Her mother has absolutely passed her own body issues and prejudices onto her daughters. It's such a shame that she's so mortified by something she has no control over. Also...who goes around pulling down a strapless dress at a wedding? Where has this all-consuming fear that the mum has, come from? I've never seen that happen...
Well...there are some really unruly and entitled bullies of "men" in rural and southern areas. Some are very gentlemanly. Some are outright dangerous...and there's less of a culture of telling them to stop.
That mother's jealously is oozing out of her by saying negative comments to her daughter. So sad to see the bride covering her chest with both arms because of her mothers comments.
not only that but she says it's because of the armpit fat and then cut to her saying she just doesn't want her daughters to look sl*tty. Of course that could've just been added for effect because of course they want to up the drama but be ffr
It’s so sad that a woman can speak about her own chest with words like “horrified” or “gross”…I wonder if it wasn’t her mom that made her feel like this about the way she looks…
A lot of us big busted women feel like this. You get too much negative attention especially from creepy men. It makes you feel like a cow, big and cumbersome not elegant like normal sized women.
Getting sexualized as a 8 to 12 yr old was daunting to say the least. I love to wear dresses yet, because of my chest I was often mistaken as pregnant lady picking up her son from school instead of her brother...I hated it. I'm short with big boobs...my back hurts and I prefer to dress modestly for said reason
@@grayb7420 I’m so sorry women have to go through this. I’ve always wanted a big chest, but I’ve never knew how it felt. I have a c cup, and I’ve wanted to be a D cup. My respect goes to them, and everyone else!
She looks amazing in almost every dress they put her in. I feel like all she can hear is her mom’s voice in her head telling her she’s showing too much. It’s really sad.
You got that wrong. I see the look in her eyes and the way she's carrying her shoulders. She's probably had MEN leering at her from the age of 12. It happened to me. I'm 47 now and I still HATE being oggled if I wear too tight clothing... I've got natural 34 Ds on a small frame.
@@lineavictoria2631 and not only that, it would affect my children in the future. I’d like to probably, because I’m also only 5’ 2” so, it’s back pain for sure.
@@mollysmith6192 I don't think major surgery that will leave lots of scarring is the most healthy answer. It should only be done as basically a last resort.
You see moms picking on their daughters for having big/small boobs. I will never understand why mothers make their daughters feel bad about something they can’t control.
mom was so obnoxious. it was clear she just hates all things strapless, regardless of how it actually looks on anyone, and she's putting her own hang-up on her daughter.
@@ba8501 I don’t think this mother is jealous - I think this one has got low shaky self-esteem and fears her daughter’s apparel will be interpreted as “loose” by others - and that those opinions will reflect poorly on how she raised her daughter. They obviously believe that other people’s opinions matter. Down in Texas, there’s a ton of that hyper-morality and inferential judgment afoot - and they don’t want to be the subject of disapproval. It’s very sad - because you can see how that mother instilled all her fears and insecurities into her daughter.
@@jenniferlynn3537 That makes sense. I can see how she might be concerned about others. It is her daughter's wedding though, and she should have some say in what she wears. I am glad the daughter stood her ground. I still think there was a little jealousy in the mother too.
My mom remarried when I was a young teen and was jealous of my youth. She told me, nobody wants to see your floppy little titties. I was in a swimsuit. So, yeah. There are awful mothers.
I never realized how common it was. I thought I was the only one with a mom that behaved strangely and was mean to me. Petty, immature.. When I see it on screen with someone else, I finally understood what my mom was behaving like. 😔
It's a show. If everyone was lovey-dovey and sweet it would be boring. Just like every author says a book about happy contented people who nothing bad ever happens to would be boring.
maryreed7776 said the first strapless dress looked amazing, not the one with the ruffles. The ruffled one was awful. The first strapless gown (the second dress she tried on) was stunning. @@MsJubjubbird
The first strapless dress she tried on was absolutely perfect. The bodice had a lot of interesting detail and it was so flattering. The ribbon belt/sash on the others was nuh-uh.
We really can’t win can we… so many people are insecure about their chests being so small, but here this beautiful woman is worried about them being too big… this is so sad to me because she really looked stunning in all the dresses!
reality is ppl need self confidence and to not give a crap what others say … but that truth hurts feelings so most wld disagree lmao … coming from someone who was belittled and demeaned their entire childhood.
The first bride was absolutely gorgeous in the second dress! Can’t understand why she selected the one she did. The second bride’s tiered Lacey detail and train was beautiful on her!
I think first one might have if they had put the extra fabric at the top like they did with the one she chose. However, the bow made her waist look smaller than the first strapless. All the strapless dresses were pretty on her.
I loved the father in the second part. He’s supportive, generous and knows what looks good on his daughter. That dress was gorgeous 🤙🏼 Nice Italian family
@@amyhull754 I’m Italian. their last name (Mestichelli) is a dead giveaway. Secondly they got married in Atlantic City (lots of Italian run businesses there). Idk if u ever watched Jersey Shore, (that was filmed on the harbor in AT. City) but the bride reminds me of J-Woww in a way lol.
@@TightyWhiteyTrash, very good point. I wonder if they're Orthodox for some reason, or if it's that congregation's practice to move the officiant. Now I'm very curious.
@@amyhull754 for sure. Some Italians are Eastern Orthodox. Along with being Christians, Jews, Catholics, Buddhists, Islamic etc…Forgot to mention I’m Italian-American; that’s what I meant. I’m from west coast so I don’t have the accent they have 😜
The second bride's dress is phenomenal. But for $11,000 it should be. I am glad she added the panel in the corset to make it look classy and put together. I also agree that the crinoline works well.
Agree 100% Those semi see through panels are SO NAFF! Hi from a cat lady in Oz. Though $11,000 is ridiculous. Utterly wrong - and she is a school teacher! That money should have gone on a house deposit.
