Who do you guys think was in the wrong? Jk, obviously it was Timmy. Jk again, tell us what you and your partner, friends, family argue about that seems like a little thing. But, then go forgive someone you are mad at, too. Let's keep this positive, people!
I know with me, I try to ask questions like "what can can do to be more mindful of this", or "that's not priority right now, because of ... so and so" (depending in the issue). Another thing I'll ask is, " what can we do to incorporate this into our routine", or (what do think about the situation and how can we work and talk through our frustrations that may not be involved in the current situation". I really try to ask questions, where it gets us thinking and if we are both really heated in the fight I'll just suggest that we "take a break to calm down and come back to it clear headed". I don't know if that helps, but can give a sense of direction ad to how I handle things at home, Whitney 😊
Whitney Port I’m balls deep in one of the worst fights I’ve had with my bf in ages, possibly ever, I’m currently sleeping in bed alone. He insulted my intelligence even though he’d misunderstood something I said. It feels impossible right now. He gets so personal when I feel there’s no need to, I feel words matter and you shouldn’t say things you can’t take back, and if you have something big to say to somebody you love then you should try to do it as a friend, not when you’re in an argument. Sigh. Love you Whit, thanks for sharing.
I never, NEVER comment on UA-cam, but my heart strongly urged me to comment on this. Thank you. My husband and I have been married for 7 years, together for 12 and I consider our relationship to be special, strong, and incredibly secure. But that doesn't mean there aren't rough patches. And in those rough patches, it's so easy to assume that other couples don't experience difficulties and nitpicky arguments and irritating fights that make you question whether or not it's "meant to be". It is beyond refreshing to be an observer to this level of authenticity. You and Timmy are so brave. Thank you for sharing.
As a married woman, i think gentalness is a key. Men need to talk gentally to thier wivies. If you don't like something, say it but remember to be gentle.
I LOVE THIS. This is so real and so NECESSARY. Watching and listening to how you fight and how you worked it out really offers genuine insight into your lives and I am so appreciative for the realness. It takes a lot of bravery to put yourself out there in the way you two have and I want to say, it is impactful. Everyone who is married or in a long term relationship can relate to this! Thank you 🙌
Thank YOU for saying that. There are a number of people who think we should keep this stuff private, but it's nice to hear that it is helping some people too. Thank you!
Honestly I feel like this topic was both very relatable and refreshing. It wasn't about who was wrong but rather about two different people used to dealing very differently with certain things. Long term couple stuff.
Oh my gosh this is my relationship! My husband is always “joking” and I never find it funny either when it’s at my expense...I also read way too much into the comments and “jokes”
Hey girl! If it really bothers you, then maybe he should stop making fun of you? Don't put the blame just on yourself. Yeah, sometimes I can be a little overly sensitive too, but it would drive me crazy if my boyfriend was constantly making passive aggressive jokes towards me. Playful teasing is one thing, but using bad jokes to avoid confronting something is immature. And if you're just one of those people who doesn't like being made fun of, that's ok! Good luck : )
It's just a way to avoid a serious situation by joking around and being an asshole. If you know what's he's doing that might help you from getting mad. Just call him out on it.
Since the birth of my second son, I started attending therapy. I feel like this video really spoke to me and is so honest and real life! I have come to see each moment where I am “reactive” in a situation as an opportunity now to see what’s going on for me there and look at why that may be. I think everyday life plus little ones definitely allows for lots of those “opportunities” to grow and develop a better understanding of self and awareness Hope to see more in this series. You guys seem like great parents and people ❤️
This new series is really really good and honest. I don't like the arguments because they make me soo uncomfortable but they cannot be avoided🤦🏾♀️. Especially in a marriage. This has been really helpful. I know every couple has their own issues but this break down has really shown how something can look soo different from another person's perspective. Thanks guys☺️
I LOVE THIS! It's so refreshing to hear about what another couple whose relationship you admire fights about. It helps me feel normal. I think the more people are open about the way they fight and more importantly fight fair, it helps make a distinction between what a healthy couple who sometimes fight may look like as apposed to an unhealthy abusive relationship. I think this is a wonderful idea.
Relationship advice... USE SEPARATE BATHROOMS, IF POSSIBLE. I use the guest bathroom and my husband uses the master bathroom (I picked mine based on storage). We began using separate bathrooms early in our relationship and it has prevented so many fights!
I know I can't. What happens when you get old and you're not attracted to them anymore? Seems like by then it's like a friendship more than a marriage, and if you're fighting and stuff all the time like couples do that's going to suck. I think being single is great too. I can do what I want when I want and don't have to stress over a relationship.
@@1DollHair Most people think you're crazy for not wanting to be tied down to someone forever. 😂 They don't get how I'm not always lonely. I don't know. I just don't get lonely or feel I need someone in my life. I dated all through school and was married and divorced by 30. Had a couple more relationships after that but when I hit 34 I was done with relationships. Done with the lying, the cheating, the backstabbing, the fighting.
I love that you guys shared this moment with us. There’s always two sides to a story and this proved further that hearing each other out and being honest can help solve many issues.
I love your videos, Whit. You make yourself so vulnerable and I feel like we have a lot in common. I have two small kids aged 2.5 and 15m. As much joy as they bring, life can be unpredictable and hard with two toddlers in the house. We went away for five days over New Years with our kids and although it was lovely family time (blah blah), it was exhausting too. Being away from you home environment is an extra complication. I couldn't wait to get them home and back into daycare. Do you know what I mean? I would love to see you guys doing a video on "I love my toddler, but I love myself too". Thanks for your videos!
I've been watching your reaction videos on repeat for forever and have been judging my own relationship because it doesn't seem as perfect as yours seems. This is such an honest and thoughtful post which has made me second think how "unacceptable" some fights with my man are. I got a good one, too.
You guys are the absolute best. I can’t tell you how cool it is to see a couple that seems so perfect, be so honest and candid. Especially Timmy, who is always so jokey and lighthearted. (In a great way! - love him!). I guess I just never knew there was such a softer side to him which is really awesome to see. Especially that he goes to therapy. It is so clear how much you guys love each other and are committed to one another. Keep going. Keep being honest. Much love. XX
I`m so happy you´re talking about this topic when the majority of people always pretend they have the "perfect" marriage/relationship. I don´t have a lot of experience when it comes to men/relationships so this vid helped me a lot because I somestimes have a tendency to bottle everything up inside/overthinking bc I´m afraid that if I speak my mind the person I´m with will leave me. This vid showed me you can have disagreements/fights with ur partner and overcome them. Thank you for keeping it real Whit
I just wanted to say that i completely appreciate that you guys shared this with the public and how vunerable that can make you sharing something so private. Its just nice to see that no one is super human and celebrities live everyday lives as we do and go through the same issues. Thank you again guys!!!
This is great, Whitney. Really refreshing to see this kind of open, after-the-fact dialogue from two people in a relationship going through the details of what happened and how things could go differently next time. Relatable and helpful.
Thank you for baring the the burden of reliving the pain of the fight. It showed me so much of who I am as a sensitive woman and also how to better explain myself. I love your channel and love watching you both laugh and joke with each other. ❤️
I hate the joke cop out. Same thing as my husband. I know when he's joking. And I know when he's not. So to me it's insulting he thinks I don't know the difference
@@heatherfits I don't know if I'd go that far. when I call my husband out he always apologizes so maybe your situation is different but my husband is in no way verbally abusive
There are many different types of men...Laurathor if you state him (meaning a man in your life) making fun of you is gaslighting than it is. You know the difference. But then there are men who express happiness, sadness, joy and frustration through comedy because that is how they process emotions...I get him...there is a difference.
