pick someone they already know and like to prevent that possibility.
Couldn't part of it be that your kid is thinking of you being lonely and thinks a person they enjoy will bring you happiness? Their reasons might not be just selfish, but I get you.
@@Lincolnlogsoff oh absolutely! That very well could've been a part of it; it's just that my kid was very clear on why they wanted me to get with someone, once I got them to explain after a particularly awkward situation when they asked a friend of mine if he'd "be [their] dad" after I'd asked him out X.X kiddo was about 6 at the time, lol, and my friend was also a parent, so he knew how to help smooth out the let-down my kid felt since I got gently rejected XP (tbc I didn't ask him out in front of my kid - spawnling overheard my landlady teasing me about him and ambushed him with the question the next time we saw him). It never felt like their reasoning was selfish, just kinda sad... and primed to mortify me when pipsqueak designated themself my unwanted wingman. They haven't brought up the subject of me dating in years - I think a lot of the upset was coming from school, where other kids/teachers would go on about parents-plural, mixed with too many stories about step-parents having cruel intentions. Now that they're of an age to date, my singleness is of far less importance in their life :P
@@SedonaNight I see. I'm sure they were just curious as kids are. There's an endless amount of love kids have for their mother, now they know they can protect you.
I don't know if you're into taking advice from your internet pals, but what I think is that you should introduce that child to The KLF's Justified and Ancient. It might teach them a thing or two about how much cooler it is to let people do their thing instead of pressuring others about stuff. I'm not saying you have to do it, but that's what I think, so you do with that information what you will, old friend.
@@NotoriousLightningWhat are "KLFs Justified and Ancient"? What does that phrase mean?
“How I will be judging the sex scenes? …… don’t worry about it” literally sent me into a laughing coughing fit and I loved every minute of it 😂😂😂
That’s like asking movie critics to review P**nhub movies….
I thought he was referring to all of the categories when he said that, joke is way funnier now that I get it
I now feel the urge to write a novel about a sorcerer mafioso named Dominic
Dooooo iiiiiit! XD
Be very careful. The Magnus Mafia is no joke. They are more dangerous than you could imagine. The rules you have to memorize, only to break later, are a full grimoire.
Go for it
Do it, and then let us know when it’s published so we can all buy it
I’m writing that down. Dominic The Smith Apprentice needs to be a sorcerer mafioso at some point. At least it gives me a potential villain.
“But because she didn’t choose another marine to do it with”
That is probably the most marine thing I have ever heard in my 5 years enlisted.
I'm really happy Dom remembered that line because it absolutely rocks.
@@alanpennie8013 like for real, that almost ALMOST makes me want to read it.
“I’m not breaking up with you because you slept with another man, I’m breaking up with you because he’s in the goddamn Air Force”
The author def did her homework there. I’m Army but I’ve got a lot of marine friends LMAO
I love how Dom broke his wine glass while wearing a shirt of a cat knocking over a cup
As a cat, I approve this shoutout to his cat audience.
completely unrelated, but I love your icon.
Somewhere I read a beautiful explanation of why someone might think having the hots for someone = love. It went like this: people, especially women, even more especially religiously raised women, are told that sex is only to be had with the one you love, preferably your husband, so when they find they want to have sex with someone they think they 'must' be in love with them, or they're a slut/sexual deviant. I'm far too ace to confirm or deny this but it made sense to me.
It sounds logical
Mistaking attractiveness with love is also common for people (young or not) who don't have a lot of romantic experience.
Yep it's true
As a pansexual and religiously traumatized adult yeah that tracks 1000%
So, whats the percentage of allosexual people who this never happened to?
Please yes, we ABSOLUTELY need more of these, it's SO refreshing to have somebody talking about this sort of thing who actually knows about BDSM etiquette. Having content of this genre that isn't just "god can you imagine what kind of psycho would actually think this is hot???" is really *really* good for everyone's mental health, thank you so much!
^^^^ what this person said
@@dakotaredd1742 ⬆️⬆️⬆️ What that person said about what that other person was saying
It is so telling and desturbing, that a partially sex repulsed ace virgin knew more about genuine bdsm at age 18, than the people writing erotica "for it" tend to do.... And it is so not my kink
And the healthyest I read was absurdly part of a fd, where both agreed to the sex to lure the other spy into a trap..... So yeah, the "healthy" consent ane communication do not keep long, but it does for 2 whole sex scenes which is a lot more then in everything else I read. They establish expectations, hard limits, a safe word and talk about what they enjoy before anything happens and the Dom in the situation does check in with the sub... He does drug him after the second time and I prisons him for betrayal, espionage etc and tries to torture information out of him, and it was never truly enthusiastic cause the dom is a sociopath and the sub a rebel who uses his attraction in hopes to get away before he is discovered, so there is a vibe of danger and deception to it all....... But until the flip point they both play by the rules beautifully . It is disturbing, that a genocidal villain is the best example of a dom I read against supposedly genuine romantic partners......
