I'll be honest. I don't want to go home because I don't want to see the struggles and poverty. It only reminds me that I cannot fail. Seeing the stagnation live nje is too much. Listening to people list their woes and worries. I don't have a solution for you 🤷🏽♀️. And it's going to eat me that I'm not at a point where I can offer you a solution. But another thing, am I always going to be expected to be the solution?
This is so relatable, every single thing you said is definitely me and I feel so guilty for never feeling homesick. I only go home in December because I have younger siblings that I don't want to traumatise. I hope you have a great December regardless ❤
lol this is so relatable. Same in all my years of uni, I only went home when they forced us out of res during recess. Other than that, I never went. I was always part of the first people to come back 😂
The cost of being the responsible and dependant one also means for me I couldn't share any of my struggles. Leaving the other siblings to do whatever they wanted without feeling the pressure. Now I go home for my son and my mom cause she's getting on in years. I am also the firstborn it gets too much and the black tax yhoo ha.a. Now I am alternating December to go home cause I like my place and me and my son can just be chill.
I have so much to say, but just come to a time where you live freely without being a fixer. It doesn't mean you irresponsible but everyone must play a role. Start by involving all your parents and siblings to all have a role to play. Responsibility is a big problem in life. I don't think its fair for other people to be care free while others are carrying a whole truck load of Responsibility. Responsibility has a potential of consuming people to a point where they cannot save themselves anymore.
I never get home sick. I go home three times a year. A weekend before the semester starts because I would be working since early Jan. Then when both semesters end🤷🏽♀️.
Hi Zen Thank you so much for this talk. I thought I was the only one being the problem solver at home. I also don't like to see people suffer. I was a raised by a single parent, it was not hey but she made sure we don't sleep hungry and we have proper school uniform.
Your content is so relateable. I hope you get to a point where you can prioritize yourself more and create a safe space to just BE. Just exist happliy and BE nje, without the attached responsibilities etc. You doing great nonetheless, wishing you all the best ☺
I'll be honest.
I don't want to go home because I don't want to see the struggles and poverty. It only reminds me that I cannot fail. Seeing the stagnation live nje is too much.
Listening to people list their woes and worries. I don't have a solution for you 🤷🏽♀️. And it's going to eat me that I'm not at a point where I can offer you a solution. But another thing, am I always going to be expected to be the solution?
When I said, I am the hope!😂
How can you complain when you are the one they are looking up to😂
It's just emotionally draining especially when you know you're their last hope, the pressure😩
@@AphiweNjilo When you are the hope sana, you just have to go through it.
You not alone.
Thank you so much for watching ❤️
This is so relatable, every single thing you said is definitely me and I feel so guilty for never feeling homesick. I only go home in December because I have younger siblings that I don't want to traumatise. I hope you have a great December regardless ❤
Thank you for watching, and I hope you enjoy your December too❤️
lol this is so relatable. Same in all my years of uni, I only went home when they forced us out of res during recess. Other than that, I never went. I was always part of the first people to come back 😂
@@MamokgolwaneMoloi ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for watching.
...and that's okay, completely understandable I'm also like that, home is not my "safe space"
Thank you so much for watching ❤️
The cost of being the responsible and dependant one also means for me I couldn't share any of my struggles. Leaving the other siblings to do whatever they wanted without feeling the pressure. Now I go home for my son and my mom cause she's getting on in years. I am also the firstborn it gets too much and the black tax yhoo ha.a. Now I am alternating December to go home cause I like my place and me and my son can just be chill.
Totally understandable, being a first born sometimes mean you give up being a child at a very young age.
All the best!❤️
😢the downside ofbeing the "responsible" child
Yep!😂
Thank you for watching ❤️
I have so much to say, but just come to a time where you live freely without being a fixer. It doesn't mean you irresponsible but everyone must play a role. Start by involving all your parents and siblings to all have a role to play. Responsibility is a big problem in life. I don't think its fair for other people to be care free while others are carrying a whole truck load of Responsibility. Responsibility has a potential of consuming people to a point where they cannot save themselves anymore.
Working on it.
Thank you so much for watching ❤️
I never get home sick. I go home three times a year. A weekend before the semester starts because I would be working since early Jan. Then when both semesters end🤷🏽♀️.
When I was still a student, I used to go home twice. June and December, and after 3-5 days, I was always ready to bounce.
Hi Zen
Thank you so much for this talk. I thought I was the only one being the problem solver at home. I also don't like to see people suffer. I was a raised by a single parent, it was not hey but she made sure we don't sleep hungry and we have proper school uniform.
@@khensanimaboya1992 thank you for watching, and you are welcome ❤️
@@Zen_Ande 🙏🙏🙏
You and I same, people judge Sana but I don't care.
I go home after 1year
❤️❤️❤️
Your content is so relateable. I hope you get to a point where you can prioritize yourself more and create a safe space to just BE. Just exist happliy and BE nje, without the attached responsibilities etc. You doing great nonetheless, wishing you all the best ☺
Thank you, and thank you so much for watching ❤️
New subbie! So relatable ❤
Thank you for watching ❤️
You not alone sis ...my baby sister actually shared this video with me. And it hit home 🙏🏽
❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for watching ❤️
You’re relatable
Thank you for watching ❤️
Pple r different so its not weird. I live thousands of miles away from home. On another continent actually but I'm always flying home. 3 times a year
❤❤❤❤
I’ve found my people🥺
Welcome ❤️
Thank you for watching ❤️
I was fixing things at home with the money I had saved off my bursary allowance when I was a student. The things I did with my internship stipend??
Things we do!😂❤️
Well done, and thank you for watching ❤️
Is that black rule coz that was my gran's rule😂😂
Black mothers were in their bag when they came up with that rule.
It literally saved my life 😂
Me too🤣🤣🤣 but to a certain degree I feel like it made me thee most anti-social being, coz I can survive alone.
You know what, I get it😂
It's not a black rule, rather than is a safe life rule ❤