Miscommunication or with holding feels is usually what brings on a fight at least in my experience 🙈 I can tell you both value each other so much. Love you guys!
This is so great. Vulnerability is so hard and watching others open up in this way creates conditions in which others can do the same. Thanks for opening up and being so authentic in situations that are hard and could be scary.
God relationships are so difficult lmao..... this just makes me think about arguments with my boyfriend I’m the sensitive one... and he’s got a temper. I read into everything. I just want to be light hearted. I agree benefit of the doubt is so important
Love these series, situations make it not always easy to put words on frustrations when we are sensitive and I think both of you are! If he wasn’t sensitive, he would be more direct I think. It takes a lot to be so open on camera, this is kind of a therapy and I love how you did the montage so we understand both points of you. Nobody is in the wrong, just have to learn to express differently. It still happens in my relationship that sometimes there is a breakdown in communication, I do remind myself before making a hurtful comment to inhale & exhale, it helps me calm down and reevaluate quickly the situation. Sometimes it is just not worth it so I just pass on my husband comments and just say “ok if you feel like it!” and don’t let it get to me because not important (often the smallest things blow out of proportion lol). Anyway the more important is not to go to bed not talking I think. 💛 Love from Casablanca
I love this... please do more. I feel like some couples now days pretend that they never fight and that everything is perfect. I like this because it shows that in marriage it’s normal to fight but you still do love each other and that everything is a process of communicating properly.
I’ve been married almost 21 years. It can be a struggle and with this pandemic causing us to be home more, it can raise tensions. You’re both doing great. You’re communicating which is first thing you need to do in these situations. I’m a Pisces so I get it, I’m very sensitive as well.
Thank you both for opening up and sharing this- it was refreshingly real and honest! This is a totally normal and common issue and I can say, it does get easier. Especially because you both are willing to practice open, thoughtful communication about things and are consciously working on it. Please keep the wonderful, real life content coming! Much love 💛
SUCH a good idea for a series!! Thank you for keeping it so real! This reminds me so much of my relationship with my hubby. OK - Topic/Question - Fighting / Filtering yourself in front of your kids. I have an 18 month old and normally my husband and I "fight", or at least have disagreements or discussions quite often. We've tried hard over the years to not let things drag out so if we are annoyed or have a frustration or problem we talk about it immediately. However now we find ourselves on that fine line where our toddler is just about noticing if we're having a serious conversation. Have you guys set any boundaries with conversations like this around Sonny, or have any recommendations?
100% we have thought about this too. We want Sonny to see first-hand what productive conflict resolution looks like, but we are not always doing things in the best way. When we feel that anger, frustration, or loss of patience set in, we stop and save it for later, or move him somewhere else. We don't want him to see us fighting in a bad way.
@@whitneyport love this response! I think it's so important that our kids see that marriage isn't a cake walk, and we do argue. My husband and I argue in front of our kids. We also apologize, humble ourselves, and forgive in front of our kids. I know too many people who brag about how their parents never fought and then in turn they struggle in their relationships when they fight with their spouse. It turns out their parents did fight but it was always in secret. Our kids need to know that fights happen in relationships and we have to be humble to move forward.
Thank you for sharing this. Not only is it refreshing to see a couple being so open and honest, but it's comforting to know that it's normal to fight over silly things. Those silly things are usually indicators of deeper or unspoken frustrations. I also love that Timmy shared his experience of talking to a therapist, which is something else that is still seen as "taboo" or that there needs to be in an inherent problem to see one, which isn't always true. As always, you've brought so much value to social media by sharing your experience! Thank you!
Honestly you guys, your honesty and candidness is so comforting and needed! Western/American culture constantly makes us feel like the be all/end all of life is to be in a relationship, but SO RARELY do we see models for healthy relationships. We need more couples like you all to be honest about what a relationship really looks like. Thank you
Going through my "Whitims" (Whit+Tim) withdrawls this week, so I'll just recap ALL the "I LOVE MY BABY BUT" SERIES... ❤ No biggie over here dogg. Can't get enough of you Whit. Your whole persona is the reason I've loved the woman you were & have become, the past 15yrs! So sweet & driven! Just love you ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤
You guys are so refreshing! Thanks for being honest about the often unseen sides of marriage and parenthood. It helps to normalize healthy conflict and family challenges and is reminder that strong marriages and families take work sometimes. :) Great stuff.
I love your transparency and realness. It’s a blessing to have a partner that is honest and open enough with themselves to go to counseling AAAAAND apply things learned to better your relationship. You guys rock!! Love ya!
My husband always says I take forever to get ready to leave the house but when I am getting 2 toddlers, a baby and myself ready without his help, I don't think 1 hour or maybe an hour and a half isn't that long. It's always an argument I try not to have and try to ignore it but sometimes I feel like I need to defend myself. Also, Thank you for this video, I hope there are more to come!!!
@@madamluis2537 some times he does help watch the kids or play with the baby but that's rare. Mostly just me getting them ready to go out, he works late so he is always sleeping in.
Sounds to me your single with a roommate. A marriage is a team. Communication is key. Telling someone your married to how you feel is confrontational, you need to say something for your own sake girl!! The only thing my husband asks is what do you want the kids to wear, otherwise he helps with everything. Say something. I’m a stay home mom and my husband will come home and still make dinner if need be. Praying it changes for you!
This sounds JUST like me and my husband. He always “jokes” about things that come from a real place of annoyance and I definitely do read into things just like you Whitney. Not a good combo lol. Those little things always end in a fight for us as well. Marriage is hard
This is a GREAT video. Self analyzation is helpful and seeing you guys talk through it can remind others like myself that whether we knowledge them, there are often underlying feelings that we respond to in relationships and that often finding the “why” behind our actions can benefit everyone! Love this series! Keep it up!
I found this really refreshing, Whitney. Most couples are not willing to air their dirty laundry and instead present what looks pretty and perfect to the rest of the world. No relationship is perfect, it’s all about how we continue to evolve as a couple and work to expand the way we communicate with one another as issues will ALWAYS arise. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing! For being so vulnerable, open and honest to complete strangers. It’s difficult to rehash arguments, but when doing it to learn it can be helpful and therapeutic. That’s wonderful that you guys are open about going into therapy. Sometimes it has such a stigma with it. It’s always helpful to have a good support system. Maybe Timmy can say “hey in 20min let’s go for a walk”. So he acknowledges it might take 15/20 min to get ready for the day for Whitney. And for Timmy to realize it’s not about “looking great” , it’s about giving a woman 15/20 min to gather themselves, do what she needs to do. Because not only is she a wife and a beautiful mommy, she’s also a woman. Yes, for men, they gotta brush their teeth, maybe comb their hair and put on clothes. But for a woman, it takes a bit more time. And that’s okay. It’s not, not prioritizing Timmy and her family, it’s just about prioritizing herself to become a better momma and wife. But thank you for sharing. The reality of relationships. Relationships are always some work. No matter how long you’ve been together. The couple needs to put in work. Because people aren’t perfect. We change, we grow, we get sensitive and we interpret things differently at times. Anyways.. thank you!! Both of you!!
I could relate to what you said about feeling insecure that it takes you a long time to get ready and being sensitive. In relation to that my boyfriend and I had an argument about me not prioritizing the things he asks me to do for him. It built up to the point that I felt like he tested me on that theory he had. Any who, it made me feel terrible because I do think it takes me a long time to get ready and to do things in general. So when he argued about not prioritizing the things he has delegated to me I felt bad because they are a priority to me... Communication goes a lonnnnng way and sometimes it’s hard to be honest but it eliminates a possible argument for my relationship and with people in general. Thanks for sharing this with us.
