The first one, to me, sounds like the guy gets her a present every time he cheats on her to feel less guilt because, in his head, she has been compensated.
thats what i thought too, or as a manipulation tactic like if she finds out about the cheating, ''but i love u bc ive bought u so much expensive stuff''
@@Who.100 im confused Edit: I watched the episode where they talk about the infamous poop knife and its safe to say I might still be slightly traumatised by it
With the food contamination story, you can tell he got his nasty ass cooking habits from his mom because they all got sick after her dinner. The whole family is absolutely DUTTY.
this reminded me of when I was in primary school my dad took me + my brother to a petting zoo with pigs and we loooved them and when we got home my dad was like “alright! i want bacon” n my mom was like ???? you just saw pigs ????? and he was just like “and your point is?” 💀
The food poisoning was almost like poetic justice. The worst thing I’ve done with cross contamination was without thinking after I cut up some raw chicken my hands were wet and I dried them off on the dish towel. Thank god my husband noticed and pointed it out so I could immediately wash my hands and switch out the towels. I can’t imagine cutting meat and literally just putting the board back as is. That sounds horrifyingly disgusting.
In the fourth story, the way she reacted to him actually makes me upset. He lost his wife, he has every right to carry those kind of things around with him. It’s not like they broke up and he’s keeping her stuff. She. Died. I’m so sad she treated him like that after finding out what it was
Her saying he'll live a lonely miserable life is so abusive, especially since his wife passed tragically. The fact she feels that strongly over a stone screams insecurities.
I hated that. My wife lost her first love to cancer. She had (kind of) a stone made especially for honoring her. She put it in her room and the first thing she always said to anyone was to be careful of "Anna's stone" (that's how she call it). I've always thought it was sweet of her to do it bc it makes her remember the date they got together. So, fast foward a few years, now I'm the one responsible for thaking care of the stone when we moved. She was so scared when she moved it the first time, and I made a special box for it and put bublle wrap all around it. She was so relieved and thankful that she asks me to take care and keep an eye on when we move (she gets really overwhelmed with changes, so I try to make it better for her). I once suggested to my wife to make a tattoo to hornor Anna (my wife loves tattoos) but she said it would be too difficult to explain what it meant when people asked, and it would make her sad. so, yeah, OP's girlfriend is an ass and I'm furious with her.
I am a Microbiologist and have done a lot of my research on infectious diseases (including bacteria that induce food poisoning) and the unhygienic kitchen story was so nasty. I couldn't deal with that if my partner did that! He is lucky the only thing he got was E. coli, he could have easily gotten some serious disease (like C. diff) that could require things like fecal transplants... yikes.
A French teach of mine lost her husband and had his ashes pressed into a diamond on a ring she wore everyday. I always thought that was so beautiful and loved the idea of my ashes being turned into one as well, that girlfriend needs to get over herself.
And shes 31? I understand she’s had no experience with death but goodness. The stuff she said was absolutely foul and even more ridiculous considering her age. Very immature
@@briannaellis3542 I definitely wouldn't recommend therapy. I would NEVER ask someone I loved to throw away something that reminded them of a loved one, especially if they're deceased and ESPECIALLY not their ashes 😳😤 She sounds like an awful person.
i can see why if she has no experience with death. her family probably shielded her from ever thinking about death and what people do after a loved one dies, considering how she reacted. she was right in that she needs to go to therapy to prepare for a loved one dying because people like that can become emotionally crippled forever after losing a loved one. death is the worst thing in the world, but it’s a massive part of life and everyone copes differently. having gone through it, you know you cannot judge someone based on how they grieve, and therefore her lack of understanding.
@@colleenschmidt6724 lack of experience does not mean lack of compassion. Even if she has no experience with death she can show someone she cares for compassion.
Why do I feel like the couple in the first story are influencers living in LA who went viral at like 18/19 and now want to live it up bachelor style (cars, parties, lavish trips) but neither of them can take the plunge of breaking it off
I was pissed off by the Food Contamination Story by his family. Let's just say she had a real upset stomach. There is nothing more nauseating than to smell food when you don't feel well. And they wanted her to go to dinner when she didn't feel well. That's really selfish and crazy. But since she was just faking, I agree with Justin that was not the time to fake the situation.
I agree with you about his family. However, I disagree on what Justin said. Is is the best occasion? No. It was telling though. If she REALLY had an upset stomach, or was throwing up, imagine how disregarding it would be to receive a message like that from his mom. He probably talked bad about her. Ever if it was thanksgiving, good family is understanding of sickness. Imagine being married to him with an issue like this, a disrespectful MIL, risk of food poisoning for the children. RUN 🚩🚩
Honestly, knowing that her boyfriend probably picked up his bad kitchen hygiene at home with his parents, I think she was protecting herself more than anything. Like I’m essence, she was being petty. But for real I think deep down she knew there was a possibility of her getting sick from dinner with his family
A man carrying the stone of his ex’s ashes to keep her close around his neck is sweetest thing ever. It’s a really cruel thing to do - she knew he had an ex who has passed, for her to call it gross is so mean and she’s picking a fight with a ghost for no reason Edit: a little softer after the update, at least she gets how disrespectful that was
I'm sorry, but the no food hygiene guy. Didn't his parents cook that food (at the celebration dinner)? So that means the reason he has no food hygiene is cuz his parents are just as nasty and I can't get over that. That chicken cutting board will haunt me.
Honestly it was so cute that I shed a few tears!! I hope every person has a partner that thinks they're so adorable, or beautiful, or awesome, or vulnerable, or compassionate, or great, all things that look in his eyes said to me.
First story is messed up! That’s NOT a good boyfriend. I went with my then boyfriend- now husband- and his 4 other guy friends on an amazing trip to CO. I planned the whole thing and they never questioned if I was coming or not because it’s obvious. Wherever my boyfriend went, I went too (unless told otherwise, then I wouldn’t plan it)
Not to mention they agreed she'd go in the first place...feels like he meant that at first then met someone else and turned into making the gf come later when the new girl he met would leave
Ashes story: Not a dealbreaker, and he was very respectful about not letting his past wife and past life interfere with their relationship. An ashes ring apart from sentimental and sweet, is not that weird.
I agree… as a 18 year old I would never give my loved one a ultimatum about his past loved ones ashes… he loved her so why can’t I love her too?? She can’t effect our relationship now I don’t see the issue
If I began dating a widower and I found out he had turned his partners ashes into a stone I would simply cry.. it's such a gorgeous way to honour someone. She's allowed to feel uncomfortable about something but to gaslight him and make him feel crazy ?? As if no other woman would ever date him because of the ring??
The third story has me absolutely heart broken for Gigi! I can’t imagine how many insecurities that would have brought up/ created and feeling your trust just shatter. I’m glad she’s moving on to better her life. Just wow
My ex and I broke up a couple months ago, and basically he told me the same thing that guy did in the story about not liking his partner for 2 years. He used me to fill that void. We were only together for 6 months, and I was crushed! I can’t imagine 6 YEARS. My god. The indifference from them is one of the worst feelings ever.
Time Stamps: 1:58 - First Story 29:50 - Second Story 49:43 Butcher Box Sponsorship 52:08 Third Story 1:08:24 Fourth Story Also, lmao tell Justin I'm also in the "cooking chicken scares me" club 🤣 I need to get one of those thermometers
IM SCARED TO COOK CHICKEN TOO!!! I didn’t think other people were also scared to cook chicken 😭 the most I do is chicken noodle soup in the crockpot but I have bleach and clean towels for as soon I’m done so I can clean everything
But honestly it sounds like she wasn’t telling him all the plans like she was probably going to put all those extras together as a surprise honestly I think that for the trip situation she is the butt hole but in general he’s a butt hole in the relationship
@@faceofvision no I’m saying she’s the ass hole for how she handled it by cancelling them and then telling him when she could have kept it to herself that she even did it I think it’s lovely that she cares and wants to plan surprises I just think I’m that instance she did some unnecessary petty things
My husband and I knew each other during undergrad - and I HATED him. Several years later, we reconnected at a wedding of people we both cared deeply about, and had a shocking amount of chemistry. He had no idea about my undergrad perception of him, but it was a conversation and then a running joke. We both had to mature. We took the relationship super slow for a while, learning our communication styles, etc. So it IS possible to grow from hate to love. But it takes time and a lot of honesty. None of that happened here. So many lies..