Yes! Absolutely! Mentioning aftercare and the "as long as everyone is enthusiastic about it" comment made me sooo happy.
I have a THEORY on the "kids bullying their parent" trope, based on the single parents I know. They often feel guilty for wanting a partner, or fear that the kid won't like their new love interest, so the kids really pushing for it would be a bit of wish fulfillment for the parent.
As someone who has a single parent, it's not uncommon for children to wish for them to have a partner / push them to get a partner. Growing up in a heteronormative society with two parents for everyone else except yourself does that.
As a child, I'd often ask my parent to marry a close friend of theirs who was nice. I thought we could all be happy together. It was before I realize they were already married to someone else and were just friends.
"A young Irish lass who is, apparently, the mortal woman most hated and cursed by ALL the gods." This divine sass made me want to check out that OF account.
Do you know where to find said account. For research purposes obviously
"As someone who is child-free by choice and I suspect was just born without that part of the brain that causes even the smallest paternal feelings, I've always found that kind of ending to be genuinely horrifying". This is the first time I've felt truly understood on this matter.
This is why we have fur babies🐈!
This just makes me happy that fanfics come with "Dead Dove Do Not Eat" tags for something that is just very unpleasant. It's a nice warning to have before diving into something that has focus on very unpleasant topics.
Either way, I'm in. I want more of this.
Tagging in general is such a great thing
More books should have trigger warnings
@@notllikethat Agreed. As much as I appreciate a good summary, trigger warnings and tags are what makes me click or makes me stay away. And it helps narrow down what you're in the mood for in a way a summary can't.
I agree!
I'm old, I need the DDDNE thing explaining 😅
@@Blue_Sonnet Dead Dove, Do Not Eat is a warning used by fanfic authors to tag their fics (usually darkfics) that the fic contains disturbing themes
As a childfree by choice ex-evangelical, I also find the quick marriage with a kid on the way ending to be genuinely horrifying. Even worse are those that end with a quick marriage and a kid on the way...and then an epilogue where multiple children are born in quick succession. (One book had 8 kids in less than a decade.) Truly a nightmare. I didn't realise that I was reading a horror novel.
Nobody should ever go through that. I had a lot more sympathy for Mrs Bennett when I realised she had 4 kids in 5 years. 🥴🤢.
I'm the same and always considered that kind of ending quite horrifying, but then I realized that the latest story I wrote has a protagonist who gets together with a father of 5 over the span of two months, after which they soon make it to 7 children, and now I'm wondering if I just gave in to the trope or if my subconsciousness knows something I don't 😅
Even as someone who wants a big family, I don't think that shit should happen after mere months.
@@sleepysera I guess you as the author have to decide if are those kids are human beings with their own needs and lives or just props in their parents story the latter is fine in fiction but in the real world it causes massive amounts of harm.
I'm also a childfree by choice exvangelical! I'm always so happy when I find another one and I feel like we should all just start a club because yikes being raised in evangelicalism with that social pressure and the whole cultish environment reinforcing it is quite a specific experience and people who weren't raised in a high control environment and had to deconstruct it and move over to a completely opposite worldview really won't understand it!
I have an evangelical friend who is married yet childfree more by circumstance and is unusually ambivalent about it - and I'll venture unusually open-minded given the environment she's immersed in - and our conversations are really interesting in that regard, delving into the reasons people have children and why that's seen as the be-all-and-end-all.
From my side I am INCREDIBLY glad to not have children, which I view as a privilege, given that for many people, they may not have felt they had the choice given social pressure - or may not have *had* the choice and autonomy over their lives at all given the grooming and indoctrinating culture of evangelicalism 😢.
Body betrayal syndrome is the most infuriating trope. That along with infantilizing women, and the women being passive and always "giving in" seems to be the standard in waayyy too many books now.
That's why I hate most real existing romance, while I simultaneously like reading romance. It's so hard to find books that don't reproduce the same old toxic cliches again.
In my own attempts at writing romance, the ladies are usually the ones initiating.
It's why I can't seem to get into the genre. So much nope, I can't find a good one.
This is so true and why I have a hard time finding good stories and books 😅
It really is. I don't get why we still can't get consensual sex in books especially romance and erotic genre.
