I wish I had learned what Borderline Personality Disorder was a long time ago. It would have helped explain my family when I was much younger instead of spending most of my life thinking that stuff was normal.
@@m0L3ify I don't know what you mean by this.I thought I was a BP for 49 years, my mother also showed many traits. I've just understood she's a covert narcissist and I'm struggling with CPTSD. There are differences but they aren't easy to see recognise
@@stellar52 I thought you were saying Amber wasn't BPD when she's been formally diagnosed. I thought Dr. Curry was extremely credible. My mother and sister have all 9 traits of BPD, so it does actually apply to my original comment. I just didn't even learn what BPD was until I was in my 40's. I wish I'd learned sooner. My life would have made a lot more sense.
@@m0L3ify That's what I said, Amber isn't Borderline, she's a covert narc.. Did you know that BPD is misdiagnosed by at least 50%? If you're still in contact with your family and struggling a lot, you probably suffer from CPTSD. Amber displays all the signs of covert narcissism, the main traits are playing the victim role, a total lack of empathy and tremendous envy. Everything she did to Johnny was fueled with pure hatred. That's not a common BPD trait. Narcissism runs whole families, BPD doesn't
She was NEVER an A-List celebrity. TMZ ex-employee Morgan Tremaine presented convincing evidence that she is most definitely a B-List celebrity whose prominence is largely due to having married JD.
As someone with BPD, I can relate to some of AH's behaviour, like JD being late for her 30th. That would have cut very deeply because in her mind she would have felt like she just didn't mean enough, no matter what his reasons were for being late. She would have had major issues with his ex, Vanessa Paradis and his children because he has forever ties with them. He will love his children unconditionally forever and in comparison she would feel disposable. In my own experience, everything stemmed from not feeling good enough and a massive fear of abandonment but I will say that I felt too much emotion all within my relationships and everything was based on fear of them leaving me, fear of them cheating, lying. It was horrible and I stay away from relationships now and live a happy, peaceful life with my son, my dogs and my dear friends. My BPD never extended beyond the intimate relationship I was in. I feel AH goes way beyond into something else too. She is malicious and seems to lack empathy and sympathy for anybody. Everything she does is calculated for her own gain, end of! I don't believe she still loves JD. She is humiliated he left her and that will never sit well, therefore the 'woman scorned' role is what she has become and I think she confuses love with obsession. As for Michele Dauber. We can say the same for Adam Waldman's statements. How was it JD's fault Waldman made those statements? Dauber is a truly unhinged woman and I note she doesn't list Elaine as a 'Pick Me lawyer'. As a feminist fighting for women's rights, she should be rejoicing in the fact women are doing the jobs that were once just for the men. Dauber is an embarrassment to herself, Stanford and feminists who understand the real meaning of equality!
Having BPD is certainly hard, it can be lonely especially when most of your triggers surround romantic relationships instead of familial. It’s why I went undiagnosed for so many years because I was always mean inward and not out and still am. I think the intensity of love mixing with the intensity of our emotions is why it’s like that for people like us. It’s hard to get people to believe you’re good though when there are people like AH out there. I’m glad you found something that works for you ❤️
I guess the thirtieth anniversary as well as all the other full decade anniversaries are something special in our lives, but as a grown adult one should not leave feces on your bed because you were not able to be ontime for the celebration party. I absolutely agree with your comments about Adam Waldman and Michelle Dauber.
I've often wondered if I have BPD. I've been diagnosed with PTSD. And my councillor has said the way I deal with things is because of trauma and the way I've been treated. But amber Heard is a different breed. She makes people with bpd look bad. If she owned her diagnosis and tried to help herself, she would get way more respect. But her facial expressions and the way she spoke in that trial was too much. Over exaggerated liar. I'm not saying JD was innocent. But with his past aswell he was with the wrong girl. She manipulated him from the get go. At least you admit where you've made mistakes. AH will never do that. She will forever play this as her being a victim. And her delusional stans are not helping her at all. She's going to be very damaging to that child, If it is infact her child. Nothing would suprise me coming from her.
My ex was like that, with physical pain. If I wanted him to be happy, I simply said 'ouch' to make him feel like a big strong man... Then filed for divorce when I realized that he actually Wanted me hurt.
I watched so much of this trial and videos about the trial. You are absolutely right. And it happens over and over. That when the discussion comes up of her hitting anyone or shoving or hurting anyone she smiles. I think in her house in her house growing up they probably all hit each other all the time and whoever won the physical fight was seen as the victor. So in her mind when you win physically you are the winner
My cousin is Borderline. I had to cut off all contact with her because I refuse to be a doormat, punching bag, garbage disposal, trashcan, or piece of gum on somebody's shoe. I've changed my phone number & she calls me under a new number so I don't answer my phone anymore unless I recognize the number. You teach people how to treat you so if you have a boss, family member, a friend or a co-worker who is abusive it's because you have allowed it. Get a divorce, find another job and cut friends , family and co-workers off at the knees. Establish boundaries with these creeps.
WOW! You must have allowed her to treat you pretty badly. Did it ever occur to you that, for her to lash out as she did, she must be in immense emotional pain on the inside? You gotta think of her like a wounded animal. Yeah, you probably don't want to get TOO close, but you don't blame the animal for reacting as it does to the pain either. Don't forget, 10% of BPD sufferers commit suicide (that is, SUCCEED in committing suicide. 90% attempt it/make suicidal gestures) as compared to 1.4% of the general population. I genuinely would not want you to ignore your cousin's calls at a time when she really needs you, & then have to live with that. It sounds like the 2 of you WERE close as one point. Setting boundaries is important. Complete abandonment is her deepest fear. ❤️💪🏼✌🏼
Your cousin needs to be reassessed, though good luck with that. Some psychiatrists and psychologists are reticient about diagnosing women as Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) (psychopaths) and even as Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Amber fills the criteria for both, as well as for Borderline Personality Disorder and Histrionic Personality Disorder. Dat bish is facked. What drives her? She's a damned psychopath -- no conscience, no depth of human emotion, no Amber inside. If your cousin's like Amber, read up on ASPD.
@@nannettefreeman7331 you clearly have never been f'd over by a Borderline PD creep. No matter how much pain someone is in, it is NEVER an excuse for treating others the way those with BPD do. Why is it that so many people feel the need to go all "poor baby" on those with BPD but care nothing for those who suffer because of their behavior? Truly, so what if abandonment is her deepest fear? That is HER problem. It is absolutely no one else's responsibility to pander to her manipulative BS. You're borderline, aren't you?
She had a smirk only when JD was on the stand. It’s like a challenging/intimating/cocky attitude, but JD doesn’t look at her, sticking to his word. At one time she had control over JD, maybe she thought she could have the same affect on him. That ship sailed, JD just wants to live his life.
I am also in the helping profession and in the video where Johnny speaks about Ambers sister …he looks like one of the reactions of an abused person, johnny speaks with his head down, talking almost in a flat tone, shoulders hunched as if to protect himself. Amber is smiling inappropriately as Johnny clearly struggles to talk about being traumatized by Amber… She has a pattern of abuse, arrested for DV with her previous girlfriend, the arresting officer testified in court to witnessing Amber rough up her then girlfriend, ripping off her necklace. She threw several wine bottles at Johnny nearly hitting his head with one of them and then cutting his finger off at the tip in which he needed to be hospitalized…There are pictures of him with a black eye too. She sits in court very much how an abusive person behaves…no empathy, smiling inappropriately about her abusive behavior. She is not reacting to her own trauma, she is reacting to those who speak up about her abuse…dismissing them, mocking them, laughing at them. As mentioned, listen to the tapes played on court where she yells. To Johnny, “I am not punching you, I am hitting you.” Who is the real trauma victim? Men get abused too! Yes, she is creating an environment where real victims won’t be believed.
Disagree....thats just Johnny's personality. But he was speaking the truth. Amber just doesn't care about anything but herself. She will do whatever she wants to get ahead, including crying r**e and DV
Amber is a person everyone should be afraid off. If she can do all this to a person she supposedly loves God help the ones she doesn't when dealing with the turd. She is the biggest piece of shit that keeps getting away with her abhorrent behavior and actions. She has been protected for far to long.
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE WOOHOO! How can anyone not be offended by that response even if it isn't intentional? It's clear that amber doesn't know what domestic violence is to most people who survive it. Oh so she isnt intentionally mocking victims, so we excuse her as a naieve wealthy celebrity, but if she doesnt care enough about victims then she shouldnt be allowed to speak at these events in the first place. She is using her influence to harm people and not help people.
She's just using the platform to get herself seen and make herself look good. She obviously has no idea how it feels to be a victim of dv or she wouldn't behave this way.