This story is great! I think what makes the Reddit story worse is that they were in a relationship when he felt this way. I can’t imagine getting over that
@@audreyyosborne absolutely agreed! I can see saying early on, if you're hesitant about how you feel, taking this slowly - but not outright hating your partner. That's gross.
@@ludmilamaiolini6811 :-) sure! It took 4 months to admit we were dating as we 'tested the waters'... 5 after that for the 'first I love you' (me to him). And I moved in 3 months later! Once we figured out it was more than wedding chemistry, I was all in! As college kids, he was a very strong personality and had tunnel vision. He had a pretty sheltered upbringing, which made it worse. It was slamming my head against a brick wall. When I remet him, he was super conscientious - and I realized that was the real him. But he had to have life knock some real world into him. Whereas I had to be a bit more thick-skinned! I was super sensitive to feedback, and his directness offended my young adult/late teen fee-fees. He unknowingly hit every overbearing warning button I had - and we co-led a cpllege club at the time! As adults, we both grew - just a little bit - in a direction that made us super compatible. But did take us a while to be sure.. In addition to honest communication.
What I take from this episode is: punishing and giving ultimatums to your partner is not healthy. Sure, in the heat of the moment we all can say things we regret, but this type of action is not conflict resolution, it just partially ends the conflict. I totally agree with what you guys said: if you do those things and it goes south, it's very hard to come back to a healthy relationship. And if couple's therapy is your last resort, as in, the last thing keeping a relationship together, then it is not working. Love this episode, it was very mature!
For the cross contamination one, between him not taking it seriously and his mom's reaction, it makes it sound like he's brushing it off because that's how it was in his house his whole life. I think he learned these bad habits from his mom and she's been unintentionally (I hope) poisoning her family his whole life. So when girlfriend challenges his kitchen cleanliness, she's unconsciously challenging how he was raised.
I’m sorry but no. Firstly, telling people to “communicate” when people have been expressing their issues repeatedly, in multiple ways, is so dismissive. You can only communicate but so much, it is on the other person to actually listen. So if cross-contamination gremlin doesn’t listen, she can’t do anything. Secondly, the “big events”? OP was going to miss quite a few of them because his nasty ass was eventually going to make her ill, if not kill her. So she was really going to miss things then.
Wife's ashes: it's not about the girlfriend. She's making this man feel guilty for still mourning the woman he was married to, who was also tragically taken away. I also typed that while listening to the story before the second update. I'm glad she apologized. I hope she has come around to actually be fully accepting.
With the food poisoning story... I think she had to take more drastic measures in order to prove her point. I also think she could’ve waited for another time to do so however. But food poisoning is serious. It’s DEADLY. What if they start a family, and he puts the children at risk? He has to learn, it’s like playing Russian roulette with your life.
I don't know how people find the girl who didn't wanna get a food borne illness from her boyfriend to be qn asshole. Maybe she shouldn't have pretended to be sick, but her boyfriend could have gotten her severely ill and I feel like that trumps it
My friend's pup passed away a few years ago and made necklaces out of her ashes and gave one to my daughter. My daughter grew up with this dog and was my daughter's best friend. The necklace is on a gold chain, and the ashes are in a small gold shaped puppy paw. She never takes it off. It's beautiful.
I also thought that...but more importantly theres something he got from his parents: stubbornness...or at least the immature behavior to accept someone else's truth
So that story about the cremains pressed into a gem stone breaks my heart. I would fall deeper in love with someone if they honored their deceased wife and STILL carried it on travels. Heck, I'd even be okay if my husband proposed to me with that ring. Honoring both of the important life partners in a beautiful way.
As someone who lost their husband and kept his ashes… helllllll no to the proposal part. I don’t think that’s honoring the deceased person or the new person. That’s something you keep for you, and your new relationship has nothing to do with that.
@@momedusa I don’t think Jordan was implying that it is expected, or that she/they wants that, but that if it was sentimental to her/their partner, they would be honored. It’s more about respect for whatever the parent who lost someone wants to do.
if you dont want to do that, that’s more than fair, however i dont think that she was saying that she WANTED that; more that if the person who had lost their previous partner wished to do so, it would be beautiful. and whoever had experienced that loss does have the right to remember and respect their partners remains in the way they wish.
It was actually super common around the victorian era to have mourning jewelry, like hair in a locket. Edit: my grandma, dad and uncles have necklaces with my grandpa's fingerprint on it
I have my dads fingerprint on a necklace and if someone ever had an issue with it they would have to be out of my life. It is such an important thing to me and makes me feel close to him
I think the ring story was a big jealousy situation. I know you guys went over a story in the past where a girl threw away her partner’s deceased wives photo that were like irreplaceable. I think it’s such a beautiful way to honor his past wife and honestly this girl sounds insecure. Like what if her mom passed away and she had her ashes in the house? No sane person would be like “I will NOT be with you unless you get rid of those ashes!!” It’s a small stone and people have different ways to honor past love ones. I think it’s very telling of her on how she was so quick to cut off the relationship over something like this as well.
i agree, it’s so extremely selfish and very telling.. that’s definitely a deal breaker. if anything it just proves he’s a good guy that he kept apart of someone he loved so very much.. her acting out in that way is just too much especially with the ultimatum.
I actually do think she was uneducated, scared of death, and just didn't handle it well. With the way she did come around and really apologized, I think insecurity wasn't the main factor. I mean, I had a boyfriend in high school whose mom died a few years before. He kept a lock of her hair in a little black jar (not see thru) on a necklace. 14 year old me had NEVER heard of that and it creeped me out (I never said anything to him). I obviously now know that's a fairly normal thing. Sometimes it is just naivete.
@@RealToWonder she is an adult. Memorial keepsakes go back millenia. Modern America has an extremely unhealthy relationship with death. If he had continued with that relationship she would never let it go. It is her problem not his.
Imagine if you TRULY believed that a significant other was doing something that's the equivalent to wearing a deceased wife's finger- her ACTUAL finger- as a necklace? Lmao i know that sounds absurd, but when a person has ignorance and their own imagination on a subject, oh man can it go there. So really imagine this being the case and relate it to her reaction: "This is creepy and weird" is something i would say to an actual finger. "No girl would be okay with this"- yeah, that sounds reasonable. In terms of the ultimatum- i find that method to be abhorrent in 99% of arguments; an ultimatum happens when compromise is not possible. For some of you "can i leave it in the drawer" when 'it' is a rotting finger may not be possible. I can understand you calling it 'jealousy' and 'not being sane' when we had only the context of the original post. Hell, even in the guy's first edit he brought up that she's never experienced death, and most of us didn't give that statement ANY value-- when in actuality, that single line had the most value to understand why she reacted that way. Based on exactly what she said in that letter, I wholeheartedly believe that she's telling the truth and being authentic. Fair enough if you don't think so- that explains why you commented this. But if you do also find her note to be genuine, then how can you also say it's based on jealousy? What do you mean her reaction is very telling? Anyone would be disrespectful towards something that's freaking them out- "I'll keep the rotting, decease finger in a safety deposit box" wouldn't make you leave? I'm asking these questions because I'm genuinely surprised by how similar other comments are to this one. I conclude that her reaction was right for the wrong reasons- and I'm relieved she got perspective and accepted the alternative the issue by the end of it.