It's a shame the first bride has clearly been made to feel shame about having a larger bust by her mom. DD isn't THAT huge, especially at her size. I kniw: I've been a DD (and a bit bigger during pregnancy and breastfeeding). They're not a burden at this size. They don't cause back problems and cause your bra straps to cut in and things like that. Yes, it's ample, but not ridiculous.....but to feel that she "looks disgusting" or "nasty"?? That's not right. That's not OK. She has a beautiful figure and her bust was not disgusting. It's fine to want to be more modest, obviously, and not have them flashing out the sides or with a lot of cleavage showing, but that's clearly not all that was. That was mom's issues having been projected onto her all her life, and she feels shame for how her body grew. No doubt mom has said things like bigger boobs are cheap and trashy looking or says they're only what strippers or sex workers would have, and degrading those with a larger bust.
i've been a DD since college and, like you, they got even bigger after pregnancy & breastfeeding, but at this point my big boobs are one of my best qualities. i love V-necks and tank tops and i only avoid strapless because unless it's a full-length corset the bra will just roll down. i just wish it wasn't so expensive to find bras that can accommodate DD+ breasts.
That depends entirely on how big your DDs are. Most don’t realize that as your hand grows, so do your cups. Cup size is entirely dependent on band size. A 44D and a 36D have different sized cups.
@@CynthiaPrice79 that's why I said "especially at her size". My band, and therefore cup size, is much bigger than hers. All you need to do is look at a 32DD and a 40DD and you can see the difference! 😂
I was a g cup pre-surgery and I relate to everything in this. Everyone thinks because men find you sexy everything in life with big boobs is just a breeze. When you look "sexy" in everything, you don't really wanna look sexy in anything.
Agreed! I had a roommate in college who was like a B cup and I'm...well I'm actually not sure anymore but a lot bigger than that and she would constantly talk about how great it would be if she were my size, how men would fall for her. Ironically she was the one with all the guys, nice respectable ones too. When you look like I do your options are trailer trash, macho freaks, losers who make poor choices and general morons. At least that's been my experience unfortunately. So yeah barely any guys for me, at least any that actually cared about me not just my chest. I hate that even a simple t-shirt can look "sexy" on me and all I'm trying to do is go to the freaking grocery store! Still trying to get surgery.
@@mistressthorn Oh gosh, this! I'm not even that huge chested but I live in East Asia (where most people are tiny) & have been told that my clothing is indecent because you can see my cleavage when I bend over (for work) - yet local women in the same tops don't look 'indecent' because there isn't as much there. It's so frustrating, because good luck trying to find a neckline high enough that can contain your chest size at the same time!
Exactly. I have to be careful what I wear sometimes, with these F cups. Especially if I am out alone because some of the unwanted attention is uncomfortable.
It happens to men too. I have a 12 inch penis that always gets in the way of things. At least women can get their breasts reduced but theres no such thing for men. Medical is always geared toward women. Men are left out.
@@MsJubjubbirdno, her mom was being mean. The dress was lovely on her. Who is pulling the bride's top down at a wedding anyway? Those people don't need to be invited.
@@sunflowerbaby1853 I'm personally an H. I would say to be honest the DD is the most common on average we sell 34dd out of stock usually. 80% of women are in the wrong size. Most have a band way too big and a cup way to small. I'm a professional fitter for bras and lingerie.
It’s sad this girl is so disgusted with her own boobs. After hearing her moms comments I guess I can see where she gets those negative thoughts from. So sad. She has a beautiful figure and I hope she finds her confidence and leave the haters opinions out of it.
What a bizarre thing for the mother to say..."Someone could just come along and swoosh, pull the dress down.." 😖 How many mothers even think that way?? I know this episode is around 14 years old, and whatever was chosen no longer matters---but let's hope that the daughter never passes her mother's weirdness on to her own progeny some day.
She looked beautiful in all those dresses....it was definately years of her mum saying "nasty armpit fat" that made her look so negatively upon herself 😢
“Most wedding gowns are a b cup and the designer won’t adjust.” Whyyyyyyy? We are used to size discrimination across the fashion industry but come on! It is widely accepted in all other areas of retail clothing that women have different busy sizes! Do you go to a shoe store, only to be told they carry one size?
literally WHAT IS THE POINT of a dress taking 6 months to come in and shelling out hundreds for alterations if they can't even CHANGE THE CUP SIZE? why take anyone's measurements, just sell a bunch of size 8 B-cup dresses to supermodels and tell 98% of brides to pound sand?
This is an old episode, and things have improved size wise since then, thankfully. That said, with your shoe size argument, I'm a size 11.5W and I HATE shoe shopping. Lol
Yeah, I was flabbergasted to hear that! Now, I'm a plus size, so I knew when I chose my wedding dress (over 25 years ago) that I was going to be limited in choice due to my size. But it is simply mind-blowing to think that when you're spending thousands on a wedding dress that you're told there's nothing or 'very little' you can do to accomodate a busty figure.
I dont get why people act like DD's are so humungous when they actually aren't, they're pretty average. Most women I know are probably like D-G and they arent bursting out of their clothes.
Right??? My mom had reduction surgery to become a DD & she thinks it’s perfect! My entire maternal family is filled with woman with DD+ chests (who are perfectly comfortable and happy with their boobs) except my sister and I who got the itty bitty titties from dad’s side of the family.
I thought I wouldn’t like strapless too, I felt it would be too revealing. But the dress I bought is my dream dress and happened to be strapless, it’s gorgeous.
I'll never understand how a mother (or father for that matter) can cause so much damage to their daughter. My mom always made me feel bad about my body, and I swore to myself to never belittle my own children. And when the day comes that I might be privileged enough to be part of a future daughter in laws entourage, I hope I'll be just as supportive to her as I've tried to be for my boys.
My mother was never unkind. Alwsys told me I was beautiful. She had lived through people saying her sister how pretty she was, then they would add Belle your nice too. She never wanted me to feel like she did.
I can 1000% relate to her having trouble finding clothes with bigger tatas. I'm a double D as well & when i was younger & overweight i wore a 44DDDF. Now, im a size 3 with the DD & it's always been so hard. I was actually medically approved for a reduction as a teen but then my mom was in a car accident that put her in the hospital for 6 months & she couldn't go back to work so i no longer had insurance. It sucks because nothing EVER fits correctly & i have terrible back pain.
