When I started considering my partner as boring, I remind myself too that I can be boring sometimes. Just give each other time and space to get to back each other in a better version. He is not here to entertain me it's not his duty so let both of us be ourselves
@@mishba9998 ooh wait wow I really like this, I’ve never l thought about it like that before, that’s a more mature and wise outlook that u have, and I can appreciate that, thanks for giving me another way to look at things :0
One of the things I'm realizing... I'm still keeping an open mind though because our relationship as lovers is still young though we've been friends for years. I'll just keep my eyes open to things that will prove to be deal breaker for us. Good thing I've communicated this to him at the beginning and he shares the same stand on this.
Here you go: 00:29 You can't imagine spending your life with them. 01:16 You don't share the same values. 01:58 You are complete opposites. 02:40 You're often bored of each other. 03:24 You have different goals for the future.
Ah So I probably like them still because of the chemistry And my body doesn't understand that we're not compatible. Thank you and thank the video I think I'll be able to properly get over them now :)
It's weird that me and they have same values, we are totally similar! ,We are never bored with eachother, and we have similar goals for life The thing is that we don't think we are meant for eachother 🙃
What’s real confusing is when you have compatibility, but you don’t know if you have chemistry. Like you two share the same beliefs, like all the same things, are never bored of each other, all that. Extremely compatible. But you can’t tell if you have chemistry. That’s what sucks
For me I had a similar situation. But I weirdly started ti get that chemistry feeling after 2 months together. Everyone is different in how they feel and specially when your past experiences were negative that it may take time to love again something I needed time to so I could feel it again
The reality is, this channel reminds me why I'm endlessly single:- the complexities of relationships has always been too complicated for me to navigate through. It's just an obstacle course of things to tiptoe over or around. When you choose to remain on your own, the issues just aren't there.
I think chemistry and compatibility are both necessary for a long lasting relationship, even when you are finding just compatibility with someone you'll notice that chemistry is very important in order for two to get along. If you base your engagement in the relationship on compatibility only you'll most likely find yourself in an unhappy relationship.
100%. My ex boyfriend and I were compatible in everyway but I did not feel the chemistry on my end. I thought it would develop more over time but it didn’t and it made me feel awful. Both are very important
@@chlobers i get you. Without chemistry, most of the time it feels like we're settling because it's convenient. We may care about the person deeply but it feels somewhat empty/lacking.
Nah, there is a difference in the boredom mentioned and the one you’re talking about. I’ve met a girl who I was insanely compatible with and never got bored with the situation for the 8 months I was lucky to talk to her. I’m talking to someone new now and that excited feeling just isn’t there. Even tho I like her and we get along, I can tell that feeling of excitement just isn’t there after after a couple weeks of talking.
@@no-nameduser1117 it depends on what's going on. Typically the early stages are fun because everything feels new together. Life could take the wheel and the relationship even though just started can feel like an afterthought. That's when you express your feelings together. Don't blame yourself or them. Blame the problem and brainstorm a solution together
My friend and I are insanely compatible. We have the same values, outlook on life, ironic humor - we even have the same personality type. We're equals in every way, intellectually and otherwise. And, to be frank, he ticks all my boxes. It's very easy to be together: we don't get bored or confused talking to each other, nor do we feel uncomfortable at any point being in each other's presence. When we're together I also find us slipping into too-comfortable-with-each-other territory: leaning on each other, speaking with our faces too close, ignoring most other people etc. It would be very easy to be in a relationship with him. But the thing is we just don't have chemistry. I can't feel the butterflies in my stomach when I'm with him. I don't think about holding and hugging him all the time. And touching him doesn't make my heart go a million miles a minute. In fact, I like someone else: a guy just as smart as the both of us, but less sarcastic and chatty, more quiet and focused. Seeing him smile makes my heart jump. No matter how compatible my friend and I are, after all, I just can't see him in a romantic light.
Your whole comment is so much like mine too, and hes also my friend, except, but we were more than that we were literal besties since childhood, and now were in a relationship, im so glad we never get bored with each other.
@@eriko2350it’s not confusion. You wouldn’t be attracted to someone too similar to you in all aspects of your personality. You look for something you lack, or something you could do with more of.
Ironically, the people I had the biggest chemistry with never worked out as a relationship. However the one who I developed feelings for slower and more careful, I have now feelings for like for no other. We were curious about each other but very careful and started out as friends but the more I got to know him, the more I was falling for him and it keeps me more curious about him every day, even after years of knowing him. So yeah, be careful, chemistry is all nice and good but for me it was never enough. Strong fast feelings like that can fade pretty fast. Take your time to get to know a person, you have time.
This is so true. Things that happen fast disappears quickly and thing that happen slowly lasts longer. Not only relationships but almost everything in the world. And I wish you a happy future ahead💕💕
Signs that is chemistry and not compatibility: 1- There is a poster of the periodic table 2- You have a paper that usually have questions like "how many electrons and neutrons there are in Au?" And last but not less important: 3- You are in class
To be honest, a bit of compatibility might be of use, but there are not a lot of people who are fully compatible at first, especially at a younger age. If you are open, curious and truly interested in the other you might grow more compatible. What I'm trying to say is that compatibility isn't the key, it's the reward. Some fundamentals have to align yes, but love is much more than chemistry, compatibility, lust or romantics. You won't be the same 5 years from now as you weren't the same 5 years ago. Consider yourself blessed to have found someone who you can fall in love with all over again because you both stayed interested and curious. You both grew closer, went through better and worse and became better people because of it. Compatibility comes in many different subfactors, just because you aren't compatible religiously doesn't mean you aren't compatible by other factors. It just requires more effort. Loving is and always has been a verb. It's the personal development you have to go through as a human being that is the most valuable you can share with someone. Love is a verb, it requires effort. It's only when it requires more than it gains you should ring the alarm bell.
Not too long ago, I had to break up with my boyfriend because of reasons like this. Our lives were moving in completely different directions anyways, but #2 was one of the main things that first made me realise we might not be compatible. He told me he didn’t see why it mattered if we had different values (such as religion or politics) and didn’t like talking about them. At first, I kind of understood; I have a few friends with different values than me and, because they are reasonable and understanding people, it’s never gotten in the way of our friendship. But then I realised that the very reason these friendships work out is BECAUSE we’ve talk about such topics. I don’t mean my friends and I will regularly debate about controversial issues (although sometimes we like to listen to the other to hear where they’re coming from), but I mean we’ve talked about the fact that we have sometimes have different views politically, religiously, etc. My boyfriend knew mine because I was open about it with him but he refused to be open about it with me. I remember getting home from my date that evening with him and thinking to myself, “ok, so if stuff like that doesn’t matter to him at all, then he should have no problem sharing his values with me….” I decided to ignore it but things just started slipping through the cracks and-even though he tried to hide it-his true values, moral, and character started shining through. One thing led to another….and now I’m single again. Long story short: yes, sharing the same values does matter and it’s one of the reasons one of my previous ex-boyfriend and I broke up.