As someone who experienced an ex suddenly dying while in another relationship, I don’t think people will truly fully understand the weight of the feelings until they experience something like that. Love is infinite, and you can miss your past partner that’s no longer here without it affecting your current relationship!!
With the very last one, the fact M went out of her way to print a wedding photo for him and framed it for him and hang the chain on it, just to mend her wrongs, made me cry. Like her original response was horrible but going that far to say I'm sorry is really sweet. I hope she continues to be accepting and open minded.
The tiktok you mentioned reminded me of the time my HS choir took a trip to New York. One of my friends decided to dump his grandfather's ashes into the water when we were on a boat going to the Statue of Liberty and other things. Some of the ashes got blown into the wind and ended up being blown onto one of the other girls in the choir. The situation was mortifying and apparently people just tried to brush it off saying "oh, it's just some pollution." I'm not sure if she believed it or not, but that was wild
Absolutely not to the first story. He for sure wanted a bachelor's weekend with the boys in Puerto Rico, and more over his insistence on going to pr specifically is really sus with out explanation. OP doesn't sound like a shining beacon of healthy relationship and innocence but God damn do they need to break up
The man made a keepsake stone to respectfully remember his late wife. Its such a beautiful thought. The new gf of a year gave an ultimatum showing her jealous & controlling colors. She claimed she was freaked out until realizing how commonly this was done. The framed photo & chain was a sweet thought. My partner has his parent’s ashes on a shelf in our room & a photo of them. My dad has his late dog’s ashes & a paw print.
The emotional maturity and just maturity in general that y’all display and have in your relationship is SOOOO refreshing!! Very inspiring & gives me hope!!
I discovered this channel/podcast a few days ago and have listened to so many already! I love when the two of you, especially, are on. You make me think that yes, some of The Straights might actually be okay. 😂
also when they all thought she was sick and stayed home his mother said she should have just taken some pepto bismol.... and sucked it up but when "contaminated home slice" over here is calling out on his first day..... so ..... ya totally adds up for sure
Tip for raw egg consumption aside from the obvious "Get from a good source" advice: Salmonella will be present(if it is) on the shell, wash the egg right before you crack it and the risk is diminished even further. This is what people I know do for their oyakodon and ramen that they learned from their families.
After almost 5 years together and being married my ex husband told me he only was with me so he wouldn’t die alone. He treated me like crap. He was an addict, frequently jobless, and verbally abusive to me. He tore me down to make me feel small like how he felt, directionless an purposeless in his life.
Hey Morgan, just wanted to say thank you! I didn't know you could create a diamond made of hair! only ashes! Beginning of this year I lost my baby girl, my cat Penny... It was the worst time of my life, she was my soul mate! I always wanted to make her into a diamond when she would pass away. But that day, the city people took her away, I didn't have a right to keep her and cremate her on my own, and they refused to give me her ashes, saying they'd be mixed up with other kitties.... This crushed me more than I can say... so I parted ways with her, feeling like I'd lost her forever... Today, finding out that I can make the diamond out of hair, I have a chance of making it, since I might have some of it left on her stuff, and having a part of her with me at all times! So Thank you once more! Thank you so much! ❤️
Regarding the jewelry with ashes, I think it's lovely and I would be fine with it. She could have problems with death etc. My son is into tattoos so I already know he plans to have my memorial tattoo include a tiny bit of my ashes.
Hey Morgan! Avid listeners of the podcast here, my boyfriend and I listen to all of the full episodes and enjoy discussing our points of view whilst listening to your guys’ too. Something we’ve realised might help us stay more engaged would be if you could put timestamps for the start of each story in the description box so we can skip ahead if we feel we’ve already covered everything and are agreeing with y’all points of view too! Look forward to the next episode and seeing what other things y’all cover! P.s. please name the support dog Barry!! 🤣
I'm very lucky that my boyfriend is very understanding of the items I have of my relatives that have passed on. Most of which are clothing that I regularly wear cause it makes me feel close to them. I asked him to do my laundry recently and he started a mini fire in the dryer and he went in and double checked that he didn't ruin my grandma shirt (my shirt that was from my grandma) cause that is one of my most prized possessions. Partners who understand are amazing
I have my dead dad’s clothes too, clothes are very different to anything involving ashes. I have my dead grandmothers and great grandmothers jewelry and rings i wear all the time. She was completely fine with his wives rings and belongings just not the ashes. I agree belongings are nowhere close to ashes even though i think things from ashes are extremely sweet. We keep half of my dads ashes in our front yard under a tree.
whether she was right or wrong (about the cross contamination homeboy story) he doesn't care enough to even listen to something that she cares about or that she feels some type of way about .... and I'm going to put my bet on this very much is not an isolated thing....... if you are with someone ..... how they feel about something ....even if you don't feel that way should be something you are willing to communicate about.... because it is affecting the person you "care" about ...... also ....just my opinion.... sounds like ....he gets it from his mama
I think an episode highlighting past posts with new updates you’ve found would be awesome! Probably time consuming to look things up but man it would be nice to hear some resolutions to some of the posts that didn’t have one at the time.
Wtf does he mean, “it’s not like it’s raw chicken” you can get worms in your brain from undercooked pork. Let alone completely raw pork. Jfc, he’s going to get/give someone neurocysticerosis, or something
no just no That girl had a right to make a fucking point about her boyfriend trying to poison her. She expressed herself a lot from what she's said, and this seemed to be the final straw where she tried very very hard to make that point. She should've left him after the first three times he did it at MOST bc yikes. but 'communicate more'? she tried. he didn't. he was petty and a baby about it, resorting to leaving the situation after she'd tried to bring it up to him. Maybe she was being petty too, but at least she wasnt ENDANGERING HIM.
You know I used to get frustrating when watching this podcast because I found everyone was very light handed in certain takes and maybe a bit devils advocate-y. But now after reading other Reddit channels without the creators input, all I see are the Reddit comments. And it’s exhausting. I find myself coming here a lot more because it’s honestly a breath of fresh air to have nice REAL people talking about these subjects. It’s a nice break from the lack of nuance and hostility of Reddit. You guys are the kind of people who are really important to society because you have compassion and perspective even when you feel strongly about things. Didn’t realise it at first but now I really appreciate it ❤
51:50 - quick but important PSA: service dogs aren’t the same as emotional support dogs. Service dogs are tasked trained to support their owner and have public access, ESA do not require training and do not have public access rights (and as I am writing this I believe they are no longer allowed on planes either as there was a recent update to the ADA). Ik confusion on this topic is really common, but it unfortunately leads to barriers for disabled service dog users trying to access public spaces. Please search ADA service dog laws for more info, thanks! Edit: i was only listening to the audio and didn’t realize it was a stuffed animal dog lol, hopefully this info was still useful though
I haven’t finished the episode yet so I don’t know the context but as a service dog handler thank you for distinguishing the two. This made me so happy so many people don’t understand the difference and it causes issues for us in terms of access!
They have talked about this topic in many different episodes, I guess they didn't mean any harm with the joke. But it is great to see people talking about it and educating others like you!
For the ash story: My mom lost my step dad four years ago, she has a heart pendent that has his ashes in it, his mom has one too. She wears it every day alongside his ring. They were together for twelve years. I would hope that her next partner respects her, and my step dad. And I think my mom would be offended if her future partner said "the ashes need to go". Maybe put the ring in a shadow box, but to completely remove the ashes and ring? disrespectful.