I agree with all the comments that the mother is horrible, but I could understand the bribe being uncomfortable herself. Everyone assumes if you're wear a larger bust size that you want to show it off, but that is not true. Formal and wedding dresses are really hard to find ones that fit well and aren't revealing.
wtf does that mean "most dresses come in a B cup & designers won't open up the cup"? isn't the whole point of alterations to make sure it FITS YOU? surely wedding dress designers aren't like "if you're not exactly this size & shape don't bother getting married"?
Alterations may be done by the shop. But they are saying they can't order one in your size. Usually for somthing that expensive, you want to order as close as possible to the bride's actual size and do as little as possible later. It's like a car company saying that if you want air conditioning it's only possible to add it aftermarket... crazy.
She looked beautiful i the second gown. It suited her figure MUCH better than the first gown. The third gown, with the lace, was absolutely stunning on her.
The smile on that moms faces while pointing out insecurities on her daughter’s body she enjoys putting her girls down and she enjoys implanting those insecurities in their heads.
I feel for her! I have a hard time finding tops and dresses that flatter me. Some times the tops smush my breasts down and make me look large :( I'm lucky to have a supportive mom. Can't imagine having a mother like that
As an E size cup girl, I totally understand her. When I was a teenager, I deliberately wore oversized tops because I was embarrassed. It didn't help that my mom would constantly be on my case over showing cleavage, which was something I couldn't control.
I have to say, this bride had me cracking up the whole time - from her horrified expressions to the relieved/mortified "YES" when they asked if she was ready for a different dress. I loved her keeping-it-real personality and willingness to try other things. Couldn't understand why mom was talking about muffin boobs on the second one, I know she was imagining that once they made alterations they'd want to make it fit her closer and the bust might tighten, but it looked like it was fitting her really well the way it was to start. Also her idea that someone was going to run up to her and rip her dress off seemed odd but I guess you never know who is going to show up to a wedding these days
I know that there's the consideration of fabric...but the average bra size in the United States in 2013 was 34DD. So, I question why bridal gowns are so limiting. They cost thousands of dollars (and that's before alterations come into play, which they most likely do). If I'm trying on a $1000+ dress, I want to know that it's going to fit well, with some certainty, before I commit to the price tag plus alterations
Same here! Fell in love with my dress online but didn't know how a strapless dress would fit my girls. It was perfect! Anything else wouldn't have worked.
Hey the 1980s long sleeve pouf dresses with high necks worked. The variety choicecwas ugly, or uglier, or a halter slinky dress! Wexall wore versions of ugly pouf, but boobs were under control! Lol
“Someone could just pull your clothes off”. . . Who says that? Who would DO that? Mom is obviously lives through her daughter and is jealous and self conscious
To answer your rhetorical question. The only answer I came up with is the groom during the wedding night, but not during the freaking ceremony. 😂 Weirdly enough, I believe that the mother would never be satisfied, even if she were covered head to toe and not showing any skin at all. She would call her plump or something. These mothers only know how to break someone’s self-worth.
8:17 it helps not to have anyone there for the final fitting. It gives you time alone with YOUR special dress and saves the final reveal for the wedding. No outside opinions making you second guess yourself. Just time alone with your amazing dress and time to soak up all that self confidence ❤❤❤
I just went dress shopping with my daughter who is also big busted and self conscious. I picked a dress for her that I knew was her style and she loved it. She looked beautiful in it and she liked it until she tried on a complete random dress by the attendant. She absolutely glowed in it and I knew that was her dress and yes it’s strapless which she did not want. All I cared about was that she was happy. It’s her wedding, her dress and her day not anyone else’s. Sometimes I don’t understand these mother’s.
You know, as someone who was insecure for being small chested AND had extremely strict religious parents, I’ve learned to be happy with the boobage I got and flaunt what is or isn’t there 🥳 hope this girl finds/found her confidence too
Eleven thousand dollars for a dress? Insane. You can look amazing without spending that much! 😮 They better say you look amazing after you paid everyone's salary for the month! 😂
I understand the daughter wanting to be covered up, I wouldn't want to feel indecent on my wedding day either but the mom is not helping the situation at all with her attitude about it, like who the heck goes around at a wedding pulling off the bride's dress??
My mom has done this along with many other body shaming things... you end up not even having your own personality anymore. This is really sad and horrifying.
I'm a 30J (at biggest 34J) good bra is everything. I've never had a single back pain from my boobs. US women seem not to have access to accurate sizing and properly supportive bras.
@@confusedclarinetgirl I've never found a comfortable bra. They can seem comfortable in the store when you try them on, but in reality they are so uncomfortable after about two hours. I've been fitted several times and have tried many brands and styles.
@@leannecanty8821 if you're in the UK I'd recommend Cleo by Panache, Panache, Fantasie, Elomie and Primadonna. The latter are insanely expensive but it's like kittens holding your tits up.
As a lady who is big busted, it's bloody hard to find anything that fits up top, especially if you are a smaller size everywhere else. Also stapless is awful as you spend the whole day pulling it up
You don’t get arm pit fat in a wedding dress as it’s structured and fitted! I can’t believe the mum said that! She looked beautiful. I’m busty and a strapless sweetheart neckline with an a line skirt was by far the best fit for my body on my day too.
That first mom was absolutely perpetuating the negative body images that we’ve fought so hard against. Good lord, when a dress is properly altered to accommodate bigger breasts, it makes all the difference. And who the he!! did she think was going to come by and yank the dress down? It’s fitted through the bodice, not a stretchy tube top! Sheesh! And that second bride was gorgeous. She reminded me of one of my former colleagues who was tiny like that. Alice also taught third grade. I remember her class being stopped in the hallway once by someone who wasn’t from our building demanding to know where they were going without their teacher. Alice turned around and said, “I’m right here!” Yes, by May, a couple of her boys were actually taller than Alice.
My mom is same ..she is jealous of me.i didn't understand when I was teen but understand now.I have a daughter and I can't imagine having jealous with her.