I totally agree with you hun, AH has her problems... BUT SHE is a BAD BAD ,NARSASISTIC human being, an let me just say your wrong , this woman knows what she is doing , it doesn't matter to her who she hurts , let's just say it , she did it to MUM AND DAD. ...say no more , this woman is out for herself an F*"K everyone else...she doesn't give a dam an if your close to this woman ...RUN..
Well Said. Clueless person speaking of something she knows nothing about. Turning it into a HS pep rally. Then cashing in on it. Wow. What a piece of 💩💩💩💩
To me it looked like she might have been reacting to something someone has called out to her or somehow grabbed her attention. So she’s automatically flipped to responding to that, then flips back to what she’s supposed to be doing. It’s still obviously inappropriate for the occasion, but not clear that she’s “mocking dv victims” in that particular action. (Considering that she has overall shown complete contempt for victims by weaponising dv for her own gain, the fist pump thing is barely a blip).
Couldn't agree more. And then trying to spin it that this trial has done harm to victims and it's a set back😮😮. That's gross. No amber. Only liars should be worried. She should have been made an example of, jail time for perjury. What was the point in swearing under oath if she just blatantly lied reguardless. And now it's all falling apart for Evan Rachel wood and her clan of witches. Amber 2.0.
She's mocking true DV victims by claiming to be a victim when she was actually the abuser. Also by jumping on the "Me, too movement" bandwagon, and taking advantage of the new narrative "Believe All Women.* BTW: I heard she was earning $32K per speaking engagement.
I don’t think she acted that way just to mock DV Victims either. Unfortunately she thought that she could pull off playing a part that she truly doesn’t understand. Only people that have been through it truly understand the pain,fear, and trauma that comes with the territory of being a survivor. She was really convinced that she could simply play the part and treat the world as her stage. I can’t watch much of her either because she triggers me a lot. The way she acts reminds me of my abuser. The way she lies and tries to manipulate is really sickening. It is truly disturbing. Sorry for the novel
I agree with you, well put. I think she identified with the role of an abuser far more than if a victim. But like all narcissists, she easily feels victimized and plays that up whenever it's handy.
My ex was diagnosed with BPD & narcissism. This case was like a replay of the abuse, my child & I suffered! EX got away with DV & SV in UK court because of " lack of witnesses " but, who abuses in public?
Was she an A-list celebrity? Celebrity yes but A-list? She's hardly on a par with Scarlet, Blake, Gal et al !! 🤷. She is a dreadful actress, totally forgettable! Very inappropriate behaviour from someone who is very immature.
But she attached her self her worth off Johnny Depp .As I'm.Johnny Depps wife Therefore i must be special and on the same level of accomplishment in her mind
Amber literally is breaking out in a smile when Johnny D looks sad as he painfully is describing her throwing wine in her sisters face. Amber appears to be amused and puts her hand over her face to hide a full smile until Johnny talks about the press exposing her abuse and she doesn’t like criticism about her behavior in the press… She continues to complain and be obsessed about social media saying negative things despite they are proven true in court and it is documented. Have you heard the tapes in court in which she yells, “ I am not punching you I am hitting you” to Johnny Depp? Also there are many other times in the trial where she is smiling when Johnny is talking about her abuse, including breaking out into a full laugh in the deposition. She is clearly abusive, lacking empathy. I understand that people react differently, but sorry think her face is talking in this video! Thanx!
she misjudges the situations bc she's never been a victim of anything. She doesn't feel any emotion towards victims bc she's never been one. The fact of the matter is she needs pity and sympathy from ppl and took advantage of a movement she didn't belong to. She's fake, mean, deceiver, and attention hoar. She needs help and meds.
It’s more likely that she has been a victim. Hurt people hurt people regardless if there’s severe MH/drugs/alcohol involved. She was a stripper and escort. I don’t know the exact stats on the abuse people in that profession endure but it’s high. But this does not, in any way, excuse her behavior. It’s vile. She should be in prison or a psych ward at the least. Her behavior seems to keep escalating as the years go by. How long until she offs someone? Remember when she Keith saying she thought JD was going to kill her on accident? Where did that thought come from? I’m guessing it’s a thought she’s had many times about herself. She even said she just goes into a rage and does things and just can’t stop. She’s dangerous. Her sister needs to separate herself or she will be the “fall guy” for when Amber takes one of her rage sessions one step too far and kills someone.
I agree with everything you said but for some reason I think she may have been used by a man the way she uses men,and she didn’t like it,that’s why she keeps saying”I’m not a victim I will never be a victim “ I don’t know ???
I definitely am not a fan of her work or her in general, however most of the clips at the end aren't deliberately cruel. They're just in poor taste, and THAT is her MO. She appears to pick on others to make herself feel important, and she's petty, needy, and insecure. Thanks for the content! Love your insight!
That is pretty much how it comes across to me. She also seems to just not understand how a "normal" (whatever that is!) person would feel and react to certain situations, and is trying but failing. And of course, we don't know how much of what substance(s) she had onboard at any of these events, and that could be a major factor in her behaviours too.
The smug attitude look on her face. For those of us that actually watched all six weeks of the trial and got to know her facial expressions can express it is a smug expression just because you didn't don't diminish our observations after watching her for 6 weeks.
In UK court its amazing how a witness can get away with mocking/ smirking & anger, but, it's ignored by the judge! Because they can, then say the "right" thing & get away with attitude( emotional abuse in court) It's obscene!
You forgot narcissism. She did this to Johnny and used this as a platform to try boost her career. She gives people with BPD a bad name. That's only a part of what she stands for
I live with BPD. I have had to deal with it so long, I developed some of my own coping skills. I feel awful for the things I do when I am angry and enraged. I had no control over my childhood and I'm sure it stems from that. I work hard in therapy to overcome my symptoms of abuse. It is a long process and a forever job to be better than my sick mind tells me I need to be. ❤️🥰😶🌫️
I also have BPD. I've done a 💩 load of work to change my behavior and reactions. CBT has been a game changer for me. Your given tools to help you. You learn your triggers and how to deal with them. My childhood was a gong show too it definitely makes a difference to how you turn out. Meds help alot too. I had a wonderful "shrink" who got me on a great combo of meds that has helped alot. No others Dr. is willing to mess with. Meditation helps ALOT, as well. Take care and have fun!!!
Her facial expressions while Johnny is testifying is very telling . One day Whitney will turn on Amber with a tell all book,hope she doesn’t wait to long so she will will make the most money
Or 1 her 3 friends in crime. Surely 1 of them will break at some point and tell it how it was. Josh drew was the closest to the truth. He even said that she got InTouch a few months before the court case. He didn't say that's why. But it was obvious. And he called her out for sleeping around up to 50 times. I think they were sucked in by her dramatics. I honestly don't believe that they all had a key to JD and AH's apartment and they never saw a thing and just happened to see her in a state afterwards. That makes no sense. If they knew he was abusive,like they claimed they did. They would have gone in there the 2nd they heard anything. Which was often apparently. And non of there testimonies matched up. Especially the stairs incident. And amber said Johnny was drunk when he came home on her birthday. But rocky Pennington in her 2016 deposition said he wasn't. That's just 1 things that didn't match her 2016 deposition. It's all available,Inc 8 parts of AH's on the channel. Incredibly average. Her demeanor isn't the amber in that courtroom. Far from it. And this is only weeks after she got her TRO. But she's neither upset, traumatised or sad at all. And this is a month or so after the last count if abuse. Hmmmm strange huh 😂😂
Dober is in a very privileged position herself,so it’s incredibly patronising to state all lawyers that happen to be women are somehow aiding the actual crime which is obviously ridiculous.
As a clinician, what bothers me most about this case is extent to which amber heard’s behavior is so heavily scrutinized while Johnny depp had a much more favorable bias. I can only use a provisional diagnostic judgement that this was a relationship between two partners with BPD
I don't think she's deliberately mocking. She was cast in the trial as having BPD and HPD. Both have shallow affect, both have mood lability. I don't believe she is intentionally mocking DV victims but, instead, seeing every platform as an opportunity to raise her own profile, to gain attention and affirmation.
Ugghhh... So I am diagnosed with BPD & I also have Narcissistic traits. In my 30's now & after many years of essentially self destruction & f**King up the lives of the people who cared for me most I for the most part have managed to calm things down quite a bit. I am a Dad now, happily married & quite honestly my wife is a SAINT haha, her & my son are my driving force to be a better person but honestly when I was listening & hearing how she essentially just told people what to do & if they didn't? Just verbally assaulted them or worse in some cases. That's definitely something I can attest to AND the fact that she's a celebrity, has a shit ton of money etc etc all that will do is dump petrol on an already raging fire!! Whilst I REALLY don't agree with her behaviour, I think pretending to be a victim of DV or at the very very least massively exaggerating the severity of it? That's disgusting quite honestly & I am very aware that Johnny Depp is certainly no saint but that guy has some serious issues himself. It's a shame that these two people met & became an item because it really was a perfect shitstorm & no-one came out of it unscathed & careers have been ruined for petty revenge essentially. This will be EXTREMELY hard for her to do, but I do hope that even if for selfish reasons Amber can see how her behaviour fucked up her life & could potentially have ruined any chances of future success. I'm sure she lives to feed her ego & she's massively damaged the chances of increasing that, so hopefully she'll be able to see that it's on her & take some time to better herself, even if it is just for her benefit.