In the first story they might have had to go to Puerto Rico because of the friend who was being released from prison. US citizens don't need a passport to go there and additionally there are many countries that have laws about convicted felons coming in (Canada for example) but Puerto Rico is essentially part of the US in a sense.
One thing about ashes that I've heard of and think I want to do is to plant them at the same time as a tree (or something like that) so that when the tree grows the ashes are a part of the tree. I think it would be so beautiful and bring a loved one back to life in a sense the only problem, of course, is it wouldn't be very portable.
I have to say I think the third story is almost the most devastating…. To me at least, because it’s so uncalled for and unexpected. I only wonder what kind of first two years she experienced with him!!! Was he faking it that hard or were there red flags? Disgusting. 6 years???? My worst fear
wow didn't realize this video was over an hour and a half. It's my routine to play a podcast that is around an hour and do my workout. Was wondering why I was feeling like I was getting winded towards the end but checked back to see the video was so long. You guys are awesome and the time flows when I listen to your podcasts. Loads of love!!
Your menopause comment made me giggle. I started super early at 38, be careful with what you ask for lol. Hot flashes feel like a fever breaking. It makes me dizzy and I have to sit down. When my sister passed we made jewelry for her kids. Her husband didn't get anything. I think it is so special for people to have that little bit of their loved one. I am so glad she came around to see the intention behind his actions.
The ring thing would not be a deal breaker for me. I think that’s very kind and beautiful thing for him to do. I’d be happy to be loved by a man who loved so deeply before. You know he will be a good one🖤
Ok, this is a pretty old video so I'll take it upon myself to drop timestamps. 2:43- 6:10 Story 1: Cancelling SO's Plans 6:11- 29:14 Discussions, Updates, and Replies. 29:58 - 33:08 Story 2: The Cross Contamination Boyfriend 33:09 - 48:39 Discussions, Updates, and Replies.
I had a roommate in college that used to leave raw meat straight on the counter to "acclimate" for literal hours. Not frozen. No wrapping. No plate. Raw meat straight on the counter. I had a cat and he clearly can't be near that. He got sick really badly once because of it. After multiple convos with her to knock that shit off, it finally stopped after I put her raw chicken in her bed. I hated that weirdo so much.
The food poisoning one, I think his habits come from home and his mum has been telling him his gf is irrational about this so he hasn't been taking it seriously. I will admit I'm not the best so I always do veg first then meat so I don't rush and forget to clean the knife/board it's not a difficult solution...
The story you told about the Tik Tok with the ashes - I took it a complete different way! I find that dad’s last prank on the kids. They try do something nice, he takes over like “Ha! Try again” 🤣
Couples therapy was insurance for my marriage. A preventative measure. It does not stop bad thing from happening, or even always stop one of us from hurting the other - but it does give us the ability to speak and solve it
My boyfriend is a chef and his kitchen hygiene at home is so bad compared to what he does at work, he says he just doesn’t care at home but he makes everything so dirty & doesn’t bother cleaning it. It’s disgusting 🤢 & we fall out over it quite a bit sometimes
the turning ashes into a diamond isn't a thing where I live so I was very confused and weirded out at first but the more I thought about it the more I liked the idea of it!
I lost my dog a few years ago and was devastated. She was there for me for 13 years, the whole time I was sick, everything…I found a necklace that would hold some of the ashes…it is so comforting to me to have her close to me. One ex said it was weird and morbid which is fine for him, but he didn’t get it lol. It brings me so much peace having her with me sometimes.
the food borne illness story lowkey reminds me of years ago my Grandma was leaving a family party and decided to drive home drunk which my mom had argued with her about. The next morning my mom was on the phone with her and asked about a hit in run in the town my grandma lives in, my grandma panicked terrified she caused it to which my mom confessed to lying to scare my grandma into realizing what COULD happen if you aren’t safe it seems that’s what they were trying to do. My Grandma had gotten drives home after that now she hardly drinks at all at those parties
My mom and I started a little tradition where we have a tree in Colorado up in the mountains where my grandpas ashes are spread and now his dogs ashes are spread. She has a small urn and a necklace with her dad's ashes and my husband has a keepsake of the dogs ashes, since they became best buds after my grandpa's passing, and we kept back a little. When my mom passes I'll cremate her and make jewelry/keepsakes for whoever wants some and then spread her in the same place. That's what I want done as well.
The first one, to me, sounds like the guy gets her a present every time he cheats on her to feel less guilt because, in his head, she has been compensated.
thats what i thought too, or as a manipulation tactic like if she finds out about the cheating, ''but i love u bc ive bought u so much expensive stuff''
This exactly. Idk how justin wasn’t getting cheating vibes.
Exactly what i thought also thought he's planing to cheat on the birthday and for the gifts maybe it's lobe bombing yk i see a LOT of 🚩🚩🚩
@@devanmurphy5817 Man defends man
@@devanmurphy5817 Exactly they just be making excuses for some of these stories when what's going on is very obvious.
My husband heard the food poisoning story and said "does his family cut up food with their poop knife?" If you know you know
Yeah it sounds like it.
Hahahahaha he’s a keeper! Man that story was a DOOZEY
I learned what a “poop knife” was in a Facebook antique group. My mind was absolutely blown.
@@Who.100 im confused
Edit: I watched the episode where they talk about the infamous poop knife and its safe to say I might still be slightly traumatised by it
😂😂😂
With the food contamination story, you can tell he got his nasty ass cooking habits from his mom because they all got sick after her dinner. The whole family is absolutely DUTTY.
I agree! Dutty bad
Thank god she didn’t go 😬
Morgan: there's SHIT and BLOOD in meat
Morgan 5 seconds later: sponsored by Butcher box ✌️
LMAO
😂😂😂😂 I mean it’s true but we still like a good steak
this reminded me of when I was in primary school my dad took me + my brother to a petting zoo with pigs and we loooved them and when we got home my dad was like “alright! i want bacon” n my mom was like ???? you just saw pigs ????? and he was just like “and your point is?” 💀
😂😂
HAHAHAHAHAHA
The food poisoning was almost like poetic justice. The worst thing I’ve done with cross contamination was without thinking after I cut up some raw chicken my hands were wet and I dried them off on the dish towel. Thank god my husband noticed and pointed it out so I could immediately wash my hands and switch out the towels. I can’t imagine cutting meat and literally just putting the board back as is. That sounds horrifyingly disgusting.
yeah that guy sounds like an immature a hole
I can't imagine his personal hygiene
Insert gif of remy almost throwing up
I couldn’t put a dirty cutting board away. Noooooooooope
It's strange I've never been that fussed about food contamination yet comparing myself to that dude you'd think I'm a saint.
It probably STINKS
In the fourth story, the way she reacted to him actually makes me upset. He lost his wife, he has every right to carry those kind of things around with him. It’s not like they broke up and he’s keeping her stuff. She. Died. I’m so sad she treated him like that after finding out what it was
I’m even more angry at the fact that he didn’t dump her like yes you love her but that reaction would’ve been IT
Her saying he'll live a lonely miserable life is so abusive, especially since his wife passed tragically. The fact she feels that strongly over a stone screams insecurities.
I hated that. My wife lost her first love to cancer. She had (kind of) a stone made especially for honoring her. She put it in her room and the first thing she always said to anyone was to be careful of "Anna's stone" (that's how she call it). I've always thought it was sweet of her to do it bc it makes her remember the date they got together.
So, fast foward a few years, now I'm the one responsible for thaking care of the stone when we moved. She was so scared when she moved it the first time, and I made a special box for it and put bublle wrap all around it. She was so relieved and thankful that she asks me to take care and keep an eye on when we move (she gets really overwhelmed with changes, so I try to make it better for her).