This was so eye opening for me. I'm a woman but I related to your husband in this video- when I'm annoyed with my husband I make a joke of it and hes sensitive and has some insecurities and we always end up in a fight. I think I need to be more direct and take a breath and address what annoys me instead of joking about his insecurities and making the issue worse. Thank you so much for posting I didnt know I needed this.
The jokes! My man does the same thing!!! When I first expressed that his jokes can trigger me he thought it was an attack on his personality. But now he understands that some days I'm not in the mood to play or joke around. When I'm not in the mood to play around, I let him know immediately! Usually with the word "stop". Once he hears the seriousness of my tone, he shuts up real quick because he knows! Haha. The power of communication! Seriously!
Oh my goodness I can relate ... the sarcasm comments and say it's just a joke babe! I hated it, we have been married for 23 years we were both pretty young 21 yo gosh. I still cant handle the passive aggressive comments. Like just shut up if you dont have anything nice to say or say it directly. Dont say I was just joking or I was just making comments. Your not my dad so be straight forward and say it. Duh.. but we try to settle it right away because I hate fighting really. Those are the littlest things but if ignored can build up into something big
Oh my god, this is basically the same issues I have in my relationship. I completely relate to being as sensitive as you Whitney. I love your piece of advice, and I love how realistic you both are about having a fun relationship.
Talking about your arguments like this is so mature. Marriage is certainly a journey. My husband and I are only two years in and we’re always learning. Good vibes to you both, marriage exposes the best and worst of ourselves
Yes!! I Think this could be super helpful! Difficulties in a relationship is something that isn't talked about enough in my opinion. I would like to see a video about how you each like love to be demonstrated and what you guys do to demonstrate your love to one another. Are your "affection/love/attention" needs fulfilled?
This is so honest omg I'm loving this So often I'm Whitney in this situation and so often I'm Timmy too. It's soooo comforting to hear the situation play out from another couples point of view
Absolutely excellent. You all didn’t just tell the issue but you got into self work and personal development. Taking ownership for your part and stepping back for a moment. I appreciate the openness and transparency. I feel if more people did things like this and showed more examples of “normal “ life in marriage we would all be more successful in relationships and self care. Go team 🙌🏽 ! Ps. I’d like to hear more issues you have to get through, and specifically how you all came to combine your life together along the way. I’m sure you have areas where you’ve successfully joined your life together, what tools have you used? 🛠 🧰
Aww Whitney you're a pisces, you're sweet, sensitive, compassionate and highly empathetic which means you pick up on energies and you literally get annoyed simply from your partner being annoyed. Little gestures like a frustrated shrug really do hurt you.
I applaud both of you for realizing that it takes compromise and growth on both of your ends to resolve things. Not only would I encourage you, Whitney to continue to maintain that mindset that not everything that is said is meant to be a personal attack, I encourage Timmy to continue with his realization that passive aggressive little comments can seem innocent but they definitely do come from a real place. In addition to this, I've found that some days when there are a pile of little jabs back and forth and sour moods on either end, it's easier to just tell myself, "ok, we're just not going to get along today." AND THAT'S OK! Not everything is meant to be hashed out and dragged out into a huge relationship altering conversation. Sometimes I just cut my losses for the day and decide to hit reset and just be nice. Usually this is a good way to make my husband realize that he needs to be nice too and just move on with me. My husband and I have been together for a total of almost 11 years (married for almost 5 of those) and we have gotten to a place where it's just a pleasure to be around each other. It is not easy but people like you who pull back the curtain have the opportunity to help others have a great relationship with their partner.
Seeing other ppls relationships really makes me happy about my own 😂 I mean it’s sad but I’m happy with who I picked. My husband and I just say right away if we’re annoyed. We don’t take 20mins to beat around it, we just say it. Otherwise you get built up anger. Communication and listening is key to any relationship. Good luck to y’all.
I love your channel SO much. This is what content should be on UA-cam...real ShhhH--- lol you know what I mean...I think in a lot of relationships couples get caught up in being comfortable and they kinda forget that there is someone else in your "personal" space now. That includes your feelings, your stuff, your home together and you still have to be respectful and honest...it's not an easy task but it's things to work on. And You guys going to therapy is so awesome and refreshing bc it's good for you and your sanity. You want to be healthy and happy to be comfortable to really say how you feel in a relationship so hats off to you guys on your channel... Totally loving it.
I love this series now. I dont have kids so i couldnt really relate to the i love my baby but, but this, omg, im newlywed and its so important to see that fights are normal and the way we should communicate!
This is so so good. Thank you for allowing us to hear about the "bts" side of your marriage. I'm sure it is helping a lot of your viewers. You guys are awesome, and Timmy I applaud you for being willing to share, most men hate opening up like this, so bravo to you!
Any and all married couples can relate to this. It’s half funny to watch (because we’ve all been there) and half frustrating to watch (because we’ve all been there). Love it!
I truly appreciate both of you being honest. I have been married for 4 years and my husband does the same thing! We all have things to work on but cant get the saying out of my head when he does that jokes have an underlying truth to them. I'm also very sensitive myself. Seems to be a popular match. Maybe so we can learn how to change for the better.
Whitney, The interesting part about watching this Video was seeing in your eyes that the resolutions or things you now learned about the fight has showed the realization of what you and Timmy were saying and doing to each other. Words can be hurtful, but to learn how to communicate better is the key. I know first hand because my Boyfriend is from another Country. Although he speaks English there can be words taken the wrong way. We have learned in the 2 years we have known each other how to Communicate well. Makes us feel so much closer. Yes please do more of these so called "Couple" Videos. I liked this one.
Oh man I completely relate to this. My husband and I are exactly like you and Timmy during fights. He's very much the jokester and will give "digs" (which don't always mean digs to him but I take it that way) and I'm extremely sensitive and take every little comment to heart. Plus, he's British and I'm American so there's the whole cultural thing on top of it. It's definitely been a learning curve for us and we're only in our second year of marriage so I'm sure there are many learning moments ahead. But having you speak so openly about your struggles definitely makes me feel less like we're doing the "wrong" things or whatever, and more understanding that these arguments are completely normal and communication is something we need to work on every single day. I love that you're posting this real, raw stuff again Whitney and Timmy. Thanks so much for sharing your honest life!
But you guys are TALKING ABOUT IT. That’s so healthy. There’s thousands of couples that ignore these kinds of fights and let it build up until it’s too late. Talking about it, makes the couple just stronger. I’m impressed.
The sensitivity, I’ve learned stems from feeling insecure in yourself, because I’ve been the same way, but I’ve found the more I work on myself and become confident in my own worth, then little things like that show as more a reflection of the other persons ways - rather than your own. Great video! Thanks for the honesty. ✨
Christina Muscato ugh, thank you for this. I really needed to hear it and I need to work harder on helping myself instead of breaking down at every little thing. 💜
Im so happy you’re doing this Whitney! I often get upset for other couples not fighting like us, and I often wonder how it would be with other, ”more normal” men. Seeing that your partner gets mad and frustrated too, does make me feel a little better, like maybe it’s just how men are built.
I really loved this video. Breaking down a fight in such a vulnerable way really highlights a lot of things. I love my husband but we fight, too. I’m going to share this video with him.
You aren’t always going to be on the same page... and that is okay. Don’t let things collect and then blow. 20 year marriage veteran here. Kudos to you both for being honest.