@@Sasu123456789x1I thought I hated romance, for I always got annoyed and quisy at that part of story's u til I found a good romance and and noticed that I actually do love romance, I just hate toxic bs
Kissing Booths weren't made up by L.A. Casey, but they are basically fictional. They were once a thing at carnivals, and college students can do it willingly (usually for charity), but as portrayed in fiction, it's not a thing.
Please try to imagine a world in which you wrote a dark horror fantasy story, called "Demonic" just for a printer to misread it and printing 10.000 copies of the worlds weirdest named book, cause naturally nobody in this is actually called Dominic.
There's a HP fanfic on Archive of Our Own titled 'Hermione Granger, Demonologist'. When some fans confessed to having initially misread the title as 'Hermione Granger, Dermatologist', the author, BrilliantLady, obligingly started a story with that title. 🤣🤣🤣
Not a single parent, but I am a kinder teacher. A few years ago, less than a week after her parents broke the news that they were divorcing, one of my kinder kids straight up told me to date her dad. And told me that she had already told her dad that I was single.
I find it uncreative but funny that the author picked the name "Karen" for the cheating wife of the first story 😂
I mean fair enough (with apologies to anyone called Karen reading this).
She wasn't an important character.
Quick, someone write a book with a guy being inducted into the magical world by a woman named Dominic, who turns out to be a sexy fem dom in the bedroom! Have him think she's sick of him by getting someone else to be his mentor, but it's actually so they can have an actual relationship on more equal footing without her having authority over him that is not expressly given in the bedroom.
Wizards, concent, and equality. I think he'd love it.
That reminds me of a show I watched, oddly enough.
@@sacrificiallamb4568 If you remember the name, I would definitely like to look into it.
@@sacrificiallamb4568 which one?
@@KaliqueClawthorne Can't remember anymore.
I’d read that!
If you are turning this into a semi-regular series, you could perhaps call it 'Domi-Notes'. You could have a logo of various erotic books falling like dominos.
Or, optionally, if the Dominics turn out to be mainly bad: Dom(i)-Nos
Dommy Nos
@@chrismanuel9768 I think it imperative you know YT translates your comment to Dommy Us
I'm giving this video an upvote for the disclaimer you gave of "hey, stories are stories, not instruction manuals for how to live in real life, it's okay to enjoy problematic stories as long as you don't use them to justify real-world horribleness!" Also for "it is entirely possible to be sexually attracted to someone you don't like!" These are messages that need to be shouted from the rooftops, thank you good sir!
"I am not the target audience of these books."
What? But they have your name on them?!
Kid pressuring parent troper here. When I was young I hated everyone my mom dated and always told her as much. Eventually there was one I met and afterwards I told her "He seems fine. You can keep this one." They got married and stayed together until he died this year.
My condolences.
I have it on good authority that kissing booths aren't a real thing. They only show up in movies, tv, and now books. as a light germaphobe i'm comforted by that every time they come up.
Edit: Well apparently kissing booths are a real thing. Sometimes it's cute with dogs, or people costumes with masks, or consenting adults.
But some of them were also highschoolers "volunteerd" by others to kiss strangers on the mouth for money... I hate it so much
I was at an event recently which had a kissing booth as one available option for the booth, but I don't recall it being used. People got much more mileage out of the 'bad advice' booth option.
@@goodbyesheesha well that's mildly terrifying.
a school would never sponsor one... they might be a thing some people do, but that a school sponsors it and forces it on their students is what makes it illogical
I’ve always thought of them as just renamed Photo Booth where couples could kiss
kissing booths were a real thing back in the 1950s but only at carnivals not at schools.
My mom introduced my stepdad to me as her "friend" way, way back in the day when they genuinely were friends who had gone on maybe one or two dates after talking at work for months. I was just four years old at the time and I apparently moved spots on the couch and said "I'm gonna move so you can sit together". When she asked me why I said this I said, "mom, I think he likes youuu". So yeah, I think that counts towards the pressuring parents to date scenario. 😂
7:55 Not a parent but educator, and I can confirm this is a thing! Now whether the parent follows through on the pressure is another story, but if a kid really likes a possible future step-parent, they'll inadvertently put the pressure on their parent to stay with the step-parent. It's often viewed as a positive pressure by the parent, but not always, so take that as you will.
Not a parent, but it also feels like wish fulfillment to me. When someone is getting into a new relationship, it's the dream that your kids will also like them, for many many reasons. The absolute top tier of this would be the kid liking the new partner so much that they push a hesitant parent into commiting, because if it's obvious enough to the child that the new partner is perfect for their parent, then obviously the new partner is perfect for their parent. It's approval, confirmation of soulmates, and a happy family unit all in one
This reminded me for some reason of the French version of Cinderella, the one where she killed her first step mother because she wants her father to marry the other one (who then turns out to become the evil stepmother, karma and all that)
It's an obviously exaggerated version of this behavior for Fairy Tales sake, but interesting nontheless, I think.
