All of them. I have spent this year getting unstuck and am moving to a different location soon. I feel like I succeeded against all odds, if you look at what i was doing a year ago.
A little recap: 🚩 A loss of identity You become a persona that is not you, you don't really know what you want and take decisions according to that persona. 🚩 You are in a desperate need to change things If you're on the wrong path, you deeply desire to change things to grow and challenge your comfort zone. Change can feel scary, but it's part of the process. 🚩 You're earth dwelling You navigate life trying to survive, not trying to act. You become a spectator and not an actor. You avoid opportunities. 🚩 You seek other's approval often You listen to other's people opinion because you lack trust in yourself and need the feel of security.
I am leaving my job of five years and every time some one asks me why... THIS VIDEO IS WHYYYY! this is EXACTLY how I have felt for over a year! I am desperate for CHANGE!
Sometimes we can’t expect others to understand. Follow what you feel is right for you. Like you said, you’ve felt this way for over a year now! Good luck on your new path Abbie. Keep growing and stay true to you… always!!
Wrong path: any non-temporary situation where you experience rage, anger, lack of sleep, a desperate need to pray or meditate, health problems, really rotten coworkers, nasty bosses, horrendous commutes, etc. Dealing with all that negativity can prevent you from progressing on your desired path. Sure in any given week things can go crazy, but there are no circumstances where you should tolerate ongoing negativity-but any job change must be done responsibly. It’s probably not a good idea to quit, tell the boss off and then find out you have lost your health insurance coverage and just missed vesting in your pension. Plan your path.
Red flags that strike a chord with me is- just going through the motions on autopilot like a robot trying to get by, I'm guilty of this sometimes then I snap out of it & start striving for something new xx
i believe the lack of identity plays a role in the other flags. something i've noticed in my own life; if i'm on the wrong path, hurdles will be thrown my way. i might be thinking to maintain this routine, but external factors will try to shake it up. the more i resist these external "warnings" the more intense they become until i *have* to change my ways. now that i've learnt this, when a hurdle appears in my path i take it as a hint to plot another. when i take the early hints, i don't get hit as hard later. in fact, following this "guidance" is usually met with "reward". METAPHORICALLY~ when i run against the wind, i will exhaust & be forced to change direction. when i take note of the changes in the wind & adapt, i am carried to success.
This is beautiful!! Love the way you broke this down. Thank you for sharing!! Wow you’re right. We have to pay attention to the early warning signs and learn to adapt early! Love it!! Keep growing on your journey!!
Congratulations on your baby boy🎊🎉🫶🏽 I find that when I keep my goals and dreams to myself they actually come true. I took 3 months off this summer to find my dream job and I did🙌🏽 I knew if I told people what I was about to do they’d say I was crazy or “don’t quit one job until you find another” but nope not this time. I’d did it my way. Was I scared? Absolutely but I believed in myself 💪🏽
I tried the opposite : wanted to move & just wasn't getting the organising done, so decided to tell everyone, discuss it with real estate professionals....still haven't moved (health issues slow me down), but learned more & still plan to and hope I find the right place for for me eventually. With wanting to get into a particular job area, I did tell people & they said "you can't do that, it's too hard" & inside my head i thought ""just watch me". I got in. A family member did the same thing - got in to a tough area by obsessively driving towards it like there was no alternative. We both worked hard at making it happen.
You pointed out a very powerful aspect in your metaphor that we have people in our lives to help navigate life as we would using a map or pulling over to ask for directions to get back on track! 💪🏽 🧠
It took me too long to recognize that I was asking people for their opinions, with which I would form my decisions. Sounds good on paper......But I was an orange asking apples how I should make business decisions. Finally, I realized I have to ask people with similar goals for their opinions.
This is deep! Love the analogy you gave with the orange and apple… but you’re absolutely right. It’s better to talk to people who understand what it is you’re trying to accomplish, or have similar goals themselves. Makes a huge difference!
@@RonaldLBanks ....I talk the talk...but sometimes I find myself still making the same mistakes. ..I suppose I'm perfect at always making mistakes! I guess it is good to excel at something.