Okay, I love this. The fairytale of married life with kids is still too pervasive. Everyone has issues; everyone is insufferable to a certain degree and everyone has things to work out. This is so wonderful to see a couple be really open and honest about things because it helps normalize the day to day stuff of being in a relationship. I want to have more conversations like this with my girlfriends! I'd personally love to hear more about how you each feel about having kids, how that differs and how you communicate about it.
👏👏👏 you guys are awesome, real, raw and honest! A lot of the social media world is so shallow and fake. But you two show, that it can be done differently! 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Thank you guys so much for sharing! Me and my husband have a very similar dynamic so I can completely relate. I get frustrated when my husband says he feels like he can't joke with me (I don't mind being teased but I am sensitive when I comes to certain things that I know bother my partner.) Timmy really gave me great insight as to how my partner may not be aware that his jokes are coming from a small frustration that he views as not worth brining up for discussion and doesn't fully see that the comment reads as passive aggressive intent for the recipient. Thank you both so much!
Wow! It feels good to know others go through the EXACT same stuff that we do. I’m a very sensitive person with him only and it can be hard on both of us because of that. We have the rule that 24hours is the longest we can go fighting/arguing and then be done. But sometimes I think and I the crazy one? Or why can’t I just take what he says as what he says and not take it so personally. This really hit home for me, thank you for making this hard video.
Whitney - you always look polished and ready to meet the world. Your career is partly based on being camera ready so there is no need to feel insecure about how long it takes you to get ready. You obviously know what you are doing, look at the results! It is not realistic to just brush your teeth and go! And, when you have limited time to get ready is NOT the time for your husband to bring up the way the bathroom is organized!
I just found this video and I've had this same sort of argument with my husband. He'll make a comment that he thinks are funny or not meant to be rude, but sometimes I do take it in those ways. Thank you for bringing this up. It makes me feel good to know that we aren't the only ones trying to figure things out.
I love this. The fact that you're being real on camera and giving us insight into your lives when you don't need to, is great. We know couples/parents are perfect. Shit happens. I'm just glad you guys work it out. I love that you guys want to let us in that you're not perfect and give us advice on this kind of stuff.
Thank you so much for being so open and raw and real. People forget that famous people are just human like the rest of us. Life and relationships are not always rosy. I admire the hard work you both put into the relationship. I am a huge fan of therapy. ❤
Oh, Whitney! My husband and I struggle with the same thing. I’m hypersensitive in all areas of my life...I’m working on being more resilient and rational, it’s a daily challenge. Thankfully, my husband understands this about me, but it still causes a good amount of strife. He will jokingly bring stuff up, and I immediately take it to a negative space where I feel like a failure and I get defensive...and an argument ensues. We are very careful, however, to always talk it out...we do our best to not go to bed unresolved. Sometimes it’s his mistake and/or he’s being a jerk...or it’s just simple miscommunication. But we give each other space and don’t force a conversation while we’re both feeling aggravated. Ultimately, our best tactic is to avoid pointing fingers or trying to figure out “who started it”...we take a deep breath and say, ok, what’s the “nugget” of all this? We try to approach the disagreement as a team instead of opposing sides. That being said, marriage is a daily lesson in creative communication! ❤️
Wow this was so beautifully and artistically presented. Both perspectives, both recounts, the acceptance, the getting into the argument and resolution was all amazing- this was extremely helpful thanks so much for sharing!
I really loved this!!! Thank you for your transparency!! Marriages...relationships in general are hard work! Everything is not rainbows and butterflies!! I love how your channel defines so much of how real life is and supposed to be!
I have been with my husband for a total of 14years, married for just over 2years. The best piece of advice i have ever heard is to learn how to fight fair in a relationship. All couples fight. Love this series.
My only advice is a joke isn’t a joke if it’s hurting someone. So yes have a joking relationship but maybe don’t use it as a passive way of saying what you should really be saying. IE: if you wanting her to go for a walk vs spending so much time getting ready. Don’t make it a joke just say that to her. I think she’ll appreciate it and also feel like she doesn’t need to be out together as often. This is amazing since it does show the realness we all go through vs the glossy,perfect image social media can give. Such bravery for sharing and opening up to the world. Love you since the hills. ♥️♥️
Thank your for making this so real. I did not think you guys would break the fight up and be so honest. I thought you might instead just given general tips. This was interesting and helpful. ♥️
"We'll continue to let you know what we fight about." 👍😁😊 Glad you both shared your honest experiences about fighting. In today's world of perfect Instagram posts you two are a breath of fresh air. Honest and so relatable. We all fight and we all try to make the best version of ourselves so the other half would know we love him/her. It's not easy as we're unveiling some unconscious patterns but as long as we try and continue to be better I think we are halfway through the hard part. Thanks for your honesty guys, love from sLOVEnia(Europe) 🙌
I'm super sensitive too, and I read into things the wrong way too but my fiance and I have come so far by communicating better, we want to go to therapy but have been putting it off, I really think it'll bring us even closer and improve our relationship so I can't wait.
Yours is the only family channel I will ever watch ☺️ this is the content that couples need I think. I recognized that in my relationship I am nagging constantly while my partner is brushing off my frustration with jokes (in a loving way) which makes me more frustrated. We definitely both need to work on this.
It’s ok to argue in relationships, it’s normal to a point . Just never go to sleep mad. I had to learn to actually listen to the other side instead of always making it about how I felt . Communication is everything. Love these videos! Keep them coming. Blessings.
Who do you guys think was in the wrong? Jk, obviously it was Timmy. Jk again, tell us what you and your partner, friends, family argue about that seems like a little thing. But, then go forgive someone you are mad at, too. Let's keep this positive, people!
I know with me, I try to ask questions like "what can can do to be more mindful of this", or "that's not priority right now, because of ... so and so" (depending in the issue). Another thing I'll ask is, " what can we do to incorporate this into our routine", or (what do think about the situation and how can we work and talk through our frustrations that may not be involved in the current situation". I really try to ask questions, where it gets us thinking and if we are both really heated in the fight I'll just suggest that we "take a break to calm down and come back to it clear headed". I don't know if that helps, but can give a sense of direction ad to how I handle things at home, Whitney 😊
I'm sensitive and overthink everything just like you! It's stressful and sometimes very hard. I like this series!
Im from Bolivia.. and I realy like you😊
Whitney Port I’m balls deep in one of the worst fights I’ve had with my bf in ages, possibly ever, I’m currently sleeping in bed alone. He insulted my intelligence even though he’d misunderstood something I said. It feels impossible right now. He gets so personal when I feel there’s no need to, I feel words matter and you shouldn’t say things you can’t take back, and if you have something big to say to somebody you love then you should try to do it as a friend, not when you’re in an argument. Sigh. Love you Whit, thanks for sharing.
@@AbiCroCro I hope everything is ok. Stay strong. It's hard when your intelligence is insulted and it's hard to forgive.
I never, NEVER comment on UA-cam, but my heart strongly urged me to comment on this. Thank you. My husband and I have been married for 7 years, together for 12 and I consider our relationship to be special, strong, and incredibly secure. But that doesn't mean there aren't rough patches. And in those rough patches, it's so easy to assume that other couples don't experience difficulties and nitpicky arguments and irritating fights that make you question whether or not it's "meant to be". It is beyond refreshing to be an observer to this level of authenticity. You and Timmy are so brave. Thank you for sharing.
YES! This! :) Exactly how I feel as well.
As a married woman, i think gentalness is a key. Men need to talk gentally to thier wivies. If you don't like something, say it but remember to be gentle.
Oliva kk2 yes! As someone who is also married - tone can make such a difference!