I once suggested to my wife to make a tattoo to hornor Anna (my wife loves tattoos) but she said it would be too difficult to explain what it meant when people asked, and it would make her sad.
so, yeah, OP's girlfriend is an ass and I'm furious with her.
I would love to be made into a diamond.
Yeah, and doing what he did with the ashes used to be a normal sort of thing. Idk shy she thought it was so weird.
I am a Microbiologist and have done a lot of my research on infectious diseases (including bacteria that induce food poisoning) and the unhygienic kitchen story was so nasty. I couldn't deal with that if my partner did that! He is lucky the only thing he got was E. coli, he could have easily gotten some serious disease (like C. diff) that could require things like fecal transplants...
yikes.
A French teach of mine lost her husband and had his ashes pressed into a diamond on a ring she wore everyday. I always thought that was so beautiful and loved the idea of my ashes being turned into one as well, that girlfriend needs to get over herself.
And shes 31? I understand she’s had no experience with death but goodness. The stuff she said was absolutely foul and even more ridiculous considering her age. Very immature
I read French TOAST
@@briannaellis3542 I definitely wouldn't recommend therapy. I would NEVER ask someone I loved to throw away something that reminded them of a loved one, especially if they're deceased and ESPECIALLY not their ashes 😳😤 She sounds like an awful person.
i can see why if she has no experience with death. her family probably shielded her from ever thinking about death and what people do after a loved one dies, considering how she reacted. she was right in that she needs to go to therapy to prepare for a loved one dying because people like that can become emotionally crippled forever after losing a loved one. death is the worst thing in the world, but it’s a massive part of life and everyone copes differently. having gone through it, you know you cannot judge someone based on how they grieve, and therefore her lack of understanding.
@@colleenschmidt6724 lack of experience does not mean lack of compassion. Even if she has no experience with death she can show someone she cares for compassion.
Why do I feel like the couple in the first story are influencers living in LA who went viral at like 18/19 and now want to live it up bachelor style (cars, parties, lavish trips) but neither of them can take the plunge of breaking it off
same here, the first story gave so much jake/logans paul's vibe 😆
I think you hit the nail on the head lmao
I was pissed off by the Food Contamination Story by his family. Let's just say she had a real upset stomach. There is nothing more nauseating than to smell food when you don't feel well. And they wanted her to go to dinner when she didn't feel well. That's really selfish and crazy. But since she was just faking, I agree with Justin that was not the time to fake the situation.
Same, his family was a whole separate red flag to me.
Not to mention her partners utter disregard for her health.
I agree with you about his family. However, I disagree on what Justin said. Is is the best occasion? No. It was telling though. If she REALLY had an upset stomach, or was throwing up, imagine how disregarding it would be to receive a message like that from his mom. He probably talked bad about her. Ever if it was thanksgiving, good family is understanding of sickness. Imagine being married to him with an issue like this, a disrespectful MIL, risk of food poisoning for the children. RUN 🚩🚩
Honestly, knowing that her boyfriend probably picked up his bad kitchen hygiene at home with his parents, I think she was protecting herself more than anything. Like I’m essence, she was being petty. But for real I think deep down she knew there was a possibility of her getting sick from dinner with his family
@@stephaniepainchault2815 so true
A man carrying the stone of his ex’s ashes to keep her close around his neck is sweetest thing ever. It’s a really cruel thing to do - she knew he had an ex who has passed, for her to call it gross is so mean and she’s picking a fight with a ghost for no reason
Edit: a little softer after the update, at least she gets how disrespectful that was
I'm sorry, but the no food hygiene guy. Didn't his parents cook that food (at the celebration dinner)? So that means the reason he has no food hygiene is cuz his parents are just as nasty and I can't get over that. That chicken cutting board will haunt me.
That’s exactly what I was thinking… either that or he cooked it which seems unlikely. Maybe poor food hygiene runs in the family🤮
For the first story, if I had booked a vacation for my bf and he said I wasnt coming I'd break up with him right there
When Justin paused to watch you cuddle the dog and said “Very cute” 🥺 My heart melted
Honestly it was so cute that I shed a few tears!!
I hope every person has a partner that thinks they're so adorable, or beautiful, or awesome, or vulnerable, or compassionate, or great, all things that look in his eyes said to me.
First story is messed up! That’s NOT a good boyfriend. I went with my then boyfriend- now husband- and his 4 other guy friends on an amazing trip to CO. I planned the whole thing and they never questioned if I was coming or not because it’s obvious. Wherever my boyfriend went, I went too (unless told otherwise, then I wouldn’t plan it)
Yeah…and after 3 years together?? Nope nothing can convince me he wasn’t trying to see someone else on that trip.
Not to mention they agreed she'd go in the first place...feels like he meant that at first then met someone else and turned into making the gf come later when the new girl he met would leave
I read that as then husband now boyfriend and was very confused
Ashes story: Not a dealbreaker, and he was very respectful about not letting his past wife and past life interfere with their relationship. An ashes ring apart from sentimental and sweet, is not that weird.
I agree… as a 18 year old I would never give my loved one a ultimatum about his past loved ones ashes… he loved her so why can’t I love her too?? She can’t effect our relationship now I don’t see the issue
If I began dating a widower and I found out he had turned his partners ashes into a stone I would simply cry.. it's such a gorgeous way to honour someone.
She's allowed to feel uncomfortable about something but to gaslight him and make him feel crazy ?? As if no other woman would ever date him because of the ring??
that's the sweetest thing, i would personally ever get mad about it.
never*
The third story has me absolutely heart broken for Gigi! I can’t imagine how many insecurities that would have brought up/ created and feeling your trust just shatter. I’m glad she’s moving on to better her life. Just wow
My ex and I broke up a couple months ago, and basically he told me the same thing that guy did in the story about not liking his partner for 2 years. He used me to fill that void. We were only together for 6 months, and I was crushed! I can’t imagine 6 YEARS. My god. The indifference from them is one of the worst feelings ever.
Time Stamps:
1:58 - First Story
29:50 - Second Story
49:43 Butcher Box Sponsorship
52:08 Third Story
1:08:24 Fourth Story
Also, lmao tell Justin I'm also in the "cooking chicken scares me" club 🤣 I need to get one of those thermometers
Thank uuu
IM SCARED TO COOK CHICKEN TOO!!! I didn’t think other people were also scared to cook chicken 😭 the most I do is chicken noodle soup in the crockpot but I have bleach and clean towels for as soon I’m done so I can clean everything
IM ALSO TERRIFIED OF COOKING CHICKEN
I'm always really paranoid when cooking chicken too.
@@mmg8830 kkkkkkkkkkkm
The audacity in the first story to uninvite to the party the girl who is actually planning the party!
But honestly it sounds like she wasn’t telling him all the plans like she was probably going to put all those extras together as a surprise honestly I think that for the trip situation she is the butt hole but in general he’s a butt hole in the relationship
@@peperuby101 she's the asshole for preparing surprises for his birthday??? Isn't that what millions of people do???
@@peperuby101 true, the asshole part of it was when she told him what she had booked, but will now cancel since she’s not apart of his plans.
@@xobrook I think she also told him because she wasn’t getting full refund for it and that upset her
@@faceofvision no I’m saying she’s the ass hole for how she handled it by cancelling them and then telling him when she could have kept it to herself that she even did it I think it’s lovely that she cares and wants to plan surprises I just think I’m that instance she did some unnecessary petty things
My husband and I knew each other during undergrad - and I HATED him. Several years later, we reconnected at a wedding of people we both cared deeply about, and had a shocking amount of chemistry. He had no idea about my undergrad perception of him, but it was a conversation and then a running joke. We both had to mature. We took the relationship super slow for a while, learning our communication styles, etc. So it IS possible to grow from hate to love. But it takes time and a lot of honesty. None of that happened here. So many lies..