Yeah I completely understand My story is different but basically I found out later that he had completely different views, even about relationships! But he kept them for himself, saying that “we just never talked about them” while in reality we talked about relationships and it seemed to me that we had the same opinion. But no, it was more convenient for him to hide his true opinion. He showed he didn’t care about me anymore lol but we kept arguing because he didn’t want to accept my point of view and didn’t even listen to me. You just can’t stay with someone who doesn’t care about your opinion and has such a strong opposite view on everything
Same, even tho he's quite open about it I'm still young and stupid and thought it wasn't a problem. 2 years after I realize how much it was affecting our relationship. Is hard, I really don't want to "lose" him, but I can't contuine it
So essentially open communication could have resolved the issue. The conversation could have been left at agreeing to disagree, with understanding each other.
yeah, I've recently finished the relationship in where we had quite different goals and views on life. The sad part is I really understand it was a right solution, but my heart still hurts...
Just broke up with GF. We're not planning on getting married anymore. I really needed to hear this, and now I feel more assured of my future. It sucks, but such is life. In the end, I'm thinking it was for the better.
Chemistry, when you're not used to having it with anyone before, can feel like you did find the one. Sometimes opposites can compromise and feel compatible over time. Regardless of how magnetic the feelings are our core values will leave us questioning things more often than not. When they also say "you can do better" take it. I always gave benefit of the doubt and believed in the best of people, especially if they were sabotaging themselves. My feelings were crushed again because I didn't heed their warnings at face value. Just a rule of thumb if anyone needs it.
My parents very clearly have chemistry and no compatability, and they've made it work for the last 22 years- but there's always talk of how they'll divorce once I finally move out :( I'll be very sad because there is clearly a lot of love between them but also just so much resentment at the same time
We are the same. My parents are married for 25 years they aren't compatible and have different wants in life. Now they want a divorce. Sometimes I wish they did it earlier because I feel like they wasted our time. They say they stayed together for us but through those 25 years there are more bad moments. I felt like we have been robbed.
This definitely would have been helpful when i was still in school trying to figure out what love is. Im glad this is available now for those who are still wondering.
Love all the references in these videos! I’ve spotted Solangelo from Percy Jackson at 1:59, Lumity from The Owl House at 0:17, and Hans and Anna from Frozen at 4:04
This is how it was with my last ex. Her and I fell really hard fast. There was a ton of emotional love, basic appreciation, physical attraction, sex passion, etc.. But the sad thing is that we just were not compatible. When someone has deep internal beliefs, you can't change them into something they're not at their core. The more you try, the more it fails. 💯 Overall, she's a great woman with a lot of good qualities, and she was a very loving GF. But she's a hyper independent modern feminist and I'm traditional with a belief in gender roles. So we'd butt heads over the lead in the relationship.
My gf broke up with me few months ago, we tried to get back but it just wasn’t it for me. For her I guess I was the one but for me, this video is exactly what is going on with me… I feel bad for her. She deserves better…
You can only get bored of each other if one person or both people stop putting in the effort toward one another and choose to only self-indulge. Taking an interest in your partners things and doing the things that they like with them, is part of actual love and being in a relationship. If someone doesn't do this, it's not because they got bored, its because they selfishly stopped putting in the effort. Relationships take effort toward one another on both people's parts to maintain in the long-term. If they end up leaving for someone else just because they get that initial new attraction with them, then this is due to the fact that they are impulsive and don't value loyalty at all and don't know how to be in a lasting relationship.
Are you saying people should fake interest in things they really aren't into? Sometimes there are things that just dont appeal to you at all. And I dont really think one should have to pretend. Ideally partners should have some genuinely shared interests. And its only things both are actually into where both can have fun as well. But of course a good relationship takes effort. And I also think that effort could get too complex sometimes. I imagine another reason for boredom is running out of things to talk about, that are actual conversation topics and not small-talk (of course that depends on both people and compatibility, but it can actually be hard to find something at times). As well as relying too heavily on feelings that are only there when you are newly in love.
@@zakosist I don't think we should ever fake our interest. I'm just saying that if we care about our partner, you'll care about what their interests are. It might not be your thing, and you might not do it all the time, but you can just join them sometimes if they want to share it with you, because you care about them. You're right that we ideally want to find someone that shares our interests, but people's interests tend to change over time, so if you never make an effort to take an interest in the things your partner cares about, you won't be able to maintain your bond as strongly over long periods of time. Remembering that we care about our partner makes this easier. I say "Remembering", because sometimes, we get complacent, and might take them for granted at times. Obviously, you don't have to force yourself in their interests, or act extra excited, but you showing you care about the things that they care about is doing a lot for them and the relationship. It's good to do that for one another.
I've experienced all these signs in my previous relationship. Hopefully I will find someone who is compatible for me. I love the Anna and Hans reference at 03:58 ❤️
I was looking for a comment to point that out lol I hope you find the one! And no worries, there is such a person, it's just that you haven't met them, yet.
another sign of chemistry is when you go through the door and see multiple images of the periodic table stuck onto the wall aswell as multiple conical flasks
I think those are good advice. But one should remember that no relationship or partner is perfect. Even people who stay together for many years and are generally happy, tend to have some different interests from each others, have occasional disputes and things that annoy them about their partner, and aren't having fun every moment they are together. But I still think you need to have some shared interest, mostly shared values and life goals, compatible plans for the future and at least sometimes enjoy the time spent together. Just that those things will never be an absolute. And if you dont keep that in mind too, you could also give up potential relationships that actually would be good.
To be honest my parents are complete opposites my mom is very outgoing type while my dad just likes to spend time working and being alone yet they're still together for 25 years by this point already
🤔, 1- enjoy their company, serious enough for a long term relationship. 2- beliefs religion politics parenting style 3- opposite interest ideas and opinions 4- bored of each other do you still feel the same or are you bored. ( Could be blinded with chemistry but not compatible with each other ) future goals places to live
I love how this channel gets into it immediately rather than imposing seven minutes of endless waffle on us first. I hate having my time wasted with nonsense.
1. Don't really know 2. Do share a lot of the same values 3. We are not opposites, we are pretty similar 4. And we are never bored of each other 5. We have some similar goals for the future When I saw my partner again for the first time in a few years this year I wasn't that excited but I was stunned by how much she had grown and how beautiful she is now , and then at some point we talked to each other after she came to my house for dinner once on my birthday I think and I started the conversation in the most unusual way lol by saying your almost as tall as me and she said I will grow taller than this and maybe who knows even as tall as you, and then at school every time she sees me she would actually say hello or hi like if she sees me she wouldn't pass by without talking to me about something
I actually have the opposite with someone. He shares my beliefs, lifestyle, kind calming nature and i feel like i could easily be next to him my whole life. We probably wouldn't fight, would be nice to eachother etc. but its like i just cant fall in love with him because of it being boring...Like yeah we could live as friends next to eachother but i dont feel chemistry or the need to kiss him.
the struggle is real. As far as I know, I heard you can actually build up chemistry with someone though but that depends on the situation. Is he physically attractive and/or fun to be with though?