Your calm, clear communication is refreshing. Your content is excellent and giving me the philosophy im craving right now. Im growing and your vids are water
@@RonaldLBanks Hi dear What you have come to realise Will help you go places wherever you want My son is in transition too But sometimes he holds back his potential So I forwarded your video to him You are doing great Tell yourself everyday God bless
Awesome!! 🙌🏾 thank you! I’m honored to be on your top 10 list. I appreciate you being part of this community and thank you for giving me the opportunity to share my thoughts and videos with you!!
I discovered the financial loophole of flipping a junk house in a housing dip and have found myself living in a place I know I am an imposter. My siblings recently became very successful in thier careers. all of them so its altered my analysis of where I am.. Sure I have a 4 year degree but there was no genius in where I am today except I wanted to live somewhere near mountains but feel like I actually live there. Renting felt like a temporary and contingent residence and I had been fired and forced to leave my apartment and town twice beforehand. So I found this old junker cabin in the far reaches of Western Massachusetts put down my savings from working while living with parents and slowly did some work and had it worked on until it was a home 7 years later. I saw it as, I might be stupid but at least I could have the dignity of a permanent residence I could afford. I did sh. Jobs but it paid the bills. I made an unexpected windfall because I had stayed long enough to build equity. I was half aware of equity but didn't account for a fully remodeled home in Massachusetts is worth quite a bit. I was hired as a school teacher the last few years and thats what afforded me to complete the flip. It was a chunk of change for a house flip and I was quite surprised. I bought almost all cash buy nice condo in New Hampshire where I still reside. Ok I'll give myself credit there. Here's were I falter, career success, I just know all my neighbors work tech and management. I quite teaching after 2 years in 2020 because students hated me and I felt my self esteem failing from ridicule. Now I am just a para but less stressed yet I find myself in a rather peculiar middle position in life. All my siblings are successful and married, but I'm just a school para yet fallen into this strange universe I feel guilty or like a cheater because that low rung job pays the bills with saving yet I'm unsure I have any marketable skill for higher paying work. Its wierd, I am grateful of my stroke of luck yet feel like a low income low skilled imposter. I don't know what to make of it. I'm not living paycheck to paycheck but I do have student loans from trying to advance my education credentials. I did ok but was too lazy to study well enough to get actual certification when I finished all the courses. I can still go for it, but why for more ridicule and babysitting? The loans are manageable and small in comparison to your average balance, yes paused, but higher payments than I would like. The loans make me feel like a looser too even though I will probably pay them off in the medium future. I'm not sure what is happening here, I shouldn't in theory be struggling with self image but it may be time to find something that rejuvenates and reaffirms my perception of having intelligence. I did well in college and generally I seem capable of leaning anything. I do know bieng fired twice in my mid twenties dramatically altered my since of confidence and competence for over a decade. I must understand its my social timidness that has held me back. I have past 3D drafting and design skills and even did some work for a client or two. Perhaps I can update those and find a way to earn extra money. I do know I need a shift and a rejuvenation in how I perceive my intelligence. Its been damaged and its been over a decade tje ridicule made it much worse, now it feels like I am bieng left behind.
I’m shocked you are only around 30. You look young, but speak and have the wisdom of someone so much older. In fact, most people twice your age don’t have your wisdom
Shoot to find a path in life where there’s overlap between your passions and purposeful work… that still generates enough income for you to live. If that’s not your main job, keep in mind your passion can still be something you choose to prioritize outside of your 9-5… and if that happens to generate you additional monthly income, awesome! Take it as a blessing and a bonus!
@@RonaldLBanks For example I really enjoy making UA-cam videos and I get zero money from it. I still need to pay rent, bills and living expenses. I think everyone strives for making money out of work they enjoy doing. In reality people work at jobs they hate just to get by.
@@monikavarro2020 I understand that mentality 100%! I used to let that plague me so much, but in all honesty, there's nothing inherently wrong with having that 9 to 5 job or part-time position if it helps you financially. It just takes a bit of searching, and perhaps you can find something that overlaps with the passions you already have. A lot of content creators don't gain success overnight... hopefully this gives you something to think about.