Just stay single
I LOVE THIS. This is so real and so NECESSARY. Watching and listening to how you fight and how you worked it out really offers genuine insight into your lives and I am so appreciative for the realness. It takes a lot of bravery to put yourself out there in the way you two have and I want to say, it is impactful. Everyone who is married or in a long term relationship can relate to this!
Thank you 🙌
Thank YOU for saying that. There are a number of people who think we should keep this stuff private, but it's nice to hear that it is helping some people too. Thank you!
It's stupid
@@ghostwtm5652 don’t watch? Seriously. Go home.
Seeing you both break it down to see it from the other person’s perspective is so great. Goals!
Honestly I feel like this topic was both very relatable and refreshing. It wasn't about who was wrong but rather about two different people used to dealing very differently with certain things. Long term couple stuff.
This could be a really cool new series!! So honest and true
Thumbs up once Timmy voiced his therapy session and the introspection he got from it. Very impressed.
Timmy knows he is not perfect and is actively trying to smooth out his rough edges. I'm proud of him!
His “organization ladies” to her “organization team” leads me to believe they need separate bathrooms.
I agree. Side note, wasn’t it The Home Edit team who organized her home? 😂
Oh my gosh this is my relationship! My husband is always “joking” and I never find it funny either when it’s at my expense...I also read way too much into the comments and “jokes”
Hey girl! If it really bothers you, then maybe he should stop making fun of you? Don't put the blame just on yourself. Yeah, sometimes I can be a little overly sensitive too, but it would drive me crazy if my boyfriend was constantly making passive aggressive jokes towards me. Playful teasing is one thing, but using bad jokes to avoid confronting something is immature. And if you're just one of those people who doesn't like being made fun of, that's ok! Good luck : )
Hope Filled same with my husband I get so mad and then he gets mad
This is an ongoing issue in my relationship. I get it.
Hope Filled same!
It's just a way to avoid a serious situation by joking around and being an asshole. If you know what's he's doing that might help you from getting mad. Just call him out on it.
Since the birth of my second son, I started attending therapy. I feel like this video really spoke to me and is so honest and real life!
I have come to see each moment where I am “reactive” in a situation as an opportunity now to see what’s going on for me there and look at why that may be.
I think everyday life plus little ones definitely allows for lots of those “opportunities” to grow and develop a better understanding of self and awareness
Hope to see more in this series. You guys seem like great parents and people ❤️
love how raw and authentic this is... takes a lot of courage to share these personal moments!
This new series is really really good and honest. I don't like the arguments because they make me soo uncomfortable but they cannot be avoided🤦🏾♀️. Especially in a marriage. This has been really helpful. I know every couple has their own issues but this break down has really shown how something can look soo different from another person's perspective. Thanks guys☺️
I’m not married or even in a relationship but this was an interesting insight into marriage/relationship in general. Thanks
Yep! Take note!!!
Ik neither am I and I'm annoyed with the whole situation already. lol
I LOVE THIS! It's so refreshing to hear about what another couple whose relationship you admire fights about. It helps me feel normal. I think the more people are open about the way they fight and more importantly fight fair, it helps make a distinction between what a healthy couple who sometimes fight may look like as apposed to an unhealthy abusive relationship. I think this is a wonderful idea.
That was very well said and makes putting out all this dirty laundry (even though it really isn't even that dirty) worth it.
So obsessed with this!!!!! I also love my husband , but we fight! And its perfectly normal!
And yes, us girls have our moody days, and we tend to overreact. BUT Ive noticed that when I do, is usually because something else is bothering me.
@@claritabbo1 Totally! Well said. It is 100% normal. People argue. Across every class, race, religion, region, etc...WE ARE NOT PERFECT.
Relationship advice... USE SEPARATE BATHROOMS, IF POSSIBLE. I use the guest bathroom and my husband uses the master bathroom (I picked mine based on storage). We began using separate bathrooms early in our relationship and it has prevented so many fights!
Wow I’ve never heard a married couple talk so openly, honestly I’m not sure I could live with someone for the rest of my life
healthywholemealbread I worry about that too... I think having friends, traveling and solo time alone is important.
it's not for everyone! You can live a perfectly fulfilling life on your own and you get to call your own shots!
I know I can't. What happens when you get old and you're not attracted to them anymore? Seems like by then it's like a friendship more than a marriage, and if you're fighting and stuff all the time like couples do that's going to suck. I think being single is great too. I can do what I want when I want and don't have to stress over a relationship.
@@1DollHair Most people think you're crazy for not wanting to be tied down to someone forever. 😂 They don't get how I'm not always lonely. I don't know. I just don't get lonely or feel I need someone in my life. I dated all through school and was married and divorced by 30. Had a couple more relationships after that but when I hit 34 I was done with relationships. Done with the lying, the cheating, the backstabbing, the fighting.
I love that you guys shared this moment with us. There’s always two sides to a story and this proved further that hearing each other out and being honest can help solve many issues.
I love your videos, Whit. You make yourself so vulnerable and I feel like we have a lot in common. I have two small kids aged 2.5 and 15m. As much joy as they bring, life can be unpredictable and hard with two toddlers in the house. We went away for five days over New Years with our kids and although it was lovely family time (blah blah), it was exhausting too. Being away from you home environment is an extra complication. I couldn't wait to get them home and back into daycare. Do you know what I mean? I would love to see you guys doing a video on "I love my toddler, but I love myself too". Thanks for your videos!
I've been watching your reaction videos on repeat for forever and have been judging my own relationship because it doesn't seem as perfect as yours seems. This is such an honest and thoughtful post which has made me second think how "unacceptable" some fights with my man are. I got a good one, too.
You guys are the absolute best. I can’t tell you how cool it is to see a couple that seems so perfect, be so honest and candid. Especially Timmy, who is always so jokey and lighthearted. (In a great way! - love him!). I guess I just never knew there was such a softer side to him which is really awesome to see. Especially that he goes to therapy. It is so clear how much you guys love each other and are committed to one another. Keep going. Keep being honest. Much love. XX
I`m so happy you´re talking about this topic when the majority of people always pretend they have the "perfect" marriage/relationship. I don´t have a lot of experience when it comes to men/relationships so this vid helped me a lot because I somestimes have a tendency to bottle everything up inside/overthinking bc I´m afraid that if I speak my mind the person I´m with will leave me. This vid showed me you can have disagreements/fights with ur partner and overcome them. Thank you for keeping it real Whit
Mette Andersen wowww yes great post. Me too 💕
I just wanted to say that i completely appreciate that you guys shared this with the public and how vunerable that can make you sharing something so private. Its just nice to see that no one is super human and celebrities live everyday lives as we do and go through the same issues. Thank you again guys!!!
This is great, Whitney. Really refreshing to see this kind of open, after-the-fact dialogue from two people in a relationship going through the details of what happened and how things could go differently next time. Relatable and helpful.
Please bring this series back! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for baring the the burden of reliving the pain of the fight. It showed me so much of who I am as a sensitive woman and also how to better explain myself. I love your channel and love watching you both laugh and joke with each other. ❤️
I hate the joke cop out. Same thing as my husband. I know when he's joking. And I know when he's not. So to me it's insulting he thinks I don't know the difference
@@heatherfits I don't know if I'd go that far. when I call my husband out he always apologizes so maybe your situation is different but my husband is in no way verbally abusive
@@heatherfits I'm not gaslit by anyone especially him so please don't speak for me
There are many different types of men...Laurathor if you state him (meaning a man in your life) making fun of you is gaslighting than it is.
You know the difference.
But then there are men who express happiness, sadness, joy and frustration through comedy because that is how they process emotions...I get him...there is a difference.
Miscommunication or with holding feels is usually what brings on a fight at least in my experience 🙈 I can tell you both value each other so much. Love you guys!