Thanks, Dr Dass, for not railing on us folks with BPD, & for pointing out that we can be fun to be around. Rather than try to convince everyone of how UNLIKE Amber I am, I thought I'd expand upon the theme of the positive traits of BPD. 1) Passionate. About causes as well as our relationships. You can't find a better advocate. And we're often preoccupied with "fairness." 2) Intuitive. We learned to be highly sensitive to our surrounding during our usually chaotic childhood. 3) Empathetic & Compassionate. Again, we had to learn how to read people when we were young & growing up in unpredictable & abusive environs. We also learned to appease people, try to make them feel better. Studies have shown that people with BPD are better at reading facial expressions than non-BPDs 4) Curious. Being extra sensitive & connected to our emotions & our surroundings often translates into a natural curiosity about how things work & what makes people tick. 5) Protective. The intense care we feel for another person makes us highly protective of them, also great apologists on their behalf. 6) Bold. Being passionate & having poor impulse control means we have no qualms about speaking our mind & being courageous in the face of, well, anything. I read somewhere we lack that fight, flight or freeze instinct. Couldn't agree more. If I had a dollar for every time I've found (put?) myself in harm's way, but was not compelled to do anything about it... 7) Resilient. We usually come from abusive backgrounds & have endured childhood trauma. Many of us have battled addiction, eating disorders, etc & struggled with suicidal ideations. You don't survive all that without being resilient. Plus, we've made a hot mess of our lives more than once, had to pick up the pieces & keep on keeping on. 8) Creative. Our intense emotions are well-suited for being channeled into moving creative endeavors. 9) Fun! Poor impulse control=wacky adventures. You'll do things you never would have done were it not for us leading the charge. Never a dull moment! 10) And sometimes we make you feel like a God. HIgh functioning BPDs are often very successful in their chosen careers because of these positive character traits. So, in closing, when people are scratching their heads, asking "WHY would he stay with that CRAZY bitch?" there's your 10 perfectly good reasons! ✌🏼
Wow, what an incredibly helpful list. It's been a very insightful read, I've learned a lot, and I wanted to thank you for taking the time to write it. Good luck, my friend.
I love at least one person who has been diagnosed with BPD, so the last thing I would want to do is hurt you. You haven't done anything wrong, but someone who loves you appears to have presented information in a way that is very close to toxic positivity. That is a paradoxical term, but by looking it up, you may be surprised at how harmful it can be to " Always Look on the Bright Side of Life* (great song from an even greater movie that "my" BPD beloved passionately loves).
I agree with Dr das I think she wasn't intentionally making a mockery but putting on a facade and performing a charade. If anything,she was just a hypocrite pretending to be passionate about some she doesn't give a damn about for personal benefits.
@@kittencatlover156 Nope pretending to be something you are not for"personal gain" is called been a hypocrite. Mockery is pretending to be something out of spite and hate.
She was determined to represent victims of violence & SA through Me Too movement. Despite her appearing to be a perpetrator of violence not a victim! Your coverage of AH has been the least unbiased,reporting it from view of your profession which is so refreshing thanks✊♥️
He wanted to fix her, because he couldn't help his mom? Or maybe to prove to his father it could be done? Things that happen in our childhood are hard to work out, sometimes we have to live it, to understand it.
She was typical narcissist. Love bombed him, loved everything he loved, was his perfect match. Til she had him legally trapped Then the real Amber came out. My husband turned into a completely different person an hr after the wedding.Someone I would never have married had he shown me that person before the wedding
I met a 'borderline girl' once in a CBT-therapy group (I'm dysthymic, some of your collegues say). She joined the group when I was in my last 2 or 3 weeks of a year long, 3 days a week program. And no, I'm not a millionaire, I live in The Netherlands where we have a National Health Plan 😉 She was a lovely girl. Laughing, crying, trying to hit me, hugging me, more crying and laughing again. And all in the 1st minute she joined! As i said, she was lovely. But exhausting. I was glad to end my therapie, just because of her. But she really was a very sweet girl.
Amber consistently MOCKS every DV Survivor by claiming to be a DV Survivor when she has proven herself to be abusive to almost everyone around her, including what she did to Johnny
And then saying that the outcome of the trial was a set bk to all DV victims and it will scare them into coming forward.😮😮 That's disgusting putting fear into DV victims minds like that. Johnny did the best thing for victims with this trial. But he's not waiting for gratitude for it. He just did the right thing and told the TRUTH. Not his truth the way she words it. How anyone can still think she's credible is seriously delusional.
No, it wasn’t mocking, just completely insensitive and even insulting. I don’t know why they said that. You don’t need to exaggerate to get people to see that Amber behaves badly. Exaggerating only discredits everything else said. That being said, if you did a deep dive into who she is, you probably wouldn’t feel the need to defend her. Here’s hoping she gets her life on track and learns the value of being genuine and caring with people, other than herself.
During that whole trial what was revealed in Johnny Depp treats waiters, people working for him, common people with respect. It was just the opposite with her.
@@RadhE-ug6on I guess the best way to imagine it is if Weinstein had have gone on stage supporting SA victims, fully knowing he was in fact a predator. She knew whilst supporting victims that she was not only the abuser but even got arrested for being an abuser. That is making a Mockery or actual Victims . Its hard to watch from having lived through abuse.
When will she stop Dr Das? She has no shame or dignity. It’s nauseating the level of I’ll mannered activity in the me too, then media after litigation against her for her false representations to ride on me too tails.
I don’t think Heard was making fun on stage either but She did say,according to sources)that basically if you stay in an abusive relationship your weak.Sorry can’t remember where I saw it. IMO the fist pumping was really really off and the cracking up was bad! Thanks
As some-one who struggles with BPD, I can categorically state that any mind altering substance, be it alcohol or drugs, is certainly NOT your friend even though you may think it is 'calming you down', 'numbing your feelings', 'boosting your confidence' etc. If you already have issues with unstable identity, impulsivity, mood swings, sensitivity etc (all making an altered state sound attractive) they just become exaggerated under the influence and you are way more likely to react and behave in a way that is unacceptable and at times just 'out there'. Seems there was a lot of that in Amber's life. Nothing will have been helped by her environment or social circles, including being married to a man with addiction. That alone would make him completely unavailable emotionally to her. I don't think Amber was intentionally mocking or insensitive for the most part, I think she was simply high and/or drunk. Not a good mix with you have a personality disorder, especially one where you don't have a clear sense of self. She craves validation and approval and goes to great lengths to find it, unfortunately including not being entirely honest. I would think it would be really hard for some-one with that amount of fame and money and BPD to stay in a place of realism.
I think it’s Borderline, likely from things like childhood trauma and addiction to drugs. You are right on point. It does seem like a horrific diagnosis, borderline disorder, to be so terrified of abandonment that you would destroy publicly a private marriage in which you yourself behaved violently and lied in court so badly. She only ever seemed to get upset when her image and looks were criticized. I hope she gets therapeutic help as she seemed broken to me.
The video clip you used to evaluate the behavior is, sadly, I'll made. Some context is missing, weird moments chosen instead of what happened jest before or after, and the narrator colours the story too much. This means that any conclusions drawn from it are faulty Instead, try listening through the 6 or more hours of audio recordings that were used in court. You will hear her change demeanor from one extreme to the other in no time flat, you will hear her bullying and degradering the man she claims to love, you will hear her spin and gaslight until your own brain starts to spin, you and there's more! Her viciousness and rage are overwhelming and terrifying, so is her honeyed tongue and blatant seduction, not to mention the occasions where you can actually hear her performing some .. flute playing against his will. Slurp.
I agree with you that she wasn't deliberately moking dv victims it seemed more like she was unable to control herself due to whatever substances she was on. Also in general she doesn't seem to try to control herself in many situations. She just lets loose with however she feels without any thought or consideration for people she's with.
I appreciate you looking into the Depp v Heard case more in-depth! I really value your opinion but did find it hard to accept a lot of the points you made in earlier videos that I disagreed with because you had some of the facts wrong. It was apparent that you had not done much more research beyond what the media reported. I hope you continue on the series!
