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Video for Kids: Does OCD Give You Bad Thoughts? ( Understanding Scrupulosity OCD)
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- Опубліковано 19 сер 2024
- This video is not intended to replace medical advice. This is for information purposes only. This video is for informational purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a local mental health professional. Doubt is a big part of OCD. It makes you doubt you are clean. It makes you doubt you are safe. But imagine if the doubt OCD brings makes you doubt who you are and what you are capable of doing? Welcome to the world of Scrupulosity OCD, also called things like Moral OCD, Reliious OCD and even Bad Thought OCD.
What if I become a killer? What if I am a bad kid? What if I hurt someone? What if I hurt myself? What if I drink, smoke, do drugs, get tattoos?! What if I turn into the worst version of myself? Will I go to Hell? Will you leave me? Never speak to me again?
Scrupulosity OCD is one of the hardest OCD themes to cope with because it feels so real. Because it attacks the very essence of who the person is and who they want to become. The worst part about it - most parents and children don’t even know they have OCD.
This type of OCD hides in your thoughts and behaviors. You don’t wash - you confess. You don’t clean - you seek reassurance. You mentally check who you are against who OCD tells you who you’ll become. You pray - pray to God for the actions you think you’ve done and all the one’s OCD tells you that you’ll do. It is exhausting. Overwhelming. Confusing. Lonely.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. A huge part of helping kids with Scrupulosity OCD is teaching them what it is. When kids realize these are not their own thoughts, there is huge relief. When kids realize other people have these thoughts too - the guilt is lifted. When kids understand that only the nicest of kids get this type of OCD - there is comfort.
Let me help your child understand scrupulosity OCD. In my latest Ask the Child Therapist Kids Edition video I am taking on Moral OCD. I am letting kids know what it is and what it isn’t. I am giving them some hints on how to beat this beast and finally get some relief.
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For older kids and adults, the compulsion can be self-harm rather than confession. Thank you for discussing this very distressing condition.
Thank you for highlighting that. It is good for parents to know.
Your video spoke directly to my 10 yr old son to the point that he asked me, when watching this, if you made it just for him. Some of what you said is exactly what he has been experiencing over the past few months. He's been seeing a therapist, but the therapist has never mentioned anything about OCD. I appreciate this so much....he feels so much better after watching your videos. And we'll be looking on the website you provided for a specialist on OCD in our area.
I’m so glad my video can offer him some normalization and validation for what he is experiencing. That is so important, especially with Moral OCD.
I had this. I would confess to God all the time. It was so terrible. I read the book The Boy Who Couldn't Stop Washing (or something like that) and it went away.
Stop being mean to Yourself! OCD is NOT your fault. God and Jesus have so much compassion for your suffering! If you were a bad person these thoughts would NOT bother you. But your wonderful and loveable like all humans who struggle. Thanks Natasha for the great video! solid advice. I am pediatric nurse and appreciate these videos. DONT FORGET there are medications that your doctor can prescribe to help your brain BREAK OCD!
Medication alone does not help, which truly helps is therapy.
So helpful reading this! God bless you !
Praise the LORD for his 💕
You are a saviour!!! Not only kids but adults with OCD
My son is 7 and has developed Moral OCD in the last two months. It's been so hard hearing him confess over and over about his bad thoughts. He is the nicest, kindest kid and it's heartbreaking to hear how these intrusive thoughts are consuming him and making him question whether or not he's good. I'm so glad for resources like this that really help me to better understand what he is going through. We are beginning therapy now and this information is helpful. Thank you SO much for this video!
Glad you found it helpful! I also have a few podcasts on the topic for parents. Maybe that can help as well? www.anxioustoddlers.com/kids-with-moral-ocd/
AT Parenting Survival for All Ages I will definitely check them out. Thank you for all the great resources! ❤️
Happy to help!
Hope he is better now
Jen Lubbers this is exactly what I am going through at the moment also and my son is the same age. Hope we can get them through this. My son starts therapy on the 31st. I feel guilt when he confesses. Hope they can get through the other side with shining colours
Thank you SO MUCH!! This video helps me feel so much better because I’ve been having this one awful intrusive thought and it’s led me to think things like “what if I actually want to do this?” And “What if I’m a really bad person?” And I feel like being able to recognize it and accept it going to be a huge help. I’ll give an update on how I’m doing in a couple weeks!!!