Yes it's cool to have compatibility in all areas of the relationship but if you never feel some sort of physical, romantic, or affection towards that person, then you might as well be roommates
@@G33KN3rd Hmm, he's rather thinner and feels smaller overall. He is like 2cm taller than me but i like heels...And his shoulders and everything are rather slim. I dont really feel any physical attraction. When we hug it feels like he's lost in my arms because he's just so thin...He's very calm and colected and i never figure out his sarcasm because its in the same tone of voice all the time. He has a whispery voice. He's sort of comforting to be around and slightly fun but because we play games or watch anime.
@@SweetGir12 They say that over a period of time a person can grow on you, and you could end up falling in love. So you never know. I just wish you happiness whatever you're decision.
Love these new art styles! You are posting a lot though! Make sure you are taking care of your self please. Edit: Love how you use so many references lol!
Nice visual reference to the recent animated movie, "Turning Red" at 2:43. There is lots of psychology involved in its plot. I loved the characters, especially the hyper-intense Abby!
Seeing this 2 days after meeting what I think is my platonic soulmate. She’s a girl and I am a boy but we do not see each other in a romantic or sexual way but we vibe so well together and so comfortable around each other as if we had been friends for years despite literally knowing her for a week.
I was just thinking about interest today. Like how I like anime, but some people might not like it. Although I do have friends who don't like anime. I'm not sure if it would be too extreme to judge a possible significant other base on whether they like anime lol. Time tells all, I like that 🤣 It brought me a little peace of mind
Yeah my mom always told me that she would rather date someone new than being in a relationship and risk losing a best friend, guess this explains it well
I have an opposite impending separation: 17 years, compatible, but zero chemistry. I would love to hear how things went in your case. In my case, there was zero romance, zero real affection, and there are no kids. With your extreme chemistry/infatuation, did you grow tired of being with this person? Were there arguments surrounding differing opinions regarding your values/politics/religion? Whenever my relationship ends, if I were to get into a new one I would want it to be filled with chemistry that I haven’t had for so long, but I don’t want to make a mistake where I do the exact opposite of what I have been living with now. Your perspective could be very helpful. I hope you see this and respond. 🙂
@@blackeneddove my former relationship was only chemistry. We didn’t have deep meaningful conversations. We bonded over little things that we liked to do, simple interests. We had fun, we were in our 20s. We didn’t know who we were yet. Infatuation is projection of who you want onto someone you barely know. Love is acceptance for who someone is. You can have passion in either relationship but the passion in the second is what we all desire. I have that now. But he’s married. Life is so damn complicated, I wish I had the solutions. But we meet who we meet at the time they come to us. Love and feelings are not logical and they are not choices. Relationships are choices. We can have them or not. It is hard to fight feelings and not want the relationship or not to have it when you both want it, whether that be for one “wrong” reason or another or a “right” one that isn’t right at all. Everyone we knew, my ex husband and I, said we were true love. They had no idea…
We just met and there's this instant "click" in my heart like I have known this person for years. We end up talking for like one hour, it's just flowing so freely. There's even one time that I knew instinctively what this person was about to say and it exactly right word per word! Was that chemistry or compatibility? Or some say soulmate?
I know a woman I think I have great chemistry with, but I realize a relationship with her could never work out because there are many areas where we aren't compatible. For instance, she likes country music, I don't. She's neat and tidy, but I'm not. She is more active and athletic than I am, while I'm more of a couch potato. Violent movies don't bother me, but she doesn't like them. We don't have similar hobbies or the same, or even similar outlook on life.
I think having just a couple of these issues could work out just fine if you otherwise like each other and are compatible. I know people who are together in healthy long term relationships, and still have different music and movie taste for example. And every relationship have some occasional minor disputes and elements of annoyance over your partner. Nothing is perfect in life, including relationships. But it should be mostly good. I still think one needs to have some shared interests, and values and life goals. And actually like each other as a person. But it doesn't need to be a perfect match and almost never if ever will be
Rather than analyse every minute detail and pitfall of a relationship, sometimes it's far better to just get on a live it. Opposites do attract, my partner is the polar opposite of me and yet we get on, have not argued or even really disagreed yet, we have diametrically opposite political views and, you know what? We don't care, politics should not be a major part of any relationships, people should.
Thank you for sharing your experience. So many people are so ugly to each other over different political views and religious views. You give me hope. Are you two still together?
Well it seems emotional Intimacy has nothing to do with chemistry or maybe it does considering that emotional intimacy is connected to oxytocin and if so should serious topics like this be discussed before you get emotionally invested with a person because you won't be able to judge the situation properly, and basically if you want to establish deep emotional intimacy with a person you have no choice to invest in them without knowing if they want the same out of a relationship. And the other way around is kind of even worse to make them have strong emotional intimacy for you before knowing if they can give you the amount of emotional intimacy you need. So yeah it's either you talk it out before you even start dating or on the first date (well I have heard that such kind of think is really fat chance to work out) and the other way is by some strange twist of fate to get an opportunity to build deep emotional intimacy with another person ,kind of like in the movie Blind (2016), so you are telling me that if we get that deep emotional intimacy before we realize we were heading there it's acceptable and if you try and consciously build such emotional intimacy but before you that you actually discuss that it's the most important thing for you in a relationship, what I have been told that it takes time before you get to that point and I will know when it's that time, well it doesn't seem a good idea to be with someone for 6 months just so you can talk with them about what's most important for you in a relationship and before you get to there is have basically keep your emotional needs low profile because he/she will pull away, but that means the other person will get used to your lowered emotional standards and will not expect that you will raise them so high after you discussed, or in other words, if the person doesn't match my emotional capacity we will never get to that point where we can discuss this, so I don't want to waste 3-6 months just to find out that the person I have chosen to bet on turns out to be a let down. Or is it that I should ask my self why am I so obsessed with emotional intimacy and actually revaluate my priorities, well I have a story for that it was year or two after my father died, and I met a girl online (I think it was some kind of forum, maybe anime forum), we'll we started a discussion and we really had what you may call chemistry between to two of us, we talked for about a week or so, in the beginning I felt this warm feeling in my chest (wasn't the first time I felt that towards I girl I was interested in), but after some time that warm feeling changed it became a cool minty feeling that I had felt never before and I told her about it I tried to explain to her that this feeling is something that feels like more than just friends but she explained to me that she doesn't feel the same way and would like for us to remain friends, well even if she agreed to a relationship it would have been a long distance relationship so even then it was not very probable that it would have worked out, but since I was feeling that way I was willing to take a chance, well but it seems that she didn't feel the same way. So my father died 2012 and I have felt the same feeling for her for more or less 8 years not constantly but every time I remember about her. Back then I didn't know that what I felt towards her was emotional intimacy and I'm not sure if I could explain it now to her she would understand, but more or less she gave me what I need the most when I needed the most, for that I am grateful. Took me a lot of time to realize that she is not the only person that can make me feel the same way, I'm not really sure but I think when I feel in such way the woman that makes me feel like that is Emotionally Available, and well for the warm feeling in my chest I have felt it plenty of times and still feel it quite often when even when looking at random women on the street, so I'm pretty sure that this feeling means that the woman that makes me feel in such way is Emotionally Unavailable, and well if I really want between me and my partner to be deep emotional intimacy I don't think it is possible if the woman is Emotionally Unavailable. So in such regard Emotional Intimacy and Compatibility are not the same thing, oh and most of the time when people say "There is chemistry between them" they mean the combo of Chemistry and Compatibility, but why do they do that is beyond me.