She went from a $3,000 budget, to getting a dress that was over $11,000. That's almost 4x her budget. I mean, it's her money but that is a hefty amount of money to be spending on a wedding dress especially if your budget doesn't allow for it.
@@spiercephotography Sure, but I'm guessing that money would have been hers to spend on something else if it wasn't already gone on the dress. Like maybe putting it towards a downpayment for a house? Dad may have a lot but I'm guessing there's a limit somewhere...
I hate how they always shoot down the dress the bride wants, I mean it's her day and she should choose the dress she loves not the one they want. Some times I believe they are jealous of the bride and do not want her to really shine on her wedding day. The mothers sorry need to say less and let their daughters decide on the dress.
If bride #1 wants her marriage to last, she’ll have to go to personal therapy. She’s inherited a lot negative self image problems from her mom, and trust me, it’s very draining on a relationship to prop up someone with negative self image and poor self esteem.
Her mother has absolutely passed her own body issues and prejudices onto her daughters. It's such a shame that she's so mortified by something she has no control over. Also...who goes around pulling down a strapless dress at a wedding? Where has this all-consuming fear that the mum has, come from? I've never seen that happen...
Well...there are some really unruly and entitled bullies of "men" in rural and southern areas.
Some are very gentlemanly. Some are outright dangerous...and there's less of a culture of telling them to stop.
My mom was the same way
@@amyhull754 not in my southern area - I’m much more likely to be harassed and catcalled in a northern city
@@jordansjul, interesting! Thank you for sharing. The difference in people's experiences is fascinating.
a real and altered wedding dress is way to stiff and form-fitting to just pull it down.
When the mom mentioned armpit fat I wanted to scream are you freaking kidding me no wonder she wants to be covered up you're the problem!!
That mother's jealously is oozing out of her by saying negative comments to her daughter.
So sad to see the bride covering her chest with both arms because of her mothers comments.
@@kyliepechler and she said it directly after her daughter realized that she liked how strapless looked on her
Right like mom needs to stfu
not only that but she says it's because of the armpit fat and then cut to her saying she just doesn't want her daughters to look sl*tty. Of course that could've just been added for effect because of course they want to up the drama but be ffr
LIKE SERIOUSLY HOW DOES ARMPITS MAKE YOU LOOK SL^TTY WHAT 💀
It’s so sad that a woman can speak about her own chest with words like “horrified” or “gross”…I wonder if it wasn’t her mom that made her feel like this about the way she looks…
Do you know how much attention a woman gets with large boobs? Imagine being 14 with DD+ boobs? You learn to hate your boobs quickly.
A lot of us big busted women feel like this. You get too much negative attention especially from creepy men. It makes you feel like a cow, big and cumbersome not elegant like normal sized women.
Getting sexualized as a 8 to 12 yr old was daunting to say the least. I love to wear dresses yet, because of my chest I was often mistaken as pregnant lady picking up her son from school instead of her brother...I hated it. I'm short with big boobs...my back hurts and I prefer to dress modestly for said reason
@@grayb7420 I’m so sorry women have to go through this. I’ve always wanted a big chest, but I’ve never knew how it felt. I have a c cup, and I’ve wanted to be a D cup. My respect goes to them, and everyone else!
@@pippiecarr9378 I never hated mine. I'm sorry you (o someone you know) felt that way about yours. So sad.
She looks amazing in almost every dress they put her in. I feel like all she can hear is her mom’s voice in her head telling her she’s showing too much. It’s really sad.
Mom is totally projecting her own insecurities onto her daughter's. Meanwhile bride is stunning and so is her sister
Her mom actually liked halter. Her issue is with strapless.
Yes. I’m only at about 4 minutes in and mama is definitely an issue. She’s probably the reason bride feels so uncomfortable with her bust/cleavage. 😢
@@debrag6770 Yes. But I agree with the bride about that halter dress. Not that anything is “gross,” but that it wasn’t flattering.
You got that wrong. I see the look in her eyes and the way she's carrying her shoulders. She's probably had MEN leering at her from the age of 12. It happened to me. I'm 47 now and I still HATE being oggled if I wear too tight clothing... I've got natural 34 Ds on a small frame.
I’m a triple D, and still a teenager. This makes me sad that she’s being shamed about something she literally can’t control.
They can be reduced.
@@mollysmith6192 yeah but that takes a whole lotta money 😕
@@lineavictoria2631 and not only that, it would affect my children in the future. I’d like to probably, because I’m also only 5’ 2” so, it’s back pain for sure.
No one says triple D. The correct term is F.
Try dealing with 32FFs and non existent hips 🫣
@@mollysmith6192 I don't think major surgery that will leave lots of scarring is the most healthy answer. It should only be done as basically a last resort.
You see moms picking on their daughters for having big/small boobs. I will never understand why mothers make their daughters feel bad about something they can’t control.
mom was so obnoxious. it was clear she just hates all things strapless, regardless of how it actually looks on anyone, and she's putting her own hang-up on her daughter.
When she said.........you know that fat bulging out! I could have died for her🤨
I’m really happy my mother isn’t like that
Perhaps she has a problem with herself and is now looking for faults in her daughters
@@feuerwehrluetzen exactly!
As a mother...I'm horrified how this woman treats her daughter.
A lot of jealous mothers out there, unfortunately.
@@ba8501 I don’t think this mother is jealous - I think this one has got low shaky self-esteem and fears her daughter’s apparel will be interpreted as “loose” by others - and that those opinions will reflect poorly on how she raised her daughter.
They obviously believe that other people’s opinions matter. Down in Texas, there’s a ton of that hyper-morality and inferential judgment afoot - and they don’t want to be the subject of disapproval. It’s very sad - because you can see how that mother instilled all her fears and insecurities into her daughter.
@@jenniferlynn3537 That makes sense. I can see how she might be concerned about others. It is her daughter's wedding though, and she should have some say in what she wears. I am glad the daughter stood her ground. I still think there was a little jealousy in the mother too.
As a mother... I agree with you.
I never realized how many mothers are jealous of their daughters.