This story is great! I think what makes the Reddit story worse is that they were in a relationship when he felt this way. I can’t imagine getting over that
Congratulations on your engagement!
I want to hear more about that story, sounds interesting
@@audreyyosborne absolutely agreed! I can see saying early on, if you're hesitant about how you feel, taking this slowly - but not outright hating your partner. That's gross.
@@ludmilamaiolini6811 :-) sure! It took 4 months to admit we were dating as we 'tested the waters'... 5 after that for the 'first I love you' (me to him). And I moved in 3 months later! Once we figured out it was more than wedding chemistry, I was all in!
As college kids, he was a very strong personality and had tunnel vision. He had a pretty sheltered upbringing, which made it worse. It was slamming my head against a brick wall. When I remet him, he was super conscientious - and I realized that was the real him. But he had to have life knock some real world into him.
Whereas I had to be a bit more thick-skinned! I was super sensitive to feedback, and his directness offended my young adult/late teen fee-fees. He unknowingly hit every overbearing warning button I had - and we co-led a cpllege club at the time!
As adults, we both grew - just a little bit - in a direction that made us super compatible. But did take us a while to be sure.. In addition to honest communication.
What I take from this episode is: punishing and giving ultimatums to your partner is not healthy. Sure, in the heat of the moment we all can say things we regret, but this type of action is not conflict resolution, it just partially ends the conflict. I totally agree with what you guys said: if you do those things and it goes south, it's very hard to come back to a healthy relationship. And if couple's therapy is your last resort, as in, the last thing keeping a relationship together, then it is not working. Love this episode, it was very mature!
For the cross contamination one, between him not taking it seriously and his mom's reaction, it makes it sound like he's brushing it off because that's how it was in his house his whole life. I think he learned these bad habits from his mom and she's been unintentionally (I hope) poisoning her family his whole life. So when girlfriend challenges his kitchen cleanliness, she's unconsciously challenging how he was raised.
I’m sorry but no.
Firstly, telling people to “communicate” when people have been expressing their issues repeatedly, in multiple ways, is so dismissive. You can only communicate but so much, it is on the other person to actually listen. So if cross-contamination gremlin doesn’t listen, she can’t do anything.
Secondly, the “big events”? OP was going to miss quite a few of them because his nasty ass was eventually going to make her ill, if not kill her. So she was really going to miss things then.
FACTS she just needs to leave him because he sounds very childish
Also, a dinner over a new job isn't a big life event
Wife's ashes: it's not about the girlfriend. She's making this man feel guilty for still mourning the woman he was married to, who was also tragically taken away.
I also typed that while listening to the story before the second update. I'm glad she apologized. I hope she has come around to actually be fully accepting.
With the food poisoning story... I think she had to take more drastic measures in order to prove her point. I also think she could’ve waited for another time to do so however. But food poisoning is serious. It’s DEADLY. What if they start a family, and he puts the children at risk? He has to learn, it’s like playing Russian roulette with your life.
(I’m a foodservice manager btw)
I was thinking that while hearing the story, people can die from food poisoning, is he trying to kill her?
I don't know how people find the girl who didn't wanna get a food borne illness from her boyfriend to be qn asshole. Maybe she shouldn't have pretended to be sick, but her boyfriend could have gotten her severely ill and I feel like that trumps it
I think she got super lucky that she missed the event. Because she would have gotten sick from the family’s nasty cooking
I agree
My friend's pup passed away a few years ago and made necklaces out of her ashes and gave one to my daughter. My daughter grew up with this dog and was my daughter's best friend. The necklace is on a gold chain, and the ashes are in a small gold shaped puppy paw. She never takes it off. It's beautiful.
The food cross contamination one. It makes me think the mom or dad never taught him how, that’s why.
They 100% taught him and do the same.
I also thought that...but more importantly theres something he got from his parents: stubbornness...or at least the immature behavior to accept someone else's truth
So that story about the cremains pressed into a gem stone breaks my heart. I would fall deeper in love with someone if they honored their deceased wife and STILL carried it on travels. Heck, I'd even be okay if my husband proposed to me with that ring. Honoring both of the important life partners in a beautiful way.
As someone who lost their husband and kept his ashes… helllllll no to the proposal part. I don’t think that’s honoring the deceased person or the new person. That’s something you keep for you, and your new relationship has nothing to do with that.
@@momedusa I don’t think Jordan was implying that it is expected, or that she/they wants that, but that if it was sentimental to her/their partner, they would be honored. It’s more about respect for whatever the parent who lost someone wants to do.
if you dont want to do that, that’s more than fair, however i dont think that she was saying that she WANTED that; more that if the person who had lost their previous partner wished to do so, it would be beautiful. and whoever had experienced that loss does have the right to remember and respect their partners remains in the way they wish.
SAME it’s so incredibly sweet. It absolutely would not make someone be too grossed out to love him. A lot of people would love that
Omg that’s the sweetest idea. Now that you mention it, I think I’d feel the exact same way
It was actually super common around the victorian era to have mourning jewelry, like hair in a locket. Edit: my grandma, dad and uncles have necklaces with my grandpa's fingerprint on it
I have my dads fingerprint on a necklace and if someone ever had an issue with it they would have to be out of my life. It is such an important thing to me and makes me feel close to him
When she starts hugging the dog and he’s like *big pause* “very cute” 😂😂😂
Cant wait to start my morning shift with this one
I listen to this podcast every morning on my drive to work it’s the best
Haha I just started my shift with this in my ear
Same
I think the ring story was a big jealousy situation. I know you guys went over a story in the past where a girl threw away her partner’s deceased wives photo that were like irreplaceable. I think it’s such a beautiful way to honor his past wife and honestly this girl sounds insecure. Like what if her mom passed away and she had her ashes in the house? No sane person would be like “I will NOT be with you unless you get rid of those ashes!!” It’s a small stone and people have different ways to honor past love ones. I think it’s very telling of her on how she was so quick to cut off the relationship over something like this as well.
i agree, it’s so extremely selfish and very telling.. that’s definitely a deal breaker. if anything it just proves he’s a good guy that he kept apart of someone he loved so very much.. her acting out in that way is just too much especially with the ultimatum.
I actually do think she was uneducated, scared of death, and just didn't handle it well. With the way she did come around and really apologized, I think insecurity wasn't the main factor. I mean, I had a boyfriend in high school whose mom died a few years before. He kept a lock of her hair in a little black jar (not see thru) on a necklace. 14 year old me had NEVER heard of that and it creeped me out (I never said anything to him). I obviously now know that's a fairly normal thing. Sometimes it is just naivete.
@@RealToWonder she is an adult. Memorial keepsakes go back millenia. Modern America has an extremely unhealthy relationship with death. If he had continued with that relationship she would never let it go. It is her problem not his.
@@iciajay6891 she knows it’s her problem, that’s why she decided to go to therapy to deal with her issues around death and loss
Imagine if you TRULY believed that a significant other was doing something that's the equivalent to wearing a deceased wife's finger- her ACTUAL finger- as a necklace? Lmao i know that sounds absurd, but when a person has ignorance and their own imagination on a subject, oh man can it go there.
So really imagine this being the case and relate it to her reaction: "This is creepy and weird" is something i would say to an actual finger. "No girl would be okay with this"- yeah, that sounds reasonable.
In terms of the ultimatum- i find that method to be abhorrent in 99% of arguments; an ultimatum happens when compromise is not possible. For some of you "can i leave it in the drawer" when 'it' is a rotting finger may not be possible.
I can understand you calling it 'jealousy' and 'not being sane' when we had only the context of the original post. Hell, even in the guy's first edit he brought up that she's never experienced death, and most of us didn't give that statement ANY value-- when in actuality, that single line had the most value to understand why she reacted that way.