Exactly what I was looking for thank you 😁
Parent here, and am a former single parent. From my point of view, the kids' opinion towards a possible step-parent is a huge deal. But has never been the quintessential test of whether or not I would choose to stay with said partner. From a parent's perspective, ideally, you would want your kids and new partner to like each other, to get along, and for that potential partner to be a good fit as a parental figure to your child. It absolutely is a prerequisite for most single parents but it is never the ultimate decider. No single parent would stay with a potential partner JUST because their kid likes them. Because, ultimately, a kid's opinion will not be consistent, nor stay the same as they grow older.
As a child of a single parent it is much more likely for them to tell their parent's partners to fuck off
As both a creator and consumer of romance and erotica, I really appreciate you judging the books based on how successful they are at what they appear to be doing, and not solely on whether or not they're your cup of tea! And I really appreciate the distinction you draw between the dark erotica that appears to know what it's doing and the works that may or may not, making it more difficult to suspend disbelief and/or get through them.
I also think reviewing books with your name in the title is a hilarious gimmick that could wind up with you reading in all sorts of genres that you don't usually! There are so many books published now that you have to have some kind of guide to get a nice randomish cross-section without losing your mind.
Usually, I like to try and make sure my premises are plausible, but sometimes it's fun to go back to a silly genre classic and indulge. Trying to get a reluctant hero/ine to do something they're uncomfortable with sure is better suited to the dark side of the genre, though...maybe not so much the teenage students. Like, sure, I was pressured into lots of stuff I didn't want to do as a teen, but a: not exactly a fun escapist fantasy b: rarely actually as serious as "sit in this mild sexual harassment zone against your will". Yikes!
Well Dom, you have a masochistic relationship with your subs.
With the ironic part being how the roles are switched.
This is so true! Do you think we owe Dom aftercare? 😉
I've never been forced into working a kissing booth, but imagine faking being sick will swiftly get you out of it.
Faking a bad cough isn't that hard.
"An extremely sexual prequel to the matrix" there are so many good lines in this one
As someone also childfree by choice it's nice to hear that Dominic too finds the "babies ever after" endings horrifying.
These stories could end with the leads in a long-term relationship, moving in together, even getting engaged.
Why does it always end with 2.5 kids?
Okay I screamed from the magician bit, but I am so so so damn grateful that you understand that dark romance exists in a space where everyone is informed that books are not instructions for living one’s life. I am tired of people hating on the genre for no reason at all
That's the problem though, so much toxic bs happens, where it is not aknowlaged as unhealthy af, but gets framed as the point of well needed for any romance to happen..... I can read very very terrible stuff, if the framing aknowlages it as bad, but I do not make it through most Rom coms, cause they canstantly romanticise really desturbing stuff and frame it as normal and that makes me sick.
Fifty shades and twilight get read with the idea, that that is, how romance has to look like and what one wants for themselfs..... In shadow and bones root people for her abuser cause he is hot and they miss all the red flags cause that bs got so normalised!!!
Framing makes all the difference for often even if you technically know you read fiction and not how it should be, if it's everywhere it does color your perception and expectations of the real thing.....
So yeah, I can read an ff about a probably sociopathic mercenary who shoots at kids and one of the kids he is shooting at, cause I find it psychologically interesting, but have a mental breakdown if faced with something like the notebook or 16 candles ....
Framing is everything
@@SingingSealRiana Sounds like an you issue.
Needing to be constantly told that murder, gratuitous violence and unbalanced relationships are bad else you feel tempted to reproduce it is quite a worrying state of mind to live in. There's not a single scientific study leading to the idea that violence and unhealthy relationship have been "normalized" by fiction.
It's been 10 fucking years since Twilight, the moral panic over young girls trying to date old man for love because of a book never came into fruition... Book are not viruses and if your morality is that easy to bend you do well in keeping clear of dark themes in fiction...
@@SingingSealRiana that's why I think that people in general should use trigger warnings more often
I don't get why we aren't doing it already. I dislike when people suggest to ban 'bad' books, but I very much approve of using warnings and maybe even tagging. Tagging is soooo underappreciated
As someone who was a child of a single mother; it took me until I was an adult myself to finally warm up to my step-father.
A child WANTING a step-father sounds so foriegn to me.
It's explained above.
The child fears that their parent will get together with someone completely loathsome (because grownups have terrible judgment and are entirely driven by libido) and so push for someone they actually like.