Same....my mom would never be as mean as this lady..
My mom remarried when I was a young teen and was jealous of my youth. She told me, nobody wants to see your floppy little titties. I was in a swimsuit. So, yeah. There are awful mothers.
I never realized how common it was. I thought I was the only one with a mom that behaved strangely and was mean to me. Petty, immature..
When I see it on screen with someone else, I finally understood what my mom was behaving like. 😔
I had one of "those" moms. She was 19 years older than me and hated it when I was a hot twenty something and he was a chubby forty something.
What a nasty mother. The daughter is such a lovely bride.
Mom says “Someone could pull it down.” (Paraphrasing). What type of people are you inviting to this wedding? Seriously.
mom sounds like she got pranked in middle school and never got over it.
@@dietotakubahahah fr 😂🤣🤣😂😂
That was my thought too
Probably her uncle's from her previous weddings that do it and keep getting invited 😂😂😂
FR!!
I think it's horrible that designers won't make a bigger size cup for fuller bust. That's crazy.
I had to buy a size 12 dress, have new cups sewn in, and altered down to a size 4 dress. It was rediculous! Sigh.
The same way the industry in general neglects plus size bodies.
Exactly, especially since MOST women have a D cup or bigger
They make more money in alterations if they can create you a cup. It's ridiculous
@@Carpathianpixie if they ignored plus sized bodies then fat people would be naked. Stop repeating that myth.
She called her own natural beauty "disgusting". So sad.
Mom is passing her own body insecurities onto the next generation.
She looked amazing in the first strapless dress. Her mom is just so negative
It's a show. If everyone was lovey-dovey and sweet it would be boring. Just like every author says a book about happy contented people who nothing bad ever happens to would be boring.
@@c.v.yardleyNo, you’re boring
It was an ugly dress. Those riffles on the neckline screamed cheap period costume
maryreed7776 said the first strapless dress looked amazing, not the one with the ruffles. The ruffled one was awful. The first strapless gown (the second dress she tried on) was stunning. @@MsJubjubbird
I loved her in the first dress!
The first strapless dress she tried on was absolutely perfect. The bodice had a lot of interesting detail and it was so flattering. The ribbon belt/sash on the others was nuh-uh.
I think the ribbon made her waist look smaller but I do agree with you that detail on the first one was gorgeous
We really can’t win can we… so many people are insecure about their chests being so small, but here this beautiful woman is worried about them being too big… this is so sad to me because she really looked stunning in all the dresses!
reality is ppl
need self confidence and to not give a crap what others say … but that truth hurts feelings so most wld disagree lmao … coming from someone who was belittled and demeaned their entire childhood.
@@a1yssaatypically you grow into not caring what people say or you always care but everyone should get therapy
I am sorry but that first dress did not look good on her. Maybe after some alterations, it may have, but it didn't as is.
The first bride was absolutely gorgeous in the second dress! Can’t understand why she selected the one she did. The second bride’s tiered Lacey detail and train was beautiful on her!
i think the first bride settled which is really sad, she looked stunning in the second
Absolutely gorgeous in the second dress
I think first one might have if they had put the extra fabric at the top like they did with the one she chose. However, the bow made her waist look smaller than the first strapless. All the strapless dresses were pretty on her.
2nd dress for 1st bride. ..yes.
For 2nd bride....her eyebrows, I wonder if she didn't re-paint the original one....
The first bride didn’t chose it because of what her mother said 100%
I loved the father in the second part. He’s supportive, generous and knows what looks good on his daughter. That dress was gorgeous 🤙🏼 Nice Italian family
Are they Italian or Greek? The officiant *facing* the altar with his back to the congregation makes me think this is an Orthodox church.
@@amyhull754 I’m Italian. their last name (Mestichelli) is a dead giveaway. Secondly they got married in Atlantic City (lots of Italian run businesses there). Idk if u ever watched Jersey Shore, (that was filmed on the harbor in AT. City) but the bride reminds me of J-Woww in a way lol.
@@amyhull754Mestichelli is a *VERY* common last name in Italy 🇮🇹
@@TightyWhiteyTrash, very good point.
I wonder if they're Orthodox for some reason, or if it's that congregation's practice to move the officiant.
Now I'm very curious.
@@amyhull754 for sure. Some Italians are Eastern Orthodox. Along with being Christians, Jews, Catholics, Buddhists, Islamic etc…Forgot to mention I’m Italian-American; that’s what I meant. I’m from west coast so I don’t have the accent they have 😜
whats is wrong with that mom i feel so bad for the poor girl her boobs are fine no one deserves to feel this way
How can a mom say "I was shocked it flatters her?"
The second bride's dress is phenomenal. But for $11,000 it should be. I am glad she added the panel in the corset to make it look classy and put together. I also agree that the crinoline works well.
Agree 100%
Those semi see through panels are SO NAFF!
Hi from a cat lady in Oz.
Though $11,000 is ridiculous.
Utterly wrong - and she is a school teacher! That money should have gone on a house deposit.
It looks like a lace curtain.
Not my taste…I get married in October & I can gladly say…my dress looks nothing like any of these dresses
It's a shame the first bride has clearly been made to feel shame about having a larger bust by her mom. DD isn't THAT huge, especially at her size. I kniw: I've been a DD (and a bit bigger during pregnancy and breastfeeding). They're not a burden at this size. They don't cause back problems and cause your bra straps to cut in and things like that. Yes, it's ample, but not ridiculous.....but to feel that she "looks disgusting" or "nasty"?? That's not right. That's not OK. She has a beautiful figure and her bust was not disgusting. It's fine to want to be more modest, obviously, and not have them flashing out the sides or with a lot of cleavage showing, but that's clearly not all that was. That was mom's issues having been projected onto her all her life, and she feels shame for how her body grew. No doubt mom has said things like bigger boobs are cheap and trashy looking or says they're only what strippers or sex workers would have, and degrading those with a larger bust.
i've been a DD since college and, like you, they got even bigger after pregnancy & breastfeeding, but at this point my big boobs are one of my best qualities. i love V-necks and tank tops and i only avoid strapless because unless it's a full-length corset the bra will just roll down. i just wish it wasn't so expensive to find bras that can accommodate DD+ breasts.