@@monikavarro2020 I had a friend who was a poet who published books & edited a magazine. He also worked as a café worker wheeling s trolley around to the factory workers to pay the bills. He liked it as people were nice to him & as it was not intellectual, he could think about his writing work. My passions are visual art (pursuing now) & writing. When I was at art school, I dropped out when i got offered a job writing. I was thrilled that get a job using my talents though it was administrative writing. Neither scenario was perfect, but we found ways to fit in things we liked.
I'm on the wrong path in life. It feels a little unfair because this way of life was inherited genetically... BPD. But, I'm trying. The biggest challenge in my life is never taking action toward change despite being overly aware. Or maybe I'm not as aware as I thought? It requires a lot of thought which is a lot of work and vulnerability.
I am someone whose identity is built upon controlling narrative of my life and it is scary letting go so i can change. Because of this, i have become a earth dwelling and just on zombie mood. This video is just describing me to a T
Biggest red flag that you’re on the wrong life path = you cringe and try to avoid clicking on a video about red flags telling you that you’re on the wrong path in life 🫤
Did any of these red flags strike a chord with you? Which one?
um all of them. sounds like I got some work to do.
All of them. I have spent this year getting unstuck and am moving to a different location soon. I feel like I succeeded against all odds, if you look at what i was doing a year ago.
Definitely all of them.
A little recap:
🚩 A loss of identity
You become a persona that is not you, you don't really know what you want and take decisions according to that persona.
🚩 You are in a desperate need to change things
If you're on the wrong path, you deeply desire to change things to grow and challenge your comfort zone. Change can feel scary, but it's part of the process.
🚩 You're earth dwelling
You navigate life trying to survive, not trying to act. You become a spectator and not an actor. You avoid opportunities.
🚩 You seek other's approval often
You listen to other's people opinion because you lack trust in yourself and need the feel of security.
Thanks
I am leaving my job of five years and every time some one asks me why... THIS VIDEO IS WHYYYY! this is EXACTLY how I have felt for over a year! I am desperate for CHANGE!
Sometimes we can’t expect others to understand. Follow what you feel is right for you. Like you said, you’ve felt this way for over a year now! Good luck on your new path Abbie. Keep growing and stay true to you… always!!
Wrong path: any non-temporary situation where you experience rage, anger, lack of sleep, a desperate need to pray or meditate, health problems, really rotten coworkers, nasty bosses, horrendous commutes, etc. Dealing with all that negativity can prevent you from progressing on your desired path. Sure in any given week things can go crazy, but there are no circumstances where you should tolerate ongoing negativity-but any job change must be done responsibly. It’s probably not a good idea to quit, tell the boss off and then find out you have lost your health insurance coverage and just missed vesting in your pension. Plan your path.
I feel like I‘m in a similar environment..
Red flags that strike a chord with me is- just going through the motions on autopilot like a robot trying to get by, I'm guilty of this sometimes then I snap out of it & start striving for something new xx
i believe the lack of identity plays a role in the other flags.
something i've noticed in my own life; if i'm on the wrong path, hurdles will be thrown my way. i might be thinking to maintain this routine, but external factors will try to shake it up. the more i resist these external "warnings" the more intense they become until i *have* to change my ways.
now that i've learnt this, when a hurdle appears in my path i take it as a hint to plot another. when i take the early hints, i don't get hit as hard later. in fact, following this "guidance" is usually met with "reward".
METAPHORICALLY~
when i run against the wind, i will exhaust & be forced to change direction. when i take note of the changes in the wind & adapt, i am carried to success.
This is beautiful!! Love the way you broke this down. Thank you for sharing!! Wow you’re right. We have to pay attention to the early warning signs and learn to adapt early! Love it!! Keep growing on your journey!!
Congratulations on your baby boy🎊🎉🫶🏽
I find that when I keep my goals and dreams to myself they actually come true. I took 3 months off this summer to find my dream job and I did🙌🏽 I knew if I told people what I was about to do they’d say I was crazy or “don’t quit one job until you find another” but nope not this time. I’d did it my way. Was I scared? Absolutely but I believed in myself 💪🏽
I tried the opposite : wanted to move & just wasn't getting the organising done, so decided to tell everyone, discuss it with real estate professionals....still haven't moved (health issues slow me down), but learned more & still plan to and hope I find the right place for for me eventually.