Based on exactly what she said in that letter, I wholeheartedly believe that she's telling the truth and being authentic. Fair enough if you don't think so- that explains why you commented this. But if you do also find her note to be genuine, then how can you also say it's based on jealousy? What do you mean her reaction is very telling?
Anyone would be disrespectful towards something that's freaking them out- "I'll keep the rotting, decease finger in a safety deposit box" wouldn't make you leave?
I'm asking these questions because I'm genuinely surprised by how similar other comments are to this one. I conclude that her reaction was right for the wrong reasons- and I'm relieved she got perspective and accepted the alternative the issue by the end of it.
As someone who experienced an ex suddenly dying while in another relationship, I don’t think people will truly fully understand the weight of the feelings until they experience something like that. Love is infinite, and you can miss your past partner that’s no longer here without it affecting your current relationship!!
With the very last one, the fact M went out of her way to print a wedding photo for him and framed it for him and hang the chain on it, just to mend her wrongs, made me cry. Like her original response was horrible but going that far to say I'm sorry is really sweet. I hope she continues to be accepting and open minded.
the last update on the last story has me sobbing
she handled it terribly at first but she got there
A butcher box promo after that 2nd story is pretty funny!
Lmao
The tiktok you mentioned reminded me of the time my HS choir took a trip to New York. One of my friends decided to dump his grandfather's ashes into the water when we were on a boat going to the Statue of Liberty and other things. Some of the ashes got blown into the wind and ended up being blown onto one of the other girls in the choir. The situation was mortifying and apparently people just tried to brush it off saying "oh, it's just some pollution." I'm not sure if she believed it or not, but that was wild
Absolutely not to the first story. He for sure wanted a bachelor's weekend with the boys in Puerto Rico, and more over his insistence on going to pr specifically is really sus with out explanation. OP doesn't sound like a shining beacon of healthy relationship and innocence but God damn do they need to break up
The man made a keepsake stone to respectfully remember his late wife. Its such a beautiful thought. The new gf of a year gave an ultimatum showing her jealous & controlling colors. She claimed she was freaked out until realizing how commonly this was done. The framed photo & chain was a sweet thought.
My partner has his parent’s ashes on a shelf in our room & a photo of them. My dad has his late dog’s ashes & a paw print.
The emotional maturity and just maturity in general that y’all display and have in your relationship is SOOOO refreshing!! Very inspiring & gives me hope!!
I discovered this channel/podcast a few days ago and have listened to so many already! I love when the two of you, especially, are on. You make me think that yes, some of The Straights might actually be okay. 😂
I haven’t laughed so hard in a while. So glad you found us!!
also when they all thought she was sick and stayed home his mother said she should have just taken some pepto bismol.... and sucked it up but when "contaminated home slice" over here is calling out on his first day..... so ..... ya totally adds up for sure
Not the butcher box ad read after the cross contamination story 😂 Didn’t stop me from placing an order, but I got a good laugh.
Hahaha
Tip for raw egg consumption aside from the obvious "Get from a good source" advice: Salmonella will be present(if it is) on the shell, wash the egg right before you crack it and the risk is diminished even further. This is what people I know do for their oyakodon and ramen that they learned from their families.
For the first story, I'm sorry, but no one gets to dictate how you spend your money on them just because they were born on a day.
The kitchen boy is absolutely disgusting and even if he “changed” his behavior he still GTG.
After almost 5 years together and being married my ex husband told me he only was with me so he wouldn’t die alone. He treated me like crap. He was an addict, frequently jobless, and verbally abusive to me. He tore me down to make me feel small like how he felt, directionless an purposeless in his life.
I hope you are in a better place in your life now!
Makes me wonder if all those puppies he bought for her were apology puppies for his cheating & all.
Hey Morgan, just wanted to say thank you! I didn't know you could create a diamond made of hair! only ashes! Beginning of this year I lost my baby girl, my cat Penny... It was the worst time of my life, she was my soul mate! I always wanted to make her into a diamond when she would pass away. But that day, the city people took her away, I didn't have a right to keep her and cremate her on my own, and they refused to give me her ashes, saying they'd be mixed up with other kitties.... This crushed me more than I can say... so I parted ways with her, feeling like I'd lost her forever... Today, finding out that I can make the diamond out of hair, I have a chance of making it, since I might have some of it left on her stuff, and having a part of her with me at all times! So Thank you once more! Thank you so much! ❤️
Regarding the jewelry with ashes, I think it's lovely and I would be fine with it. She could have problems with death etc. My son is into tattoos so I already know he plans to have my memorial tattoo include a tiny bit of my ashes.
I woke up with really bad anxiety this morning but this has given me something to get me through the day! Love this pod soo much! 💗
Same!!! Love Morgan and Justin so much
Same getting me through my homework
Hey Morgan! Avid listeners of the podcast here, my boyfriend and I listen to all of the full episodes and enjoy discussing our points of view whilst listening to your guys’ too. Something we’ve realised might help us stay more engaged would be if you could put timestamps for the start of each story in the description box so we can skip ahead if we feel we’ve already covered everything and are agreeing with y’all points of view too! Look forward to the next episode and seeing what other things y’all cover! P.s. please name the support dog Barry!! 🤣
I'm very lucky that my boyfriend is very understanding of the items I have of my relatives that have passed on. Most of which are clothing that I regularly wear cause it makes me feel close to them. I asked him to do my laundry recently and he started a mini fire in the dryer and he went in and double checked that he didn't ruin my grandma shirt (my shirt that was from my grandma) cause that is one of my most prized possessions. Partners who understand are amazing
I have my dead dad’s clothes too, clothes are very different to anything involving ashes. I have my dead grandmothers and great grandmothers jewelry and rings i wear all the time.
She was completely fine with his wives rings and belongings just not the ashes.
I agree belongings are nowhere close to ashes even though i think things from ashes are extremely sweet. We keep half of my dads ashes in our front yard under a tree.
Story two is why my mother always said you don’t eat everyone’s food.
Yep never trust potlucks 😂😂
1:02:15 “oh wow…….. very cute” WHOLESOME AF
whether she was right or wrong (about the cross contamination homeboy story) he doesn't care enough to even listen to something that she cares about or that she feels some type of way about .... and I'm going to put my bet on this very much is not an isolated thing.......
if you are with someone ..... how they feel about something ....even if you don't feel that way should be something you are willing to communicate about.... because it is affecting the person you "care" about ...... also ....just my opinion.... sounds like ....he gets it from his mama
I think an episode highlighting past posts with new updates you’ve found would be awesome! Probably time consuming to look things up but man it would be nice to hear some resolutions to some of the posts that didn’t have one at the time.
Wtf does he mean, “it’s not like it’s raw chicken” you can get worms in your brain from undercooked pork. Let alone completely raw pork. Jfc, he’s going to get/give someone neurocysticerosis, or something
Uncooked pork is almost nastier IMO. Those fuckin worms crawling around in there is nasty af.
@@Puddspanker exactly, worms in the brain. I’d eat contaminated chicken before contaminated pork if I had to choose.
no
just no
That girl had a right to make a fucking point about her boyfriend trying to poison her. She expressed herself a lot from what she's said, and this seemed to be the final straw where she tried very very hard to make that point. She should've left him after the first three times he did it at MOST bc yikes. but 'communicate more'? she tried. he didn't. he was petty and a baby about it, resorting to leaving the situation after she'd tried to bring it up to him. Maybe she was being petty too, but at least she wasnt ENDANGERING HIM.
honestly she just should've broke up with him
Me, at the beginning of the food poisoning story: you are the asshole!