Vanessa...Thank you! I was disappointed that he really didn't seem to be offended by any of those clips and yeah maybe some were not 'intentional' in how she acted or what she said, but she was definitely inappropriate with some of these instances and he seems to think differently! I mean, he did say 'innaproriate Ok, but he didn't seem bothered! He is the professional, so maybe we're wrong and she is just inappropriate and we've all misjudged her! Maybe all her crap is just 'Innapropriate' and misjudged! He may be a slight fan of AH! I guess some people are mesmerized by her looks and just think she's misunderstood! I'm done!
@@ShannyShan20 To be fair to Dr. Das, I don't think he's an Amber fan. I believe he is giving his honest assessment of the situation. But he doesn't have all the facts. And I just feel like he should have all the information---at least the same info the jury had---so he would understand how they came to that verdict. And even if he were still to come to the same conclusions after having all the info, then he would be able to present legitimate arguments that may even sway some people.
It's not that she doesn't deserve help, I'd postulate that she doesn't believe she needs it, and that there's anything wrong with her. From the tapes of her and Depp she comes across as being entitled in inflicting as much emotional damage as she can. Any compassion she displays is completely mocking and ends up being destructive, in other words she's gaslighting him viciously. She needs to exert power over Depp and others by demeaning and hurting them in every way possible. To have any doubt about who and what she is gives her permission to keep being the destructive, manipulative person she is. She's shown that she has no insight, nor is she introspective because she continues in her vindictive behaviour towards Depp by doubling down, she won't let go. The verdict in the trial has taught her nothing. I can't feel sorry for someone like that. Compassion just enables her.
There was a recent video out about her 2016 deposition, she was saying Johnny was delusional about the poop on the bed, she was smiling while saying it, you see the duper's delight on her face, even though during trial she said it was the dog.
Brilliant video, and excellent analysis of bpd symptoms. I really like the style your recent videos have taken, the subjects are very informative and very well delivered. Thank you.
BPD has had so many negative connotations for so long, and this case has defintly fuelled it. Before anyone jumps to anything, I cannot stand this woman and I am so so glad that she lost the case. But in terms of BPD (I have been diagnosed with it myself) I know many people with BPD who are non violent, lovely and genuine people who have extreme amounts of empathy and live every day suffering extreme amount of emotional pain, who would never dream of hurting anyone intentionally. It would be lovely for a professional to one day to explain not everyone with BPD is like her because they are absolutely not!!
My best friend has BPD. She knows it and struggles with it. It helps her when I'm honest with her about things when she's behaving as BPD. She appreciates my patience and honesty because she is aware she does these things, but not while doing them. She cares enough to accept herself and work to better herself. They are definitely not all bad people. My friend is very caring. I agree with you, we should not let Amber be the face of BPD, nor DV/SA.
Amber 's Waldman short joke stolen from Churchill is the only time she quoted him. Now she is quoting the "End of the Beginning" one too. Somebody must have watched The Crown" or something and stole them. They sure didn't read a book. Not those people.
I have to think there’s more than BPD. I’m working through DBT book in therapy and definitely think BPD is what I have going on BUT I’m able to admit it and know it’s not “normal” behavior. She’s never going to admit she has done anything wrong. Idk if it’s narcissistic behavior or something else but it’s unfortunate that BPD has been the entire focus since the trial because not all borderline is like her.
YES. This ☝️. She gives people with BPD a bad name. She has probably scared people into being around people with BPD. If you accept you have a problem and seek help, go to therapy and work on yourself. Bpd does not make you an amber Heard at all. She has alot more going on. People with BPD don't purposely set out to hurt other people. They're more likely to sabotage themselves rather than others
I agree she's not trying to mock victims but I think she is not really affected by the subject she is talking about and her excitement and enthusiasm shows she really is not wounded the way actual victims are.
Nope. Someone who has been severely abused DOES NOT LOVE HER ABUSER, which we know she wasn't abused,however she never loved him as SHE WAS THE ABUSER and she tried getting him for Millions. She doesn't know what Love is, she's incapable of love...
Amber (a grown WOMAN) being praised by nurse Erin for not tearing into a waiter for messing up her order is all I need to know. She definitely has what she was diagnosed with!
AH is not an A list celebrity. Never was. Before JD she was a D lister. At best, when she targeted an already partnered man using flattery and lies that her interests were similar to his and then gaslit him into marriage (and, later, when his deep addictions were apparent, his will and inheritance), she moved up to C/B list. There’s a FHM magazine (or similar magazine) Q&A from years before JD where she proudly states that she prefers to date “older rich men” and my interpretation of that is that she craved wealth and clout and “older men” provided that.
Really enjoyed seeing you on Spidey’s recent Casey Anthony video, so I’m checking out your previous work. This case and the public’s reaction to it was so fascinating, and I agree with your take. There are SO many things to criticize and call out Amber Heard for, but so much of the hate felt akin to having a hate fest about your ex with a bunch of friends and twisting every tiny thing into the worst possible intention. I get the impulse, but let’s just focus on what the facts are.
Very nicely and neutrally explained. That final video was embarrassingly over the top. Let’s face it, nobody needs to make up more issues for AH she is already her own worst enemy. And It really is time to stop this pushing the logical error of guilt by association too. Even the worst people are entitled to be represented to ensure the rule of law.
She is the type of person who thinks what makes her a good person is her good looks.
I wish I had learned what Borderline Personality Disorder was a long time ago. It would have helped explain my family when I was much younger instead of spending most of my life thinking that stuff was normal.
Only that she isn't BPD
@@stellar52 Are we treading into muffin territory here?
@@m0L3ify I don't know what you mean by this.I thought I was a BP for 49 years, my mother also showed many traits. I've just understood she's a covert narcissist and I'm struggling with CPTSD. There are differences but they aren't easy to see recognise
@@stellar52 I thought you were saying Amber wasn't BPD when she's been formally diagnosed. I thought Dr. Curry was extremely credible. My mother and sister have all 9 traits of BPD, so it does actually apply to my original comment. I just didn't even learn what BPD was until I was in my 40's. I wish I'd learned sooner. My life would have made a lot more sense.
@@m0L3ify That's what I said, Amber isn't Borderline, she's a covert narc.. Did you know that BPD is misdiagnosed by at least 50%? If you're still in contact with your family and struggling a lot, you probably suffer from CPTSD. Amber displays all the signs of covert narcissism, the main traits are playing the victim role, a total lack of empathy and tremendous envy. Everything she did to Johnny was fueled with pure hatred. That's not a common BPD trait. Narcissism runs whole families, BPD doesn't
She was NEVER an A-List celebrity. TMZ ex-employee Morgan Tremaine presented convincing evidence that she is most definitely a B-List celebrity whose prominence is largely due to having married JD.
Exactly! I live in the Netherlands and her name only rang a bell, because I had once seen a pic of her with JD when they were still married.
I had to Google her when my son said JD was dating/engaged to her and - still had no clue who she was.
As someone with BPD, I can relate to some of AH's behaviour, like JD being late for her 30th. That would have cut very deeply because in her mind she would have felt like she just didn't mean enough, no matter what his reasons were for being late. She would have had major issues with his ex, Vanessa Paradis and his children because he has forever ties with them. He will love his children unconditionally forever and in comparison she would feel disposable. In my own experience, everything stemmed from not feeling good enough and a massive fear of abandonment but I will say that I felt too much emotion all within my relationships and everything was based on fear of them leaving me, fear of them cheating, lying. It was horrible and I stay away from relationships now and live a happy, peaceful life with my son, my dogs and my dear friends. My BPD never extended beyond the intimate relationship I was in. I feel AH goes way beyond into something else too. She is malicious and seems to lack empathy and sympathy for anybody. Everything she does is calculated for her own gain, end of! I don't believe she still loves JD. She is humiliated he left her and that will never sit well, therefore the 'woman scorned' role is what she has become and I think she confuses love with obsession.
As for Michele Dauber. We can say the same for Adam Waldman's statements. How was it JD's fault Waldman made those statements? Dauber is a truly unhinged woman and I note she doesn't list Elaine as a 'Pick Me lawyer'. As a feminist fighting for women's rights, she should be rejoicing in the fact women are doing the jobs that were once just for the men. Dauber is an embarrassment to herself, Stanford and feminists who understand the real meaning of equality!
Having BPD is certainly hard, it can be lonely especially when most of your triggers surround romantic relationships instead of familial. It’s why I went undiagnosed for so many years because I was always mean inward and not out and still am. I think the intensity of love mixing with the intensity of our emotions is why it’s like that for people like us. It’s hard to get people to believe you’re good though when there are people like AH out there. I’m glad you found something that works for you ❤️
@@hp6964 Thank you 🥰
That’s a really good point you make about her going beyond her BPD.
I guess the thirtieth anniversary as well as all the other full decade anniversaries are something special in our lives, but as a grown adult one should not leave feces on your bed because you were not able to be ontime for the celebration party.