That depends entirely on how big your DDs are. Most don’t realize that as your hand grows, so do your cups. Cup size is entirely dependent on band size. A 44D and a 36D have different sized cups.
Yep- sad but true…I felt v sorry for her 🥺
Depends on the person. I was a DD, had back issues, bra straps that left marks, and constant skin rashes. Thank goodness for breast reductions.
@@CynthiaPrice79 that's why I said "especially at her size". My band, and therefore cup size, is much bigger than hers. All you need to do is look at a 32DD and a 40DD and you can see the difference! 😂
Mom 1 has taught her daughters to be ashamed of their chests vs. Working with them to dress them well as early teens
I was a g cup pre-surgery and I relate to everything in this. Everyone thinks because men find you sexy everything in life with big boobs is just a breeze. When you look "sexy" in everything, you don't really wanna look sexy in anything.
Agreed! I had a roommate in college who was like a B cup and I'm...well I'm actually not sure anymore but a lot bigger than that and she would constantly talk about how great it would be if she were my size, how men would fall for her. Ironically she was the one with all the guys, nice respectable ones too. When you look like I do your options are trailer trash, macho freaks, losers who make poor choices and general morons. At least that's been my experience unfortunately. So yeah barely any guys for me, at least any that actually cared about me not just my chest. I hate that even a simple t-shirt can look "sexy" on me and all I'm trying to do is go to the freaking grocery store! Still trying to get surgery.
@@mistressthorn Oh gosh, this!
I'm not even that huge chested but I live in East Asia (where most people are tiny) & have been told that my clothing is indecent because you can see my cleavage when I bend over (for work) - yet local women in the same tops don't look 'indecent' because there isn't as much there. It's so frustrating, because good luck trying to find a neckline high enough that can contain your chest size at the same time!
Exactly. I have to be careful what I wear sometimes, with these F cups. Especially if I am out alone because some of the unwanted attention is uncomfortable.
It happens to men too. I have a 12 inch penis that always gets in the way of things. At least women can get their breasts reduced but theres no such thing for men. Medical is always geared toward women. Men are left out.
The second dress was absolutely stunning on her.. unfortunately that wicked witch mom made her feel bad about it. But, she looked like a princess. 😇😇😇
No it wasn't great
her mum was being practical. She was saying when it was made to fit her, her cleavage would spill out, which was not what the bride wanted.
@@MsJubjubbirdno, her mom was being mean. The dress was lovely on her. Who is pulling the bride's top down at a wedding anyway? Those people don't need to be invited.
@@RebeccaTaylorTillery the top will slip throughout the day as she moves around. She's just a practical mother
@@MsJubjubbirdmost pointless argument and person of the day😂
This is crazy that fitting DD is difficult for them. I work in bras and that's a regular size. Most are DDD to G that fit daily. B cup we rarely sale.
I was thinking the same thing.
There is no way that the average American woman is a size B cup. I would think a size C cup would be the most common.
I,m a 36HH and I hate it. I,ve lived my life in t-shirts and baggy tops .
As an I cup, I agree. No way is DD cup that big that dress fittings should be that big of an issue.
@@sunflowerbaby1853 I'm personally an H. I would say to be honest the DD is the most common on average we sell 34dd out of stock usually. 80% of women are in the wrong size. Most have a band way too big and a cup way to small. I'm a professional fitter for bras and lingerie.
@@desireewisdom4175
I believe you.
It’s sad this girl is so disgusted with her own boobs. After hearing her moms comments I guess I can see where she gets those negative thoughts from. So sad. She has a beautiful figure and I hope she finds her confidence and leave the haters opinions out of it.
cowboy boots bride: is mom blind? Dress 2 was divine on that bride. Perfection!
It was PERFECT!
What a bizarre thing for the mother to say..."Someone could just come along and swoosh, pull the dress down.." 😖 How many mothers even think that way??
I know this episode is around 14 years old, and whatever was chosen no longer matters---but let's hope that the daughter never passes her mother's weirdness on to her own progeny some day.
She looks lovely in the dress she chose but I think the second dress looked better. I'm glad she found something she loves.
Yes. Dress #2 was absolutely perfect on her!
I hate how the mom ruined that dress for her. It was stunning.
She looked beautiful in all those dresses....it was definately years of her mum saying "nasty armpit fat" that made her look so negatively upon herself 😢
“Most wedding gowns are a b cup and the designer won’t adjust.” Whyyyyyyy? We are used to size discrimination across the fashion industry but come on! It is widely accepted in all other areas of retail clothing that women have different busy sizes! Do you go to a shoe store, only to be told they carry one size?
literally WHAT IS THE POINT of a dress taking 6 months to come in and shelling out hundreds for alterations if they can't even CHANGE THE CUP SIZE? why take anyone's measurements, just sell a bunch of size 8 B-cup dresses to supermodels and tell 98% of brides to pound sand?
I was literally thinking this too. Like personally I have very large chest like b is tiny omg. I hope that make more sizes
This is an old episode, and things have improved size wise since then, thankfully. That said, with your shoe size argument, I'm a size 11.5W and I HATE shoe shopping. Lol
Yeah, I was flabbergasted to hear that! Now, I'm a plus size, so I knew when I chose my wedding dress (over 25 years ago) that I was going to be limited in choice due to my size. But it is simply mind-blowing to think that when you're spending thousands on a wedding dress that you're told there's nothing or 'very little' you can do to accomodate a busty figure.
This was years ago.
“Somebody could just pull your clothes down”. Once you get it altered that won’t have any chance of happening.
And why, why, why would any one come up to a bride and pull her dress down?
@@glancycorner7425 Exactly
@@glancycorner7425because they are a psychopath????
I dont get why people act like DD's are so humungous when they actually aren't, they're pretty average. Most women I know are probably like D-G and they arent bursting out of their clothes.
Agreed!!
That wasn't my experience. I never met anyone outside of my own family with a chest half as big as mine until I was in my late 20's.