I edit romance novels and the company I work for has been publishing more dark romance lately, since it's been a popular recent trend. But our brand is also sex-positive and about consent, so any non-con between the leads has to be about the characters being into that kind of roleplay scenario, and our novels all include a reader advisory so the readers know what they're getting into. The dark romance novels I've worked on have been mostly ones where the characters are greyer morally (like organized crime), or where they're into some D/s elements but without being part of the BDSM community. They tend to have more violence and therefore conflict about falling in love with someone who does terrible things.
Interesting to learn that it is considered a recent popular trend by publishers. Looking through fanfiction my impression was it's a dying trend that used to be popular 5 years ago.
@@IISheireenII recently popular amongst the mainstream readers who never had a fanfiction era.
Ooh, bless you. I can’t get into dark romance at all (part of it is race-based, and part is the gratuitous violence), but as a romance author, thank you for the work you do!! Writing romance is not nearly as easy as people want to believe, and editing it? I give thanks to my editors regularly.
Are you allowed to mention the publisher's name, or is it easily found using Google-fu?
@@TheRonnieajcan you explain what you mean by race based? Genuine question here, since I want to know about your experience looking into the dark romance genre from the outside. I know a lot of dark romance heavily features grooming, questionable relationships between family members, age gaps that are straight up illegal, misogyny, and lots of 🍇, as well as human trafficking, and white guys having too much audacity and too much power. However, other than the author who shall not be named who wrote that story of the triple K man and the Latina woman getting together, I haven't heard many critiques of the genre in regards to racism. Mostly just the standard "why are grown women getting off to teens being with adults" fair.
I'm pretty sure that kissing booths were at least real things like 20+ to 30 years ago.🙃🙃👀
Forcing somebody to operate one who did not voluntarily wish to, even if they weren't a minor, is horrifying though.
This is how plagues happen
i remember when this channel was called The Dom. and i thought it was a dom who read books from the perspective of a dom. and i watched anyway
And I watched BECAUSE of this misconception. And am still here years later with lots of joy
The fact that the Fifty Shades series were his most popular videos prob didn't help with this misconception
"for less than a portion of fish and chip!!!" Man, I was having the worst day and now you made me cry with laughter! Thank you
Who else wants Dominic do more videos while steadily getting drunk?
Yes! Also more of his southern accent
I’m here for it😂
Cheers to that!
I'd be worried about his liver, but I am aware in the past he's substituted the alcohol with apple juice to avoid that problem. However, as someone who suffers from frequent heartburn, that's not that much better.
@@margaretschaufele6502 just at the end he revealed that the wine was "liberated"(free) from alcohol
Did Bright Cellars know what subject matter their bottles were being paired with?
Actually, "Bright Cellars" sounds like it could be a series about some kink dungeon action, where part of the kink is bright illumination.
"It was a dark and stormy night, and I was contemplating my reflection in the bathroom mirror..."
What I like about Dom (er the youtuber not these various Dominics) is how respectful he is of other people's tastes. I love reading Dark Romance and I appreciate how he talks about it. Its not his thing but he's not shaming those who like it, just how its written. Thanks bud 👍
I imagine it's difficult to be fair to a book that is very much outside of what you like. Dom might joke but he really is a professional.
#1 Dominic story: I did have a single father's child try to guilt me into marrying her dad. It does happen. She was a doll but I was too young to be her mom or anyone's wife.
Reoccurring theme please! Just because it's nice to see book reviews and the theme is a marvelous idea.
Dom trying to imitate an US American accent just sounds slightly better than me trying to imitate an English accent lol
“A dark mafia…like a magic mafia for evil Sorcerers doing the Dark Arts.” The way I was instantly DOWN for this!
This video has just inspired me to look up books with my name in the title, I've found three so far, one's about a former Navy SEAL turned biker trying to protect the woman he's romantically involved with and her young daughter from shady people in their past, another's about a pirate lord who takes in a young woman disguised as a man with a treasure map tattooed on her back as his cabin boy, and another is about like a shapeshifter knight falling for the sister of his traitorous former best friend, and the rest is just various books about Tristan & Isolde. *EDIT* - I've found some more, one's about a guy who, after being tremendously heartbroken by his superfamous popstar ex-girlfriend whom he was a lyricist for, moves to Brazil to escape any mention and image of her until sometime later he is reunited with her as she needs his help to save her son, another one is more of a slow-burn unrequited love story about a guy who is in love with his friend's sister but she's married, or at least she was, and she gets his help to solve a work problem, There's also some gay romance ones, and then there's one about a werewolf falling for a female veterinarian who aides him in seeking revenge on the people that attacked his pack.