I have a crush on this girl at first it was just a small thing but the crushing grows as times went on and I also heard from her friends that she also has a crush on me for an entire year now but now she’s changing school and from past experience I don’t think it is gonna end well
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Exactly actions speak louder then words . When someone likes you they'll make it beyond easy for you . I legitimally hate mind games and people that are fickle
I think some people may be too shy/afraid to show those things even when they do really want someone. Or lack opportunities to actually spend quality time with someone/just dont know how. Or even be afraid of seeming intrusive/desperate. But of course you can decide that these are not things you want in a partner.
I think when you're with The One (That's The One) you kind of lose yourselves for being each other's The One. You merge your goals to choose what works best for the two of you rather than to meet past individual goals. Maybe I'm wrong and maybe I'm just a romantic who believes in fairytales... But that's what I would hope for
Same. You have to know that real love, (not this 'true love' stuff from Disney) requires sacrifices. If one isn't ready to make those sacrifices for each other, neither is ready and too selfish. That first spark is easy. Maintaining that spark is tough, and I think that is why people "fall out of love."
@@returnoftheromans6726 the Disney stuff is beautiful and is what dreams are made of... We carry on believing but the real world does not support dreams ... It's called a harsh reality. If the two destinies met they would have the same destiny which would not have individual goals but have unified goals. Sweet sweet fantasy baby that she'll always be my maybe.
What happens when one person feels that you're their soulmate, but the feeling isn't mutual? This has happened to me at least twice, so I'm extra concerned.
Maybe they were experiencing limerence. Do you believe in soulmates? If not, it could just be that they believed in that concept but you don’t. But if you do believe in soulmates and these other people said that they were yours and you didn’t feel the same, then they might have been limerent, or just saying what they thought you would want to hear so they could get what they wanted. 🤷🏽♀️
Honestly me and my partner have only been dating for seven months and we already have the same goal/idea for the future we plan on spending together for eternity: get married and most likely adopt a kid
My older cousins , friends and family keep telling me that I have chemistry with my partner and I choose to deny the fact that I like her even if we have so much chemistry together because I don't wanna ruin the friendship and we also have most things in common with each other, man
I think its important to remember that no relationship or partner will ever be perfect. And you can have different preferences and some different interests and still have a good relationship. Ive seen several examples of that in real life. Its completely normal to have some minor disputes as well and be somewhat annoyed by your partner on occasion and it goes both ways. But these things shouldn't be a constant. I still think you should have some shared interest, shared values and overall life plans. But dont think those things have to or even can match to perfection just because a video said so. Dating relationships and finding a partner that wants you, left alone one you would actually be happy with once you're in a relationship, is still hard for a lot of people. Harder for some than others. But if you think things have to be perfect, you could be making it practically impossible
But what if you're actually on the same page with everything, yet he breaks up with you saying you're not compatible? ... 😔 Or saying we don't have much in common when he doesn't really try to bring much up in a conversation... How do you find what you have in common when your partner doesn't communicate much? 😔 I'm still trying to make sense how everything can seem fine until it isn't... 🥺 And how can one know if they should try giving it a second chance or if it's done for good 😔
He may have been trying to play you. He may be a player/f*ck boy and/or very narcissistic or a narcissist. I would just move on and not give him a second chance.
@@AquarianAge1 after 5 years together and living together, not sure how much of a player that makes one 😅 everyone has luggage they come with and I can see how his affects him in his social life, I just can't wrap my head around spending so much time and living together and then all of a sudden say there's nothing there, but still act the same as if nothing happened, just no romantic dialogues being the only change...
Chemistry to get it started.
Compatibility to keep it going.
Shared values and vision to make it last.
This 💕
When I started considering my partner as boring, I remind myself too that I can be boring sometimes. Just give each other time and space to get to back each other in a better version. He is not here to entertain me it's not his duty so let both of us be ourselves
@@mishba9998 very wise. We expect things of our partners that we can't even deliver ourselves. That's hardly fair.
@@mishba9998 ooh wait wow I really like this, I’ve never l thought about it like that before, that’s a more mature and wise outlook that u have, and I can appreciate that, thanks for giving me another way to look at things :0
@@EmEmTv7585 My dear the boy iam talking about is none other than himself (the guy where iam replying on his comment) (Dev) :-)
You can have so much in common with someone but it doesn’t always mean that you will get married or a committed relationship.
Story of my life 💔
One of the things I'm realizing... I'm still keeping an open mind though because our relationship as lovers is still young though we've been friends for years. I'll just keep my eyes open to things that will prove to be deal breaker for us. Good thing I've communicated this to him at the beginning and he shares the same stand on this.
Yes and no I think these are always dependable because we can never know the future and how we get there.
@@Qvotes that’s a good idea
@@Qvotes what are your thoughts on open relationships?
Here you go:
00:29 You can't imagine spending your life with them.
01:16 You don't share the same values.
01:58 You are complete opposites.
02:40 You're often bored of each other.
03:24 You have different goals for the future.
Ah
So I probably like them still because of the chemistry
And my body doesn't understand that we're not compatible.
Thank you and thank the video I think I'll be able to properly get over them now :)
👏❤️🇮🇪
It's weird that me and they have same values, we are totally similar! ,We are never bored with eachother, and we have similar goals for life
The thing is that we don't think we are meant for eachother 🙃
What’s real confusing is when you have compatibility, but you don’t know if you have chemistry. Like you two share the same beliefs, like all the same things, are never bored of each other, all that. Extremely compatible. But you can’t tell if you have chemistry. That’s what sucks
If you're asking you don't
For me I had a similar situation. But I weirdly started ti get that chemistry feeling after 2 months together. Everyone is different in how they feel and specially when your past experiences were negative that it may take time to love again something I needed time to so I could feel it again
@@damjay005 true it takes time
The reality is, this channel reminds me why I'm endlessly single:- the complexities of relationships has always been too complicated for me to navigate through. It's just an obstacle course of things to tiptoe over or around. When you choose to remain on your own, the issues just aren't there.
I feel the same... That's why I am single and not really looking for any relationship. I kinda want freedom bit more
@@It_is_Okay_to_be_Sad
Life is short. Just live it your way, and don't apologize for it.
@@noelgibson5956 yeah sure... We can be good friends if we ever meet lol 😂
Love is simple. These pseudo psychology channels have over complicated things for everyone. Best wishes for you.
@@CH-hh4mq not really
I think chemistry and compatibility are both necessary for a long lasting relationship, even when you are finding just compatibility with someone you'll notice that chemistry is very important in order for two to get along. If you base your engagement in the relationship on compatibility only you'll most likely find yourself in an unhappy relationship.
100%. My ex boyfriend and I were compatible in everyway but I did not feel the chemistry on my end. I thought it would develop more over time but it didn’t and it made me feel awful. Both are very important
Yes
@@chlobers I went through something similar, i thought i could build that chemistry with time but i was wrong !
@@chlobers i get you. Without chemistry, most of the time it feels like we're settling because it's convenient. We may care about the person deeply but it feels somewhat empty/lacking.