Hi ,my daughter is 9 years old she is having intrusive thoughts and always comes to me saying she wants to confess, me and my daughter were having a real hard time coping with this until I came a cross with this video now it's been two days She is been fighting with her thoughts the way you instruct thank you very much for the video god bless you
Glad it was helpful!
I'm 45 and this is painfully familiar. My childhood was a semi pro nightmare. It's so hard not to lose friends and isolate coming from a christian background(now Agnostic/ Atheist). The shitty part is once you get rid of god, my OCD just picks up it's pace in another area. Multiple hospitalizations (voluntary) and constant background thoughts that are loud a great deal of the time. Therapy has helped, but comorbid conditions make it more complicated. I really appreciate this presentation. Very relatable. Most of my life has been an OCD vortex of horrendous thoughts and contemplations. What's worse is the desire to fix the messes I create. It generally just leads to a worse mess.
Thank you so much I was beginning to hate myself to think if I went away would things be better I have adhd and moral ocd together there freaking killing me inside now knowing that a lot of these thoughts I have are things trying to get me riled up I can use your technique and be like hey you are my thought cool instead of freaking out
❤❤❤ you are not alone.
As a teenager, you will have NO idea how much this helped me. i spent months confused about myself & my thoughts. thank you a million ❤
Thank you. This has made me feel very understood.
I like the video and understand what you are trying to do. But with the bad thoughts, it can help if you have someone you can trust and talk to them or "confess".
I couldn't relate more...thank you so much❤️
Ur videos are actually especially helping durin this quarantine time ❤️thank you!
Only just watching this now. I agree with you on most of what you say. However, i've come to believe that many people who have OCD also suffer from some form of PTSD. Which means that their OCD wouldn't be so strong if they wouldn't have the particular trauma they are going though, and to no acknowledge a trauma is also not a great idea. The OCD is only so powerful because the person in question is feeling so weak because of a trauma.
I’ve had the same issue ♥️ You’re not alone!
we liked the video, thank you for posting. :D
Glad you liked it.
My nearly 7 year old has started having intrusive thoughts and I am started him with a therapist at the end of the month. I have watched videos and read up on this but this video I must say has been the most helpful. I will try tomorrow to implement your advice. Thank you so much x
I am glad you find it helpful ❤️.
I have bad thoughts about God and jesus and I love God and Jesus with all my heart but I have ocd and I have very bad thoughts about jesus and I feel like I will go to hell I need help...idk what to do..
I too cry a lot beat myself cant study a word without getting dirty images about god..caught in a vicious cycle😢
@@adaintydream8759 find a therapist who deals with scrupolosity and ERP. You can beat this!
And, Jesus is not offended by your thoughts. He just loves you and wants you to get help for YOU.
@@noellegriggs2268 thanks dear for the advice🤗
ikr I'm always scared but god and Jesus are only good and there is hell there is no darkness there's no such thing as evil
random channel my ocd parents dirty thoughts make me bad
OCD made me think I sold my soul
Are u a Christian? Bc I am and I’m getting thoughts like that but if u are a Christian just tell God in a prayer the thought ur getting and ask him to help u .
Me too the devil tries to trick us into thinking we are unforgivable because he wants to paralyze us with fear but just know the truth which is God's Word because nothing can defeat The Word of God
I have OCD and i liked ur video and subscribed ur channel but trust me this wasn't OCD i really loved ur video !😃
This video is great i had my 8 year old watch this! Thank you so much
I wish my physciatrist did this kinda talking therapy with me but all he does is gives me medicines and send me home....thank you maam whoever u are 🧡
God bless your Heart and Soul that helped alot
Thank you so much for this video!! Thank you thank you thank you!!
I am 41 watching this, I noticed I have something very similar to this. I even confessed certain things about my Past to the CPN through the note I written. They are keeping a close eye on me now due to suicide attempt as I did refuse to eat for 4 days.
I noticed any accusations against you can fuel this problem too.
I kept asking the CPN and support workers "Am I a bad person", they both replied No.
I never confessed anything to my parents because I was not able to trust them due to their religious abuse on their behalf. They support workers do believe my parents were very evil for threatening me and siblings with certain things which I grew up believing in.
Please please please make more videos about moral OCD.
This video was so helpful, thank you very much!!!