I absolutely agree with your comments about Adam Waldman and Michelle Dauber.
I've often wondered if I have BPD. I've been diagnosed with PTSD. And my councillor has said the way I deal with things is because of trauma and the way I've been treated. But amber Heard is a different breed. She makes people with bpd look bad. If she owned her diagnosis and tried to help herself, she would get way more respect. But her facial expressions and the way she spoke in that trial was too much. Over exaggerated liar. I'm not saying JD was innocent. But with his past aswell he was with the wrong girl. She manipulated him from the get go. At least you admit where you've made mistakes. AH will never do that. She will forever play this as her being a victim. And her delusional stans are not helping her at all. She's going to be very damaging to that child, If it is infact her child. Nothing would suprise me coming from her.
Every single time anyone recalls pain Amber has inflicted she smirks/smiles. Every single time.
Creepy…
Sadist.
My ex was like that, with physical pain. If I wanted him to be happy, I simply said 'ouch' to make him feel like a big strong man... Then filed for divorce when I realized that he actually Wanted me hurt.
@@constanceleah118 so glad you protected yourself.✌🏼🐦
I watched so much of this trial and videos about the trial. You are absolutely right. And it happens over and over. That when the discussion comes up of her hitting anyone or shoving or hurting anyone she smiles. I think in her house in her house growing up they probably all hit each other all the time and whoever won the physical fight was seen as the victor. So in her mind when you win physically you are the winner
She presents herself as disingenuous, inauthentic. Poor acting. She is not a victim and therefore unqualified to serve as an authentic ambassador..
My cousin is Borderline. I had to cut off all contact with her because I refuse to be a doormat, punching bag, garbage disposal, trashcan, or piece of gum on somebody's shoe. I've changed my phone number & she calls me under a new number so I don't answer my phone anymore unless I recognize the number. You teach people how to treat you so if you have a boss, family member, a friend or a co-worker who is abusive it's because you have allowed it. Get a divorce, find another job and cut friends , family and co-workers off at the knees. Establish boundaries with these creeps.
Ah yes, certainly need to protect yourself. But "creeps"...wow, such wise understanding is seriously missing.
What exactly did she do to you?
WOW! You must have allowed her to treat you pretty badly. Did it ever occur to you that, for her to lash out as she did, she must be in immense emotional pain on the inside? You gotta think of her like a wounded animal. Yeah, you probably don't want to get TOO close, but you don't blame the animal for reacting as it does to the pain either.
Don't forget, 10% of BPD sufferers commit suicide (that is, SUCCEED in committing suicide. 90% attempt it/make suicidal gestures) as compared to 1.4% of the general population. I genuinely would not want you to ignore your cousin's calls at a time when she really needs you, & then have to live with that. It sounds like the 2 of you WERE close as one point. Setting boundaries is important. Complete abandonment is her deepest fear. ❤️💪🏼✌🏼
Your cousin needs to be reassessed, though good luck with that. Some psychiatrists and psychologists are reticient about diagnosing women as Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) (psychopaths) and even as Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Amber fills the criteria for both, as well as for Borderline Personality Disorder and Histrionic Personality Disorder. Dat bish is facked. What drives her? She's a damned psychopath -- no conscience, no depth of human emotion, no Amber inside. If your cousin's like Amber, read up on ASPD.
@@nannettefreeman7331 you clearly have never been f'd over by a Borderline PD creep. No matter how much pain someone is in, it is NEVER an excuse for treating others the way those with BPD do. Why is it that so many people feel the need to go all "poor baby" on those with BPD but care nothing for those who suffer because of their behavior?
Truly, so what if abandonment is her deepest fear? That is HER problem. It is absolutely no one else's responsibility to pander to her manipulative BS.
You're borderline, aren't you?
She was assessed as having histrionic PD too.
this. I feel like everyone forgets this.
She had a smirk only when JD was on the stand. It’s like a challenging/intimating/cocky attitude, but JD doesn’t look at her, sticking to his word.
At one time she had control over JD, maybe she thought she could have the same affect on him. That ship sailed, JD
just wants to live his life.
We need more stars/celebs like Keanu Reeves.
I am also in the helping profession and in the video where Johnny speaks about Ambers sister …he looks like one of the reactions of an abused person, johnny speaks with his head down, talking almost in a flat tone, shoulders hunched as if to protect himself.
Amber is smiling inappropriately as Johnny clearly struggles to talk about being traumatized by Amber…
She has a pattern of abuse, arrested for DV with her previous girlfriend, the arresting officer testified in court to witnessing Amber rough up her then girlfriend, ripping off her necklace. She threw several wine bottles at Johnny nearly hitting his head with one of them and then cutting his finger off at the tip in which he needed to be hospitalized…There are pictures of him with a black eye too.
She sits in court very much how an abusive person behaves…no empathy, smiling inappropriately about her abusive behavior. She is not reacting to her own trauma, she is reacting to those who speak up about her abuse…dismissing them, mocking them, laughing at them.
As mentioned, listen to the tapes played on court where she yells. To Johnny, “I am not punching you, I am hitting you.” Who is the real trauma victim? Men get abused too!
Yes, she is creating an environment where real victims won’t be believed.
Well said! I agree with you 100 %
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Disagree....thats just Johnny's personality. But he was speaking the truth. Amber just doesn't care about anything but herself. She will do whatever she wants to get ahead, including crying r**e and DV
Amber is a person everyone should be afraid off. If she can do all this to a person she supposedly loves God help the ones she doesn't when dealing with the turd. She is the biggest piece of shit that keeps getting away with her abhorrent behavior and actions. She has been protected for far to long.
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE WOOHOO! How can anyone not be offended by that response even if it isn't intentional? It's clear that amber doesn't know what domestic violence is to most people who survive it.
Oh so she isnt intentionally mocking victims, so we excuse her as a naieve wealthy celebrity, but if she doesnt care enough about victims then she shouldnt be allowed to speak at these events in the first place. She is using her influence to harm people and not help people.
She's just using the platform to get herself seen and make herself look good. She obviously has no idea how it feels to be a victim of dv or she wouldn't behave this way.
I totally agree with you hun, AH has her problems... BUT SHE is a BAD BAD ,NARSASISTIC human being, an let me just say your wrong , this woman knows what she is doing , it doesn't matter to her who she hurts , let's just say it , she did it to MUM AND DAD. ...say no more , this woman is out for herself an F*"K everyone else...she doesn't give a dam an if your close to this woman ...RUN..
Well Said.
Clueless person speaking of something she knows nothing about.
Turning it into a HS pep rally.
Then cashing in on it.
Wow.
What a piece of 💩💩💩💩
To me it looked like she might have been reacting to something someone has called out to her or somehow grabbed her attention. So she’s automatically flipped to responding to that, then flips back to what she’s supposed to be doing. It’s still obviously inappropriate for the occasion, but not clear that she’s “mocking dv victims” in that particular action. (Considering that she has overall shown complete contempt for victims by weaponising dv for her own gain, the fist pump thing is barely a blip).
Couldn't agree more. And then trying to spin it that this trial has done harm to victims and it's a set back😮😮. That's gross. No amber. Only liars should be worried. She should have been made an example of, jail time for perjury. What was the point in swearing under oath if she just blatantly lied reguardless. And now it's all falling apart for Evan Rachel wood and her clan of witches. Amber 2.0.
She's mocking true DV victims by claiming to be a victim when she was actually the abuser. Also by jumping on the "Me, too movement" bandwagon, and taking advantage of the new narrative "Believe All Women.* BTW: I heard she was earning $32K per speaking engagement.
Disappointing for the movement
Alleged
Exactly what I was thinking.
I watched the trial from start to finish. Amber Heard is the aggressor. Amber Heard is the abuser.
@@Pinkbunnylaw not alleged. She got proven guilty
I don’t think she acted that way just to mock DV Victims either. Unfortunately she thought that she could pull off playing a part that she truly doesn’t understand. Only people that have been through it truly understand the pain,fear, and trauma that comes with the territory of being a survivor. She was really convinced that she could simply play the part and treat the world as her stage. I can’t watch much of her either because she triggers me a lot. The way she acts reminds me of my abuser. The way she lies and tries to manipulate is really sickening. It is truly disturbing. Sorry for the novel
You're right. She's playing a part she doesn't understand
I agree with you, well put. I think she identified with the role of an abuser far more than if a victim. But like all narcissists, she easily feels victimized and plays that up whenever it's handy.
She triggers me too.
My ex was diagnosed with BPD & narcissism. This case was like a replay of the abuse, my child & I suffered! EX got away with DV & SV in UK court because of " lack of witnesses " but, who abuses in public?