Yeah but relationships based only on chemistry don't last either.
Getting bored with someone is natural. Life is mundane and it isn’t someone’s job to make it exciting for you.
I wouldn’t life is mundane I would say the work is because for me life is about achieving
Nah, there is a difference in the boredom mentioned and the one you’re talking about. I’ve met a girl who I was insanely compatible with and never got bored with the situation for the 8 months I was lucky to talk to her. I’m talking to someone new now and that excited feeling just isn’t there. Even tho I like her and we get along, I can tell that feeling of excitement just isn’t there after after a couple weeks of talking.
I agree, but is it natural to feel bored during the early stages of that relationship? say 2 to 3 months?
@@no-nameduser1117 it depends on what's going on. Typically the early stages are fun because everything feels new together. Life could take the wheel and the relationship even though just started can feel like an afterthought. That's when you express your feelings together. Don't blame yourself or them. Blame the problem and brainstorm a solution together
There's a difference between being bored with someone and being comfortable.
My friend and I are insanely compatible. We have the same values, outlook on life, ironic humor - we even have the same personality type. We're equals in every way, intellectually and otherwise. And, to be frank, he ticks all my boxes. It's very easy to be together: we don't get bored or confused talking to each other, nor do we feel uncomfortable at any point being in each other's presence. When we're together I also find us slipping into too-comfortable-with-each-other territory: leaning on each other, speaking with our faces too close, ignoring most other people etc. It would be very easy to be in a relationship with him. But the thing is we just don't have chemistry. I can't feel the butterflies in my stomach when I'm with him. I don't think about holding and hugging him all the time. And touching him doesn't make my heart go a million miles a minute. In fact, I like someone else: a guy just as smart as the both of us, but less sarcastic and chatty, more quiet and focused. Seeing him smile makes my heart jump. No matter how compatible my friend and I are, after all, I just can't see him in a romantic light.
Your whole comment is so much like mine too, and hes also my friend, except, but we were more than that we were literal besties since childhood, and now were in a relationship, im so glad we never get bored with each other.
I guess you’re confused.Sorry
@@eriko2350man I’m confused too
@@eriko2350it’s not confusion. You wouldn’t be attracted to someone too similar to you in all aspects of your personality. You look for something you lack, or something you could do with more of.
Ironically, the people I had the biggest chemistry with never worked out as a relationship. However the one who I developed feelings for slower and more careful, I have now feelings for like for no other. We were curious about each other but very careful and started out as friends but the more I got to know him, the more I was falling for him and it keeps me more curious about him every day, even after years of knowing him. So yeah, be careful, chemistry is all nice and good but for me it was never enough. Strong fast feelings like that can fade pretty fast. Take your time to get to know a person, you have time.
This is so true. Things that happen fast disappears quickly and thing that happen slowly lasts longer. Not only relationships but almost everything in the world. And I wish you a happy future ahead💕💕
Yes yes yes
I love this
😢😢❤ ahh yes
Signs that is chemistry and not compatibility:
1- There is a poster of the periodic table
2- You have a paper that usually have questions like "how many electrons and neutrons there are in Au?"
And last but not less important:
3- You are in class
Haha I love this! 👏
😆
HAHA lol
Thanks for lightening the mood! 😅
To be honest, a bit of compatibility might be of use, but there are not a lot of people who are fully compatible at first, especially at a younger age. If you are open, curious and truly interested in the other you might grow more compatible. What I'm trying to say is that compatibility isn't the key, it's the reward. Some fundamentals have to align yes, but love is much more than chemistry, compatibility, lust or romantics. You won't be the same 5 years from now as you weren't the same 5 years ago.
Consider yourself blessed to have found someone who you can fall in love with all over again because you both stayed interested and curious. You both grew closer, went through better and worse and became better people because of it.
Compatibility comes in many different subfactors, just because you aren't compatible religiously doesn't mean you aren't compatible by other factors. It just requires more effort. Loving is and always has been a verb. It's the personal development you have to go through as a human being that is the most valuable you can share with someone.
Love is a verb, it requires effort. It's only when it requires more than it gains you should ring the alarm bell.
Well said
Spot on!
Not too long ago, I had to break up with my boyfriend because of reasons like this. Our lives were moving in completely different directions anyways, but #2 was one of the main things that first made me realise we might not be compatible. He told me he didn’t see why it mattered if we had different values (such as religion or politics) and didn’t like talking about them. At first, I kind of understood; I have a few friends with different values than me and, because they are reasonable and understanding people, it’s never gotten in the way of our friendship. But then I realised that the very reason these friendships work out is BECAUSE we’ve talk about such topics. I don’t mean my friends and I will regularly debate about controversial issues (although sometimes we like to listen to the other to hear where they’re coming from), but I mean we’ve talked about the fact that we have sometimes have different views politically, religiously, etc. My boyfriend knew mine because I was open about it with him but he refused to be open about it with me. I remember getting home from my date that evening with him and thinking to myself, “ok, so if stuff like that doesn’t matter to him at all, then he should have no problem sharing his values with me….” I decided to ignore it but things just started slipping through the cracks and-even though he tried to hide it-his true values, moral, and character started shining through. One thing led to another….and now I’m single again. Long story short: yes, sharing the same values does matter and it’s one of the reasons one of my previous ex-boyfriend and I broke up.
Yeah I completely understand
My story is different but basically I found out later that he had completely different views, even about relationships! But he kept them for himself, saying that “we just never talked about them” while in reality we talked about relationships and it seemed to me that we had the same opinion. But no, it was more convenient for him to hide his true opinion. He showed he didn’t care about me anymore lol but we kept arguing because he didn’t want to accept my point of view and didn’t even listen to me. You just can’t stay with someone who doesn’t care about your opinion and has such a strong opposite view on everything
Plzz no
It looks like your ex dodged a bullet.
Same, even tho he's quite open about it I'm still young and stupid and thought it wasn't a problem. 2 years after I realize how much it was affecting our relationship. Is hard, I really don't want to "lose" him, but I can't contuine it
So essentially open communication could have resolved the issue. The conversation could have been left at agreeing to disagree, with understanding each other.
yeah, I've recently finished the relationship in where we had quite different goals and views on life. The sad part is I really understand it was a right solution, but my heart still hurts...
you sound like as if women have feelings.
when your heart is at peace, you've found the one
Just broke up with GF. We're not planning on getting married anymore. I really needed to hear this, and now I feel more assured of my future. It sucks, but such is life. In the end, I'm thinking it was for the better.
"Chemistry to get it started.
Compatibility to keep it going.
Shared values and vision to make
it last." - Super Mario
Chemistry, when you're not used to having it with anyone before, can feel like you did find the one. Sometimes opposites can compromise and feel compatible over time. Regardless of how magnetic the feelings are our core values will leave us questioning things more often than not.
When they also say "you can do better" take it. I always gave benefit of the doubt and believed in the best of people, especially if they were sabotaging themselves. My feelings were crushed again because I didn't heed their warnings at face value. Just a rule of thumb if anyone needs it.