Thank You ❤
I get thoughts like “If you don’t do _______ (insert a threat about me or my family)” I also constantly get thoughts like “if I’m not SUPER nice to everyone, they will hate me.” And even though I’m really nice people still hate me. I am also constantly looking back at myself and I just hate myself for it. I didn’t think I had OCD because I’m very unorganized. But while watching this video I have seen many similarities. However, I don’t talk to people about it much because I think that they will hate me for talking. And I am afraid to open up about thoughts because I think they will think I am a bad person.
Are u a Christian ?
Thank you so much for these great videos thank you!
Thank you for doing what you do. You are a blessing! Can you speak about the spectrum of OCD symptoms and whether it’s possible to have symptoms that aren’t severe enough for an OCD diagnosis?
Thank you so much for these Videos, they help understand the issue better. our 5yr old son started having bad intrusive thought OCD from a week and we cant see him suffer.
How is your son now
Amazing video!
Natasha! I’m so happy I found you. Do you have any books you recommend for kids with this. My nine-year-old daughter is struggling so bad with intrusive thoughts. And the central theme is definitely about her being bad
god i wish somebody would have showed me this before i spent thousands of dollars on obsessions as a kid, cried myself to sleep praying, and became a raging alcoholic at 17!
I’m thinking of getting diagnosed, because of all the misconceptions I have always played down my obsessiveness with my self and how I treat others and caring about having family and all stuff. And it’s scaring me how all this stuff is making sense, I hope it’ll help
Thank you
Thank you!!! My son has been suffering with this for years! Anyone you would reccomend in South Africa - Eastern Cape?
Merci!
Thank you Very Thankful
I feel like whenever I'm wearing a dress being a girl, I feel like I'm trying to show my chest or pushing extra focus on my chest and as if I'm feeling the actual Beauty is my chest. I never ever had this kind of feelings. It's so disturbing. I feel like I'm trying to distract boys through showing my chest. I don't know how long I'm going to take it. It's been like 1 year
Love this video! Would you ever be interested in doing on on ROCD for teens?
When i say its not my thought another thought comes in . But u see heres the thing im christian so i know god knows all my thoughts so i dont wanna offend him
He also knows what OCD is and how it impacts thoughts. Sending you a virtual hug. I hope these videos helps you in some way. I would seek out a therapist who specializes in OCD.
AT Parenting Survival for All Ages thankyou, i appreciate your effort to respond , but i dont know if there useful no offense
No worries.
im christian too and im having blasphemous thoughts and i dont want it! i told my mom she did NOTHING baout it
Great video. I am 69. Wis I had it at 13.
Its all the time.
The reason I try to solve that ocd and find a sense of releif instead of knowing that it is a intrusive thought and play video games, is because I want to enjoy playing the game and not have it in the back of my head, so what do I do?
Practice. It takes a ton of practice.
If you had abusive and religious parents, can things like confessional be the affirming action?
Guys please always remember that no one can separate us from the Love of GOD I did overcome this because I always remember that no one can separate us from the Love of GOD which is in CHRIST JESUS our LORD
For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,
Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Romans 8:38-39
Im having blasphemous thoughts, and i cant control it bc my Moral OCD is doing it and my mom wont understand me :( im scared i will go to hell or that im offending God or that i lost Jesus’s respect and that he will reject me on Judment day. I love him so much and the thoughts WONT GO AWAY! I wanna die but at the same time I dont bc I fear I will go to Hell :( please help
froggyna me too girl :( I’m really young and I have blasphemous thoughts..I’m so sorry that this is happening to you as well
@@elysian8823 pls watch Joseph prince videos it has changed my perspective about god
Is it normal to have almost all the topics in ocd? I seem to have many themes, not really at once, but it shifts, but, recently I have been thinking like, why I have this, can this come out of emotional neglect? Bad experiences in life with people, without having much emotional support? My family members, always made me doubt, let me feel like if I was less smart, making fun, sarcasm on the negative way, I never really had someone to talk to, so I wonder if bottling up emotions is the base of ocd? because when you don't have a person to talk too, you start to live more in your head no? I need to know why we get ocd, in my case, I notice I can be totally without ocd, when I don't experience stress, but when there is stress, like too much to handle it comes back! but thank you so much already for your videos! they have helped me alot! I feel 95% Recovered, especially seeing your videos for 2-3 weeks, It really gave me a big push forward! still 5 % To go, but theres still stress going on like, divorce of my parents and moving out, and work lol! I keep my head up high! Because I know I can do it! I will be so happy when it stops completely! oh! I also noticed, when you don't sleep well, it's harder to control the mental compulsions too!