With wanting to get into a particular job area, I did tell people & they said "you can't do that, it's too hard" & inside my head i thought ""just watch me". I got in. A family member did the same thing - got in to a tough area by obsessively driving towards it like there was no alternative. We both worked hard at making it happen.
Greetings from Poland 🇵🇱 and thank you for wise channel
I had this video on my watch later, and I decided to watch it today. I'm glad I watched this because I really needed it.
You pointed out a very powerful aspect in your metaphor that we have people in our lives to help navigate life as we would using a map or pulling over to ask for directions to get back on track! 💪🏽 🧠
Thank you for the reminder that "Change is the process of life."
It took me too long to recognize that I was asking people for their opinions, with which I would form my decisions. Sounds good on paper......But I was an orange asking apples how I should make business decisions.
Finally, I realized I have to ask people with similar goals for their opinions.
This is deep! Love the analogy you gave with the orange and apple… but you’re absolutely right. It’s better to talk to people who understand what it is you’re trying to accomplish, or have similar goals themselves. Makes a huge difference!
@@RonaldLBanks ....I talk the talk...but sometimes I find myself still making the same mistakes.
..I suppose I'm perfect at always making mistakes!
I guess it is good to excel at something.
Your calm, clear communication is refreshing. Your content is excellent and giving me the philosophy im craving right now. Im growing and your vids are water
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾Deep Thought! Thank you!
Above and beyond, you mentioned these turning points in life which used to worry me but I stopped being worried about feeling a change
I don't know how but your videos always find me at the perfect time
I needed this today. Thank you Ronald!
I’m really happy this reached you Elizabeth!
I love your chuckle laugh 😊
So timely. I am being pushed off the cliff... 💗
Love this video!! Thank you!!
P.S. Congrats on entering fatherhood! ✨
Thank you and thank you!! 🙌🏾
So well said! Thank you!
I’m glad your enjoyed this Nicole!
These are so powerful words : )
Thanks
You're so welcome! I’m happy this resonated with you!!
Ronald you got it so right
I’m glad this resonated with you Annanya!
@@RonaldLBanks Hi dear What you have come to realise Will help you go places wherever you want My son is in transition too But sometimes he holds back his potential So I forwarded your video to him
You are doing great Tell yourself everyday God bless
Damn God navigated me to your page specifically for this video! Thank you so much
Awesome!! Amazing how things work that way huh! I’m happy this video reached you my friend! Keep growing on your journey!
You’re on my top 10 list to watch. Thank you for the critical thinking.
Awesome!! 🙌🏾 thank you! I’m honored to be on your top 10 list. I appreciate you being part of this community and thank you for giving me the opportunity to share my thoughts and videos with you!!
@@RonaldLBanks 👍
Facts,had to go back to corporate work
I discovered the financial loophole of flipping a junk house in a housing dip and have found myself living in a place I know I am an imposter. My siblings recently became very successful in thier careers.
all of them so its altered my analysis of where I am.. Sure I have a 4 year degree but there was no genius in where I am today except I wanted to live somewhere near mountains but feel like I actually live there. Renting felt like a temporary and contingent residence and I had been fired and forced to leave my apartment and town twice beforehand. So I found this old junker cabin in the far reaches of Western Massachusetts put down my savings from working while living with parents and slowly did some work and had it worked on until it was a home 7 years later. I saw it as, I might be stupid but at least I could have the dignity of a permanent residence I could afford. I did sh. Jobs but it paid the bills. I made an unexpected windfall because I had stayed long enough to build equity. I was half aware of equity but didn't account for a fully remodeled home in Massachusetts is worth quite a bit. I was hired as a school teacher the last few years and thats what afforded me to complete the flip. It was a chunk of change for a house flip and I was quite surprised. I bought almost all cash buy nice condo in New Hampshire where I still reside. Ok I'll give myself credit there. Here's were I falter, career success, I just know all my neighbors work tech and management. I quite teaching after 2 years in 2020 because students hated me and I felt my self esteem failing from ridicule. Now I am just a para but less stressed yet I find myself in a rather peculiar middle position in life. All my siblings are successful and married, but I'm just a school para yet fallen into this strange universe I feel guilty or like a cheater because that low rung job pays the bills with saving yet I'm unsure I have any marketable skill for higher paying work. Its wierd, I am grateful of my stroke of luck yet feel like a low income low skilled imposter. I don't know what to make of it. I'm not living paycheck to paycheck but I do have student loans from trying to advance my education credentials. I did ok but was too lazy to study well enough to get actual certification when I finished all the courses. I can still go for it, but why for more ridicule and babysitting? The loans are manageable and small in comparison to your average balance, yes paused, but higher payments than I would like. The loans make me feel like a looser too even though I will probably pay them off in the medium future. I'm not sure what is happening here, I shouldn't in theory be struggling with self image but it may be time to find something that rejuvenates and reaffirms my perception of having intelligence. I did well in college and generally I seem capable of leaning anything. I do know bieng fired twice in my mid twenties dramatically altered my since of confidence and competence for over a decade. I must understand its my social timidness that has held me back. I have past 3D drafting and design skills and even did some work for a client or two. Perhaps I can update those and find a way to earn extra money. I do know I need a shift and a rejuvenation in how I perceive my intelligence. Its been damaged and its been over a decade tje ridicule made it much worse, now it feels like I am bieng left behind.