Never gonna give you up
>:|
Never gonna let u down
Never gonna run around or desert you :)
Never gonna run around
Never gonna turn around
My parents very clearly have chemistry and no compatability, and they've made it work for the last 22 years- but there's always talk of how they'll divorce once I finally move out :( I'll be very sad because there is clearly a lot of love between them but also just so much resentment at the same time
We are the same. My parents are married for 25 years they aren't compatible and have different wants in life. Now they want a divorce. Sometimes I wish they did it earlier because I feel like they wasted our time. They say they stayed together for us but through those 25 years there are more bad moments. I felt like we have been robbed.
This definitely would have been helpful when i was still in school trying to figure out what love is. Im glad this is available now for those who are still wondering.
Love all the references in these videos! I’ve spotted Solangelo from Percy Jackson at 1:59, Lumity from The Owl House at 0:17, and Hans and Anna from Frozen at 4:04
I think this is my current relationship. It's starting to become more and more apparent we only have chemistry...not really compatability tho
This is how it was with my last ex. Her and I fell really hard fast. There was a ton of emotional love, basic appreciation, physical attraction, sex passion, etc..
But the sad thing is that we just were not compatible. When someone has deep internal beliefs, you can't change them into something they're not at their core. The more you try, the more it fails. 💯
Overall, she's a great woman with a lot of good qualities, and she was a very loving GF. But she's a hyper independent modern feminist and I'm traditional with a belief in gender roles. So we'd butt heads over the lead in the relationship.
I don’t even need the advice on these videos, I just watch them for the information, and I find these videos relaxing!
My gf broke up with me few months ago, we tried to get back but it just wasn’t it for me. For her I guess I was the one but for me, this video is exactly what is going on with me… I feel bad for her. She deserves better…
Previous relatioship: a lot of compatibility, little chemistry. Current relationship: a lot of chemistry, small compatibility. Damn it
Sorry about that. Hope you get it figured out. Wishing you the best. ✌️
You can only get bored of each other if one person or both people stop putting in the effort toward one another and choose to only self-indulge. Taking an interest in your partners things and doing the things that they like with them, is part of actual love and being in a relationship. If someone doesn't do this, it's not because they got bored, its because they selfishly stopped putting in the effort. Relationships take effort toward one another on both people's parts to maintain in the long-term.
If they end up leaving for someone else just because they get that initial new attraction with them, then this is due to the fact that they are impulsive and don't value loyalty at all and don't know how to be in a lasting relationship.
Are you saying people should fake interest in things they really aren't into? Sometimes there are things that just dont appeal to you at all. And I dont really think one should have to pretend. Ideally partners should have some genuinely shared interests. And its only things both are actually into where both can have fun as well. But of course a good relationship takes effort. And I also think that effort could get too complex sometimes. I imagine another reason for boredom is running out of things to talk about, that are actual conversation topics and not small-talk (of course that depends on both people and compatibility, but it can actually be hard to find something at times). As well as relying too heavily on feelings that are only there when you are newly in love.
@@zakosist I don't think we should ever fake our interest. I'm just saying that if we care about our partner, you'll care about what their interests are. It might not be your thing, and you might not do it all the time, but you can just join them sometimes if they want to share it with you, because you care about them.
You're right that we ideally want to find someone that shares our interests, but people's interests tend to change over time, so if you never make an effort to take an interest in the things your partner cares about, you won't be able to maintain your bond as strongly over long periods of time. Remembering that we care about our partner makes this easier. I say "Remembering", because sometimes, we get complacent, and might take them for granted at times. Obviously, you don't have to force yourself in their interests, or act extra excited, but you showing you care about the things that they care about is doing a lot for them and the relationship. It's good to do that for one another.
All my relationships are chemistry connection,thats why they never last. Thanks for the insight.
Marinette and Adrian at the beginning LOL 🐞🐱
for me the most important thing is to understand each other no matter what
I've experienced all these signs in my previous relationship. Hopefully I will find someone who is compatible for me. I love the Anna and Hans reference at 03:58 ❤️
I was looking for a comment to point that out lol
I hope you find the one! And no worries, there is such a person, it's just that you haven't met them, yet.
I had this with my last relationship, I felt bad for just falling out of love for seemingly no reason but this explains alot 😚 thx
OKAY BUT WHY IS NOBODY TALKING AB THE SIX REFERENCE AT 2:53 AHHH “cause I feel the chemistry, like I get you and you get me” such a good songggg 😩❤️
I WAS WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO POINT IT OUT!!!! I was so excited to catch it❤️
another sign of chemistry is when you go through the door and see multiple images of the periodic table stuck onto the wall aswell as multiple conical flasks
I think those are good advice. But one should remember that no relationship or partner is perfect. Even people who stay together for many years and are generally happy, tend to have some different interests from each others, have occasional disputes and things that annoy them about their partner, and aren't having fun every moment they are together. But I still think you need to have some shared interest, mostly shared values and life goals, compatible plans for the future and at least sometimes enjoy the time spent together. Just that those things will never be an absolute. And if you dont keep that in mind too, you could also give up potential relationships that actually would be good.
To be honest my parents are complete opposites my mom is very outgoing type while my dad just likes to spend time working and being alone yet they're still together for 25 years by this point already
🤔,
1- enjoy their company, serious enough for a long term relationship.
2- beliefs religion politics parenting style
3- opposite interest ideas and opinions
4- bored of each other do you still feel the same or are you bored. ( Could be blinded with chemistry but not compatible with each other ) future goals places to live
I love how this channel gets into it immediately rather than imposing seven minutes of endless waffle on us first. I hate having my time wasted with nonsense.
what a good video to pop up when I am shipping two people with great chemistry
Make a video on why and how a person can love someone but yet still cheat on them.
1. Don't really know
2. Do share a lot of the same values
3. We are not opposites, we are pretty similar
4. And we are never bored of each other
5. We have some similar goals for the future
When I saw my partner again for the first time in a few years this year I wasn't that excited but I was stunned by how much she had grown and how beautiful she is now , and then at some point we talked to each other after she came to my house for dinner once on my birthday I think and I started the conversation in the most unusual way lol by saying your almost as tall as me and she said I will grow taller than this and maybe who knows even as tall as you, and then at school every time she sees me she would actually say hello or hi like if she sees me she wouldn't pass by without talking to me about something
The miraculous and owl house references at the beginning
I was looking for this comment :)) the umbrella scene
I actually have the opposite with someone. He shares my beliefs, lifestyle, kind calming nature and i feel like i could easily be next to him my whole life. We probably wouldn't fight, would be nice to eachother etc. but its like i just cant fall in love with him because of it being boring...Like yeah we could live as friends next to eachother but i dont feel chemistry or the need to kiss him.
the struggle is real. As far as I know, I heard you can actually build up chemistry with someone though but that depends on the situation. Is he physically attractive and/or fun to be with though?
Yes it's cool to have compatibility in all areas of the relationship but if you never feel some sort of physical, romantic, or affection towards that person, then you might as well be roommates
@@G33KN3rd Hmm, he's rather thinner and feels smaller overall. He is like 2cm taller than me but i like heels...And his shoulders and everything are rather slim. I dont really feel any physical attraction. When we hug it feels like he's lost in my arms because he's just so thin...He's very calm and colected and i never figure out his sarcasm because its in the same tone of voice all the time. He has a whispery voice. He's sort of comforting to be around and slightly fun but because we play games or watch anime.