Exactly. I feel like this mother did a number on her kid.
I am a G cup and all of my (alive) relatives don't go beyond a C, the shock on their faces when I told them my bra size is hilarious
Right??? My mom had reduction surgery to become a DD & she thinks it’s perfect! My entire maternal family is filled with woman with DD+ chests (who are perfectly comfortable and happy with their boobs) except my sister and I who got the itty bitty titties from dad’s side of the family.
The second dress Katie tried on looked better than the others. It was absolutely perfect on her
I really like seeing Randy in these videos. He is so knowledgeable. He's a fantastic designer.
Dress #2 looks SO good on her !!
Yes! It was perfect!
$11,000 for a wedding dress that’s she’s only going to wear once?! Lord have mercy 😮
How do you start with a budget of $3k and end up spending almost 4x as much? 🤯
They're not even that big. She looks stunning in every dress.
Love how her sister is so sweet ❤
Omg!! 0:48 I thought she said, “I love your boobs!” 😂😂😂
I thought I wouldn’t like strapless too, I felt it would be too revealing. But the dress I bought is my dream dress and happened to be strapless, it’s gorgeous.
I love Randy. He is such a good person with a beautiful heart. ❤❤
I'll never understand how a mother (or father for that matter) can cause so much damage to their daughter. My mom always made me feel bad about my body, and I swore to myself to never belittle my own children. And when the day comes that I might be privileged enough to be part of a future daughter in laws entourage, I hope I'll be just as supportive to her as I've tried to be for my boys.
Why are mother's so unkind.
Jealousy and insecurities in themselves make them take their sadness out on their daughters
@@hotbambi2010 That is 100% right.
It's so sad to watch.
My mother was never unkind. Alwsys told me I was beautiful. She had lived through people saying her sister how pretty she was, then they would add Belle your nice too. She never wanted me to feel like she did.
Okay.
I can 1000% relate to her having trouble finding clothes with bigger tatas. I'm a double D as well & when i was younger & overweight i wore a 44DDDF. Now, im a size 3 with the DD & it's always been so hard. I was actually medically approved for a reduction as a teen but then my mom was in a car accident that put her in the hospital for 6 months & she couldn't go back to work so i no longer had insurance. It sucks because nothing EVER fits correctly & i have terrible back pain.
I agree with all the comments that the mother is horrible, but I could understand the bribe being uncomfortable herself. Everyone assumes if you're wear a larger bust size that you want to show it off, but that is not true. Formal and wedding dresses are really hard to find ones that fit well and aren't revealing.
@@M-hc9xm exactly! And the struggle starts way back with cute clothes & finding bathing suits is almost impossible.
That mom is straight up malicious and jealous of her daughters omg
$11k is outrageous for a dress of any kind! I don’t understand that kind of spending. 😮
wtf does that mean "most dresses come in a B cup & designers won't open up the cup"? isn't the whole point of alterations to make sure it FITS YOU? surely wedding dress designers aren't like "if you're not exactly this size & shape don't bother getting married"?
Alterations may be done by the shop. But they are saying they can't order one in your size. Usually for somthing that expensive, you want to order as close as possible to the bride's actual size and do as little as possible later. It's like a car company saying that if you want air conditioning it's only possible to add it aftermarket... crazy.
She looked beautiful i the second gown. It suited her figure MUCH better than the first gown. The third gown, with the lace, was absolutely stunning on her.
The smile on that moms faces while pointing out insecurities on her daughter’s body she enjoys putting her girls down and she enjoys implanting those insecurities in their heads.
She’s a sociopath.
I think the mom was smiling to try to make it lighthearted and not such a huge deal.
Yep, total emotional abuse
Shopping can reveal so much about a relationship.
I feel for her! I have a hard time finding tops and dresses that flatter me. Some times the tops smush my breasts down and make me look large :( I'm lucky to have a supportive mom. Can't imagine having a mother like that
The mother is so juvenile!
As an E size cup girl, I totally understand her. When I was a teenager, I deliberately wore oversized tops because I was embarrassed. It didn't help that my mom would constantly be on my case over showing cleavage, which was something I couldn't control.
She looked stunning. I love dress 2 on her! Her mum was mean.
OMG !!!!!!! I wish these daughters would stand up to these mama's trying to take over 🤦🏽♀️
Yeah you will soon realize it's difficult no matter what you think you would do😂
Way for a mom to raise her daughter to hate her body
I feel for her. It's not always a blessing.
I have to say, this bride had me cracking up the whole time - from her horrified expressions to the relieved/mortified "YES" when they asked if she was ready for a different dress. I loved her keeping-it-real personality and willingness to try other things. Couldn't understand why mom was talking about muffin boobs on the second one, I know she was imagining that once they made alterations they'd want to make it fit her closer and the bust might tighten, but it looked like it was fitting her really well the way it was to start. Also her idea that someone was going to run up to her and rip her dress off seemed odd but I guess you never know who is going to show up to a wedding these days
I know that there's the consideration of fabric...but the average bra size in the United States in 2013 was 34DD. So, I question why bridal gowns are so limiting. They cost thousands of dollars (and that's before alterations come into play, which they most likely do). If I'm trying on a $1000+ dress, I want to know that it's going to fit well, with some certainty, before I commit to the price tag plus alterations
I had the exact experience when dress shopping as a large-chested girl. I never imagined a strapless gown could be so flattering but it really was.
Same here! Fell in love with my dress online but didn't know how a strapless dress would fit my girls. It was perfect! Anything else wouldn't have worked.
Hey the 1980s long sleeve pouf dresses with high necks worked. The variety choicecwas ugly, or uglier, or a halter slinky dress! Wexall wore versions of ugly pouf, but boobs were under control! Lol
“Someone could just pull your clothes off”. . . Who says that? Who would DO that? Mom is obviously lives through her daughter and is jealous and self conscious
To answer your rhetorical question. The only answer I came up with is the groom during the wedding night, but not during the freaking ceremony. 😂
Weirdly enough, I believe that the mother would never be satisfied, even if she were covered head to toe and not showing any skin at all. She would call her plump or something.