Withholding feelings!! so well said!
This is so great. Vulnerability is so hard and watching others open up in this way creates conditions in which others can do the same. Thanks for opening up and being so authentic in situations that are hard and could be scary.
God relationships are so difficult lmao.....
this just makes me think about arguments with my boyfriend
I’m the sensitive one... and he’s got a temper. I read into everything. I just want to be light hearted. I agree benefit of the doubt is so important
Life isn't glamorous and I'm glad they're willing to share...
Yesssss! Thank you guys! I’ve been with my husband for 7 years and this is real marriage. Not what you see on social media. This is real life!
7 year!! congrats. We prob have a lot to learn for you guys. We want to share the straight-up truth with you guys as much as possible
Love these series, situations make it not always easy to put words on frustrations when we are sensitive and I think both of you are! If he wasn’t sensitive, he would be more direct I think. It takes a lot to be so open on camera, this is kind of a therapy and I love how you did the montage so we understand both points of you. Nobody is in the wrong, just have to learn to express differently.
It still happens in my relationship that sometimes there is a breakdown in communication, I do remind myself before making a hurtful comment to inhale & exhale, it helps me calm down and reevaluate quickly the situation. Sometimes it is just not worth it so I just pass on my husband comments and just say “ok if you feel like it!” and don’t let it get to me because not important (often the smallest things blow out of proportion lol).
Anyway the more important is not to go to bed not talking I think.
💛 Love from Casablanca
I love this... please do more. I feel like some couples now days pretend that they never fight and that everything is perfect. I like this because it shows that in marriage it’s normal to fight but you still do love each other and that everything is a process of communicating properly.
I’ve been married almost 21 years. It can be a struggle and with this pandemic causing us to be home more, it can raise tensions. You’re both doing great. You’re communicating which is first thing you need to do in these situations. I’m a Pisces so I get it, I’m very sensitive as well.
Thank you both for opening up and sharing this- it was refreshingly real and honest! This is a totally normal and common issue and I can say, it does get easier. Especially because you both are willing to practice open, thoughtful communication about things and are consciously working on it. Please keep the wonderful, real life content coming! Much love 💛
Things have gotten better since we put this out. Talking it out in a healthy way makes you feel SO MUCH BETTER
Honestly, this made me feel way better about my fights with my boyfriend. I also read into things that don't to be. I thank you for doing this!
SUCH a good idea for a series!! Thank you for keeping it so real! This reminds me so much of my relationship with my hubby. OK - Topic/Question - Fighting / Filtering yourself in front of your kids. I have an 18 month old and normally my husband and I "fight", or at least have disagreements or discussions quite often. We've tried hard over the years to not let things drag out so if we are annoyed or have a frustration or problem we talk about it immediately. However now we find ourselves on that fine line where our toddler is just about noticing if we're having a serious conversation. Have you guys set any boundaries with conversations like this around Sonny, or have any recommendations?
100% we have thought about this too. We want Sonny to see first-hand what productive conflict resolution looks like, but we are not always doing things in the best way. When we feel that anger, frustration, or loss of patience set in, we stop and save it for later, or move him somewhere else. We don't want him to see us fighting in a bad way.
@@whitneyport love this response! I think it's so important that our kids see that marriage isn't a cake walk, and we do argue. My husband and I argue in front of our kids. We also apologize, humble ourselves, and forgive in front of our kids. I know too many people who brag about how their parents never fought and then in turn they struggle in their relationships when they fight with their spouse. It turns out their parents did fight but it was always in secret. Our kids need to know that fights happen in relationships and we have to be humble to move forward.
Thank you for sharing this. Not only is it refreshing to see a couple being so open and honest, but it's comforting to know that it's normal to fight over silly things. Those silly things are usually indicators of deeper or unspoken frustrations. I also love that Timmy shared his experience of talking to a therapist, which is something else that is still seen as "taboo" or that there needs to be in an inherent problem to see one, which isn't always true. As always, you've brought so much value to social media by sharing your experience! Thank you!
Omg I love you guys. Few couples are capable of sharing their vulnerabilities like that. Adorable!
Honestly you guys, your honesty and candidness is so comforting and needed! Western/American culture constantly makes us feel like the be all/end all of life is to be in a relationship, but SO RARELY do we see models for healthy relationships. We need more couples like you all to be honest about what a relationship really looks like. Thank you
Ah, loved it! Please make more videos like these😍😍😍 topics: sharing housechores, our biggest relationship struggles, why he's the one for me..
These are great ideas! Thank you!
Going through my "Whitims" (Whit+Tim) withdrawls this week, so I'll just recap ALL the "I LOVE MY BABY BUT" SERIES... ❤
No biggie over here dogg. Can't get enough of you Whit. Your whole persona is the reason I've loved the woman you were & have become, the past 15yrs! So sweet & driven! Just love you ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤
You guys are so refreshing! Thanks for being honest about the often unseen sides of marriage and parenthood. It helps to normalize healthy conflict and family challenges and is reminder that strong marriages and families take work sometimes. :) Great stuff.
I love your transparency and realness. It’s a blessing to have a partner that is honest and open enough with themselves to go to counseling AAAAAND apply things learned to better your relationship. You guys rock!! Love ya!
So healthy for you both to be willing to work on yourself and your marriage! and willing to share! xo
My husband always says I take forever to get ready to leave the house but when I am getting 2 toddlers, a baby and myself ready without his help, I don't think 1 hour or maybe an hour and a half isn't that long. It's always an argument I try not to have and try to ignore it but sometimes I feel like I need to defend myself. Also, Thank you for this video, I hope there are more to come!!!
Elizabeth Al Dorry but what is he doing to help you? I mean why not each parent take one kid?
@@madamluis2537 some times he does help watch the kids or play with the baby but that's rare. Mostly just me getting them ready to go out, he works late so he is always sleeping in.
Why don’t you switch with him 2 day a week to start. Let him walk in your shoes for once
Sounds to me your single with a roommate. A marriage is a team. Communication is key. Telling someone your married to how you feel is confrontational, you need to say something for your own sake girl!! The only thing my husband asks is what do you want the kids to wear, otherwise he helps with everything. Say something. I’m a stay home mom and my husband will come home and still make dinner if need be. Praying it changes for you!
More annoying, I get everyone ready (3 kids) and myself and then we wait on him...every time.
This sounds JUST like me and my husband. He always “jokes” about things that come from a real place of annoyance and I definitely do read into things just like you Whitney. Not a good combo lol. Those little things always end in a fight for us as well. Marriage is hard
Marriage is work and effort. I would say its easier than hard, but it can certainly be hard at times. Does that make sense?
I love this series so much, you guys are just so honest and the way you put yourselves out there is so genuine and relatable!
This is a GREAT video. Self analyzation is helpful and seeing you guys talk through it can remind others like myself that whether we knowledge them, there are often underlying feelings that we respond to in relationships and that often finding the “why” behind our actions can benefit everyone! Love this series! Keep it up!
LOVE THIS!!!!!!!
Kudos to you. Well done. We’ve been married 24 years and facing your truth with each other is key. Good for you.
I found this really refreshing, Whitney. Most couples are not willing to air their dirty laundry and instead present what
looks pretty and perfect to the rest of the world. No relationship is perfect, it’s all about how we continue to evolve as a couple and work to expand the way we communicate with one another as issues will ALWAYS arise. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing! For being so vulnerable, open and honest to complete strangers. It’s difficult to rehash arguments, but when doing it to learn it can be helpful and therapeutic.