Do you perhaps know a way to stop counting with a mental compulsion? For some reason, when I look at something, or do something like combing my hair, washing dishes, my head starts counting xD I don't know how to stop it haha! sometimes it gives anxiety too!
It is very common for people to have many different variations of OCD themes. OCD also loves to morph, so it is typical for it to change all the time. When we are stressed, tired or sick OCD can get stronger. OCD is also very cyclical so you might have good periods and bad periods. OCD has a strong genetic component, so often the “why” is in the genes and not in the situation. If you are genetic predisposed to OCD, environmental stressors can trigger it to develop. I hope that helps a bit. I am glad I can offer you virtual support through my videos.
AT Parenting Survival for All Ages hmm it is interesting though! because no one in the family seems to have had this? only depression? but I do know, that my family, dad, mother, often had worry, like, worrying about many things, financial, but also personal, doubt, maybe it is that? because I also tend to doubt alot haha! Never thought I would have this! I remember watching a documentary uj school about ocd xD and it was only a few years after I began to experience it, maybe triggered by a heavy loss, but I remember thinking like, omg, if I have never watched that documentary, I would have had it now! Like, a seed that seemed planted or something haha! In school while watching, I clearly remember thinking, how bad it was for the people who have it, and that I was lucky to not have anything of it xD
Sometimes when there is Depression or Bipolar in the family history the offspring can have anxiety or OCD. It doesn’t have to be a direct OCD connection per se. I think many people look for what triggered their OCD and will often link it to an incident or event that happened. I tell people that the event didn’t cause the OCD, it might have just triggered the OCD to develop. If it wasn’t that event it would have been another event/situation.
What about moral thoughts or actions of not following the rules / laws 100% effectively ? Are rules and laws black and white and I’m a bad person for not abiding perfectly ?
I try to avoid going to work and sleeping because those two things make me scared of hurting my boyfriend. I can’t sleep because when I dream for some reason I dream of cheating. I wake up in cold sweat and I text him at 4:00 in the morning about what I had just witnessed. I can’t go to work because I’m scared a coworker will flirt with me and that I might “allow it”. I try to find jobs where there’s mostly women working so the problem won’t exist anymore. I try to not sleep because I’m scared of my dreams. I haven’t slept well in weeks. I’ve had ocd for years about myself and people, and now that I’m in a new relationship it’s gotten so much worse.
I have had moral OCD my entire life and never knew until a few months ago and I have always had guilt in the workplace because I work with men. I stopped wearing makeup and I tried to find jobs without men. I would have dreams too. I learned that if I truly was that person who could do that, it wouldn't bother me so badly when the thought arises.
My mind will tell me “I really don’t want to dedicate my life to God” or it will blaspheme God or something evil and my emotions will match it and I am almost convinced it’s real but I want God
I have thoughts Like this in my head too
My 5 year old daughter calls OCD the little girl in her head. She is really struggling with saying sorry over and over for things that don't need an apology same thing with worrying she is going to hurt me or her mom. Any videos addressing these issues?
The problem I'm having is just the fact that I'm dealing with moral OCD with feelings... I keep having my intrusive thoughts mixing in with my FEELINGS and stuff... and I just need help. COMMENT PLS ON HOW TO DEAL WITH THIS.
What if the obsessive thought comes in when another emotion is evoked and OCD is trying to distract the child from the initial emotion? Would you suggest the child think, "why is my moral OCD giving me this thought NOW?" Is this kind of obsessions evoked to get away from other emotions something you see much and/or could talk about?
OCD will often show up when kids are tired, run down or stressed. It could be showing up when they are already stressed. It typically isn’t a distraction to avoid something else - as it is such a stressor in and of itself.
Pls pls pls pls tell me whether we can self diagnose this or not ?
Bad dreams please
Omg this just shocked me. I have scrupolosity (RELIGIOUS OCD)
Also i have ritualistic behavior like if i have a balsphemous thoughts like "god is holy and great and good"
keren avila this is me :( i have blasphemous thoughts and I HATE IT! i cant control it please i need help
Just pray I also had this thoughts and I’m still getting them but not bad as I use to if u are a Christian just tell God what u are going threw and ask him to fight the battle for u and read ur bible listen to worship music and pray . Cry out to him and ask for forgiveness and he will here u .sometimes I think I’m going to hell bc i have bad bad thoughts but satén only wants u to have those thought and think those are urs but they are not .
froggyna are they away ?
Ana Perez no they have gotten worse unfortunately.