Was she an A-list celebrity? Celebrity yes but A-list? She's hardly on a par with Scarlet, Blake, Gal et al !! 🤷. She is a dreadful actress, totally forgettable! Very inappropriate behaviour from someone who is very immature.
She’s the worst actress ever. Plus an evil compulsive liar.
Was “A list” by association I think 🤔
Agree. She was never an A-List anything. She did marry one, but that does not apply to her.
She was never more than an A-listers +1. She herself is a Z-lister, you need talent to make A-list.
But she attached her self her worth off Johnny Depp .As I'm.Johnny Depps wife
Therefore i must be special and on the same level of accomplishment in her mind
Amber literally is breaking out in a smile when Johnny D looks sad as he painfully is describing her throwing wine in her sisters face.
Amber appears to be amused and puts her hand over her face to hide a full smile until Johnny talks about the press exposing her abuse and she doesn’t like criticism about her behavior in the press…
She continues to complain and be obsessed about social media saying negative things despite they are proven true in court and it is documented.
Have you heard the tapes in court in which she yells, “ I am not punching you I am hitting you” to Johnny Depp? Also there are many other times in the trial where she is smiling when Johnny is talking about her abuse, including breaking out into a full laugh in the deposition. She is clearly abusive, lacking empathy.
I understand that people react differently, but sorry think her face is talking in this video! Thanx!
It’s always the D list celebs that are the meanest.
I think AH deserves a list all of her own. Anything after Y will do.
Yep, just like another D-list celebrity we all know who is hell bent on ruining the Royal Family.
And the most useless and needless of people. Go get a real job. 😂
Dr. Phil said the same thing.
she misjudges the situations bc she's never been a victim of anything. She doesn't feel any emotion towards victims bc she's never been one. The fact of the matter is she needs pity and sympathy from ppl and took advantage of a movement she didn't belong to. She's fake, mean, deceiver, and attention hoar. She needs help and meds.
It’s more likely that she has been a victim. Hurt people hurt people regardless if there’s severe MH/drugs/alcohol involved. She was a stripper and escort. I don’t know the exact stats on the abuse people in that profession endure but it’s high. But this does not, in any way, excuse her behavior. It’s vile. She should be in prison or a psych ward at the least. Her behavior seems to keep escalating as the years go by. How long until she offs someone? Remember when she Keith saying she thought JD was going to kill her on accident? Where did that thought come from? I’m guessing it’s a thought she’s had many times about herself. She even said she just goes into a rage and does things and just can’t stop. She’s dangerous. Her sister needs to separate herself or she will be the “fall guy” for when Amber takes one of her rage sessions one step too far and kills someone.
I agree with everything you said but for some reason I think she may have been used by a man the way she uses men,and she didn’t like it,that’s why she keeps saying”I’m not a victim I will never be a victim “ I don’t know ???
@@kibby5774 Her dad from what I’ve gathered about their relationship.
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I definitely am not a fan of her work or her in general, however most of the clips at the end aren't deliberately cruel. They're just in poor taste, and THAT is her MO. She appears to pick on others to make herself feel important, and she's petty, needy, and insecure. Thanks for the content! Love your insight!
Agreed @Julie Gibson
@Julie I absolutely concur with your point of view about amber TURD!!!!
That is pretty much how it comes across to me. She also seems to just not understand how a "normal" (whatever that is!) person would feel and react to certain situations, and is trying but failing. And of course, we don't know how much of what substance(s) she had onboard at any of these events, and that could be a major factor in her behaviours too.
The smug attitude look on her face.
For those of us that actually watched all six weeks of the trial and got to know her facial expressions can express it is a smug expression just because you didn't don't diminish our observations after watching her for 6 weeks.
If you want to see her smug face watch her deposition from 2016 on Incredibly Average
@@100Mickl already have watched live with him & Jax
Expressions don't mean a thing.
@@nm628679c of course they do it’s how we interact with other humans knowing if they’re happy sad angry etc
In UK court its amazing how a witness can get away with mocking/ smirking & anger, but, it's ignored by the judge! Because they can, then say the "right" thing & get away with attitude( emotional abuse in court) It's obscene!
Misjudgement, clumsiness, borderline personality disorder and plain stupidity.
You forgot narcissism. She did this to Johnny and used this as a platform to try boost her career. She gives people with BPD a bad name. That's only a part of what she stands for
I live with BPD. I have had to deal with it so long, I developed some of my own coping skills. I feel awful for the things I do when I am angry and enraged. I had no control over my childhood and I'm sure it stems from that. I work hard in therapy to overcome my symptoms of abuse. It is a long process and a forever job to be better than my sick mind tells me I need to be. ❤️🥰😶🌫️
That's tough! To be your own judge and educator is very tiring. I think some people could learn a thing or two from you. ❤️❤️
Wow. You're strong.
It has to be hard. You're definitely an inspiration.
I also have BPD. I've done a 💩 load of work to change my behavior and reactions. CBT has been a game changer for me. Your given tools to help you. You learn your triggers and how to deal with them. My childhood was a gong show too it definitely makes a difference to how you turn out. Meds help alot too. I had a wonderful "shrink" who got me on a great combo of meds that has helped alot. No others Dr. is willing to mess with. Meditation helps ALOT, as well. Take care and have fun!!!
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I appreciate your journey because tough childhood environments requiire alot of self reflection later.
Her facial expressions while Johnny is testifying is very telling . One day Whitney will turn on Amber with a tell all book,hope she doesn’t wait to long so she will will make the most money
Or 1 her 3 friends in crime. Surely 1 of them will break at some point and tell it how it was. Josh drew was the closest to the truth. He even said that she got InTouch a few months before the court case. He didn't say that's why. But it was obvious. And he called her out for sleeping around up to 50 times. I think they were sucked in by her dramatics. I honestly don't believe that they all had a key to JD and AH's apartment and they never saw a thing and just happened to see her in a state afterwards. That makes no sense. If they knew he was abusive,like they claimed they did. They would have gone in there the 2nd they heard anything. Which was often apparently. And non of there testimonies matched up. Especially the stairs incident. And amber said Johnny was drunk when he came home on her birthday. But rocky Pennington in her 2016 deposition said he wasn't. That's just 1 things that didn't match her 2016 deposition. It's all available,Inc 8 parts of AH's on the channel. Incredibly average. Her demeanor isn't the amber in that courtroom. Far from it. And this is only weeks after she got her TRO. But she's neither upset, traumatised or sad at all. And this is a month or so after the last count if abuse. Hmmmm strange huh 😂😂
She doesn't 'go out of her way' to put down DV victims, but she clearly doesn't care either.
Dober is in a very privileged position herself,so it’s incredibly patronising to state all lawyers that happen to be women are somehow aiding the actual crime which is obviously ridiculous.
She sound jealous to me.
She was never an A list actor, no leading role-always supporting
As a clinician, what bothers me most about this case is extent to which amber heard’s behavior is so heavily scrutinized while Johnny depp had a much more favorable bias. I can only use a provisional diagnostic judgement that this was a relationship between two partners with BPD
I don't think she's deliberately mocking. She was cast in the trial as having BPD and HPD. Both have shallow affect, both have mood lability. I don't believe she is intentionally mocking DV victims but, instead, seeing every platform as an opportunity to raise her own profile, to gain attention and affirmation.
she was an abuser. she knew she was an abuser. She stood up pretending to support Victims.... Id say thats making a Mockery
She needs a handbook on when not to rally crowds. It wasn't outright mocking, but it was definitely awkward and lacked awareness.
Ugghhh... So I am diagnosed with BPD & I also have Narcissistic traits. In my 30's now & after many years of essentially self destruction & f**King up the lives of the people who cared for me most I for the most part have managed to calm things down quite a bit. I am a Dad now, happily married & quite honestly my wife is a SAINT haha, her & my son are my driving force to be a better person but honestly when I was listening & hearing how she essentially just told people what to do & if they didn't? Just verbally assaulted them or worse in some cases. That's definitely something I can attest to AND the fact that she's a celebrity, has a shit ton of money etc etc all that will do is dump petrol on an already raging fire!!
Whilst I REALLY don't agree with her behaviour, I think pretending to be a victim of DV or at the very very least massively exaggerating the severity of it? That's disgusting quite honestly & I am very aware that Johnny Depp is certainly no saint but that guy has some serious issues himself. It's a shame that these two people met & became an item because it really was a perfect shitstorm & no-one came out of it unscathed & careers have been ruined for petty revenge essentially.
This will be EXTREMELY hard for her to do, but I do hope that even if for selfish reasons Amber can see how her behaviour fucked up her life & could potentially have ruined any chances of future success. I'm sure she lives to feed her ego & she's massively damaged the chances of increasing that, so hopefully she'll be able to see that it's on her & take some time to better herself, even if it is just for her benefit.