That’s wonderful that you guys are open about going into therapy. Sometimes it has such a stigma with it. It’s always helpful to have a good support system.
Maybe Timmy can say “hey in 20min let’s go for a walk”. So he acknowledges it might take 15/20 min to get ready for the day for Whitney.
And for Timmy to realize it’s not about “looking great” , it’s about giving a woman 15/20 min to gather themselves, do what she needs to do. Because not only is she a wife and a beautiful mommy, she’s also a woman. Yes, for men, they gotta brush their teeth, maybe comb their hair and put on clothes. But for a woman, it takes a bit more time.
And that’s okay. It’s not, not prioritizing Timmy and her family, it’s just about prioritizing herself to become a better momma and wife.
But thank you for sharing. The reality of relationships.
Relationships are always some work. No matter how long you’ve been together. The couple needs to put in work. Because people aren’t perfect. We change, we grow, we get sensitive and we interpret things differently at times.
Anyways.. thank you!! Both of you!!
I could relate to what you said about feeling insecure that it takes you a long time to get ready and being sensitive. In relation to that my boyfriend and I had an argument about me not prioritizing the things he asks me to do for him. It built up to the point that I felt like he tested me on that theory he had.
Any who, it made me feel terrible because I do think it takes me a long time to get ready and to do things in general.
So when he argued about not prioritizing the things he has delegated to me I felt bad because they are a priority to me...
Communication goes a lonnnnng way and sometimes it’s hard to be honest but it eliminates a possible argument for my relationship and with people in general.
Thanks for sharing this with us.
This was so eye opening for me. I'm a woman but I related to your husband in this video- when I'm annoyed with my husband I make a joke of it and hes sensitive and has some insecurities and we always end up in a fight. I think I need to be more direct and take a breath and address what annoys me instead of joking about his insecurities and making the issue worse. Thank you so much for posting I didnt know I needed this.
The jokes! My man does the same thing!!! When I first expressed that his jokes can trigger me he thought it was an attack on his personality. But now he understands that some days I'm not in the mood to play or joke around. When I'm not in the mood to play around, I let him know immediately! Usually with the word "stop". Once he hears the seriousness of my tone, he shuts up real quick because he knows! Haha. The power of communication! Seriously!
Oh my goodness I can relate ... the sarcasm comments and say it's just a joke babe! I hated it, we have been married for 23 years we were both pretty young 21 yo gosh. I still cant handle the passive aggressive comments. Like just shut up if you dont have anything nice to say or say it directly. Dont say I was just joking or I was just making comments. Your not my dad so be straight forward and say it. Duh.. but we try to settle it right away because I hate fighting really. Those are the littlest things but if ignored can build up into something big
Oh my god, this is basically the same issues I have in my relationship. I completely relate to being as sensitive as you Whitney. I love your piece of advice, and I love how realistic you both are about having a fun relationship.
Talking about your arguments like this is so mature. Marriage is certainly a journey. My husband and I are only two years in and we’re always learning. Good vibes to you both, marriage exposes the best and worst of ourselves
Well said, girl!
Yes!! I Think this could be super helpful! Difficulties in a relationship is something that isn't talked about enough in my opinion. I would like to see a video about how you each like love to be demonstrated and what you guys do to demonstrate your love to one another. Are your "affection/love/attention" needs fulfilled?
This is so honest omg I'm loving this
So often I'm Whitney in this situation and so often I'm Timmy too. It's soooo comforting to hear the situation play out from another couples point of view
Interesting you see yourself in both positions. Thank you for watching!
Absolutely excellent. You all didn’t just tell the issue but you got into self work and personal development. Taking ownership for your part and stepping back for a moment. I appreciate the openness and transparency. I feel if more people did things like this and showed more examples of “normal “ life in marriage we would all be more successful in relationships and self care. Go team 🙌🏽 !
Ps. I’d like to hear more issues you have to get through, and specifically how you all came to combine your life together along the way. I’m sure you have areas where you’ve successfully joined your life together, what tools have you used? 🛠 🧰
I’M OBSESSED WITH THIS. Please never stop.
Aww Whitney you're a pisces, you're sweet, sensitive, compassionate and highly empathetic which means you pick up on energies and you literally get annoyed simply from your partner being annoyed. Little gestures like a frustrated shrug really do hurt you.
reine poaty I’m a Pisces and I do this too. I definitely felt what she was saying in this video lol we’re a little too sensitive lol
And her husband is an Aries so they're polar opposites when it comes to sensitivity and emotions
@@AshleyAGlass lol same girl same 😞
@@danalopez6399 exactly
im a virgo but same lol
I applaud both of you for realizing that it takes compromise and growth on both of your ends to resolve things. Not only would I encourage you, Whitney to continue to maintain that mindset that not everything that is said is meant to be a personal attack, I encourage Timmy to continue with his realization that passive aggressive little comments can seem innocent but they definitely do come from a real place. In addition to this, I've found that some days when there are a pile of little jabs back and forth and sour moods on either end, it's easier to just tell myself, "ok, we're just not going to get along today." AND THAT'S OK! Not everything is meant to be hashed out and dragged out into a huge relationship altering conversation. Sometimes I just cut my losses for the day and decide to hit reset and just be nice. Usually this is a good way to make my husband realize that he needs to be nice too and just move on with me. My husband and I have been together for a total of almost 11 years (married for almost 5 of those) and we have gotten to a place where it's just a pleasure to be around each other. It is not easy but people like you who pull back the curtain have the opportunity to help others have a great relationship with their partner.
Seeing other ppls relationships really makes me happy about my own 😂 I mean it’s sad but I’m happy with who I picked. My husband and I just say right away if we’re annoyed. We don’t take 20mins to beat around it, we just say it. Otherwise you get built up anger. Communication and listening is key to any relationship. Good luck to y’all.
Wow. This is a really good example of how to look at your own behavior and make positive changes.
I love your channel SO much. This is what content should be on UA-cam...real ShhhH--- lol you know what I mean...I think in a lot of relationships couples get caught up in being comfortable and they kinda forget that there is someone else in your "personal" space now. That includes your feelings, your stuff, your home together and you still have to be respectful and honest...it's not an easy task but it's things to work on. And You guys going to therapy is so awesome and refreshing bc it's good for you and your sanity. You want to be healthy and happy to be comfortable to really say how you feel in a relationship so hats off to you guys on your channel... Totally loving it.
The best part about fighting is making up.
You'll always have fights, its life.
How you deal with it is what will keep you together.
I love this series now. I dont have kids so i couldnt really relate to the i love my baby but, but this, omg, im newlywed and its so important to see that fights are normal and the way we should communicate!
This is so so good. Thank you for allowing us to hear about the "bts" side of your marriage. I'm sure it is helping a lot of your viewers. You guys are awesome, and Timmy I applaud you for being willing to share, most men hate opening up like this, so bravo to you!
Any and all married couples can relate to this. It’s half funny to watch (because we’ve all been there) and half frustrating to watch (because we’ve all been there). Love it!
I truly appreciate both of you being honest. I have been married for 4 years and my husband does the same thing! We all have things to work on but cant get the saying out of my head when he does that jokes have an underlying truth to them. I'm also very sensitive myself. Seems to be a popular match. Maybe so we can learn how to change for the better.
Whitney, The interesting part about watching this Video was seeing in your eyes that the resolutions or things you now learned about the fight has showed the realization of what you and Timmy were saying and doing to each other. Words can be hurtful, but to learn how to communicate better is the key. I know first hand because my Boyfriend is from another Country. Although he speaks English there can be words taken the wrong way. We have learned in the 2 years we have known each other how to Communicate well. Makes us feel so much closer. Yes please do more of these so called "Couple" Videos. I liked this one.