Me, after hearing that the story involved RAW PORK meat: nah, not the asshole.
the way justin stopped to look at morgan for a sec before going "so cute" omg 🥺
You know I used to get frustrating when watching this podcast because I found everyone was very light handed in certain takes and maybe a bit devils advocate-y. But now after reading other Reddit channels without the creators input, all I see are the Reddit comments. And it’s exhausting. I find myself coming here a lot more because it’s honestly a breath of fresh air to have nice REAL people talking about these subjects. It’s a nice break from the lack of nuance and hostility of Reddit. You guys are the kind of people who are really important to society because you have compassion and perspective even when you feel strongly about things. Didn’t realise it at first but now I really appreciate it ❤
51:50 - quick but important PSA: service dogs aren’t the same as emotional support dogs. Service dogs are tasked trained to support their owner and have public access, ESA do not require training and do not have public access rights (and as I am writing this I believe they are no longer allowed on planes either as there was a recent update to the ADA). Ik confusion on this topic is really common, but it unfortunately leads to barriers for disabled service dog users trying to access public spaces. Please search ADA service dog laws for more info, thanks!
Edit: i was only listening to the audio and didn’t realize it was a stuffed animal dog lol, hopefully this info was still useful though
I haven’t finished the episode yet so I don’t know the context but as a service dog handler thank you for distinguishing the two. This made me so happy so many people don’t understand the difference and it causes issues for us in terms of access!
They have talked about this topic in many different episodes, I guess they didn't mean any harm with the joke. But it is great to see people talking about it and educating others like you!
For the ash story: My mom lost my step dad four years ago, she has a heart pendent that has his ashes in it, his mom has one too. She wears it every day alongside his ring. They were together for twelve years. I would hope that her next partner respects her, and my step dad. And I think my mom would be offended if her future partner said "the ashes need to go". Maybe put the ring in a shadow box, but to completely remove the ashes and ring? disrespectful.
I’ve had real deal food poisoning from raw fish & almost died from dehydration. It is absolutely something to be taken seriously & avoided.
In the first story they might have had to go to Puerto Rico because of the friend who was being released from prison. US citizens don't need a passport to go there and additionally there are many countries that have laws about convicted felons coming in (Canada for example) but Puerto Rico is essentially part of the US in a sense.
One thing about ashes that I've heard of and think I want to do is to plant them at the same time as a tree (or something like that) so that when the tree grows the ashes are a part of the tree. I think it would be so beautiful and bring a loved one back to life in a sense the only problem, of course, is it wouldn't be very portable.
Am I the only one obsessed with Morgan’s voice? It’s so calming to listen to
You aren’t the only one lol
I don’t understand how people can be jealous of someone who is DEAD
Puppy should be called Sigmund Freud as another therapy advocate (hes also listening while y'all are "lying" in the comfy chairs) lol
I always get excited when I see your video pop up
I have to say I think the third story is almost the most devastating…. To me at least, because it’s so uncalled for and unexpected.
I only wonder what kind of first two years she experienced with him!!! Was he faking it that hard or were there red flags? Disgusting. 6 years???? My worst fear
Perfect timing! I needed something while I work through my laundry mountain 😬
homeboy's face at 1:20:55 when she said "is this what menopause feels like" 🤣
when she mentions three dogs are a lot and im just over here looking at my six dogs like welp haha
wow didn't realize this video was over an hour and a half. It's my routine to play a podcast that is around an hour and do my workout. Was wondering why I was feeling like I was getting winded towards the end but checked back to see the video was so long. You guys are awesome and the time flows when I listen to your podcasts. Loads of love!!
Your menopause comment made me giggle. I started super early at 38, be careful with what you ask for lol. Hot flashes feel like a fever breaking. It makes me dizzy and I have to sit down.
When my sister passed we made jewelry for her kids. Her husband didn't get anything. I think it is so special for people to have that little bit of their loved one. I am so glad she came around to see the intention behind his actions.
The ring thing would not be a deal breaker for me. I think that’s very kind and beautiful thing for him to do. I’d be happy to be loved by a man who loved so deeply before. You know he will be a good one🖤
Ok, this is a pretty old video so I'll take it upon myself to drop timestamps.
2:43- 6:10 Story 1: Cancelling SO's Plans
6:11- 29:14 Discussions, Updates, and Replies.
29:58 - 33:08 Story 2: The Cross Contamination Boyfriend
33:09 - 48:39 Discussions, Updates, and Replies.
thanks a lot 😍 u r my angel
Thank you so much 🥺🥺🥺
I love Justin’s obsession with cross contamination and chicken, makes me feel like I’m not alone or crazy.
I worked in a meat market and chicken was the one meat I couldn’t stand handling, even with gloves on. My hands stayed raw from washing them so much 😅
Justin is so wholesome
I had a roommate in college that used to leave raw meat straight on the counter to "acclimate" for literal hours. Not frozen. No wrapping. No plate. Raw meat straight on the counter. I had a cat and he clearly can't be near that. He got sick really badly once because of it. After multiple convos with her to knock that shit off, it finally stopped after I put her raw chicken in her bed. I hated that weirdo so much.
So happy to wake up to this
The food poisoning one, I think his habits come from home and his mum has been telling him his gf is irrational about this so he hasn't been taking it seriously. I will admit I'm not the best so I always do veg first then meat so I don't rush and forget to clean the knife/board it's not a difficult solution...
The last story... Omg I literally cried! What a beautiful, beautiful man.. 🥺♥️
The story you told about the Tik Tok with the ashes - I took it a complete different way! I find that dad’s last prank on the kids. They try do something nice, he takes over like “Ha! Try again” 🤣
Hahah such a good way to look at it.
He loves giving gifts, especially extravagant ones.
I struggle with gift-giving
Couples therapy was insurance for my marriage. A preventative measure. It does not stop bad thing from happening, or even always stop one of us from hurting the other - but it does give us the ability to speak and solve it
My boyfriend is a chef and his kitchen hygiene at home is so bad compared to what he does at work, he says he just doesn’t care at home but he makes everything so dirty & doesn’t bother cleaning it. It’s disgusting 🤢 & we fall out over it quite a bit sometimes
the turning ashes into a diamond isn't a thing where I live so I was very confused and weirded out at first but the more I thought about it the more I liked the idea of it!
this is my comfort channel. truley love this podcast and you guys. thank you for being my go to
Am I the only one who cries, throws up, rips my hair out, and slide down the wall EVERY TIME THEY LOOK AT EACH OTHER . Like 😭 the love in their eyes
I lost my dog a few years ago and was devastated. She was there for me for 13 years, the whole time I was sick, everything…I found a necklace that would hold some of the ashes…it is so comforting to me to have her close to me. One ex said it was weird and morbid which is fine for him, but he didn’t get it lol. It brings me so much peace having her with me sometimes.
Kinda makes me mad sometimes that there are never links to the stories lmao
the food borne illness story lowkey reminds me of years ago my Grandma was leaving a family party and decided to drive home drunk which my mom had argued with her about. The next morning my mom was on the phone with her and asked about a hit in run in the town my grandma lives in, my grandma panicked terrified she caused it to which my mom confessed to lying to scare my grandma into realizing what COULD happen if you aren’t safe it seems that’s what they were trying to do. My Grandma had gotten drives home after that now she hardly drinks at all at those parties
Will anyone talk about Justin’s reactions to Morgan’s comments about menopause? 😂
My mom and I started a little tradition where we have a tree in Colorado up in the mountains where my grandpas ashes are spread and now his dogs ashes are spread. She has a small urn and a necklace with her dad's ashes and my husband has a keepsake of the dogs ashes, since they became best buds after my grandpa's passing, and we kept back a little. When my mom passes I'll cremate her and make jewelry/keepsakes for whoever wants some and then spread her in the same place. That's what I want done as well.