Thanks, Dr Dass, for not railing on us folks with BPD, & for pointing out that we can be fun to be around.
Rather than try to convince everyone of how UNLIKE Amber I am, I thought I'd expand upon the theme of the positive traits of BPD.
1) Passionate. About causes as well as our relationships. You can't find a better advocate. And we're often preoccupied with "fairness."
2) Intuitive. We learned to be highly sensitive to our surrounding during our usually chaotic childhood.
3) Empathetic & Compassionate. Again, we had to learn how to read people when we were young & growing up in unpredictable & abusive environs. We also learned to appease people, try to make them feel better. Studies have shown that people with BPD are better at reading facial expressions than non-BPDs
4) Curious. Being extra sensitive & connected to our emotions & our surroundings often translates into a natural curiosity about how things work & what makes people tick.
5) Protective. The intense care we feel for another person makes us highly protective of them, also great apologists on their behalf.
6) Bold. Being passionate & having poor impulse control means we have no qualms about speaking our mind & being courageous in the face of, well, anything. I read somewhere we lack that fight, flight or freeze instinct. Couldn't agree more. If I had a dollar for every time I've found (put?) myself in harm's way, but was not compelled to do anything about it...
7) Resilient. We usually come from abusive backgrounds & have endured childhood trauma. Many of us have battled addiction, eating disorders, etc & struggled with suicidal ideations. You don't survive all that without being resilient. Plus, we've made a hot mess of our lives more than once, had to pick up the pieces & keep on keeping on.
8) Creative. Our intense emotions are well-suited for being channeled into moving creative endeavors.
9) Fun! Poor impulse control=wacky adventures. You'll do things you never would have done were it not for us leading the charge. Never a dull moment!
10) And sometimes we make you feel like a God.
HIgh functioning BPDs are often very successful in their chosen careers because of these positive character traits.
So, in closing, when people are scratching their heads, asking "WHY would he stay with that CRAZY bitch?" there's your 10 perfectly good reasons! ✌🏼
Wow, what an incredibly helpful list. It's been a very insightful read, I've learned a lot, and I wanted to thank you for taking the time to write it. Good luck, my friend.
Think the histrionic diagnosis is the worst part of her….
I love at least one person who has been diagnosed with BPD, so the last thing I would want to do is hurt you. You haven't done anything wrong, but someone who loves you appears to have presented information in a way that is very close to toxic positivity. That is a paradoxical term, but by looking it up, you may be surprised at how harmful it can be to " Always Look on the Bright Side of Life* (great song from an even greater movie that "my" BPD beloved passionately loves).
@@eirintowne spot on. There is nothing good about BPD, at least from the perspective of anyone with whom they happen to be in close relationship.
I hate to burst your bubble, many normal people have these very positive traits, and it’s not only those with bpd!
I agree with Dr das I think she wasn't intentionally making a mockery but putting on a facade and performing a charade. If anything,she was just a hypocrite pretending to be passionate about some she doesn't give a damn about for personal benefits.
That is in fact the meaning of "making a Mockery"
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Nope pretending to be something you are not for"personal gain" is called been a hypocrite. Mockery is pretending to be something out of spite and hate.
She was NEVER an A List celebrity but was the wife of one and figured in her mind that his wealth and fame was hers as well.
I think her demeanour is grandiose and defensive
Just look at her facial expressions during the trial and you don't need any other evidence
Perfect timing. Watching this during my lunch break. Thank you!
She was determined to represent victims of violence & SA through Me Too movement.
Despite her appearing to be a perpetrator of violence not a victim!
Your coverage of AH has been the least unbiased,reporting it from view of your profession which is so refreshing thanks✊♥️
How could Johnny have been so blind? I could see her crazy from 4000 miles away.
He wanted to fix her, because he couldn't help his mom? Or maybe to prove to his father it could be done? Things that happen in our childhood are hard to work out, sometimes we have to live it, to understand it.
She was typical narcissist. Love bombed him, loved everything he loved, was his perfect match. Til she had him legally trapped Then the real Amber came out. My husband turned into a completely different person an hr after the wedding.Someone I would never have married had he shown me that person before the wedding
I met a 'borderline girl' once in a CBT-therapy group (I'm dysthymic, some of your collegues say). She joined the group when I was in my last 2 or 3 weeks of a year long, 3 days a week program. And no, I'm not a millionaire, I live in The Netherlands where we have a National Health Plan 😉 She was a lovely girl. Laughing, crying, trying to hit me, hugging me, more crying and laughing again. And all in the 1st minute she joined! As i said, she was lovely. But exhausting. I was glad to end my therapie, just because of her. But she really was a very sweet girl.
Amber consistently MOCKS every DV Survivor by claiming to be a DV Survivor when she has proven herself to be abusive to almost everyone around her, including what she did to Johnny
And then saying that the outcome of the trial was a set bk to all DV victims and it will scare them into coming forward.😮😮 That's disgusting putting fear into DV victims minds like that. Johnny did the best thing for victims with this trial. But he's not waiting for gratitude for it. He just did the right thing and told the TRUTH. Not his truth the way she words it. How anyone can still think she's credible is seriously delusional.
No, it wasn’t mocking, just completely insensitive and even insulting. I don’t know why they said that. You don’t need to exaggerate to get people to see that Amber behaves badly. Exaggerating only discredits everything else said.
That being said, if you did a deep dive into who she is, you probably wouldn’t feel the need to defend her.
Here’s hoping she gets her life on track and learns the value of being genuine and caring with people, other than herself.
As my Grandfather said to me on his deathbed, "bitches be trippin", ya know what I'm sayin.
During that whole trial what was revealed in Johnny Depp treats waiters, people working for him, common people with respect.
It was just the opposite with her.
19:43 she got exposed years after she had caused all the damage to JD, therefore I don't think she got exposed easily.
Great discussion around a predisposition to behave in certain ways!
She seems to be a Cluster B nightmare.
I agree. Didn’t hear mockery in these examples. Seems very intoxicated.
the Mockery is that she is the abuser, standing up on stage claiming to be the victim. That is making a Mockery
@@kittencatlover156 on the one hand a valid position but not a match for the accusation.
@@RadhE-ug6on I guess the best way to imagine it is if Weinstein had have gone on stage supporting SA victims, fully knowing he was in fact a predator.
She knew whilst supporting victims that she was not only the abuser but even got arrested for being an abuser. That is making a Mockery or actual Victims . Its hard to watch from having lived through abuse.
When will she stop Dr Das? She has no shame or dignity. It’s nauseating the level of I’ll mannered activity in the me too, then media after litigation against her for her false representations to ride on me too tails.
I don’t think Heard was making fun on stage either but She did say,according to sources)that basically if you stay in an abusive relationship your weak.Sorry can’t remember where I saw it. IMO the fist pumping was really really off and the cracking up was bad! Thanks
the part I think that makes it about her making fun of DV victims is she is the perpetrator of DV not the victim.
As some-one who struggles with BPD, I can categorically state that any mind altering substance, be it alcohol or drugs, is certainly NOT your friend even though you may think it is 'calming you down', 'numbing your feelings', 'boosting your confidence' etc. If you already have issues with unstable identity, impulsivity, mood swings, sensitivity etc (all making an altered state sound attractive) they just become exaggerated under the influence and you are way more likely to react and behave in a way that is unacceptable and at times just 'out there'. Seems there was a lot of that in Amber's life. Nothing will have been helped by her environment or social circles, including being married to a man with addiction. That alone would make him completely unavailable emotionally to her.
I don't think Amber was intentionally mocking or insensitive for the most part, I think she was simply high and/or drunk. Not a good mix with you have a personality disorder, especially one where you don't have a clear sense of self. She craves validation and approval and goes to great lengths to find it, unfortunately including not being entirely honest. I would think it would be really hard for some-one with that amount of fame and money and BPD to stay in a place of realism.
My self harm urge has gone since STOPPING sertraline!
'A-list celebrity' is hysterical 😂
😂👍
This wasn't the tape where she was mocking the DV victims. She did that on an audio tape.
I think it’s Borderline, likely from things like childhood trauma and addiction to drugs. You are right on point. It does seem like a horrific diagnosis, borderline disorder, to be so terrified of abandonment that you would destroy publicly a private marriage in which you yourself behaved violently and lied in court so badly. She only ever seemed to get upset when her image and looks were criticized. I hope she gets therapeutic help as she seemed broken to me.
The video clip you used to evaluate the behavior is, sadly, I'll made. Some context is missing, weird moments chosen instead of what happened jest before or after, and the narrator colours the story too much. This means that any conclusions drawn from it are faulty
Instead, try listening through the 6 or more hours of audio recordings that were used in court. You will hear her change demeanor from one extreme to the other in no time flat, you will hear her bullying and degradering the man she claims to love, you will hear her spin and gaslight until your own brain starts to spin, you and there's more! Her viciousness and rage are overwhelming and terrifying, so is her honeyed tongue and blatant seduction, not to mention the occasions where you can actually hear her performing some .. flute playing against his will. Slurp.