Guess you just have to become a former pirate turned Navy SEAL who falls for the sister of his traitorous best friend who, like the snake he is, tricks you into believing his sister married your old pirate rival and now upholds the black flag.
I found a book about a marine colonel attracted to a female member of the team, a billionaire actor seeking genuine love, a business owner getting involved somehow in femdom and a series of books about a pack of werewolves.
But it seems to be pretty common for erotic authors to use my name as either their first or last name.
My name only brings up books for children and a few YA novels of the more realistic kind...
I have a single book, which I’m fairly certain is the monsterfucker version of the second Dominic book.
I had a hard time finding any at all, but I got a "Random invitation to a friend's place turns into a BDSM gangbang", a bog standard romance/erotica, one about a couple of teachers getting together where the author basically apologises for her writing and begs for concrit, and one about a dad who's spent years planning how to kidnap his 13 year old daughter and teach her a lesson she won't forget that I am very concerned about.
I was dating someone for about a year. She was looking to buy a house, so sometimes I'd go with her to check them out. I was a fairly recently divorced father of an elementary age boy. I had my own house and we had not even broached the subject of moving in together.
I had my son on a day that she was looking and asked if he wanted to come. He'd known we were dating for months, but this was the first house he looked at with us.
As we looked around, he said she should buy this house, then proceeded to tell us the master bedroom would be his, she'd get the second bedroom and I would get the spare (technically not a bedroom) room. Our eyes practically popped out of our heads as we looked at each other in silence.
She bought that house, I moved in, my son lived there half time (shared custody).
We've been married 10 years.
I kind of love that ALL these books are part of a series, because that means that that all these different authors randomly decided to name a side character Dominic and than also all individually decided he could carry a book of his own.😂
Also I totally get your point about the difference between dark and being evil in an uncomfortably realistic way.😢
Speaking as another elder millennial, I was not asked about my feelings on either of my step-parents. I was informed after the fact. Both on the marriages and a half-brother.
Oof,
Hugs 🫂
Not to torture you, but yes, I would like more Dominic reviews.
OK, was gonna offer to write a Dominic into my _Mass Effect_ fanfiction, but then i heard the first "novel" was a Marine that belonged to a motorcycle gamg called Cerberus, so someone beat me to it.
Uh, no pun intended.
EDIT: OK, "plot grinds to a halt" needed a nod.
I am pretty sure Kissing Booths are a thing of the past. Like the Tunnel of Love attractions. Both only live on as weird tropes without actual basis in reality anymore.
Yeah, I was about to say, "Dunno about Ireland, but I know it was a thing in the Southeast US when my parents were in high school. Not common, mind you. But it existed."
Given Dom pointing out that the book starts out with the cliched mirror scene, I'm surprised he didn't just figure that was another one of those things, as I feel like sitcoms and sometimes rom-coms aimed at a younger audience (like that one literally named after it a few years back) are the only things really keeping that trope alive. Though, I do get his point of being weirded out by the teacher pushing it on her and the time lingering on it; I guess it just isn't as common in popular media in the UK as the US.
Wait, why on Earth would you *choose* to drink out of a normal wine glass when you have a goblet at your disposal?!
"Presented as either a tramatic event from their backstory or full on kink,"
This man knows full and well the horrors of 50 shades where its BOTH, so i trust him to know the two apart as well
Loved the discussion of how if you write it well, you can write books where consent is off the table but everyone is into that being the case and the reader is made fully aware of that going in. It's not my kink (I much prefer enthusiastic consent in my smut) but the problem isn't that people like it, it's when writers do it badly, or worse, don't even realise they're doing it and try to pass it off as romantic.
Dom is becoming a glutton for punishment at this point XD
It's HIS kink. 😅
Should change his name to Subinic.
@@Twilord_ If it's punishment that causes pain, wouldn't that make him a masochist?
I had genuinely been Dominiced so much that, upon reaching the "and now for a word from our sponsor" I was honestly expecting the sponsor to also be Dominic and was taken aback at the not-Dominic.
I am very tempted to come up with the “Erotic Dominic Drinking Game”, taking a drink each time the name ‘Dominic’ is said
But I am worried I’d die of alcohol poisoning halfway through the video
Take sips of water, stay hydrated!
@@coiler_119 water poisioning is a thing
On the topic of children of single parents pressuring them into dating someone, I have a funny story to tell: I have a good friend who's divorced and his young daughter likes to point out attractive men for him to date. He's not gay, she just thinks it would be cute if he were 😂
The rocky horror inclusion made me very happy thank you dominic
Yes, more books titled “Dominic” should be read and reviewed. This was wonderful.
I just realised you're my favourite smut reviewer
I didn't even know that was a category until now
Dominic: I'm not the audience for these books. They're all written for non-Dominics!