Oh man I completely relate to this. My husband and I are exactly like you and Timmy during fights. He's very much the jokester and will give "digs" (which don't always mean digs to him but I take it that way) and I'm extremely sensitive and take every little comment to heart. Plus, he's British and I'm American so there's the whole cultural thing on top of it. It's definitely been a learning curve for us and we're only in our second year of marriage so I'm sure there are many learning moments ahead. But having you speak so openly about your struggles definitely makes me feel less like we're doing the "wrong" things or whatever, and more understanding that these arguments are completely normal and communication is something we need to work on every single day. I love that you're posting this real, raw stuff again Whitney and Timmy. Thanks so much for sharing your honest life!
But you guys are TALKING ABOUT IT. That’s so healthy. There’s thousands of couples that ignore these kinds of fights and let it build up until it’s too late. Talking about it, makes the couple just stronger. I’m impressed.
The sensitivity, I’ve learned stems from feeling insecure in yourself, because I’ve been the same way, but I’ve found the more I work on myself and become confident in my own worth, then little things like that show as more a reflection of the other persons ways - rather than your own. Great video! Thanks for the honesty. ✨
Christina Muscato ugh, thank you for this. I really needed to hear it and I need to work harder on helping myself instead of breaking down at every little thing. 💜
agreed!
As a married person, I absolutely loved this! Thank you for your honestly guys xxx
Im so happy you’re doing this Whitney! I often get upset for other couples not fighting like us, and I often wonder how it would be with other, ”more normal” men. Seeing that your partner gets mad and frustrated too, does make me feel a little better, like maybe it’s just how men are built.
I really loved this video. Breaking down a fight in such a vulnerable way really highlights a lot of things. I love my husband but we fight, too. I’m going to share this video with him.
You aren’t always going to be on the same page... and that is okay. Don’t let things collect and then blow. 20 year marriage veteran here. Kudos to you both for being honest.
Okay, I love this. The fairytale of married life with kids is still too pervasive. Everyone has issues; everyone is insufferable to a certain degree and everyone has things to work out. This is so wonderful to see a couple be really open and honest about things because it helps normalize the day to day stuff of being in a relationship. I want to have more conversations like this with my girlfriends!
I'd personally love to hear more about how you each feel about having kids, how that differs and how you communicate about it.
👏👏👏 you guys are awesome, real, raw and honest! A lot of the social media world is so shallow and fake. But you two show, that it can be done differently!
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Thank you guys so much for sharing! Me and my husband have a very similar dynamic so I can completely relate. I get frustrated when my husband says he feels like he can't joke with me (I don't mind being teased but I am sensitive when I comes to certain things that I know bother my partner.) Timmy really gave me great insight as to how my partner may not be aware that his jokes are coming from a small frustration that he views as not worth brining up for discussion and doesn't fully see that the comment reads as passive aggressive intent for the recipient. Thank you both so much!
Wow! It feels good to know others go through the EXACT same stuff that we do. I’m a very sensitive person with him only and it can be hard on both of us because of that. We have the rule that 24hours is the longest we can go fighting/arguing and then be done. But sometimes I think and I the crazy one? Or why can’t I just take what he says as what he says and not take it so personally. This really hit home for me, thank you for making this hard video.
Whitney - you always look polished and ready to meet the world. Your career is partly based on being camera ready so there is no need to feel insecure about how long it takes you to get ready. You obviously know what you are doing, look at the results! It is not realistic to just brush your teeth and go! And, when you have limited time to get ready is NOT the time for your husband to bring up the way the bathroom is organized!
I just found this video and I've had this same sort of argument with my husband. He'll make a comment that he thinks are funny or not meant to be rude, but sometimes I do take it in those ways. Thank you for bringing this up. It makes me feel good to know that we aren't the only ones trying to figure things out.
I love this. The fact that you're being real on camera and giving us insight into your lives when you don't need to, is great. We know couples/parents are perfect. Shit happens. I'm just glad you guys work it out. I love that you guys want to let us in that you're not perfect and give us advice on this kind of stuff.
Thank you so much for being so open and raw and real. People forget that famous people are just human like the rest of us. Life and relationships are not always rosy. I admire the hard work you both put into the relationship. I am a huge fan of therapy. ❤
Oh, Whitney! My husband and I struggle with the same thing. I’m hypersensitive in all areas of my life...I’m working on being more resilient and rational, it’s a daily challenge. Thankfully, my husband understands this about me, but it still causes a good amount of strife. He will jokingly bring stuff up, and I immediately take it to a negative space where I feel like a failure and I get defensive...and an argument ensues. We are very careful, however, to always talk it out...we do our best to not go to bed unresolved. Sometimes it’s his mistake and/or he’s being a jerk...or it’s just simple miscommunication. But we give each other space and don’t force a conversation while we’re both feeling aggravated. Ultimately, our best tactic is to avoid pointing fingers or trying to figure out “who started it”...we take a deep breath and say, ok, what’s the “nugget” of all this? We try to approach the disagreement as a team instead of opposing sides. That being said, marriage is a daily lesson in creative communication! ❤️
Wow this was so beautifully and artistically presented. Both perspectives, both recounts, the acceptance, the getting into the argument and resolution was all amazing- this was extremely helpful thanks so much for sharing!
Thank you for saying such nice things!!! There are a lot of kick-ass people here. Let's all hang out!!!
I really loved this!!! Thank you for your transparency!! Marriages...relationships in general are hard work! Everything is not rainbows and butterflies!! I love how your channel defines so much of how real life is and supposed to be!
I have been with my husband for a total of 14years, married for just over 2years. The best piece of advice i have ever heard is to learn how to fight fair in a relationship. All couples fight. Love this series.
agreed on all counts!
My only advice is a joke isn’t a joke if it’s hurting someone. So yes have a joking relationship but maybe don’t use it as a passive way of saying what you should really be saying. IE: if you wanting her to go for a walk vs spending so much time getting ready. Don’t make it a joke just say that to her. I think she’ll appreciate it and also feel like she doesn’t need to be out together as often.
This is amazing since it does show the realness we all go through vs the glossy,perfect image social media can give. Such bravery for sharing and opening up to the world. Love you since the hills. ♥️♥️
Thank your for making this so real. I did not think you guys would break the fight up and be so honest. I thought you might instead just given general tips. This was interesting and helpful. ♥️
"We'll continue to let you know what we fight about."
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Glad you both shared your honest experiences about fighting. In today's world of perfect Instagram posts you two are a breath of fresh air. Honest and so relatable.
We all fight and we all try to make the best version of ourselves so the other half would know we love him/her. It's not easy as we're unveiling some unconscious patterns but as long as we try and continue to be better I think we are halfway through the hard part.
Thanks for your honesty guys, love from sLOVEnia(Europe) 🙌
I'm super sensitive too, and I read into things the wrong way too but my fiance and I have come so far by communicating better, we want to go to therapy but have been putting it off, I really think it'll bring us even closer and improve our relationship so I can't wait.
Yours is the only family channel I will ever watch ☺️ this is the content that couples need I think. I recognized that in my relationship I am nagging constantly while my partner is brushing off my frustration with jokes (in a loving way) which makes me more frustrated. We definitely both need to work on this.
So glad you enjoy it!!
It’s ok to argue in relationships, it’s normal to a point . Just never go to sleep mad. I had to learn to actually listen to the other side instead of always making it about how I felt . Communication is everything. Love these videos! Keep them coming. Blessings.
I De La Torre I think it’s ok to go to sleep mad. Sometimes you need sleep to get back to your senses and decompress.