@@vzaddy694 Honestly yes, if i think of living with him it feels like just being roommates...
@@SweetGir12 They say that over a period of time a person can grow on you, and you could end up falling in love. So you never know. I just wish you happiness whatever you're decision.
Love these new art styles! You are posting a lot though! Make sure you are taking care of your self please.
Edit: Love how you use so many references lol!
I think some people just get the two mixed up, great explanation. 👏
This is what has happened to me, since this person liked me for me it's quite sad we weren't made for each other
Nice visual reference to the recent animated movie, "Turning Red" at 2:43. There is lots of psychology involved in its plot. I loved the characters, especially the hyper-intense Abby!
Seeing this 2 days after meeting what I think is my platonic soulmate. She’s a girl and I am a boy but we do not see each other in a romantic or sexual way but we vibe so well together and so comfortable around each other as if we had been friends for years despite literally knowing her for a week.
Right video right time, thanks 🌼
I was just thinking about interest today. Like how I like anime, but some people might not like it. Although I do have friends who don't like anime. I'm not sure if it would be too extreme to judge a possible significant other base on whether they like anime lol. Time tells all, I like that 🤣 It brought me a little peace of mind
the adrienette and lumity references at the start……… 😭😭💖💖
Yeah my mom always told me that she would rather date someone new than being in a relationship and risk losing a best friend, guess this explains it well
I’m divorcing over a 20 year relationship that was based on chemistry/infatuation and has been a horrible ride
I have an opposite impending separation: 17 years, compatible, but zero chemistry.
I would love to hear how things went in your case. In my case, there was zero romance, zero real affection, and there are no kids.
With your extreme chemistry/infatuation, did you grow tired of being with this person? Were there arguments surrounding differing opinions regarding your values/politics/religion?
Whenever my relationship ends, if I were to get into a new one I would want it to be filled with chemistry that I haven’t had for so long, but I don’t want to make a mistake where I do the exact opposite of what I have been living with now.
Your perspective could be very helpful. I hope you see this and respond. 🙂
@@blackeneddove my former relationship was only chemistry. We didn’t have deep meaningful conversations. We bonded over little things that we liked to do, simple interests. We had fun, we were in our 20s. We didn’t know who we were yet. Infatuation is projection of who you want onto someone you barely know. Love is acceptance for who someone is. You can have passion in either relationship but the passion in the second is what we all desire. I have that now. But he’s married. Life is so damn complicated, I wish I had the solutions. But we meet who we meet at the time they come to us. Love and feelings are not logical and they are not choices. Relationships are choices. We can have them or not. It is hard to fight feelings and not want the relationship or not to have it when you both want it, whether that be for one “wrong” reason or another or a “right” one that isn’t right at all. Everyone we knew, my ex husband and I, said we were true love. They had no idea…
@@apriljohnson1067 life is really complicated. Thanks for sharing your experience. It’s given me a lot to think about.
Indeed, conflicting values and future plans will very likely make a pair realize they were just having a fling.
We just met and there's this instant "click" in my heart like I have known this person for years. We end up talking for like one hour, it's just flowing so freely. There's even one time that I knew instinctively what this person was about to say and it exactly right word per word! Was that chemistry or compatibility? Or some say soulmate?
That's chemistry
I know a woman I think I have great chemistry with, but I realize a relationship with her could never work out because there are many areas where we aren't compatible. For instance, she likes country music, I don't. She's neat and tidy, but I'm not. She is more active and athletic than I am, while I'm more of a couch potato. Violent movies don't bother me, but she doesn't like them. We don't have similar hobbies or the same, or even similar outlook on life.
I think having just a couple of these issues could work out just fine if you otherwise like each other and are compatible. I know people who are together in healthy long term relationships, and still have different music and movie taste for example. And every relationship have some occasional minor disputes and elements of annoyance over your partner. Nothing is perfect in life, including relationships. But it should be mostly good. I still think one needs to have some shared interests, and values and life goals. And actually like each other as a person. But it doesn't need to be a perfect match and almost never if ever will be
0:12 AHHHHH I LOVE THE OWL HOUSE REFERENCE
This really helps! Thanks!
Honestly this broke me. Now I'm not sure if any women I meet will be genuine attraction, let alone chemistry after the first date.
Hi psych2go u guys are my comfort channel your voice and everything is calm ;) i love itt thank you for everyhing
Bruhhhh I needed this, you honestly don’t know how much you helped me. Thank you 🙏🏽
00:03 This is the scene of origin episode of miraculous ladybug
Everyone: hmm yes compatibility.
Me: Dang, these characters got chins.
Starting with a miraculous clip got my attention 😭😭
Chemistry ⚗️ or Compatible..
Whatever you say...
but
we had a great understanding 🧠
0:11 omg the owl house reference!!!
Rather than analyse every minute detail and pitfall of a relationship, sometimes it's far better to just get on a live it. Opposites do attract, my partner is the polar opposite of me and yet we get on, have not argued or even really disagreed yet, we have diametrically opposite political views and, you know what? We don't care, politics should not be a major part of any relationships, people should.
Thank you for sharing your experience. So many people are so ugly to each other over different political views and religious views. You give me hope.
Are you two still together?
@@blackeneddove No we are not, but it ended amicably and for reasons other than political views etc.
@@dave-j-k thanks for responding. Glad it was an amicable split.
I never really thought about those two being different. Interesting.
omg!!! the mlb and Toh references are up top!! Tysm psych2go for these videos
Well it seems emotional Intimacy has nothing to do with chemistry or maybe it does considering that emotional intimacy is connected to oxytocin and if so should serious topics like this be discussed before you get emotionally invested with a person because you won't be able to judge the situation properly, and basically if you want to establish deep emotional intimacy with a person you have no choice to invest in them without knowing if they want the same out of a relationship. And the other way around is kind of even worse to make them have strong emotional intimacy for you before knowing if they can give you the amount of emotional intimacy you need. So yeah it's either you talk it out before you even start dating or on the first date (well I have heard that such kind of think is really fat chance to work out) and the other way is by some strange twist of fate to get an opportunity to build deep emotional intimacy with another person ,kind of like in the movie Blind (2016), so you are telling me that if we get that deep emotional intimacy before we realize we were heading there it's acceptable and if you try and consciously build such emotional intimacy but before you that you actually discuss that it's the most important thing for you in a relationship, what I have been told that it takes time before you get to that point and I will know when it's that time, well it doesn't seem a good idea to be with someone for 6 months just so you can talk with them about what's most important for you in a relationship and before you get to there is have basically keep your emotional needs low profile because he/she will pull away, but that means the other person will get used to your lowered emotional standards and will not expect that you will raise them so high after you discussed, or in other words, if the person doesn't match my emotional capacity we will never get to that point where we can discuss this, so I don't want to waste 3-6 months just to find out that the person I have chosen to bet on turns out to be a let down.