Finally! Someone else agrees with me with the practice of kissing booths. They sound so gross and cringy. Thank God I have never seen one in real life but I just know it’s only a matter of time.
"That's how single I am"
I guess I missed the breakup. My condolences, Dom.
In the name of all that's holy, please stop punishing yourself like this, Dominic! While it is undeniably highly entertaining, I fear for your emotional equilibrium in the long term!
He does have a line he won't subject himself to go past, at the very least. I was glad to hear that he put down a book that was causing him extreme distress.
Still. I'd like to see what books he wants to read.
I mean, hey, he stopped when it too too much for him 😅
Number of times Dominic said "Dominic", "Dominics", or "Dom": 79
Dominics per minute: 2.42
I wish Chuck Tingle had would have graced us with what would be the greatest book ever written for the namesake, "Dominic gets pounded in the butt by a butt named Dominic."
God bless you Chuck Tingle and bless the entirety of the Tingleverse. Love is real, especially for you Dominic, and your butt also named Dominic.
"A Book Reviewer Named Dominic Gets Pounded in the Butt by a Book Called "Dominic Pounds Me in the Butt"
Just pointing out: the chance that Chuck reads your comment and writes it is larger than zero.
@@mirjanbouma Of course, how else would we actually know love is real if he didn't do things like that? I fully expect to be reading this in like a month's time.
You never know where Mr. Tingle might turn up, but wherever that may be, it is always welcome.
As an Irish person I can assure you Dom I've never heard of there ever being a kissing booth in Ireland
As someone who was the child of a single parent (but I am not a single parent, unless cats count lol), I know I had a preference about who my mum dated. She had two major relationships during my childhood, and one man was very bad towards me, and the other one was actually nice. I remember telling her often to go back to the nice one or not date at all.
"Someone needs to write a standalone Dominic erotica, you cowards."
Those are fighting words, worthy of a Dominic. Also the good premise for a Dominic erotica. 😂 Also "Dominic Erotica" is now going to become a genre of erotica, I foresee it.
I've DNF'd many books that have the troop of the FL being abused by everyone and the love interest just being another bully on top of that. Idk how that's a regular thing. I want him to be the "knight in shining armer" that defends her. IT'S SO WEIRD
It does appear to be an aspect of the *life totally sucks* variety of teenlit.
I maintain that one of the best romance novel series ist the "Psy-Changeling" Series by Nalini Singh. The world bulding as so fascinating that I reread them after a while and _skipped_ the sexscenes for the plot!
It's a world with three races: Humans, Changelings (Humanoids that can shapeshift into specific animalforms and tend to live in groups and are very "instinctbased") and Psys, a race of Telepathically and Telekinettically advanced humanoids. This last group is pretty much the focus point of the conflict: About 2 generations before the books the "Silence"Protocol was implemented, a often brutal conditioning of Psychildren to become emotionally detached in all things, due to the high number of Insanity among their Population. How true this argument is and what harm "Silence" may have cause is pretty much the (overarching) plot of the books.
I reccomend them, they are good romances _and_ a decent story!
I love to hear a writer actually researched bdsm to write their romance book, thank goodness
"It's more of a she-can-fix-him thing than a isn't-toxic-masculinity-great affair" just summarised two incredibly prevalent and problematic genres in mainstream Hollywood romance depictions, not just obscure erotica.
yeah, and the reason i thought I hated romance in generell
Now I'm wondering whether the first Dominic story was written out of spite towards Shades of Grey.
1:13 for those who may have missed the book that was briefly on screen, here's the title: Santa Claus Conquers the Homophobes, The Santa Claus Chronicles Book 2 by Robert Deveraux. When I saw the book cover, I thought he was takin' the mickey. I thought, "this can't be a real book!" So, I HAD to look it up! I went on Good Reads, and it turns out that it is real. Wha---?
Yep, and he reviewed it, too, I'm pretty sure. I can't find it though, so maybe he had to take it down.
Nevermind, I found it! The video is titled "This GRAPHIC Adult Christmas Story Was Not What I Expected"
The covers of these books are also what I often see with short, gay romance books 😅. I remember actually downloading one from my public library's website but weirdly, the book I got was not the book in the description! And was rather awful, I believe. I would've accepted the weird mixup if the book I was given had been good, but sadly, it wasn't. And I can't just out myself to my libarary as a woman who sometimes likes to read gay erotica, so I never told them about the issue 😂. I am so sorry to the next person who might want the actual book in the description...
Lost opportunity for a joke with robo-Dominic, "I don't need a man to buy me anything." "I am not a man" replied Dominic with a smug smile...