Thank you for raising the psychotic/psycho misnomer. it happens so often and I always call it out
I agree with you that she wasn't deliberately moking dv victims it seemed more like she was unable to control herself due to whatever substances she was on. Also in general she doesn't seem to try to control herself in many situations. She just lets loose with however she feels without any thought or consideration for people she's with.
She's not mocking victims, but it shows, she is disconnected from DV or she would never act this way, she doesn't represent US!
I appreciate you looking into the Depp v Heard case more in-depth! I really value your opinion but did find it hard to accept a lot of the points you made in earlier videos that I disagreed with because you had some of the facts wrong. It was apparent that you had not done much more research beyond what the media reported. I hope you continue on the series!
I agree with you. He seemed to not clarify if she is Borderline
@@RoxHimmel1 Without a full psycho-social history and some time working with her, within the context of a mental health setting - he can't.
Vanessa...Thank you! I was disappointed that he really didn't seem to be offended by any of those clips and yeah maybe some were not 'intentional' in how she acted or what she said, but she was definitely inappropriate with some of these instances and he seems to think differently! I mean, he did say 'innaproriate Ok, but he didn't seem bothered! He is the professional, so maybe we're wrong and she is just inappropriate and we've all misjudged her! Maybe all her crap is just 'Innapropriate' and misjudged! He may be a slight fan of AH! I guess some people are mesmerized by her looks and just think she's misunderstood! I'm done!
@@ShannyShan20 To be fair to Dr. Das, I don't think he's an Amber fan. I believe he is giving his honest assessment of the situation. But he doesn't have all the facts.
And I just feel like he should have all the information---at least the same info the jury had---so he would understand how they came to that verdict. And even if he were still to come to the same conclusions after having all the info, then he would be able to present legitimate arguments that may even sway some people.
@@vanessaspeaks I agree 👍
borderline sounds like over-the-line
It's not that she doesn't deserve help, I'd postulate that she doesn't believe she needs it, and that there's anything wrong with her. From the tapes of her and Depp she comes across as being entitled in inflicting as much emotional damage as she can. Any compassion she displays is completely mocking and ends up being destructive, in other words she's gaslighting him viciously. She needs to exert power over Depp and others by demeaning and hurting them in every way possible. To have any doubt about who and what she is gives her permission to keep being the destructive, manipulative person she is. She's shown that she has no insight, nor is she introspective because she continues in her vindictive behaviour towards Depp by doubling down, she won't let go. The verdict in the trial has taught her nothing. I can't feel sorry for someone like that. Compassion just enables her.
The woman is selfish and totally lacks empathy.
There was a recent video out about her 2016 deposition, she was saying Johnny was delusional about the poop on the bed, she was smiling while saying it, you see the duper's delight on her face, even though during trial she said it was the dog.
Brilliant video, and excellent analysis of bpd symptoms. I really like the style your recent videos have taken, the subjects are very informative and very well delivered. Thank you.
I never noticed before but when Johnny is giving this testimony, amber is sitting g there smiling. She is just so horrible
A wolf among the lambs. Amber among the victims.
BPD has had so many negative connotations for so long, and this case has defintly fuelled it. Before anyone jumps to anything, I cannot stand this woman and I am so so glad that she lost the case. But in terms of BPD (I have been diagnosed with it myself) I know many people with BPD who are non violent, lovely and genuine people who have extreme amounts of empathy and live every day suffering extreme amount of emotional pain, who would never dream of hurting anyone intentionally. It would be lovely for a professional to one day to explain not everyone with BPD is like her because they are absolutely not!!
My best friend has BPD. She knows it and struggles with it. It helps her when I'm honest with her about things when she's behaving as BPD. She appreciates my patience and honesty because she is aware she does these things, but not while doing them. She cares enough to accept herself and work to better herself. They are definitely not all bad people. My friend is very caring. I agree with you, we should not let Amber be the face of BPD, nor DV/SA.
Media love to cut up and edit clips to make the villain appear even worse
Amber: I think we all had ENOUGH!!!
Me: from YOU yes!
I wish she would just go away.
It's so sad that she has become a 'Study' for all psychologist; next it would in schools & universities!! Good one!!
Very much appreciate your expert analysis, I watched every minute of the trial, to say the least. Ty
I like your balanced commentary. Thanks!
Glad to hear it!
This sounds so much like my ex daughter-in-law. Sadly my son only survived the relationship by little over a year, while she just goes on and on.
Amber 's Waldman short joke stolen from Churchill is the only time she quoted him. Now she is quoting the "End of the Beginning" one too. Somebody must have watched The Crown" or something and stole them. They sure didn't read a book. Not those people.
The more I hear come from her mouth, the more distasteful she becomes!
I love your videos, you articulate everything so well, kinda like putting gut feelings into words
thanks fam
I think she doesn’t know real emotion and what it looks like. She attempts to model it (act) and comes across as all over the place.
I have to think there’s more than BPD. I’m working through DBT book in therapy and definitely think BPD is what I have going on BUT I’m able to admit it and know it’s not “normal” behavior. She’s never going to admit she has done anything wrong. Idk if it’s narcissistic behavior or something else but it’s unfortunate that BPD has been the entire focus since the trial because not all borderline is like her.
YES. This ☝️. She gives people with BPD a bad name. She has probably scared people into being around people with BPD. If you accept you have a problem and seek help, go to therapy and work on yourself. Bpd does not make you an amber Heard at all. She has alot more going on. People with BPD don't purposely set out to hurt other people. They're more likely to sabotage themselves rather than others
Just call her a narcissist and be done with it.That's the main attribute.
I agree she's not trying to mock victims but I think she is not really affected by the subject she is talking about and her excitement and enthusiasm shows she really is not wounded the way actual victims are.
Nope. Someone who has been severely abused DOES NOT LOVE HER ABUSER, which we know she wasn't abused,however she never loved him as SHE WAS THE ABUSER and she tried getting him for Millions. She doesn't know what Love is, she's incapable of love...
She says: I love him but says no with her head (body language) 🤣
I don't think she has the remotist idea of what love is.. And furthermore I think the only person she has ever loved is herself... I pity her baby....
I like hearing a much more rational (vs emotional) interpretation. 👍 Have subscribed and look forward to hearing more.
Hi, its hard not to think Amber isn’t smirking and a puzzled expression.
Amber (a grown WOMAN) being praised by nurse Erin for not tearing into a waiter for messing up her order is all I need to know. She definitely has what she was diagnosed with!
why on earth did Johnny get involved with this crazy witch? probably it was for her looks, I am glad he is not with that nutcase anymore
I agree about her not mocking victims of DV. BPD seems spot on though.
she is very very much like a girl I used to know who had Histrionic personality disorder
In some ways she USED TO BE like Satan.
As in, she used to be incredibly beautiful, but that façade hides evil.
AH is not an A list celebrity. Never was. Before JD she was a D lister. At best, when she targeted an already partnered man using flattery and lies that her interests were similar to his and then gaslit him into marriage (and, later, when his deep addictions were apparent, his will and inheritance), she moved up to C/B list.
There’s a FHM magazine (or similar magazine) Q&A from years before JD where she proudly states that she prefers to date “older rich men” and my interpretation of that is that she craved wealth and clout and “older men” provided that.
I WAS A VICTUM OF ABUSE AND SHE MAKES ME SICK.
Really enjoyed seeing you on Spidey’s recent Casey Anthony video, so I’m checking out your previous work.
This case and the public’s reaction to it was so fascinating, and I agree with your take. There are SO many things to criticize and call out Amber Heard for, but so much of the hate felt akin to having a hate fest about your ex with a bunch of friends and twisting every tiny thing into the worst possible intention. I get the impulse, but let’s just focus on what the facts are.
The attack on Amber Heard became a ridiculous witch hunt at the end.
Who ever said that clown is an A-List celebrity? Heard is a terrible actress!
I feel for that baby she got a hold of. It is not fun to grow up with a mother with borderline personality
Amber is not and never will be a “A” list celebrity!
That was WC Fields, by the way. “Yeah well you’re crazy and I’ll be sober in the morning but you’ll be crazy for the rest of your life.”
She was definitely takin shit about victims because she’s pretending to be a victim and while you’re up there pretending to care you had been lying
Very nicely and neutrally explained. That final video was embarrassingly over the top. Let’s face it, nobody needs to make up more issues for AH she is already her own worst enemy. And It really is time to stop this pushing the logical error of guilt by association too. Even the worst people are entitled to be represented to ensure the rule of law.