Or is it that I should ask my self why am I so obsessed with emotional intimacy and actually revaluate my priorities, well I have a story for that it was year or two after my father died, and I met a girl online (I think it was some kind of forum, maybe anime forum), we'll we started a discussion and we really had what you may call chemistry between to two of us, we talked for about a week or so, in the beginning I felt this warm feeling in my chest (wasn't the first time I felt that towards I girl I was interested in), but after some time that warm feeling changed it became a cool minty feeling that I had felt never before and I told her about it I tried to explain to her that this feeling is something that feels like more than just friends but she explained to me that she doesn't feel the same way and would like for us to remain friends, well even if she agreed to a relationship it would have been a long distance relationship so even then it was not very probable that it would have worked out, but since I was feeling that way I was willing to take a chance, well but it seems that she didn't feel the same way. So my father died 2012 and I have felt the same feeling for her for more or less 8 years not constantly but every time I remember about her. Back then I didn't know that what I felt towards her was emotional intimacy and I'm not sure if I could explain it now to her she would understand, but more or less she gave me what I need the most when I needed the most, for that I am grateful. Took me a lot of time to realize that she is not the only person that can make me feel the same way, I'm not really sure but I think when I feel in such way the woman that makes me feel like that is Emotionally Available, and well for the warm feeling in my chest I have felt it plenty of times and still feel it quite often when even when looking at random women on the street, so I'm pretty sure that this feeling means that the woman that makes me feel in such way is Emotionally Unavailable, and well if I really want between me and my partner to be deep emotional intimacy I don't think it is possible if the woman is Emotionally Unavailable.
So in such regard Emotional Intimacy and Compatibility are not the same thing, oh and most of the time when people say "There is chemistry between them" they mean the combo of Chemistry and Compatibility, but why do they do that is beyond me.
Miraculous tales of lady bug & chat noir reference in the beginning 🌚
I have a crush on this girl at first it was just a small thing but the crushing grows as times went on and I also heard from her friends that she also has a crush on me for an entire year now but now she’s changing school and from past experience I don’t think it is gonna end well
Lets goooooo! Lumity/Owl House reference!
Most Relationships don't work out because . People are too focused on what other people . Especially what the media tells them to like
This video speaks my mind💭
Can you also make videos about anxious attachment? Like how people deal with breakups
Most helpful video of yours so far!
If someone truly wants you, they will show it through actions, how effective their communication is, their vibe, body language and how they treat you. If you have to constantly ask yourself if someone is into you or not, they act hot and cold towards you, then most likely, they're not!
💙UA-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
Exactly actions speak louder then words . When someone likes you they'll make it beyond easy for you . I legitimally hate mind games and people that are fickle
I think some people may be too shy/afraid to show those things even when they do really want someone. Or lack opportunities to actually spend quality time with someone/just dont know how. Or even be afraid of seeming intrusive/desperate. But of course you can decide that these are not things you want in a partner.
Now this one is really important, I wouldn't have been able to tell the difference... tnx Psy2Go! ♡
I think when you're with The One (That's The One) you kind of lose yourselves for being each other's The One. You merge your goals to choose what works best for the two of you rather than to meet past individual goals. Maybe I'm wrong and maybe I'm just a romantic who believes in fairytales... But that's what I would hope for
Same. You have to know that real love, (not this 'true love' stuff from Disney) requires sacrifices. If one isn't ready to make those sacrifices for each other, neither is ready and too selfish. That first spark is easy. Maintaining that spark is tough, and I think that is why people "fall out of love."
@@returnoftheromans6726 the Disney stuff is beautiful and is what dreams are made of... We carry on believing but the real world does not support dreams ... It's called a harsh reality. If the two destinies met they would have the same destiny which would not have individual goals but have unified goals. Sweet sweet fantasy baby that she'll always be my maybe.
This channel feels like it's based on romance and love at this point.
For a long term relationship always go for compatibility.
And yet everyone always chooses the latter of chemistry. 🗿
Chemistry & compatibility, but wrong timing😭😭
1:37 I think only Filipinos will understand
I love how their antennas move to the rhythm of the music.
these videos are so awesome. I'm currently relating with this state of relationship and thinking about it now, I can't no longer extend on this
I for one do not believe in love at first glance
What happens when one person feels that you're their soulmate, but the feeling isn't mutual? This has happened to me at least twice, so I'm extra concerned.
Maybe they were experiencing limerence.
Do you believe in soulmates? If not, it could just be that they believed in that concept but you don’t.
But if you do believe in soulmates and these other people said that they were yours and you didn’t feel the same, then they might have been limerent, or just saying what they thought you would want to hear so they could get what they wanted. 🤷🏽♀️
Honestly me and my partner have only been dating for seven months and we already have the same goal/idea for the future we plan on spending together for eternity: get married and most likely adopt a kid
My older cousins , friends and family keep telling me that I have chemistry with my partner and I choose to deny the fact that I like her even if we have so much chemistry together because I don't wanna ruin the friendship and we also have most things in common with each other, man
The miraculous ladybug reference was so cute loll
OMG it's the umbrella scene from "Miraculous" 😍
I love the will and Nico part!:)
You guys always make amazing videos, thank you endlessly
You guys are Awesome ! 🙂
This is a very helpful set of thoughts
Thank you again! ❤️🩹
I actually needed this video. Thank you so much
luz and amity! LUZ AND AMITY
If all of those conditions have to be met I'll probably die single.
I think its important to remember that no relationship or partner will ever be perfect. And you can have different preferences and some different interests and still have a good relationship. Ive seen several examples of that in real life. Its completely normal to have some minor disputes as well and be somewhat annoyed by your partner on occasion and it goes both ways. But these things shouldn't be a constant.
I still think you should have some shared interest, shared values and overall life plans. But dont think those things have to or even can match to perfection just because a video said so.
Dating relationships and finding a partner that wants you, left alone one you would actually be happy with once you're in a relationship, is still hard for a lot of people. Harder for some than others. But if you think things have to be perfect, you could be making it practically impossible
the miraculous ladybug reference hehe
Time stamp?
@@catalina1816 it's literally the first second of the video
yeah
@@Renikee oh lol, sorry I am literally Adrien level blind rn
But what if you're actually on the same page with everything, yet he breaks up with you saying you're not compatible? ... 😔 Or saying we don't have much in common when he doesn't really try to bring much up in a conversation... How do you find what you have in common when your partner doesn't communicate much? 😔
I'm still trying to make sense how everything can seem fine until it isn't... 🥺 And how can one know if they should try giving it a second chance or if it's done for good 😔
Yeah idk either...sorry
He may have been trying to play you. He may be a player/f*ck boy and/or very narcissistic or a narcissist. I would just move on and not give him a second chance.
This may sound harsh but the truth is they don't want to do it with you or be with you. Wait for the One. All the best🤗.
@@AquarianAge1 after 5 years together and living together, not sure how much of a player that makes one 😅 everyone has luggage they come with and I can see how his affects him in his social life, I just can't wrap my head around spending so much time and living together and then all of a sudden say there's nothing there, but still act the same as if nothing happened, just no romantic dialogues being the only change...
Silvana Rezmerita Well whatever it is, there's a reason behind it, and unfortunately he doesn't communicate it.