These mothers only know how to break someone’s self-worth.
8:17 it helps not to have anyone there for the final fitting. It gives you time alone with YOUR special dress and saves the final reveal for the wedding. No outside opinions making you second guess yourself. Just time alone with your amazing dress and time to soak up all that self confidence ❤❤❤
My mother was jealous of my sisters and I, not because we were pretty but because we were young and she was getting older!!
I just went dress shopping with my daughter who is also big busted and self conscious. I picked a dress for her that I knew was her style and she loved it. She looked beautiful in it and she liked it until she tried on a complete random dress by the attendant. She absolutely glowed in it and I knew that was her dress and yes it’s strapless which she did not want.
All I cared about was that she was happy. It’s her wedding, her dress and her day not anyone else’s. Sometimes I don’t understand these mother’s.
omg that mom 🙄🙄🙄
You know, as someone who was insecure for being small chested AND had extremely strict religious parents, I’ve learned to be happy with the boobage I got and flaunt what is or isn’t there 🥳 hope this girl finds/found her confidence too
Omg my heart goes out to the first bride. She’s been made to feel uncomfortable in her own body. She’s absolutely stunning!
This young woman looks amazing in every dress!
Mom taught her to absolutely hate her body.
It’s so ridiculous that the mother is negatively criticizing the daughter, at a time like this it’s so important for support
Eleven thousand dollars for a dress? Insane. You can look amazing without spending that much! 😮 They better say you look amazing after you paid everyone's salary for the month! 😂
That mother should be ashamed of herself 😊❤
The daughters face when her mom said that about her fat 😢she definitely killed the flame she had for that dress
I feel so bad for her.
The bride's mother was absolutely horrible.
I understand the daughter wanting to be covered up, I wouldn't want to feel indecent on my wedding day either
but the mom is not helping the situation at all with her attitude about it, like who the heck goes around at a wedding pulling off the bride's dress??
That 2nd dress was great.
My mom has done this along with many other body shaming things... you end up not even having your own personality anymore. This is really sad and horrifying.
Poor girl. Should have left negative mom at home
I had my breast reduction done about 3 years ago..life changing operation.
My friend had same operation. No more back pain
I've been thinking about this. If you don't mind me asking, how many cup sizes down did you go? And, what was the recovery time?
I'm a 30J (at biggest 34J) good bra is everything. I've never had a single back pain from my boobs. US women seem not to have access to accurate sizing and properly supportive bras.
@@confusedclarinetgirl I've never found a comfortable bra. They can seem comfortable in the store when you try them on, but in reality they are so uncomfortable after about two hours. I've been fitted several times and have tried many brands and styles.
@@leannecanty8821 if you're in the UK I'd recommend Cleo by Panache, Panache, Fantasie, Elomie and Primadonna. The latter are insanely expensive but it's like kittens holding your tits up.
As a lady who is big busted, it's bloody hard to find anything that fits up top, especially if you are a smaller size everywhere else. Also stapless is awful as you spend the whole day pulling it up
I literally lost my cool at that mother's comment.. she completely ruined the girl's excitement and mood.. how evil can you be to hate your own girl..
You don’t get arm pit fat in a wedding dress as it’s structured and fitted! I can’t believe the mum said that! She looked beautiful. I’m busty and a strapless sweetheart neckline with an a line skirt was by far the best fit for my body on my day too.
They danced together so beautifully, you can tell he really loves her
My first thought was; honestly DD is really not that big?
"Someone can just come and pull her dress down"... What people are you hanging around to be afraid of that happening at a wedding?????
What a negative mother.
That first mom was absolutely perpetuating the negative body images that we’ve fought so hard against. Good lord, when a dress is properly altered to accommodate bigger breasts, it makes all the difference. And who the he!! did she think was going to come by and yank the dress down? It’s fitted through the bodice, not a stretchy tube top! Sheesh!
And that second bride was gorgeous. She reminded me of one of my former colleagues who was tiny like that. Alice also taught third grade. I remember her class being stopped in the hallway once by someone who wasn’t from our building demanding to know where they were going without their teacher. Alice turned around and said, “I’m right here!” Yes, by May, a couple of her boys were actually taller than Alice.
The last bride, the petite teacher, looked delicious enough to be a wedding cake topper - standing up there, all by herself! 💝
My mom is same ..she is jealous of me.i didn't understand when I was teen but understand now.I have a daughter and I can't imagine having jealous with her.
Its so disgusting how some moms can just take joyful moments away… if you’re a good mom you’re happy when your daughter is happy
I wondered why she was crossing her arms over her chest because it wasn't showing that much! Then I heard the mother!
She went from a $3,000 budget, to getting a dress that was over $11,000. That's almost 4x her budget. I mean, it's her money but that is a hefty amount of money to be spending on a wedding dress especially if your budget doesn't allow for it.
Dad said for her to try it on, though, so I assume he helped her out $$!
@@spiercephotography Sure, but I'm guessing that money would have been hers to spend on something else if it wasn't already gone on the dress. Like maybe putting it towards a downpayment for a house? Dad may have a lot but I'm guessing there's a limit somewhere...
Does anyone know what happened to them after the wedding? Are they still together?
Watching these videos makes me so greatful for my mother. All she wants is my happiness, nothing else.
The second dress really look nice on her
The letter of the cup doesn't tell us much about the size, a 30DD and a 36B are the same cup size.
I hate how they always shoot down the dress the bride wants, I mean it's her day and she should choose the dress she loves not the one they want. Some times I believe they are jealous of the bride and do not want her to really shine on her wedding day. The mothers sorry need to say less and let their daughters decide on the dress.
The mom hopes they find something flattering to her daughter’s figure?!?! Her figure is crazy! What is wrong with that mom!!
My teenage daughter is a DD I would never make her feel insecure about that
If bride #1 wants her marriage to last, she’ll have to go to personal therapy. She’s inherited a lot negative self image problems from her mom, and trust me, it’s very draining on a relationship to prop up someone with negative self image and poor self esteem.
Don't let people pull it down then