I’m shocked you are only around 30. You look young, but speak and have the wisdom of someone so much older. In fact, most people twice your age don’t have your wisdom
Hi there! It's 5 am here. Making my coffee then I'll watch. 😃
Great! thank you :)
TRUTH!
That gps analogy is spot on with my whole life 😭
Right?! 🙌🏾 I happy that piece resonated with you my friend. Keep growing!!
When I follow my passions it doesn't pay the bills. 😢
Shoot to find a path in life where there’s overlap between your passions and purposeful work… that still generates enough income for you to live. If that’s not your main job, keep in mind your passion can still be something you choose to prioritize outside of your 9-5… and if that happens to generate you additional monthly income, awesome! Take it as a blessing and a bonus!
@@RonaldLBanks For example I really enjoy making UA-cam videos and I get zero money from it. I still need to pay rent, bills and living expenses.
I think everyone strives for making money out of work they enjoy doing. In reality people work at jobs they hate just to get by.
@@monikavarro2020 I understand that mentality 100%! I used to let that plague me so much, but in all honesty, there's nothing inherently wrong with having that 9 to 5 job or part-time position if it helps you financially. It just takes a bit of searching, and perhaps you can find something that overlaps with the passions you already have. A lot of content creators don't gain success overnight... hopefully this gives you something to think about.
@@monikavarro2020 I had a friend who was a poet who published books & edited a magazine. He also worked as a café worker wheeling s trolley around to the factory workers to pay the bills. He liked it as people were nice to him & as it was not intellectual, he could think about his writing work.
My passions are visual art (pursuing now) & writing. When I was at art school, I dropped out when i got offered a job writing. I was thrilled that get a job using my talents though it was administrative writing.
Neither scenario was perfect, but we found ways to fit in things we liked.
I really rate your videos 🎉
Oh yeah
I identified Will all the red flags, what do I do now? What’s your advice?
We will see in hindsight...
I'm on the wrong path in life. It feels a little unfair because this way of life was inherited genetically... BPD. But, I'm trying. The biggest challenge in my life is never taking action toward change despite being overly aware. Or maybe I'm not as aware as I thought? It requires a lot of thought which is a lot of work and vulnerability.
Wouldn’t the only constant in life be time? Bcuz you need time with change right? Still a great video and very helpful
Imo, the only constant in life is you/yourself. Time is ever changing, and not a constant.
I am someone whose identity is built upon controlling narrative of my life and it is scary letting go so i can change. Because of this, i have become a earth dwelling and just on zombie mood. This video is just describing me to a T
8:50
💯💪🏼🤎🖤
I want to walk in the purpose God had for me
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Life does come with a bible though
Biggest red flag that you’re on the wrong life path = you cringe and try to avoid clicking on a video about red flags telling you that you’re on the wrong path in life 🫤
I’m happy you still decided to click my friend and I hope you got some value out of this conversation! Keep growing!
Lmao this literally happened to me on this video before clicking on it