He might have been afraid that if he said that she'd reprogram him with a large axe.
Funnily (?) enough, that third book’s over-the-top premise and execution reminded me of how grateful I was that a book I recently read didn’t devolve into a bully romance. It’s called Didn’t See That Coming by Jesse Q. Sutanto, and it’s about a girl who poses as a guy in a Warcraft-like game to avoid harassment, and is simultaneously dealing with bullying from this one guy who happens to play the game in real life. The way it pokes fun at the fake dating and extreme enemies-to-lovers trope was quite fun, in spite of the rather serious subject matter. And the actual love interest is actually one of the few non-toxic guys at the school and in the game. It was a review copy, but it comes out for the public this coming Tuesday, I believe!
Rule one of Dominic fight club is we don't talk Dominic fight club.
The final book, by the sound of it, really gave me Detroit: Become Human vibes with its setup. I know that's not really new ground as androids in fiction have a lot of crossover, but it was literally the first thing that popped into my head as Dom described the book. Making me, low-key, interested in reading it.
i was thinking that too
Geez, I bet if Hank Anderson read that garbage, he’d be coughing up a swear storm…..
That was exactly my thoughts too omg. I was like: that kinda sounds like Detroit Become Human... 👀
I was hoping I wasn't the only one! When he described the world I had to pause and make sure I heard it correctly lol
I spit tea all over my keyboard at "Unfortunately, he's not a wizard. He's a rapist." 10/10 you are the best Dominic.
Edit for clarity.
A wider understanding and acceptance of the split-attraction model could possibly help avoid the "sexual vs romantic attraction confusion" in the 3rd one.
But, unfortunately, not everyone believes it's a real thing, so...
yes!
"You will feel it when you meet the right person"- my parent's friends
RE the kissing booth thing: IDK about Ireland, but I'm from the US and my mom got forced into staffing a kissing booth when she was in high school. Unsurprisingly it lowkey traumatized her. She can't stand those Kissing Booth movies because they bring back bad memories
I’ve lived in Northern Ireland my whole life and while I don’t know if it’s any different down south, kissing booths are not even at thing, as far as I know, and forcing someone into one has to be, if not illegal, just not an option ESPECIALLY if minors are involved
You would think the priests/ministers would put a stop to it.
It would be something actually useful they could do.
0:13 - "This book, I couldn't finish... and it's got my name on it." - That's what George R. R. Martin said, too!
I was a kid with a single mom for a time, and I did try to really beg her to stay with guys who I liked. I think my mindset was that I just really wanted a dad who I actually enjoyed, so I was determined to be part of that process of choosing. I imagine it's also just a fantasy to have the transition go super smoothly, because the kid is enthused to have this person as a new parent.
As for dating as a single parent, it’s best to be fairly sure about someone before introducing them to your child. Like, give it at least six months and determine whether you both want a long term commitment. Otherwise a kid might bond with a string of short term partners, leading to heartache and confusion when each relationship ends.
That nail polish is FIRE 🔥🔥🔥
I was so sad when it came off!
1. I got a great kick out of your Southern American accent
2. I just love having such a great UA-camr with high-quality content who’s childfree by choice. You’re great representation.
I shall continue to edit and add to this list as I keep watching
As a sex-positive asexual, I appreciate you saying sex negative instead of just asexual so much. The idea that asexual people don't like having sex is one of the most harmful things for new sex-positive asexuals to hear and it is such a prevalent idea even within the asexual community. For those who don't know, sex-negative people don't like having sex, asexual people don't experience sexual attraction. you can be both but you can also be one or the other
there is so much variety under that umbrella. I am sex positive as long as it concerns others, I can talk with my girls about their bdsm preferences, read sex scenes as long as they are well written etc and am of the opinion, that sex is great as long as everyone is having a good time . . . but I am also sex repulsed, the moment someone tries anything with me I am a panicked mess and gone.
Just to each their own, some just do not like sex with others, but have fun on their own, others dont see the point but if it brings their partner fun, why not , some hate the topic, some do like it, but its not a need . . . . its always great to come across people who get that
I absolutely adore everything about this. You drinking wine while talking about the books, the rating system, the fact you got actual people to voice acts of the lines, this has the exact right kind of chaotic energy. I would definitely appreciate this being a series
As an online RPer I can confirm people obsess over eye color. I dunno why but it seems to tap into people's need to feel a little different or special by having a certain eye color. Purple, silver, two colors, jet black, etc.
The image of the _Santa Claus conquers the Honophobes_ was only there for a second and now I cant stop thinking about buying it for a friend of mine 😂
I’m jealous you got Jessie to do a voice over for you! I’m glad we have mutual good taste in content